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18

IKR that is so weird. And I mean he seems like a crap dad to me to boot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:38 PM
24

Right. Like what is it about that guy that they care more about him than their own blood? I really don't get it bc I think he sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:30 PM
54

You know it is so crazy that men expect women to have sex without condoms and no commitment. I mean damn that doesn't' even make sense. It's like walking up to someone and saying give me all the money you have in your purse and when they ask why you saying because I want it duh, why are you so mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:17 PM
101

The number of times I have heard a man say about his SO well she really loves me- it makes me sick. Like what- how does that work? So she loves you a lot so that is why you are with her. No way in hell I would want that kind of relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:08 PM
25

This. Pickme's who are married hate single women and can be your worst enemy. they encourage their LVM to be messed up to you and LVM use you to make their Pickme spouses feel insecure. they will tell their wives you are constantly hitting on them and even when it is clearly absurd these dumb women will believe it and make your life a living hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:52 PM
24

I would have something that states that if you divorce any children you have together will be protected in his life insurance/will regardless of any other children he later has. Too many stories of children getting shafted for the new children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:46 PM
1

This is bc of the extreme liberal left bs pushing this insane narrative that Muslims are oppressed and need to be supported. I'm sorry but so called feminists standing for Islam is about as hypocritical and insane as it gets. And when Vets came home and and tried to tell the world what we saw over there we were labeled as intolerant, prejudice, and hateful extremist and that was bs. This anti American narrative that has been pushed that is so extreme that is so anti patriotic that anything a sol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:38 PM
68

Also can we talk about Kourtney? When she finally dumped Scott wtf was her family doing? I swear I was never so mad at people I didn't know in my life. That guy was abusive as hell to her, he cheated on her, he gaslight her, he disrespected her, and they embraced him. It was only Kim who stood up for her. She was a total DV victim and she did not have the support of the people who should have 100% of been there for her. It was beyond sad. I mean it is no wonder she has such a horrible relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:28 PM
6

It is scary isn't it? I mean I for the most part have always been a really nice person but man it was like his bs just unleashed unholy hell in me. I was not going to let him win. I was too good at it. And it wasn't even that hard bc his ego was so out of context that he was actually kinda dumb and he was a smart person in every other way. But being that full of ones self makes a person really stupid and easy to manipulate if you understand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:22 PM
16

Yeah my ex narc had more respect for me too when I beat him at his own game, he still wants to play with me. They are so freaking weird. Like who wants to spend their whole life on upping each other on how fucked up you can be? Seriously! Worst time of my life, never again. I would rather never have sex again than ever deal with another narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:14 PM
15

I'm really proud of you. That could not have been easy. As someone who has been to the ME and was shocked it is crazy how difficult it is over there. It takes a really strong women to overcome that. And when I say strong I mean like Wonder Woman strong. You are Amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:08 PM
35

Laci Peterson was a tough one for me bc I lived near them at the time. I was young but I remember when everyone was looking for her. It was so sad when they finally found her. It permanently affected me and how I viewed men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:01 PM
16

I went through that phase in my 20's and honestly toxic men love it. They love the drama of it all. So glad I am past that bc now it is like just No can't. I get exhausted just thinking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:57 PM
19

Ex husband gave me a so called heirloom ring- when we were getting divorced I returned it and he told me to keep it that he bought it at a pawn store. The whole it was my grandmothers was a lie he told me just so I wouldn't mind it was a cheap ring. Just food for thought. Never liked the damn ring but I never said anything bc you know it was a heirloom and i didn't want to offend his family. Joke was on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:52 PM
16

This. I will never again marry someone who doesn't invest in a expensive ring for me. I know it may sound selfish or whatever but I don't care. I've been married I know what will be expected of me so I demand I get my part or there will not be a marriage. Enough being considerate bc they damn sure aren't when you are concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:48 PM
168

My first husband was literally cheating on me while I was giving birth and then had the nerve to show up to the hospital and pick a fight with me. The nurses had him thrown out. I knew right then looking at my baby that bitch had to go. Everyone said I was crazy that I needed him and I couldn't do it alone, they were wrong. It is easier taking care of a newborn alone than with a selfish prick who only cares about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:39 PM
7

Yeah he was for real probably the most impressive young man I have ever known. If he had been a little older I would have went for him myself, but he was too young for me :(. He was really cute too. His wife is a very lucky woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:33 PM
3

I'm not sure really. I was a single parent. I had my youngest father in the picture, he was a very good father to all my sons but not good for me so I left him. But we stayed close friends and we co parented all our kids together and always put the kids first. I refused to stay with men who were abusive or who cheated so most of his childhood I was single. I was in the military and I dealt with a lot of harassment, and my sons saw that. I did not spank my kids but used other forms of disipline t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:26 PM
2

This is what I need to internalize. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:20 PM
13

You know it is possible you are gay or bisexual and you know that is okay. If you are interested in this woman I think you should see where it goes. You clearly are not feeling this guy and you should never have to force yourself to be into to someone. If it isn't there it just isn't there. Also you could be picking up on something subconsciously that is setting off red flags, we do that and we doubt ourselves bc we don't consciously know what the problem is, but our subconscious is very attuned…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:31 AM
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Yeah he was an awesome guy. I tried to fix him up with my little sister, she went for a douche bag instead. Still pisses me off but he is very happily married to a lovely women now so you know and my sister is a single mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:22 AM
62

This makes me laugh bc I was sick of the guys on my timeline on sm constantly posting half naked women, ex military you know, so I started posted hot guys and since then not one of them has posted any more of those types of pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:20 AM
62

IKR. Honestly if a man is not going to pay don't ask me out period. I mean damn if I'm not worth a meal to you than you are not worth my time you know. It is not like I am expecting a Mercedes or something, a meal is about as basic as it gets. If a man can't even do that what is the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:14 AM
63

This. I knew a guy who had a father who would rape his sister and beat him. At 16 I think it was he reported his father and they were removed. Okay so then when he turned 18 he joined the military and put his sister through college. This guy was the most respectful man I ever met. Now if someone can come from that and be HV than there is not excuse in my opinion for any jerk to be using I had a bad childhood as a reason to crap on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:09 AM
2

In my experience when they are ghosting they are talking to someone else. I am a rehabilitated investigator if you know what I mean and let me tell you every single damn time I was getting radio silence and I went down that rabbit hole to find out what was up I found another woman. After awhile it becomes so predictable that you no longer even second guess it anymore, just delete the pictures, the number, block and start talking to someone new bc if they pull that crap nothing good will come nex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:04 AM
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I love the scolding she gave him LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:00 AM
2

In my experience whenever someone felt the need to tell me something it is usually the opposite ie: you can trust me, I would never hit, I don't cheat etc. I don't know if this applies here but just something to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:09 AM
22

Blocking and cutting people off. I know it needs to be done but I still feel bad. It is a serious struggle with me this need to be polite and nice. I am working on it but damn it is so hard. I need to learn to be okay being a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:58 AM
24

Gee I guess all those women are going to be so heartbroken bc he won't sleep with them lol. Freaking moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:54 AM
3

I'm glad you have a smart supervisor or at least one who knows the score, that is half the battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:47 AM
5

Good for you. Honestly I find these situations harder than cutting off someone you are dating bc it just feels so weird. So that you are able to do this is awesome just be careful about him wanting you to justify it bc they will do that and it is a trap. They will try to corner you into admitting you must have more feelings than you do bc why else would you go to such an extreme. It is bs and a no win situation. So if he comes to you to have that conversation just remember you don't owe anyone a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:36 AM
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No they don't. Their patterns are their habits and habits are hard to break. Is it possible? Sure. But not likely unless something major happens to cause them to want to change and then that will be about them not the new girl. That being said if they were to go back to someone they had previously been a jackass too it is very likely they would fall back into those old patterns even if they had broken them bc that is the dynamic between those two people so even if the ex turned it around they wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:31 AM
22

Thank you. It really surprised me bc I have been on here reading about all of this so I took it as some kind of sign you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:28 AM
77

I was just talking to my son the other day and out of nowhere he went on a rant about porn. One of his friends had posted about choking his gf during sex on sm and it made my son irate. So I am driving with my son and he is telling me all about this and how porn is to blame and how he can't be friends with someone like that or anyone who even watches porn now days. How sorry he feels for girls who put up with all that and how it just isn't' right and how that isn't love. It was literally one of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:01 AM
9

IKR. It is indeed crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:21 PM
2

Oh you know he does bc that all the girls in porn constantly are giving bjs. Men are so selfish I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:23 PM
6

Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:22 PM
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And this is why you don't let a man separate you from your family and friends- she needs to go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:02 PM
10

Yeah it doesn't look good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:00 PM
2

Also another thing I have noticed from having a lot of male friends from work on social media is them posting negative posts or overly sexual posts about females. I mean some of them have me wondering if they even like females.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:19 PM
3

So I was talking to a guy friend about sex awhile back and he said that he doesn't perform oral sex on all the women he sleeps with. He said that it is too intimate or whatever to just do with everyone. This really had me side eyeing this guy bc on the surface it sounds nice right but not really. I mean you will put your dick in them but they are not good enough for you to go down on. So that being said clearly at least in my opinion this guy is a user and gross bc if he is sleeping with enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:18 PM
1

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:18 PM
7

IKR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:12 PM
47

I'm sorry this is going to be horribly mean but I gotta say it- this girl thinks she is ugly- there is no other explanation for this. Her self esteem has to be near zero for her to 1 date someone that old at her age 2 agree to this for even a second 3 still be in this relationship when it is so clear he is screwing around 4 asking the internet if it is okay for her to be bothered. And the sad truth is she is probably really cute. What is happening to young women these days that their self esteem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:46 PM
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Why do these young girls date these old men? I really don't understand it. At 24 there was no way any 36 year old guy could have got my attention not even for a second. I mean it is so crazy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:43 PM
47

For sure he is trying real hard for a threesome it is so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:42 PM
16

I know. I was actually thinking about that when I posted and i think about that everytime I decide if I want to have sex with someone and after I have had sex. My doctor would get mad at me bc for a while back before I stopped having casual sex I would go get an HIV test ever time I had sex, even if it was with the same person. I just got so paranoid and that lead me to the moment when I was like this is so not worth it. I mean even in relationships I still felt paranoid bc I had been cheated on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:37 PM
9

Back in the day I watched club manager throw naked females out in the streets who stopped making money for the club like they were trash. It is no joke, you stop bringing in income for the club you work for you are garbage to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:21 PM
9

Also most strippers don't pay taxes okay so they wouldn't if they were smart be on the internet advertising their money. Their is literally no incentive for them to do that and only deterrents that could come from it. So this is what is called a honey pot to lure other females. A successful stripper has no need for that. This is a pimp trying to recruit 100%. And a stripper with a manager/ pimp is not a stripper she is a hooker and she isn't making shit bc he is taking all her money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:19 PM
7

And that is what needs to happen bc where it is legalized human trafficking becomes a bigger problem. It is the pimps aka the traffickers that they need to go after. Amsterdam is the example bc human trafficking there is really bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:15 PM
14

Also something noone will tell you is that strippers actually make more money that porn actors and they don't have to have sex with anyone, porn actors are also hookers on the side to supplement their income bc they really don't make very much money and once something is on the internet it is there forever so their forever under the threat of having anything they build for themselves destroyed bc they were in a porn and made a couple hundred dollars for it. It is pathetic and never worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:12 PM
20

I was a stripper when I was younger and 3 people I worked with were brutally murdered and 2 of those cases are still unsolved to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:10 PM
1

Thank you. Yeah it is crazy watching your exes constantly marry the next girl and it's like damn but at the same time they were exes for very good reasons so no regrets. I would rather be alone than with someone who doesn't treat me well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:05 PM
37

I have had this happen so many times and I have had them slip it off thinking they were sly in the middle so many times. I really don't understand men when it comes to condoms. I mean damn it's like they want to catch something I swear. And this is why I do not ever have casual sex anymore. See boys that is what happens when you can not play nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:48 PM
27

Can't say I blame her father too much. Now he is clearly not handling this the right way but as a parent I can imagine the pure panic this would insight. I mean damn this is a nightmare. This girl is an idiot. And what is wrong with that shrink? This is really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:43 PM
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Why would you ever thing it was cool to send nudes to someone whose last name you don't even know? I mean I wouldn't send nudes anyway but I mean damn she doesn't even know his last name. And he is 39 and she is 21? This is all kinds of gross. She is basically a child to him. I just can't with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:30 PM
9

IKR all these new terms men keep making up just to say I am using you lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:25 PM
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EWW Nope. The nerve wanting a total stranger to let you do that to them. I mean for all they know you could be a serial killer. Some people SMH. Thank you for the explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:16 PM
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A male friend once told me that behind every joke there is the truth. Basically what i am getting at here it this guy will expect you to pay or is setting up that dynamic already. It is a huge red flag and you should just move on. No way at this point is that an appropriate joke and he is testing you to see how you respond bc that is the kind of relationship he is going to push for in the future. He told you basically who he is and now it is up to you to decide what to do with it. Also sorry but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:02 PM
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They really should ban these I'm in a relationship looking for someone to cheat with ads on OLD. They are just littered with them and I mean it is a big part of the whole down fall of OLD IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:55 PM
14

What is a rope bunny?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:53 PM
10

Also her eyes look strange in the picture, like she had been crying kinda or something. JLo is a weird person IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:50 PM
14

Ok that is freaking weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:10 PM
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The gaslighting of abuse victims is out of control. The abuser gaslights them, the enablers gaslight them and often even deny the abuse even happened and if it did it wasn't that bad. And society gaslights victims by telling them they are wrong for disconnecting from abusive family and enabling family members. And don't even get me started on CPS and the court system that puts parental rights and the criminal right over the victims. Hollywood pushes an agenda that favors pedos and it shows in ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:57 PM
4

FACTS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:49 PM
73

This. I am so sick of this narrative where we can't call each other out. I'm sorry but what other women do and what they tolerate and even encourage affects me and I have a right to say something about it. There is hostile work environment and then there is hostile life environment and it is all relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:12 AM
67

The abortion clinic thing is no joke. I took a friend to get an abortion and there were protestors there and it was like something out of a movie. I never had so much hatred in my heart for people before. My friend was devastated and the things they screamed at her during that very difficult time were just cruel. I will never understand how anyone could be so unemphatic to another person going through something so difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:10 AM
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I think you are missing the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:03 AM
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Why would you want to be with someone you weren't sexually attracted to? I mea that has to be the stupidest advice I have ever heard, just proves that men expect us to to be there for their wants and desires regardless of ours. They want eternal self sacrifice, well at least LVM and NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:18 AM
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It makes sense that porn was a motivator or what not. I mean isn't it pretty well documented that it has to get more and more extreme or something for the viewer to get the same effect? At a certain point these people end up wanting to live out these fantasy's and porn is creating really dark fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:20 AM
10

Block delete it only gets worse from here. You are already being taken for granted and this early on that is a huge red flag. You want someone who will be at their best in a crisis not who will crap on u.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:40 AM
9

Wow I did not know that. It is interesting. Porn has taken such a crazy dark turn I had not seen any in a very long time and recently someone was describing recent porn to me and I just couldn't believe it. I mean I don't understand how anyone can be aroused by that stuff. It is scary how prevalent it it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:35 AM
5

Honestly having kids doesn't mean you will have company when you are older. Kids grow up and have their own family's. They move away for work. I mean you might just end up with a phone call here and there. You have to be okay alone. If you are not happy in your own company how are you going to be happy in someone else's? There are so many things that I am interested in that there really isn't enough time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:06 AM
10

Hmm that is interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:02 AM
35

I hate it when they call you hun or sweetheart. Seriously makes me cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:57 AM
7

Yeah I have seen that one too. The whole it was just a misunderstanding. I swear these guys are getting this nonsense from somewhere and if they are paying for it they are getting seriously ripped off bc they look crazy stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:54 AM
18

