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| 4 | How do I dress feminine while pregnant?I'm also 16 weeks pregnant and this is basically what I've been doing! Too small for real maternity clothes but too big for regular jeans. I call my bump a "fump" because it can look like I'm just getting fat. I try keeping my hair down and pinned in a feminine way, clean and simple makeup, and be more mindful that I'm growing... | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/18 02:46 PM |
| 35 | What are some things women can do for men that they really appriciate?Encourage him to go out with his friends, to pursue his hobbies, and help him make sure he has time for himself. DH plays video games, occasionally, and when a new game comes I make sure to pre-load it and install updates so when he comes home, it's all ready to go. He also likes playing board games with his friends, and I point out dates that he can invite them over. When they come over, I make sure there are snacks, drinks, etc. and stay out of their way so they can have fun. Above all, I do m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 10:33 PM |
| 10 | How to be a better wife while unwell in pregnancyI'm also pregnant, right now, but it's early and so far there are no complications. My husband has told me that if I push myself and don't look after myself, then I am making it harder for him. I work from home and he works at an office, and we are both first time parents. He told me he doesn't want to sit at work and worry about me. I have a history of skipping lunch because I'm too busy or cleaning the entire house and passing out due to exhaustion. He made it very clear that me taking it easy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 02:24 PM |
| 24 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Right, but people can openly avow to be Christians and behave very un-Christian. People can be avowed to be committed Vegans and yet eat honey. I've met many people who swear up and down that they aren't racist, but then proceed to say extremely racist things to my face. Then get very upset if I tell them that's racist. People say they are a lot of things, most of the time they aren't. It's about what they do, not what they say. EDIT: Also, it's important that people never confuse this man's tre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 04:11 PM |
| 11 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?It's always important to keep in mind that having a relationship also takes both individuals to adopt a RP/RPW mindset. In my experience, while being a RPW can encourage RP behaviors in the man, often you need a conversation to get it clear and in the open. Communication is always key. It sounds like he is not RP, but just abusive. Yes, while it is possible that behind close doors she could be terrible and bitchy, but that level of public abuse is rarely warranted. A RP man wouldn't let his emot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Feeling entitled... please put me in my right place.The CFA exam is extremely difficult and challenging. One of my close friends took the exam and I barely saw/spoke to her for 3 months leading up to it. She wound up passing and now makes a ton of money, started out at Ernest and Young! If you pass it and have the grades, you can make a lot of money out the gate. He's only 23 and he's living with you, sharing with finances with you, and now needs to study for a major exam that will probably dictate his entire career arc. He was injured 3 months a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Can “Oneitis” be a good thing in a LTR?This is from an actual person, and to add to it, this includes hugging his mother and sister. He told me and my husband that only his wife can hug him "like that" (meaning more than a pat on the back) and he doesn't want anyone, including my husband, to hug him any tighter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/18 11:11 PM |
| 21 | Can “Oneitis” be a good thing in a LTR?I think there is a fine line between "oneitis" and an extremely compatible relationship. From what I have seen, Oneitis is (and I've actually heard/witnessed these things): My partner has made all of my dreams come true. My life was empty and void without them. I can now believe in love again. If they're mad at me, I did something wrong and I'm just a worthless person for upsetting such a perfect creature. Anyone who takes the phrase "happy wife means a happy life" seriously. A guy who no longer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/18 07:35 PM |
| 2 | I can't seem to get commitment before sexIf I was in your situation, I would not bother asking them if they're seeing someone else. I never felt comfortable doing that because I felt like I was pursuing them (in a way I don't like). If I'm not sleeping with them, then I don't have to worry about STI's. But when I met my husband, after a few dates I knew I wanted to just let him know how I was feeling. It was scary, I had to be very vulnerable, but I basically told him that I liked him a lot. I'm very grateful to have met him, and I'd l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/18 09:35 PM |
| 2 | I can't seem to get commitment before sexDo you clarify that you just mean a monogamous relationship, not that you need to be married/engaged? Do you act like you are waiting for them to say "well I'm committed!" Or do you make it more matter of fact? When I told men, I told them very matter of fact. Like "this is just me. You can agree or not, no pressure. This is just how I roll." So it wasn't like I was fishing for a response, it was like a fun fact about me. "I'm 5'8" and I don't have sex without being in a monogamous relationship!… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/18 07:18 PM |
| 5 | Advice on serving large number of guests (15+)?Like everyone else is suggesting, prep ahead of time. If you have a second oven, set it to 175 (or lower to 140 if you can) so it can keep your food warm. Any desserts? Bake the day before in the morning, let them cool and store in fridge once cooled, then once dinner is being eaten pop them in the oven at 175 and let them slowly warm up. By the time dinner is done they are perfectly warmed. Works great for pies. Make as much as you can before anyone comes. Create a drinks station so no one has … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/18 12:42 AM |
| 1 | On Makeup and LTRsTry a honey mask for redness! I used to have regular splotchy skin, but then started to do a honey mask regularly. Now I do it about once a week and my skin is much more even in color! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on graduate school?My best friend majored in biochemistry and had the same thoughts as you. She is now doing a grad degree in computer science because she is limited in biochemistry. She also abandoned all dreams of a grad program (PhD) after getting her master's. She regrets her path, and said that any person going into the science field should learn automation. Not quite sure what that means, but we have a friend who did that and she didn't need to finish her master's. She works in the top biotech companies in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Emotional labor discussionI remember the first time I had a discussion about "emotional labor" with DH (then just BF). He was surprised, and admitted that he didn't even know it was a thing. His sister would remind him, or he and his brother were just excused from doing any of that at all. A lot of gift cards were given during the holidays.... I think what women tend to miss, if they resent having to manage the majority of the emotional labor, is that this is their time to show the family how much they care. Especially i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Are dating apps useful for a follower of RPW?I know three people who married a person they met on OkCupid. Including me. My sister and best friend are the other two. It took me about 3 different tries (attempted over about 6 years) but it was worth it. Like they said, answer questions, be honest, and pay attention to the match rating. All of us had matches over 90%. DH and I had a match of 98%. It means something! You just have to be willing to answer as many questions as possible and figure out what really is a deal breaker versus what is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/18 04:54 AM |
| 3 | What are some examples of misogyny/misandry, ineffectiveness, or stupidity in mainstream feminism?Oh no, sorry that did come off that way. No, I meant that it shouldn't be like that AT ALL but men are totally encouraged to do that. I know many men who abandoned long-held hobbies because their SO found it "annoying" or "didn't like it." (Those are actual words I've heard.) I don't think anyone should do that. But if a man does it, he's just being an understanding partner. That's what I meant! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 12:19 AM |
| 5 | What are some examples of misogyny/misandry, ineffectiveness, or stupidity in mainstream feminism?A woman that cooks, does laundry, cleans, does the dishes, and in general minds the house for her SO is being oppressed. A man who does that is "such a thoughtful and loving" partner. He's treating her like "the queen she is." A woman who has to changes interests, wear different clothes, doesn't hang out with her friends as much, and participates in all of her SO's hobbies is being controlled and abused. [EDIT: No one should do this!] A man who does that is just being a good SO and every man sho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Women with IQs in the upper rangeI am not sure. I do know that pattern matching tests are a newer element (comparatively). But, instead of just "pick what is missing from this square", they are also developing a portion that is more hands-on. Like putting together blocks to match the pattern in the picture. This will be better for testing children, as well as taking into account spatial awareness/reasoning and not just pattern recognition. They are also believed to be the best indicator/correlation of mathematical/scientific ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Women with IQs in the upper rangeSimply because IQ tests have been shown to be biased towards certain ethnicities (predominately white) and socioeconomic statuses. IQ Tests are Biased Against Certain Groups of People Minority Testing Bias Persists Intelligence Testing: Accurate or Extremely Biased? In my opinion, it is nebulous. Tests like the SAT, ACT, and IQ tests are all meant to measure ability and intelligence. But the reality is the test is built and designed for someone who must have been exposed to certain things in lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 05:49 PM |
| 5 | What have you found helps when you’re heartbroken or just going through a tough time?Picking up a hobby that results in creative expression. That's how I learned how to play multiple instruments. It's also a nice ice breaker and a way to bond with new people. It also requires dedication and can be really rewarding/healing to create something beautiful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/18 09:41 PM |
| 7 | Women with IQs in the upper rangeCould you submit to someone whose decisions you could not trust? Can you trust someone where you can see that his logic is faulty and that he is unable to see it? I could not submit to someone who could not listen to counsel of those around him. I could not submit to someone who would needs to feel right instead of being right. I think smart people, especially good leaders, know how to listen to they lead and do what is best for the group and not for their vanity. I understand what you mean if y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 03:27 AM |
| 24 | Women with IQs in the upper rangeI read a lot of reference to IQ's in RP/RPW discussions. I never really understood why it was relevant. Recently, IQ tests have been proven to be weak indicators of intelligence. We can sit around here and talk about our IQ's and whoever has the highest, well she must be in for a struggle. (I am 144, by the way.) But the reality is... it means squat. I haven't lived for very long, but looking at 30 this year and I can tell you that high IQ means nothing if the person doesn't have the work ethic … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 03:10 AM |
| 8 | RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband?Being a leader doesn't mean that people do things for you. It doesn't mean you get to boss people around. It means that you know how to lead by example, that you are unafraid of challenges or struggles, that you are ready to sacrifice and carry on those around you if needed. But that also requires the people they lead to trust them. So obedience is key, especially when it is a stressful/risky situation. That being said, orders shouldn't be needed when you work as a team. I don't feel like DH ord… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/18 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Millennial red pilled young woman- DAE understand?My warning is only that you want to find someone with red pill mentalities and don't mind if they're older. A lot of young red pill men, in your age group, are not interested in a LTR. They need to grow, mature, and experience life before they can commit to anyone. But what does a +27 year-old man want with a 22 year-old woman? Someone who is still in school and doesn't have an independent source of income? All you can offer them is to look after their home, be a good and respectful partner, and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/18 07:33 PM |
