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Thank you for this post.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 07:35 PM
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I love this list so much. It really puts things into a simple perspective and gives us a chance to see how responsible we really are for our own happiness, not only our husbands'.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 03:05 PM
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If anyone is looking to just start out, Headspace is a great free app (Android, Apple, Amazon) that is only just a few minutes a day.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 02:45 PM
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What I really loved about this sub when I first lurked was the fact that everyone was blunt and to the point. I don't need the fluff. That's just coddling and settling to be mediocre. Thanks for always setting high standards for everyone!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 02:43 PM
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Oh my gosh. This is something I am starting tonight. Thank you for this!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 08:19 PM
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Best advice.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 09:04 PM
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I seriously laughed so hard when the page loaded.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 08:18 PM
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LOL at the hamster reference. Super happy to read your field report!
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 05:58 PM
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Thank you SO much for this article!!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 08:00 PM
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If you like acorn squash, then definitely try anything with butternut squash. To further add onto that, try making veggie soups! Full of flavor and extremely healthy options. My SO isn't vegetarian, but his best friend is, so I have learned a lot of vegetarian recipes so that we can all enjoy meals together when he is over (which is usually twice a week minimum). Do you guys like ethnic foods? Indian and Thai foods will usually always have a vegetarian option. There are tons of curries and noodl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 08:05 PM
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My SO and I aren't morning people. He goes to work an hour before I do. Since he needs to shower, he wakes up before I do, and I time myself to get up to pack his food before he leaves. Generally, I would have prepped breakfast that he can have for the week beforehand (breakfast quiches, muffins, all homemade healthy stuff) that I will warm up in a tupperware for when he gets to work. I generally have his lunch packed from the night before. I also make snack bars and/or protein bars in large bun…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 08:00 PM
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Soo true. They look at her as a "role model" because it validates their choices.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 03:38 PM
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Notice the audience for those who support her - extreme feminists and barely any men (who are surprise-surprise, beta and white-knighting). That gives you a clue already. No man who has alpha qualities find her attractive in the least bit. If anything, they may plate her just because of her fame. But no one's looking to wife her up.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 06:21 PM
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Do what works best for your relationship. Take both of your strengths and weaknesses and optimize your situation. I am more of an organizer and planner, so I do more day-to-day expenses and filing. I give my SO the numbers and the reporting. My SO is better at investing and he is in charge of where the family goes. So he takes care of where to put our money and our savings. We both discuss budgets together and delegate tasks to the one who does it better/enjoys it more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 04:00 PM
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I would definitely share that bit of information, especially if you feel like you have any emotional baggage coming from it (such as trust issues, body issues, even your self blame). This will help him understand you more as well as give him some insight as to why you are the way you are.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 05:50 PM
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Been extremely slacking on exercising and eating healthy. I can do great during the week when it's just my SO and I, but whenever weekends come and we're hanging out with other people, it all goes to shit. Been trying to trust him more and more and being patient. If he says that he will do it, then I should let him work on it. On the good side, we have been really focusing on our financial planning and been on top of our savings goals. We're tackling our debts and saving up for our upcoming wedd…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 05:47 PM
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I really like how this focuses on her SO's happiness. It's great for her to be able to set aside her pride to let him stand tall. However, this kind of mentality is TOO dependent for her personal happiness that it isn't realistic for her to have. What happens if something out of her husband's control happens? Her whole world is shattered and she is not strong enough to pick up the pieces.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 08:19 PM
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These are freaking cute!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 05:57 PM
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Omg I love your painting....
