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Those are SO cool! Thank you. :D
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 06:41 AM
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That's a good point. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/14 06:40 AM
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That fruit tray is gorgeous! Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 12:06 AM
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I plan on making some holiday marshmallows, chocolates, and salted caramels from scratch and sending them out to friends around the country as salted caramel cocoa kits. :) I wonder if this has a good recipe!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 12:05 AM
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This. You gave him false hope, so you need to be honest now about WHY you are backing out. Maybe talk more about why he wants this, why you don't, and maybe time will help you be more adventurous. But don't make any promises that you can't keep. Maybe say "I will promise to bring this up if I ever think I'm comfortable with the idea and we can revisit it then."
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 11:57 PM
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I'm in pain constantly, which could easily make someone super bitchy. But just yesterday my boyfriend's best friend mentioned that I have a remarkably sunny disposition, despite my illness. I used to be extremely bitter and angry, but I focused on phrasing everything with a positive twist. I might mention being in pain, but I follow it up with "but that's okay! I will get through it and it's a beautiful day outside." Or something like that. Basically sit down and really evaluate what your failin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 11:44 PM
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What do you think is an ideal personality type? Obviously they all have weaknesses, but what should we strive towards?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 11:36 PM
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I think women do that as to not be nailed down as women on the web; otherwise, people say weird things to them. Or it's because the relationship feels more serious than "boyfriend/girlfriend" and there's not really a word for that.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 02:08 AM
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Amen to that. The only cure for this sort of infatuation is to leave the relationship completely. If he asks why, just say it wasn't a healthy relationship for you and you needed to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/14 06:04 PM
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Neat! Thanks for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/14 06:03 PM
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My boyfriend loves when I pick out clothes for him, and I tend to get him much higher quality things than he would buy for himself. So they last longer and tend to have a better fit. :) He can dress himself, lol, but I enjoy getting him things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 09:40 PM
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This is actually something my mother is trying with my sister, and it's very effective. Compliment a skill. Time management, organization, attention to detail, that sort of thing is good for employees and children. For boyfriends, what would you recommend? I try to acknowledge real things that he does. But I don't know what else to do. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 06:39 AM
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People SO need to learn how to let go of things. I know it's traditionally a female stereotype, maybe deservedly. But all I know is, when I was younger I did NOT know how to let go of past mistakes. :/ it's taken some serious work to just GET OVER IT. Why is it so hard?! Honestly, it is. Urg. This article is great. Thanks for posting!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 06:16 AM
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I finally have Internet at my house! So I will be excited to join in as soon as we have a spare minute lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:50 PM
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LOL! Having a British boyfriend, this made me laugh way too hard. It's so true. There's a funny British comedian on Netflix that does a great bit about the English and queues. One part was about how if you just stopped in the middle of a sidewalk, people would start queuing behind you out of habit. :P
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:49 PM
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I will wear thigh-highs for dates because SO loves them, dark tights for fashion's sake with certain outfits, leggings with long tops or short dresses (or fleece-lines leggings for warmth with dresses in the winter lol), and knee-high socks at times for fashion as well. Never hose. I didn't have to when I did theatre because my skin tone is pretty tan, and I guess it looked fine? Idk, directors have never made me wear them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:35 PM
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I've had it said to me enough times in the past by women and men that I feel like maybe it was true? From girls, it was usually in places where I was an expert, like in choirs/music/English. I was always like "Why?? I've never said anything mean!" And they said, "I dunno! You were just good at everything!" But then again, in high school I had a stupid reputation for being "perfect" and very together, which I guess was something I worked really hard at. I was horribly insecure after being in adva…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:28 PM
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C3/4 is my favorite haha
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:00 PM
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I am head over heels for my man. He is a leaner build, and he works out but not obsessively. I get all weak for his constant scruff, I love it. He's not super tall, not short. Pretty average height. I've dated mostly slim guys. I don't like bulk. They've all been pretty decently defined and stuff. I just love the cut of muscles that are lean, it makes me wobbly in the knees. ;) There are obvious exceptions (I would swoon for Thor) but for the most part, I like em lean.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 03:59 PM
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I've had guys say that they were intimidated by me. Not because I'm mean or anything, but they think I'm pretty, smart and confident. They said they were nervous. But any guy that wants you badly enough will get over it. I wouldn't listen if a girl said "oh, he's just intimidated by you/me" because, well, maybe he's just not into you. Unless I heard it from the guy himself, no one can know that for sure, ya know?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 03:53 PM
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If we are on mobile, is a mod message with a comment pet skink (wow, autocorrect, permalink) okay?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 11:28 PM
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I'm guessing that with the weight training, you are building good muscles, but not losing any pounds. I would suggest using a measuring tape from here out and using other methods to assess health and fitness levels (lifting progress, cardio goals, etc). Additionally you want to make sure you're getting lots of variation in both diet and exercise. Change it up and do Zumba one week, Pilates the next, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 11:21 PM
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Same! My SO loves my silly moments. We laugh constantly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 11:02 PM
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Things that I feel are completely in his control that really bother me, I will mention in the gentlest way possible. Example: I don't like the smell of cigarettes, they gross me out completely. So I asked him to brush his teeth if he smoked tobacco or whatever because I want to kiss him but, I don't like the smell or taste and it gives me headaches (diagnosed chemical sensitivity). He said no problem. Boom, no drama.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 08:09 AM
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This safe feeling is something that is talked about a lot in BDSM relationships, and I really identity with a ton of the feelings. You just have the sensation that there is someone in control, so you are protected and secure.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 08:04 AM
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I do like being tucked in, and playing around with childlike silliness. It brings a lot of lightness and fun into the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 08:02 AM
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I am pretty conscious of my own behavior (anxiety, especially social anxiety, will do that to you) so I'm pretty good at not acting "childlike". But I know in the past I did; being passive-aggressive, refusing to just say what I needed or didn't like, getting mad when a guy didn't read my mind/subtle clues, expecting him to spend all his energy on me...the sort of "bad" behavior that is traditionally associated with women. My SO doesn't really treat me like a child ever, but if I lapse into that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 08:01 AM
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Tumblrs exist for the sole purpose of validation. Sexual validation, emotional validation, intellectual or philosophical validation, whatever; it's all a popularity contest of sorts. You may not be actively seeking followers, but unless you wanted validation you wouldn't be posting these things online for others to see. I understand the desire. It's hard to feel isolated or unable to connect with others and spill some of your deeper thoughts. But really, no one else has the right to hear them, a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 07:53 AM
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That so hit home with me. It blows my mind that people are surprised when their relationships fail when they put absolutely no freaking work into them! Outrageous.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 07:47 AM
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I don't see the humblebrag, personally, but I may just not be good at spotting it yet lol. Maybe it's because I could see this being a real issue that I wouldn't know how to solve! However, the advice that has been given is very good. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 07:44 AM
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Ah, wouldn't that be amazing?! I would love to never wear pants again. I hate them, so uncomfy and I feel so ladylike in a dress. Good luck on that! And post pictures if you get some fun outfits that fit that idea. :D
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 06:03 AM
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Honestly, get a Pinterest. Start building a "Look Book" in your spare time. I subscribe to a mix of "French fashion purchasing rules" and frugality. I like to buy one or two classic, quality items that will last me years, then supplement with cheaper trendy items that won't last more than a year or two. That way, I have multiple outfits lol. Hopefully some day my wardrobe will be all classics! (Sighhh...) But yeah. Find inspiration, find your style, and experiment. Lean towards dresses and skirt…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 05:57 AM
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I have long, natural nails. I like to do them up in fun, elaborate styles for different occasions! I enjoy spending my time that way, and it is so nice when people notice and ask who I go to, and I get to say I do it myself. My SO thinks it's really cute. :) I'm currently kinda ratty. I haven't had time or energy to paint em, but I have all the tools with me on this business trip lol.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 05:51 AM
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I feel like I never see a good Fox debate. It's always one side being nutcase sand talking over the other. It's a classic defense to start personal attacks as soon as people start winning an argument. I find that people want to keep the status quo. If your SO suddenly starts working out obsessively, it makes you feel uncomfortable with yourself, unless you also start changing your life, which is hard. So yeah, if a boyfriend suddenly changes things for the better, it makes me uncomfortable off t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 07:14 AM
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I swear too often, but I feel like it's because I purposefully dumbed-down my vocabulary. People used to make fun of me for regularly using words they didn't know or understand, and I was really self-conscious already. I've been making an effort to go back to my previous way of speaking, but it's exceedingly difficult to break these habits! Argh! My boyfriend and I don't really talk about bodily functions. It's been a year, and I don't think I've ever said something "gross" about me that wasn't …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 07:08 AM
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Hey, I think I remember when you got this job! Thanks for the makeup trends update!!! I hate the crease liner thing! Argh, darn you Maybelline for that silly campaign! Maybe there is a more wearable way to play with this trend, but I don't think it's realistic for my job. :( Love love LOVS orange lips. I have a beautiful coral and a gorgeous STILA orange to play with. Bold eyelashes are the best. :) As for nails, it looks like orange and that purple orchid color are in. I'm not sure what else is…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 07:04 AM
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Also, PLEASE WEAR LIPBALM WIFH SPF 15+. Your lips are just as vulnerable but often get no protection. Apply Chapstick with sunblock multiple times a day for healthy, cancer-free lips. :) Hats are a fashionable, ladylike way to shade* your face, as well! *whoopsie, typo
