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Yes sure! It actually just came today so I’ll be reading this week!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 07:48 PM
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I literally just bought mine on eBay for $23! Gets here in 2 days!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 01:40 PM
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That makes sense! I’m younger and I adore her. I find her extremely helpful because I didn’t even know the basics of anything.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/19 10:34 AM
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OMG FOLLOW MRS MIDWEST ON YOUTUBE. I can honestly say she changed my life for the better. She walks you through how to be a feminine, organized lady. I love her so much.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/19 01:23 AM
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Me too!! If you get a link, share it with a sista :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 05:55 PM
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My husband and I have been successfully using the withdrawal method for 6 years now :)
/r/RedPillWives13/07/19 07:12 PM
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"Hopefully he listens to my advice via you. If he is serious about turning his hobby into something to make a living off of, then he is going to need more than a camera and a computer." And thats my thoughts exactly. As someone who runs her own business, I know just the sheer time and networking and just a sickening work ethic that goes into running a successful biz. I am going to recommend all three of those books to him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:58 PM
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I love that you focus on a few things: Acknowledging his desires and it's validity in helping him and being useful You present an alternative solution It's strong but polite. Very helpful, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:55 PM
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You know, after thinking about it even more, I realize this is a good thing to point out. Maybe I should STFU and concentrate on paying off my majority of the debt.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:49 PM
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I think this is helpful, esp the last part. How do you recommend saying no without totally emasculating him? (Tricky, because as you say, I do pay the majority of everything).
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:46 PM
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I definitely have the majority, yes, about 60-70%.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:46 PM
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I agree with 100% of this. There is a lot here for me to take away and implement. Thank you for all of this!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 03:21 PM
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Yes, I think that is what we will need to do. I had assumed we were both on the same page but I think now I might want it more than he does.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 03:20 PM
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My debt is the majority, yes. I should clarify, he has a real job (and actually a really good one) as a financial analyst. It's not his dream work though if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 03:18 PM
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Yeah it's really not! I also feel like it's so dang dramatic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 10:14 PM
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90% accurate yep! And my primary source of income is actually a completely different service-based business, which makes up about 80% of my income. And it's so funny you mention ethical dilemmas because that is the very reason I am slowly taking a step back from Doterra. It feels SO unethical, having only been in it for a year, I just didn't realize what it entailed. Fortunately, I wont lose money, as so many do. But yeah, I am getting the hell out of dodge.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 09:24 PM
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I think I handled "taking over" the finances tactfully enough. I phrased it like I wanted to be more involved, since I felt it was the responsible thing to do, as a business owner. When I show him our monthly budget, I always phrase it as, "Here's what I am thinking, did I miss anything? What do YOU think?" He did major in finance so I feel like I should pay at least verbal respect to that but he managed our finances for a year and it was just not a good situation.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 09:13 PM
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Yeah it's really hard. I feel a lot like those lonely "before" wives in Surrounded Wives or FW haha but I honestly think it's a maturation process. Neither one of us is over 25 yet.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 09:01 PM
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Pretty much word for word what I said.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 09:01 PM
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You are 100% right, and to anyone reading this, it's very hard to see someone as a captain when you: ​ a. make more money than him (which I do) and b. manage the finances (which I took over because we ended up getting into $98k debt under his management). ​ As someone who is struggling because I am not following RPW to a t, this is more proof it all works. ​ Fortunately, we are very young and he is younger than I even am. He will grow into his full potential as Captain, if I can step back. ​ Tha…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 08:47 PM
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Good point; he's at work and just found out that he is getting a bonus and what he wants to spend it on. I haven't replied for that exact reason, don't want to have a discussion over text.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 08:44 PM
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Yes, well I have a lot to be thankful for. He has a great job and knows he won't be leaving it anytime soon.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:17 PM
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Ohhhh couples account is something I never thought about doing. ​ What does a good couple account look like, in your opinion?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:16 PM
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Yes, good clarification. I wasn't as clear as I should have been. Best to get in shape FIRST and then go check T levels, if necessary. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:57 PM
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I used to be in that situation. I would work from home, go to the gym and go to bed. Super isolating. I just had to take life by the horns, so to speak, and make it happen for myself. I introduced myself to my downstairs neighbor and invited her out for drinks. She's awesome. I joined a book club. My sister in law is moving to the area soon. I actually spent more time with my mother-in-law and find myself genuinely enjoying it. You just gotta get creative and out of your comfort zone, babe. You'…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:55 PM
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Oh he started doing this a year after we dated. I knew what I was signing up for.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:52 PM
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I really appreciate the encouraging last paragraph, thank you! He has a really good job -- his fitness dream is what he believes he was meant to do (and he really is good at it. When I finally let him coach me, I was stunned at the results. Like I put on a ton of muscle in a short amount of time. So he knows his fitness stuff.) My friends and family have all made sure I know how cringy it is. On both sides and my friends and his friends. His dad has told me it'll never happen and my mom thinks i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:51 PM
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Yes, he is a full-time financial analyst. It's a great job but not his passion. He does have a good head on his shoulders when it comes to providing. Also, just as an FYI, professional video gaming is a legitimate source of income, as is being a fitness influencer. I just needed some encouragement to help my own man do it the right way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:48 PM
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The fitness niche is very saturated, you are so right. I actually make a full time living as an online marketer/consultant and I just wouldn't touch it with a ten-foot pole. But it's his dream. And he honestly is a very good trainer/fitness coach. He just sucks at social media. So, while typing all of this, it makes me realize that I am being pretty selfish because I probably could help him grow a lot, but am choosing not to. I would love to read the books you recommend, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:46 PM
