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It has nothing to do with living in your head…you can never forgive. Just my opinion … Never forgive or forget.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:21 PM
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Forgiveness in that is never an option… just saying
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 03:07 PM
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No, because we didn’t have any. But if we did she would post them in a heartbeat. That’s how nasty women are. They are vengeful and only wanna screw your life up ..
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 08:36 PM
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I say do it. Most women do that crap to us. They would do it in a heartbeat. They are ruthless and only want our money. They never loved us. My wife wouldn’t put me out if I was on fire on the side of the road.. She would ride me over, and I did nothing to her , only obeyed her orders for 17 years …
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 08:15 PM
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That also happened to me for the first few months. It’s the stress and the anxiety of a divorce that causes that. It usually goes away after a few months or 6 months or so. It’s all part of the process unfortunately. Now that I’m free from a controlling ex wife I’m much happier.. Always being told what to wear, what to do and when to take a shower and what not to do. I feel relief now. lol …. Good luck and it does get better in time…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 09:46 AM
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They will hold a grudge against you until you die. They never forget anything
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 12:53 AM
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Birthdays mean nothing to me really anymore, unless it’s my kids birthdays. For me it’s just a number now. Means nothing only means that we are getting older lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 01:56 PM
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A woman scorned.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:15 PM
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I won’t have that problem because my ex doesn’t even want to be in the same room as me. She hates me that bad . If looks could kill I would be dead many times over. She Wouldn’t put me out if I was on fire on the side of the road. The anger she holds is unbelievable to say the least…won’t even look at me in the eyes or look at me at all.. I haven’t been in the same room as her since she threw me out of the house…almost 2 years ago… 7 year old daughter and 15 year old son
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:14 AM
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Hahahahaha, please tell me this a joke post
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 02:11 PM
3

Friendly advice. Don’t rush into anything otherwise you will end up like you are again now. Take your time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 11:32 AM
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Yea, I know exactly how you feel ! Just before I got divorced my wife said she felt total indifference towards me. After she told me that I knew there was no going back from there and that she had planned the divorce for months in advance. Now, if I was on fire on the side of the road she wouldn’t stop to help me. It’s sad but true. They don’t care anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 06:49 PM
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The witches will do anything to turn your kids against you. Trust me, they are good for nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 11:19 PM
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Come on. You can do it. Don’t let someone else ruin your life..
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 01:42 AM
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Omg even worse she had an affair with another woman.. lol .. kick her out lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 01:05 AM
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My wife would lie there like a sack of potatoes and after she would say “you’re welcome” lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 12:10 AM
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You are right. Why even care what she does ? Why even worry what she is thinking or doing ? Why even speak to her to be honest unless it’s about the kids , if it is do it through email or parenting app…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:45 AM
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Why the hell would you let your ex inside your house.. It’s over. Move on…My ex won’t even talk to me.. I’m so happy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:56 PM
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Yea, women want a divorce but yet they still want us to pay for everything, phone, life insurance, car insurance, mortgage, during and even after the divorce…Get a freaking job …
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 11:22 AM
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I hear you. Just laid there like a sack of potatoes on the bed. She wouldn’t even move. Then the blackmail, if you don’t go to Walgreens to get something that I need, no sex or no whatever. Then the bossiness, do that or do this on your day off or else…. Change your shorts , take a shower , change your shirt , change your socks , blah blah blah …lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 06:20 PM
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My ex wife was also a control freak. She always needed to tell me when to take a shower, when to change my shirt, when to change my pants and a long list of stuff to do on my days off from work and on the way or coming home from work. lol , She is even still trying to control me now after the divorce…not in person because she doesn’t want to see me again but over this stupid “talking parents app” lol crazy
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 01:28 PM
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Wait until you actually get divorced and it’s completely finalized. You won’t hear a word from her anymore unless it’s about the kids or money. No more happy birthday or happy anniversary messages will come.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:18 AM
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I don’t have to deal with it anymore now , been divorced for a while now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 01:01 PM
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Yup, some women are despicable.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 11:50 AM
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Actually this stuff was happening while we were married. Been divorced for a little while now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 10:17 AM
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Couldn’t have said it better myself
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 02:48 AM
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After a divorce women become despicable human beings. They will poison your kids against you and they will not let you seem them and then claim You made no effort to see them or speak to them at all. They will make your life a misery. The courts don’t do anything.. it’s a lose lose situation
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 11:56 PM
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Thank you !!
