abacaba Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
116	My epiphany about escaping excessive humility		abacaba	/r/seduction	03/07/11 07:17 PM
11	Getting over oneitis for a close friend?		abacaba	/r/seduction	05/07/11 08:26 PM

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4	Accomplished Sedditors: what ways (if any) do you regret your decision to become a PUA How do you tell the difference between becoming the best version of yourself and becoming someone you're not? I've thought about this question a LOT but don't have a good answer.	/r/seduction	07/07/11 08:11 AM
3	Getting over oneitis for a close friend? Most oneitis is not because the women is that awesome, it's because you're trying to fill a void in yourself. In this case I think it's a little of both. There's definitely some element of filling a void in myself, but I'm not sure how to get past that. Even when I feel like I have my shit together in my personal life, I still feel some kind of weakness/neediness for female companionship. I sometimes wonder if it's similar to how some people (women especially) REALLY want to have children, like …	/r/seduction	06/07/11 03:36 AM
3	Getting over oneitis for a close friend? I think he's confused because he's not the original poster, I am. :)	/r/seduction	06/07/11 03:11 AM
3	How I Developed Awesome Self Confidence Unfortunately, I get quite down on myself when I make the same mistake multiple times. It becomes harder to believe in the value of mistakes when it doesn't help prevent you from making the same mistake again.	/r/seduction	07/06/11 03:40 AM
20	The Good Guy Contract Wow that hit home. At "try asking yourself the following question" I said "yes" out-loud to every one, and I never do that. The flip side of this is that I expect other people to be good/nice to me. If they are, I'll cut them an almost infinite amount of slack. But if they aren't good/nice to me when they could have been, I judge everything they do way more harshly. I don't think any of this is healthy, but it's a hard pattern to break. I go absolutely crazy when I don't have other people's appr…	/r/seduction	10/11/10 07:50 PM
1	Dropping the Ego I travel a lot, for example, which creates dozens of cool stories each year. I do a lot of international travel too, but sometimes I'm wary of talking much about it because it's something that a lot of people can't do. Like even my good friends started to get jealous recently when I took two international trips in a row, so I started talking about my travel less. Do you ever run into this? How do you DHV without turning people off due to jealousy?	/r/seduction	29/10/10 04:36 PM