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Namecalling and badgering users has resulted in literally no useful posts. You can have decency and a collaborative attitude and not be overfunctioning and coddling. It’s sad. Oh well - as soon as Apollo is dead I’m probably 99% don’t with Reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/23 05:27 AM
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Another example of a total douche saying things anonymously online that would get him punched in the mouth in real life. This place is toxic - y’all wrecked it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 09:29 PM
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Your job is to be desirable, is her choice if she will choose you and desire you. She might not. Either way you will be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/21 07:50 PM
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Your calm will be contagious. Don’t take it personally.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 02:51 AM
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Start with using punctuation and paragraphs.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/21 11:37 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 02:48 PM
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Do you think this post might be a psychological “projection” and is your own “shadow” that you are trying to not confront? https://academyofideas.com/2018/02/carl-jung-shadow-dangers-of-psychological-projection/ https://youtu.be/gL9isdHw9CQ
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 04:27 AM
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To your credit - it’s the only post like it that I can think of in the last 6 years! Maybe there is a deeper lesson here? I like how you are self-validating on the post and it’s value. If half the men could do this with their wife, they would be lightyears ahead. EDIT: finally got flair after 6 years! Woo hoo!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 04:03 AM
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This post is so long about one dumb interaction with one dumb person. If my 10 year old daughter calls me a poopyhead, I don’t spend 2 hours writing a long ass reply to her. It’s just water off a ducks back. What percentage of 18-64 year olds have a diagnosable severe mental illness? It’s 5.2% https://www.nami.org/learn-more/mental-health-by-the-numbers There are 30,000 subscribers and way more lurkers. It’s actually amazing you don’t see more stupid comments! Why take the time to type this all …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 02:25 AM
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There is definitely a retard in this sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 01:40 AM
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Add another zero and my wife still wouldn’t fuck me. In some ways, it makes it harder because there is so much more on the line in a divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/21 05:58 PM
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In the best sex for us, it becomes a form of adult play. She can only submit if she trusts you. Sounds like a lack of trust and collaborative alliance. So if that energy is missing, ask yourself why.
/r/askMRP23/01/21 08:15 PM
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His ego and validation-seeking got the best of him. (Yet it was those same traits that got him elected).
/r/askMRP09/11/20 06:01 PM
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https://local.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-interested-1819565990 Lol - take as old as time...
/r/askMRP27/10/20 04:23 AM
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Still seeking external validation, huh? Now you want it from us since she left...sigh
/r/askMRP16/10/20 01:59 PM
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This book helped me during a tough time. In fact, all of Dr. James Hollis’ books. https://www.amazon.com/Swamplands-STUDIES-JUNGIAN-PSYCHOLOGY-ANALYSTS/dp/0919123740
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 01:09 AM
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It’s more than just physically attractive - she has to trust him and have a collaborative alliance. Otherwise just getting compliance from dread is no good because it’s fake. /u/HornsOfApathy has a great comment somewhere on converting Dread to Desire that I cant find...
/r/askMRP07/10/20 10:30 PM
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Trust = Lust She can map your mind that you aren’t 1) totally in integrity with it and 2) outcome independent. We have the ability to map each other’s minds by age 5 and it’s robust by age 10. (Brain Talk by Dr. David Schnarch). She craves authenticity and leadership. If she says no right now - I’d say something like “I know you're worried about me being secretly disappointed and resentful, and I don't blame you because I've done that to you many times in the past. That's “good judgment” on your…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 09:50 PM
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The only ASD I see here is your Autism Spectrum Disorder. Are you using the dirty talk for validation? If you are, she will mind map you in two seconds and know that you are needy. I think I might say something like “hey, I haven’t really been authentic in the past with my sexuality and I would like to experiment with more dirty talk. I like the novelty and taboo nature of it, but I get it that it is different then we have been in the past. What do you think?” Then actually listen and decide wha…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 09:07 PM
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Agree. She misses that you can’t negotiate real desire. You just have to actually be desirable. I do think that using a purple therapist can be useful. I must be the outlier, but I had quite a bit of success with a female therapist who was trained by Dr. David Schnarch (author of Passionate Marriage and uses a differentiation-based approach). She is purple-pilled - but the red side of the purple was useful. She would not coddle my wife or let her play the victim/martyr. My wife would let the ham…
/r/askMRP01/10/20 05:26 AM
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Just like everything - you need to sift the wheat from the chaff. We know there are issues with books in the sidebar too. That being said - it’s great to hear a woman couples therapist with a PHD who trains other therapists talking about more controversial ideas and exposing the underlying dynamics of marriage. It’s not sidebar material, but it’s not worthless either. My wife read it and it opened her eyes and made her more collaborative around the need for novelty and to keep things exciting.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 04:00 PM
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Ester Perel has a lot of red pill ideas. Her other book “A state of affairs” speak about how both partners are at fault for infidelity. The avoidant, withholding wife plays a role. She has a pretty cool TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en
/r/askMRP30/09/20 01:43 PM
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https://ufile.io/n216ursl How can you want what you already have? Basically, be a man of high value with options. Passion comes from uncertainty. She cannot be attracted to someone who has abandoned their autonomy. Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love is about having; desire is about wanting Where there is nothing left to hide, there is nothing left to seek Your wife knows you love her. What she wants is to feel desired by you. Of all your choices (and you have ma…
/r/askMRP30/09/20 04:04 AM
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There is a whole book on the subject https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641
/r/askMRP30/09/20 01:39 AM
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Is no one going to college?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 12:36 AM
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Go by visual Or maybe calipers https://weightology.net/the-pitfalls-of-bodyfat-measurement-part-4-bioelectrical-impedance-bia/
/r/askMRP18/08/20 04:18 AM
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See you in August!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 12:11 AM
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lol - I got up at 4:30 ya bitch. The “fair” comes once a year!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 12:01 AM
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Always up to read something new
/r/RedPillBooks28/06/20 02:29 AM
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This was good, but I’d like to see it with 3 kids and a wife and staring down the barrel of a few hundred grand of alimony! Easy mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/20 12:16 AM
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Dr Glover has a few new podcasts out. It’s interesting to hear how he’s doing. He had a tumor and was sick for awhile. Now that he is healthy, his output has increased. He said that recently he recorded the audiobook with him reading it and that it was a slap in the face as he realized he had forgotten many of the concepts. (He wrote it 20 years ago before his 2nd divorce - now on his 3rd wife) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/leverage-podcast/id986699444?i=1000451138578 https://podcasts.ap…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:25 AM
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Any tips for PE? It interferes with this concept often for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/20 04:46 AM
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I do think that marriage and monogamy is a human growth machine that will force you to become a better version of yourself. I think it is part of God’s plan to have us become more like him. It’s easy to live by yourself with your dog. As soon as you introduce someone else who says “hey, that’s not nice” - that is how we grow. I also think having children is something that will grow you up and is an important part of life. They create purpose and responsibility. Until you have kids, you are the m…
/r/RPChristians15/05/20 07:02 PM
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Exactly, it’s supplemental at best.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 02:51 AM
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John Gottman creates “good enough marriages“ where you can sit around drink a cup of coffee and read the newspaper and not be fighting and bitching all the time, but he does not create passionate marriages where the woman actually chooses and desires her man. His information is scientific and there’s truth in it but it’s just a tool in your armamentarium and it’s not the most useful tool. There is a reason his stuff isn’t on the sidebar. It’s just theory but he misses the polarity between the ma…
/r/askMRP08/05/20 02:47 AM
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No rule was violated
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 01:17 AM
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?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 01:14 AM
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Yeah and no audiobook version. He does have a “talk” called “Secrets of a Passionate Marriage” you can buy that is a great overview of his thoughts. It has always amazed me how many people like Passionate Marriage and then don’t go and read any of his other books which are better. His newest book Brain Talk was fascinating. that one does have an e-book.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 12:52 AM
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He has also released the 2nd edition of Intimacy and Desire. Intimacy & Desire: Awaken The Passion In Your Relationship https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689933224/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oIJOEbDYGR7W2 If you slightly liked Passionate Marriage, you will really like Intimacy and Desire. Due to a publishing dispute it was out of print for 5 years, but now it’s back! He refines his ideas from Passionate Marriage and then adds in his “4 Points of Balance” https://crucible4points.com/crucible-four-points-balan…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 12:41 AM
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Duh doi - men and women are both emotionally immature and we tend to marry people at a similar level of differentiation (or around here, low levels of differentiation) - men and women need to grow the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 05:04 AM
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Have you looked into doing the Jennifer Finlayson-Fife courses or if your budget allows, doing therapy with her? I have you tagged as Mormon. That was super helpful for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 02:50 AM
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There are a few dark clouds, but the sky is still blue, the clouds will pass and change. Start working on yourself. Consider a bit of individual therapy if you are too lazy to read the sidebar and I know the gym may be closed, but start with 10 sets of fork out downs and table push aways!
