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Tips on how to “have fun” on dates?
/r/seduction12/05/24 08:33 AM
2

What makes you think he has money
/r/seduction07/02/24 02:20 PM
2

Enough times that it’s been a recurring point that sticks out about them
/r/seduction10/07/23 11:00 PM
74

Lol Europeans often complain about Americans referring to Europe as a country but often when you ask them what their country is they just say “Europe”
/r/seduction10/07/23 12:24 PM
7

White? The saying is tall, dark, and handsome not tall, pale and handsome you self-loathing moron.
/r/seduction31/10/22 02:18 AM
1

Can dogs tell the difference between ugly and pretty people?
/r/seduction29/09/22 02:22 AM
4

Social skill gives you status
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:00 PM
1

Ppl can slip up on lies easily given time and also she might delve further and ask about details about his previous experiences down the track at different times, and certain details might not match each time so she might catch on
/r/seduction28/08/22 03:13 PM
105

Agreed on the fact he won't care and he might even get an ego boost out of it, but yea, can't just block and delete a fiance a lot of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:05 AM
59

Or just stare blankly past their soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:49 AM
10

Sounds like it unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:14 PM
28

It sounds a bit all up in the air then. I can see myself sailing through life never meeting someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:56 AM
29

Yea like why are they automatically thinking to defend the other side rather than believe and provide validity to the person they know best?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 04:37 AM
1

Yeah I've dealt with a communist (extreme left wing) guy and it's exhausting too, though it's better than a conservative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 02:04 AM
9

Do you live in a place with a relatively high proportion of blondes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:56 PM
30

Any link for that video?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 08:46 AM
18

Avoid that trail and go to a different one. Since the trail is close to your place, set up security camera/s at your place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:10 AM
21

For number 1, what if they don't reply within 10 mins? Wouldn't it lead to texting once a day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 06:35 AM
63

Yea my mom was a SAHM and it looks depressing and boring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:08 AM
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Why Harley davidson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:22 AM
10

I had a guy want to come in and meet my parents at the end of the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:29 AM
3

Trueee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 11:04 PM
13

I've had a similar guy be so lazy to cheat. He even told me he'd allow me to cheat but it just made me feel worse knowing he didn't even care enough about the relationship to make me cheating fine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:19 AM
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I've had an NVM ex cry about his ex no longer being in the picture one night. Definite triangulation, and I was too young and naive to see it at the time. I began obsessively looking up her social media to see what she was like and try to fit myself to this ideal. Then when he eventually found out I'd done that and felt like I didn't fit to this ideal he tried to placate me saying that she's no longer the same person as she was back in those days.... Oh he also did the whole lovebombing at the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:15 AM
13

What do you mean by it's a good way to remain unattached to available women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:10 AM
43

Eugh I remember my NVM ex telling me his ex-gf who he idealised was not the same person anymore, she'd become a real adult. This grown man was the epitome of Peter Pan syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:06 AM
32

Yep and then some LVMs will triangulate their new girlfriends with the ex gf by heavily implying she's the one that got away and would've been his first preference, making the new gf feel insecure and like she could never live up to his ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:03 AM
60

And Greek men. So kinda the Mediterranean area
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:18 PM
30

I met a Greek guy just like that oml
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:15 PM
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Tysm! Saved your comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:59 PM
9

What kind of systems and ADHD workarounds do you have in place? I suspect I have ADHD but not on meds/diagnosed, and would like some tips to get through it without medication I totally get where you're coming from as my dad was a narcissistic abuser and would shout at me or condescendingly ask how I would survive in the real world when I would be forgetful or lose one of my/somebody else's belongings. Not helpful at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:28 AM
1

Why firefighters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:30 PM
2

Why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:23 PM
1

Yeah I haven't heard much bad about accountants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:15 PM
1

thoughts on firemen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:54 AM
18

And is it just the security guards at clubs or is it security guards at everywhere e.g. a vaccination centre, shopping centre etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:28 AM
9

Why are chefs lonely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:22 AM
29

Why do security guards tend to flirt so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:21 AM
21

Yea I never got that argument
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:40 PM
30

Women are meant to be dominated! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:32 AM
30

Omg a crossbred of a cane toad and a sewer rat. I can picture a guy I knew who is exactly that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:17 PM
19

Wtf hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:46 PM
119

Omg I skimmed it and read it as 35. 53 is hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:24 PM
37

Yeah I guess I subconsciously just assumed men don't gossip that much, but when my brother became a teenager and started dishing out all the goss that was going on with other guys and telling me how the guys there commonly talk about each other, I was kind of taken aback realising how much guys do in fact gossip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:42 PM
10

Wait you'd live in a separate house/apartment to your husband?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:11 AM
11

Wait why are ADHD meds illegal in Japan?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:24 PM
2

How did you finally confirm he was cheating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:07 PM
21

Yea it's a way they try to make themselves seem desirable. If they knew they were desirable, they wouldn't feel the 'need' to make these comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:18 PM
4

Fuck, this was so true with my NVM ex from years ago. Always the :P emoji
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:10 PM
45

I felt like we were just roommates (despite not living in the same place)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:15 PM
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they are in fact emotionally hurting you and making you feel more lonely for the lack of love felt despite being in a 'relationship'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:13 PM
13