| 4 | Millennial red pilled young woman- DAE understand?I'm a red pill millennial (on the older end, sure) but I didn't have too much trouble finding a red pill liberal man in California (in one of the most liberal and, in my view, backwards parts of the state). If you want to find someone conservative and aren't religious, then you should join a young Republicans club or the libertarian club. If you are religious then finding a church with a large number of young men and women is your best bet. Keep in mind that you are 22. For our generation, in Ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/18 04:14 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish you had known earlier about male sexuality?Then they became extremely misogynistic because they realized women just wanted them for money/status (which they now have) but were still angry because of all the lack of attention from their younger beta years from being a pasty basement dweller. I think you hit the nail on the head here. I also dated tech guys and this is the common theme. Later on, I added "no chip on his shoulder" as a dating requirement. I'm not the girl that dumped you at your middle school dance, so stop projecting on me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/18 03:41 AM |
| 16 | What do you wish you had known earlier about male sexuality?Men like to be complimented. Especially told that they are handsome. We live in society where women are supposed to be complimented constantly. About their appearance, mind, interests, personality, etc. But men are only complimented if they look like a model. Men also have an ego that needs to he validated, and that's okay. It's not something I do all the time to random men, but it's something I make sure to do for my husband. It's a small part of what helps him know that he's still attractive a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/18 03:38 AM |
| 2 | How long did the "honeymoon phase" last for you and what was that like?Been together almost 3 years and honestly the only times it hasn't felt like it is when there is some great outside stress. Like a family member passing away or a family member in the hospital. It's been a wild ride, but it only was hard because we had to work closely together to survive it. Once the stress is over, we come back together and are even more grateful. I like to think it's different from us falling out of love or resenting each other, or even hitting a rough spot. It's just... Life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/18 02:28 AM |
| 2 | What’s your skincare routine?I use black soap, which has shea butter, jojoba oil, etc (depends on which brand you get). It also is very cheap, at least the brand I buy, and can be used on my body and face. I use foxbrim lotions with three drops of argan oil mixed in. It's not a lot, but it spreads well and moisturizes/heals. If I have redness/dryness, I use a honeymask. Just honey on my face, some baking soda if my skin is very oily and breaking out. I also use a black sugar scrub exfoliant, then a rice scrub that is very g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/18 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Valentine's Day!We'll be making a fancy dinner at home (right now the plan is prime rib, roasted potatoes, and yorkshire pudding!), together, and then dress up in nice clothes and enjoy a romantic meal! We don't really celebrate days like this. Even our anniversary, we just do token gifts. Like an engraved compass, a music box, etc. Something that costs about $30 at most. His favorite is what I do for his birthday, where starting the first day of his birthday month I write him romantic notes/letters and hide th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 08:08 PM |
| 4 | I don't know how to tell guys I want a serious relationshipInstead of trying to figure out how to tell them, try to figure out how to show them. Actions speak louder than words. A girl who is kind, capable, in good shape, charming, and comfortable in her own skin will tell men that she isn't just a one-night stand kind of a person. What helped me was having the mindset "I want to be this kind of person" and if you become the person you want to be, the kind of man who fits the person you are will show up. The only thing is determining what kind of woman … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/18 08:54 PM |
| 8 | Learning how to speak skillfully/gracefully?Something I learned through therapy: The person who controls their emotions is the person who controls the conversation. The person yelling on top of their lungs and screaming vs. the person who is quietly listening and waiting for the screaming person to stop screaming. Who is really in command? When you are talking to people with differing opinions, many of them can be very "blunt" because they "tell it like it is!" and "have no time for fakers." I always roll my eyes at them. They think they'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/18 10:59 PM |
| 6 | Meeting his parents. Dinner gift ideas?Wine or flowers (especially if they aren't drinkers). Don't skimp on either! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 10:47 PM |
| 11 | The way to a man's heart... (his fave recipe)Something similar! It's his birthday dinner. He wants it every year without fail. Spaghetti and meatballs. I offer prime rib, but he wants pasta. Takes about 4 hours from start to finish. 1 onion finely minced with about 1/3 cup of olive oil. Open a can of anchovies and drain it well, no oil. Put those in a hot dutch oven pot. Let those cook until the anchovies disappear. Add in a can of tomato paste, then let it fry and get a nice deep red color. Then put in a splash of red wine and a splash of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/18 02:48 AM |
| 11 | For those of you engaged/married...did you pick up that he was going to propose?He told me about 1 month of dating, "I'm going to marry you." Then 3 1/2 months in, he drags me into the jewelry store (I wanted to go but I was worried he felt pressured) and he wanted me to design my ring with the jeweler. Then the jeweler proceeded to call me on accident to update him about the ring, so I knew when it was done. I would stop her before she could say anything and go, "no! wrong person!" She felt awful. I swore he was going to propose the weekend after the BAR exam, but he didn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 09:02 PM |
| 6 | Beyond RPW29 years-old, work from home for a legal-tech company. I have a BA from one of the top public universities in the U.S. and a law degree from a regionally well-known law school. I have published research in academic journals, helped other academics with their studies/research, and manage/edit/publish content from other legal scholars. A few months ago, I was asked to speak about a specific area of law that I (apparently) am one of the few researchers in the nation. I can play piano, violin, and g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 04:38 AM |
| 8 | Handling jealousy from other womenDistance and time. I have a similar situation. While my BIL's wife is not as bad, she was very upset when DH and I got married a few months after they did. They requested we wait to get engaged and married the next year. Of course, they also told everyone that they hate being the center of attention and just want the wedding to go smoothly. It didn't make sense. (We also had a very tiny wedding in a park, with 12 guests total, done in two hours, no engagement party, no bridal shower, etc. Very l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Help with incompatibility issues in relationship.Yes definitely. A lot of metropolitan residents don’t need to learn how to drive. She mentioned that she is his personal driver for “the time being” so I assumed he had his license at one point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 05:00 AM |
| 6 | Help with incompatibility issues in relationship.To add to this, why does he not have his license? You said a few more months and that he is an aggressive driver. Did he lose his license? As in was it suspended? Not a great sign. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 04:47 AM |
| 9 | Do Traditional Gender Roles Benefit Children?I think 1) structure 2) hierarchy 3) identity Is what can give kids a solid foundation. Clear rules, guidance, and boundaries are so important. I see so many kids that either have all the freedom (met parents of a 4 year old that told me not to tell him “no” because they don’t want to put limits on him) or no freedom at all. Both extremes are terrible, but kids look to parents for an idea of what is safe and what is dangerous. To them it comes out to be a lot like what is good and what is bad. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 09:16 AM |
| 1 | When your husband is frustrated with a task you asked of him?Yes! A shower is always a good idea. I think once you make it known that you think he should stop and that you don't want him to worry about it, then you can trust that he heard you. He definitely heard you, but they really want to do the task because they want to be capable of taking care of you. It's not easy to see our men have a hard time, but that's where you just have to put your faith in him and that, if he needs you, he'll let you know. (Also, blind cleaning is insane. The blinds were in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/17 01:06 AM |
| 25 | When your husband is frustrated with a task you asked of him?This recently happened to us as well. We were in the process of moving and I was cleaning the blinds. The blinds in the kitchen get super grimy, and DH insisted he wanted to help. I warned him, several times, that this is "dicing with insanity" and that the task is VERY slow going. He said he understood and didn't want me to do all of them myself. I told him I don't mind, but he said he wanted to. Okay, no problem. I gave him the cleaning supplies and showed him. He got a bit annoyed because he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/17 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Will You Change Your Name?I always planned on changing my last name. However, I am Asian American with a very American sounding first name, but my last name will tell other people that I am Asian. So when I speak to someone on the phone or sign an email, they can see from my name that I will not be white and when we meet in person, it's easier for them and there aren't any weird conversations. I married a Caucasian man, and now my last name is the same as his. The weird looks I get and how often I am carded at the grocer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 06:29 PM |
| 4 | Share ways that you keep things romantic/exciting/loving in your relationship?When my DH and I were still dating, I would write love notes and hide them in certain places (places he will eventually find). He's the type to love things like that. I'd also make him his favorite dinner, surprise him with something he's been thinking of buying (something small) but didn't want to spend the money. He does the same for me, or picks up my favorite soup on the way home if he knows that I've been working all day and too tired to cook. Now we make a lot more money, and live together… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/17 03:34 PM |
| 5 | found this on facebookSomeone should tell them that there is a reason why most TV shows last a few seasons... Romantic compulsion or sexual tension (aka drama) on TV shows cannot go on forever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 08:29 PM |
| 6 | found this on facebookI never watched “This Is Us” but I heard it’s a tear-jerker and that it’s about a married couple. Strange to sit and want to watch something like that, about true love, and have your husband be in the kitchen doing dishes. Just look at your husband and realized that you can also have that love if you just turn off the TV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Great, exclusive relationship but never been called his girlfriendSomething I said to my husband, when we need to have the “talk,”: I really like you. I don’t want to see anyone else. I don’t need to know what I will be called, I just want to know that I can be a part of your life... that I can continue to be a part of your life. I hope I can. DH had a previous “girlfriend”, right before me, who was very demanding as to their status and pressured him into declaring his love for her and showing him off on social media. He was very hesitant, and told me that my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 04:49 AM |
| 11 | Great, exclusive relationship but never been called his girlfriendYou mentioned he was very active on Facebook with his ex. I think you just nailed it why he’s so private. Years of displaying his relationship, and then it ends? It makes it messier and messier. I had a friend who was engaged and one day her fiancé walked out. She ended up having to post something to explain what happened and then disappeared off of social media altogether. Luckily we are still able to keep in touch and she (now happily married) is really glad she left it behind. I think honestl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 04:32 AM |
