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| 265 | Why you have to be extremely careful about the company you keep | LESSON LEARNED | bernieorbust2k4ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:30 AM |
| 233 | Stop mistreating you female friends, especially over a fuckboy | POP CULTURE PICKME | bernieorbust2k4ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:03 AM |
| 207 | How Cosmo raised an entire generation of Pick Mes | PICKME CULTURE | bernieorbust2k4ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 02:40 AM |
| 66 | Need help getting over something...or someone? Say this to yourself. | MINDSET SHIFT | bernieorbust2k4ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 11:24 AM |
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| 3 | Need help getting over something...or someone? Say this to yourself.You are amazing. Can't wait to hear about all you'll accomplish 💗💗💗💗💗 EDIT to add: its good you're keeping your distance from your ex. LVM are not worth it. Look at how strong and accomplished you are and you know you deserve better. If you really want to fill a hole in your life, I recommend hobbies or seeking out strong women to become friends with. Proud of you for how far you've come!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:10 AM |
| 0 | Stop mistreating you female friends, especially over a fuckboyDevi's friends are expected to forgive her to "prove" they are good friends after she has already let them down twice. Mental illness and ~lOvE~ are not valid excuses to treat your friends like trash. Imagine if the roles were reversed and it happened in real life. Would a man ever forgive you or give you third chance if you did those things to him? It's unfair to expect women to be so forgiving and accept being second to someone's love interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 12:49 PM |
| 5 | Stop mistreating you female friends, especially over a fuckboyUh, except in the end her friends easily forgive her for letting them down twice. It sends the message that we women should be okay with being put on the back burner by our friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Best post on TwoXChromosomes I've seen. Hope women realise how bad the porn industry is.Is it the one based in Montreal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:58 AM |
| 9 | Best post on TwoXChromosomes I've seen. Hope women realise how bad the porn industry is.She actually gave interviews about it and does not support the porn industry because of it. Men made millions off of her body. She suffered the shame and social stigma with not even 10k to show for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:56 AM |
| 18 | My friend (?) sent me this and thought he did something ??? why does being nice have to lewd me...also mommy vibes?? talk about toxicYikes, extremely creepy and defo violates boundaries of friendship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Rescue Mission!!!Yea, I don't even keep in contact with my ex or any of our mutuals anymore. Dude was trash, so were his friends. I have no interest in looking back when I am enjoying and loving my life now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.Lmao were you dating my exes 🤣🤣 their hairlines started disappearing in their early 20s. So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:16 PM |
| 1 | How do you keep up an abundance mentality when there are few HVM?It was an internship, so it was less risky. I would recommend not dating someone who you know you cannot avoid if things don't work out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Rescue Mission!!!I didn't follow her, she reached out to me. I didn't even know she existed lol. I have my ex blocked on all social media and we live in different states 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Gave my number to a customer and instantly regretted it. I'm too much of a people pleaser. I know I need FDS but what do I do? He's not a bad person to talk to but absolutely not someone I should be talking to (Instant red flags)People pleasing behavior is caused by intense childhood trauma often due to enduring or living in an abusive household. I recommend therapy or self-help books if a license therapist is too expensive. I personally like "Co-dependent No More". I also like "Why Does He Do That" because it educates you on how violent men think so you stop empathizing with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:12 PM |
| 11 | How do you keep up an abundance mentality when there are few HVM?Why do you want kids? I have heard of people becoming teachers for the same reason some want kids. You can also become a foster mom, adopt, or become a "platonic parent" with a trusted strong female friend. There may be few HVM simply due to a supply and demand problem. For too long women allowed men to get away with doing the bare minimum, and when we raise our standards, men will have to become better to meet them. Low and negative value men are not worth it because they will literally hurt yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 10:01 AM |
| 6 | Gave my number to a customer and instantly regretted it. I'm too much of a people pleaser. I know I need FDS but what do I do? He's not a bad person to talk to but absolutely not someone I should be talking to (Instant red flags)Can you change your number? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:52 AM |
| 10 | Wife with pneumonia and COVID-19 wonders if “she’s the asshole” for accidentally falling asleep while babysitting her husband who accidentally cut his fingerYikes, the whole thread is a dumpster fire. They'll probably divorce some day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:50 AM |