I guess that's what phrase 'super high maintenance' which she used to describe that friend was meant to imply
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:36 PM
13

Oh wow haha guess we can always use your cousin's story and go 'oop I lost my life savings trying to get IVF but it just didn't work'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:11 PM
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If you reveal you can't conceive: 'Don't worry! God will reverse your infertility, with the help of my divine thoughts and prayers' <-- her probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:12 PM
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Hahahah I love this: Inquiring about their inevitably selfish reasons for having kids and then dropping the "oh wow.. sounds kinda self-centred". The turn tables have been turned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:10 PM
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Cause I don't want the a-v rips caused by childbirth, thank you very much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:08 PM
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Just tell them you're infertile and watch their faces drop and be sorry for asking that question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:07 PM
10

Ughhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:44 AM
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Prob gonna be exactly what happens to this woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:00 AM
47

That last paragraph is another reason why you shouldn't feel you need to give a guy reason for rejecting a second date etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:07 AM
13

Removeddit might allow you to read it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:43 AM
51

They should really just date their video game console / TV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:06 AM
54

I definitely relate to that feeling from when I was dating my emotionally unavailable NVM ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:05 AM
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They're not gonna fall for that cause marrying men doesn't provide the health/emotional benefits of marrying and leeching off women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:04 AM
42

This^ Future faking about their lofty life plans they never end up carrying out, just bread-crumbing the women with the possibility that they'll change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:11 AM
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"oof king behavior ngl 👑😏😎 What a guy"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:43 PM
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Me, except I want the 'in a mean way' edition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:18 PM
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Yep and they so often get called simps by other men for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:17 AM
9

Hahah omg the things people don't tell you about pregnancy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:54 AM
85

Yeesh, childfree status cementing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:50 PM
38

What kind of things do people not talk about and you don't find out about until you experience pregnancy/child birth yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:14 PM
3

What investments did you make? That turnover is amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:14 PM
10

very much so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:57 PM
30

I've been noticing a lot of scrotes invading today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:20 PM
9

And also I feel like it will get me judgement from my friends due to the 'polarising' (but real) perspectives of FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:51 AM
18

Omg, the claiming we're ignoring/neglecting them when we go off with friends/family to do something fun, but then once we start spending more time with the guy and somewhat distance ourselves from friends/family, they go on to gradually neglect/withhold affection over time so that we crave their crumbs of attention - textbook behaviour. Exactly what my NVM ex from years ago did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:46 AM
110

Oh god I'm sorry. This is part of why so many women don't go into trades
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:59 AM
138

This would be part of why so many many women get out of big law or even don't go into construction work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:45 AM
3

And then he acted surprised when I went speechless and then hung up on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:48 AM
1

What's the less glamourous vs high end fields of accounting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:09 AM
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The thing is, in their minds, this pushing their children to overachieve and succeed in capitalist terms is their idea of a better life for the kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:48 PM
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Does he pay for her child fees?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:40 PM
9

Yup arrogant types love being professors cause it feeds their narcissistic ego feeling like the all knowing teacher gifting their amazing knowledge to all the young underlings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:39 AM
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Bahaha shiet we're running out of professions for men to date. What even is left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:36 AM
31

I had the creepiest phone call with a real estate agent from bumble. He basically tried to bring up the idea of having casual sex after some brief introductory social pleasantries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:35 AM
27

Any thoughts on accountants?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:37 AM
29

Oh man, for a while I wanted to be a lawyer but just the idea of being around these entitled jackasses for 9-5 (and longer, because overtime is often unavoidable) just sounds so tiring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:35 AM
58

The start up tech guys being hyper capitalist and weirdly libertarian is so real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:32 AM
33

Hahah brown guys who think they're white on the inside just cause they're male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:20 PM
6

But I feel like if I never date, I'll have those 'what if I dated?' feelings later on life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:06 AM
48

So where do we meet men then :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:21 PM
3

What kind of lies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:14 PM
8

Waste of 5 years :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:10 PM
30

How much bigger were they? Always been interested in ancient humans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:35 PM
94

jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe when you're taking your last breath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:09 PM
5

yea stats show that men are less likely to cheat if their income constitutes no more than 70% of total household income. So there is a balance to be met with them earning more but not significantly more to treat women respectfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:15 PM
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Hmm I will look into it. I know this sounds whiny but a lot of activities like hiking and going to restaurants just aren't as fun doing them by yourself. Do you have any recommended activities for self amusement? 1 of them I do enjoy is going to the gym and zoning out with my headphones, but that's quite ordinary
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:35 PM
3

What kind of "more shit IRL" did you start doing?
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:34 PM
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So if your life isn't an awesome party you're meant to delude yourself?
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:32 PM
2

What kind of fake insecurities have you used? I've wanted to use this tactic of putting out fake insecurities to see if someone tries to manipulate you for it later, but I don't know what insecurities to make up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:31 AM
36

Oh so suddenly they're against it when it's affecting themselves. Shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:44 PM
42

If they thought it was empowering and not abusive, they'd be fine with their female family members doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:20 PM
4

Why red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:55 AM
19

Eh it's better to just keep one's car clean and not smelling like food rather than introducing random chemicals/smells for you to breathe in imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:54 AM
5

Studies even show that women experience depression at a rate almost 2x that of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:04 PM
19

