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OYS#48 It’s been appr. 2,5 month since last OYS. Stats: 46, Divorced, daughter 5yo. Weight 77,5 kg, 11 %BF (navy) height 6”. Reading: Not currently. Fitness SQ: 110 kg, DL: 140 kg, BR: 80 (+10) Kg. My main focus since my last OYS has been my frame. I'm 3.5 months into a relationship with the younger woman I mentioned in my last OYS. I’m assessing, and pretty content so far. The honeymoon haze is fading, and the real dynamics are starting to show themselves—namely, comfort tests and occasional sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/25 08:41 AM
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The real world, including me. So to see the world for what it really is. And to live in congruency with myself in that world.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 10:04 PM
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Why the MRP guy? Because of his MRP worldview and because unplugging’ is probably more mental challenging than anything else I’ve ever done in my life (I’ve almost been here for 2 years and still trying to unplug). With the MRP guy I get his brutal honesty on my OYS/actions as well as some experienced guidance, to validate my ‘form’. He calls me out on my BS. This helps me with a least knowing when I’m fucking up. Then it’s up to me to see if I can progress in another direction from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 11:16 AM
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The way I see my own reason for self-validation (ie OYS) is to make sure that I’m moving in the right direction and not getting way ‘off-track’. I think about mental models as something I develop/have, to have a concept and a steering method to begin with and validate against them, but later on I will just become (ie. the point of being) and the model will probably not even be a ‘perfect fit’ for me, so it becomes somewhat obsolete/unneeded. But before you ride a bike you need some concept about…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/25 07:04 AM
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I needed to take action to learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 07:28 AM
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A headline would probably be: don’t be so fucking scared to make decisions and take action.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 04:24 PM
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Yeah, already doing all the standard stuff u mention in terms of dominance. Need more variation. Not sure what u mean with Madonna-whore complex: u mean from ex -> current date.? Thanks for some good observations regarding all the other stuff. I also think my frame is still very weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 04:02 PM
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OYS#47 I didn’t defeat the monster and now I’m back at the training court. It’s been roughly 1 months since my last OYS. Stats: 46, Seperated (before that 26 years of LTR), daughter 5yo. Weight 77 kg, 11 %BF (navy) height 6”. Reading: WOTSM, SGM Fitness: SQ: 110 (+10) kg, DL: 140 (+20) kg, BR: 80 (+10) Kg, BP: - Got an injury on Bench press and are not allowed to bench/dips/flies for 2 months. Game: Had my first OLD date beginning of February. IRL, she was to plain for me to want to try anything…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 09:05 AM
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OYS#46 - It’s been roughly 2,5 months since my last OYS. Stats: 46, Seperated (before that 26 years of LTR), daughter 5yo. Weight 77 (+2) kg, 11 %BF (navy) height 6”. Reading: WOTSM Game: Started adding more teases/flirting when I sensed some vibe with women, but found out it works the other way around: add the flirting, then you get the man-2-woman vibe. Recently met a younger woman through a random work-project. I amped up the teasing and it became evident she was interested. Asked her out and…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:28 AM
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and a raincoat.
/r/seduction23/12/24 07:06 AM
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Correct. I’ve had oneitis for 26 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 09:26 PM
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My ex invited me to begin with.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:30 PM
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Celebrating Christmas together with my daughter and ex, which I told my daughter we would. That’s my covert contract, why I don’t push the button.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:34 PM
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Your expectations regarding sex..? Did you forget what covert contracts are? What is it you want from your ex wife? Do you actually want to get back together with her, or is it that she is your only sexual option? It sounds like the latter IMO. I have a bias towards my ex, since she ticks many of the boxes I care for + being the mother of my child. And then I know for certain there’s sunk cost fallacy involved in my decision-making, because of everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 11:43 AM
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I am amazed at how you carved that out. Too much truth in here to even grasp.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:51 AM
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I don’t have any plates, that’s true. And perhaps she should be demoted to plate/FWB non-exclusive status. That’s also the question I’m hamstering about in my OYS. My covert contract is this: be patient, celebrate Christmas together all of us, then demote, if dynamic hasn’t changed. This way I can enjoy Christmas with my daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:18 AM
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On occasions, but far from every time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 09:45 AM
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This is exactly the thoughts I’m having vs. a bit more patience to see if the dynamics are changing. Edit: but there’s a covert contract hidden in my patience reg. Christmas.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 09:44 AM
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OYS#45 It’s been roughly 6 months since my last OYS. Stats: 46, Seperated (before that 26 years of LTR), daughter 5yo. Weight 75 kg, 10 %BF (navy) height 6”. Mentality: I have been a nice guy since child hood. Getting rid of the behavior and mindset that comes with it, has been and still is my biggest obstacle to overcome. I spend most of my “self-development focus” on this. I’m not sure how to get to the bottom of it. What I have done is observed situations where I behave in a way I’m not proud…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 09:05 AM
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OYS#44 Been giving it a lot of thought and deciding to pause doing OYS until I resolve my shit on my own moving forward. Then perhaps it’ll make sense to do OYS again. /Quitmyjobss pointed out that I was avoiding pain/protecting my ego. He was right. And I keep coming back week after week without having really tried to progress, instead of avoiding stuff and reframing them. I have received plenty of advice and being called out from this forum from the last 10-11 month of OYS I can go back and le…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 11:16 AM
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OYS#43 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 171 lbs, 14.7 %BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: I am here to have new experiences. My mission is to taste all the variations in life that captivates me. The world is my playground. Mentality: this week has been the hardest week I’ve ever had. The combination of missing my daughter when I’m not with her and anger/sadness of not being able to turn my marriage around have been messing me up this week. On top of that shit I hurt so…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 08:43 AM
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I don’t know about California law, but in my country alimony is calculated on basis of last years income (and differences between yours and her income). So maybe you can ask your lawyer about this idea: how about you cut down to let’s say 2/3 of your current income and working hours and spend that extra time on your daughter, while wife goes back in the workforce. After one year you file for divorce. Wouldn’t that put you in a a better position both financially and in terms of custody in the lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 08:38 PM
