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2	Having male friends The majority of my friend circle is male- I have two best friends I grew up with that are female but main 4 are guys. The four men I hang out with are also gay, so the laws of attraction aren’t at play here but they are men. I have a very close friend I grew up with who is straight- we dated off and on and my SO knows this. My SO doesn’t care and has never expressed concern- obviously now that we are older, further apart and have our own relationship, our friendship has changed, but he’ll be at …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/19 06:14 AM
10	When did you know he was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with So, this is definitely not as sweet as most people’s stories, but still part of our love story either way. About 2 months in I was having a lot of new relationship anxiety- I suffered pretty horrific abuse as a child at the hands of a family member and that, coupled with the shit show that was my previous relationship, made it hard for me to feel calm and steady in a relationship. Just as I was thinking of going into nun mode and take time to be single and get my head together, despite how perfe…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/19 01:58 PM
7	When did you know he was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with I too know more about Quidditch than football- a true anomaly in the south 😂	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/19 01:48 PM
2	Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you. Good idea! I’ve had treats sent to him from time to time (warm cookies, his favorite snack to share, etc) I’ll bake some goodies from scratch occasionally (we try to keep healthy stuff on hand/ not have a lot of sweets) but theyre so well taken care of there he honestly thinks it’s a waste of time to bring things to him- which is funny because this essentially boils down to him taking care of me while I’m trying to take care of him in a circle until I just now share/cook for my friends 😂	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/19 08:00 PM
1	Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you. I’ll check it out! But I think we’ll have to agree to disagree on this one. Every household is different and the intricacies of marriage and kids and finances can be finicky and I think we just have a different adult experience overall. My fiancé and I are pretty simple and non-extravagant, but we’d need to make significantly more money to have one of us stay home- higher cost of living area in an urban city (where the jobs are) and all that. But I’ll check out the book for sure- I love learning…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/19 07:31 AM
18	Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you. I’m so envious of women who are able to pack lunch and make breakfast! Acts of Service is definitely one of my love languages- and I love to cook! Unfortunately my SO doesn’t eat in the morning and isn’t interested in bringing lunch (his work provides food). I still get to make a beautiful dinner each night, but I want to participate damnit!	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/19 07:05 AM
15	Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you. Respectfully, I think it’s a little different because you’re not the wife in your scenario. You’re the daughter, if I recall correctly, so the household dynamic is completely different. I don’t disagree that not every household requires two incomes- I understand from first hand experience that cutting out some luxuries can result in making a SAHP possible- sometimes you gotta get creative! But not every family can make this work- first world or not- and part of being married is doing what’s best…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/19 07:02 AM
2	Parenting question - swearing Of course! I love children- can’t wait until we have our own and I get to share stories about their quirks!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/01/19 06:37 PM
28	Parenting question - swearing Not a parent- but I was a teacher for 3-6 year olds and studied early childhood education if you’re open to my non- parenting opinion. I think him making up baby gibberish swears IS him gracefully expressing himself. I think hearing a 5 year old slam his finger in the door and say “Ah, puppy ears!” to express the general feeling of “Ah shit, that was awful!” is not only healthy, but shows emotional intelligence for himself. I personally wouldn’t share “real” swears with him- not just from my per…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/12/18 05:27 PM
1	When to expect a proposal? Thank you! Back to your question: I don’t want to speak for all of America, especially without knowing the intimacies of your relationship, but I think we typically have a longer courtship/dating period before having the serious talks (barring more religious, conservative people or people who just “know”) has he brought up marriage in passing already? If not he might be signaling that it’s too soon but I would advise against bringing it up constantly, so once you speak your peace (“marriage is i…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/18 05:02 PM
3	When to expect a proposal? Honestly, this is can be a very cultural and regional thing. In my area, people eschew marriage children until much later, while people in Salt Lake City get married much younger so I think you’ll get a huge scale of information here for what is “normal” For me, I was with my fiancé for 6 years before we got engaged- we’re getting married on our 7th anniversary. For some women, they would have bounced a lonnnnnnng time ago, but for me I appreciate our longer courtship. In that time we’ve been to…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/18 06:54 AM
1	When to expect a proposal? I don’t know- she said he has that long to decide if HE wants to propose to HER. It might be a bit more delicate to say “for me to consider moving in, I would need to know a proposal was happening within the next two years” but I don’t think this is a bad conversation to have. I think if marriage is your end game (which it is for most women) having this unsexy, realistic talk is important. Because I don’t know this man enough on the first date to have a clear idea about when I should trust him e…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/18 06:46 AM
2	Division of labor at home? You inspired me first! :)	/r/RedPillWives	23/12/18 12:02 AM
8	Division of labor at home? "I think income has nothing to do with this, length of working days is what matters." I think is a fair way to look at it- because, at the end of the day, the money has very little to do with it while the physical ability to pitch in does. If I was working 40 hour weeks, making $40,000 a year and my husband was working 20 hours a week making $100,000 a year- it would just make sense that he help keep up the house a little more and pay more. I say this, because I make more money than my SO, but m…	/r/RedPillWives	22/12/18 08:44 PM
