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Ask Red Pillbleh321/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 04:58 AM
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Ask Red Pillbleh321/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 06:32 AM
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bleh321/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 12:31 AM
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Depends - this is usually sign of a girl that is very into you. Do you not like this? If you do not, simply take longer i.e. 1-2 hours+ to reply to the texts and she will get the hint that you are busy and do not like being bombarded. It's never usually a bad thing to have girl be like this... try the opposite spectrum where there is no contact from her and see if you like that better (most guys will not).
/r/askTRP14/09/16 07:00 AM
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This! I used to feel like a king when it came to intercourse... all up to about a year ago when I couldn't maintain due to being super fatigue and ever since I've suffered anxiety related to sex and never fuck like I used to with the same girl (LTR). Not sure how to fix. help?!
/r/askTRP14/09/16 06:45 AM
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"Show me a beautiful woman, I'll show you a man who's tired of fucking her"
/r/askTRP15/03/16 05:37 AM
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Great FR - still a while away to become full RP but you are on track with the right mindset. The hardest part is internalizing the concepts. Also, what is your goal? Are you looking to get into another LTR or plating up? If you are looking to get into an LTR sure do all these mutual activities together and build from there however if you are looking for plates I would suggest you be more forward of your intent. What this means is basically setting up the logistics from the get go i.e. invite the…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 12:50 AM
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Somewhat similar to your story. Had a gf that said she doesn't do bjs. When I was in the process of dumping her she randomly started giving me bjs out of nowhere Bluepill me had no idea why...
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 12:28 AM
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Anyone elaborate on the 'proper diet' part. I have been lifting for years however have not seen as much progress. I have a feeling it's due to my diet.... is it basically sticking to a set meal plan weekly?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/15 04:08 AM
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Once you've gained enough confidence in yourself and internalized everything in the side bar, you will notice a massive shift. The shift will be that suddenly it's no longer you that asks the questions of 'what if'. It will be the girl who will ask the questions, most often blatantly out loud to make herself feel better. Since TRP, I've had women do this and more often than not I upset them because I never give them the 'right' answer. I always respond with amused mastery. Example: watching oran…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:17 AM
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He's still a noob. Great time to make mistakes and learn! Just keep in mind, you will most likely not end up marrying the first girl you date. Take advantage of dating power at your age
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 04:48 AM
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This kind of thing really broke in a strange way when it comes to LTR nowadays... I'm not a stripper however personally I've had two plates from many years ago call me to meet up only to end up banging and then be told that they were going to get married on that weekend. TWICE this happened. Coincidence? No, I don't think so. Strangely enough or not, they disappear after getting married going no contact even when I try to re-initiate. Just vanished! Furthermore, I raw dogged them too... so I pos…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 05:30 AM
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Okay let me break it down to you all Alpha meets LTR before BC is taken, however in LTR she goes on BC If she goes on the BC you may notice she will dry faster than usual, she may become more insecure as well, looking for validation that you 'love' her and are committing. This is her looking for her alpha bux however will be moreso on the bux side due to the subtle side effects of taking BC. Anecdotal evidence from 3 LTRs have shown that the sex is more 'wet' when they go off the pill whilst sti…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 05:11 AM
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Dude I was in your position. Found a great LTR material girl with those attributes however, to this day, I still feel like I was too young for hard commitment. After agreeing to exclusivity and dropping all my plates for her, I got some serious cold feet 1 week in. It was no longer, I do anything and everything but I do anything and everything and commit at least 2 days to her as well. Kind of fucked things up from the plating lifestyle
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 04:56 AM
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The comment was based on my personal experience actually. Went through the same as you.
/r/askTRP05/03/15 12:48 AM
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Would not be looking to LTR this girl due to her past. Sounds like trouble after the honeymoon phase to me...
/r/askTRP05/03/15 12:38 AM
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I don't think he's being controlling - I personally wouldn't want my LTR to get shitfaced drunk somewhere without me. Here is scenario of a lack of understanding and boundary setting.
/r/askTRP05/03/15 12:37 AM
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Yep great response with amused mastery
/r/TheRedPill27/02/15 12:41 AM
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That's typical of asian background. My gf who is asian however born in the western world puts a spin to it. She cooks however wants me to hang around and contribute a bit so that if it tastes bad it can be 'our' fault rather than her fault...... sly as
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 12:11 AM
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This is simple, all you need to do is... Withdraw attention!
/r/TheRedPill05/02/15 01:01 AM
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Hope you agree and amplified the shit out of that bitch/shit test.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/15 12:58 AM
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This. You are being manipulated hard. Here's a little story - had an ex ask me to come see her to talk after I initiated a break up. I said no, you can drive to me. She comments that she is so tired from crying all night that she might crash and kill herself. So I said don't come then. What do you know? She comes to my house safe and sound. Meh
/r/TheRedPill05/02/15 12:26 AM
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I got tested early last year for any deficiencies and Vitamin D came in at less than x5 the recommended healthy amount. Been supplementing Vitamin D3 since then and have felt more energetic. Get a blood test guys!
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 04:06 AM
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I very much agree with this. If this were my situation, I'd say okay go and then instantly withdraw attention from her and start dreading. Then re-evaluate whether she is LTR material or not...
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 03:54 AM
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Yep they absolutely love being pinned down - read soft bdsm.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 03:33 AM
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I spin it the other way - whenever my girl has a minor disagreement with me, I always initiate the "come fight me!" and she always giggles away.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 03:32 AM
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"Be yourself" sounds like the most overly used advice given by a woman I've ever heard. TL;DR Dread games for 'excitement'
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 03:27 AM
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This is great and I've subconsciously done this all the time. A very simple one at the beginning of every relationship is that I say "I never see a girl for more than 3 days consecutively". This conveys that you have other things to do.. Now I keep to this rule for at least the first 3 months or so. After that, the rule i naturally broken and she will likely point it out along the lines of "uh oh, I think i just broke your 3 day rule!", to which you reply "wow what? Yeah you did... don't do it a…
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 03:19 AM
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How do you bring it up to your LTR? "Hey babe, just a heads up - I'm gonna paternity test every child you bear.... and also pre-nup will happen too."
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 05:38 AM
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I raise you... my ex called the cops on me cause I wanted to break up
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 05:24 AM
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I agree. Don't think OP ever fell into the friend-zone and was moreso noted as an aquaintance. A friendzone basically sticks around for months and years being available/visible throughout that time via forms of media/in-person. To turn that around is close to impossible!
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 12:19 AM
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I generally ignore the "want me to open up" comments as the more information you give, the less fantasy of a man you are to her. Use a woman's technique and trickle feed information to her about your past experiences, ambitions and hobbies. Why trickle feed? You do not want to be an open book to her. Make her want to know everything about you but you are in control of that information. A woman's fantasy mind is always of positive nature. In regards to "show more feelings and care" this could an …
/r/askTRP08/01/15 01:26 AM
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Set your boundaries about respect. Tell her it is the most important thing you value in a relationship etc Minor disrespect = withdrawing attention from her, simply leave come back when she apologises. Tell her that you are not angry but disappointed in her (try not to be emotional) and nurture her to what she should have done instead. Major disrespect = end the relationship
/r/askTRP08/01/15 01:16 AM
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It's a nuclear level shit test. You pass it, you end the relationship You fail it, you are forever a beta slave
/r/askTRP08/01/15 01:10 AM
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Nope happens to me. For me the thing that kills my performance is when I'm tired or it takes too long for CIP. I like to get straight to it once turned on. And yes, something like this event is quite common for inexperienced guys and could create more anxiety which will cause performance issues!
