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RP THEORYwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 03:42 AM
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DISCUSSIONwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 10:38 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!whitebunny87/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 02:08 AM
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SELF CAREwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives06/08/18 11:50 PM
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GIRL GAMEwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives08/08/18 11:34 PM
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CULTUREwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 03:45 AM
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INSIGHTFULwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives11/11/17 01:51 AM
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CELEBRATION!!!whitebunny87/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 03:10 AM
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INSIGHTFULwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 05:46 AM
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INSIGHTFULwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 01:38 AM
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**MOD NEWS**whitebunny87/r/RedPillWives14/08/18 06:25 PM
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CULTUREwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 12:44 PM
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DISCUSSIONwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 11:12 PM
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RP THEORYwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 04:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 10:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 08:43 AM
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ADVICEwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 06:41 AM
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DISCUSSIONwhitebunny87/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 04:34 AM
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Lol I can't tell if you're being deliberately stupid or not so I'm just going to check out here. How
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 05:56 PM
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The part about your name not being on the papers too please.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/18 02:44 PM
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This is just going to devolve again so please remove the sentence about not being married and don't bring it up. Let me know once that's done and I'll reapprove the post. Thanks
/r/RedPillWives16/08/18 02:42 PM
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This is RedPillWives. If you want to discuss raising a boy that's fine, but I don't want to carry on with this anti-marriage rhetoric. If you don't believe in marriage, fine, but don't talk about it here please.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/18 12:14 PM
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Remove your flair and don't participate in threads that specifically ask for women's input. The chat room will be for women only.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 06:06 PM
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I don't know what me being in possession of male genetalia has to do with any of this, and further, the mention of that kind of thing as far as I can tell is discouraged on this sub. Oh is it! Thanks for letting me know. That makes me wonder what your motivations for mentioning that are, and honestly I don't think they're exactly pure and noble... Your flair says "dude here". This is a women's sub. It's not that complicated.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 06:33 AM
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Yes I know there is integrated chat, which is why I asked if anyone had used it in my OP. The question was for the women of the sub who would be potentially using the chat, not for men.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 06:22 AM
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Hi ladies
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 06:21 AM
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What? I'm not following you, settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:52 PM
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Oh you're fat and an asshole. I can't imagine why you can't get an attractive woman to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/18 06:42 AM
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1: How do you feel about your partner in general being vulnerable? What do you mean by vulnerable? Talking about feelings? Confiding in me? Telling me he's afraid/sad/whatever? I like it when my husband shares himself with me like that to an extent. I love him and want to help him be as happy as he can be, but I'm not attracted to his weaknesses. If he constantly made a big deal about showing/talking about his feelings instead of taking care of himself and getting shit done, there would be issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/18 12:19 AM
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Again. That is not what I am talking about. Some men just get lazy and drop the ball, through no fault of their wives'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 10:39 PM
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You ok bud?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 03:45 AM
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I wasn't asking you. I was curious how MMDT's definition of the word works. Im not sure why you're butting in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 03:41 AM
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I didn't ask if you'd dump her, I asked MMDT if it's cheating. Taking pregnancy out of the picture. Let's say the guy she's fucking is sterile. Is it cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 03:34 AM
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Would you consider it cheating if your gf slept with another guy she didn't have an emotional connection to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 03:23 AM
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Some men just stop trying. Hey look! We could go back and forth like this all day!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 02:40 AM
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Good for you but we're speaking about different things. I'm talking about men who go from fit and attractive to boring slobs and then complain their wives aren't horny anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 02:09 AM
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What does fat acceptance have to do with a man being attracted to his wife? Fat acceptance is just fat women telling other fat women that they're hot. If men want to do that too, go ahead. It won't change how attractive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 12:41 AM
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Some men just stop trying and become unattractive. I've seen it happen plenty of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 12:40 AM
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It's a class/ethnicity thing where I live. Lower class/ethnic guys tend to be into the OTT curves, big butts, etc. Rich white guys are still going for the skinny white high fashion looking girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 12:25 AM
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We like to build each other up and look after each other
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 07:21 AM
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Lol ok dude. You're trying really hard not to get it. I give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 02:26 AM
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If there was a woman who through no fault of her own was obese, would you be attracted to her? Say hypothetically that she had some condition where even though she was eating well and exercising she was still fat. Would that change your sexual attraction to her? No. You're not attracted to a woman's good eating habits, you're attracted to her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 01:20 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 01:14 AM
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Why do you need an "excuse" after getting rejected? This is so bizarre and paranoid. Sure you might misinterpret a woman's cues, but so what? If you wait for a woman to come and explicitly tell you she's open to being approached, you're going to be waiting a long-ass time and she'll be off with the guy who's not afraid of being turned down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 01:08 AM
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Yeah I read the tweets, he sounds like a child throwing a tantrum. Tesla stocks fell 3 points yesterday. Guess his PR stunt isn't working out as planned.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 01:00 AM
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If it had been a woman making a false rape accusation for attention I'm not sure you'd be as forgiving lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 12:35 AM
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haha yep it's infuriating. we've got deloitte doing ours. it goes like D: what can we do to make your worklife better? me: i need a better graphics card and bigger monitors D: yeah ok but how about beanbags in the kitchen! meditation classes! break the paradigm! 🙄🙄🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 11:39 PM
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you don't choose an accountant based on him turning you on. it has nothing to do with stereotypes about tall men. it's not that i think short guys don't make good boyfriends, it's that i don't feel attraction if the guy is shorter than me. i can't help that. why are you not attracted to fat girls? that's why i'm not attracted to men shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 11:14 PM
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You're overthinking it. No one thinks it's "wrong", it just is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 10:54 PM
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Girls generally like to feel smaller than the guy they're with, and lots of people prefer to date within their own race. What's weird about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 10:42 PM
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It's not "logic", it's attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 10:03 PM
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Omg my husband's snoring. Every winter he snores non stop and my sleep is really suffering. It's hard not to feel resent at 3am and you're trying to sleep next to a chainsaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 01:25 PM
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I legit have an existential crisis every time I find myself losing hours of my life to one of these ridiculous meetings. It's ok though, it pays well and I'm on my way out of corporate life in the near future.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 01:23 PM
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Lol yep I escaped a few years later. I have no idea what 18 year old me was thinking!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 01:21 PM
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Hah yep my husband's on the vynase diet and could go days without eating if he didn't enjoy it so much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 01:16 PM
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No they haven't pulled that one. They made me do it years ago when I was in the air force, and when it came back intp the the psych was like "fun fact - this is the type least likely to be compatible with military culture'. He was right lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 12:02 PM
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Business lingo. My company is going through a restructure and has hired all these bullshit external consultants to manage it. So much talking, so many meetings, endless flow charts and acronyms and diagrams and team building games. It's all a waste of time and I can't wait to go back to my antisocial nerdhole where I actually get things done.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 11:33 AM
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Yeah it's pretty obvious he's playing the crazy rogue card for attention, doesn't make me dislike him any less. I never liked the guy and I'm just glad the fanboys are finally figuring out he's actually a bit of a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 09:34 AM
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i think maybe i know more about how i feel than you do, internet stranger. i know that i've been hit on by men objectively better looking than my husband, and felt no attraction to them whatsoever. i also know that i've been wildly attracted to very plain men. my first boyfriend was kinda weird looking and overweight, but he was charming and funny and confident, and i was super into him. my tall/white requirement is a direct result of me being tall and white. i'm sure if i was a short asian girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 04:38 AM
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attraction works differently in women than it does in men and i'm sorry that this seems to offend you. it doesn't change reality though. i have a physical threshold beneath which it's nearly impossible to be attracted to a guy, but as long as he's taller than me and not completely gross, my attraction is mostly tied to his presence and personality. i have a physical threshold, and a personality type. i think most women in here would feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 04:20 AM
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ok cool i have a type then? why are you guys so weird about this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 04:08 AM
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This is all great advice.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/18 03:30 AM
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He should stick to what he's good at (and hire a social media manager).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 03:26 AM
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Sure, in a very vague way. It's not a type in the sense that op was describing where I could attach a picture of him. I don't care about hair or eye colour, hair length, tattoos, whatever. I think of height being a requirement, not a type that I pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 02:47 AM
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The hippie camp - fuck rules, do whatever works to get whatever you want, but with optimistic glint towards taking care of others. same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 02:11 AM
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How many men do you see in this arrangement? Some women will begrudgingly share a man of celebrity status, but it's never the kind of open polygamy that illuminatedsoul is planning on attempting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 02:05 AM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 02:02 AM
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Have you tried this approach to dating yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 11:33 PM
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where are you going to find a woman who agrees to being part of your harem?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 11:07 PM
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a woman's "type" is usually more personality than looks-based in my experience. i don't have a physical type beyond tall and broad-shouldered white guys. i like big guys because i'm almost 6' and like feeling smaller. i've never dated a man shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 10:34 PM
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chaotic good
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 10:26 PM
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i can't stand the guy. i wish he'd launched himself into space with his stupid nerd car.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 10:16 PM
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like 6 months?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 10:13 PM
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jesus christ Elon, take a break. this guy's just rescued 12 kids, and you call him a pedophile for not liking your stupid submarine. https://gizmodo.com/increasingly-agitated-elon-musk-labels-diver-who-mocked-1827611345?IR=T
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 10:11 PM
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Yeah I know. I didn't say it's a new thing, just that it's happening
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 08:58 PM
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Aw Splendour was the first ever festival I went to as a young bunny. It's not very folky, but Woodford folk festival is (or at least used to be) on the same site if that's more your speed. My friends go to the national folk festival in Canberra every year and it's also meant to be great. Byron is beautiful, have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 01:00 PM
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The internet has allowed all the weirdos to congregate and convince each other they're not weird. In the past they had to assimilate with normies, and turned out ok. Not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 12:56 PM
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It's more complicated than that and depends what you mean by decimated, but for most areas within our lifetime, yeah it's overstated. Where I live they've built right up to the water in some areas, and the sea level rise combined with the erosion (from sea level rise) has caused a bunch of mansions to fall into the ocean at King tide. I was actually involved in consulting on the project when they started building there and told them not to, but they chose not to listen and now their homes are go…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 02:53 AM
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Supposedly we've lost a fucking shit ton of polar ice, but where is it all? Slowly but surely dumping into the oceans.. You won't see the difference in most places because it's rising by just a few mm a year. But the caps are melting and the water is (slowly) rising.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 01:49 AM
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I hate scented anything on a man. Just be showered and not stinky.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 01:42 AM
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Red pilled women are submissive and feminine in behavior. That's news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 12:28 AM
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I do believe in unicorns. So NAWALT?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 10:41 PM
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Have you heard of an analogy before?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 01:32 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 01:20 PM
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How so?
/r/RedPillWives14/07/18 01:07 PM
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lol i'm curious what it is that you do that contributes to society sooo much more than a women. i would put money on you being an edgy teenager living off mom and dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 07:20 AM
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he sounds like a typical know-it-all teenager lecturing the grown-ass women on how their life looks. it's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 07:08 AM
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Wear a condom bud. Not hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 03:08 AM
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No one forced him to have sex with her. He knows how babies are made.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 12:49 AM
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Maybe once they start carrying and birthing babies they will. Men and women are treated differently because they are different
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 01:35 PM
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So tell me, what is the alternative? Do you think men should be able to claim the children of women they have apparently knocked up without jumping through some hoops? Think about it...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 12:05 PM
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Why would a woman be into a mid 30s waiter who's afraid to try something new?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 11:53 AM
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Yeah this is pointless, your victimhood complex is unbeatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 11:27 AM
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introversion isn't a handicap, but being able to properly socialise is a huge benefit to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 04:01 AM
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i'm INTP and my ENFP bestie inadvertently taught me to come out of my shell and relax a bit. i owe heaps of my norminess to her. i know quiet kids tend to attract other quiet kids, but encouraging thing 1 into a more extro friend group could definitely help!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 03:59 AM
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this article is specifically about cases where a man knocks up a woman who he doesn't even live with, and complaining that he has to jump through hoops to take custody of this child. stop and think for a second. what is the alternative? any man can go and take custody of a pregnant woman's child just because he says that it's his? come on... show me where in the law it is written that fathers have literally zero rights to their children. stop making shit up and have some intellectual integrity. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 03:45 AM
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in quite a few states, the father literally has zero rights to his kids i don't believe you. can you show me exactly where this is written?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/18 02:57 AM
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thank you i'm so tired of hearing people whine about how sexist family courts are. men dont want primary custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 11:48 PM
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my parents met when they were in their late 20s, both engaged to other people at the time. they fell madly in love, left their partners and married after knowing each other for 3 months. moved to the other side of the world and started a family. mum was sick for most of my childhood/adolescence, so was a SAHM out of necessity. she was never a career woman anyway, before she got sick she worked as a bookkeeper. we had a very typical patriarchal home. dad was always in charge, and while he had a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 11:39 PM
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And basic English grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 07:56 AM
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what is a disadvantaged relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 06:06 AM
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I'd also be really curious to see this /u/LewisCross
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 01:29 AM
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You won't find sources to prove or disprove that someone was given a promotion over another because of their gender. This is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:42 AM
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Yep. I think in the past when it was more normal to meet men through friends/family/church/school/etc this was more common. If you're from the same extended community there's both pre-vetting that's taken place and as /u/noirdoll said, an incentive to not be a dick to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:39 AM
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Yeah. He also doesn't do the weird cocky "I'm the prize" routine that TRP goes on about. Like yeah he's not desperate and would never chase a girl that's not into him, but he's warm and attentive. They go nuts for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:26 AM
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The guy in our circle who "slays" the most is below average in looks. He's nothing special to look at, but he's funny and charismatic and makes an effort to make the people around him feel good. He's never wanting for girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:09 AM
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I feel like I live on a different planet to these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 12:02 AM
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Come on now Lewis, no need to be bitchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 11:51 PM
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A man who looks after himself and isn't socially retarded can get a relationship he's mostly happy in. Dead bedrooms don't happen to guys who keep on top of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 11:42 PM
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This just isn't true. Average looking guys who look after themselves and aren't socially retarded do just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 10:03 PM
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Incels are incels precisely BECAUSE they don't know how to deal with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 09:41 PM
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Of course they can. All incels is a tiny subset of men who exist because they're shitty at forming relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 09:01 PM
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Yeah exactly. I was able to relax into the relationship really quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 08:16 PM
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My husband was introduced to me by mutual friends who had known him for years. They're good people who I like and trust, and having them recommend him to me made things sooooo much easier. Everyone is on their best behaviour when they start dating, that's just how it goes. But dating someone who's been vetted by your community takes a lot of the guesswork out. I was really surprised how much of a difference it made and I could trust he was a genuinely good guy before I properly knew him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/18 11:58 AM
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Sure, but everyone got it but you. Is it that hard to believe that your inability to read between the lines extends to real life as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 10:07 PM
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Considering that you misread texas' AND goingthedistance's comments, is it not possible you're misreading these other women you hear complaining all the time? It was obvious to me and apparently everyone else that they were joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 09:12 PM
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Yeah and women go for the hottest marriage-minded man they can land. What's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/18 09:40 PM
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He keeps changing the number so he can wedge in a decade of slut time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/18 09:39 PM
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Lol how generous of you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/18 01:44 AM
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I G N O R E H E R You're a male incel, probably a teenager. You have no information or experience to offer her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/18 01:12 AM
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You should stop getting involved in your sister's dating life, it's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/18 12:48 AM
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Well yeah. Most people settle down by the time they're 30
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 12:33 PM
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I was more promiscuous at 18, but had no idea what I liked or how to get it. Sex at 30 is way more enjoyable in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 11:40 AM
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Tldr what is marriage 3.0 please
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 11:19 AM
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He would not talk to you like that if you gave him no reason to do so. I don't think that this is true, or good advice to give. While it's true that we can only change our own actions and you're right that we should look to ourselves first before placing blame, it also isn't fair to explicitly blame /u/changeisgood18 for her husband's poor behaviour. There is nothing inherently anti-RP in acknowledging when our husbands are out of line, and there is nothing RP about being a martyr.
/r/RedPillWives04/07/18 03:57 AM
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I'm not sure if it fits into your definition of part-time work, but in my case, learning about investing and trading has been a huge benefit to us financially. I spent a couple of weeks learning and researching heavily before I got started, and nowadays spend just a few hours a week on ongoing research and trading. It can be risky, of course, but if you have a head for it the payoffs can be huge and most of the growth occurs passively.
/r/RedPillWives04/07/18 03:50 AM
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what do you mean? why is marriage obsolete, and in what form would "contractually and ritually binding people" not be the same as marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 03:32 AM
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what are you talking about? finances have always been a big trait. LKF is right, it's becoming less of a deciding factor as women start making their own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 02:58 AM
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young women tend to be shitty friends. like, high school age. once women mature a certain amount that crappy teenage behaviour clears up pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/18 02:20 AM
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thanks for that lovely picture in our modmail. in future please direct photos of your asshole to /r/gaybros
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 11:13 PM
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Lewis is saying that he was told that being employed specifically would make him sexually attractive. Having a job is important to women, but it isn't what turns you on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 07:21 PM
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Nah not really. Wanting to marry a man who's reliable doesn't mean that the reliability itself is a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 07:18 PM
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And banned. Buh-bye.
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 10:55 AM
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This is a women's sub, please don't announce your gender here.
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 10:51 AM
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this is beautiful! thanks for the write-up! i'm so glad it's all going so well for you :)
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 04:25 AM
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i don't watch a lot of TV/film. go to the cinema once in a blue moon, but otherwise my watching consists of weekly gossip girl and wine with my BFFs or grand designs when hubs and i feel like making fun of kevin mccloud.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 02:22 AM
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i don't doubt you believe you were told this. i just think it's far more likely that men are misinterpreting people who say "women like men who have jobs and are reliable" as saying "women are sexually attracted to jobs and and reliability".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 02:16 AM
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i was brought up with a brother and i heard what my dad told him. be cool, be funny, be good at sports. he's a plumber on a very average wage now with a beautiful wife and daughter who adore him. i never heard anyone telling him that a paycheque is sexy. people don't say this outside of weird fringe cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 01:13 AM
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Ok that was funny lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 09:48 PM
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This is what the upvote button is for. You don't need to keep saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 09:45 PM
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Being a doctor is very different to being a computer programmer. Doctors are hot because they carry a great deal of social status. No one's hot for the stemlord.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 09:39 PM
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When are men ever taught that being a stemlord with a payslip makes them sexually attractive? That's bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 09:36 PM
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Hahaha yes thanks for the giggle whoever that was 😂
/r/RedPillWives02/07/18 07:27 AM
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She's more red than most
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 04:00 AM
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What? Testosterone levels have a LOT to do with personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 06:39 AM
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No, it's mostly genetic. Different people have different concentrations of testosterone receptors, so will appear more masculine than others at similar levels. This is why an Italian women will look hairier than a scandi woman of similar T levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 06:38 AM
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here you go!
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 08:28 AM
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Oh this is a really interesting point! Now that you mention it I definitely notice the same thing in my husband. He's much softer and more forgiving with me than he is with the rest of the world. He's certainly got his limits where if I push things too far he'll put his foot down, but as long as things are going well he's very gentle with me and that can lead to me getting a bit complacent at times. Does that make sense?
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 08:26 AM
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I'm not sure that an HH woman would seek out a magician/lover type of man specifically, but she'd certainty want a man who leant toward the dominant alpha traits. I feel that the specific male archetype that you're drawn to would depend more on personality type than dominance level/threshold. I think that different women are definitely attracted to different types of alpha displays, and I'm with you in that I prefer a man who shows his dominance through intellectualism rather than brute force. I…
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 08:23 AM
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I agree with some of the others that the relationship seems like a bit of a lost cause. What does she actually want? Is she wanting to marry and have kids? Some people seem to enjoy complaining without doing anything to fix it, is she one of these types?
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 08:13 AM
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In the 7 years you've been together, is this the first time you've noticed this problem? What is it about him not doing housework that makes you lose respect for him? Is it because he comes off as lazy? Because you feel like you're mothering him? Something else? I think that delving into this loss of respect you're feeling is the first step to figuring out what's next.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 08:03 AM
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I've been all about soups this week. It's cold here and my husband's been off work sick, so soups are great to keep in the fridge for him to heat up whenever he's hungry. I did Anthony Bourdain's mushroom soup last night and we both loved it. Was super hearty for a vegetarian dish!
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 07:55 AM
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And why would any man bother to marry a slut? She obviously has no self control and no discipline. If she finds her cowoker cute she'll cheat because she's used to getting what she wants. She's ADDICTED. Does this hold true for men who have slept around before getting married?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 07:19 AM
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Yeah fair enough Edit: just read the other article and it changes a lot. They've been together 7 years and this isn't the first time she's assaulted him. A high value man wouldn't put up with being smacked around by his 19 year old girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 01:24 AM
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How on earth could we judge his "status" based on that? All we know about him is that he dated a mental case.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 01:00 AM
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Ugh I've been putting mine off for years now. Dreading it. Hope you're feeling better soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 11:56 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 10:01 PM
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Go awaaaaay this is so boring
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 07:45 AM
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Because I didn't care about finding a husband when I was young. I didn't care if they had a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 07:38 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 07:37 AM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 07:33 AM
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I love watching you lay down the law. Sublime for PPD prez.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 06:53 AM
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I've already answered this upthread. Read it again. Does it take a lot of effort to be this dense?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 05:11 AM
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Because I didn't meet him before.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 05:08 AM
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Yes. My husband is no less attractive than any other man I dated. Are you even reading what you're responding to? I already said this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 05:01 AM
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how did i know this question was coming. no. i was ADDING requirements to the men i dated, not making concessions on attraction. the men i was looking for had to have all of the positive qualities of the men i was dating AS WELL AS being husband material. when TRPers talk about AFBB they are invariably describing a woman who sleeps around and then marries a less attractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:48 AM
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i was 25 when i realised i wanted to have a family, so i started looking for a man that i could do that with. not earlier because i didn't care about finding a husband then and i was having fun. it's more work finding someone who checks all the "hot and fun" boxes as well as the "i want to live with/raise children with this person for the rest of my life" boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:35 AM
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i think there's definitely categories, but it's more a "would date" vs "would marry" distinction. i dated men when i was younger who were a lot of fun, but definitely weren't marriage material.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:33 AM
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burmese are really clingy, another good option for replacing a man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:31 AM
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wanting the same things in our future (children, which city to live in, etc), compatible values, having a job, etc. the kind of stuff that isn't necessary in a short term boyfriend, but you'd need to be on the same page for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:26 AM
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Ok. I'm 31 now and happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:18 AM
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What do you mean by "settle down"? Around 25 I got much pickier and stopped dating men that I couldn't see myself being married to one day. Deal breakers became actual deal breakers, rather than "it's fun for now but I couldn't handle it long term".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 04:10 AM
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you don't think people's tastes and priorities change as they get older?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 01:08 AM
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The mods are mostly guys, and the female mods are all "approved" by the TRP guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 11:41 PM
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Read Brave New World
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 11:34 PM
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Just what I was thinking. I feel like a lot of guys around here would like the whole idea of socialising sexual freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 11:33 PM
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Or people enjoy different things at different points of their lives. When I was a kid I would happily eat ice cream for dinner every night. Now I wouldn't. It doesn't mean I wasn't serious about ice cream when I was 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 10:52 PM
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I think you should make your own thread if you want to go deeper into this. I made a passing comment on metoo to illustrate the point that marriage has historically been women's method of asserting control and gaining some protection in relationships. I don't want to get off track here.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/18 12:23 PM
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Yeah, the BPD guy. If his crazy hadn't have come out when it did we might have married, and that's a terrifying thought lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 08:49 PM
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Not the infidelity point specifically, but: Surprisingly, the piece of paper, and not just the personal relationship, matters a great deal. People who live together, for the most part, don't reap the same kinds of benefits that men and women who marry do. Something about marriage as a social institution—a shared aspiration and a public, legal vow—gives wedlock the power to change individuals' lives. Because marriage is a partnership in the whole of life, backed up by family, community, and relig…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 03:29 PM
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I don't think it's a tidy issue that can be fully explained by one thing or another. It's a little off topic for this thread, but an idea I came across and found interesting. Powerful men have always used that to get women, why is metoo such a big thing now, and not 20 years ago?
/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 03:03 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 11:44 AM
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I've lived in Australia and a few different Canadian cities and it's definitely a class tell here. Quebec not so much, but they're very different. My husband's family is all upper class English and I can guarantee you that marriage is a necessity for them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 11:10 AM
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yeah the heroin comment was tongue in cheek. my point was that pleasure in itself isn't very conducive to a happy life. sometimes making mistakes and learning lessons are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 07:21 AM
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There must be some balance, then, because an unexamined life is equally terrifying. there is balance. you live enough to figure out what makes you happy, and then you lock it down and focus on being happy with what you have. I dream of a future in which we can all live an "optimized" life through the wonders of around-the-clock hyper-powerful software that does the optimizing for us i would hate that. are you young? life is beautiful because it's messy and we make it ourselves. we're not robots.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 07:06 AM
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part of living an examined life is understanding that constantly chasing optimisation will not make you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:55 AM
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being "happy with your partner" is irrelevant because you might be happier (or even FAR happier) with some other partner... and indulging in that type of thinking is a CERTAIN path to unhappiness. smart people understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:39 AM
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It doesn't bother me at all. I prefer to be married to an amazing man that I love deeply than to spend my whole life searching for someone who might be 2% "better". Life is beautiful with him, I'm happy and in love, I have no need to keep looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:35 AM
