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Yes. Ask any woman, she probably started getting attention from much older men at the start of puberty, and it gradually declined as her self confidence and poise increased with age. My first experience was at age 12. You can't tell me it's because I was "hot."
/r/ExRedPill01/03/20 05:17 PM
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Yeah like, girls finish physically maturing a little earlier than guys- but we're still ugly ass ducklings most of us. I had bad skin, bad posture, clumsy movement, greasy hair, bad makeup skills, the wrong size bra, and no idea how to dress for my shape besides taking my mom's outdated advice. I didn't really come into my own, appearance wise, until my late 20s. Men keep growing into their bodies until they're 22 or so, and these 17 year old incels are all dooming themselves to a life of virgin…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/20 05:10 PM
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I think that men shoot their shot with younger women as much as possible regardless of whether they're the most attractive.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/20 04:51 PM
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All the studies that say teenagers are the most attractive women? They're studying online dating apps. That's not raw data on physical attraction because when a man swipes he already knows how old she is and that factors into his decision.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/20 04:46 PM
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The wall makes me giggle every time I hear it. I saw a study where they showed men pictures of women without saying their ages, and had them rate the women on attractiveness. The peak age of female attractiveness according to that study was 32. Not 25, not 18, and definitely not 13 like the pedos in the manosphere keep trying to get us to believe. I am 38, average looks, and people often think I'm 25. Whenever I see them glorifying teenagers I'm like, have you met a teenager? They won't even let…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/20 12:02 PM
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It's the absence of a strategy. I just explained that.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/20 05:15 PM
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You're the one thinking of everything as a strategy, not me. He is outright stating that all he's been doing is trying to strategize this, and that it hasn't worked for him. And that's because there is no strategy. There's just being yourself and being someone you like and letting other people like you too.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/20 12:21 AM
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Have you seriously met less than 20 women? Everyone goes through an initial phase where they're grateful for any partner at all, regardless of compatibility. If OP were still in that place I'd say sure, waste a few years on that. But from what he says, he's past that. He's done looking for just ANY woman. He's already had unsuccessful relationships. What he wants now is a woman who a) won't abuse him, b) won't fetishize him, and c) likes him for him and not for the tough man facade he thinks he …
/r/ExRedPill27/02/20 12:43 PM
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You have an emotional block that is not letting any logic get through. You keep saying you've worked on yourself and obviously you feel like you've worked on yourself "enough" that you should be seeing results by now. But your mentality has not changed. So that's not progress. correct me if I'm wrong but a lot of women do not like man who signal that they don't get women or at least at bagging women subconsciously or consciously.. I can help us think that if I chose something so stereotypical li…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 09:10 AM
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Look at it this way. Let's say there are 100 women. 5 will say yes to you and treat you like shit. 5 will say yes to you and be good partners. 90 will say no to you. I'm telling you to ignore the 95 bad ones, and you're saying "but won't that lower my chances" NO, because your chances were already only 5%! I'm just telling you to focus on that 5. Why do you give a shit about people who would make fun of you for turning someone down. Why is that even worth mentioning. Why would that change how yo…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 03:26 AM
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My point is that you need to GET picky. One factor I think in a lot of guys not being able to find the right girl, is spending all their time and energy on the wrong ones. Everyone tells incels to lower their physical standards, because they are notorious for nitpicking women's appearances out of spite. But what they don't often mention is raising your standards for other things. Girl is unintelligent? Don't approach her. Girl is religious and you're not? Don't approach her. Girl is shallow? Don…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 03:19 AM
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"a lot of girls" shouldn't tell you what you NEED to do. They do not represent all women. This is what redpill does to you guys, it tries to get you to take statistics as gospel. 99% of women could be racist against you, that still doesn't mean shit because 99% of people aren't compatible with each other anyway. I for instance have three male partners. All of them are polyamorous (probably 3% of guys are poly). All of them are American, atheist, and have college degrees (that is probably 50% of …
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 03:05 AM
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Okay. So what you're looking for here is validation that your race and size play a role in how strangers see you? Of course they do. They do for everyone. But what does that have to do with you being single. Do you only try to date strangers?
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:51 AM
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Ok and I hate being looked at as a victim or a mark just because I'm a short white girl but guess what it's not going to change in my lifetime and I have to deal with it.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:47 AM
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So a) you're going against your therapist's advice just by being here right now, b) "a lot of women" don't do feminism the way you want them to (not all women are feminists btw) c) ??? I'm not sure what your conclusion is here
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:39 AM
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You haven't mentioned counseling or therapy
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:35 AM
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Confirmed creeps. All went on to violate boundaries in some way. Consent, abuse, harassment. Sometimes toward me, sometimes toward other women where I witnessed it. Example: I meet a guy, he keeps staring at me but I tell myself I'm being paranoid, then weeks later he touches me in a way I don't like, so I tell him to stop, then he apologizes so I tell myself he just probably misread my signals, then he waits until we're alone to touch me again in the exact way I told him not to. And yet, I keep…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:33 AM
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I can tell you that I've never had a good or healthy connection happen because a dude approached me. I have had several good, solid, fulfilling relationships and guess what? I approached the man, each time. Because only I know who is good for me and what I want in a man. Men don't know that about me, they just all shoot their shot anyway because they feel like they're supposed to or because they like my body. I can't tell you how worthless and irrelevant it is after the first few times, to be to…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:24 AM
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Well that's a different issue. We are just talking about first impressions, and I'm telling you that most women do not decide a man is a creep just based on how he looks. The first indication to me that a man is a creep is either body language, or something he says. And when I was younger I didn't recognize it as early, and ended up letting a lot of creeps get away with more than I should have. And even right now I know a dozen or so guys that I'm on the fence about and I'm waiting for them to p…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 02:03 AM