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 05:54 AM
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Well said. I go through a similar system and it ends up being a routine basically i.e. a phone call/msg from LTR either during or after work. Once fulfilled, I'm done and focus on my activities.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 12:02 AM
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Reminded me of a similar experience actually - this might be one of the reasons why I don't take one on one with a male friend as okay Was called to catch up 4 days before her wedding. Had known her for 5 years and fkd twice previously when I initially met her.
/r/askTRP19/12/14 12:00 AM
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You're right it isn't 100% it's 1000%. Coming from experience, daddy issue girls are straight up incapable of healthy relationship as they crave attention more than you think. Worst is, if she thinks she not an attention however continues to project it. Dated 3 daddy issue women with same result.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 11:49 PM
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You are probably investing too much into this woman. You need to find other women... A true plate comes, fks and goes. You spend little time and resources on a plate. You do not care for what they do outside of fking you when you want it. That is the mentality you should have. If you are failing it means you are committing aka failing aka not a plate
/r/askTRP18/12/14 11:40 PM
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You haven't mentioned how long you have been dating/together. Sounds like the typical honeymoon period has faded and things have turned into routine. To bring back spark - look at doing new activities/experiences together. Start change your routine aka introduce dread games. etc
/r/askTRP18/12/14 11:37 PM
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Sounds like a shit test then
/r/askTRP18/12/14 11:24 PM
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Even with an old friend - they are generally orbiters anyway. I would still find it disrespectful for her to go out of her way to meet with him one on one. Maybe it's jealousy - don't know
/r/askTRP18/12/14 11:23 PM
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This is great however for those of us in a marriage/LTR how do we go about enforcing the understanding that male friends for women = side plates for men
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 05:56 AM
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Are you living under a rock or >50yo? This is the 21st century where text game is pivotal if you want a girl between 18-30yo.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 11:37 PM
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red flags There are always red flags in any woman aka "no unicorn exists". What is extremely important in an LTR is how you manage the red flag. You need to express your boundaries on respect. I have all my girls know that the number 1 thing that sits with me is RESPECT. When she fucks up, withdraw your attention from her - if she apologizes, make sure she has learnt her lesson. If she is insistent that her actions were right then 'next' her.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 01:10 AM
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He has remained headfast in going ghost on her. So he's on the right path
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 12:25 AM
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Problem is that they usually aren't attractive enough. But then, the catch 22 is that if they were attractive they wouldn't be orbiters in the first place or you think that they are orbiting you but you're actually orbiting them! In the end there isn't much real value in keeping an orbiter. Reminder - orbiter is different to female friend. It's all about how regular you are with regards to contact. High contact = orbiter
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 05:06 AM
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It's a long hard journey to claim alpha status when you have a history of being considered a beta orbiter. I would suggest you abandon your plight and move your resources/time to other women. The easiest way to transition into alpha frame would be by setting that example with other women - abundance mentality. Right now if you are secretly still pursuing her, you are still in the unicorn mental state. Go work on yourself and game other women and she will naturally gravitate to you that way - the…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 04:01 AM
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It's not a set rule but the golden ratio 1:3 means - for every 3 texts she sends you, you send her one back - send her 1/3 of the length of text she sends you etc Use your initiative and don't follow the rule to the T like a robot. What you want to do is create an environment where she is invested in you by doing all the talking.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 03:57 AM
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I've had a similar experience back in early uni days and I have to say I still have nightmares about that girl to this day - no joke actual nightmares like she tells me she is preggos or something. I only stuck around for the free meals and such but once you become dependant on them you start to look past their fugliness for some odd reason. She had a decent body but a fugly face.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 03:53 AM
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Very much agree.. I was one of the early ones amongst my friends to move out at 23yo But seriously, after I moved out and gained full independence - I correlate my success with women with this stepping stone in my life. There was a new found confidence that I had once I moved out alone. Spinning plates also becomes x10 easier too ofc
/r/askTRP01/12/14 10:38 PM
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I get to the point where I am too tired to have everyday sex. So different issue now heh!
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 12:18 AM
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You can however share your goals with your significant other or plates. They love to hear how ambitious you are. The amount of times that I've heard an ex say, "I liked how you were ambitious and in control of what you wanted to do...."
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 03:14 AM
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100% agree on Reciprocation. In my early days when I was learning to spin plates, I fucked up so much in keeping them spinning because I thought I was being a top dog alpha by the way of slow replies, kicking them out, acting cold in general. The plates would only return for second try if the sex was good or otherwise would just go full radio silence on me. Comfort is an important part of gaming women. It is exhaustive when spinning plates also! Currently in an LTR and it's even more emphasized …
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 03:12 AM
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Agreed... no girl would bring something like this up unless she was projecting in some way. Even if it was a shit test, it is one hell of a one to bring up.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 04:54 AM
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This has been the same for myself. I attracted girls who had many male friends and little to no female friends.... A big red flag now
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 03:16 AM
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Yep UV will age your skin. Best to simply take vitamin D3 tablets to supplement your needs.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/14 11:19 PM
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Going to a club with your hot gf? You're gonna have a bad time...
/r/TheRedPill23/11/14 11:07 PM
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It is extremely important to lead her. You are the experienced one, increase your comfort game and then straight up go for a kiss and teach her. There is alot of coaching required when tackling a newbie/shy girl - they are generally shy due to inexperience. Be prepared to have really crappy kisses etc at the beginning. TL;DR Comfort is king
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 05:25 AM
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Truth. To summarise: Looks/Money/Status draws women in. work on yourself first Game/TRP to close the deal work on game Hardmode Game/TRP to keep them around work on continous improvement of both yourself/game
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 05:17 AM
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This is all true. I am always amazed that people are willing to pay full price. Those people in general tend to feel embarassed and care too much about what others think when haggling. This is WRONG. You need to stop caring so much and think more about yourself and what you're paying. The biggest weapon of a haggler is the willingness to walk away. Ask any haggler how many times when they are about to walk that the seller as come back chasing you with the price you set! This even applies to real…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 12:22 AM
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This is great work and all but I would seriously re-consider LTRing her and downgrade to a plate if you haven't done so already. If you LTR her you will have to keep up the bullshit to this level because that is what she is used to. That is why it's extremely important to set the baseline alpha from the beginning! Going beta -> alpha isn't the best route Recommended alpha -> alpha/beta
/r/TheRedPill20/11/14 04:23 AM
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hahaha exactly this. Plus from my experience, all my LTRs have commented to say that mine was the biggest they have ever seen/had. Could call this a lie but a 'woman in love' will say you are the best in every possible way without logic.