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 05:57 PM
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Ah! I love this thread! Everyone is just so talented! I love the sketches of the bird and the fox! Handmade Dinosaurs Stuffed Animal Handmade Dinosaurs 2nd pic Handmade Apple Stuffed Animal Cupcakes Polymer Clay Bunny Polymer Clay Penguin
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 05:56 PM
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The surrender of ego to a worthy man is a powerful thing. Thank you for this article.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 07:31 PM
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Yepp! Absolutely. :] I am currently still looking to take advantage of sales too. The girls gave me great advice and I'm over it now. __^
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:34 PM
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Right. The post was never about the dress to begin with. I have two years to find one. It was more about "being red pill" and dealing with prejudices against it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:16 PM
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Thanks!!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 05:08 PM
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You're absolutely right. Like I replied to another user, I wouldn't want to wear a dress from someone like that anyways. Especially since it directly coincides with differences in our lifestyle choices regarding our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 05:07 PM
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Just a tip for fragrances that I have been doing for the past two years. If you buy a lot of make up and high end skin care, I highly recommend getting a rewards point card from Sephora. Being a VIB Rouge member allows me to get free 2 day shipping from their website, as well as take advantage of their 15% off sales in April as well as their 20% off sale in November. With all my perfumes, I never buy them full size anymore. Every order that you make on their website allows you to add 3 free samp…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 04:31 PM
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This is sososososo true. A lot of your aunt's explanations were her self validating her reasons and giving excuses for not taking care of herself properly. It's the easier way out. I completely agree that the red pill is hard to swallow and accept because one has to set their pride aside to agree. And many people are not okay with that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 01:53 PM
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Truth!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 01:51 PM
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Smh... that's a classic example of her deep entitlement. What a shame that she knows what the problem is but she is unwilling to change and expects her external environment to instead.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:13 PM
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Thank you for your kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:09 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! I am very confident that I will find something better! __^
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:09 PM
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I definitely agree that they do not understand. We promote so much self improvement along with the relationship aspects that I feel we are genuinely doing a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:08 PM
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Yeah, I definitely agree that a lot of what we believe is kept on the downlow so that we are able to blend in with the rest of society. However, my SO has found other like-minded men who share his RP beliefs (whether they know it or not). I believe it's harder to find other like-minded women.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:06 PM
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I am pretty shocked by the first comment example. :( But at this point, I feel like anyone who disagrees with their choices makes them feel insecure and "less desirable" as a woman. Which we all know the reasons why...
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 03:04 PM
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Thank you very much! I agree and found it really ironic that it happened. At least she didn't outwardly attack me. Lol. I'm glad you found the comments on these posts helpful! I am going to be doing the same with separate accounts. It's just a shame that it comes down to this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:36 PM
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It's a shame that other women can be so judgmental others who have chosen a different lifestyle. :( We're just all looking for happiness after all. You are absolutely doing the right thing by putting your husband first. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:34 PM
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It's unfortunate that a lot of people even agree with the advice, and even gone as far as having the advice work, but the moment they find out that it's RP, they just put up a wall. :T I will be taking all of your advice into consideration for the future!! __^
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:30 PM
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I think a lot of it is because we defer to our SOs, and that thought alone makes other women feel as if they are "equal" in the relationship. A lot of them don't take the time to fully understand the dynamic, as I can see why some people would think that it is abusive or demeaning to women. A lot of the individualistic ideals of our society have honed entitlement as the basis for a lot of people's beliefs.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:27 PM
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interact on non-RP subs without constantly having irrelevant discussions with people looking for an argument This was so eye-opening to me. That's so true and I can fully understand why many RPW have chosen to keep this as a separate account.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:24 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 10:23 PM
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That's EXACTLY how I feel as far as this sub being supporting for women. I've found that it has only been women who have been hating on other women too, when it came to RPW. :(
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:44 PM
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I have just made another account for this reason as well and taken everyone's advice. In a way though, I am happy that I won't be wearing a dress from someone who is so against what we believe in anyways. Thank you very much! :D
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:42 PM
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I definitely do not mind and always want to hear what you have to say!! I love your approach to explaining RPW to others who are willing to learn. I also find it so great how you and StingRay are so in sync with your responses since you guys always build upon each other's ideas. When giving advice, it's probably best to stick to advice without the RPW lingo and to put things in layman's terms as well. Sooner or later, people take notice and start to wonder what you know that they don't. So much …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:40 PM
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Yes I totally agree with not bothering with defending myself. I won't be wasting my time. :D There are those who are noticing some things but are protecting themselves with preconceived idea, argument, and snark. I have found this to be true almost every time. Many of them are too considered with their own "pride" to understand the dynamics and focus too much on being "equals."