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I would LOVE to hear your ideas, you would be a lifesaver! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:44 PM
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Yes, I agree, Stripe. I sat with your advice and I agree, it is mean. I did a lot of research into it and was surprised to find out how profitable the fitness industry could be. I have some ideas to help him grow and I communicated them last night. Thank you for your comment, it was very helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:43 PM
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I don't! That's a good idea! I do think it's all super repetitive (same workouts over and over again) so maybe I should start by complimenting the variety, when he does post something different. And yes, he loves doing it and he thinks it's worthwhile. Thank you for the encouragement!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:42 PM
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Yes, his accounts seemed to have merged into a fitness one, simply because lots of friends and fam have unfollowed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:41 PM
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Thank you so much for your advice and comment! What seems to have happened over the five years is that they have become simply fitness accounts and much of our family and friends have unfollowed him. I appreciate the encouragement to support him, I needed a pick me up!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:40 PM
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I’m wondering about his T levels and also how fit he is or isn’t? The fact that he was having trouble breathing makes me think he isn’t the most active or isn’t in the best of health. If so, that would be my first focus. Get his T levels checked and get in shape. Those two things alone will make a huge difference!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:15 PM
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That’s honestly good advice — he’s been plugging away at it for 5 years. Very admirable!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:28 PM
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And he’s been so persevering in it for 5 years with no growth. I have no idea how he does it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:11 PM
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How do you recommend a wife calling her husband out on his bullshit tastefully?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 06:22 PM
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Yes also want to know this. Vericose veins run rampant in my family.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:51 PM
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You see this a lot when husbands first discover MRP. They kind of go insane and go overboard. I think you know it’s wrong for him to be away that many nights and the hotel room — yikes. Not to scare you, but I think you do need to face the reality that he may be disregarding his marriage vows. I know a lot of MRP guys do. HOWEVER, I would advise doing nothing impetus at the moment. I’ve seen guys go full Rambo and then calm down and become a little more rational. Totally depends on the guy and y…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/19 06:54 AM
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Simply time. He is currently studying to get his MBA and then this will probably be a non-issue, once he has that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 04:09 PM
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Of course, I do this already, during the good and bad months, which is why I think it's a non-issue on the months I do make more than him. I feel that we transcend an even higher level of happiness on the months when he brings home the lion's share of the income and I obviously want that all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 04:09 PM
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Yes definitely PM me!!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 04:05 AM
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I honor your journey to become your truest self!! Any questions I can answer for you? (Straight, white, young married woman). Here for you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 01:36 AM
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Welcome!! Many (if not all) of us ladies here are proud of our femininity so you are in good company. We also share lots about being feminine + looking feminine + acting feminine so you will probably also find that helpful here, too. There might be some things that don’t fit, but that’s okay, take what’s helpful. You are welcome here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 01:32 AM
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Thank you!!!!!!! I’ll be off this couch in a week!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 08:58 PM
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I send nudes to my Captain at work sometimes via Snapchat. I personally love it. We’ve been together for 6 years and I think it’s a great way to keep things spicy 🌶 + it drives him crazy and eager to come home. However, I would never send random nudes — I know too many horror stories about them being shared. Pro tip: less is more. Guys love to be teased and slowly shown all the goods 😉
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 07:59 PM
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My husband and I created a code word for bad breath (“pickles”). Other than that, we are pretty honest with each other and would just straight up communicate.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 07:44 PM
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Congrats!!! I read that book in high school and it shaped my entire relationship with my then boyfriend, now husband. I would also encourage you and let you know that you will slip up. You will. But that’s normal and that’s okay. The important thing is that now you have a new standard and a new guideline and a new compass for your relationship. Each year, you will get better and everything will be more natural and habitual for you. Proud of you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 07:43 PM
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Magic eraser — works like a charm.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 02:42 AM
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Lose 4 lbs Book 45 discovery calls
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 02:41 AM
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I usually make only a few resolutions, in three main categories: Business, Personal, and Marriage. Business: bring on 5 new team members and subcontractors. Personal: go to the gym every day. Marriage: strive to be done with work by 4:30 every day!
/r/RedPillWives31/12/18 12:12 PM
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But I told him later how much I loved it!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 09:08 PM
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I honestly think I was so taken off guard and surprised, I think I just cuddled up closer into him and didn’t say anything.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 09:03 PM
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Of course!! I love everyone here.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 07:33 PM
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Isn’t it? I just loved it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 07:28 PM
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Me too haha — it honestly took my breath away.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 07:26 PM
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Oh my gosh definitely do. It’s the place to start.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 07:25 PM
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Congrats!! How did he do it??
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 03:33 PM
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I’m in!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 12:53 PM
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He held me in his arms last night and told me I’m the only woman he could ever be with. He’s been extra affectionate recently and I have been soaking it up!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 01:45 PM
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Fellow biz owner here! What do you do?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 03:47 AM
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CONGRATS!!! So exciting, how did he propose?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 10:16 PM