| 8 | Tips on becoming a better cookHave you heard of a show called “good eats”, hosted by Alton brown? It no longer runs, though I believe they are rebooting it due to its popularity, but it doesn’t just teach you recipes. It teaches you how and why food reacts the way it does. So many shows just tell you “put in this and then put that.” Instead, good eats explains to you why you want to do this. Eventually, you realize that a lot of the skills are translatable. You learn what flavor elements exist in a wide variety of cuisines, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 07:17 AM |
| 10 | Vetting For Marriage?All of these suggestions are great, so the only one I would add is: How would you want to handle an ill parent? If a parent is sick or can no longer live alone, would you want to put them in a home or bring them into your home? As the wife, the majority of the care would fall upon your shoulders. DH and I talked about this a lot, before we got married, because his parents are significant older than mine (even though we're the same age). If you want to bring your parents into the house to look af… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 10:12 PM |
| 4 | How long do you stay in monk mode?I guess I'm just wondering WHY people stay in monk mode and for how long? And when would you consider it time to end monk mode? I often think about why monks become, well, monks. They cloister themselves, dedicate to study and focus on a higher calling. They give up all of those tempting vices, anything that will get between them and religious peace/enlightenment. It's not super helpful, but you stay in monk mode for as long as you need. If you have more issues to sort out, then you need to stay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 10:46 PM |
| 6 | What is your RP relationship like?What is it like? There's nothing quite like it. Someone who will always look out for you, protect you, support you, and stand by you. It's empowering, reassuring, and exciting, all at the same time! How do you feel when you are with your Captain? At peace. Giddy! Very giggly, silly, and very happy. All of my worries melt away, and we can just exist in that moment together. It helps me be present! Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain? It's hilarious. I have never really l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 04:42 PM |
| 2 | How do you feel about pre-nups?Yes, CA is a community property state. Due to the way student loans are in CA, they would not be able to come after you if you divorce. EDIT: I believe the only way they can come after you is if you're still married and he passes away, so whatever you are to inherit from his estate would first go to pay the debt. So it really doesn't even come after you, just after whatever you would get after he dies. Almost all student debt (especially federal ones) discharge after death, meaning that once you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 06:17 PM |
| 13 | How do you feel about pre-nups?This is not legal advice, but do you live in a community property state? Student loans are a unique exception in the community property world. If you did not co-sign, they were not incurred during the course of the marriage, and depending on where you are married, then you are not responsible for his debt. So in the event of the divorce, you are not obligated to repay it and it will not reflect on your financial records. However, once you're married you might have to help him pay for it (not rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Picking a career, but my goal is to be a stay at home momWell yes, men in STEM fields. But men not in STEM fields will probably not be able to appreciate the amount of time and dedication that's involved in CS. I'm hard pressed to think of men NOT in CS or STEM who are patient enough to understand how much work it is. Definitely great to meet men, but they will almost certainly be in the same field (if not STEM then in the same company/line of work). If something is wrong with your code or your company needs you to work on something overnight or long … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/17 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Advice on living togetherAs someone who lived with her SO (now husband) for a year WITH a male roommate, his friend, I can tell you it will be hard. Our roommate was a particularly nice and no fuss guy, but he was also beyond filthy and never cleaned anything. Because I wanted to live in a home that didn't look like we were squatting, I found myself cleaning up after 3 people. It was not fun. How many times I found unflushed toilets.... anyway, I digress. But the reason I moved in with them is that his friend was alread… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/17 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Picking a career, but my goal is to be a stay at home momOut of curiosity, are you dating anyone right now? Are you foreseeing a marriage happening when you hope/want? As for Comp Sci, it's not very conducive to a relationship (unless he is also STEM) let alone motherhood. But, it is possible to work remotely as a contractor. You won't get any benefits, but as long as you keep up with the changes in technology, you can be hired as a freelancer and work from home when you have time. It would be ideal if you don't have to work at all while rearing child… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/17 01:01 AM |
| 13 | Questions about RPW beliefs from a newcomerI think the first thing to realize and understand is that RPW applies to you as you can. There isn't one blanket way to be a RPW, and it's a gradation. Some people, if they go full RP, might just be too much for their relationship. Other people need that much. It depends on you, your partner, and your relationship. Nagging depends on his threshold for nagging and his own quirks and tendencies. The reason we give suggestions like that is because you're coming here with a problem. If there isn't a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/17 03:48 AM |
| 6 | What are some of the "little things" that you do for your SO that are more personal?Aside from laundry, meals, and general errands, I make the bed with the tags on the blankets (like the ones about how to wash the item) on the foot of the bed. I don't care but he gets pretty annoyed by it. He noticed at one point and was touched! I also try to get him fancy coffee and on the weekends, I try to find new ways to make it very fancy. I don't drink coffee, so he was really touched when I explained to him my new slow drip process. When he orders a new video game (like twice a year) i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend likes that I'm smartIn your example, is it super vital to know that Ethiopia is north or south of Tanzania? What's hard in those situations is when he isn't listening to you, even though you're right. But at the same time, knowing that isn't super vital unless you're in Tanzania and trying to make your way to Ethiopia. When I first met my husband, my rule was to not try to make a point of correcting him unless it's vital. Like, him not knowing something puts him at risk either in an argument with another person or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/17 03:05 PM |
| 6 | Partner Won't Admit He Likes Traditional RolesI think definitely just being honest and direct with him is a good first step. He might be concerned about you being a "gold digger" so it is good to discuss this in bits. Talk about how you feel about it. I told my husband that I feel very fulfilled cooking meals and looking after our home. How nice it is for me and rewarding to know that I can take care of him when he comes home after a long day. This is before we got married, btw! Definitely talk to him about it honestly and see how he respon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 04:01 AM |
| 15 | Partner Won't Admit He Likes Traditional RolesOut of curiosity, do YOU like traditional gender roles? If so, did you tell him that? He might just not want to say it because you didn't say you like it. My husband was like that, because he was taught that he shouldn't ask that of his partner. After I admitted, he admitted it too and now we're happy doing our thing, our way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 02:19 AM |
| 1 | How prepared are you to be alone?DH and I discussed this. Not divorcing, but if he just.... doesn't come home. A car accident. Something happened at work. Who knows. I told him that I would probably sell all of our possessions, donate his clothes, give things to his relatives as they want. Save all photos and items of sentiment, give plenty to his mother. I would probably never come back to visit his family. (I would definitely keep in touch with his parents, especially his mother who is a mother to me.) The main reason is that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 12:56 AM |
| 3 | Self-defense techniquesYes, scream! That "hyah" sound in martial arts isn't just to "look cool" but it also helps give force in your actions as well as scare your opponent. I would recommend not using your fist if you can. It's so easy to hurt yourself. Heel of your palm, elbow, and knee if you can reach. Those parts are the toughest. I had to break a brick, a standard red brick, with my bare hand to get my black belt. My instructor told me to do it as if I want my hand to reach the ground, not break the brick. Did it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/17 07:43 AM |
| 2 | Self-defense techniquesDH is about 50 pounds heavier than me, a lot more muscle, and gets very angry when someone tries to hurt me. But, I have a black belt (almost got 2nd degree) in Tae Kwon Do, several gold medals in state competitions for sparring and grappling. I also had some training with disarming someone with a knife and/or a gun, as well as using a bo staff. I know better than to mess with a person holding a gun or a knife. Gun is scarier than knife, because 99% of the time that person is jumpier than you an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/17 04:25 AM |
| 6 | Dating an addict....We actually had a redditor a while back post a question about it and then later an update. This is her update. She's not a rarity. This happens to a lot of people. All you can do is make sure that it doesn't happen to you. Whether he still uses heroin or he's recovering, this is something to consider. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 09:28 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with an easily angered, resentful family member?As someone who was also diagnosed with BPD, but, much to the surprise of my family and doctors, has been in remission for over 6 years now, I know what you're talking about. But everything in life has an action and a reaction. No one party is at fault, no matter what it is. But in your case, it seems like your brother is also dealing with some sort of mental illness. My suggestion to you, as many others have said, is to get out. My BPD only went into remission when I left home and began to live … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Dating > Marriage > Children: What did your timeline look like?We met at age 26 (same age) in a big city on the west coast. We met online, OkCupid, after talking for 1 day. Dated for 2 1/2 months before we moved in together. Looked at engagement rings at 5 months. He proposed at 9 months. We got married 1 year and 3 months (so 6 months later). Been married for about 8 months and very happy! We are about to reach 2 years since we met (end of May)! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 07:18 PM |
| 7 | Full time SAHM, part time working mother, or full time working mother? Thoughts?The problem with engineering is that it changes so much that after 13 years out, the field has transformed entirely. My mom is also an engineer, but she hasn't worked in 29 years and knows that there is no way she can go back into it. DH and I are hoping to start a family at the end of the year (or sometime in 2018) and we discussed this a lot. Luckily, I am currently in a full-time position (that offers benefits like paid leave and vacation time) that lets me work entirely from home. Ideally, n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 05:21 PM |
| 3 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?What would you feel if you felt that they were "the one"? Would you feel absolute certainty that you will have a long, happy life together? Would you feel like nothing could ever tear you apart? Or is it a sexual attraction? The reality is that you can have this strong belief, you can work as hard as you can to make it come true... but, relationships are a two-way street. Despite how you feel now, which may change, they might just stop and realize (one day in the future) that they don't want to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 04:25 PM |
| 26 | RP "baggage" - boyfriend recently deceasedI am so sorry that you're going through this. No matter what your boyfriend was in the eyes of RPW, he was still a person and he means a lot to you. That is the only truth that stands now. I think you're doing amazing things, but I would also recommend that you attend NA meetings or some sort of Drug Addiction Support Group. Your boyfriend had heroin as his drug, and he was your drug. Aside from talking about his loss, you should talk to someone about his addition and your addiction. What it has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 04:07 AM |
