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| 3 | Friendship is a waste of time/energy/attention. Camaraderie is better.“Friendship is ass, this synonym of the same fucking concept is better”. Sounds like you have beef with the thesaurus dawg. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Women gave birth to the next generation. You quite LITERALLY wouldn’t have society without women. Sure, men hunted. But women also gathered. Learning the use of herbs and plants for quick remedies, and learning general care, often fell into the hands of women. One of the first signs of society and care is a healed femur. It’s mostly the mothers of a tribe who learn these cures and treatments. Men are physically stronger than women, sure. But that doesn’t mean men are superior to women in general… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 05:46 AM |
| 1 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I literally fucking said that men are generally physically stronger than women. Dipshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 05:39 AM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.6500 BC =/= 45 million years ago... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:16 PM |
| 5 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I also wanted to add. You are one of the commenters who has forced me to change my views. In my post, I made a mistake of believing that higher acceptance of female expression of 'masculine values' is equivalent to more general , yet somehow flawed acceptance. Clearly I was wrong, and there are still high levels of pressure on women to conform. My sincerest apologies for this, and thank you. Yes, women have it hard. And while I'm not tying to equate out struggles and make a "yeah, but men have i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:13 PM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Yes that’s my point, that societal coddling of women doesn’t exist. My bad if my wording wasn’t clear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:58 PM |
| 5 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I think it's hard to be both. There's a lot of performative action in both, and both, stereotypically, have very enforced boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:53 PM |
| 3 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I wouldn't know, but I am aware that trans women are more visible than trans men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:49 PM |
| 1 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.My apologies if this post came off as me claiming that “boys have it worse” because of some societal coddling of women. I should have mentioned that macro level progress, especially slow and tumultuous progress, does not translate to progress for everyone. My ultimate point has to do with the understanding of what masculine traits and feminine traits even are, and how feminism has been trying to deconstruct this understanding, with backlash for many other sides. For what it’s worth, my condolenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:47 PM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Very valid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:36 PM |
| 4 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I believe that the spreading of academic terminology to the general public is harmful in many ways. The term "patriarchy" originates from academia, and people who're involved with the study of such fields are familiar with what this term refers to. Without proper education of the etymology of the word, many people liken "patriarchy" to "men". It doesn't help that there is also rhetoric of "kill all men" or something along those lines floating around here and there. By not explicitly explaining w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:35 PM |
| 5 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I agree that many women are unaccepting of men who are willing to explore the dissolution of gender norms. Women can also be participants in continuing the patriarchy (and for many reasons, but this especially, I dislike the term patriarchy, even though I can usually get what it refers to). However, the increasing acceptance of "non-traditional" women can, amongst many things, be explained by a concerted effort by women to let the world know that they are here to stay, and that they're more comf… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:30 PM |
| 8 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Numerous studies are showing that the intelligence gap between men and women are not only far smaller than previously understood, but also more varied. Yes, men are generally physically more capable than women. Yes, there are real hormonal differences between cis men and cis women. My point it, that apart from physiological differences, women are not hard wired to be dumber than men en masse, or be more subservient than men en masse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:26 PM |
| 1 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:19 PM |
| 3 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.With regards to your first paragraph, I absolutely agree. I should have been more precise, that feminism has helped alleviate some gender expectations, not all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:17 PM |
| 9 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.First off, education divides were more based along class divides at first. The idea is that knowledge is a virtue of the rich, and the poor shouldn't be enlightened. This is because the elite feared an educated population who could make decisions for themselves. The same principle applies to women. Because men, generally, are stronger than women, they could physically beat them into submission. But an educated population of women, who have knowledge on the technology and social structures that r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:16 PM |
