TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

beigs Archive

View 0 posts and 213 comments by beigs on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
8

The concept of gender determinism and biological essentialism are characterized as binary and do not reflect the reality of the human condition. Putting people into boxes hurts anyone excluded, and the further you are from the default assumption of “person”, the more you are penalized and ostracized. In the US, for instance, it is a healthy, right handed, cis white Christian hetero masculine man between 24-55 and 5’10 - 6’2 and has a stable income. If you are outside of those categories in any w…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 04:29 AM
5

If you mean social media heavily influences toxic mentalités in echo chambers like the red / black pill, then yes? What self-respecting person would choose to be in a relationship with another person as a bang maid unless that is their kink? Relationships not lasting is kind of a good thing, honestly. It means that people who don’t work together or have grown apart have the ability to safely leave a situation that can be dangerous, depressing, or just not working.I don’t know why that choice is …
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 09:45 PM
3

We met un university, we had nothing. Less than nothing, we were broke. I liked him for who he was: someone honest, kind, and compassionate. He liked anime and snowboarding. He was funny.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 03:04 AM
4

I am. My husband of 20 years is an introvert with asd and an engineer. I am… definitely not. I’m the adhd side of that coin. He balances me. I need that just as much as he needs me to be that for him.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 08:07 PM
2

Their height is between 5’2 and 5’9, some of them nerdy and enjoy things like video games and dnd. My own husband is my height and fits in this category, although I see him as a partner and not “non-dominant”, like he’s a person with opinions and exceptionally kind.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 12:50 PM
3

I think it’s about as scientifically accurate as horoscopes.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/26 06:53 PM
8

My husband and I. Half of my family.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 02:24 PM
10

People are people - get therapy and try and figure out why YOU feel like you are unlovable and fix that. This isn’t even about dating at this point, this is just life advice. Regardless of whether you find someone, the way you talk about yourself is a major issue. Coming here and asking for external validation as a form of a praise is one thing, but it’s always going to fall flat if you don’t start repairing your own self esteem. You’re not going to get self enlightenment from an Internet forum.…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 02:23 PM
5

My adhd meds cut my rumination in half, and therapy took me the rest of the way. Particularly thought stopping.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 02:12 PM
3

… I don’t understand your comment. I said that socially conservative areas had certain views about bi and gay behavior that they stereotyped and was causing the OP difficulty, and you went off on liberal abusers. Narcissists and abusers are everywhere, but they tend to get themselves into positions they can exploit: teachers, doctors, law enforcement, church leaders, basically anywhere they can get their hands on victims. I’m sorry your ex was an abuser, but having worked for the courts, abusers…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 02:47 AM
5

I think if you’re from a more conservative area, you’re probably going to meet people who have more conservative viewpoints, even if they lean left. It’s part of growing up in that environment, and unless repeatedly exposed to different perspectives, people are more likely to only see things from a single viewpoint. Bi men are gay with extra steps. Eww I’m not sleeping with a man who slept with a man it’s gross. I don’t want to know. It’s easier for men to think of a woman with another woman - i…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/26 11:00 PM
11

It’s 50% of the population - you can’t brush any population with absolutes. The world is such a grey area, and putting up artificial boundaries. You know this - I know you do. You know you do. If red pill content starts creeping back in to your thoughts, picture the most annoying voice you can telling you it and tell it to shut up.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/26 11:43 PM
20

As a woman… ewwww My husband is a paladin of a man, my height, funny, compassionate, and the heart of my family. We have been married 20 years and together even longer. Bad boys are like the manic pixie girlfriend - some people want that, and other people wouldn’t touch that with a 39.5 foot pole. Women aren’t a monolith any more than men are.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/26 10:37 PM
7

❤️ I just deal with this with my own kids. Lashing out at others when you’re hurt is one of those things that I found cognitive behavioral therapy has helped with, and OT has helped with my kids.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/25 05:04 PM
12

They didn’t make you feel like a piece of shit, they pointed out that it’s genuinely dangerous for women to say no (think of r/whenwomenrefuse ) and you felt bad because you know this is a thing. At least take ownership for your own feelings.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/25 04:38 PM
1

Feeling “not good enough” or tossed aside after someone got what they wanted… that’s an awful feeling. It makes sense you’d describe it as being used up. Anyone who’s been abandoned or humiliated carries that weight. And the fact that you’ve journaled? That’s huge! Even if you’re too drained some nights, you’ve already built a way to process what you’ve been through. One thing journaling shows you is that the blame belongs with specific people who treated you that way rather than with all women.…
/r/ExRedPill23/09/25 05:14 AM
2

It’s not really about gender, it’s more about the individual. I could’ve hated men for what some of them did to me growing up, but I also know there are good ones too. If I only focused on the bad, I’d have missed out on my husband, my boys, and some of my closest friendships with both men and women. You were hurt by women and that pain is real. But are all women the same? Or is it more about the actions of certain people? When we lump everyone together, it keeps us stuck in the anger instead of…
/r/ExRedPill23/09/25 04:27 AM
5

This is beyond right and left at this point - right has historically been social and economic conservative, but their biggest feature was small government. They wanted the government to stay out of the way they live. I don’t agree with this, mostly because I think that there needs to be a decent amount of social support to keep people happy and healthy. People who are happy and healthy tend to be more productive and innovative. But I can understand the feeling of wanting the government out of ou…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/25 04:02 AM
19

So you knew this person espoused these philosophies and now you’re surprised? Like this isn’t a left wing right wing thing, this is a human rights misogynist thing. You don’t need to fix him, and unless this is your kink (no shame, but don’t let it become your identity), leave him. Anyone who listens to Andrew Tate and agrees with what the current government is doing in the US goes beyond right wing and goes into Christian nationalism
/r/ExRedPill04/05/25 01:54 AM
5

It’s projection to the highest degree
/r/ExRedPill16/02/25 09:24 PM
–

Love on the spectrum is a really feel good show to watch.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/25 06:29 AM
9

I’d also go with the sexism, racism, Victimization, and misogyny. Have you ever felt good consuming red pill propaganda? Do you gain anything fulfilling from it other than developing an obsession with what other people think of you? Has it achieved its purpose, or is it just trying to sell you a lie? I don’t see good coming from it even if some aspects of it are beneficial - they’re wrapped in the fundamental concept that you’re not good enough just being who you are, Women are some random other…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/24 03:55 AM
35

Ewww… nothing he looks like could make me attracted to that man. He’s like the human equivalent of hot steaming garbage left out for weeks in the sun in Naples during the summer.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/24 07:59 PM
3

Fuck the patriarchy. As a woman I absolutely agree, and not just for me but for my sons and husband. The patriarchy hurts everyone who deviates from the rigid box it imposes, and the more you deviate the more it hurts you. Tear it down. The toxic masculinity bill crap needs to go so my kids can grow up feeling loved and supported with all of their many feelings and not need to feel like they are alone or can’t talk about certain things, or need to perform a role in society other than being the b…
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 04:46 AM
5

Dating apps pretty much bring out the worst in people. I feel like i caught the last ship out of ‘Nam with dating and i think if i had to start over fresh in this day and age i just wouldn’t.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 01:44 PM
25

Don’t put height? But most people don’t know what 5’10 is compared to 6 feet. My brother actually puts 5’11 despite being 6’1 to weed out those kinds of people and it works for him, but i think if you look kind and safe you’re going to get a better match for who you are. But honestly those apps are the worst.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 01:00 PM
4

When people show you who they really are, believe them.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/24 03:11 PM
2

Ah, that was the other guy :) He mentioned his height and age. But I do think both men and women fall victim to predators online. It’s a freaking horror story in the making. I know straight men that were flat out raped same as women and I wouldn’t touch it with a 10 foot pole if I started dating. And also, people who solicit a ton of external validation aren’t the norm. Most people I know don’t post anything on social media unless it’s life events or art or memes or accomplishments. Getting cree…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 02:47 PM
2