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Why does your partner have to be the best partner in the universe in order to be secure in your choice? There are probably thousands of men out there that I could be very happily married to, and I am absolutely certain that there is someone out there who would on paper be a "better catch" for me than my husband. The rational thing to do is to find someone who is great and who you love and loves you back, and then stop thinking about other possibilities. You will never be happy if you're always t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:27 AM
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I just made a post on this at /r/RedPillWives, but basically: social status legal/financial protection for the wife/mother best outcomes for the children less chance of infidelity better health, happiness, financial and sexual outcomes for both partners
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 05:54 AM
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I'm not and was not raised religious, so this might not be relevant, but I feel like RP knowledge was especially helpful for me in that regard. I was raised in a typical liberal city where we're taught that it's normal to be demanding and argumentative with your man, and I wondered why my relationships weren't working out for me. Speaking with the older, happily married women on here taught me that to be soft and feminine is a skill that you can learn and nurture, and one that will bring a happy…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 04:55 AM
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you could ask one of the dozen or so lawyers in here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:52 AM
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it's not hard to determine if people were in a relationship or roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:50 AM
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what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:49 AM
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it's not just "living together". it's living together and being in a serious, committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:48 AM
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We started dating at 26, got engaged at 28 and married at 29. I was dating for fun up until 24 or 25, then upped my standards and started looking for someone husband material. I had one boyfriend after that who I was really into but he was crazy and ended up cheating on me, I married the next man I dated after him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 04:44 AM
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I'm glad you were able to come across some sane ideas so early on! I've heard a theory over on /r/PurplePillDebate that the whole metoo movement is women perhaps unconciously realising that this full liberation and promiscuity is maybe not in women's best interest. It's literally feminism going "oooh maybe we fucked up!" and trying to reassert some control over the sexual marketplace. Marriage is what gives us power in a marketplace where we are biologically more vulnerable - we need to use that…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 04:12 AM
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this wasn't deleted when i posted that, but you can change the URL from https://www.reddit.com...... to https://www.ceddit.com..... and the deleted comments will show up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 03:44 AM
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Preparing our daughters for their world does not take away from their femininity. It allows them to fully embrace it. I love relying on my husband to handle the sharp edges of the world, but I do value my father for teaching me how to handle it on my own. This is so beautifully put and I feel just the same :)
/r/RedPillWives25/06/18 11:11 PM
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Or you could just ignore them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 09:23 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/8rs74l/now_im_confused/e0tv7j5
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 12:02 PM
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You guys are weird
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 11:07 AM
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I don't think that having "had fun" with Chad in the past prevents a woman from being a great wife. If she treats him well, then no I wouldn't say anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 05:57 AM
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What is gibs? Are you saying that you can't see the difference between allowing a person to change their own body, and forcing someone to stay in a shitty marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 04:21 AM
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I think bisexuals are just highly sexual/low disgust people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 02:54 AM
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My husband and I both eat pescetarian, so our diet is very fish and vegetable heavy. I go to the fish market every 2 weeks or so and stock up on seafood that can be frozen, and plan our meals around that. I tend to just buy vegetables every couple of days as we need them, otherwise I tend to end up with waste. We both feel much better since giving up red meat, but I do worry about his iron levels and have been looking at ways to get more iron-heavy veggies into our food. The big difference in ou…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 01:06 AM
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I can't speak for myself, but I have a good friend like you. She's a total badass, and has told me she can't be attracted to a guy "unless he looks like he could have massacred a small village" lol. She tends to date guys from the military but admittedly has struggled to find a man with that level of dominance who wants to settle down and have a family. Have you looked into rugged, masculine, blue collar types? Soldiers, firefighters, paramedics, etc? I find that men who have been exposed to rea…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 12:59 AM
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Yes I think you're spot on
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 12:09 AM
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If the only basis for this is that otherwise they'll kill themselves, then the same logic applies for abolition of no-fault divorce. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 12:07 AM
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I like to believe that BPP is just a big long piece of performance art
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 11:41 PM
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Aw he's beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 11:36 PM
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I think there are legitimate biological cases of true transgenderism, but I think they're rare. I also think there's a lot of grey area where people don't fit neatly into the pink or blue boxes, and whether that's actual "trans" or not I don't know and don't really care. It's become trendy to be trans, and I think that a lot of the modern trans cases are socially enforced. Saying that though, just because it isn't "real" doesn't mean I have a problem with it. If a man decides he feels better liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 11:32 PM
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Yeah I know some sisters like you and yours. The younger one (my friend) is super promiscuous, and also one of the kindest, warmest, most thoughtful people I've ever met. Her older sister married the first man she ever kissed and is a judgemental mega bitch that no-one can stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 09:54 PM
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Are chaste women are more likely to be warm, sweet, polite, caring? Are high n-count women more likely to be emotionally withdrawn, colder, rude and selfish? It's a huge generalisation, but I tend to see the opposite in my life. The women who were stuck on keeping a low count tended to be neurotic and judgemental and slow to show affection and love. They had weird hang ups around sex and relationships and we're generally just a lot of work to be around. The more promiscuous women I know were muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 09:51 PM
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Aw thank you! I always enjoy your posts. You seem really smart but without the need to get all serious about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 10:39 AM
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Most of what you say here is basic RP theory. However, you say it in a rambling and unnecessarily brash manner. This post is hard to read. omg loneliness have you heard of the pot and kettle?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 06:06 AM
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Unlike a woman who can just lie about her n-count, faking abundance is much harder for a man. Women have antennas and they can sense your weakness. You can lie and cheat like a PUA but at the end of the day, you will never have a decent or significant relationship with a high quality woman. why the fuck is he writing to the man? they're not even trying to make it look like a women's sub anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 06:05 AM
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aw man i've been away for a few days - which thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:46 AM
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thanks for your thoughts! i think i understand what you're getting at. I think some women can be seen to be "high dominance" to the outside world or in their career, yet in the context of a relationship can be very submissive, and vice versa. absolutely - i'm a perfect example of this i think. i think Camille's intention with this theory was to look specifically at how it is expressed within a relationship, but i could be wrong. yet at the same time I have a very, very feminine mindset, particul…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 05:45 AM
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awesome! thank you! i actually use justonecookbook.com a lot - we loooove her okonomiyaki recipe. anything remotely japanese i always check there first to see if she's got it.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 05:41 AM
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it's a debate sub where reds and blues battle it out. it's fun but completely mental haha.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 05:40 AM
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It's always fascinating for me to see adults who were taught with these styles! In what ways do you think it affected him? What did he like about the Waldorf philosophy? oh it is a huge part of who he is now. he was originally in a stuffy catholic all-boys school but was pulled out when his mother saw how much he hated it there. at the waldorf school he was allowed to be an actual boy and learn in a way that suited his very hands on style. if he'd been forced to sit through endless maths tests a…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 05:39 AM
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That's too bad. Luckily I have some time on my hands. I want to get some more interaction going on there. I would very much encourage that. One of our users /u/whitebunny87 is a mod there, she would probably really appreciate it! yes please /u/BajaBlast90, i've seen your posts and think you'd have a lot to add! unfortunately i'm mostly running the place alone right now and just don't have the time to give it what it needs/deserves. the more quality posts we get, the easier it will be to maintain…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:36 AM
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that's great to know, thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:34 AM
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I'm still rooting for them from an ideological stand point Aw thanks boo 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:13 AM
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Yay congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 03:30 AM
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My company has just introduced a pronoun policy, where unless you know someone personally you should use neutral pronouns. My boss then called me to check if "mate" is a gendered pronoun and if I want him to switch to something else. I told him mate is fine, but queen is better. I don't think he got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 01:38 AM
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Wow whisper how did you get so smart 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 12:46 AM
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I love you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 09:13 AM
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By "doing a study" do you mean "reading Reddit posts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 09:12 AM
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Why doesn't he want to drive? Because he doesn't enjoy it or because he's neurotic/scared of it? I enjoy driving so that's not a problem, but if he was afraid of driving I'd find it a turn off. The height thing has always been a sticking point for me. I'm a tall girl and feel manly if the guy I'm with isn't taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 05:26 AM
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i'm not sure yet, maybe if there was demand for it? word is that camille took it down for a reason, but i'm not sure what that reason was and she hasn't been around in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 03:34 AM
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hahah do you really want to send them into that bizarre corner of the internet?
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:33 AM
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yes i love her too! i'm not a GoT fan, but every time I've seen her in an interview she comes across so poised and down to earth.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:30 AM
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I keep referring to it, but I think the Psychological Femininity post is a brilliant start for that side of things. Practising Vulnerability is another great post that might send you on the right track!
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:29 AM
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Glad you like it :) Please do chime in with your thoughts on it, I'd be curious to hear what you think.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:26 AM
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Glad you liked it! I think I'll let this one settle in for a couple of days so everyone gets a chance to read and have a think about it, and then post the next in the series maybe on the weekend or early next week :)
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:25 AM
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Yes I understand entirely about having a dual nature, good point! At work and in my general day to day life I'm quite dominant - I manage a big team at work and it comes quite naturally for me to be in charge in those situations. Around the right man though, that all goes out the window. It's interesting how deference/submission can be inspired in a woman when the situation is right.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:24 AM
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Yes! I like how she pointed out that if a woman has a dominance threshold of, say, 6, then a man of 8 or 9 would just scare her. More dominance isn't always a good thing in a man, and it's all very personal to the couple.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:22 AM
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Welcome! Glad to have you here :)
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 03:20 AM
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No, each man is a bastion of honour and integrity who never changes his mind ever. Haven't you heard?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 03:17 AM
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Settle down, having a little social grace doesn't require divining the energy of the universe ;)
/r/RedPillWives20/06/18 12:49 AM
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"AA" your wife, not us
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 10:58 PM
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This is not the place for men to share their personal opinions.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 09:43 PM
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this is a women's space, no need to announce your gender or share your personal preferences in women
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 08:13 PM
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No, your point could have been made in a couple of sentences but you chose to pontificate for paragraphs. Of course a man would be happy with a great wife and exceptional mother. Do you think women are divorcing men who are great husbands and exceptional fathers for the ENTIRETY of their marriage? Women don't divorce for the fuck of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 01:48 PM
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You use a lot of words to say not much
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 01:31 PM
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I love it! We definitely give that a go :)
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 01:18 PM
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that apple cake looks great. i have a big dinner party to cater for this thursday and have the whole menu figured out except for dessert. might just give that cake a go :)
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:38 PM
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if you have any favourite recipes for a nice winter cake i'd love to see them! something with apple/spices/etc?
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:16 PM
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Maybe we should have a fitness goals thread so we can all motivate eachother through our progress? i think there's one going on at our sister sub /r/femininenotfeminist! go check it out, and if it isn't what you're after feel free to start your own here!
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:04 PM
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this is all spot on :) thanks for sharing
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:02 PM
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ok, i had a really similar situation when i first started dating my husband. we'd hung out a couple of times but hadn't slept together yet, and he offered to store some things for me at his house after an event i'd hosted. i knew it was just a ploy to get me into his house, so i texted with a cheeky "sure, as long as i can take you out for a date at [local late night coffee house] after :)" it was cutesy and obviously mixing up the dynamic we'd had so far. he playfully went along with it and let…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 11:56 AM
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great! i look forward to hearing your thoughts on it :)
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 11:01 AM
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i'm glad you liked it! and thank you for reading all the way through :)
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 10:53 AM
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how interesting! i don't follow astrology, but i am interested in classification/description of people's traits so this fits in nicely. do you know much about MBTI at all? i feel like i should make a post on that, it's another interesting way of looking at human traits/behaviours and how they influence relationships
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 10:53 AM
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this is all great advice :) i was used to being fit but after a surgery lost so much of my strength and it was a huge mental hurdle to go back to basics. i hired a trainer for a few sessions and explained my issues, and he worked with me to create a program to get back to myself asap. i think if you know a good pro to guide you through it can make a world of difference. congrats on your progress, and i'm sure with that attitude you won't have any problems getting your body back after the birth
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 09:10 AM
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oh you've actually made bento before? that's so cute, i'd love to learn how to make the cutesy ones one day but it seems so time intensive lol
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 06:54 AM
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My youngest likes putting tiny toy dinosaurs in there and I can tell my husband likes it! omg that is so adorable <3
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 06:53 AM
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I agree with you that he inviting you to cook in his house is almost certainly an effort to get you into bed. You can't blame him for trying, but it doesn't mean you need to go along with it if you aren't ready! Just try to make this clear before going over there. I would probably go with /u/tommyetw's advice of an earlier start and planning a public activity after you've cooked together. Just let him know that you'd love to cook with him, but would want to end the evening with a coffee or tea s…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 05:24 AM
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i think this is a great compromise.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 05:20 AM
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You've never heard men bitching about the old "ball and chain"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 03:57 AM
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OP is trying to look attractive to her husband, today. It's completely irrelevant what body types were attractive a hundred years ago.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 01:13 AM
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it's every man's dream to have a woman who has what he considers to have a hot body. whether that body varies from 97 lbs in China or 117 lbs in USA is irrelevant.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:40 PM
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i was looking specifically at the Aisai Bento, which is a bento that women send their husbands to work with. it's a common way of showing love and appreciation. i'm not considering making actual bento boxes, that's way too much work for me! but i do like the concept of a carefully packed lunch being a way to show love. he does have a fridge and microwave there, and i think i might have to resort to disposables! i prefer not to just because it's very wasteful, but i guess losing actual tupperware…
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:38 PM
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yeah, having plenty of snacks on hand at home is a great idea, so he can grab whatever he feels like for that day. thanks!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:36 PM
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thanks! i like the idea of multiple small snacks that he can pick and choose at over the day. very helpful :)
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:35 PM
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that cake is gorgeous!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:34 PM
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You're right that beauty standards are different across cultures, but no woman is trying to appeal to the whole world. If you were living in China, we'd recommend you stay small and slim to appeal to the men there. If you were living in America we might suggest working out to build a more toned and curvaceous body. Just because there isn't one worldwide ideal body shape doesn't mean you shouldn't work to be attractive for your own husband or in your own sexual marketplace.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:33 PM
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this is a great idea, but I think this discussion could totally stand on it's own as a post. would you like to get the discussion going?
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:28 PM
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Welcome! I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Good luck with your fresh start, and hope you meet someone great soon! Have you started dating yet?
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 11:27 PM
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Yes I love Camille Paglia! Thanks
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 06:53 PM
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no need to announce your gender. this is a women's space.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 12:33 PM
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omg thank you! so helpful!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 12:00 PM
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It's a fact that your body will change permanently after having children, and you can't stop your husband from lusting over hot 20-somethings. I think with most men, though, the fact that you've carried and birthed his children will earn you a bit of leeway there. A hot, young body will always get a man going, but a woman of substance who takes care of herself and has supported him over the years will likely be cherished for that. Don't get complacent, and make sure you are that woman. There are…
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 10:55 AM
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Thanks! I do tend to cook double a lot of the time, but I usually freeze it for the nights we're out late and don't have time to cook. I like the idea of having cake or some other baked good ready to go. Maybe I can get a good baking schedule going so he's got fresh muffins or pastries to take with him. How long do your cakes tend to last before they're a bit stale? Also the thermos idea is great - he does have an espresso machine at work, but he commutes half an hour each way and I'm sure he'd …
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 10:41 AM
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excellent! thank you
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 10:32 AM
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That attractive, social men give a toss about n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 05:30 AM
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Welcome <3
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 01:32 AM
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that book looks great, i'll add it to our resource list :)
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 12:35 AM
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great :) i've just made a post to collect new RP resources, so hopefully the other members will come with with some stuff we haven't come across yet!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 11:31 PM
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I will respect other men and be civil towards those I do not agree with, but I submit to one man only - my SO. Agreed!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 11:27 PM
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YouTube
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:56 PM
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Other
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:55 PM
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Notes from a Red Pill Girl The Rules Revisited On the Rock - Verus Conditio Judgy Bitch What Women Never Hear
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:54 PM
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One Extraordinary Marriage
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:47 PM
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The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger How To Help Your Husband Get Ahead In His Social And Business Life by Dorothy Carnegie The Good Housekeeping Marriage Book How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About it, by Drs. Love and Stosny Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:47 PM
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/r/FeminineNotFeminist /r/GetFeminine /r/xxfitness /r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:46 PM
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Subreddits
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:43 PM
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Books/Magazines
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:43 PM
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Podcasts
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:43 PM
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Blogs
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:43 PM
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Websites
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:43 PM
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Hi and welcome I don't listen to any RP related podcasts myself, but /u/MrsRaulDuke suggested One Extraordinary Marriage in the intro thread, maybe that's a good one to look into? In the Essential Posts section of our wiki, there's some really great posts, have a look at the LTRs and marriage section and see if those are relevant to you. /u/KittenKajira's Advice from a Reformed Arguer is a great one to start with imo! If you feel like sharing some more specific information on where you went wron…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 10:29 PM
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Well put. I don't care how other people manage their subs, but this is exactly why RPWives exists and is so strict on male participation.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 08:54 PM
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Sure. It's basically understanding that men and women are different, and using that knowledge to improve our relationships. We believe that if you've got yourself a good man, then a male-led relationship is generally what makes both sides happiest. It tends to attract women who lean trad-con, but plenty (including myself) are not. There's some more info here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 08:34 AM
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Sorry 😬 I swear I'm sorta socialised
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 07:48 AM
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She came to us 6 months ago saying they'd accidentally gotten pregnant and her husband would consider letting her keep the child if she gave him enough porn star sex. No matter what she did to try to keep him happy, it wasn't enough. The whole relationship is beyond fucked up and she should have walked out on him a long time ago.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 07:39 AM
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you wanted to role play!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 01:57 AM
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I'm not religious myself but I there's a lot about religion that I love and I always enjoy learning more. Have you heard of a podcast called "on being"? It's a set of really thoughtful interviews with all sorts of people, always with a religious/spiritual focus. I really love it.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 10:56 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 10:53 PM
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Sorry, that's not what this sub is for.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:22 PM
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welcome! i'm so glad you found us, and i feel like you'll have a lot to contribute. you seem very thoughtful and self-aware. i look forward to hearing more from you, please do get involved in the discussions :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:13 PM
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so glad to have you here! please do get involved, i look forward to hearing more from you :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:11 PM
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ahh your life sounds beautiful! what kind of music do you teach? i've always played piano but have totally stagnated for the last few years and am considering getting a teacher to get me back on track and progressing again. i love that you're into Montessori education! my husband came from a big steiner/waldorf background so i'm really interested in alternative education styles. i love what it did for him and we'd both love to send our future kids on that path. i'm so glad you found your way her…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:11 PM
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I'm mostly here just to marinate in undiluted womanly energy, which I feel is very powerful (& underrated!). Yesssssss sign me up! Have you been over to /r/FeminineNotFeminist? They have some great discussions on beauty and fashion. I look forward to getting to know you better :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:03 PM
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I remember him coming into your last post here and blaming all of your (very valid) concerns on "insecurity". Be mindful of that. He's being evasive and cryptic and that's the last thing you need when you're just about to give birth. I don't think that now is the right time to delve into whatever relationship problems you have. There are obviously very big, complicated issues that will need to be dealt with, but now is not the time. You have a very real priority right now, and that is to deliver…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 12:00 PM
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welcome! it's great to have you here :) congratulations on your new son, and good luck for the next ones! i'd love to hear more about the role models you find in your church if you'd ever feel like making a post on that!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 09:12 AM
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hey, there's nothing anti-RPW about being opinionated and talkative! glad to have you here and look forward to hearing more from you :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 09:11 AM
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thanks so much for (re)joining us!! so happy to have you here :) what i love about this place is that is doesn't need to be ideological or political. it does tend conservative just because there's overlap between conservative folk and more traditional relationship values, but it's certainly not a prerequisite. the main thing i've always drawn from RP spaces is not anything political, but simply that men and women are different, and we can use that knowledge to improve our relationships. i look f…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 09:09 AM
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thank you
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 08:59 AM
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I'm so sorry you're going through all of this right before giving birth <3 I think you're right to be hurt by that, a good husband doesn't humiliate his obviously pregnant wife by flirting with other women at a party. Whether or not anything would have happened between them is irrelevant - just by openly flirting he was sending a message to everyone at that party that he has no respect for you, your marriage or your unborn child. It sounds to me like he's trying to implement MRP strategy to get …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 08:56 AM
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Hi there llaym Would you mind adding any relevant context to this situation? It's a very complex and difficult position you're in and I think more information about your husband and his behaviour is relevant. Thank you <3
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 08:09 AM
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You're just describing lower class girls though. Rich sluts wouldn't have any of those tells.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 12:43 AM
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I would never date a 25 year old virgin. Apart from that, a man's n count doesn't mean anything to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 12:32 AM
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I think it's more that if there was an accidental pregnancy the raw milk is no good for baby
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 07:36 AM
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Wow thank you! You're the best! I'm going to try the fertiliser first, it's been a while for both of them so that would be an easy fix. Finding more light/warmth in the middle of winter is going to be a bit harder!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 07:25 AM
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Her prospects don't change if she's married
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 04:52 AM
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Yes a good curry paste is amazing for a quick and easy dinner. We love laksa paste, just chuck in some shrimp and vegetables and you're done.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 04:37 AM
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Mine is words and quality time, my husband's is gifts. It's embarrassing how extravagant he gets for birthdays lol and I don't know how to tell him to tone it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 03:56 AM
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these are all such great points. so many women will work themselves into the ground trying to be "perfect". happy is better than perfect every time imo.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 02:29 AM
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I'm a Pyrex junkie. you and me both, girl
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 02:16 AM
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cooking with a good instant read thermometer changed a lot for me, i could never go back now. i also keep a thermometer hanging in the oven, because i've realised that the temperature inside often in no way reflects the temperature on the dial. on the same theme of being really pedantic about not over/under cooking things, my husband actually built me a sous vide machine. i don't use it too often, but if i need a show stopping salmon i'll pull it out and it never disappoints. another great kitch…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 02:14 AM
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welcome! so glad to have you here :) hope to see you around
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 01:44 AM
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aw more high school sweethearts! congrats on your pregnancy :) i'm glad you came out of lurking to say hi! hope to see more of you around
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 01:41 AM
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it's funny, i'd already heard quite a lot about him before we met - we're in the same extended social circle so his name would come up every now and then. we finally got chatting at an event and when he said his name it all clicked :) our friends saw us talking and played matchmaker pretty hard haha. they made sure we saw each other again and again until we were officially an item. it was the first time i'd dated someone who was already known to my friends and it made it sooo much easier! they a…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 01:38 AM
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lol you know that once the wedding was over i was so DONE with wedding planning that i deleted all my related pinterest boards. just purged it in a moment of weakness and now i kinda regret it!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 12:39 AM
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my dad has a full head of hair and just started graying in his 50s. He probably wasn't pinning T though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 10:51 PM
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Unfortunately I think that this is a mistake she just needs to make for herself. You've told her your opinion on what she should do, and she's decided she wants to chase this guy anyway. Either it'll work out and she'll get her man, or it won't. It isn't really your place to push her beyond giving normal friendly input.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 10:44 PM
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My man comes from stuffy old English stock so hiring help is just the norm for those guys lol. He has a weird double standard though where cleaning, ironing, etc he'll gladly outsource, but anything 'manly' he's way too proud. I'd be in so much trouble if I ever called a plumber or electrician. Even if it takes him weeks to get around to it he will figure it out himself. So stubborn haha. Did you ever read 'The Secret Garden'? It was my favourite as a kid and is all about those wild English gard…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:47 PM
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After some googling I have some creeping arrowhead that's going yellow/brown, but they're growing directly out of water and always have so I'm not sure how their water conditions could have changed! I also have a bunch of some jasmine variety growing near the window, and all the leaves near the end of each vine are turning yellow and waxy. I think it might be a lack of sun from the shorter days?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:30 PM
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Haha adding it to the list is a start!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:28 PM
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C25K is couch to 5k :) it's a gradual running program that gets you from sedentary to running 5km in 9 weeks. I used it to get my cardio fitness back slowly after a surgery and it's great
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:16 PM
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yep, i understand. a post on what kind of things you do to keep busy as a homemaker would be really valuable i think! most people just think of basic cooking and cleaning, but i know it goes much further than that and you seem to embrace that.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 06:38 AM
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My boyfriend is 100% content not to deep clean, dust, iron, change the sheets, or use the good lighting my husband was telling me about friends of his and how they change their sheets every single week. i don't know how sheet washing came up in their conversation lol but it did. i asked him how often he thinks our sheets are changed and he goes "uhhh i saw them on the clothesline like a month ago?". i had to explain to him that our sheets are also changed weekly, he just doesn't see me doing it.…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 06:34 AM
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don't get me wrong, I agree with you that women should do whatever works for their family and that mainstream society does look down on the kind of arrangement you're talking about. i was more curious about you saying that your beliefs are controversial here in RPWives. maybe i'm wrong, but i can't see the women here disagreeing that looking after your family/household is a worthwhile pursuit.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 06:27 AM
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Sure that makes sense. I don't see anything controversial about it though? I don't think anyone here would call that lazy. Different families have different priorities - my husband and I are high earners and like to use this time to set up our family's financial future while we still don't have children. I don't cut my hours back because it doesn't make financial sense for us to do that. Other families will prefer to do things differently, and that's fine. There's no official RPW stance on how a…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 05:51 AM
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Hi, and welcome back. From what I read it seems like you're advocating for working part-time and taking care of the house in your spare time? One of these changes were particularly concerning to me - since I actually thought that the way my values have changed and developed would come into direct conflict with the RPW, since I did notice many oppositions to it here. What part of splitting your time between working and homemaking do you feel comes into conflict with RPWives?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 05:32 AM
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we're going into winter here, and some of our indoor plants are suffering for it. we have a whole bunch of them and half i have no idea what they even are, so i'm googling "heart shaped leaf climbing plant is dying yellow leaves" and hoping for the best haha. i am not the green thumb in this family. apart from that, last night my husband mentioned how much he loves soups in winter, so i went and bought a kilo of mushrooms to make a big soup with tonight :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 03:57 AM
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This is a great idea. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:53 AM
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ugh i had the same thing when i lived in canada. you need a social insurance number to apply for canadian ID you need canadian ID to apply for your social insurance number wtf, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 01:40 AM
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It was never a coup, it was a ~conscious uncoupling~
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 01:34 AM
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Welcome! What a sweet story :) I love hearing about high school sweethearts ending up together. I think you should pop into the Psychological Femininity thread and let us know what you think of it! It sounds like something that's very relevant to you at the moment. Also I think your efforts to display femininity without attracting the wrong types of attention would be a great topic for a post if you feel like making one! I'm sure the others will have some great input. Congratulations on your pre…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:33 AM
