| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 16 | That moment this woman discovered she is with a NVMSomeone please help this woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Advice on PrenupsAsk your lawyer. In theory though there isn't really anything different I don't think when it comes to the law protecting women vs men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 7 | Please gods tell me this is fake #justboisontinderthingsTime to call the police. LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 1 | How to Know You’re A REAL “High Value Man” 💎A woman can't love a man she can't respect. Fucking truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:41 PM |
| 90 | Should I leave him? I don't look at him the same.he told me he "followed her because she could lay down floor tiles pretty well" LOL. Into the bin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:04 AM |
| 1 | How do you forgive yourself for being a pickme (my journey to FDS)You did your best with the knowledge you had at the time. Living in the past actively prevents you from living in the present and future that you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 05:40 PM |
| 20 | It’s sad that this kind of behavior from men is so rare.They're not scared, they're fucking lazy and call it scared for pity. The reward of giving a good gift means so little to them, it's not rewarding, so they don't do it. Extremely telling of how much someone values something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 05:22 PM |
| 104 | I wheezed reading this 😂🙅♀️Real men don't use instructions /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:52 PM |
| 6 | Don't EVER buy the lie that gaming is a 'cheap hobby'The worst part is that they will cause the person to stagnate depending on the game. There is no real achievement, no skill or discipline, no lesson, no good story. The games where there are are extremely few and far between. Games that foster skills like puzzle solving, relationship building co-op, these are even MORE rare. WOW for instance is completely based on being addictive. It buffers this with adding in some socialization via other players and rudimentary teamwork. And it is a massive fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:44 AM |
| 23 | Have you noticed this?I feel like this kink is one of the only ones worth leveraging. Especially if you're being paid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 02:27 AM |
| 45 | Have you noticed this?Nah, the fun game is over. NEXT. That's the reality of the depravity of many men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 02:25 AM |
| 17 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyPorn teaches both sexes that all women are are a collection of holes to use. It's sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 11:14 PM |
| 7 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄So hang on. Remind me again which gender is the one committing these crimes? It's the fault of the women though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 05:21 AM |
| 3 | I just-They still do this. It never went away. It just got obscured by smart phones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:36 PM |
| 8 | I just-The vast majority of men somehow just don't ever do this. I don't understand it at all. They just guess at something, and then assume that's the right way, then they play all dumb and ignorant. It's pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:09 PM |
| 3 | I have decided to date myself, & Thursday nights are date nights!Fuck yeah ginger beer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Let's clarify what it means that "relationships take work"This is what it was like with my ex. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:49 AM |
| 28 | When i saw people calling this a sub for "nasty/evil/crazy/scary" women i immediately got hopeful and wanted to see whats up, not despite of the reputation but BECAUSE of it. Because every time women are doing something RIGHT it's rebranded by men as "nasty/evil/etc"This is actually a marketing tactic. Disruption like this creates interest. People want to see if something is really "that bad". It's hilarious to see the outrage so effectively harnessed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:32 AM |
| 12 | This has got to be one of the worst episodes of mainsplaining I’ve ever seen. Avoid men like Tom at all costs, and never let a man a speak down to you!Why would he? Men do not care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Swallowing a load is suuuper empowering, guys. Girls who think it’s not are just annoyingThis was written by someone who has no understanding of how fucking vile and disgusting men find their own jizz. Having to swallow is so degrading I don't have strong enough language to describe it. When you think about how the average male would feel about having to swallow someone's cum, for most of them it would be worse than getting pissed on I think. Very clear LVM trait is them having a preoccupation with whether a woman swallows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 62 | Male sexuality, as it exists today, is a black hole waiting to consume you.Seconding this. My ex husband was an utter black hole. When I started having standards and shining like I did before, he became an utter man child and eventually pretty much ghosted me while still married. Thank god I woke up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:43 AM |
| 6 | The ”Dogpill”, AKA They think we reject them to fuck dogs.They're utterly controlled by their sex drives. I'm not going to say it's 100% of men, since there does seem to be those who are actually civilized, but so many of them are literally just a dick attached to a body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Incels new chart about women.This is sad, but at the same time I have mixed feelings. r/FDS shouldn't be giving the time of day to incel content. Our attention shouldn't be giving them satisfaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Introducing my husband ladies ..This is a tactic they use too. Common among abusers to keep you off your feet and confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:17 PM |
| 9 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸I don't want kids. I have a life to live. I don't need drama from the bio mom, I don't want to hear whining about your previous relationship/divorce. Plus like others say, it's gross to use pics like that on hookup sites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:08 AM |
| 2 | If a guy vehemently hates cats, run.Don't worry, someone will come up with a reason why that's a LV trait. Lol. Goats are great btw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 08:35 PM |
| -2 | If a guy vehemently hates cats, run.I don't like cats because they are inherently unsanitary and extremely detrimental to the environment because they murder everything. I don't want a cat's litterbox paws all over everything, not to mention their bare butthole sitting on everything. Ew. This is not to say that I don't like cats as someone else's pet. They are cute and cuddly, intelligent, silly, have pretty good characteristics as far as companion animals go, but are not the pet for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 08:33 PM |
| 93 | What are some phrases LVM say in the beginning that are red flags in the early phases that we may not notice?Any time sexual compatibility is brought up or used as an excuse to try to get you to have sex. You're not a car that needs a test drive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:22 AM |
| 104 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.Are you kidding me? Have you seen how it's filmed? There is zero reason for it to be filmed with the shots focused on the children as they are. It's hyper sexualized and literally written for pedos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:33 AM |
| 5 | Why does it bother men so much when a woman refuses to sleep with them that they have to label her as prude?Because their emotions get in the way. Their super inflated egos make every man that has ever existed think that he has the golden dick and that we should be fighting each other for the chance to ride it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:40 PM |
| 78 | For a 37 year old scrote who claims to be having the time of his life sexually, he sure devotes a lot of time to writing about us on his blog. 🧐 (6 total screenshots)I used to think that men had average to smart intelligence like women. Now I have seen that it's actually much more likely for that perceived intelligence to be a sham. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:37 PM |
| 21 | For a 37 year old scrote who claims to be having the time of his life sexually, he sure devotes a lot of time to writing about us on his blog. 🧐 (6 total screenshots)The irony is that in the last one he says that women need a bat to swing to keep guys off. Doesn't he know that that is literally what FDS is? How to help sort the wheat from the chaff? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:35 PM |
