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My ex did this 2 weeks into separation. To me, ideologically speaking its cheating. But what's the point in debating it? Your marriage is done, best move.on.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 09:43 PM
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There is no going back from this. Let her go and move on. She doesn't deserve to love you. File first and go after full parental custody.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 01:11 PM
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my mind is absolutely burnt out reading this one long sentence. Did someone forget there is a full stop or a comma? oomg save my brain and my eyes
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 04:40 PM
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First Valentine's alone but doesnt feel like it. This is how I was while married too. In bed early and sleeping by ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:35 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 02:20 AM
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You and I have learned a valuable lesson friend. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 06:23 PM
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MA Me: 180k. Her: 40k 2 kids 10 and 13 2800 monthly
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 06:22 PM
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Love it. Thanks. Ill take all the help I can get lol. More time to build the life I want.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 02:30 PM
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First 2 month? I was on Zombie mode. Inches from suicide Severely depressed Anxiety thru the roof - mostly due to friends abandoning me Worked out like a maniac to keep sanity (wanted to be tired ALL the fucking time) Read Marcus Aurelius Joined Men's divorce group (literally these guys saved my life. I love every one of them) After I accepted the marriage is OVER. Now divorced and single again. Fixed my finances. Invested spare money. Back to cash flow positive. Started running again (saw my pa…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 02:29 PM
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Share the vaccum recommendation please?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 02:19 PM
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I havent retained a lawyer yet. We are mediating, but I def need one based on where she is going.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 01:21 PM
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No its an arrangement between us
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 08:10 PM
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No. MA. No legal separation is required.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:33 PM
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Yeah. But can she not take it to a hotel.room?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:27 PM
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Yes but it's a shared space. Shouldn't she respect that I sleep in that bed 3 days a week? Spoke to my therapist about it. She asked me to be respectful of her independence but also ask her to respect the share space.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:23 PM
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Spoke to my therapist about it. She asked me to be respectful of her independence but also ask her to respect the share space. Im confused now
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:22 PM
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I agree. Spoke to my therapist about it. She asked me to be respectful of her independence but also ask her to respect the share space. Im confused.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:21 PM
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Yes we do. Its just one room at the airbnb and other ppl use other rooms. My and wife swap everyweek. My therapist is suggesting i respectfully ask her to respect the shared space.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:20 PM
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Nesting is only for the time period until divorce is finalized. We are starting mediation.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:18 PM
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We are separated. Not divorced yet.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:16 PM
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It wasnt my decision to separate or divorce. It was HER idea to get an airbnb.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:15 PM
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The catch is . Court dates are 2 years out in MA.. so my stbxw wants to settle FAST.. I think she wants a relationship and fast, so she is asking when im getting a mediator every day.. thats all she wants.. may be i can take advantage of that to settle something in favor.. fingers crossed
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 07:18 PM
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The house is no shape to be sold... It needs fixes unfortunately or we lose a lot of equity. Are you salary levels same mine???
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 07:14 PM
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I am not agreeing to anything less than 50%. My worry is how much in alimony on top of child support.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:03 PM
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She is not on the mortgage but on the deed
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 10:56 PM
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My w2 comes in at 160k.. hers including her business income comes in at 40k. 160k left in mortgage... Home value is 500K I understand alimony is on top of child support... But how much though.. all considered it looks like Im in the negative after Alimony + Child support every month??? How is that fair or equitable?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 10:53 PM
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Added info above.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 09:07 PM
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Talk to me about Stoicism. I saw some videos about Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus. I find it interesting, but worried it will tske the fire out of me, in terms of fighting for what I want in divorce settlement agreement. Dont wanna give up anything I dont have to. Also want to keep some fire in me to go after things in life... like making things happen, going after my goals in life. I know im catastrophising here, so I need to educate myself. Which books do you recommend. I see people recommendin…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 02:05 PM
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You are lucky to have had good friends.. all my friends were common with my ex and they turned. I have a couple of friends in other countries but cant bother them with going to a pub n vent. I do call them time to time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 02:00 PM
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Yes I agree with everything except that. I wont harm an ant in my most insane state of mind. Everything else i can take into my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 01:58 PM
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My therapist said the same thing...i told her im worried about becoming bitter and not be a good co-parent. After letting me feel, I am also worried abt taking the phone and texting nasty things to my stbxw that ill later regret.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 01:55 PM
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MC and IC?
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:19 PM
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Nesting arrangement is while being separated. We just started discussing divorce and looks like she couldn't hold it in until its final. Tbh she is not doing it at marital home. She is doing it god knows where. I also believe her friends are egging her on.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:05 PM
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MA
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 11:27 PM
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Ok thank you
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 01:41 PM
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So should I start the interview by asking if they are representing my wife (quoting her name)???
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 01:14 PM
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You are absolutely right... When she went ballistic few days ago. i was worried abt how she is going to assasinate my character and turn out common friends against me (which they already have)... Now i ve realized how I cant help other peoples treatment of me... Rather how i can only control how I react to my STBXW and so called friends.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 08:11 PM
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Done that. Changed password already to all my accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:42 PM
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Thank you. I needed to hear this. It broke my heart hearing all the vilification of me with kids. My only goal is to be the best dad I can be. I know I can be a better dad than i ve been and thats all i want from my future.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:27 PM
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Thanks a lot. What did the overall divorce end up costing you? Im going to start choosing attorneys. Any specific questions you ask the lawyers before choosing them? How many should I interview??
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 01:42 PM
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Im so sorry u are going thru this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:26 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:26 AM
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Thanks. I will call one first thing monday morning.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:17 AM
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Thank you. I have 3 copies stored now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:10 AM
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That really sucks..so sorry mate.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:02 AM
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Mediation with representation.. meaning have lawyers ready while doing mediation with her?
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:57 AM
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Yes. I have already.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:52 AM
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I want to go the mediation route. Feel like I will lose a lot more going lawyers route. But she has had a consult with a lawyer yesterday, begrudgingly agreed to do mediation instead today.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:11 AM
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What do you mean? Why a restraining order?
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:04 AM
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