| 10 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.In a society that rewards hustling, resource dominance, constant economic growth, military might, and physical capability; 'masculine traits' would be seen as superior to 'feminine traits'. No one goes around saying "Yeah dude, nurturing and caring traits are gross and weak", but society rewards 'male traits'. People's brains are individually different. While there are macro level differences, neuroscience is increasingly showing more diversity across gender lines. Yes, men and women are differe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:07 PM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Too many people have a problem with being attracted to what they see as inferior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:53 PM |
| 5 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.One of the biggest mental pitfalls among many men is reaching the wrong conclusion after identifying the correct problem. They see an imbalance in gender expression, tied to many worsening socioeconomic conditions on the micro scale. Instead of working to remove barriers (gender, economic, class, caste, etc.), they double down on the "comfortable" hierarchy they know. Which oppresses everyone but keeps them near the top of the food chain, even though they're worse off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:52 PM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.My parents in particular were never too on board with violent (for our age) play fighting or with highly competitive games. At school, however, nearly all my male peers were raised in similar fashion. So, as I grew up with them and learned with them, I became more initiated into male socialization. Similarly, a girl might not be taught by her parents about gender roles, but many other girls, and other adults (like teachers), would have implicit biases. This would lead to her also being initiated… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:49 PM |
| 3 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.While this is many ways true (I myself am not a very feminine man, and many people expect me to be after learning that I'm queer); I don't think gay men being allowed feminine expression is indicative of general gender and sexual freedom of expression in society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:42 PM |
| 15 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.If you systematically refrain women (and this is true across nearly all civilizations) from education, military training, and personal wealth; no shit men would turn out to be the dominant gender. I will admit, that men in general are physically stronger than women in general. That is probably the initial reason for this imbalance. However, apart from this, there is nothing to suggest that men and women are inherently unequal. The idea that men are natural leaders is a result of systemic restric… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:41 PM |
| 1 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Ah, my bad. I won’t invalidate your experience, but I haven’t seen this in real life, mostly because I’ve never seen a group of “socially uninfluenced kids”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:18 PM |
| 2 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.I’m not too familiar with these studies, so I’ll have to read them and get back to you. That being said, “no input from parents” does not equate to “no input at all”. It is very possible for children to be pushed towards gender roles by society at large. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 05:57 PM |
| 6 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.It's very darkly hilarious how trans women are more often made the targets of transphobia, but trans men aren't to the same extent. This sort of gender essentialism is still very prevalent. 'Women are fundamentally weaker, so they aren't as inherently capable of violence as men.' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 05:54 PM |
| 5 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.In many households I know, women are expected to be the 'secondary parent' of their younger siblings. Men are too, but I see this responsibility pushed more on women. In some households, the girl is taught to take care of the home earlier than the boy (and sometimes the boy isn't taught so at all). Things are definitely changing, and I see a more egalitarian shift. In my own life, both my parents taught me to be independent, and nurturing. But a divide still remains, even though it is closing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 05:52 PM |
| 18 | It is acceptable, even congratulated, sometimes, for a woman to be 'masculine', bot for a man to be 'feminine'.Agreed. There's this idea that Men are the natural leaders and stalwarts of society, and that women are only good when they're kept in line. Disgusting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 05:40 PM |
| – | "I see far more attractive women than men" shows that beauty standards for women are not highSexuality shapes how you view attractiveness. It's expected that most men would see men as less attractive than women, can't do anything about that. Most people aren't born butt ugly. Working out and cutting fat gave me a good jawline. I don't have any god-like features, but it's not a hindrance. I will admit, if you're actually ugly it's a problem, but most men will look perfectly fine if they trim the chub. Societal rules are real, but not fundamental. Societal rules dictated that women can't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 02:32 PM |
| – | "I see far more attractive women than men" shows that beauty standards for women are not highThere’s three main arguments for men claiming women are just more attractive: “I’m personally not attracted to men, but I am attracted to women. Therefore, women are naturally more attractive than men.” Women learn how to take care of themselves better. They put more effort into presentation, posture, skin care, hair care, and a more personable attitude. Women wear make up, men don’t. Generally speaking. None of these are legitimate grounds for claiming that women are just naturally more good lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 08:02 AM |