| 3 | Creepy guy recording me with his phone.A bad review does nothing. Splash that all over facebook, twitter, everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Blocked my lvm ex on seemingly everything and now he is getting creative.Facebook overall is a good option as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Blocked my lvm ex on seemingly everything and now he is getting creative."I'm gathering evidence of your harassment for a restraining order and also sending it to your mother." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Notice the Way His Dog BehavesI wouldn't consider this to be a cut and dry indicator. There are tons of well meaning people that don't know how to train or care for a dog. Lack of knowledge doesn't mean someone is LV. There are also many genetic factors to a dog's behavior. It is not all training or all genetics. You can do everything right, and due to genetics, still end up with a dog who isn't stellar. Some behaviors, especially those that deal with aggression or fear, take years to rehabilitate. Then you have to consider … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:59 AM |
| 26 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesThis topic pisses off scrotes SOOOOO much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:56 AM |
| 10 | Saw post earlier about a sis learning day tradingI know nothing about this, but yes I need to learn as well. I don't even have a portfolio. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:41 AM |
| 12 | How do I get off of this crazy train?Don't tell him you want to leave or that you're going to leave. Prepare and have a plan. Then go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:40 AM |
| 2 | My LVM-ex keeps contacting me lately and it is making me anxiousKeep a record of every time he tries to contact you. Evidence just in case. Video it if he shows up in person. Store a hard copy on your computer and/or flashdrive AND keep a copy in the cloud. Practice good password hygiene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 05:17 AM |
| 4 | I need advice.Make several lists. The first is the list of what you need to survive. Home, car, food, etc. Write the minimum budget for each of these things. You HAVE to have this sorted out before you can spring your divorce trap. Next write a list of your support system. These would be people you could go to in an emergency who would legitimately have your back. Get their contact info if needed, write it all down physically. Next plan on getting a job or something. You need money to leave. Your job at your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 05:04 AM |
| 9 | Homeboy thought he could disrespect me on a date, so I walked out.I wouldn't have even made excuses. Just up and leave. I'm not putting up with that shit. Good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 09:47 PM |
| 7 | Please keep this in mind, marrying a man should be a choice, not a necessity!Do it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:38 AM |
| 20 | "Why do you hate men?"Women have adapted and evolved as a species. They are overwhelmingly more civilized, more able to peacefully coexist in society. The funny thing is that in some ape societies (I think it's baboons, but it could be bonobos, or god knows what idk) the females are the ones who keep the peace and pretty much get the males to kiss and make up after there is a conflict. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:27 AM |
| 11 | "Why do you hate men?"Not all dogs bite, but all dogs can bite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:21 AM |
| 39 | "Why do you hate men?"notallmen - the popular useless phase these males spout. The people who deny these things are absolute morons with their head in the sand. I bet zero of them have stood up for women when their mates are busy reducing someone to a set of tits to jerk off to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | FDS = SimplicitySame. Getting better each day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 8 | About a month ago I posted about a first date where the guy insisted that I pay for myself. This weekend I went on one of the most extravagantly lovely dates I've ever had with another manTime will tell, I wouldn't worry too much about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:56 PM |
| 65 | About a month ago I posted about a first date where the guy insisted that I pay for myself. This weekend I went on one of the most extravagantly lovely dates I've ever had with another manThere is a huge amount of him trying to impress her. Not really a red flag, but sometimes men throw fucking everything they've got a the wall, turns out it's a facade and they turn out to have done it because of fear because the woman is out of their league. They wanted a higher chance at a "sure thing". Of course this isn't sustainable for them and they end up being time wasters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:50 PM |
| 70 | Girlfriend pranks boyfriend by leaving porn open on his laptop, while knowing he also watches porn. The way he reacts shows that men know how that it’s wrong to be placed in second place sexually.Men are hypocrites when it comes to sex. They want to be able to do everything and anything they want to do sexually, while restricting the woman. The stories of "my spouse won't do X with me sexually" are mainly women wanting to have a goddamn orgasm. Which their partners take offense to when it's clear that they don't even try to help give her one or have the slightest care in doing with her. It's fucking ridiculous. Hateful double standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣Yes. Normalized things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:44 PM |
| -1 | Question for women 25yo+ who dated an older man (35+) in their teens or their early 20s: how do you feel right know about this man and the relationship?My parents fully supported my marriage to mine and our age gap was close to that big. He was sweet, loving, and caring. Golden boy. Why is this getting downvoted? That's the side he showed to them and fooled them with. Even after everything they still view him like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Question for women 25yo+ who dated an older man (35+) in their teens or their early 20s: how do you feel right know about this man and the relationship?I had an age gap relationship. It was 9 years. Began when I was 18. I left for the military and felt very secure with him at the time. Of course there were red flags, but we could beat it right? He didn't groom me I don't think. But fuck was he a LVM. I stayed for much longer than I should have because I was naive and thought that our relationship was just developing, that I was still learning and perhaps not doing things right. Nope, he was just low value. she experienced sexual abuse from olde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:00 AM |
| 16 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.:/ I'm very disappoint. Those literally look like jeans that are great to wear. Are we expected to paint jeans onto ourselves all the goddamn time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.So high waisted jncos? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:42 AM |
| 22 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.Maybe the bar will circle back around once it gets low enough /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:40 AM |
| 28 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.I think it's hilarious because literally the only way someone can get a dad bod is by being A SHITTY DAD. Sitting on the couch, drinking beer to fill that gut. Go make some goddamn memories with your kid instead of using the good air up in the house. Build something for them. Play with them, have an adventure, go do dad things with your child!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:39 AM |
| 28 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.gut the size of the moon Killed me lol. Truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:36 AM |
| 9 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.mom jeans What is this? Do you mean high waisted jeans or like riding jeans? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:35 AM |
| 25 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣In hindsight I don't think I've ever met a man in my life who really wanted to grow with his partner or really be with them in the way that we actually want. My ex for example through that sitting on the couch for hours watching a movie was doing something with me. We didn't talk about the movies, he'd clam up, it was never mentioned again. No cuddling. It was terrible. So I just started working, or playing games on my laptop, or literally getting up and doing chores because they were all prefer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:29 AM |
| 12 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣This was me in my marriage. Husband started to crumble when there were actual expectations put on him. Tantrum throwing the whole while. It was pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:23 AM |
| 10 | Nooo!!:( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:49 AM |