The worst is when they're right next to you sleeping like a baby while you're ruminating about how they've mistreated you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:55 AM
6

I think she meant that if one of your friends was browsing on the dating app, they may come across him and tip you off to the fact that he was trying to cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:44 PM
14

What a BABE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:36 PM
5

and then blames the daughter for having daddy issues or single moms for contributing to sons growing up fatherless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:14 PM
5

I haven't ever had to live with a guy yet but honestly thought of doing this. I guess for the time you had to be with him, this was the best route
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:13 PM
32

I'm just trying to imagine how they'd react if we did the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:26 AM
108

Fkn hell the "you worry too much, stop overthinking" when you try to vent yourself. Sociopaths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:13 AM
10

In his eyes you're worse than Hitler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:59 AM
5

yeah phone calls are pretty damn low pressure, the person on the other side can't even see you to judge you on how you're looking
/r/seduction10/05/21 06:11 PM
6

precisely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:44 AM
15

Yep often a tiny fraction but with a big effect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:38 PM
1

What's considered high earning but low social status jobs?
/r/seduction28/04/21 05:24 PM
4

Add the job title to the profile.
/r/seduction28/04/21 05:19 PM
10

wait, how did he find you on reddit from info on a dating app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:13 AM
17

are you talking about removeddit? are there any other sites?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:07 AM
9

"while living in a van" lol love that call out to the previous post about the guy who tried to bring a woman into his van home at the end of their date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:04 AM
9

Yea I personally prefer things like WhatsApp and FB chat where it's easier to tell if someone's ghosting your message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:59 AM
15

I would never be with a guy like this, but fair play, he did explicitly write in his online dating profile that he lives in a van
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:18 PM
6

Just imagine him lecturing his future daughter about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:10 PM
1

What are the joint exercises. And damn, I thought only cardio gave bigger ppl joint issues, not strength training where you're not jumping around everywhere
/r/seduction13/04/21 11:33 AM
20

Holy shit, a recorded and saved voicemail from a man threatening to kill you doesn't count as a threat in the eyes of the law? Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:42 AM
15

Being desperate
/r/seduction06/04/21 02:10 PM
2

Get her to orgasm first before you
/r/seduction06/04/21 05:30 AM
22

This isn't that bad but a guy asked if I had considered getting rid of my moles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:17 AM
6

just think of the grunting as them struggling through constipation and it makes it kind of amusing being around it. I've had to hide a smirk from it before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:44 AM
4

what did he write in the letter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:37 AM
1

yea "don’t judge or criticize other people" goes against the "speak with no filters and offer your honest opinions" tip
/r/seduction22/03/21 07:14 PM
3

This^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:23 AM
1

Or maybe Eugene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:10 AM
24

Yeah even just in the difference in how competitive/violent men are in social soccer (where it hardly matters who wins and its mostly meant to be for fun) versus women's social soccer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:29 AM
43

Yep I can see my brother trying to harrass me and my mum but scared of my other brother and dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:28 AM
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I mean, I don't really see how this hurts me. Just helps me find more content I'm interested in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:36 AM
7

My secret is putting the egg in a sieve first to let the watery part come out first. Creates a nice clump of egg once it's cooked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:35 AM
69

Eh idk if finance bros are that nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:37 AM
4

What's your business
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:23 AM
4

What's wrong with the colour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:42 AM
12

What if they ask what these other reasons were
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:22 AM
16

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:45 PM
5

Same I heard about the rape and incest and was so turned off by the idea I never bothered trying to watch it. Meanwhile it was so popular with people watching it like it was just another show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:11 AM
2

Are they too warm in the summer? Depends where you're from and how intense the summers are there too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:33 PM
2

Watched too much porn, now has to rely on the more extreme stuff to get off
/r/seduction28/02/21 01:34 PM
3

His video games ARE his girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:03 AM
19

Precisely, they think they have a free card to be misogynistic and they RUN with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:49 PM
39

Not surprising from a guy who named himself after the serial killer/cult leader Charles manson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:33 PM
12

Kinda sad but I guess I knew this to be the case. Has to be a reason women are so often much less enthusiastic about the idea of having sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:34 PM
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These are the type of stories that make me never want to have sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:52 AM
8

and then there's men out there that believe society cares more about women. I'm like where??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:55 AM
47

I can imagine if men were the ones to experience periods rather than women, they would see it as a mark of masculinity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:37 AM
5

But if you overdo it you can cause permanent damage to enamel. Which is a risk with over the counter kits that many people use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:43 AM
9

I mean it can open the teeth up to sensitivity so it's not for everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:06 PM
1

Exactly, once I had to cancel same day cause I was actually sick but they just assumed I was lying and not actually interested. A chance lost there
/r/seduction16/01/21 05:01 AM
2

It shows all you like them for is their physical appearance and not whether you would be good match personality wise
/r/seduction19/12/20 03:05 PM
7