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You're conflating creeps with nerds and it's not the same thing. I also know tons of guys who are neckbeards visually, and smart self aware feminists. I also know tons of guys who are tall with square jaws and blue eyes who are creepy assholes. We women can tell the difference, dude. We know the moment you open your mouth. It is not decided based on your looks.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 01:48 AM
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No, getting a social circle with girls in it and a healthy level of self esteem is the fastest way to get casual hookups. That will take maybe a matter of months, while cold approaching would take years to get even one date let alone sex. And it will have the damaging effect of delaying your social development because you're so focused on random girls/hookups and not on yourself and your friendships.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/20 04:45 PM
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"How to approach girls" is the #1 question I see asked by inexperienced men, and it is also the WRONG question. Cold approaching is the absolute worst way for a socially awkward man to get female attention, or friendship, or sex, or a relationship. The question you need to be asking is, how do I become an interesting person that girls want to talk to? Because that is how sexually successful men function. Don't be the fly that keeps buzzing in a girl's ear. Be the honey that she is drawn to. And …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/20 01:05 PM
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Because I see it this way: If you score low on those qualities like confidence, frame, neediness.... I think most women would cheat on that kind of guy if given a good chance Nah, this is where you're letting TRP get to you and infect your brain. "Most" women wouldn't cheat on anyone. Period. It doesn't matter what qualities he has. "Some" women are cheaters and they will cheat no matter who they're with. This also applies to men. I know countless men in their 50s who are on their third wife. Ea…
/r/ExRedPill21/02/20 12:14 PM
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Glad I could help/confuse you. DMs are fine.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/20 12:05 PM
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Men pretend to be single so they can cheat with oblivious single women. I don't see women cheaters doing that nearly as much
/r/ExRedPill20/02/20 05:21 PM
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Hypergamy: Damaged men and women both cheat. Men are more likely to sneak around and lie about it and attempt to keep both women. Women are more likely to dump the person they're with and go for the new person. Which is at least the more honest way of doing it. But then there are men and women (at least half of women and 1/3 of men, if you look at the statistics) who aren't willing to jeopardize the relationship they've invested in, regardless of what temptation is out there. Confidence: yes, so…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/20 02:18 PM
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Especially with how many of them have fathers who are perfect examples. When you hear them talk about their family life they always have broken homes and probably believe their dads' BS story about the court awarding custody to the mom "just because she's the woman" and not because the father just didn't WANT custody. God I hear that line so damn often, deadbeats never want to admit they're deadbeats
/r/ExRedPill20/02/20 02:35 AM
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You seeing me as a "millionaire celebrity" just because of my gender is more proof of your indoctrination. I was ostracized by my peers. I asked out boys and they sneered at me. So I avoided boys and they went out of their way to still sneer at me. I never got any attention except when I was being made fun of for being weird and ugly. I straight up propositioned boys, skinny boys, nerdy boys, virgin boys, and they told me they were holding out for someone prettier. Where was all the free sex you…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 07:41 PM
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No one is saying it doesn't suck to be lonely. I agree it sucks! And I want you to not be lonely anymore. And everything I tell you to that purpose, as someone who HAS been in your position and figured out my way out of it, is being discounted and ignored. You are not actually improving until your attitude changes. All you're doing is trying to find new ways to confirm what you already believe.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 12:37 PM
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Equally as important: pics of the last three women he asked out on a date and the entire text conversation. That can't really happen because it's not cool to post private pics of strangers without their permission. But God I wish I could give all these self hating incels specific feedback on their actual situation instead of having to go off their distorted self perception. Most of them are objectively more attractive than me OR my husband but they have dysmorphia. Which- welcome to what it's be…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 12:21 PM
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You assume that I can't put myself in your shoes because I am happy now. You assume I've always been happy and never been lonely, never been awkward, never been rejected by every person I tried to make a connection with. Now who lacks empathy. How else would I know what it is you need to do, if I hadn't already lived it myself? I spent my virgin years cursing everyone who wouldn't date me. You know what changed? Not my looks, that's for damn sure. But my attitude.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 10:56 AM
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No it's not about making "a few changes." It's about making HUGE changes. But y'all focus on the wrong ones. Huge changes means changing your entire outlook. Your feelings toward other humans. Your priorities. It means learning about yourself and facing hard truths. It means growth, which is the opposite of the blackpill. It does not mean getting taller or less bald. It might mean losing weight, but that's more a byproduct than a goal. Women are more in demand than men for sex. But not for relat…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 02:36 AM
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This. I'm in a peer group of people who are happily coupled up, married with kids, etc. and none of them are stereotypical gym guys. Some of them are muscular but with a layer of fat over it ("dad bod"), some are skinny, some are fat, and most are just average size and flabby. One guy is muscular, he's an amateur bodybuilder and he just stays on the fringes of our group because he's a serial cheater so no women will date him and most of us aren't even friends with him. He has to go outside the g…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 12:29 AM
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I mean it's not that that arrangement doesn't exist- it's just that nowadays it requires specific monetary compensation. Like, I would do it for a cool $2mil/year. No problem.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/20 04:19 AM
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Well... not all cheaters are nonmonogamous the way I'm talking about. Most of them still want their partners to stay loyal while they get to do whatever they want. Those people (mostly men I'm sad to say) either lie and cheat or they come to the poly community and try to set up a harem. We have to roll our eyes a lot haha.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/20 08:17 PM
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Actually today's marriages are more successful than in the past. Nowadays you don't have to get married to have sex, and women don't have to get married to support themselves. So people only get married if they really want to. Millennial divorce rates are really low so far. Also I know you're monogamous but not everyone is, and nowadays it's more acceptable to be open about that, so you have less chance of marrying a closet nonmonogamist.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/20 08:01 PM