Yes. I have had guys I have officially broken up with come around and break up with me. This is after I had already broken up with them. It is weird and it seems to have started about 10 years ago. I just blow it off bc yeah who cares. I don't know if they expect you to get triggered and for it to start you chasing them or what but it is a very strange feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:51 AM
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I mean also do these people just ignore that a lot of serial killers started out as rapists and then went to killing? I mean there is a clear reason or trail for that and it is bc it is a crime of violence and it is extreme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:27 AM
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Yeah thank God for divorce. can you imagine if they had to be stuck with these maggots forever? That is the stuff of nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:02 AM
37

Sadly a lot of loser American men are doing that. Have to admit when I see a guy married to a foreign woman I automatically lose respect for him not bc there is anything wrong with the women but bc it has become such a widespread problem with NVM preying on foreign women. I just hope that once they get their green cards they lose the losers and are happy bc man that is a huge price to pay for it. Really wish there was something in place to protect these women from the worst of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:00 AM
2

That is interesting . Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:46 PM
9

This is everything I want to say but never was able to articulate to people. BRAVO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:01 PM
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Oh thank you. I know how hard the office thing is. For years I had a work situation where everyone gossiped and said behind my back that I was sleeping with my boss, I wasn't. That all my success was bc of that and it really sucked. I was miserable and the more I tried to defend myself the worse the lies became. I ended up filing a harassment report bc other men in the office became really inappropriate with me bc they believed the rumors. It was horrible and I ended up having to just leave. To …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:57 PM
12

I have also noticed some guys will go on about women wearing makeup. I think it is kinda strange bc those same guys will be like all about celebrities or porn stars who all look really fake but in real life they critize women who wear make up, just strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:53 PM
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I don't know if it is the main reason but I do think it is a common stereotype that when two women don't like each other it is bc of some kind of competitive jealousy and that is a big disservice to females. I mean if two men have beef you don't hear people jump to the conclusion it is because of stuff like that without any other circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:48 PM
2

Wow your work sounds amazing. I love how they stepped in and are the ones to send the message. I always hated how LE would say you had to notify them that you didn't want contact in writing after you had already told them orally a million times bc they say everytime you make contact that feeds like 6 weeks of fuel into them where they will keep focusing on you. The amount of notice that was expected at least in the past for the victim to give these people before any action could be taken was at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:45 PM
2

Thank you. Do you notice any effects on your skin when you use it in your bath water?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:35 PM
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LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:32 PM
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I agree with you about men 100%. I think having that experience really opened my eyes and I am way more aware of how I am behaving towards other women now. I really think we have to do better by each other and it all starts with ourselves. The more we talk about it the more awareness and improvement there will be. I am so tired of men setting the terms for female interaction. If two women have an issue it is always they are jealous of each other regardless of what the actual issue it. This kind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:30 PM
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And this is why you never compete for a man. Hailey was the goto whenever JB and Selena were off basically and she was a huge Pickme. Yeah she ended up with him but at what cost? Competing with another women for a man should instantly alert you that the man is not worth it bc any man of worth would never have you in a position where you would have to compete to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:24 PM
3

What is the dilution ratio that u use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:18 PM
5

Exactly. To say they are not that into you is basically false. they actually are into just not for a good reason and not for what you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:14 PM
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Not true. "man has shown signs that he doesn’t want you, probably more than he’s shown signs of interest." This statement is not always the case. Often they will future fake you, love bomb the hell out of you etc and then go cold. They will more often than not lay it on real thick to get you on the hook. They throw out the cold signals so they have deniability and can call you crazy or play it out like they were never interested in front of others later. To assume women are so low on self self e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:07 PM
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Men will tell you how much they want you in one breath just to ignore you for a week right after. I am so tired of people acting like mixed signals is a figment of a women's imagination. Clearly mixed signals is a sign to RUN> But they are a real thing and they are done on purpose. Men do it so that you will be thinking about them and the more you think about them the more you want them. It is a game and they believe it increases their desirability. And honestly it works until you learn what it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:03 PM
5

Did a background search on a guy and domestic violence came up. Didn't say anything but he called me before I had a chance to block, literally while I was looking at the report and starting telling me about his crazy ex who pulled a Gone Girl, you know beating herself up to file false charges against him. SMH. I swear it was the strangest thing I ever heard and I expect he had it rehearsed bc clearly other women had done the same as me and found it so he thought he was getting ahead of it. I cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:57 PM
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He called you are 3am isn't that called the witching hour? lol. Man it is true once you know one you know them all. It is like a drug in the beginning you get addicted to trying to figure it out like a puzzle. But once you understand the game it is just that a game and you can remove the emotional attachment. It is crazy to me that so many of them do those things and how they are so similar. Dysfunction is really textbook in how it manifests and they are always so surprised they are not special …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:53 PM
8

The only real green flag is consistency!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:25 PM
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For me the real light bulb that I found was patterns. Once I started looking at it that way everything changed. Bc before I would be like well he does this and that is good but why does this feel wrong? Then when the whole patterns thing was pointed out to me I realized that that was the key. Bc the good things were not consistent but the bad things were. The hot/cold was consistent in LVM, they were confusing and I never knew from one day to the next where I stood. It didn't matter how many goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:22 PM
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Yeah that was the people I was friends with in my early 20s. I don't hang with people like that now. Def have to have people in your life who respect your boundaries and respect your standards. I took so many hits when I was young for having values and looking back it is so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:16 PM
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This. I was talking to a guy who chased me and then when I was like okay maybe he flipped the switch and said that. At first I was butt hurt but after awhile and after checking my ego I realized I actually didn't want a relationship with him,he had just worn me down. That being said he did me a big favor. Now he tried to whole FWB move clearly thinking he had me hooked, he didn't. So his bait and switch was a huge blessing bc if he hadn't shown his true colors I would have ended up dating someon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:11 PM
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Finding a man who reads is really the gold standard in my opinion and you are right it is so rare. I am always amazed when I ask guys about their reading habits and find out how many just don't. What a waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:04 PM
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I actually found one. I have actually known him a long time and just recently reconnected. He is so smart and sweet but he is living overseas :(. We are friends so IDK but damn his mind is sexy. Even if we just end up being friends only I love talking to this guy and love having someone like that in my life. They really are so rare but it so pleasant to find one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:02 PM
15

"Everyone makes mistakes, noone is perfect."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:59 PM
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Same . But the advise I would get was so bad looking back on it. I think of all the times my friends convinced me to give some loser another chance or worse how I was shamed for having a deal breaker. I wish I could hug my 23 old self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:59 PM
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I have dated numerous men and dumped them only for them to marry the girl after me and basically step up. My friends would tease me saying I was like the girl that caused men to settle down with the next girl. I personally think I was the girl that taught them their shit stinks and doesn't fly. It annoys me when women put up with bad behavior bc they are reinforcing that behavior, as women we need to send the message that being a pos isn't it and will get you left so either get it together if yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:54 PM
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I hate that narrative and find it so offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:49 PM
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I had an injury and gained a lot of weight for a little while until I healed and man the difference in the way I was treated was eye opening. Men suddenly were way less helpful and kind with the exception of a few usually older married men who still were kind but otherwise you would think I was a terrorist and women suddenly were so much nicer to me. It is really interesting how much difference there is in how women treat you as well. Really sad that being attractive will often result in other w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:41 PM
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This. Guys who take advantage of Pickmes really show their ass bc a good person would not do that. That is why if a guy even mentions FWB's I will never consider them bc they just showed that if you were lacking in self worth they would take advantage and use you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:37 PM
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oh really that is funny. I didn't see the show. That sounds weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:53 AM
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Oh okay I was mistaken about why it is good thanks for letting me know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:21 AM
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The hair, it is the protein in the mayo or something like that, it is really good for your hair. I would avoid rubbing it into your scalp unless you have dry scalp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:40 AM
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I don't know if this is the reason that guy did it but there actually is a legit reason to use mayo in your hair. It is really good for it and will make it shine and look very healthy. You put it on and let it sit for like 20-30 minutes and then you wash your hair and your hair will look very healthy. I know this bc of hair dresser in my family. I know it sounds gross and it is but it is a trick that people in the beauty business use often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:00 AM
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I like that you said No better than just blocking and deleting in this case bc like you said you asserted your boundary in non uncertain terms. It was strong and it was final. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:00 PM
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You are right. I hate that I feel the need to justify it and I hate that they like demand I do too. But I don't need to I need to work on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:51 PM
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Having yet another guy future fake me just to turn around and ask for fwb instead once I expressed interest. I mean I knew that men must be playing some sort of games and I needed to find a way to weed them out early on bc it was ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:46 PM
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This is so strange to me bc I live in an area where we get dangerous wild life around all the time and literally a stranger (male) will walk women out to their cars at stores and stuff if something has been sighted without even being asked. I mean wow. If a male who is a total stranger would insist on walking a woman to her car at the gas station in my small town surrounded by national forest bc a bear was sighted and this woman's own husband wouldn't walk her to her car when there was a cougar …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:44 PM
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Thank you. This is actually really helpful bc I was feeling bad distancing myself bc you know if he was a victim and all but what you said about them not being ready actually makes so much sense and confirms what I feel. I mean you know either way I had a bad feeling I was just trying to label it to justify but whichever label it doesn't matter bc the outcome is the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:24 PM
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It isn't about shame it is about safety. There are legit crazy people out there. Protect yourself you are worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:20 PM
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IKR. They give you permission to say no- SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:18 PM
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The other day a male friend I have had for years who is married to a wonderful woman that I am also friends with sent me a porn clip out of nowhere. I was legit shocked and thought his account had been hacked bc this guy had never been inappropriate with me. But turned out he just thought it was funny. If you had asked me the day before if he would be capable of something like that I would have sworn there was no way. I am seriously rethinking having any male friends now, that is how much that s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:59 PM
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Maybe I am just too jaded but I get pedo vibes from this also. Like he wants a baby that isn't his to raise. I maybe have just read too many horror stories in the news but this scares me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:45 PM
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What do you think about men who claim narcissistic abuse constantly? There is this guy I know who has been doing that but I swear he has so many narcissistic red flags himself that it is weird that he can't seem to see that he is basically describing himself. I mean I know that sometimes when a person gets out of a narcissistic relationship they can mimic those traits for awhile while they are healing and all so I am not sure what to think. Like is it a manifestation of the trauma he went throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:42 PM
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YW and yeah the gaslighting is crazy bc we already are doubting ourselves, it is extra malicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:31 PM
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Oh that sounds just awful. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I have seen a lot of guys with that whole hero complex and it is gross. Someone having a sexual fetish about it is really creepy so I can totally understand why you would be extra closed off. I have PTSD and I have noticed if I tell people they will try to blame that whenever I get upset if they cross a boundary. It really sucks when someone tries to use a mental health issue against you or to manipulate you. Have you read The G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:15 PM
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Asking someone about themselves is pretty normal. I don't know what your issue it but seriously back off. We are here sharing our experiences and learning from each other Idk why that is triggering you but that is a you problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:09 PM
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I disagree. They are sending the message that it is not only okay but preferable to treat females like crap now days and they need to stop bc their actions are affecting the rest of us. If half the employees worked for free why would any employer ever bother paying anyone for work? It is the same concept. Men will do what they are allowed to do and as long as their are a mass number of women allowing this shitty behavior and even encouraging it it will not stop. Just like a bully if noone ever s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:00 PM
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Yes! Exactly. I mean people don't want to call the women out but I mean come on they are part of the problem. And everything you are saying is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:56 PM
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Asking from someone who has it is different than getting the technical defination. Just FYI bc real life experience is more interesting and encompassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:52 PM
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Oh thank you for explaining. Yeah I can understand why you are leery and how a bad person could try to use that against you even though there really is nothing wrong with that. Actually didn't Einstein have something like that? I am pretty sure I read about that. You know having something that makes one think differently can IMO be a really amazing thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:49 PM
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What is a neurodivergent if you don't mind me asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:48 AM
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I agree. I have to say though I have known quite a few women who were not the best looking who found really great men and some of those men were actually really good looking so I mean I don't think being unattractive is a total deal breaker. Also I mean different people have different ideas on what makes someone attractive too. I just hate to see anyone male or female putting up with scum bag treatment, it really bothers me. Esp given that usually they are really nice kind people and that is why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:55 AM
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6 years whoa momma. Makes you wonder if he is going through his black book of exes and getting shot down left and right. I mean with the whole stay at home stuff I can imagine there are a lot of guys out there contacting every girl they ever dated just to get an ego boast. Or worse he is not getting shot down but still going down the list. IDK he could have an actual apology he needs to get out but he doesn't need you to do it, if it was real he would write it down and send it without any expect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:45 AM
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Bc Hollywood made 2 really funny movies about and in both of them the girl ends up with the guy. I am joking but kinda not. I really do think that some people are brainwashed by lame unrealistic movies like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:40 AM
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Yeah that is a good point. I mean IDK but it seems like if they had more self confidence they could still get attention but you know like good attention. I feel like the way they are lowering themselves is not going to work out for them. It really is sad. IDK maybe the world is just really unfair and I am being too harsh on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:38 AM
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That is also what I am afraid of. It's like so many guys put on a front in the beginning and I hate it. I don't want to end up trapped with some loser who pretended to be a good guy only to find out after I am in too deep that he is actually a monster. Life is hard enough without having to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:16 AM
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Basically these guys just want a girlfriend they don't have to be accountable to and that they can ditch if something better comes along with no responsibility. it is really gross. They r users period and it is not okay. Women really need to shut down this new trend of FWB bc it does a huge disservice to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:12 AM
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Had one come back at me with Can we talk? Like they have no shame. Funny they weren't so talkative when we were with them but after we are gone suddenly they have all these epiphanies. Whatever. Block Block Block they had their chance they blew it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:08 AM
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This is what I want to know. All this talk about splitting bills and stuff but I have yet to have a man do his share in housework or emotional labor or childcare or a lot of things. I'm tired y'all, it is too much what is expected of women now days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:27 AM
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That is a great way of looking at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:21 AM
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This is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:19 AM
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Wow that is really good stuff. Thank you. Let his pain hurt someone else- I feel that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:09 AM
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Why would she want to date him after that???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:48 AM
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Why would going on a trip with someone be automatic consent? That is so crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:41 AM
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What I don't get is with all this cancel culture why don't people like this woman get canceled? I mean I am not into that but if anyone is going to get canceled it really should be people like her who are doing serious harm to the female gender enmasse. I mean Shallon Lester I get is a bit problematic in some ways but this writer is so much more dangerous in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:35 AM
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I know. Thanksgiving dinner is a huge thing and the women who pull it altogether are so awesome. I really don't think most men have any idea how much work goes into it. When my kids were little I would make a big Sunday breakfast every week for them, it was a family tradition and my grown step kids still talk about it to this day. Their dad always whines, I cooked for you guys all the time. Hambuger helper is not the same dad is what they tell him. Most Men just don't respect the work that goes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:29 AM
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This guy I was recently dealing with was trying to play me big time. Love bombing future faking big time just to turn around and say I'm not ready for a relationship I still love my ex you want to be FWB? I never slept with this loser thank God, but now the two women he is interested in are huge pickmes and honestly just ugh. I feel bad for them bc I know he is jerk and is feeding them a line of shit and it is just a matter of time, but at the same time they are both so desperate they don't care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:22 AM
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I would tag him just to bust up his game and then I would dump him but clearly this woman is in denial about what is really going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:52 AM
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Both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:30 AM
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You are right, I am being mean. That does need to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:29 AM
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LOL right. Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:28 AM
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I blame women for their bad behavior and how it affects other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:38 PM
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What is really funny to me about this is I have heard men brag about being better cooks and being stronger my whole damn life- yet they want women to do the majority of cooking. Men only want to cook most of the time when it is some special occasion where there will be tons of guests to tell them how great they are and even then it is usually just the meat, the women is still expected to cook all the sides. so whatever. whoever this poster was I don't know what planet they are living on but they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:23 PM
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My favorite is "I didn't realize how much I loved you until I lost you" barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:09 PM
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This, I'm sorry but seriously I hate on other women> I know we shouldn't and all but how can you not? I mean they are a huge part of the problem. They are teaching these idiots that really bad stuff is not only okay but that it is desirable. If all women refused to date guys who were abusive, cheaters, bums etc then that crap would stop or at least be seriously minimized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:04 PM
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Yes I would like this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:56 AM
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No it is not normal but that being said you should pay attention bc your subconscious mind will pick up on dangers that you do not realize are there. If you are afraid there is a reason and you should do everything you can proactively to protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:04 AM
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I've been to the Middle East- GTFOH with that bs. I've seen with my own eyes how women and children are treated over there under the great Islam rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:03 AM
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Say it louder for the nut cases that think their religion is special and should be given allowances!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:56 AM
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This made me laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:10 AM
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This is the guy in those doomsday movies that acts like an asshole and causes everyone to fight with each other and kill each other instead of working together and surviving. JS. The movie The Divide has some of these type of characters in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:36 AM
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I am going to have to disagree here. Bc if men were forced to stay in childrens lives then women would be forced to have a lot of unfit men in their childrens lives and I'm sorry but it is not worth it. It is better to have one good parent than 2 parents if one is an abuser or otherwise unfit. I gave up all child support and everything else just to get an abuser away from my kids, if the laws had forced me to allow him to stay my kids would have turned out really bad instead of the really health…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:27 PM
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This is so true. Every POS guy I have ever known has had an enabling mother who taught him to take women for granted. My son on the other hand wife tells me all the time how lucky she feels to have found someone who treated her so well and was a partner who worked with her and not against her. Mothers have to step up. Something else that needs to be addressed is that with all that being said I took a lot of criticism raising my sons bc everyone had opinions about how I was doing it wrong mostly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:22 PM
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Me too. I wish all women did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:12 AM
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You are the Girl Code Queen. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:09 AM
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I think it is more likely he was just as abusive to the ex and was just using her to triangulate you. So you would work harder to be better than her you know, they do that crap you know. Everytime I have actually met these unicorn exes I have to say I was never impressed, these guys really idealize certain women and then torture other women with it you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:04 AM
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She really did. She if I am remembering it right didn't have to marry and was able to have her own household and was pretty much left alone. For back then that was some boss shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:36 PM
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OH yeah they are all over the place crying about it to the new woman and how they have been hurt and they are now so scared. I mean the amount of men out there crying about some woman who dumped them you would think they would start to figure it out and make changes, but no they just annoy the crap out of the rest of the women they meet talking about it. Sorry for the rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:06 PM
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This is a really valuable idea and I will def start doing it. Thank you Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:48 PM
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This is the correct response IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:17 PM
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And if you drink it chances are it is rufeed. I straight up tell people I don't take drinks from strangers- stranger danger doesn't stop when you become an adult and if that offends them then either they are a predator or clueless either way good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:15 PM
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I'll vote you up for your honestly and bravery. It's important to speak your truth in the face of opposition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:13 PM
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Same. I have never heard anyone say anything else about her male or female and of all races and nationalities too. I think she might be universally the most agreed upon gorgeous women in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:11 PM
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yeah the "lack of consent" is the key there and that is disturbing that that message still hasn't gotten through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:12 AM
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Yeah my high school was like that too. Really disturbing looking back on it as an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:10 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:07 PM
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In my experience when I give one word answers I get accused of being pissed off about something and when I say no I'm not, they are like all yeah I know how this works. I mean like they do it and it is okay but if we do it we must be butthurt. I really don't understand why there is such a double standard there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:02 PM
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That is so crazy to me. Never in my life even at my lowest self esteem would I have ever even considered doing this. It is really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:32 PM
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That is a very good point. I wonder what he did do for his own mother and if it was the same. It is good to not care but sometimes it is so damn hard lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:31 PM
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By giving him the benefit right now you are guaranteeing it will not work out. You are setting yourself up as low value and he will treat you that way. I am not saying you are low value, please understand, but if a guy blows you off and then finds you sitting there waiting for them they lose respect for you and from then on will treat you less than. You should send the message now that you will not tolerate that kind of treatment. I would not block but I would ignore him when he messages you aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:54 AM
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It's not his mother it's is hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:46 AM
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It means a guy who makes a fool of himself kissing a girls ass kinda like a female pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:27 AM
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She won't. This will destroy her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:24 AM
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How much you want to bet he is already making movies with her and putting them on the net?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:23 AM
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OMG right. This is so disturbing. I had no idea this crap was going on. Imagine the audacity of some guy expecting a woman to wear a freaking collar. HELL NO! WTF are women doing out there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:22 AM
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That makes sense. I always thought it was weird. I was certainly not going to stifle myself for a man so good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:17 AM
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Yeah I just wanted to say that bc most people still don't realize it. I am fed up with people acting like my combat time was less dangerous than mens. It wasn't actually it was more dangerous bc I had the enemy to worry about and my own people, everyone was a threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:47 AM
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Most of them tell me I am too ambitious. Like really Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:42 AM
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I remember a time when me and another female soldier got into an argument with a bunch of male soldiers and they said our opinions didn't matter bc when war would break out we would never be in the combat zone and they would be the ones fighting it. Well war did break out and not a single one of those male soldiers went, they were either out of the military or found a way out of deploying, but me and that other female soldier were both right in the middle of it in the desert. Men and their hypot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:40 AM
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Bingo and don't forget bull dike, they love that one. If you don't want to suck all their dicks you must be a dike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:36 AM
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There are NO Front lines anymore- women are just as at risk in the war zone as men and this last war has proven it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:34 AM
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The US has a HUGE problem with rape and sexual harassment in the US Military.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:33 AM
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This right here: "story after story is of men trying to push for acts they didn’t pay for or get out of paying all together and pimps trying to co-opt their profits." As long as there is sex work there is some man with his hand out and this system is set up so that women have to have those men who do nothing and take their money. That is why sex work is bullshit bc the vast amount of money made is not actually made by the sex worker most of the time, it is made by some guy behind the scenes who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:12 PM
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I was about your age when I got involved in a very toxic love triangle that completely changed the course of my life. I was dating Mr. Perfect- he did everything right, polite, kind you name. I thought I had hit the jackpot. Then I started working with Mr.Cocky. Mr. Cocky took a liking to me and Mr. Perfect noticed and didn't like it. Mr. Perfect became insanely jealous and in one of his rages became physically abusive. So I dumped Mr. Perfect and started hooking up with Mr. Cocky who beat up Mr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:39 AM
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This is so true. I wish I had realized in my early 20's that feeling the need to do these things was the only sign I needed to end the relationships. Idk why we feel we have to prove it first in order to justify breaking up with someone but often we do and we become obsessed with finding evidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:43 AM
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Yes it is true, yet at the same time it is totally fine for them to date interracial. Total double standard and bc they at least white men don't want to be called racist they won't tell you they have an issue with it they will just start treating you like you are less than. Suddenly you are damaged goods. They are so dumb. See when they do it it is an adventure but when we do it we are gross or less than. Morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:39 AM
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I believe in soul mates but the thing is it usually isn't a good thing. A soul mate is somebody who you have unresolved karma with or who you are supposed to learn a lesson from- which means those relationships are usually really painful and hard and not the person you are meant to spend your life with. They are people who you are meant to meet for a pacific purpose and then it is over and you are changed from the experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:36 AM
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Pee on the bathroom floor- it's crazy how often this is a problem. I mean I would be embarrassed if I could use the bathroom right. I really don't understand what the problem there is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:06 AM
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Had a guy I dated that just was a total tool. I had an injury to my back and would get horrible spasms and the fastest way to relieve them other than serious pain meds which I didn't want to be on all the time was for someone to rub them when the muscles locked up it would only take someone aa couple minutes of rubbing it and the pain would pass otherwise they the spasms could last for over an hour. After about a month of dating he went from rubbing my back when it would spasm to refusing and de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:54 AM
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Oh but that is the thing- it will be exactly when you no longer care. They have like asshole esp or something and they wait to come back just when it is most annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:22 AM
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Oh he will find a way, they always find a way when they try to come crawling back after showing their butts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:16 AM
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Thank you. This makes me feel better about not being able to do the whole thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:55 AM
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Yeah that was some negging. I really don't understand why guys do that bc when one does it to me I no longer want to be around them. They just make you feel bad and who wants to be around someone who makes you feel bad? If someone is going to make comments that they think I am not all that in whatever way then that is the last person I want in my space. I don't need anyone kissing my butt and stuff but I won't have someone bringing down for sure. I mean it is an awful feeling and once they do it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:56 PM
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Cheating. Left one for the next wash and repeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:51 PM
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I am wondering if he is presenting this like they are jokes but there is truth in them. I mean in a creepy sociopath way it is kinda smart bc a woman dismisses all of it thinking oh he's funny and then gets into a relationship, stuff comes out and he says I never withheld it was all on my dating profile when we met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:50 PM
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I once walked in on my ex having sex with a woman who weighed at least 300 lbs and at the time I was like 110, so you can imagine I was totally shocked at not just the infidelity but also his choice. When I said basically are you kidding me he called me shallow. It really stuck with me bc the two of them glared at me like I was the worst person in the world bc I was shallow. And for about two seconds it worked, but then I was like eff that noise you both suck and I walked away and never went bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:37 PM
4

