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“After one month of being away from home I stopped all my medications. All my symptoms disappeared. I called her to let her know and she could care less. That was it for me.” That’s it for both of you Op. It’ll be hard but you’re better without her. You’ll be better with your kids. Sincerely, Some guy that gets it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 08:31 PM
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The kids know. Just like mine know. Eventually she’ll find herself alone and you won’t be paying. Chin up brother, we win.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 06:03 PM
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Correct in theory. But my kids are young, they won’t tell a judge how their life is with her out of fear of repercussions.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 06:02 PM
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She’s going to introduce them regardless of what you think. I’ve met a couple suckers so far, I’m always very polite and non threatening. I so badly want to shake them and tell them to run. Poor guys.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 10:50 AM
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Our agreement is pretty good from what other lawyers have told me. Anyone can file motions whenever, if they’re found to be frivolous the judge can award me attorney fees, but it seems they’re hesitant to do that. I could’ve appealed one and likely won, but at what monetary cost? I’ve only done pro-se once and only because it was a simple explanation, I barely spoke, and she came across as she always does. If for any reason I felt like they had me in a bind I could’ve just asked for an attorney …
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 10:42 AM
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Keeping the pressure on is advisable! My mind was all over the place yesterday while posting so I failed to mention that I did the same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 09:11 AM
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Agreed. I’m about 50k in and heading to court in an hour. Many times I felt like going fucking bananas, but that’s what they want. Patience. Breathe. Even if being the better person doesn’t get you a “win”, at the end of the day you’re cool and she’s a fucking asshole. It’ll come back around.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 02:08 PM
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Well this was anti climactic. Lots of sitting around waiting for my lawyers to talk to the enemy’s lawyers and the judge. They want to settle. Shocking development. I might just do that to stop the short term bleeding.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 08:27 PM
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Because only a fool wouldn’t delay as much as possible when all her bills are paid in full by this sucker. I’m waiting while the judge speaks to counsel… Stay tuned!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 06:54 PM
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I got the lawn mower. She demanded it back. And hired a landscaper. 🧐
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:29 PM
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This this this this holy shit this and only this!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:56 PM
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Couldn’t agree more. Heading into a year of “temporary support” and uncontested 50/50 custody. In reality it’s been 60/40 in my favor while she searches for a new victim… She also entered the workforce and now makes the same salary as me, but I keep on paying. Mortgage on the marital home too, I pay because I have a vested interest in the home. I no longer wonder why opposing counsel doesn’t respond to anything. We’ll be requesting a trial date to see how that shakes out. Looks like another year…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 05:38 PM
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Yep, this. PO box or just make everything online statements only. Even if she’s breaking the law you’ll realize soon that the laws don’t matter for her. All the illegal things mine did, my lawyers would tell me yes that’s wrong, yes that’s illegal, do you want to spend the time and money on it? Meanwhile, you must be perfect. Never lose your temper. Never do anything that can be misinterpreted as anything other than great.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 10:34 PM
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I’ll tell you why I stopped. The constant nagging. The “work” of it. There was never just something for me anymore, like no quick oral before work. When we did have sex it was usually me trying extra hard to please her, with little in return aside from her lying there waiting for me to hurry it up after she was done. The drinking. Sloppy sex was fun was I was 19. Not 39. The drinking and the berating and insulting and then anger when I didn’t want to sleep in the same bed afterwards. The weight …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 01:22 AM
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Forget custody unless you don’t think she’ll fight for it. Courts are leaning towards 50/50 in a lot of places. I have hours of recordings of my alcoholic ex and I’m paying out the ass for the privilege of divorce and shared custody. Not having her constantly nagging me or worrying about what sort of rage she’ll be in daily has been worth all of it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 05:55 PM
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Not at all.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 11:29 AM
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Holy shit. Get a new lawyer!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 12:55 AM
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NY. The lawyer I choose was $350 for an hour to speak with her. Retainer 10k. Into it 30k so far, plus a few grand in opposing counsel fees.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 12:52 AM
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Discovery. It was mostly financial. I had to produce 3 years of all bank statements, credit card statements, stocks, crypto assets, etc. Basically anything they could try to leech out of me. Opposition had to submit same. Of course we had to file motions to get same out of her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 01:00 AM
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I only told my boss since I knew I’d be missing some time randomly to deal with the shit that occurs. Everyone else has no idea.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 01:19 AM
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A boyfriend
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 01:14 AM
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Prepare for a long battle. Don’t get hung up on nickels and dimes. I’m at the point now (9 months since she was served) where I don’t even bat at eye at the costs anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:32 PM
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No answer for you man. I’m in the same boat. She keeps stalling the finality of it. Soon they’ll be no money left for her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 01:09 AM
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You got served? And you have a lawyer. You need to establish a temporary custody agreement. Who makes more money? That will come up. Quickly.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 11:29 PM
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Just went through this. I make 95% of the income I was liable for half of her owed taxes, I ended up paying them in full to avoid penalty - lawyer says I’ll get half back once finalized. Accountant told me file married jointly. According to my attorney, depending on the return, it may not be worth the money and aggravation to fight for more than 50/50. “It’s only money.” has become my new mantra. That being said, she can have everything she’s entitled to and not a nickel more.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 11:32 PM
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I’m in a state where I can and do record everything during divorce. I have threats of taking every dime, threats to my life, and audio of physical altercations against me. It was meaningless. Let it go. And let her go.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/22 11:16 PM
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105k. She doesn’t work. But she will soon!