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I get your point and you’re right I some sense, for example I would never be able to tell you exactly what career I want, because I don’t have this kind of everlasting passion for only one thing/career. My everlasting passion is trying new things - and always has been. So it’s not some weird bullshit - it’s just who I am. But who knows, maybe this mission is just the first layer of the onion. Time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 07:19 PM
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OYS#42 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 171 lbs, 14.7 %BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: I am here to have new experiences. My mission is to taste all the variations in life that captivates me. The best of my experiences I’ll add to my selected preferences. The best of my preferences, I’ll add to my traditions. The world is my playing field. Working throughout the week to get to the bottom of my mission. There’s more to it than just a mission. It’s governed by my core…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 09:16 AM
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Makes sense. What the fuck does "if necessary" means, what are your conditions to divorce? Two things: 1) I came to MRP because of my lacking sexlife. It’s still a condition to have a fulfilling sex-life. 2) A wife who is congruent to my life/mission. Since that shit is missing, I can’t really judge her on this. So both conditions is currently my responsibility to try and fix, before I can actually judge whether or not I should go through with a divorce (unless wife takes that decision before I …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 04:31 PM
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You never developed a narrative that was about you. There was never a mission, there was nothing. You’re absolutely right. I’m lacking mission and narrative and that makes everything else in my life kinda pointless. I should work on carving out both. Why did you made the initial decision to divorce your wife, why did you take that back and went to therapy, you never answered these questions so answer NOW. What the fuck was your thought process? Actually it was to do stuff in the following order:…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 02:07 PM
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OYS#41 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 173 lbs, 16%BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission - Reading: Mystery Method Read: MAP, NMMNG, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, Day Bang, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (50%), Alpha Moves, Get inside Her, Boundaries (5%), Fuccfiles (10%), The unchained man (35%), Ultimate texting guide. Lifting/Physical: 2 times gym, 2 times climbing this week. Had a painfull sensation on one side of …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 09:07 AM
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I haven’t been happier for years, because I actually do shit now that I like and choose to see my family and friends more than ever and have taking up climbing again, whether or not it has been portrayed in my OYS. But fair enough, I need to reiterate on why every MOD thinks I’m a genuine fuck-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 01:19 PM
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You're blowing up your fucking life because you suck. Asking out of genuine interest: Which part of my OYS specifically made you come to this conclusion? Because (pussy or not) I haven’t been happier for many years than I am right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 12:37 PM
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Thanks. Solid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 11:03 AM
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OYS#40 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 174 lbs, 16%BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission - Read: MAP, NMMNG, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, Day Bang, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (50%), Alpha Moves, Get inside Her, Boundaries (5%), Mystery method (15%), Fuccfiles (10%), The unchained man (35%), Ultimate texting guide. Lifting: Finally seem to have started breaking through my squat plateau. LTR: Well after appr. 2,5 mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 08:30 AM
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Think you’re right. She’ll leave it up to me to pull the official divorce card - at least until she potentially branch swing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 09:38 PM
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You dont need to do that. I told you to look up shit tests and shitty comfort tests but you didnt so let me explain it to you. I understand a shitty comfort test as a comfort test disguised as a shit test, but I honestly don’t recognize them in real life. But thanks for breaking the example down. Duh!! she overplayed her hand but didnt have conviction to back it up. So she is doing what we all do when we are over our heads, keeping a low profile. Could be, but she actually already did find anoth…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 09:32 PM
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Sadly I’ve seemed to have lost the key to the lock on the closet where I left my balls… I’ll start working on picking that lock, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 04:19 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 171 lbs, 15% BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. This week has been a whole lot of nothing from my side. I’m mostly doing this OYS for the habit of it, though it’s mainly mental masturbation. Mission: - Reading: The unchained man (35%). Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, Day Bang, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (50%), Alpha Moves, Get inside Her, Boundaries (5%), Mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 08:54 AM
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Only obvious reason for her to cheat would be an office affair and I can’t prevent her from doing what she does. I once asked her about cheating and her response was in no way defensive or nervous, but more that she was amused of me being potentially jealous and teased me about it. Body language and everything else was very natural, so I can’t say I have indications of it. I’m in a good place in terms of divorce. That’s taken care off.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 03:49 PM
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OYS #38 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 170 lbs, 15% BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: - Reading: The unchained man (35%). Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, Day Bang, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (50%), Alpha Moves, Get inside Her, Boundaries (5%), Mystery method (15%), Fuccfiles (10%). Lifting: My Climbing is back on the table and I’m at my best since getting back into it. Career/Finances: N…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 08:55 AM
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This is good advice even I can understand. Thanks for takling the time for making this thorough answer. Much appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 01:56 PM
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Yeah, that might be a more helpful view. Will try the next week with that mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 06:40 PM
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Ok, so it’s all just shit tests basically 😅
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 06:38 PM
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Thanks for advice. Plan is to stick with Phraks for now. I had hormone test done and my estrogen levels are in the higher end of ‘the green zone’ i.e. what is acceptable in terms of my age. So I want to see if I can lower it somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 10:54 AM