Yea I'm surprised this has so many upvotes
/r/seduction12/12/20 09:55 PM
1

this is probably how women feel uncomfy getting looks off guys they have no interest in. can provide some empathy on the female experience
/r/seduction30/11/20 10:23 AM
2

first two could be social anxiety. last one just sounds like a safety concern. so i dont think these necessarily mean you're her "beta orbiter"
/r/seduction24/11/20 05:02 PM
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not every attractive person is getting a partner either. self improvement will always improve your chances of attracting someone though if youre average looking
/r/seduction14/11/20 11:15 PM
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plenty of average looking guys with partners
/r/seduction14/11/20 11:02 PM
1

yeah dont expect to walk in and be swarmed by women
/r/seduction14/11/20 11:02 PM
1

you've probably got decent social skills (which is a part of self improvement for people lacking it)
/r/seduction14/11/20 11:01 PM
8

...so you have anal incontinence Dave? Aww poor thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:25 AM
12

I think men purposefully do 1) with chores to avoid getting out of doing them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:24 AM
5

Imagine being that delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:23 AM
32

Time to uno reverse the "dear" on guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:21 AM
3

Not all communication is flirting
/r/seduction24/10/20 01:17 AM
2

which sport?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:55 PM
75

Oh yea I remember the negs coming from a guy shorter than me. They just want us down on their level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:17 PM
3

It's just a wanting what we can't get thing I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:46 AM
18

It's always the LV men. Just the fact that they don't seem fully interested in a women anymore and then the women get obsessive over them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:04 AM
5

He gives tips on getting ahead in life. This law is from his book 48 laws of power. He also has a book on seduction called the art of seduction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:22 AM
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Robert Greene's law 40: despise the free lunch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:05 PM
13

Omg your gym has a theatre? Also happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:51 AM
35

Yea I once hurt a guy and he was shocked even though he had hurt me before. His reasoning was I was a woman so I was supposed to be more kind and motherly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:23 AM
3

So entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:03 PM
26

Exactly how do more women not see this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:50 PM
132

"now ladies don't fall into simp territory". Uh, if there was such thing as a female simp, she's literally it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:58 PM
6

This is like a combination of two dates I has. One where the guy rested his head on my shoulder then fell asleep during the middle of the movie (I could've totally left in the middle though there weren't such strong red flags yet). The other where I saw the guy talking to a woman on WhatsApp and hardly try to hide it from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:16 AM
6

The guy I was with literally said upon parting I told you at the start I was manipulative. I don't remember him saying that, at least in those words, but if he did say, shows how enamoured I was with his surface charm to ignore that as a quirky joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:51 AM
3

Marriage means shed have to share more of her stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:43 AM
4

I like how you played the dumb fox move and didn't make it seem like you knew what he was trying to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:41 AM
2

How do you split the bill? Both hand over cards or transfer him after?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:19 AM
26

Oo gosh. Did you realise immediately what was going on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:55 AM
2

my dad has provided financial security but is an asshole 50% of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:57 PM
31

That's so scary I'm glad youre away from that man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:30 AM
9

many guys from the indian subcontinent tend to talk like this online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:16 PM
9

Saved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:35 PM
26

Exactly. Just a lesson that you should always be prepared to drop a guy and don't get too emotionally invested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:57 AM
28

I was honestly considering that my ex was a sociopath because of the mask he had at the start where he was so much more caring and attentive. But no that's just male nature for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:31 AM
151

Ooft, she basically doesn't even consider him as a proper parent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:27 PM
9

I love it too. I feel satisfied when I'm taller or the same height as guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:27 AM
42

Omg yeah with their lack of empathy and emotional availability they really be feeling like a fake human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:59 AM
51

Wow he cooked dinner once?! :O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:35 AM
3

Sorry man I had to
/r/seduction22/08/20 12:54 PM
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Oily, combination, dry or normal skin type?
/r/seduction22/08/20 05:22 AM
36

"Don't worry, honestly you're safe". I think he was suggesting that Louis was gay, as he often insinuated on the X Factor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:57 AM
6

It's amazing how they can turn the emotional availability on and off like a switch, once they know they've got you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:17 AM
18

I've just noticed a trend that those guys who ask are usually looking more for a casual arrangement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:50 AM
39

Basically he wanted a fwb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:44 PM
10

True I remember him bragging about his iq result. He definitely seems the type to just assume he's above everyone in intelligence and noone would catch onto his lies which take half a brain to piece together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:31 PM
27

It's crazy how obvious the contradictions are. You'd think if they're going to make such blaring lies about themself to someone they're trying to impress, they'd at least keep track of the lies so they don't come across as the pathological liars they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:07 PM
76

Yep, which is why writing "no hookups" on your profile isn't all that useful. Also, anytime a guy asks me what I'm looking for on a dating app is a red flag that hes not looking for a relationship, like both our profiles say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:04 PM
170

Problem with asking "what are your intentions" is that they're often not honest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:16 PM
15

Sure they "love" you, but they love you as an object they can control like someone might love their bicycle. They don't love you as a separate person with individual wishes and desires
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:27 AM
2

No idea why this is getting downvoted. You can't just go after the guys who tell you they are "explicitly looking for a long-term relationship" and expect that to be the truth. Many of those who are just looking for a hookup will pretend they're looking for a relationship to get the hookup. It's down to luck alot of the time as to whether you're getting a genuine person
/r/seduction16/08/20 08:46 AM
18

Literally no self awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:26 AM
4

So true. If a guy ever pulls something like this on me I'll be telling him to have some self control. Cause that's what it is - they're allowing their dicks to control their brains and how they interact with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:25 AM
3