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:35 PM
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It's funny that they would call it justice when we CHOOSE this lifestyle. And as I've emphasized, it doesn't hurt others, so why do they even care?! You can call it like they're "winning," but I'd prefer to think we are the ones winning if we are the ones who are happy. :] I find that a lot of people who judge us this way are often unhappy with their relationships. Haha.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:32 PM
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Haha this post made me laugh. When you put it that way, it is pretty hysterical.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:29 PM
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I've never felt the need to create separate accounts to hide the fact that I am RPW, because tbh, I am rather proud to identify with such a hardworking and mindful community. However, after this instance, I will likely do what you are suggesting as well as a few other RPW out there who have multiple accounts. It's a shame to have to even do that. I totally have been in the situation where I wouldn't comment because I felt like it would offend someone. Again, such as shame to have to even censor …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:29 PM
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Thank you very much for breaking it down the way you did. It does make me feel better that others can see that. I agree that she tried to make up for how she feels by replying nicely. I don't want to feel like I have to defend myself to her (which I haven't, but I feel like I do), because I do feel like a lot of RPW/RP is so misunderstood. Do you think there's a way to ever explain it to someone who's on the fence about RP/RPW where it wouldn't turn them off so immediately? Would you be willing …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 08:57 PM
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That's what I usually think when it comes to business transactions. Regardless, she never had the intention to sell and only considered it when I PM'd her. I guess the money was never important to her to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 08:51 PM
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First of all, congratulations on the engagement and starting the next chapter of your lives! I'm currently in the same boat as you with wedding planning, but I am super excited. Of course, at the same time nervous and stressed from what can, could, and would go wrong. From the advice that a lot of my friends gave, some things are bound to go wrong. But you know... so what? Who cares if a flower is missing from the centerpiece? Or if a napkin is folded wrong? In the end, you guys are celebrating …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 08:49 PM
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Congrats!!! :D
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 05:01 PM
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You definitely have a lot on your plate. I totally understand feeling overwhelmed by all of this. This is something you definitely should address with your husband. It's okay to ask for help. For your sanity and even his, you will all be much happier getting help and slowing things down. I find that the more I ignore my own needs (personal hobbies, exercise, etc) the more everything else falls apart. Are your kids old enough to do some of those responsibilities? Or perhaps having them start taki…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 02:08 PM
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Same here for my S.O. and I. We're both looking at RP from biological and social perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 07:59 PM
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This may be an unpopular opinion here, but I do genuinely believe that RP/RPW isn't for everyone. While I, and maybe most, women want to be lead by a man and enjoy caring for a man, many women would not be able to defer themselves to someone else. Just like how many men are incapable of being leaders, even in their own relationships. I think there are masculine women and feminine men out there who could be in relationships very successfully. It's unconventional, but some people find ways for it …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/15 08:51 PM
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What have conversations about the timeline in your relationship been line in the past? Did you guys talk about when to expect kids? How old is your husband in comparison to you? If you are sure you want to have kids, when would you want to start then? Your fertile/healthy years will pass by soon. How much longer will it take before you finish your nursing school? Perhaps you can suggest to him that having a child will not only slow you down in school, but also not give you full reign of focus on…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 08:04 PM
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I completely second this. Even when looking at porn stars, you can usually tell when they are fake just by the unnatural movement. You can attract them with your cleavage all you want with your v-neck shirt, but when that comes off, it's going to be fairly obvious.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 02:16 PM
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So happy for you! And can't wait to see the update when you actually do get your ring!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 07:05 PM
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It seems like your SO is doing everything right as far as planning everything out. You mentioned that he wanted to talk to your parents in July, so perhaps there's no reason to keep bringing it up till after that happens anyways. The most important thing you can do is to trust your SO and his intentions, and he seems to be making moves towards a commitment. In the meantime, enjoy where the relationship is now! Once you get engaged and married, you will never just be boyfriend/girlfriend again. I…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 06:55 PM
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I'm totally taking your idea for personalized punishments when I have kids in the future!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 06:32 PM
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Thank you so much for this post. I love how spot on this is with how things should be. I admit that I am sometimes guilty of "keeping score" when it comes to working hard for the relationship. But it's super important to realize that you're doing these things for your partner because you want to see him happy. Not because you want him to do things for you back in return.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 06:29 PM
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Meal planning is definitely one of the most stressful things when you want a variety in your diet. I am definitely one that hates leftovers and eating the same things over and over again. I totally understand what you mean by stocking up on what you have already - people tend to buy things they are familiar with. To help me organize, I generally use Google Keep (note taking app) because I can type everything via browser after looking up the grocery store's circular (to see what's on sale and alw…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 04:25 PM
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I'm not big on taking care of my husband. He takes much more care of me. I take care of me too. Thank you for pointing that out. Your advice really hit home!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 01:47 PM
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I am not in a situation where I have to choose my career over my SO, and I'm actually not that career-driven, but my SO has voiced to me that he would not want our relationship to ever hold us back from advancing in our careers. I guess if the situation ever comes up, I don't know what I would do since I would want to make my SO happy, but I personally don't know if him telling me to choose career would make us happy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 05:41 PM