My dude, moms aren’t old women, and that’s not the point. You’ve generalized the population into one or the other to the point where you’ve not accounting for the fact that individuals have preferences. Also, are you assuming that women get creepy DMs? Are you also assuming that it’s a good thing? Because both of those statements aren’t true in the slightest. Women don’t have their pick any more than men do, and I mean this. Individual outcomes vary wildly, and personal preferences are important…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 12:38 PM
2

I’d counter with no single person has the same experience while dating, and saying half the population is one way and half the other is simplifying the issue to the point where it doesn’t reflect the realities of an entire population. You’ve set this up as a black and white argument and ignored the fact that dating is not black and white, people aren’t black and white, genders aren’t one or the other, and ALL of it is under the assumption that a date is the end goal. You’ve created an illusion a…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 08:20 PM
2

The fact that you’re conscious about this means that you probably don’t give off those vibes. This works for men and women - if you are open and talk and are conscious about things, like grabbing a drink and giving an unopened can to a friend, or checking in with them if they are surrounded by a group, staying with them if they’re drunk or calling them a cab and making sure they get home safely. Asking “what do you need me to do?” Instead of immediately trying to solve stuff and inserting yourse…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 03:28 AM
14

If you want help to get out of the red pill, we can help. The way you’re going about this does not reflect the actions of a person who is trying to detox from their toxic belief system. You’re trying to create a gotcha moment without realizing that it’s a freaking straw man argument. Who the heck cares if a woman can get a date or not if they’re passive - the people who go after them treat them like prey, and they’re worse for it in the end because of abuse. And men fall victim to this as well, …
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 01:07 AM
9

If I made enough money to support the both of us, awesome! Just as long as he has something to do and it isn’t just me coming home at night and he’s been watching TV all day or gaming (and I m. He could be a billionaire and incredibly handsome, but if they have no motivation to grow as a person, no hobbies or drive to learn or raison d’être, they likely wouldn’t match me.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/24 05:33 AM
1

My dad was a pre-red pill - he was awful but because of it I became a better person. It doesn’t always work out like that and I still IN MY 40s feel like I shouldn’t wear shorts or anything above my knees. I looked for the opposite of him and have been happily married for 20 years.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/24 04:06 PM
24

The issue with your perspective is that you’re not quite seeing it from their eyes - they have been on the receiving end of the red pill and incel treatment, the victims of that behaviour. I agree with the other comment as well, those are amazing resources, but downvoting in the grand scheme of things isn’t a horrible thing, it just shows your displeasure. Be kind to yourself. But also recognize that you both have valid feelings. But if you can be honest with yourself as to why you are feeling a…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/24 01:58 PM
3

It’s not socially acceptable to body shame anyone and professionally it gets called out. This includes fat shaming, genital shaming, or height shaming. You don’t do it.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/24 06:05 PM
11

It’s absolutely crazy. I’ve stopped engaging with him - he seems fixated on this and won’t drop it or change his perspective
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 08:42 PM
14

I saw this and remember his previous posts. It’s like talking to a wall
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 07:58 PM
27

So it is misogyny. It doesn’t matter if it’s whether you want to sleep with men or not, if you ONLY get it for women regardless of if you see them as a potential partner or not and don’t apply the same standards to yourself (would you feel this way towards women if you had 50 partners?), then you’re the problem. If you genuinely feel this way and want to change, look into the ick. Same with too much makeup - you say it only applies to women, but why? Is it because you see all women as potential …
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 04:36 PM
25

I mean, if you have that same ick if you think of men with a high number of partners, then no. If you treat yourself to the same standards, no. If it’s just towards women and there is a double standard, you should look at why you have a double standard. Usually when people say the word “body count”, the ick factor is rooted in misogyny. It is like one of those little red flags that pops up in conversations that can be replaced by a loud buzzer. If that buzzer goes of a bunch in a conversation th…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 02:51 PM
18

Statistically it was 3 times a month for married couples, and that includes people who just had babies / are postpartum / are temporarily ill / low libido / partners travel etc. Married couples/ cohabiting couples have more sex than single / divorced / widowed people. And despite a bunch of people, stats, anecdotes, experience here telling you the contrary, you seem really fixated on what you seem to think women and marriage historically looked like and what it looks like now vs what it was like…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 02:40 AM
14

Exactly, I didn’t settle for my husband. He was BETTER than anyone else and I’d choose him in a heartbeat over any other person. He didn’t settle for me, he chose me and he’d do it again. He was my first choice from when I met him. I didn’t know him before I dated other people. He didn’t know me. Having life experience doesn’t mean you settle, it means you have a clearer picture of what works and what doesn’t, and tells you what you want in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/24 03:24 PM
4

As someone who works in IT and was a stay at home parent… the stay at home parent is infinitely harder. I went crazy and eventually made my husband do it and got back into work because it’s a 24 hour job with no breaks. I had 3 kids under 4 with no time off (my husband worked away from home some of the time). I have done grad school, written a thesis, worked 90 hours a week, and nothing was that hard. My husband agreed, but he was better at it than I was.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:56 PM
2

Any kind of power imbalance, including massive amounts of money on either side, can create issues in a relationship if both parties aren’t actively aware and work to counter it.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/23 04:00 AM
3

Irl. If you want to find someone who complements you, go do activities that you like to do :)
/r/ExRedPill30/10/23 01:56 PM
7

Oh sweet gods that’s awful.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/23 02:19 AM
1

On and off - we were also long distance for a bit as well. I liked seeing him, but I had a life and was going to school at the time and had to study and work. He did too. And family as well. And then I went to grad school and had work overseas for a couple of months at a time during dig season, and he took a job that had long periods of shift work - that was almost a decade. It stopped when we had kids.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 10:00 PM
2

My husband and I have been together 20 years, married for 16. We both find each other attractive, and we have 3 kids.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 09:26 PM
5

Talk to me like a guy. Don’t make it weird - picture me as an 80 year old man and smell vaguely like mothballs. Not unpleasant, just not appealing in any way.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/23 02:36 AM
1

It’s not necessarily acting classes, but more adaptation classes. It’s like D&d but without the math.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 06:39 PM
1

Talking to people comes naturally to some people , but it’s definitely a skill that you have to learn for most. This is going to sound absolutely crazy and I thought I’d hate it, and I did for the first bit, but can you sign up for improve? It literally forces you to develop skills, and everyone is understanding and trying to learn those same skills. It’s uncomfortable to do this, and if you do I’d recommend talking to the instructor beforehand. It’s basically like a giant therapy session from w…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 11:27 AM
1

This is all within the context of common language usage, not individual. You may view it differently, and that is normal and okay… but given how that language is used colloquially, just be weary of how it could be interpreted by others and how we may be seeing it ourselves.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/23 08:14 PM
3

This is a giant problem with TRP. The only real time you would use male or female when describing humans is in a scientific or medical context. They’re trying to legitimize the movement by hijacking language typically reserved for classification / study to make themselves seem like an authority on the subject. Females act like xyz because of pseudoscience. It both removes the humanity from the woman and creates an artificial barrier that separates them from half of the population. Language is in…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/23 02:55 PM
1

To parrot everyone else, women are people. Treat them like every other person, and voilà. If you have trouble talking with people in general, that’s a different discussion
/r/ExRedPill28/03/23 03:23 PM
3

I mean, self regulation is incredibly important as an emotionally mature adult, but that by no means suppressing, repressing, or avoiding emotions. It means you can deal with your emotions by acknowledging how you feel and in a healthy way. That’s good for anyone, and it’s something I’m teaching my kids. That being said, when you have a temper, if you’re bigger and stronger (male or female, especially if you’re dealing with kids or people smaller than you), you need to find ways to deal with tha…
/r/ExRedPill22/03/23 03:14 AM
7

I had endometriosis, melanoma, and celiac, all diagnosed in a 3 week period by a doctor who believed me and sent me to specialists with URGENT written on my file. I was dying and because I was in grad school and a woman, I was told it was stress repeatedly. When my bmi dropped to 17 and I said I was eating 3000 cals a day, they assumed I had an eating disorder rather than sudden unexplained weight loss… you know, because I was dying. After a decade of this I saw my mom’s family doctor and she as…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 03:51 AM
3

