Bedroom Issues

Bakerofpie · 2014-04-17T23:15:11+00:00

I'm assuming you've spoken to your doctor about this and there are no other options you can change around to help this issue? If not, go there first. Otherwise, I was on some meds that did the same for me when I was in a relationship years ago. This guy can't hold a candle to my husband, so I wasn't attracted to him in the same way, but I tried to make BJs more frequent. When I don't feel like being stimulated and it just isn't appealing or isn't doing anything for me, I can still enjoy pleasing my partner. Leave him in a BJ coma and then go paint your nails or whatever you feel like doing. Haha.

[deleted] · 2014-04-18T01:29:38+00:00

There are some foods, creams, and other things that may be able to help with your libido. You might can ask your doctor about anything that could work for libido enhancement. I know I'm using a product now (mostly to test its effects, seeing as I have a highly active libido) that appears to be working for me called "On Libido." Creams like it can be found at a Seductions nearby that you can test to see how they work for you.

If you need to, you can check with your doctor to see what might interact badly with your medicine, if there are any specific ingredients that you should avoid. Most of these products try to stay with natural ingredients, though.

If that doesn't work, the BJ coma just might.

throwawaynamegame · 2014-04-18T00:55:48+00:00

Can you schedule sex with him. I know it sounds blah but maybe it will help you. Also try thinking of sex different. See it as connecting and bonding rather than goal of climax.

[deleted] · 2014-04-18T00:55:09+00:00

I like to give massages a lot, at least he is getting your touch and that skin on skin contact is so important to us as basic humans. Then a nice slow blow job. I know it's frustrating for you, maybe try some masturbation to see if there us anything you can do to get yourself going, don't forget to share with him if you do... Best if luck!

blushing_goddess · 2014-04-18T22:21:11+00:00

Ugh, you are me right now! I am on multiple meds that all kill libido. My normally unquenchable sex drive has been cold as a penguin's tush.

I try dressing up in sexy lingerie and heels in order to make the sex we have memorable. He appreciates it! Also, working out together helps a lot. You get all riled up and hormones are pumping, and we pretty much can't keep our hands off. :)

azoreana · 2014-04-19T17:33:32+00:00

It sounds like you took care of things, but since you'll probably be doing this more often, here are some different ways to spice it up and make it a little different from time-to-time. I'll try not to be gross/vulgar, didn't see anything in the rules about sexual content so hopefully this doesn't cross any lines:

To set the mood, start with a back massage to break up any tension. You can get really creative here, letting your hair down to lightly tickle his back while you work your hands, boobs, mouth... everything. They all get incorporated into the backrub. Then before he melts into the bed, flip him over.
Trace his package and the 'V' where his legs meet his body with tongue, warm breath, and fingertips or even with your fingernails (as long as your nail edges are smooth.)
Cup hands around different parts and breathe hot air into them - it should get really warm and feel good.
Nipples! Not yours, his. They're otherwise useless so might as well mess around with them.
Frenulum: Back-and-forth horizontal flicks with the tongue should do it.
Perineum: Pressure on this area with a finger or two will feel amazing.
Mint gum or a sip of ice water makes an interesting hot-and-cold experience.
Condiments! It's cliche, but why not? Caramel, chocolate, whipped cream... the list goes on.

These are tried and true, but be careful about Cosmo advice, I think some people submit fake 'tips' as a joke. I remember a suggestion in one of those mags that said to use an 'Indian sunburn' while giving a HJ... kinda scary.

ashglass · 2014-04-18T18:47:19+00:00

Just have sex with him anyway, even if you can't orgasm.

Title	Bedroom Issues
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	7
Comments	14
Date	April 17, 2014 9:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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