| 2 | What do you think of dating/marrying men with a "female best friend"?I used to be the one to say "oh it's not big deal".... but then, early on our relationship, DH and I hit a bump in the road. DH had an old friend of his, they've been in the same classes since middle school. I thought nothing much of her, she seems pretty and has a very glamorous lifestyle. It wasn't until after we all met when DH mentioned, "Oh yeah, she confessed she loved me a few years ago but I turned her down. I just don't see her that way." Okay, well, I trust him so I knew it would be fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Which city/town in the States is ideal for a RPW?As someone who lived there and now wishes to move back, I think it just has room for everyone. The weather ranges from like 57F low to 105F high, with plenty of sunshine, and I guess the idea that "I live in Hollywood" (I heard that a lot). From my experience, it's what you make of it. If you want to complain and whine about how everyone is so fake, then everything you experience and see will seem fake. But if you're ready to go for it and just live life how you want to, then people will respect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 09:37 PM |
| 0 | Which city/town in the States is ideal for a RPW?CA isn't a model RP state so yes, being smart AND pretty is going to get you a higher quality man here than being pretty or smart alone. This is so true. Unless you're a 10, you need to have brains if you ever want to find a man. Since you're going for CompSci, it is clear you have the brains! There will be more men than women in your classes, and be prepared for men you meet to be very excited that you are studying CompSci. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 03:31 AM |
| 7 | Which city/town in the States is ideal for a RPW?CalTech is an amazing school. If you get in there then you'll be set! UCLA and UCSD are also good options. UCSD is located in San Diego, which is even more of a surfer town. As far as your needs, what you're describing is very much what LA can offer. Vietnamese grocery store? No problem. Belly dance school? You got it. Figure skating club? Sure! Fried chicken and donuts at the same place? Okay! LA will be a good place for you as it is more affordable (compared to SF) and it has a much larger and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/17 10:07 PM |
| 1 | What can I do or not do to help mitigate/lower my introverted Man's stress?Oh that's wonderful! I'm so glad to hear it. I think this understanding will make your relationship stronger than ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/17 02:36 AM |
| 13 | Do guys treat everyone this way or is it my looks?I think you pointed out your own problem, that you answer with a few words and you're done. Instead of being so hung up on how they won't talk to you later, just talk to them now and they might surprise you. Guys aren't SO revolted by appearances that they won't talk to an "ugly girl." What they won't do is talk to an "ugly girl" who is writing their name in notebooks with hearts and just clinging and desperate. It doesn't sound like you do that. So try this, when your partner asks you a questio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/17 06:44 PM |
| 1 | What can I do or not do to help mitigate/lower my introverted Man's stress?It's very clear to me that you want to help him relax, and that you aren't resentful about not being able to go out. Just make sure that he knows it too! And yes, while trying to help with options seems helpful to us, for introverts it suddenly requires them to participate in something and think not just about what they want, but what YOU want to hear from them. I wish you the best of luck! But it definitely sounds like you guys are headed in the right direction! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/17 02:57 AM |
| 9 | What can I do or not do to help mitigate/lower my introverted Man's stress?I think what a lot of couples forget is that they can enjoy social events alone/apart. I have friends who have similar dynamics, and the long-term solution is that you need to be okay with going out and doing social things on your own. It's great to have fun and get out, if your friends ask just say that your SO had a long day and just needs some rest. If they want to be weird about it, then that's their problem. What might be adding to his stress is the feeling that you won't go out without him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Realized we really can't have it allOh not really. Her mother is rather wealthy and paid for her tuition, just when they got married he took over the last bit (which isn't much). I think his concept of "safe money" is very different from a lot of other people's concept of safe money. Like my husband and I feel good when we have $30,000 in savings, but I'm pretty sure he needs to see a lot more in there. Considering that she will probably never put that fancy dental degree to use, I think he's anticipating that he will continue to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allYes, definitely do your research! I also agree with you that the feminist movement has made it a lot harder for us. Once women started to work full-time, companies began to take advantage of a "new market' and soon we needed two incomes to afford "the necessities." Now we live in a world that is designed for two incomes, and the idea of a SAHW or SAHM is insanity. Research, budgeting, and very careful spending will keep you safe, but it can be very stressful. Definitely moving out of NYC is step… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allI know quite a few men in this field, and a great number of them don't want to have children or if they do, they want to have it later in life. So for a while, they want it to be a DINK relationship. If you don't want to also work full-time (or work in general) then you will need a man who can supplement your income. While you might not have expensive tastes (like caviar or champagne every night!) the cost of living is still a lot. I saw that you live in NY? It's not too different here. Right no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allI've been thinking a lot about your post, and waited to see how others responded. Admittedly, what struck me the most was: And when I look deep down, I don't want to just be stuck in a career. I want to do meaningful things and pursue my hobbies. I think I can safely say that everyone feels this way. You are not unique in this feeling. Those who want a career and enjoy it, do it because they find it to be meaningful. Those who hate their career and don't want to continue feel that way because it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Help with grocery budgetYou can get ground pork, where I live (which is not a cheap area) for about $2/pound. For sausage they use pork neck or pork shoulder (de-boned). If the meat comes de-boned and already off the skin/tendons, then it might be worth it! I forgot to add, be sure to add breadcrumbs and an egg or two (depending on how much meat you have) when you make your sausages otherwise you basically have a hard slab of meat to gnaw on later. Also, just a warn about those Costco chickens. They are very, very salt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 05:29 PM |
| 7 | Help with grocery budgetIt's actually surprisingly easy to get your grocery bill down! The first thing that should go is alcohol, or at least name brand. My husband likes to drink beer, but not the canned beer or anything generic. He likes the more expensive brands. I finally convinced him to try the Kirkland brand from Costco and he was shocked to find that it was actually very tasty. That was a $10 save right there ($29 for a large pack to $19 for a large pack). We also eat a lot of eggs, and you can get those very c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 09:36 PM |
| 15 | I need help. My SO gets angryBeing a good first mate does not mean that you need to take abuse. Don't ever equate loving and patient to a personal punching bag (physical or verbal). It's also impossible to be in a relationship with someone who seems to be splitting into two people whenever he feels like it. Please, spare yourself any more pain and torture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessYes, this is big! It is also heavily related to sleeping well. If you aren't happy and full of anxiety and worry, you don't sleep. If you don't sleep well, then you will look older, feel older, and cut years off of your life. If you don't sleep well, you will feel even more miserable and I promise you, your skin will show it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:43 PM |
| 9 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessTake care of your skin. Hydrate, protect from the sun, use vitamin E oil or something like it to remove scarring. Don't neglect taking care of your hands and neck, as well as the rest of your body. Doesn't matter how much makeup you put on, if your hands look old then the jig is up. You can also take of your skin by not drinking alcohol, staying hydrated, eating a balanced meal with plenty of vitamins, and realizing that your skin needs extra hydration through lotions/natural oils. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 05:30 PM |
| 6 | Living together before marriageI love this because it also works for the fact that a start-up can't just stop working together without some great consequence. But a large company, if the merger falls through, they'll still be okay because they have their independent resources. Just like a young couple, calling it quits can be a lot harder if you don't have your independent and separate life to withdraw into. Good analogy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 06:14 PM |
| 16 | Living together before marriageA lot of studies say that living together before marriage results in a higher probability of divorce. But what it's leaving out are some key details. Like, those who tend not to live together before marriage tend to share a similar strong cultural or religious identity. Sharing an identity like this will add strength to a relationship. For example, a Christian couple who share a view that you should not live together before marriage also share a view that they must submit themselves and entrust … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Feel free to PM me any time if you just need someone to talk to. We definitely share a unique frame of mind. Any time I try to talk to people about it, they pretty much go, "boo hoo poor little rich girl." It's just hard to understand, if you never lived that life. So I'm here to talk! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?The funniest moment was when DH was talking to his brother about my parents move to a new house. His brother married someone who is also from a reasonably well-off family (by comparison) and he takes great pride in how rich and fancy his in-laws are. When DH said, "houses", his brother paused and asked, "Wait, how rich are her parents?" DH said, "Rich." His brother seemed quite perplexed. Later I found out that his brother tried to get DH to dump me because it was "clear" to him that I was tryin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 05:04 PM |
| 4 | Advice on LTR Potential…As someone who had half of her family (great aunts and uncles) die due to Marxism, I think a vast political difference is an ultimate deal-breaker. I actually lost a friend because she became an "anarchist" (with marxist qualities) because I told her that I can never accept that Communism/Marxism can be a source of good. She kept arguing with me, saying that it was wrongly applied and that "true" marxism is for the good. When I pointed out to her that the only reason I am here is because my moth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?After law school, my parents told me to come home but I did not. Instead I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) and I quickly went from having it all to living from paycheck to paycheck. While we didn't starve or become homeless, we certainly had moments of "okay, we can go grocery shopping next week..." Now, we're doing extremely well, which is great! But not $400,000/year great. But to her, not being able to eat at 3 star restaurants on a two week trip to Paris is suddenly deficient. I thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:12 AM |
| 4 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I sometimes call it "blood money". It made me hate my dad growing up, because he missed every birthday until I was 16 due to meetings and every holiday was interrupted with his work. Now, we get along so well and I really want him to be around. It struck me that due to how hard he worked and his constant level of stress, very likely he won't be around as long as my mom. I see the nice cars, the nice houses, the furnishings, and all I see is time. The time he spent to earn the money to give this … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?It's a slippery slope to be rich... Yes, I have a friend who grew up with nothing and she is marrying a guy who makes six figures. She is very proud of how much she makes, and she has a job too so it's not like she is using him. But she likes eating out in nice places, she likes nice clothes, her diamond engagement ring, etc. All of it was super important to her and part of me knows, and I love her like a sister, that if he was poor or made as much as her that she would have dumped him a long ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 11:56 PM |
| 5 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Growing up, we were surrounded by families in similar situations. So in my high school, everyone was pretty much of the same financial status. We never had trouble dating because no guy would ever need/want to use us for money. But, when we started dating, and when I started dating my now Husband, my parents would pull my sister and me aside and say, "Don't tell them this, until you have to." They were worried about us being taken advantage of, so much to the point that they locked up the majori… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 11:11 PM |