And medication
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 03:43 AM
2

A few of my ex’s were shorter than me, ranging from 5’2 to 6’4. I’m 5’8 and don’t care. My husband is my height. Some people just don’t care. Height doesn’t even register on my list of things I find attractive.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 01:05 PM
4

… it is exactly hypocritical and prejudiced … “Why are women allowed to have the exact same preferences that I do? How is this fair? Mine is just a physical preference! Women are allowed to have that, but why only when it negatively affects me?” My hun, physical preferences are one thing but why do you want a shorter woman? Is it because you want to feel stronger? Bigger? It follows a certain masculinity that you feel you’re lacking? You’re showing a lot of insecurity in this post, and based on …
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 12:59 PM
5

Then you’re asking about and fearful about the fact that women will treat you like you treat them by having a prejudice you have. A bit hypocritical, no?
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 10:54 AM
5

My husband is my height, around your height as well. Some people just don’t care. Would you care if you dated a woman taller than you? Some men would, but also some men absolutely wouldn’t.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 01:39 AM
2

It’s not the red pill they find attractive. They are being manipulated and abused. Man or woman, if someone is using these techniques on you and you don’t know or have any concept of what is happening paired with low self-confidence, it might work. Maybe for people who are traditional and stuck into rigid gender roles as kids may the concept look good, but in practice it’s predatory. Just because people fall for people in the red pill doesn’t mean they find “the red pill” attractive. It means th…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 09:23 PM
2

I have talked friends out of dating predatory men. The language in the RP is dehumanizing for everyone involved.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 06:11 PM
7

Oh the assumptions
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 01:51 PM
4

It’s kind of like hacking your body’s reactions to things like anxiety or depression. It takes a bit because you’re conditioning yourself to react a certain way, hence it works well at the beginning with on the spot anxiety treatment. As you’re able to control your body’s reactions (calm your breathing, get out of fight or flight mode, etc) you can work through what is causing you that stress and deal with it head on without physical reactions. But the thing about it is it feels absolutely ridic…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/22 12:38 AM
6

That’s why CBT works - it’s not talk therapy, it’s dealing with your body’s reaction to whatever it is that is causing your anxiety. Heck, my anxiety was hormone based and I couldn’t even identify my triggers sometimes, I’d just get a wash of anxiousness. It helped me stop the panic and spiral without needing medication once I got the hang of it.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 10:22 PM
5

Confidence doesn’t just exist as a silo. It’s caused by a number of things, one of which involves loving and accepting who you are as a person, knowing your strengths and limitations, and the ability to withstand / grow with (constructive) criticism. I find false confidence tends to be drawn from a sense of insecurity, is extremely fragile, and can border on arrogance as overcompensation. So, what is making you anxious? Is it anxiety? I found a combination of cognitive behavioural therapy (if ta…
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 04:15 PM
8

$150 a month and I’ve seen on AITA guys vindictively giving OF info to employers to deny women promotions or job opportunities. I would never risk it.
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 12:52 PM
2

Don’t thank that - and deception doesn’t make for more deception. Deception and and naivety go hand in hand more frequently, especially with narcissistic behavior. It’s why you frequently see 30-40 year old men preying on 18-22 year old women (or vise versa, There are a lot of much older women do the same to younger guys) and the second it’s mentioned it’s like a light switch went off. OOOHHHH, they’re an absolute parasite. Got it. Vulnerability should not be the raison d‘être for narcissistic a…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 01:23 AM
7

Some do, because they’re douche bags. And think of the kind of woman that would attract - is that the person you’d want to be partners with?
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 05:21 AM
1

That’s your answer. That really sucks. I’d recommend therapy so you learn to deal with it in a constructive way. I’d just go out of my way to give her space, tbh. Do what you can to make sure she doesn’t need to feel afraid, and build the best life you can with your current partner :)
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 12:33 AM
3

Seeing your name pop up may be triggering. You might need to just live with what you did and see a therapist to help with the weight. You sound like someone who has empathy, so I’m assuming you feel awful. It’s like bullies who reach out to their victims to say sorry - it can be so much worse for the victim.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 12:13 AM
6

On one hand, if you were just a jerk and apologizing, do it for them. If you were gaslighting and abusive and doing it to feel better yourself, I’d highly recommend not contacting them.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/22 11:46 PM
2

It was pulled from the federal stats site on abuse and intimate partner violence (so spouses and partners, not even date rape). It focused on women, so I got more for gay men as well to fill in the holes. Gay men are often overlooked. Trans women are even higher numbers, but it’s less intimate partner and more just general SA and violence. But somehow, so many women and gay men are victims of abuse and not a lot of men are convicted. I’m arguing that there needs to be better education and knowle…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 03:22 PM
3

Here is an example of why “only a small percentage of men engage in criminal behavior” is wrong. The statement should be “Very few men are convicted of criminal activity.” 30% of women are sexually assaulted by a man, and 1 in 4 raped. In men, it’s 1 in 7 for SA. Abuse is also extremely high in intimate partner violence, 79% of which is experienced by women, almost 90% by both gay men and women (stats pulled from Canada, higher in the US but I’m Canadian). When we look at conviction rates, it do…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 01:53 PM
3

I managed to find a positive masculine man who did things like took parental leave and is my partner in 50% of household activities without expectations that I’m the house manager. If anything ever happened to him, I don’t know if I could date another man he’s that awesome. I’d likely stick to women, just because that bar is so low and crap behavior is so common. I see my friends’ husbands and boyfriends, who I love, but just don’t understand. I couldn’t do it. And they’re good guys, but when on…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 11:21 AM
4

Most of the studies show that men perpetuate violence and follow up with “how can we better support men” to stop this violence. The answer is overwhelmingly stop aspects of toxic masculinity - which is essentially the red/black pill - and have mechanisms in place to allow men to practice positive masculinity, feel safe to be vulnerable, and create safe spaces to support each other rather than just relying on the women in their lives to support their emotional needs. It’s accurate, just like the …
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 11:12 AM
3

Do you know what it’s like for a woman on a dating app?
/r/ExRedPill15/09/22 12:13 AM
6

Exactly. I get nervous checking my messages because of just absolutely horrible stuff I’ve received, but I keep it in because sometimes people see a post I’ve written and I can help them with resources (websites, hospitals, etc). For their area. Some times is just disgusting. This isn’t a blessing, it’s a curse. Just existing doesn’t warrant some of the stuff I’ve been sent.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 04:25 PM
1

You don’t. You’re looking for a warm hole.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 02:33 PM
5

I have a grad degree in information science and have taught science and information literacy. I’m all about the disinformation :)
/r/ExRedPill25/08/22 04:03 PM
2

Private companies choosing the material they would like to have on their platform is pretty much as capitalist as you get. Unless you want the government to start forcing them to have misogynistic / racist hate speech on their platform…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 11:22 AM
6

It’s more likely, not inevitable. « The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient. » 20.8%, not 5. That’s over 1 in 5.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 12:35 AM
9

Here is one of the studies: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm A sadder write up https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 12:26 AM
8

It’s more that not handling rejection well is a GIANT red flag. Handling rejection and understanding and articulating boundaries shows self awareness and introspection with confidence in a person. It also shows that you’re able to respect a woman and that they can be safe with you. What’s also important is honesty - pair this with “I like you and I’ll have trouble being your friend” over fuckzoning them… it makes you more mature than most men I’ve met. And that’s a good thing. But that’s why tha…
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 02:55 AM
3

I don’t downvote, but I think the way you sound is resigned over angry / working towards a solution … generalizations and boxes harm people more than explain them
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 04:39 PM
4

I was insulted for both. I was a bit happy he was supported by his work, though, although they called his parental leave with 3 kids a “vacation”. 6 months in quarantine with 3 babies… that shit was HARD. But you’re right - we actively work to dismantle patriarchal norms, because they harm everyone
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 04:35 PM
7