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Yes, but I do see advice where women tell others to not choose their careers over their SOs, whereas I know many Red Pill-like men who would prefer their women to have their own extremely successful careers as well, even if it means a LDR. They want a woman who is just as capable financially so they know that they're not taking care of them and so these women are not after their money. And I'm not talking about just working to work, but also for the women to be extremely successful in the field …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 05:32 PM
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What would be the best advice for women out there who follow RedPill, but want to be active in their own careers as well? With the times changing, my SO doesn't even want me to be a SAHM and encourages career for the 2nd income. How can we balance the home life and the career life when it comes to priorities and taking care of your SO?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 04:56 PM
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Definitely excited for this! Can't wait for the AMA!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 03:44 PM
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I don't work in a retail environment (I'm in an office setting), but I think that there's some things that are general that work in all settings. Be put together and dress appropriately. Pay attention to your posture. Maintain composure at all times, even if a client, customer, coworker, etc, are acting out of line. Diffuse any complicated situations professionally by being firm but fair. Speak with respect to everyone and be clear and concise when you talk, don't ramble. Definitely avoid drama …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 06:33 PM
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Exactly how I feel. I feel like RPW really outlined a lot of how I view relationships and gave me great reference to how to make myself and my SO happier. I find that to be extremely powerful on its own.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 07:30 PM
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I honestly never would have thought taking your husband's last name would be an issue for anyone. Why are people offended? Doesn't it show your commitment and that you and your husband are a unit? When you have kids, showing them you are all one unit is important too. This was never even a debate for me to take my future husband's last name. Feminists absolutely only say things when it's convenient for them, or to just cause drama. Oh a man opens the door for you? He's insulted you cause he sees…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 07:13 PM
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Oh my gosh I feel this way ALL the time. A lot of women try to connect to other women by belittling the men in their lives and go all for "team woman" when the things that they are saying are outright rude and disrespectful. Depending on who it is, I will react in different ways. I try not to associate with people like that too much, since their misery and negativity is just unhealthy and super annoying. Unfortunately, most girls are too prideful and set in their ways to be changed. I will never…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 04:22 PM
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I feel like every woman should have their go-to meal for entertaining. Something that everyone would be likely to enjoy. This meal would include a carb, a meat, a veggie, and a dessert (plus points if you make your own drinks). Some basics that you should know how to do are frying/boiling eggs, a simple pasta (making your own sauce is extremely easy, and much healthier), using an oven to bake meats/potatoes, and being able to stir fry anything (honestly if you cut things into the right size, the…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 07:36 PM
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This is amazing!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 07:12 PM
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Nope! It's just me since my parents helped with downpayment. But he will be paying most of it to me while we're living together.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 08:26 PM
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Do you have any tips on what kinds of joint accounts to get? Checking, savings, etc? What are some things to expect? Sorry I don't know how joint accounts work.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 08:12 PM
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Thanks for this thread! My fiance and I are going to be homeowners in 4 days and this is all stuff I want to know too!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 08:11 PM
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Oh god. Just more entitlement promoting.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/15 07:04 PM
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Thank you for the reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/15 04:25 PM
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I've read all the books in the series to see what the hype is about. Definitely does NOT live up to the hype whatsoever and claims extremely wrong views of BDSM in general. There is way better published material out there, and even unpublished from fanfiction or erotica websites. Such a shame. I do think that it is important to see HOW needy these girls are for dominance in their life though. The feminist movement nowadays are all about the "strong independent woman who don't need no man." Howev…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/15 04:18 PM
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I think you perhaps have answered your own question. They are taking out some disappointment in you on him, with the fact that you have not lived up to your parents' expectations of you and your career. Everything else they are saying seems to be pretty illogical - especially where he is still living with his parents. So many people are still living at home to save money. And that's actually a GOOD choice instead of a bad one, because he's paying off debt and not wasting money on rent, where his…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/15 08:13 PM
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Someone posted a really similar thread a few days ago with a similar topic. I definitely agree with the analogy. I'm surprised that your friends understood a little more afterwards. Most men and women prefer "egalitarian" relationships nowadays, and honestly, I do not think Red Pill is too far from it. We are equal in our strengths and weaknesses. Just because he takes charge doesn't mean we're not equal. We just play different roles and make a better team, like you said.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/15 06:21 PM
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I think the implications of "needing" one another can be taken in several ways. A lot of RPW will refer to their captains as their "rocks," which means that we do place a need on them for support (in all ways, emotional, physical, financial, etc). However, our goals as RPW are different than the men at RP. We NEED a man in our life because we intend to have a family and a relationship together. Men on the other hand may or may not want an LTR, or to get married, and some may want to stay bachelo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/15 06:16 PM
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I lovelovelove this analogy! I play League with my SO all the time, and I love being his support. To further the analogy, as a support player, you really have to understand the ADC's mindset - when to push the lane, when to defend tower, when the ADC wants to gank, etc. Being in sync with your SO in the game really helps your success while playing because you know what he's about to do depending on what situation you're in. Since timing and reactions are so important in the game, strong communic…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/15 04:56 PM
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First of all, CONGRATS! I can't say I'm not jealous. Haha. I'm super happy for you, especially with the progression of your relationship. Definitely pay off debts! It would be a great surprise and the money that he has saved up can perhaps go into something else (like wedding!).