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 01:38 AM
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I begged for “another “ chance but by then it was too late. The damage was already done . So in the end I don’t blame her for not giving me another chance. Now I’m just trying to win the kids back.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 01:17 AM
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Yup, my wife also went to a therapist just before the divorce. She blamed me for her having to go to a therapist in the first place. She told me the therapist recommended divorcing me and a few months later she did.. go figure
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:32 AM
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Yea, It’s crazy how all of sudden everything comes out of the woodwork that has been festering for weeks or months or even years , like you worked to much, you never spent enough time with kids, you never wanted to go grocery shopping or you never spent enough time with me or you just sat and watched Netflix everyday after work , the list goes on and on….lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:07 PM
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To be honest it’s sad when you lose touch with her family. Her family never did anything wrong and were kind of just stuck in the middle. You have become close to them and now will lose them forever also. It’s a sad cycle including your and her friends. But I guess life goes on for all parties involved.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 12:09 PM
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I feel him. I went on vacation for 2 weeks overseas and she called me on the phone and said I have news for you , she even said do you want the news now while you are on vacation or when you get back. I said now. She said I’m divorcing you and all your stuff will be in your car and I’ve changed all the locks on the house. .how true it was when I got to the airport she drove my car there and her mother was in the car behind her. She dropped it off at the arrivals and didn’t even look at me. The r…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:13 PM
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I mean we don’t have to be friends but just cordial atleast.. but they can’t even do that. They have to hold onto the hate. Ex wife says she feels indifference towards me, if that is the case then why does she still hate and feel so much anger where she can’t move on..
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 05:59 PM
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The strange this is that the women are the ones holding onto the anger and hate.. By doing this they are only stressing themselves out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 05:10 PM
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Yup, I keep telling the same story. My ex wife won’t even look at me anymore. She stays in the car when we meet up for the kids. Doesn’t even glance or look at me. If the coldness could kill I would be dead many times over. I could be on fire on the side of road and she would just drive past me after 18 years.. Women change in a heartbeat. I don’t recognize her anymore.. she is a stranger now. Go figure
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 04:00 PM
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Hahahhaha, yup they were researching divorce while we were working our asses off and then get blindsided even though they had already had planned for months to blindside us .. go figure
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:31 PM
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I wonder why they act like that ? Is it the anger or resentment they feel towards us? Or the sadness that it didn’t work out between us ? In a weird way it does mean that they still think about us in an also twisted way, that we still have an impact on their lives .. hahahahahha… I love it
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 12:45 PM
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I don’t see her. She stays in the car when I take the kids to a restaurant or wherever. She won’t get out the car. She won’t even look at me. She will just sit in the car. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 01:35 AM
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Yes, a 6 year daughter and 15 year old son
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 01:07 AM
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To be honest I have heard that an ex wife does become more friendly with you when they have a new bf…. I guess their anger subsides towards you because they have somebody new to concentrate on … go figure
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 11:34 PM
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Yea, My ex wife told me during the divorce that she has a happy family now with her and the kids and she was never in a happy family with me and the kids when I was at the house . Go figure ..
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 11:15 PM
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I agree. Why would you even bother hugging your ex wife ?
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 11:11 PM
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I know the feeling. It’s almost a scary feeling that you will never find someone like her again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 08:36 PM
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Correct. They have already checked out months ago or maybe even a year, but we don’t know that until it’s to late. Blindsided.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 05:29 PM
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Only if you let them!