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Just do a body fat measure based on Navy method. You can find a calculater online.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 09:34 AM
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OYS #37 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 171 lbs, 17% BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: Currently under reconstruction. Reading: Day Bang (35%) The unchained man (35%). Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (50%), Alpha Moves, Get inside Her, Boundaries (5%), Mystery method (15%), Fuccfiles (10%). Lifting: Starting to hit some plateus after running Phrak for 8 weeks. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 09:32 AM
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If we disagree on something, I’ll just let my opinion be known in a short sentence (“No, I don’t want/like/agree on that”) and then leave it at that. She’ll usually start bombarding me with reasons/counter-arguments. Before I would start counter-argumenting as mad or get mad and loose my head. Now I just STFU and leave if I have too. Once in a while repeat my “no”, but that’s about it. Also in general I try not to be too pity and enjoy life more. Also, I used to be quite talkative, so turning th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 03:45 PM
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Trying to get my head around how that would look when I run GPLP - less weight, higher reps on the amrap set before increasing weights in my pull/biceps movements?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 03:39 PM
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I think the best I can focus on right now is my mission and purpose. I have no other game plan for sex, except working on becoming ‘attractive’ in terms of my behavior. And then adding some PUA readings for insights/practice - both those are not really game plans for sex, more like game plans for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:57 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 170 lbs, 17% BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Create. Be curious and explore. Strive to be happy. Working through the method presented in unchained man. It’s a much more tangible way for me to work towards a true mission. The mission stated above was my best shot at that moment, but basically pulled from my ass. Hopefully I’ll eventually have a mission that is elaborated and roote…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 10:50 AM
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What would you recommend in terms of doing warm-up sets working up to your max capacity?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/24 05:48 PM
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Haha… How old are you? Acting like a grandmaster on your OYS 15 😂 I’m dying.. Being 45, let’s just say the body doesn’t accept being punished like it once did. Progress needs to be slower to avoid excessive injuries. But why don’t you try Super squats program for 6-7 weeks like I did?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 06:59 PM
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Definitely the latter, but one doesn’t exclude the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 09:41 PM
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OYS #35 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 170 lbs, 17% BF (navy) height 6”, Europe. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Create. Be curious and explore. Strive to be happy. Reading: Boundaries (5%), Mystery method (15%), The unchained man (20%), Fuccfiles (10%). Went a little overboard with starting to read books this week. But was searching for different input. Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 12:24 PM
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Wife makes 2.5 million a year and you make 300k. I’m just trying to imagine what a divorce settlement would look like 👀 I guess you would not need to keep grinding, bro. But what’s your overall purpose in life? And don’t you want kids of you own, one day? Probably not gonna happen with a 45 year old. I can tell you that nothing beats the feeling of holding your own baby for the first time and wach and guide them as they grow up.
/r/askMRP04/02/24 09:15 AM
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I’m just reading this book. A lot of useful tips for approaching and dating: https://www.amazon.com/Get-inside-Her-Perspective-Secrets/dp/B00N200VNQ
/r/seduction27/01/24 06:52 PM
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OYS #34 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 173 (+3) lbs, height 6”, Europe. Mission: * Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: Attract Women (some PUA/RP stuff) Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? Bought an abb wheel, so I can do some more core exercises at night when at home instead of only in the gym. Else nothing much to add. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 09:29 AM
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I’d rather separate things. But to each his own.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 06:41 PM
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Thanks for advice reg. abundance. In terms of being attractive, it’s primarily for my own sake. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror, knowing I can handle a little bit of resistance/mutiny and still be congruent with who I am, without loosing it. Also I want my daughter to have a father-figure who is mentally strong, so she will know what to look for later in life. So being attractive is less related to my wife currently.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:36 PM
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Sorry, should have stated it’s with my wife in specific I’m not super interested in sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 04:21 PM
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I’m not too worried, since I wake up with a boner each morning. It’s the lust for my wife in specific which is currently non-existing. But will be happy to take your offer when I have my results 👍
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 04:10 PM
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No, not getting any. Not because I’m afraid of the inevitable rejections, but I simply haven’t been focused or interested in sex the last couple of weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 12:13 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 176 (+6) lbs, height 6”, Europe. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: Nothing at the moment. Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? After a thorough response to my last OYS by u/BecomingABetterMan1 I changed my training program to Greyskull LP. I reall…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 10:57 AM
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Thanks for this detailed answer. GSLP it is 👍
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 12:46 PM
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On twitter?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 12:42 PM
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True and true. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 09:25 PM
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What program you recommend for looking jacked/hypertrophy? Only strength I truly care about is grip-strength for bouldering and getting to looking jacked.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 09:25 PM
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OYS #32 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 170 lbs (-2), height 6”, Europe. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: Nothing at the moment. Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? Haven’t found a program yet, but created my own 3-day full body work-out with a hypertrophy upper-body focus. After loos…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 12:25 PM
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Divorce is on the table, but my primary goal is still to have a life that satisfies me whether in this marriage or not, but because my progress is much slower than I expected I’m not executing yet. Sometimes I just get these urges to fuck being patient and nuke it all. To emotional I guess. Tinder was just a stupid idea to see if this would create some kinda OI or dread. As expected, I think it did create a minor degree of OI in me. Started putting in age range of 30 - 45 (my own age), but ended…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 05:05 AM
