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Its like that scene from endgame when spiderman handed over the gauntlet. Just shoving it down your throat. WERE WOMEN AND WE DEMAND TO BE REPRESENTED. Like bro we get it.
/r/MensRights15/11/23 02:07 AM
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its been 5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 11:54 PM
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Its a number of factors but basically the same reason why guys get bigger once married. they just go maintenance mode.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 08:40 AM
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I was in a similar situation. bought a gun n everything. took some acid and it helped alot. i microdose now. dabble with shrooms too. suicide doesnt end the pain, it just passes it on. even if you decide to kill yourself, atleast try some LSD or shrooms first. might save your life, and if not itll just be fun to get high.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 11:36 PM
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The end of my 20's and beginnings of my 30's we went 50/50 but only because she got the house and the car. at least she doesnt keep me from my girls, and her new guy isnt that bad. His name is fucking froy. my name is roy like wtf. maybe it costed me a little bit of my sanity. also i havent gotten a hug in like 4 years. so. theres that.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 09:45 PM
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you got it down. learn to be okay with being single. Dont be lonely, have friends n stuff, but be okay just doing you. ​ after that, my plan is to wait. ill be like 40-50 before i ever find someone. Im okay with that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 02:15 PM
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shes dragging people into your drama? that marriage wasnt salvageable
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:59 AM
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i agree with both you guys, You dont wanna be the guy who rejoices in someone elses suffering, but you shouldnt feel too bad when you get a little bit of retribution. My ex got with a dude within 60 days, living in my house. hes a good guy, treats my daughters nice. i trust them with him. but hes called me multiple times about how/what/why to handle jasmine. like bro, thats on you. you bought the used play station. so i think of it like, i got the brand new toy and he has my handme down. but im …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 10:30 PM
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i just love how easily this conversation went; patience and true willingness to understand the others point of view and no one started cussing or name calling. its so refreshing after arguing with a woman lmfao
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 10:26 PM
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Its good you wanna change, and men have been so conditioned to the fact that women see men as threats that we intentionally go out of our way to avoid being creepy or anything of the nature. There was a youtube video of a chick who was working out and got stuck and was calling out for a guy's help to lift the weight and the guys just walked past because we know that it could be a trap or something. most guys just DONT fuck with women. Guys i know have to have a ton of green flags before they app…
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:19 PM
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but when talking with other men, depending on the context we could be 100% playing around joking/teasing and other times its a sit down, serious, get your shit together/i understand what youre going through and im right here.
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:12 PM
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amen. They were dudes too. not like one of her female cousins were trying to get with me. Right around the time she got pregnant the first time, she went to mexico by herself with her family, andd then when she got pregnant with my second one, i was out camping alone (she hated camping) with my little toddler. my PIC! (partner in crime) we camp for at least 2 weeks, she had came on the second weekend- basically spent 1 night with me n my family and helped us pack up. but that night she wanted to…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:22 PM
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nah they mine. just sucks that her own family came to rat her out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:11 PM
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they're mine. but there was some fuckery at play that made her cousins tell me to double check.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:09 PM
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Her cousins came to me and said I might wanna double check the kids were mine
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 05:23 PM
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it rained last night and this morning, i got 0 sleep, so its a early bedtime for me. ​ me myself and i
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:02 AM
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yeah, just a moment of weakness after a long day. ​ i should be getting some expendable income that i can devote to some more therapy. had to finish paying off my car
/r/MensRights20/11/22 03:01 PM
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i wont. i think im just lonely. i was 4 beers in when i wrote that too so that might of been the beer talking. ​ at the end of the day as long as my girls are okay, im okay.
/r/MensRights20/11/22 01:43 PM
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Bruh. i appreciate those kind words. everyone makes it seem as though it was gonna be/should of been easy to get 50/50. like nah bro. it was way more difficult than it should of been.