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you're welcome! meal planning is something i've never really done but would love to get into.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:19 AM
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natural hair can be beautiful and shiny too!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:05 AM
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Every time I go to the hairdresser I joke with my husband that "ohh I was thinking I might just chop it off, get one of those cute pixie cuts, you know? And you're not attached to me being a blonde, right?" Gets him every time :P
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:03 AM
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So great to have you here :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:42 AM
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Hi glitterchild! So happy to have you here! I like to think that we're all smart enough here to share and absorb ideas with a supportive and intelligent tone. I don't see much point in the nasty "tough love" approach, but to each their own. I’m something of a regular on FNF as well and I know there’s a lot of crossover There certainly is! We love our /r/FeminineNotFeminist sisters. I’d love advice on being confident in the dating game and attractive to high value men. Particularly how to reconci…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:40 AM
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Hi ojosdecristal, and welcome. It seems like there's two main issues here - your feelings of resentment towards your husband, and the more practical issue of how to get everything done. Has this way of splitting chores been the arrangement for your whole marriage? When children came along, did you discuss how you were going to manage the extra workload? When did your feelings of resentment start to set in? How is your marriage otherwise? Have you spoken to him about your concerns? Have you told …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:30 AM
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again, thanks, but i happen to know my husband quite well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 12:03 AM
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Lol thanks for the marriage advice, but we're doing just fine. Normal, non-aspie men work in subtlety just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:53 PM
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I know and speak to men, thank you. "Wanna proof" doesn't make sense by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:40 PM
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Because women can do that and still get laid. That is literally the only reason men don't talk openly like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:33 PM
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if they want a sport partner, they want a sports partner. They're politely asking for a thin girl. Promise. what women think when I say I want a gaming partner? I would think that you're asking for a girl who won't be turned off by the fact that computer games are your hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:31 PM
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I got my nails done in Santa Monica once and I just couldn't figure out what was so different about the experience. It wasn't until I left that I realised it was the first time a white woman had ever done my nails.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:29 PM
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If women complaining about short men bothers you this much you should probably take a break from the internet and get some perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:27 PM
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Yeah, I'm 5'11 and I've turned men down for their height before. I would never say that's the reason to their face unless they really push the point. All of my boyfriends have been attractive men my height or taller, they're not that hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:22 PM
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Yup spot on. Aka go out into the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:19 PM
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Haha I keep trying to convince my husband we need dogs!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 10:58 PM
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Yeah of course they should. People can ask for whatever they want
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 07:44 PM
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Why would it not be ok to say no small penises?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:10 PM
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I've had a couple of guys ask me out and really really pressed for a reason when I said no. I was honest and said I prefer to date men taller than me, and both lost their mind over it. Took straight to insulting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:08 PM
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Haha yep
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 11:02 AM
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She looks like an asshole, but men will sleep with her anyway. It doesn't hurt her chances because men are thirsty, not because "feminism"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 09:26 AM
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Yes I know. But this is what men mean when they say they want someone active. Women can read between the lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 09:25 AM
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What does tact matter if the result is him refusing to date the fat girl? It makes no difference if you're straight forward about it or talking around the point. The men are only tactful because they know that saying "no fat girls" is going to make him sound like an asshole and hurt chances of getting a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 09:10 AM
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Men can't complain about fat women without women complaining. Women can't complain about short men without men complaining. It goes both ways. The only difference is that men are getting upset about what the girls are saying. Women are absolutely shamed for rejecting short guys. I personally have been shamed multiple times for not wanting a short guy. That wasn't the point of the OP. It's about sexual preference, not whether it's controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 09:05 AM
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Men constantly complain about women who say "no short men" and women complain about men who say "no fat women". There's no double standard. Are you seriously implying that I couldn't screenshot a million examples of guys saying how gross/useless fat women are? It's not a feminist thing, it's a gender thing. People are usually a little more careful with how they say it though. "I'm really into sports so am looking for someone active" is just a polite way of saying "no fatties".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 09:00 AM
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Gross huh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 06:50 AM
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Welcome! Super glad to have you here :) how are you finding the transition to being a SAHM? My husband and I also met once we were both well established. Worked out well for us but there's definitely learning curve when you're used to your own space and doing things your own way! I'm a DB engineer and we're also planning for me to stay home once kids come along. I'm looking forward to it :)
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 06:41 AM
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I love it when the boys come out with their edumacation https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/8qcflg/back_to_the_basics_feminism?sort=confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 06:10 AM
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"Promiscuity and adultery didn't exist until second wave feminism. We were all well behaved prudes until hypergamy unleashed feminism unleashed the death of marriage." Lol history is fun when you can just invent it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 04:43 AM
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How would a man know if he can't tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 04:39 AM
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Exactly. Young girls might chase someone older if he's famous or very rich, but they're definitely not going after old IT nerds just because they managed to scrape in 6 figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:52 AM
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Pop into redpillwomen and read their post on feminism. Apparently the right to vote = hypergamy Women having jobs = hypergamy It's hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:34 AM
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Welcome! I'm so glad you joined us! I have always believed that femininity is wonderful and powerful in its own right, and that women can thrive in whatever lifestyle they choose without acting like a man. I take pride in my womanhood and want to encourage other women to take pride in theirs. This is so beautifully put and I feel exactly the same. There is so much that is so beautiful and powerful in being a woman, and expressing that properly is really special. Look forward to getting to know y…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 11:18 PM
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Aw I love this :) I don't think it's something I'd ever do for myself, I'm very much a "take a photo and throw it out" kinda girl. I don't like having excess stuff, so tend to use Evernote to keep a digital copy of things. Saying that though, reading your post brought back such sweet memories of scrapbooking with my mum and her sisters. We live in a different country to her sisters, so whenever we all got together the women would bring stacks of photos to trade for their family scrapbooks. All t…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 11:12 PM
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This post is such a classic :) thanks for digging it up Astroviridae!
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 03:38 PM
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Welcome! I'm so glad you've joined us :) dog groomer is probably my dream job lol. Maybe when I'm tired of engineering that'll be my career change :p Sounds like you and your bf have a good thing going. Look forward to seeing you around!
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 02:42 PM
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I would try to get away from the gaming circles if I were you. I think that might be your common denominator here. Look at slightly older men, late 20s is a good age I think. If you don't have hobbies that you're meeting eligible men through, you need to go find some! You can't just keep hanging out with the same type of man and wondering why they're all the same :P Would you consider online dating? Obviously stay away from the hookup apps, but I've heard good things about OkCupid.
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 08:48 AM
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In a functional marriage, once chosen a person for life, "I" stops existing. Or rather, it becomes subordinate to "we". I really love this. I like looking at my marriage as an entity in itself, independent of my husband and I, that needs to be cared for and nurtured. I don't think either of us should strive to succeed at the expense of our marriage - keeping that healthy keeps us healthy. Even if that means making personal sacrifices sometimes. what does an ideal family look like to you? Who in …
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 08:44 AM
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A hot older man, yeah. Not their dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 06:50 AM
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Lol this is amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 03:48 AM
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Woah congrats! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 03:20 AM
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No, women do not fantasize about fucking their own father. Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 03:18 AM
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I'm trying to rekindle /r/RedPillWives a bit atm. If there's any reddish ladies out there (married or not) who don't like listening to TRPers wax lyrical about how gross females are, pop in and say hi 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 03:08 AM
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Hi there :) I don't think you're being unreasonable in wanting these things, and I think that you'll find that there are plenty of men out there who want the same. /u/SylviaToday makes a great point about being mindful of jumping to conclusions about a man. Along those lines, keep in mind that it's considered bad form in many circles today for a man to say out loud that he wants a traditional dynamic. Men generally can't say "I want the man to be the man and the woman to be the woman" without so…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 12:43 AM
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Oh wow I could have written almost all of those points myself! being very cognizant of how I approach when I believe he is wrong about something (avoiding the confrontational, aggressive way I was taught, which also made him shut down) This is a huge one for me personally. I find that unless I stay conscious about it, it's so easy to slip into that way of disagreeing. I've worked in a very male-dominated, aggressive workplace for the last 10 years, where it's necessary to be very direct and asse…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 12:01 AM
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Yep "honey-do" lists get a bad rap sometimes, but my husband is the same. He wants to help out and get these things done, but often has so much other stuff to keep track of that a list on the fridge is easiest. He can put it out of his mind until he's got time to actually do the job.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 11:30 PM
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Fantastic! Great job :) Are there any lessons you took from The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands that were particularly helpful? Anything that you would especially recommend the ladies here to know about and implement?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 10:38 PM
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We both work full time, but I mostly work regular hours from home while my husband does more demanding days out in the city. I do almost all of the housework during the day - I much prefer handling it bit by bit and having it all done by the time my husband gets home so we can relax together. I'm also much quicker at housework than he is, I enjoy cooking, and I have higher standards for what's "clean" so it makes sense to just do it myself. Any household maintenance, fixing things, looking after…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 10:25 PM
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Yep that's me and my bullet journal. I'd be a mess without it.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:38 PM
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So true! It's so important to treat your partner as teammate rather than the competition. Life's so much easier when you're in the same corner <3
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:23 PM
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So organised! Good on you
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:11 PM
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Oh those are both great ideas! I've got my cat's insurance papers laying around that I should definitely add to mine. My husband had nicknamed her "vet bill" after a couple of dramatic scares lol
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 11:58 AM
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Glad it was helpful! Let us know how you go :)
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 11:56 AM
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Welcome! So glad you've come out of lurking :) hope to see you around!
/r/RedPillWives10/06/18 01:31 AM
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Welcome! Quite the family you've got! Congrats on your pregnancy :)
/r/RedPillWives10/06/18 01:30 AM
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So committed to wearing suits that don't fit him! I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 08:22 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 03:49 AM
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I'm not a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 01:24 AM
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Men don't want to single-parent
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 12:52 AM
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As long as you frame it as you taking care of them rather than mooching off them, it might not be a big deal. I'd find it kinda sweet if I met a guy who was giving up a bit of his freedom to look after his family. Or are you more talking about bringing girls home?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 11:58 PM
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That kind of tireless dedication is such a beautiful trait, I think. Especially considering he didn't see it as a chore, but the norm. My mother fought breast cancer for 10 years and my dad was the same. He never faltered, there was never anything but love and devotion shown from him. Their relationship is probably my main inspiration for how a loving couple should behave. Thank you for sharing <3
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 11:35 PM
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Excellent! I'll have to look into it
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 11:19 PM
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I think the mind absolutely counts!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 11:14 PM
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So glad you beat the cancer <3 what an awful experience for you. It must have really brought your then-bfs best qualities to light, though. It sounds like you have a wonderful man. And using that experience to push forward and write a PhD is just incredible. So much respect to you. Very grateful to have you here, and I hope to get to know you better x
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 11:13 PM
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Thank you 😘 it really speaks to me each time I read it
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 07:31 PM
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You might also be interested in the recommended resources we've gathered! I haven't checked them in a while so might be a little out of date, but there's some great blogs and communities in there :)
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 07:29 PM
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Oh we are so going to have to have a proper yurt discussion some time haha. When we stayed in the yurt after a few wines I swore to my husband that I could design a yurt frame for him using just a pencil, some paper, and trigonometry. He told me that if I manage to figure that out, he will single-handedly build me that yurt. I've got some serious maths to brush up on because I really want this to be a thing now!!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:43 PM
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Thanks for posting :) Sounds like you two are super active! I look forward to hearing more from you
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:40 PM
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So glad to have you here :) I stumbled upon TRP a few months ago and while I agreed with a little bit of it, I couldn’t get past the majority of the darker stuff. You might like the post I've just made, 'Being Woman'. Would love to hear your thoughts on it!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:39 PM
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Brilliant! Thanks for saying hi, and I look forward to hearing more from you :)
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:37 PM
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Together since 14! Amazing! It must be so nice to grow up together like that :) It sounds like you've built a beautiful relationship together, I look forward to hearing more about it! Please feel free to make a post with your story if you feel like it.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:36 PM
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Welcome! So glad to have you here :) My husband is similar to yours in that if he saw these online communities he'd just scoff at them, but getting involved in RPWives and the manosphere myself has helped me understand him more than ever.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 12:53 PM
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I'm so glad you've found something that works for you :) Welcome! Hope to see you around.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 12:51 PM
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Hi Raul! Good to see you around :) How long have you and your SO been together for? I haven't heard of that podcast, maybe you'd like to make a post about it sometime? Always good to hear about new media! Good luck with the househunting!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 08:10 AM
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Hi ladies! I'm whitebunny, and I've been hanging around here since the beginning. I'm in my early 30s and have been married for about a year now - no kids yet, just a sweet old cat. I'm an engineer, and passionate about our local music scene. I ran a venue for some years, and nowadays will be out at a show most weekends. My husband and I spend a lot of time camping and travel as often as we can. Next trip will be Iceland later this year :) What draws me to these sorts of feminine spaces is the f…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 08:07 AM
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i think it was our mod Camille who said "we aren't team woman, we aren't team man, we're team harmony". i really like that sentiment :)
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 07:57 AM
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if you want to learn how to fish, you ask the fisherman, not the fish! RP101 ;)
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 07:55 AM
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uhhhh sorry lol. i love my husband's hands! they're big and strong and have lots of little nicks and scars on them. he hates it but they've all got a story from something really cool that he's done. he's also got really thick healthy blonde hair that i'm super jealous of! what about you?
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 07:15 AM
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because i'm a woman and i know lots of women and none of them would agree to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 05:04 AM
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Those women do it hoping that the man will leave his family for her. It's never that they're happy to be in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 03:46 AM
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Don't then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 03:46 AM
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Women will not be happy in harems, doesnt matter if he's alpha or beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 09:14 PM
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Why would a girl know it's fake? Just don't talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 09:11 PM
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Amazing! What's it like living in a yurt? My husband and I stayed in a yurt on holidays once and it was so much fun. I'm not sure if it was the circular shape or just the novelty of it, but we were definitely a lot sillier and light hearted that weekend :P I think the human eye certainly finds a lot of joy in organic shapes, and our obsession with straight lines and right angles can get a bit depressing after a while.
/r/RedPillWives07/06/18 12:06 AM
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Unfortunately I don't think I would find joy in some of the spaces she showed. I agree completely, I feel like she was giving extreme examples to better illustrate. My home is very minimal as well - neutral colours, sleek design and lots of indoor greenery. I prefer my home to be a calming refugee more than a constant joy explosion haha. I like little bursts is colour to break up the day though, things like a beautiful painting, or a bright yellow scarf. Little things like that :) That said, I f…
/r/RedPillWives07/06/18 12:03 AM
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You're very welcome over here :) We created this sub for precisely that reason.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 11:56 PM
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This is what happens when you allow men to run a women's sub, and is precisely why this sub was formed. Historically, women have always had a private space to discuss women's issues away from the men. I like to think that this sub provides a little of that :) Men are allowed to comment here if they really want to, but we have a very low tolerance for male centric advice, and I personally don't understand why guys would want to hang out in a women's group anyway 😉
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 11:55 PM
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I don't think it would have been this sub, I don't remember that.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 11:54 PM
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Welcome! We're very happy to have you here :) the name redpillwives simply denotes that we are women who see marriage as an important goal. All like minded women, married or not, have a home here. We're a smaller sub, and we like it that way. We're quite strict on what kind of content we allow, and we certainly like to focus on female-centric advice. It's my opinion that accepting advice from men will tend to lead to a sub that serves the male imperative, whether that's intentional or not. Thing…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 11:52 PM
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Men like threesomes, how shocking 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 11:43 PM
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Where is the indication that any of these women lied or used a turkey baster? Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 11:23 PM
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Ok you guys can keep your rape and harrassment, and I'll keep my birth control and premarital sex thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 12:47 PM
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Marriages are not as bad at weird niche corners of the internet make out. Promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 10:57 AM
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Repeat after me: The internet is not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 10:35 AM
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The question was which groups are specifically blaming men for hookup culture. All those groups you listed might dislike casual sex, but they're not singling out men and saying it's their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 07:14 AM
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Who's talking about tinder? Try to stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 02:17 AM
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Shush now this definitely happened
/r/askTRP06/06/18 12:25 AM
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So? Some men sleep around and then when they want to marry complain that there's too many sluts around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 08:36 PM
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So? Men sleep around and then complain about sluts when they want to find a wife. That's life. You've not discovered some horrific hypocrisy that only women engage in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 08:34 PM
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Wow you're so in tune with female sexuality. I'm glad we have you to explain how our sex drives work 🙄 My point is that there is no hypocrisy. The women complaining about hookup culture are not the ones who are hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:56 AM
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Some women enjoy casual sex, some don't. Why make it about "women" complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:41 AM
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You're all over the place bud. You don't have an argument, you just want to complain about sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:22 AM
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You keep saying "groups" blame men for hookup culture. Who are these groups?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:20 AM
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I had a thought recently that the ‘Me Too’ movement is essentially a push back against hook up culture. Women have finally realised that it is only men who gain something and enjoy causal sex, so they are saying ‘this is not fair, I am losing something (chasteness? innocence? value? idk?) and he is just using me for sex’. Yep I think you're exactly right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:18 AM
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You say that "women" are complaining about something that "women" are causing, and calling that hypocritical. In reality it's some women complaining about something that other women and other men are causing. It's not hypocritical at all. Hookup culture exists because some people like hooking up. Not because of "women".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:06 AM
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Who exactly are "all these groups" whining about hookup culture? The women who are out there enjoying casual sex certainly aren't. The women who complain about hookup culture are the ones looking for a serious relationship. Casual sex exists because lots of men and women like hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 09:22 AM
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Hahaha ohhhh dear
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 09:15 AM
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Hahaha you're very welcome to them!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 08:55 AM
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i really liked her idea of joy being a series of short term pleasures that add up into a richer experience and way of life. i took it to mean being a little more exuberant and silly from day to day. i'm definitely guilty of taking life a bit too seriously sometimes, and chasing long term happiness at the expense short term joy. i loved this talk because it reminded me to loosen up a bit and maybe balance things out a little more. all of the most enjoyable and likeable people in my life are also …
/r/RedPillWives05/06/18 07:56 AM
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i wish i could help! i used to try doing my own nails but could never get it right. i just pay to get them done now lol. maybe try posting over at /r/FeminineNotFeminist? i'm pretty sure /u/jack_hammarred is a bit of a manicure wizard too :)
/r/RedPillWives05/06/18 06:15 AM
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How old are you? Not challenging you, but I do know a lot of men and women who swore they didn't want kids until they got a little older, and then changed their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 05:54 AM
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i feel like i'm in the twilight zone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 05:20 AM
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I don't pay attention to other men's hair, I have no idea what percentage have an adequate hairline lol. My husband has full thick hair, his 65 year old dad has all his hair, his mum's dad has all his hair, that's all I care about. I am a bit worried about his redhead half brother, hopefully that gene isn't from his stock.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:09 AM
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But on Reddit it looks like Stop it stop it stop it Reddit is wrong. Reddit is not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 03:13 AM
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while you’re lounging around at home building houses in Latin America or whatever other bullshit you’re wasting your money on from age 65-85 I lol'd. You're completely nuts but I love your fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 03:06 AM
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omg lol i love your gran
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 11:48 PM
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how does that show women being told that casual sex=empowerment? i don't see the link.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 11:36 PM
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i think you're explaining it really well. they're choosing not to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 11:06 PM
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is a placeholder anyone you date without the intention of settling down with? i dated plenty of guys when i was younger who i really liked and cared about, but had zero intention of making it a forever thing. dating is fun, it doesn't always need to be looking for a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 10:47 PM
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I would be seriously considering my sister's mental health if she allowed you to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 10:10 PM
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Girl code between strangers is telling her if she's having a wardrobe malfunction, giving her a tampon if she needs it, hugging her if she's crying in a bathroom. Beyond that it's just normal friendship stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 10:05 PM
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well aren't you cryptic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 02:59 AM
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Getting a “hot dog pack” on the back of his neck Omg haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 02:17 AM
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Who has conversations about blow job history before you've hooked up? Surely once you're in bed with them you'll figure out their stance on oral sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 12:49 AM
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Borderline
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:44 PM
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Haha yep my husband has a dex script and really wants to get pulled over just so he can wave the paper at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:36 PM
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I'm not confused. I'm just not interested in discussing this when the definition keeps changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:33 PM
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You have no idea what you're talking about and this thread is a waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:07 PM
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Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:04 PM
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Yep, in Aus. I might actually do that, I'm losing a day of work almost every month as it is. Yay womanhood 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:03 PM
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They recently stopped selling anything with codeine OTC over here because kids were extracting it. You need a prescription for even the 12mg Nurofen plus tablets. My PMS just became so much harder :(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:49 PM
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Emotional availability is building walls to avoid being vulnerable. You
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:38 PM
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No I just keep him around for the sweet BB
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:36 PM
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2 mins ago you told me it means "I'm not ready for a relationship". That is completely different to being emotionally vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:25 PM
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If they complain and mope around all the time, then yeah it's unattractive. I don't think anyone denies that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:17 PM
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Same. I see lots of bragging and cutesy posts, never "all men are trash".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:09 PM
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Your definition changes with every post you make. In future can you define what you're talking about at the outset and stick to it? This whole is useless when no one knows what the topic even is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 09:03 PM
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It's so exciting and dramatic that you convince yourself they're a good partner. You don't look at it rationally because feelings are in the way. Once they've fucked up enough you realise what's going on and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:46 PM
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I've never heard that. I hear women saying it when they're complaining he won't talk about his feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:42 PM
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They are like crack. It's so intense and fiery that you put up with a lot of stuff you otherwise wouldn't. It's a lot of fun for a while but eventually you realise you're living with a toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:37 PM
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Waspy as in white Anglo-Saxon Protestant? Yes it's more akin to how well is he able to put up with all of your shit and stuff you complain about. I've never heard anyone use the word in that way
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:24 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:23 PM
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I wouldn't call that emotional unavailability, just not liking her or not wanting a gf at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 02:11 PM
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Nope. My husband is probably the least emotionally available man I've ever dated, and I'm pretty sure he likes me a lot. I know he feels things, some men are just not good at or don't like expressing that. My husband's fine at showing the positive stuff and gladly tells me all about it when things are good in his life, but as soon as it gets tricky he walls right up. I think it's partly to do with his waspy upbringing, where he was taught that men don't complain, men stay strong and positive, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 01:59 PM
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I have a stash of weed, Xanax, Valium, clonazepam, Lyrica, ketamine, MDMA, LSD, codeine, DHC, and of course a legit prescription for dexamphetamine. Can we come over?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 01:51 PM
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Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 12:25 PM
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Heavily salted!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 12:15 PM
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Sorry to hear about your dad :( we almost lost my dad last year and I completely understand that feeling you're talking about. The love between a man and his daughter is something so powerful and unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:46 AM
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Lol he sounds like fun :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 08:42 AM
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Try wine without preservatives/sulfites if you like. A friend of mine has that same reaction to it and is fine as long as she avoids sulfites.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 07:46 AM
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Lol you're actually nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 07:37 AM
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Maybe you keep having the same conversation because you keep being wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 07:36 AM
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Almost all alimony is awarded when one party was not working at all. How many long term SAHDs do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 03:55 AM
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Oh really? I didn't know that. The only complaints I've heard here is that it picks up THC long after it's worn off so people are getting picked up for impairment when they haven't actually smoked in a few days.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 02:44 AM
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Where I live they do roadside drug testing. It's a saliva swab that picks up THC, speed and mdma.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 01:14 AM
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That's funny, cocaine always gave me the worst anxiety while mdma calmed me right down. Brains are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 01:11 AM
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Have you ever hung out with these guys? They're conforming to a social structure just as much as the preppy dude, they've just chosen a different one to adhere to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 01:01 AM
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Aw that's adorable! And I love Bob's burgers. Linda is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 11:43 PM
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Subcultures are still acutely social. You think the punk guy doesn't socialise with other punk guys? There are social hierarchies and "cool guys" in every subculture.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 11:14 PM
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I loved party drugs when I was younger, used them regularly from 17-25ish. I was (kinda still am) heavily involved in the underground electronic music scene in my city, and drugs were obviously a big part of that. Probably 90% of my close friends I keep today are people I bonded with while tripping or high at a bush rave or warehouse party. I tried just about everything once, but my faves were mdma and psychedelics. I definitely had a bit of a problem with mdma for a while but grew out of it jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 10:51 PM
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This is just awful. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Have you told him you're leaving? Can't believe all the boys in this thread trying to tell you what you should want from your life. Well I can, but you know 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 07:23 AM
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Marriage is not to formalize love, it's to formalize a new family unit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 07:11 AM
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Haha yep exactly. I can't see many women going to meet a stranger who says he's interested in serial killers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 04:53 AM
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I make enough to support us so it wouldn't be the end of the world. I'd rather he work on his own projects until something decent came up than go slave away for minimum wage. I'd be annoyed if he didn't at least try to get back into well paid work but I would never leave him over it. 31/f/red
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 02:53 AM
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No, I'm making a point that men and women both date different types of people for different reasons at different times in their lives. When men do it it's called normal casual dating, when women do it trp screeches about AFBB.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 10:23 PM
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Normally society has a moderating effect on our weirdos. We get socially punished for being odd and can either conform or double down and be isolated. All these incel/mgtow/spergy forums provide a safe space for men to be weird together and encourage each other that they're normal. A little mental illness + an echo chamber is really dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 10:15 PM
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Is a man sleeping around when he's young also "emotional thinking"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 09:36 PM
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Men are demonized for objectifying women by women who don't like to be objectified. I've never heard a man complain about women objectifying them, I don't think they care. Even the article you linked is written by a woman. Yes there's a double standard, but really, so what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 07:41 AM
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Just go to /r/MGTOW ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 07:08 AM
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Because we're talking about a case where the woman wanted the child and the man did not. Contraception should be the responsibility of whoever doesn't want the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 02:33 AM
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I'm not annoyed, I'm teasing the idea that a woman who values different things at different points in her life is automatically settling for a BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 12:57 AM
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but if women want a different type of man at 26 to the ones she dated at 19 she's an eeeeevil AWALT AFBB :P
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 11:41 PM
1