| 3 | "Where can you lead me? Not up."I can hear the wheels turning from here. Lol. LVM got wrecked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:45 AM |
| 5 | Just another manipulation tactic!Not only that but then HIS feelings get hurt. Poor baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:42 PM |
| 23 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesThis is similar to my own ex husband. He was perfectly capable of being nice, level headed, helping out, hard and dedicated worker. But he wasn't capable of doing basic shit. Holding a conversation with me. Acting interested. Being respectful. Working on his anger. Not sucking down beer like water. This list could go on. I stayed longer than I should have because I was ashamed of what my family would think. To them he was this perfect golden boy. A catch. To me he was neglectful, aggressive, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 02:20 AM |
| 11 | This is actually a very valid question. Why is it that men feel so entitled as to assume that a women will prioritize him over her father, but he doesn’t reciprocate that same energy while prioritizing his wife over his mother?I've never thought about this before in the slightest, but it's totally true. Dad (a good one) steps back and lets the children fly off on their own. No fucking problem. Never once in my life has my dad even crossed my mind when it came to my marriage or my priorities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Men don't get itTruth. Not only that, plenty of people would want you to want that same man and entertain bearing his offspring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Men don't get itRight? They are in so much denial they have to make shit up as to why we're the issue lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:25 PM |
| 8 | No choice but online dating during corona virus. Advice needed online datingGet a fish. Or a plant. Or a dog. Or a cat. Or a bird. Or a turtle. Or a new hobby. All of them are better than a man. If you feel lonely and hurting without a man, you're not ready for one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:23 AM |
| 85 | Never settle for a man who acts annoyed or grossed out by your period!It blows my mind that there are so many men out there who anything like this wouldn't even occur to them. Surprise your woman with things!!! You're supposed to be the provider of more than just a limp sausage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:20 AM |
| 21 | Men don't get itI don't think many of them can comprehend what they read anyways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:17 AM |
| 19 | Men don't get itI don't really care either, it's not like I can change it, but it's something that is funny/sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:16 AM |
| 1 | He’s at the top 10% on the income bracket, I am no where near that... help, please.I could in a heartbeat. Think of all the ways that the money could be used for good. I could improve the lives of so many with that kind of money and create a lasting impact for the community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:46 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever been with someone who gets so disturbed youre “unhappy” they can’t listen to the problemMy ex husband would tell me I was lying when I tried to share my emotions/perspective. He could not fathom that it was the truth at all. Total loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:19 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever been with someone who gets so disturbed youre “unhappy” they can’t listen to the problemIt's not that they get stuck on you're not happy. It's that they take your unhappiness as a personal attack and personal failure. Their brain then shuts the fuck down. As much as I hate to say it, it has so little to do with the person who actually has the damn problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:18 AM |
| 8 | Advice on breaking up with someone emotionally manipulative?/u/sprsver Do this, but have the number for the non emergency police in your phone. When your boyfriend starts pitching a fit, tell him that if he doesn't calm down, you are calling the cops. Then all you have to do is pretty much push a button. Or you could pretend to call them if you're not comfortable with actually calling. You're not playing around anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:24 AM |
| 4 | Please give me your thoughts on this because this infuriated me. All of our issues are because we are fat ladies. Not bc men are low value. This issue is our weight 🙄😒It is saddening. They're mainly a big group of toddlers that never grew up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:27 AM |
| 13 | Please give me your thoughts on this because this infuriated me. All of our issues are because we are fat ladies. Not bc men are low value. This issue is our weight 🙄😒I think men pretty much just want wives as mainly a status symbol as well as potentially someone to be jerk off material (at least for a while). It's also been discussed here that they do marry out of convenience. Everything just revolves around their dicks and their egos. It's so pathetic it makes me want to puke. I feel sorry for them on some levels. But mainly disgusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:25 AM |
| 15 | I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this.I’m sorry but if he already told her he doesn’t want a relationship and she still did this for 6 months, that’s stupid. There is no way he really told her this. We all know that men will be opportunistic given the chance. He said himself "we could have continued this for years". So I really find it difficult to believe that he would have clearly told her and communicated that he didn't want a relationship. It sounds much more like he was stringing her along and then tried to blame it all on her.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:57 AM |
| 1 | I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this.The level of entitlement. Fucking gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:54 AM |
| 39 | Someone teach men how to have an engaging personality!I mean they're so obsessed with each other more than with actually being valuable as people. Mindless circlejerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:39 AM |
| 2 | How disgusting! This douchebag really thinks the world wide web revolves around him. 🤮What the fuck kind of mental gymnastics is this? What's this guy have to say about dads with pics of their kids? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 10:35 AM |
| 4 | Tea and ConsentThose are all the people who realized they had sex with people who didn't consent and were unhappy about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 05:09 AM |
| 8 | Living alone tipsI was thinking maybe if I wear a head covering (I am Muslim) men would leave me alone I think this might put a target on your back, maybe if you can, plain jane is a better tactic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:40 AM |
| 11 | JFC...Scrotes mad but trigger warning felt more accurate.This is some seriously bipolar anger. Ping ponging between "you're a slut" and "I'm jacking off thinking about your huge tits" and then back..... How are men like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 9 | If all men are "visual" then why do so many of them put no effort in their looks? If they are all about visuals, why don't they try to look good. I'm sure there's a mirror at their home. How can so many men dissect women for every detail, yet they cannot see how much they themselves can improve?Dude my ex husband couldn't even do his house chores with fucking reminders on his phone. Somehow he "didn't notice". Funny though he could notice all sorts of things when it came to playing guitar or video games. EW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 04:57 AM |
| 5 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...Not to mention most men are intimidated by horses when it comes to actual riding. Having to trust something that could kill you and isn't a machine... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:49 AM |
| 6 | Was an inexperienced pickme, can I salvage the relationship?He's serious about me But then he doesn't even look at me when I come sit next to him or bring him food, and it depresses me. even if I cook for him every day and take care our home more, he doesn't ever pay for me for example, not even a coffee, nada Leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 11:33 PM |
| 31 | Being on this sub is making me realize I might not be attracted to menThis is exactly how I feel. I have also never been with a HVM, yet. I don't feel attraction to men really, just a general low level disgust for the most part. Yeah some may be nice to look at, but interactions and personalities are often so shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:52 PM |
