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Amen
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 01:20 PM
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I'm 49 going through divorce right now and I will say I kind of agree with you. I just think what those guys are telling you verse how they actually feel deep down are two different things. The men I know my age that have kids and have still been married I ask them the question, do you think you would still be with your wife if you didn't have kids with her? The answer has always been NO. Also maybe your in an area of the country where maybe it's more the bible belt, but I'm in Dallas area and i…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:46 PM
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Well if it makes you feel any better the experience you're having is the rule not the exception. We are now in a post-marriage society and people are starting to wake up to reality. This is what women wanted, and from what I can tell they seem to be more miserable for it, reminds me of the phrase be careful what you wish for.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 02:47 PM
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This is so common, welcome to the modern day woman. They truly are all the same.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 01:03 PM
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Well maybe a better phrase is, you did the best move in a shitty situation.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 02:49 PM
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Right call, good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 02:35 PM
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So basically what you're asking is guy's have you ever been married to a woman?....lol. Man that's hard first off wish you the best in dealing with this sort of stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 11:52 AM
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One thing you don't mention in your post is who wanted the divorce? If she wanted it does seem like very odd behavior; if you wanted the way she is being is more understandable. My ex is going to be living with me another month until she can move into her new place, she wanted the divorce, and over the past week I've become more indifferent as well. It still hurts, but more and more I'm like I cant change it so I might as well deal with it. Last night I left the house to get a beer with a male f…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 11:59 AM
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What's sad is your story is so common.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 08:12 PM
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The reason I did it with my current wife is I have a defined pension benefit plan that only a spouse could get. Granted we have a prenup so financially this is costing me next to nothing. She takes her stuff I keep my stuff no joint assets. So the marriage with a prenup was basically her retirement plan, because upon death my money was going to my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 08:09 PM
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If you get divorced in Florida it looks like she could get up to 35% of your salary, for half the time you're married. This is why always get a prenup no matter what.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 04:32 PM
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Well I refer to their careers because I'm trying to say these women are mentally stable enough to hold down professional employment.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 04:23 PM
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Thank you for the feedback...I'm going to reflect on this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 04:16 PM
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I divorce well, and I agree no point in marriage, but it's really not about marriage. It's more how do you have a long term relationship? I feel like if I have a LTR I'm going to love this person, but at the same time I feel like well I can't love this person, because at the same time I know they'll leave for any reason and I need to not give AF.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:56 PM
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College educated women initiate divorce 85 to 90% of the time, women take anti-depressants 2.5x more than men, and by 2030 almost 50% of women between the ages of 25-45 will be childless. What does this tell me? Women are cooked, so in turn men are cooked, and therefore society is cooked. I do agree I may be a little too needy in long term relationships, but at the same it's my wife. I hate thinking women are so immature they can't appreciate having a husband that really loves them. Granted I do…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:55 PM
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I completely agree I don't have to be in a relationship, but when you're 10 years away from retirement my first thought is I would LIKE TO have someone to share my life. For some reason it feels better sharing life with someone to me, but I'm starting to feel like this is an unhealthy WANT, because you're right it's not a NEED. It's like saying I WANT heroin, and I'm wondering if wanting a woman is like wanting heroin....it's not healthy. For your second point I feel like you really haven't been…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:45 PM
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Well I'm glad at least one other guy is dumbfounded as well, because I swear sometimes I feel alone in navigating this BS.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:35 PM
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I went to therapy after my second exwife and the female therapist basically said my expectations of women were off base due to my mother. Let's just say my father was in the Vietnam war and had his issues, and my mother to her credit stuck it out till he died from agent orange. The FEMALE therapist pointed out that my mother set in my head an unrealistic bar of expectations. Granted as a child I remember thinking when I get married I would never treat my wife the way my dad treated my mother. It…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:33 PM
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Lol...the sex robots are coming.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 10:44 PM
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I think you know the answer just accept it's done. this is modern day feminism. Look at society overall...they said by 2030 almost 50% of women between the ages of 25 and 45 will be childless. Women don't want families the way they used to HAVE TO. I say have to because 1940s women needed a man to survive, fast forward to 1970's no fault divorce laws a woman can leave for ANY reason, and are usually rewarded. Now I'm not saying people should 100% of the time be forced to stay in a marriage in ce…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 01:30 AM