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 05:27 PM
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My ex wife wouldn’t stop on the side of the road for me if I was on fire. We don’t talk at all anymore , only through this talking parent app, even then I never look at her messages.. if it’s an emergency with the kids she can “try” and iMessage me…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 05:26 PM
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The sad part is that most women don’t feel like us. They carry on if nothing happened. I guarantee you she will never ask for those photos or even wonder about them. They move on faster than us and that’s the harsh reality of life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 05:11 PM
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I have kids together also, 6 and 15 years old. She stays in the car when she drops them off or I pick them up. We don’t look or talk to each other . Weird but true …
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 04:56 PM
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Yea, I hear you. It’s a weird feeling. I can’t put my finger on it. I woke up one morning and felt absolutely nothing .I can’t even really explain it. It’s the oddest feeling and yes I have deleted all the old photos and don’t do social media anymore and yes I also have a fire stick . lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 12:50 PM
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The women always get things on easy street. Been like that forever. I don’t get to see the kids during the week, only every 2nd weekend. She doesn’t put them in sports on purpose so I can’t see them during the week .. sux but it’s life I guess
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 03:48 PM
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lol True
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 09:29 PM
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I think the worst part is NOT knowing what they are doing ? Do they have a new guy in their lives or are they still alone? What are they doing everyday ? Are they shopping or sitting at home ? Are they going out for dinner with someone or by themselves? The NOT knowing part is the worse…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 06:43 PM
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Yup, You have to look to the future. Never look back.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 02:53 PM
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Couldn’t agree more with your way of saying that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 02:46 PM
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To be honest even with a amicable divorce the feeling would just be to weird for me. For me once it’s done, it’s done. Why even offer or do something for that person. It’s done and dusted..The awkwardness would just be to uncomfortable. That’s just my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 07:12 PM
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Couldn’t agree more…Unfortunately there are some sad lap dogs out there. lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 02:38 PM
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Why are guys still even helping their ex wives with anything… It’s over and done. I would never be that desperate again to let them abuse me and use me. They are an ex for a reason… geez Louise . lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 01:06 AM
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You are correct!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 02:34 AM
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I agree with you!! She is planning stuff in advance , an exit strategy. It’s all part of their master plan to get out and blindside you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 09:49 PM
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Yup, mine was already thinking about it for maybe 2 years or so and made up her mind in the last year. She was already mentally prepared way before me that it was over. She never even cried or anything.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 03:40 PM
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Let’s hope the damage is not beyond repair in the long run
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 02:20 AM
1

There is nothing you can do unfortunately. My one daughter is 6 years old and every time I see her she acts like I’m a stranger or she doesn’t even know me. Very strange. Not sure what she is being told about me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:49 PM
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Yea,but it’s much harder when you have kids and they are small. Dealing with someone that’s angry all the time and doesn’t communicate properly makes everything much harder. Almost impossible sometimes…they are so mean and vindictive even after you get divorced which is crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:36 PM
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Trust me they won’t change, they will be angry forever. You would think after a divorce the woman would calm down and actually talk to you but they will hold the grudge forever. That anger will never diminish.. they are so angry that it didn’t work out between us .. they hold that resentment forever
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:04 PM
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Trust me your ex wife will talk so much crap to your kids about you to make you look bad and the worse thing is that you aren’t there to defend yourself . It’s called parent alienation .
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 01:21 AM
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Same here. She will not tell me anything about the kids. It’s like talking to a monster.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 01:06 PM
2

Just has to be a joke post.😂
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 10:14 PM
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Yup, that’s the real fear for me also, being forgotten by my kids
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 12:41 PM
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Yup, my wife is scared of me also.. she won’t come closer than 20 feet from me. She will drop the kids off around the corner when I get them. Never touched her in my life either. She said I was spying on her on the cameras at the house when she was working around the garden and the house… crazy …. That’s what cameras are meant for isn’t it? To check on the house … go figure
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 12:35 PM
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Yup, Women prepare way in advance for the divorce. They have been planning it for atleast a year or so. So therefore they are not crying when they ask for the divorce, they already cried before maybe when you were at work or when they were alone. But we get blindsided instead and they have only anger and revenge then. That’s how it works …..