He literally said "a woman of status". And read the wiki article you posted - there is a whole section on occupational prestige which is exactly what I was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 08:54 PM
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Lots of times. "I'm married" works better though. I've also just said "sorry, I'm not interested" which sometimes works fine, but sometimes backfires.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 01:33 PM
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I did the poly thing for a while when I was younger. We had lots of fun, but it would only work for me as a casual thing. If I actually love someone I'm monogamous as fuck. Most "poly" couples I know nowadays are glorified swingers. They all have their main LTR/marriage and sleep with other people on the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 01:32 PM
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i wouldn't care, as long as it wasn't because he couldn't get laid normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 02:27 AM
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i love that colour green. my sheets are that colour.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 11:09 PM
1

wow you're really splitting hairs, aren't you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 11:01 PM
2

Ok bud
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:40 PM
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He wants a well-educated high status wife. These women don't throw themselves at asian men making 100k in IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:37 PM
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Not a UMC 8+ Sure you can pick up a hottie with a meth habit from the trailer park, but women with status don't stoop for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:28 PM
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You should really include the context to that quote in your OP. It makes it sound like these women are marrying at the highest rates, not going into single motherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:23 PM
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UMC women value a man's status, income is only a small part of that. Making 100k in IT is nothing special when you're mixing with doctors and lawyers from "good" families.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:21 PM
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What do you mean by a "high status" wife? Have you tried dating women from your own race and IT field?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:18 PM
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socioeconomic status. Your class is a huge part of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:11 PM
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I'm my experience IT doesn't hold the same sway in the UMC as other jobs with an equivalent salary. It's a new field without the kind of status that law or medicine or academia affords. It's the equivalent of 'new money' and most of my UMC girlfriends would chase the well connected doctor over an IT nerd who makes more. Occupational prestige is more important than dollars in that crowd. Same deal with coming from a good family. UMC puts a lot of weight in where you've come from - your less than …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 10:07 PM
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No, but the reasoning behind it is completely different to the slob in the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 06:25 PM
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You realise you can dump a girl without going full MGTOW, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 06:43 AM
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Prostitution is legal in many places and it hasn't changed a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 04:04 AM
3