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 07:00 AM
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Welcome! You're similar to me, it sounds like. I'm early 20s and newish to this whole RP theory thing. First, read the sidebar. Read the sidebar. Read the sidebar. There are a lot of helpful things in there that will introduce you to the best way to navigate this subreddit. Secondly, you don't have to agree 100% with TRP to participate here. If you have things you disagree with the majority on, consider just reading the other points of view instead of immediately arguing. I have struggled with t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 06:57 AM
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It being a benefit doesn't mean it's guaranteed. Nothing in life is guaranteed. A benefit to a college degree is access to higher-paying jobs and a higher standard of living. That's not guaranteed, and you have to continue to work in order to ensure that those goals are met. Likewise, being a high-earning male doesn't exempt you from having to vet a prospective mate before marrying her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 09:01 PM
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This is what I have. :) long layers is where it's at.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/14 05:01 AM
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This sounds lovely, but completely unrealistic for me. :) Good luck to you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/14 05:00 AM
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"We want women to choose!" As long as they choose progressive roles and want to be untraditional. :/
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/14 04:58 AM
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That's up to the man, really. If he's a RP man, he should be pretty adept at navigating the world of women and the spectrum of crazy and manipulative they come in, right? Find the right woman, that's what you have to look forward to. Find the wrong woman, maybe get screwed. Who knows?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/14 05:32 AM
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Fibromyalgia hugs! :( moving has me a wreck, and on top of that I work like a crazy woman. I've been in sooo much pain as well. I don't ingest or smoke it, but I have found that cannabis creams, applied topically, are extremely effective and don't have the psychoactive side effects. No highs, just pain relief and reduction of inflammation and swelling. I actually read a National Institute of Health report that talked about the science behind it and how it helps. It was really interesting. If you…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:54 PM
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I have been so busy with work and moving!!! I haven't had a chance or the energy to go to the gym, but I have been doing exercises at home and walking about 20k steps at the weekly business trips. :) My goals are to get my house put together. Clothes need to be hung, I need to finish getting all my stuff out of the apartment. I'd like to start paying off some bills now that I'm done paying double rent. I need to deep clean the darn apartment that I'm moving out of, so my crazy harpy ex-roommate …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:48 PM
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Well, marriage is nothing but a contract. You can have an equally serious relationship without it. It's more a social thing. People won't see your relationship as "real" until you are married. Weird as it is, it's true. Additionally, you don't get the legal benefits that marriage provides if you're an unmarried couple. No power in situations where your SO is sick or paralyzed or in a coma, no tax benefits, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:35 PM
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I don't think many women would give up their careers and play housewife without real commitment from a man. I haven't really ever seen that happen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:19 AM
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Yes! While everyone grows and matures, expect that huge things will not change, especially if he is in his thirties.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 11:03 PM
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I loved everything except the controlling language. Maybe it was because she was trying to appeal to the average woman, but I don't "let" my boyfriend do anything! Other than that, she was SO on. I can't see many housewives taking kindly to the suggestion that they need to try a little harder (and yeah, being a housewife can be hard work, depending on how much effort you put into it!) but if you have a man that works to support the family he should be able to do something relaxing for him becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 10:32 PM
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That's really interesting! I will look into it. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 06:57 PM
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To be fair, the red pill just isn't very female friendly. You have to have a thick shell and serious self-awareness to be able to deal with some of the things that are said here. Men stuck in-between the anger and hopelessness stages of grief and extremely bitter and loud towards women. The women on this subreddit are a little tougher. We can deal with not hearing flowery words directed at us all the time. We don't think we deserve them just for having a vagina. Additionally, "women are like chi…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 05:50 PM
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Maybe he thinks it's real and she's using him for the green card. Hence her bitterness that she can't go party whenever she wants.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 04:47 PM
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This is amazing! Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 04:44 PM
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My SO is looking forward to having healthy, home-cooked food for himself and his family; a beautiful, clean, welcoming home; someone to love and laugh and grow with; a good mother for his children; being pampered, appreciated; and having fun, safe, regular sex with frequency.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 04:28 PM
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Okay, phew. You responded to a comment that literally and seriously said that women never make anything, so it's always hard to tell.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 02:18 AM
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It's literally the same thing. Reposting, linking, pinning, reblogging...they are literally just different ways of sharing links. Also, the etsy/Pinterest websites are filled with really neat and creative things made by women.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 02:05 AM
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Yeah. It's hard when they never learned the habits. I was like him in my teens though, so I understand why it's hard for him. It isn't natural for me either!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 01:54 AM
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I don't know about your title, but I completely agree with this article. I was raped. It sucked and it ruined my life. But I got over it, for the most part. There are lingering effects (the jaw clenching, difficulty sleeping, etc) but for the most part I feel like I am now a better person for the hardships I endured. Shit like this wouldn't have helped me. It discredits real rape victims and is nothing but a cheap cry for attention from bitter people with nothing better to do. How dare they inte…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 01:53 AM
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Wow, damn. Well I guess I'm a unicorn. That's sad. :/ Good luck finding what you're looking for.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 08:24 PM
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Yeah, exactly. I didn't want to manipulate him, I'm just an anxious mess when I'm exhausted and overwhelmed! I do need his help!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 08:02 PM
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Oh gosh, watch him burn down the office! Lol! Thank you! I am managing well. Pain happens, but I am feeling so much better today than I did a year ago. Even if it never gets any better, I can deal with this. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:50 PM
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Thank you for your input! My boyfriend realized how his behavior was affecting me, and once he was not made defensive by my attitude, he started sorting it out. It's hard to change a habit when you feel like you're "forced" to do it, childish as that may be. But if I can avoid that altogether by approaching him from a calm and reasonable place. Your wife is a lucky lady to have someone that cares and respects her! I am, too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:45 PM
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Oh dear. That's terrifying. I wish I had more energy so I could do that constantly. I need help, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:38 PM
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Haha yeah, I can't see him writing on the board, but he might notice it sometimes. :) It wouldn't drive me totally nuts if it was a door open in a clean kitchen. Lol, he just is a kitchen tornado naturally, so it takes him a lot more effort to keep it not a disaster when he's even just making cereal. My wonderful, sometimes-spacey man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:31 PM
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It's somewhere in between. He has really course beard hair naturally, and he likes the it kept at more of a sexy, scruffy stage, as opposed to a full on beard. He says the full beard gets itchy lol. Plus, it's almost summer, so it's gonna be hot. He basically never shaves it clean, and at the most trims it once a week. It's thick as heck! I can't imagine it being a full beard.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:26 PM
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We don't want men to be effeminate and we don't want women to be masculine, it over complicates already complex issues such as gender roles, sexuality and gender itself Yes!!! Extreme feminism demonizes what is traditionally seen as feminine and it's so sad. It's now looked down upon by young people to want to be an ideal housewife. With all this talk about allowing women to choose their own paths, you have to let some people choose to stick to tradition. As long as it's not harming another pers…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 04:22 PM
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I'm glad you agree! It's nice to hear from a man on this subject. It's hard to get out of "annoyed-nag-mode", but taking a step back and approaching the issue from a calm place is so much more effective. I hate nagging, and so I decided to stop doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:11 PM
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That's what I was trying to say, but you said it much more clearly. When I was being bitchy or naggy, it made him defensive and obstinate. So I asked for his help, explaining that my illness makes me unable to do it on my own. :) he was much more receptive. It's hard to escape the bitchiness trap. But once you do, it's so much easier to communicate.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 04:02 PM
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I've been on sports teams. Every member is important, but many times there is a distinct "team leader". You resort to insults. That sounds like hamstering.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:57 PM
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Thank you! I appreciate it. Thankfully he doesn't mind cleaning, he's just not great at doing it regularly...haha!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 03:45 PM
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Have you not heard those terms? They're fairly common RP terms for a LTR.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:43 PM
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Really?? Maybe it's just my area or something, or maybe it's being a RPW. But I think a guy that can work with his hands is sexy as hell! I even go crazy when my SO comes home from the gym all sweaty. It's primal. Maybe you're going after low value girls? Usually, people who are ignorant are intimidated by knowledge. If the girls can't cook, maybe they're insecure and your ability to do so makes them nervous. I personally think it's cool when a guy can cook, but I hope he isn't better than me. :…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:42 PM
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In a woman's eyes, if you make less, you are worth less, and you have to do every chore an put up with all of her emotions because she's giving this great thing to you. That's what I meant by insecurity. You don't feel like you're in control of the relationship. Hypergamy causes women to seek out the fittest mates, and it's a struggle to keep that in check when you're making more money than you're SO (as a woman). Some hamster it away because "their ex was an ass" or whatever excuse they make, b…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:37 PM
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I definitely will, thanks. :)
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:32 PM
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So so so true! Most of the girls I know are so entitled that they won't see a guy again if he doesn't pay for every date and it blows me away. I would never act like that. It takes effort to reject the stupid "special snowflake" entitlement that comes with being a pretty young woman, but goddamn, most of them just don't want to. Split dates. Treat her once in a while, and she should treat you once in a while. If she's making amazing home-cooked meals on a regular basis and working, I suppose tha…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:30 PM