| 10 | One of the biggest reasons for the discrepancy of sexualization and the argument over approach and effort is the 'education of sexiness'. Many men overlook this and simply believe women are genetically "blessed to be more attractive than men"; and that women put in no effort at all to make a move.I’m way too tired right now to read this all and give a detailed reply, but I’ve skimmed it. Yes, the lack of male sexualization leads to men just not knowing how to be attractive. But there’s ways around this. With the advent of the internet, and women fighting for a space to be more openly sexual; there’s always an avenue to learn. The day I learned my current partner likes thick thighs (and I’m blessed to have nice legs), I’ve been wearing tighter shorts around them in private. My ex gf loved… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:07 PM |
| 3 | One of the biggest reasons for the discrepancy of sexualization and the argument over approach and effort is the 'education of sexiness'. Many men overlook this and simply believe women are genetically "blessed to be more attractive than men"; and that women put in no effort at all to make a move.I disagree with your first point but I can respect it. Fair enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:02 PM |
| 11 | One of the biggest reasons for the discrepancy of sexualization and the argument over approach and effort is the 'education of sexiness'. Many men overlook this and simply believe women are genetically "blessed to be more attractive than men"; and that women put in no effort at all to make a move.You look for: a woman with big breasts, women with female genitalia, women who can biologically have babies, and women who have some curves. I’m sure there’s plenty of women fitting these criteria who you’d not actually be attracted to. Second, I’ve rarely met a woman who flaunts her weight directly. Skinniness, yes, but the numerical weight? That’s gotta be a disorder. Also “post prepubescent”? That wording’s kinda…icky… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:01 PM |
| 8 | One of the biggest reasons for the discrepancy of sexualization and the argument over approach and effort is the 'education of sexiness'. Many men overlook this and simply believe women are genetically "blessed to be more attractive than men"; and that women put in no effort at all to make a move.Maybe it’s because I’m bisexual, but there’s nothing inherent about any gender that makes them more attractive en masse. I know some very good looking men in real life. Women just happen to be more in tune with their attractiveness. They’re taught from a much younger age how to be more appealing, and for many women, their sense of worth is dictated by their allure. And yes, many boys are straight up idiots about what women like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:41 PM |
| 7 | One of the biggest reasons for the discrepancy of sexualization and the argument over approach and effort is the 'education of sexiness'. Many men overlook this and simply believe women are genetically "blessed to be more attractive than men"; and that women put in no effort at all to make a move.I wouldn’t consider myself a very high status man. But I have been flirted with. While there are men who some women would throw themselves to, and of course there are women who are far more forward; feminine sexuality is generally more sensual and “attract, don’t chase”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | We need to improve urban planning and design to help mitigate (some of) the causes of the Male Loneliness Epidemic in America, Canada, and Australia.I never said that? My intention is to say that men have to work for this ourselves. I apologize if my wording was unclear or misleading, but I have never claimed that it's a woman's job to fix male loneliness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 07:17 PM |
| 1 | We need to improve urban planning and design to help mitigate (some of) the causes of the Male Loneliness Epidemic in America, Canada, and Australia.I 100% agree that most men who keep complaining about the Loneliness Epidemic are bullshitting; but my point was not to get more men dating, but rather to help build a network for men in general | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 06:46 PM |
| 2 | We need to improve urban planning and design to help mitigate (some of) the causes of the Male Loneliness Epidemic in America, Canada, and Australia.True, My wording is off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 05:09 PM |
| 2 | We need to improve urban planning and design to help mitigate (some of) the causes of the Male Loneliness Epidemic in America, Canada, and Australia.I'm not saying that. My points are: Most Lonely Men have no community in general, not just a lack of romantic success. We need to build architecture that incentivizes people to become more social. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 04:34 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: Why do you misunderstand or malign well-intentioned dating advice?That's 100% valid, and you should set boundaries that you won't cross. But I don't think this question was meant for people like you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 04:32 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Many men here don't understand the value of community. Don't bother. If they don't get advice that will directly lead them to getting laid every time they try, they claim it's useless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 08:03 AM |
| 8 | If "an increasing percentage of women are going for a shrinking percentage of men" is not true, the standard redpill model is not true100% If your sense of self worth comes from outside, you will never be truly content. That shit gotta come from within. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:12 PM |