this is true. Engaging with them makes them think they have a chance and they latch on like a dog with a bone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:29 PM
8

Since when is late 20's no longer desirable? Such a weird thing for someone to say to you. Clearly he was bat shit crazy and a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:27 PM
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I know there is a lot of talk of older guys chasing younger women but on the other side of the coin I for one am sick of young guys chasing older women. Now bare with me. I have no interest in dating someone more than 7 years younger than me, there is just so much that is lost in generational differences, and also bc a lot of times these young guys don't have any interest in a LTR with older women. They just think they are hot and find dating an attractive older woman a challenge. I literally do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:23 PM
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Yeah that is the only pic that is not good bc you know how they are thinking about it. That being said she looks great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:12 PM
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I agree. I think the overt LVM comments are unnecessary but I would like to see more of the gray area ones and see explanations why they are LVM behavior bc sometimes we can lie to ourselves or we just don't know yet. It would be more educational than just you know roasting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:05 PM
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This. I find it helpful and i find it helpful when commenters explain why it is LVM behavior as I am still learning. But I feel like the clapback is not good bc it makes me think I should do that but I am totally not there yet and often I end up in a word salad conversation so I am leaning on the no response side now as clapbacks are not my thing clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:59 PM
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I can relate. I think something that makes it so hard is not being able to talk about it. Bc when you do it's like men will look at you like either you are now damaged, or you are telling them too much and it is too personal and they can't handle it bc it has to be about them and not that you are letting them know that you are having an issue with intimacy and need them to be very gentle and careful- and some of us need that and it should be okay to ask for it so when you get a bad reaction it r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:48 PM
7

I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:06 AM
6

I'm in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:26 PM
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Oh I've done that lol. It's funny you should do it too. They hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:59 PM
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It is. Growing up it was hammered into me being from the South and being a girl you know. It is really hard to go against that programing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:56 PM
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Oh that makes sense. It is like proof. Hmmm even more reason to say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:55 PM
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Yeah even not on dating site but on social media why do guys think blocking them means you are super invested into them? It is weird really. If someone blocked me I would be like "Wow they really don't want anything to do with me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:40 PM
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This looks like someone who is fishing trying to bust someone if you ask me. Notice they only want to talk to people in their direct area. Either this is a man or this is a trap maybe both. When I was young and dumb I set up traps to find out if my bf was cheating just like this and sometimes that work. If this person knows their SO is on reddit and they suspect they are straying I could see someone putting out something like this to see if they take the bait. I mean think about it- a cheater fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:28 PM
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Every married man I have known except like 3 have all ended up making passes at me. And I am talking men who appearred 100% happy who had amazing and wonderful wives who were my friends. It is so disappointing when this happenings and it makes you feel like you did something wrong. This is why I try to distance myself from couples now bc it just isn't worth it being friends with married women bc rarely can their husbands handle being around a woman and not end up hitting on her and once that hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:21 PM
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So sick of guys asking for selfies. I mean damn the internet is full of pictures you don't need mine when we are not in a relationship. I will send my official boyfriend a selfie not some random dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:00 PM
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Being the nice girl gets you treated the worst. What happens is once someone treats you so bad you have to say something or remove them from your life they will act like you killed someone and all the other people around will go into overdrive wanting to know what really happened bc it is so unlike you to say no. They won't accept your reasons and will buy into the whole there must be something else, enabling narcissists smear campaigns where they call you crazy or claim you are obsessed with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:20 PM
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I mean you guys do know he is gay right and that these "relationships" are just beards? He is not sleeping with these women. He thinks like a fool it makes him look good, but I mean pretty much everyone at least in LA knows he is totally a homosexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:24 PM
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OMG yes. I can't believe anyone would be like I don't think I agree with statistics- I mean come on already. The freaking absurdness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:03 PM
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Yeah and she's an engineer and he's a plumber- clearly she makes more. What a total dipshit. Notice his chores are either fast or not daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:21 AM
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Oh I know. She really needs to get off the JB thing. It is so annoying and toxic. Like damn girl he is someone else's husband now. Let it go already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:16 AM
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I have had tons of guys hit on me when I was with a bf and even a husband. It is really off putting but worse when your SO doesn't do anything or say anything. Can't really respect a guy if he just lets that happen and does nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:43 AM
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Seriously comes across as an abuser Big Nope there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:34 AM
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I have a friend who will break up with a guy before she will get serious with him just to see how he reacts tot he breakup. A lot of times she realizes she wants nothing to do with them. I am not sure where I stand on this but after watching her results I have to admit she maybe on to something there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:47 PM
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You can do a background search on someone in the US and if they have any convictions, arrests etc they will come up. Problem is that a lot of people don't go by their full legal name. I had this happen when I did a check on someone and nothing came up, bc it wasn't his real first name, it was a nickname that everyone called him. Once I learned his real fist name I did another search and oh man scary stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:45 PM
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I think recently it was dealing with someone who I was straight up with, like I turned down fwb, casual etc and he stated he wanted a serious relationship and begged me to give him a chance and when I decided to he immediately decided he didn't want a relationship but wanted to be friends but didn't act like a friend. I didn't really understand it but it bothered me and it was clearly some kind of game. So I was like okay I can be honest and all but they aren't so I need to understand these game…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:15 PM
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There used to be one back in like 2010-2011. It was a site where you could post about anyone who was a bad person basically and you told your side of the story. It was a great site but it is no longer around, probably wasn't legal. The stories on it were crazy. Wish I could remember the name of it. What I don't understand is how revenge porn and stuff like that takes forever to get taken down and is super hard to get removed but a website where people who were screwed over and tell their stories…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:10 PM
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That is the worst when they take you somewhere public and try to create a scene. I have had that done to me and I just can't stand it. I was raised that private stuff stays private so when someone does that I just die inside. Also the whole social media thing is insane. There is this one guy I knew who spent a year shaming his ex for dumping him on his social media where they had numerous mutual ex coworkers. I feel so bad for her. I mean I don't really understand it, why don't people look at pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:36 PM
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I mean I am not saying it is true or not true, just that it is a very serious thing to say about someone. And also maybe not the best thing to do if someone is going in and out of rehab. Addiction is a very dangerous and tricky thing and probably not a good thing to be gossiped about esp if the addict is trying to get clean which the rehabs would suggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:00 AM
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Oh you know he would have that is why he asked. He probably has gotten pickmes to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:53 AM
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They do get really pissy about being called clowns. It is my new favorite thing to do to LVM and NVM- I mean it is just funny. Better if you send a clown gif. They really don't like that. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:51 AM
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Girl I am the exact same way. I don't rage I just go still. I look and say nothing, just observe. Then it will hit me and I just up and leave. I am not one to argue or talk anything to death and you r right it really pisses them off. I hate that I am somehow expected to justify being done. It's like bc you don't freak out and yell you are wrong for IDK not letting them know. I mean if you don't want to get left don't act badly, it is so simple. A person shouldn't have to have a big blow up in or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:23 AM
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They are training you to be at they beck and call. If you don't reply or open the message you are punished by them getting insulted or blocking you so that you will never do that again. But that being said you must be okay with them doing it which is why they do it every so often to keep you in the longing mode. They give you attention, you get accustomed to it then they take it away so they you are in your head wondering why and feeling bad. It is all a game and it is called intermittent reinfo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:46 AM
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I vote for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:25 AM
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What I don't understand is why when you have a LVM in your life and you see that so you cut them off, not in a hostile way you just walk away and end the connection, do they get so pissed off and try to pick fights? And then when you don't fight with them but just are like it is what it is and you know have a nice life bye, they run around acting like you somehow screwed them over? I mean it was them that was being non invested and acting a fool? Do they not have that self awareness? Do they rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:24 AM
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Basically it is how pickmeisha are justifying staying in abusive dysfunctional relationships- he's my twin flame. It doesn't matter how bad it is bc they are TF's and therefore meant to be. It is really lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:06 AM
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I'm glad you did actually bc seeing this all play out was educational. I can't believe he compared you to his sister. So weird. He was pulling out all the stops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:04 AM
9