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I recently got married and between his parents, my parents and our own contributions, it was a $40k wedding. I’m literally spilt 50/50 on whether I regret it or not. My wedding was perfect. Absolute fairy tale and it felt like a physical representation of our love. Our large families and friends were there and it was just a truly lovely day. On the other hand, $40k is so much money it’s mind blowing sometimes when I think about it. Some days I think it was a total waste. Other days, I am SO glad…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 06:05 PM
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Oh that’s really good to know, I will look up the app right now.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 10:56 PM
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I am totally open to hiring a housekeeper later and so would my husband. Right now, we just bought a business (that’s the second one I run) so we are keeping personal expenses as low as humanly possible. In a year or two, we’d be more than able to manage that. I don’t think it goes against RPW philosophy, especially if I was hiring and overseeing the house cleaner. To be honest, the point of it for me would be for him to have a soft place to land which is very RP.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 10:56 PM
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Yeah Sunday’s are my big cleaning day. My husband is very neat and clean and I am most definitely not. The mess stresses him out — I want to make this a soft place for him to land.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 10:41 PM
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Working 12 hours a day is really taxing. I’m currently overseeing one business and heavily involved in the other one. I’m at that stage in my career where if I push hard now, I will see the massive payoff a few years down the road. Which will totally be worth it! Thanks for the advice - love the idea of maintaining 15 mins a night before bed!
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 10:40 PM
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Ah that’s such a good habit. I need to work on that. I tend to be a slob - my husband calls me a tornado. I was never taught to pick up after myself when I was little. Thanks for your advice!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 10:38 PM
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This to me is a huge red flag. He didn’t respect your boundaries at all. You had both agreed “no sex” and then he broke that agreement. Even in the BDSM world where one person is very submissive, all boundaries are respected. Also you were bleeding. That’s another red flag to me. I’ve never bled once. Finally, you feel like something emotional was taken from you. Another red flag. I’m not one to give up easily but I’d have a clear conversation about him not respected your boundaries and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 12:57 PM
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I wear fashionable athletic shoes - I keep them clean and not-ratty!
/r/RedPillWives09/10/18 02:10 AM
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You can make yoga pants and tops very sexy. I wear fashionable, flattering leggings and cute, flirty tops. I will almost always put on moisturizer, foundation, eye liner and mascara. It literally takes me 10 mins. I wear little earrings and my wedding rings. My entire daily routine takes about 15 mins - it’s all about being intentional and fashionable - even with a low-maintenance look.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/18 12:05 AM
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Well the ones I have fill about 1 room. So I have about 1 for each room - HOWEVER I consistently diffuse the same scent very subtly from room to room. It’s very jarring and overstimulating to experience a different scent in each room. I didn’t quite understand the last comment - maybe a typo?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 11:50 PM
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It's a good life! Also username checks out lol.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:20 PM
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Yes, if you only have one diffuser put it near the door he will come home in. Start with one drop of peppermint, it's light and fresh. Essential oils can should subtly enhance the feeling of a room - not overpower it! Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:20 PM
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Diffuse essential oils - I have 4 diffusers for my home and I usually start some calming blends right before my husband gets home. Makes it a soft place to land.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 10:50 PM
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Can you talk about your hair moisturizing routine? What products do you use?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 10:34 PM
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Why the heck was this down voted?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 02:31 AM
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It’s a great option!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 10:21 PM
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You are welcome!!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 07:29 PM
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Wow that’s really inexpensive - are they the full sets? Demi?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 07:28 PM
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Me too - 75 plus tip every two weeks. Expensive AF.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 06:17 PM
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Where do you get lash extensions so inexpensive?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:41 PM
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Totally agree!!! Thanks for chiming in!!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:39 PM
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Yes - don’t be nervous! I’ve been doing it for a long time. I go hard, racking, reracking, I never have to worry about. First time is terrifying but eventually you don’t even notice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:39 PM
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They are very long - they look like this And I have them done twice a month. It’s my one high maintenance thing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:21 PM
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No they fell off almost immediately. Or I felt like they would. I hated them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:18 PM
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Yes that’s a great point! Good perspective - you can’t be a total bitch and expect to land and keep a man.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:18 PM
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I think that’s awesome. And you have no idea - before I got married and my husband took over the finances, I spent around $500/month on looking sexy. We’ve massively cut back now but I am not gonna lie; I miss pampering myself a little.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:17 PM
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I also weight lift daily and I haven’t had any issues. Have you tried acrylics?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:26 PM
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No, I deadlift, squat, use kettle bells, really do whatever. I even do this plank movement where I have to drag weight on the ground and my nails stay perfect. I’ve had no issues at all and perfect nails 24/7.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:25 PM
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I feel SOOO much more feminine in them! Thanks for saying that!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:25 PM
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This is something I feel super guilty about haha. I have acrylics and I spend $140 a month on it. SO ridiculous. I’ve tried painting my nails but I lift weights every day and they chip instantly. Press on, all of it. The only thing that keeps my nails nice, long and feminine is acrylics. But yeah, it’s expensive. I did cut out eye lash extensions though because that was also $100 a month.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:34 PM
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I totally agree. Just as a little back story OP is very young and isn’t married yet - relationship maturity will come with time and age.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/18 02:29 PM
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Totally agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:49 PM
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Oh my god that’s a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:48 PM