/r/askMRP02/04/20 08:22 PM
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What the fuck is this bullshit? Patreon? Is this an April Fools gag?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/20 02:07 AM
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Just ask her - “why are you being such a bitch?”
/r/askMRP11/03/20 01:57 AM
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Once you develop rock solid frame - it’s like couples tennis. You two vs the world. She actually chooses you and you choose her. Out of abundance, not obligation. It doesn’t mean there aren’t regressions, but you are able to quickly come out of them. Someday I’ll have to write up my experiences more. We did and still do David Scharch style Crucible therapy with a therapist trained by him. It really helped having an independent 3rd party calling both of us out. For example, me using sex for valid…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/20 01:22 AM
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Yes - this is the “collaborative alliance” that Dr. David Schnarch talks about achieving. Both of you realizing the shit you both were pulling and now you both bringing your “best self” to the marriage. It’s rare but I think it’s the ultimate goal, for me at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 06:22 AM
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Now pretend that he is your wife and this is your marriage. How would you handle the situation? Would you be brave enough to switch to dojos?
/r/askMRP13/02/20 05:41 PM
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Bummer - it will all be ok someday. If she wants to blow it up, then she can. At least hold onto your self-respect.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 02:04 PM
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Get that bitch in therapy.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 03:10 PM
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Yeah - the professor has no idea how to say his name correctly.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 12:32 AM
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Who give a fuck - I drop my wallet and can lose 1K - the money doesn’t make her pussy wet. I wish it it did, I really do because then I could be a lazy ass...but it doesn’t matter how much you make after a certain amount of security.
/r/askMRP26/01/20 08:47 PM
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https://i.imgur.com/YB937zw.jpg
/r/askMRP19/01/20 05:32 PM
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Cool idea but I don’t get it - why do you ask her three days in a row and then in day 4 show her what she chose? Like it could be two ass, a pussy, and a mouth so ass wins 2:1:1? And don’t deny you all want to know what the fuck he is talking about with random numbers and letters...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/20 05:35 AM
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Having the wife connect with other progressive LDS women is powerful. Finlayson-Fife was key for our turnaround. She called me out on my bullshit and also my wife. We talk about AWALT, but the reality is All Humans Are Like That. I wasn’t any more differentiated or emotionally mature than my wife. We learned a bunch of garbage from the church and our parents. We were set up to fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 10:56 PM
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Don’t underestimate the challenge of the LDS upbringing. It’s MRP on nightmare difficulty... The wife probably doesn’t know what she likes and is scared to find out.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 10:53 PM
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Try to get your wife to go to the in person Art of Desire. It will help a ton. Take the classes. 11 months is the perfect amount of time to take all her classes and do the MRP reading. Tell her you want an amazing marriage where two people thrive and that you think taking the in-person Art of Desire could really help her. If you really wanted to hit her with the tactical nuke-two spots opened up for 2020 France with Dr. Finlayson-Fife...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 09:03 PM
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Are you still LDS? Is she? Are you familiar with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife? (Schnarch trained Mormon therapist)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 08:58 PM
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The idea of differentiation that Dr. David Schnarch writes about. Working on your 4 Points of Balance. https://crucible4points.com/crucible-four-points-balance His best book is “Intimacy and Desire” - It’s unfortunately out of print, but worth getting from the library or buying used.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 11:29 PM
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Excellent - if you work on the process and not the result - work on building intimacy and connection and not just getting off. Attraction and trustworthiness and not just orgasm. As she sees you working on bringing your Best Self over and over and learning how to self-soothe and hold frame, you won’t infect her with your anxiety and she will trust you and be attracted to you.
/r/RPChristians16/12/19 06:13 PM
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Two things. The Savior taught that by their fruits he shall know. You should be able to know if something brings goodness or not We have access to personal revelation - so pray about it and decide for yourself Tonight my daughter played Mele Kalikimaka on her ukulele and it was super cute and I felt brought goodness to our family. All I can say is that I would encourage you to seek the Lord’s instruction and wrestle with it and experiment on it and see what happens. For my your view reminds me o…
/r/RPChristians14/12/19 01:22 AM
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Your view comes across as immoderate. Do whatever you want but why can’t you do both? Our church has a Christmas breakfast and we will sing hymns but Santa will also visit.
/r/RPChristians13/12/19 01:47 PM
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Jesus wasn’t even born in December - chill out, the hippopotamus song is fun
/r/RPChristians13/12/19 05:26 AM
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Bingo You should be doing sex as a collaborative alliance not because you want to go where other guys got to go. Duh doi.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 09:58 PM
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David Schnarch is one of my favorite authors. My favorite book of his is Intimacy and Desire which is unfortunately out of print, but it’s so good. I also really enjoyed Brain Talk.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 04:59 AM
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I’m an orthodontist actually
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 10:14 PM
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Staff management is the bane of my existence- I literally just had to tell 3 ladies to quit murmuring about a staff promotion I made. Bitches be crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 09:33 PM
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She is going to rip a hole in that paper frame. Sidebar and lift and prepare for the regression. You are just now swimming up out of the Mariana trench. The fish down their aren’t friendly Nemo fish...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 12:55 AM
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So do I get baptized every time I take a bath? Having sex isn’t a covenant with God. I suppose if society had broken down, you could agree to be “married” but just agreeing and having sex, but I think it would be poor judgement. I think the most important part is your integrity. If you can do it with integrity before God then it will probably hold up.
/r/RPChristians05/12/19 03:41 PM
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Lol - anything specific? It 2 hours!
/r/RPChristians28/11/19 04:49 AM
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I have had more luck with #2 - turning down duty sex scraps and leading her to a collaborative alliance. A marriage where we BOTH thrive. I still remember the first time I turned down duty sex. She didn’t sleep the whole night. I didn’t set myself up as the “perp” who was trying to take something not being offered to me. So she had to face the reality that I was a great man and she was the avoidant one withholding - it shocked her. My opinion is if you spend your time cleaning up your side of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 06:14 AM
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Why get married again?
/r/askMRP27/11/19 12:20 AM
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Maybe it was just that she has good judgement? He sounds like the life of the party...