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Haha… didn’t know it till now. That’s hilarious - and might be bulls eye in terms of statements about sex I’ve had to listen to lately. I have been too def to hear it for what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:00 PM
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Yeah, where did he go? Miss his comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:50 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 172 lbs, height 6”, Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: nothing currently Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? Only lifted twice this week, because of missing access to gym. Hometrained once as well. Family. What did I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:33 PM
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Believe me, that advice is so right.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 07:08 PM
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No, it’s not a typo. I have no clue why my squat drops so much below parallel - perhaps I’m little above 90 degrees, but lower than quarter squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 07:20 AM
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OYS #30 Back from a 14 day rule 9 ban. Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 171 lbs (-11 lbs), height 6”, Europe, non-native english. Lifting: finished my super squat program. Decided to see if I was able to set a new squat PR. Nope, not possible. Simply couldn’t get out of the hole. When squatting above 90 degrees I could squat appr. 330 lbs. In the hole I could only squeeze appr. 200 lbs out. So decided I need to work on the bottom part of squatting moving forward. Also dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/23 10:47 AM
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OYS #29 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 182 lbs, height 6”, Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: WISNIFG, Ya’Really Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? Did a new 1RM PR on DL. My hypotesis was that my legs were the reason I couldn’t lift more weight - seems to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:52 AM
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I took responsibility for our spending this summer and went from deficit of around $2K a month as I recall, to now being positive each month. Also moving apartment by the end of this month, will save us another $800 monthly A year or two down the line, my current plan is to get a job in the private sector, which I guess would bump up my income $2K a month. However, being in a high paying progressive tax country, there’s very little incentive when you reach a certain income level (which is where …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 09:52 PM
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Mostly I am reading (which is on my phone/iPad) or in the gym training. So, actually it was mostly to create awareness that my wife was a little ‘obsessive’ with her phone/series.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 05:56 AM
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OYS #28 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 182 (-1) lbs, height 6”, BF 18.5% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: WISNIFG Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? I’m on the 4th week of the Super Squats program. It has become very tough, both physically and men…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 09:45 AM
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This is good stuff and some of the pieces of the puzzle I had been missing. When you’re midlife and career and external values have less significance to you - then what!
/r/askMRP03/12/23 05:12 PM
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OYS #27 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 183 lbs, height 6”, BF 18.5% Navy), Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: WISNIFG Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting: What did I do? Was sick 4 days of last week. Still managed to get 3 workouts in. Family: What did I do? Took care of my…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 12:02 PM
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I believe in AWALT, but I also think that everyone has something that works a little better on them. I know how conservative people can have a hard time trying something knew and being stubborn about it. Her family is very conservative. I am the guy that introduces them to new stuff. And then after trying new shit a couple of times, suddenly it is part of the new norm and everybody likes it. So Yes, I partly negotiated desire. I was overt about the lack of interest she shows in the relationship …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 09:50 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 183 (+3) lbs, height 6”, Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: nothing at the moment, but been skimming through some sections of MMSLP. Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx2, TWOTSM, Sidebar, MODELS, How to dominate Women, DEVI (50%), Book of Ya’really (25%). Lifting. What did I do? First week of my Super Squats program and I feel i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 09:39 AM
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OYS #25 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 180 lbs, height 6”, BF 18.5% Navy), Europe, non-native english. Mission: * Be bold and take chances. Be true to myself. Be curious and explore. Reading: Book of Ya’really Lifting: What did I do: As part of my 60 DoD, I’ve decided to work on my Squats cuz they suck more than anything. So I just started the Super Squat program. Will see how long I can run it, but aiming for 6-8 weeks. Also talked with a semi-pro weightlifter and got …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 11:17 AM
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I’m now tracking my macros, eating +500cal a day. Also making sure to hit my protein goals daily. My weight is currently 180lbs (6 feet tall). I intend to keep bulking until I, either reach mid-march or reach 200lbs - whatever comes first. My goal is to at least be 190lbs (+10 lbs) before I start my cut in mid march. This march I weighed 149lbs. So that’ll be 40lbs in a year - which was much needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 05:32 AM
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OYS #24 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 180 lbs, height 6”, BF 18.5% Navy), Europe, non-native english. I generally write to long and un-focused OYS. This I would like to change with a format that fits me better. Also I was banned for the 3rd time because of rule 9, but managed to get unbanned by improving one of my main lifts. This I also need to clean up (the rule 9 violation). This OYS is however a mix-up of the concrete stuff I have done throughout the week and meta-…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 10:49 PM
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Do you mind me asking how you figured out your mission - did you know the whole time or did you discover it along the way? Is it more of an inner mission (emotional/trait/behavior) or more external (wanting to be/do/create something)? No need for detailed answers… I’m more in search of guidelines/inspiration to figuring out my own mission.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 09:11 PM
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Haha…that’s hilarious, because it might make sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 02:09 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 180 (+1) lbs, height 6”, BF 18.5% Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: Conversa…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 09:34 AM
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If I ever figure out how to use her anxiety to make her horny I would be getting laid so many times a day my dick would fall off 😂 Any tips on how to approach this anxiety -> horny? Just StFu, lift, Read- or smth more specific to be done?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 09:55 AM