/r/MensRights20/11/22 01:41 PM
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I showed the judge my taxes, that i worked from home since my first daughter was born. That i was the main caretaker/Stay at home parent, and that i had no issue, nor want to fight over the house and car. i just wanted things split equally in terms of my daughters custody. This is in texas by the way. But i guess the judge saw that i was making a genuine effort to be in my daughters life and i had to argue my case with her lawyer but i was able to get it done without having to pay for my own law…
/r/MensRights20/11/22 07:17 AM
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it is what it is. i think the thing thats been fucking with me the most; is that id probably take her back if the opportunity presented itself. should probably get back into therapy, but its expensive. my dad's in jail, my mom lives a hour away, my sisters live 6+ hours away. i have no family network but hers. and theyve known me since i was 20. im 32 now. I talk to her family more than my own because of my daughters. shes moved on. has a new dude. but im still working through emotions n stuff. …
/r/MensRights20/11/22 07:11 AM
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i didnt file because i wanted to just split things down the middle 50/50 everything. not get lawyers or courts involved. just file the paperwork and be done with it. ​ she wanted 70/30 custody but i was the breadwinner and stay at home dad. but the house and car were in her name. I gave her the house and car, as long as i got 50/50 custody of my kids because i was with them 24/7 but she was the one who filed because she wanted more. and knew the courts would be on her side.
/r/MensRights19/11/22 11:21 PM
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I just packed my shit and left. told her to file the paperwork for 50/50 custody of the girls ( i was literally picking them up and taking them to school everyday at that time, we traded days that they stayed the night. but she wanted more custody, so after she filed, we went to proceedings. basically i was lazy about paperwork until girls got involved. thought it was gonna be more amicable. but i think she got mad thinking that the person she settled for left her. ​ edit: sorry, years later and…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 02:15 AM
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Its just gonna hurt more if yall live together
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 07:49 AM
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someone didnt pass college statistics class
/r/AntiFeminists27/09/22 10:24 PM
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im a softie, i just want one girl lol
/r/seduction05/09/22 01:14 AM
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Bro if youre 24 and no kids, get divorced. ​ im 32 and i have kids, so its Yes and no. Im way less stressed and anxious. but im basically peeling a scab every other day when i have to drop off my daughters. especially seeing the new dude's truck out in front of the house i bought. with my money. only after 45-60 days of being separated. I can do whatever i want, hang with the boys and play around with my daughters, cook what i want and dont have to attend the 1000's of parties a year that i used…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 10:36 PM
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Damn i felt this. I was the same way. therapy did wonders for me though. Maybe you can try that?
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 04:23 PM
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yes
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 04:19 AM
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good rant man, glad you got it off your chest. sometimes you need that. honestly its just society.. if ww3 broke out tomorrow and men went to war or, had to protect their country from invaders and stuff, it would change real quick. women date opportunistically, they always want to date "up" you also might have some toxic women around you. I used to work in a female dominated field and some places you get a good office environment and some places you get back stabbing, lying, gossiping kind of wo…
/r/MensRights26/06/22 10:30 AM
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same boat as you man, and theres tons of people in the dating market like you. therapy helps, picking up the pieces, getting started on new hobbies etc. we're men. this is the way. work out, work on yourself, work on your mental issues, reach out to friends or make new ones. you got this bro. baby steps. youll get there
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 07:23 AM
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dont do that to yourself
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 06:20 AM
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fucking preach
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 09:03 PM
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i didnt read through everything, but a boyfriend after a year isnt that bad. i think it was like 45-60 days after separating that my ex wife had a new dude. living in my house. so.. just know it could always be worse.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 12:42 AM
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same. i get lonely sometimes but then i just grab the lotion and i realize life is way better now than it was before. lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 08:50 AM
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bro im late to the party, i hope you got everything situated for your homing and stuff. on the flip side, you say you have nothing, not even a career. i suggest once you get your homing situation settled and get some food in your stomach, that you take a deep look inside yourself and what you want to do. youre so young, theres plenty of time to do anything you want to do. figure that out first after that, i suggest getting your own living space, either in america or germany. then work more on yo…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 04:50 AM
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in texas- cant write it all out, because i gotta be a dad right now, but it was hard, and you gotta fight. you. must. fight.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 08:19 PM
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i met my ex wife in biology lab in college. I was shy but forward with my intentions, i helped her study and often met up with her and a few friends to study, i made sure not to be seen as a friend, and she was a social butterfly. she got me out of my shell and helped me grow as a person.
/r/seduction01/05/22 04:33 PM
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i agree 1000% the game. has changed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 11:49 PM
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You clap dem cheeks! thats the next move. lol
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:31 AM
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inability to own mistakes. and she was a ugly duckling, she really didnt become beautiful until college when i met her, and she got addicted to the attention.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 09:44 PM
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while i agree on almost everything you said. i was an initiator and although it was hard, overall im happier. maybe im not the norm but i just wanted to give my 2 cents. im sad to see her go and still have to co parent, but she was toxic and knew how to get in my head. I havent contemplated suicide since the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 07:04 PM
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thanks bro.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 08:15 PM
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Nope his name is froy. Stupid ass name having ass bitch. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 10:54 AM
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you right. shoulda just kept it with me. ​ but you think you could trust your wife you know?