/r/askMRP25/11/19 06:59 PM
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WOTSM speaks about this. I need to read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 06:21 AM
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Yes - create your best self. Bring that best self over and over to your wife and invite her into your frame. It’s her choice to come along or not. Stand up for something better out of integrity that you know you are bringing your Best Self.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 11:37 PM
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The only consistent fucked up factor is OP...wow
/r/askMRP19/11/19 12:54 AM
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I am doing Christian Health Sharing as health ins would be almost $2200/mo. with a $15,000 deductible...so I’m already looking at everything out of pocket. I can’t imagine a urologist or endocrinologist would be cheaper. Also - finding someone in a smaller town that knows their stuff specifically around diagnosis and tx planning might be challenging.
/r/askMRP16/11/19 05:56 AM
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Really, I see a lot of good feedback on them. Where else would you suggest?
/r/askMRP16/11/19 04:31 AM
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Defy medical?
/r/askMRP15/11/19 07:59 PM
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Keep it up - either way you end up with a better you.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 08:48 PM
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The truth will set you free and this is a step towards developing frame, but you are going to pay for exposing that your are a liar of omission. Own it and move on.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:07 PM
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Yes - I wonder if it’s mostly validation seeking? Does OP feel like he has an intimate relationship with his wife and they are a partnership? A collaborative alliance? Could he get curious around this with her or is this topic off limits to even bring up?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 12:06 AM
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https://reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3fpefe/every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim/
/r/askMRP01/11/19 11:01 PM
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Well search the word “moratorium” on this sub and you will find lots of posts. It’s a little controversial. NMMNG is an outstanding book but people here say disregard 1)talking to her about the book 2) moratorium is controversial
/r/askMRP01/11/19 10:57 PM
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Doesn’t No More Mr. Nice Guy talk about this in chapter 10? Have you read it?
/r/askMRP01/11/19 10:19 PM
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Hmmm...Maybe break out the big guns? Send her to this lady https://brottolab.med.ubc.ca/about/dr-lori-brotto/
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 08:41 PM
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Can you clarify “The Juggernaut Cock” part a little more? I was with you until that part...so she is being a bitch and you suggest just ripping her pants off and trying to shove your dick in? “It’s a bold strategy Cotton, let’s see if it pays off...”
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 02:30 AM
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I would agree that traditional couples counseling doesn’t work – but crucible therapy a la David Schnarch does work
/r/askMRP25/10/19 12:07 AM
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Intimacy & Desire by David Schnarch - it’s the revised sequel to Passionate Marriage and it’s just more cohesive, easier to read and has the “4 point of balance” idea. Unfortunately, it’s out of print. I bought a used copy for me and the wife and it was helpful to build a “collaborative alliance” around unfucking our marriage. But this is advanced MRP - proceed with caution. We had already gone thru main event and we had formed a shared vision that we wanted to uplevel our marriage.
/r/askMRP14/10/19 08:13 PM
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The “bugs can also be a feature - Dapoxetine can help with PE.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 06:44 PM
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I know nothing about this - but a long time ago someone suggested. https://www.afterninetonight.com/ Try it out!
/r/askMRP03/10/19 06:07 PM
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Outlander
/r/askMRP03/10/19 06:02 PM
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Watch Outlander with her. Done and done. Prepare for episode 7.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 05:41 PM
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This is why we talk about frame. You need to learn how to self-soothe.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 12:04 PM
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Your “science” is bullshit. In every randomized control study Keto showed similar weight loss when calories are controlled. Now maybe hunger and other subjective feeling could be different but rate of fat loss is the same - the insulin myth is just a myth.
/r/askMRP29/09/19 08:06 PM
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It will work for awhile but you will eventually have to count calories since the keto food is so calorie dense. Most people plateau with their weight loss after a few months. The side effects at the beginning suck and gym will be a slog without carbs. I think high protein and lower carb makes sense but real keto just doesn’t get you to lean. That’s my experience. Try it - it’s probably better than what you are doing now.
/r/askMRP29/09/19 08:05 PM
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Disagree - more important is to create trust and a collaborative alliance. The captain doesn’t lose his shit and get angry. The captain has grounded responding. Not overreacting or underreacting. Over-reacting to tense or anxiety-filled situations is a common problem. Unbalanced, untimely, or disproportionate responses are one of the most common ways people ruin their lives. We see too often here: men with explosive tempers and "short fuses" men saying cutting things in difficult conversations. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 08:12 AM
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Yes - the ability to self-soothe and keep a clear mind and calm heart during a “crunch” or invalidation is the essence of holding frame and shows your value. It is very attractive.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 02:26 PM
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Exactly - you worked on yourself, the only thing you can control. You made sure you brought your Best Self to work - everyday. That’s the problem - people think they are entitled to their job. At the interview they came on time, wore their best outfit and smiled. But you need to keep that “interview standard” long term. If the job doesn’t appreciate you or treats you like shit, you have good judgement that you can go out and find another job. Too many employees aren’t willing to bring their best…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/19 09:26 PM
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I have had employees who thought they were hot shit and started slacking, getting mouthy and being lazy. They didn’t think I’d fire them and truthfully I didn’t want to because it was a pain in the ass to train a new one, but eventually it got so bad I had to fire him or her. They are always so shocked and couldn’t see what a shitty employee they had been. So - I would make sure I am a top notch employee before I start making demands on my employer and be realistic about my value to the company.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/19 11:26 PM
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Yes - This premise of working on yourself and then pressuring the marriage to grow or die is basically the entire book “Passionate Marriage” by David Schnarch (one of my favorites). He calls the process the Crucible - and what a Crucible it is some days. Here we talk about our “frame”, Schnarch calls it “differentiation” - but it’s the only way to ever be free. Bring your Best Self and invite her to bring her Best Self. Do it over and over. Then eventually make your decision to stay or go and ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 07:08 PM
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Yes - because the real goal, the one we don’t talk enough about, isn’t just more sex. The real goal is being able to create a collaborative alliance. A marriage where both people THRIVE. (and one part of thriving in marriage is excellent, passionate sex). One of my favorite posts this year talks about what we are all doing here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c67ykx/what_a_successful_mind_and_marriage_looks_like/
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 06:58 PM
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This ability to self-soothe is so important. It is something I am trying to also teach my kids and wife. This is what “frame” is. Our ability to tolerate discomfort for growth and endure is something that I continually have to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 04:47 AM
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Stand firm in your frame but don’t be an ass and give her a little support. “I would normally like to go and hang with you and the kid, but I have an obligation to my team.” “I know it would be easier on you if I went and I like chilling with you, especially when you wear those sexy pants I like, but you can do hard things babe and I can’t miss my game.” “Babe, I’m trying to be collaborative with you - our agreement was I would skip occasionally but only for important family things and this isn’…
/r/askMRP09/09/19 04:47 PM
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I wish the author would post an update or talk about how he’s doing now.
/r/askMRP29/08/19 04:01 PM
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Any kids? If not, do you see yourself wanting kids?