3	Division of labor at home? I’m ok with doing most of the cooking/housework because of our schedules- he works until 1 am some nights, so we adjust out of necessity. That said, I’m talking about deep cleaning (floors, bathroom, etc) he does his own laundry and definitely doesn’t just leave his stuff everywhere like a child (for the most part lol) I think honestly I’m a pretty easy going person- for me it’s a simple choice to either get worked up over something I knew when we met (he’s fine with some mess, I’m not) or try t…	/r/RedPillWives	22/12/18 05:31 PM
15	Division of labor at home? I’ve lived in a number of liberal areas my whole life- I’ve never heard anybody comment negatively on a SAHM. Even amongst my super feminist friends, we have SAHM and varying degrees of labor division so we’re all just excited when our friends find a life path that works. My fiancé and I both work full time- I’d say I do more of the labor at home because I have a higher standard for the home so I prefer to do it my way. He also works later than I do, so it makes sense to make dinner instead of m…	/r/RedPillWives	22/12/18 05:04 PM
2	Thoughts on public school? I mean- being a RPW doesn’t mean being some cookie cutter tradcon conservative Christian. It’s a toolbox to utilize in order to maximize your sexual strategy to get the partner you want. My fiancé and I both fall on the more liberal scale- we’re a gun free home, pro choice, non-religious and our circle of friends is made up of predominantly gay people. We still have a loving, red pill relationship built on my appreciation and respect for him and I show him loyalty on all fronts. I don’t agree wi…	/r/RedPillWives	20/12/18 05:25 AM
6	Thoughts on public school? It’s honestly why so many children from lower socioeconomic backgrounds are at a disadvantage right out the gate. Public schools are funded a number of ways- one of them is via the property taxes of the surrounding area. The property taxes for Beverly Hills are going to be exponentially higher than the property taxes for Compton and- social issues aside- the lower income areas just can’t keep up. It’s why schools ten miles apart from each other have a huge gap in quality of teachers, supplies an…	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 07:30 PM
4	Thoughts on public school? Most history is entwined with military history- that’s how things progressed in this world- I seriously doubt that your teacher taught you guys complex, military theory. So if you’re asking if my children will know what the military is- yes. Will they know how the U.S got into WW2? Yes. Will they know how to shoot a gun and raid a village? No. I would prefer that my child not join the military- but that’s because they would be in physical danger.	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:49 PM
3	Thoughts on public school? Military history & theory isn’t a subject taught in school. It’s taught, with or without your help, to a person when they enlist. Do you think army recruits show up with battlefield tactics on notecards and a “Guerilla Warfare for Dummies” book in their bag?	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:38 PM
7	Thoughts on public school? I don’t think they were created in education- I think we have slowly evolved away from that. Generally, men and women had the extreme version of this- if they received an education at all. I think the gender roles we do have in school are just leftovers from when when most schools/ colleges were for men only and women were taught by their mothers in the home to snag a man by 17.	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:35 PM
4	Thoughts on public school? Ah- we’ll if you’re looking for me to say that I think women shouldn’t receive the same basic education as men then I’m afraid I don’t share that belief. But, I think that comes from a difference in background between the two of us- hopefully if you do have a daughter you will be in a place 18 years from now to accept she might not be happy as a housewife and support/encourage her if needed. I might be a SAHM in the near future- so I’m not against it but my (traditional, very masculine) husband …	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:29 PM
6	Thoughts on public school? Yes- all of my domestic improvements happened outside of the classroom because they don’t teach home ec in college. I had an interest in learning how to be more frugal and careful- and I love cooking so that became a hobby- all stemming from the good ground work my mom laid. I also read a lot, so I tend to take the suggested reading list and run with it. But I don’t think STEM is one of those things you can virtually ignore and then become an expert in as an adult on your own, as a general rule.…	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:11 PM
7	Thoughts on public school? All of the basic ones I mentioned above. I can’t teach children about keeping their bodies healthy if I don’t know how the body works- so biology. I use math every day and apply knowledge from my computer science classes as well as my phychology classes almost daily. I’ve even had wonderful chats with my fiancé’s boss about astronomy- something I also learned from STEM- which I don’t use very often except for the odd conversation and when pointing things out while camping but it’s fun to talk to…	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 06:01 PM
5	Opinions about public school? As qualified as I am to teach my kids in a homeschool setting, my fiancé is 100% dead set against homeschooling in general. We’ll be sending our kids to public school, possibly private for preschool/kindergarten. From experience, there are a lot of failings in public schools but a lot of the things that prevent children from progressing as they should (nutrition, access to secondary educational support, parental involvement) can be undone at home so I’m not worried about it. Especially in our ar…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/18 05:53 PM
10	Thoughts on public school? I’ll jump in, since I studied early childhood education in college (which required a certain amount of STEM education for basic math) and taught children in both an early age classroom and a secondary school setting. I’m also super domestic by nature so could probably teach home ec lol If she ever wanted to go to college or have any sort of advanced placement in high school, she’d need to pass certain STEM courses. Mathematics up through Intermediate Algebra, Biology, Chemistry, Physics- these a…	/r/RedPillWives	19/12/18 05:39 PM
1	Meal for two ideas/ meal planning advice? Yep to all of this!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/18 11:07 PM