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 01:43 AM
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bro i used to journal so much and i would leave it in my office. then she decided to read it when i was out of town. - then of course argument ensued. so i got a smaller journal, and id hide it, again, in my office. and the next month when i went out of town, she read it. ​ now im just petrified to write shit down lol. shes not very computer literate and thats when i just started venting on reddit. i dont even have to use a throwaway account. lmfao
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 01:27 AM
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there we go! my man! respect! THATS a fucking king right there. good on you buddy. enjoy your weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 11:43 PM
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hahahah chris rock? he has a lot of divorce/relationship bits.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 08:27 PM
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yessir. had a moment of weakness but this sub came through and reminded me that im a bad ass. still dont think i wanna find another girl, i got two little monsters and thats all the estrogen i need right now. lol everyday is a adventure. my little PIC's (partners in crime)
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 08:25 PM
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bro, i have no fucking idea, but i shit on this guy's name all the time. lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 04:27 PM
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BRO. I will never stop shitting on this fool's name. Im roy. thats already a "eh" name. but fucking FROY? the fuck is that? Fake Roy?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 12:53 PM
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amen. they're my partners in crime. my little PIC's
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 09:07 AM
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i respect the laid out plan of how to play these next few months. adult me wants to just get colder. the petty in me realllllllyyyy wants to dangle the carrot. but meeting another girl? meh. i got two daughters, thats enough estrogen for me right now lol shit, the ex caught me on a bad day and had me on reddit asking for help haha.ima blame the excess estrogen in my life on that one. lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 08:58 AM
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Preach my man, preach.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 07:48 AM
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Hey man. that was a genuine ass comment. i appreciate that. yeah- in hindsight i prob shouldnt of talked with him, but it was vindicating knowing it was the same shit. -- i do need to be more cautious because if shes coming back at me, shes gonna be grabbing guys left and right here in the next few years. i may have been a bad husband, but i will always give myself props about my dad skills. i am a bad ass dad, and no one can tell me otherwise lol ​ hope you have a good weekend bro.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 07:12 AM
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i like your style
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 06:41 AM
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fucking love this comment. lmfao BRO YES. JUST YES.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 03:09 AM
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lol thanks man. thats why i jumped in here when i started to feel those feels. just needed a reminder. you guys rock. awesome sub
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 03:08 AM
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i like your style. amen brotha amen.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 03:06 AM
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wise words. didnt make any decisions. just needed guy talk to remind myself where im at
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 03:06 AM
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Shit man.. cant afford weakness when kids involved. ​ ​ wise words. thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 03:03 AM
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you hit so many good points dude. thank you
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 02:57 AM
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Thanks my guy. Just had a moment of weakness. You know how it goes. Thanks for keeping it real with me
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 01:55 AM
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thanks for the pep talk guys. ​ moment of weakness. you know how it is.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 11:17 PM
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bro that was the whole reason why we got the divorce man. its the fucking principle ​ even if the argument is stupid, ITS THE PRINCIPLE
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 11:13 PM
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my man. i had to reread this comment multiple times. and the last paragraph especially.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 11:11 PM
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thanks guys. i needed this type of talk today.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 11:05 PM
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Hey man, we all get that feeling sometimes. But you just gotta push through. Distract yourself; lose yourself in a hobby, reconnect with friends. This too shall pass. You got a divorce for a reason. Nothing has changed but the fact that you’re lonely. You got this man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 04:40 PM
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Get your balls back. Best advice in this thread
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 10:35 PM
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youre correct. i replied to him further down in the comments.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 04:05 PM
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you know, now that you mention it, i do have a few girls that are just good friends and we fool around sometimes. you may be onto something
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 05:59 AM
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bruh. you must be hung or look like a damn model. lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 03:00 AM
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Yup. Less trouble, no headaches, does what needs to be done in whatever way you like and bam, thats it. i feel like even bringing this up is taboo but i 10000% agree.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 02:59 AM
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thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 02:56 AM
