How long did it take from the beginning og your MRP journey until you were in a state where you were no longer a beta with nice guy behaviour?

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-06-25T15:33:29+00:00

I agree that you're asking the wrong questions. I landed here from deadbedrooms. Realised I was the problem. I came here to fix my sex life. I ended up kinda giving less of a fuck about my sex life and giving more of a fuck just about my life in general. If you start caring more about you everything else kinda works itself out.

But to answer your question, how long did it take for me to turn the corner, let's phrase it. 3 years. Because there's something everyone leaves out. Most people don't get it right the first time. Even the second time. You fuck up and end up right back where you started. I'm with my wife about 20 years, so after fucking up this journey twice in the first couple of years, I eventually found a serenity that started to work for me. More Stoic than MRP, but my life has dramatically improved. It took me another year and a half to really get where I am now, but it's added multiple positive dynamics to my life.

I cycle, lots. I go on more holidays with my mates. I seem to have more friends. I have doubled my income. I am in good shape. I'm more confident. I'm more carefree.

Hear me mention my wife or my sex life once in that sentence?

Tyred_Biggums · 2023-06-25T13:25:32+00:00

how long it took for you to get to a state where you were no longer a beta with a nice guy behaviour

You’re asking the wrong question.

and your marriage dynamic had changed drastically?

You’re also looking at the wrong measurement.

I’ll fix it for you: “How long does it take to stop living for others, develop a strong frame, figure out what I want in life, and get what I want in life?”

And the answer is “it depends”.

For me - 24 months. My marriage dynamic definitely changed drastically since I divorced.

Meteor1x · 2023-06-25T07:58:53+00:00

No one guarantees you that mrp will work for you. Some guys never make it. But a good norm is that 1 month of betterment is necessary for every year you showed up at your wife as beta. 10 years of beta = 10 months of consistent frame

Remus_John_Lupin · 2023-06-25T10:57:31+00:00

I think it comes with abundance, not only for sex or relationship, but for friendships, career etc.

I didn't had the 'MRP journey', I discovered r/theredpill after spending about year learning PUA and game. As I improved and succeeded in getting more interest, beta behavior started to fade away wrt girls because i just didn't give a fuck, there are lot of women out there anyways.

I think you can't trick your mind with formulas, until you get a taste of true abundance beta niceguy behavior will exist in some form. That's why you need to develop skills to get abundance in your relationships, friendships, career, hobbies and any other important aspect of your life.

J-VV-R · 2023-06-25T08:33:12+00:00

If you are being honest with yourself and the work you are putting in, it can take anywhere from months to years; especially, when it comes to your mental framework.

meatball31522 · 2023-06-25T15:32:14+00:00

I’m a slow learner. It took me about 3 years (47-50 years old). I cycled through the Anger Phase multiple times. I have a huge aversion to pain, conflict, change, and discomfort which your journey will be FULL of. Multiple times, I THOUGHT I understood it all, but couldn’t figure out how to apply it. Blue Pill is an “addiction”, you will spend the rest of your life fighting it.

KagedRageius · 2023-06-25T19:36:22+00:00

Depends on your situation. I didn’t have the “fix my marriage” path. I had the “my wife checked out” so I went operation scorched earth, spun plates for years, and begun my current LTR with the learning from here.

Dependent-Green-5696 · 2023-06-26T09:01:35+00:00

I've asked this and been banned 6 months.

DiamondBack43 · 2023-06-26T18:41:33+00:00

It very much "depends". I read The Rational Male and started going to a men's group a little over five years ago. It has been about two years since my wife and I last had sex. Just last night she berated me and cried about how I do not seem to "want" her any more. TBH, I really don't. But, I am still stuck, not knowing exactly how to proceed. It seems some of us are just a lost cause.

kvakerok · 2023-06-28T20:04:17+00:00

Found RP in it's infancy some 20 years ago. Took about 8 years to undo blue pill brainwashing. Still slip on some shit. Your personal integrity aka frame will be continuously tested for the rest of your life.

ur_fault · 2023-06-25T19:29:42+00:00

This sounds more like "when will my wife change?"

SnooDoughnuts6501 · 2023-06-25T07:11:37+00:00

Couple of months for me

Stunning_Seaweed7717 · 2023-06-25T20:55:04+00:00

No concrete timeline. It depends on a ton of factors. Your dedication is a big one. I think 6 months is a good timeline for a lot of significant changes

HornsOfApathy · 2023-06-26T14:50:16+00:00

1 year. What a year of owning your shit looks like.

Most guys take a lot longer because - ego.

red-sfpplus · 2023-06-26T20:05:38+00:00

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