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bean_addict/r/seduction02/06/21 10:54 PM
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Resourcesbean_addict/r/seduction05/06/21 12:33 PM
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The truth has been spoken
/r/seduction27/01/22 10:19 PM
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Congrats! Not many dudes actually make a change. Very inspirational!
/r/seduction25/01/22 05:33 PM
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Try again later
/r/seduction23/01/22 06:13 PM
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Hold eye contact, then look at her lips, then back to eye contact. If she looks at your lips, go for it
/r/seduction23/01/22 05:49 PM
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It's simple: success = success rate × exposure You can maximize success by maximizing either factor, but maximizing both leads to the best outcome. Becoming high value increases your success rate. Cold approach, online dating and social hobbies increases your exposure. What you are describing is becoming high value enough, such that average exposure is enough to attract plenty of women into your life. If you can reach abundance with this strategy, great! That's the dream in my opinion. However, …
/r/seduction14/01/22 10:50 AM
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I agree with the statement that reading without approaching makes approach anxiety worse
/r/seduction10/01/22 06:12 PM
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Don't overanalyse it. It might have nothing to do with you.
/r/seduction08/01/22 04:08 PM
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Yes. This. If you make out too much, especially in public, it will be obvious to everyone (including her) what going home with you means, which makes her feel like a slut
/r/seduction03/01/22 05:11 PM
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Yeah, making it man to woman takes balls. The easiest way is going for a direct opener (e.g. giving a compliment). Other than that, push-pull and teasing are your best friends. You can even open with a push-pull. Qualificatiin is only possible, if the girl is attracted to you. This is not something you can easily control. Dressing well, having good body language and tonality and being non-needy helps. If the girl is attracted to you, there is a spectrum of how obvious you make the evaluation. Yo…
/r/seduction03/01/22 04:59 PM
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I like Todd V's OPEN CLOSE model. Open: get her attention Premise: establish man to woman dynamics Evaluation: evaluate her and try to make her qualify. In order for her to qualify, you need to build attraction first. Narrative: build a story between you and her. What is she going to tell her friends about you? Close: get her number, instant date or pull It's a simple, yet quite practical model. Note that the phases can and should overlap with each other. The model also ensures that you know how…
/r/seduction03/01/22 02:15 PM
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You're very welcome :)
/r/seduction31/12/21 01:34 AM
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Don't have a book, but Todd V has lots of free stuff on youtube. 'The art of game manifesto' is a good start
/r/seduction31/12/21 01:30 AM
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I agree, this book is my top recommandation for someone who is clueless about female attraction. A question for you my friend, what other styles of game are there except "natural game"? There is this youtube video called 'the art of game manifesto' by Todd Valentine, where he discusses various eras of game and their strength and weaknesses. I find it very interesting. However, Todd is quite technical and that's not everyones cup of tea
/r/seduction31/12/21 01:26 AM
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It's a good book for beginners or general lifestyle advice. If you have some experience with pickup, it's nothing ground breaking
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:59 AM
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It's a great book, especially for beginners who have no clue about dating. It was my first encounter with 'game' and reading it felt like a relevation to me at the time. It definitely helped a lot. One could probably only read that book and do just fine with women. However, it is a book about what many would call 'natural' game, which is appealing to a wide variety of people because it's based on honesty. It has some weaknesses though. In particular, it's almost impossible to show interest witho…
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:51 AM
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Absolutely love this show
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:44 PM
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I mean, if the story is true, she was a yes girl right from the beginning. Still, good for you you didn't mess it up
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:53 PM
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Congratulations for going out solo. Approaching girls on the dancefloor is not the best strategy though. You need to be able to talk to them. I prefer the more quieter regions in the club for approaching, and then taking the girl to the dancefloor for escalation
/r/seduction05/12/21 10:08 AM
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Depends on how deep you want to go. 'Models' and '3% man' are great for natural game. If you want to go deeper into attraction techniques, Todd V has good content (game manifesto on youtube for example). In the end, theory is useless if you don't practice
/r/seduction23/11/21 11:05 PM
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Seems like you know exactly what to work on
/r/seduction29/10/21 12:50 PM
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6 Pillars of Self-esteem. It actually contains actionable advice and is written by an experienced psychotherapist
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:10 PM
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Something feeling unnatural vs violating your integritiy are two very different things. If you want to grow, you will have to do lots of things that feel a bit unnatural. However, if something goes against your values, leave it. Integrity is an important part of self-esteem.