Had a guy ask me to give up my career, move to a different country with my kids so we could be together and I found out he was married and he wanted me to move so I would be more convenient for him. I dumped him asap and never spoke to him again. He sent me emails for six months until I closed the account and created a new one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:37 PM
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Girl he has already slept with those girls and he is feeling her out to see how she will react if she finds out. Setting up his justification before she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:31 PM
19

This makes no sense. She is getting compliments on her body but she needs to work on her body to get the guys she wants???? WTF the mental gymnastics going on there are just weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:29 PM
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Thank you for this. Also you can't deem someone a HVM within the first 3 months- that is typically the lovebombing phase and you can't trust it. It is after than time period when the red flags tend to start showing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:25 PM
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Having a man compete with you is the weirdest feeling and it just sucks bc you are supposed to be partners not opponents. It really sucks when they are like that and the biggest turn off ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:13 PM
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What I don't understand about stuff like this is what is she thinking? There is no point in my life, not point where my self esteem was ever low enough that I would have ever even for even a nano second considered anything other than this being a wrap. There is no coming back from something like this. There is no self esteem or self worth issues that would ever have warranted ever considering tolerating this. It is scary there are women out there willing to stay with someone who does them like t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:08 PM
5

I know right lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:12 AM
5

I'm always gong to pick my buddies over you but hey will you give me sex whenever I want? What a total jerk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:19 AM
3

This is true but it is also women. Sons see their mothers being pickmeisha and they think that is how it is supposed to be. Boys can learn to be men from their mothers too, but mother's have to step up to do it. Bc honestly if we expect men to suddenly start be responsible for their sons we are out of luck so we have to do it and we can but that means realizing we have the power to do it first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:11 AM
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For a homeless guy he sure wants a lot lol. OMG this is absurd. must be getting an inheritance 6 ot 7 figures, have traveled to 50 countries and lived in 3. Be a great cook and want to do it on the regular. This guy is out of his freaking mind. Somebody needs to punch this idiot and knock some sense into him bc he has lost it. The entitlement smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:45 AM
3

I feel this post big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:24 AM
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Ok this is random but this makes me think of the whole Justin Bieber Selena Gomez Hailey Baldwin dynamic. JB saying when he was dating HB he didn't want to damage her bc she might be the one he marries but he had no problem screwing SG over left and right. I mean it's so weird to me that people think like that. Like it doesn't matter what I did to this person bc I get a fresh start with this other person. I mean karma doesn't work that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:21 AM
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lol my ex was in Vegas marrying a pregnant 18 year old before the ink even dried on our divorce papers. They were divorced a year later lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:14 AM
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I have had those and they are amazing. It is so crazy bc in one second your perception completely changes. I wish I knew what causes that and how to tap into it so I could do it sooner. I swear those moments have literally saved my life bc if I hadn't changed paths I know for a fact I would be dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:13 AM
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Exactly bc honestly the worst thing isn't that they treat the new woman better, the worst thing is watching or finding out they treat the new woman worse bc you know how badly it messed u up and there is nothing you can do to stop it. It's better to not watch at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:09 AM
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I was with someone like that once. Absolutely the worst of the worst. Personality disordered for real and crazy abusive. Never again. Those kinds are not LVM or even NVM they are TVM- Torture Violating men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:05 AM
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I just recently found out what happened to a guy and girl who did me real dirty when I was young. They both got burned in a major way right after I left the scene. All these years I never knew but the other day an old friend from back then got in touch with me and told me all about it. It's crazy that I thought they got to ride off into the sunset and get away with screwing me over, nope he went to jail and she was kicked out of the military for being a whore. I mean damn that was crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:01 AM
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This is so true. SM pretty much makes me think guys are cringe af. They always notice when I unfollow and it becomes a huge deal. I hate it. I don't want guys on my social media bc my family and people I really care about are on it and that is about it. I hate the way people feel entitled to be on your sm. I don't like some guy who I am not serious about having access to my people you know. I feel like that is asking too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:55 AM
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he expected her to text back something all butt hurt and then he would respond along of the lines of wow I didn't know you were that into me already and tease her about how much she already liked him. To which he expected her to admit and then he would give a fake ass apology and suggest that he would take her out or meet up or something like that bc you know he is a nice guy and willing to give her another chance. They are so lame and predictable. They really need to stop watching those stupid …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:09 PM
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Yeah usually you end up being the bad guy. Once a girl thanked me and dumped the guy and we became friends. You never know how it will play out. There are dumb girls and then there are girl's girls. I don't regret ever giving a girl a heads up even when they didn't appreciate it bc I have been on the receiving end and will forever be thankful for the heads up I was given. At the end of the day everything is an integrity check and if you are not looking out for other women you have no integrity. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:53 PM
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This is some good advice. I already never saved their numbers, this was so I would never be the one to call them. It is a simple trick but it works. If you don't have their number you can't call them so if you talk it has to be them who calls you. But the social media thing I have not done. I am guilty of allowing guys to be on my social media and vice vera and honestly I always end up regretting it. I feel like they intentionally triangulate with social media and neg you also with vague memes d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:33 PM
3

Yes. Can't that start happening?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:00 PM
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Also having to justify your feelings. I have had that one a lot. Always being told you are wrong to feel how you feel is so toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:21 AM
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I have heard that many times too. You're too independent and you don't need anyone. I'm a man I need to be needed Wahhhh. It really does feel like they find fault regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:15 AM
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It has been proven that anywhere where prostitution has been legalized sex trafficking actually gets worse ie: Amsterdam. The only solution is to make it all illegal period. Remove the grey area so there can be no deniability. Most of the women who make porn has "boyfriends" as their managers who basically pimp them out and are abusive. It is a very destructive industry for the people in it.
/r/askFDS30/04/20 03:36 AM
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The problem with porn is that many of the people in the porn are not doing it of their own free will. They are under duress or straight up victims of abusers. Sure some of them are doing it bc they want to or whatever but most of those people also people who were abused as children and not exactly in the right head space. By watching porn you are supporting an industry that exploits vulnerable people and sometimes actually leads to crimes- pornhub having the rape of a toddler on their site the o…
/r/askFDS30/04/20 03:26 AM
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You're in High School. This is the time where you befriend all types of people and learn from the experience. I think you will be okay just keep your morals and priorities straight. I would be open to be friends with everyone- that being said I mean friends more on the level of acquaintances. True friends develop over time and last a lifetime, those you choose carefully.
/r/askFDS30/04/20 03:13 AM
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The lawyer looks so amused. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:59 AM
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What they do is they wait too long to try to talk. After 7 days it's over and there is no longer a need to talk in my opinion. If a man leaves me hanging for a week or more I'm done and I notice a lot of them do that. All these dumb dating coaches got them believing that if they ignore you for 30 days you will suddenly be begging for them back. I mean after 30 days of no contact I will most likely never speak to you again. If a man thinks they can leave me hanging in the wind that long he gotta …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:57 AM
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Yeah me too. She's a pretty girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:20 AM
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Your life is a movie and you are the MAIN STAR! That is how you think of it. You have value period. You work on what you want, education, hobbys, etc and that just helps you level up which basically is about climbing the stairwell to achieving your dreams. That is why you don't chase men bc by doing that you stop being the star of your own life and become a co star, or worse a side character. That is a big nope. Nobody should ever be a side character in their own life. Does this makes sense lol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:17 AM
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This. Also it sounds like the more independent you are getting the worse he is getting. Like you have your own business to run but he is asking you to work more than part time on his- this sounds like sabotage to me. Bc your business needs you full time right now, you can't afford to be working that much for him without it hurting your business, he knows this. The more you become independent and the less you need him the more pressure he is going to put on you and the more he is going to ask of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:10 AM
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No she was not overreacting at all. It's like they are making this pedo stuff normal or at least trying. Never second guess yourself bc you were right on with this. It is super sick. I honestly am in shock that anyone would actually sell this product. It is unbelievable. It scares me, like what is it going to be like when our grandkids have children? Seems the world is just getting less and less safe for kids and it is not okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:00 AM
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It is. I low key want to slap her. And I am not even violent like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:55 AM
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Right. Her whole thing sounded more like she was talking about her teenage child than a husband. Like parents saying I'd rather you drink at home so I can know you're safe kind of thing. It was so WEIRD. This woman is his MOMMY. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:54 AM
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No Just no- this is every kind of wrong. Whoever is making this product NEEDS to be put out of business for this pedo shit. This pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:37 AM
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Yeah I am new here but I am kinda annoyed with some of the stuff I have seen. I am totally about the handbook and rules. So all the posts and comments that are honestly straight up pickmeisha stuff are so out of line with what I am here for it is annoying and I feel interring with what I am here for. I don't care about the feeling of stupid girls who are upset they can't date right now, or who want to do mental gymnastics to justify breaking quarantine to go meet so random guy they meet OLD, or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:33 AM
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I hate those. They have you thinking you are crazy and apologizing to them for accusing them when you're the problem- then you get out of the relationship and you feel stupid bc you were right all along and then you so pissed you doubted yourself and you hate them so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:18 AM
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I know right. That book has forever changed the way I look at people. I will never just give pity away again. Suspect all around now whenever I see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 06:34 AM
4

Agree it is almost always in the end of month two to month three the mask drops from my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 06:01 AM
3

Geez that is bat shit crazy. Wow. My dad's a security guard I get to control you LMAO. I mean I couldn't even have made that one up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:59 AM
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Yeah that is their favorite game. They are so predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:28 AM
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OH what a total dickhead, he knows exactly who it is but is trying to make you feel bad. Totally trying to trigger you into reacting. I hope u don't respond and block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:20 AM
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He's just saying that so his dream FWB won't get mad/fed up and go tell his wife bc "she already knows and doesn't care" it is defensive and a total lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:17 AM
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The devishly really irks me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:15 AM
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why do men feel like they are offering something with these FWB bullshit offers? Nobody wants to be someone's fukhole. Damn that term is really starting to piss me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:14 AM
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Why don't you wait until June then and just work on yourself until then? And yeah it's not about power / control. Let that crap go. If the relationship is good that crap will just ruin it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:29 AM
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I had a guy tell me he forgot his wallet when he took me to dinner. I looked at him and said "Damn I didn't bring mine bc you know you asked me out" suddenly he found his wallet in his jacket. Call their bluff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:24 AM
2

Well don't be too hard on yourself. Just take some time and think about it. It will come to you. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:07 AM
1

Then why are you so insistent on keeping the friendship? Is it that you just don't want to be mean? I mean I understand that but you said once you get into a relationship this friendship is over anyway so how do you plan to end it when that happens?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:03 AM
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Then why are you so insistent on keeping the friendship? Is it that you just don't want to be mean? I mean I understand that but you said once you get into a relationship this friendship is over anyway so how do you plan to end it when that happens?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:02 AM
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This is actually really funny. He's pissed she is watching porn and maturating. SMH so if she is horny she has to use it to have sex with him, but it is okay for him to jerk off. What a total tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:00 AM
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Just don't initiate contact and keep your communication with him when he contacts you under 15 minutes a day and see how he responds. If it fades out then you know and problem solved. If he asks why you are being different just say you have a lot going on right now, if he asks what come up with a new hobby and actually be doing it so that you are telling the truth. Make it something that you enjoy and that will give you joy. If he steps up then you can reevaluate based upon how well he does it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:56 AM
3

I had an ex who would always grab my arm and want me to sit and cuddle with him every single time I was cleaning the house. I mean every single time. He would say "You work too much you need to relax" it drove me crazy bc I can't relax if my house is messy so I would always come home and fix dinner straighten up do homework with the kids and then when that was done that is when I liked to relax. but he was always trying to mess with my schedule. I probably was a little OCD but I was a single mot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:43 AM
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Nothing is wrong with you, you just don't know the rules to boundaries yet. Not knowing is not something being wrong with you. You can't know before you know. It's easy enough for you to learn, no big deal. This was just a lesson learned so all in all a success because knowledge is power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:02 AM
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I was just like you not too long ago, then I started talking to a guy and we got really close really fast and I told him about my traumas. Within the week he was posting memes on his social media making fun of the stuff I shared with him. Don't tell men your traumas while vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:57 AM
9

Wants to know more lol sounds like he didn't bother to learn anything. More like he wants more attention, what a jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:55 AM
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Irish women have tempers aka they fight back. My bet is this guy is abusive and some little girl pulled a shot gun on him or something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:51 AM
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Interesting thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:00 PM
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So like I have read studies that bascially state that the body can't break down GMO's and that they get stored as fat- is that not correct?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:35 PM
2

You are not a dog that is not allowed on the couch. His behavior is the worst. Dump him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:31 PM
14

It's the food. Corn syrup processed crap they put in the food. GMO's it is all bad. You have to work not to be obese really nowdays and quite a few people just don't. Used to be natural to be of normal weight the food industry has changed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:02 PM
38

Don't give him a reason to beat you up- like basically that is what he was saying. That one triggers me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:33 AM
7

Just in the last couple days we have had women on here talk about getting raped and beaten during this thing- I would say that is your sign it is not safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:29 AM
23

Had NVM I blocked create a new SM page and re add all his friends to send me a friend request. I rejected it and asked him what he thought he was doing. He tried to act like everything was normal and he just happened to get locked out of his old account. Really bc when I blocked your new account suddenly he wasn't locked out of his old account anymore. Moron! I know I shouldn't have looked but I did bc I knew he was lying and I was right. Also now one of his "female friends" is stalking my page …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:28 AM
37

Most of the strippers I worked with back in the day were lesbians and even the ones who weren't didn't want crap to do with a man after dealing with creeps at work for 8 to 12 hour shifts. These guys 99% of the time are just lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:19 AM
33

Is he trying to date you or recruit you for a cult? Freak!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:15 AM
59

Yeah fake sense of intimacy. It's in the Gift oF Fear. Major red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:13 AM
18

This is genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:06 AM
8

They all (breadcrumbers) say they want a relationship in the beginning pretty much, that is how they hook you in. If they didn't love bomb you in the beginning you would just drop them. They get you invested and then the games begin. They ARE wearing a mask to get you! Then when they start acting a fool that is who they really are. See this is how it works, they spend a month to three months getting a girl on the hook, then they ghost, but they come back- that was a test. IF you let them come ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:56 AM
3