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Well good thing I wasn't trying to disprove it then- I'm only cautioning against the redpill-tainted definition of it with all its connotations of AWALT and applying it one-sided to one gender because wymins are venal and cold hearted, etc
/r/ExRedPill01/02/20 01:58 AM
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All people given the choice will probably be with the person they like the most. For men that often means looks, kindness and youth more than anything. For women that often means confidence, kindness and intelligence more than anything. Note the common denominator. (And yes I am eliminating financial status because now that women outnumber men in the workforce it is hardly relevant to focus on the 5% of women who still expect to be financially supported by their partners especially since at leas…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/20 01:14 PM
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Even if that were true it wouldn't support OP's theory because you're implying that the thing keeping men from moving on quickly is that they don't have a choice- not that they are too empathetic. But it's not true, because for every woman who gets into a relationship quickly there's a dude who immediately branch-swings to the girl he was already cheating with anyway. My sister's ex, my cousin's widower, my own dad, I can keep naming examples all day.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/20 12:43 AM
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Ironically, making this statement about women shows a lack of empathy toward women
/r/ExRedPill25/01/20 02:06 PM
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Women are on average more emotionally intelligent. This is not a product of biology but of gender role training. Girls are encouraged to have emotions, boys are told to man up. Girls are expected to take care of others, be selfless, and smooth over social situations; boys are expected to look out for number one and screw everyone else. Girls are expected to take abuse with a smile and placate male egos, boys are expected to get physically combative when they are challenged. Women are trained fro…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/20 08:53 AM
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I could tell you why, from a female perspective. The two highest possibilities are: the rumor about her having casual sex is a lie so some guy can artificially inflate his "count" using a girl who isn't around anymore to refute his claim; Or, she did fuck him but regrets it, is embarrassed about it, or was pressured into it, and regardless of her actions wishes to see herself as a high value woman- which, in a conservative environment, means a woman who does not succumb to men pressuring her for…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/20 12:07 PM
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You are attractive. The features that stand out to me are your clear skin, nice big eyes and cheekbones. What's more, unlike the neckbeard stereotype, you have a good clean aesthetic and facial hair that suits you. You do not have to lose weight to get a girlfriend. (Do it for health reasons if you need to though). Pay attention to how you dress and you're golden. Sexual attraction is not love. Sexual attraction is not even sexual attraction. For me, wanting to look at a guy and wanting to fuck …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 01:08 AM
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It's only very recently that women have had any great amount of choice in who they reproduce with. And even still many babies born today are a product of rape. I know someone who's a millennial and she has two sons who are also her brothers because her father impregnated her as a teenager and forced her to bring the babies to term saying they were someone else's. TWICE. That guy went to jail for a time but he's walking free right now. So how bad do you think it was back when rape wasn't often pu…
/r/ExRedPill13/01/20 08:35 PM
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And rape
/r/ExRedPill13/01/20 06:54 PM
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Two boxes, you mean like alpha and beta? Chad and incel? I said I'm generalizing. But yeah, I've noticed these traits generally (hey there's that word again) go together and I think it's relevant to this OP because he literally asked what women think. And I listed three confidence levels not two and was careful to mention that it's not black and white.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 11:00 AM
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It is pseudoscience but I understand why they might think it works. Sometimes women seem to be more attracted to men who display confidence. But there are multiple levels to this and they work in both directions (i.e. men are more attracted to confident women, too.) There's the surface layer, true confidence. Men who know themselves, know what they want, know their worth, are proud of their decisions and comfortable in their own skin, and as a result have a friendly, generous outlook toward othe…
/r/ExRedPill02/01/20 07:51 PM
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I explained in the comment that my partners have other partners besides me. So before, I spent 7 nights a week with one person. I was often mentally exhausted and burnt out because I didn't get any time alone. Now I spend 1 night a week with one partner, 1 night with a second partner, 1 with a third. The other four nights are mine to do with as I please. Maybe I'll be with one of my partners, maybe home alone with the cats, maybe out dancing with strangers.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/19 07:43 PM
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My relationships have several elements that FWBs do not, such as commitment, public recognition, and future plans. Also in my observation most FWBs are not as advertised. Usually one partner wants more or less of a relationship and is not being honest about that. In poly, each relationship is built from scratch and customized to what both partners want to agree to instead of trying to follow a prewritten script like "FWB" or "bf/gf" with its socially imposed rules and customs that might not fit …
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 03:38 AM
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I'm an introvert in a 21-year marriage. For the first 12 years it was sometimes difficult to give my partner all the attention, sex, and validation he needed and I wasn't giving myself enough alone time. Then we went polyamorous. Now I have multiple relationships and ironically I spend more time alone than when I was monogamous. My husband spends time with his other partners leaving our house nice and quiet a few nights a week. I get all the calm and introspection I need, while having 3 satisfyi…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/19 01:50 PM
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Absolutely. No one in real life ever says "hypergamy."
/r/ExRedPill26/12/19 05:12 PM
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Focusing on your own health, having goals (besides get laid), bringing women down from that pedestal and not putting so much pressure on them to be responsible for your happiness.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 11:14 PM
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You're right, I was giving you advice that specifically works for a "niceguy" type since that is overwhelmingly who posts here. Not that women can't be niceguys, but now you are claiming to already have the friends which you expressed a desire in your OP to obtain. People are so strict in boundaries that something as simple as a heart emoji can put them off? That depends on the dynamic, and typically a niceguy or nicegirl already has a diminished ability to perceive and observe boundaries, hence…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/19 12:12 PM
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My husband and I were together for 12 years just us, before the poly. So what I said still stands for "LTR success" especially considering we have been together 21 years now. Unless you have a relationship under your belt longer than that?
/r/ExRedPill18/12/19 01:55 AM
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Actually I am, we're polyamorous, not that it's relevant