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/15 04:47 PM
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Competition is definitely higher for the cream of the crop. I think something that everyone has to realize just as people is that even though these men are invisible, it doesn't give anyone rights to mistreat them or hurt them either. It's just about being a good person, not even just red pill. Just because you aren't attracted to someone doesn't make that your fault (like you said, it's just biological). But being nasty to someone with low SMV would be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 06:26 PM
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I'm gonna be honest and say that the invisible men are totally true for me. You can interact with them but as far as them ever being anything more than just existing or an acquaintance, the chances are zero. I don't even think it's because I have high standards of any kind... I think people just set low standards for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 04:56 PM
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I have been making more than my SO for 2 years until the past week actually (he got a significant promotion at his job and makes almost twice as much as I do now), but prior to that, I have made about $10k more per year. He is naturally alpha and me making more has never been a problem between us, especially since we knew that he will probably eventually make more. We met when I was 15 and he was 17 (been together for 9 years), so we always knew each other's finances from the beginning. We alway…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 03:17 PM
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Okay your mom is the baddest chick I know now.... Amazing plus points to her. My mom is also the breadwinner of our family and also is does majority of the house chores when I was young (I picked up most of these roles once I reached middle school). I agree that it wasn't easy... my mom was extremely stressed for a while and actually converted to Christianity (she was Buddhist before, we're Chinese and she was raised that way), which really helped her.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 03:10 PM
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Love this post!!! I've actually been having a lot of trouble with spending lately. I'm really big on consumerism cause I'm kinda addicted to shopping... Something that has been helping me for the past month when I want to buy something is to put it on a wish list for three months. If you still want it after three months, ask what added benefits it adds into your life, since you've been living fine without it. Impulse purchases are usually what people spend on most. Cooking at home definitely sav…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 05:18 PM
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Definitely try to appreciate what you have instead of going against it. There are many family units that are broken or not close nowadays, and having family around is great - especially when you also get along with your MIL! It is wrong for you to feel like you need to compete when your SO would probably be stuck in the middle of it. You can't ask him to choose between his future wife and his mother. If you really feel this way, I'm sure some of it might show. Try to help her out and ask her to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 03:58 PM
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That's really great to hear! Honestly, I do think that if you both are sure, it's okay to ignore what your parents are saying and just go ahead and do what you guys feel is best for your life. You are living it, not them, so live for yourself. They are just worried due to the amount of people out there that are having unsuccessful relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 03:49 PM
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Extremely well said. I completely agree when you both have to commit to both you and your SO's happiness for any relationship no matter what age you tie the knot. However, I don't 100% agree that it's not something that can happen TO you. I believe that people can change depending on their situations and opportunities. You can't fully control how you change. Just like how you might now like veggies when you're younger but then you grow to like them.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 08:25 PM
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This comment seriously made me laugh. It's really true. Being Chinese, my boyfriend is half white and we're both Americanized since we grew up in the states. We know that traditional marriages in Asia are extremely male dominant. It's very rare that the woman talks out of line, even if the man is wrong. I think it's highly the man's fault if they can't keep their women in check. These women are out of control because they are let to.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 07:07 PM
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How long have you guys been going out? I think a big part of the reason why parents recommend their children to marry later is because while you are young, you are more rapidly changing. A lot of people say it's a mistake to marry young because people "grow apart." It's not only the "go have fun while you're young" mentality. While your parents probably have your best interest at heart, I would consider the pros and cons before getting married. It seems like you guys have a great relationship an…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 07:03 PM
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Sounds like you're doing everything right as far as your market value in terms with your sexual history especially for your age. I think it's the guys you are seeing that have completely different goals than you do. Like you said, typical college guys are NOT looking to settle down. Most of them probably were looking for a more casual relationship if not a purely physical one. If you are a virgin at this age, it is very unlikely for you to give it up, and that's a red flag for them. I'd say that…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/14 08:46 PM
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Not exactly if there is anything purely "Red Pill," but you can always turn to classics like "Pride & Prejudice." They definitely have audiobooks for those.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 09:15 PM