/r/askMRP24/08/19 03:52 PM
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Jesus Christ - I can't believe how much energy you put into this douche! I gave up after 3 replies! You went above and beyond.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 12:09 AM
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Uh dude - consent is still a thing - Jesus. Even rape victims get wet or can even orgasm since it’s partly an autonomic threshold. It’s called “arousal non-concordance” - seriously man, you are fucking up. https://reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3fpefe/every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim/ This is how your wife feels. EDIT : pussy deleted the post
/r/askMRP19/08/19 04:15 PM
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It’s more that just sexual strategy. It’s become your best self and bringing that to the marriage and inviting her to bring her best self. https://reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c67ykx/what_a_successful_mind_and_marriage_looks_like/
/r/askMRP18/08/19 09:54 PM
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Red Pill just means - “the truth” - opening your eyes and mind to how the world (and relationships) really is - warts and all. Far too often we read AWALT. It’s actually all humans are like that. We are all selfish and foolish - reactive. We all “want to be wanted” but we don’t “want to want”. We all need to grow up and develop. Both women and men need to take the red pill to develop their marriage into mature love. A marriage where two people thrive - sexually, physically, emotionally, financia…
/r/askMRP18/08/19 09:21 PM
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Perhaps your talks with her are a way of creating “Shared Meaning”? Dr. John Gottman has spoken about the importance of creating shared meaning and /u/RedPillCoach has a recent video on it. https://youtu.be/CK3BhGFF_MY Dr. David Schnarch also speaks of creating a “collaborative alliance” - where both spouses are growing and thriving and they allow each other to “mind map” - meaning there is trust and they are being transparent and honest with each other, even when they might not agree 100%, but …
/r/askMRP18/08/19 08:56 PM
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Do you think frame is basically just another word for differentiation as explained by Dr. David Schnarch? Did you ever read Intimacy and Desire?
/r/askMRP15/08/19 10:56 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimacy-and-desire/201205/normal-marital-sadism?amp
/r/askMRP11/08/19 12:52 PM
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Sounds like you got perhaps a decent therapist. They do exist. What is the therapist saying? Can you find a really heavy hitter therapist if you don’t like this one? Someone that works with differentiation-based therapy? Read the book “Intimacy & Desire” by David Schnarch. It’s out of print. Find a copy. (Way better than Passionate Marriage). Have your wife read it. It’s about differentiation and you both growing up and creating a collaborative alliance (or you leaving if she won’t do it) Consid…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 12:21 AM
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Wow - I really like the four pillars idea. Thanks for posting that.
/r/askMRP08/08/19 12:10 PM
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you don't have to threaten - you just have to speak plainly about what you want without the ultimatums - it's inherent to the conversation. You have had it and she can tell you are for real.
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 11:51 PM
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I follow the work of David Schnarch closely. He writes that marriage is a "growth machine." I believe that marriage is ordained of God as the way for us to grow and become more like him. Difficulties will come in marriage - count on it - because that is exactly how it is supposed to happen. We hit gridlock. The only way out of it is for us to grow up and bring our best self to the gridlock. In his book Passionate Marriage, what we call a "main event" he calls another name - "critical mass". I'm …
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 11:40 PM
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Me too - I had “return of the duty sex” last night. Damn it! I already assessed what happened and am resetting.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 09:13 PM
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David Schnarch speaks of "Meaningful Endurance" in his books. Meaningful Endurance means: Continuing to try in the face of frustration or failure Repetition of effort Diligent practice Meaningful Endurance involves tolerating discomfort for growth. This includes: Sticking with things so you can accomplish your goals Making yourself do what needs to be done, even when you don’t want to do it Absorbing hardship and disappointment, bouncing back after defeat Withstanding stress The path of Meaningf…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 07:23 PM
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Have you read Passionate Marriage or Intimacy & Desire (even better but out of print)? https://crucible4points.com/crucible-four-points-balance
/r/askMRP24/07/19 05:22 PM
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Sounds like you are growing the fuck up. “Classic attachment theorists contend that those with emotional problems received too little love and support from their families. Bowen argued that it didn't necessarily follow that more love and attention would make them whole—in fact, they had become overdependent on love. They needed to break the dependency while maintaining the closeness—in short, by differentiating from their families of origin and their adult partners, to keep individuality intact.…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 05:09 PM
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I think that “handling it” is all you can do, meaning, work on growing up. Developing Outcome Independence/Frame/Differentiation/Self-worth - it goes be a lot of names. Some people say AWALT - but shitty, immature behavior is shitty, immature behavior. Sure my wife is F/A but I’m anxious/preoccupied. In fact, I’d say that combination of F/A wife & A/P husband is RAMPANT here in MRP. The avoidant men probably have a tendency to not care to improve, so they don’t make it here. (Except you did!). T…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:43 PM
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https://reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bq3rez/handling_a_fearfulavoidant_wife/ https://www.amazon.com/Avoidant-Love-Leave-Dismissive-Partner/dp/B00UKE4G38
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 05:48 PM
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I should have vetted myself more - I was the one that got fat and lazy...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/19 11:40 PM
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So does your wife know she is fearful-avoidant? Do you identify at anxious-preoccupied? Have you or your wife been able to change your attachment type to more secure?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/19 11:11 PM
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This would have nothing to do with dread - it would have more to do with the V in DEVI from SGM. This would be advanced Variety. The only way this works is if you have done the work - had the main event, lead her and you toward the good life and established a collaborative alliance with your wife and she proposes it as something novel and fun or you lead her to toward it and she WANTS to do it. (She may have anxiety sure, but she is excited and wants to go) If she feels like she “should” go with…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 12:54 AM
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It’s not so much vulnerable, that implies weakness. Your solid frame will actually make you resilient in the face of her invalidation. It’s about transparency and courage. It’s about intimacy and trying to create a collaborative alliance.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 05:18 PM
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You have to let go of the anger and approach the orthodoxy she clings to with generosity. http://revisionisthistory.com/episodes/09-generous-orthodoxy
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 05:17 PM
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Outoftheloop - what “turf war”?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/19 05:16 PM
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James 1:5, NIV: "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
/r/RPChristians06/07/19 02:47 PM
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I know you have read Schnarch. Have you read his book Intimacy and Desire? It's out of print unfortunately, which sucks because it's his best book. Worth finding a used copy. He builds on Passionate Marriage by talking about the 4 Points of Balance. You need to work on your differentiation and 4 Points of Balance. Specifically - point 2. Quite Mind and Calm Heart and 3. Grounded Responding
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 10:52 PM
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Your new username - I like it. Looking forward to some fresh content. I thought you were a mod? What was your old username? /u/thefamilyalpha or /u/trainingthebrain? Why did you delete everything you had written?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 06:11 PM
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Marriage is a people growing machine and God’s way to refine us. We are all imperfect - it’s how can I bring my best self and love an imperfect daughter of our Heavenly Father - warts and all. Do you not believe in the atonement of Jesus Christ? Our ability to repent and grow? It’s easy to live with your dog that loves you, but living with another person that says “hey, that’s not not nice” and disagrees with you and pushes against you. That is where we grow. It’s the plan. It’s not good for man…
/r/RPChristians02/07/19 09:54 PM
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I know it’s summer and they tend to want to stay up later because it’s still bright out. I bought blackout curtains for the kids rooms so it’s as dark as a hote room. Yes. They will wake up earlier if you get them to bed earlier. Teach them to pour some cereal and turn on cartoons. I bought my daughter an iPad and Apple Pencil so she can draw and create and not just veg out on TV. Some of the most cherished times my wife and I have are waking up together and cuddling and just holding each other …
/r/askMRP28/06/19 02:29 PM
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Come on - just put the 1 year old down for a nap and the other two on a movie. Day sex is better than night sex. You are overthinking it. And here is a shocker. You don’t need to go into details, but just tell them you need alone time. The kids won’t care, in fact if they see a mom and dad that kiss and love each other - it will give them security and you build a model for teaching them how a couple should be. Openness about our bodies and sex will foster healthy information for them. Also - get…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 11:23 AM
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Have you read Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch? Put that on your to read list. This guy had frame and MRP principles figured out in 1991. His book Intimacy and Desire is actually even better but it’s out of print.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 04:54 PM
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Have you read anything by David Schnarch? Passionate Marriage is easy to find but Intimacy and Desire is better (unfortunately out of print) - Frame and differentiation are the same thing and this guy figured it out in 1991! https://crucible4points.com/crucible-four-points-balance
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 05:14 AM
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Yes - I agree. It’s how you do it. If you do it from integrity, she will (begrudgingly) accept it. The church now actually says we should love and stay in contact with those that go thru a faith crisis and leave. I think it was like the first talk in last conf (Elder Sores?) - In fact, there were numerous comment about people leaving. It’s shocking how many of my gen x friends and family have left, it is the current crisis in the church. Why else do you think they switched to 2 hr church. She wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 05:50 PM
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Makes sense - I think you then approach it with compassion and integrity. Work on building trustworthiness. “Babe, I need to talk to you about something - I have stopped paying tithing and I won’t be paying any more.” Hold frame with compassion. “Believe me, I know how hard it will be to be judged by others for my actions, but I can’t pay it with integrity.” “I know this is going to be hard on all of us, but my eyes have been opened and I can’t unsee it. I’m done pretending I’m something I’m not…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 05:14 PM
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I loved this podcast about the flip flop Pres. Nelson did with the kids of LGBT couples. Might be good to share with your wife. Get her to think about how the leadership now is in apostasy. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mormon-discussions-podcasts-full-lineup/id562296100?i=1000435905281
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 04:59 PM
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You could avoid all this. Set up direct ACH tithing to the church. Then pay a small token amount - your ward will see zero and they won’t even blink. Just tell them you pay direct to the church. It’s very common. When it comes time for temple recommend interview and they ask if you pay a full tithe, just answer “yes”. How can you say yes? Read these two articles. http://puremormonism.blogspot.com/2012/12/are-we-paying-too-much-tithing.html?m=1 https://puremormonism.blogspot.com/2014/12/when-tith…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 04:52 PM
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Dayum - I’m rooting for you. As a Mormon, I can relate 100% with everything you said. I’m lucky my wife has responded well to MRP so I’m not about to blow everything up (yet).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 09:46 PM
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I believe marriage is divinely instituted because it will force you to grow as a man and woman. It will force you to bring your best self and to create an environment where your wife and children can thrive. As Dr. David Schnarch says - marriage is a growth machine.