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Teams have leaders, too. I'm a first mate, a team-player. My SO is the Captain and the quarterback. At times he's the coach. It's not bad to call it a team if there's a good power balance. :)
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:24 PM
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It's because of insecurity. If your SMV isn't relatively higher than hers, a woman with money and a high SMV will likely seek out a higher SMV mate.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:22 PM
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Women who want to control their SO's activities make me sad. My boyfriend wants to go to the gym? Awesome, he's improving himself! Maybe I'll go with him, but I'll ask him if he wanted alone time first. Out with friends? Cool, just don't drink and drive! I know that I work my ass off to be a good first mate, so I don't worry about some slut seducing him. So many women are often insecure because they know that they are shitty girlfriends. They know their boyfriends are being held captive and are …
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:18 PM
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I don't understand so many women nowadays. I work 40 hours and still make delicious darn dinners from scratch and keep a clean home. SO is a student, so he helps me keep things tidy, especially when he has no work, but for the most part, I'm doing all the scrubbing and baking and grocery shopping and food prep for the week. It's hard. But it's rewarding! But most women find this somehow demeaning. Just because women were expected to do it in the past doesn't mean they should completely turn thei…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:11 PM
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That's amazing! Thank you. Showed it to my very sleepy man and he gave a very sleepy "that sounds real nice" lol.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 02:49 PM
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That's such a good idea! Just yesterday I was like "we need to get a white board for the fridge" for this and all the stuff we keep forgetting to get for our new house lol! Glad you appreciate the advice! :D thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 02:42 PM
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I have to disagree with you here. Fantasies, as you mentioned, are wildly different than reality. Often these fantasies come about after being raped; it's a way to feel in control of the situation. Consensual non-consent exists for a reason. It's a way for two people to pretend they are in a situation. It's playing dress-up and having a pretend tea-party; it isn't real. Safe words exist and the woman can opt out if she is overwhelmed or uncomfortable beyond what is sexy and safe. Fantasizing abo…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 02:38 PM
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I commented on how weird it was that people got "engagement photo shoots" once and everyone looked at me like I just kicked a puppy. Look, it's weird. Get married, and be happy that you are. But stop trying to make your life look like a fancy fairytale on social media, because it seems like you're just projecting insecurity about how real life actually is. I understand wanting to share happiness with friends...but dropping a couple grand so you can get a photoshoot before the wedding even happen…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 02:28 PM
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As someone with a bearded man: hell yeah! This is hilarious. Speaking seriously, I dated a guy who hit so many of those warning signs and he was the worst boyfriend. Passive-aggressive, pretentious, useless when it came to the real world...and so angry at everyone else because of it. He went to a trendy hipster "barber shop" where everyone had weird half-shaved hairstyles and skinny jeans and sailor tattoos without ever having been on a boat. Although, my boyfriend was asking me about products f…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 02:22 PM
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Number three really rang true to me. I spend so much of my energy at times worrying about how my partner is feeling during sex that I am not able to totally let myself enjoy...and when I let go, that's the best sex. So many people don't value sex as something important and shared. You're trusting someone to be doing the most intimate acts that you can do with a person. You're engaging in something that could create life. And the fact that people devalue it as "just sex" makes me sad for them. Se…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 01:48 PM
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This is an excellent comment, and encapsulates my entire LDR experience. They CAN work. I haven't personally had one work out, though. He has to be just as invested as you, and you need to set clear expectations for contact. My ex thought it was okay to talk to me once a week or less when he was able to do much more. When he came back nine months later I just had numbed myself to the relationship. It had been too painful to deal with, and I stuck around five months too long. I just didn't care a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 01:40 PM
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While I think non-RPW can have excellent answers to this question, RPW has given me the drive to improve myself and find my true character. :) I have much better answers to this now. Yay for self-reflection!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 01:26 PM
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Um WOW! Sounds like you scored, congrats! I'll look into estate sales in my neighborhood! :D Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 01:01 PM
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I understand completely! :) Keep your chin up, beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/14 04:10 AM
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IKEA is great for accessories like that. Vases, candleholders, linens, wine glasses...stuff that I just don't have the money to splurge on! And good point! Next month, after the donations from family have stopped, we will start going out thrifting. My SO loves thrift stores, so it will be fun. Surprisingly, the house suddenly seems to have become homey overnight. We have tables and couches and all sorts of fun stuff from college or family. No real decorations yet, apart from a couple candles. Bu…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 02:30 PM
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Ah, that's so true. :) thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 05:31 PM
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I don't disagree that in an ideal world, we would do all the crazy things with our SO that we did with everything else. However this: he is going to be pretty hurt/pissed off if you don't do that for him (if he wants it) pretty much is exactly what I was saying. You don't want to force your SO into sexual situations that they don't want to be in. That goes both ways. Regardless of if it would be easier, if someone doesn't want to engage in certain sexual activities, that needs to be accepted. An…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 05:22 PM
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I understand. I discounted RPW at first because I thought TRP was pretty hateful towards women at times. And there are some philosophies I just don't agree with. However, the sidebar has a link that is called "The difference between TRP and RPW" or something like that, and I would suggest checking it out. It kinda explains some of the attitudes, and RPW doesn't condone any of the things that I can't agree with any way. Lol! You definitely want healthy short/mid-length hair over damaged long hair…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 04:45 PM
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Yes! I have like five packs of curtains that we need to put up lol. Most of our windows have curtains installed though, which is nice. They're the type that close themselves if you pull on one side...I don't know how else to describe it lol. But yeah, I have white and dove grey curtains that need to go up. I'll ask the man to help me with it. :) I had TOTALLY forgotten about Etsy! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 04:37 PM
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A lot of us here totally agree that it's a spectrum! But people tend to fall to one side or the other. Maybe pull up a couple options of long and short styles, and without mentioning your preference for the short style, ask him for his honest favorites. If he is a mix of "alpha" and "beta" he might be inclined to temper his opinion to respect your opinion to the point that you won't always get the full truth. And your appearance is important, and hair takes a while to grow back. As for what othe…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 05:17 AM
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Thank you! That's very good advice. I'm glad you two found a way to incorporate both tastes. :) I'm just gonna have to start a new Pinterest board for this lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 03:40 AM
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Thank you for that! I'm so excited, just kinda overwhelmed. :P I'm gonna work on the living room first, probably, because bedroom stuff is expensive lol. And it will take some work to find stuff we both like as far as duvets and color schemes for the bedroom. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 12:38 AM
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Good idea! Thankfully we have all hardwoods, so no worries with carpeting. But I will try to go room by room. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/14 09:55 PM
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I have lots of nice lamps to bring to the house, thankfully. It was the first thing SO mentioned haha. Thank you for your advice! I have been all over Pinterest looking for cute things but I feel like 90% of them are repurposed mason jars and pallets lol. In the meantime we have some nice quality couches and a nice bed frame. Some decent other furniture, and a handful of ikea crap from college lol. :) I'm going to hopefully find some good quality secondhand stuff for the dining room and other ro…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/14 09:50 PM
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Ugh Ashley. That brings up such frustrating memories! Haha. But yeah, they are showcasing capable women who aren't masculine. I think it's great. It shows women that you don't have to reject your femininity to be useful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/14 07:04 PM
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I had to get around three inches off last night when I went in to get my hair cut. It's starting to cause neck problems from the weight! Haha. Mine is now at my waist. :) Your hair looks beautiful! Congrats! :D Edit: http://imgur.com/3ZagMXU Here is mine!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/14 04:55 PM
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Sounds super similar! I have a relatively long waist and pretty long legs. And yeah my 19-21 was way too thin. I'm better proportioned now than I was in high school (I didn't get a chest until after I was 18 lol!) so thank god for that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/14 01:00 AM
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This is exactly what I do! And it's honestly fulfilling. I love helping people and I don't really have any desire to be the stressed out boss. I definitely get to practice my happy face on hard days, I have learned to manage stress, have learned how to let things go, to relinquish control...it's just really good. I love my job!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 07:07 PM
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Honestly, I find the whole "if you did X before your SO met you, you have to do it with him" thing a bit crap. Every relationship is different. Every person has done different things. Being bisexual doesn't mean you like to have sex with two people at once. It means you find both genders attractive. Being bisexual does not give anyone permission to force or guilt you into a threesome. If your SO knows you've had a threesome, ask if it bothers them that you two haven't had one. If he says yes, di…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 06:53 PM
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I would honestly just have a frank, non-nagging conversation about it. It may not be very RPW of me to say, but I prefer to have a conversation than to let things fester in the back of my mind and have it poison a good thing. I would sit down with him and just tell him how proud you are that he wants to quit, and ask if he has a deadline yet. Suggest setting a date at which he wants to be off cigs by. Ask if there is anything you can do to help, and say that you will be supportive through the pe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 06:41 PM
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I understand the fear you had. I had it too. I don't know if it was just in me, or if it was because of an ex who refused to have sex with me but watched porn obsessively, but I grew to HATE the thought of a boyfriend taking care of himself. With my SO, I was able to explain my fears and thankfully we are compatible. He never liked porn (says it's kind of disgusting and disrespectful to treat women that way, my gentleman!), and it was kind of just a way to release biological urges. We tried a co…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 06:31 PM
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I work a pretty strenuous job that requires me to be away one or two nights a week. It's very hard to balance working 40 hours a week with being a good housekeeper. Thankfully my SO is incredibly understanding, and he is super helpful. He's going to school so I think it's my responsibility to support him while he gets his education. I try and make lunches for him and stuff, but often I'm barely able to have the energy to make dinner. We usually cook it together...it's something we enjoy. Don't w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 06:18 PM
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Lol! I just get called "sad".