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I do put conscious thought to it. However, it depends on who the card is addressed too. If it's a mutual friend who is my friend more, I will put my name first. If it is a friend I met through my boyfriend, I always sign his name first. If it's a card to a family member, it depends on which of our families. If it were to an acquaintance though, always SO first.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 04:35 PM
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I am astonished that people even get offended by that... I didn't know people were that sensitive. I'm definitely the opposite. I like being "his girl" in any shape or form. It shows that you're proud of your relationship. Why be in one at all if you're going to be offended?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 08:55 PM
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Just another reason why I insist that I do all the traditional housework. However, I find it important to point out that the man should know how to do these things. If something were to happen to you, your SO would need to pick up your slack. Knowing that he is capable to keep the household together (especially if you have kids) is important. But from day to day tasks, he should do his role and we should do ours.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 01:48 AM
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Red Pill advises guys against asking for advice from women. Women don't know what women want. That's pretty basic RP. After reading everything you've said though, I'd highly advise going monk mode.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/14 08:19 PM
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Ohhh how do you like the Xbox One? We just recently got the PS4. Is the Star Wars game 2 player? I'll definitely check out Pocket Legends now too. League of Legends has been one of our favorites for 2-3 years and we always go back to it. There's a bit of a learning curve but I promise it's worth it! It's a PC game though that requires proper set up to play (mouse control is extremely important so you need a stable table to play).
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/14 06:44 PM
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This is HILARIOUS cause my SO and I play the same exact roles/characters. We're in the middle of Act V right now so we're almost done too. What other games have you guys found to be fun together? We're currently playing League of Legends and Dynasty Warriors as well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/14 05:24 PM
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First off, I agree with everyone when they say that you should be with someone who has their shit together. A Captain needs to be a good leader, and in order to do that, he needs to take responsibility for what needs to be done and actually care to do it. That's the only way for a First Mate to trust him and feel secure. However, a lot of things are very peculiar in different people. There are times when people will lose track of time or be engrossed with other responsibilities. There are times …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/14 04:09 PM
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Wow! This is such an interesting thread to see what everyone else is getting. I gave my man his present already since I purchased it during Black Friday. I got him a PS4 with a second controller so we can play together as well as Diablo III and an extra $20 Playstation Store card.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/14 10:30 PM
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Don't forget the power of being organized and keeping coupons too! Those little differences really make a difference. If you didn't have access to excel, you can use Google Spreadsheets and it would be synced with your Gmail account. For sums, the formula would be "=A1+A2+A3..." or you use "=sum(A1, A2,A3,...)" or you can use "=sum(A1:A3)".
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 06:17 PM
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Budget! Take the time to create your own excel spreadsheet of all your finances. Make a goal of how much you want to save so you know how much you have to cut from other parts of your life (perhaps you're shopping too much, eating out too much, etc). Buying your things in bulk will save you a lot of money as long as you stick to a list. Things like toilet paper or water bottles you can get at a wholesale store like Costco or Sam's Club (just make sure you don't get tempted to buy the other thing…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 02:18 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am happy for the both of you that you are able to embrace the positives and turn this situation around. It's so important to be able to trust each other and communicate effectively. Best of luck to the both of you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/14 04:02 PM
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You handled the situation extremely well! Good for you for letting him know what you want and holding yourself to higher standards. :]
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/14 09:56 PM
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I think it has to do with how we want to hold ourselves and how we want to improve on our weaknesses. We are also generally dreamers and idealists while our counterpart ENFJs are leaders. This is a natural fit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/14 02:31 PM
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Thank you for the tips!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 04:02 PM
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Is there something about your past that contributed? Parents divorce, never being able to live up to people's expectations, etc. It seems like it's the emotional side of you that is insecure if you are confident in your looks. This relationship aside (which, PLEASE get yourself committed or leave), if you feel like this issue is the case with all your relationships, then you need to find the root cause. From your relationship history, it seems like you haven't had a period of time where you have…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 03:58 PM
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Your boyfriend sounds amazing! You should be extremely happy to have him by your side. Honestly, you offering to pay probably means more to him than if you were to actually to pay. He is a man and wants to be able to provide for his woman, especially when he has a stable job and you are still in school. You should let him have this glory. Don't feel bad if you are courteous. He is insisting. I would NOT get him a gift over $20. If you guys already had this mutual agreement, getting something wor…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 03:29 PM