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This is really inspiring. A naggy anxious wife is a perfect description of who I’m married too. Did the D/S dynamic start outside the bedroom i.e. non-sexual context and progressed from there?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 09:29 PM
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This is really good advice. Top of my mind I can’t even remember how I approached the world in my teens/twenties. Thanks for good advice!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 01:28 PM
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Thats a very good question indeed and I have been giving it some thought. Basically I would say it’s related to different aspects of DNGAF: * I’m not so invested language-wise (since English is not my native language), so I tend to say more of what just comes to mind without overthinking. Sometimes words that means nothing comes out of my mouth (sounds) but I don’t care. I’m communicating. * I used to tour my ass off as a musician in my 20s and 30s and English was the language I used when talkin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 05:00 AM
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Fair enough, my last OYS was a disaster, but lying/hiding stuff in my OYS makes no sense to me at all. Getting validated by strangers on a sub, seems like a waste of time imo. Actually I sometimes prefer the miserable weeks because I’ll usually get a ton of comments to understand and work from moving forward. But I’m never super concrete/detailed throughout my OYS like many others. Perhaps it’s a language thing or I’m just struggling with finding a balance where my OYS doesn’t become almost a fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 12:53 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 179 (+3)lbs, height 6”, Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: Conversation Tactics by P…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 08:59 AM
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Thanks for illuminating my behaviour and covert contracts for me. How is disagreeing on raising a child a shit test? Because I care about it, and don’t just ignore when wife is disrespectful?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 03:03 PM
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Haha… point taken 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 02:43 PM
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“Three, you should be 200lbs with a 900lb+ total in a year. “ What do you mean 900lb+? The weights combined for Squat, Deadlift, Bench and OHP? Also 200lbs seems out of my possible range.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 10:08 AM
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OYS #21 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 176 (-1 lbs), height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: Conversat…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:30 AM
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You’re right. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 10:34 AM
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“The misses -Stop that inferiority. There’s no “THE Mrs.” Get her off that pedestal. It’s still there.” OK. In my native language you cannot refer to something/someone without “The” in front of it. But I get the point. “the amount of irrelevant information about situations at wifes job I have to listen to -That’s your fault.” Gotcha. I allow it, therefore I’m responsible. “I just kept repeating my wish each day that I saw that it hadn’t been shaved. -STFU I think this went on for 3-4 days. -STFU…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 02:25 PM
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Haha… too soon to erode my bromance moment 😅
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 01:51 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 177 (+1) lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: Not readi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 09:07 AM
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OYS #19 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 176 (+1) lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: MMSLP Rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 09:31 AM
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Good read. Thanx!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 06:54 AM
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Are you referring to the lengthy slow paced almost no action like OYS resembling a french movie? Or the absense of decision-making in terms of sticking with your LTR or not? 😉 I’ll check out his posts and see if there is something useful in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 09:23 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 174 lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: Decided to sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 08:44 AM
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I grew up with a stepfather who was exactly the same way as your GF. I got very rebellious towards everything he said because I saw through his double standards. On top your kids are only 4/5 - WTF dude? Kick her out or punish her hard, so this behaviour is never repeated.
/r/askMRP25/09/23 08:50 AM
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Thanks for the tips. I’ll try those exercises.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 05:45 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 45yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 175 (+1) lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: DEVI + MR…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 09:10 AM
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Makes sense…
/r/askMRP12/09/23 01:17 PM
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We smoke way less than you mericans, since it ain’t legal here.
/r/askMRP12/09/23 01:16 PM
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“Your wife has a model of you in her head. She uses it to Guage her behavior based on YOUR behavior up untill now. The only way to get her to update that model is for you to behave differently long enough (with your fucking mouth shut) for her to update it.” This is excellent advice and I needed that to connect the dots. Thanx.
/r/askMRP10/09/23 06:31 PM
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Haha…. Perhaps it says more of how pathetic my body was before I started lifting. Or could be some low-level hysterical bonding.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 11:40 AM
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OYS #16 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 174 (-2) lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: DEVI Read…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 09:08 AM
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Thanks. This was a really good read on boundaries,
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:22 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 176 (+2) lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo (long term) * Have a life that satisfies me. (Mid term) * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. (Mid term) * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. (Short term and onward) * Become socially adept (short term and onward). Reading: WISNIFG, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:30 AM
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The main covert contract I see is my MRP-journey, reclaiming my life in becoming a man who has abundance. Off course I haven’t told my wife about MRP and I’m not going too and I’m expecting my life to change for the better through the MRP-journey. Maybe it could just be the phrasing that is idiotic as you mention, more than a covert contract?
/r/askMRP25/08/23 12:22 PM
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I USED to have a covert contract reg. chores: ‘the more weight I pull, the less hysterical/depressed/anxious she will be- the better my life will be’. Now I have an overt contract: I’m pulling my own weight reg. chores - not yours as I used to. You dont like it? Not my problem. Overt, because I told my wife this and that’s what I’m doing. Is she resisting all she can? Hell yes! I can hardly see this as RAMBO.
/r/askMRP25/08/23 10:27 AM
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Haha… fair enough. your point is loud and clear!