| 15 | Man tries to get his girlfriend to sell the condo she worked her ass off for so he can take the money and be put on the deed since his is shitty and he can’t benefit from the one solely in her name. He tries to guilt her into selling by slut shaming her since she used stripper money.These patterns in arguments are exactly how you weed out LVM easily. It's not necessarily the subject matter, more so that he tries to turn the tables and tell her that SHE is the one overreacting etc, which is in fact his projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:39 PM |
| 28 | Don’t lie to me about your heightSame shit with their dicks too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | WHAT THE FI'm glad that so many people put this kind of shit on their profiles. Trash takes itself out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Divorced queens with kids who found love again: please share your story. I need inspiration, hope, and strength to follow through on my divorce.If you're lonely, get a dog. You can train a dog, they won't cheat on you, will always be happy to see you, will play with your kids, give you joy, love, make you laugh. A dog will never yell at you, hurt anyone without cause, belittle you, weaponize what you say to them in confidence. Most of them happily give you kisses and clean away your tears, supportive when you need them. They're also good at warming the bed, eating leftovers, and cuddling. A dog will never judge you after you've told the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 04:58 AM |
| 20 | The Abusive Man in Argumentsif you have expressed your wants & needs and they're still being ignored, there is no way for you to convince someone to care or change their behavior. I need this fucking tattoo'd onto me. Benefit of the doubt bites me in the ass every fucking time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:04 PM |
| 5 | Found my ex on Facebook Marketplace todayBut I mean, it actually serves a purpose and is useful.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:14 AM |
| 2 | Interesting video: Most men are gay-ishThose fragile male egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:55 AM |
| 24 | This post on Married Red Pill made me so fucking scared.I firmly believe that most men have ZERO clue of how to have sex any other way and it's very disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:33 AM |
| 1 | If he came with a mother like this, I’d be gone! 😂The reality is that it's likely he has issues from having a mother like that. Statistically speaking. And statistically speaking, as a man he most likely hasn't worked on them as an adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:53 AM |
| 138 | Woman har her jaw dislocated during sex w/ fiance. Doesn't want to tell friends in case they think bad about him.....LOL. Should I be worried What the fuck man. Is dislocating your jaw not enough of a red flag? I really don't understand this kind of shit. Reverse the roles and the man would be screaming bloody murder and actively seeking to obliterate her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:49 AM |
| 14 | In case you were wondering why men have zero self awareness, this study may shed some light- 67% of male and 25% of female participants opted to electrify themselves rather than sit alone in a room alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes. Men are a joke.This is seriously the silliest thing I have seen all week. Have these people really not ever done anything alone with their thoughts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:12 AM |
| 7 | Does physical attraction grow over time?No, it does not grow over time. When I met my first husband, he was at the low end of average. I was young and stupid. At no point in our relationship did I become more physically attracted to him. Granted he wasn't vomit worthy or anything, but the attraction never grew a single bit appearance wise. It did go downhill though when he started going downhill. This also made me realize that women are expected by society to not have physical standards while a man can list off all the physical traits… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:15 AM |
| 11 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.The fucking truth!! Don't forget the part where they blame their outburst on the woman too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:04 AM |
| 16 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.Truly I become more convinced by the day that the average male does not in fact have a brain. More like 2 braincells to rub together. This is like a the adult version of little boys doing shitty things to little girls because of "boys being boys" or "he's doing that to show you he likes you". Fucking ew. What a goddamn waste of that woman's time, energy, and joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:03 AM |
| 22 | What’s the best way to portray yourself online?As a mother fucking boss bitch. Doesn't matter really what you wear imo. The attention will always come because there are always going to be desperate guys who wank themselves to sleep crying every night. It's how you respond to that kind of thing that matters. Post what you want and what makes you feel good. Block the gross men or humiliate them back into their neckbeard nests. Personally I'm with others, I post to my comfort level. If I wouldn't be ok showing it to my family or for a stranger … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:53 AM |
| 5 | When someone crosses a boundary and threatens youIt's worse than them thinking they can take advantage, they think they are entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 07:22 PM |
| 41 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?he was a doting man, at least affectionately. Affection isn't going to feed you, besides you're cultivating that in spades for yourself anyways. NEXT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 01:04 PM |
| 9 | Self righteous woman condemns mothers for holding dead beat partners/fathers accountable. Defends her abusive ex’s reputation out of “respect”.This is sad. While I agree that there can be too much beating of a dead horse when you're talking about men in your past, but there is no reason not to call a spade a spade and make it known. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 11:17 AM |
| 48 | Please fuck the robot and leave me alone. No loss on my half.It's funny to me to think that men are so controlled by their sexual urges that this is almost a reality. How much more advanced would we be if there wasn't a patriarchy clouding everything up with their dicks, boners, and manchild behavior? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:29 AM |
| 35 | Please fuck the robot and leave me alone. No loss on my half.YEAS. So much this. Productivity in the home will go through the roof when there is a robot to do all of the piddly things around here. Now I don't have to focus on dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing, polishing, and can get on with my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:28 AM |
| 19 | Please fuck the robot and leave me alone. No loss on my half.Sounds like my first husband. Been there, done that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:25 AM |
| 6 | Please fuck the robot and leave me alone. No loss on my half.This will be great. The losers will stop reproducing because they're all busy fucking machines! And I bet this is going to be something they'd all be proud of too, so that would make it super obvious for us. Less trash to wade through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:24 AM |
| 25 | Actual Female Hate Subs being banned? Is this real?!Why the fuck wouldn't they? It's all run by whiney limp dicks I bet, and they don't care about the content, just money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:16 AM |
| 5 | My HV boyfriend knows I post here. Scrotes can cry about it.That's one of the things that I don't get. I guess maybe I still have some rose-colored glasses, but I honestly have trouble believing that so many men on reddit are dumb enough to confuse this with a hate sub. And yet there seems to be an absolutely massive quantity of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Can a man in his late 30s still learn cleaning habits?Nope. Not going to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 09:18 PM |
| -6 | He is busy with workLearning more info and how to use a guy is where this is coming from. There is much to be said about stringing along a posse by the nose and using all of them simultaneously. Dumb fox tactics would advocate this as well. And if you're into science, this is essentially a basic Skinner box scenario. We all have our different goals though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:36 AM |
| 1 | "No one is going to put up with my son" -- straight from the horse's mouth.Dude, people can't even raise puppies right. Not a shock that they're fucking up the men. At the same time I don't think a man can properly be raised without the right male figures in their lives. Mom might do everything she could, but a man can't learn what it means to be a man without a man. Perspectives and experiences are very different between genders. On the other hand neither do I think a good man can come from a family without some sort of mother figure. There will be holes either way im… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 04:51 AM |