It’s 62% in the US, but given that women tend to earn less than men and it’s within the same ballpark (ex $60 vs 70k), it isn’t as big of a driver as it was.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 02:40 PM
9

What you’re describing are patriarchal norms and we should actively be dismantling them. But when my husband stayed home with the kids, he was lauded, not criticized, by everyone.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 02:38 PM
10

House spouse, and my husband and I swapped on occasion because we make the same amount. It’s whatever made the most financial sense at the time. And I was looked down on for “giving up my career” (I didn’t), and “isn’t it great not to work?” (I burned out hard - it’s easier to work than be a stay at home parent), he was called a “hands on dad” and “an amazing father”
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 02:36 PM
4

Same with me! He couldn’t even get the day off from bagging groceries. That was 15 years ago. We do well now, but it’s not like we didn’t work minimum wage jobs.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 12:39 AM
1

Most people I know had court weddings or in my case, Drive through for the hell of it. We’re all engineers, accountants, doctors, researchers, etc. The other half didn’t even bother being married and are just living with their partner for a decade or two now… with or without kids. The only weddings I’ve been to have been for religious people.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 12:37 AM
9

I know very few guys that you would have described as a chad. Most of my guy friends do not fall into that category, even the models. What I see are normal guys married to normal women with kids. My husband is 5’8, my height, with straight hair and stocky. Today is our 15th anniversary. The kids friends dads all vaguely look between 5’4-6’2 with varying degrees of hair and weight. I know a few people who are ugly, and most of them have wives / long term partners. One doesn’t, but that’s because …
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 06:33 PM
3

You have adhd. I have adhd and it exists. Medication helps a lot. I could also tell you that endometriosis doesn’t exist because you don’t see it, but you crack open a person with the disease, and surprise! Endometriosis. Well, brain scans have been done on people with adhd and, also not so surprisingly, it shows that it’s caused by a lack of dopamine. The meds help correct it. But just picture running on a beach - everyone is running on the sand, and you’re running waist deep. You’re getting ca…
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 01:12 AM
9

Yes, it’s 100% known that women, who make up the vast majority of care positions and are known for not leaving their sick partners while the opposite is true, are known for not having empathy. Dude, women are people. Women have empathy.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 11:51 AM
1

Well, désolé, bruh but this is where we differ. Your problem is that you live in an echo chamber. I also have eyes. Most of my guy friends play video games, like me. Like my husband and I, they are engineers, in CS, IS, and IT. My friends who are women are also from similar backgrounds and fell for men who treated them as equal rather than were how you were describing. Honestly, my father was the equivalent of trp and that kind of behavior did not pull the kind of women you’d be looking for. His…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 11:44 AM
1

Thank you for telling me! I had no clue what I and women I know looked for in a relationship. How could I have been so blind?! Clearly I needed you, a man, to explain to me my deepest wants and desires because my poor feminine brain couldn’t decide what it wants! Silly me for thinking I understand I wanted a partner and not a parent telling me what to do and taking command of my life, leading me to be happier and… Okay, enough with the BS. Understand that what you said is unequivocally false, an…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 01:46 AM
2

Are you telling me you know what I want more than I do? Because I want a partner, not a leader. Most women do. My family, friends, mom’s groups… what next, you going to explain my cycle?
/r/ExRedPill28/07/22 06:18 PM
15

I look back and was persuaded into inviting my RP father. I regret it. Don’t be me. I told him the wedding started 2 hours earlier than it was just so he’d arrive on time, and he was still an hour late. These people don’t belong in your life if they won’t make the effort to treat you like a person. They actively don’t like you for no other reason than you being born female.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/22 05:39 PM
10

Fuckzoned. Women get fuckzoned and the betrayal is awful. It’s such a dirty feeling to think your friend is only there because they think you owe them something for being their friend. Actually, men get this too. The outcome is still gross.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 05:52 PM
3

20% of men are not leaders. And that isn’t a motivation, it’s a skill.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 01:23 PM
1

Your internal motivation is your own. What you choose to do with it is something else. Mine is to help people and help the environment - I fall under the helper category. Does it mean I can’t lead? No. I lead where I have to. But my motivation behind doing something, getting out of bed, is helping. I work in IA and IT - I now work for the federal government designing policy for the entire government to help as many people as possible, and am indirectly helping climate scientists by supporting th…
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 01:21 PM
5

As a white feminist, holy freaking hell I recognize my privilege. There was an analogy I saw a few years back, though. For every privilege you have, you take a step forward. Every thing that removes you further away from the tall, relatively handsome, moderately wealthy NT white cis Herero male between the ages of 22-60, take a step back. You all have to run the same race, the same finish line, but you all have different starting points. This arbitrary setup was created by a series of decisions …
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 05:07 AM
1

Also, acknowledging what is happening is one of the best things you can do. It creates a foundation to build on with your therapist. It’s way harder to work with someone that refuses to admit they are the problem.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 06:36 AM
2

Nerdy woman married to a nerdy man. We find each other :)
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 03:49 AM
5

20, okay 1500… That’s like the entire adult male population of a small English town
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 02:07 AM
1

In my mind all I can think of is he’s likely a walking STI and he’s so bad that no woman would want to sleep with him more than once. I’d also think they were a liar, because the math doesn’t add up.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 02:05 AM
0

Most women I know who refer to big dick energy use it as a derogatory term.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 02:40 PM
27

I’m married to a wonderful man, but I see some of my married friends with partners who just don’t understand the mental load, who are nice guys but rely on their wives and help to manage the house chores, birthdays, calling parents, laundry, etc. In that situation, give me solitude, because that’s not a partner, it’s a bed warmer
/r/ExRedPill12/07/22 05:21 AM
1

Find a woman who love you for who you are? Some women don’t consider those things at all in their equation. A fair number of them, actually. Someone made a comment about the perfect guy who was 5’6 on my local mom’s group a few months back and I wish I had saved it - she asked if it was okay. There were over 100 comments of women who were saying their husbands were shorter than they were, that height is the dumbest measurement for a partner, and the single person who mentioned they preferred tal…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 09:45 PM
1

I consider dating like a race. Picture it being an 100m race, and that certain attributes put a person further ahead or further behind. Now the thing is, for every woman or man, these attributes change. Height, like 5’8, is a neutral for me because height isn’t something I consider important. You wouldn’t step forward or backwards. Some people place a great importance on height. You’d step forward or backwards depending on some arbitrary number. Some people would put you so far back that you wou…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 07:33 PM
3

I’m 5’8. My husband is 5’8. My shortest boyfriend was 5’3, and my tallest was 6’3. Who the heck cares - they were people. The women who care about your height are basically self selecting themselves out of your dating pool - what kind of person judges someone on their height? Would you want to date someone like that? Unless you can definitely tell me that men won’t date tall women, average weight women, larger women, women with small boobs, women with small butts, women with big butts, etc. And …
/r/ExRedPill02/07/22 12:52 AM
1

Women not finding you attractive can be caused by a number of things. But not conforming to gender norms and accepting that these norms are hurting you as a person is a patriarchal issue. If you think you’re unattractive because, for instance, you are smaller framed and think in order to be accepted by women you must be 6 feet tall and 225 of muscle, that’s a patriarchal and you issue. So for instance, you grew up your whole life feeling unattractive and less of a man because you (small framed).…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 04:10 PM
2

It has a solution. Abortion. It’s not a crime, nor is it morally wrong in my books. Other people don’t get to decide what I find ethical or moral, and the law is on my side, at least in my country. My action, sex, would have an unintentional consequence despite precautions, pregnancy, and I have a solution, abortion, so I don’t have to potentially die or be forced to have a baby. I don’t see why you think that removing the solution is a good answer. It removes bodily autonomy. Forced organ donat…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 09:33 PM
3

Fortunately people shouldn’t be forced to have them. I shouldn’t be forced to give up my body for 9 months, at great risk and expense to myself, because I’m in a relationship with a man. I’m also in a country where I have full bodily autonomy and didn’t grow up with this weird “abortion is murder” debate. It’s really weird and really creepy. Imagine if you were forced to give up your body to donate organs or blood, or stem cells, to save a life. Not chose, but forced. Like you accidentally cause…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 07:53 PM
2