1	Meal for two ideas/ meal planning advice? Yep! We have a lot of kitchen stuff on our wedding registry that we haven’t gotten around to purchasing- to replace our less quality pieces.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/18 04:46 PM
1	Meal for two ideas/ meal planning advice? I love that cookbook! My favorite ones are also anything by Ina Garten- she has some a-z entertaining ones I get use out of a lot for entertaining- especially around the holidays!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/18 01:29 PM
12	Meal for two ideas/ meal planning advice? For me- the kitchen essentials have been built up over the last 10 years. The good stuff is always pricey, but worth it in my opinion. For example, I use my Kitchenaid Mixer 3-4 times a week- it cost me almost $300 but for someone who makes a lot of food from scratch, it’s invaluable. I wouldn’t recommend that out the gate, since you’re new to living on your own, but just an example of how a “kitchen essential” varies from person to person based on age, income and need. But! I second the suggest…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/18 03:21 AM
8	Your thoughts on living together before marriage? And who pays for what? From your post- I don’t think you’re ready to live with someone, least of all this guy. That said, I would personally never marry a guy I didn’t live with first. I live with my fiancé and we’ve lived together for a couple of years- we have all of our routines, schedules and responsibilities down pat and I feel 100% ready and comfortable going into our marriage because of that. As for who pays for what, I think that depends on the couple. For us, we live in a place that both us of could afford so…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/12/18 05:38 AM
4	The Man Who Won't Work Agree 100% My fiancé IS a gamer- that’s how he unwinds at the end of his 12 shifts. He works in the industry too, so I would say video games is one of his passions and he’s also a way he “hangs out” with his long distance friends. But, we have designated date time/ unplugged time and when he is gaming, he’s still very much present. It’s nice because I get to read/do skin care stuff/ watch my girly things but I’m still near him. If he was a guy who blew me off to game, or had no balance that woul…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/18 05:07 AM
3	Do you satisfy your Captain's sexual desires even when you aren't in the mood? Why or why not? I have the higher sex drive in the relationship, so I’ve only turned down sex like twice-I’m ready to go whenever- both were during times where I was on my period. Made up for it 2 days later lol BUT we don’t have kids or anything so we haven’t had to deal with other “not in the mood” scenarios that a lot of couples deal with- which I see has to do with a baby crying/post partum stuff/ pregnancy stuff a lot of the time.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/18 05:01 AM
2	Do you think there is a respectful way to give a man life advice? Personally, I hold off on giving unsolicited advice in general so if I ever do bring something up, my SO knows it’s probably something I feel strongly about and he weighs it pretty heavily. That said, we put a huge premium on communication, so anything big that would require my advice in the first place he comes with me to get an opinion. I know this isn’t always a popular thought around here, but he is genuinely one of my best friends and vice versa- we have other friends that fill the gaps for…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/18 05:44 PM
8	Moves and shows depicting traditional dynamics I love that show! My fiancé calls it “the saddest show on tv” (he’s not wrong) and nobody else I know watches it haha	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/18 04:41 AM
3	How has your life changed since taking the pill? One thing I would point out, while you’re new, is that RPW is a toolbox to enhance your sexual strategy to have the relationship you want with your man. We don’t eschew education or accomplishments by default in favor of looking good- the two aren’t mutually exclusive. There are women here from all walks of life- librarians, SAHMs, educators, high powered executives- just like we have differing political/religious backgrounds. True, it’s not set in stone that you HAVE to have a Masters in order …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/18 04:10 AM
3	Ditch the Resume Thank you both for answering! I always find these topics as interesting as they are tiresome (because this particular topic tends to just go round and round in a circle of “Yes they do” and “No they don’t” backed up with mostly anecdotal evidence) but I was genuinely interested in hearing your side of it. I think your comments sum up the gist of it though, that high value men want their partner to meet their expectation of a high value woman. For some engineers it’s finishing the degree- to show…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/18 02:59 PM
6	Ditch the Resume Can I ask, if it wasn’t a deal breaker or necessity, why his first reaction was to send you back to finish? The internet makes it hard to hear my genuine interest in the answer- I’m in no way trying to sound sassy or smart by asking.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/18 02:15 AM
2	How do they do it? Women in the workforce That’s great if you’re looking for easy and versatile. Lots of neutrals (navy, black, grey, white, etc) and you can add smaller things for pops of color (silk scarf, bright flat/heel,etc) JCrew is great for this, Banana Republic and some of Gaps nicer stuff was great when I worked in a bank. Dresses were also my go-to (one piece instead of 2-3!)	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/18 12:54 AM
3	How do they do it? Women in the workforce What can you wear/what’s your dress code? My dress code is ”anything goes” mostly (tech/fashion) so my look is edgy/casual which isn’t appropriate for everyone.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/18 03:25 PM
4	How do they do it? Women in the workforce We are a one car household and since my fiancé works way north of us and I work a small distance to the downtown area, I commute via bus. This means my commute is about 30 mins so I wake up at 9:30 am so I can be at work by 11. Wake up, shower (any “long” shower items like shaving are done at night) do my skin care day time regimen, makeup (light B.B. cream, concealer, eyeliner, mascara and lip) blow dry my bangs (or all my hair, if I’m wearing it down) and get dressed. My closet is very organiz…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/18 06:03 AM
4	When Did You Know It Was Over? I second this. Also, I am very concerned that you’re logging out because he’s home- I hear genuine fear behind your words and your partner should never be a sense of fear for you. He should be, amongst other things, your safety in the storm, not the storm itself and you should always feel safe around him. If you have any questions about the legal side if your lease, I did some volunteer work with renters rights in CA and TX- things vary from state to state but I am happy to help if you’re less e…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/09/18 05:08 AM
