who does the housework?

_TheFantasticMrsFox_ · 2018-06-11T21:23:29+00:00

In our case, yes. My SO works until 1:30 a.m and I get home by 8:30 so dinner, dishes, laundry for the next day, night time pet care, last minute store runs,etc all fall on me.

Is it “fair”? Probably not to most people, but to make it equal world require asking my tired, hard working fiancé to make me dinner at 1:30 in the morning- it’s much easier to knock everything out and have a yummy dinner waiting and be ready to spend time together.

He is a fan of “honey do” lists. He WANTS to know what I need done, since I keep things running smoothly. He does take the trash out every time it’s full without asking though- but everything else (leaking dishwasher, broken shower curtain, weird window) goes on the list.

whitebunny87 · 2018-06-11T22:25:07+00:00

We both work full time, but I mostly work regular hours from home while my husband does more demanding days out in the city.

I do almost all of the housework during the day - I much prefer handling it bit by bit and having it all done by the time my husband gets home so we can relax together. I'm also much quicker at housework than he is, I enjoy cooking, and I have higher standards for what's "clean" so it makes sense to just do it myself. Any household maintenance, fixing things, looking after the cars, bills, etc he takes care of.

We hire a cleaner to come by fortnightly and do all the deep cleaning, windows, ironing, etc. It keeps the place extra fresh and again frees up more time for us to enjoy together.

If my job was more demanding and I didn't have time to do it all without it cutting into our personal time, I imagine my husband would just hire a housekeeper to come around more often. Personal time is important to us.

How do you split the housework in your home?

Astroviridae · 2018-06-11T21:38:56+00:00

This one of the cases where there is no strict RPW way to do something. Find what works best for your relationship. If you feel it's most harmonious for you to do all the chores, then do so. Alternatively, if it's most harmonious to divide chores individually based on respective strengths, then do that. The most important part is that you discuss this with your Captain and come to an agreement that will not cause strife in the relationship. Be flexible and generous, and don't demand things out of him.

Spider_Gwen_Stacy · 2018-06-14T03:25:22+00:00

I agree with the comment that said do what works best for y'all. In our case, we both work full time and I do all housework. This works out because I get home 4 to 6 hours ahead of him, as I never get off from work later than 2pm. This gives me enough time to do all the chores and still have time to relax. If we got off at the same time then things would be different, but it's a high priority of mine that I do the housework, which is why I chose a job with those hours.

Title	who does the housework?
Author	JuniorAdvance
Upvotes	6
Comments	6
Date	June 11, 2018 3:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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