| 22 | It's NOT about age, it's how you carry & care for yourselfAnd photoshop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 04:40 AM |
| 7 | Picking up my things from my cheating boyfriend's house. Ideas for how to revenge as my last goodbye?Revenge is a trait of a LVW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 04:05 AM |
| 9 | Is Hollywood brainwashing us?Men are in power. Of course they are going to tilt the odds in their favor. Portraying things from the male gaze, or how men would ideally like it to be is just a symptom of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:30 AM |
| 12 | Article: “She Isn’t High-Maintenance, You’re Just Low Effort”They can't see anything that's not from a sex driven perspective. Breaks their brains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 03:16 AM |
| 8 | FDS works and I’m bummedknew he wasn’t my fish and exited himself. This is liberating though! Yes it may hurt, but right now that's just highlighting where your self improvement may be if you so choose. Anyone who doesn't fit into this, will make their exit themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 07:24 AM |
| 20 | This wealthy 38M has strict requirements for the privilege of dating him. Too many to post, but “female applicants” must answer ALL questions (A-Z) to even be considered. It’s written like a business proposal, but I’ve seen less strict RFP’s in sales 🤣Of course it would be! Easy to groom someone that young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:39 AM |
| 4 | Straight to degradationWhy did this man even get a reply of any sort? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:32 AM |
| 143 | Cool Girl Explains Why She’s Better Than Us Because She’s Okay Accepting Less Than We AreI like how she picks a single part of the required reading to pick apart without going any deeper. The sub spells out that it's geared towards getting relationships that are beneficial to women. It's in plain english, yet she's somehow shocked when any of these benefits are mentioned, or that it's suggested we take advantage of them. I find it fairly funny that she struggles with identifying the difference between wants and needs. It's really quite obvious that a HVW doesn't need a man, but also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:10 AM |
| 24 | What would you do if a man were too shy or intimidated to ask you out?There's no reward without risk. If a guy don't understand that it's bad news. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 05:31 AM |
| 41 | What would you do if a man were too shy or intimidated to ask you out?No. Guys who are intimidated by you, that's pretty much the last thing you'd ever want to hear from someone. They're not saying "wow you're so awesome because of you're accomplishments", they're instead saying "I feel weak/bad/insecure/negatively because of your accomplishments". The latter NEVER leads to anything good. Men are shit with working out internal conflicts and tend to take the past of least resistance, which often means hurting you to spare themselves. Shyness too, just ew. Not that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 05:30 AM |
| -1 | It'S okay to hate him. He knows what he did wrong. You are not crazy.Is Hate really a feeling that we as HVW want to entertain? It takes a lot of energy to hate someone, that could be better spent elsewhere. Not that it's not a valid feeling, but it's way more efficient to just move the fuck on and not waste time hating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone recommend The Robber Bride by Margaret Atwood?What makes you say that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:39 AM |
| 3 | I fucked up and approached a LVM about "dating" and now he's spooked and I think it's finishedYou didn't get rejected though. He just can't afford you. Stop barking up the wrong tree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 07:00 AM |
| 6 | Why do men not ask women out on dates anymore?Behaviors that persist are ones that are rewarded. They are getting something out of it. Whether this is LVW accepting these kinds of propositions, or to lessen the sting of rejection, there is something about this strategy that works enough for them to continue to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:42 AM |
| 1 | And PUA think women need to give men tests to work out if they are useless. Life is the test.It comes down to effort. In dog training, I want my dog to put forth as much effort in the activities that I want, when I want. This is a process. If I'm shutting the dog down for making attempts, it doesn't take long at all before you get a dog that doesn't try, or needs to be bribed and you'll never make it to the end goal. Preserving effort and molding it into the places you want it is critical with men and dogs. No one is saying we should pity them for not knowing(don't know where you got th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 08:50 PM |
| 3 | And PUA think women need to give men tests to work out if they are useless. Life is the test.Absolutely, but generally you can tell if someone is doing this fairly easily. In my experience they are lazy individuals and they get this out of their system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 07:17 PM |
| 6 | Book reccomendations for former pickmeishas?Book and resource list | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 09:08 AM |
| 21 | And PUA think women need to give men tests to work out if they are useless. Life is the test.The good news is that he wanted to be helpful. This kind of person can be taught. Not saying it's up to us to teach, but there's a pretty big difference between someone that's just under educated and willing, than someone that is just a bag of turds and won't under any circumstances be helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 09:06 AM |
| 8 | How to to weed out any LVMThere should be a strict boundary though between single and engaged to be married. Having this boundary massively weeds out LVM. If you don't have it you are essentially giving away wife benefits without real and tangible commitment. The same with the emotional support. Women easily give too much because we fall into mothering roles. Unless his mother died, that's literally what his mother and family is for. Not to say that there shouldn't be any, but it's a slippery slope if you're giving suppo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 02:18 AM |
| 13 | Does anyone recommend The Robber Bride by Margaret Atwood?For better or worse, surrogate mothers choose to be surrogates. No one is twisting their arm or forcing them. Not saying that it makes it right, but imo it's not really creepy. Would be a different story if this was against someone's will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:59 AM |
| 2 | My boyfriend recently gain 20 lbs and I no longer find him attractive. He still a lot of qualities I like but I can’t be with someone I don’t find attractive. What is a good way to handle this situationModel the behavior you want to see. Get yourself to the gym and model a healthy diet. Ignore anything that you don't want to see. You've told him your expectations. He can either get on board or be left behind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 06:58 AM |
| 2 | Found one MDS is just how to play FDS to their advantageLol. Yes apparently whether you behave as a HVM or a LVM is a matter of flipping a switch. You can paint stripes on a Donkey all you want, won't make it any more of a zebra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 06:47 AM |
| 3 | “We can’t always control what happens to us, but we CAN control how we respond”.....His methods are entirely force based and not grounded in science. In the real dog training world we often refer to him as "job security". Honestly it's sickening to watch the show. There is a lot that goes on behind cameras(abuse) that makes the dogs suddenly appear compliant. The reality is that those dogs are all in a state of shock/trauma, which, to those that don't know better, looks like they're behaving in a natural fashion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 06:16 AM |
| 4 | “We can’t always control what happens to us, but we CAN control how we respond”.....This is a major aspect of dog training. A dog can't tell us about their traumatic past. We can only help them work through it. It's a state of DO rather than WHY. Doing is what will make the training progress. Why doesn't help anything. Same goes for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Travel buddies?Yes, where to? Pm me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Strategy: How to handle "wanna hang out?"how do you know he won’t think you are trying to tell him that you want a FWB situation? Because this isn't the only communication that you have with the guy. There should be plenty of other things that make FWB a complete non option. Dumb fox method is superior to being blunt imo. Allows you to avoid conflict and really lets you wrap a guy around your finger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 09:11 PM |