| 15 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I've had an interesting experience with this. Before I met my husband, the men I dated almost always had issue with money. It wasn't because I asked for a lot of nice things. In fact, I never asked for anything. The issue always arose when they found out that my parents are wealthy. It always seemed to spur on two reactions: 1) Panic/Terror and starting to obsess that they can't provide for me. 2) Suspicion and assuming that I am going to take them for a ride. I never dress in designer clothes, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:50 PM |
| 2 | RPW, how did you introduce your man to your parents?With great respect and patience. Your boyfriend sounds like an excellent young man. If you trust your parents and know that they love you and look out for you, then you can trust that they will also come to love your boyfriend. Don't try to force them to be friends or have a close bond. Be patient, don't assume that they will launch into adoring him. Let them form their own connection, so that it can endure over time. My sister made the fault, when she was dating, of telling us that we need to l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 10:52 PM |
| 2 | What do you cook for your man?A wide variety. It really depends on what travel documentary we just watched. It's one of our favorite things to do together, and afterwards we just talk about how delicious the food must be and then I try to re-create it. He likes to note that I go through phases. I went through an Italian food phase (homemade noodles, gnocchi, pasta sauce), then a Chinese food phase (stir fry, pork belly), then a Mexican food phase (carnitas, carne asada, salsa verde, lots of enchiladas), then Thai food phase … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 11:35 PM |
| 24 | My captain and I agreed that I was going to be a SAHW but now we can't pay our bills.At this point, it seems to be him clinging to that idea that he must solely provide. It's great that he wants to, but if he is unable and willing to risk your safety (financial safety) for his pride and unable to accept that he needs help... then he needs to stop and realize that while a "real man provides", he also knows not to put his family in jeopardy. When creditors are calling.... that is a sign that you should have started working a month or two ago. I would tell him that you don't want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 05:30 AM |
| 3 | AskRPW: How Much Does "Type" Matter to You?I think there is often a difference between "type" and "match". We all have a type, like some ripped Hollywood hunk. But do we actually want to marry this Hollywood hunk? He probably has a more rigorous skin-care routine and diet than I ever would. I often find that most women (when talking to my friends) don't actually pause to look, as I put it, behind the veil. I think in RPW you'll find women who wants a man with confidence and presence. Due to psychology, this tends to mean that the man is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 10:34 PM |
| 12 | Red Pill At WorkTo be honest, I don't think RPW really should come into your work life. They don't care if you're feminine (unless you work in a position that requires it, like selling women's clothes), they only want you to be capable and hardworking. If you constantly defer to male employee's for the right move, it will just make you come off as weak. Especially if you'd like to work in management, you need to be in control and not need help in running your department. But that's my opinion and experience. I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 04:48 PM |
| 3 | What dating websites have you had the most success on?My sister, my best friend, and I found our husbands on OkCupid. I highly recommend it. Their match percentage is not to be ignored (if you answer enough questions). My sister had a 93%, my best friend had a 92%, and my husband and I had a 98%! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 09:02 PM |
| 1 | All you career gals...I'm a former legal researcher and now operate the content division of a legal website. I hire/fire writing staff members, sit in on marketing meetings, and select content for creation and publication. For my position, a JD is required to understand the limitations of the content and its applications to digital outreach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 03:53 PM |
| 9 | Do you believe in soulmates?I never put much stock in it. That is... until I met my husband. I know a lot of people talk about how timing is important. But we really almost missed each other. I had three years in a major city right near his hometown. I was so ready to move back to my hometown (over 350 miles away). I decided to open a dating profile just for one last fun in the city. I dated several guys and they l turned out to be losers or deficient in some way. I was ready to close my account. Until he messaged me. We h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Seeking Insight/A RantI honestly kind of felt like you, when I was 21 years old and fresh out of college. I panicked and wound up going to law school (don't do that, please don't do that, $250k and 3 years of utter misery to make $49,000/year is NOT worth it). But now? I started as a researcher and writer and now I'm in marketing. I don't know how that happened, but they liked my insight, my persistence, and ability to take criticism (key skills to survive law school), and promoted me. Now, they're expanding my skill… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 05:01 AM |
| 2 | On why we need to be lovingI actually also found Zen Buddhism when I was around 20 years old. It meant a lot to me, and helped me bridle and control a lot of my anger issues and tackle my mental health problems. While I still prescribe to Christianity, I also still keep a lot of tenants of Zen Buddhism to help me control any temper flare ups I might have. I haven't had one in years. I'm glad other people found it helpful as well! It really changed my life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 04:49 AM |
| 1 | A small request from a new redpiller regarding petsIf a dog feels the need to protect their owner then it means the owner showed some sign of vulnerability and the dog feels like they are in charge of keeping them safe. Definitely a sign that the owner is not in charge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 03:23 PM |
| 2 | A small request from a new redpiller regarding petsAs someone who grew up with large dogs and had a horse, I definitely can tell a lot about a man based on how animals, not just his personal pets, behave around him. If his pet refuses to respect his space. A dog that just rushes up, claws at him, whines, and he responds to it by giving it whatever it wants right then and there. If his dog goes through doors first and does things in new places without looking to his owner. If his dog doesn't have good recall (despite the man trying desperately). … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/17 09:31 PM |
| 5 | I can't stop obsessing over my appearanceI agree with other users, when did 23 become the wall? While some people (if you don't care for yourself, smoke, drink excessively, etc) may hit the wall early, I think the peak optimal time of a young woman intersects with her physical beauty and her emotional maturity. You want to be treated like a girl? Girls are treated like things to be ignored by grown men, because grown men do not want to make their life with a girl. If you want to be treated like a woman, you need to have an assurance in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/17 07:29 PM |
| 10 | Realizing your boyfriend is not a "captain"In 10 years, do you think you would be happy that you stayed with him? Do you think the waiting and then hoping, even the nagging, was worth it? Or would you sit and think "I wasted so much of my life on this guy." From what it sounds like, if someone better, someone you can connect with and is more alpha, came along then you would not be too torn up about leaving him. I may be wrong, but from the way you describe the situation is like he has so much potential but he's a fixer-upper. If you feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/17 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Is it worth dressing feminine when you're still fat?Haha, thanks! Honestly I can be kind of a klutz if I am not paying attention. Mainly because my arms (wingspan) are almost 4 inches longer than normal and my legs have a 34 inch inseam, I can knock things over if I am not careful. (I am 5'8") I think my mom figured I would be gangly for life and decided I need intervention. If anyone moves the coffee table or my water bottle, my knee will go into the coffee table and my hand will knock over the water bottle. DH is very patient and doesn't mind t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/17 07:36 AM |
| 5 | Is it worth dressing feminine when you're still fat?Haha, yes most people remember that. While it's a nice example, my mother taught me to do it so I didn't look so.... clunky. I was a little girl, trying to pour very hot coffee/tea for my parents. She didn't want me to get coffee everywhere, but she also didn't want me to look like I'm just grabbing something and dumping it's contents. It's done with this deliberation, with intended grace and tenderness so that the recipient of your coffee/tea knows that you love them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 03:55 PM |
| 8 | Is it worth dressing feminine when you're still fat?Congrats! I would only caution you against buying too many feminine cute clothes since they can be expensive and you will probably want to buy new ones once you are in the fitness level you want. Fitness is key for men on so many levels. Attraction, compatibility (lifestyle), and how confident you are in your form. As you get more healthy, you need to shed the "fat girl" mentality. You can dress in a feminine way, but a lot of your femininity comes from you, within. Clothes help it come out, but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 04:52 AM |
| 3 | How can I become a relaxed,feminine and vulnerable woman?I can understand this question, because I had a similar thought when I read this at first. But I think you need to clear the term "vulnerable" (here at least) to not mean "weak." Instead, a woman letting herself be vulnerable truly emboldens us and allows us to engage all aspects of being a woman. It is what softens us, it is what softens those around us. Woman are not weak by letting ourselves be vulnerable, instead we are able to expend and use every aspect of ourselves to be the best we can b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/17 08:06 PM |
| 20 | How to stay happily married? - College class discussionGratitude is a big part of a happy life and definitely about a happy marriage. This is what works for me and DH, and advice we've gotten from married couples (happily married and unhappily married): Never stop saying "thank you" for everything that they do for you, even if it seems pointless or that they "know" you are grateful. Never criticize in public, only praise. Keep your problems and issues behind closed doors. Always be ready to apologize. Remember that everything in life requires an act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/17 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Is moving to a first-world country with the purpose of marriage worth it?And she also talks about the new generation in Korea. Many live at home and can't move out, too expensive, and many of them are not in a rush to get married. Birth rate is low, apparently. A friend of mine who was raised in Korea, her parents still live there and are impossibly wealthy, told me that apparently when a girl is pregnant (even out of wedlock) a lot of people are excited. They just want the next generation to arrive and realized that their children will probably not do it the way the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Is moving to a first-world country with the purpose of marriage worth it?From what I understand, this new generation has a mentality that the old can't grasp, which is the feeling of entitlement. (I'm just explaining what I am told not what I can actually figure out.) the young never went hungry, they didn't lose family or friends or war, famine, or disease. My parents were born just post-war Korea, so things like a crate of oranges still bring a smile to their face. But the young kids, their generation's children, can have all they want right now. They want Mr or Ms… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Is moving to a first-world country with the purpose of marriage worth it?I'm from California as well, and you're right. When I married a white man, my relatives were shocked that my "successful" parents would be "okay" with it. But they always told us when we were young to a marry someone we love and that we can be partners with. Even though they might have liked if we married a Korean man, my mom was the first to admit that something kind of went wrong in the new generation and that our (my and my sister's) generation of Korean men would not be a good fit for us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Is moving to a first-world country with the purpose of marriage worth it?I would not set your hopes on marrying a Korean man. I am Korean (American) and I'm going to warn you, this will sound awful, but Korean men very rarely marry a non-Korean. I had non-Korean friends go teaching in Korea and talk about the guys they date and the attention. But the moment they ask about seeing their home or meeting parents, they are gone. The unspoken rule is that Korean men can date anyone, but don't marry a girl unless she will carry on your family's name and bloodline in a way t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Very tidy woman dating man who is not...needs help!A lot of people become resentful. But RPW mindset tends to be thinking about "this is not for him, this is for us". He does his part by keeping a roof over your head, warm and safe. But you need to do your part by making it a home. I always put it as, "he provides the house, you provide the home." I was in a similar place with my husband, before we married. I was very tight on money so I just felt the need to "earn my keep". But now I'm working full time and we had to level things out a bit more… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Very tidy woman dating man who is not...needs help!"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." I think you already explained it here. He grew up in a household where his father dominated, meaning he most likely saw his mom handle all of that. Sure, he helped out, but there was a clear division and not "50/50". Maybe Dad handled the outdoor stuff, or he hired someone to do it. Mom probably handled the stuff inside. It's pretty standard. Are you living in his house for free? Are you paying him rent? I know you "officially" … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/16 06:05 AM |