Just proves if you are exactly what they say they want they will suddenly change their minds about what they want. It really has nothing to do with actual preference and it is all about mentally abusing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:51 AM
7

Wow what a jerk. So easy for men to expect women to snap instantly back into shape after child birth, yet many of them can't seem to do anything about their repulsive beer guts. I mean they have no excuse so what's up with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:50 AM
1

I wonder though if it has anything to do with steroids, like the roids could affect their looks? I don't know I mean not all muscular guys are going to be attractive, wouldn't it be nice though if lifting weights suddenly made everyone's face beautiful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:47 AM
3

LMAO Epic favorite was maybe even of voting Republican or being reliigious lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:45 AM
11

I would wager even if you were perfect they would still find something to bitch about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:09 PM
15

Yeah never date the guy who enlists other people to get you to date them- that was the Big Lesson here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:51 PM
5

I have been close to men my entire life as well and I disagree. So we are going to have to just agree to disagree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:50 PM
20

Abusive men love to comfort you after they abuse you, it is part of the cycle of abuse. This guy is a POS. Sorry but it is clear as day. He is future faking you to keep you around yet not committing to you. He keeps you invested in him while he is free to do whatever he wants that is called being on the shelf. He makes you cry. That is the end of it, him comforting you after he made you cry doesn't change the fact that he MADE YOU CRY. I would not even be friends with someone like this. He is a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:45 PM
9

Typical! Too little too damn late. Fuk him. He won the lottery and threw his ticket away, he shouldn't get a second chance at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:30 PM
21

They really are. That is why I don't settle now. That was a "nice guy" that I didn't even initially want to date that everyone talked me into. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:29 PM
4

Or worse a potential narc or otherwise predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:26 PM
31

This. My therapist would never give that advice. In fact my therapist would say if a man isn't chasing you no go. My therapist is a man btw. This therapist is clearly a pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:24 PM
23

Yeah I have always looked way younger than my age too and it was always a thought in my mind. Tall guys are intimidating and having had a man once pick me up and throw me across a room I am very aware of my vulnerabilities you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:19 PM
4

Thank you - The Runaways lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:17 PM
21

keep a copy of hospital record for future use in court for custody etc- this is part of your new document everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:12 PM
55

Almost the exact same thing happened to me when I left my abusive ex husband. That being said here is what you need to do. Get your important papers- birth certs, shot records, social security cards ect If you have a joint bank account and it has money in it withdraw all but 10 dollars- if you close it they will notify him at some banks. This you do when you are not going back- after you have left the house before he knows you left. Go to woman's shelter and do not tell ANYONE where you are. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:08 PM
11

No I am right there with you on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:53 PM
34

5'4 and I won't date a guy over 5'11. It is just too weird when they are that much taller than me. Also why are they going for someone so much shorter than them, I mean there are so many women out there closer to their height, are they like pedos are something? I mean IDK that is just what I think when some giant approaches me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:52 PM
44

Same here, but man after having a baby those like 6 months or so until I got back into shape I was shamed left and right for being just slightly pudgey. I mean it is crazy how hard men are on women. And can we address the big elephant here? It is extremely rare for a woman to have big boobs big ass and a super small waist like men expect women to have. It is not natural in 99.9% females, yet we're all supposed to look like that. It is so freaking annoying to me. Women come in so many different s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:49 PM
18

I think being athletic is being healthy and being healthy causes attractiveness. They build muscle, they burn off body fat and waste, they get their system going. This all creates healthier clearer cleaner skin and better body tone etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:43 PM
10

That is the thing though. Hot guys are not desperate for women, they have not built up angst towards females so they are more often better. Bc they have been able to date a lot of girls they are not overly impressed after a certain point by just physical and tend to start looking for more. And ugly guy who were denied females in their teens and young adulthood don't ever seem as though they get over it and spend most if not the rest of their lives in some sort of grudge against females, and bc h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:40 PM
30

Honestly they are also more likely to treat you like a lady. Yeah there are jerk jocks but the odds are better for the jocks to be HV than the "new nerds" bc they overall are less bitter towards females.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:31 PM
10

Yes. This is a guy who is breadcrumbing you. He is not worth your time and the longer you stay the less he respects you and the worse the treatment will get. They will always keep pushing to see how far you will let it go. Once you cut a guy like this off one of two things will happen. Either he will suddenly start lovebombing you to get you back on his bench or he will just move on like you never existed, either way you can do better. But be prepared for him to try to tell you you ain't shit ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:26 PM
5

There is a lot of gossip about Leto being a bad guy and creep. IDK if any of it is true or not, but the cult thing is true. I mean some may not call it a cult but it sounds like one to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:38 AM
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He goes silent- days/weeks go by you don't hear from him then suddenly he pops up and acts like nothing happened. He only calls or text you late at night. He suggests FWB, casual, see how it goes. He doesn't pay when you go out. He takes hours or longer to text you back or drops off in the middle of a conversation. Those are some of the big ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:08 AM
10

Brilliant. I have to go now, I have to make a list lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:51 PM
1

Ok that might just be going a little too far. One thing to remove someone from your life it is another to try to do tit for tat and that will just make you look bad in the end. Lowering yourself to their level is never the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:46 PM
4

Ghosting is winning- honestly I never thought about this before but that is so true. When some dipshit is playing games it is the only response that is adequate. Because as we all know everything we say WILL be used against us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:44 PM
4

Just do it he sounds awful. It will suck at first and you will feel like crap but then it will pass and you will feel a million times better having this dead weight out of your energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:39 PM
13

The list is a life saver!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:18 PM
18

Also if you break up with someone who doesn't want to be broken up with this could help keep them stuck and potentially encourage stalking behavior. You don't know who will become a stalker and what a nightmare it would be if your ex that has nudes/videos of you happened to be one, knowing he would be still watching/looking at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:12 PM
5

I'm really sorry and thank you for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:05 PM
9

YES 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:55 PM
9

Exactly and they get off on you being upset and bothered. It is all such a mind fuk. I hate breadcrumbers with a passion. It really is a game to them most of the time. Sometimes it can be someone who is just too cowardly to be honest or who is afraid to hurt your feelings, but I don't have a problem with those bc I don't chase people so I don't find myself in those situations, but the ones who do it as sport- yeah. I hate them. There has to be something mentally wrong with those people. And you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:55 PM
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I think that is such an important point that gets missed a lot. The whole you "chose" this justification by manipulators is a very real thing and they do feel justified by it. That is why you have to believe someone when they tell you who they are. I mean hell for all we know they could be demons and are under some kind of universal law to tell you first IDK but regardless believe them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:27 PM
15

Scary. There was one time a guy walked by me in a grocery store and literally every hair on my body stood up. Sometimes you can just feel the evil. He wasn't watching me he was watching some little kids. I walked over to them and asked them where their mother was and walked with them to find her. I told her a creepy guy was watching her kids. She was concerned but didn't say anything really. I swear some parents are just dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:23 PM
13

This! I know everyone hates a ghoster but honestly I would rather someone ghost me than breadcrumb me and waste my time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:58 PM
1

Thank you. This is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:08 AM
18

I got tired of taking care of men and giving more than I got. I was focused on raising my kids and taking care of myself. I don't have any baggage yet every man I meet still has tons of it. I mean there comes a point when you are just too damn old to still have baggage in my opinion and it is so unattractive. I took the time to deal with mine, it is really disappointing to find I seem to be the minority with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:12 AM
2

It is totally reasonable. What skin care do you use? IF you don't mind sharing. I use pure vitamin E like a couple times a week and aloe vera. Could i be doing better?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:09 AM
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Honestly from my experience I would say at least 90% of women are settling and that is the problem bc too many are doing it so there is no pressure for men to raise the bar. But whatever it is their life. I would rather be alone than live with the crap the average women puts up with now days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:35 PM
6

The amount of subs banning FDS members is appalling. I mean are men running all these subs or what? Is it really that sad out there? This is actually depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:29 PM
87

That was brilliant. Wow well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:26 PM
3

It's crazy though bc it's like if they are so lonely why don't they talk to each other instead of messaging females who are clearly out of their league and way too young for them? I mean even in their desperation they are delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:22 PM
7

And they will always tell you some story about how someone betrayed them and abandoned them so that you will say "I won't do that to you." Then when you leave they say "You said you wouldn't do that." Like for real, they try to hold you to a promise despite whatever treatment they throw at you and the worse the treatment they gave you the worse the guilt treatment they will try to give you. If you pull out early they only guilt you a little but man if they are able to do a lot of crap to you bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:19 PM
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This is becoming everyone's reality if women don't wake up. Men are expecting too much and wanting women to pay for too much. It is not equal they want more and more and more and it has to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:16 PM
3

I don't know but honestly it is getting really freaking creepy. I have old ass men sending me messages on messenger and I have everything set to private. I don't talk to strangers on none of my sm, and I don't do OLD. So I do not understand why I am getting anything from anyone I don't know. I mean there are tons of dating sites, why are they branching out? It is ridiculous and needs to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:12 PM
3

Well since most women use tampons I find it really weird if it really is for "friends" I mean think about this for a second- what might cause a woman to bleed unexpectedly, bc if she knew she was on her period she would have her own, that a pad would be better than a tampon? Hmmm maybe I am just thinking the worst but sounds like an anal man to me at worst or a general clueless fukboy at best with the whole he has a gf in the middle possibility thrown in. None of these options are in anyway good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:08 PM
12

These guys want damaged women. That way most of the work is already done so they don't have to do much to break them down. They are even lazy in their abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:59 PM
11

I think this is their so called vetting. They don't want to waste time so they are just putting out there what they want, which is clearly to use and abuse. This way the only responses they get are guaranteed to be desperate and willing to do this bs. And they complain OLD doesn't work for them- Gee I wonder why lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:52 PM
5

I tried OLD like 10 years ago and the same thing happened to me. I couldn't for the life of me figure it out bc If I went out men approached me all the time. I had less attractive friends who did great on OLD dating. Then one day I messaged a man I found attractive and he messaged me back. Basically what he said was he wasn't going to respond bc he just assumed I was not real. I guess a lot of scammers use pics of attractive women on those sites so if you are too attractive sometimes guys will a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:47 PM
6

I think this is so important and people don't talk about it enough. If you are like say 46 and look good there is no way you want to date someone who is 46 and looks like hell. I mean when someone ages that badly it is because they didn't take care of themselves and prob never will, regardless it shows a total and complete difference in values. Being healthy is a value and it is so important. I don't understand men who chase women when the men don't eat right or exercise yet they want women who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:40 PM
21

When a man refuses to step up and treat you well, the answer is not to simply change titles so that his behavior can be deemed acceptable. This right here is really powerful to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:34 PM
24

Right. How could that be illegal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:39 AM
3

You are doing great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:05 AM
4

He would immediately demand a commitment bc men always want what they can't have. They are toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:53 AM
6

Same here. This place has been really good for me. I need that Queen energy bc I am just too damn nice and I get taken advantage of. I refused to be used again and I come here to stay strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:51 AM
5

And next he would have been demanding nudes lol these idiots are so lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:37 AM
13

I am so proud of you. This guy sounds like a predator. The pity ploy is a dead give away. I would inform your employer honestly just in case and just be aware for the time being. I know it took a lot for you to do that bc we are like programmed to be "nice" but that is what these creeps count on and by breaking that programming and protecting yourself you have really leveled up in a major way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:35 AM
20

"just killing off horny assholes at this point" Now that is funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:30 AM
2

Yeah they really are and it is so hard sometimes with text to know intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:28 AM
11

I've had a couple of those. It is super creepy, complete strangers hitting you up. I don't understand the audacity of some people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:27 AM
8

I had a complete stranger message me on messenger asking to talk bc he didn't have anyone to talk to. I told him to call a 1-900 number. It was weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:24 AM
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He wants a "cool" girl lol. And he's not set on relationships SMH This is not just red flags this is blocked and Next instantly. And that is before you even get to the drama part. Do you know who is dramatic? People who say they don't like drama that is who. Please don't entertain this clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:16 AM
18

Also him loving the Philippines in Military speak means he loved buying sex trafficking victims- SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:13 AM
13

I had a guy friend pursue me pretty hard and when I finally came around suddenly he didn't want a relationship ad was still in love with his ex. This was after talking almost everyday hours on the phone for months. It was weird. I tried to do the friend thing but at a point I realized it was not working for me. I felt manipulated bc I was basically his therapist and he didn't really act like a friend. He would flirt and then go silent on me from time to time. Every time I tried to set boundaries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:10 AM
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I mean she legally couldn't say anything to her best friend but in the appointment there was no rule against saying something then to the other woman, her bestie is not covered under the hippa. I would have blown him up right then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:02 AM
2

No, I wasn't suggested you implied that at all. I was just thinking about all the gaslighting DV's get that keep them trapped that noone ever talks about. I'm sorry if it came off that way, furthest thought from my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:53 AM
3

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:02 AM
2

Shallion said she KNEW Selena was a addict bc when she worked for Star magazine they called for some kind of statement when she went in for treatment and they basically copped to it. I mean I am not saying that proves it or anything bc she Shallion went in on the DA thing quite a bit. Though honestly I find it hard to believe bc DA's tend to look really rough in a pretty short time and Selena doesn't. IDK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:57 PM
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LMAO Good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:46 PM
11

Right and it is like somehow bc they are mentally ill you are obligated to stay and be emotionally abused. It is abuse, it doesn't matter why the abuser is doing it, noone should tolerate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:42 PM
4

He probably actually lives with his parents if not a wife/gf lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:38 PM
5

I had a guy I meet on OLD a while ago tell me he still lived with his ex, so I responded that that was cool that we should be understanding about ex problems bc my ex was stalking me so of course if I was cool with his ex issues he would be cool with mine. LOL yeah he ghosted. Sometimes it is funny to throw their nonsense right back at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:37 PM
7

Even the pickmeisha doesn't want that, they just don't have enough self worth to ask for what they actually want. They are modern day sex martyrs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:31 PM
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Honestly and I may get some hate for this but I think she was kinda on point with the whole Pete Davidson thing. I mean that not be exactly what he is doing but I know I have come across men using mental health to manipulate women so that is a fair thing and helpful issue to discuss. IDK maybe using him as a example may not be a good idea but I mean that is what she does, she takes a celebrity issue and then talks about it in a real life normal people context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:24 PM
8

She also accused her of being a heroin addict which is pretty serious. JS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:20 PM
17

I watch Shallion's videos all the time and for the most part I like her. That being said her constant attacks or whatever you want to call it on Selena Gomez is ICK. I don't know what Selena's deal is but I have a problem with Shallion's black and white take on the girl and honestly don't really understand it. Women should not be hating on each other without any empathy at all like that. It makes me sad she takes that stance so hard. Even if everything she says about her is true it makes me feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:17 PM
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This is a yellow flag in my opinion. Beware of the guy who is more concerned about winning over your family than you. Typically a narcissist will embed themselves in your circle and use their popularity in that circle to control you by peer pressure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:09 PM
6

They don't leave when it first starts bc it starts really slow and the first time something small happens she probably said something to friends/family and they told her she was being petty/dramatic making something out of nothing. They made excuses to justify maybe even somehow found a way to make it her fault. Then another thing happens and the same thing happens and it continues. Finally she stops talking to the people close to her bc they always tell her she is wrong to have the feelings she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:01 PM
2

This is why you want someone with good morals. Like a guy who would not stay with someone who cheated on them. Even though they weren't the cheater them staying with a cheater shows that they don't value their self and their health which will transfer to them not valuing your health and safety. Also same with a guy who has casual sex, FWB's etc- people who do these things don't have enough self worth to really be safe and their health becomes questionable. That being said a person could be a goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:51 PM
13