/r/askTRP19/11/14 05:35 AM
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This. The HB8-10s will reject men swiftly. The HB1-7 generally speaking, are insecure/attention seeking so they reject ambigiously aka will aim to create an orbiter instead.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/14 10:28 PM
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I agree.. her game play for drama is a red flag already She should be asking the 'what are we' without drama to acheive LTR status
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 12:20 AM
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Trust funds, Family funds, International banks, Overseas investments, Pre-nup etc There are many ways to 'hide' money. I transferred all my investments into areas above before marriage to ensure that I won't get divorced raped. The only thing at risk is the family home however that is something I have accounted for (was purchased together) If you are self-made wealth, you are sure as hell smart enough to protect yourself so that you will not lose. "I am a gambling man, however I do not like bett…
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 12:17 AM
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Agree to a certain extent. Women as friends have tend to require more attention/drama whereas male friends are simply DGAF most of the time. It is simply easier to find good male friends than good female friends..
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 12:10 AM
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If you were planning on LTR'ing this girl you overplayed the DGAF attitude. She basically gave the 'what are we' discussion which was a point where you could turn it into LTR if that's what you wanted. Another point, I would not have answered her question about talking now or later - simply best to reply like this: Her: You want to talk now, or do you want to come over tomorrow? Me: 5.15 @ location today And if she complains further after that, just ignore
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 12:08 AM
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Women make shit 'friends' in comparison to men. Period
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 11:46 PM
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Agreed 100%. If you LTR a hot girl, she will have many male orbiters/'friends'... She will/should progressively drop her orbiters for you if you simply do the following: withdraw your attention as punishment if she is talking to/hanging out with orbiters give attention as reward intermittently when she is not If she does not respond to this, you've fkd up and she does not see your attention/time as valuable to her. So drop her
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 11:44 PM
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In this scenario you should make it clear to your girl that it is her responsibility to fend off guys who are hitting on her at social events. She is to only call upon myself if her efforts to get rid of him doesn't work and therefore my intervention is required. If she does not even attempt to fend them off then it becomes a respect issue and either contributes to major dread or simply 'next'. Always establish respect as your biggest thing in a relationship so she knows that she will lose you i…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 05:37 AM
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Girls that are really into you will not pursue hanging out with male friends. If a girl in LTR does this, apply dread. If dread doesn't work, you must've failed and beta-fied yourself badly in someway - best thing to do here is next/move on.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 05:24 AM
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Friendzone slayer in 1 phase 1.) Find another girl and establish a sexual frame
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 05:15 AM
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Proud and disgusted at the same time (see friendzone for many years). He has potential to reach out from the blue pill though
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 01:27 AM
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You're right about how he probably hasn't nexted her. Why? Girls are manipulative and can play the emotional game far better than any of us. What your girl will do is slowly repair/rebuild the friendship with him until he's back into orbit again. I've been in the exact situation as OP - guy friend admitted feelings for her, she reaffirmed friendzone with him - he is now back in the friendzone
/r/TheRedPill05/11/14 05:08 AM
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I have my women on birth control and don't finish in her just to make sure... keeps the nice sensation and further mitigates the risk. I think however, this has ruined my ability to actually finish inside of her with my internal feedback loop being that I need to pull out to finish (probably about 15 years of this technique) I am somewhat worried about having children in the future and being unable to finsih inside...anyone else having this issue?
/r/TheRedPill05/11/14 04:59 AM
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I think 2-3+ times a week is relationship! what?! - once during weekday, usually a wednesday - twice during either fri/sat/sun Once a week is 'seeing' her
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 03:16 AM
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If it's an LTR, boundary setting is a good thing that needs to be done. This is a fairly minor infraction, I would keep the power of withdrawing attention to more serious matters such as disrespect in front of others etc
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 03:01 AM
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To me this has to do with an insecurity or attachment to technology. This is not a deal breaker. It's only something that can be improved before becoming a GF. This. I've had a girl that would jump on her phone every time she got nervous and insecure. She would be scrolling aimlessly to avoid eye contact etc
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 03:00 AM
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A bit too passive aggressive for me. I prefer to draw the boundary simply but telling them their bad habits - i.e. I find being on the phone texting in a 1on1 situation disrespectful, reinforcing good behaviour by giving them my attention. I reformed my current gf with these tactics - to a point where she now points out her friends and other couples that are on the phone when having dinner with one another. Simply a matter of respect of my time...
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 02:58 AM
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To me the best relationships start off with lust aka sex and then the getting to know more about you part... Thus, I do not advocate a relationship starting off by how much of a good person you are (beta)
/r/TheRedPill24/10/14 12:45 AM
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No smileys/emiticons 1:3 Golden ratio on text sized response
/r/TheRedPill23/10/14 05:49 AM
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attention seeker demoted to plate material
/r/TheRedPill23/10/14 05:40 AM
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My experiences are similar to yours however just to add... The 1-3 count girls seem a more insecure and are massive noobs when it comes to relationship etiquette. This has it's annoyances particularly around disrespect which needs to be taught (when you've dated a few, you get used to the girl knowing the boundaries without having to say anything or calling it out)
/r/TheRedPill22/10/14 04:54 AM
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"I've seen many LTR women actually try to fatten their man up" This was me during my first few relationships. I found it strange that my woman wouldn't me to get into shape etc and say how they prefer me bigger... now it all makes sense!
/r/TheRedPill22/10/14 04:46 AM
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Just read LTR 1... sounds like a nightmare but also curious to your own learnings from these as part of TRP.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/14 05:27 AM
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This. It's more about attitude and being an uncaring asshole which not surprisingly comes from experience too
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 11:28 PM
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"(like the father of our daughter, who’s a drug addict and is not in her life)" Stopped reading after that
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 11:14 PM
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I think an all male school taught me how to defend/fight with it's daily exposure to violence. There was lots of fighting happening due to all that building/peak testosterone.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 03:50 AM
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High school - status College - status Real world - status
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 05:11 AM
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You should never be the one asking for a relationship. The exclusiveness of the relationship should only begin after a fuck and you're both laying there and the following ensues.. Her: So what are we? You: ... Her: Exclusive relationship? You: (sigh) I think I can make that work/Okay You were basically Her in the dialogue... EDIT: Also... why would you ever want to be in an exclusive relationship when you are regularly banging her. I do not see any benefits in a LTR'ing unless you are looking to…
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 05:04 AM
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Women will cheat because..... Wait for it..... HYPERGAMY Now carve that to the foreheads
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 04:58 AM
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Nathan Fillion in Firefly/Serenity. All of his interactions are RP as fk
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 04:48 AM
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I had a similar one... Gf was invited to her friends college ball and none of her friends were bringing their bfs. So imagine this, a group of 3 girls going to a ball without their bfs... why?
/r/TheRedPill23/09/14 02:00 AM
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This is actually quite common with girls 20-25 these days. I explicitly tell them that I find it disrespectful especially when we are spending 1 on 1 time i.e. we go to a restaurant and she starts texting on her phone. She generally reacts apologetically, however it has taken quite a number of times where I've had to express my displeasure for her to be at the stage she is at right now - no longer always on the phone. I have only had one instance where I absolutely lost my cool in which I felt w…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 06:11 AM
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It actually isn't words particularly, it's the attitude you take of uncaring alpha. The nudes come naturally aka common practice amongst girls to do so
/r/TheRedPill04/09/14 01:14 AM
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Thanks for your extremely informative responses!!