| 2 | Keeping your relationship privateAbsolutely. It's one of the main reasons I have trouble bonding with non-RPW. They tend to turn every conversation into, "you don't believe what he did today...." and then continue to humiliate and belittle their partner. I sit there awkwardly and just feel terrible for this man who has put so many aspects of his life aside or on-hold just to make this controlling, bitter woman happy. But, let's put the whole Captain and First Mate standard aside. This is just basic respect for another person, e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 12:37 AM |
| 3 | So you guys are just tradcons, right?my marriage isn't political. Exactly. I 100% agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/16 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Angst Inside About the Future: Tell me about the joining of your SO's family and yoursI gave up my dream wedding, which was basically just parents and us with a parent being an officiant, to make DH's brother happy. DH's brother, who was very, very mean to me in the beginning of our relationship. The same brother whose wedding drained our bank account, and the fact that we didn't pay for more angered him and his wife. The same brother whose wife purposefully ignores me and goes out of her way to make my life more difficult. The same brother with the wife everyone (DH's family) di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Favorite life/motivational/relationship quotes? RP or not"Comparison is the thief of joy." | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 02:13 AM |
| 4 | Opinions on rape/misogynyI agree. Bars are not a place I would consider safe. I don't drink and I don't really think drinking, for anyone, is a good idea. The idea of ingesting a toxin to purposefully alter your mind and perception sounds like a disaster, whether in a bar or in your home. But, you can easily change "bouncers" to "security guards." All of those places have security for when someone starts acting out, behaving belligerently, and threatening the safety of others. Just different barometers of what that migh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 11:38 PM |
| 4 | Opinions on rape/misogynyI agree, it clearly is a "real rape", but yes, the real issue is not even drinking in bars alone. This happens in groups, with your friends. The question for me, at this point in my life, is should we even go drinking out in public? Let's say you were drugged, but avoided being raped thanks to your friends, I'm sure the drugging itself was distressing and life-threatening enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 08:23 PM |
| 9 | Opinions on rape/misogynyDrinking in excess This is often one I heard or read in court transcripts. "She must have drunk too much" is typically what the defense likes to say in response to a rape claim. But back in my undergraduate studies, my college town had an outbreak of drinks being spiked by drugs. My roommate in my junior year, a beautiful exchange student from Spain, came back after just being gone one or two hours with her friends. She was slurring, falling over, I asked how many drinks she had and they said sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 07:58 PM |
| 5 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.channel your negative feelings into something productive. Absolutely. I picked up the piano, started mountain biking, learned how to bake, and learned two languages. It's amazing what you can do if you redirect your negativity to fuel something that will better your person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/16 11:52 PM |
| 9 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.You're bitter because you think you deserve better. You think you deserve what you want. But you need to realize and accept that no one really deserves anything. You only get what you strive for, what you earn, not what you deserve. You have yet to earn it, and instead of being sad and wallowing because of it, take that as a challenge to earn it. Be grateful for what you do have, and stop looking to what your friends have. Focus on your life, and realize that even the most simple things are prec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/16 04:39 PM |
| 9 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.I think you already know why. And just like for the men who complain about women "friendzoning" them, I am sensing the same level of hostility and (if I may say) bitterness. Which we all know is just an incredible turn-off, no matter what gender. If you end up eating 2000 to 2300 calories, then you need to amp up your work outs. I used to be rather heavy, thanks to dealing with weight issues growing up, and once I linked eating a lot to horrendous work-outs, I quickly stopped eating that much. F… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/16 03:35 PM |
| 3 | How profound are politics in your relationship?They're a pretty big deal, due to the nature of my profession. As a lawyer and a "legal scholar" (I always feel weird using that phrase so I need to put it in quotes) I spend a lot of time analyzing different policies and platforms. My husband will ask me for my opinion on promises politicians make, or what may happen to a proposed bill or an up-coming legal case. I will tell him what I think and often he'll make his own opinions from that. We're both fairly liberal, like another user I am RPW b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Do I need to change and how?You'll do great! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Do I need to change and how?I think you'll see there is a change from, "Hi!" to "Hello!" It seems minor, but little sister's say "hi" whereas women say "hello" I don't actually mean older women never say "hi" but rather how it's said. They don't say it high pitched or squeakily. They say it with melody, rolls off the tongue, accompanied by a warm smile (not a cheeky or big grin). First impressions are key, and you'll be surprised how much you can size a person up by how they greet you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 06:34 PM |
| 11 | Do I need to change and how?So, I come from a family where the women are all 5'4" or shorter (I am the sole exception, no joke). I have relatives that are 4'11" and they look very young. Every one of them has this presence. Fiery, if you will, personalities. They are sweet and gentle as can be, but they are unafraid and in charge. Did you ever hear of the quote, "thou [she] be little, so is fierce"? As for being "repulsive", I think (coupled with your size and appearance) you just seem overly childish. You can change that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 05:32 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Yes, especially in situations where we are discussing something passionate. He will look like an idiot (and i will feel like he is one) if we're discussing something with other people, some big political issue, and he goes, "who cares, i mean, it's all rigged, right?" I can't handle that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Setting Boundaries With Guys You LikeLove comes in a lot of forms. Not all of it needs to be overtly romantic or physical. Whether it's tidying up his room, and leaving behind that homey, well-cared for feeling. Making his favorite meal for dinner. Sometimes, the most loving things are the smallest gestures, that may have nothing to do with physical proximity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 07:48 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Old deal breakers: Loves to watch sports Can't play a musical instrument Only speaks one language Shorter than 6' No college degree or just a BA/BS. Current deal breakers (not that it counts, anymore!): Temper Apathetic Rude to service people Smoking Excessive alcohol use Picky eater I think my old dealbreakers were very telling of my immaturity. My logic was that I play three instruments (and getting ready to learn another one), can speak/understand 4 languages at various degrees of fluency, wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:56 PM |
| 2 | May I please have some help? I'm pretty upset.I can understand having baggage from previous relationships. But if you want this to work out, you need to ditch them at the door. You have to pretty much give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves otherwise. Trust him. It will go against your instincts and you may feel like an idiot. But trust is a huge part of a good relationship. When I was dealing with this, with my husband, I would honestly tell him, "I'm sorry if I'm nagging. I really don't want to..." and I would explain to him wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/16 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Outsider questions - marriage?A woman that is able to provide money to the household is in most countries a necessity nowadays. This is only a necessity due to difficult times/circumstances. Look at other countries around the world (ex: not US or "modern" country) and indeed, a woman working is the reason for survival. But that's why they're working: to survive. For them, it's not a question of personal achievement or success, it's about making sure their children don't starve. In "most" of those countries, it's not like "Se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/16 04:25 PM |
| 8 | May I please have some help? I'm pretty upset.I think it's important to keep in mind that a long-lasting relationship cannot be one that keeps score. You're keeping track that you got him this, and he didn't get you that. That you want this time, or just whatever you gave him. Remember this: expectations ruin relationships. You keep thinking "Oh i'm doing something super sweet!" and then expect something. Something truly sweet and loving comes without expectation for return. I'm not saying that this is easy to do. It's incredibly hard to do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/16 01:51 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend might be going to jailI'm going to tell you right now that 3 to 10 years is a heavy, heavy penalty. He did way more than trade a few stocks or whatever he is being casual about. He's going to go prison and his response is "you wouldn't get it" so he isn't going to bother to explain it to you. Great. What a winner. I'm sorry if I'm being unnecessarily harsh but you are 20 years old, please don't throw your life away from someone who probably idolizes Patrick Bateman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/16 07:50 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend might be going to jailIf her husband did break a banking law and is looking at 3 to 10 years, then imagine what possible crime he committed. It has to be something pretty big, so big to the point that when he gets back out no other finance company would ever touch him when he gets out. He'll never get a job in finance again. Most people who commit financial fraud face probation or time-served, something like that. But if he is actually facing time.... that's a different story. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/16 01:52 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend might be going to jailYou're young, only 20, and you have your entire life ahead of you. He's 27, he went to an "Ivy League school" and is a "trader". But that doesn't matter if you have a criminal record. Especially if he committed some type of financial fraud. He needs to tell you WHY he's going to "jail." (PS: There is a difference between going to jail and going to prison, federal or state, and you need to know which one it is to have a better grasp on the situation.) If my husband told me he's going to jail, you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/16 04:18 PM |