/r/askMRP24/08/23 07:00 PM
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Yeah, mainly fogging and negative inquiry, plus occasional AM when she got a little crazy.
/r/askMRP24/08/23 06:37 PM
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Very true. I think the Award for most retarded MRP journey is coming my way this year. In terms of fogging there were some where she expressed how she felt I didn’t live up to some moral standards I was expected too. I fogged by answering “yeah, I can see you really feel that way.” Other times she pointed out errors. I would answer:” guess I did mess that up, didn’t I” And other times she demanded some answers on unreasonable assumptions. I would use some sort of negative inquiry. So more or les…
/r/askMRP24/08/23 06:34 PM
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Perhaps I have misunderstood the term choreplay. There is no covert contract there for me. Just chores. I just used to do them way more than resonable, Now I just let go of some chores to balance things out. I’m still pulling my own weight here, not just over-performance like I used to.
/r/askMRP24/08/23 06:29 PM
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Occasionally I did laugh, depending on what she said. Didn’t call her a whore, though. Divorce can be fixed online in my country, so no need for a provoced divorce.
/r/askMRP24/08/23 06:16 PM
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I’m not sure what the cure is/was. Still comfort? or has that ship sailed? Also, she does do stuff on regularly basis that shows a lot of disrespect, That’s why I’m uncertain whether or not I should provide comfort. I dont want her to interpret it as doing something disrespectful gets you comfort.
/r/askMRP24/08/23 04:30 PM
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No, didn’t know of these exercises. Thanks for the tip(s).
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 06:02 PM
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I’m 44 and no sexy times in my marriage myself. I’m frustrated as fuck like you, so why do I stay with my wife instead of leaving her? Because I need to fix my own mess and man up before I would wanna start my mess allover again and repeat that shit with another woman. Might as well change myself first before I decide if I wanna switch wife or if she is worth keeping.
/r/askMRP23/08/23 03:47 PM
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OYS #14 Back after 14 days ban, so basically a sum-up over the last two weeks. Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 174 lbs, height 6”, BF 18% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo * Have a life that satisfies me. * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. * Value and develop my old friendships, while making time for new friendships. Reading: WISNIFG, Rian Stone WISNIFG series. Read: MAP, NMM…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 04:31 AM
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What are the cheat codes I’m using? Asking out of genuine interest, since I don’t think I can pinpoint myself. Yes, the +100 goal is partly out of my control. But I do control how I choose to live, my work environment and so forth - and I do a lot of sacrifices because it is a high priority of mine. Also very good genes in my family. What I want for me right now is to connect better with people, be more social, have more fun, pick up my old hobby (making music) which I lost interest in because o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 03:30 PM
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Overall I want a life that I choose. Maybe I don’t get to decide every little detail, but at least on the macro-level I am fullfilled and living congruently with my believes. This goes for marriage, friends, hobbies, lifestyle, idelology and I’m sure I can add to this list eventually. More concretely this is, for marriage: mutual respect in its many forms, passion, dedication, doing fun stuff together, love. I hope this gives an idea where I am currently. I dont think writing more concrete stuff…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 03:23 PM
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Because I would rationalise an excuse as “I’m unhappy in my marriage and it was a mistake” instead of owning it as being pure attraction and be satisfied afterwards. Also wtf is the point of being married if I fuck around like I’m single again?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 03:12 PM
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Thanks for explaining. I’ll focus on the basics.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 03:00 PM
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Not using sex as a source of validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 02:47 PM
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I dont understand exactly where I’m a dancing monkey (except for flirting behind my wifes back)? Blowin up my marriage up is very much an option for me - just not one I’m going to take untill I know I have tried and done all I can do. I’m well aware of most of the underlying causes you mention and that my wife wont fuck me or even spend time with me and still a ton of external validation. But those are my problems to fix and I’m still too retarded to grasp how to deal with it. But perhaps you’re…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 12:09 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 172 lbs (-1), height 6”, BF 17% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo * Have a life that satisfies me. * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. * Value and develop my old friendships, while making place for forming new friendships Reading: WISNIFG, Tons of MRP posts. Especially I’ve been reading the posts by /HornsOfApathy regarding wifes with an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 08:34 AM
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You’re right. Everything is about making money these days, not to much time left for fun stuff in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 04:38 AM
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True. Too much navel gazing, too little action. Thanks for reminding me 👍
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 04:33 AM
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Thanks for this link. And You’re absolutely right, I’ll have to own it, no matter what the wife says or does. I’m aware of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 04:32 AM
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OYS #12 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. Weight 173 lbs (+2), height 6”, BF 18.8% (Navy), Europe, non-native english. What are my goals/mission: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo * Have a life that satisfies me. * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. * Value and develop my old friendships, while making place for forming new friendships Reading: WISNIFG, Sidebar Read: MAP, NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM, Sidebar Lifting:…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 09:54 AM
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Thank you for explaining what you ment. Much appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 05:35 PM
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Yes, I have also thought about this link/order, but havent yet decoded the causation.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 01:52 PM
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Fair enough, but the thing is I am mad at either: her, for all the selfish ways she takes actions/dispositions that hurt our family, and/or me, for not having enough frame to lead her to good decisions/actions. If this is the case, then all I can do is to set boundaries (which I’m giving shots at all the time, she just doesnt respect them). So my rage is a symptom of me being cornered in a situation I can’t see my way out of. It is genuinely directed at both me and her.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 08:26 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. 171 lbs (+1) – height 6”. Europe, non-native english. What are my goals/mission: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo * Have a life that satisfies me. * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. * Value and develop my old friendships, while making place for forming new friendships Reading: WISNIFG, MAP Read: NMMNGx2, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM, Sidebar Relationship Been loosing my shit all we…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 02:14 PM
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Yeah, I’ve been trying to understand/analyse my wife for 20+ years and it hasn’t worked, so no reason to continue down that road. Not sure what you mean with that last comment (keep saying no to your wife its hilarious)?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 03:03 PM
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You are right, the sex was not after the beach day incident. It was a week earlier, not sure if it was some sort of remorse of not having sexy times on our anniversary night. Don’t understand or care where it came from. We fucked, it was good. Next day, all lights were off again (actually now that I think about it, she gave me a 15 second bj the day after, but whatever). It seems like if she gets warmed up, my wife actually does like sex, but all the practicalities of life (Also she has OCD, Anx…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 06:06 AM
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OYS #10 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. 168,5 lbs – height 6”. Europe, non-native english. What are my goals/mission: * Be healthy, be happy, become +100yo * Have a life that satisfies me. * To have sufficient in all matters that are important priorities to me. * Value and develop my old friendships, while making place for forming new friendships * Be the best dad I can be to my daughter. Lifting: Have not been working out this week, since the family went camping. My week off f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 06:45 PM
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You’re probably very right about changing the mindset. Did read NMMNG and had the feeling “finally someone gets the way I feel and act”. But reading a book doesn’t make you change all your behavioural patterns overnight.