/r/seduction24/10/21 05:05 PM
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You don't approach women at the club by trying to dance with them. Of course that does not work (most of the time)
/r/seduction23/10/21 05:56 PM
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This must be satire
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:17 PM
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It's not about having a macho father and millenials are not the first generation to suffer from this phenomena, but having parents that are in a loving relationship and show their affection towards another gives the kids a role model on how a healthy relationship looks like and they learn that it's normal to verbally and physically express affection. If on the other hand the dynamics between the parents feels more like a rational contract without showcasing any love for one another, then the chi…
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:30 AM
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I agree and I noticed that practicing mindful meditation improved my conversation skills for that exact reason. It's basically learning to be present
/r/seduction12/10/21 09:07 PM
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Yeah, you are probably right
/r/seduction28/09/21 10:49 AM
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It's not about 'making something happen'. It's about showing intent and polarize. Now she might have already lost interest due to the platonic vibe or she's still interested, but thinks I am not because I did not show it enough
/r/seduction28/09/21 10:37 AM
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Only do compliments later (if at all), when you have stablished some emotional connection with her. They are much more meaningful that way. Eye contact and physical touch are the most important factors.
/r/seduction14/09/21 04:14 PM
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Holding hands is good, but have to establish some physical contact before that IMO. Otherwise it's too forward
/r/seduction14/09/21 04:08 PM
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Hold eye contact, smile and be touchy. Can not over emphasize the imprtance of touch. Start out very small, like briefly letting your forearms touch each other while talking next to each other. Or let your shoulders touch briefly
/r/seduction14/09/21 04:04 PM
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Focus on whether you like her personality instead on whether she likes you. She knows that you find her physically attractive. Everyone does. Don't make it explicit. What makes you stand out from the other guys is that you can build an emotional connection with her. But don't forget to connect physically as well. Otherwise you will be just a friend.
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:01 PM
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With him, I think it is grounded in insecurity, which has led him to overcompensate in attempt to be more 'alpha'
/r/seduction29/08/21 04:12 PM
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I too ave a "friend" like that. When we are alone, it's all chill. When there are new people around where the social structure is not yet established, he calls me out on the most stupid, unnecessary shit. Took a while to learn how to hanfle this
/r/seduction29/08/21 03:50 PM
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Great job! Now keep going
/r/seduction25/08/21 08:19 PM
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Seems like you can connect with women on a emotional level, but not physically. The solution is to introduce touch. Could start out as simple as a handshake or a hug when you first meet. Touching her arm lightly when she laughs. Playing thumb wars. Let your shoulders touch when you're standing next to each other. Put an arm around her. Hold her hand. Kiss. The idea is to slowly progress your physical connection in parallel with the emotional one
/r/seduction08/08/21 09:19 AM
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Great. Just remember that the information is only useful if you apply it and practice.
/r/seduction06/08/21 03:36 PM
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The six pillars of self-esteem really helped with my confidence. I strongly recommand anyone to read it and do the sentence completion excersises regularly. Ultimatively, you can build confidence without having much success yet. In summary, the 6 pillars are 1) awareness: becoming more aware how you interact with people and how you/they feel is the foundation for diagnosing your problems 2) acceptance: truly accept your weaknesses and desires and your anxiousness will disappear. This is the basi…
/r/seduction06/08/21 03:12 PM
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Get rid of the mentality that if only you had X, you could finally do Y. It's a delusion that keeps us from doing what we want in life.
/r/seduction04/08/21 07:46 PM
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Yeah, it's all bullshit. The only time knowing her zodiac sign is helpful is when she herself is into astrology.
/r/seduction01/08/21 10:42 PM
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You can find the basics in Mark Manson's book 'Models'. Fitness and fashion are two essential points for becoming and attractive man
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:45 PM
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Read Models by Mark Manson the the six pillars of selfesteem. Then go out and practice
/r/seduction27/07/21 04:48 PM
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Models by Mark Manson Don't read too much about attraction. Go out and practice
/r/seduction21/07/21 01:06 PM
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It sucks if you try to improve your life but people try to put you back in your old shoes.
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:35 PM
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That's an incredibly needy move
/r/seduction04/07/21 06:13 PM
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He is addicted to porn.
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:01 AM
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You don't get it
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:10 PM
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Yes. There is more to attraction than just appearance
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:58 AM
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I'd say don't restrict yourself to only approaching 9s and 10s, but don't approach women you find completely unattractive either. Approaching (in your view) unattractive women for the sake of improving your skills is avoiding vulnereability (you have no investment in her, so you are not vulnereable) and thus needy.
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:50 AM
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I guess you mostly are afraid of rejection. What you need to realize is that rejection is a good thing. A woman that is attracted to you won't reject you, but the ones that aren't will. This prevents you from wasting time with women who don't like you anyway and spend your time with women that are into you
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:28 AM
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She clearly told you she is not interested on a romantic level. It's almost impossible to change her mind. Don't waste your time and move on.
/r/seduction26/06/21 01:29 PM
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Thanks for the offer. I've just read your other comment on CU and that already helped a bit I'll reconsider it over the next couple of days. Maybe I'll come back to you.