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I am an INFJ, and we tend to read people's emotions pretty well. Because of this, I find many friends and even acquaintances come to me for advice. For me, it really depends on how much I care about a person to deal with their bullshit. If I read that the person can't handle the truth, I will tend to say, "do whatever makes you happy" when I clearly know that they don't even have a clue what makes them happy. Otherwise, if the person genuinely wants to self improve, I will tell them truths prett…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 03:24 PM
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I don't care for how much older as long as he's older. As far as a limit, I honestly wouldn't want to have a guy more than 8 years older than me. Like you said, women generally live longer than men do so you get into the relationship knowing you'll be more alone in the future. I'd just prefer to spend as much of my life with him. Although, if we really fell in love, I don't think I would be able to control it (wouldn't know, never been in that position). Right now, my current boyfriend is 2 year…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/14 03:16 PM
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How tall are you naturally? I am pretty short (5'2.5") so I generally go for something a bit higher. I can see where you would have to take outside walking into consideration. I mostly work indoors but I would like to get heels for everyday errands as well. I've never personally tried thirties inspired t-strap shoes, so I will definitely try those out! I do have a pair of Anne Klein shoes that I love (not heels though), so I will keep looking. I think a problem is that sometimes you try on shoes…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 03:11 PM
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Could you give me an example of teasing that guys would use that would be more off limits? Besides something along the lines of "bro do u even lift" and "I bet you couldn't score with that chick"?
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 07:31 AM
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Much truth. My mom has told me that I was too fat even when I was extremely close to the underweight scale for BMI. she will immediately shut me up if I'm being too emotional. Guess it was pretty inherent. Never thought of my upbringing this way before.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 07:29 AM
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Ah you're lucky. My feet are a bit wider than normal but not wide enough to fit into "wide" shoes, which is kind of a dilemma. -__- Regardless, thanks for the tips! Hopefully I get them before the holidays. Haha.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 08:38 PM
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Wow! Thanks for these links. I'm gonna order them now. :] Been looking for nude pumps anyways and these do seem comfy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 08:19 PM
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Thank you for this list!! What kind of style shoes do you wear (brands, even) that give you height and are comfortable? Besides wedges, I rarely find shoes that can be comfortable for a full work day. I have yet to find a great mentor besides my own mom. I don't ever take advice for any of my girl friends since most of them are like the average feminist nowadays and are bitchy and entitled with their boyfriends.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 04:13 PM
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Haha I find it funny that you said that cause I'm an Asian girl. xD
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 12:04 AM
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I'm usually just in panties or nothing when I go to bed. Although while I'm lounging before bedtime or if it's really cold, a thin t-shirt (nipples can see through) and cute pj shorts (the ones that are kind of like boxers, you can find at Aerie are extremely comfy and my boyfriend likes the way my butt looks in them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 03:57 PM
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It's amazing how he noticed the fact that she talked about 100% feminine things. It really shows how important and even refreshing that can be for guys. I've never thought about #6 "her shit testing is fun" to ever be a trait that guys would want. But wow that's really a mind-opener. It really becomes flirty when it's not obnoxious or naggy, and really keeps that chemistry going in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 03:37 PM
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Awesome! Thanks for making this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/14 04:26 PM
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Ahhh this is the best thread for the season. __^ I hope to steal some recipe ideas from you all. I grew up in an Asian family so I don't have the tradition of huge dinners. But since I was in middle school, I have been cooking dinner for my family up ever since. So on Thanksgivings, I would create a more special menu than usual. Below are some easy favorites that my family always requests. Butternut Squash Soup Ingredients: 2-3 lb butternut squash, peeled and seeded and cut into 1-inch chunks 2 …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/14 09:51 PM
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Awesome! Glad you got the answer you were looking for. :]
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 07:00 PM
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I'm not sure how those two things compare. In order for a man to have many women, he usually has to lie to some. That's why it's selfish. I don't know how you can say the same for women? Actually, if you read the real RP stuff, people encourage real alpha men to be HONEST. Lying is purely beta and fake. It's up to the GIRL whether or not she wants to have sex given the circumstances of no commitment. I'm not saying that men don't lie. Men and women BOTH lie. And they BOTH cheat in relationships …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 06:44 PM
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I'm not saying that girls will actively even chase that man in the relationship. I'm saying that it's the QUALITIES that man has that puts them at the top of their list. Meaning attraction. Doesn't even mean they're going to actively try to steal your man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 06:32 PM
