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I've read it - twice
/r/seduction10/07/15 10:18 PM
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I shall. Though with the invisible aura around me I don't know if you'd really want me around you when you try talk to women.
/r/seduction10/07/15 07:30 PM
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ya I know I've been trying I really have. It's like I have nowhere else to turn to for help on these issues but here. It's just very hard to describe my situation. It's almost like I don't consider myself very unattractive but other people (especially women) do. I'm not socially stupid and I can tell that there is something about me. It's almost like there is something about me which makes these PUA tips (like eye contact, standing tall) almost no help- they change NOTHING in people's perception…
/r/seduction10/07/15 07:29 PM
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Ya I know - I've been trying to work up my confidence greatly but I do have mood swings. Especially when I'm out and see literally dozens of beautiful women knowing how undateable I seem to be.
/r/seduction10/07/15 06:43 PM
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I actively look at girls I find attractive (which is a helluva lot around here trust me). I TRY force eye contact but I'm just nothing to look at. All this does is make me real bitter.
/r/seduction10/07/15 06:35 PM
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Ya I take things really personally - especially rejection. Even something as little as asking for a cigarette (though it's not hard for me) makes me feel like others around are judging when they say no.
/r/seduction10/07/15 06:12 PM
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Ya -- I've swiped right on several hundred at this point (using premium) with 1 match so you're not doing bad
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:30 PM
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interesting. Ya I actually started a hypnosis-meditation program on feeling more attractive last night, and I'm already feeling a bit more calm. Definitely gonna keep up with it.
/r/seduction07/07/15 12:40 PM
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ok one last thing - how can my lack of confidence shine through in photos? Is it the eyes? If so how can I change that?
/r/seduction07/07/15 10:53 AM
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At least you're still getting matches on Tinder. Either it's just stopped showing me to women, or I am exceptionally ugly.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:14 AM
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more often than not they simply don't reply. I have no illusions though - I've seen race statistics and how only the top tier of good looking men get ALOT of replies. I'm on online dating such as OKC and Tinder (which is now shit where I get ZERO matches) for the exact reason that I can't connect with women irl. Which is why I'm here.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:10 AM
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Yes I keep asking because I haven't been given concrete ways in which I can get out of this mode of thinking. It's very hard to simply "stop thinking" these toxic thoughts.
/r/seduction06/07/15 10:14 PM
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I tend to look at women I find attractive a lot (not sure if that's good or not) so I think I WOULD see them looking.
/r/seduction06/07/15 12:40 PM
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ya guess i just feel bitter a lot of the time because I don't get 'checked out'. Need to change that.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:03 AM
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Hahah why thanks dude- I've alway thought that because my personality isn't shitty it must be the way I look that turns people off. Granted, this is just my face so Im not sure body is equally as important.
/r/seduction05/07/15 05:53 PM
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thanks dude good advice. I guess online dating recently has kinda depressed me and made me feel kinda unattractive...which kinda sucks because I have very few other places to meet women.
/r/seduction05/07/15 01:08 PM
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Exactly. Glad u understand :)
/r/seduction05/07/15 01:08 PM
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interesting - unfortunately my hair doesn't really grow like that. Just got the haircut in that pic today actually - light fade and (As I said) tryna grow some facial hair out. I have come to realize that perhaps my young-looking clean shaven look is what drives many women away haha
/r/seduction05/07/15 05:39 AM
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great thanks
/r/seduction05/07/15 04:49 AM
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hahah thanks. Didn't realize down is good! I'm gonna try make a conscious effort to ALWAYS smile at them when I make eye contact. Give off a friendly demeanor.
/r/seduction03/07/15 12:08 AM
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Yes for sure. I'm just in the stage where I'm trying to get out of the thought that I shouldn't approach women because they'll find me unattractive.
/r/seduction02/07/15 07:40 PM
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ya so true lol. I just have problems with thinking that the bitchface stare is specifically about me AKA taking it too personally
/r/seduction02/07/15 01:17 PM
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ya ASSUME attraction. Thanks. Sorry it's just my instinct to stare at certain....body parts. They are never looking when I do though. But I won't stare. It's just I think making eye contact with them and them giving me a bitch face of disapproval makes me think theres something wrong with me.