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I agree - he LOVES a cozy Bambi in sweat pants. I purposely buy sweats that hug my ass - I’m cozy and look hot. He says it’s a very wifey look.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:47 PM
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No they deleted the comment because it was obnoxious. She was debating the difference between deep throating and blowjobs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 10:38 AM
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I legitimately did not know this was a thing. It is now lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:08 AM
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Thank you so much!!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:17 AM
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Wow so true. Happy to play a small role in changing that!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:16 AM
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Hahahahhahahaha stripe I love you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:16 AM
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I used to hate blowjobs. I wasn’t confident in my skills. They took forever for him to finish. I hadn’t yet acquired the taste for swallowing. But I knew he loved them and I wanted to be that girl who loved giving head. So I persevered. I got better. And lo and behold, I started to truly love it. I love sucking dick now. It turns me on to an extreme level. After I finish my husband, he then returns the favor - with oral or with a magic wand or vibrator. Hope this helps and isn’t too much TMI 🙈🙈🙈
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 11:42 PM
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I mean, okay yes, technically. Is this the hill you want to die on?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 11:24 PM
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Ooooooooh I totally get this. I ask my husband if he’s listening all the time. Good catch, I’ll be sure to stop that. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:59 PM
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I agree!! Great comment!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:57 PM
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One day I do want to speak on all of this stuff but I feel like I need more than 5 years of relationship experience before I do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:57 PM
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My husband hates that too! He needs me to try new things and then he tells me what he likes lol. Practice on that dildo and have a little confidence. At the end of the day, you’re showing him special attention and he’ll love it. I was the WORST at blowjobs at first. Literally the worst. You get better with time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:56 PM
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Find yourself a RPW and you’ll be set for life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:33 PM
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Yeah exactly. I’d give 10 blowjobs a day to my husband if I felt like it because I love him and I love being intimate with him. I feel sad that some people never get to experience that!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:27 PM
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Savage 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:26 PM
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Hahaha I know, I died laughing at that too! And thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:25 PM
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Yes exactly - something deep is fulfilled in me when I plate those Tupperware’s with little tomatoes and salt and pepper them. The world tells me I should be most fulfilled when I land a big sale or speak on a stage in front of people. I do that, too. But my little heart sings when I pack his lunch so you tell me. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:23 PM
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I’m a chatterbox and my husband never seems to mind. Can someone explain why most guys prefer a woman to not chat their ear off, lol?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:20 PM
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Agree!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:20 PM
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That’s helpful, thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:18 PM
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Okay well let’s agree to disagree. Have a nice day!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:17 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:16 PM
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I don’t, actually. But if I did, would it bother you? I’m sure you are very accepting of other kinds of relationships - maybe I can help clear up your confusion. What specifically confuses you?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 09:09 PM
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My poor mother would die of mortification 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 08:58 PM
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Yeah I used a 7in realistic dildo to practice while I have “Bambi Nights” - my self love nights lol. Fun stuff. Also yeah gagging is hot - you can still do that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 08:55 PM
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Pilates for flexibility? Totally agree - it’s the fundamentals.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 08:54 PM
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Yes exactly. It’s a huge turn on for me, too, ya know.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 08:53 PM
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I think we should all respect each other view points. In all areas of my life, I’m a strong, confident woman. I own my own business and have a diverse social circle of friends. My relationship fulfills me emotionally and sexually - I think anyone can respect that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 08:52 PM
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Hahahhaa totally fine - I got your DM.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:20 PM
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Thank you! I wasn't sure! Hope this is helpful to some!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:14 PM
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I really relate to this - my husband and I were 18 when we started dating. I had read Fascinating Womanhood at 17 so, at first, I was discouraged, frustrated and disheartened by my little 18-year-old boyfriend. I was hard on him, sadly. However, after about a year, I surrendered. I let him be himself and grow at his own pace. And holy eff, has he bloomed. Hot, sexy, masculine captain. It takes time. Encourage him and affirm everything that he does right! Keep it up!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:26 PM
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It all depends where you look. You probably won’t find men who are ready to settle down in clubs. My guy friends are always saying how they want to find a good women but then they choose to go out with party girls and strippers and wonder why it blows up in their face. Same goes for you - join hiking meet ups, go to church if you’re religious, go to coffee shops regularly. Last summer, I befriended two coffee shop regulars who were both incredibly eligible. (I was engaged but they were both hand…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:21 PM
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I always heard that the thing to do is invite them to group events. It’s not as forward as a 1:1 coffee date invite but it’s a feminine way to show you’re interested. However, I probably am not the best person to ask. I met my now husband when we were 18 and we’ve been together ever since. Good luck - he sounds like a catch!
/r/RedPillWives01/10/18 03:14 AM
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Done.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 03:11 AM
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Can you talk more about chasteberry to regulate your cycle?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 11:24 PM
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Just to offer a counter point; I work from home with an MLM and make $4800/month (it’s my second income stream - first is doing branding and marketing, which pulls in another 8-10k/month) I’m the 7% of people who actually do make money from an MLM. Not pushing, just offering a counter perspective. It IS rare though - you have to be with the right company and connected to the right people. 93% of people who join MLMs don’t make money.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 03:29 AM
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“Clothing is a hugely depreciating asset” - wow I love the way you think.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 02:14 AM
5