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 01:52 AM
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When it’s over in the womens mind , they turn into completely different people. You don’t recognize them anymore. The hate and revenge and vindictiveness comes out. My ex wife won’t even look at me anymore. When I see the kids she drops them off around the corner from the restaurant or wherever we meet at. It’s crazy but true. If I was on the side of the road dying she would drive past me in her car…she wouldn’t stop… sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 08:03 PM
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The problem with that is we all get older. Women and men. Do we want to sit on the porch/patio all by ourselves at 70 years old or whenever, or do we want somebody to sit next to us at that age… It’s a catch 22 unfortunately… what do we do? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 06:08 PM
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Glad to hear that. You got really lucky
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 05:04 PM
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Yea, many women like guys who were once married. It’s gives them hope and also shows them that this person is marriage material and maybe they can make it work with you. Who knows what’s going on in their heads. unfortunately it might be a sacrifice we might have to make one day in our lives , we aren’t getting any younger ::: either date and eventually marry if you want to re marry to a woman that is not so good looking but has a great personality and family values or a good looking woman who o…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:59 PM
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Hahahaha, trust me it’s not easy. You are like a new baby coming into the world . You have no idea what to do or what to say.. it’s almost like a fear of the unknown … its crazy
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:51 PM
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Yup, I know the feeling. When you meet someone again so quickly after a divorce you get so excited like a kid in a candy store and then you put all your eggs in one basket as they say and then when it doesn’t work it’s agonizing and can be painful too
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:50 PM
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Yup, majority are fat and ugly and desperate, remember when a women gets past 40 and has kids they become even more desperate to find a lucky guy or should I say a unlucky loser … hahahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:46 PM
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I would never go back to someone that I already dated years ago. If it didn’t work out then there must of been a reason for it…just my opinion of course
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:44 PM
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Yup, women will ghost you in a heartbeat, especially the good looking ones. They have to many guys to pick from now the ugly ones will text and call you the next morning to be exclusive with you… go figure …. Hhahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:38 PM
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I do hear Asians make good wives and aren’t materialistic like 90% of the women here in the US…I mean we aren’t asking for miracles just somebody that loves us for us…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:35 PM
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Yea, It’s a weird feeling now. How we use to talk to other people about their divorces or marital problems never thinking we would be in their same situation, but booooom all of a sudden we are in the same boat as them. Isnt it crazy how life turns around in a blink of an eye , especially if you are blindsided
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:25 PM
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Yea, it’s a weird feeling. Do you want to start a new life and have a fresh start or do you stay where it’s comfortable and close to the kids…Do you think about yourself first or them ? It’s a decision that is not easy… and it scares me
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 10:16 PM
1

I’ve also thought about moving to another state.it’s a weird feeling, should I or shouldn’t I….
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 10:06 PM
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Yup, It’s most probably parent alienation and/or your ex wife is also telling them nasty stuff about you or they are angry at you and feel like you left them by leaving the marriage on your own and that you were the reason for the divorce by leaving the house.. so they blame you …
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 06:51 PM
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Trust me I know what you are saying… I was at my 6 year old daughters cheer leading practice a couple weeks ago and when she saw me in the crowd she came running up to me crying and told me to go home. She told me she didn’t want me there . Then she went and sat on her mothers lap and wouldn’t go back on the field until I left the area… crazy but true
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:57 PM
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Yes, it all depends on the business of the place I work at
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:51 PM
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Every 2 weekends , but that can end up to only seeing them once every 6 weeks depending on if I have to work on those weekends or not….unfortunately it usually ends up seeing them once every 6 weeks
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:46 PM
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True, Its amazing what another person can make you do without even really realizing it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 04:12 PM
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Hahahahha, crazy….I’m telling you they all come full circle in the “end”
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:00 PM
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Correct. I couldn’t agree more. It’s just a weird feeling. I sometimes wonder what they are thinking and if they are even thinking about us at all. I guess you are right , it’s the long game now, and a very sad game at that because most of the time we aren’t there for the small exciting things that happen with them.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:59 PM
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It’s crazy how women come full circle. They think they are better with out us but then full circle again. Lol … the grass isn’t always greener on the other side … so they say
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:42 PM
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It’s not easy dealing with alcohol. Alcohol takes away the pain and depression but usually only temporarily. It also takes away from the boredom especially if you get a buzz everyday. It’s an easy trap to fall into… the only way to stop it is “will power” you have to have a strong will power…that can only be done on a day by day basis… but it can be done….