No method of birth control is 100% effective. Even if you stack. And the government is coming for contraception next. I have a cousin born after a vasectomy, my friend had a baby with a copper IUD, and I am a product of a failed condom and antibiotics mixed with birth control. Shit happens. There needs to be a choice. I know I was wanted. I know my cousin was wanted. I know my nephew was wanted. I also know people who had abortions that would have made TERRIBLE parents or that pregnancy would ha…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 07:07 PM
3

r/healthygamergg is also pretty good from what I’ve seen, as is r/bropill Oh - and surprisingly r/witchesvspatriarchy is really male inclusive for specifically men facing patriarchal issues. As long as they aren’t accompanied by “why won’t women have sex with me”? If that’s your biggest concern in life, then therapy.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 06:56 PM
1

Hey, I’m going to say this as a mom many times over. There is a point in your pregnancy when the baby becomes viable and you get a sense of relief. People who get up to that point know they’re pregnant 99% of the time and want that baby. You have bonded with it. You talk with it. This is an unborn child. An “abortion” at this point is because they are incompatible with life, have a severe genetic issue, or will literally kill you. Late term abortions are devastating for everyone and those who ge…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 06:39 PM
2

Many people getting abortions are either married or in long term relationships who already had kids and couldn’t have another child (59%). Or a child at all. https://www.guttmacher.org/report/characteristics-us-abortion-patients-2014 The second and third trimester abortions are the ones that are typically wanted children that have a fetal abnormality or can and will kill the mom (like what happened with Savita Halappanavar).
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 06:26 PM
2

It’s really a sad state of things that I’m order for men to empathize with women, they need to be affected in some way.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 06:20 PM
2

It’s a mess. And this is even in Canada - not even in the US. My husband just walked right in and got a vasectomy last year without my permission (but we have 3 kids and we’re done). Its definitely a double standard. It’s not even like you can lie about it - vasectomies usually take a weekend to feel normal again, but a tubal ligation or hysterectomy take weeks to months to heal. A hysterectomy usually involves pelvic floor therapy because of the trauma. But this goes down to the infantilism of …
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 08:32 PM
2

Women don’t just need permission, we have to fight tooth and nail to get medical treatment for things like endometriosis. A lot of doctors won’t even treat it (excision/hysterectomy) if you’re under a certain age or haven’t had kids. Irony is, it also causes infertility and painful sex. I couldn’t even get mine treated until I was over 30 and had 8 years of infertility. I brought in my husband and they finally took me seriously. But to get your tubes tied, a much larger and more invasive surgery…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 07:18 PM
1

Here is the breakdown in the US: https://news.gallup.com/poll/245618/abortion-trends-gender.aspx
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 06:33 PM
3

Ive never had an abortion and I don’t know if I would… but id hate to be in a scenario where I would need one and couldn’t even make the choice. I was lucky to have 3 healthy pregnancies, and my losses needed no intervention, so no risk of sepsis.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:37 AM
3

I worked for the courts at one point. Family court. This is unequivocally false. The only full custody I ever saw was to men (one thé mom gave up her rights, the second was because of parental alienation). Judges would NOT grant a man less custody than the mom, unless the mom was exclusively breastfeeding an infant. It usually reached out to 40/60 based on days of the week (7 days don’t break apart easily). I saw thousands of these cases. I saw some really ugly sides of families. But I would nev…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:32 AM
2

And it is - but we were talking about Herero cis women making decisions about their future based on their inability to regulate their reproduction. There was even less capability for people who were gay or lesbian, and they were often forced to marry outside of their sexual orientation or join the clergy in the judeo Christian world. It was freaking messed up how any person who wasn’t a cis Herero male got screwed historically overall. And then those who were trans or non binary… These are compl…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 02:34 PM
2

Ironically, I was a historian and an archaeologist, and by virtue of my previous employment have traveled the world many times over. My focus was in near eastern and Mediterranean archaeology (grad), and my history degrees were in modern japan and classics, with some near eastern studies. So what I can say is that women, based on the fact that they had no say over their birth control, had to make decisions/were forced by their fathers to support their families. In matrilineal societies, or place…
/r/ExRedPill23/06/22 12:47 PM
3

You’re telling me an awful lot about my gender. Please tell me again how i will prostitute myself to the highest bidder, as one of billions of women who see nothing but a paycheck or forearm size to choose a mate. The concept is utterly ridiculous. You might think that women only have value because of their looks or status, but don’t assume that women feel the same way. Also, it creates a power discrepancy. Most women are looking for a partner, not a parent or caretaker. I’d have had to think re…
/r/ExRedPill22/06/22 04:37 PM
5

How did they get rich and successful and become sex symbols if they weren’t sexy to begin with?
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 11:38 AM
7

I saw your post history. You need to start looking inward and doing positive affirmations, because you don’t seem to even like yourself. Or think you have value. I just wanted to say, you do. Every single person is worth something. You have value irregardless of your looks, which are average and you have nothing to worry about. But you’ve been fixating on the DMs and the people who have been criticizing you over the vast majority of people who have been saying the opposite because it’s reinforci…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/22 12:09 AM
5

I don’t know how you could still be redpill if you viewed women as people instead of just sex objects who don’t want to be viewed as nothing but a sex object. Women are people, human beings, with the same complex feelings and emotions and diversity as men.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/22 05:35 PM
6

If you were, you would understand that women aren’t a uniform hive mind and “understanding women” is fundamentally flawed.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/22 04:49 PM
6

It’s really not. You have to stop thinking of women as a separate homogeneous blob - we’re just people with different likes and dislikes.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 07:24 PM
10

I think the age gap can create a power dynamic that can become a grossly unhealthy relationship if the two people are in very different locations in their lives as well. A 26 year old dad and a 35 year old mom may be in the same place if they happen to meet and their kids are in the same school for instance. But as a general rule, this tends to be correct. And that gap grows as you age (think a 55 year old dating a 70 year old vs a 20 year old dating a 35 year old).
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 01:46 AM
6

It’s misogynistic to think that choosing their “primitive” brain (are we talking reptilian or primal brain? https://thebrain.mcgill.ca/flash/d/d_05/d_05_cr/d_05_cr_her/d_05_cr_her.html) is gendered thing is asinine. People use the three parts of their brain in equal measure. Some people may have impulse control issues and fall back or rely on different parts of their brain. Truth is truth? Im not getting why you said this considering all of these « pills » are seeded in misogyny and pseudoscienc…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 11:57 PM
17

I don’t think it’s hypocritical. If in a perfect situation you have sex workers who are not needing to go into sex work but chose it as a career and are empowered to do so, kudos! If you are employing women who are forced to do this because they have no other method of supporting themselves, their kids, etc. yes, it’s exploitive. Do I think society as a whole should support male and female escorts / prostitutes to choose rather than be forced? Yes. But body counts? You’re comparing apples to Joh…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:33 PM
3

Most women I know would protest a draft. I’d protest one. And if there is a draft, I think it should be split men/women. But i fundamentally think there shouldn’t be a draft.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 11:23 AM
16

If you think women haven’t been victims of trp or haven’t been trapped in that mentality, I have some beans to sell you. And if you think women can’t offer support for men because of our gender when literally talking to woman will help realize that women are humans as well and aren’t a separate homogeneous blob of hormones… I don’t know what to say.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 04:02 PM
4

I honestly don’t know a single person who can’t use a mental health check in with a therapist, and you sound like you need it more than most. There is no threshold for “stage you need therapy,” but as an outsider, you need therapy. And my husband is a stocky man at 5’8, my height. There is a type for everyone. He’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but he is certainly mine. Because we all have different taste. Your insecurity and dysmorphia needs to be addressed if you want to find yourself in a health…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 01:57 AM
4

You need to be a self-rescuing prince at this point. It’s not a partner’s job to save you. To support, yes, but dating isn’t going to make you magically be better.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 12:35 AM
41