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Here is what I would do, if you truly are done done.....I would sit down with my wife and I would clearly define my boundaries. I'm not dealing with X behavior any more, if you can't stop X behavior, or Y thing I'm done. Give her the opportunity to address it, and offer a solution. If in that conversation she's already going past your boundaries that's when I would say ok it looks like you're telling me you can't respect my boundaries, therefore you don't respect me, we're done, and just be done…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 01:10 AM
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I think I just found my best friend....lol. My wife that's the mother of my kids I was soooo angry just like you, and for me it was "I love you but I'm not in love with you", or "we just grew apart". I spent years asking this woman what's wrong only to be told nothing, and if I kept asking it would make things worse. Fast foward 2-3 years of plowing through multiple women in my early 40's I find a beautiful woman from Eastern Europe in Texas, and I just think OMG this woman is different. Fast fo…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:31 PM
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You're young, and if you want to mature through this, it sounds like you need to accept some hard truths of life. The reason I say this is because I've been divorced twice and am going through my third divorce now. Here is what I would tell 20-year-old me about relationships. Women in romantic relationships are completely different than the other women in your life like sister, cousin, mom, grandma, teachers, etc. Women do not think the same as you it VERY feelings-based, which is usually not ba…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 01:14 PM
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All I have to say is WOW....reading that story made me feel a lot better about my situation, and the fact you were able to come back after all of that. Major kudos to you!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 12:18 PM
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Yeah I'd probably be very happy with that divorce...lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 11:45 PM
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I think it depends on the circumstances of your divorce. If you were the one that walked away or your ex was nuts than I can see why you're not that emotional. Granted I'm at the point where I truly believe the biggest oxymoron in the world is sane woman.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 11:34 PM
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If it makes you feel any better just know the new guy is going to get the same treatment you got. This is why unfortunately I feel like we're cooked as a society. Marriage was a major cornerstone in the west and its effectively dead along with it you'll see the continuation of rot.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 02:32 PM
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Yeah unfortunately that's most men.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:26 PM
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I always ask the guys if they didnt have kids would they still be with their wife and ive never had someone say yes thats been married more than 10 years.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:09 PM
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I think social media has increased divorce but its because womens' emotions can be more easily exploited than a man's. Women taking SSRIs more than men, women seek therapy more than men, and women buy more self help books more than men. Some might say look women seek help more they are doing better, I would say more women seek help more because they are more messed up. Women initiate divorce at way higher rates than men, the vast majority of men in prison come from single mom homes. We're so coo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:08 PM
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1000% truth
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 03:18 PM
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Here is the hardest part to accept. Women in my experience for the most part dont mature past teenage years. Her feelings have spoken and women are ruled by their emotions. Its gonna suck, its gonna suck so bad, but just know many of your fellow men have been through this and you will get through this to. Matter of fact the good news is usually youll end up better off in the long term. I know you cant believe this statement now and it sounds like BS that most guys say, but most guys say it becau…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 01:51 PM
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As someone who has been through 3 divorces and every single one the wife initiated. My experience has been once they get that not happy thought in their head you're done. Unfortunately this is just female nature its like getting mad at a dog that is barking. Thats just what a dog does. College educated women initiate around 90% of all divorces, most people i kmow that are divorced the women wanted. I would error on the side of caution.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:05 PM
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Im so never getting married again. I read these stories and I think how lucky I am to have a prenup and totally separate accounts and my previous ex wife well she had a decent job and was fair. Men we cant keep making these mistakes or its just going to get worse. I know we all want women but it feels like the answer is only marry with a prenup, or if you really want to be happy never move then in so you can keep them at arms length. I know this isnt all women but this story is the rule not the …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 04:26 PM
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Because at least for me what life has shown me through my experiences and hearing other people's experiences the data might not be exactly right in those studies, but overall everyone knows the majority of the time women will leave for ANY reason as long as they can FEEL its ok. Im not saying all men are perfect because bad men do exist however from what ive seen and the data on divorce. For every 1 bad man their are like 10 bad women.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 05:21 PM