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yeah and its like, as men, who want 50/50 normal ass parenting shit, you gotta always be available or accommodating. god forbid the state finds out the mother needed time off and the father was unable to accommodate. ​ lookin at you texas
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 11:32 PM
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earbuds are charged. time to go visit all the people who knew me when they knew my first born might not have been mine. yay this is how you spend a saturday.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 11:13 PM
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https://tenor.com/tPMD.gif
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 11:05 PM
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bro same fucking here. and then the kids started bringing pictures from when we were building our lives, moving out of her parents, to our own apartment to our own house, to ournew car and then bam nothing. lol ​ time heals the wounds. apply pressure and alcohol to the wound.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 10:41 PM
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this is the way
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:15 PM
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amen. i like to cycle out of the news cycle and r/collapse for a while but its always the same. the science points to it, literature points to it, history points to it. its coming, we just dont know when or how.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 02:53 AM
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gah damn, my man is all about that dating life lol
/r/seduction12/02/22 11:18 PM
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i felt that shit bro. ​ we're men. we do what we do because we have to do it. ​ you got this ​ nice username btw
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 09:25 PM
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strap in boy, it takes some time but itll get better.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 09:24 PM
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yup. no nuance. nuiance? damn i dont know how to spell that word. lol doesnt matter, man. at the end of the day we're men. do what makes you happy, handle your responsibilities, no one cares, we're all gonna die. ​ enjoy your time on the spinning blue rock. whatever comes will come.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 06:55 PM
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Thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 02:10 AM
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Thanks for the reminder about how it’ll affect my kids. I’m lonely and I think it’s getting to my head
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 08:48 PM
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be calm when making decisions, take your time, get a lawyer. it took a lot for me to get 50/50 custody. the system is not set up for men.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 04:35 PM
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Hell yeah man. Amp yourself up. Get out of your head. This too shall pass.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 09:38 PM
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How old are they? kids are not stupid. show them youre struggling and show them that you can make progress. youre teaching them how to handle big emotions and they will admire you for that. fight through it. we are men. we solve problems. get a therapist. occupy your time with something you like. work out, cook, - when the time comes, start dating. teach them how to survive a big heartbreak. it took me 3 years. it took her 60 days. but im dating, im in a single room in someones house too. ​ you …
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 07:48 PM
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this. fight for 50/50 and just do right. the courts WILL fuck you. ​ without lube
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 03:00 AM
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I was a stay at home dad for all their lives man. And made decent money “I brought home the bacon and cooked that morherfucker too” lol I always put that time in. It’s the first time I have time to myself Lmfao. Stay strong man. Do you. Time heals all wounds
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 01:25 AM
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Broooo same here. I was a drunken mess for a good year after the divorce and ended up agreeing to paying insurance through her job for the girls. I was paying cash. Realized how bad of a mistake that was, stopped paying her, and now everything is through the courts. I fought so hard to get 50/50 custody and I’m happy to say I have painted toenails right now 😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:36 AM
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ooohhh i felt that one. 10 years, 2 kids, house and car, and a new dude was in there before 60 days-- AND HIS NAME WAS FROY, IM ROY ​ WHAT THE FUCK. ​ end rant. thanks for listening. lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 11:51 PM
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You make good points, I really don’t have a rebuttal. Yeah, I was a full time stay at home dad with a side business that brought in as much- if not more- than her hourly job, and this is the first time I’m actually employed 9-5, so a lot of these child care problems keep coming up. She doesn’t really watch them and if she does she will have her mom/sister/cousin/ new guy with her to help. His name is FROY MY NAME IS ROY. I’ll never get over that lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 02:43 AM
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Anecdotal: but my little one is an amazing liar. And she’s only 5. She also takes after her mom A LOT. Which is why I’m divorced. So for what it’s worth, I agree lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 11:58 PM
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I disagree. I’m divorced, she got with her new guy literally less than 90 days after we separated and he’s not a bad guy. He went from having a POS car like I do, to having a nice truck. He’s living in the house I paid for but from my understanding, is keeping up with payments. He’s gained a lot. He watches my girls when I’m working or it’s her scheduled weekend and she wants to go out (50/50 custody) Maybe he has something to lose but child support wouldn’t be one of them; at least in my situat…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 11:56 PM
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my youngest daughter looks at herself in the mirror when she cries. she learns what type of crying gets me or my ex to do what she wants. (shes 5) ​ shes not crying because shes sad, shes crying because she didnt get what she wanted. ​ emotional intelligence. its a thing man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 06:17 AM
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Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/21 01:25 AM