| 38 | How do you adhere to FDS for casual sex or is that a no no?Im not sure about the FDS view but personally casual sex is a bad idea because 1) STIs and/or pregnancies 2) someone can catch feelings, even if its not you 3) it can create more drama in your life 4) in most heterosexual sexual encounters, the man's pleasure in prioritized. will your partner be invested in pleasing you if he knows he may never see you again? is the disappointment really worth the effort? There is nothing wrong with masturbation. With so many different vibrators and sex toys to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:40 AM |
| 7 | PLEASE HELP ME I NEED TO GET OVER HIMStop sleeping with him. You deserve better than that, girl. Seriously, you're young and hot. Go for a man who is crazy about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Rescue Mission!!!I just spoke directly to his ex and told him exactly what he did to me. Turns out he was also sexually abusing her, and my reaching out to her made her realize she was in an abusive relationship. He was a pro at gaslighting and emotional manipulation in general, so I helped validate her (very real) concerns about the relationship. She just ended their relationship and I gave her tips to move on. I believe in solidarity. I wish a woman had warned me about him earlier!! I would've dumped his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:33 AM |
| 13 | He really said he's a "great husband"Yea, how does he have money to travel that much and how has his wife not noticed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:28 AM |
| 7 | This LVM missed his child’s birth so that his work mate could see a dying relative. The gender of that work mate? SURPRISE... female.Cops also are twice as likely to beat their wives than men in other professions. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:01 AM |
| 2 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.Most of their hairlines start receding in their late 20s anyway 🤮🤮🤮 do not want | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:39 AM |
| 1 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.That's great 💗 yea, I learned my lessonafter my last ex. No more dusty LVM for me! I'm happy dating a man who comes from a similar racial background from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:38 AM |
| 12 | What are the typical true motivations of LV exes who contact you to "apologize"?My ex reached out to me because his (now ex) gf and him were having "issues" (i.e. he was emotionally and sexually abusing her like he did with me and she told him off). My guess is that he was suffering from cognitive dissonance since he's always viewed himself as a victim. So he sent me an email and stated that I was right when I called him abusive. Then in the next half of the email, he started saying shit like "but you were wrong, I don't leech off of women". The he wrote me a sob story abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 10:34 PM |
| 3 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.If it helps you feel better, I dated 2 guys like this and they treated me poorly (I am a non-black WoC). My ex ended up dating a blonde after me who he also treated poorly! So y'all are actually dodging a bullet when LVM reject you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:58 PM |
| 6 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.I would tell both of you to be careful. I'm South Asian and I felt the same way and unfortunately ended up turning down HVM from my own race to date LVM black and white men. Keep your standards high and don't use race as a filter. Men of any race can abuse women. They just do it differently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:56 PM |
| 3 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.I used to be like that but because i hadn't seen healthy relationships in my family and assumed my whole race was like that. Boy, was I wrong. I turned down HVM from my own race to date LVM from others. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:49 PM |
| 6 | “LoVe YoUr HaIr If ItS yOuRs” me and my hair will be ignoring you. Half the shit black women deal with. They try to tear us down by any mean necessary yet men still fall at my feet and that won’t stop.Ew what a tool. Men in their mid 20s are the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:48 PM |
| 10 | r/datingoverforty filled with bitter middle aged men as the comments in the post shows. All MEn OvER 40 OnLY DaTE 20 YEaR OLds yOu StOOpid BiTcH!Im older than my bf :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:45 PM |
| 12 | r/datingoverforty filled with bitter middle aged men as the comments in the post shows. All MEn OvER 40 OnLY DaTE 20 YEaR OLds yOu StOOpid BiTcH!Yea wtf was that all about lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Only LVM don't care about a woman's accomplishmentsMy HVM helped me apply for my dream PhD program and I swear he was even more emotionally invested in it than I was. He even planned an amazing romantic date on an island for me but unfortunately it was cancelled due to COVID19 :( but yea, ladies. Good men exist. DON'T SETTLE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Why you have to be extremely careful about the company you keepYou're gonna make it!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Ask yourself, would a HVW date this man?Hobby groups! It can also be career related. I found my girl friends through professional networking events, actually, because I am very career oriented and love surrounding myself with other ambitious women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:23 AM |