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:13 PM
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Wow, That’s sad, I’m sorry to hear that
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 11:21 PM
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Do what you have to do. I was in the same situation. We didn’t pay any rent or mortgage. The father built a brand new house for her and all of his kids and he put all of them under his name. So when she threw me out I had no recourse. Nothing was under my name or hers. He evicted me at her request after staying their for 2 years or so. Now she will get the house when he passes and I’m left with nothing. Just a suitcase and have to pay alimony and child support and she will become a millionaire a…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 12:54 PM
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Wow. She had everything planned out down to the house and inheritance. She was waiting on the perfect time to throw you out just before she gets the house and daddy dies. Then she can sell the house if she wants too and make a crap load of money from the sale of the house and also get child support. Very smart woman and then if she wants to leave the state or start over somewhere else she is already financially set for a while. Getting lots of money for a house now is easy…technically she doesn’…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 12:25 PM
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You will not recognize the person during and after the divorce. They become different people. They are not the same person you married. They become evil and vindictive and nasty. They will always be angry with you no matter what you do or say to them. I think it comes down to realizing that they won’t find another man again that easily especially if they are a little older and of course if they kids also. Only desperate guys will go for women who have kids and they know that… just my 2 cents…. M…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 01:52 PM
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Unfortunately I was stupid. My wife was doing all the finances. I can’t prove it yet but I think she was taking money out of my paycheck each month and putting it into her own “new” Wells Fargo account. She could of been doing it for years without me knowing it . Can you imagine how much money she has after doing that before she asked for the divorce… I’m a sucker for sure … but she is happy with her thousands of dollars…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 09:06 PM
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That’s crazy not even knowing if you are divorced or not. My ex wife went by herself with her lawyer to the court and did the final hearing testimony crap…She never even told me..I’m guessing the judge signed it there and then. So I’m guessing I’m divorced also. Never got anything in the mail either .
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 11:00 PM
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Yup , many women just want the man to have kids and then kick the man to the curb. They either then get another man or actually end up raising the kids on their own. Mine time me she doesn’t another man after the way I “treated “ her and wants to raise the kids all by herself . Go figure …
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:28 PM
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Sometimes I wish we could just stop paying these bitches any money at all. They don’t deserve a cent. Like I said on other posts on here before , women become different people during and after a divorce. You won’t even recognize them anymore. They become strangers full of hate and revenge and spite. You mean nothing to them anymore. You are trash to them. My ex wouldn’t even help me if I was lying on the side of the road needing help to survive, she would keep on driving by . If looks could kill…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:12 PM
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Yea, She thought I was on Tinder when she looked at me phone..When you type in Tin on an iPhone the Tinder app shows up for some reason…I was never on that app. Unfortunately I was lazy and never did much around the house …was working all the time…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 02:27 PM
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My ex wife packed all my stuff in my car when I was visiting family in Europe. She came to the arrivals part at the airport and dropped off my car with all my stuff in it . She wouldn’t even look at me. Her mom was with her. She said you better get your own place now , you have been tresspassed from the house. You are no longer allowed in the driveway of the house and all the locks have been changed. You can still see the kids but you are indifferent to me now and good luck with your “new family…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 03:14 PM
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I’m not gonna lie I have to use that app and it is a pain in the ass. Lol …isn’t it crazy after being together with a person for so many years and sharing your love and life and having kids with them it comes down to using a stupid app to communicate with them. How can you go from living with that person for so long and loving them that long , to hate…. isn’t it … almost childish stuff. Just me thinking out loud .. lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 02:08 PM
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I’m not sure how I would feel. We live close to each other and I often see her driving her car coming from Walmart or Publix by herself or with the kids. I almost get butterflies just seeing her driving in her car. I can’t imagine speaking or talking to her face to face again.I’m not sure if it would feel like strangers or I would just pass out . Lol…we have 2 kids together but when I see the kids she always stays in her car or sits in the other side of the restaurant if I take the kids for lunc…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:09 PM
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I’ve always wondered how that feeling would feel like after not seeing a person for over a year and then seeing them again ? Maybe a nervous feeling or a feeling of indifference…. I just don’t know which feeling it would feel like ?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:58 PM
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Yup, unfortunately the person that you knew and married is no longer. It’s a completely different person now, one you do not recognize anymore and trust me they have been planning that divorce for years in advance already.. maybe even 2 years in advance in their heads…once they check out its over and done with .. no going back …. Sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:51 PM