1) Women are not a uniform blob 2) Who actually talks about penis size? No one cares if you’re good enough with foreplay. 3) You have issues with the way you look and it sounds like you need therapy to get out of your dysmorphia. Literally try looking for good things rather than bad. Positive affirmations work, just as well as the negative ones you’ve been brainwashing yourself with, and with the help of therapy, they would be more accurate. Jist is, you need to break the cycle but it will requi…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 06:24 PM
8

Mr. Rogers was both nice and not a doormat. He stood up to congress and commanded respect and admiration while being kind. It’s not easy to be kind - genuinely kind - when faced with a frankly pretty shitty world. But it is a good trait to have. Im not referring to being a « nice guy ». Those guys are selfish, lack empathy, and don’t view women as anything other than potential sex partners, which is disgusting. Empathy, boundaries, knowledge of your own worth (without arrogance), loving yourself…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 05:41 PM
12

That is definitely not the case. I don’t know what feminist forums you participate in, but maybe if you spent some time in one you would see that anyone who said what you just did would be shot down fast. The consensus is that the patriarchy hurts women and men equally for many different reasons. Sexual violence is wrong, and male sexual violence is discussed often. In fact there are a number of men on r/witchesvspatriarchy and other feminist dominated subreddits.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 03:51 AM
11

This is a place for people to help get out of the redpill mentality. If that is what you are looking for, then this is the place. The redpill is not looked upon in a good light - check out the posts :) You’ll see many, many arguments against it, all for good reason.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 10:21 PM
2

Of course Saskue wasn’t happy! He had been manipulated his entire life. Every one of those kids in Naruto needed a hug and a loving family. I watched it growing up (as a teen) and remember hating all the adults on that show for treating the kids that way. Saskue needed love, so did Naruto, and no one just loved them unconditionally just for being them. It’s been a decade since I’ve spent any time with my abuser, and I don’t feel the need to yell at him. Tbh I nothing him now, and it is so much b…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 05:28 PM
1

I don’t think body image issues are solely a female thing, just that parents and society tends to police woman’s bodies more than men. If your body was being policed, then it is completely reasonable that you have those issues. Remember, though, these issues aren’t gender exclusive. They exist because of the control that was exerted over your body. It’s not a feminine issue, it’s a “you were physically dominated as a child and have self-esteem problem” issue. It sounds like you’re getting a stab…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 04:37 PM
1

You can. If you spend more time recovering from a conversation than the length of the conversation, it’s just not worth it.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 12:25 PM
3

Same here - my dad was red pill combined with mental health issues. My mom was shamed constantly and my body was policed rather severely. The mental abuse was brutal. I found myself wishing he’d be more physically abusive so I could just have an excuse to leave… then I left, and my mom and brother followed shortly after. I’m almost 40 now, and haven’t spoken to him in over a decade.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/22 08:06 PM
4

It is the same, though. I full on kneed in the nuts and likely broke the toes of the guy who attacked me. It took him 5-10 minutes to hobble out of the bar, just before I stopped panicking. I’m 5’8, I’ve taken martial arts, and he was sloppy drunk (not my customer). But I felt completely violated. It’s okay to be stronger and feel that way. Most gay men I know, like most men I know, wouldn’t make a person feel this way. It’s the ones that behave so obscenely that give you all a bad name.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/22 12:56 AM
5

It’s hard being on the receiving end of that - I’m sorry you faced that.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 11:45 PM
13

A gun wouldn’t help in most situations - at the bar, I couldn’t carry a weapon working. On thé Subway, at work, at a party, at the mall, in classes, on campus. Or at age 11 walking down the road. In most situations a gun is completely unrealistic. It’s not guys hiding in bushes at night. It’s a conversation with someone that goes wrong, or men not respecting boundaries. A weapon is more likely to get turned on you in these situations. You avoid them by stopping them before they happen - so autom…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 07:42 PM
14

It’s happened to literally every woman I know, including my mom, aunts, and grandmas. They had a way or normalizing the behavior. My mom still tells me stories of men not taking no as an answer after my stepdad died, and I feel like calling them up and yelling at them. If there is no attraction and they’ve made it clear, THERE IS NO CHANCE. The only way they’ve laid off her now is that she’s ‘taken’. How gross is that? I know not all men - I married a wonderful man and have 3 boys, brothers, ama…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 03:40 PM
21

The amount of times I have been groped before is too damn high. I’m now almost 40, and have zero qualms with making a massive scene, but as a teen/early 20s, I was mortified. At 24, I was a bartender and assaulted while clearing tables upstairs after a private party. The guy was drunk and I was thankfully wearing a pair of steel toe boots that had some weight behind them. He got a stomp on the foot and a knee to the groin. I hid and cried for 10 minutes
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 02:42 PM
4

My husband and brother both do. It’s important… because both skin cancer (sunscreen daily) and other things happen
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 03:17 PM
46

What wall? The crazies (men and women) tend to be single because they’re incapable of cohabitation? As people pair off, some people are left. And most of them aren’t actually crazy - some are ace, some are happy alone, some don’t want a relationship, some have mental health problems that aren’t addressed because healthcare is awful, some have been hurt in the past and don’t want that to happen again, some lost a partner and it hurts too much to move on, etc. There is no wall. Men and women exper…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 11:50 PM
22

Abuse is a series of boundaries being crossed. It never starts how it ends. It’s like malignancy, and the person corrupts your viewpoint bit by bit to make you give up a part of yourself so that you feel like you deserve that treatment and that they are the only person who can tolerate you. They can be extremely charismatic and charming externally, and it always escalates. Based on how formulaic it is, I’m curious if they have conventions.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 11:39 PM
4

Are you honestly trying to tell me what most of my gender thinks? You’d think I’d have a bit more insight as a 40 year old woman with other female friends, in mom groups, family just like you. Women who judge based on height are literally self identifying as people you don’t want to wind up with - be grateful for that, it makes your life easier in the long run. The only personality trait that can come with shortness that I don’t like in a person is when I get criticized for my height because the…
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 10:32 PM
2

I have a few cousins your height. They aren’t manlettes - they’re amazing people, husbands, and fathers. Don’t you dare talk about yourself or them like that. Your value as a human being isn’t tied to attractiveness or height. Hell, not even intelligence.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 09:19 PM
6

You need a therapist and need to start realizing that you are worth something even if you don’t see yourself as perfect. No one is perfect. And you’re projecting how other people feel because YOU feel Inadequate about YOU. How can you be in a relationship at all if you don’t see your worth? And you have value, every single person does, even if you don’t see it.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 09:04 PM
2

Um… the men in my family on the one side are short, and all of their partners are on all ends of the height range. My 5’2 uncle’s wife is 5’10, my cousin, same height, wife is 4’10. My grandpa was 5’1 and my grandma was 5’8. In fact, of all of my short family (and I have a lot), the only single one who isn’t in a good relationship is the one who is so steeped in toxic masculinity that he has difficulty developing a healthy relationship. Not a relationship - he has many - but a good and functiona…
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 08:57 PM
5

I think he’s a slytherin
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 09:34 PM
2

Hey! Me too :D
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 09:32 PM
2

Staying on topic, why do you keep bringing women up when we’re discussing toxic masculinity? It has no bearing on the discussion, and shows your dislike of women in general. Then bringing up the patriarchy, which does exist and actually perpetuates toxic masculinity in many cases, also shows a complete lack of understanding of what any of these terms mean. So your argument is part deflection and part ignorance sprinkled with undertones of misogyny and a slight strawman. Did I miss anything? Do y…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 12:40 AM
4

That isn’t toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is the cultural pressure on men to behave in a certain way, particularly around manliness, so domination, aggression, and homophobia without any acknowledgement of emotional needs. Hyper masculinity is another term for it. Being secure in who you you are isn’t toxic masculinity. Being masculine isn’t toxic. Positive masculinity is actually taking the good parts of what are considered good masculine/human traits, like bravery, self-reliance, and con…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 08:00 PM
10