What tricks does he do to try and make you jealous and how do you respond ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:21 AM
3

Yeah I like to go for drives and to get food by myself since I have noone to go with. Went to a food truck the other night by myself. Was a little bit awkward being probably one of the only ones by myself but I'd been there before with my family so it wasn't too bad cause I knew the set up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:26 AM
7

Just admitting you're a manipulative liar. The fact this is a meme shows it's something many men do. We really don't know who we're talking to when we enter the dating world, alot of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:11 AM
16

Yeah sounds like this is what's really required and good on you for setting that boundary and being prepared to walk despite his badgering for a quickie which would only serve his interests
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:12 AM
15

I agree in principle but kinda sucks to have to chuck away a man after 3 months of vetting to get in bed with them :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:08 AM
33

What's the solution ? Anyone had luck "training" (for lack of a better word) a guy to do the right thing to get our fair share of enjoyment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:40 AM
51

I never have and i have no desire to now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:39 AM
12

Being manipulative is so much easier when the other person is an open book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:44 AM
35

Oopsie it just connected up to my facebook, which I just entered a random birth date for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:28 AM
13

Do you ladies ask for surname before meeting a guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:12 PM
31

I'm a woman, I've gotta second Prada black. Its simple but I loved it when I smelt it on a guy on a date
/r/seduction29/07/20 05:50 PM
122

And the more you explain, the more they probably get an ego boost out of how much you care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:01 PM
8

Yea don't fall for those dinner invites. You've got the power over him now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:07 AM
6

I had some guy tell me how I'd be so glad when I was 30 that I didn't get into casual sex. He said there were women out their bragging about getting into threesomes on the dating apps - yeah, I highly doubt that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:56 AM
27

Say youre on the first date and at the end of it, he goes to kiss you. How do you elegantly reject the kiss? Also, on the second, how do you keep the kiss closed mouth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:55 PM
1

Hahah look at her latest post. She did exactly this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:00 PM
2

I think this is the solution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:54 AM
12

It's like it's a game to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:57 PM
128

It's kinda annoying you have to play games like this. What if you start interacting a lot with them again and then they get used to you and withdraw once again
/r/seduction23/07/20 06:32 PM
16

Holy shit, this guy had an Asperger's diagnosis and I was honestly considering whether they'd got that wrong and should've been a sociopath diagnosis because he was great at figuring out my emotions and manipulating me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:52 PM
54

Stick to lunch dates and there won't be that expectation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:37 PM
319

Once I copy pasted a hurtful message a guy had previously sent me a few days later and he was like don't show me that, I dont want to see myself speaking to you that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:37 PM
10

I've had this happen to me with two guys. The audacity honestly..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:33 AM
49

Yep and it's only socially acceptable to be angry when you're a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:25 AM
10

Can't tell if this is real or satire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:19 AM
122

Oh fuck, that just took any desire for male attention / a relationship out of me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:42 AM
4

Fuck that's true. One guy made fun of my hair and of me being shy on my date and he had something about banter on his profile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:21 AM
8

🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:56 AM
12

"dominant in the bedroom" - a pushover everywhere else in life Hahah FK so truee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:55 AM
9

He's probably just so used to it he doesn't notice the itch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:14 AM
19

Hahahah yea surprised she didn't notice in the gf/bf stage. Oh dw he probs covered it all up with a bit of lynx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:13 AM
9

Maybe you need a rebound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:55 AM
10

Same. Makes me feel like I need to find a rebound to get rid of those recurring thoughts about him. But coronas put a halt on dating new people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:29 PM
11

Oh man these types are so tedious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:27 PM
21

Yea one guy literally admitted that an ex of his dumped him because she thought he was bulshitting her alot. This was after I noticed a lot of suspected small lies, so that just confirmed what i thought. It's amazing what they'll give away sometimes if you appear non judgmental
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:38 AM
105

They make you feel absolutely crazy, n like you're asking too much for some simple empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:37 AM
3

First one so much. My mum basically has no interests but attempting to live vicariously through her kids' life choices
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:32 PM
6

It's amazing and infuriating how much the same stories seem to come up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:12 PM
10

Fuck me This reminds me of the time before I dumped my bf when he told me that he'd told me before that he was able to be quite manipulative of other people. I took the admission to mean he admits his faults but he'd never do the same to me. Then when I'm complaining about his manipulation he takes it on him to remind me that he'd told me before he was like that. Yea sure, maybe early in the relationship during the honeymoon period when all his lovebombing was shining over everything. If they te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:10 PM
24

Following cause same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:05 PM
2

How do you play dumb about the idea of sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:59 AM
5

Exactly you can't trust anyone. They're always painting the portrait of themselves that they think the other person likes, and if that involves totally fabricating lies, for them it doesn't really matter - so be it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:39 AM
15

Yea and since they act like they like you so much at the start, you keep thinking that time will come back - but nope. Might just get breadcrumbs of attention here and there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:56 PM
14

Saaame. But you can only believe it so many times until you just cut them off. Knowing everything they promise is BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:53 AM
31

Omg this. when they tell you you're not like other women when they've barely gotten to know you. It's like they enjoy deluding themselves into whatever fantasy of you they have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:53 PM
3