/r/ExRedPill18/12/19 01:32 AM
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Feminist here, I love hugs from friends who I trust. What I don't like are hugs from certain people with sexual undertones because they want an excuse to touch me. There is a big difference. To make a female friend, you gotta treat her like you would treat a dude. No romantic gestures, no buying her excessive gifts, no heart emojis, no trying to be alone with her all the time, no treating her like your therapist. Also get a therapist. Also find men who are kind like you, and make friends with th…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/19 11:53 PM
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My experience is the opposite, and with a sample size much bigger than 2. Male partners have cried on my shoulder, confessed heavy feelings to me, and called me when they were having a panic attack and needed support. I never dumped a single one- in fact quite the opposite. For me it's proof that they really care about me and trust me, and that makes me more attached to them and more trusting in return. I suspect, however, that if you and I were in a relationship it would never get to that point…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/19 10:56 PM
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Pre redpill thinking isn't good either. Boys who fall victim to TRP usually do because they are ignorant or misinformed about women and they are trapped in toxic masculinity that tells them their only value is in how many sexual partners they can get. Pre redpill they think women are unattainable goddesses; during redpill they start seeing women as an alien enemy to be mistreated and controlled. Neither view is correct.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/19 10:30 PM
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There is a vast middle ground between spending all your time and money on a family, and isolating yourself out of hatred for or fear of women. You can be happily single. You can be happily dating without cohabitating. You can change your dating parameters to exclude women who expect to trade on their beauty and receive a traditional provider (such women are a dying breed anyway), and instead include women who support themselves financially and plan to continue doing so- which incidentally, if yo…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/19 02:45 PM
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I see lots of those stories in the comments of this sub, just not as OPs.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/19 02:08 PM
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The 1950s weren't great for men either, even the cis straight middle class white men idolized by incels. They were not allowed to show emotion or weakness. They had the sole burden of financial success for the whole household or else they were considered failures. They were not allowed to have partners who were a different race or sex than what was expected of them. They were not allowed to be infertile. They were often abused by their fathers and they often in turn abused their own children. Th…
/r/ExRedPill08/12/19 12:03 PM
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Some of the things you're worried about are myths and stereotypes, not reality. Women are breadwinners in today's society. Statistically you are just as likely to divorce someone who makes MORE than you as someone who makes less. Alimony is not a thing anymore, and full or partial custody is virtually always granted to a father who shows even the slightest interest in having it. Also, child support is not enforced well at all; my parents divorced around 1990 and my dad hardly paid any of what he…
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 07:20 PM
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I said the same age or a little older.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/19 09:29 PM
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The first two paragraphs are from the studies OKCupid did, and the last one is from a study I do not have on hand. I'll see if I can find it when it's not Friday night and I'm not on the way to a party. :)
/r/ExRedPill15/11/19 11:40 PM
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Well I'm not saying any gal is. I'm just telling you what men's perception of women is
/r/ExRedPill15/11/19 07:14 PM
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Women tend to swipe on men close to their age, maybe skewing a little older. This range moves upward with them as they age. Men tend to swipe on women age 20-29. This does not change as they get older; men in their 20s want women in their 20s. Men in their 30s want women in their 20s. Men in their 40s want women in their 20s. Etc. However, when men are asked to rate women's attractiveness just based on a picture without knowing the age, the average age of the most attractive women according to t…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/19 06:59 PM
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I'm not OP and I wasn't scared to turn 30. I didn't expect anything to change. But it really did. People treat me differently, especially in environments where my age is readily displayed. On dating apps my matches literally overnight went from single men to married cheaters expecting me to put out because I'm "desperate."
/r/ExRedPill15/11/19 06:53 PM
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They have the impression that women are the majority of posters because most of the upvoted posts are by women or people claiming to be women. That's still not the majority of posts, to say nothing of the lurkers.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 01:41 PM
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To support their own fantasies of how women are. It's as old as the internet; men online pretending to be young hot DTF women; men online pretending to be conservative anti feminist women; men online pretending to be evil scheming cheating women. Not saying all those kinds of women don't exist! But in order to win an internet argument or get their rocks off many men will create fake accounts. Hell my own husband spent his teen years playing as a female character in text-based role-playing games …
/r/ExRedPill01/10/19 04:13 PM
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Yours is a beautiful sentiment and as a poly woman with three partners who together are the perfect man, I get it. Ethical nonmonogamy is the path for some people. And some people are truly monogamous and will never have a need for ENM. And some nonmonogamous people try to be monogamous and marry a monogamous person and hold on as long as they can until it falls apart- similar to a closeted gay person who doesn't come to terms with their true self until they've already ruined a marriage. That's …
/r/ExRedPill01/10/19 01:01 PM
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"what the majority women are looking for" "obviously one prevails over the other" You are so confident about these untruths. And that's not because you know them from experience. It's because you believe TRP when they shove them down your throat. My entire life contradicts redpill beliefs. But you won't believe me, or you'll say I'm the exception. And that's sad.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/19 08:20 PM
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So you admit that women pick sensitive artists, but then you say no women would pick you if you were a sensitive artist. That's a lot of mental hoops you're jumping through to convince yourself that women want you to be fake. They don't. Also, there are a lot of women who are fat nerds who drink mountain dew. How many of them have you asked out?
/r/ExRedPill10/09/19 08:04 PM
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This OP. Women do not want marriage as much as the stereotype would have y'all think. Statistically, it's actually bad for us; we are happier and live longer if we are unmarried, while the inverse is true for men. If you pursue women who are financially independent you will find plenty who want to avoid yoking themselves to you legally.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/19 07:27 PM
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Oh my bad, I didn't know there was a rule, I swore I read the sidebar a long time ago and didn't see one. Shutting up now
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 11:54 PM
2