/r/seduction02/07/15 12:34 PM
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I've stopped. Sorry but I was going through a rough spot and I only wanna go up from here.
/r/seduction29/06/15 09:53 PM
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this is really good advice man. Appreciate it.
/r/seduction29/06/15 02:01 AM
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Thanks. Did u think this is better for a main pic which doesn't give as "nice" of an image? http://imgur.com/rA3OasQ
/r/seduction28/06/15 01:43 PM
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ya I actually have done that numerous times ... still tryna figure out what pics work and don't
/r/seduction28/06/15 01:41 PM
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ya ok - guess I gotta get out more and do interesting shit.
/r/seduction28/06/15 01:40 PM
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I think that would show off my fucked up hairline but thanks for the advice I'll definitely try that. I've just experimented with so many photos and shit I've come to the conclusion that from a looks standpoint I'm unattractive - which fucking sucks and does a number on your self-confidence if you wanna go out irl.
/r/seduction27/06/15 11:47 PM
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interesting. I heard before that it is a good idea to put it in...
/r/seduction27/06/15 11:34 PM
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should i just leave bio blank then?
/r/seduction27/06/15 11:34 PM
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almost....
/r/seduction27/06/15 11:34 PM
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yes ill be lurking here checking out the links. But I ain't NEVER posting up pics denigrating myself as ugly or unattractive again. From now on I'm just gonna try assume that women are attracted to 6'3" me who has started working out....
/r/seduction27/06/15 05:04 AM
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ya i apologize - just deleted the photo I had up. The advice I took most to heart is: have confidence in myself and my appearance, maybe grow out some stubble, and workout. Working on all right now :)
/r/seduction27/06/15 04:49 AM
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hitting the weights hard this summer....
/r/seduction27/06/15 04:42 AM
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Ya I'm just not sure how to change my face/smile to give off confidence. Any ideas?
/r/seduction26/06/15 09:49 PM
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Ya thanks I appreciate it. It's just I've been feeling recently that there is SOMETHING about me which turns women off. Pinpointing what that is has been my priority - I already try walk with good posture and all that. Maybe I'm just too skinny, for which I have started hitting the weights. What I need is a way to change what my internal voice says about my appearance.
/r/seduction26/06/15 08:18 PM
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See here's the thing - lurking this sub I've seen numerous dudes talk about how girls have complimented them on their appearance. I have never ONCE had a woman call me "cute" or "hot" or "attractive".
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:28 PM
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lol that's where I am and I find that too...
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:22 PM
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This happens to me a lot to - though it is usually quite obvious they're not looking at me in a good way, but rather for how funny-looking/unattractive I am.
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:22 PM
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what do u mean by fucking up the profile at the start? Ya OI've deleted and remade my tinder prolly over 20 times cuz it's the only way I can get dates (Im also on OKC and POF but typically girls look at my pic and run). Starting to thinkmaybe I don't get shown enough. Terrible software.
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:12 PM
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Ya it would be nice to have girls make the first move on me but it doesn't happen. I wanna gain more confidence (have started working out hard lately) but it's challenging. I find myself looking in mirrors and my reflection often when I'm out, so maybe I have some kind of BDD?
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:08 PM
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Yes Im tryna grow some facial hair and im gonna get a fade cut. You touched on a point I wanna make - I never have women make compliments to me. I have heard many times that I'm "skinny" from people and that's not a compliment. That's like calling someone fat :(
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:05 PM
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thanks man appreciate it
/r/seduction26/06/15 05:04 PM
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Yes sorry it's just all starting to fuck with me a little. I'm gonna cut this shit out and just work on myself. It's just I keep getting confirmation (lack of tinder matches, people on here saying im below average) which gets to me
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:57 PM
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yes im no nofap right now actually. Sorry its just ive heard too many people on here say I am below average in the looks department and its starting to fuck with me
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:53 PM
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should add I'm using this as my main pic on tinder because I think it's one of my more flattering, but I am getting next to no matches - shits ridiculous and im getting pissed off
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:31 PM
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True thanks so much for all of this. Of course the biggest challenge is growing this much facial hair in the first place cuz like I said I think I'm predisposed genetically to a babyface but I'll try!