This needs to be higher.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 01:51 AM
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What’s the body mist oil? Do share!!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:40 PM
5

I literally don’t know anyone in real life who lives the way I do. I treasure this online community.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:37 PM
1

How do you meet friends? It’s a stupid question but here’s my backstory: Full time entrepreneur who works from home. Just moved to a new state. Work about 10 hour days and then go lift for 2 hours and then go to bed. I literally don’t know how to make friends post-college and yet I crave the friendships I have back in my old state. Help.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 07:58 PM
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I can totally imagine my husband doing this. Shit I never ever thought about how this is a fight people have. Damn. Makes me reconsider being so resentful about not getting to stay at home.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 07:56 PM
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Ohhh I never thought of it as a book to help with depression, can you elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 08:58 PM
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I love that - that’s exactly what we are doing to. I think I’ll prolly work another 5 years max.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 08:58 PM
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I think it’s also a maturation process. Both my husband and I are very young (23). It’s scary to be in charge of providing completely for someone. I can feel for him if he’s holding back a little from taking that leap. Even though he would die before he admitted it, I wonder sometimes if he is holding back a little from his role there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 07:32 PM
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Ha I’m the opposite. I love being taken care of. I find myself tempted to be resentful for having to work at all. My husband currently doesn’t want me to not work and we don’t have kids or even a pet so if I didn’t work, I would literally sit around the apartment all day and do nothing so I see his point.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 07:10 PM
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I also was semi-traditional but I also am easily influenced by my peers. Had I not found this way of life when I did, I easily could have become a blue-haired feminist.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 07:07 PM
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Mmmmmm so true. When I find myself hating some aspect of my life, I realize it’s because I’m not practicing gratitude.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 07:06 PM
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I agree! It does come naturally, with time. I think for me the thing I constantly have to work on is my mindset. I’m a pessimistic sh*t by nature so I have to learn to work on that. No one wants a complaining, whiny ungrateful woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 07:05 PM
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Omg I love all of this so much. My only thing with FW is that most people are SO unreceptive. Like I’ve given away so many copies at this point. Total waste of my money. Most people adore my fairytale relationship but they won’t listen to my answer when they ask how I got it. The only thing I can do is lead by example.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:16 PM
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I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:00 PM
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I get that that isn’t historically accurate but I liked this. My husband works a corporate 9-5 and I work as an entrepreneur at home. We don’t NEED my income to live but it makes our lives comfortable. It enhances what he does. Plus, I get to be home when he comes home. I’m a visual learner so I find stuff like this helpful, personally.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 03:36 PM
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Does your SO already embrace RPW? If not, I’m not sure a weekend getaway with us would be the best thing for her. The thing about RP is that you can’t force anyone to swallow it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 09:11 PM
2