/r/RPChristians03/06/19 11:28 PM
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Intimacy and Desire is even better in my opinion. Brain Talk is good too.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 03:19 AM
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If you liked Passionate Marriage, his book Intimacy and Desire is better (unfortunately it’s out of print). It’s weird that Intimacy and Desire didn’t catch fire like Passionate Marriage did.
/r/askMRP29/05/19 11:01 PM
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Seriously - TRX, Yoga, Pilates. Hard workouts and nice views!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 11:51 PM
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This is what Schnarch calls “critical mass” in his book Passionate Marriage. Good stuff. Marriage is a growth machine. You got better...now it’s up to her and then you decide if your are satisfied. Will she bring her best self to this? We’ll see. Keep up the pressure for growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 12:22 AM
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Wow - do you feel like you really did DL 9 and 10 properly or did you skip to 11?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 09:53 PM
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I think shit tests are often conscious. David Schnarch calls it Normal Marital Sadism. https://desirebook.com/normal-marital-sadism
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/19 01:14 AM
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Nah - he just needs to hit DL9 and DL10 and not skip to 11.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 01:09 AM
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If you liked Passionate Marriage - then you would love his book Intimacy & Desire. It is an easier read as he has refined his ideas over the years.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 01:07 AM
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Schnarch actually encourages the Main Event (he calls it “critical mass”)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 01:05 AM
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I just wanted to share that I have followed Dr David Schnarch’s work closely. 1. You can buy some audio recordings of his lectures on his website and they are outstanding. 2. His later books are actually even better than Passionate Marriage. Read “Intimacy and Desire” -it’s so good. He talks about his 4 points of balance Solid, flexible sense of self (holding frame) Quiet Mind & Calm Heart (Holding frame and STFU, OI) - the ability to self-soothe and not be a pussy Grounded Responding - STFU but…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 03:59 PM
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http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/19/ There are a lot of LDS around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 05:39 PM
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You missed the definitive guide to PSMF https://store.bodyrecomposition.com/product/rapid-fat-loss-handbook/
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 11:46 PM
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Be wary - there is a difference between a collaborate leader and a selfish dictator douchebag. A captain leads by example and takes into account the morale of the 1st mate and crew. Additionally, It takes strength to hold onto yourself and your values in the face of invalidation without using weak techniques like withdrawal (being butthurt).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/19 02:05 PM
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Lead her where you want to go. Start applying dread levels.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 12:32 AM
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I have been really going deeper into David Schnarch’s work. It is all so good. I bought all the old mp3 “tapes” he has and his other books. This dude had all this shit figured out in the early 2000s. He just uses different words. It’s profound.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 04:02 PM
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Take home message, don’t get married. So very helpful on MRP...not
/r/askMRP07/03/19 03:36 AM
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Trust what they do, not what they say. If your number one is security, then you lack differentiation. Listen to a short audiobook by David Schnarch “Secrets of a Passionate Marriage”
/r/RPChristians26/02/19 10:42 PM
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David Schnarch would call this “Quiet Mind & Calm Heart” He stresses that we need to learn how to self-soothe. Have you read Passionate Marriage?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 11:43 PM
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My wife once said “when I say no, I feel guilty” - I went and got the book When I Say No I Feel Guilty and gave it to her and said “this might help” - she actually read it and it helped her with setting boundaries with douchebags. We still joke about “I want my meat!”
/r/askMRP22/02/19 11:26 PM
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Exactly - Marriage and Fatherhood is a growth machine. It will put you through the ringer but you will grow and it’s rewarding. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows, but I would do it again.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 03:48 PM
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Schnarch is 73. I need to see him lecture in person before he retires.
/r/askMRP18/02/19 10:46 PM
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I agree with this. David Schnarch’s stuff is so good and although he uses different terms than Red Pill - the concepts are the same. What is amazing is that Red Pill mostly arrived at the same conclusions independently! I also like Terry Real. His stuff on losing strategies is brilliant. But Red Pill so often cuts to the truth. It takes Terry and David so long to basically say STFU for example.