Wow… consent is extremely attractive and sexy, and a man who owns his own sexuality without the toxic shit is exactly what many of us are looking for. I can’t think of a single instance where toxic masculinity isn’t awkward and reek of a lack of self confidence.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 06:10 PM
3

Almost no one is irredeemable (child abusers and people who talk at the movies aside). First off, stop reading red pill stuff - there is no reason why you should be on there. Don’t try to understand where your abusive ex was coming from, and don’t try to make sense of it. If you aren’t dealing with custody issues, just move him from the real estate in your head as best as possible. The kind of therapy you may need is cognitive behavioral therapy. It will help you create positive responses to the…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 01:25 AM
5

Imagine your good friend or sister writing this What would you say to them? Write down your answer and read it. Read it out loud. Think about it for a bit. Go to a therapist. Your husband needs serious help, but I think he was pushing boundaries by telling you his addiction to sex workers, slowly giving up chores, emotional and verbal abuse, and now has you basically wondering how to salvage a marriage and feeling that no longer exists. It’s not your job to fix him. He has to want to change to d…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/22 08:41 PM
15

Wait, he’s telling you about women and female nature? Really? This is a core value. Is this something you’re Willing to deal with for the remainder of your relationship? What if you have kids? Will you want them around this crap?
/r/ExRedPill29/11/21 04:27 PM
3

I’m here to help - I joined this sub after the incel attacks in Toronto (where they just missed my brother) and the suicide of my little (male) cousin within days of each other.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 06:31 PM
5

Mind over mood second edition also is a good book to add to that list, as is feeling good together.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 11:52 PM
1

I’m open to suggestions. The man? An unseen rule that places rich and powerful cis white men on top pyramid that classifies people into boxes and benefits a very select few to the detriment of anyone else? All these rules from the red pill are basically parroting the issues that most men and women have when classified under rigid social/gender/racial/economic standards. These rules have a lot of names… but the minute you try and classify a group of people and put them into a box, you come into m…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/21 04:51 PM
13

That women are uniform and feminists are evil and hate men. All the feminists I know (most women I know) dislike the “patriarchy” for lack of a better term… but that isn’t men - it’s the institution that empowers a small subset of men. I am a feminist because I want my boys to be able to show emotions and choose whatever profession they want without having to worry about being mocked for their emotions or decisions. It’s so weird to hear complaints about feminists while simultaneously complainin…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/21 05:00 AM
4

I’d say be the positive male role model in their lives. I’m raising nothing but boys, and we make a point here of removing toxic masculinity, teaching consent, and how to understand ethics from day 1. They are going to need that. Kids aren’t born misogynists (racists, misandrists, any of the ists), they’re taught that behavior. Good on you for stepping up and helping your sister. She’s going to need you.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/21 08:20 PM
5

Those kids are going to need some serious therapy - the boys to stop them from the dad’s craziness, and the daughter from the complete rejection of her father.m My dad is a mentally ill potential red pill man (if not he really doesn’t like women, especially lesbians, or anyone who he can’t manipulate) - it’s hard.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/21 08:05 PM
7

No. There never have been and there never will be. That being said, there are attributes that some women and men find attractive. That list changes based on the person. Some attributes are more consistent among partners, some go in and out of style (think regency men vs 1990 body builders). But something that is pretty consistent now is self worth and emotional intelligence. I don’t know many women who want to be treated like crap, and if they do, they usually come with baggage as to why they be…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/21 04:00 PM
5

I met my husband in university, and we were both students. If he had come from a loaded family, and had that type of personality that went along with it, we wouldn’t be together. I grew up with friends and family like that - it’s not attractive. He was the first of his family to go to university, blue collar parents, etc. But he worked hard and was ethical, even at 19. He matched me and we complemented each other. Money was by far not a deciding factor between us, but kindness, family, goals, tr…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/21 04:44 AM
3

It’s not a dealbreaker for many people. My husband is my height, and I had dated men both taller and shorter than I am in the past. It’s like saying you want a woman with a great backside, but you meet someone who frankly doesn’t have one - would that stop you from dating them? Is it THE deciding factor in your relationship? Or you like redheads and a blonde sweeps you off your feet. Or hate glasses and you meet someone with bifocals. It’s just a preference. I’d wish my husband were healthier ov…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/21 11:22 PM
7

I’m not, but my dad was. My mom finally left him when I was 20. We didn’t realize it then (17 years ago, 10 years NC), and I don’t know if he changed, but he was a GIANT N and just awful if he turned off his charming ability. Terrible dad, terrible husband, useless friend. I still get the occasional flying monkey, but nothing by comparison to when my grandma was alive. He’s hit the bottom now, or so I’ve heard. I’m glad you also got out. It took 15 years of therapy and taking my mental health se…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 06:54 PM
2

I’ve taught my boys to help anyone if there is a need (one is weaker than the other, etc) - but help in a way that is safe for them. So for instance call 911 if they witness an assault and let the attacker know the police are almost there, or to make loud noises and shout for help and point out people for help if they can’t do that. 9 times out of 10, telling someone that you called the police is enough to get them to run. Until they have the skills (are a police officer/have background in pract…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/21 10:05 PM
4

I couldn’t honestly imagine being with a much younger man. I’d want someone in the same place as I am. If anything happened to me, my husband wouldn’t want someone half his age. My mom is living her best life, and she’s with a man maybe 10 years older than she is. And she’s happy, he’s happy - they both lost their spouses to cancer and now have each other and love each other.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 02:47 AM
12

Which is absolutely ridiculous - at 30, my life basically began. And my mom is 56, and she is living THE life. People are weird.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 12:58 AM
14

I come from a family of models. When I was younger (not 37) I can truly say I was attractive. Not a model like some of my cousins, but attractive. With 4 generations of models in my family, I’m not ignorant of my shortcomings, I’m just stating a fact of my life. I find my husband extremely attractive, honestly he has gotten more so over the years, but he doesn’t fit what people would call a chad. He’s a stocky 5’8 (as tall as I am) nerd who wore glasses and had a bit of acne when we first met. W…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 01:57 AM
11

So you’re 20, and by the sounds of it, you have a motive for hanging out with your friends who are girls. You won’t have any true girl friends until you start treating them like your guy friends and not secretly hoping for a relationship with them. That’s some nice guy territory. You’re not being fair to them by expecting to date them but only presenting like a friend, and you are not being fair to yourself for pining after your friends who view you as a friend or brother. This kind of behavior …
/r/ExRedPill14/01/21 12:53 AM
2

I married my husband because he is kind and empathetic. Not despite the fact. My family are models, men and women, 3 generations (4 if I got my kids into it, especially my oldest son), and I can say that the happiest couples are those that embraced who they were and found people who complemented them rather than those who looked best on paper.
/r/ExRedPill12/01/21 06:23 AM
12

I Am a woman. Nothing you said about women is true. I wouldn’t date a billionaire, or frankly someone who is ultra rich, because 1) the power dynamic would be off, and 2) it takes a kind of person to become ultra rich. None of my friends would either My husband is 5’8, stocky, and a d&d nerd. He’s kind, considerate, and caring and that’s what drew me to him. He’s an amazing dad, and I love him more every day. We’ve been together 16 years. My friends all chose partners in the same way - men they …
/r/ExRedPill10/12/20 02:57 AM
12

Honestly, no. It’s utterly made up We can all make up stats. I’ll say this - one half of my family are from models (my dad, grandma, aunts, brother, and some of my cousins), and wealthy. No. It’s not like that. A certain kind of person pursues that kind of man.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 05:03 AM
3

Hop over to r/menslib - they might have some help as to where to go so you don’t wind up down that rabbit hole again
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 01:40 AM
2

Head over to r/menslib for some support if you need it
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 11:41 PM
3

It was such a dark book. I was surprised when Disney said they were releasing it years ago. I read the book in French in high school. I was traumatized by it.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/20 12:43 AM
3