Oh yeah she was very patronizing!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 01:28 PM
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I really think men will be men, to be honest. I find it very endearing, to be honest. I just find it so special that my man is a man’s man when hanging out with his friends but then he comes home and needs his “wife time.”
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 12:13 PM
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I was so turned off by the dude lol. So insecure. Tell me I’m not the only one?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 12:11 PM
2

What book are these four archetypes from?
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 12:19 PM
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This is a little unrelated but I really think you should read “Taming Your Outer Child”. It will help you understand why you get in panic mode in the first place. If you’re the kinda person who accidentally freaks out and sends 1000s of text messages, that book is for you. I used to be the same way, I know how it feels.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 12:14 PM
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Omg same.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 08:32 PM
1

Me three! I love my acrylic nails - they always look so perfect!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 04:39 PM
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Congratulations! That’s amazing!! 💕
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 04:25 PM
1

Feeling emotional this morning and this made me tear up. Thank you. I’ve considered therapy but I don’t even know where to start with that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:00 PM
2

Also, we are both very red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:04 PM
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You are welcome! Obviously we have our disagreements and our moments (we are human). But I truly think we are as close as it gets to the real human version of passionate, romantic, faithful love. I still get butterflies when he texts me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:04 PM
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Checking in to say that my husband and I have been together 5 years and we absolutely have the Disney fairytale love.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:15 PM
3

That is all so incredibly helpful - wow. I have seen ads for meditation apps that teach you how to meditate - do you recommend those?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 11:16 AM
2

I will definitely look into that - I carry all my fat in my stomach. That’s very interesting. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 11:13 AM
2

Interesting! Although it doesn’t break the statistic per se - it’s not to say that being on the pill PREVENTS you from having clear skin. That is easily disproved. I just notice that the people who have never been on the pill tend to have very clear skin.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 11:12 AM
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It could just be a coincidence of course that everyone who isn’t on the pill happens to have perfect clear skin. And your body is probably getting used to the new pill - hopefully the acne will calm down a little soon! Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:23 AM
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This is a total theory of mine but everyone I know who has perfect, clear skin was never on birth control. I know birth control is supposed to help with that and I certainly don’t pretend to know more than doctors. However, it’s just a pattern I noticed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:12 AM
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Why do you feel the laser hair didn’t work for you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 02:15 AM
2