/r/askMRP06/07/23 08:35 PM
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I think part of my long post is a language thing. Also the fact that I’m pretty retarded at this and not sure what is relevant/irrelevant. Your spot on. Have tried to set boundaries many times before but since I’m being weak and needy I always end up letting go of boundaries in hope of pussy. This has been a tough day honestly. A huge hit to my ego realizing that my wife is not attracted to me anymore. I’m a good-looking lad, so I had this idea that my wife clearly found me attractive = wanted t…
/r/askMRP05/07/23 04:38 PM
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Not really. Only the night after putting our daughter to sleep. The rest of the day I was busy with other stuff. But even that 1,5 hour has been somewhat wasted (except during that period I went and worked/finished on one of my projects).
/r/askMRP05/07/23 09:01 AM
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Thank you for the observations and advice on reading material.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 08:58 AM
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Continued…. Sexuality: I have been experimenting a bit with masturbation this week. Also, I have been watching porn for the first time since my MRP-jouney began. Honestly, it just feels better while watching porn. The “healthy masturbation” concept from NMMNG is something I cannot relate directly to. However I read TWOTSM who also writes about ejaculation and the effects of it. This is what I discovered related to me: If I masturbate during the day, I’ll get lazy and anti-social. Maybe even a bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 04:02 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 44yo, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 4yo. 169,5 lbs – height 6”. Europe, non-native english. Lifts: SQ 165, DL 220, OHP 71, BP 145, BR 134 Reading: Mindful attraction plan, NMMNG Read: NMMNG, Pook, Rational Male, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM Physical and Health: Lifting going steady. Lots of discipline there. Haven’t missed a day yet. Sunday I also went bouldering a couple of hours. Forgot how physically hard it is on the arms, legs and shoulders. I hardly ever drink or think of coffee …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 04:01 PM
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Thank you, sir. I shall conquer those wifey-panties 😂 To answer your 3 questions: 1) No. 2) Not at all. Gonna give it a shot tonight and see what insults I’ll get this time. 3) More lifting, more STFU, more IDGAF, practice both my Game and kino.
/r/askMRP04/07/23 03:20 PM
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The dream is alive, man. Hope I will eventually get there 😅
/r/askMRP03/07/23 09:52 PM
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That makes sense. I could definately see myself being challenged by this as well - or just being scared as fuck to go through part of my journey. I’m very outcome dependent still, but mainly when it comes to people I dont know, which makes no sense at all.
/r/askMRP01/07/23 06:59 PM
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Food for thought. I need to figure out the best way to deal with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 05:58 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. Reg. no. 3, to be fair I might have left out some specific details. Your point is valid, except we won’t be burning through our downpayment anytime soon. Also I have been addressing my wifes spending for the last decade several times a week, without succes. Everytime I end up being pissed and angry, which is what I’m trying to avoid. The issue for me is more the different stance my wife and I have on spending. I truly believe consumption is numbing you - she seems to thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 09:30 PM
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Part 2/2 Career/Finances: Career is where I want it to be at the moment. Looking forward to changing position in the organisation after the holidays. I feel grateful for this shift. Basically, they are allowing me to switch to a domain I have zero experience with and they will learn me everything I need to know, while I get to keep my salary and title. I work with IT in the public sector and the flexibility allows me to be more present in my daughters life, than if I switched to private sector. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 08:47 AM
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OYS #7 part 1/2 Stats: 44yo, 6” ft, 75,9 kg/167 lbs, 18,5% BF(navy), Married 15, together 25, kids 1 (~4yo) My mission: To become a man who proudly lives in accordance with his demands and needs. To become abundant in all aspects hereof. A man who follows his heart and does not let the world around him derail him from his core and mission. Lifts & fitness: SQ 154 lbs, DL 201,5 lbs, BP 145 lbs, OHP 66 lbs, BR 143 lbs. Lifting is the part of my journey that seems to be my only progress (albeit sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 08:46 AM
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I’ve read your collection of OYS. It is a very impressive progress to say the least. From most of the answers I have received I can tell that most people take a lot longer than this. I’m sure I will too. But what do you mean, because ego gets in the way of transforming yourself?