6	When Did You Know It Was Over? I’ll also add- because I didn’t answer your question about knowing when to leave first. I was with my previous boyfriend for five years. After the third time he cheated (including one time he exposed me to- but did not share with me- an STD) and the two years on unemployment where he worked on his art (which meant me working 2 jobs through college to support us) I had a moment where I realized he was totally useless. He literally added nothing but sadness and chaos to my life and I saw examples …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/18 04:30 AM
6	When Did You Know It Was Over? Oh dear- I just want to give you a hug- this sounds really hard. If I can ask, what are you arguing about when he lashes out in such a way? I am in no way excusing him or think there is justification for lashing out with physical or verbal abuse on a partner so I’m asking for the full picture. Does this happen in a 0-60 scenario? Does this happen only when everything else is going wrong? Either way, I think there are more red flags here than necessary for me, personally, to stay with a person li…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/18 04:22 AM
4	Is it ok for boyfriends and husbands to be flakey with you? Does he give you a heads up or say he’s running late? His time isn’t more valuable because he’s a man- timeliness equates to good manners. It’s one thing if he’s ALWAYS been late and you knew this going into it- you can’t change the way somebody is and have to weigh how important a persons “flaws” are to you during the vetting process. From what you’re saying though- lately he’s been late and flakey with time. I happen to think being late to everything isn’t cute or endearing- I think it shows a…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/18 12:42 AM
6	Engaged! Yay!! Congrats!	/r/RedPillWives	07/09/18 03:02 AM
–	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & Questions It’s a game changer! I got it as a gift (they are kind of pricy) but it’s so nice I would buy another if I needed to.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 03:22 PM
–	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & Questions I have a roomba! I love it and so does the cat haha I still wind up sweeping and mopping one-two times a week (depending on who’s coming to visit) but it’s great for daily dust.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 05:05 AM
–	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & Questions I also have a small (one basin) sink. I’ll have the sink full of warm, soapy water to put items in as I cook. After eating, the eatery also gets a quick soak while I put away leftovers. Then I just drain and scrub under running water. But, I’m also a weirdo who washes my dishes before putting them in the dishwasher, so everything but pots and pans/ special dishes go in there after the initial wash but this was how I washed them pre- dishwasher.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 05:03 AM
1	Off topic chat: What are you reading/watching/making right now? I’m reading “My Dark Places” by James Ellroy. It’s a [very graphic and honest] account of the unsolved murder of the author’s mom in the 1950’s. I’m reading it for book club and while I like true crime this wasn’t my first choice since I think it will be hard to discuss and it’s just fact heavy/sad. Listening to the “Mamma Mia 2” soundtrack helps lol	/r/RedPillWives	22/08/18 02:57 AM
2	Off topic chat: What are you reading/watching/making right now? I loved this book! I read it a few years ago, it was so sad but fascinating!	/r/RedPillWives	22/08/18 02:53 AM
1	Welcome to RedPillWives!! Who are we? Who are you? Let's get to know each other :D Happy to help! I was between jobs after moving to a new place and didn’t want to go back into retail. I have 3/4 of a degree in education ( took a break from school for various reasons) and was passionate about children and education. Saw an ad, saying no degree needed since th le majority of the teachers I’ve seen have an associates (or less) and a couple of years in Montessori training. My day consisted of keeping the classroom calm and welcoming, keeping children safe, assisting with works an…	/r/RedPillWives	22/06/18 08:31 PM
4	Is it appropriate to cook together at a guy’s house on the third date? I think there is a lot of good advice so far about how to make sure the date continues outside the home to mitigate him trying to take it to the next level. I would also, if you’re comfortable bringing it up, let him know your stance and why it’s important to you to wait a bit. If you’re not comfortable, that’s okay! It’s a tricky thing to bring up directly- but I would also have a little snippet ready so if he does ask- you have a clear, direct answer ready. Something simple like “I’m not ready…	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/18 02:18 AM
5	Who inspires us? I really love Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. She always looks so put together and calm- even with three small children. When I see her grabbing groceries in jeans, she still just looks gracious and lovely. Shee not my personal style icon, because I’m definitely less classic and more eclectic/edgy- but I can appreciate her influence on fashion and her overall grace! Audrey Hepburn was another one for me for similar reasons I know, I’m not very original but she’s a personal hero of mine lol I’d …	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/18 02:08 AM
2	First Harvest! Grew them organically from seed. Oh wow, how beautiful! What are you going to make with them?!	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/18 01:55 AM
2	Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband? Mine won’t bring a lunch I make- I tried that when we first moved in together by making beautiful lunches/ hearty leftovers. He would smile, say thank you and then promptly forgot to bring them lol I do have a number of snacks on hand that he can grab- jerky, nuts, crackers with peanut butter, fruit, low sodium/calorie soup packets, etc. He sometimes will grab a few of everything to leave in his desk and I just make sure we have plenty in the house when I shop for the week. I’m so going to look …	/r/RedPillWives	18/06/18 05:04 PM
3	Welcome to RedPillWives!! Who are we? Who are you? Let's get to know each other :D I was a teaching assistant in a Montessori school for years! Let me know if you have any questions- I’m happy to share my learnings (I worked with 3-6 year olds) Montessori is a truly beautiful and practical way of educating- I loved it!	/r/RedPillWives	16/06/18 08:37 PM