Hahahah same happened with me. I was same or slightly taller wearing a 1 inch heeled boot and he was supposed to be 3 inches taller (5'10"). Idk where they're getting their faulty measuring tapes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:13 AM
2

Oh damn maybe if the personality was good and he had some ambition that could've made up for the catfishing. But no.. that sounds like a cringefest, im sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:07 AM
2

Oh damn so wasn't really chemistry?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:49 AM
5

Yea I think at least video call should be required if that's gonna happen to get the vibes better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:25 PM
26

Exactly, so much time can be wasted on endless back and forth texting and it's not even really gonna be a good representation of their actual personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:54 AM
2

Good reason to question them all the more why they think they are owed / deserve access to my body without my enthusiastic permission. They won't be able to word their response without some shitty excuse so it'll make them look bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:54 AM
1

The habitual liars - it's confusing whether they think you're just too dumb to catch on. But then there's just so many lies, clearly people will catch on. I don't get how they seem to think they're getting away with it when it's so obvious when you piece a few things together (and maybe do a little online stalking)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:52 PM
3

Why do guys get so offended / angry by rejections. Knew of a guy who would get mad if a girl didn't kiss him on the first date. He was Greek, the type of culture where kissing's kinda no big deal and you do it to your nephews and mum without a thought, but still...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:04 PM
36

What do you do for a living? Sorry if too nosy I'm just always curious what people do for work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:54 PM
29

Exactly it's hard as shit to get into medical school. He's acting like you can just pay to get in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:52 PM
20

Eugh used to be like this with my ex and his tv. I joked he loved his tv more than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:15 AM
8

Never tell me your history experiencing abuse if you have one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:13 PM
5

Omg I had a guy exactly like this. He got concerned when I started expressing interest in starting to learn/do makeup. He was under average lookswise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:14 PM
2

I think someone pointed it out below. if a guy just wants to text endlessly and not ask me out, I'll lose interest, no matter how good the texting is. I know there was quarantine stopping you from meeting up but that's really what would have done it. At least you shouldn't have been talking every day just cause you could. Try again with another girl once the restrictions are lifting and you can actually go out
/r/seduction30/05/20 06:12 AM
2

Damn U earnt your title ruthless strategist. For me it was such an odd situation I wasn't sure whether I should let him off due to the possibility he was telling the truth so I allowed the rest of the date to continue. But did have a bit of a stinky face after emerging from the theatre room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:12 AM
2

what kinda pills? I know mine took anti anxiety pills to get to sleep at some point but why would he do it before a date. This dude made up some story about having late shifts at a job that I later found wasnt actually happening as an excuse for falling asleep. What was the guy you went on a date with's excuse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:50 AM
6

I've had a guy fall asleep while watching joker in the cinemas on our first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:04 PM
8

Not just text, phone call. He could get his friend to text U as his "wife"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:48 AM
1

Well yea you will always be yourself. That's not really saying anything of any substance
/r/seduction20/05/20 05:27 PM
31

I had a guy tell me he's "no drama" unlike his friends and relatives (he comes from a culture that can get pretty passionate about things). He also told me I'm a really chill girl. Hearing that second line in particular really turned me off as I realised that what he was looking for was a doormat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:48 PM
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But if you gain those skills and traits and still aren't confident/successful talking to girls, it's a good idea to go ahead and learn seduction skills if you want to improve your chances
/r/seduction20/05/20 08:36 AM
1

Nope. Other way round. Those aren't things you can even hide that easily. So many assumptions from your end
/r/seduction17/05/20 06:59 PM
1

Nah two of those guys weren't the Mr suave type; they were actually more the loner/socially anxious types
/r/seduction17/05/20 06:56 PM
1

Did I say that. I just said lying is common in my experience
/r/seduction17/05/20 06:44 PM
1

Mm guess I'll have to change from straight to lesbian somehow
/r/seduction17/05/20 06:40 PM
1

But won't they be more distrustful of them when they find out they lied to them from the start?
/r/seduction17/05/20 06:20 PM
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Ikr hahah plus Ibrahim is way better than plain bread John as a name
/r/seduction17/05/20 03:52 PM
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I've had a guy lie about using steroids saying it used to be something he did in the past but not now, when he actually was still doing it. He also lied saying he was doing medical school classes but in fact he'd put that degree on hold. Another guy I dated said his name was John and he was from France and he was a non smoker. The truth was he was from Lebanon and his name was Ibrahim. And he was a smoker Another guy lied to me that hed deactivated his Facebook account, when through my investiga…
/r/seduction17/05/20 03:42 PM
14

Yea I'm not gonna have kids either. I guess I'm asking about the other stuff like cleaning and cooking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:28 AM
28

People lie in the start of a relationship tho and pretend they're tidier than they actually are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:27 AM
18

How do we avoid this happening?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:39 AM
8

One thing I do miss that you can't get off friends is long cuddles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:24 PM
4

So intrusive. I ended up saying "not really" when a guy asked me whether I have any kinks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:47 AM
25

Yeah sure, well if you really want to talk about it, my sexual fetish is sadism. May i cut off your dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:57 PM
21

This. Just shows how spineless they are that they can't go fully in. They think they're being extra sneaky and like they've gotten away without coming across as a creep. It's really just more cringy and annoying than them directly bringing the sex topic up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:56 PM
58