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This was the same advice I was going to give. They even say a prenup reduces the chance of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 04:22 PM
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You need to attend a divorce support group meeting just once...lol.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 04:21 PM
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I guess I would just disagree based on all the videos you can find online related to women being held up in high regard as how they are strong and independent as my counter argument. Women initiate 70% of divorce and if they have a bachelor's degree or higher its 90%. Marriage takes two and the women have checked out and when they do check out they are rewarded. Is it possible to have a good marriage, yes. Is it probable? No its not probable from what ive seen unless you think playing the lottle…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 05:24 PM
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Society celebrates divorce shame is dead IMO.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 05:03 PM
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Welcome to the club. I would suggest you read The Rational Male book or search for on YouTube The Rational Male. It opened my eyes a lot to female nature. It made me mad at first but Im learning to accept things and just...https://youtu.be/38FMDG7tiA4?is=R4e4-v_QkBCMIS-4
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 06:31 PM
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By 2030 the projection is women between the ages of 25 to 45 half of them will be childless. Society and culture ruined marriage their is no point. Im 50 and on my 3rd marriage which is rocky right now thank God I have a prenup. My advice is date have fun but dont get too attached. Have a purpose and mission not associated to women.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 06:03 PM
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Tyler has advice....you're only option in my opinion is...https://youtu.be/38FMDG7tiA4?is=iWWyop_N_vULWuBl
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 01:57 PM
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Unfortunately this is the typical woman. Our culture has ruined women therefore relationships are basically impossible. I always like to remember even Tom Brady's wife cheated on him, so what hope is their for the average guy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 12:38 PM
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My wife just asked about going to couples therapy not sure if that's a good or bad sign. Dont get me wrong im not perfect no one is but now im worried about finding a bad therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 05:58 PM
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Sorry to hear that, the older I get the more I realize I truly dont understand women. Every decision women seem to make in life seems to be solely based on feelings, and men and women suffer in the end. Its just sad the way society has become. Btw anyone reading this im not saying all men are perfect but everyone knows women initiate the vast majority of divorces. I read a stat that said 70% of divorces are initiated by women and if the woman has a college degree that jumps to around 90%. This i…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:59 PM
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Mid 50s WTF??? It blows my mind women wanting divorce in their 50s. My aunt divorced her husband around her mid 50s and they got back together. He chased her hard trying to get her back and they ended up getting remarried and they honestly seem like roommates and he seems miserable. From the outside looking at their marriage it feels like she remarried him because she realized she needed him to take care of her, which is sad, but I just wonder do these women have an logical sense? What's hilario…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:08 PM
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My first question as well.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:45 AM
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I love your sense of humor I know I would have laughed as well. Im on my second divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:39 PM
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Jesus thats nuts...maybe CA is leading the way on things getting worse.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 07:29 PM
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Oh yeah....women ruined society.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 06:37 PM
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Really? Im in dallas maybe it the town. Also how much you weigh im like 240 245 if I was 270 if expect less action.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 06:44 AM
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Lol....naw its easy im not worried in the least. 6'4" helps a ton.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 05:56 AM
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Amen..and Rollo says women always reserve the right to change their mind. I just sent my STBXW a link to the essay. I was so dumb I told my wife about the red pill....dont ever do this.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 02:09 AM
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MEN LISTEN...YOU CAN NOT MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY. She's never yours it just your turn, thats reality. Just look at the majority of stories on here. Im not saying all men are perfect but you can look at the data on relationships and its not worth having them or getting emotionally invested. You either are divorced or in a dead bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 02:07 AM
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Update yeah im getting divorced....lol you cant make this shit up.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 12:30 AM
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The Rational Male was a great book as well.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 07:46 PM
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I might be getting a divorce on my 2nd marriage. No kids together. Im 49 6'4" 240lbs a good salary, I could retire in 10 years and even if I die my wife would get 5500 a month for the rest of her life. I have about a 1 million dollar net worth, and I feel like its a coin flip if we get divorced. She did sign a prenup so she isnt getting anything if she decides to leave and I STILL feel like im probably going to get divorced....lol. Women are literally nuts if I end up getting divorced ill keep a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 06:43 PM
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