How do you know he doesn't do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 03:59 AM
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I don't object at all. I just don't understand why his filter is specifically "mustn't have turned down losers when she was young". Also he's an incel so it's a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 03:41 AM
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Young women aren't looking for a husband, which is why they don't limit themselves to husband material. The hot guys they slept with when they were young had something to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 03:02 AM
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I don't know why you made the answer heavily personal You literally opened the post with a big paragraph babbling on about you and what you personally want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:41 AM
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I'm not telling you what to do, just trying to understand the mentality because it doesn't make any sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:35 AM
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is a man's education and job not a part of who he is? are they less a part of him than a woman's looks are a part of her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:15 AM
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i think it will carry on as it is now. marriage and divorce rates both seem to be stabilising, so i don't think we're in for any major restructure. maybe one change i can see happening is the average marital age continuing to increase. i think we'll see less and less people getting hitched in their early 20s with the majority of people waiting until they're settled into their careers and financially stable. i think this is mostly a good thing. i really dont understand this mentality: I cannot im…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:03 AM
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Social proof IS sexually attractive to a woman. A woman is far more likely to want to sleep with the average looking guy with great social skills than the combative hot dude. /u/gravel_roads is spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 10:40 PM
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I'm not denying you saw that stuff, just saying it's strange for a UMC circle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 10:33 PM
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You specifically mentioned an abusive husband, I'm wondering if it goes both ways for you. Can you answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 10:22 PM
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/u/pope_lucious says he's seen this behaviour in 15% of UMC women he's met. I've seen it in zero. Do you think people are airing their dirty laundry to him and not me?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 10:10 PM
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How young is "young"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:59 PM
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What about the apparently sweet, doting wife who after 15 years of marriage catches the eye of her boss and has an affair? Is that her husband's fault for not vetting properly?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:53 PM
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You find someone you love without any glaring personality flaws, and you go into it with the understanding that they probably will do shitty things at some point. If you expect someone to always act like like the person you married you're going to have a bad time. Marriage is work, you just decide that the work is worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:49 PM
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Weird. I've literally never seen any of those things happen in the UMC world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:45 PM
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And also because men hardly ever apply for primary custody. Why do you ignore that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:42 PM
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Do you live in the ghetto? That's full on. Even 15% sounds ridiculous to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 09:33 PM
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i'm not blaming anyone, i asked you a question. if she hadn't admit to making it up, would they have had enough to actually convict you over it? people don't get convicted of rape over hearsay afaik. either way, it's shitty that happened to you, liars are no good. i still don't believe that there's a huge number of men having their lives ruined over this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 11:46 PM
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how many men do you personally know in real life who have had their lives destroyed by false rape/harassment claims?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 11:36 PM
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You talk among men in the manosphere about how women feel attraction, but when actual women in here tell you you're wrong you deny it. Why do you think a bunch of men understand female attraction better than women do?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 11:19 PM
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I've read a lot on the Internet about men basically getting their lives destroyed by women falsely calling rape and harassment Men on the internet are paranoid What do I need to be aware of and what precautionary measures can I make to make sure I never get done for harassment? Don't hit on workmates, that's about it. Stop reading weirdo TRP paranoia porn, just get out there and interact with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 11:12 PM
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Sure that's all true, but we're talking about men living at home in the context of the post. Chinese men living at home while they save for their future family has nothing to do with an American man child refusing to look after himself or his child.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 10:59 PM
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Oh ok I get you. Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 10:55 PM
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Well I wasn't trying to convince anyone to marry. I was explaining why marriage bestows status.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 10:45 PM
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The guy in OPs article is pulling his weight? How?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 05:21 PM
2

Can you explain this again in words that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 02:09 PM
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In what culture is it normal for a 30 year old man with a child to be living off his parents in a childlike way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 02:05 PM
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Red, married, not a feminist If you could have sex with any Chad type man, no accountability, would You? TRP flavour Chad? No A man I'm super attracted to? If I was single, sure. I would never cheat though. Do you automatically feel attraction to Chads? No. A man doesn't become "Chad" to me until I've seen him talk, move and interact with people. In your dating history, what sort of men has you gone for? The sharp, intelligent, protective bad boy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 01:23 PM
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You say you can't be picky, but you've had a woman choose you out of every man she could possibly get.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 01:04 PM
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Aren't you married?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 12:42 PM
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Yeah. I feel like it's really selfish to not look after your parents when they need it. If they were good parents I think it's your responsibility to give back, and you can't do that when you're a 30 year old man child mooching off them!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 12:03 PM
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Because by the time you're 30 the tables should have turned. Your parents raised you, once you're an adult it's your turn to look after them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 12:01 PM
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I mean it's shameful to force yourself on your parents as a grown man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 09:32 AM
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Isn't this what feminists do to girls and women: paint them as disadvantaged and victims of various conspiracies, and then blame patriarchy/white privilege/male dominated society? Yes it's exactly what they do, and it's stupid. Do you think it is necessary empower boys and young men in the very same way girls and young women are empowered? I don't think it's necessary to "empower" anyone. I think it's a terrible idea, actually. Why is there so much resistance to Jordan Peterson from the media fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 05:08 AM
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I always got along really well with my family, I moved out as a teen but gladly moved back in with my dad for a while when he was sick and needed my help. That was a really different dynamic though where we were both adults and he certainly wasn't cooking for me or paying my phone bills lol. Wanting to live with them when you're not wanted there is just insane though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 05:00 AM
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How embarrassing. How could you have so little dignity that as a 30 year old father you publicly fight to stay with mummy and daddy when they ask you to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:53 AM
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Would you think it is easy to be responsible/learn responsibility and overcome the psychology behind learned helplessness? No it's not easy for everyone, but they need less coddling, not more. Unless you're disabled in some way it is absolutely possible. So, do you disagree with the author's premise/points and with people like Jordan Peterson? Yes I do. The author is painting these men as victims which is the last thing they need. Men failing to launch has nothing to do with society pushing girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:48 AM
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He's complaining, as a 30 year old man, that his parents stopped cooking his meals and paying his phone bill. I mean come on. He's not mentally disabled, he's a "successful business owner" according to himself, his parents have been asking him for months to move out. What might be keeping him at home? Look, I'm sure there was some weird parenting going on for him to insist on staying at home when he's not wanted there, but at what point is a person responsible for their own lives? Lots of people…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:22 AM
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It's just laziness. Why is anyone feeling sorry for a guy who can't be bothered moving out and looking after himself? If the article was reversed and was about a grown woman living at home trp would be screeching about how women are children and society panders to them and blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:09 AM
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How is he "losing out"? He's been mooching off mum and dad and getting a free ride in order to avoid paying for his kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:06 AM
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You might find this article interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 12:30 AM
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In your AFBB example you're describing cuckoldry though. Don't TRP usually use it to describe women who sleep around with alphas before settling down with the safe nice beta and having children with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 12:22 AM
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Bro science indeed 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 10:35 PM
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That's awful, hope everything goes well
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 09:28 PM
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Lol I bet! I spent one winter in Montreal and almost died.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 11:56 AM
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Aw too bad! Yours comes a little later in the year I think. At least it's not too cold up there. I'm over winter already.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 11:49 AM
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Except for Qld and WA I think?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 11:30 AM
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we've got the queens bday holiday in a few weeks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 08:04 AM
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Jealousy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 03:45 AM
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So a sex slave the roasties guy. Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 02:57 AM
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there's too many flair gems in here. it's amazing. a sight repugnant, pitiful and abominable . merely the vehicle of a projected personality . vapid, jejune parasite . redundant and vestigial organ, like the tonsils . An abomination ruining the perfect consistency of natural order
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 12:57 AM
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Where did I say to wait until 40? Most guys who are going to be successful are well on their way by 26 or so. I'm just saying that the 20 year old college student that /u/truedemocracy3 talks about is a very risky bet. Doing well in school isn't a great indicator of how a man's going to manage out in the real world. My husband was 27 when I met him. Already very successful and only just starting to look for a woman to settle down with. If I'd met him earlier I probably would've been a fling to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 11:17 PM
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Sure, that's all true. But plenty of law/med students don't "get there". If having a successful man is important to a woman then she should date older and get the successful man. Not invest in a 20 year old student who may or may not bloom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 10:33 PM
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Boys: the wild and mysterious "woman" loves getting pounded and ditched by Chad, nothing makes her happier. Woman: not really this is what I like Boys: shush no, let me explain. I'm a virgin but I've read a lot of trp. This is what you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 10:19 PM
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That's just not true. Plenty of the party animals I grew up with are incredibly successful. Social skills and networks go a really long way. Plenty of the diligent nerds topped out in some crappy job. This idea that the nerds will rule the world and the jocks flounder is just a revenge fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 10:02 PM
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That's a terrible idea. It's like investing in a fat girl because you think she'll get hot later.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 10:00 PM
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No, she'll sleep with the Porsche guy cause she wants to nail him down for a relationship, not because the car turns her on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/18 09:57 PM
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Aw :( I spent some time in the south and loved it so so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 10:59 PM
2

You're Argentinian?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 10:44 PM
4