Omg the "no need to answer if you don't want to" is used so much 🤪 Another starting line they like: "random question, but..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:53 PM
51

Any guy who does that id walk out the room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:25 AM
54

Similar to white people who seem weirdly passionate about racism against ethnic minority groups. They don't truly know what it's like for the ethnic minorities; they're just digging for social justice brownie points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:15 AM
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Just to be devil's advocate, what if the man really is just shy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:20 AM
3

Oh damn. I'm talking to a guy who seems quite passive. He's slow to organise dates. He told me in his last relationship he was unhappy with his ex but hes just not the type of person who can break up with people. Sounds just like ur situation. These guys seem to be massive time wasters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:22 AM
5

He was unhappy with the relationship? But u had to be the one to break up? Damn the passivity is unending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:57 AM
21

Omg I saw a gorgeous feminine woman with her guy paying for their cafe food the other day. She did not look that happy following her guy to where they were sitting. Such a shame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:49 AM
35

yeah because generally the servers are expecting the guy to pay, so it's not gonna look that out of place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:44 AM
11

Yeah I reckon it's a whole lot more controllable than they let on in an attempt to avoid fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:53 AM
2

online dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:30 PM
10

If his photos are blurry, from the neck up only, he's hiding something. I put in my profile that I'm athletic and seeking the same. Ask him, what do you do for exercise? What are your hobbies? If he tells you, video games, he's likely overweight because that's the only thing he does. If he doesn't go to the gym, or doesn't mention anything athletic in the lost of things he enjoys, then it's very likely that he doesn't do anything. Some guys even go to the gym and lift weights a lot, but they're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:25 PM
8

I am 5'6.5", the guy claimed he was 5'11 on his profile, so I think OK, it'll be alright to wear some heeled boots on our date. Turns out I'm taller than him when we walk next to each other. I don't know what these guys are using to 'measure' their height, but they're not accurate, that's for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:24 PM
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yea 'valuing my blood pressure' is why I don't actually like to hear too much of these stories about LVM and the horrible ways they treat women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:07 PM
3

Can't he still have a good work ethic while having his dad hook him up with a job?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:40 AM
39

Yeah I saw my ex angry n shouting at his mum and it was the most ugly shit, it was so different to how he'd been to me, kinda shocking really the hidden depravity u often won't see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:37 AM
1

Should we delay physical intimacy that isn't sex too? E.g. cuddling and kissing (making out)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:33 AM
1

Don't most guys drink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:24 PM
1

What's the post where it shows that dating apps aren't the best?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:12 AM
2

Haha yeah this itself is actually a good motivator for me to work on my appearance. It will change my mindset in many positive ways without the cloud of insecurity obstructing my viewpoint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:42 AM
6

I remember at a church camp they basicslly victim blamed the girls for walking around in bikinis (even though we were regularly going to the beach). They were basically implying that we have to keep it all PG for them to avoid tempting them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:38 AM
2

Bit of extra context: a bit later, I asked him the same question back and he said he generally is a confident person but since his surgery in mid 2019 (which stopped him from being able to walk for quite awhile and made him weaker), he's been trying to get back to what he was so he feels a bit weird about that sometimes. (He gained a bit of weight and lost muscle mass, whereas before he used to be all into the gym). Still doesn't change that it was a weird question to ask. I kind of regret my an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:32 AM
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Yeah idk how intentionally he's trying to make me mindfuck myself, but definitely had that effect. I'm gonna keep him on the back burner and if anymore red flags show up, get rid of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:26 AM
1

yeah I heard exercise plays an important role in regulating your appetite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:41 AM
14

I ended up saying "half-half, I like how I look but there some things I would like to improve". He then was like oh that's good, what kind of improvements would you like to make? Tattoo on your face? I joked back about the tattoo thing, but didn't answer the thing about what specific improvements I'd like to make. Definitely a weird question, not sure why he would bring that up because in general he doesn't seem like an asshole and it just seems a bit out of the blue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:30 PM
7

Oh my god how they're not embarrassed to turn up to the date like that I don't know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:01 PM
6

How did they even hide all their fat in their online photos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:47 AM
12

Omg so true. This guy was a catfish and all the photos he put on social media were from a few years ago when he was fitter, but also I caught him in so many little lies (that I didn't tell him about). But honestly, why do people catfish? If you're attracted to their picture version but not their real life version, what do they think we're gonna do? Magically get attracted to their (usually compulsive liar) personality? In some ways they just seem to think we're so naive and will believe everythi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:46 AM
1

What are some ways to "reward" for good behaviour?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:45 PM
2

How long have u guys known each other? How long is too soon for them to start sexualising the convos a bit??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:10 PM
8

Hahaha I remember a guy wanting to come meet my parents after the first date. Some guys. I love FDS cause it lets me know all these things are legit issues (and also something you can find in many guys), I'm not just imagining them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:01 PM
8

Hahah that's a perfect way to describe my dad. I used to want to date a doctor but it just sounds like they're all book smart but not at all people smart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:54 PM
1

How do u keep them nervous past the first two dates or so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:57 PM
5

We need to hear this more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:08 AM
20

Omg my sociopathic ex who has no empathy for anyone literally told me about a story about how he cried for a random dog that got hit by a car and was dying on the street as a way to show he did have empathy. He was the only one not sad when his father died
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:55 AM
6