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 07:23 AM
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Nearly there... Better way to go about it for a 99% chance of bang, text the following: "come over and bring food and movies" Breakdown: come over = minimal investment on your part and logistics are in your favour bring food = what you gain from it for free (usually i choose dinner time after work to meet up) movies = plausible deniability to avoid anti-slut alarm going off Process: She comes over brings a pizza/kebab whatever you choose. You eat together on the sofabed in the lounge whilst flir…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 05:09 AM
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they knew me for what has been around 2 years That was all I needed to read to assume that you are deep into the friendzone
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 04:37 AM
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Thanks for your detailed explanation! Just for further clarifications sake... from the period beginning is when the need to up the alpha begins? I was under the impression from day 12-15 is when upping the alpha was required. This is all extremely detailed into the female biological state however is intriguing to me
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 04:30 AM
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This. I've received nudes from my past LTRs (always occurs in the early stages) Seems common practice and they always claim they did it because I made them feel sexy.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 03:45 AM
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During her proliferative phase - she prioritizes "Alphaness" and during her luteal phase she prioritizes "Betaness" I feel like a dumbass for not ever getting this but can you break it down into simpleton terms. Is proliferative phase the 12-16 day window AFTER her period occurs? And conversely the luteal phase the first 12 days of her period?
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 02:07 AM
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Hah! You guys think this is bad? I experienced a girl wanting to bring an orbiter to a date At least she mentioned it to me before the date actually occurred though. When she mentioned it, I immediately said I've got other plans actually, can reschedule for another time and instead I'll just throw a movie night and we can invite everyone. Basically diffused myself from the situation and ready to move on to another girl. She then miraculously decided that she didn't need the orbiter to come as we…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/14 06:18 AM
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I've found that when you're simply spinning plates it's easy to be selfish. I've found the most self improvement while getting sex still during that stage of my life Now, my life has become more routine than usual - may be in part my fault. A committed LTR will generally sepll the beginning of this routine i.e. seeing each other weekly, phone calls, thinking of things to do, more $$$ outgoing, more drama etc
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 01:58 AM
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|You fucking talked for an hour before making serious moves? This is exactly where OP fucked up. You do not have a dnm bitch session with the girl. You should be doing the following: Open (The hello, lead the conversation) Tease (Bring negs, jokes and witty shit) Escalate (Turn words/actions into a sexual context i.e. reframe her words, physical kino etc) Evalaute (Is she responding well, if not it is extremely important that you withdraw attention by simply giving your attention to someone else…
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 01:28 AM
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Welcome to TRP on hardmode. If you were spinning plates beforehand, prepared to have cold feet with a desire for variety. This is coming from a guy in LTR for just over 1 year...
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 01:13 AM
1

Best attitude to have right here 100% agree... women make for shit friends. They will only come to you if they are seeking attention & validation - nothing more!
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 01:09 AM
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You've missed the window and now you're a forever beta in her eyes You are still young... if ever you are put in a one on one situation with a girl particularly in an environment where logistics are perfect i.e. drinking at her house or yours, you need to fucking ESCALATE! You say that you went to her house and seem to express disappointment that nothing happened.... who is a fault here? Is it her fault? Or is it yours because you did not have the fucking balls to touch her, to show dominance in…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 02:06 AM
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You deleted plates, kept the quality one going yet you seem to have lost the internalised feeling of abundance. If you had mentality that this girl is just another plate with the potential to LTR then I'm sure your texts would have been much different. Aloofness and indifference is key
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 01:49 AM
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My life in order of priority/time investment as a 25yo male living alone Mon-Thur = Work, Gym, Investments, Family, Gaming, LTR Fri = Work, Friends Sat-Sun = Investments, Car (hobby), Family, LTR I actually rarely find time to be sitting there with nothing to do.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 12:53 AM
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Yes and some even try to mask their shit tests through games such as the 'WHAT IF' scenario I've been generally saying the opposite of what they want to hear, not quite agree & amplify however also not sure if I'm playing it right i.e girl mentions how cute of a love story that mutual friend is having a long distance relationship and visits her every year. She then proceeds the WHAT IF scenario Her: What if I were to have to stay overseas, would you come meet me every year and continue the relat…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 12:36 AM
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She didn't want to come over means you fucked up somewhere, most likely in the making her horny department Sure this guy is RP the way he handled it. But I damn well know the difference between having to force an interaction, and having that interaction created by the spontaneity of the woman. I sure as hell also know the amount of skill that it takes to force the interaction, and the amount of skill it takes to be able to foster an environment/frame that will make the girl take action, wanting …
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 11:54 PM
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I am inclined to have an LTR as unlike others I do want family (kids) in the long term... To clarify, it isn't a dead bedroom - She has been the best sex I've had yet due to her hyper submissive nature however as said in the original post, I do not have that raging libido that I used to for her and require thoughts of other women to get me going - see Coolidge effect mentioned by another. Prior to the current LTR I had 3 plates on the weekly and my life was probably at its best. I admittingly go…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 11:37 PM
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I think this is it... It's not the physical/mental attractiveness of her but it's just me. Having been active in TRP concepts for the past 2-3 years it has developed into a hypersensitivity to her behaviours that it turns me off at times. Reading the book Sperm Wars has probably had the greatest affect on my mind now that I think about it... I think truly understand the stages of 'bitter' of the pill now.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 11:14 PM
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Only reason it is suggested is because OP mentioned that she was a 'plate'. Being a plate she should be treated as a plate and I felt that his approach to give an ultimatum went way too far into the neediness category and had an increased potential for him to lose out - she would hamster that he didnt give her space etc. All in all, her flaking could have been a major shit test, however OP did get away with it in this situation by standing his ground. What if she didn't turn up? She would think …
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 06:46 AM
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There were a few things in your approach that I would have done differently, particularly the texting ultimatum... When she texted that she was flaking, simply reply with 'lol' The 'lol' reply conveys your indifference. The effect of it is that a million things will run through her head on why you have simply given her a short reply and whether you really don't care about her. Proceed to withdraw all attention by not replying further to any of her 'explanations' on flaking or simply keeping it s…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 05:58 AM
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That's when you know you're dealing with a crazy. I've been in this scenario once where I broke up with my girl at my home (NEVER BREAK UP AT YOUR HOUSE) and calling the police didnt' work. Long story short, I actually had to play her with manipulation to get her out of the house. Basically I turned the tables to make her think that I wanted to work things out saying and actioning a lot of betafying things. Only then did she leave the house. Once that occurred I disappeared in a flash going full…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 05:41 AM
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Yep.. as said, dread game only works when she perceives you as high SMV. If you are already in the beta/friend/manboob field of vision, dread game will do absolutely nothing and possibly more damage. Cut your losses and move on. Your only chance to ever get with her is only when she indirectly hears of your conquests with other women and your SMV shoots up high beyond what she saw previously.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 05:37 AM
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Setting boundaries is one of the hardest however key things for a RP LTR. Why is it hard? Because you cannot simply use the direct approach Example - when she disrespects you Event: You tell her to follow you in a crowd and she runs off with her friends mid-follow Action: You ask her what happened, express your displeasure through your face and body language towards her, and importantly... withdraw attention from her until she recognises her mistakes. Learning: Withdraw attention from her as pun…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 05:26 AM
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This. Walking out right after was probably the best thing for you to do... in doing so, it indirectly injected dread Hold your frame son!