2	Welcome to RedPillWives!! Who are we? Who are you? Let's get to know each other :D Exactly! I have so much respect for the points people bring here so often and I appreciate it. I have friends in real life who run the gamut of political views and we just keep it civil and talk about what we do have in common- no problems so far!	/r/RedPillWives	16/06/18 06:54 PM
3	Welcome to RedPillWives!! Who are we? Who are you? Let's get to know each other :D Hello! I’m MrsFox (a misnomer because I’m not married yet!) my finance and I have been together for almost 6 years and I’m 28 (definitely need to update my flair!) I’ve been lurking RPW since the early days before the split and sort of commenting here and there since- I stopped for a bit because I was overwhelmed some of the past ideologies that I didn’t think I meshed well with. I’m a bit more left leaning and liberal but I love RPW because I learn about how to be a better woman for my SO and I…	/r/RedPillWives	15/06/18 09:27 PM
4	RPW, what's your career and how did you get to where you are in life right now? I work for a tech company focused on fashion- my day is mostly spent dealing with the not only the styling of a client, but their overall experience- so service in general. Compared to places like San Francisco or New York, the cost of living is cheaper here but expensive compared to the rest of my state. My SO and I both dropped out of college (though I’m planning to go back next year since I’m 3 classes short and just want to finish for a personal goal) and we make decent money. It helps that …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/18 06:59 AM
2	who does the housework? Exactly! I can see why they would get a bad rap- if they don’t work don’t use them, but for us it just makes sense!	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/18 12:46 AM
7	who does the housework? In our case, yes. My SO works until 1:30 a.m and I get home by 8:30 so dinner, dishes, laundry for the next day, night time pet care, last minute store runs,etc all fall on me. Is it “fair”? Probably not to most people, but to make it equal world require asking my tired, hard working fiancé to make me dinner at 1:30 in the morning- it’s much easier to knock everything out and have a yummy dinner waiting and be ready to spend time together. He is a fan of “honey do” lists. He WANTS to know what I…	/r/RedPillWives	11/06/18 09:23 PM
3	Splitting household chores? Did you guys discuss this before marriage? This is a big thing to have never discussed, so I’m curious about what you have been doing so far and what (if any) was the agreed upon arrangement. My advice would honestly depend entirely on that- though generally I’m a fan of splitting the work by tasks/ adjusting as needed (one of us is sick, out of town, etc)	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/18 06:25 PM
2	How would you respond and why? Yeah- I can see the value in a positive, grateful response. It doesn’t really sound like “me” and I might say it a bit differently but the overarching reasoning is solid.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/18 02:01 AM
2	How would you respond and why? This is a good response- and I think there is a lot of value in showing appreciation and positivity when somebody feels like hell. I think this would be similar to my follow up text after hearing back from him or like something I’d say in person with a big hug.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/18 01:41 AM
3	How would you respond and why? That’s what I said, sorry if that wasn’t clear- I’m not judging if he’s doing it “right” or not but I’m judging the situation as a whole to figure out how to respond in a helpful way. I’d also like to mention we don’t have kids, so this is all conjecture without the experience of actually adding kids to our dynamic lol	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/18 01:16 AM
2	How would you respond and why? I hesitate to place a judgement about if he’s handling it well or not- kids can be assholes and anyone can crack. Paired with plans going awry and a tummy ache? Rough day. I will say that my SO doesn’t vent like this unless he really means it or needs help- he’s typically very patient and calm so if he’s feeling flustered and telling me about it via text when I’m presumably busy (instead of while we’re cleaning up dinner when we have our “what happened today” chat)- he’s looking for a practical …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/18 01:00 AM
1	How would you respond and why? I’ll do this from a running errands within close proximity POV- because if I’m out of town there aren’t a lot of actionable things I could accomplish in the way of help (other than letting him vent if needed, offering sympathy if that’s what he’s looking for, etc) I would probably try to get a time frame for how much longer I’d be. When you’re stressed or overwhelmed, knowing it might only be another hour feels much better than an indefinite stretch “I’ll be home soon.” Then when I get home I’d …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/18 12:42 AM
3	Genuinely curious about what people here think of this article? And the kind of alt-right women that are mentioned like Blonde in the Belly of the Beast on YT? TRP ( and by extension RPW) is amoral and doesn’t have a specific political affiliation. Are the majority in the more right-wing sphere? I would say so, but you’re not really sampling Orthodox Jews on bacon here. I’m sure there are many RPW like this- there a lot of non-RPW like this and then I’m sure there are RPW who's teeth are set on edge by this kind of article. This is a tool box, for us to understand our human nature as women and improve ourselves and learn sexual strategy from a red pill…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/18 04:16 PM
2	How to be gentile when your boyfriend needs some tough love? Happy I could help in my small way- lots of great advice in this thread!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/18 01:14 AM
11	How to be gentile when your boyfriend needs some tough love? This is definitely not an easy situation to be in- I’ve been both in your shoes and his when it comes to the past and it’s tendency to come back to haunt us. A little anecdote: my SO and I have been together for almost 6 years (now engaged and living together) early on in our relationship, he broke up with me and started seeing somebody else almost immediately. Quickly enough where I assumed he had cheated on me (he says he didn’t, I believe him based on the 6 years experience we have) We ran in…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/18 09:34 PM
1	Stop Being So Afraid You and me both girl! We're inland but the rain, wind and flooding is a nightmare! Stay safe fellow Texan!	/r/RedPillWives	27/08/17 05:09 AM