/r/askMRP17/02/19 09:46 PM
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You will love this playlist then https://open.spotify.com/user/1144121571/playlist/56WUbt5Oro3sDIXzPxCpA4?si=xY4mbFfNQkOWu_q8IVWgQw
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:07 AM
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This is a big deal in Buddhism/Meditation.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/18 01:20 AM
1

Maybe for muscle protein synthesis, but higher protein levels help with 1) satiety 2) higher thermic effect of food (1g of protein is more like 3 cal for your body to use it. Read the new Leangains book.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 05:57 AM
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Quality post - saved
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:11 AM
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Boom - loved it. Keep it up!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:08 AM
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You know that kid in high school with the greasy hair and huge TOOL shirt? I was a Peter priesthood and no idea how much Tool totally rocks. It took me 20 years to figure a lot of stuff out that other already knew about...sigh
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:07 AM
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Take this class and then make a plan and execute it https://whitecoatinvestor.teachable.com/p/fire-your-financial-advisor
/r/askMRP16/11/18 10:58 PM
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About the same chance as being bitten by a shark and hit by lighting simultaneously....in Iowa.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 11:29 PM
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That an FFMI of 28.5 - almost impossible to achieve natty, except for some genetic freak training for many years
/r/askMRP13/11/18 10:50 PM
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I’d say focus on bodyfat and appearance. Less than 15%, 12% is better. 6 pack ripped is best but hard. Somewhere between 175-195, depends on glycogen, water balance, poop. It will be more cutting than you think (you may need to cut to 165 and then bulk to 185)
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:20 AM
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Lol - come on. Totally impossible without steroids.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:17 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/mustachianism/comments/9tv66a/anyone_else_find_it_weird_that_mmm_hasnt_shared/ Maybe the wife didn't share the vision anymore?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 11:12 PM
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MMM is getting divorced!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 04:09 AM
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Have you listened to Jennifer Finlayson-Fife? She is an active women LDS sex therapist out of Chicago with a PhD. I would listen to her guest podcasts (Ask a Mormon Sex therapist series on the Rational Faiths podcast) and then take the online classes with your wife. The key is to get your wife to then actually go to a women’s retreat with Fife. Your wife would be getting wise, independent 3rd party counsel about these issues and start to open up some. Worked for me. There is something powerful w…
/r/askMRP03/11/18 12:02 PM
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Get creative. Drop the kids with grandparents and then drive somewhere or fly direct somewhere. Or cousin swap. Drop them with an aunt/uncle and then fly out from there. You can make it happen. Our first trip was having grandma come and we drove 3 hrs away and stayed in a hotel and hiked - it was great.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/18 11:41 AM
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Vacations without kids have been a game changer. A “date night” is barely enough time to loosen up before you are back home with the kids again. It can be challenging to find a chump to watch your kids, but so worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/18 09:40 PM
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You are getting good advice, but if you want more ideas go post this on the White Coat Investor forums and you will get tons of answers and support from actual doctors.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 02:41 PM
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Just lifting can cause elevated liver enzymes that will get you too...I learned that one the hard way (pointless liver biopsy in my 20s, ugh)
/r/askMRP11/10/18 05:25 PM
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Or you can just cut weight like a UFC fighter. Google it. Those guys can cut 25lbs of water/glycogen. The paramed doesn’t care if you are a cheater.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 04:16 AM
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Martin’s book finally came out last week. He has backed off the carb cycling. It was a great read.
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 12:22 PM
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Your body needs amino acids to function. On days when you are eating so little...where do you think it’s getting them from? Your muscles bro! You should read about Leangains and PSMF. Similar to what you are doing, but scientifically backed. Remember you want to lose fat, not weight (muscle)
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 12:21 PM
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Maybe just do topical Rogaine to see if you can squeeze out an extra few years? Or start saving for a hair transplant. Have you see Elon Musk’s hair before/after his transplant? That wasn’t a pill!
/r/askMRP05/08/18 04:09 PM
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Melatonin is a hormone and pediatric dosages aren’t really well established. If you want your kid to be drowsy, Benadryl is much safer.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 02:46 AM
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I wonder what he’s up to these days....yeah, he’s leaving money in the table...
/r/askMRP04/08/18 06:46 PM
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Also - what does she offer and bring to the table? “The grass is always greener...” What ever your choice is...stay and keep chugging or go and roll the dice....make that choice with integrity and open eyes.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 02:40 PM
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Seriously - Sous vide = “under vacuum” ya fucknut. Second of all - you baked scrambled eggs - congratulations....
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 03:23 AM
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Seriously - and read Count of Monte Cristo to see someone calculate and plot an epic revenge. Be rational and ruthless, but act slowly and wisely.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 11:52 PM
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Put the wedding on hold bro - use this bullshit as the excuse.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:59 PM
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At 6’ 245 you are obese and probably 30-35% fat. Just being real with you. You probably should shoot to get to at least 185lbs which is a normal BMI. If you can’t lift much, that’s fine but you really need to set a caloric goal and stick to it. It’s probably going to take 1-2 yrs to trim the fat.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 05:40 AM
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I heard this book was good - it’s on my to read list https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Conservative-Church-Intimacy/dp/1138674982
/r/RPChristians26/06/18 11:54 PM
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Uh - you stay up until 1AM? If I was you - I’d get up early while everyone is sleeping and read books, journal, do my YNAB budget, research/read about business. Go to bed at 9 and get 8 hrs sleep. From 6-7 have dinner as a family. Then do fatherly shit - read books, play a game, throw a baseball. I can’t fathom how you have free time with a job and kids... Also are the chores legit? Are you handling your shit?
/r/askMRP21/06/18 11:37 PM
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There are zero people that win races that are keto adapted-that’s a fact. Read the most comprehensive book on Keto and see what it says. https://www.bodyrecomposition.com/the-ketogenic-diet
/r/askMRP14/06/18 11:59 PM
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Lol - that’s exactly what I thought - gotta get that last 5 lbs so you don’t look like a girl
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:15 PM
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Uh, wrong - muscle only burns 6 measly calories per pound. We used to thing it was 59 back in the 1980s, but new research proved that wrong. Sucks! https://bodyrecomposition.com/research-review/dissecting-the-energy-needs-of-the-body-research-review.html/
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:14 PM
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One problem with losing so much fat so quick is saggy skin. The sweet spot should be 1lb/week and keep your protein high to preserve muscle. At 1200 calories you are missing out on “newbie gains” That being said - the ideal is to diet down to 12% and THEN bulk up to 15%. Just don’t diet down so harsh. https://bodyrecomposition.com/muscle-gain/general-philosophies-of-muscle-mass-gain.html/ Also - it’s ok to find another program that incorporates higher rep ranges and more variet. Maybe try a PPL …
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:12 PM
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Please tell me 1g protein/lb body weight...
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:03 PM
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/r/PSMF
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:01 PM
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Study after study shows carbs improve performance in both marathons and weightlifting. Just because someone completed a marathon keto adapted doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Do Keto for other reasons like adherence or satiety or at least do TKD or CKD but don’t bullshit yourself that you aren’t leaving gains on the table if you never have carbs.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:01 PM
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Oldest teenager in the house I guess
/r/askMRP09/06/18 12:00 AM
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Well then I’d just AA - “I was just thinking this show would be better if you were wearing something a little skimpier...”
/r/askMRP07/06/18 04:32 PM
1

https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Managing_a_windfall So it’s very helpful, but you aren’t financially independent. I’d stick it in a brokerage account and sit on it for 6 mo. while you plan. Talk to lawyer - probably just an hour at $300/hr. I might also talk to an hourly financial planner - if the inheritance is stocks for example “, you get a free step-up in basis and NO TAXES! Then you have to decide what your goals are. Invest for retirement? (That’s what I would do) Pay off house (I might do…
/r/askMRP07/06/18 04:28 PM
1

How much we taking here?
/r/askMRP07/06/18 04:00 PM
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Were you being a lighthearted, fun dude or sitting there like a turd? Maybe there was a hint of truth to what she pointed out?
/r/askMRP07/06/18 03:55 PM
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That the first thing I thought - you want to get a motorcycle and go? Then get a motorcycle and go! Some travel and introspection and fun might be just the prescription.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 03:39 PM
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Your weight goal should be more like 165. Go get a DEXA scan chubby
/r/askMRP18/05/18 09:11 PM
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You just need to go to an “anti-aging” clinic and be prepared to pay cash or https://www.defymedical.com/ That being said - test just throws another huge variable into things and it means you are on it for life. Go ahead and start learning but I’d set it aside as a project for 2019/2020 after a few cut/bulks done right.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 08:33 PM
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You don’t have to do powerlifting movements - it’s just a good place for newbs to start. Go ahead and do machines and DB movements with progressive overload. Decide if you are cutting or bulking and then eat and train correctly. Count your calories and macros. There is NO such thing as intuitive eating. Well that's not true, most humans eat intuitively and that's the obesity problem. What people call intuitive eating means having tracked and counted for long enough that they subconsciously know …
/r/askMRP17/05/18 08:00 PM
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Good job - keep it up - no brakes!!!