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 05:19 AM
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I have an interesting question... What does it mean when your LTR does not want to move in with you until married? I understand culture plays a part (asian) however I believe it to be in my best interest that an LTR spends time living together to see the nature of the beast in close environment. She of course is smart enough to see that and was saddened that I was somewhat 'testing' her in when saying I'd ideally have her live with me for a period of time before marriage. Thoughts?
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 06:54 AM
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Girls with low self esteem will have more instances of disrespect than girls with a healthy level of self esteem. They are extremely likely to flirt with others i.e. be more touchy and have a collection of beta orbiters to make themselves feel better whilst in an LTR. However once they are taught what is disrespectful and they are to follow your lead, they make a very good LTR due to the fact they respond very well to game.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 05:54 AM
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This. When we successfully apply TRP principles it will only make the girl more likely to jump you. So how can you blame them for not holding out?
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 03:41 AM
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This is like a text book Sperm Wars scenario. I honestly sometimes wish I never read that book. Being in a mono relationship, it is extremely difficult to swallow what is said....
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 05:44 AM
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Great point. To bring it down to simplistic levels for LTR Alpha to change behaviour = Withdraw attention Beta to encourage behaviour = Give attention Always withdraw attention from your plate/LTR/wife/mistress/slut/cow if she displays bad behaviour/disrespect
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 03:37 AM
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Very much agree to this. If you want to shape the relationship x months in, it will take a lot more work than doing so pre-relationship. Setting the precedence is extremely important to her expectations of your behaviour. This why you should always err on the side of asshole at the beginning (gives you more room to move) and then slowly introduce some beta for the continuity of the relationship. My relationship has gone on for over 1 year and sex has occurred 99% of the time we have met up. Pers…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 05:47 AM
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Sorry to clarify further - do not respond while she is still with her guy friends. Only respond afterwards so that you are not reinforcing behaviours
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 02:33 AM
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Hey I generally hold it till they reach out to you which they will if they have high attraction to you. The guy friends thing usually hangs around in the first 3 months of the relationship in which thereafter either her or her guy friends will get the message and not initiate the 1on1 interaction.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 02:31 AM
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Simple maxim to follow: Punish swiftly, reward intermittently That way, she will continously work hard to please you.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 02:29 AM
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How I managed this was by treating everything as transactional. At times you will also need to provide some plausible deniability i.e. ask her to come over and bring da movies so she won't feel overly used.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 02:26 AM
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This really should be posted in the thankTRP section....
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 02:22 AM
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It's in our hindbrains aka our biologically set impulses. Why do we naturally feel jealousy? A high count simply does not represent a worthy LTR due to the high risks involved.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/14 05:36 AM
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This. Once she has categorised you as a 'friend' you've basically lost your sex appeal and anything you do will come across as 'creepy'. If you do happen to win her by jealousy, just remember that you've attracted her through jealous terms. This means, as a gf, you will need to maintain the jealousy in order to maintain the relationship. This is exhaustive work! I would not recommend.... Cut your losses and move on.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 06:33 AM
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Day gamed a girl on a train. She gave number. Tell her to come over and bring food/movies. Bang ensued. Then mentions her mother is coming down around from overseas for her marriage in 3 days time. Tells me this is a secret between us and that even when I have a proper gf that we are to continue this secret. Bang one more time and suddenly goes ghost on me after honeymoon. Oh well - didn't want to deal with a married woman. I legit had a nightmare of the guy trying to hunt me down LOL
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 06:29 AM
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Very simple mentality to internalise here Treat all women as being the same - there is no special girl
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 05:36 AM
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As said, it really depends on how you are perceived at the beginning of the relationship. It is a balancing act to maintain enough alpha and beta in order to have a thriving LTR. TL;DR LTR = TRP on hardmode
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 06:58 AM
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Media bashing on PUA http://www.theage.com.au/world/elliot-rodger-and-the-creepy-world-of-the-pickup-artist-20140528-zrqg1.html
/r/TheRedPill28/05/14 06:29 AM
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Mutual friends - i'd say it's the most common method
/r/TheRedPill28/05/14 02:26 AM
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Nice to hear that you cook for him. I'm mid 20s and I have yet to find a girl that fully understands how to cook for me independently. It is quite saddening when I think about what they are bringing to the table if such a task is so difficult.....
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 05:32 AM
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I didn't quite read a 'success' story other than that you found TRP subreddit. Only string of advice you gave was to workout/get a hobby/move which not to be harsh but is so generic that even a female counterpart would suggest the same thing. What you need to do to turn yourself into RP is read the sidebar first, work on your physical self as mentioned but more importantly work on internalising everything you read here. Lots of re-wiring required....
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 05:06 AM
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This. The effort level required is so much more. Heck! Even in BP state, you become blind to red flags and begin worrying more and more about 'appeasement' rather than your own satisfaction. In TRP state it's easy.... everything goes the way you want. The only thing you need to do is make sure you are captain and maintain command on what to do/decision making.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 04:23 AM
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The way I saw it. With passionate people aka 'crazy' get you two worlds.... When they love you, they fucking love you When they hate you, they fucking hate you This is coming from a guy that stuck it in a crazy for 9 months and copped an assault charge fabricated by the crazy when I decided to leave the relationship. Also... never initiate a break up with a crazy at your house!!
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 04:18 AM
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If you have the status and wealth to do it, go ahead. However as I am still frugal with my money I prefer that the woman initially invests in me i.e. buys me drinks, brings me food/movies This subconsciously places the woman in the chaser role whilst passing one of the highest compliance test that is a step before sex.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 01:11 AM
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This. HUGE red flag.... downgrade IMMEDIATELY to a plate and start exploring other girls.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 07:03 AM
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Australia Honestly, as an Australian - how the hell does one protect themselves if a prenup won't be effective due to family law. Do I... - Write up a contract for her to sign as well (aka one that involves a 'fair' split if it involves kids)? - Transfer my assets to a company name etc I'm in a situation where I am likely to get married to due to cultural reasoning and also because I want kids and I have significant ($$$) investments whereas the girl basically has nothing. I am scared to death w…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 05:16 AM
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This is probably only most prominent in asian culture. Western however..........
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:14 AM
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TL;DR: What is the most common thing that couples argue about? Money
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:10 AM
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Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 02:32 AM
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Agree with this... I personally maxed out at 3 plates a week and could not find the time for more without sacrificing my own time to focus on self improvement and hanging with the boys! You must be a student and/or not working full time
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 06:26 AM
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The trick isn't to hold the radio silence. It's only for that moment if you are physically with her - which should force an apology and change of behaviour or simply taking a while longer to be responsive to her. I'm not advocating going ghost.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 04:09 AM
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Heh I've done exactly this on many occasions that it became a norm in that I would ask all girls to come over and bring me food and movies and if they didn't, I'd shrug and move on to the next one. When they comply with such a demand, a bang is 100% guarantee The amount of savings accumulated from free meals!! My only mistake in hindsight was turning a plate into an LTR... a COSTLY error!