6	National Girlfriend Day Warm and Fuzzy Thread I love how much I get to learn here every day. I also love the community- it's been a hard last few months so I don't comment all the time but I always read the commentary and it's a pick me up!	/r/RedPillWives	02/08/17 03:45 AM
5	Do any of you ever feel scared of your husbands? To answer your question- no. I have never- in the 5 years I've known my SO- been afraid of him. I've been afraid for him, or have experienced anxiety about situations we've been in (temporary, solvable and not long term serious) but I've never been scared of him. All "exploratory" situations of this nature (kidnap fantasies, weapons,etc) in the bedroom are HUGE leaps and should be brought up and discussed before engaging. This is one of those situations, where you saying " This isn't something I…	/r/RedPillWives	02/08/17 01:24 AM
7	Congratulations Iris!!!!!!!! Mazel tov! All the best to you and your family.	/r/RedPillWives	27/07/17 04:39 AM
6	[Homemaking] Tips and Tricks! Great post! We eat a lot of garlic in my house- and I keep a jar of minced garlic in my fridge for "need garlic fast" days. For a good smelling home, I like to use the stove method. Simply simmer water on the stove for 30 mins to an hour with your favorite ingredients. I love apple peel, orange rinds, cinnamon and cloves together the best but you can use a lot of different natural ingredients- smells yummy and all natural!	/r/RedPillWives	01/05/17 03:08 AM
3	What non-food treats and acts of kindness do you do for your man? For us, I tend to be the indecisive one who is just content to be around each other and call it a day. Movie? Sure. Bowling? Cool! So for my S.O it's a particularly sweet and romantic thing for him when I have a plan. Not all the time because he likes to plan things too, but once in awhile I'll be like "I bought these tickets for this movie you've been wanting to see- let's go!" or surprising him with something I know he needs (like new pajama bottoms) instead of pulling out his old pair he find…	/r/RedPillWives	25/03/17 07:56 PM
3	Write a family mission statement Ha! Some people probably never learn that lesson so, yay!	/r/RedPillWives	16/03/17 05:23 PM
3	Write a family mission statement Well- you've been married a lot longer than me so maybe there's something to that logic! In all seriousness though, I have pretty bad anxiety, which easily keeps me up when I'm trying to hash out a fight we're having while I'm laying in bed alone. Luckily! The fights are few and far between and pretty short- so not to much sleep is lost. Besides, making up is the fun part! :)	/r/RedPillWives	16/03/17 05:15 PM
2	Write a family mission statement Good thinking! I'm sure he appreciates it! :)	/r/RedPillWives	16/03/17 01:34 AM
3	Write a family mission statement That's totally fair- I think when there's a particularly tense moment then that is the best course of action. Full disclodure- I'm usually the more emotional of the two (surprise!) so it's really me not going to be angry 99% of the time- and a silver lining is that it's not to hard to cool me down haha. But I'm very lucky that I can utilize self control to mitigate most fights- I'll probably cool down in the 15 mins it takes to think about it/get his attention hahaha	/r/RedPillWives	16/03/17 12:55 AM
2	Write a family mission statement We don't have a mission statement for our family, so much as a working verbal goal sheet we set forth. We never go to bed angry with one another, the one who leaves first always tries to kiss the other one goodbye who is still sleeping (I've been known to groggily exclaim "my kiss!" When he thinks I'm too sleepy to get one!) and we always make big decisions as a team (his idea that I happily go with). As we approach marriage, we've knocked out our financial goals, as well as plans for travel and…	/r/RedPillWives	15/03/17 11:08 PM
2	Last name change? I think this is an excellent point and while in my case the answer is "yes" because of the relationship/communication we've built up- I know this isn't the case for everybody. Potentially some neutral language may help here. "I would love to be what you think a family is, does changing my name fall under that umbrella?" Vs. "Do you want me to take your name?" (Just an idea- not concrete by any means?)	/r/RedPillWives	27/02/17 08:53 PM
2	Last name change? Lol! I know- you gotta go with your gut though! Ask him- mine has said " it's whatever you want"- see what he says!	/r/RedPillWives	27/02/17 06:27 AM
4	Last name change? We've never talked about it seriously- he's very masculine and while he is pretty progressive and modern- taking his wife's last name isnt an option. Hyphening mine? Yes. Keeping mine? Yes. I'm okay with it though- he's the best!	/r/RedPillWives	27/02/17 05:29 AM
2	Last name change? I think it depends on what your husband thinks. Since we're getting closer to our wedding date, it's something I'm thinking about a lot. Both of our last names are long and unique so a hyphen wouldn't work. I'm excited to take his last name but a little sad to see mine go- it's a family name with a lot of history and passed through the mother not the father so it's also breaking a tradition. But! It's important to me that our family/babies have the same name.	/r/RedPillWives	26/02/17 05:53 PM
2	A note from my great-grandmother, and a poem by Mary D. Bangham I started it casually in my freshman year of college. My final project for my class was to interview a woman who was older than 40 so I chose my maternal grandmother. She's from Sweden and has such an interesting life. I found myself writing all these names down, only to keep going further once my project was done. It's grown from there. Now that I'm getting married, I've started interviewing my S.O's family, since they're DRT members and have an interesting history as well. I want our children …	/r/RedPillWives	23/01/17 06:51 PM
3	There Really Is A Dating Site For Everyone (For us it would be #1) Lol if I ever have to start over its nice to know "Purrrsonals" Is real. Dating has changed since I've been single!	/r/RedPillWives	23/01/17 03:15 AM
2	A note from my great-grandmother, and a poem by Mary D. Bangham I am also that person in our family! I love this post, this is such a treasure to find. My grandmother recently sent me a collection of letters her parents had sent to each other. My great grandfather was a ship captain, and these letters are a big part of their relationship- so I know how excited you must have been to receive this!	/r/RedPillWives	23/01/17 12:30 AM
1	Turn Ons + Turn Offs Uhggg I was trying to make a list- I can't format on mobile!	/r/RedPillWives	18/01/17 09:52 PM
1	Turn Ons + Turn Offs Turn ons: Well groomed beard or 5 o clock shadow Taller than me with a solid frame Creative (problem solving and/or a creative outlet) Good sense of humor Commited (to family, his goals, plans, us, etc) Green eyes- I don't know why! Doesn't dress like a teenager ( doesn't have to wear suits but c'mon.. Be appropriate) Turn offs: Guys who brag about their sexual conquests/ infidelity. I know guys talk to each other, that's fine but he shouldn't be telling everyone our private business. Bad hygien…	/r/RedPillWives	18/01/17 09:51 PM