/r/askMRP17/05/18 07:53 PM
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Sounds exhausting
/r/askMRP14/05/18 11:32 PM
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If you are an S Corp then it’s all passthru income. If you are a C Corp, then you have to liquidate anyways at the end of the year so you don’t get double taxed - so it actually doesn’t matter Your business should have a budget and emergency fund too.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 08:48 PM
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Yep - give every dollar a job!
/r/askMRP14/05/18 07:59 PM
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You better be getting that 401k match money - bitches love 401k match money. Seriously though - make a plan and implement it. You can do it yourself. A budget is mearly a plan to hit your goals. Try this book https://www.amazon.com/One-Page-Financial-Plan-Simple-Smart/dp/1591847559 Prioritize your spending 401k match High interest debt (you better not have any!) 6 mo emergency fund Roth IRA (and hers) 401k to limit anything else to taxable account or short term savings (house down payment)
/r/askMRP14/05/18 07:57 PM
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You are right. Basic red pill theory is good - continue it, BUT also be wise and strategic. You (and me and others) have a bit of a unique problem when you throw the conservative, repressed Mormon wife into the mix too. It’s MRP on nightmare difficulty. Expect nothing from a conversation with Fife, but I’d say you have a high chance it would bring a positive message to your wife from a third party and hit her from another angle that she needs to improve too. Expect the worst but hope for the bes…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 05:36 PM
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Try to connect with Fife in real life - maybe just you at first. I know it’s kind of expensive, but way cheaper than a divorce. (Both financially and mentally - especially if you have kids) Unfortunately- her best stuff is her Women’s “Art of Desire” - so your wife would have to somehow take the initiative to watch it. If she is putting up roadblocks, that’s hard. If you could get your wife to go to a 2-day live or 3 day women’s retreat, it could go a long way toward her opening her eyes that sh…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 02:36 AM
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Seriously - go Count of Monte Cristo - but there are thing you can do NOW to protect yourself 1-2 years from now. Be wise and plan!!!
/r/askMRP12/05/18 06:40 PM
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I thought I was the only one! hugs I would LOVE it if my wife would drop the F bomb during sex but she is still just too mentally damaged/suppressed from Mormonism...maybe someday! I think there are a surprising number of Mormons here in this sub compared to % in the USA. Sigh.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 05:06 PM
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Even around your wife? If so, you are in the 0.001% who would do that and still be an active Mormon.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 04:36 PM
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I have nothing to add that hasn’t already been said regarding Red Pill, BUT. You all need to set up some counseling with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. Start listening to her podcasts. Take her online class and then lay out the cash and do some sessions. Because she is a women and active Mormon - she has unique insights that will help here. Also the credentials and experience - PhD and many years/thousands of couples. She specializes in Mormons and it really good. She has some “red pill” in her an…
/r/askMRP12/05/18 04:33 PM
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She’s probably embarrassed by the car he drives.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 03:30 PM
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Redpillcoach = bluepillprofessor Isn’t it obvious?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 04:41 AM
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Jeeeeeeeeeez - this comment hit me like a 2 ton of bricks. Thanks
/r/askMRP08/05/18 10:36 PM
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Ditto
/r/askMRP02/05/18 11:47 PM
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You can also not lose weight on keto if you eat too much. Ultimately it’s just calories in vs calories out. Most people will lose a ton of water weight, some fat and then plateau since keto food is super calorie dense. Also keto can make weight lifting a real grind. Find someone who is ripped - chances are 99% they eat carbs. If you really want to drop the fat quick - try a version of keto called PSMF (protein soaring modified fast). Nothing is faster while preserving muscle.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 11:07 PM
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Plan on trying to lose 1% of your body weight a week. Your numbers are way off for fat loss. You probably won’t add much muscle during the fat loss phase - but you will add a little during the beginning for your newbie gains. https://bodyrecomposition.com/fat-loss/the-fundamentals-of-fat-loss-diets-part-1.html/
/r/askMRP27/04/18 10:58 PM
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Yellow Bird sauces Amazing https://yellowbirdsauce.com/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 03:50 AM
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That is like exactly the reason a physical therapist exists!
/r/askMRP07/04/18 07:46 PM
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Dr. David Schnarch uses some red pill theory under a different name in his philosophy. He calls his therapy “crucible” therapy because it pressures the relationship and refines and improves the man and wife. Typically it will either fix or blow up the marriage. Similar to the thinking “you will have a great life/sex - it just might not be with this woman” Red Pill is a crucible for the relationship.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 01:28 AM
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Some actual thought-provoking meat to chew on - very nice, keep it coming!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 02:28 AM
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I want to hear from the dude that found the phone! Where is he?
/r/askMRP16/02/18 11:30 PM
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How was Valentine’s Day bro? I hope you keep posting! Hang in there!
/r/askMRP16/02/18 05:01 PM
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https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28257707-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-f-ck
/r/askMRP13/02/18 11:05 PM
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My wife sleeps with me in my bed. If you want to be my wife, that’s her choice.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 05:10 AM
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Lawyer Private eye and get proof You can use this cheating as leverage - you know she won’t want to get excommunicated/found out by her family/friends/kids. Plan carefully - it doesn’t hurt that she is making money. Maybe it makes a lot of sense for her to go out and get full time employment for a year before the divorce. You want to pay that cheating bitch alimony? Bide your time - plan with your lawyer. Set this up like Count of Monte Cristo-style revenge.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 04:49 AM
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Yep - hire a PI
/r/askMRP07/02/18 07:02 PM
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https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28257707-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-f-ck
/r/askMRP07/02/18 02:01 AM
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And then read this book to get the last bit of fat off if you want to get shredded at least once in your life - but don’t do it for girls, do it for you and cause it’s hard https://www.bodyrecomposition.com/the-stubborn-fat-solution/
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:27 AM
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Dino on Fred flintstone! That’s gold Jerry!
/r/askMRP24/01/18 02:59 AM
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The mercury is chemically bound up in amalgam fillings. If you eat pure sodium it’s bad for you, but sodium chloride is table salt. It’s a great option for large fillings if someone can’t afford a crown, but we are doing less and less. The “holistic dentistry” stuff is 99% marketing bullshit for “can I talk to your manager” type white elitist women who exculsivly shoo at Whole Foods and get TMJ symptoms from sucking dick...
/r/askMRP23/11/17 05:56 PM
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Numerous studies show that people with straight teeth marry more desirable partners and make more money in a lifetime. Do it!
/r/askMRP23/11/17 04:33 AM
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There is no such thing as permanent retainers. Just Fixed or removeable. The word permanent makes it sound like they can’t break, but they break all the time. Fixed retainers have negatives. 1. They can break 2. You can’t really floss your teeth and it catches a lot of junk 3. Not everyone is a candidate for fixed. Instead of telling the orthodontist what to do how about you listen to him and consider your options and the positives and negatives and make your own decision?
/r/askMRP23/11/17 04:31 AM
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The lab fee for Invisalign is about $1800 I charge about $5000 for Invisalign and $3500 for traditional Braces. Often the braces work faster and better. Go get at least three opinions and go to an orthodontist, not a general dentist who took a weekend course in Invisalign and experiments on the public while sending his kids to a real orthodontist.
/r/askMRP23/11/17 04:27 AM
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I want to get a Rolex and a AP Royal Oak Cliche, but that what I want https://www.audemarspiguet.com/en/watch-collection/royal-oak/ As one rolls in higher cicles, a watch is a statement of success, too bad it’s to signal other men mostly...