Listen if I chose all my actions based on what society wants I would be miserable and living in fear. I wouldn't eat, I wouldn't have sex, I wouldn't sleep, I would lie all the time, I would hate my job, i would hate my kids, I would hate my marriage. But hey, I might look good in a bikini.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 10:59 PM
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Who gives a fuck what society hates. He had sex with a professional and he still prefers me. That's hot.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 09:16 PM
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My boyfriend has paid for sex in the past and I think it's hot.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 09:09 PM
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I am one of the ones who prefers to get to know you before jumping into bed. It's not anything about my "self respect" or whatever. It's because a) I am not attracted based on looks, I'm attracted based on whether we click, whether you're easy to be around, whether I feel like you're judging me or rushing me, whether you have good personal hygiene, whether you're as smart as me, whether i think you'll be into my kinks, how you talk and how you move, stuff like that. I don't even get turned on un…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/19 03:15 PM
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The logical case against it is that many men become obsessed with their first love after she dumps them, and they are unwilling or unable to move on. They look back on that relationship with rose colored glasses and despair of ever finding it again. The thing I've noticed about guys like this is they often have a wildly different memory of it than their ex does. He may remember a sweet girl who was head over heels in love with him and who he worked tirelessly to please by giving her money and gi…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/19 02:27 PM
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And, Put. Yourself. In. Their. Shoes. If you just cannot understand why they're so upset, then you are FAILING at this part. Ask more questions. Listen harder.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/19 09:18 PM
28