/r/askMRP26/06/23 08:52 PM
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Thank you for this insight. I came from DB myself and the exact same reason as you. And I can truly relate to now caring less about sex and more about improvisere my life in all aspects.
/r/askMRP26/06/23 10:48 AM
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So that’ll be 24 months more for me if rule of thumb applies.
/r/askMRP25/06/23 09:46 AM
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I dont know what “bench a plate” means (I’m european), but you’re probably right. My bench today was 145 lbs. Also not sure what PL stands for. I’ll post my lifting stats in next OYS. Thanks for the advice. Appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 09:00 PM
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Maybe this is a cultural thing! I am 18,5% BF which is primarily centered on my stomach. Classical “dad-bod” with thin arms. I can`t see how more fat on my stomach would help me lift heavier weights. From here on I rather lean bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 04:04 PM
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Thanks. Sound advice and you are right in your observations. I’m theorizing instead of applying and I’m most definitely in my head. I’m not in any way trying to hold information back to cover my flaws. On the contrary I value all the comments I get, especially on areas where I’m failing. I don’t consider it relevant to post about areas where I’m not experiencing major changes or difficulties (Example could be lifting. I see a steady and slow progress, so what’s the point of posting about it). Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 03:58 PM
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OYS#6 Stats: 44y, LTR 25y, kid 4y, 6”, 165 lbs, BF 18,5% (navy method). Reading: TWOTSM. Great read. In the beginning I was thinking “what is this pseudo poetry - have I bought the wrong book”. But there are so many deep truths in this book. I don’t find it an easy read, though. Reached my weight goal for 2023 which is 165 lbs. From here on I’ll look into Clean Bulking, since I can see my belly has gotten bigger, but my lifting havent’t improved a lot since beginning. My goal is 175lbs by end 20…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 08:58 PM
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Thank you sir. You are spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/23 08:16 PM
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Not much of sound advise since I’m early in my MRP journey myself. However when you finished reading the books you ordered, then perhaps read Way of the superior man (Deida). It’s s bit more meta/spiritual as I read it, bit still very operational and good for understanding how to “talk”to your wife. Also, somewhat unrelated, my wife lost a lot of weight in the years after having our kid. Last couple of months she FINALLY started gaining weight again (now on her alltime highest weight, which look…
/r/askMRP17/06/23 08:12 PM
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OYS #4 Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, POOK, Rational Male. Status: European (non-english speaking country) 44y, 163,8 lbs, 6”, 25y LTR (15 married), daughter ~4y. Lifting Decided to deload this week, since I had been adding weight but started to perform the exercises poorly. Deloaded and went deep and thorough. Afterall it`s only been 3 weeks in the gym. Too early to fuck myself up. When deloading I realised this was really hard for me to do. I felt embarrased. Maybe external validation se…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 02:23 PM
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True and thanks for reading suggestion!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 06:36 PM
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3 times a week. SL 5x5 spiced with a couple of extra exercises (for biceps + triceps). Very consistent, but only on my third week of going to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 06:32 PM
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OYS #3 stats: 6”, 162,9 lbs, 44 years, LTR 24 years, Kid < 5 year. reading: WIFGWISN read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Pook, ROLLO. Lifts: SQ 165 lbs, BP: 143 lbs, BR: 97 lbs, OP: 44 lbs. Health/Fitness: My OP won`t go up. I should probably start extra shoulder exercises to gain here. Started doing Dips to. Can’t believe when I see what other people in here lifts. I must be über weak and this must be changed asap. I’m gaining weight and it’s with healthy food. Thought this would be much harder to do, but just…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 07:27 PM
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Not sure if this question is ironic? Look at my stats - clearly I don’t!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/23 08:56 AM
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Thanks for the tips.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/23 08:54 AM
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OYS #2 Stats: 160,5 lbs (2,5+ from last week), 6”, 15% BF (visual estimate), mid-forties. Lifts: SQ -132 lbs, DL - 132 lbs, BP 110 lbs, OHP 44 lbs, BR 75 lbs. Second week of training and I’m at my max right now, so will see if Im gonna plateau here or keep increasing. A bit worried about my back thb. Will be a little careful the next week. Besides that eating like a pig to gain weight. So far so good. Reading: MMSLP (50%). Health: Yesterday was the first day in 20 years where I didn`t drink one …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 03:40 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: Mid 40s, 25y LTR (married 15y), daughter 3y.158 lbs – height 6”. Europe, non-native english. Lifts: SQ 121x6, DL 88x6, OHP 44x6, BP 77x6, BR 53x6 ​ Reading: MMSLP Read: NMMNG, Pook, Rational Male (40%) Physical and Health: My first week doing RP - and my first OYS. Went bouldering twice this week, one time with a friend and one time with my daughter. Also enrolled in a gym and got a PT to show me some exercises. After the session finished I went to see what I could lift, and then d…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/23 10:47 AM
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Yep, sounds like sound advice. Cant wait for the NMMNG book to arrive. And in the meantime I’ll go get a membership to the gym and lift.
/r/askMRP16/05/23 01:20 PM
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