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No advice man, you’re in a tough spot and it’s sucks. Just keep your composure and breathe.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 01:04 AM
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amen. im glad i fought
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 10:57 PM
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By being a stay at home dad. 😎
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 11:36 PM
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suffer in silence and be the best father i can for my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 07:57 PM
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I have no idea. Dropping off the toddlers here in a bit and then I’m a free man for 2 days. BBQ? Video games? The sky is the limit lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 11:37 AM
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todays my birthday and this made me genuinely happy. ​ good for you man
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 07:54 AM
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May the lord bless your soul, there’s a long long road ahead bro.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 06:54 PM
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Yeah. I lucked out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 12:33 PM
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I agree. I was just being a “one-upper” my bad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 04:58 AM
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bruh try getting 50/50 custody in texas without a lawyer. i felt like a damn expert at the end of it. but luckily our judge was a latina and saw that i was CLEARLY trying to do right by my kids and nothing more. so. definitely dodged a bullet there.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 03:47 AM
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i was a stay at home father of two little girls and was the main income earner in my marriage. i ended with 50/50 custody, lost the house and the car (that i funded the majority of) and am responsible for insurance for my girls. i tried to not get a lawyer but she ended up getting a lawyer trying to fight 70/30 custody- i fought alone and won the 50/50. ​ fight for 50/50. try to save money. because its about the kids now. not your relationship. so check the ego and the emotions as much as you ca…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 03:44 AM
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buddy. youve got a long path ahead of you. but you wanna know something? ​ You. Got. This. ​ all that effort and heart that you have? put it into yourself. (i know this is gonna sound stupid) but stare into a mirror and look yourself in the eye and say 'i love you' do that every fucking day. multiple times. i love you. i love you. i love you. ​ it seems like youre "putting the pussy on a pedestal" fuck that shit. You do YOU. You got this man.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/21 04:52 PM
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Man that’s so true. I used to always tell myself “happy wife happy life” and it took me YEARS to realize that not only was I miserable but making her happy did nothing. It’s like a spoiled kid, you have to tell them no in order to have any sort of respect. You can’t expect it. Men to other men have this code of mutual respect and understanding. And I think we forget women don’t have that code. Men will talk shit and not mean a word of it. It’s not the same with women
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 07:40 PM
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oo i just saw this. thats like a 1000-1200? get go pro for the helmet. people will assume its your fault in any interaction. sounds sexy. enjoy bruh. and say goodbye to the money lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/21 04:23 AM
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alright so i see you've found a new hole to throw money into. Safety first- prepare for the crash and slide, not if but WHEN it happens. second- get that cat off, --- which looks like you have already.? cant tell. 3rd, helmet. DOT and SNELL approved sir. power wheelies are more scary than dropping the clutch type wheelies. i never mastered stoppies. and for the love of god avoid white girls. they will wreck into you 9.98/10.0
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/21 04:20 AM
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thats a bitter pill but i completely agree
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 02:49 PM
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#1- thats a awesome drawing/representation - i would totally buy that ​ #2- yeah. divorce sucks. i mean i know im the one who initiated it, but we had talked on the subject of divorce and we promised that this was the last time we'd discuss it. ​ sure enough. 2 of her cousins come up to me a few months later saying my kids might not be my kids. i get tests done on them, and sure enough she brings up divorce. i was done. she had another guy in my house within 45 days. and his name was mother fuck…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 02:48 PM
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and thats enough reddit for today goodnight. :(
/r/MensRights20/05/21 03:12 AM
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im sorry man. dont know what to tell you. here in texas almost 3/4 goes to the state. we have 50/50 custody but insurance wise i need to pay my share. ​ she gets basically nothing from what i pay.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 02:25 AM
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thats what my ex and i do. 50/50, alternating days and weekends. its not that bad of a set up. you get to see the kids regularly, you get some time off for yourself regularly. ​ What sucks is when she finds another dude. thats a whole other can of worms.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/21 01:02 AM
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Have a lawyer look things over, but check your gut when dealing with them. If theyre pushing to do this or that. mediation is a good route, my ex and I were able to get away with just having a lawyer look things over and we have 2 kids and a house... which is now hers.. but yeah.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/21 10:35 PM
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oof. Everyone here has probably thought of it, but dude your kids need you. Dont be the dad that went for a pack of cigarettes and never came back. Even if you're a shitty father, youre still their father. Dont go beating the shit out of them or anything, but just try. Just try to be good and your life will be better for it. ​ No one is on their death bed thinking "im glad i didnt stay in my kid's life"
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/21 03:10 PM
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yeah im just playing video games and then ill pass out and probably wake up around lunch time tomorrow. ill go get a steak. some broccoli. (did i spell that right?) and then more work .