Side note but there's a better way to deal with petty arguments in a relationship besides indulging them or ignoring them. You look your partner in the eye and say, "I can see you're upset. What's really bothering you?" You don't have to address the shallow surface symptom if you are strong enough to go straight to the root problem and face it head on and have whatever difficult conversation needs to be had and show unwavering kindness while you do it. This has worked for me for 21 years of marr…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/19 07:35 PM
1

One thing I've wondered is, does rape/ abusive sex/ reluctant sex count in these numbers. Because although millennial women are much less afraid of "slutty" social stigma than their predecessors, they are also much more outspoken about consent and way less likely to put up with bad sex when they don't have to. Maybe it's mostly rapists and misogynists in that age group who are having less sex. In which case, trp would technically be right.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/19 12:44 AM
3

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201811/7-reasons-why-young-people-are-having-less-sex
/r/ExRedPill16/07/19 11:56 PM
5

I mean I know for a fact I'm in the upper percentile for female sexual promiscuity. I know more about sex and men and am more down to fuck than almost any woman I know. And I run with a sexually liberal crowd including many swingers (and a few cheaters but I don't really fux w them). So by trp logic I should barely be able to swim through my cum filled house. I should be pregnant by 4 different men's sperm at a time. I should have to keep a security detail just to restrain the horde of dick foll…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/19 10:24 PM
6

Actually millennials have less sex than previous generations, even though they are more open and accepting about sexual issues. No data on zoomers yet that I know of. Edit: I think the comment above me has been edited, it said something like "so what if our generation is so sexual"
/r/ExRedPill16/07/19 09:48 PM
13

This is so true. "I'm a virgin so can you have sex with me and teach me everything" is not an appealing offer, it's a to-do list given to me by a person who sees his virginity as his whole identity and needs me to validate his existence. It's all about him. Whereas, "I noticed you are interested in me, I'm interested back, i love your attitude your intelligence and your butt, btw this is my first time" is not a problem. It makes me feel desired and not pressured. As far as wanting her to show yo…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/19 09:38 PM
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Jumping on the my-story-disproves-awalt train- I am a woman and I like sex. I have had sex with randoms. If they thought they were using me, whatever, I got what I wanted from them. The men whose sex I liked the best, I committed to and they became LTRs. The men who were bad at sex, are still randoms to me because I never gave them the chance to become more. OP, by committing to you a woman is literally announcing to you and to all other men that you are the best one. Pretty fucking rude to thro…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/19 06:56 PM
9

Well you're gonna have to get over that. If it helps, I had a car when I started dating my husband, and he didn't. Then in college I had an apartment, and he was still in the dorms. Now I own our house and he isn't on the deed at all. I also make more than him. Anyone who has a problem with that can kiss both our asses.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/19 11:26 PM
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By outdated patriarchal standards, sure. But those were already going out of style when I was in college, and that was 20 years ago. Anyway, okay assuming the girl you want is a sexist asshole who doesn't have a car but expects the dude to have one... just knock something off the list then. Maybe she's a young woman who lives at home, works part time, but ISN'T in school. Now you're back on level ground.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/19 11:17 PM
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Then you're the perfect match for a young woman who lives with her parents while going to school and working part time. See how that works?
/r/ExRedPill25/06/19 11:04 PM
3

You need higher standards for a girlfriend than just "someone who won't cheat." Try someone who is kind. Someone who can teach you things. Someone who is good at saving money. Someone who likes to go out and see live music with you. Pick something that would make you happy in a partner that isn't the bare minimum requirement, and focus on that. You can't possibly know if someone is a cheater just by dating them- in fact the cheater sometimes doesn't even know they're a cheater until the moment t…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/19 12:29 PM
4

You think you're a red flag, try being liberal, polyamorous, and Satanist. I have tattoos, color my hair "unnatural" colors, work full time and own my house alone- my husband isn't on the deed or the mortgage. I go Dutch on dates. My "number" is unknown but if I took a guess it would make any redpiller turn purple in the face with impotent rage. And yet I have three intelligent, stable, and affectionate male partners who are all dominant in bed (or switches). They have other partners besides me …
/r/ExRedPill21/06/19 10:24 AM
1

Just because you might get turned on by feeling needed, doesn't mean all men are that way. And just because a woman might have a low tolerance for having a partner who's a downer all the time, doesn't mean all women do. And there's a difference between being honest and open and vulnerable, and being a high-maintenance mess. The latter is not typically desirable in a relationship, male or female. Personally I steer clear of people who drain my energy by wanting me to play therapist too much. That…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/19 02:35 PM
3

Also please don't mistake customer service for flirting. Know that the girl who serves you food or takes your money at the store is required by her job to smile, make eye contact and say nice things. Those are literally instructions from her employer and she will get in trouble for not doing them. It's not because she likes you.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/19 12:18 PM
2

The stigma around virginity is part of toxic masculinity, which can be perpetuated by women but was created by men. Just like the stigma around dick size, men expressing emotion, and what kind of car you drive. Edit: it's not your friends supporting you that is toxic masculinity. It's your enemies insulting you. If anyone's ever implied you have a small dick, told you to "man up," or called you a virgin in a hostile way. That's toxic masculinity. Also you using "gay" as a negative in your own co…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/19 10:43 AM
9

If you're not worried about being a virgin, then I don't see the problem. I guess you're more asking about how to get girls to like you? Stop focusing on them so much. Just be a dude living his life. We want men who know themselves and men who have passions. We want men who don't see interactions with women as a test of their manhood. We want men who are relaxed around us. When they talk, listen. Really listen. Take it as an opportunity to learn how they think. But when it's your turn to talk, b…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/19 01:43 PM
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Well of course it would be a blow to your ego. So would lowering your standards. That's why they're shortcuts. You can't have it both ways. Either lose your virginity fast, or save your virginity for the right girl. Personally as a woman I wouldn't be that interested in a guy who lives in service to his ego.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/19 01:22 PM
11