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 06:06 PM
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Also, because it's spring and getting to summer soon, maybe look at hot pinks, too. There are different tones that work with different skin-tones. I love my hot pink, and so does my SO. Rock that color! Dark reds are so beautiful. There are so many fun eye makeup looks that go with it. Have you ever looked at OC Lip Tars? They're super awesome and there are some amazing colors.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 08:18 PM
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Perhaps I didn't read into it as deeply as you did. I agreed that she didn't have the most positive of attitudes, but it was on askwomen, which is basically twoxchromosomes in question form. They're all about feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 04:56 PM
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"Up to" means anywhere from instant to an hour.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 04:41 PM
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Honestly, when I saw this on bestof, my heart broke for this girl. She probably has lived in the shadows her whole life. If she has an extremely low SMV, it's probably hard to deal with. It sounds like she's kinda done what she can with her appearance (she talked about how her body is nice) but she is still very ugly. She still gets no attention. She didn't sound bitter to me at all. More resigned. Everything we learn here at TRP is basically how to be more attractive to a mate. She's kind of ju…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 04:08 PM
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I don't actually believe it's binary, I see it as more of a scale. Different women need different levels of alpha. I, myself, could probably not handle an uber-alpha male. I like to feel listened to at times, and while I don't love making decisions I do want to have input and feel like my ideas matter. A super alpha guy may not feel the need to listen to my ideas at all because he's content with his own judgment. A lot of women want someone who will embody the basic points that are talked about …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 03:59 PM
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Honestly, dressing nicely and smiling at guys, catching their eye, etc...that's the sort of thing that can either get them to approach you or raise your confidence enough to approach them. Practice by not expecting anything. Go up to guys expecting nothing from them, or expect to fail a couple times. Just chat, not pushing for more than that. When you're dressed up and looking nice, it makes you feel more confident as well. Maybe try a new bold lip color or sexy, pretty heels. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 05:27 AM
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I didn't mean to infer it was a bad habit of yours, if I did! I was just explaining another view haha. I'm sure he's really happy, I've never heard a man complain of too many blow jobs. ;) especially if your sex life is lively haha. Although it's probably a good idea to ask now and then anyway. Not enough people evaluate their sex lives. It keeps em healthy! On a side note--have you ever been to mojoupgrade? It's kind of a fun way to explore other kinks in a very safe way. It only mentions thing…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 01:57 AM
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That sounds amazing. I would love to have a mentor like that in my life. Are you still close?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 11:23 PM
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Well, you can. But it's gonna fall down at the first tremble. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 10:46 PM
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I work with police officers/firefighters/EMTs/etc nearly every day at work. Sometimes, I'm "above" them. But I put a conscious effort into being really feminine and kind. It puts them at ease in otherwise stressful situations. My boss has actually worked that into his pitch at client meetings. "The candidates love BG!" It's awesome, and besides, having a positive attitude makes difficult days easier to get through. Acting like a RPW has gotten me jobs I'm not qualified for. It's kept me from eve…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 10:45 PM
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Yeah, I think we have talked about this before. :) it is a symptom of my fibromyalgia. Inflamed skin and overly active and overly sensitive nerves.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 06:32 PM
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When I have work, I wear dresses, skirt suits, fitted slacks and pretty blouses, etc. I like to wear heels or wedges or feminine flats. At home, it's yoga pants and fitted tees or my boyfriend's button downs. He loves me in his shirts. I can't really wear jeans because of my allodynia. During the summer I wear a LOT of skirts and sundresses. Cardigans and light sweaters over just about everything. :) When out to dinner, I like to wear tight jeans and a feminine top or a pretty cocktail dress. My…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 05:34 PM
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My SO doesn't enjoy BJs as much as sex. He says he loves them, but would prefer to have full on sex because it's more intimate, feels better, and is more fun. That's just my man's take! Every guy is different.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 05:31 PM
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It takes women up to an hour to get sexually stimulated, so take personal responsibility. :) I will read some erotica on my phone until I'm turned on, or at least getting there. A glass of wine always helps! Put on some lingerie and slut up the makeup and hair. Sometimes this "preening" gets you thinking about things and makes you excited and into it! If it's just not working, giving a blow job is (generally) always welcomed. If you really don't feel well, maybe participate in a hand job, purrin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 05:29 PM
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It's like what you say is "not a chance in hell" and they hear 'I need to try harder'. This is so damn true, and it's ridiculous. I've said everything from, "We are only friends." to "I'm not interested in dating you" to "You're making me really uncomfortable. I am not interested at all. I am in a relationship. Back off." And still they orbit. Fucking loonies. Seriously, I had to block that last one because he kept saying things like "you're so beautiful...oh sorry, is that too forward?" And mak…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 05:16 PM
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I'm usually in office clothes! It could be the area I live in. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 11:49 PM
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I like chicken, turkey, and some beef. Same with SO. We love lamb, rabbit, and duck as well. Really the only "bleh" is pork. :) Also love veggie dishes! So I would totally appreciate that! Thank you, and no rush!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 09:57 PM
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Ooooh that sounds amazing. Red bell peppers are seriously my favorite. So darn good, and so versatile.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 09:31 PM
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I'm pretty sure cumin is the exact spice I'm talking about! I've found a couple curries that I don't hate (and I don't know about "store bought"; I've only had homemade or restaurant curry) and I think a lot of it was just that the flavor profile was very different from what I usually eat. So the more I eat it, the better I tolerate the flavors and the more I can taste things other than cumin lol. But for the first couple of times eating it, it was totally overpowering. I want to learn how to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 09:30 PM
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I get cat called, and it's happened even when I'm on sweat pants with a ponytail. I don't know why it happens...I live in a normal sized city in a suburban area. It makes me feel conflicted. On one hand, it's validating. I know they find me somewhat attractive. If it's respectful (i.e. "You're beautiful!") I really don't mind, and will even say thank you and smile. But most guys aren't that way. They'll holler dirty things. I would really rather it never happen again. It makes me feel threatened…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 07:18 PM
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I don't bother slut shaming because those women are adults. They can make their own decisions. I try to lead by example, and will give my views if asked, but I know that until the slut starts honestly wondering why she's being used she isn't going to listen to the wisdom I've gathered. So it's on her to own up to her behavior and ask for help. Men need sluts; sluts exist for men to play with until they are "captured" (for lack of a better word) by the right First Mate. If an orbiter asks me if I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 07:04 PM
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Thank you thank you! if a mans lavishing attention on an nonreciprocating women hes the male equivalent of a sexually promiscuous women and its up to him how to behave. I don't bother slut shaming because those women are adults. They can make their own decisions. I try to lead by example, and will give my views if asked, but I know that until the slut starts honestly wondering why she's being used she isn't going to listen to the wisdom I've gathered. So it's on her. Same thing with orbiters. If…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 06:55 PM
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I agree that most decent women don't do it on purpose, and you can always tell the type of attention-hungry girls that cultivate a beta following. It's gross. :/
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 06:41 PM
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I actually roasted them in a teeny bit of olive oil with salt, pepper, & garlic. They were sooo tasty. And yes! I eat pretty light during the day, and I tend to eat a tooon of veggies.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 06:28 PM
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Yeah! There is some seasoning that is in 90% of curries that I just really don't appreciate much, so I keep trying them and hoping I'll find one I like. :) also eating it continuously helps me to acquire a taste for it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 06:27 PM
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I have had orbiters, but it's not out of my own power. If they want to delude themselves, then it's on them. I'm nice to everyone, and don't let guys buy me things. It's frustrating for me to have to be rude to a man in order for him to not think I'm going to date him. That's stupid. So he can orbit, and I will do my best to discourage it. Sucks because it hurts to lose friends just because they think they have a chance at sleeping with you, and get a rude awakening. Betas are gonna orbit. They …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:29 PM
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I adore the last one!!! It's all of my colors! How do you make them? And are you an Etsy seller or something?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:24 AM
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So cute and shiny! Mine are a pretty Sally Hansen color called "Shrimp-ly Divine" lol! My favorite red is "I'm not a waitress!"