| 3 | This place does not match up with realityYeah, it is. Even if most people are doing fine, that doesn’t mean everyone is. There might be people who’re genuinely clueless as to why they’re struggling, and forums to discuss dating dynamics help. Even those who are doing fine might want a place to vent and air their frustrations. Parents of growing kids who might want an insight (albeit toxic insight) into modern dating dynamics. Personally, it’s really fun to be here. Some of the posters here might legitimately be insane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 07:07 AM |
| 7 | This place does not match up with realityLmao I asked that question | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:11 PM |
| 1 | This place does not match up with realityNevermind I didn’t see the comment you were replying to my bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:11 PM |
| 1 | This place does not match up with reality??? Where did I say this? I’m really sleepy so maybe I’m skipping over shit, but I really can’t find where I said this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:10 PM |
| 10 | This place does not match up with reality😭 it’s too fun unfortunately | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 07:49 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?I was born in 2004; and almost no one in my school seriously believed "wait your turn" after 15. Almost everyone got that you need to be proactive and charming; either you cared to try, or you didn't (this was me). Of course, we weren't assholes, and no one was brain rotted from the anti-woman hate of the pills, but few were naive. In the East, it's really just more extreme. In may Asian cultures, dating was expressly forbidden for the youth; and this was standard across the Chinese, Indian (min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/25 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?That’s very true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/25 01:32 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?It’s eugenics to acknowledge that ND people have it harder in saying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?Honestly, that’s the right mindset. What’s cool and attractive changes a lot with the times, and deliberately trying to steer your child’s dating path is likely to backfire. That and what’s socially accepted now might be very controversial in the future. Many Indian and Asian men also have problems with a lack of sexual intuition, because Asian culture stifles dating. It’s really only those who break free of their parents’ conditioning who succeed early. And finally, I knew the girls with the or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?These are all my own experiences. I'm not saying you're wrong, but that my life doesn't match up with yours. I'm Asian. Most of us were never talked to by adults about dating and love, and we mostly figured it out ourselves along the way. So, we never had anyone tell us that girls are immature for not liking awkward, unattractive guys. Maybe things are different for guys raised in the West, but it's not the case in Singapore, at least not at my school and community. True, most of us men, when we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 09:04 PM |
| 14 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?It’s also worth mentioning that many people try to assign formulae and algorithms for dating success, which involves human sentiment, which is fundamentally random. It’s funny though, quant finance itself came about because people were obsessed with modeling randomness and human behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 07:20 PM |
| 16 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?Apart from those with Down Syndrome, I can’t see why ND people are more likely genetically cursed to be less attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 07:09 PM |
| 10 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?Personality is a significant factor. People confuse general decency with personality. Being funny, being the center of gravity of a conversation, and knowing how to charm people is all part of the package. I will admit though, that this rarely matters if you’re ugly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 07:00 PM |
| 11 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?I’m not downplaying the fact that women care about looks, and that boring men don’t land dates easily. If I did, please point out examples, and I will change my wording. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?My condolences man, I hope you're doing better now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?This I agree with, I missed this, my bad. Yeah, not everyone is destined for love, and the platitudes that "oh it'll happen when you least expect it", or "there's many fish in the sea", are trash. And while dating can be fun, the lack of results quickly takes away the enjoyment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:48 PM |
| 40 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?The real black pill is about neurodivergence. More than anything, having a poor understanding of human connection is pretty much guaranteed to be a hindrance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?I think homeschooling should be banned for high school. You're not just learning to score well on tests, you're also learning to properly enter society after 18. Once you're past the point of understanding how social ties work in high school, your only real chance is college (which many don't go to), and even that isn't as 'nurturing' as high school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:45 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: How many of you here are neurodivergent?Being homeschooled during high school seems painful, I'd hate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 06:36 PM |
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