| 29 | Strategy: How to handle "wanna hang out?""Oh yeah! Like friends!" or "Yes, that sounds like fun with a friend!" Something that makes it seem like you're not aware that the guy would like this to be a sexual/relationship thing and subsequently puts him in the friend zone. The guys actually interested in you don't want to be in the friend zone at all, and will change their tactics to try to get what they want. All while feeling like they're in control. Not to say that you can't be blunt about it, but there are other strategies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 04:40 AM |
| 5 | Heart breakingThis lady should pretend like she's going to give this guy a hand job, get a hand all up in there, and then rub that shit on his face. Bonus points if her pukes. And for everyone recoiling at the idea, that's the exact response I'd want from this asshole. Enough is enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 06:00 AM |
| 5 | I find it really disappointing that this sub is so hated on RedditInstead of rising up to be a better, more desirable man, they just choose to whine about FDS. People abhor changing themselves for the most part. Nature operates on a "don't fix what isn't broke" mentality, so even a minuscule amount of success will create persistent behaviors. This is also coupled with human nature of not being able to effectively weigh long term future gains with short term ones. So shit behavior on both sides of the coin. It's just as easy to say, why don't most women choose … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 03:19 AM |
| 4 | LVM wants an entrapreneur girl to build a business with but he is scared she might be too independent. DO NOT BE BECKY THE BUILDERI totally think that someone should take advantage of this guy and pull the rug out from under him. Her business now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 03:11 AM |
| 5 | The 22 ConventionDirect from the site GET PREGNANT AND HAVE UNLIMITED BABIES! wtf? Women = baby factories = a woman's only worthy aspirations. What a JOKE. Also advertising that they'll teach you how not to be fat...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 09:27 PM |
| 0 | Being a "bonus mom"Can someone ELI5 this for me? Are we talking about surrogates? Step parents? This is confusing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Is porn cheating? A sweet answer.Men are opportunists and will tend to do things the easy way. Porn is the easiest thing in the world. Oh yeah, they also don't give much of a fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | What's dating culture like outside of the USA?What is the ratio to men like? I've heard that there seems to be more women in those areas so more competition over the men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:59 AM |
| 1 | What's dating culture like outside of the USA?It's a cycle of successes that they've had with LVW. Their confidence is boosted and their ego's really think they can get it done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:56 AM |
| 3 | What's dating culture like outside of the USA?There's a lot of boys will be boys attitude in the "old countries". Not surprising. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:50 AM |
| 5 | Did I find a HVM at 19? And should I stay with him or test out the waters?Not good enough to stay, not bad enough to leave is the phrase that comes to mind. Settling at 19, holy cow. I don't know if it's worth throwing away such an amaizing guy for some adventures. How else are you going to develop yourself? It's not throwing him away, that's the wrong way to look at all of this. You want to be the best you can(hopefully). How can you achieve your full potential if you have someone that may be holding you back? How can you even discover what your full potential is whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Did I find a HVM at 19? And should I stay with him or test out the waters?Brain doesn't stop developing until 25-ish. What you see now is not what you're going to get later and there's a ton of growth and changes still to come in both of you. Age is a factor here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | how do you get over misogynistic kinks you havemen who want to get off This is the core of the issue, fetishes or no. The sad part is that the men with fetishes are just generally fucked in the head and can't function sexually anymore. Porn sick x 1000 and fucked in other ways too. I feel bad for them on some levels, but they're also disgusting as hell too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 08:21 PM |
| 22 | NSFW: List of LVM fetish red flagsRepent and what though? Polished turd is still a turd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 08:16 PM |
| 43 | NSFW: List of LVM fetish red flagsHVM won't have problematic fetishes. I've been in and out of the BDSM community at times and in my experience the majority of the men that have fetishes or kinks are LVM that are porn sick. They do not have the fetishes for the same reasons that a woman might, and in my experience it's always coming from an unwanted place. Imo a HVM will have your pleasure first and foremost, to an extent where fetishes don't cross his mind at all about you. Ideally he doesn't have fetishes because he doesn't th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 08:15 PM |
| 1 | how do you get over misogynistic kinks you haveThis is how I feel too. I think people read into it too deep when they start slinging labels and assumptions around about sexual trauma and the like. I had kinks/preferences before knowing what sex was at around the same age. I didn't realize that they were even kinks until I was in my teens and I was also shocked. Much of my kinks are all about sensation rather than anything misogynistic or being hurt/degraded. I personally think that a lot of them are merely preferences; after all I'm sure tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Men who dislike animals and especially cats are a red flagSounds like you're a Rover sitter or through some other site, and let me tell you that you're getting the bottom of the barrel pets. Not that it's a cakewalk, but the majority on there will fucking suck the life right out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:47 AM |
| 8 | Men who dislike animals and especially cats are a red flagI don't like cats, because I really don't think they are hygienic to have in the house(tracking litter box paws everywhere), and if they're outside they're a huge detriment to native birds and the like. So as far as pets go they're not for me. Probably on the same level of rodents. Personality wise they're alright and I don't mind them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 04:18 AM |
| 28 | Made me chuckle. Accurate!I don't find this accurate in the slightest. All these cats look several times better than the average 40yo man on any dating app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 04:01 AM |
| 20 | What are your biggest pet peeves from men’s OLD profiles?TIL the reason why men wolf whistle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 02:24 AM |
| 23 | What are some hobbies I can fake?The more vague you can be the better. "I'm taking some time that day to be awesome" "I like to take time for myself" or simply "I'm busy". Being mysterious is much better than fakery or lying. Being able to brush off their neediness without giving details will make them a little less needy. After all they didn't actually get the answer they wanted and so will change gears. You don't owe them any answers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 02:54 AM |
| 86 | I work in customer service and I’m tired of dealing with gross menThey confuse polite manners for sexual interest. That's how warped men are these days. Also, no shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Not sure how to handle thisMake all the conversation about his gf and the kid. Act baby crazy. Talk about all going on to lunch/dinner with each other, how you've always wanted to meet the gf. Ask point blank for her number so you can text her in front of him. If he doesn't give it, ask other members in the group if they have it. If that's a no, get a "bright idea" that you can find her on facebook and don't need the guy's help anyway. No where should you say you're going to out him, act too dumb for that, but move quickl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 11:23 PM |
| 2 | What does a HVM in his early twenties look like?You're right and that's a great point, thank you. Multitasking is fantastic when you're working on a solid education, a great career, enjoying youth, potential travel and personal growth. This is how we develop the best habits that will follow us through life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 06:18 PM |