He's definitely a laughing stock in Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 10:07 PM
3

She says she has straight female friends who talk about these things
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 09:35 PM
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I read these threads and I am convinced that the men here have never spoken to or touched a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 05:06 PM
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Well she clearly wants to be a mother if she's keeping it but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:52 PM
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Women from top tier universities tend to marry men from top tier universities, who can afford to keep them at home
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:17 PM
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Because it sounds like an outright conspiracy theory and something that would never happen in real life. All I have to counter that is a stranger on the internet saying they read an email about it once upon a time but can't find it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:02 PM
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Even if she's making more than him, his contribution will be helpful. Likewise if he has custody she will pay a percentage of her salary to him. What's wrong with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:56 PM
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Yeah I don't believe it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:49 PM
1

Sounds like hearsay
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:47 PM
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How is staying home and being taken care of by a man a burden?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:37 PM
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A gay female is still going to have a better insight into how women work than you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:35 PM
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Where I live, CS is awarded by calculating the parents' relative income and relative custodial time. In the very, very fringe case where a man earns absolutely nothing and applies for and gains full custody, then yes the woman will pay child support to him. In the MUCH more common case where both parents work, or the woman is a SAHM, and she is awarded primary custody, then he would pay her child support. I won't go into alimony because that almost never happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:27 PM
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I told you. Marriage gives women status because society bestows status on married women. There's no rule book. It's culture. People don't throw away culture when it ceases to pass Lewis' logic threshold. I know it's not the answer you want, but asking the same question in 30 different ways is not going to change the answer you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:18 PM
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Where she stands in the pecking order depends on where other women have put her in the pecking order.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:11 PM
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If I was a hoodrat or trailer park girl it probably wouldn't matter so much, but the part of society I hang out with has decided that marriage = status and that is the extent of why marriage bestows status. It is circular, but that's how these sociological things work in an immediate sense. As for why marriage bestows status, it's a hangover of everything our culture came from. Pulling out its origins and applying it to modern day culture is going to look silly, just like wearing ties to work an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:01 PM
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I'm sorry, but social status isn't a logical ledger of pros and cons. Society has decided that being an unmarried 40 year old woman is gross. Quality women are going to continue demanding this status unless "society" changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:42 PM
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Not half your shit, half you and your wife's shit. When you get married it's all combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:39 PM
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What about this case indicates that there was a sexual assault quota?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:34 PM
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The laws won't ever be equal because biology isn't equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:33 PM
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Being married gives you a completely different status to having a job. This married woman status doesn't kick in until later, so for a 19 year old it makes sense that she won't seek it out until it matters to her. Being married grants a huge amount of status on a woman. Nothing else can substitute this particular status, it's just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:32 PM
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Child support is for the child, not the mother. If he doesn't want to be a dad he should wear a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:25 PM
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I won't go into the legal thing because it should be obvious that if a woman is going to sacrifice her fertile years and gives a man kids, she's going to want some kind of legal protection in the event he walks out. On the status thing though: Marriage provides no status to women. Who are you to say what status marriage does or doesn't bestow on women by other women? Women go through much of their young adult lives without that status, instead choosing casual relationships of varying duration an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:23 PM
2

Yes. Biologically women can end a pregnancy in them, men cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:15 PM
2

What "cases"? They had to report a certain number of sexual assault cases or risk losing funding? I find that hard to believe, do you have anything to back that up?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:14 PM
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A woman can divorce a man for any or no reason and take half of his stuff Not half his stuff, half their stuff. Getting married = mine is yours. Also, a woman can have an abortion if she doesn't want to be a mother... a man does not have a similar option That's biology, not feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:13 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:11 PM
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I know, I was trying to make a point. There are gorgeous men and women who can get whatever they want, but it doesn't mean the rest of us are screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:56 AM
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What? More women would mean lower standards, not higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:34 AM
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No one cares about the genius who does nothing with it. I'm talking about the guys that men look up to. The astronauts and CEOs and Elon Musks, not the autistic super high IQ nerd who spends his time on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:30 AM
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Ok you do you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:15 AM
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I'm not Jessica Alba, should I give up?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:56 AM
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Moving to a town where 6 figures is impressive is likely going to find him unemployed. 100k isn't impressive in NYC because every second dude makes that much. If that guy goes to nowhere town Kentucky he'll struggle to find a job that pays that. The money is impressive there because it's rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:53 AM
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Why does it put you off that one man in a thousand gets a free pass?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:48 AM
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Shush now, show some respect for the man of wealth. You'll be breaking down his door soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:22 AM
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I don't think these guys are hanging out on PPD lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:43 AM
5

Or pay taxes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:28 AM
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And he's going to find an 18 year old who wants to take his 30 year old virginity...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:27 AM
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Good luck with it but I wouldn't rely on 90k to get you there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 01:04 AM
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Men tend to exaggerate their own position on the IQ/productivity bell curve. Yes there are more male than female geniuses, no that's not you. Yes there have been more male inventors/leaders/explorers/history makers, but they're not you. The vast majority of men have much more in common with an average woman than with Steve Jobs or Genghis Khan, but love to align themselves with these outlier men who changed the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 09:43 PM
1

Yeah obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 05:28 AM
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they're looking for women from a similar class and upbringing. you can call it snobbish if you like (it is snobbish) but it's a big part of compatibility. i agree that our friend who refuses to date outside of the "good universities" is taking it too far, but whatever, that's what's important to him. of course character is important and no one's dating people based on their degrees only, but they just don't have anything in common with the receptionists and hairdressers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 12:30 AM
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Yeah I mean everything happens, I'm talking about the norm though. My husband and all his friends are up there, and none of them would consider marrying an uneducated receptionist. We know one doctor who filters his dates based on which university they attended lol. Being educated and a professional is a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 12:07 AM
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I love NYC so much. My husband's got an office in the city and I'm slowly planting seeds about moving there for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:26 PM
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I loved working in academia (physics research and teaching) but just couldn't handle the pay in the city I live in. My current IT job pays well but is boring as all get out, it's a rough trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:22 PM
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Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:16 PM
4

What makes your marriage so unenjoyable? Was it always like this or did something happen to make you hate it? I'm not being facetious, I'm genuinely interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:13 PM
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Yeah same. And all the super high quality men I know ended up with smart career women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 10:45 PM
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How many "high value" men do you know? Surgeons don't go out and marry hairdressers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 10:44 PM
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Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 09:38 PM
6

Database architect, 170k before bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 09:02 PM
2

No, I explained what I think it is in my top comment. You asked me to split it into women who do and don't have kids, which I don't think is useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 08:48 PM
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Hide your money offshore, dummy!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:44 PM
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I'm much closer to average than I am to the top end of the curve When we talk about the men who have excelled, where the male/female IQ curves start to diverge, we're not talking about the dev leads or the pilots. We're talking about actual innovators and leaders of their fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:23 PM
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I don't expect anything of TRP guys, but what you're doing does not justify aligning yourself with the elite. You've got a decent job, that's it. At your age I was an air force pilot completing her physics PhD. At 28 I was the lead database architect for a big tech company that I still work for. I'm very much average and wouldn't dream of aligning myself with the men and women at the top of the curve. That's just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:09 PM
9

Yes Lewis
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:59 PM
3

It's nothing. You're making a real ass of yourself here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:59 PM
3

Zing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:54 PM
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So you're a tech kid. Congrats, me too. Running a dev team is not the calibre of person we're talking about. Why should an average dude align himself with the men who are actually making a difference? You're closer to the average woman than you are to the elite man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:49 PM
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Weddings without alcohol? What is this nightmare?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:40 PM
3

nice try but no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:37 PM
4

Lol the king's widow in the Odyssey having a bunch of suitors says absolutely nothing about how the vast majority of humans selected mates
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:25 PM
4

Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:21 PM
3

Hey, he's got a dick just like Alexander the Great. A true hero!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:06 PM
5

My husband and I are not religious but also chose to have a Christian officiant. They understand how to do marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:01 PM
11

Protection for a woman if she's abandoned with his kids
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:59 PM
6

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:58 PM
5

Not "men", elite men. 99% of men don't come close to the people you're talking about. What have you personally done?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:56 PM
5

And an LTR without marriage offers nothing to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:42 PM
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Yes. A big benefit of marriage for a woman is the legal protection. If I'm giving up my fertile years to give you children you'd better ensure they'll at least be taken care of if you decide to leave me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:27 PM
2

That's a rabbit hole I'm very happy not to go down myself, but I'm glad it exists!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:20 PM
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This is all spot on and explains what I was trying to get at in better words. When you look at the very top end of things you are excluding say 95% of men and 98% of women. There will be more men in that sample, but it's not indicative of "men" by a long shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:56 AM
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Women who don't have kids will have a better chance of getting there, but the fact is that most women will have children. Your question was whether there will be as many women in those roles, and the fact is that the majority of women will have kids and will be heavily handicapped in chasing those top level roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:53 AM
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It's more than you've provided
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 11:50 AM
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http://historylink101.com/2/greece3/marriage.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 10:51 AM
3

i love how you just gloss over the fact that doctor who erotic fan fic was a thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 08:51 AM
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How high level are you talking? I don't think we'll ever see full parity at the highest levels, but due to preference more than raw ability. There are more men than women with that obsessive competitive drive to be the absolute best at something. To get to the top you need to make huge sacrifices in the rest of your life - most men, and almost *all* women, want to actually have a life outside of their job. This isn't a statement on their ability to actually do the job, but their preferences and …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 08:44 AM
2

Well there's your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 07:00 AM
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I went to a private girl's school, so most girls met their first bfs through school dances organised with the local boy's schools. The most desirable boys were the sports captains and the boys with the richest/most important dads. My friends and I weren't really into that scene so ended up hanging out at the local punk squat and dated those guys. Daddy was thrilled lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 06:38 AM
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I was talking in an evolutionary sense, as OP argues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 05:58 AM
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No, I'm saying that females choosing their mates en masse is a relatively modern phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 05:21 AM
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You really need to start reading the books you keep referencing. Penelope was the king's apparent widow. Regular women in ancient Greece did not have a band of suitors to choose from. A man and his family would choose a teenage wife and try to convince her family to sell her for a dowry. The whole transaction occurred without the wife's input.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 04:46 AM
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You get what you give babe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:57 AM
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Yes they have a phallic shape. You responded to "lesbians don't worship the phallus" with "their dildos are phallic". Another cheap argument. Yawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:44 AM
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Dildos are shaped like dicks because dicks fit in vaginas. Not because lesbians "worship the phallus" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:33 AM
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Yeah they're both old fashioned Brits so it was a necessity. Before he answered, dad asked hubby what he'd do if he says no. Hubby said well tbh I'll need to marry her either way, which was the right answer apparently!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:58 AM
7

Holding humans to a standard of what is "noble and good" is moralising.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:37 AM
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Moralising much?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:14 AM
4

Lol in 2018 Australia my husband asked my dad for token "permission".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:56 AM
4

Sorry mum :(
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:44 AM
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I like how he keeps avoiding this point. "Rape is bad so it can't be true!"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:41 AM
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Because it implies that the overwhelming majority of human mating throughout history is the result of rape, which is abhorrent suggestion to make. You
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:39 AM
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But they didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:32 AM
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One of the principle complaints of feminists is the result of women's choices. And? Why should feminists have to agree with women from thousands of years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:32 AM
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No, it suggests that women are smaller and weaker than men and men took what they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:28 AM
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Evolution takes takes thousands of years. Do you really think that thousands of years ago women had much say in who they bred with? Speak to a historian bud. It's reality so you can take your weird moralising elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:27 AM
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Feminism is not pitching every woman, past and present, against every man. Even if you're correct in saying that historically women had enough say over their mates to influence evolution (and you're not), it would not be at all inconsistent for feminists today to complain about the result of that. They had no part in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:23 AM
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I can't tell if you're being deliberately obtuse. Do you think "feminists today" historically selected for masculinity in a way that would have influenced evolution?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:20 AM
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He should really have /u/girlwithabike vet his posts lol. It's pretty clear who the intellectual powerhouse in that relationship is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:16 AM
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I'm saying that on an evolutionary timescale women generally did not have a choice in their mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:13 AM
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My point is that one of the principle arguments of feminists today is with a phenomenon they are wholly responsible for. What on earth are you bringing up feminism for then? You think feminism has been around long enough to have an impact on evolution? How exactly are feminists in any way responsible for the mates that women chose/had chosen for them on a historical time scale that would have influenced evolution?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:12 AM
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Are you talking about women's "choices" historically or today?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:05 AM
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Can you clear up what your argument actually is? Because it doesn't make much sense at the moment. Are you saying that countless generations of women selecting masculine mates led to some kind of physical evolution toward masculinity? Or are you saying that men display "toxic masculinity" because they watch which mates women choose today and try to emulate that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 12:01 AM
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Do you think "feminists today" selected for what you're calling masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 11:59 PM
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If you're talking about "countless generations of women" breeding what we call masculinity today, what does his own mother have to do with anything? Are you talking about women's "choices" historically or today?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 11:57 PM
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Lol this is just amazing to read
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 11:36 PM
1

What exactly would "doing something about it" look like if not lobbying politicians?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 11:10 PM
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Exactly lol. Who is going around asking each other how many people they've fucked? So weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 10:54 PM
2

Do you go to parties? Bars? Music events?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 10:52 PM
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Female, 30, ~50ish? No one's ever asked me my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 10:51 PM
2

Yes, plenty. Most of the time it because I felt an attraction to them, but they weren't LTR material.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 08:48 PM
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Yeah sounds like a lot of fun but probs not wise if you're not going to be saving money on hires.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 05:05 AM
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Yeah I don't get this either. I work full time and get next to zero of my satisfaction from it. All of my meaning and stimulation comes from my personal projects, not what I'm paid and praised to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 04:56 AM
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That sounds like great fun. Do your friends fly too or would you be roped in as driver all the time? Maintenance would be a bitch but obtaining/keeping your ratings would be easier on your own plane if you've got the time to actually fly it. Lapsed certs are a real pain in the butt when you need to hire a plane all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 04:54 AM
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Self actualisation doesn't necessarily require getting out of the house and to work. I've met plenty of very integrated women who found their purpose in other places.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 04:46 AM
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I was indifferent until about 27 and then it kicked in hard. Among my friends it's been more to do with meeting the "right guy" than a certain age though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 04:27 AM
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What type of plane? How often do you fly? Are you CPL certified or would it just be for fun? My husband and I both fly and have been bumping this around as a maybe one day sorta thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 04:25 AM
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when my sister-in-law had my brother's child i immediately loved her like family. it was weird. like we'd always got along really well but actually bearing a child that i was blood-related to made her into a sister rather than a close friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 11:47 PM
3

my husband is obsessed with saltwater tanks. he designed and built his own filtration and fresh-to-salt conversion system. it's a very time consuming hobby lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 11:38 PM
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yay congrats!! my first niece just turned 2 and it's the best. she's so much fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 10:51 PM
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hot and arrogant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 10:48 PM
5

Watch the incels go nuts in 3... 2...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 09:56 PM
1

FLDS ones...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 02:08 PM
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Done!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 09:41 AM
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I'm talking about the ones who don't. The 99.9% of women who never escort. Why don't they do it if it's such a great deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:43 AM
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Banning child marriage will be more effective than banning immigration because many of the child marriages are between Americans.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:37 AM
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I'm talking about the ones who don't. The 99.9% of women who never escort. Why don't they do it if it's such a great deal? And I never said they were oppressed. I don't know why you're telling me that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:35 AM
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It's a good way to go. Lots of work out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:34 AM
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Do you actually know what the demand for gay hookers is like in a city? Because I do. If a young guy wants to make a lot of money escorting, he absolutely can. Again, why do you think almost every single woman would choose minimum wage over escorting?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:27 AM
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Wealth redistribution? Do you mean progressive tax rates and welfare? We don't give poor people money to "keep them happy". Welfare is there to keep people alive/off the streets. Saying we should give incels free sex so they don't mow us all down is like saying we should give free heroin to addicts because it'll prevent them from robbing us. It doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:24 AM
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How many women choose escorting over a minimum wage job? Hardly any. It says nothing about the relative merits of each job except that given the chance a vanishingly small percentage of women choose to escort. If it's so good why do men not escort for old gay guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 01:10 AM
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Why should the state reward men who can't get laid? Besides, women have a normalising effect on men. If incels stop trying to appeal to women I think they'd just get weirder. The idea of getting a girlfriend is a pretty strong incentive to learn social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 12:50 AM
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R, python and SQL Sounds like we're in the same field
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 12:36 AM
1

What kind of art do you collect?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 12:31 AM
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I'll pm you my insta :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 11:50 PM
3

Sluts are outliers now? What happened to AWALT?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 11:29 PM
2

FLDS are not immigrants
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 11:26 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 10:48 PM
3

Yeah I work in tech and spend all day every day in front of a screen, so I was looking for something manual/non-intellectual to do that had a steep learning curve. I tend to get bored with and drop things that you can quickly get ok at. I decided on cobbling because it looked tricky and time consuming and just started emailing cobblers in my city until I found one who would teach me. I spend every Sunday with him now, it's great. The shoes definitely aren't free yet, I spend much more on materia…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:43 PM
1

On what
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:01 PM
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I make shoes as a hobby. Everything from the design to pattern making to construction and repairs. I love it. I was doing it out of my teacher's workshop but have recently manged to get enough of the tools that I can do it at home too. My current project is a pair of sexy patent leather monkstrap shoes for myself, next up will be a pair of boots for my husband. As an extension of the shoe making, I'm doing some general leatherwork. Currently making a laptop bag and helping some friends make some…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:00 PM
3