/r/seduction22/06/21 12:08 PM
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Thanks for posting this inspiring story. Models by Mark Manson really resonated with me as well, though I'm still stuck at level 2 of his action plan. One realisation I found particularly interesting was that it's actually dishonest to not approach when you find a woman attractive (of course within practical limitations). I also was thinking of signing up to charisma university, but it's quite a lot of money for a university student. On the other hand, it seems like the return is worth it. My ma…
/r/seduction22/06/21 09:51 AM
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You showed too much investment early on. Seems like there was some attraction from her side in the beginning, but you talked her out of it. Not sure if I got the time frame right, but it sounds like you confessed your feelings only a week after the first date. That's a turn off. You were basically pressuring her into a decision to commit to a relationship. Next time, try to keep the texting minimalistic and mainly use it to set dates (about 1 per week in the beginning).
/r/seduction20/06/21 07:09 AM
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Don't go to the cinema on a 2nd date. Try to aim for 3 different activities, with the last one having the potential to get more physical. For example dinner/drinks, ice cream or drinks somewhere else, game room
/r/seduction16/06/21 05:02 PM
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Do not send another message. You already messed up a bit because you texted her directly the day after the game. Just wait for her reply. Keep texting minimalistic and eventually set up another date. But give her some time. Otherwise you come off as needy
/r/seduction16/06/21 12:48 PM
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Your mistake was directly asking her out again after her texting you that she enjoyed the date. This destroyed all anticipation and mystery and let her know your on the hook.
/r/seduction15/06/21 11:08 PM
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You are graduating at 22? That's rather impressive. You are still young, you have plenty of time to gather experience. To my surprise, reading selfhelp books about dating helped a lot, even though many people frown upon these kind of books. I personally recommand 'Models' by Mark Manson and 'How to be a 3 percent man'. Those books made me understand why I was so unsuccessfull with women in the past. In fact after digesting this information, I almost got angry that no one had told me this stuff e…
/r/seduction15/06/21 06:13 PM
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In this case I'd say she is clearly interested
/r/seduction13/06/21 12:22 PM
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Hard to say from the text alone. Would you judge her to be a bit insecure? Then the the text sounds like she is genuinely interested.
/r/seduction13/06/21 12:18 PM
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Okay, I would recommand waiting a bit longer than that. I can come of as needy and lower her attraction. Also, don't try to build attraction over texting. Keep it short and ask her out quickly
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:16 AM
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It means she is loosing interest. It's hard to build attraction over text. I'd wait for her to contact you again and then ask her out.
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:11 AM
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Nice job. Keep up with the approaches. How long did you wait until you contacted girl A?
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:06 AM
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If you've known her for 2 years it's very hard to get out of this zone. You don't want to come off as needy. You clearly stated your interest, now it's her turn to show attraction. In the mean time, date other women. If she does not start displaying attraction, there is nothing you can do
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:55 AM
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You'll never know unless you ask her out on another date. Just make sure you don't come off as needy, as this would be the quickest way for her to loose interest. Also, posting date pictures on IG when you are seeing other people either means that she is now committed to this person or she is playing games. I would pay attention whether she displays more signs of toxic behaviour. If you in fact meet her again, don't confront her about her IG story. It comes off as needy and insecure. Remember, y…
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:47 AM
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In my opinion you should only approach if you find the woman attractive. Otherwise, you are being dishonest not only to her, but also to yourself. Women will notice this and you will be rejected badly. You can also flip the reasoning. If you see an attractive woman and have the possibility to approach, then you would be dishonest to yourself by not approaching her
/r/seduction06/06/21 12:42 AM
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You don't get it. Being vulnerable takes balls. It's the opposite of beta. It does not mean presenting all your weaknesses and insecurities, but being true to your core beliefs. This might be polarising, but this is a good thing because it removes incompatible women early on. Consequently, you don't waste time with those women and can focus on receptive and neutral women instead
/r/seduction06/06/21 12:27 AM
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Yes, the basic principles are very simple. Nothing groundbreaking. I think the value of the book does not lie in stating the principles, but in convincing the reader that they are indeed meaningful and important.
/r/seduction05/06/21 01:47 PM
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How did you suddenly find the courage to do so many approaches? And did it get easier after the first couple ones?
/r/seduction04/06/21 11:28 PM
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Congrats dude! Don't give up your goals
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:25 PM
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Nothing. She just got a bit dizzy initially because they may have taken a bit too much blood given her size
/r/seduction03/06/21 08:58 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction03/06/21 12:29 AM
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I know. My brain just stopped working for a second
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:01 PM
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That's a funny joke, but for prcticality, I would interpret "being yourself" as being true to your core principles and believes. That does not mean you are not allowed to be courageous ect
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:00 PM
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