| 26 | Why you have to be extremely careful about the company you keepIf posting screenshots were allowed, I'd show you what she wrote! Its beyond disturbing. She literally compared murder and brutal physical assault to "psychological abuse" to claim women are "just as bad" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)Lmaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)How :o is it because older men are less hygienic? Have a higher body count? Refuse to use protection?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 07:28 PM |
| 24 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)Lol that projection. 🤣🤣🤣 a 40 year old telling a 19 year old their clock is ticking 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 03:05 AM |
| 6 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)What's BV? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 11 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)So gross. I would never want to waste my 30s and 40s taking care of a geezer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 02:10 AM |
| 8 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)What post in this about? I definitely wouldve defended you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:22 AM |
| 8 | A dude not meeting your standards doesn't always warrant a clap backI agree with this!! I ignore dusty dudes on social media because their opinions truly do not phase me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:03 AM |
| 10 | Are friends of LVM also LV?You can always judge a person by the company they keep. LVM befriend other LVM and pickmeishas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:59 AM |
| 7 | What do you think of guys who follow a lot of models on Instagram?Hell no. I'd block and move on. It shows he doesn't respect women at all. Even in my pick me days I had enough sense to avoid men like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 08:22 PM |
| 11 | Why modern relationships fail?"Naturally empathetic" or a people pleaser with extreme anxiety and abandonment issues caused by years of trauma? Empathy without boundaries is self destruction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | The absolute audacity of married men, I have no words.If it makes you feel any better, this is not acceptable behavior in a healthy relationship. My boyfriend would never treat me like this. He has a very strong relationship with his mother and he respects women, especially older women, a lot because of it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Would you date white guy who used to teach English in Asia ?Absolutely not. I grew up in the Middle East and we also got creepy white guys like that. They're usually very racist and fetishize women of color because they see as easy to control. Avoid at all costs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 08:09 PM |
| 10 | 51-year-old says women his own age are too old to be loved. Fetishizes 25-year-olds.As a 25 year old woman, no thanks. I would rather set myself on fire than date a geezer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:40 PM |
| 6 | This is so true, men know what they want regardless of the time they’ve known you for. Don’t let him waste your time.Any man woth commitment issues is a red flag from the get go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:32 PM |
| 20 | This is so true, men know what they want regardless of the time they’ve known you for. Don’t let him waste your time.If a man doesn't prioritize you, isn't invested in you and your needs 100%, let him go. That's a sign he either doesn't care about you, or is a total tool. Either way, let him go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:29 PM |
| 4 | LVM complain that can’t find a girl with “domestic capabilities.” Well Chad, can you distress my armoire?My man can cook, AND knows how to build and fix broken shit. Ladies, men like this exist. Do not not settle. LEVEL UP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:21 PM |
| 21 | Love yourself ladies...or it's trauma bonding "Traumatic bonding is a phenomenon in which the victim feels connected to their abuser based on attachment, and hormones that are being activated amid the abuse. During the stressful points in the relationship, the victim has elevated cortisol levels. The victim feels like they're on the edge, thinking that they may be hurt or abandoned by their abuser if they don't listen to them. They're desperately seeking the reward hormone dopamine, which is a pleasure chemical. Wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 29 | Love yourself ladiesI don't think toxic men have good dick at all. Women who say that are often survivors of trauma who are sexually attracted to toxic men because it's familiar to them. I have insane sexual chemistry with my current HVM partner and I've never had that with any of my toxic exes who focused exclusively on their own pleasure Also, women are brainwashed to find toxic men sexually attractive from a young age. In books and movies we see the same tired ass trope playing out of the "good" girl leaving her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:16 AM |
| 5 | This might be the lowest value non-violent male evergoals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 11:45 PM |
| 21 | Ask yourself, would a HVW date this man?You gotta have a strong group of girl friends to smack some sense into you sometimes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 11:33 PM |
| 1 | FDS made it to Black People Twitter... Responses salty as usual!But bi people (like OP) don't because 99% of the time, they only date men, regardless of their own gender | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 10:20 PM |
| 31 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.Even things like sex are so risky for us. 3 words: Hitachi Magic Wand Problem solved ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 11:41 PM |
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