| 5 | Never developing feelingsI think it has a lot to do with our personalities. The other men I met put me on this ivory tower, as if I could do no wrong. While my husband has always and is always a gentleman, he always treated me like an equal. That I am not better than him nor is he better than me. He has this protective streak, but he doesn't let his desire to take care of me make me feel infantile. While he likes to indulge me, he never forgets his own needs first. It is so incredibly important that you take care of you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/16 01:10 PM |
| 10 | Never developing feelingsTo be honest, I was this way for about 9 years until I met my husband. I would go on dates with men who wanted to marry me, offered to provide, and one even tried to propose when I broke up with him. I dated about 5 times during those 9 years, until I finally gave up and waited from age 24 to 26 to just focus on myself. From about 17 to 26, I found myself unable to form any attachment. I honestly thought that love and marriage were not going to be an option for me. I just could not form any atta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/16 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Gratituesday1) I am so grateful that my SO helps me stretch and massage my legs every night, because my body is starting to fight me. I always tell him to stop and that I'll be okay, but he insists because he doesn't want to see me in pain. 2) I am grateful that he hurries back home after work, so he can pick me up on the way home from my second job. He puts my cart full of supplies into the car and asks me how teaching went! 3) I am so grateful for our families, especially our parents, who have shown us no… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/10/16 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Serious LTR-seeker's notebook: Reasons I'd reject your dating site profile.I have to add that if you are using a website that asks questions (like OkCupid) then make sure your answers are consistent. I saw this way too often. Things like: "I am a virgin" and then later answer "I already have a child and I don't want more". If you adopted this child or raising it for a relative, then clarify. Also, if you put "I don't believe in abortion/birth control" and then say "I am looking for casual sex" then it WILL make men run away. Believe what you want to believe in, but rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 03:23 AM |
| 7 | Need help with my hairI absolutely agree with this comment. Your boyfriend may admire blondes, but he still chose to be with a brunette. It seems like being a brunette isn't going to be a dealbreaker. That being said, I suggest you try an apple cider wash and baking soda shampoo for a while. It will heal your hair, and if you use a bit more apple cider than recommended, it can slowly give you lighter hair. Very gently, no bleaching. If you go for another bleaching, it seems like your hair will just start breaking off… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/16 07:12 PM |
| 0 | I Think I Dress Too ConservativelyI think there is a huge difference between a man wanting a woman who is appreciated for her beauty, compared to Helen of Troy. They want a woman who men can agree are beautiful, but they don't want a face that launched a thousand ships. Big difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/16 03:52 PM |
| 9 | I Think I Dress Too ConservativelyI kind of have the same problem as you. No matter what I wear, it suddenly becomes "too sexy." I was forbidden to wear normal blouses and shirts around my male relatives, because it's "distracting." (In retrospect I understand but it gives me the creeps, tbh.) My curves eventually stopped growing, as did my legs, but there was nothing I could do. Wearing baggy clothes make you look mannish, frumpy, and like you don't care. But wearing fitted clothes are suddenly too sexual and suggestive, simply… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/16 06:20 AM |
| 10 | What extreme opinions do you have that many don't?Exactly! You're making the child suffer. You can't give birth to a child and then say that being gone working all the time is to help the child. No, the kid doesn't understand that. They only understand that you aren't around and that you won't spend time with them. The kid doesn't understand finances and money. The child didn't ask for you to go out and work all the time. You chose to bring them into the world, then you better learn how to see it through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/16 12:59 AM |
| 16 | What extreme opinions do you have that many don't?I agree with another user: if you are just going to dump your kids in daycare/nanny or have your parents raise them, then you shouldn't be having children. Your parents already raised their kids, so they deserve to be grandparents now. Don't make them go through all of that again; it's just selfish on your part. I think women who brag about their SO's cooking and cleaning for them should be ashamed. Especially if their SO also works, or even the main breadwinner. Bragging about how you don't hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/16 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Are my standards too unrealistic/controlling?I think the issue here is more that he is talking to ex-gf's, less that they're his friends. In a way, yes, I think it's pretty controlling to make your SO (who wants to have and spend time with female friends) not spend time or have female friends. It's fine if he shares the same view as you, but to essentially force him to have the same view is too controlling. If a woman had a male SO and he forbade all male friendships, then it would raise a few eyebrows, even amongst us RPW. If your SO isn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/16 04:53 PM |
| 2 | 'A revolution on the marriage market'I think our point of disagreement is whether the IQ score means anything. I have an IQ of 144 and I know people who are definitely "smarter" than me, but without a high IQ. If anything, from what I've seen in academia and learned through my own testing for IQ, EQ is far more indicative of life success overall. Especially for success in relating to other people. Also high IQ does not automatically mean that the person has a high EQ. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/16 06:57 PM |
| 2 | 'A revolution on the marriage market'It's when she either educates herself in absurdum in feminism or other bullshit. Then she doesn't realize that the result of her education is her head filled with bullshit and black hole of student debt in her pockets. That's when she has a degree in bullshit, looks down on men in overalls, men in the trades, and every guy with a brain in something valuable knows that she is a lemon. I absolutely agree with this one. I have seen this over and over again with friends who have degrees for things I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/16 02:13 PM |
| 3 | 'A revolution on the marriage market'Yes, I never really bought the concept that education is not appealing or lowers a woman's SMV. It is something I have never, ever come across in dating or relationships. In fact, they find it appealing. I met a lot of women who have PhD's or JD's and their husbands, who are extremely successful and confident, LOVE that. They love that their wife is beautiful, charming, talented, smart, and educated. My cousin went to Yale and that tends to be the first thing her husband mentions. She doesn't do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/16 06:56 AM |
| 1 | What is your 'goal' life like?I would love to be a SAHM. Ideally I can have a part-time job, and work from home (a lot like now!). Once the kids are in high school, I'd like to start working as an adjunct professor at a local college/university (community college would be great too). When they head to school or leave the home, I'd like to teach more and travel with the Husband! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/16 01:45 PM |
| 10 | Women are now marrying themselvesI can sort of understand this logic. Definitely loving, bettering, and believing in yourself is key. But, the reality is.... no one wants to be alone forever. Putting gender aside, humans are not really equipped to be alone. If you have a loving relationship of some kind (platonic or romantic), you will live longer. Feeling accepted helps us deal with anxiety, depression, and sleeplessness. No man or woman ever wants to spend the rest of their life alone. I have so many friends who will joke and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/16 09:04 PM |
| 4 | Should I Stay or Should I Go?I honestly think that it depends on the person who needs to make that decision. It is so unbelievably easy to tell them, "I wouldn't leave if I were you." But the reality is, you are not in their position and you also do not have the same temperament and personality as they do. It is always up to you. No one has the right to watch you and judge you. They can have their opinions, they can even voice them. But you can't let their opinion on the matter dictate your life. If you can't handle it, if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/16 11:47 PM |
| 13 | What do you wish you had known before you ever started dating? Advice for a high school freshman.Don't start dating just because your friends or the popular girls are dating. Don't let them shame you for not kissing a boy or for being a virgin. Essentially, don't give into peer pressure. Whatever value she has as a person is what she gives herself. She should take her this time of growth to better herself, or at least lay the foundation for her to be an amazing person. TL;DR: encourage her to shape herself as a person and don't stress or focus on dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/16 11:33 PM |
| 2 | RPW professionsI have a law degree (with philosophy undergraduate degree) and work as a legal researcher, editor, and writer. I get to work remotely and take care of all meetings and conferences over email or the phone. It's perfect for me! I get to stay home and keep things up, but I also get to have a job that engages my mind and keeps me sharp. I also have a lot of time to edit and work on my publications, as well as make dinner and spend time with SO when he comes home! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/16 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysSO and I are moving to a new apartment on Sunday AND prepping for our wedding in two weeks, so trying not to buy too much food right now! It's forced me to get a little creative! Today I made a thai yellow seafood curry that I put over noodles with a softboiled egg. I also made some tamagoyaki (Japanese style scrambled eggs) to put in his lunch box over rice. Currently trying to get through the frozen foods, so cooked the last of the frozen seafood, need to make more salmon, and whatever else is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 02:06 AM |
| 1 | RPW Thoughts After Recent Visit to JapanI'm Korean American as well. I can see the trend you're talking about in a lot of families I have met. But my parents definitely did not take that route. My dad is undoubtedly the head of the household, but my mom is definitely his closest advisor. I think the Korean tenacity comes off as a bad temper. I was always taught about "han" or that dogged, unrelenting spirit that refuses to give up. After occupation by the Japanese, then by the Chinese/Russians/Americans, they are always ready to stand… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/16 09:03 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with jealousyIf I may ask, are you Asian yourself? I am Asian as well, so I know where a lot of these feelings may be coming from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/16 10:19 PM |
| 4 | An Academic RP Relationship - how to behave in intellectual discussion?I think if he is going to ask for your opinion on something academic, he needs to shift and realize that you're not being his SO/partner, you are being a peer. If he can't make this difference, then you can never really discuss his life in academia. It would be hurtful to the relationship if you critiqued him as his partner. I've seen a lot of academic couples and they go between peers to partners. It's not easy, and most of them just choose to not discuss work at all. It'll be harder for him be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/16 06:29 PM |
| 3 | I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?If you tell this person to leave you alone and they refuse, then you need to look into talking to your local authority and tell them how much this person is affecting your everyday life. I'm sure you already know this, but because they make you so furious, they are always with you. I don't know what they did, and if it was very bad then talk to the police or someone you trust. But if you cling onto something they did years ago that hurt you, in the end they're winning and that hurt will keep goi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 05:00 PM |
| 1 | I want to incorporate some of the ideas I've read about here, but I am also convinced that my cognitive abilities outpace those of DH.If both people are both doing the same job, one of them is redundant. Exactly. I always learned that marriage is about dividing and conquering tasks. Not one cleaning up after the other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 04:51 PM |