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:23 AM
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Yay! I'm gonna try figuring out curries because, while I dislike most of the flavors in most curries, my boyfriend loves them.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:22 AM
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How lovely! Also, the candle is an adorable touch. :) I'm planning on making a cake this week because my mama got me a beautiful cake tray with a glass dome for my new house. That gives me ideas!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:21 AM
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I lost 10 pounds! I cooked many delicious meals! This is a pasta that I toasted in butter before cooking. It was freaking heavenly. My man and I had sex 4-5 times this week, which is an awesome amount. I blew his mind with extra fun, spontaneous sex. I got the bathroom, kitchen, and bedroom cleaned. I also worked 40 hours on top of it all! Bonus recipe! Penne noodles, browned in butter. It will take 20 minutes or so. I like to toss in diced onions and brown them, too. After the noodles are brown…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 01:18 AM
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/r/ineedfeminismbecause You...you get me. Men is rape and women are disenfranchisement.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 10:26 PM
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If you feel that way, then don't read it. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 10:20 PM
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He asked if I'm a one night stand or not? I'm trying to objectively talk about my SMV. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable in some way? I'm allowed to talk about my strengths.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 10:12 PM
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I'm not a one-night-stand girl. I've never even had one! I think that, despite my physical appearance, I have such a nurturing, wanting-to-please, reasonably intelligent, passionate-in-a-romantic-way persona that guys tend to fall into LTR with me. Even when they don't want to. My current SO didn't want a girlfriend...he planned on moving out of state. Met me, and a year later we are talking about kids and marriage and we are moving into a house together in two days. :) I've never had a relation…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 07:53 PM
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Women have sexual needs too. This can only end badly. Sure, you won't want sex as much when you're thirty as you do at 22. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy being young and having a larger sex drive while you have it (not advocating CC, advocating fun sex with a LTR). This doesn't sound like husband material.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 02:18 PM
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Ah, I have, at this point, what is considered the "golden ratio" of hip to waist. I have a classic hourglass shape. My waist is tiny, and I'm built with wide hips. So when I'm skinny, I do look like a holocaust survivor. I have such prominent hip bones and such that my bones could cut someone lol. I have pictures from that time which are honestly terrifying. I am healthy now and still wear the same jean size I wore in high school. My leg bones aren't set hide enough on my hips to look like your …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 04:12 AM
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No joke. She looks like me when my stomach problems are acting up lol. And everyone calls me skinny. :P I still wear the same size I did in high school.
/r/askTRP28/04/14 01:39 AM
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There are great points made in the article, and they're all overshadowed by her overly dramatic logical fallacies. Anything to an extreme is bad. No one should be such a hopeless romantic that they can't think logically. Having sex is a person's prerogative but that doesn't mean that everyone has to accept it enough to date you. Be strong and fit, but not every man is going to appreciate getting their face rubbed in the fact that their girl can lift more than them. Women should not all have to w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 01:24 AM
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Sounds delicious! I just bought a new magazine full of awesome recipes that I'm excited to try as well.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 01:10 AM
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This fucking pisses me off. Odds are, they all lost it to a guy who pumped and dumped, and they regret it. I waited until I was in love...and then I waited 8 more months. I have never once regretted losing my virginity. I was 17 at the time, and I was emotionally ready. Fuck the tumblerfemmes. They're awful people. Even feminists hate them. You wait until you've met someone who can make it special. It's really wonderful to have known that you have a precious gift to someone who would appreciate …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 01:03 AM
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Ah, gotcha. I guess when I hear "thin and pale" I think of someone unhealthily skinny. I was pale because I was anemic, because I never ate. So that's what I was thinking. :) Guess I fit the "thin" thing then.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 12:38 AM
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I agree! Women can be mind-blowingly cruel to other women. Not all of them, of course. Some women are actually awesome and not passive-aggressively sabotaging the other women in their lives! But society makes us compete. I remember in college, a guy saying, "I bet in high school, you were the hot girl, but in college you're competing against thousands." And it's true. That's how a lot of women think about things. I do my best not to compare. It improves my relationship with other women. It impro…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 12:35 AM
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Weird. I don't know how common that is, actually. Most of the men I know are dating healthy-looking girls. I know vulnerability is attractive, but being weak and useless isn't. And I know that when I was very thin, I had no energy and would not have been able to keep a nice home. Additionally, I wouldn't have been able to bear healthy children. At my current healthy-and-curvy (not Kim K curvy...not slutty looking. Just curvy) weight I can do more, AND he's sexually attracted to me. Biologically-…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/14 10:44 PM
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My man prefers me curvy, actually. He is not at all attracted to skinny women. And by "curvy" I mean actually curvy, not fat. I have anorexia and I have a hard time accepting my body. Knowing that he likes me at a healthy weight makes it easier for me to remain healthy. For some reason those fucking bluepill assholes mocked me for that last time I said it, but fuck them. We all try to please our partners. I eat more than I would because he makes me feel beautiful when I'm healthy. I maintain a h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/14 10:39 PM
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You didn't make her take action; you pointed out the logic and gave her permission to do what she wanted to all along, but felt guilty doing. She badly wants to believe that her man can act like a woman and still be attractive to her, and the truth is, he can't. It's not your fault. You gave her your opinion and she made her own decisions. She's an adult, so treat her like one. I'm sorry you're feeling guilty, but you really don't need to!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 03:40 AM
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Well, what feminine qualities do you have to offer? You listed a lot of traditionally "masculine" attributes, which probably aren't what most Alpha makes are looking for in a wife. That's not to say you aren't feminine! But you are, as you say, self-sufficient. A lot of the reason why people got married was to have two people to do differs things for the partnership. Men will be the provider. If you aren't prepared to let him be the leader and the provider, then you aren't going to find anything…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 03:28 AM
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We see a lot of trolls here. Also, there isn't much to say to this post. Try giving a little more information. What do you want from RPW? Articles, information, community, or something else?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 11:01 PM
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Haha we want to be economically solvent before adding kids to the equation. Also, we want to be able to travel together. Can't really do that as easily with screaming infants. I want kids. But I still feel like we are kids at times. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 09:21 PM
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You're welcome! Focus on other things to improve SMV and your height won't be an issue. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 03:42 AM
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I am dating a guy who isn't super tall, but I wouldn't consider him short. I've dated mostly mid-height guys between 5'9"-5'11". It's definitely not the most important thing. Height adds to attractiveness, but it's one of a ton of factors, and it's definitely not at the top of the list. Some girls find height extremely important. A lot don't.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 03:23 AM
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I agree. Modern women expect men to jump through hundreds of hoops, but refuse to do anything on their end. Women whine endlessly about having to shave, wear makeup, dress nice, shut the f up now and then, be interesting...when they expect as much or more from the men in their life! It's ridiculous. If he should have to work on the relationship, so should you! Period.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 08:20 PM
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Honestly, and I don't mean to be callous, but you don't sound like an ideal RPW. That's not to say that you can't become one, but you have to recognize that, until you cultivate a more pleasant personality and humble self-image, your "rating" goes down a lot, and you are moved from "wife material" to "plate material". The fact that you are a virgin and aren't looking for a casual hookup removes you from the running entirely! Now, what to do about it: recognize that, while you are attractive, the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 07:51 PM
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Maybe you can discuss roleplaying? My SO loves the thought of me changing my appearance and going out, and him "picking me up" after flirting with others. We both get to have a fun night where we feel desired and desirable, and still go home together. Bring this up, maybe? Another more adventurous thing, which I wouldn't normally recommend, is picking up a woman as a couple for a threesome. That way you're expressing that you're open to bring others in for sex ONLY if you're involved and present…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 04:24 PM
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I can cook, he thinks I'm very good-looking, I stay fit, etc. The basics. What's different about me: I'm a natural nurturer. I know it sounds silly, but even strangers' kids gravitate to me. My man loves it, he's always talking about how wonderful of a mother I will be. It also means that I love to take care of him. I let him pursue his interests without demanding he pay constant attention to me. He loves being able to be in the same room with me when we are both doing our own things. It is awes…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:28 PM
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He never seems to let things get him down. His positivity is impressive and humbling. It blows me away that he is able to deal with my illness without any complaints. He honestly just wants to support me and care for me. It's amazing and it makes me want to be a better woman for him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:17 PM