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 02:19 PM
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I think this is the answer. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 12:10 PM
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5 months. 5 months it’s been since I served her. I am still in the god damned mother fucking house. And so is she. She is a ghost. I see right through her. She speaks and I pretend to barely register it. Grey rock then grey rock some more. I have her texts on do not disturb. It further enrages her. You must record. It’s saved me once so far. Record and try to stay on top of your recordings, listen to them ASAP and label them accordingly, I didn’t and had to sift through a few months for our “dis…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 02:22 AM
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You’re right. Maybe I’ll go with “vapid twat I’m forced to live with in purgatory”.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 01:28 AM
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Yep. Judge said she’d be lucky to get two years worth. Relatively short marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 01:28 AM
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You won’t get it back. However, it will show a judge if it gets that far that it’s a sign of good faith from your end.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 06:46 PM
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Monitoring this thread and I will ask my attorney later and update as well.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 02:33 PM
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Cheers bud. Hope it works out. We mediated weeks ago and she’s dragged her feet. I’m staying cool. She’s goading and being a twat in general. So, just like being married! Nothing we can’t handle.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 09:52 PM
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Well done. Ignore her batshit crazy texts and calls, they are coming.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/22 11:24 AM
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I just did some of these. Go in and speak only about yourself and what you want. Do not engage if she slings mud or says anything crazy. Do not use the word “you”. Goodluck. Remain calm.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 01:01 AM
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Don’t know yet. I’m pretty sure they don’t understand it. So probably half of the value in USD at the time she was served.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/22 06:12 PM
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Same! Three years of all cards. Three years of all bank statements. Funny how the joint account was pretty level until she was served and the money disappeared. Her lawyers are very concerned with my cryptocurrency - thousands of pages of data. The old bastards were salivating. Whoops. I can’t wait to give her half my doge.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 01:10 AM
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Yep this. The time mine spends with her kids is forcing them to pose for fb photos. False allegations were laughed away due to my audio recordings. It’s a long game for us. Kids are smarter than most people think. They pick up on this stuff. It hurts now but I can make more money tomorrow and the next day and the next day. She can be spiteful and twatty. I will be kind and awesome. The kids will eventually be heard.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/22 02:21 PM
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Apologize to her. Say you want to make this work. Mean it. Love her, buy her flowers. Meanwhile… Get a lawyer. You’re in the military, prepare for war. Forget the Tesla. I wish I took half the advice offered in this sub before I served my wife. Everyone says the same thing, she has changed. She is now your enemy. It’s true.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 07:20 PM
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My stbxw had a great well paying job when we got married too. Guess who’s on the hook for alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 03:44 PM
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This is all sorts of fucked up. Lawyer. Yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 02:10 AM
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Hire an attorney. Do not leave the marital residence!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 09:45 PM
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Lawyer. Don’t leave.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 09:44 PM
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Serve her with divorce papers. I was here brother. How many years are you going to tell yourself “I should’ve done this years ago.”? Now that mines been served, I can honestly tell you, I should’ve done this years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 07:02 PM
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This is the way. I am also in NY and dealing with this shit. I am still in the home. I am currently winning because of this advice. Feel free to message me for details.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 07:25 PM
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Here’s a little update: I met the guy. Had a feeling something was up so I popped into my house when I wasn’t expected. He was sitting on my bed. I introduced myself and offered my hand. And he shook it and introduced himself. That was so bizarre. Man is she pissed.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/21 12:42 PM
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Thanks for all the replies. Still trying to stay cool and figure out how to play this. I think I’m an awesome dad and I do everything for my kids. Not sure about recording anything, I don’t want anything to paint me in a bad light, I know I’m held to a higher standard.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 01:37 PM
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Hi, are you me? Stay cool. Be awesome to your kids. Record everything. Journal everyday what she does and what you do for the household and children.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 11:30 PM
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Thanks for this. Stressful time. Good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 11:53 PM
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NY