I've noticed since porn has shifted to focus on servicing men that men don't go down on women like they used to. It's like back in the day that was the standard and now it is like men expect constant blowjobs and quite a few say they don't go down on women. This is freaking weird. Add to that the obsession with anal and it is like they may as well just be having sex with each other. I refuse to have sex with men who do not go down on women and expect blowjobs. As far as I am concerned a guy who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:44 PM
6

He probably suggested it to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:35 PM
5

Actually she should have just put the title of a book on narcissism or a video about it or sub or something along those lines and left it at that. That would have actually planted a seed that could have maybe helped this crazy pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:34 PM
2

It is already playing out bad bc if their relationship was on point this pickme would not have all this animosity towards the ex. Clearly he is doing the whole comparison thing and the new girl is coming up short (triangulation game) and the pickme is full of jealous rage as a result. A woman in a happy relationship does not do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:31 PM
2

It depends on the new girl and how smart he thinks she is. If she is a super pickme he will not be worried, if she is somewhat critically aware he will go to great lengths to make sure you never speak. That is why it is a red flag if a guy is paranoid about you meeting or interacting with his ex. I mean noone really wants that but if they go out of their way if you all happen to be in the same place take note.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:26 PM
5

There was some kind of deal breaker they found. It could be they were just bored and wanted some one to talk to and never had any interest, they may have had a gf/wife. They may not find you attractive and that means they are probably really shallow. They may have been looking for nudes or someone willing to hook up with them and saw you were not that kind of person so they ghosted- this is most likely. Very likely they found someone willing to hookup right now or do webcam stuff. Even if they s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:41 PM
6

What really gets me is when ugly guys act like you are not shit. I mean you are so out of their league but they never compliment you but are constantly telling you how many other women find THEM attractive. It's weird and really dishonest. I mean do they think we are stupid? Do they think other men don't compliment you and that you are suddenly going to stop realizing how attractive you are bc they don't apparently see it? All these obvious emotional manipulations are just so lame and obvious an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:32 PM
3

Pickme friends will do that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:28 PM
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Nice girls explain themselves in detail. They give reasons and share their feelings and compromise. Bitches make demands and accept nothing less. if a bitch doesn't get what she wants she cuts the man loose and moves on without any explanations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:26 PM
2

I love that guy! He's legit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:02 PM
2

Thank you and love to you too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:02 AM
11

Facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:27 AM
1

Right. There must be a drought right now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:49 AM
4

Could you give some examples? This is new to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:45 AM
4

I love her in that movie and her character. I know she is supposed to be the bad guy but honestly she was a Queen. Halle Berry was so pathetic it was annoying and this is what I thought watching this as a kid ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:24 AM
5

I loved the original movie as a kid and read the book. I don't understand why this book is at all controversial. I mean yeah it is stating some sorta ideology or whatever you want to call it but I mean it is not offensive or anything it is just interesting and a what if kind of thing. It's really interesting to think about ramifications if things are allowed to go one way or another and the book is great for that reason. I mean if 1984, Brave New World, Fahrenheit 451 are acceptable and they go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:22 AM
5

I've done this and you are right, they will suddenly lose interest. Even when they are way beneath you. It is a funny thing really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:15 AM
3

I love Orphan Black- that is like the greatest show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:02 AM
3

Robin Givens in Boomerang and Halle Berry is a pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:01 AM
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As far as youtube people who talk about dating the only ones I have found that are useful are actually black men. MH never gives actual advice really just bait where he wants you to buy something or other, whereas there are a couple black men on youtube who actually give really good FDS type of reasoning and advice. That is my take anyway. I wouldn't pay for this guys "services" when you can get equal to or much better for free bc by not actually putting his stuff out there readily available he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:56 AM
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You know the worst part is that a woman will tell a man something a million times and then she will get fed up and leave and it isn't until she leaves that the man will finally listen, but by then it is way too late. Men don't understand words, they only understand actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:41 AM
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She did communicate and he didn't care that is the point. It is so annoying when people tell people to communicate like it is some magic answer. You can't talk to a brick wall. She stated her case and he stated his, now is the time for her to take action. This whole communicate crap people say to people this this women is crazy and you are 100% right- it's walking time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:39 AM
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This! It is so crazy to buy a house with someone you are not married to I can't believe she did it. I mean wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:37 AM
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I set my settings to whitelist only and I have noone on my whitelist so I will not get any pms. But what is weird is I have only had this account a short time and I have not made any posts and I have a follower. Don't know why I would have a follower, I for sure am not that interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:14 AM
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Damn this hurts my feelings bc it is so true. I feel real dumb for giving so much to men who didn't give a crap about me and realizing they resented me and didn't like me too-just wow. Hard truth but needed. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:01 AM
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This! And they will tell their wives/gf they you are hitting or flirting with them when you were just being polite so now you have some jealous crazy women going full fatal attraction on you. Women need to stop automatically believing men when men say other women are into them bc men LIE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:28 PM
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And that is the big catch 22- if you smile and are nice you are "coming on to them' if you are neutral and blank they constantly are on you to "smile" You can't win either way it is a problem for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:23 PM
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Oh I'm jealous that is so sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:19 PM
4