I mean not in and of itself, no. I think abusing a sex worker would be wrong. I think if you're in a relationship and it violates your partner's wishes, that's wrong. I think trying to get out of paying, or arguing with them about their prices after the fact, would be wrong. But just hiring a professional for the service they offer, is fine. Sex work is work like anything else.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/19 12:43 PM
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To get laid quick and get it out of the way: lower your standards or hire an escort. To stop letting the fear of virginity ruin your life: realize that it's other men who are making you feel this way, not women. Other men whose approval you are seeking. Who gives a fuck how they measure your worth. Also men lose theirs later than women, but sometimes that's because women get raped, abused, or pressured into sex too early by older men. Don't envy those women. Most of the men I know lost theirs in…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/19 11:55 AM
4

My bad.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/19 06:06 PM
11

It depends on the woman's own station in life, and it depends on whether the man is taking care of his parents or whether his parents are taking care of him. I moved out at 17 and went to college without any financial assistance from my parents. I worked three jobs, had no AC, no car, and paid my rent late- but my independence was that important to me. My values don't match up with someone who chooses comfort over autonomy, and that means a relationship is a bad idea. I wouldn't date a woman who…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/19 06:00 AM
1

If someone is averse to sex before they meet you, they're not going to suddenly become more sexual when you get married.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/19 10:10 AM
19

This exactly! Women typically see friends as someone you SHOULD be able to call for help. Women see themselves as someone their friends should be able to call for help too, btw. This goes for male and female friends. If you see a woman doing something nice for another woman, is she a beta orbiter too? No, she's just a friend. I think these guys don't realize that they can and should be leaning on their female friends for help when they need to. If they don't, and they feel like they are the only…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/19 12:12 PM
5

I am a woman subscribed here because it gives me hope to see that some boys and men are able to escape RP brainwashing. Hypergamy may exist but to parse it strictly in terms of money and looks is misleading and harmful. I do want the BEST man I can have a bond with and make a life with. But money is not how I determine that, and looks are not how I attract him. I value men who are honest, intelligent, chill, capable, able to express their feelings, respect me, and are willing to be vulnerable ar…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/19 01:34 PM
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Easy to contribute to society when you start out on top. Are they asking why other oppressed groups haven't "contributed enough"? Black men? Gay men? Oh it's only oppressed historical women who are expected to make the Herculean effort, without any help from society, to get on equal footing and conjure up the same resources and free time as historically rich white male inventors and philosophers, and then on top of that, to somehow match their contributions in the face of a society who already b…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/19 03:31 PM
3

Yes this. I held back a little in the early stages of my current relationship because I could tell it would make him uncomfortable. He had just gotten out of a serious relationship and had some baggage with women clinging to him, stalking him, emotionally abusing him, and being dishonest with him about their intentions. I didn't lie about my feelings, he got open honest communication from me and he knew where I stood and what I wanted from the relationship. But I made sure to give him enough spa…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/19 11:25 AM
2

This definitely. OP sounds like he is using "being nice" and "spending money" interchangeably. As a words/service girl, a guy throwing money at me looks like he is just lazy and doesn't want to do the mental work of being in a relationship with me, and doesn't want to be vulnerable or let me in. And if that's the case then I'm wasting my time.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/19 07:26 PM
4

Well you fucking yourself up is not her problem. It doesn't sound like you're in a place to be a loving caring partner to someone without blaming them for your own damage. You gotta figure out why it matters so much to you if she's had a lot of partners because with TRP usually the answer is that they're afraid they're not good at sex and they won't be able to fool her into thinking they are. And you keep emphasizing that she regrets stripping. But what if she didn't? So what if she got fulfilme…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/19 09:59 PM
4

You think she could be lying to avoid you judging her... sorry to tell you dude but that is exactly what "not trusting her" means You don't trust her. Trust her and stay, or don't trust her and leave.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/19 09:40 PM
3

I think men are MORE likely to have someone in the wings because they see more scarcity in the dating market. The middle aged guy leaving his wife and kids for a younger woman is a stereotype for a reason. Meanwhile I can't think of any reason I would need to have a backup waiting, because if I become single it will take zero time for dudes to come out of the woodwork to take their shot. All on their own without my encouragement.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/19 07:33 PM
7

Many men are disappointed when their conservative, supposedly passive/submissive wife turns out to have very strong opinions on how HE should act ("be a man" is how she will usually start that sentence), how much money he should make and what he should spend it on, how big of a rock he should put on her finger, and what lengths he should go to to raise her status in front of her conservative girlfriends and family.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/19 05:58 PM
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Think about how many men are broken or beaten down and damaged. Being cautious with women in relationships because they've been hurt before. Acting out their insecurities and fucking things up. Do you not think some women might be like that too? We are all a product of our past experiences. But TRP only allows men to be individuals with their own pasts that might shape their personalities... and makes women out to be some faceless homogenous entity that are "all like that" and somehow born with …
/r/ExRedPill01/03/19 11:43 AM
4