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 07:03 AM
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Man i heard about blinkist from the david packman show and i havent heard any good OR bad reviews from friends. So ive been apprehensive about trying it out ​ Yeah bro i lost a house and a brand new SUV. now fucking froy lives in it. Yes his name is froy. MY NAME IS ROY >.< this will never cease to make me mad lol u/streetsmartwallaby has a good point. We split 50/50 but its better described as 50/50 responsibility. im lucky enough to have them during the day and i can work from home, i can pick…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 04:12 AM
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I went from having a best friend I was building a life with to sleeping in my car and her new dude in the house I paid for within like 90 days bro.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 03:15 AM
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Woah woah woah. A weekend trip with her? You’re so involved you knew she had a tough week? Bro that’s some next level stuff. We literally don’t speak unless it’s about pick up and drop off and/or dance class/school events
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 03:13 AM
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Bro, you’ll be alright. First thing is first: know that you need to be in your child’s life, second: it’s about your kid. Do what you can for her. Third, at this point, sometimes it’s easier to just stroke her ego and play nice until court stuff is finished. Sometimes sacrificing your ego for the greater good is necessary. As much as I’ve hated it, I’ve had to do that a few times. I just hit a rough patch because I’m lonely. COVID, having to move n stuff, I’m not really taking care of myself so …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 12:15 AM
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You're right. After the initial "rough patch" ive been fine. Started biking more, got into coding and gaming, built a PC, bought a car, found a new home. "...its you that is experiencing this and not her.." that caught me. never thought about it like that. Shes a great mother because she only has them a few hours a day, I interact with her sister, her mom, and her cousin way more than i do with her because i was the main caretaker for the girls. But yeah, she found a guy real quick, she essentia…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 06:47 PM
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100% right. thanks man. Yeah it was me who initiated the divorce. Sometimes i just kinda fall off, especially when i get lonely. Those first 18 months was just about getting my rights as a father, handling work, keeping up with bills, therapy etc. Then covid. i need that kick in the ass sometimes to just remind myself. stop the pity party.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 06:20 PM
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officially divorced for 2 of the 3 years* had to fight for that custody.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 05:58 PM
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Bro. you know the answer... at this point its more about convincing yourself to do what needs to be done.. ​ No one reacts negatively or hostile if they didnt do anything wrong. They'd work to fix/correct the misunderstanding..
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 03:44 AM
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i have a 5 year old. ​ she wont be 5.5 until may. (birthday in october)
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 03:41 AM
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ive been on this sub for a while now, and this is a good post.
/r/seduction22/03/21 09:14 PM
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If you have to ask, then yes. you should.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 01:54 AM
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half your age plus 7?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 11:35 PM
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I appreciate the kind words. I’m far from perfect but just gotta keep moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 06:55 PM
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I appreciate the kind words, I can always Improve but reading this made me feel better too. Thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 03:36 PM
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lol i was joking about the a's and f's ​ Eh. im pretty sure im right about writing off my own chances at being happy with someone else. My standards are probably much higher now that ive been divorced and have kids. and im not exactly ryan Reynolds over here. and i agree 100%, im much happier now being single and practicing my dad jokes and having purple sparkle toe nails. (which reminds me i need to get more nail polish remover lol) Im pretty happy where im at, i have severe doubts that ill fin…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 01:01 PM
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Bruh. I always mention his name when i reply to posts on this and other divorce/dating subreddits and i always get a few people having a good laugh at the irony of his name being froy lol I like to think of him as fake roy. because im awesome roy. I made a's in school. im sure he made f's -.- im joking hes a good dude but yeah its funny how life is.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 04:05 AM
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Nobody is perfect. And i think what happened in my situation is what happens in a lot of marriages. (with kids)- its reciprocal admiration/love/attention until baby one comes, then all of a sudden the man is kicked to the side of the road. We gotta be providers, be a man, and a good father and otherwise uphold the societal norms of the 50's etc. --- so here in 2021 the man has societal norms to uphold, but god forbid you say anything to your wife about upholding X/Y/Z and then on top of that wom…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 02:52 AM
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all he needs to do is own up to his actions and stay in his daughters life. ​ if shes a toddler, he just needs to fight for that 50/50 custody and consistently stay in her life. ​ i made the same mistake because after the kids were born we lost all intimacy despite anything i did. and things kept going off rails. he needs to be honest with his kid when shes old enough and asks questions but #1 is be active in her life, be honest, apologize, and own up.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/21 02:26 AM
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Holy shit are you me? same boat man, im 30, i was with her for 9 years, married for about 3 years, divorced for about 2 years now, 2 daughters aged 4/5 and they were 2/3 when we divorced. we were great teammates, anything she lacked, i was proficient in, anything i sucked at, she was great at. the ying to my yang, but after a while we just didnt see eye to eye on things. a few mistakes from both of us later, we ended it. First off- i say get divorced with as little lawyer involvement, they purpo…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/21 05:38 PM
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HOW? talk about it, work through the emotions, find new hobbies, focus on yourself, try to make future u/danielfox45 happier. ​ WILL you ever find love again? - thats up to you. I suggest you dont jump right into a new relationship. maybe try to look at your future love life as something that would be nice, but not 100% tied to your happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 05:16 AM
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smart man
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 03:19 AM
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is there anyway you can solve this without involving lawyers?