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Good to know! Thank you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 01:10 AM
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My friends would, if you'll mind my French, shit bricks. My employers would have no idea what it means, and my coworkers would look down on me. It sucks. Boyfriend doesn't know, it would freak him out because he hates the people on TRP subreddit. He doesn't disagree with the ideas, he just isn't bitter towards women like some of the guys there. I had to make a new account for RPW, because I don't want anyone finding me. Oh well!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 12:34 AM
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Saw this on bestof and it instantly piqued my interest. It's so important to market yourself as the kind of woman someone should marry, and not just screw! Also, ya know, to be modest at times.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 12:30 AM
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It's happened since I was a kid! It might have to do with my autoimmune disorder. Who knows! But it sure is annoying that people can draw on me with a finger lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 05:47 AM
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I said something offhand about five years, he said "what? No, eight!" kinda joking. I said, "I'll be 30! I can't wait till I'm 30! Six years. I think 27 or 28 is the perfect age." He sighed all over dramatically and said "Fiiiine, six OR SEVEN years. I feel silly talking about this. Kinda." And we laughed and cuddled and were all lovey and glowy and cute and stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 05:25 AM
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Congrats on your first year!!!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 05:16 AM
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Good for you! Lemme know how the skin stuff goes. I have pretty good skin but it tends to be a little on the dry side, and I have an inflammatory reaction to...like...everything, so my skin turns bright red and swells up when anything touches it lol. I have always wondered what could help.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 05:16 AM
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I was good about cooking multiple nights! I was active and despite my nasty flu I initiated sex multiple times. My new job is fantastic! I went on my first business trip (they are short!) and it went really well. I cleaned, scrubbed the bathroom and kitchen. Found an awesome roommate! :) it was a good week!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 05:12 AM
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Chicken, turkey, lentils, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 06:28 PM
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Interesting! Thank you. :) I am pretty careful about my diet but I don't think I've looked into this at all. I take probiotics though.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:09 PM
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It's a diagnosis of elimination. There are other diseases diagnosed in similar ways. There are also other blood tests that aren't covered by insurance but have had good results in diagnosing fibromyalgia. It can be paid for. These tests aren't widely used because they're breakthroughs that happened this year. It will be a couple years before we have a standard lab test. Anyway, this is not what you said at the beginning. You said it "doesn't exist" which it definitely does. Just because we don't…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 02:55 PM
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1) there has been legitimate physical damage found this year caused by fibromyalgia. You can go shove your medical opinions up your arse. I've been in bed, screaming in pain. Literally screaming uncontrollably because it felt like my body was being ripped apart. My rheumatologist wouldn't prescribe 24/7 OxyContin (which I refused to take, after two days) for a person with no illness. I exercise often. 3-5x a week. Doesn't cure it, but it takes the edge off some of the pain. I take vitamin d supp…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 01:51 PM
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If you want surgery some day, get it. If you are doing it for you and not because some guy (who isn't your captain!) tells you that X needs to change, then it's a good thing. But until then, make do. Go to /r/makeupaddiction and /r/randomactsofmakeup. Learn how to contour to give your face feminine lines and get your brows done. See a good hairstylist and find a style that is womanly and flattering. Work out. Wear pretty clothes. Highlight parts of your body (in a classy way) that are beautiful …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 06:00 AM
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Thank you! I have been glowing all day. I love the fact that he knows he wants me, and that he lets me know.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 05:21 AM
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Yes! It's been a year and there are already so many things that are different. I'm so happy to be a part of his life. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:10 AM
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Only a couple months. We are both young, but I'm an old soul. I've been ready to settle down with the right guy for a while. I've found him. :) Today we haggled over how many years we are gonna wait till our first child. :) it's the first time I've done something like that with a guy. I'm shy about discussing stuff like that, normally. I am a careful person. He hasn't either. It's really exciting!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:02 AM
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Loving, in control, respectful and kind, driven to succeed, empathetic, strong, and fit. I'm kind of dating my dream man. :D My boyfriend is a young guy, but I think he will grow into an amazing strong man. He is already loving, supportive, and pretty much all the other things. :) He just needs to develop his self-control and discipline a little. Plenty of time for that, though. He has dreams and is taking many steps to achieve them. I am so proud to be his woman! Edit: we are both 22. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 01:15 AM
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Wow! Your life story sounds like mine! My mom divorced my abusive ass of a father as soon as he got abusive (not a stand-up RP guy) and married my stepdad. Stepdad has always been verbally abusive. Biodad disappeared kinda. I got a birthday text now and then, and not even that after a couple years. I've done my best to overcome. I love with an open heart. I was always a pretty happy and resilient kid, and it's translated pretty well into a healthy woman.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/14 11:20 PM
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Thank you! It's one part of my appearance that I'm pretty confident about lol. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/14 03:37 PM
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I would say the only reason 9s are BPW is because most really beautiful women are doted on and literally worshipped. I know I was. I had walked all over my exes and left once they were too weak to be the man of the relationship. I finally "saw the light" when browsing RPW, when previously I had hated TRP for some of their more extreme views. If you find a 9, you need to be crazy alpha to keep her happy. She will literally (well not literally, but you know what I mean!) have men falling over them…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 05:22 PM
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I used colored contacts and it was definitely fun! I like to change up my makeup, perfume, lingerie, hairstyles...anything to keep me looking new enough to him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 04:36 PM
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I love my Cole Haan mini-wedges right now. They're comfortable for work and they are super cute and classy. I have cute Jessica Simpson heels as well. A pair of black peep-toe platform heels, as well as a pair of grey suede booties.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 07:17 AM
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Self-betterment for the sake of my man, my children, and myself. After that comes making a difference in other people's lives through teaching or philanthropy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 07:05 AM
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Thank you! My boyfriend did, I prefer bread on the side and no cheese. :) Weird like that!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 04:09 AM
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I know it's not super pretty, but it was damn delicious. Yummy smoked Gouda pasta with caramelized onions and broccoli and peppers. The chicken was made in a white wine butter sauce, which I mixed into the pasta after. It was so so delicious. I also made the best French onion soup I've ever had. We made almost a gallon and it was gone in two days lol. No pictures of that...mainly cuz it just looks like broth. :D
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 02:27 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 02:15 AM
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Well we are all entitled to our opinion. I think if done correctly, it really highlights and enhances the eye in a feminine way.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 01:17 AM
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Men also don't care about contouring or foundation! But it can enhance what exists naturally an impressive and very noticeable amount. Staying relevant beauty-wise (not overly trendy, but keeping an eye on overall changes in style) keeps you from looking "mom-ish" and instead helps you look classy, beautiful, and feminine. Stuff like this helps us ladies keep looking our best for our men!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 12:27 AM
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Yes! This is so true! Only let someone touch the top when you're getting it professionally done by someone you know is good lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 12:24 AM
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My boyfriend actually complimented me on my brows! Lol, I get brow compliments from random people on occasion, too. I rock a softer power brow. :) I'm lucky because I have a naturally good brow shape and thickness, but I also maintain them and fill them every day. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 12:23 AM
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Jazz is a lot of fun and will definitely help you find some rhythm. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 12:19 AM
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Hey, hon, chill out! 6 months isn't very long when you look at the long-term. He is gaining valuable skills that will be useful for YOUR LIFE TOGETHER! So support him in that! He excited for him! This is the experience of a lifetime. I had an ex that went to school in the UK (I'm from the west coast of the us) and honestly, the distance wasn't that bad. (Our relationship failing had nothing to do with that.) My best tips for surviving this: set an agreement for how many times a week you will Sky…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 12:11 AM
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I would refrain from casual sex, but going out and having fun and getting to know other people isn't out of the question! Don't do anything that you would have to lie about if you got back together. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 11:55 PM