2	Bucket Lists I love reading everyone's lists! I have four years- here's mine: Finish my MFA (so close!) Buy our first home. Get married (almost there!) Revisit Europe (like an adult, not as a rag tag back packer- had a blast though haha) Babies. So many babies (would like to have all of them by 33-34) Continue my health journey. Publish my books on a larger scale/ complete my current work that has been "almost done" for 2 years. Love my man no matter what isn't checked off of this list.	/r/RedPillWives	13/01/17 04:17 AM
3	Stop being a butthole wife Annnnd now I'm crying, the thought of losing mine is my worst nightmare. Definitely hugging a little tighter.	/r/RedPillWives	11/01/17 04:30 AM
2	Something Funny To Brighten Your Day :) Oh my god haha I WISH wine, cat food and cat toys were in the same aisle- that would save me so much time!!!	/r/RedPillWives	06/01/17 03:08 AM
–	Time Capsule Letters You're getting bees!? That's amazing & totally a goal of mine!	/r/RedPillWives	05/01/17 09:31 PM
5	Hipsters Broke My Gaydar Hahaha this article was funny. The silly thing is all of my so's extended family loves my "hipster" style (which to rural southern people is anything not from Dress Barn or Walmart). Granted, I'm pretty feminine (long hair, makeup done every day, a healthy mix of dresses & jeans/ blouses) but I also have tattoos and a little dainty nose piercing. I also currently work in the fashion industry, so I pay close attention to trends and style people for a living/everyone at work is very fashion consci…	/r/RedPillWives	04/01/17 05:12 AM
3	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – January 02, 2017 Ahh! Yeah my iPad screen is way too bright, even when I have it night dimmed. The kindle screen is much nicer, but I am a sucker for real-life book pages. Good luck!	/r/RedPillWives	04/01/17 04:52 AM
2	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – January 02, 2017 What's your before bed routine like? Sleep hygiene is a big deal for me otherwise my motivation for falling asleep/waking up is none. I had to train myself to 1) not eat/ drink alcohol 3 hours before bed 2) 45 mins before bed I get off my phone, turn off tv/etc and get my eyes adjusted to soft lighting. Your brain goes crazy from the electronics and stays wired other wise 3) I'm a big believer in aromatherapy lotion/candles/soap/bubble bath and/or calming tea. Sometimes sleep is hard. Falling as…	/r/RedPillWives	03/01/17 04:45 AM
2	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – January 02, 2017 Good: 18 pounds down! I've been doing OTF 3-4 a week and been on point with my diet. I feel so proud! Bad: I feel like I can't tell I've lost weight visually :( my SO says he can tell but he also said I looked fine before- sooooo he's always the best by default. But also, aren't we always our worst critics? Ugly: Nothing! Everything is going so well!	/r/RedPillWives	03/01/17 04:28 AM
3	Surrendering The Leash So rewarding though- I certainly loved those daily hugs!	/r/RedPillWives	03/01/17 12:01 AM
3	Surrendering The Leash They certainly are. I don't have children yet- but I used to be a preschool teacher so I'm an expert non-negotiator.	/r/RedPillWives	02/01/17 08:33 PM
5	Surrendering The Leash I believe she called them little insurrectionists lol which is absolutely true! They find the chink in fence and burst through at any chance!	/r/RedPillWives	02/01/17 07:20 PM
2	Free Friday - December 30, 2016 Haha- I'm sure everyone is lovely. I'm a writer, so I think I instinctively try to put faces to words- especially dialogue	/r/RedPillWives	31/12/16 02:22 PM
3	Free Friday - December 30, 2016 Lol this is going to sound so bizarre, but as I was reading through this sub this morning on the way to work, I could NOT stop imagining what everybody looks like. This obviously is so random and not post worthy- but does anybody else do this?	/r/RedPillWives	31/12/16 03:15 AM
3	Free Friday - December 30, 2016 Honestly, they're probably fed a diet heavy in corn (and soy which is an estrogen rich food) while alive and "treated" with water, etc to make them look moist and plump. We're... Creative with food on a mass market scale haha	/r/RedPillWives	31/12/16 02:53 AM
1	Moving In Together We've lived together for 2 years and we still have like 2 boxes that never seem to be unpacked that live in the closet. Why we don't just get rid of things in that box? The world will never know.. Luckily L is super laid back about stuff like that so if I wanted we could have them on the damn kitchen table and he'd probably not even notice- I'd just be the crazy one staring them down. Thanks for sharing! Moving in is definitely an adjustment, but so much fun too!	/r/RedPillWives	28/12/16 09:16 PM
3	Examples of Selflessness/Sacrifice I also should have added that while this was selfless since it was a huge compromise for the long term, I completely take the responsibility for assuming the outcome beforehand and I have learned a lot since then lol	/r/RedPillWives	22/12/16 07:37 PM
5	Examples of Selflessness/Sacrifice Ohhhhh boy- this was the start of my RP journey. So, to preface, we moved from my home state (where we lived 7 hours from my home town) to his home state (3 hours from his home town). We moved for me to go to school- go amazing SO go. However, when it came time to have the "where will we build our home/ family" decision, imagine my surprise when I found out there would be no moving back to my home state. I had always imagined I would raise my children in my home town and he, being the amazing an…	/r/RedPillWives	22/12/16 07:32 PM
6	Show respect... even if you know the answer. This is a wonderful reminder, and something that is a small gesture that goes a long way. It's so easy after 4 years to "know" what mine will say to different things. Sometimes, without thinking I'll just make plans with the best intentions and think " why did I do that?" Like yes, his days off are xyz and he'd obviously want to do this thing with the people we love BUT a simple " we got this offer- I thought I'd check to see how you're feeling" goes a longggggg way. Especially since I'm more so…	/r/RedPillWives	21/12/16 09:38 PM
3	RPW HAS REACHED 1700+ SUBSCRIBERS!!!! NEW MEMBERS AND LURKERS INTRODUCE YOURSELF :D I also lean more to the left than the average RPW. But that's okay- I contribute when I feel it's appropriate and I just STFU whenever I don't really agree. I'm not here to debate politics or stir the pot, I'm here to learn and talk with ladies about things I DO agree with. So welcome from another left leaner! :)	/r/RedPillWives	17/12/16 05:42 AM