/r/askMRP20/11/17 10:33 PM
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I only bookmark that classics - I bookmarked this one! Nice!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 04:15 AM
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Can someone put in the sidebar the stuff that people need to ignore in these books?
/r/askMRP02/11/17 07:53 PM
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I also said it doesn’t matter if they are blowing smoke. (But I worry about it sometimes) I guess it comes down to the old bible verse “by their fruits ye shall know them” I respect the courage to get up there and speak. It’s easy for me to be an anonymous pussy hidden behind a keyboard.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 07:40 PM
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Ok - fair enough! I have actually no problem with compensation - whether it’s an honorarium or travel/hotel/meal expenses as long as there is transparency. Still - you have guys like Tanner Guzy who attend meeting for free so that they look relevant so that they can make money by book sales or coaching.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 07:17 PM
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Define significant. Some of them are making money - you think they go to this stuff out of the goodness of their heart? They make money - books/lectures/“coaching”. You don’t think there was an honorarium for this appearance? Or maybe it’s just all for ego/glory? I’m just saying you can claim anything on the internet. I had sex with two HB10s last night at the same time. See? Just because I wrote it doesn’t make it real.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 06:38 PM
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It’s interesting to me that none of these guys are strikingly handsome or super buff. Most of them are DYEL and not an ab to be found. Yet they are having success. My only fear is a lot of this success is self-reported and we are being bamboozled, but Rollo and Hunter’s writing have really had a profound influence on me. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if they are lying as I know I’m having success.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 04:25 PM
1

Google “YNAB”
/r/askMRP02/10/17 08:26 PM
1

Nice work - I remember your post a year ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/17 12:54 AM
1

This is retarded - if you lost you ring then OYS and either 1)get a new one or 2) tell your wife you aren’t going to wear one anymore - but you better have some solid frame and be prepared to damage the trust/relationship to be a BIG MAN who doesn’t wear a ring anymore. Pick your battles. If your wife had any backbone/self-respect would say “well, my husband wears a wedding ring - so can you figure out how to get a new ring or do you need my help?” Then she’d replace your sorry ass if you didn’t…
/r/askMRP29/09/17 07:38 PM
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Sheeeet - just as it might have gotten interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 11:34 PM
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Why are a bunch of blue pill noobs downvoting the actual correct answers?
/r/askMRP17/09/17 09:38 PM
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Gawd dayum
/r/askMRP17/09/17 12:09 AM
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Money can't buy happiness, but it's a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 02:34 AM
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Sheeeeet - not even a blog or article. Does this dude even really exist.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:48 AM
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So - what ever happened to the author? It's like he disappeared off the planet? If he's so smart, where is he now?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:09 AM
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Go consult with the lawyer she is thinking about and Boom, the lawyer can't represent her. That will stir the pot for sure!
/r/askMRP28/07/17 09:47 PM
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You can have an HVAC guy add a zone damper and it will monitor a room and adjust the dampers as needed to keep two rooms different temps- we had to put one in our business to help one room that was always too hot
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:28 PM
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Or an app like Day One
/r/askMRP20/04/17 02:15 PM
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This guy gets it
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:33 AM
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Yep Read this https://rippedbody.com/complete-diet-nutrition-set-up-guide/
/r/askMRP01/04/17 09:03 PM
1

Take an Ambien, get some rest and kick ass at work tomorrow. Don't stay up until 2AM watching a movie.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:02 AM
1

If she wants to be picked up in her car, just do it ya dick. Her car is bigger and you were picking up a passenger - totally reasonable request. You disrespected her when she asked for one little thing and you were too stupid to just do it for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 02:34 AM
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Nice - me too It's a race to 180 then!
/r/askMRP25/08/16 11:38 PM
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Nice
/r/askMRP23/08/16 02:10 AM
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http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat-loss/training-the-obese-beginner.html/ Read Lyle McDonalds guide to flexible dieting. Read Eric helms pyramid nutrition book. Briefly - set protein to 1g/lb lean mass. Then set a 1000 calorie deficit. Split the rest of the calories carb/fat. Start lifting Stronglifts plan. Wait on cardio until you are leaner. Do some walking.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 11:55 PM
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What. The. Fuck? Is this real life?
/r/askMRP16/08/16 02:14 AM
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https://howyoulikememao.files.wordpress.com/2012/02/thats-gold-jerry.png
/r/askMRP06/08/16 06:00 PM
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Just do IIFYM - If you want to be hardcore, then fast the morning and lunch and then eat some cake and then don't eat cake again for a long time - it's not rocket science. Plus - it's her fucking birthday ya retard! What does everyone on the fucking planet do on their birthday? Eat a piece of cake. So either bake or buy a cake ya dingus.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 03:36 AM
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...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 03:56 AM
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Thanks - I wasn't familiar with Candito and that looks pretty good!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 03:44 PM
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I don't think I'm done with newbie gains, but my guess is this fall I will plateau and need to change programming or perhaps there is something more effective. I'm just thinking about the future and there are SO MANY opinions out there
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 03:31 PM
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Never tried it, but I'd like to. I guess it's a little intimidating as its more technique-sensitive. I have done some strongman stuff with yoke, atlas stones, farmers walk, kegs. The strongman stuff is really fun, but also technique sensitive, so I make sure there are other smart people around.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 03:29 PM
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No - I'm just thinking it's been 6 mo and I can tell that sometime this fall I probably need to change programming.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 02:18 PM
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Yeah - as the weight has increased I feel like I can't recover from 5x5 before the next workout...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 02:17 PM
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I don't skip workouts - I just do what the stronglifts app says. For example, deloading after failing the same weight 3 times. I'm fat and losing weight - started at 235 and 30% fat (DEXA) and am now at 215. I have been following Eric Helm's nutrition pyramid book and Andy Morgan's leangains guide. I have been eating at about 500 calorie deficit. 1.2g protein/lb lean mass - so about 190g protein/day and the rest fat/carbs. Slightly higher carb/calories on training days. It seems to be working. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 02:16 PM
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235lb ---> 214 = 21lbs in 5 mo. It seems pretty sustainable, but it would be nice to go faster. I just don't want to get all grumpy and irritated by cutting too fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 05:04 AM
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Louis CK- Faggot http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Fcja4WFFzDw
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 05:08 AM
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Check out http://rippedbody.jp I love Andy Morgan's stuff. Go thru his stuff - it is similar to leangains, but it regularly updated Check out Eric Helms pyramid YouTube videos (and the books) The problem with Keto is it's hard to lift heavy and hard with glycogen depleted muscles. Also having carbs allows tons for flexibility. Leangains > Keto
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 04:14 AM
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Jesus - when you all spout truth it's hits like a lightning bolt...it's like I knew it already, but just couldn't articulate it...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 12:00 AM
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If you want to see how many ch you can lose is 7 weeks google Lyle McDonald Rapid Fat Loss Science bitch!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 05:07 AM
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Try some science http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/the-stubborn-fat-solution/
/r/askMRP05/05/16 01:22 AM
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I've been noticing this too with my all female employees - the more RP stuff I incorporate, the more they respect me and do less drama and shit tests. It's very interesting.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 02:41 AM
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I can't tell you how many women orthodontists that make 300-800K a year are married to bartenders, salesmen, and stay at home dads. Half my class was girls, most of them 7-9. These guys that locked it down all have something in common - confidence and game. And they are laughing all the way to the bank. AWALT
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 05:12 AM
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Orthodontists can get a lot done in 6 mo if your teeth are crooked. 20% of my patients are adults. If you have the cash - Invisalign has come a long way too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 05:03 AM
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