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Like I’ve said on here many times on other posts is that during and after a divorce the other person (ex wife) becomes a completely different person. You won’t recognize them anymore. That’s the not the same person you married many many years ago. They will try and make your life a misery even after the divorce. Maybe they are angry because they won’t be able to find another guy especially if they have kids.. who knows for sure . There is this hatred that I can’t explain coming from them …Maybe …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 01:48 PM
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About 2 months
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 08:05 PM
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I don’t have custody…..so I think my wife planned that. Very sneaky . I will try contacting the school anyways and see what happens …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 07:38 PM
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Once they go sour on your all love is lost. Like I said my wife would drive straight past me if I was lying on the side of the road .. sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 06:42 PM
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You are 100% correct. I’ve been lazy hoping that my ex wife would give me all that info and keep me updated on the kids lives. Boy was I wrong. I guess I’m definitely new to all this
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:21 PM
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You are lucky. My ex wife won’t tell me anything about the kids or what they are doing at school or what activities are at school and what they are doing after school…. She totally shuts me out of their lives … crazy
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 01:44 PM
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Yup , it’s kind of like starting a whole “new” life from scratch, from doing your own laundry, to doing your own grocery shopping, and this and that. I know it sounds crazy but it’s like being a baby and opening your eyes wide. I got myself a new car and am trying to please myself for once in my life and not have to think about someone else for 24 hours a day. Don’t get me wrong I still miss her but I do not miss getting hundreds of text messages a day from her ,,,what you doing ? Come straight …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 12:45 PM
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Couples counseling doesn’t work. When the feelings are gone, they are gone. You can never get them back . Trust me on that … it’s sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 12:09 PM
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True that !! I’ve come to realize that life is not easy. It’s actually a pain in the butt at times… what to do next and who to see next is the hard part
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 12:01 PM
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Divorce is not easy, but it gets better with time. I know everyone says that. Going from seeing your kids every single day and now only seeing them every 2nd weekend if you are lucky is hard.. very hard…the life you had is gone and will never come back. It’s done and dusted… just got to keep moving forward… good luck
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:59 AM
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Like I’ve said on here many times on other posts is that during and after a divorce the other person (ex wife) becomes a completely different person. You won’t recognize them anymore. That’s the not the same person you married many many years ago. They will try and make your life a misery even after the divorce. Maybe they are angry because they won’t be able to find another guy especially if they have kids.. who knows for sure . There is this hatred that I can’t explain coming from them …Maybe …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:55 AM
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Yup, that’s why lots of older men go for younger women, but that can also turn out bad because many younger women only use older guys for money and their lifestyle. It’s a catch 22 . Man,, life only gets get tougher when we get older .lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:43 AM
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It’s amazing how life does a full circle , isn’t it
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:34 AM
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I hear you! Sex is overrated. Lol… I can get it every night but somehow it still feels like I’m cheating on my ex wife .. lol … sounds crazy doesn’t it
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 01:47 AM
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When women wants a divorce from you they will do anything to get it even if it means sleeping with you .my wife even offered to pay my lawyer fees to get me out and divorced on paper…. Crazy … once they have made up their mind you can’t change it… sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 10:32 PM
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Yes it is … I still can’t believe it
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 04:04 PM
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Correct.. my bad
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 02:32 AM
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Yea, it’s just strange how they completely change to different people. It’s almost like a completely different human being. It’s weird to watch them transform. It’s like you really never knew them for all those years . You are trash to them now unfortunately… it’s actually sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 11:43 PM
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You are definitely one in a million of the lucky ones . My ex wife wouldn’t even stop her car to help me if I was dying on the side of the road.She would keep on driving. They become different people during and after the divorce. You don’t recognize them anymore. You mean nothing to them anymore, you become indispensable. If looks could kill I would be dead over and over and over already . Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 11:15 PM
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Yup , trust me they can go for years with no sex. It means nothing to them. They can turn it on and off like tap water. That’s why getting a divorce for them means nothing, they don’t need us
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 07:54 PM
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True… Most of the time the women just wants to be on her own. Like I said before , many women just want to be by themselves after a divorce , they don’t need another guy anytime soon .not all but there are definitely some out there .good for them I guess but sux for us…and some of them don’t need sex either believe it or not .