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 01:48 AM
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Look, the number 1 rule you all need to follow when shit like this happens is.... WITHDRAW ATTENTION (WA) examples: Plate is flirting with another guy - WA (go dance with friends) LTR is hanging with 'guy friends' - WA (disappear, do not respond to txts/calls for period of time) Wife is running 30mins late to dinner with friends - WA (do not show affection during dinner) The lesson here is that you cannot tell a girl what she is doing wrong. Why? You reinforce the behaviour by arguing with her b…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 01:10 AM
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Scenario: A gf requests to go on a GNO at a club/bar Result: INSTANT downgrade. Plate spinning ensues, my time/money investment in her is cut. Reasoning: Experience + decent 'bun in the oven' type of girls will never want to spend a night out at the clubs. She would rather spend the time with yourself. Girls with class have GNO's where they meet at restaurant and chit chat in my opinion...
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 12:57 AM
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I dated a psychologist.... and holy shit did her blabbering bring back horrible memories!!! /rant
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 02:20 AM
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Take her back to your place to 'show her the view' or 'music collection'. Any plausible deniable reasoning to go back to your pad. Why? Personally I say fk the comfort building via drinks/dinner/party - ain't got time/money for that. These days, the comfort stage should be already built via text messaging/phone calls prior to meeting again. I tell all my plates to 'bring da movies/food' and the script goes like this: Pour an alcoholic drink Put on movie Eat free food Escalate Sex Requesting her …
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 02:11 AM
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Jay-Z is higher status. Why? Jay-Z has higher networth ($500m vs $350m) Jay-Z is a rapper, record producer, and entrepreneur/investor. He is one of the most financially successful hip-hop artists and entrepreneurs in America. Basically he is extremely successful, has fame, status, connections with 'movers & shakers'
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 01:56 AM
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I only demote an LTR into this situation when she's fucked me over via some form of disrespect. Long story short, I broke up and went ghost on an LTR who basically asked me to get on my knees and beg forgiveness etc for alledgedly cheating (did not cheat). She allowed me to treat her like shit for the following 2 months thereafter until I beta backslided into oblivion and broke things off once more. She ended up getting an orbiter to her down to my place to give back my iPod and called saying sh…
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 01:35 AM
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You lack experience. You've been reading TRP the past few months but I doubt how much of it you have internalised and applied to your relationship/attitude. Think why you are working to improve your SMV by lifting/dressing yourself? You want to get LAID So start by sexualising all your conversations. EXAMPLE: I never stop to turn all my conversations with my LTR into a sexualised tone through innuendos and suggestive commentary. Treat her like sex object, slap her ass etc Back to basics..... ESC…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/14 07:13 AM
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From personal experience, I would not bother with a girl that is taken. 1st of all, she is most likely an attention whore if she is flirty whilst 'taken'. 2nd of all, high likelihood if you are inexperienced that you will become another orbiter suffering blue balls.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 01:32 AM
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Understanding that you are only 17yo, however my advice to you is to brush up on your story telling skills. This anecdote has basically provided no value to the community other than another 'Thank you TRP' - in which we do not need the validation.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 01:29 AM
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I believe the maxim was along the lines of... Punish swiftly (alpha), reward intermittently (beta) in an LTR
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 01:11 AM
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I've personally never heard great relationship advice from my sister....
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 01:08 AM
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Woman saying what they want/don't want = drawn to the opposite..
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 05:48 AM
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I have found the formula to the best balance for an LTR 60% female friends 40% male friends And to add I'd personally not want the LTR to 'hang' out with her male friends 1on1...
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 05:46 AM
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You want the dark triad attributes - ala read the sidebar
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 03:58 AM
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Okay this story seriously haunts me...... Dated a HB9, attention whore, daddy problems complex, very wealthy background, no female friends / only guy friends, superiority complex (psych major), ego size of planet (due to random people asking her if she was a model) Basically her only saving factor was physical. Anyway, she busted me on some deleted msgs I had flirting with another girl to which I proceeded to deny. She then began ransacking my house to the point I get physical and pin her down t…
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 01:14 AM
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hahahah typical hamstering If an LTR ever requested to catch up for 'lunch' with an ex it would instigate an instant downgrade with no chance of going back up. A downgrade would mean a deprioritisation of my time/resources to her and the beginning of plate spinning. Other deservings of the 'downgrade': hanging out with an ex hanging out (1on1) with new guy friends made after meeting you requesting a break major incidents of disrespect
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 12:56 AM
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Ultimately, a woman may become infatuated to borderline obsessive with you if you display both beta/alpha attributes. What I mean by this? Simply put, if you have the money/status/looks/attitude... expect crazy infatuated women!
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 03:51 AM
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RP on hard mode = LTR
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 02:29 AM
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TRP relationships is TRP on 'hard mode' effectively
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 12:41 AM
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The worst is going on facebook and looking at your own LTRs pictures of when she was 18 compared to now (24). I cashed in late, shoulda taken her up back when she was 18 prime....
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 11:06 PM
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Acknowledged, sir!
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 11:02 PM
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Hate it too... much more difficult to read and navigate! Keep it simple please!1!!!!
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 04:52 AM
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This. If ever a girl says she wants to "go on a break", instantly break up with her. Whoosh, hang up, go ghost on her, move on and give her no closure. It is a HUGE red flag, do not proceed imo. Only that moment of dread threatened her to not go on break, however inevitably it will creep back in...
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 04:51 AM
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I have a better idea... Simply display your dominance/strength by lifting her up and throwing her around. I have not met a woman who did not thoroughly enjoy being lifted off her feet (usually leads to sex also)
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 05:56 AM
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What's a mid 30s woman doing at the clubs? Heck at mid 30s she's surely heading towards the downwards spiral in terms of SMV. Great thing you did there for societies sake!
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 05:34 AM
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As said with the previous posters above, start pushing for sex now.... as the longer you leave it the more power you are giving her. You are justifying the money she has spent on you and her 'reserved values' on sex to stop your progression. In the meantime, you are giving her a resource that all women crave and value.... attention. You might as well consider yourself in her orbit and the oral teaser to ensure you stay there - all the while she goes off to fuck an alpha to put it bluntly. 1.Rela…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 05:25 AM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillRelationships/ Don't think it's very active though...