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You can't accept this because it is true or because you don't like the way it sounds? Like /u/StingrayVC said, I'm not saying every woman is attracted to the same man, but true RP men will tend to attract many women. Also, it IS selfish. It is selfish for men to want multiple women sexually (but honestly, they can't help but stare at a woman with amazing tits or ass). But it is ALSO selfish for women to want a man who is financially dependable, strong, caring, trustworthy, etc. It goes with what…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 06:19 PM
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Agreed. I think dressing the part is only the initial attraction, but in order to maintain a LTR with an RP man, you need to FEEL the part and hone femininity into a lifestyle. Honestly, the easy part is to make meals, do chores, and look pretty, but the hard parts is surviving the fights, disagreements, and the decisions that come with everyday life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 06:08 PM
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Thank you so much for this post. It gives me a lot of hope and really gives me confidence that my man loves me. I know about his history with past women who are better looking than I am, but I know that I am high on the scale of femininity compared to them and that is what I'll keep working on!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 05:49 PM
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This is just my personal opinion, not sure if it falls into the RP mentality but this is how I grasp my head around it. I think that for men, it's a part of their SMV. Women tend to want men who are wanted by other women. It raises their confidence and it furthers their female dread game. It'll help them keep "The One" because that woman will most likely work harder to keep a good alpha man if they know that they are in competition. Once they feel like a man has no SMV, they will tend to stray o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 05:39 PM
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Totally agree with the type of media that is out there today. A lot of it has to do with the movement of female independence and forcing society to agree that it's okay for a woman to "behave like a man." I'm all for body acceptance and confidence, but it seems to be more and more of an excuse to be lazy and full of self entitlement. "Oh you think I'm fat? You should love me for who I am." Leads to a society full of lazy people who use this as an excuse to neglect self-improvement. And that's wh…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 05:32 PM
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I think that many people who find this sub initially get the feeling that we hate women. Honestly, when I first stumbled upon it, I thought the same way. But that's simply not true. A lot of the information in the sidebar give better insight to the threads on this sub (as well as from TRP) because it gives the "guidelines" that we like to follow. I personally don't believe that everyone will agree with us, ever. Even if it is in our nature to stick to gender roles. My personal take on RPW is tha…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 05:15 PM
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Actually, after creating my first post here last week, I got a message in my inbox from someone who said, "the only antidote is here" with a link to the Blue Pill sub. I replied telling them that I was aware of the sub and even read it too for reference. I told him/her that I believe everyone has a different way of making themselves happy. I definitely think that people have a huge misconception where they feel like Red Pill/Blue Pill is the only and exact way to go. Whereas many people fail to …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 05:22 PM
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That's a good idea. I will definitely refer him to that site and see what else he has to say. I do agree that some information is necessary in order to make accurate decisions, so I appreciate you pointing that out. Your woman is lucky to have someone who knows that! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 05:18 PM
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This is incredibly inspiring! I'm totally going to take your idea of waking up at the same time time and making breakfast/packing lunch everyday. So happy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 05:49 AM
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Thank you! I'm glad to be here. :D
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 05:48 PM
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That's definitely a good point too. I guess if the degree of the problem is big enough, it's my duty to alert him as well. Don't want to keep crying wolf though. Aww your last sentence was really sweet! I hope that I can make my Captain feel the same way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 02:20 PM
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Thank you so much for that personal anecdote. I definitely get jealous of the princess mentality when I see some of my girl friends always get what they want from their SOs, but I know that what I want from a man is completely different from the kind of men they are with. Those questions that you pose within your post are great to rehearse in my head! I'm going to remember them the next time I feel too emotional about anything. The fact that our society rewards this, "Love me as I am" behavior s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 06:00 AM
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I can definitely understand how competition can look like a challenge to our SOs. I definitely still have a little trouble letting my pride go when we are arguing. Haha luckily, I never say no to sex, so no problem there! I think the part about screwing up really hits home. There are times where I knew he wouldn't be happy with something, but since I don't agree that it's wrong, I go ahead and do it. I suppose I will need to trust his judgment and weigh the consequences. My boyfriend generally l…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 05:55 AM
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Thank you so much for all of you response! I definitely agree with everything you said. I'm going to take your advice about self presentation. I'm usually staying up later than I'd like to so I always get ready in fifteen minutes in the morning and never wear make up to work. But I can definitely see how it sets your day right!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 11:40 PM
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