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My bio-dad was abusive so my mom left as soon as she was able (I was two or three, she left as soon as the abuse started) and remarried a good man. She has been a housewife pretty much ever since. She worked on and off for short periods, but only once I was an older child (11/12) and she didn't work much. My mom has always been very involved in my life. Step-dad encouraged me to find a husband who could care for me. My mom wanted me to be self-sufficient enough that I didn't have to rely on anyo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 11:53 PM
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Ugh, you are me right now! I am on multiple meds that all kill libido. My normally unquenchable sex drive has been cold as a penguin's tush. I try dressing up in sexy lingerie and heels in order to make the sex we have memorable. He appreciates it! Also, working out together helps a lot. You get all riled up and hormones are pumping, and we pretty much can't keep our hands off. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 10:21 PM
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Be supportive if he needs it, but focus on maximizing your SMV right now. Focus on some hobbies and making your home a comfortable family space. Take some cooking classes! Maybe a salsa or ballroom dance class. These skills will make you interesting and engaging, and if it doesn't attract a LTR in someone else, maybe it will make you "fresh" enough that your Ex will re-engage and be interested in the long-haul! In the meantime, think long and hard about what led to your breakup. Think about how …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 10:11 PM
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I love cats. :( But my cats have always been annoyingly attached to me and follow me around, begging for attention and love.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 10:01 PM
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Making lists and goals helps me feel accomplished. Being able to cross something off a list is a great feeling! I use that to keep motivated.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 09:59 PM
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My boyfriend likes curvy women so, while I actually had anorexia and prefer to be a little twiggy, I maintain a higher weight (still below overweight, and active!) to please him. It's definitely best to know how your SO feels honestly. He told me, "I would be less attracted to you if you were skinny. I like you best curvy, the weight you are now." Plus, it means I stay healthier mentally, and my weight never fluctuates. I don't even think about it anymore. I just look at how I look, and try to m…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 09:19 PM
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I haven't "cut off" sex, I am extremely ill. There is a huge difference. He hasn't even mentioned sex because he knows how terrible I feel! As for the health condition, it's fibromyalgia, and is somewhat manageable with all the stuff I'm doing. It is incurable and difficult to manage, however. Doctors don't have much of a clue when it comes to how it works and why it does what it does. I take multiple medications that help but also affect my sex drive so I always have to work extra hard at being…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 09:12 PM
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I've done eliminations and allergy tests at both a doctor and a natural medicine doc. :) it definitely helps to know what you're sensitive to! I am really careful about certain kinds of fibers and such, as well as certain kinds of sugars and artificial sweeteners because they can cause flares. Apart from that, I have a lot of time clocked with nutritionists both for my illness and for my previously terrible case of anorexia. I learned a lot about food and eating from treatment. :) Much love to y…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 04:15 AM
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Thank you. I certainly don't expect it, and I appreciate it a lot. I make sure to let him know, and show my appreciation in other ways, like back scratches and massages and such. He likes when I'm touching him, so I try to do it a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 11:51 PM
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I eat well! I'm very good with nutrition. I'm working on the exercise. I am healthy weight-wise, I just have a chronic pain condition. It causes a lot of difficulties but I am managing it really well, compared to most people with the same illness! :) I will continue to improve my general fitness. Thank you for the male perspective! I appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 09:41 PM
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True, I love nursing him to health. :) I will try the sick sex for sure! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 09:08 PM
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Fair enough. I guess it's just that my health will always be on the poor side. I feel like a burden when I'm not able to take care of everything. Maybe I just needed to hear opinions from you honest and objective ladies! The people in my life will always tell me that I'm not a burden, that they like helping, etc, so I'd never get a straight answer on what is too much help, ya know? :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 09:06 PM
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I really needed this. I am so tired after work that I lay down and lose all my remaining energy. I am going to start picking up for 30 minutes before sitting down!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 08:22 PM
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I'm working on balancing work, home, romance, and illness. I will be walking 5 miles a day at work for the next two days, so that will take care of a great deal of my weekly activity. I want to work out at least one more day next week. I want to have sex at least 3 times next week. I want laundry all put away and my room cleaned. Focus on cooking meals every night.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 08:20 PM
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Is there any way to make the video games more of a partner activity? My boyfriend and I like playing then together, I like seeing him do things he enjoys and is good at, and he appreciates my input when I see something he's missed. As for sex, I would suggest approaching it carefully. First, try wearing lingerie and seducing him. Have a slow build of sexual tension; flirt with him all day long via text if you can. If that doesn't work, maybe gently talking to him would be necessary. Use "I" mess…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 08:03 PM
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I want my child to feel like s/he was raised by family and not by a daycare. I understand it isn't feasible for everyone, and some people find nothing wrong with it. But personally, I want to have the energy to support my husband and keep a beautiful home and raise well-behaved children.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 07:02 PM
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The fact that they are bashing her so passionately for saying something as simple as "being feminine is undervalued" is totally proving her point. Even supporting women being women is "against" this radical feminist agenda. The rare article on Jezebel is well-written and insightful. But for the most part, it's ridiculous drivel. I can't believe they are so damn anti-woman. They say they are feminists, but really, even "feminine" is a swear word to them. Pathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/14 08:58 PM
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Honestly, I have had many people comment on my age for years (ever since high school! almost 10 years now!) and it used to weird me out. I have the opposite problem; people assume I'm around 17/18. But it doesn't bother me anymore. For the most part, it's just the shape of my face and eyes. I am a smiley person, but still serious and hardworking and professional at work. It definitely might have have to do with one's apparent openness. I try to be really friendly to everyone I meet. I like to be…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/14 10:40 PM
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Yeah! I mean, I know objectively that I'm attractive. But that doesn't mean I can become complacent. I'm constantly working on myself, on my body, on my health, at work, at home, on skills...never stop improving! And yeah, know that if you are objectively less attractive, you do need to put in work elsewhere. Learn interesting skills, really learn about style and proper clothing fits, and have the best body you can! I have a roommate who is not attractive, and she's a raging Feminazi, tbh. Almos…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 11:50 PM
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Same! I wouldn't even go to the bathroom with my family in the room, let alone my SO. I don't shave with him in the shower. I don't even like to brush my teeth or put on deodorant lol. I just pretend to have no "gross" maintenance needs.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 11:25 PM
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Definitely true; I'd rather hear the truth than hear sweet-smelling BS. ;) Thank you, and I hope to get to know you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 11:15 PM
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Thank you so so much! I really appreciated this advice. It's especially hard because I have pretty severe fibromyalgia, and it sucks the life out of me. I was also in a terrible job with an abusive boss, and my illness and stress were giving me so much pain. I couldn't deal with it all so I was being a massive bitch. I was breaking down randomly, and thank god for him, because I probably wouldn't have been able to even feed myself some days if not for his help. I am so lucky to have such a wonde…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 11:14 PM
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Thank you for the welcome and for the support. Focusing on his comfort and happiness has really helped me this week. It's helped our relationship as a whole. He is so much happier and more confident already! I can see the benefits to this way of life. I hope to continue to learn and apply my new knowledge! Thank you again.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 11:03 PM
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Lol! Isn't it frustrating? That's basically why I'm here. I have an awesome SO, he treats me sooo well. And in return, I try to be his perfect future housewife! It's the least I can do. He helps with chores more than he should, mostly because I work full-time and he has school, which takes a lot less time. So he pitches in because he knows I probably can't do it all. (Especially because him being at home during the day means big ol messes for me when I come home haha!) But here you can get opini…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 10:17 PM
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No problem! I use "can" on occasion, but it doesn't bother my SO because I usually use it when I'm in the middle of something (deglazing a pan of something or frantically getting ready for work lol) and he knows that I'm asking if he can, in fact, do that thing for me right now. But if it's just "please help me with the lawn mowing/yard work/whatever" I try and use "will". :) I'm sure he appreciates your mindfulness and willingness to work on your communication!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 10:04 PM
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It's so hard when you just don't have a naturally organized brain! This is something I've been struggling with for ages lol. I have to work extra-hard at it to keep things mostly organized. Having a spot for everything and always putting things back is pretty much my only consistent way to keep things away.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:50 PM
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I prefer "Will you please ...?" or "At some point today, will you ...?" if he is currently busy. Maybe even "I need your help with ... today, is that alright?" I find that my SO is much more inclined to help me out if I use these phrases.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:47 PM
