It seems like from my own (although limited) experience of dating that HVM are extremely rare. When the subject came up naturally with my friend, she tells me while its good to have standards, most men will not not meet all of them. She basically tells me that I should find someone who meets almost all my boxes and just settle down with a LVM because HVM are rare and there will never be a "perfect person". While I agree that no one will ever be completely perfect, it bothers me that I need to basically settle with someone who will not respect me. The essence of my standards are just respect and I don't think they are that high but I do realize most men are trash so...

I know a common saying is "I rather die alone than to be in an unhappy relationship" and I agree but my bff is getting into my head and truth is, I do want kids. And while getting a sperm donor is possible, having a second income and help from another person will be helpful and more realistic. I don't want to settle but how do you have an abundance mentality when there are few HVM?