That’s solid advice, thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:54 AM
3

I clicked on it and was immediately grateful I’ve never had acne. Everyone on there is a champion.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:54 AM
2

Interesting - if I track my macros, I’m guessing that solves the “good sugar” vs “bad sugar” issue? Since I just hit my carbs, fats and protein daily?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:54 AM
2

Thanks for that. That’s super super helpful!! My skin is actually really dry so I do moisturize daily.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:53 AM
1

I’ve been thinking about doing facials too, are they expensive? I’m currently putting all my extra personal money towards laser hair removal.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:52 AM
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This was EXACTLY what I was looking for. Thank you so much. I’m currently saving for laser hair removal treatment. After that, I will start saving for the plasma injections. I recently have made the decision to cut out alcohol - I think that is going to be huge for me. Also, I have a very high stress job and I think the meditation tip is an amazing one. I currently rub fractionated coconut oil on my legs and elbows after showering - should I switch to moisturizer instead?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:51 AM
2

Can i pm you too?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 10:57 AM
1

I really like anything by pit bull and Jennifer Lopez. Both really get me into my sexy, sultry side of things. Not necessarily “feminine” but it always makes me feel like a sex goddess, which is very feminine. I like Pink because she is strong and yet I find her feminine as well. A lot of this is going to be personal preference, though. Most people would shoot themselves before listening to Pitbull, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:05 PM
2

Oh that makes sense thank you so much for that!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:41 AM
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Thank you for shifting my perspective on this - I think you on this!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:37 AM
1

Am I qualified to help them? I had an incredibly sheltered, although a bit neglected, childhood. I always assumed I was inadequate to help since I have never dealt with massive dysfunction as a child. I agree about the impact, though!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 04:41 PM
2

Would you mind explaining this concept further? Wouldn’t that mean his forgiveness is infinite?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 04:40 PM
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I will PM you - it gets here Thursday!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 03:32 PM
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I agree. It is hard. I’ve “wanted” to change before but this time, I “need” to change. I have an active disgust for my selfishness and I want to be rid of it. I called my local old folks home and will be volunteering starting in October.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 03:31 PM
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My husband IS super forgiving and I am so grateful. However it does force me to have to be proactive if I want to stop being a needy pit. I do think this is a character trait - it’s plagued me my whole life. Thank you for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 03:30 PM
1

I actually volunteered at an old folks home before I moved. You inspired me - I just called our local place and will start volunteering in October. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 03:29 PM
4

I think that’s a good idea - I need to get better at thinking before I speak. What a hard habit to break though!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 02:45 PM
2

Just ordered it - can’t wait to read it. I read the summary, it looks good!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 02:41 PM
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I want to: Hit the gym 4 times this week avoid alcohol completely this week
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 09:02 PM
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So RPW discourages women from bitching about their SO to friends and family and with good reason, right? Does this mean we can’t bitch at all? Can I Bitch in forums? In my journal? Someone please explain this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 07:31 PM
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I’m a full time marketer and entrepreneur and it IS very hard to monetize a blog. You probably won’t make a profit for at least 1-2 years. I do love the idea, though!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 02:37 AM
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Totally agree - big turnoff for me. I feel like every homemaker blog is Christian and I’d love to read one that wasn’t so overtly Christian.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 02:35 AM
2

Oh yeah, I really liked that one, too!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 02:41 PM
6

This is 100% accurate. I love being married!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 09:00 PM
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So yeah that’s even more of a red flag then.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 03:18 PM
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I do it see as very strange that he hasn’t initiated even a kiss. Are you both from very religious backgrounds?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 12:13 PM
2

Yes exactly. When sharing with other people why you broke up.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 10:04 PM
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I would also add to keep the details to a minimum when sharing why you broke up. “We just weren’t compatible.” Or “We realized we had different goals in life.” is a perfectly appropriate response. Keep it classy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 05:08 PM
2

That would be amazing, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 04:39 PM
2

How do you assign homes for everything? I would love some advice on this!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 11:52 AM
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I notice a lot of times it’s the little gestures that show you’re thinking of him and aware of his needs. bringing him a plate of food when you’re at a barbecue noticing he’s out of something and picking it up attentively listening to him tell a story about god knows what giving him space when he needs it spending time with him when he wants it building him up in front of his family It doesn’t always have to be a huge gesture - just constant little reminders that he is loved. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 09:26 PM
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Update: leaving bedroom to chat with family. I will keep you all posted!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:37 PM
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I won’t stay there by myself without him. If he decides to skip the vacation this year, I will go with him. And sending flowers are a great idea!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:37 PM
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This is a really helpful comment. I love that idea of being really passionate and friendly when he gets back - it will shape everyone else’s attitude towards him. Thank you! I will keep you posted!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:36 PM
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After waking up, I do agree that I should have gone with him. You are right - it IS his family and it IS his choice. Sometimes it’s hard because I love them so much and I want everyone to be pleased with the two of us. But that’s not really my responsibility. I will keep you posted!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:35 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to write this all out in detail. I really like your point about me calling it rude was actually rude myself! Such a good point. And another good point - I truly was overwhelmed by his sudden decision. I do think I made the wrong call by not going with him so I will be apologizing. As a newly wed, this is a good learning lesson for me. Again, you are totally right. It is only a problem if I make it a problem. I will say something like, “He mentioned he was having tro…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:33 PM
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I’m trying to come up with a one sentence that doesn’t sound unnatural, “He went home for the night and he’ll be back again around noon. I’m sure everything is okay.” - what do you think?? I don’t want them to think we are fighting because we aren’t.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:27 PM
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Harsh but true. Thank you for that. I will be apologizing when he gets back!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:25 PM
3