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 07:34 PM
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Mine wouldnt stop and help me if I was dying on the side of the road. Lol … She doesn’t even look at me anymore when she drops the kids off. Won’t talk to me either unless it’s over some useless texting app..crazy but true
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 06:56 PM
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Yup , some women love living on their own even if it means dumping us just so they can do that . Less work for them to clean up after us. Like you said … it’s crazy
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:15 PM
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You are correct. Lots of women don’t want sex anymore. Women especially single women can go years without sex . They don’t just don’t need it anymore or crave for it anymore. I know that from Personal experience with a few of them . especially women starting in their early 40’s… Trust me they are out there….. it’s not always an affair… some just want to be on their own with the kids ..That’s what my ex wife said to Me. She wants to raise the kids on her own without anybody else interfering, even…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 01:04 PM
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Alimony should be thrown out anyway . It’s like from the pre historic days. Why not just get fucking rid of it all together… fuck ‘em
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 06:50 PM
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Yea, we all dream that all of a sudden we will get a text or phone call from them asking for another chance or meeting up again , but that phone call or text never comes. It’s like waiting on a bus that never comes to pick you . You can wait and wait and wait but it won’t come. That phone call or text message will not come and that’s what kills you. Only the worst part is that you can’t do anything about it … it’s out of your control …
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 05:00 PM
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I can’t drive my kids anywhere. My wife said I was a dangerous driver and convinced the judge that. Now I can’t drive them anywhere. Scorned women will make up anything to make your life a hell, even after the divorce. They love it.. They come up with a new plan everyday
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:32 PM
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Trust me women will try and turn your kids against you. That’s their vindictive and revenge side. They strive for it . They do if to fun .
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 09:57 PM
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Dude, you couldn’t be more right. They have everything planned down to the last thing . The plan started years ago and they were just waiting to strike once they had all their ducks in a row . To be honest it’s pretty smart . lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 09:46 PM
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Very true. My wife said she doesn’t need or want another man after dealing with my narcissistic behavior for 17 years . She wants to raise the kids on her own. Go figure . Lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 09:38 PM
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Trust me the ex wife has already had the back up plan for months in advance. Texting , what’s app or whatever app is out there. Once they don’t need you anymore you are useless to them.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 09:35 PM
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Trust me I will never get married again and give my hard earned money to some witch that will be nice at first and then out to be a waste of space and take all my money. Never again
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 09:30 PM
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Guys, You only live one life in this life. Make the most of it . I got over my ex wife in a few months. There is plenty of fish in the sea. I say fuck ‘em . let the ex wife find some other old desperate dude. I will not lose sleep over . My kids are 14 and 6 years old and they will know the truth in the end . Trust me on that . The kids always will know in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 09:24 PM
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My ex wife would vacuum the house 5 times a day and spend hundred and hundreds of dollars a month on bug spray and lawn care companies like luv n lawn, Massey and the list goes on. You know how much that adds up to a month. The different companies would come out every month to our lawn and try and get the ants and bugs out , which of course never really existed… crazy, crazy,crazy
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 11:37 AM
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I wouldn’t even date them. Their little kids will always be around. You will always be 2nd even if you don’t want to marry them …Unless the kids are past 18 years old but then you looking at some old hag lady who may be to old to date anyways… lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 12:16 AM
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Yup, When they reach 40 they start getting desperate to find somebody after a divorce. Their time clock is running. Either they go back to an old ex or they find some desperate loser out there that will take care of them and pay all their bills. 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 12:14 AM
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Yup. You are wasting your time dating a single mom. They are single for a reason after all . No normal guy will do that , only older desperate men will do that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 11:14 PM