4	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – December 12, 2016 Good: I'm down about 10 pounds overall! I know it's not a lot- but it's one step closer to my goal weight. Bad: not working out as I should. I'm trying to find a good class though. Ugly: I need to clean my house but I don't want to and I just need to get over it and stop being a baby. My house is never "bad" but it's not to my standard ha. Dessert: French vanilla creme brûlée. I would kill sombedody for it right now. Why would I start a diet during the holidays!?	/r/RedPillWives	12/12/16 07:33 PM
2	How Do You Define Cheating? Lolllll my dog is so upset because I "Ha"-d so suddenly he got scared and jumped off my lap.	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/16 04:28 AM
3	How Do You Define Cheating? Oh my gosh now whenever I read your comments it will be with her voice! Especially when you're being firm/ real with somebody 😂	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/16 02:10 AM
3	How Do You Define Cheating? I think we both have a pretty clear understanding of the specifics in our relationship. We're not married yet, and a ring is just a representation of our promise of fidelity (as opposed to the public ceremony declaring you're a family mentioned above) and not an Unbreakable Vow. That being said- I don't count porn or flirting (without intent) as cheating. I count emotional affairs as cheating, but I think they're easier to move past than a physical affair(depending on the severity). I.e sexting …	/r/RedPillWives	09/12/16 09:40 PM
1	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – December 05, 2016 I'm doing Weight Watchers. I'm very much celebrating the win of 3 pounds while keeping in mind that a) coming off of Thankgiving week is easier because I'm eating less already and b) water weight is real. I think 1-2 pounds is more realistic going forward/long term. I've also been doing 30 mins of high sweat cardio. As for the smoking/drinking my SO HATES it and always has so I was careful to never do it when he was home/ only when I was out. And he knew I smoked still, but it made him sad (he's…	/r/RedPillWives	06/12/16 12:45 AM
3	Weekly Reflections with RPWi – December 05, 2016 Good: I started my diet last Monday, with a clear goal of working out for at least 30 mins a day. First week, 3 pounds down. Not a lot, I know, and weight falls off easier in the beginning but I felt proud. Bad: I quit smoking 3 months ago and yesterday I fell off and had a cigarette out of stress. I felt awful and disgusting and guilty. Why is quitting so hard!? Ugly: nothing ugly per se, just cutting back on drinking alcohol through the week (part of weight loss plan) and I didn't know how har…	/r/RedPillWives	05/12/16 10:35 PM
2	December 2016 Events! I'm so excited about the Winter Attire post! I work for a fashion tech company and its my literally my job to make women look and feel their best. That includes myself ☺️	/r/RedPillWives	02/12/16 04:58 AM
1	Free Friday - November 25, 2016 I did too! I thought the reasoning was super interesting, who knew there was a certain way to wash your details. I loved the saying "the manners match the hostess"!	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/16 06:01 AM
1	Free Friday - November 25, 2016 I know- I got a 7/19 and I went to etiquette school as a child- apparently I'm still garbage lol	/r/RedPillWives	27/11/16 05:30 AM
4	Free Friday - November 25, 2016 So, aside from the moments of feminist judgement- I thought this was a very interesting/informative quiz. I thought I knew my stuff and... Turns out I am not as good of a hostess as I thought! Still a fun way to spend 5 mins. https://www.buzzfeed.com/rachelwmiller/could-you-pass-a-1954-home-economics-class?utm_term=.ayWzpQgA2N#.mgRdJxN8Wz	/r/RedPillWives	26/11/16 06:58 AM
1	Weekly Reflections with RPWi: 10/17/2016 The Movie Edition The good: went on two back to back weekend trips. One with my best friend since childhood and one to the fair with friends for their birthday. My S.O was so sweet about it when I was making plans a few months ago and was basically like "Go! Have fun! Do girly things!" (He was excited to order take out and watch football and have alone time I think) I know he'll be excited to see I'm home when he gets off work ;) The bad: So. Much. Travel. Laundry. The ugly: I need to get my weight together. I'm …	/r/RedPillWives	17/10/16 07:57 PM
1	Gratituesday I love how he is always planning for the future. Everything we work towards its with our family in mind, present and future. Every time he talks about our future children or traveling it makes my heart go nuts. He's definitely the more rational one- leading with his head whereas I'm a heart on my sleeve kinda gal. It's a nice balance and I'm always so grateful we can talk like adults knowing our strengths. So. So. So thoughtful. From a million tiny things to big moments, I'm blown away every day…	/r/RedPillWives	14/10/16 01:06 AM
1	Setting up dinnertime. We both really love to cook and we have opposite days off. On days where I'm off I like to have dinner waiting or going and vice versa on his days off. He has a more limited palate (like 20 meals I can rotate that I know are home runs) but I know what he loves/ dislikes so I can experiment with those in kind. On days we both work (3 nights a week) it honestly depends. I know that if dinner isn't on its way when I come home, I should probably start it, I'll ask once what he would like. If he says…	/r/RedPillWives	13/10/16 11:28 PM
1	What's In Your Bag?! Oh man, I am so lucky I cleaned out my purse yesterday!!! Wallet (ID, debit card, insurance card, metro card) Coin purse (because I'm 90) Umbrella (you never know in Texas..) Usually my work laptop Work badge My 911 kit (sewing kit, mini makeup bag,comb, spray/deodorant..) My medication A book! Mints No less than 2-3 Chapstick, lipstick, lip gloss variations.. The best part is you can't tell- my SO jokingly calls it "Hermione's bag from the Deathly Hallows movie" and nobody can tell I'm a crazy …	/r/RedPillWives	06/10/16 05:09 AM
2	RPW HAS 1500+ SUBSCRIBERS! LURKERS AND NEW WOMEN INTRODUCE YOURSELVES, EVERYONE COME CHAT <3 Look at me, first day saying hello and I'm already learning something new! Yay- thanks!	/r/RedPillWives	05/10/16 03:15 PM
3	RPW HAS 1500+ SUBSCRIBERS! LURKERS AND NEW WOMEN INTRODUCE YOURSELVES, EVERYONE COME CHAT <3 Thank you, I did! I couldn't figure out how to literally quote you (I'm tech-challenged) but I'll figure it out!	/r/RedPillWives	05/10/16 02:24 PM
5	RPW HAS 1500+ SUBSCRIBERS! LURKERS AND NEW WOMEN INTRODUCE YOURSELVES, EVERYONE COME CHAT <3 I've actually been lurking for about 2 years and I've been reading and learning (and contributing in my head) the whole time. I finally got the courage to make an alt. account to say hello! There's a lot of things I differ from fundamentally that made me second guess introducing myself, but as was said already"Take what ya want and leave the rest". I'm happy to be here! I (and my unknowing SO) thank y'all!	/r/RedPillWives	05/10/16 05:19 AM

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