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:50 AM
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Standard shit testing. Never take what girls say in this sort of regards seriously. Think of yourself as a prize, do not be dazed but such remarks. Treat the situation with amused mastery by simply agreeing & amplifying your way through it.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 05:54 AM
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In my opinion, there is no point explaining RP to your girl or girls in general. Naturally you will feel the urge to enlighten her with your knowledge of human behaviour, however there is generally no benefit and it is likely that she will vehemently deny it.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 04:08 AM
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Most likely a cultural thing... Example: in many asian cultures, the parents will not let go of a daughter until marriage i.e. no sleeping over at bf's house and persistant calling to request she comes home at a reasonable hour. I personally see this as a good thing.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 11:10 PM
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Most likely a cultural thing... Example: in many asian cultures, the parents will not let go of a daughter until marriage i.e. no sleeping over at bf's house and persistant calling to request she comes home at a reasonable hour. I personally see this as a good thing.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 11:06 PM
1

From my experience, once I got my own place my inner game skyrocketed from the confidence gained from independence. Then onwards, I found it extremely easy to get lays. I'm in Melbourne
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 12:20 AM
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You need to ensure that you have built up enough comfort in order for her to achieve orgasm. For women it is more emotional. Give her cues that you are into her throughout the day i.e. frequently slapping her ass is one that I like to upkeep whilst maintaining a strong alpha frame.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/14 11:52 PM
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I've got some RP songs on my cars playlist and find it fun to gauge the girls reaction when they listen to the lyrics - all of them have basically given me a 'look' after hearing it (heh). Example: Mary J Blige feat Drake - Mr. Wrong [Mary J Blige:] "Bad boys aint no good Good boys aint no fun Lord knows that I should Run off with the right one [Chorus:] Me and Mr Wrong get along so good (so good) Even though he breaks my heart so bad (so bad) We got a special thing going on Me and Mr Wrong (mis…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/14 11:39 PM
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Refering to heartiste: XIV. Fuck her good Fuck her like it’s your last fuck. And hers. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more. Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. If you don’t know how, learn to give her squirting orgasms. If this means going cunnilingus than so …
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 03:40 AM
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LTRs are fine however I find it much more exhausting than keeping plates. In saying that, not all of us are into the polygamous system. As someone has already mentioned, it is at the utmost importance to hold a strong frame at the beginning of the LTR. This will set the tone for how she acts towards you for the rest of the relationship.
/r/AlreadyRed07/03/14 05:00 AM
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This. Sounds like you are 15 and very inexperienced if these billions of thoughts enter your head without you making a move. A natural alpha would have captured her attention from the very first meeting through witty introduction. The more you prolong the approach the higher the anxiety levels and beta creep chance will be highlighted to her.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 04:34 AM
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Also you should have a 'mission' in life i.e. building your career/portfolio/working on car etc that is distracting you from being able to commit to a relationship.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 04:29 AM
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Your actions and general attitude during pickup should already be communicating to her that you are not looking for an LTR. What does this mean? You rarely do any activity that requires you to use your own resources and only meet up for sex. Anything more and you are manipulating her to think that you are giving her something more. Plates are generally hard to manage for this reason however. Most will inevitably seek some form of commitment and that is when you drop the plate or ignore as punish…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 04:28 AM
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With full time work lifting is the most effective route to take. A spar may take you out of action at work which hinders your resources etc. The older you get the less risks you will take as you do not want to be sidelined.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 04:22 AM
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I have to be honest here... Good work in eventually getting the girl but your method is what I question as it may cause problems in laters stages. From your short story, it sounds like you were white knighting in effect by taking a bus to go save her from her messed up date. You should not have done this... you are a busy person with other priorities in your life. You should have let her soak up her issues with the bf from being left out in the cold whilst maintaing a strong alpha frame to lure …
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 05:41 AM
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My woman actually often says "I follow your lead" . You can set this as standard from the very beginning of the LTR simply by showing her new experiences and reinforcing the leader-follower regime
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 11:55 PM
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Okay here are the general rules I follow in LTR for when she hangs out with guys 1on1: Hanging with ex bfs = insta-NEXT Hanging with guy friends whom have existed as guy friends before you LTR'd her = OK Hanging with new guy friends made after meeting you = instil DREAD into NEXT if continues. Hanging with guy friends who have already been rejected by your girl and remain as 'friends' = OK (beta orbiters) however be wary of the attention whore.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 03:24 AM
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One word: Hypergamy
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 03:13 AM
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I think it's safe to say. Most if not all of us who have found TRP have been in relationships in the past. Once we swallowed TRP we have a sudden flash back of all the blue/beta moments in our lives and attempt to shift blame, when ultimately, it is within our own control of what we become
/r/TheRedPill02/03/14 11:44 PM
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Means you are winning the power struggle in the relationship. Agree & Amplify your way through it
/r/TheRedPill28/02/14 12:46 AM
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Fake it till you make it
/r/TheRedPill27/02/14 11:40 PM
1

Well said
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 02:11 AM
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It's the culture and upbringing that makes key difference here There is a stark contrast in the expectations of your typical male in dating from western world to asia. West : high standards, equality, widespread feminism etc Asia : Patriarchy, submissive women etc It's not hard to see that why asians are disadvantaged in the dating world when transferred to western standards. Basically in Asia, the women there are very different.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 12:38 AM
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Question: How does one in this situation going about mitigating this? Setting boundaries, calling her out, meeting up with other women 1on1 etc? Majority of women these days have orbiters pre-existant to when you begin a relationship with them. Dealing with these orbiters is a whole other issue..
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 12:30 AM
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I'd personally find it disrespectful, however each to their own
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 12:25 AM
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Ask more questions about bf. Initiate bf destroyer mode i.e. he sounds like such a cool guy, does he buy you presents and put your on a pedastal etc
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 05:19 AM
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OP seems like someone who has spent a few hours reading TRP and is immediately applying it to his marriage/LTR. This is not how it works... particularly in a marriage where you have already fostered your low value/beta-ness for many years. It will take time and small steps to alter your current frame into the 'Captain/First mate' model that you refer to. My only advice is for you to do further reading before applying the principles of TRP.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/14 04:13 AM
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You already seemed disatisfield with her with your red pill realisation that your SMV will skyrocket once you begin working in your medical profession. My belief is that you are hesistant to commit to her due to her age. Let's face it, she is older than you and will have aged/devalued significantly when your SMV reaches it's peak at 30.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 11:46 PM
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Heh it's okay to display some betatude once the "I love you" messages start flying. To me everytime a girl gives me the "I love you" she is looking for some reassurance. I would rarely ever initiate a "I love you" - give your woman the opportunity and pleasure of giving her emotional world to you
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 01:08 AM
1

Exhaling heavily during heavy kino escalation/massage is the biggest GO signal to go a step further! Don't think you can ever get rejected with that signal
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 01:01 AM
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Just ask 'how does that feel' instead and gauge if she has responded postively or not. Green/Yellow/Red sounds like childsplay
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 12:58 AM
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Hardly creepy - play out the teacher/student scenario in her head with regards to pleasuring. Talk her through what you are doing to her as well. She will feel more confident and you will exponentially enjoy it more.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 12:56 AM
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This. You need to take initiative and instigate/escalate further. Also note that game takes place when your not physically with her as well - text her in a flirty/sexualised way and escalate from there to get her imagination going. With shy/v-card girls you will invest a bit more to secure the lay. Example: Text her (preferably at 11pm or ~bedtime) and mention to her that you had a crazy dream about which involved her... she will reply asking to know more, here you continue to be evasive however…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 12:52 AM