| 10 | I don’t understand why it is so rare to find a guy willing to be or work towards becoming a HVM. Is it because they just don’t know what love is?It isn't a big mystery. We as women have been conditioned to try our hardest to please men. A lot of the time we convince ourselves that if we do just a little more, give a little more, some light will go off in the guy's brain and they will reciprocate. What a fucking lie. Why would anyone do 100% when they can get the same prize by doing 50%? We see this all the time in dog training. Your standards are unclear or you accept less from your dog, they quickly adjust to giving you the least amount… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 07:27 AM |
| 10 | What does a HVM in his early twenties look like?Personally I think a young woman in her early twenties should be working on being as leveled up as possible and not yet even thinking about men. A solid education, a great career, enjoying youth, potential travel and personal growth. If you have someone to do those things with, great, but that's just the sprinkles on the cupcake. Brains don't stop physically changing until mid twenties. Biologically it doesn't really make sense to really look for a serious relationship before then because of thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 07:06 AM |
| 17 | Another Reminder to NEVER, yes NEVER, tell men your sexual history. Their little scrote brains can’t handle it and it will become an object of their continuous fixation.And even if it is zero they STILL judge you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend and video games:, keep, compromise, what to do?!This then totally does change the context. Odd that he went from dicking around to now being perfect..... Something is up with OP. Not to say that there isn't something wrong with the guy, but this sounds like there's way more depth than OP is providing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:25 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend and video games:, keep, compromise, what to do?!But OP clearly feels it's too much gaming, so I'm getting the vibe that he might not really be balancing it all that well... We have to remember that OP has also been deeply traumatized by her ex and the gaming is triggering to a certain extent. This may magnify how much of an issue it it, and I'd be shocked if it doesn't have an impact. OP isn't yet at a baseline state and I think that is something she has to work on before really bringing this issue up with the bf. Until OP knows how much of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 05:48 AM |
| 34 | Boyfriend and video games:, keep, compromise, what to do?!This is a level up situation. Ask your bf what his schedule is like for his game, and schedule things for yourself during those times that get you out of the house and doing something you love to do. I am not trying to minimize your past trauma at all and think it's very unfortunate. I too suffer from a similar anxiety that revolves around men drinking any amount of alcohol. To combat this I do the thing that I recommend above. Complete removal of myself from the situation and focusing on things… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Telling a guy to cool otLearning theory across many animals is the same. Reward what you like is pretty much all you have to do along with being consistent. It really is dead simple if you are able to logically think about things and keep your emotions in check or at least compartmentalize them a bit. Goal always in mind!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:37 PM |
| 12 | Telling a guy to cool otA dog will abandon strategies that don't work. So do men. What you'd see is an extinction burst, which is a sharp increase in the unwanted behavior(clingy/smothering behavior) which is then followed by less and eventually extinction of that behavior. As long as OP is consistent, this will happen. The great thing about FDS is that we reward what we want to see, and the guys that can't even make it to that point quickly get weeded out. Source: Am dog trainer, learning theory applied to them works … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 08:32 AM |
| 2 | What happens after you let them have it?I just remember telling him all the ugly things about himself and how he treated me and he had this look on his face... like... remorse? They do have feelings, and they can feel them. However recognizing and feeling bad about one's actions is a completely different thing than actually being able to change who you are. Having the ability to do one doesn't speak to your skill in the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 08:39 AM |
| 27 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?No. You never should be going with any man on a date when you don't have an escape or way to leave the instant you want. Do not give anyone that level of control. Use Uber or something else. Plus it creates the situation that you're asking about. They figure they can get away with the planning in the car on the way. Yuck. Any date is him trying to impress you. Not even putting in the effort to do that is crummy. There's time for surprises later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:28 AM |
| 11 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?I don't understand, what/where would you be showing up to if there's no plan? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 8 | Should I leverage my virginity when dating or should I explore my sexuality and find the best match?It doesn't really matter if you're nonchalant about it or not. No man will ever tell you what he really thinks about virgins regardless if you are one or not. Yes there are some out there that don't care, but many, many, many of them have fucked up conditioning that will change how they view you, and thus change the relationship. Better to make yourself familiar with your body. Get a dildo or two + vibrator. Find out what lube you like best that doesn't mess up your pH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 05:06 AM |
| 16 | Should I leverage my virginity when dating or should I explore my sexuality and find the best match?I wouldn't at all divulge you're a virgin. Many men view that as being another notch on their belt and will just pump and dump. Personally I don't think your strategy would be really that different at all than anyone else here, you'd just go at whatever speed makes you comfortable. You're only open to the vulnerabilities of your choosing. If you don't want a guy to weaponize things, do not give him anything to weaponize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 04:28 AM |
| 11 | When a pornsick loser encounters the reality of women's bodies: AITA for deciding to ban my boyfriend from the delivery room after finding out him and his brother were placing bets on my labor and delivery?This is saddening to me. There are so many deluded women and their children end up paying for their mistakes one way or another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:30 AM |
| 5 | I need an FDS angle on this situationIf you focus on making a small change a day, that'd put you 365 away from where you were when this stuff all happened. I looked at your comment history out of curiosity and I can empathize with what looks to be fairly complex. Leveling up even small things would help overall lessen your burdens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:19 AM |
| 13 | I need an FDS angle on this situationA year is a long time to be still stuck on this. What have you been doing to level up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:11 AM |
| 7 | The Myth That Men Really Want to Please Women But Are Bad At Sex Because Women Don’t “Communicate Enough” 🙄Why is this shocking? Sex ed doesn't continue for men and they're taking their cues from porn, which unfortunately is highly reinforcing for them. They're simple animals like dogs, opportunistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 07:32 PM |
| 3 | This text my ex husband sent me while on his way to meet his side chick to discuss their future together. I was giddy thinking he might be planning a much needed romantic date for us. Surprise! He packed a bag and walked out two days later. Protect yourselves.I wish this was something that these types learned from, but frankly I think they're more likely to cry about being the victim of their own actions when it bites them in the ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 07:28 PM |
| 1 | How can I stop myself comparing to his ex and feel insecure?I am a super insecure person because my father always compared me to other girls Don't be your father. If it was so great with her they would be together. I agree with others that have said you need to practice or cultivate ways to see yourself more clearly. Practice hobbies, read, do things alone. See what you're capable of and build on that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 04:55 AM |
| 2 | FDS and kinksI'm not bashing the sub or anything, just think there is a lack of in depth discussion on this front. Loads and loads of information about being independent in other facets, but somehow sexual independence looks a little left out to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 04:14 AM |