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/21 10:10 PM
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meh, try not to think about what shes doing. ​ i bet your quality of life has improved a ton. im sure youre happier too
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/21 12:03 PM
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this should be higher up,
/r/seduction22/01/21 07:35 PM
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look. i was in your situation too. is your soon to be ex wife willing to work with you or is it gonna be a shit storm? \ avoid divorce lawyers, their job is to take as much money from you and you ex wife; and they know how to use your emotions against you in order to get more money from you two if youre amicable with her, try to do it on your own. i had no job, stay at home dad with a record but was able to get 50/50 custody and the only child support I pay is essentially straight to the state b…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/21 02:05 PM
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im happier because i can be myself. im sad cause i kinda lost a friend. but then I look back and realize friends don't zoom in on a picture you sent to see what you were writing to other people. they don't say one thing, and when caught, use sex to persuade you into not leaving her. i met her before I could even drink. i had x's on my hands from a concert when I first met her brother. like. 9 years is a long time. eventually I learned it was more about comfort, or normality than anything else. ​…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/21 02:52 AM
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Bruh. lol ​ hes a good dude and treats the girls well. my ex is a good mom, it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/20 04:43 AM
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be yourself. dont expect anything. be confident
/r/seduction04/10/20 04:38 AM
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do you have kids? ​ Its easier than a messy, angry divorce. My ex was demanding more custody despite that i was the stay at home dad. so a little of fighting there. but after all that, she had a new boyfriend within 60 days and that was that. its not easy seeing her and my kids with her new guy, but im happier and more healthy mentally. we have 50/50 custody but now i get to enjoy my daughters completely with my full attention and then work/have my own life. ​ im positive my divorce was easier t…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/20 11:59 PM
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hell yeah man. cheers to 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/20 09:03 PM
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You’re in the rough part right now. I know saying it gets easier doesn’t help but it’s true. You gain a routine, you become yourself again. You got this man. Things are just different now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 05:39 PM
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lol i just got into it with an acquaintance, not involved at all in the divorce, but he got the rage i had up inside. but yeah. cooler heads prevail. i make 2.5x what my ex made and she tried hard to get me on child support but if youre smart you can get 50/50 and not fucking him up is def a smart move
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/19 02:15 PM
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another thing that helped but im not proud of was getting into a fight with a mutual friend of ours, and i just beat his ass with the anger i had for the dude who claimed to be my daughters real father (i got paternety tests, im thier real father). and boy did that help a lot. but dont do it. lol maybe join a gym where you can box n stff
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/19 04:29 PM
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That must of been devastating, man. Its gonna be rough, just allow yourself to feel the feelings, dont try to bury that stuff. Time so far has been the number one thing making it easier on me, that and moving out and not seeing her. try to get some therapy in, it really helps. and after you're a little more level headed and this initial burn is over. Go on a date. get laid. nothing serious. just get some fun in. surround yourself with friends, start a monthly outing. pick up hobbies, be a better…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/19 04:27 PM
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i have two little ones. 2 and 3, but i wasnt being the man i would want to see my girls with when they got older. Constantly arguing, being guilt tripped, basically having no say in anything, i was basically the bread winner, the cook, the maid and i worked from home. all to have to sleep on the couch and my (now ex) wife would argue with me, go out alone leaving me with the kids. its rough man but i think in the end, you should always trust your gut. and dont let guilt tripping work.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/19 04:37 PM
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document. and just know that time is gonna make things so much better
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/19 03:28 PM
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I have nothing to offer as advice for your situation, except to stop living togeher. and bro, it gets easier. I promise man. time will pass and itll get easier
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/19 03:41 PM
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Oh man i was feeling shitty reading these other comments.. this made me feel much better and should be higher up.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 06:07 AM
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oof. stuff like this makes me think i could of saved my marriage. ​ hit close to home ​ edit:spacemanlost made me feel better. lol
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 06:04 AM
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get out that house man. so you can start healing. ​ it gets better though. it gets better
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/19 05:12 AM
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yeah thats true- its each persons personality.