| 3 | I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?My attitude towards anger, directed at anyone, is the same. What is the point of being furious and rage at someone? Did they learn anything, except that you have a temper? Did it solve the problem, or did you just get to vent? What it did is most likely shut that person off from ever communicating with you in a clear and calm manner. So the chance of you getting mad at this person again? High. People don't like to be treated angrily or roughly, in general, so when they are approached with aggres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 04:46 PM |
| 4 | I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?Well, I think that is why RPW and TRP aren't always exactly on the same page. I don't think any of us are willing to listen to a guy spew hate towards us about how our gender is the reason their lives are miserable. My SO is what the RPW considers to be RP, but he finds TRP as a group to be horrifying. Definitely separating RPW and TRP is key to understanding where we're coming from, I think. Also, I don't think we're expected to be more yielding than our mother's generation. At least, when talk… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 04:37 PM |
| 11 | I want to incorporate some of the ideas I've read about here, but I am also convinced that my cognitive abilities outpace those of DH.My father is also an attorney (as am I) so I actually know what you mean. They are smart. Very smart (if I do say so myself!). But sometimes, often for men, they struggle to handle the details of the day-to-day. My dad is the smartest one in our family, but we do almost everything for him. That's because his brain is grappling the bigger picture about multi-million dollar transactions, and not about a pipe broken in the house or some bill that needs to be paid. When my mom used to approach him a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 01:51 PM |
| 8 | I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?I absolutely get that. My sister is the epitome of someone who is overly aggressive and she has a TERRIBLE time with it. She got married but he is very passive and they apparently have big fights. To her, and so many others, to be in a supporting role just seems beneath the leader. But the reality is that a leader is only as good as those who help them. If they have no one to aid them in their dreams, then nothing will get done. In my opinion, a good RPW relationship is when we help our SO's go … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 01:33 AM |
| 16 | I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?I'm sorry it's been tough! I have some friends who think I'm crazy for doing so much around the house; they constantly harp on things being "equal" between me and my SO. But it is equal. I think one of the biggest misconceptions, at least from my view of RPW, is that we ARE equals. I always explain it as that men and women stand on separate pillars. They are the same in height, strength, and both are equally necessary. But they are not identical. In fact, there are big differences. But these dif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/16 09:50 PM |
| 5 | I need advice -Captain figured out he may have an infant child with a one night standThe courts call it "contempt of court" because you aren't following the order to pay child support. We are fully aware of how backwards and stupid this is, especially given the economy and that it may mean a lot of men may need to have an hour or more commute just to get to work. Example 1 Example 2 Example 3 It's awful. There needs to be a way to fix this, but the legal system is unable to stretch between such extremes. A father who earnestly wants to pay child support but has lost his job and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/16 04:22 PM |
| 9 | I need advice -Captain figured out he may have an infant child with a one night standThis is a pretty accurate description. In general, the courts HATE it when a guy bails out on child support. Your husband needs to find a lawyer to basically advocate that he did not even know this child existed because it was a one night stand. If he knew, then he would have been there but he was only recently informed. This can help him look more favorable and they may not take such a large amount for "back pay" child support. They can take it straight from his paycheck (depending on the juris… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/16 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Meal MondaysMade about 100 pork dumplings and 100 shrimp dumplings to freeze, eat, and share with my SO's family. Like potstickers. I also made cioppino tonight for a special dinner for our vacation. It went well! Scallops, shrimp, mussels, calamari, and red snapper. We're giving some to his dad tomorrow (his dad lives alone). Not sure what else this week. I think we are going to eat a lot of dumplings..... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/16 04:21 AM |
| 4 | Can we talk about prenups?Yes, this is absolutely true. I am a lawyer, and there are many cases when a pre-nup is thrown out the window. I can go on about this, because it is extremely interesting. But, I only wanted to add that during law school, the course on community property was almost 85% focused on attorney-client relations. The law is relatively easy to learn, compared to other subjects. But what is hard is how to counsel your client about getting a pre-nup, custody, and divorce. What we all learned to say is, "N… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/16 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysI'm having my future sister-in-law and her family over (they're visiting from far away) and I'm making a complete Korean BBQ dinner. All from scratch! It'll be very exciting. I made some homemade dumplings/potstickers/etc (I don't know if there is a difference between them in English!), some kalbi, and will make some spicy noodles and chive pancake. I've never made dumplings on my own before, so it should be pretty exciting to see if they turn out well! So far, so good! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/16 10:29 PM |
| 3 | SO's lady-friends do not like meSometimes being a "beauty" doesn't matter if your face is lined with bitterness. I was going to post about them being jealous, but rproller nailed it perfectly. Also, since I am going through a similar thing, it isn't even if they fancy your SO. Sometimes they will just go, "Her? But I'm right here and I'm way better than her..." and just try to tear you down. It's not about actually having him, but about being enough to have him. Have you ever seen a woman try to hook a guy just to see if she c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 11:43 PM |
| 4 | DATING STORIES! The good and the bad; the strange and the scary. [Fun!]We were talking about our childhoods. I told him about our family trips, and his eyes narrowed and he immediately asked what my dad did for a living. I told him. Then he told me his dad was a convicted felon and was gone all of his life. My dad's profession tends to be associated with wealth. It went downhill from there. I didn't react poorly to hearing about his dad. But I think at that point, no matter how I acted it would have gone very, very poorly. EDIT: If I recall correctly, he did say, "… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/16 08:43 PM |
| 2 | DATING STORIES! The good and the bad; the strange and the scary. [Fun!]The Good With my fiancé. We watched a movie and talked for hours. We went to eat Chinese food nearby, and he insisted on getting these spicy noodles. I warned him they would be very spicy, but he promised m he could eat it. It resulted in him turning red, sweating, and then becoming gassy for the rest of the night. It was love! The Bad I met a guy who seemed great, until he realized that my family is wealthy. He had a very big chip on his shoulder and began to take any chance to make fun of me a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/16 05:51 PM |
| 6 | RE: How to be a good first mate.In my experience, it's a lot about trust. Like VR said, you prequalified your captain because you made sure that his leadership was something you can be happy and work well with. So you have to trust that he'll make the right choices, not just for himself but for you both. And, as said earlier, if he is a good Captain then he will know what he can or can't do. I used to ride horses so I know what you're talking about the level of danger if he doesn't listen to you. A good captain will know that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/16 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Hobbies are enrichingOh I think a lot of people do! And I do, to an extent. I can understand her logic, since my Dad cannot cook at all (his first attempt was his last after one of us threw up after eating it) ALL of the cooking was on her. Now that I can cook as well, she lets me and is often relieved she doesn't have to anymore. Cooking can be an amazing outlet, and I can definitely agree it is something I enjoy to do. But you struck a key difference between "cooking" and "creating". One simply feeds your body, th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/16 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Hobbies are enrichingYeah, it sounds strange but the logic is that baking isn't exactly necessary. For her, baking is sweet things, pastries, cakes, etc. She never needed to eat those so she never made them. To her, my love of baking is wasteful (but she's glad I enjoy it). From how my parents grew up, they tend to be pragmatist, to the extreme. Edit: Further example is if I call home and talk to her, she rarely wants to talk about new things I cook because it's a very mundane aspect of life (and she cooks some real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/16 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Hobbies are enrichingHobbies include baking, yoga, reading (mainly non-fiction), piano, and ukulele. My mom played piano when we (my siblings and I) were growing up. She signed all of us up for lessons but it only stuck with me. I was most proficient so she ran with it. I still like to play, and my SO got me a digital piano (a keyboard) for Christmas. He knew I was saving for one and would ask me innocuous questions about what I would like. I also picked up the ukulele in law school and he got me a tenor ukulele to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/16 12:10 AM |
| 14 | The meaning of morality for womenAs a former student of philosophy, I believe that any moral obligations an individual has rises out of whatever is in their capabilities. You cannot expect a starving person to have the moral burden of feeding others. In the case of women, I think we have our limits (just as men have their limits) and we have our strengths. In my eyes, a woman who is a wife and a mother has the moral obligation to build up her family and not tear it down. She must honor her family name (this view comes from my A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/16 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysIt's one that I made up! 1 lb of crab meat 3/4 cup of panko bread crumbs 1 whole corn with kernels cut off 1/3 cup of honey mustard (homemade with mayo, whole grain mustard, and honey) 1 egg 1 tsp of chives 1 tsp of parsley 1/2 tsp of hungarian paprika. 1/4 cup of flour, if too watery. mold it into thick, small patties. coat them in cornstarch and fry them on both sides to create a golden crust. then put in the oven at 400 degrees for 10 minutes. Done! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/16 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Meal MondaysJust made crab cake sandwiches on Kaiser roll for lunch! Over the week I plan on making a southern style chicken fried sandwich, plenty of salmon (in a variety of ways), and some pasta. I just made some pickled daikon radish for the week. Fiancé loves it and likes it with rice, soft boiled egg, and a piece of fish. It's a great meal to put together quickly and it's very tasty! He's been coming home for lunch for the past week and this week, so I get to make a really special lunch! It's been such… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/16 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Delicious Tofu Stir Fry - A Must Try!Good recipe! I would recommend that you would not use sesame oil to fry/cook foods. It tends to be overpowering and can burn easily if you are not careful. It also is not always a flavor people like. When it is all done, you can add just a touch of sesame oil and toss the veggies/tofu (like in the pan, just make sure the heat is off). I taught this to my future brother-in-law, if you take a bite of food, keep your mouth closed and then exhale through your nose, you should not be able to "taste" … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/16 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Beginner's Guide to Cleaning RoutinesAn amazing list! I am now completely thankful that we have a pretty small apartment. I just wanted to throw my tip in here: using white vinegar (which is about $3.50 to $5.00 a gallon) to clean things from windows to counters can save money as well as make sure little hands and paws don't get sick from cleaners. We don't have children or pets, but I am sensitive to cleaners like Windex and 409 (I get headaches and/or allergic reactions). Effective Against Bacteria and Different Ways to Use It | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/16 04:47 AM |
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