| 2 | FDS and kinksClothed/partially clothed sex though can be considered degrading depending on what light you're looking at it in. On the face of it it does look very benign but if you analyze it deeper the clothing itself can hold significance(like if you're dressed for roleplay or in lingerie), as well as the being clothed bit. I feel like kinks like that have a much more psychological component than say spanking, which is more to do with sensation imo. Which I think is why this is a more complex issue. But ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 04:11 AM |
| 6 | FDS and kinksThis is what I figured but even something like fishnets can be degrading. And some things fall into a grey area, like butt slapping/spanking, so I'm not so sure that it's as simple as that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:58 AM |
| 1 | FDS and kinksI think generalizing all kinks into paraphilia is a bit much A paraphilic interest is generally defined as a sexual interest in an atypical target (e.g., articles of clothing, children) or activity (e.g., hurting a partner, looking at an unsuspecting person); when this interest becomes long-standing, persistent, and necessary for sexual enjoyment, it is considered a paraphilia source I agree that paraphilia would be a problem, but I don't think there's an epidemic or anything like that. So then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:55 AM |
| 8 | FDS and kinksThis is what I'm talking about. Fishnets for example are 'more tame' but still, they're associated with low value women/prostitutes. Stockings are associated with school girl uniforms, and thus school girls. Men who use prostitutes or prey on young girls are not seen as being normal. So that's the dilemma, is that a lot of kinks can be traced directly back to taboos/perversion without necessarily being physically harmful to either party. The vibe that I get from FDS is that there aren't really a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:16 AM |
| 5 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedWhat are the differences that you find with American men if any? Or rather, those not raised in that culture. I'm wondering the differences in strategy too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 12:49 AM |
| 10 | He canceled, should I give him the benefit of the doubtLet me get this straight No car his text being uninteresting or low effort He doesn't reply until Monday and says he has no other days available. He's not making this work. A guy that wants you will make time or offer up alternatives, not just say he's unavailable. It's the day of the date. He texts me at 10 am: Why wasn't this a higher priority loose end to tie up? when I'm not super stressed out To me this sounds like he finds you stressful or the dates stressful or burdening in some fashion. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 09:38 PM |
| 24 | Am I supposed to be having fun dating?Dating is practice for you, it's a test for men. It's not my problem if this guy makes a mistake. It's only my problem if I do. You're in control of how fast things go, and if parts of it are stressful, take some time for yourself. When you're confident in yourself and fds, it is fun. Make it a game. Dick is cheap. There will ALWAYS be a replacement for a man. You're complete without a man, you're engineering the situations to be ones you want to be in, you can walk away at any time and lose lit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Am I wasting my time? 18Fwhat do I do and am I wasting my time?? Read all of the recommended reading. Decide where your standards are, stick to them. Personally I think that studying(not just school) and getting a solid routine down for your own upkeep is more important at this point in your life. Habits you make now, good or bad, will carry for a long time. Also it's worth mentioning that at your ages there is so much change and growth going on. He is going to be someone else as he ages, which may not be something wort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Are any other women here sick of attracting the nerdy, Reddit type of guy?It feels like you want to find one who has other hobbies besides playing and that is probably found easier by doing those other hobbies. This is key. Video games are designed to be addictive, so if that's the only hobby he's got, then things don't look good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 06:36 PM |
| 12 | I would rather die alone than settleI think a lot of loneliness comes from people not being happy with themselves, so need others to either serve as a distraction or to prop them up. At least with myself I've noticed a correlation over time between my amount of self love and loneliness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 12:17 AM |
| 1 | How do you know when to quit?Like I said a good period of separation sounds good. But to me it’s like he wouldn’t even care It's actually kind of funny(in a not funny way) that you mention this because I've tried it in the past. It's not an issue at all for him if I'm around or not. One example: I had a 4 month stint of trade school in a different state; he didn't even greet me when he came down to the graduation. It was very awkward. We kept in contact while I was down there, or rather, I would message/call/email him. He d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 10:47 PM |
| 1 | How do you know when to quit?I do think it's depression, or something similar, and I've brought it up once or twice. He has scoffed at me. He's only self medicating with the alcohol, which as it so happens is a depressant. I'm not sure if he's abusive. He does have a temper and I have made a good target(not physically) for that at times. Everyone needs to vent and I chalked it up to those things. I do not feel that he tries to manipulate me or be controlling like I'd expect an abuser to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 10:28 PM |
| 3 | How do you know when to quit?I don't think I've been doing things conditionally. I also don't think I'm worrying too much about his problems; aren't they mine as well when they are affecting the marriage and our overall quality of life? I realize I'm not in control of his feelings and whatnot either, but I also know that as his spouse there should be some sort of support that I can give that will be, well, supportive in his times of need. My life is happy and fulfilled for the most part. The bits that make me unhappy is tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 04:21 AM |
| 3 | How do you know when to quit?Does emotional cheating count? There have been times when I've felt that he is being socially and emotionally fulfilled by outside sources more than with me. He can easily go for days without saying a meaningful word to me, not touching me, not looking in my direction. But when he's chatting with his friends in the office I can hear the tone of his voice through the door. Obviously he's having a good time, but I question why none of that exists towards me anymore, or with me. I try very hard to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 04:08 AM |
| 2 | How do you know when to quit?I’d lay everything on the table and talk about how you feel and how him not letting you in or feeling like a comfort in his life matters to him and most importantly appreciating the effort shown. I've done that in the past and it's never achieved anything. He generally leaves the conversation at some point like it's not worth his time or gets angry about it. As far as a separation goes, right now we're effectively roommates, at least to my eye. Sex has dwindled down to less than once a month, ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 03:59 AM |
| 2 | How do you know when to quit?Men want to be respected, admired, and needed. The thing is that I feel that I'm providing these things for him. I tell him that I'm proud of his accomplishments, and it's true. I admire the work he does since it's completely different than anything I do and he seems to do it effortlessly. As for a need, he is absolutely financially needed and I ask him to do various small things for me regularly and am always grateful that he has done whatever it is and make those feelings known. The trouble I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 03:53 AM |
| 1 | How do you know when to quit?I've kept myself as happy as I can. I've tried to provide happiness to him as well, and there have been times when we've both had fun together and had some level of happiness. I'm not sure when the last time was, 2 years ago at least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 03:48 AM |
| 2 | How do you know when to quit?He does come to you if you ask. Not happily. It is as if it is a burden to him, or unpleasant in some way. Every time I've asked him about this he assures me that he wants to spend time with me above most all else. But when I have the rare amount of free time he isolates himself as if I'm not there. I do not make myself unavailable so I'm not sure why his actions don't line up with his words. If you accept him as the introvert he is, and plainly tell him what you want, can you not be happy with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 03:44 AM |
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