If he wants to meet during a coronavirus — he might be a narcissist.

If he talks about sex too early — he probably doesn't respect you and see you as a person.

If he refuses to pay for a meal/think of interesting date idea — he is greedy and/or low effort.

If his apartment looks like shit — he is a lazy pigsty.

If he disregards her feelings and ignores her boundaries — he may become abusive.

If he asks you where have you been and why didn't you answer — he is probably controlling.

If he ignores your priorities but demands you consider his — he is selfish.

If he doesn't give a waitress a good tip — he might be a douchebag.

If he badmouthes his mother — he is probably entitled brat.

If he brags about finding a wallet and pocketing money — he will leave you in financial ruin.

If he complains about feminism — he is a misogynist.

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It's not that we don't have money to pay for a damn dinner, or that we are unforgiving of smallest mistakes, but it's because of the risk associated with getting these man too close. Seriously, browse this sub with examples about these men. And they aren't some monsters — they are regular guys, your friends and colleagues, they are a majority, that stopped giving a fuck at some point because they put no effort, and because women let them.

For a woman it can be so much harder to block, delete and forget someone she already fell for, and that's why so many women end up in horrible, abusive, unloving and controlling relationships where they are taken advantage of. It's they way women are raised — to give people more chances, to emphasize, forgive, communicate. Fucking communicate, the favourite advice on Reddit. You see, it doesn't work that way because 9 out of 10 times men know what they are doing, they just don't care.

And sadly, our emotions do us a great disservice. Because when we are with a man, we tend to single him out, forgive his shittyness, ignore flags red as blood, we hope he will change — and he won't. Men take advantage of women's kind and our meek nature.

Men are way too confident (or rather audacious), and women are way too insecure. Women tend to think they aren't good enough, and men think they are the shit — sometimes it backfires and it's a blast to watch these men get a dose of reality.

And whats worse — we let them do it. We don't pick our fights, don't protect our boundaries, and men can see how far can they go.

They can go as far as we let them.

So we should stop be kind, forgiving and stop fucking communicating with men who shows these signs. And there are always signs. People don't suddenly show their true nature after 7 month, or after you are married, or after the baby is born. The signs were always there, you just missed them, or forgave him, gave yet another chance.

Just fucking stop being so kind to men.