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Long Term Relationship
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 11:14 PM
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Good advice however.... I have personally found that it is the shy and non-shout-out-loud-HOT type of girls whom have the largest amount of beta orbiters - this current LTR being one of them. Whereas in previous relationships, when I have considerd my girl to be 'hot' aka HB8-9, they have usually been quite clear in cutting beta orbiters brutually and having a laugh together. My observation is that the HB5-7 types are not used to the attention that a HB8-9 gets and thus, will work more to keep m…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 11:14 PM
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I'm in firm belief that if a girl keeps a guy in orbit who has had sexual contact with her in the past - she deserves the 'NEXT'. No dread games required as this is high level blaringly obvious attention whore. If no sexual contact however the orbiter makes sexually overt comments then your girl should shut him out completely. It becomes a matter of respect moreso at that stage If no contact and no overt commentary - should be okay and best to friend the guys yourself according to the overall ad…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 11:08 PM
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I must agree with this consensus that my LTR has attention issues... the visiting orbiters back is something I have a serious issue with and play dread games naturally after every occurance. I am basically one step away from calling her out on this without sounding too insecure. Another option is to simply demote her and begin the plate spinning again (long story short she was one of my plates that I found date-able in which I succumbed during the 'what are we' phase - probably not a great idea …
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 11:03 PM
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This was a major concern of mine at first however I thought myself as simply being insecure. It does seem to only exclusively affect the less confident girls that I've LTR'd however.... Another point to mention is that the orbiters were in place for a few years before my existance in her life - so they are essentially long term orbiters with a few that have dropped off after finally confessing. I would definitely stomp out any new orbiters that formed after I LTR'd her as it would be a significa…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 05:33 AM
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Heh that is why if ever a woman instigates the "let's go on a break" motion your best move is to insta-next her.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 02:00 AM
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Bad idea. Period
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 12:05 AM
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Typical hamstering
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 11:51 PM
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I'm just glad that this guy wasn't a typical beta mongrel that is considering taking her back. In spite of the story, his headstrong decision to 'next' and go 'ghost' on her makes me feel somewhat better about humanity
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 10:59 PM
3

Isn't it strange how men have a fetish for fat women but you never see the opposite - women having a fetish for fat men. Heck you even see business spawning to cater for this! Women still want atheletic/fit men regardless
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 03:17 AM
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In the simplest terms... When you hit 30s you should have a sustaining career with a nice house/apartment, decent car, tailored suits/clothing, facially mature etc AKA you are constantly increasing in value - ONLY if you get off your ass and work on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 03:10 AM
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I used to turn up the betatude whenever I wanted to initiate a break up. Start supplicating, put her on the pedastal etc = easiest way for a 'mutual' break up to ever happen heh! Now it's too much trouble/planning to go through in terms of change of behaviour (the betatude technique would at times take 1 month even). Simply tell her that you have lost interest/attraction and then go full ghost no contact mode. At this point she will most likely be messaging/calling you incessantly, however remai…
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 01:04 AM
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Facebook is best used as a screening tool. One quick look at how much postings, photos, 'updates' gives us a good idea of the type of girl we may be getting ourselves entangled with.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 12:50 AM
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The usefulness of this study has been compromised by a great percentage of women on the contraceptive pill.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/14 11:03 PM
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I have had a similar experience with my gf except I called her out on it and set my boundaries of respect regarding phone usage around me. She apologised and later explained that she would grab her phone and scroll through texts of nothing because she was shy/nervous at the beginning. Still disrespectful for me however. She has never done it since setting the expectation early on!
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 03:07 AM
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You are the 'prize' not her
/r/TheRedPill14/02/14 07:41 AM
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Great insights FugitiveAlpha! I have definitely cultivated the "leader of men" mentality with her however have not used the lines regarding friends. Will use it in my arsenal for the next time it requires it. Much thanks with your response
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 11:11 PM
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My father was the epitome of asshole.. He has anger management issues, rules with iron fist (disciplinary extremes), overly dominant and sexist (would typical use lines like men need to do and be x), truely believed in 'man of the house' judgement, treated my mother flat out horribly - often told her she looked fat wearing that dress in front of my sister and I and would not give her any say whatsoever in terms of decision-making even when he was wrong (when he was wrong he never admitted to bei…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 05:54 AM
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Facebook is attention centric. Girls these days are use it for instant gratification and act like celebrities. I am on facebook however my relationship status remains hidden (currently in LTR), photo count remains low, I do not 'like' or post commentary often (once bi-monthly) etc Facebook is best used as a screening tool. One quick look at how much postings, photos, 'updates' gives us a good idea of the type of girl we may be getting ourselves entangled with.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 04:00 AM
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I posted this in a similar topic however I believe it holds true... : From my experience, hotter women get approached more and get their egos stroked and attention spooned to them in masses every day. This constant gratification builds resistance in this type of woman and therefore are able to react to approaches more swiftly (read rejection) than a typical woman. Personally the hottest women have been the most loyal and are able to prevent insecurity in an LTR as they are able to reject approac…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 02:44 AM
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Learning martial arts will give you the same confidence boost as weight training amongst other things. The important thing to understand here is that when you are acquire/ learn/achieve, the experience in itself provides you with the major confidence boost. Same goes with having a high flyer job or simply having a great night at a bar where you managed to get 5 digits. All these experiences will give you a confidence boost. Now all this won't automatically make you good with women, however will …
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 02:19 AM
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That's true. I guess there's no real other way other than to swing it to my advantage whether it be through acquiring resources or simply getting a car ride from the orbiter. What of the gf meeting up with orbiters in a 1on1 situation? Is that me simply being insecure or am I right to feel a slight disrespect.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 02:11 AM
1

It's vulnerability game. He has also been honest in his intentions. The girl truly believes in his vulnerable/damaged side and wants to 'fix' him
/r/TheRedPill12/02/14 05:56 AM
1

I always say.... work on yourself first - inner game priority and then work on gaming girls/techniques after Examples of inner: - Attitude - " you are the prize" / Confidence - Aesthetics / Gym - Mission / Goals - Career / Money Personally for me, when my career kicked off and I moved out of home, my confidence levels shot up exponentially which in turn affected my attitude towards women.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/14 05:25 AM
1

aesthetics/bodybuilding has it's part in TRP. The increase in T-levels will have an effect on pickup in general
/r/TheRedPill12/02/14 04:08 AM
1

I think this question needs to reframed: Can YOU change people's character/personality change? No. Someone telling you to change yourself and your ways is not possible at all, no matter how positive that change will seem to be. You cannot fix someone! Can people change themselves? Yes, however this takes one important thing.... experience (generally negative)/self-awareness. Think how many of us began swallowing the red pill - rejection or failed LTR due to betadude.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 10:53 PM
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I think this question needs to reframed: Can YOU change people's character/personality change? No. Someone telling you to change yourself and your ways is not possible at all, no matter how positive that change will seem to be. You cannot fix someone! Can people change themselves? Yes, however this takes one important thing.... experience (generally negative)/self-awareness. Think how many of us began swallowing the red pill - rejection or failed LTR due to betadude.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 01:21 AM
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In my experience, hotter women get approached more and get their egos stroked and attention spooned to them in masses every day. This constant gratification builds resistance in this type of woman and therefore are able to react to approaches more swiftly (read rejection) than a typical woman. Personally the hottest women have been the most loyal and are able to prevent insecurity in an LTR as they are able to reject approaches more readily - compare this to say a shy girl who may lead many orbi…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 01:11 AM
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