This is such a true point - I hadn’t thought of it that way. Good to know for the future!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:25 PM
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After waking up and thinking about, I feel like I definitely should have gone! I was very surprised and half-awake and made the wrong call. I will definitely be apologizing when he get back. Thank you for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:24 PM
2

So practically then, if I were to do follow this plan, would I just literally take care of my own things? How would that work? Do you currently do this with your S/O?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:02 PM
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That does sound like a good solution but to be honest, I’ve never even heard of something like this. Where would I go about finding one??
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:00 PM
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Totally agree - of course I’d rather stay at home but it’s my husband’s preference so I’m fine working, esp since we don’t have kids yet.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:00 PM
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I don’t really like the idea of just doing my stuff (ie. washing my own laundry, not his, etc). However it’s hard not to feel resentful folding laundry or washing dishes after a long day of work when he’s in the other room playing video games or on YT. I love my husband very much and I’m on here hoping to find a good solution so I don’t feel resentful any longer.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 03:58 PM
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That’s what I have been thinking - if I’m to work, fine but it’s hard for me to accept that he should have his cake and eat it, too. However, I’m open to being corrected or taught otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 03:56 PM
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I really appreciate this comment (and am newly married, so I definitely can appreciate any and all advice). I think that I’m definitely resentful - my attitude is, “Well, he wants me to work and not stay home and keep house so it’s definitely not fair to expect me to do clean/cook etc for 2 hours when I get home.” I don’t want to have this resentment and I think I do, probably because of my immaturity/age. Any advice you can give me to help shift my mindset so I can cheerfully approach houseclea…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 03:54 PM
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I did screenshot it, lol. I was on my honeymoon when it happened and didn’t get a chance to actually post it until I got home.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 02:04 PM
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I gravitated here because I recognized it as something I was already practicing. When I was in high school, I someone cam across a copy of Fascinating Womanhood and it changed the course of my entire life. Thanks to that book, I now have a husband who cherishes, loves and protects me - the kind of man who wraps his arms around you in the middle of the night because you had a bad dream. I’m so lucky!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 01:52 PM
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Yes, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/18 12:47 PM
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Such good advice!! He was sooo patient - I always feel so bad!! And the red bag is Kate Spade, the brown bag is Billabong, I think. Such a lucky girl!! 🙈
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 10:57 PM
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I love the idea of keeping my phone in the other room, it’d prompt me to read so much more!! Great tips, thank you so much!!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 07:30 PM
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I agree, I’ve done my research, too, and it does seem to be universally a bad idea. I also didn’t want to live with my husband before we got married. I was able to put it off for about 4.5 years (college + 6 months post grad). We did have to live together for a few months right before we got married (or pay double rent for 6 months which was just stupid).
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 04:47 PM
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Hahahhaha!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 04:32 PM
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Hahahahaha yeah and I’m sure he has an opinion on all of them, am I right?? 😘😄🤗😉
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:52 PM
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I am super tiny, hahah! Don’t feel bad for having a thigh gap, I’m sure you’re gorgeous! And yeah, thicc girls are totally in now but I think all women are beautiful. Truly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:52 PM
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My love language is receiving gifts!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:51 PM
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I think I missed all the mean stuff, the moderators are doing a great job!!! I don’t think it’s beta actually, I didn’t ask for it and it was completely his idea. I think he actually feels quite masculine being able to buy me nice things - we haven’t always had that kind of money so it was a milestone for both of us!! Thank you for your kind comment, Pixie!!! I totally agree, it’s about alpha guys loving to give. Thanks for commenting!! 💋
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:50 PM
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I’m sure he would, lol, he’s a great guy! And honestly, it’s not about the material things for me, I love the intimacy and feeling like he thinks I’m worthy of having nice things, if that makes sense?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:48 PM
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HAHAHAHHAHA that’s his biggest complaint - I’m soooo addicted to my phone and I’m trying to work on it! Maybe I’ll start leaving it at home when I go out wit him!!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:48 PM
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Yes! I have had this post typed out and just got a chance to post it last night! Not sure how it affects the main point of the post, though?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:47 PM
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Congrats, I think that’s so awesome!! Flowers are always the best!! Your Captain is incredible and you are a wonderful First Mate!!!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 12:39 AM
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I’m sorry but I didn’t understand a word of that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 09:31 PM
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Here’s a couple of tips: Wear something you feel confident in. I like to wear a tried and true red dress - but you should wear whatever you know makes you feel sexy. Ask questions. Guys like to talk about themselves and it will help you get to know him (and take some of the pressure of conversation off you). Don’t put too much stock into the first date. My first date with my now-husband was a little awkward and stiff but the second one was way better and now we are best friends. Relax and have f…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 08:00 PM
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I honestly think that surrounding yourself with other women who think like you is SOOOO important. I left my gratitude journal at home (currently on honeymoon) and can’t wait to get back to it!! Good luck with everything!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:52 PM
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Ha! Thanks for that warning - I can actually totally see my husband getting annoyed if I use the same one over and over again, too. What other ones do you use?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:50 PM
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Great question! Yes, I would have, definitely. The other couple’s reaction was an added bonus I couldn’t have predicted at the time. However, my husband does not make a habit of canceling last minute, fortunately. If it seemed like we were continually canceling plans on people, that would be a cause of concern for me. Fortunately, this was more of an issue of logistics rather than laziness. Hope that helps clarify.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:49 PM
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Everyone is asking us that! We aren’t - on a smaller island! Thank god.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:47 PM
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I completely agree!! I don’t even remember how I stumbled on all this stuff but I read Fascinating Womanhood in high school and have been researching men’s psychology since college. It’s been a worthwhile hobby. The only thing I was missing was other women who think like me and now I have that! Couldn’t be happier!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:46 PM
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Exactly! I realize now that I would be way too bored haha.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:55 PM
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Oh that does make me feel good. We actually already do that. He manages the finances and I do the cooking (except grilling).
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:55 PM
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Exactly. I realize that more now. I think actually talking about this with you all helped me see how truly little there is to do at home.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:54 PM
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Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who took the time to comment on this and help share their thoughts! Really grateful and took it all to heart!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:53 PM
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I really love all of this. A test run is a great idea and something we will implement later on down the road! I also think about how much I have changed over the last 5 years of us being together. When we initially started dating, I thought I would never want to give up my job and now, here I am, wanting the opposite. Another 5 years of working is a long time and who knows what shifts in desires will happen. P.S. I love that compliment from your mom, that's lovely!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:53 PM
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I think you are right and talking to everyone here really helped clear up the issue. I also talked to my husband about all this last night and you all are right; it has nothing to do with a difference of values - it has everything to do with the timing. Right now, if I were to quit my job, I would have about 3 hours of work a day. Totally unfair for him to continue working his 10+ hours each day to support me when there is no good reason to do so. I think I was romanticizing being a stay of home…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:51 PM
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Over the last 5 years, I've learned that it's a habit, just like anything else. I used to be the most naggy, bitchy person every but gradually, I broke the habit of nagging/complaining. Wefsix mentioned gratitude - this is HUGEEE! I can't tell you what a difference it makes to consciously make a list of the things he does. You can't just mentally think about it, you really have to write it down. I have a journal that I keep near my bed and I write down all the nice things he does for me, each da…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:43 PM
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I’ve never heard of the dual income trap but this EXACTLY describes us. How do I get out of this? Should I just adjust my expectations for the time being? Husbands idea of the future is that I somehow always work, even with kids. He’s buying into the myth that because you work from home, you somehow have unlimited free time. Is it best if I adjust my expectations and (at least for the time being) let go of that desire?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 05:30 AM
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Kids are on the table in about 5 years, not sooner. Which I prefer, tbh. He’s way more kid-crazy than I am. I agree, with kids it begins to make way more sense to stay at home. As it stands now, there truly isn’t THAT much work to do in our studio apartment. I really think you are right - my focus for the next 5 years needs to be on building those passive income streams. If I focus on those, I put myself in a win-win situation. If he decides to let me stay home, win! If he decides he wants me to…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 04:00 AM
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I’ve heard The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands recommended several times and I’ve read Laura’s book twice. I agree - I don’t think staying home is something I can do right now — AND I feel like he truly would feel better supported if he feels like we are partners bringing equal salaries to the table. Thank you so much for your advice, esp the book recommendation. Downloading that on my kindle now!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 03:55 AM
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That’s such a good question. Why did I marry him, knowing full well that he wasn’t onboard with me staying home full time - when that was something I definitely wanted? I think the simple answer is that it wasn’t a deal breaker for me. To be honest, I work for myself and I can work from home. We live in a studio apartment that takes maybe an hour to clean. It’s not like I live in a huge house that would take me all day to manage and upkeep. Staying at home would mean a 60% income cut for us and …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 03:50 AM
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I’m 23 and so down! I want to learn how to do hair and makeup!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 10:21 PM
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We do have some acquaintances that are SAH but they are super traditional Catholics who are very different than us (and a little strange), so if anything it hurts, rather than helps. I agree, this will be a long-term transition, rather than a short-term change. Thanks for your advice!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:08 PM
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I think so, too, HeyMamaKush.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:07 PM
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Well, I mean, we did discuss all this before we got married. He’s pretty firmly set on me not being a full time homemaker and it’s not enough of a deal breaker for me to find someone else, so I married him. Doesn’t change what I want, although after reading more of these comments, I’m seeing his wisdom. Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:06 PM
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I think that it is a combination of laziness and stress, too. It’s stressful running a business and I often think it’d be much easier just managing a house. I also agree about making money and saving like lunatics - we just discussed our five year plan which includes living frugally and putting most of our money aside. My husband is a financial planner so he definitely has his head screwed on straight here. Also, another reason why being a full time homemaker is totally unnecessary at this point…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 09:05 PM
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