/r/seduction29/05/19 11:57 PM
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yes. i agree
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/19 11:51 PM
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the zombie is right. i feel like if you get a bit more tough, more terse- not jaded, not abrasive, just,- stern, or firm. itll help.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/19 10:30 PM
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forgive me for sounding like an ass- but i needed to hear this when i was going through the divorce- stop with the self deprecating and self pitty. do that now. if you tried and it didnt work- she didnt want to participate then maybe shes already checked out- in that case i say dont have sex with her anymore. and if she comes on to you- say no. be a man and handle whatever business you have- even if that means walking out the door at 10-11pm at night so she cant play her mind games. you got this…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/19 10:28 PM
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it sounds like you guys arent getting divorced- it sounds like you need to go to marriage counseling. -- if you dont do that- if you dont make an effort, i think itll end in divorce- the fact that she still has sex with you means a lot- so put the effort in- find a marriage counselor in your area- shit even if you have to use betterhelp - they have marriage counselors too and its cheap. Shes right there waiting for you- theres still hope, shes threatening divorce for a reason- go to therapy- fin…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/19 08:38 PM
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just pointing out that adrenaline really cements someone in your memory. lol ill post the study if i need to. but its a good tip i think for people like me- stress lover and thrill seeker. go hard or go home type attitude
/r/seduction29/05/19 07:32 PM
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i think a good add on to edginess/dangerous- adrenaline production really helps solidify a person in your memory. first dates should be on motorcycles, going to a fun/dangerous event- paintballing/ go karts/ amusement parks that have bungee jumping or something like that. ​ very accurate though.
/r/seduction27/05/19 11:57 PM
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Im going to sound like an ass right now- Sodomized means he got penetrated in the ass right? like damn..
/r/MensRights21/06/17 12:38 AM
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i wonder if there really was a girl who got up and walked around during his special. i mean if it was true then damn, that worked out well lol
/r/MensRights28/10/15 07:01 PM
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I feel it would be a different story if it was a 18 year old guy flipping off the judge.
/r/MensRights09/02/13 04:27 PM
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The holiday isn't really religious or anything of the sort. Just like saint patrick's day... I think if you and your SO are going to celebrate it, both parties should know that its nice to give and receive. A healthy relationship shouldnt have this issue. Girls like roses and chocolate, guys like steaks and sex. Simple. :D
/r/MensRights09/02/13 04:22 PM
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You. I like you.
/r/MensRights06/12/12 06:37 AM
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Glad you're from Texas. Makes me proud.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 10:50 PM
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I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. Reading this makes me realize there are still good women around. Thanks.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 10:48 PM
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Thanks man
/r/MensRights19/09/12 08:33 PM
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Damn.. i use a iphone.. ill google for something similar
/r/MensRights18/09/12 03:14 AM
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dude.. theres a app for that? What is it?
/r/MensRights18/09/12 12:47 AM
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True. Thanks man
/r/MensRights17/08/12 11:27 AM
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Ah man, I respect your opinion, and I see where your coming from but I dont think I get walked on. I'm from Texas, we expect things from a woman like they expect certain things out of a man. I dont treat a girl any differently from what I would expect my daughter to find in a guy.
/r/MensRights17/08/12 11:06 AM
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I agree with the brotherhood thing. And the strength thing kinda sucks, I dont notice that im being rough or "heavy handed". I'm 22, so I dont think I qualify as a man yet... But I like being the "protector". You know, when my girlfriend, or my girlfriend's little sister get scared, worried, or something happens? They come to me. If she has a question about something, ANYTHING, she comes to me. It makes me feel useful, and important and we all know ego-boosting is important for guys. haha I also…
/r/MensRights17/08/12 10:40 AM
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