Enough that if you wanted to work as a gay prostitute you'd have no trouble finding clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 08:49 PM
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Good PR for the royals, they're eating it up. They get to look hip and relevant without actually affecting the bloodline.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 08:47 PM
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Good argument
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 08:35 PM
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The default flairs here all state the pill colour and sex of the poster. It's not considered poor form to show your sex here, it's encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 08:34 PM
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Passing your peak and hitting the wall are different things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 01:45 PM
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That's not how female sexuality works. Fucking a gross guy is on par with a woman for most straight girls. If the attraction's not there it's really not there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 01:20 PM
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Yes you can. Those working girls are about as attracted to their clients as you would be to a gay client.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 01:07 PM
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Gay prostitutes make a killing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:31 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 09:30 AM
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Neither are oppressed based on what they choose to do for work
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 07:49 AM
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Wow how original 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 02:35 AM
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Just go away then? No one's forcing you to read it bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 11:34 PM
2

:(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 12:08 PM
6

How sad. An older friend of mine recently opened up to me about her infertility. She had her uterus removed due to cancer when she was young, but plays tough and tells everyone she's childfree by choice. The poor woman is devastated by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 07:47 AM
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Yeah I know. Most UMC women will have a child or 2 eventually though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 07:24 AM
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Fair enough. Some people like the idea of pairing off with someone just because, some don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 04:09 AM
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She’s implying people shouldn’t do something because it’s not a smart thing to do. Anytime you tell someone what they are doing is not smart, it is implying they shouldn’t do that thing. it's not semantics, there's a big difference between telling someone you shouldn't do something because its bad/wrong, and telling them it's in their best interest not to do it. she was doing the latter. it's not moralising, it's saying "if you do this thing it probably won't go how you want things to go". But I…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:29 AM
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I think it's more a case of women having fewer children each rather than a huge increase in the number of totally childless women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:22 AM
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Oh stop playing the victim. No one's coming to take your rape porn away. She said it's not smart to, not that he "shouldn't". He can talk about whatever he likes, and women can be grossed out by it if they want. Do you think women go around advertising that they get off to rape? Do you think men wouldn't judge a woman who said she wanted to be raped? Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:14 AM
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i'd run off with syd if she turned up at my house. soz hubby.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 02:13 AM
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i think some girls like to be the saviour to the broken tortured hot dude, yeah. i did actually date a man like that before i realised just how deep it went and then it was nopenopenope
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 02:10 AM
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omg are you for real? I wanted to know where your opinion was on the subject and you gave it. It doesn’t have to be like pulling teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 02:08 AM
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a clear head and no anxiety what is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 02:03 AM
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i heard laurel at first and then when i found out yanny was higher pitched i could hear that too. trippy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:57 AM
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uff. have fun. what area? have you got funding?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:54 AM
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i gave you my opinion I was talking about it from the woman's end. Of course women are going to find it distasteful that strange men fantasize about raping them. and you got upset that i didn't give my opinion specifically on the difference between male and female rape fantasies. which you never asked about. i'm not a mind reader mister smoogs. this is really tedious i'm going back to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:50 AM
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So you didn't ask my opinion then. No I don't remember the thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:43 AM
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I wanted to know where your opinion was on the subject and you gave it. It doesn’t have to be like pulling teeth Where exactly did you ask for my opinion? You started talking about feminist subs and women you've been with. You never asked me anything, so don't act like I'm the one being evasive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:39 AM
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There was a period when I was younger when I was attracting cute effeminate emo boys left right and centre. I have no idea why, I didn't dress that way or hang out in emo circles, it just sorta happened. I also seemed to attract a bunch of broken emotionally fragile men for a while who wanted me to "fix" them and complete them. Neither of these types were attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:25 AM
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I don't think there's a difference. Obviously women are going to find it distasteful to know that random men (ie any man who is not their man) are fantasizing about raping them, but as long as he's not doing any actual raping then we're cool. OP was talking about a situation where someone fantasizes about being a bad partner. Not a particular act that would by proxy make them a bad partner, but actually getting off on the fact that you're doing the wrong thing by your partner. I fail to see how …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:22 AM
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Yeah neither of those things are rape or cheating and I said nothing about sex positivity so I don't know what you're on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:14 AM
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I was talking about it from the woman's end. Of course women are going to find it distasteful that strange men fantasize about raping them. What on earth is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:03 AM
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Yeah it's not a good analogy at all if that's what he's trying to do. If a woman has a rape fantasy that's something that can be played out at home with a partner. It's about dominance and masculinity, it's never about being attacked by an actual rapist in an alley. If someone's kink is literally to hurt and betray their partner that's fucked up and not going to end well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 12:09 AM
2

Do you like Janelle Monae? I love her for all the reasons you listed. Also Syd from The Internet <3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 11:57 PM
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Obviously? Marrying someone who's kink is literally to be a bad partner is not going to go well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 11:28 PM
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Not shaved, yuck. Trimmed or intact, I don't mind as long as it's clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 10:35 PM
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I like Sylvia Earle because she's smart and kind and an adventurer. MIA ) because she's an incredible artist and total badass. Reading Amelia Earhart's biography inspired me to learn to fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:39 PM
3

Growing up I wanted to be Gwen Stefani so bad. I was alllll about the crop tops and bindis for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:27 PM
1

Is he the one who hung himself in prison?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:22 PM
2

Yeah this was us too. Oh so bohemian until something goes wrong lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 07:13 PM
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There's definitely bland circles and exciting circles in the UMC. My circle is pretty privileged but is made up of artists, musicians, pilots, sailors, scientists, etc etc. Everyone's got something pretty quirky and fun about them. I totally know the type you're talking about though. That same old Mercedes driving social climbing committee member is rampant and so so boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 07:11 PM
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Yeah totally. I think if you looked at the number of subscribers to a programming or science subreddit compared to say a welding or plumbing subreddit it'll tell you a bit about Reddit's demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:57 PM
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I'm talking about my version of love toward my husband, not his toward me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:36 PM
4

Some people have a very slow metabolism and break it down a bit slower, the norm is 3 months though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 10:06 AM
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That's just not true. Mine wears off by the time 3 months are up
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:49 AM
2

women should be happy with their McDonald's like men are women should stay single if they can't find their Brad Pitt You're all over the shop
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:57 AM
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Um you obviously bought them from McDonald's women can't cook these days AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:51 AM
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He's one of these internet dudes who holds onto this weird fantasy where women are miserable and never get what they want. It's pretty sad that clinging to an entire gender's imaginary unhappiness is what makes him feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:42 AM
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Lol I'm literally sitting in a swanky dumpling bar right now with a cocktail waiting for my 5 star husband to show up. Maybe it's just McDonald's and I don't know it yet 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:24 AM
2

Yeah my dad's sisters both look annoyed all the time and look older than they are for it. I'll be ironing it out with injectible toxins for as long as I can lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:09 AM
1

Why should women adopt the McDonald's mindset when they can get the 5 star dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:04 AM
3

He's just arguing for fun I think. It's boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 04:59 AM
3

But it is possible. Every happily married woman got her 5 star meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 04:58 AM
3

Yawn
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:51 AM
5

Respect + affection
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:45 AM
3

lol [vibrates in a K hole]
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:42 AM
10

Women want a husband they love, not sex and money
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:35 AM
11

You really have no idea what women want, do you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:20 AM
1

Is he against marriage, or just not yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:12 AM
4

Same :(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:00 AM
8

Career cunts who wasted their youth in homage to feminist penis envy should be made to account for who they are and they should wear their rot on their face like a scarlet letter badge of failure This is just beautiful. MRPer prose at its finest. Wear your rot like a scarlet letter!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:57 AM
1

I can't remember exactly, maybe a couple of years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:54 AM
2

Hah yeah that does sound ideal! I grew up on the beach in Australia so copped a lot of sun growing up. I don't think the botox does much for my sun damage, it's mainly those static lines that form from just like... using your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:53 AM
3

Haha this reminds me of this chaddy guy we all knew when we were younger. He'd start dating/sleeping with 2-3 girls independently and then lie to each girl and tell them that his other girl was really into her and wanted a threesome. Like "hey Jenny my friend Sarah thinks you're hot and would love to hook up with us sometime how crazy is that lol"... "Hey Sarah Jenny thinks you're hot and wants to..." etc etc It was such a ridiculous tactic and it never worked as far as I know, but points for cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:44 AM
5

When the women were in charge it was never about how to be a good housewife.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:38 AM
2

Not for a decent job. If you want a skilled injector who isn't going to make you look frozen you'll pay about $500 every 3 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:20 AM
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Yeah I take good care of my skin too, but the difference that botox makes is far more dramatic. Some lines come from facial movement and will exist no matter how well you avoid the sun. On my dad's side of the family, everyone develops this deep vertical line between the brows that makes you look old and angry. I saw it starting to develop at 28, and now at 31 it's completely gone with no sign of forming yet. No amount of sunscreen or retinols would have fixed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:19 AM
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Pre split RPWomen was run by women for women. As Atlas said it was a community for women who believed in gender differences to discuss how to have a good marriage. Post split it's run by a few TRP guys who are using it as some sort of weird place to get off on telling the girls how to act. It doesn't cater to women's interest at all, they're trying to teach the little ladies how to be an ideal girl for them. It's gross. Redpillwives is super quiet these days and most of the original community ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:15 AM
6

RPWomen is run by men now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:07 AM
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I started getting botox at 28 and it's the best thing I've done for my appearance. I look like myself but 5 years younger. Why look old if I don't have to? It's far more common than you'd think, people just don't talk about it. My husband was funny about it at first, he thought I'd look frozen and overdone. Now that he's seen it in practice he loves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 12:58 AM
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Yes you do, it wears off after 3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 12:56 AM
1

What actions would express to you the "weird anxieties" you mentioned in your OP? Not marrying sluts when they have every option not to. How do you know what there options were before they met your friends? How do you know they know your friends' body counts? In most cases we all went through our 20s together. These guys were our friends and we all knew each other when this was going down. We all know a lot about each other's sexual history and options, trust me on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:50 PM
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Are you interested in talking to your friends' boyfriends and husbands about their sexual hangups? I watch what they do, not what they say. And what they do is marry sluts when they have every option not to. You got hell bent on "expressing anxiety" to mean "sitting down with me and having a discussion about their sexual insecurities". That's your problem if you've gone ahead and defined that yourself. There are other ways of expressing it and these guys have done none of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:44 PM
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I'm not interested in helping you practice your super hot lawyer skillz. My point was that I don't think these guys care about it. I said that these guys haven't expressed any anxieties over it - not chasing a slut and rather settling down with a prude would have been "expressing it".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:32 PM
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Yeah I plan almost every single date night we go on. I've never seen this trope of a woman falling to pieces over where to eat dinner play out in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:28 PM
2

We're not in a court room bud. Try having a normal conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:23 PM
1

Yeah you're nit picking now and I'm not interested. You understand my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:21 PM
1

I'm not saying he would talk to me about it, I'm saying he wouldn't have married her if it was something that really bothered him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:14 PM
2

Lol what kind of women are your hanging out with. This is ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:11 PM
1

if they had a problem with it why wouldn't they go get some prude to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:08 PM
2

That's cool, you don't have to do it. It works for us though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:16 PM
5

Yup! It's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 11:54 AM
2

I know! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 11:32 AM
4

These are not men who are wanting for options
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:55 AM
1

lol ok bud
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:37 AM
1

congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:28 AM
2

i'm happy with a stoic confident man and he's happy with me, what's the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:28 AM
2

so i should ditch my husband as soon as he does anything remotely unattractive? i hope you're not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:21 AM
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read the rest of my replies to thromgtow. i'm not interested in writing it all out again. if you can't see the difference between embarking on a new relationship with a stranger who has anxiety vs standing by the man you love and married while he deals with anxiety then i don't know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:14 AM
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why would they not marry a prude if it truly bothered them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:06 AM
4

how old are you both? are you expected to live with his family forever? how long ago did your husband leave the house and have you been in contact with him since then?
/r/RedPillWives16/05/18 06:04 AM
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Women say it to women who are in competition with them. She's flirting with the guy you want? Slut! It's not about actually being a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:40 AM
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Yet they salivate over nailing down their 19 year old virgin. Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:30 AM
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They pull out studies to "prove" that it's not disgust, sluts make bad partners, while conveniently ignoring the part of their study that shows young brides being even more problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:20 AM
1

Lol jinx
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:32 AM
3

I used to work with a guy exactly like this. He was a beautiful man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:30 AM
3

I'll take Jason Momoa with anyone but Jack Black's personality lol. I can't stand the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:28 AM
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Nah I don't buy it. These are quality guys that my friends ended up with, if they had a problem with it why wouldn't they go get some prude to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:18 AM
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Ok I'm done.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:29 AM
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No pride here, just a quality I note in myself. Then stop doing it if you want people to talk to you. But let's say it didn't pass. Let's say he had to go on medication or do some regimen or routine. Would you still love him then? Would you have attraction to him then? Yes and yes. If he was managing it like a grownup and working at getting better then I would still love and be attracted to him. If he went all "woe is me" and refused to do anything about it I would eventually have a hard time be…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:22 AM
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If my husband developed anxiety I would know that it's likely a passing thing for him, I know him well and I know it's not in his nature to be anxious. I love him and made promises to him and I will keep those promises. Anxiety is a big enough problem to stop me beginning to date someone I hardly know, but it's certainly not a big enough problem to end a loving marriage over. Does that make sense? Again, your refusal to get help and your snarkiness is going to give you far more problems with gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:12 AM
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You'd lose attraction to your husband in the event that he develops anxiety. Just admit that. Well that wasn't your question, was it. I wouldn't lose general attraction to him, no. I know him well enough now to see past that. I wouldn't be aroused while he was having a panic attack of course, but after knowing him and being attracted to him for years it would take more than some anxiety for me to lose attraction. And what's the difference really? You wouldn't date someone with anxiety yet, if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:01 AM
9

And water is wet
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:54 PM
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I wouldn't begin dating a man who I knew had problems with anxiety. I would not leave my husband if he developed anxiety. I'm not dating my husband, I'm married to him. Again, what's with the snark?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:52 PM
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There's no debating in good faith with you. You literally have people telling you "this has never ever been my experience" and you reject it every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:44 PM
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Of course I wouldn't leave him for that. What's with all the snark?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:42 PM
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Men giving a toss about n-count/degeneracy. I run in a circle of early 30s big city artsy hipster UMC types. In our 20s all of my friends went pretty hard. There was casual sex, parties, drugs galore. All of my girlfriends paired off with attractive, well-to-do men who they love and are super into. None of these guys have ever expressed any weird anxieties about how "pure" their partners are. These guys were right alongside us for all the fun that was had so it's not like anyone is keeping their…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:11 PM
2

Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:02 PM
9

Guys don't notice all the things that go into looking good, but they definitely notice the difference. If I've taken care of my skin, had my brows done, lash extensions, sneaky botox, fresh hair cut/colour, blowout, nails done, etc etc my husband is all over me. He can't point to one thing and say "oh wow that eyebrow tint you got is doing wonders for you", but it all adds up. It's not cheap to maintain that, especially once you're past your 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:00 PM
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If you keep saying it, it might come true
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 10:53 PM
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Your refusal to get better would be far more unattractive than the panic attacks themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 10:48 PM
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Not being attracted to an anxious man does not mean you'll browbeat and subjugate them. I wouldn't date an anxious man, I'm pretty highly strung myself and am attracted to calm and confident men who keep me grounded. I don't despise anxious men, I just don't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 10:41 PM
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You see them as 'minor annoyances' is not being able to trust the authenticity of your friends a minor annoyance? It's easier to make friends as an attractive person, even if it's superficial you get as much out of it as they do. Not all young friendships need to be heartwrenchingly authentic. I'm older now, and plenty of my old friends have stuck around. I know they like me and that's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 01:21 PM
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Hah yep I was out riding my bike one day as a 12 or 13 year old and I was wearing a t-shirt with a strawberry on it. Some older guys started following me around, yelling out about how they'd like to "suck on that strawberry". I didn't even get it at the time but remember feeling really gross and afraid. Though with the unwanted attention came a lot of wanted attention, and yeah, people are definitely much nicer to the good looking ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 01:16 PM
3

Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 01:10 PM
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I was that hot, and whether or not you like the attention the benefits are huge. It's all worth the minor annoyances. I'm 31 now so it's settled down and while I'm enjoying the relative peace I'm glad I got all the perks a hot young woman gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 12:44 PM
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As an attractive woman, you are public property. If you are alone, people will assume they're allowed to join you. You do not have personal space. If you tell people to leave you alone, they will try to convince you that it's unhealthy to be. Everyone wants something from you. Everyone thinks they're the FIRST to tell you something "unique" about yourself and expect a participation trophy for coming up with it, and will get mad at you for not reciprocating. EVERYONE will tell you what to do to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 12:40 PM
3

Compared to the downsides of being unattractive there is nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 12:30 PM
1

You're welcome. Even if it is a thing, which it probably isn't, the treatment is usually just cryo-burning the dodgy cells off. Cervical cancer generally takes a very long time to develop, so if you're getting your regular pap smears then it is super unlikely that anything could have progressed to a dangerous point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 12:27 PM
1

Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 12:24 PM
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There are no downsides to being attractive. The more beautiful, the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:51 AM
2

i also had a scare about 8 years ago and it was nothing. the biopsy isn't the most fun i've had, but chances are everything's a-ok <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 11:53 PM
1

Yeah most of the Indian guys I work with are a bit older and married with kids. They're brought over by my company because they're cheaper to hire than their local equivalent, but it means they're not at all used to how things are done in a western city. It's tricky.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 12:05 PM
1

Omg how is that puppy even real
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 09:43 AM
2

Ha this is me. I swing between super needy affectionate give me all your attention and just wanting silence and solitude. Drives my husband nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 09:43 AM
1

Oh awesome I'll check them out. I mentioned Kendrick cause he seems to be the most popular one I can think of doing this style. To pimp a butterfly felt like a bit of a turning point, suddenly there was all this amazing cerebral hip hop popping up everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 03:18 AM
2

but she's not. she's stating her own beliefs, it's not aimed at a secular audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 03:04 AM
1

nah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:50 AM
1

well to be fair not much is going to be "unpopular" on a debate sub. we're all here because we disagree with each other. but yeah there's totally lots of people out there who say all hip hop is about hoes and money and while lots of it is this new movement that /u/westsidemoonwalker is talking about is the antithesis of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:49 AM
1

i'm so glad i'm among the coriander lovers. i put it in everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:42 AM
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i manage a lot of indian engineers and the cultural divide is just way too strong. they're not as competent as they think they are, and are incapable of working under a female manager. the indian women i've worked with have been fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:39 AM
1