Picture saved and starred in my phone's photo gallery for future reference and use 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 12:03 AM
8

As in u grew apart?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 01:28 PM
11

Isnt that still admitting u got bad treatment before tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:13 AM
9

Very nice response thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:10 AM
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I made the mistake of trying to rely on a guy to vent but he was too emotionally unavailable and it never worked out. As you say though, I'm sure he got an ego boost seeing how much I 'needed' him at the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:22 AM
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This one's actually true for me but I felt slightly embarrassed that I had an online relationship with a dude for 3 years that I never met. But now I see it's actually a good thing as it's a valid reason for why it didn't work out, and I can just lie and say the guy treated me well the whole time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:18 AM
10

But then he might wonder why ur not still with those guys that treated u well. What do u say as the reason for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:12 AM
36

Omg hahah I told a guy about how my dad used to hit me and how I want a guy that would never do that. He acted so sympathetic and assured me he would never, but then later on in an argument when he was really mad, he told me that I probably deserved how my dad treated me. That hurt, but at least that was only a long distance/online relationship, and posts like this are really teaching me about the types of things (not) to say to a guy, so it's less likely this'll happen again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:40 AM
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Yeah it's the type of thing women often only learn through past experience, but to have it all laid out for you to read would really help many women avoid it in the first place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:38 AM
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oh my god, this is so relatable lol. Just got rid of a narc I was dating. He was great at texting in the initial stages and then the lovebombing began and alarm bells went off in my head lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:22 PM
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sometimes i'll ask him back "you?" and you'll get a complete non-answer, and then later he'll message u about something different
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:18 PM
4

Hahaha I was literally telling my ex today about how a positive thing that came out of our shitty relationship was how to identify narcissists like him and how I currently have one on my hand that I now have to get rid of (some uni guy with clear narc tendencies that's been flirting with me)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 06:55 AM
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Ahaha "except your house". Yeah as much as I wish it was the case, a high quality guy's not going to randomly appear in your house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:26 AM
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A mutual friend of mine met a high quality man who is now her husband while volunteering so I'll definitely keep this in mind. It would attract the kind/selfless types, which is what I'm aiming for. Could you elaborate on the opportunities available at Uni?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:26 PM
1

Haha with grace?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:17 PM
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Ahah so true I think I called a guy a perv once and didn't think much of it cause thats exactly what he was being, and he got so hurt and tried to win me back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:51 AM
5

Could u say the same for going in their car?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:47 AM
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This guy deserves to have a dildo "accidentally" slipped in his ass during sex and then be dumped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:42 AM
3

I really wasn't super excited about having sex, and this post just cements that for when I eventually do :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 01:30 AM
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"do not be clingy and keep them wanting more" - could you elaborate on this? it seems like the crucial point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:53 AM
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how would one differentiate between lovebombing and a guy that is just really affectionate, likes a lot of things about you and sees a future for a committed relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:41 AM
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what kinds of moments of clarity would he have that would make you think that he saw the light? like, they would acknowledge their behaviour and say they wouldn't do it again (and then of course, repeat that behaviour sometime in the future)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:38 AM
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so you were actively learning how to separate yourself emotionally while dating these guys, but at the same time, you loved them? is it because your attempts to learn how to detach yourself emotionally from them came AFTER, rather than from the START of their lovebombing? Or are any attempts to separate yourself emotionally while knowing that a guy is engaged in lovebombing futile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:34 AM
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Should we confront them about their behaviour e.g. lovebombing or should we just leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:41 PM
23

Aha time to issue a $30 cheating fine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 02:17 AM
2

Feels impossible ever since I left high school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:01 PM
3

Do u touch urself at the same time or how is it enjoyable? Is it just like that enjoyment you get out of kissing where it's not really a physical enjoyment but a mental enjoyment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:01 AM
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Ah k i guess u gotta lead him then, tell him what to do during sex, cause you've already had the talk and he says he'll change, but sounds like he needs some further pushing. So maybe wait til ur really horny and try initiate things and get him to do the stuff that makes you cum first
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:54 PM
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Whats his responses to stuff like this?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:49 PM
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Yeah hahah it's a pretty awkward conversation to have, particularly when it's kinda become the norm now that he cums and you don't. What was the setting/time when you last told him you wanted to cum more? Also, do you act enthusiastic when you guys are having sex or a bit reluctant?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:32 PM
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Yeah I hate having these outbursts every few months or so - they feel good in the moment but after, it sets a bad impression. I'm guessing we do need to be a bit more open and communicative as issues come up. I'd say that even though guys get criticised sometimes for not being as communicative in relationships, they are good at bringing up when issues like these (regarding sex) concern them, and I think that's a lesson we can learn from them. I don't think we should really be ashamed bringing up…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:26 PM
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Yeah this makes me kinda sad because it reminds me of a part of my relationship i kinda just try to ignore. My bf is always the one cumming and i never cum with him, and as time has gone, he's realised it's just too much effort for him to get me to cum and just doesnt bother and gets his out of the way. It is kinda awkward so sometimes we'll joke about it, like how I'm so satisfied but yeah. Usually i just consider that the rest of the relationship is really good, so I'll just ignore this, but h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:13 PM
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