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Yea, it’s weird. I’m not sure why many of them go back to their ex boyfriends. Maybe they feel like they won’t be able to find anybody else that will take them and it’s a safe bet for them to go back to their ex boyfriend, especially if he is desperate and single and getting older. Trust me you have some desperate ex guys out there who don’t mind being a beta male … lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 11:12 PM
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Never ever date a single mom. It will not go well.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 10:55 PM
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I hate that word indifference. That’s the word my wife said she felt for me while she was filing. Lol… not a good word to hear .And why do they always feel like that have to go back to their ex boyfriend ? They left that person for a reason before they met us… So it definitely won’t end well for them again …🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 10:53 PM
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Yup, You get some desperate guys out there that will go for a women with kids. Usually they are the older desperate guys with no life. They have nothing to live for. Most of them are ugly also. The ex wife gets desperate to find someone and they will take anyone … my ex wife doesn’t even look at me anymore..She looks past me. If looks could kill I would be dead many times over already..When you get divorced you are no longer needed by them . You become trash to them …. That’s life I guess
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 04:49 PM
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Guys, you don’t understand. Women become different people during and after the divorce. You will not recognize them anymore. They are not the same person you married. They become robots out for revenge and drama and anger. They will do anything to make your life a misery forever. They are angry because they will never find another guy especially if they have kids…My ex Wife wouldn’t even stop on the side of the ride if I was dying to help me.. She would keep on driving past me… That’s just the w…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 02:35 PM
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Guys, you don’t understand. Women become different people during and after the divorce. You will not recognize them anymore. They are not the same person you married. They become robots out for revenge and drama and anger. They will do anything to make your life a misery forever. They are angry because they will never find another guy especially if they have kids…My ex Wife wouldn’t even stop on the side of the road if I was dying to help me.. She would keep on driving past me… That’s just the w…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 02:35 PM
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Guys, you don’t understand. Women become different people during and after the divorce. You will not recognize them anymore. They are not the same person you married. They become robots out for revenge and drama and anger. They will do anything to make your life a misery forever. They are angry because they will never find another guy especially if they have kids…My ex Wife wouldn’t even stop on the side of the ride if I was dying to help me.. She would keep on driving past me… That’s just the w…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 02:34 PM
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I wonder why women are like that ? You send them a birthday card or say happy Mother’s Day and you get nothing back from them on your birthday or Father’s Day…. I can actually tell you why .. Because after a divorce they become different people. It’s a person you don’t recognize anymore. You mean nothing to them. You are invisible. It’s the anger they have for you that things didn’t work out between you and them…They become robots, Even if you were lying on the side of the road half dead they wo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 01:21 PM
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Yea, I told mine I’m sorry if I ever acted like a narcissist and she told me it’s not an act “you are one” lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 09:39 PM
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Thank you, It’s life I guess. We have to move on. Now she is acting like a completely different person. She doesn’t talk to me at all anymore. She doesn’t look at me either anymore and when she does if looks could kill I would be dead already . I don’t recognize her anymore. She is not the same person from before. She has become a robot. Unrecognizable. It’s not the same person from before.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 09:29 PM
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It’s all about the money for the therapist. The more they come back the more business. Not for all therapists but 80% of them. The therapist has lots of power over people and can change their minds on just about anything. Especially if it’s a women therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 09:19 PM
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Yup, and unfortunately she took her advice and here I am . 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 08:54 PM
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My ex wife actually came back from a therapist who recommended that she should get a divorce from me. Go figure. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 08:41 PM
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