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:20 PM
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So true
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:20 PM
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haha no I know its just interesting you said that. Yes I do have internal shit im still tryna get over (thinking im too tall, too skinny, to unattractive, etc.) so maybe that does shine through
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:11 PM
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sorry to bombard u, but whats the best way to shave sideburns WHILE leaving stubble and not completely clean shaven?
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:09 PM
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thanks man
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:08 PM
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Haha that's exactly what Im doing right now - Im on like day 21 of nofap or something. Whenever I shave (usually once a week) I take it ALL off leaving me baby faced. Perhaps women don't really like that look and Im just figuring that out - just when I look at myself after a couple days no shaving my sideburns aren't too appealing.
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:08 PM
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Hahah thanks dude. Could you expand on the eyes thing a little?
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:04 PM
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Most of my facial hair ends up being sideburns which I don't think look really well on me - is that kinda what you meant? Where should this stubble be?
/r/seduction26/06/15 02:03 PM
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Yes I shave, but not often and the hair I do grow looks absolutely terrible and patchy - maybe it's a genetic thing. Underneath the sides of the jaw are almost non-existent after some growth and it's overall very uneven. Ya the polo shirt was just for work (where this pic was taken). If you have any ideas on how to expedite facial hair growth I'm all ears! :)
/r/seduction26/06/15 01:57 PM
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someone in amiugly - someone else said im below average looking and around a 4/10 -_-. Sad thing is I believe them based on my life so far
/r/seduction26/06/15 12:53 PM
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Ya I know. Sucks. I think being an attractive black dude when trying to get girls isn't bad - but I'm not attractive -___-
/r/seduction25/06/15 11:23 PM
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True. What I HAVE to stop is telling myself "she won't like me because I'm too tall/skinny/black or whatever. That's my no.1 issue I think - self-doubt.
/r/seduction25/06/15 07:08 PM
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thanks just what I needed to hear. I have no racial insecurities about myself it's just always a thought when it comes to girls but it can be trumped by other things
/r/seduction25/06/15 06:16 PM
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It's so true. Like, I was in an all boys school all of high and elementary school so had ZERO experience with women. Therefore I didn't even really care about the steps I had to take in order to attract them. I think not working out and getting big is what set me back the most in terms of confidence and attracting them. So being tall doesn't mean shit if you're skinny?
/r/seduction23/06/15 10:08 PM
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thanks for the advice
/r/seduction23/06/15 10:07 PM
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Yes I'm totally ready to prove you wrong. But I can really relate to you in all honesty. I have had some success in the past - but have never had a GF. I guess that is what makes me feel like there's something about me which makes me somehow undesirable. That and the fact that, unlike you, women NEVER call me good looking - not even fuckin close.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:11 PM
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I ALREADY spend a lot of time looking at my reflection when I walk past. Not for good reasons though.....
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:53 PM
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oh ya haha. Ya besides my body my hair as of late has been what I'm most concerned about. Especially around my temples. The way my head is shaped I would look terrible bald. I'm just all around a loser when it comes to the genetic lottery.
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:20 PM
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Ya so true. It's all about learning how to switch off the part of your brain that fucks with you. And why shave my head? Im only 20 years old
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:01 PM
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Oh ya - I shower regularly, brush my teeth, use mouthwash all that. So it truly is a mystery to me...again I think that looks only don't matter to an extent. I have a very friendly personality but it doesn't mean anything when you're a lanky dude who has problems putting weight on.
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:00 PM
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ya that's the thing - I pretty much have NEVER had a girl call me cute/hot/sexy to my face so I feel unattractive
/r/seduction21/06/15 03:25 PM
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exactly
/r/seduction21/06/15 03:25 PM
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so true. Yes I'm starting to hit the weights as much as I can - it's just a bit of an endurance problem. Feel like such a fucking weakling sometimes -_-
/r/seduction21/06/15 03:08 PM
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/r/seduction19/06/15 03:49 AM
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I've been told by people before that I am "one of the nicest people"
/r/seduction19/06/15 03:27 AM
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