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Good for you! Cutting soda out of my diet made me drop like 5 lb in a month, with no effort at all. And I didn't even drink much soda. I love club soda with lime. I still get the bubblies, with no artificial sweeteners or calories. Plus the carbonation fills me up!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:41 PM
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This is my first motivation thread! I went on three interviews this week, and hopefully will be starting a new awesome job tomorrow. I made my SO lunch every day he had school, because I was home to do it! We had fun sex multiple times. I went on a walk and exercised 3 days, which is good for my dumb, fibromyalgia body. Next week goals: Have a job, dammit! Work out four times, at least once in the gym Make dinner five nights out of the week Have sex at least four times Get my apartment spotless!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:38 PM
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I guess I will compliment a less attractive friend if I notice that she's put a lot of effort into her appearance. Is that lying? The better you know someone, the less you notice that they're unattractive; you know their heart and that totally changes the way you see them (instant attraction vs long-term attraction!) so I feel like it's not a lie to say "You look cute today!" I prefer giving compliments on specific things anyway, they seem more genuine. I compliment hairstyles, outfits, makeup, …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:34 PM
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My mom is really great about this, but sometimes she goes way overboard and it's unnecessary and hurtful haha. Like, my sister will have made a mistake, or looks like she's concentrating a lot in a cheer routine (she's a competitive cheerleader, like team gymnastics) and my mom will just sit there criticizing my sister when she's already in tears because her base dropped her and screwed up their routine. URG! I'd say, if it's obvious that they know and feel upset about it, it doesn't need to be …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:32 PM
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Oh, sorry, I'm responding to multiple people on mobile and it gets confusing. D: Sorry. I didn't see that comment of hers, I had only read the thread earlier and didn't see her recent responses. I agree that it sounds like she might stay and I hope to death that she doesn't. If he can't hold with his promises, there is no reason why she should keep hers. Get the heck out of there, /u/its_jess! We are saying this because we care!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:24 PM
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Interesting point. I can see how that would be a justification he makes to himself. OP absolutely cannot let this slide. That's one thing I've been saying this whole time. :) From what I've seen, she seems to have decided to leave him. I hope she does, so she can find a better relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:13 PM
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You can't say "Don't ignore the facts" and then just make assumptions. If we are basing things on the facts that we have, OP says she is leaving. Edit: Sorry, confused by other responses. OOOOPSIE!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 09:03 PM
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I suppose I just don't see it as a fact that adds to the situation. Her offering him a free pass to openly have sex with others is, if anything, a deterrent for cheating. He had permission, FFS! I guess it is just a matter of opinion. :) I don't disagree that there is definitely more to the story, and she could have contributed in some way. But this particular case seems like it rests overwhelmingly on the shoulders of the man, as far as fault goes. That's all!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 08:40 PM
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You're right. From what she has explained, and from what she says that he said, it doesn't appear to be her fault. He could be lying about how he feels. But it sounds like she is allowing him to work out his sexual urges, is being feminine and pleasant, and was generally being a supportive mate. I understand that women have the tendency to hamster, or whatever the phrase it. But sometimes a man is just a boy, and it is his fault. It could be that he was panicked by the idea of getting married; b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 08:33 PM
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And he said no, and chose to instead go behind her back and break trust. A true leader would tell his First Mate what he'd decided and then do it; a child lies and deceives, making excuses for their behavior. If he lies about things he doesn't need to lie about, what other things is he hiding?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 08:29 PM
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I have this coat by Jessica Simpson in black that I got at Macy's. It's GLORIOUS. I am covered by the over-sized hood, and the tie at the waist really emphasizes my feminine shape. I absolutely love it. Any coat with a large hood will work. I like the Jessica Simpson coats because they all seem to have the large hoods. I have cute, lady-like flats(that have like a 1/2" heel) from Macy's as well that are wonderful in the rain. They've got some kind of rubber or vinyl lining inside, and the shoe i…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 08:21 PM
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This is not your fault; sure, many times women contribute to cheating. But there are plenty of times where the man is just a cheater. If he's blaming it on biology, that's a huge red flag for me. It says that he doesn't want to control himself; he can't hold frame if he can't even say no to common biological desires. That is weakness, and it's the sort of weakness that would run a family into the ground. I like BDSM as well, and my Man and I dabble in it. No judgment here for that!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 07:59 PM
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Agreed, 100%. If he isn't willing to take responsibility for his actions and control his "biological impulses", it shows that he probably can't hold frame and be a responsible leader of the family. Don't follow a Captain who runs his ships into the rocks over and over and doesn't even take ownership. That is the sign of a very, very bad Captain. Blaming it on biology means he isn't in control of his actions, and will likely cheat again, especially if you're not even at the Wall yet. He said you'…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 07:55 PM
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Modcloth is one of my favorite sites; I have so many beautiful vintage-inspired dresses that make me feel so ladylike! Some can be a little too short, but for the most part they fit well and have beautiful little details.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 07:38 PM
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Thou shalt always remember thou is a lady of high value and worth. Act like a lady always. No posts about being wasted, no drunken selfies, no pics of shirtless men with stupid titles like "Yummo!!!! Where are all my sexy firefighters", no stupid annoying quizzes and horoscopes about relationships. It's annoying for everyone and no one else cares. Amen! If you would be embarrassed if your employer or parents saw it, don't post it! Facebook is a PUBLIC FORUM, no matter how "private" you make your…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 07:34 PM
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My #1 rule is: would you roll your eyes if someone else posted it? If so, don't post it. No passive-aggressive attention-grabs (a la "omg I just can't even" "I CANT BELIEVE HE DID THIS TO ME!" "Can't stop crying!" Etc) Nobody cares, and if there is a person who might care, text them instead. A new picture to show off cool makeup/something you made/rockin nails/etc is acceptable. You are sharing content that is interesting to others. Pet pictures are fine, to me. I love seeing cute pictures of an…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 07:31 PM
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This is an amazing way of explaining it, thank you! I act like a victim. I have diagnosed PTSD from rape, as well as abuse by my father, so I find myself being weaker than I am and it's horrible. I will turn all the blame on myself, which is just manipulative and helps me feel like a martyr. That is what I've been working on. I have been making a point to ask for what I need, say what I absolutely need to say, and (what I'm really not good at yet!) letting things go that don't matter. Around wom…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 04:43 PM
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Please share your recipe! My boyfriend and I want to have an eggroll-rolling party with friends, and dumplings could be a great addition!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:35 PM
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You know, really I am fine with other women doing what they want, but I want to be traditionally feminine and that requires shaving. I like to keep my body maintained the way that is culturally accepted, and most importantly the way that my Captain wants me to be maintained. It's the same as putting makeup on in the morning. It isn't harmful, takes some time, and shows that I take pride in my traditional femininity. I love my man's hairy body and would never want him shaved. He loves my smooth b…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:14 PM
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My man is very neutral on the downstairs hair, but he would be grossed out by a hairy body everywhere else. So I take care of myself the way I know he would be pleased!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:13 PM
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Thank you for the welcome! I'm stressed for a couple reasons. The main thing is my health; I have fibromyalgia, and it's been flared badly for about three months. It's terrible, painful, exhausting, and beyond frustrating at times. It makes everything harder, and I'm just sick of being in so much pain. Second, bills. I have about three times the rent to pay next month (we are moving into our new place next month because his rent is up this month, but my current apartment isn't up until the end o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:04 PM
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Thank you. I really needed to hear that last bit especially. I keep reminding myself in moments of high stress that I am doing this for him; I am making his life easier now so that he can get his education, and in return, I will have a husband (some day) who is educated and we will build a secure and happy life. It's just hard right now to do all of the house cleaning while working full time and cooking with my health problems! Argh! He's a wonderful help, but I feel guilty asking him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 09:49 PM
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I am making steps in this arena. I try to phrase things as requests instead of nagging, and I ask him to make decisions on things when I can. I don't think I shit test him; I had a point a couple years back where I realized that if I need something, I should just ask for it. So that's what I do now. I honestly can't think of a time when I shit-tested him (I'm sure I've done it, but I do pay attention to it and try not to). Thank you for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 09:45 PM
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Thank you! I am learning. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 09:42 PM
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This is a really wonderful article! I loved the metaphor; it allowed me to appreciate the message without getting defensive or anything. :) Thanks Danabanana!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 06:44 PM
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