This is really good advice. I'm going to remember that bc I do this a lot. I am the person people turn to when they have noone and then when things are good they blow me off. It has happened too many times and I am done being a free therapist for people who don't care and respect me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:13 PM
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I love the way you handled that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:01 PM
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I do this too bc my male coworkers were constantly doing it and since I started doing it and other female coworkers have also started doing it the males have all suddenly stopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:58 PM
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LOL I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:57 PM
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I have had it happen 3 times and everytime I rolled my eyes- I couldn't help it lol :) I think it is something ugly guys do to show you they can get women as attractive as you or something. It's really creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:46 PM
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I was actually thinking about that at first. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:44 PM
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Or how you end up dead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:15 AM
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I have the same thing. I pick up on stuff so quick. It is annoying bc I truth it but LVM always demand you explain it which is impossible bc I mean it's like damn I just know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:13 AM
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Oh honey it is not you it is absolutely them. I don't know what their problem is but they seem to love talking about their exes, the worst ones will pull out pics. So annoying and unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:58 AM
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Cognitive Dissonance for sure. I mean this is just really weird. I mean if it was just black PS that is one thing but to photo shop her face onto them, I don't even begin to understand that. I have never heard of anything like that. That is really crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:48 AM
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I didn't realize it was so wide spread. Who are all these women sending nudes out? Weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:33 AM
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I mean that was my experience. The level of sexism overseas was shocking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:28 AM
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She sounds like a female narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:11 PM
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Same for me. With so much of society constantly beating us down for respecting ourselves it is understandable we can sometimes second guess ourselves. That being said this is a very good place to sound it out and get real feedback that isn't sexist and destructive to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:01 PM
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Exactly. If you are in the middle of a conversation and they just disappear without saying anything that is just rude. I mean how hard is it to say I gotta go or I will talk to you later or something like that? It is intentional when they do it and it is meant to make you feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:54 PM
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I feel this. Even guys who are just friends do this. I mean come on my friends don't ignore me or leave me on read asshole. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:51 PM
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A good way to learn to trust it is by doing that though. Validating of what you are feeling from a community you trust will over time reinforce that self trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:19 PM
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I have found myself in that position as well. And afterwards thinking about it I found that for me anyway it was a setup. They tell you personal things to get you to one up but when you go back and look at it their personal things are not as personal as what you end up telling them. I honestly think it is some kind of manipulation. Like they go so deep with their feelings about it that it tricks you into thinking they were really telling you something deep but one you get a little distance the a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:16 PM
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So he hadn't changed at all clearly and how dare you expect an apology lol. What an ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:58 PM
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OMG the lack of dignity- it has to be a narcissist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:53 PM
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Most of them are probably seriously exaggerating. I have known so many guys who talked about being entrepreneurs and the truth was they weren't doing crap. It's like their height, subtract two inches from whatever they tell you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:57 AM
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Read a poem and leave it at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:36 AM
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Yeah I understood what you were saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:35 AM
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Honestly the only thing that really works for me when I am in that place is to find a really great book that i can get lost in. I basically read until I'm over it. I know it sounds lame but it's like you just have to think about something, anything else and a movie is too short. Books and really great stories excite me and I can like disappear in them if that makes any sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:28 AM
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I really wish they would explain that sometime bc it is so weird. I mean they are ugly and boring to look at. Does nothing for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:24 AM
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I need to print this out and put it by my phone bc you nailed how I feel in those situations to a tee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:22 AM
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I agree. I wouldn't date someone who tried to get back together with someone who cheated on them. Just like I don't cheat it is important to me that whoever I am with has the same deal breaker values about it. And if he sleeps around casually I won't touch him, too many things you can catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:16 AM
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I think this is true but I also think they are intimidated if they think you are more experienced than them. They want to be in control and if you know more they feel inadequate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:12 AM
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It's the first thing I do. I delete, block everything even when I am not sure, it is my way of not allowing myself to stay in a bad situation and keep it honest. Once I get that old familiar feeling of betrayal coming on I just act. Little extreme but I have yet to of been wrong. It all comes out in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:05 AM
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That is disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:37 AM
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It is so hard bc the shift happens in a way where it's like you feel like you were the one pursuing them when in reality it was them chasing you. It is infuriating and bs. Like I hate how guys have become like this and if you call them on it you are suddenly needy or desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:37 AM
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This is so true. My life would literally have been totally different if I had learned this stuff as a teenager. I feel robbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:11 AM
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Yeah I agree but one is actual human trafficking most of the time so it needs to be acknowledged you know. Most prostitute are not doing it on their own free will, I guess I didn't word it right but that is what I was getting at. So for a man to have sex with a prostitute it is just morally bankrupt and there is no possible excuse or justification for it. I guess I am saying there is absolutely no gray zone there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:53 PM
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I'm guilty of this and this post really clears it up for me. My biggest problem is I have a slow reaction to things. In the moment it is like I am stunned and do not react and it is only after I have had time alone to think about it do I react and then act. So it causes men I discard to get all crazy and confused bc they don't understand why I am suddenly not interested when they thought everything was fine. I hate having these conversations bc they will always minimize or gaslight you so I basi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:43 PM
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Had an ex bf try to tell me once he didn't know how to load a dishwasher. Then when I insisted he do it he tried to put all the plates on the top glass rack and all the glasses on the bottom. Kinda funny how suddenly common sense went awol. I mean obviously plates didn't fit in the top rack. So yeah they do that. I dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:29 PM
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Honestly after having twins she really shouldn't even be having sex yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:15 PM
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What is upsetting about this is it is working. Now whenever you watch a video or read an article about something they will say she or them instead of the he which is usually statically the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:12 PM
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Funny I found European men to be the worst, super sexists and lazy. I'll take American men over them everyday of the week. But honestly they all kinda suck in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:08 PM
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I think we need to separate sex worker from prostitution bc it is a known fact that prostitution promotes human trafficking and slavery. The average stripper is not going to sleep with someone for money. So there is a difference. That being said often prostitutes are not doing what they do of their own free will and that is an issue that needs to be addressed. A person who would exploit someone who is basically a slave or even who could be is beyond scum and should be imprisoned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:05 PM
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I really wish they would teach high schools and maybe even middle schools about domestic violence and personality disorders with focus on cluster b's. I think it would be really great for our society and keep a lot of kids from growing up and getting into dysfunctional relationships. I think this stuff should be taught like Math is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:01 PM
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Yeah agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:57 PM
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Honestly sometimes you only know if you are into someone IRL- you can talk to them for hours on the phone, web whatever but it is the in person contact that really lets you know. They say like 80% of communication is non verbal body language. I wouldn't take this personally, just means you were incompatible in some way. It was something about him that didn't fit. And you can't know what that is. He could be a lot of things and have a tons of issues you have no idea about. Maybe you were too HV f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:55 PM
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Well said. That drama addiction is really hard to break but so worth it in the end bc man it always ends up hurting you so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:49 PM
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Most common thing I find is that in the beginning they all talked about wanting a LTR and were monogamous, then give it a few weeks and suddenly they are all about keeping it casual, getting to know each other and see how it goes. See when it comes time that they should being making a decision they suddenly pretend they never wanted anything serious and always wanted to "slowly grow" or you know the infamous FWB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:48 PM
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As a result of past narc abuse I now write down my conversations with new guys so if they start gaslighting I have those notes to ensure I am not crazy. And oddly enough I have ended up needing those notes more often than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:38 PM
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"That feeling of chemistry is a warning. I used to misinterpret it." This! I'm just now figuring this out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:34 PM
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This is genius!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:28 PM
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I mean it kinda is that movie Lord of War and My Best Friends Girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:59 PM
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People in general reject there are long cons out there. That is why they are so hard on domestic violence victims bc they refuse to believe there wasn't early warning signs. I mean most of the time there are but there are also those rare abusers out there that don't give out any signs before they flip the script. Long cons do happen. IDK if this one is real but I mean I wouldn't be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:57 PM
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OMG I literally thought the same thing when I saw that. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:28 PM
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My guess is 85 was really like around 100 bc he clearly downplayed every other detail so of course that was downplayed as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:26 PM
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This facts. I do not understand women who get upset when their abusive so start seeing someone new. For me that was always a gift bc they had someone else to occupy them so they would leave me alone. Never hate the next girl, be thankful for her bc she is saving you from tons of harassment and maybe even assaults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:07 PM
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About the same time they realize getting laid isn't as easy as they thought it would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:04 PM
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This is facts! Just cut a friend off who was playing games and was red flagging like crazy. What I hate is how they demand you justify not wanting to talk to them or deal with them anymore. Like honestly I have no desire to have a conversation bc conversations are for negotiations and for me there is nothing to negotiate. Too many red flags and shitty behaviors. I don't need some big event to pull the plug, enough small things happened and honestly I should have done it a long time ago. It is fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:19 AM
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I am over all the snow. I think mabye KY??? IDK. It's hard to decide where would be a good place to move without traveling around and that isn't happening right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:50 AM
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Yeah the whole pushing 30 thing is mind blowing. Since when is that old? Men are so lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:48 AM
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This, he put 32 so that younger women would find him in their searches. He should be banned from the sight for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:01 PM
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It is actually really shocking how badly men are aging. I was stunned to see pics of guys I went to hs with. They don't even look like the same people, I would never even recognize them on the street. Whereas I look almost the same. It is weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:00 PM
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This is really true. Men really do think they are the prize and why shouldn't they when there are so many desperate women lowering themselves for them? I mean they don't even have to try anymore and it is depressing. We have a whole generation of males raised by mothers who told them they were special and did everything for them bc they were single so now that generation thinks it is normal for the women to do everything and worship them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:58 PM
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First Wives Club???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:53 PM
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Right. Also why is it attractive to women to be a single father while at the same time it is considered unattractive if a woman is a single mother? Such a huge double standard. Like oh he's a single father that means he is going to be a good parent to OUR children, but a woman it is like oh she has kids I don't want to take on someone else's responsibility. So annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:52 PM
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Yeah this is exactly why I get weirded out when guys post pics of them with their kids on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:44 PM
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You maybe just better at spotting it. I have noticed that my awareness has changed over time with experience. I spot stuff now that would have taken me a lot longer when I was younger. It doesn't mean that younger people are not vetting properly it is just as you get more experienced/wiser u will notice more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:42 PM
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And they will latch on to one small detail of something you say to distract from the main point and try to twist it around so you are at fault. It is impossible to "communicate' with someone who doesn't want to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:03 PM
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They really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:01 PM
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That's funny. Girls in bad relationships always swear that single girls are jealous of their relationships. JS I have seen this scenario so many times. They also go out of their way and over the top about how great their relationship is or how much in love they are with their partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:39 PM
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And if you do get pregnant and decide to have it then just don't put his name on the birth certificate bc that gives him rights and if he is not your husband you shouldn't let him have rights over your child. I know some will disagree with that but it saved me a lot of bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:02 PM
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OMG are you me. I am also living in the PNW and thinking of moving south. It is really bad here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:55 PM
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This is so true. I can't tell you how many times I was on a date with a guy and I could tell he was trying to turn me into his ex that he wasn't over. Like really? Telling me oh you like this and you are like that. Like no dude I am me not someone who dumped your butt. There is nothing more insulting that someone trying to morph you into someone else like you are just an empty shell waiting on their instructions on who to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:47 PM
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Exactly. It is always drama and games with them. It is hard to even just be friends with them bc they are always trying to stir pots. I mean what is wrong with people that they can't just live and be happy? Why do they always have to be screwing someone over or trying to take advantage? So over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:40 PM
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You did the right thing and good job vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:14 AM
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Good for you bc that was so much deeper than him just not doing what he was told not to do. Him eating your child's food was a dangerous red flag and quite frankly one that was deserving in my opinion of life long enemy. Any man who tried to come before a woman's child is scum and abusive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:50 AM
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LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:55 AM
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I know. I started noticing this tread of dumb guys breaking up with you after you already broke up with them about ten yrs ago. Makes me wonder if it is some new strategy some idiot male group is putting out there. It makes them look so pathetic honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:54 PM
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I think the line becomes clear when pickmes refuse to hear how to do better or to learn from their mistakes. Like okay everyone makes mistakes but it takes a special kind of stubbornness to never learn from them and at that point they are no longer victims. We have all seen it. Girls come on here even and ask for advice or guidance, they state the situation and posters give them good honest feedback. Instead of listening and deciding for themselves how to proceed they start arguing with the feed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:36 PM
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It is always so funny to me how some men feel the need to reject you after you have already rejected them. It's like okay you told me smh. Their egos are so lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:35 PM
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Oh well that is different. NM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:28 AM
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When a guys asks you to call him he is really saying he expects you to chase him. You didn't cooperate and that is why he waited a week, he was waiting for you to make the move. This guy is not a HVM in my opinion. Just food for thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:21 AM
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You shouldn't wait- just get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:17 AM
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Pretty sure that is a Marine uniform JS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:46 AM
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This would only attract a woman who totally hates other women. So whoever she might be she deserves whatever she gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:41 AM
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Dude guys like that will tell a skinny girl she is fat just to mess with her, they have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:38 AM
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Yeah you can feel the rage coming through. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:36 AM
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Isn't it great! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:33 AM
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Exactly- funny how they get all talkative when you are done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:10 AM
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Funny after starting FDS it went from me sending paragraphs to them sending them and then me blocking lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:09 AM
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I wish I had gold for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:49 PM
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"guilt you into giving up on your reasons for being upset with them. " This! Somehow no matter what they do you are doing something by calling them out that triggers some kind of wound they have and you should know better- so annoying ​ "Society has unfortunately created the myth that fighting is just nasty and we shouldn't ever express unhappiness towards others or it'll kill our friendships and relationships and often the blame for fighting falls on women" Whenever a man has a problem it's lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:04 AM
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Oh and anytime you put your foot down they will accuse you of hurting them just like xyz did wahhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:52 AM
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Me too lol The drama...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:51 AM
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This is so true. Men are spoiled I swear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:05 AM
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What is so extra annoying about this is when you realize you are falling into this and walk away somehow you become the "b". Like the LVM freaks out on you. I mean they put in little to no effort but as soon as you say okay I'm done they act like you are betraying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:06 AM
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I need to read that book, I just saw the movie. I loved that character actually I loved them both, what a great couple. Ah goals! Well not the miscarrying that is too sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:45 AM
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LOL good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:44 AM
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Oh okay that makes sense. Thank you. It is nice to be able to ask people here about stuff when I can't figure out what is bothering me but I have not identified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:43 AM
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Well in that movie the blonde who everyone hates husband is pretty damn HVM- I forget the characters name but he hires the maid who has been blacklisted and is the one the mean girl is in love with hence the bullying of his wife who had the miscarriage. I really liked that movie lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:46 AM
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Where the Heart is has a great HVM character I forget the characters name but it is the guy who jumps through the Walmart window to deliver her baby and she ends up with him. I love that movie. ​ Also Matthew M character in A Time to Kill and Samuel L Jackson's character too. ​ And Matt Dameon's character in The Rainmaker. Also the Princess Bride. I will probably think of more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:43 AM
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OMG YES- Say it louder bc it cannot be said enough! NEVER GIVE UGLY GUYS A CHANCE- they do not appreciate it and they will use your attractiveness to advertise their "high value" to get other women to sleep with them. It is so gross and disrespectful. Sorry I know I said for you to say it louder but I couldn't help myself, I was triggered lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:40 AM
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This is really good advice that I am going to do from now on. It should be part of the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:32 AM
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Yes! I am so sick of people acting like there is something wrong with a woman just because she doesn't settle. I spent years in therapy from bad relationships from my 20's no way I will ever risk going through that again. Red flag and I am out. So why am I the problem? It is so annoying. Maybe men just need to be better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:30 AM
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I was shamed for leaving an abusive men bc you have to make it work. Society sucks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:27 AM
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I wish I had read this at 18!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:25 AM
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Thanks this is very helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:23 AM
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I'm going to check that out. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:22 AM
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This was the first sign the last guy I was talking to was a problem. For about 2 months he was perfect then suddenly he ghosted me for exactly 30 days. I didn't text him or reach out at all bc I don't do that. Day 30 he popped up asking why I ghosted him. I was like what are you talking about you ghosted me. He said it was some kind of misunderstanding- and I am sad to admit I went along with it gave him the benefit of the doubt and the games began. If I knew then what I know now I would have ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:20 AM
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Is it that Dereck guy? I love him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:10 AM
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Never chase- if they are not pursuing you they are not serious and you should not waste one second of your time. It is the most simple but also the truest and the one thing that if all women realized we would all have saved ourselves so much heartache and time. ​ And learn about Narcissism now so you will know it the second you see it- those people are cancers and they will kill you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:08 AM
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There are so many social media platforms that it is hard to keep up anymore. I really hate what it has all become. Used to be if you were worried someone was cheating on you you just went through their pockets, now you have snapchat, instagram, facebook, and on and on- I'm over it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:05 AM
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What would a small following be? Like if I were to meet a guy and his page is private is there a ratio to following followers I should be looking at to get a clue or idea if he is shady or not? I know you probably can't answer this but I also have instagram leeriness you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:58 AM
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I agree with this. If you go on youtube the black male dating coaching tend to actually call crap out and make no apologies for it. I appreciate that so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:45 AM
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I can't really put my finger on it but watching his videos feels like a neg to me. Like I feel like he is low key insulting women but pretending he isn't. IDK maybe it is just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:44 AM
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This is what I needed to read right this second. Currently having this issue having slammed the door on a friend lvm who is just too much. Total blame shift and gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:40 AM
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They always do. The worst offenders are the biggest preachers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:31 AM
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Friends don't get benefits bc a real friend doesn't take advantage- so ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:29 AM
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I have. I didn't really do it intentionally. I just decided to focus on myself and do therapy and stuff and self improvement and after a few years I found that there are no men around that are worth my time. Meaning they are so far all a mess. They seem to have unsolved issues they have not dealt with and don't seem to want to deal with, and stuff like that. After working so hard on myself I don't have any desire to let someone else's bs drag me down that they can't even be bothered to address. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:15 AM
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Yeah that was really weird. I mean I don't even understand what made him so sure he knew her political beliefs. So freaking crazy how he reacted. Imagine if this wasn't going on and she did meet him? That is the stuff of nightmares!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:59 AM
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I was also a virgin slut known for things like threesomes before I had ever even kissed a boy. LMAO- funny I thought my situation was unusual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:00 AM
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I am not worked up. I am just suggesting to you not to have a knee jerk reaction to a sensitive subject and to be more open to having that discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:56 AM
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You literally said "Genuine question to mods: is this really in line with FDS views?" What was that? And you suggest that the OP's stance was "almost like a hate crime" I mean come on - someone stating they are creeped out by a certain type of person warrants a discussion on why and as there were others who shared that stance it is of interest- stating that it is just a generalization not worthy of talking about is really just too much. I mean the question should be what is it about these types …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:42 AM
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Not to be argumentative or anything but like you don't want to argue but you are fine with calling out to the mods suggesting this line of discussion and suggest it should be censored? I mean what is that? What is it something that should not be talked about at all in your opinion thus it needs to be censored and anyone who speaks out should be silenced? I mean I find that actually really offensive- mush more offensive than someone having different beliefs and or opinions/feelings than I do. Whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:24 AM
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"breadcrumbing the Lord" perfect explaination!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:14 AM
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Yes! I have had such bad experiences with "Christian men" I don't understand exactly what it is. Honestly it is like they are not real Christians bc I do know people who are real Christians and they are really wonderful people but it is like predators integrate themselves into these groups bc they see people in them as easy targets and it gives them great cover. So many pedos and sexual perverts pretending to be Christians these days. And like you found the way to expose them is their selective …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:11 AM
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So is there any good OLDs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:32 AM
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Yeah and another rule is never date anyone who goes to the strip club. As a former stripper myself I remember. I don't think women realize how much hatred strippers have for the men who go to strip clubs. I mean they are basically not even human beings to the strippers- just walking money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:04 AM
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okay now that sounds scary af. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:02 AM
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Sounds like he raped her tbh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:52 AM
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This is so informative. Esp the pic thing. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:44 AM
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Yeah I can't even imagine living like that. It makes me really sad. I really don't understand how anyone can have sex with someone who they don't actually care for. I guess I am a sucker but it baffles me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:36 AM
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I have one of those from a long time ago. I looked him up recently, he is a loser who lives with his parents and has a criminal record- so yeah, I dodged a bullet there. So why do I still romanticize him? I wish I knew and wish I could stop. Logically you know they suck but still something keeps you in lala land. It sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:35 AM