An interesting argument, but falls apart when viewed in a secular sense why would you ever view religious belief through a secular lens?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:35 AM
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The new wave of modern hip hop has given rise to a lot of extremely talented artists who make quality music. yes! i am loving all the smart hip hop out there right now. kendrick is a freaking poet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:09 AM
2

omg his little tongue <3 we went on holidays to sri lanka where there's cows eeeverywhere. my husband ended up getting really attached to them and now he is (and by extension i am) vegetarian. i get feeling bad about eating cows, but chickens i don't understand. they seem so stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:05 AM
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yup i always laugh when guys say they wouldn't wait for exclusivity before banging a girl because "what if we're sexually incompatible". like no, you just want to get laid and that's fine. no need to make up a big backstory for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 01:56 AM
2

Oh damn. Surely if he calls and explains the situation they can reschedule for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 01:35 AM
4

we had a small intimate ceremony in the gardens of a temple that was very important to my mother. we wrote the whole ceremony ourselves, and only included what we wanted. no aisle, no giving away, no wedding party, etc. instead of an altar, we stood on an antique persian rug that his mum lent us. it was absolutely perfect. we had a nice lunch with family after the ceremony, and then had a few hundred of our closest friends join us for the party :P my MIL lives on a huge gorgeous estate so we had…
/r/RedPillWives14/05/18 01:02 AM
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family liaison It is my mother in law's birthday AND mother's day here today. Hubby had no clue. He'd be in so much trouble without me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 03:52 AM
3

Inb4 sexbots
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 03:47 AM
1

BUT YOU HAD CASUAL SEX A DECADE AGO YOU'RE GONNA GET CERVICAL CANCER AND DIEEEEE
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 10:09 PM
3

Careful, men don't like women who swear. It's damaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 10:07 PM
2

I've had plenty of really enjoyable sex where I didn't orgasm. There's more to sex than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 10:01 PM
1

Oh wow Camus was a babe
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 05:52 AM
1

Yuuup I love her
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 05:46 AM
1

Yup she's my husband's 10/10 too. I can totally see why she's gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 05:39 AM
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Celebrities are not a good example
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 02:12 AM
2

Yeah the suggestion was tongue in cheek :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 02:09 AM
2

Can you just put the whole trash can infront of the door? As long as it's in his way it seems to work lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 12:25 AM
3

When our bin is full I tie the bin bag and put it against the front door before my husband goes to work. That way I don't have to say anything and he can't get out the door without dealing with it. It works really well!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 12:11 AM
2

I love Hugh Jackman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 06:41 PM
2

Nice huh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:49 PM
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automod In my experience it's always been the man doing the seducing so there's been no need. If for some weird reason I was the one trying to convince a guy to sleep with me it'd be different, but that's never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:35 PM
1

Like all the best things in life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:28 PM
5

He's ok but I'd prefer young Stalin
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:24 PM
3

I have a huge lady crush on Tilda. If something happened to my husband I'd gladly grow old with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:22 PM
3

Eh I'm not American I don't follow your weird system 🙅
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:17 PM
1

😢
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 07:01 AM
2

Ooh yep could do teenage crushes vs now crushes and look at how the teen crush has aged
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:09 AM
2

Bloated puffer fish face Lol mean but true
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:06 AM
1

Well if a guy is out trying to pick up hot young single chicks then he should listen to them, not middle aged housewives on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:01 AM
3

Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:59 AM
1

Jerk!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:24 AM
1

Much better than a Republican
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:12 AM
1

He's not handsome. He was cute when he was young in a teen idol sorta way but not by a long shot now
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:04 AM
1

Yeah that'll work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:03 AM
1

My husband once did a job for him and apparently he carries on like a spoilt teenager. Also drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:00 AM
1

Can he lead some kind of guerilla/liberation movement overseas somewhere? That'd be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:57 AM
1

Slightly better maybe but I don't like politicians in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:09 AM
1

Aw he sounds cute
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:05 AM
4

He's now running for the House of Representatives as a Republican. Nooo you ruined it!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:04 AM
4

Why is it not accurate though? Men don't exist in a vacuum. If these guys are 10s to their women, then what other metric in the SMP matters? It's not like there's some grand objective ranking for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:02 AM
1

Oh nice! Yeah I saw your "frantic and energetic but cool" and that sums my guy up pretty well too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:56 PM
13

Who is "they"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:38 PM
9

What does it matter if women see their men through rose tinted glasses? Surely that's a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:23 PM
2

This has been removed as you've provided no context or discussion, and from what I can see there's nothing in this video that's relevant to redpillwives
/r/RedPillWives10/05/18 09:55 PM
2

I know that technically there's nothing immoral about breaking up with someone you're just dating, but I've always felt sooo guilty every time it's happened. It's a horrible feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:09 PM
1

Oh weird, thanks for letting me know
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:02 PM
1

Hahah yeah that's my guy's mum. She thinks it's absolutely vulgar. My husband and his dad are both into property and that's about the extent of what they have in common so conversation always goes back to the market when they're together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 08:55 PM
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Physique: tall, fit, slim. That northern European sort of look. Strong nose and chin, dramatic almost shoulder length light blonde hair. I always thought he would've made a great Bond villain, but then I realised it's because he looks a bit like the blonde baddie in Die Hard Voice: booming, enthusiastic, confident, always excited about something or trying to explain something or other. English accent, uses a lot of stuffy old words without realising it. Body language: he on or he's off. Usually …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 08:50 PM
2

Mr. Upton's father has instructed Mr. Upton, by example, in the ways of cranky emotionally repressed WASPdom. They enjoy getting together to drink Scotch and watch golf (or football) and talk about cars talk about money. Wow you just described my husband and his dad to a T
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 08:35 PM
1

Like "no offence, but..." Or "I'm not trying to be uncivil, but..." ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 02:01 PM
1

This is one of the whackier ppd conspiracy theories I've seen
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:44 PM
2

Women don't tell each other to lower their standards cause our friendships are all about telling each other how great we are. Maybe my 1 or 2 best friends I would tell them if they were batting above their weight, but anyone else you just go along with it. Women know where their league is, and if they don't they figure it out pretty quickly and readjust. I personally have not seen the whole "where are all the good men" phenomenon that TRP loves to wank over. Sure some girls will sleep with guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:24 PM
2

Nah I think it's average dudes from TRP upset they're not bagging the hottie. "Lower your standards! Please."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:05 PM
5

It's not her job to teach the late bloomers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 12:46 PM
2

Oh wow I took that whole post as sarcasm. Are they for real? Edit: yep looked at his post history. He's for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:52 AM
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Yeah I'm only 30 so I can't really say, but if my husband stayed attractive and kept hitting on me I couldn't imagine the sex drying up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:15 AM
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You can't have just one sex openly berating the other with no opposition forever. Where do you think feminism came from?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:40 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:38 AM
3

TRPers and feminists both love to outsource their unhappiness. Screeching about feminism sounds remarkably similar to smashing the patriarchy from the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:11 AM
2

Which type do you think is by far the most common?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:07 AM
5

What if it was just a purely physical attraction on another guy's end. Guys will be attracted to anything cute, it doesn't necessarily mean he's pining over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 08:04 AM
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Is it that day on PPD? Seems like half the time on here women want sex as much as men, half the time it's no big deal. Is it that hard to believe that some women like lots of sex and some women don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:58 AM
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Do you not think it's possible to be friends if there is/was attraction on one side? Not disagreeing with you, just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:51 AM
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Yeah bro code is a good point. My good male friends tend to be my husband's friends or exes of friends. If you meet someone that way it's def got a different dynamic from the outset.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:49 AM
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My husband had a groomswoman and a few people we know lost their minds over it. The women in his old stuffy English family kept asking me if I was really ok with it. I think they just wanted a scandal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:46 AM
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It's rare, but yes. One of my husband's best friends is a woman. She taught him to scuba dive and is a total badass. He's known her for years and years and we still don't know her sexuality but she's more masculine than most men I know so we have our suspicions. That wouldn't make a difference though, their friendship is just a regular blokey friendship. He's got some other female friends but he keeps them at a distance because they've all tried to bed him at some point. I have a few male friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:41 AM
4

Past 20 is a yellow flag. Anything past 25 is a red flag for me. I can’t think of a reason why he’d still be a virgin that wouldn’t make him incompatible with me Same
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:28 AM
1

You also seem to be active in blue pilled subreddits, including r/purplepilldebate He says, in purplepilldebate
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:56 AM
2

Right? This is amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:55 AM
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That's bullshit. Women always want to be desired by their husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 09:21 PM
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Why lower your standards if you can get what you want, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:42 PM
7

So just lower your standards on attraction then? Why doesn't she want to fuck me?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:41 PM
3

Well he should put on his big boy pants and tell her
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:38 PM
4

You are in a vanishingly small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:34 AM
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Of course it's ideal to talk about it and hash it all out deliberately. What I'm saying is that if a man knowingly impregnates a woman, doesn't ask her to abort, didnt express any unhappiness about the child, stays in a relationship with her, etc, then I wouldn't call her a fool for assuming he wanted to co-parent. It's not how I would go about things, but it's understandable in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 07:57 AM
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I would say that impregnating a woman and not asking her to abort/leaving her is a pretty good signal that he wants to raise it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 07:45 AM
2

Flipped out ages ago and threatened to dox a redpillwives mod. Came back a couple of weeks ago throwing weird insults around the modmail so we told her to go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:51 AM
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What about the men who leave after baby comes along?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:49 AM
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yeah probably. or maybe they were both overweight when they met, she got fit and he's catching up now? either way it's rare to see mismatched couples get together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:33 AM
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It's not a large number, and no woman wants to fuck a fat fetishist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:15 AM
3

i was at the gym this morning and there was a really fat guy there with a cute fit woman. i assumed she was his trainer until they left arm-in-arm. it was weird to see but cute. he was working really hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:03 AM
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i'm not ignoring it, it's completely irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:55 AM
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fat women are completely invisible to attractive men. i got depressed for a couple of years and gained like 30lbs. i wasn't even huge, but the male attention dried up instantly. i lost the weight and suddenly the guys loved me again. you just disappear if you're fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:53 AM
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that's not a fair comparison. there are way more men on OLD than women, and they're looking for different things. men will fuck a fat woman out of desperation, but that's not what she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:52 AM
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the women's body pos movement is started by women for women. there are no men on the outside thinking "yeah you go girl! fat is beautiful!", it's all fat women telling each other how hot they are. men are welcome to start a fat positive movement if they want, but it won't make women want to sleep with them. men have sex with fat women because they're desperate, not because body positivity told them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:49 AM
2

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 11:06 AM
1

lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 10:41 AM
7

It's not her fault that he's a moron. Don't you guys complain about women not taking responsibility for things? Jesus...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 10:21 AM
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The "you married him/her so it's your fault" is such a disingenuous argument
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 10:02 AM
1

Bottoms up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 09:22 AM
3

You said what your fears are, I'm saying I think they're irrational
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:43 AM
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Exactly. He didn't just disfigure her, he decimated her chances of ever marrying again. She'll probably be alone forever because of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:20 AM
2

Can I take the morphine without the creepy robot?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:15 AM
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Yeah I just don't understand that though. Like even if we do consider them secondary sexual organs, which I do, what do you think is the endgame of children seeing them? Is it harmful? I'm not trying to be snarky, I honestly don't understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:13 AM
2

How would the first option benefit him if his goal is to take the hot girl out? Sure he might not get laid at the end of it, but he knew that going into it and decided that risk was worth a cost of her dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:10 AM
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*A bachelor and spinster tax
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:08 AM
3

I don't think that's a legitimate fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:07 AM
2

I think it's odd he found it awesome, I'd probably faint at the sight of it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:03 AM
5

Excellent!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:58 AM
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Is she ok now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:54 AM
2

Yeah but we're not playing the who gives up more often game. We're talking about this particular scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:44 AM
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4.5/10
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:42 AM
1

It's meant to be a wtf face at the morphine spider robot. That shit sounds terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:42 AM
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Some men are assholes. My dad cared for my mum for 12 years while she died of cancer. It must've been shit for him but I never once saw him complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:40 AM
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Keep practising your amused mastery, you'll get it one day
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:38 AM
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:|
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:34 AM
11

Well this has been a really productive chat. Cheers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:32 AM
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No, he owes her a marriage like he promised. She didn't break her vows, he shouldn't have married her if he was going to run away like a child when it gets tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:27 AM
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Except he set her on fire and disfigured her forever. But yeah totally the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:20 AM
2

Why don't you like the idea of them being socially acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:53 AM
1

If they're saggy you've probably got a husband and kids at home
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:47 AM
3

Men gossip plenty. There is a perfect example in the OP. Did you watch it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:43 AM
4

Most men like to mind their business except when they're setting up group chats to bitch like a bunch of old spinsters lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:21 AM
1

I'm just here for your gifs
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:55 PM
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worthless BIOLOGICALLY. worthless at perpetuating his genes. read what you're replying to before you get upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 10:57 PM
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yeah. also, 150 years ago he would have been forced to socialise with normal people and likely would have learnt a thing or 2. nowadays weird kids retreat to the internet and do all their socialising with other weird kids, concentrating and encouraging the weirdness. the weird get weirder and convince each other that they're the normal ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 10:50 PM
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you were banned ages ago for carrying on like a lunatic. like you're doing right now. what are you talking about threesomes? did redpillwomen ban you too?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 10:29 PM
3

I prefer to leave the gossiping to the boys
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 08:10 AM
1

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 07:08 AM
2

Lol ok in which forms of physical violence are women more represented?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 07:08 AM
3

Oh snap!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 07:04 AM
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/r/redpillwomen. He'd be banned if he so much as looked at redpillwives lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 07:02 AM
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there was a thread there the other day where a woman was asking if other user's husbands cared about their n-count. all of the responses were along the lines of "nope, he doesn't care". loneliness came in and chucked a wobbly. "they DO care!!!!! virgins only!! sluts are gross! you're all sluts stop shaming me for hating sluts!!!!" the whole thread was deleted shortly after for being "in bad faith" lol. it was beautiful to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:38 AM
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yessss i swapped from shitty high thread count cotton to belgian linen and it's just beautiful. cost a small fortune but it's so worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:36 AM
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I really want to believe most of the mods there are loneliness-inc and whisper sockpuppets. the self-denigrating bullshit you hear coming out of those women is so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:33 AM
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linen sheets > cotton
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:30 AM
3

aw! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:29 AM
4

oh yuck. /r/redpillwives is quiet, but there's no men allowed there if that's your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:24 AM
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"oh please loneliness, tell us more about how marrying our husbands has ruined their lives!"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:16 AM
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Get over it, ladies. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:12 AM
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/u/loneliness-inc's posts all consist of "now gather round little ladies while i teach you all the truth about female nature. also blow your husband 12 times a day or he's fully justified in boning his secretary."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:00 AM
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/u/ownedandloveit is throwing a fit because i wouldn't unban her on rpwives. she's been blowing up the modmail with alts and insults and trying to send me iris' photos for weeks now. she doesn't understand that no one gives a shit about what iris did or didn't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 02:41 AM
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I find it quite funny that a group of grown "RP" men are hanging out on youtube together to gossip and bitch about the girls. Get over it, ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 02:35 AM
3

maybe try some dry shampoo? it absorbs a lot of the oils in your hair that might be hanging on to the smoke smell. also try a clarifying shampoo? something with lots of sulphates should do the trick.
/r/RedPillWives06/05/18 11:06 PM
3

Because genetics
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 01:09 AM
6

Why would you want to play mother to kids who aren't yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 11:49 PM
1

What the fuck are you condoning here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 10:03 PM
2

Prostitutes can turn a client down for any reason they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 10:01 PM
2

Haha it's Woolworths. Our main supermarket chain.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:58 PM
1

Can we do a weekly 'PPD philosophy with slimlovin' thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:50 PM
3

Women attempt suicide more often, men are just better at getting the job done
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:35 PM
4

Shooting up a school doesn't take physical strength. Driving a van into a group of people doesn't take physical strength. Show me one example of a woman going on a mass killing spree. Of course men are more violent than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:31 PM
1

Right? Wants to be in charge of his wife, but heaven forbid she gets anything he doesn't!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:30 PM
1

Only when it suits
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 09:25 PM
1

He also doesn't respect and look up to me the way I do to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 08:56 PM
3

I'm saying that the crisis usually - not always - comes after the huge life adjustment that happens after having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 04:03 PM
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Most men understand where they stand on the social and dating ladder. Noooo they don't
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:01 PM
1

No xanax and codeine together pls
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:52 PM
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In one case, they weren't married but after 12 years he said "I now have everything I wanted, except that I feel alone." So he dumped her, fucked a girl half his age, got a tattoo, and bought a muscle car. The male midlife crisis is the equivalent of the middle aged woman who leaves her nice husband looking for the hot musician because she's "unhaaaaaaappy". Creating a legacy has consequences. I never understand it when women act surprised that they can't life their carefree hippie dippie life a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:47 PM
6

You're complaining that sex workers are reserving the right to turn down men they do the want to fuck. What am I missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:32 PM
1

She's a Burmese! Very similar to Siamese though. Just as clingy and vocal, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:13 PM
1

Aw! Here's our baby
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 12:51 PM
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Thanx bb
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 12:17 PM
1

Lol moxie sounds adorable
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 12:16 PM
1

Hahaha omg I was just telling my husband I want to adopt the stray cat in our street to keep our girl company. It's happened! Nek minnit whitebunny is a crazy cat lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 11:28 AM
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Ffs I'm done with PPD for the night
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 11:26 AM
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