Try doing it in writing. Pretend you have a therapist; what would you tell your therapist about her? Knowing no one else will ever hear it? Do you think about her when she's not there? Do you find yourself looking forward to telling her how your day went? Do you value her advice? Whatever it is, write that down. That gives you a start. If expressing yourself doesn't come naturally, take what you wrote and put it in a greeting card. It doesn't have to be a holiday, although Valentine's is coming …
/r/ExRedPill14/01/19 09:06 PM
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Why would prison be comparable to the general population? It should be representative of the demographics of people who commit crimes, which is not the case currently... but that's not the same as being representative of the total population. Now I am at the end of logical discourse and the beginning of you just lashing out emotionally, so bye
/r/ExRedPill14/12/18 03:23 PM
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What do you mean I didn't answer, I gave you an exact percentage? What would be a meaningful response? Has this affected your life personally? I wasn't in favor of them being criticized, no. Most of the critics I noticed were conservatives, but that's anecdotal. Edit: also men should not be in prison for nonviolent crimes in the numbers that they are, and I vote for candidates and judges who are for decriminalizing marijuana and improving the Justice system with regards toward minority males bei…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/18 03:06 PM
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Actually the female population in the US is about 53% so 50/50 doesn't quite cut it. I'm against the draft unless it goes for both genders. Feminism.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/18 02:49 PM
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I need to say that I've never been taught to say all men are trash or that "it's our time" means bleed them dry. "It's our time" to me (late 30s white feminist in the US) means we are finally close to having representation in government. Until the latest midterms Congress was still overwhelmingly old white men even the Democrats. Women's rights are still having to be fought for tooth and nail against a lot of male dominated political and corporate environments. The fact that women get to be choo…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/18 02:39 PM
2

Can confirm, have cinnamon roll who is considerate, kind, generous, practical, loyal, and can play my body like a violin. None of the "alpha" jock types I tried out in college ever had any clue what to do with a clitoris.
/r/ExRedPill08/12/18 11:23 AM
6

I'm sorry, you married someone who you saw as "childish"? I'm afraid you lost me there.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/18 01:26 AM
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I used to know men who complained about their wives all the time and acted like marriage was something they were tricked into. But I gradually stopped hanging out with them. Including family. I replaced negative, miserable, hateful people with smart, kind, open, fulfilled people in my life. All my friends have good things to say about their partners, and if something negative comes up the rest of us are quick to remind them to talk directly to their partner and work it out if they can, instead o…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/18 03:52 AM
2

And feminism works toward a world where men are decent human beings so we don't HAVE to defend ourselves from them. So then those structures would cease to be needed.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/18 04:58 PM
3

Game of Thrones is far from an accurate historical representation. You can count the number of powerful women in the Middle Ages on one hand and only one died of natural causes; the rest were brutally executed or murdered. The average woman in that period was exactly as powerless as the average man, with the exception that when she got raped she could also be saddled with a life threatening pregnancy. (Note I am not saying that men didn't get raped, just pointing out the state of medicine and ho…
/r/ExRedPill25/11/18 02:15 PM
5

Are you implying men are perfectly happy in relationships with women who don't listen to them and never compliment them?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/18 03:09 PM
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I've always done the opposite of what trp women say you should do, and I'm loved by men who are kind and sexy and dependable and have strong morals and have their shit together. I will have been with my husband for 20 years as of september 27. Anecdotal, so not "proof," but it's enough reason for me.
/r/ExRedPill11/09/18 12:50 AM
1

I'm a chick on OKCupid and my strongest agree is with the one about not being smooth and awesome in your meticulously-written profile and elaborate, personalized opening message, if you're going to be a nervous SAP in real life. At least give me some kind of heads up that I'm going to have to patiently mother you through awkward moments and do all the improvising myself. It lets me mentally prepare.
/r/seduction08/08/12 02:32 AM
2

Oh, so you're just young. That's different. In that case my advice is to calm the fuck down. I guarantee there is a girl you know who would date you, but you think she's fat/ugly so you don't count her when you say "if a woman wanted to date me." She doesn't show up on your radar because she's not hot. You know who I mean. Ask her out. At worst you'll gain experience which breeds confidence. At best you'll find out she's awesome and stay with her.
/r/seduction28/05/11 03:09 AM
2

Because if I date a man with no self-confidence I am expected to stroke his ego all the time. That is exhausting. Have you ever dated a girl who asks you if she looks fat every five minutes? It's like that.
/r/seduction28/05/11 12:34 AM
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Upvoted for truth. Feminism isn't the opposite of mens' rights. It is the complement. It's not us vs. them. As long as some MRAs treat it as "if you're not with us you're with the man-hating dykes and don't deserve to have a penis," they will continue to alienate egalitarians male AND female.
/r/MensRights29/11/10 10:48 PM
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I'm drawn to a lot of the items that make the frontpage and I believe that men are often discriminated against in divorce/custody proceedings, but I can't bring myself to actually follow the subreddit because of the plethora of bitter anti-woman comments and the constant equation of feminism with female supremacism. To me, feminism has always been a synonym for egalitarianism so every time I read shit being talked about it it feels personal. Once I get over that, though, I'll be here more often.…
/r/MensRights29/11/10 01:59 PM
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No, because men lose it also.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 01:26 PM
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