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I don't know bc I did not have daughters I did however somehow raise a son who goes around telling all his females friends how to recognize LVM and NVM. They ask he to vet their new boyfriends and are constantly hitting him up for advice which is mostly him telling them "No that is not acceptable dump him you deserve better." Never tried to raise him that way but that is how he turned out. So my guess is just lead my example????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:27 AM
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If I had gold I would give it to you for this comment bc this is the truest thing ever said on the internet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:24 AM
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This! I am guilty of doing that in the past and lesson learned. They don't respect your property at all. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:58 PM
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I have been hearing that a lot lately. I find it such a weird way to try to get a woman in bed, like no class. I mean is that approach actually working for these losers? So ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:42 PM
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OMG your outrage is not proportional to the post. Get a grip and step off your damn soap box. You took an old outdated joke and tired to turn it into some racism stuff SMH -
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:03 AM
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I don't even know what you are talking about but stop talking to me. Seriously I think you need to calm down and step away from the drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:28 AM
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Back in IDK like the 50's there was some dumb movie where the female character was a blonde and she said Blonde's have more fun and the movie showed guys falling all over themselves chasing her- i think it was Marilyn Monroe or something and since them it has been repeated over and over again in pop culture in a semi hidden lame female blondes vs brunettes competition thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:25 AM
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Um yeah okay. Just explaining it not justifying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:44 AM
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yeah I mean we can't be sure but I do think lurkers do downvote without messaging, though the really unhinged ones sent hate mail lol. sometimes we do find ourselves as women at odds with each others opinions and that is unfortunate, so it is possible, I hope that is not the case. I think bc we know we have LVM lurking here even if we don't totally agree with each other we should still be open to hearing each other and considering each others opinions without resorting to undesirable behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:30 AM
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I got it. Makes sense to me. Don't worry about it a lot can get lost over text you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:04 AM
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If might not be other woman doing it. LVM lurk on this sub and down vote things that trigger them. You may have triggered some. I don't know that is it but I mean judging by the amount of down votes I think it might be something like that. Don't lose faith, you have good points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:32 AM
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I understand what you are saying and I agree. I don't tell narcs they are narcs or cheaters how I found out they were cheating. I don't tell people doing wrong basically how they were caught so that they can get better at hiding their bs in the future thus making it harder for the next woman to catch them early and get out early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:30 AM
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I am really sorry you went through that. People don't really ever talk about how people in your situation feel or what trauma it causes and they are so quick to blame partners of abusers assuming the partners "always" know which they don't. I hope you are okay and taking care of yourself and know that was never your fault and you did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:45 PM
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I do too. I like when people post their text exchanges here bc it is so crazy to see the similarities, it validates that it isn't just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:39 PM
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"Compartmentalize the women and shit talk each of them so the others assume the other woman is the problem and nobody ever thinks to compare notes." This! I am so tired of woman not being able to talk to each other. I have reached out to other women when I started dating someone and was seeing things that made me concerned- this was before now I would just trust my judgement, but before I would try to ask around and I mean damn women are so either terrified to speak to the new victim or oddly an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:36 PM
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"they want to create attachment before you discover dealbreakers" This! I think this for me is what stands out. I thought about this question a lot and reading this really clears it up for me. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:21 PM
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Could be or he could like you. There is no way to know really at this point bc honestly it sounds like he is getting to know you right now and building a friendship. So that being said if he wanted to date you right now you would know and if the time comes when he does he will let you know. For right now you should just enjoy his friendship and go about your life. Date other people if you want and focus on yourself, esp bc some of your self statements are self depreciating and that is not good. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:27 AM
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As a narc/abuse subber you should know that you do not engage with flying monkeys ever- no mutual friends/family members- they are dead to you now - you do not talk to them esp about the narc. Stop the drama cycle, the narc feeds on it! The more you try to pacify the narc the more they will do to amp up the drama, so you have to stay calm and aware and shut off all supply they get from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:08 PM
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I think if you are in a no cops neighborhood then you realize there is another route- which is easy enough. Go talk to your people and and tell them the deal and ask them to help you if he shows up, yeah it is embarrassing but trust me when I tell you having been in that situation before chances are very high the neighborhood will have your back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:03 PM
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Pit Bull - Dead bolt lock - Don't answer the door- you have options. Last ditch big male relative who knows the deal and won't backstab you by befriending him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:59 PM
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The problem with these kinds of scenarios is when it is ldr and you have no irl interaction you are not real to them- you are an object and that is a reason that a LVM would not see you as a prize. You basically are like a porn or something they can hit up when they have nothing else going on or when they need an ego boast. Don't take it personally, just understand to this guy you were never an option let alone the prize. He was just using you and wants to keep using you. He will pull away so yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:55 PM
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Just an old joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:09 AM
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I can not tell you how many times I have heard men describe their wives as "she really loves me" not I really love her but she loves them. That seems for a lot of men to be a reason to be with someone alone. It is so weird to me. Like they are rewarding a loyal dog or something. Also along those lines stuff such as "well she put up with a lot so I married her bc I knew she had earned it or wouldn't leave me" like seriously- men have actually said these things to me in casual conversation which I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:41 AM
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Can not tell you how many times people tried to basically bully me into dating someone bc "he's nice and he really likes you" so annoying. It's like if a man shows interest in a woman she is somehow a horrible person if she has no interest in him, even if he is unattractive, broke, or just socially inept. It is such a double standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:37 AM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:47 AM
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Stretching out your butt hole has to have other non desirable effects- Just saying I'd rather keep mine tight to do the job it is meant for, imagine the alternative EW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:32 AM
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yeah I never send texts/ make calls asking why someone is ignoring me. That just screams desperation to me. If someone starts ignoring me I ignore right back. I don't chase partners or friends. If it is a friend and they come back around and say they were really busy I shrug and there is no harm there for me bc we all have lives and I get it. I am good at long distance friending. But if a guy I am talking to does it I don't respond or if he is able to somehow and it has happened to get me in a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:25 AM
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I think she kept it under a certain dollar amount so if he tried to claim fraud or something it would stay misdemeanor or something. IDK but that is my guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:18 AM
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Yeah that is what I am doing. Never known when an unsolicited dic pic might come in handy if someone starts getting out of line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:13 AM
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Oh me too. The book is terrifying and esp as a woman reading about and thinking about having something like that happen is crazy to imagine and chills me to my bones. I will def check out that book, sounds awesome thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:08 AM
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Oh I see. I save conversations in case someone comes out with a bs story later so I keep all receipts bc I have had that happen to me before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:57 PM
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Oh okay I read that wrong at first Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:53 PM
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Some LVM messaged me that I was a unwanted pos female and should just realize nobody wants me lol. I don't know what I posted that set it off but clearly he was in his feels about something I had said. I just blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:28 PM
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No problem, sometimes we have to rationalize ourselves into doing the right thing. I am currently doing the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:24 PM
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What does deleting the conversation do? I mean if you block them but don't delete the conversation is that a problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:15 PM
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I know that was rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:10 PM
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Maybe you should think of it like this- how long will it take for him to reach out to me? Bc if it is 30 or 60 days you know he is doing one of those lame no contact games and he gotta go- so I would wait just to see if he contacts you at exactly one of those dates. View it as a test to see what he is doing with you and if he is working a known game. it makes it easier bc the ball is in his court and you are just observing. If you don't sit back you are losing the chance to find out this data. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:07 PM
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I have known women who used stripping to pay their way through nursing school and law school. I mean yeah it is not ideal but not every sex worker is a pickme and in fact a lot of them are using it as an ends to a mean. Also there is a vast difference between strippers and porn actors. Porn actresses tend to be really screwed up and usually have their "boyfriends" as their managers (abusive relationships) We live in a messed up society and there are victims and then there are people exploiting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:54 PM
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I think the missing link here is that some women don't realize that letting them have the last word actually drives LVM nuts bc they don't know what you think. They will always wonder and it bugs them. When you as a woman have the last word even if it is savage you are giving them closure- and even though it is not a serious relationship everyone wants closure- so if the OP's really want to mess with these guys the way to do it is by staying silent and giving them nothing so they have no idea wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:32 PM
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Oh Lord SMH. What a waste!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:19 PM
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Avoid anyone who calls themselves an "artist"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:17 PM
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I find when I meet someone talking about 1984 I ask them about Ray Bradbury, if they don't immediately bring up Fahrenheit 451 they are full of it bc honestly those two books basically go together if one is actually interested in that subject matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:15 PM
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I mean We the Living is pretty damn feminist really. I find what I have read of her books she does not only have strong female characters but she talks about their issues and injustices in a very intelligent and real way. I really don't get all the hate she gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:12 PM
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We the Living is an amazing book if you have never read it. I am not going to lie and claim to have read Atlas Shrugged, I tried but that was too dry for me. But she does have some really good stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:07 PM
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I disagree. Dickens was the first to write about battered wife syndrome and he wrote extensively about child abuse issues. Dickens was so ahead of his time and observant and empathic - Maybe I am just a super fan but Dickens is awesome literature!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:06 PM
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What about Koontz?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:04 PM
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I have that problem too. I know I don't look like I did in my 20's anymore and it has this weird effect that makes me feel I am supposed to even though I know that is absurd. It really is an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:56 PM
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Wow thanks. I had no idea about all of that just been having guys come at me with that bs lately and it has been kinda freaking me out. Good to know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:21 AM
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I had to read that twice to figure out what was going on there. The disconnect from the OP's comment to their take was insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:14 AM
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What is up with all these guys claiming to be cuddles now days? Is that a new PUA tactic or something? Also the whole I love eye contact line keeps popping up lately too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:11 AM
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Read a book or play video games. Watch youtube videos or read stuff on the internet, talk to someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:07 AM
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We can disagree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:46 AM
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watching sports and making a core part of your identity if you don't play are not the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:29 AM
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True but when an accusation keeps getting repeated people start believing, when it is never heard is the problem. The more the victims speak up the sooner it will be stopped or heard. Sucks that it takes multiple accusations but staying silent only helps the abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:24 AM
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I mean I agree with you for the most part but not always. I mean Scott Baio for one came with hard receipts. I know I am going to get hate for that but I mean he did. I think when they can't do that they are just guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:22 AM
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The only thing worse than these men are the pickmes who are so cool they are really into watching sports and they tweet or post about games as they are happening so that everyone can know how "cool" they are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:56 AM
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I just had two so called guy friends do that to me- hit me up with their relationship problems (they were dumped) crying and neither asked me how I was or if my family was okay. I was just stunned! Who is this narcissistic? Blocked! I don't care about your relationship problems bro, I'm not a therapist! Over it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:43 AM
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That really is the killer when you know what they are and you still like them. But like you I have always refused to chase and it is the right thing to do. Chasing guys leads to humiliation, I have seen it too many times and the guys who want it get off on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:23 AM
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This one. The first time a guy did this I was so confused. I thought he was just friend zoning me which was fine but then he would turn around and hit on me- for the life of me I couldn't figure it out until I don't know why or how it just dawned on me- Oh he is trying to let me know he has lots of options so I will chase him- I encouraged him to date those women and peaced out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:15 AM
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I'm sorry that really sucks. What a shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:09 AM
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Yeah I think you are right. It always rubs me wrong and historically they turn out to be people I don't end up wanting to date anyway for different reasons. I think it might be a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:33 AM
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I guess they r bored. Annoying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:31 AM
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I noticed downvotes that clearly were LVM lurkers. So I make sure to upvote to counteract it for fellow FDS'ers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:18 AM
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Honestly you shouldn't be dating right now until you are more stable but if you are going to date do not take someone to Wendy's or ask to split the bill You could pack a meal and take her to a beach/ park or otherwise beautiful public setting and have a romantic picnic. Go to a movie Go to community theater play I don't know where you live so what is available but there are many low/ no cost dates you could take someone on if you just put some thought into it and pay attention to what they are …
/r/askFDS01/04/20 02:36 AM
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I know right. I had to work with a lot of men and it was eye opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:21 AM
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I swear some people are addicted to drama and they stay in bad situations just to get a fix. It is exhausting to all the people they lean on for support and it's kinda it's own weird little power play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:12 AM
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I know right. Every time I ever lived with a guy I ended up doing all the housework and paying most if not all the bills. Never again. And on top of that they were always crazy jealous. Men are lazy and insecure for some reason and it seems like you don't find out until you live with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:00 AM
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Thank you! Most people call me damaged bc I don't fall all over myself to be in a relationship and they think I am crazy bc I say I don't ever want to be married again. It is crazy how society acts like a woman has to be with a man to be of worth. I hate that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:52 AM
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Ex husband- very short marriage never married again bc you know he made the divorce hell and I never wanted anyone to have that kind of legal power over me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:48 AM
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I was in an abusive relationship and when I left the most flack I got was from other women. It is a problem. Most men on the other hand respected men for leaving and refusing to be a victim. I understand not being able to leave and having to wait for the right time but that is not what this is- telling women it is okay is the problem and convincing them they should be okay with it is a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:31 AM
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Shoot now days women are often paying most of the bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:01 AM
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When a woman tolerates and condones her own abuse disguised as kink she is promoting the abuse of other women. She is sending the message that is okay thereby creating a hostile environment for all other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:58 PM
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Right! Support subs piss me off bc if you point out how someone is being manipulated you are called a victim blamer- I mean come on. How can a person change their situation if they don't see what is going on and change what they are doing? It is absurd. Just sitting around complaining is not going to fix anything. The first step is recognizing what is going on Awareness- so why such crazy push back against it in these subs? I don't get it personally!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:42 PM
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This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:37 PM
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I recently had a guy friend I used to talk on the phone with all the time admit he was masturbating most of the time we had been talking. It was weird! I stopped talking to him clearly. Felt totally violated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:31 PM
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And notice how he states she really loved him- even now he is still using her for an ego boast. The guy is a jerk. 10 to 1 he shows her pic to other girls to prove he had a hot girlfriend once!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:24 PM
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He's lying. He knew she was out of his league so he treated her less than to lower her self esteem so that she would think she couldn't do better than him- it didn't work. This is why guys who couldn't get girls when they are young are so damn toxic bc this is what many of them end up doing. They chase you but when they get you they secretly resent you and punish you for all the girls that rejected them in their youth and they try to lower your self esteem so they can feel above you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:21 PM
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I might get some hate for this but overly religious. Pulls out the God card to put you in your place as a woman or to shame you for not forgiving them for something. Or to be self righteous. I am very leery of men who seem too high and mighty from past experience. Tells you about all their female friends or other females that are into them. Any my ex was a ... talk at all. Doesn't pay child support or thinks there is something wrong with paying child support. Believes in spanking kids- non negot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:59 PM
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What if a guy says he loves you as a friend? I have heard this from guys who were trying to date me and I never know how I am supposed to respond to that bc like I am not going to say it back unless I actually feel that way which I never do. My closest friends who I love I can count on one hand and I take friendship very seriously and love as well so I don't just throw those two things around. It always feels like someone is trying to foster a closer relationship than is actually there to me. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:45 PM
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I like this list, I would have to change a couple though but I think I might use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:42 PM
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I was talking to a guy who never said my name and kept calling me hun- I told him it made me uncomfortable bc we were just friends and all but he kept doing it. He would revert back and forth from trying to date me then to he just wants to be friends bc he wasn't in a place where he wanted to be in a relationship- it was all really weird I ended up blocking him- but was I right that him never using my actually name and calling me a term of endearment when there was no relationship inappropriate?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:36 PM
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I have sent flowers to a guy once who I really screwed over when we were young and they were yellow with an apology. Not a let's try again apology but a real hey I am sorry and I hope you have a good life apology bc you didn't deserve to be treated like that. I mean there are times when it is appropriate but I don't think this was it. For a woman to send a man flowers there needs to be a real reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:19 PM
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I spent a lot of time with males and another reason is the challenge. If a group of males is around a girl who they all deal with and none of them have had sex with her she will regardless of looks or anything else become a prize for the first guy who can bang her. It is a status symbol, but they don't actually want a relationship with her just bragging rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:12 PM
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It was totally to humiliate her and make her feel unattractive. It was manipulation 101 and in my opinion grounds for immediate divorce. Bc let's be real you will never forget that and it will eat away at your self esteem. I would never have sex with the guy again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 09:56 PM
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So how do you answer that question?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:45 AM
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If you ghost you will get the respect back and that is honestly the only way you can at this point. Any further contact with him will just confirm to him that he has you firmly resting on his shelf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:42 AM
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Ghost and Block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:40 AM
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I guess. I have never seen anyone or heard of anyone doing that. So crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:53 AM
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OMG I had a guy take a condom off on me too- it is such a violation when they do that. I'm glad you found a treatment that worked. endo is hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:32 PM
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Why on Earth would any adult need another person to put their clothes out for them? When did that become a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:24 PM
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I got into a fight one time with a guy bc he took us through a drive through taco bueno, I was like okay if you just want to be cheap at least go to a taco truck where the food is actually good - are you freaking kidding me? He yelled at me that I should be grateful. I told him he was a jackass and I was not eating that crap. Last time I saw him. I didn't care about the amount of money he was spending but the quality of the food was absurd and also come on a drive thru- some men are so lazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:17 PM
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I uploaded my first profile pic on sm the other day and within 24 hours i was flooded with requests and inbox messages. I was sent pics and you name it all from strangers- it is so mind blowing how creepy the world has become. I changed my settings but unfortunately friends of friends can still send me requests which is annoying. I don't know why you can't just turn that feature off if you don't want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:08 PM
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The Owen Benjamin crowd are real winners too lol. Bears LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:00 PM
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Thank U! And damn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:59 PM
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I know a guy who did that with his last girlfriend and after she dumped him he is legit obsessed with her and shows her pics to everyone. I think it is some kind of weird validation thing some men do, like she I had a hot girl or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:52 PM
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I am I had my uterus removed bc it was just too much and nothing worked and since I am great. Funny though bc men look at me like I am defective now bc I can no longer have kids, like what am I only good for making babies GFOH with that. Oh and then there are the losers who are like "oh so you don't need to worry about condoms then" Like seriously apparently some men think the only reason to use a condom is to avoid pregnancy. So all in all I just don't tell people anymore bc it really isn't any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:36 PM
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OMG right. I am so sick of those guys. Like you can't say or talk about anything without them showing up. Go read a narc site and some ahole will be in the comments complaining bc the OP said he instead of she. I mean come on what do they expect that all bad behaviors only be attributed to women despite all the evidence to contrary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:31 PM
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Well at least he didn't try to "play" with you, I don't know why guys do that but it is so creepy. Sorry that happened to you though for real, it really sucks when you are vulnerable with someone and they take that moment to crap on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:27 PM
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You know what I have noticed- ever watch that movie Blue Valentine? Well if you watch that with a man if you notice they never notice what total dick the guy is to the girl when the dog dies. I mean she is crying and he is blaming her but when he is crying and upset she is there for him. It is such a perfect example of the double standard and men never see it even when it is right in their face. The first time I watched that movie with a guy he was like oh she is a bitch for leaving him and all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:25 PM
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Can you explain pegging to me bc I don't think I completely get it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:19 PM
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I had endometriosis too and for years was told the pain was normal. If men experienced this kind of pain there would be a cure and immediate action taken to take care of it, but women are told it's normal bc clearly we can't tell the difference from normal period pain and debilitating pain. I am still pissed about all the years of pain, swollen belly, and month long periods of uncontrolled bleeding that was ignored and dismissed by medical professionals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:08 PM
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OMG right. If a girl gets dumped she is supposed to just be okay and move on, but a guy he throws a big tantrum and acts out and everyone babies him. Then they attack the girl and try to guilt her for breaking his poor heart, it almost never matters what he did that made her dump him in the first place, you have to "forgive" it is all so annoying. And then dumb girls chase after that same guy who publicly shames his ex for daring to leave him like he is some wounded soldier they should all worsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:05 PM
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I have always been told my standards are too high and I expect too much. I expect everyone to be like me in how they treat people and that it was unrealistic bc everyone else wasn't as "perfect" as I was. It was like I was a bad person bc I was a good person. SMH Efff that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:00 PM
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Right! And let's be honest if you were friends with them beforehand as soon as the sex starts they will stop treating you like a friend and will begin the douchebaggery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:47 PM
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I hear you there. Also I for one am sick to death of the whole fwb and see how it goes offer. No i don't have any interest in being in a sex relationship with anyone that has no exclusivity or commitment to it. The offer is insulting and I can't believe people don't realize that. It is basically like saying I don't give a crap about you I just want to use you while I look for someone better and then I will throw you away and feel no guilt or responsibility about it. Oh and if you get an std bc "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:10 AM
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I think men see a vulnerable woman as a time they can take advantage and it shows in movies they just don't call it what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:05 AM
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It's funny my mother was awful, she told me I should go back to my ex husband after he almost beat me to death when I confronted him about cheating and asked for a divorce bc according to her I would never do better. My father on the other hand was the total opposite. He said no man is ever allowed to put hands on a woman. Men must know how to cook and clean too, that it is both people's jobs and the woman is the prize. Funny how my mother expected me to tolerate things she never would have. Som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:00 AM
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I have dealt with that. Trying to give people real advice gets you slammed on other sub reddits. It is so crazy to me. I grew up I guess a bit old fashioned as I was taught the man always pays and you there were just certain things you just did not tolerate. My father always instilled in me it was all about respect and he was right. So I approached dating much different than other girls and I was constantly attacked by those girls bc according to them I should have been bending over backwards fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:34 AM
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I was friends with this guy once and legit he told me he has tons of nudes he got from different women and still has sex videos of his ex who hates him that he watches all the time. He posted veiled threats about leaking them on social media bc she dumped him. Seriously please please never send nudes or let someone film you having sex with them. You never really know a guy until you go through a breakup with them. It was enough for me to see that play out to be like Never ever would I ever do th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:31 AM
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This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:32 PM
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I needed this so bad. Thank You!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:30 AM
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