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 06:13 PM
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Probably right, thanks. She’s very material and I’m just hoping I can buy more time with my kids. Sad I know.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 01:07 AM
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I think my state code just says division of property must be equitable. She can have it all as far as I care. I’ll make it a negotiation though.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 11:40 PM
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Don’t you deserve better?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 01:34 PM
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Status quo.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/21 02:26 AM
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I have one of those, but she’s using MY card. And my lawyer says well she used your card before the process so keep paying it off. I lowered the maximum limit to a few grand so sometimes it freezes her out and she rages and I pay it down a couple hundred bucks. It’s like death by a thousand cuts now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/21 01:07 AM
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Congratulations, I can’t wait to join you!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 10:14 PM
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Nope!
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 03:35 PM
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Congrats op. Uplifting. Happy for you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 12:35 AM
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It’s inaccurate in the way that web md can be inaccurate. You’re just better off checking in with a professional before trusting a handy internet guide.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 12:24 AM
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Take this link with a grain of salt friends.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/21 10:33 PM
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It’s likely that you’ll have to continue to maintain status quo. As with most situations here, consult an attorney in your state.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/21 09:10 PM
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Beware the fury of a patient man.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/21 03:41 PM
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Priorities man. Reconsider them. Our kids need us more than god and wives ever will.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/21 10:45 AM
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Wow thanks for the input, and good for you!
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/21 10:42 PM
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Unless she brought the dude home to meet the kid, I doubt there’s any impact. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 01:01 AM
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I don’t know. It’s a 30 page packet. I haven’t argued anything yet. But she sure does spend a lot. Doing this statement is eye opening.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 03:08 AM
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Categories are individual utilities, entertainment, clothing, kids birthday parties, phones/cars/mortgage, etc
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 03:06 AM
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I can relate. And I’m in the process of divorce. You’ll see it here often: DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE. The first step is not signing a lease for an apartment. It’s signing a retainer with an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/21 10:52 PM
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Reading no more mister nice guy right now on the advice from many here. It’s a quick read. Try it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/21 08:03 PM
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Monitoring this thread.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/21 03:26 AM
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I’m in the same boat. Strange how a lot of us read certain posts and it’s like, “ARE YOU ME??”. I just have to decide when to serve my wife. Papers are filed. I don’t know how it will turn out. I keep telling myself the kids will be alright, I will be alright. My therapist keeps saying the same. But yeah man. It’s going to be scary and it’s unfortunately beyond our control. We hope our wives magically become logical, but what we have to really do is just promise ourselves to keep staying awesome…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/21 08:34 PM
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Thank you for this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/21 11:33 AM
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This is the right answer.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 04:47 PM
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See my post from a few minutes ago friend. We’re in the same boat. I’ve been lurking in this sub for a long time, and yeah the disruption will suck. But your life has already been disrupted. If you have kids STAY IN THE HOUSE. My lawyer told me the same. Dm me if you want. I’m you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:16 AM
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Thanks for this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/20 04:58 PM
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I’m in the same boat as you. Ages and kids even line up pretty well. Going to counseling next week AGAIN but I think I’m done. Just called my lawyer and will pony up 10k as a retainer this upcoming Monday morning. Fuck I’m scared for my kids. She can have the house and the cars and my money, I’ll get more. I just want to protect my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/20 06:19 PM
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I read this. Just feel like you need a comment even if it doesn’t say anything worthwhile. Sorry man. But good for you. Live and be happy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/18 12:56 AM
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Dude are you me? I’ve been lurking and reading everything here the last few weeks and was going to post pretty much everything you did just now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/18 11:53 PM
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