I tell my boys this all the time. Be confident in your decisions, cry with conviction, and own your makeup. My oldest loves butterflies and babies, and my middle boy cuddles. What you’re describing is toxic masculinity, and believe me, women are fighting to give men safe places as well. The last thing I want if for my sons to be cut off from their emotions and who they are. I lost my teenage cousin to suicide because of this... I don’t want to lose anyone else. Check out r/menslib if you’re real…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 06:37 PM
18

Only if your in your 20s. I think men and women in their 20s look like kids and would have a hard time dating someone who is 25 or even 30.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/20 04:43 AM
36

I’m 36 and married for 14 years to my nice guy. We were dating for years before. I knew exactly what I wanted, and have an awesome relationship. I interpreted her comments very differently - like she wished she would have had the sense to date nicer (read not assholes) in her 20s. The red pill is extremely unhealthy. It is toxic. It’s based on pseudoscience and was originally created so a few guys could market sex and unhealthy relationships for profit. It then developed a cult following. It is …
/r/ExRedPill24/06/20 04:38 AM
3

“I’m socially isolated” “I would never be friends with a woman who isn’t sleeping with me”
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 04:56 PM
2

It’s a cult. Get out. You need therapy.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 01:56 AM
3

Part of the friend zone, and I say this as a woman, is that it’s occasionally dangerous to say a hard no. And a lot of us have been programmed from a very young age to be people pleasers. “Make him happy”, “why don’t you smile more,” “you should be nicer - he acted that way because you were mean,” etc. When I was in university, I had a few friends who were raped (one guy, 3 women) and myself and all of my other female friends have been both sexually harassed or assaulted before the age of 25. I …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 08:40 PM
23

Yesterday he asked me some extremely rude questions concerning my virginity and looks in order to validate his world view. I’m a 36 year old mom of 3 and have been married for 14 years. I’m on here because I nearly lost a brother to an incel attack, and lost a baby cousin to toxic masculinity. He implied my opinion only really counted if I wasn’t a whore before I got married... and used a bunch of terminology that was both extremely offensive and immature to describe people, just every day peopl…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 06:39 PM
7

It’s not really relevant, but I’m from a family of models. Looks are at the freaking bottom of my list. Do you know what comes with hyper attractive men?! Their personalities. My dad and little brother and some of my male cousins are/were models, (as were my aunts, grandma, and some cousins). None developed healthy relationships until they got out. Because basing a mature relationship on looks alone is toxic and superficial. My grandma was a gold digger, as was my dad and a single aunt. They all…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 05:49 PM
19

I married my husband at 22. We were both in university, and had negative money. I chose him because he was a good person, not money. Some people are gold diggers, like my dad and nana were, but they come in every gender. They can usually be weeded out by not including your income or job when you’re dating for a bit, or off any dating websites. They are pretty damned obvious, and male or female, they are horrible people.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 01:05 PM
2

What the absolute fuck are you talking about? Seriously, have you ever talked to a woman? Because what you’re saying is just blatantly wrong. This painting everyone with broad strokes and trying to categorize people into boxes is what leads to things like the red pill, racism, sexism, etc. All women want to ride the cock. Men want nubile fertility Blacks are violent Asians are short and no one wants to date them Teens are dumb Old people have no investment in life 20 year old boys are too impuls…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 03:01 PM
7

Don’t mention your job or how much you make? I met my husband in university, and we were both dirt poor. It didn’t stop me from loving him.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 12:25 AM
3

It’s tough to balance, but make friends too. A good group will pull you through as much as you pull them through. It’s so hard to know who will crack or who is (honestly) evil/Machiavellian, but there always seems to be one. I made great friends in grad school, though, but one took his life shortly after because of the stress/drugs (prescription) caught up with him. He was such a good guy, too. Wanted to be a kindergarten teacher with a PhD. Good luck! And medication should not be a dirty word, …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 06:55 AM
9

Honestly, therapy. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to be straight. It helps with anxiety and depression, but also with intrusive thoughts and improving reactions to situations out of your control. Your initial reactions to things aren’t who you are, and until you’re able to change them, you can’t judge yourself on those. Pair that with some mindfulness, maybe download insight timer, and work on finding a feeling of calm that you can draw from. You’re at a university, so there should be some …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 06:06 AM
5

They’re implying that feminism is still needed because of misogyny, which is true. But internalized misogyny is one thing, but if you recognize it and actively work on changing your perception, it means you’re capable of growing. That’s what you’re doing. I don’t think their statement was fair given the context. I hate bringing this word into it, but feminism is against the patriarchy and all that it entails, which is why I’m a feminist and not an egalitarian. The patriarchy exists, and it isn’t…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 07:32 PM
10

In my mind they are the exact same. Feminism has traditionally been about raising women to where men are, not tearing men down. Now it’s focusing on putting men in positions where women traditionally held, like stay at home parents, and recognizing that men have the emotional capabilities prescribed to women.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 10:43 PM
5

I’ll say that I’m a feminist and I’m raising boys. My feminism is fighting for my boys ability to emote. To identify emotions, speak about them, and to embrace their feelings. To develop friendship with both boys and girls and have meaningful connections with both. To say that men are one dimensional, this whole alpha male crap, etc. is the reason so many of our boys are killing themselves. I lost a cousin to that when he was only 17, and I’m trying to make sure no one falls down the rabbit hole…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 08:52 PM
2

I had a narcissistic father, but have broken the cycle of abuse. I do get some of it. Definitely try CBT. It was the only form of therapy that worked for me.
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 12:57 PM
2

Try looking at them and thinking that might just be the way they smile, or they may be attracted to you. Or maybe give a goofy smile if you think it’s for dominance. And like the other posters here, I’ll add - see a therapist. I did cognitive behavioural therapy, and it reframed how I look at things so I don’t project, helped with my anxiety, and helped remove invasive negative thoughts.
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 05:29 AM
5

Everyone has their own thing, and sometimes what works one day doesn’t work another. Women are complex beings, just like men. They have moods, likes, dislikes, phases, etc. I know this because I am a woman, and can say truly that how I want sex is dependent on how I and my husband feel. We are respectful, and cater to each other. He meets me, and I meet him where we are most comfortable. I believe just asking women, just normal women and friends for an honest answer might be extremely awkward if…
/r/ExRedPill06/11/19 03:13 AM
3

And on the first point, I’d add that traditional women’s work has always been underpaid. When women were programmers, they made a pittance by comparison, but as the role gradually drew in men, women were shunned and the average income skyrocketed. Then take information science vs. Library science. Essentially the exact same degrees, but IS attracts more men, and the average salaries are much higher even though they are essentially the same degrees (iSchools offer Library and museum studies, Libr…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 04:26 AM
3

It would depend on their age. If I was 19, 2-5 might be high. If I’m 50 and single my whole life, i could easily see having 50+ sexual partners. Maybe if you’re getting into the 100s it might be intimidating.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/19 04:42 AM
20

Disclaimer: I am an older woman who joined this subreddit after my brother was nearly run down in the Toronto incel attack last year. Painting all women with a single brush is an extremely superficial statement in itself. I married my husband, who is the same height I am and has the opposite weight problem as you, and I married him because of who he was - genuinely kind, funny, goofy, intelligent, and caring man. I honestly wasn’t attracted to him at first, and I know he didn’t see me as anythin…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/19 12:47 AM
5

I didn’t say he was a loser, I said that there is someone for everyone. And believe me, I know many women who have been turned down for sex and relationships. Who have been friend zoned, myself included. I was a tomboy, and all my friends were guys. No one would date me through high school. I then learned how to talk to other guys in university, found people with whom I shared mutual interests, and met my husband. I’m not your traditional feminine person - I played hockey and loved snowboarding.…
/r/ExRedPill04/07/19 12:30 AM
22

I’m a little curious if he consulted any women in his hypothesis... as yet another woman, sex is awesome! Orgasms are also awesome. So that would be 3-0 women so far on this thread that have a healthy sex drive. Maybe the common denominator might be having no sex drive with you, OP. That’s not an insult - I thoroughly believe there is someone for everyone, and it’s likely you haven’t found them yet.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/19 12:02 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter