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Absolutely, they’re not owned by me. I think thats what seduction ends up being. Becoming very healthy in every aspect of life; socially, mentally, financially stable and active. Keep surprising yourself. Take yourself on dates. Practice self love. Does that not end up being something close to spirituality? Get in touch with your inner man or child, whichever you’re lacking. Become friends with your dark side. Flirt with the devil. And then jump off the deep ends. Go search for treasure. Sell al…
/r/seduction28/07/20 07:17 PM
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‘Dumping’. Or as I call it ‘the ability to let go’. Whenever you start on a goal for something, you’re already losing. Live for fun, not for a prize. Live as if it were a fairy tale. Everything that happens is all part of the infinite game we are all playing, and try not to take it too seriously. Let go when things leave your life. Love whatever is in front of you. If you learn to do those two things, you will attract more beautiful things than others can understand. Learn to love everything in …
/r/seduction28/07/20 12:26 AM
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This sub is pretty ego driven while we’re on the topic.
/r/seduction03/07/20 04:21 PM
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The ego is a petulant child that can never be satisfied. It wants drama and attention. There is nothing good from an ego, even a small one. The only way to know who you truly are is without any egoic delusions. Edit: I think there is a confusion between ego and the mind. The mind, as I see it, calculates and remembers past experiences for use in the now. Virtually all people develop an ego because of trauma, pain, cultural and personal identities, and so on especially in childhood. This is the i…
/r/seduction03/07/20 04:21 PM
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Yes! Ive had many spiritual experiences completely sober just listening to Watts speak. Im writing a post that connects spirituality of this kind with seduction.
/r/seduction30/05/20 06:53 AM
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The way I see it, by flirting and not getting serious all of a sudden, you are both feeling each other out. Youre figuring out if they give bad vibes, if they are clingey or aggressive or too passive for your taste. By teasing and having fun, you show her good vibes. EVERYONE has a story. Everyone can get deep, especially girls. But they want good vibes first and foremost; its a sign that you can be trusted. That being said, on rare occasions and with some individual women, in context, getting d…
/r/seduction30/05/20 05:18 AM
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Honestly, a bit. However, women love this music too. My sister religiously plays the weekend, especially those kinds of his songs. Not sure why though.
/r/seduction14/05/20 03:13 AM
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Be sure to show love, support, and appreciation if youre shooting for something serious. Those qualities are very important. To truly show love to someone is to give the gift of yourself without any strings attached, but do that slowly. ‘Hey I saw this at the thrift shop last week and it reminded me of the time you...’ give tiny gifts occasionally or compliments with no steings attached. It should be clear from other things you say or do that you would like something serious, but you wont force …
/r/seduction03/04/20 01:30 AM
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Whats telegram?
/r/seduction01/03/20 10:19 PM
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The actual lead up? That’s so far my sticking point but I’ve had success just giving her little glances when we’re close and cuddling, which I’ll try to lead up to a quick peck or two on the forehead and slowly move to kissing lips. I think once you’re past the kiss, it’s much easier, it’s like a hurdle once I’m past, it’s all downhill. You just kiss, then let yourself be taken by the passion. Never get carried away though, because once or twice, before things go too far, they might have second …
/r/seduction25/09/19 05:26 PM
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Portland OR, US
/r/seduction22/09/19 01:23 AM
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Some people are busy dude. Even to girls I dig, I sometimes might forget to respond for days. Like I might read it an hour or two after she sent it but I just don’t want to say anything, maybe not yet, maybe not at all. Almost all of my tinder matches have been left on read the past few weeks because I’ve been extra busy at work. A minute or two is child’s play.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:08 PM
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This is an interesting point to me; fashion. I’m European by ethnicity, I have sharp features, I’ve been told I have a resting bitch face, kind of creepy if I’m not smiling but I don’t think I have a great smile either. Ways I’ve dealt with it externally is grown out my hair (I’m known as the “man-bun guy” in the Midwest town my parents live in), and keep a good bit of facial hair to add a bit of masculinity. Here’s where I think it depends per person. I am not a blue collar worker; the professi…
/r/seduction04/09/19 03:37 AM
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That’s exactly what I’ve been doing. I build up a bit of banter, say some sweet nothings and then ask her out and that’s it. It just stops as if we never talked.
/r/seduction20/06/19 11:40 PM
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That’s not the part I’m struggling with. I am quite busy all the time. The problem is, it seems, the content of what I am saying is not coming across as confident or high value. I have a hard time of transferring my joking nature into text without realizing that’s not how it comes across.
/r/seduction20/06/19 11:39 PM
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I feel like my profiles are decent, the problem I’m having is the texting part to get them to meet up. I’m not great at understanding their subtexts and being able to push for the meet up. After that, I feel pretty golden.
/r/seduction18/06/19 07:22 PM
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Beautiful. Just beautiful. Best wishes, man.
/r/seduction30/03/18 06:49 AM
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Bike Models is also good.
/r/seduction30/03/18 06:40 AM
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I sometimes come on this sub because I agree with a small percent of the stuff said here. I feel that this could describe some people I know, maybe only some of the time. And there are girls, my ex for example, who did not start ANY drama (she isnt on any social media to get an idea), she was just very driven, worked 50-60 hour work weeks, now finishing up her 2nd degree, never asked me for money, etc... What Im getting at is quite a few girls (and maybe it's the company, the type of girls you h…
/r/TheRedPill15/02/18 11:56 PM
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True, very true. I think there are certain levels that higher and higher players can play on once they reach that level. Beginners should go through the lower levels just like the rest of us. I think the difference is that people go to the gym constantly. Its like school. You are pretty likely to run into them again. Not so if nearly anywhere else. Takes a bit of calibration.
/r/seduction13/10/17 08:22 PM
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For small, I would rather he did an outside bumb with the hand. Placing your hand over something has the context of "this is mine". Its pretty aggressive, especially while moving like walking. Rather a tap on the wrist or a bump on the arm, then a scratch on the shoalder, a hip-to-hip bump (kinda fun/flirty), playing with hair, interwining hands, a love handle light grab, neck caress, AND THEN kiss or beyond. Note: thats not a check list, and its not a "do all or any at any time". Its a ladder. …
/r/seduction13/10/17 08:39 AM
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Also, he talked as if he didnt care about what he was saying - saying exactly what you want to is a winner quality!
/r/seduction01/10/17 04:09 AM
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You're probably right but I am more happy about how I was able to remain collected and play with some of the techniques from PU that I have always been oblivious to. I thought she was gorgeous but acted like I realized she was just a person like any other. I also recognized abstract shit tests, the social dynamic (which maybe was not what I would have hoped would be there), I saw it more as a participating observer than a manipulatable object inside. Im improving at a point I can notice.
/r/seduction30/05/17 01:59 AM
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Wtf haha
/r/seduction06/05/17 06:26 AM
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I think it is a good practice for the newbies who don't realize it is such a big factor. I know it helped me when I was starting out.
/r/seduction04/05/17 05:44 PM
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I know, I just mean that for the beginners, they might actually want to practice free-talking with friends or family before they do it with strangers and "cool people".
/r/seduction21/04/17 04:54 PM
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On the other hand, on rare occasions my first thoughts might make a situation extremely akward or even lead to disciplinary actions. I have a reeeeeeeally flambouyant mind haha.
/r/seduction21/04/17 04:29 PM
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I like RSD, but Im pretty sure Julienne, for example, doesnt have much of a social life (he says as much; that pickup is all his life now to the point its annoying). Im not sure how to help you but you cant make pickup, or any one thing define you. I dont like those kinds of people. I like people that are complicated and rounded. They have depth. I cant for the life of me remember what me and my best friend first said to each other but I did get good vibes from him so I think he got good vibes f…
/r/seduction19/04/17 06:24 AM
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That's okay. Made me chuckle.
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:12 AM
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Not medication, meditation.
/r/seduction12/04/17 04:47 AM
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https://youtu.be/2ppsZUXFkEw
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:09 AM
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Yeah I know... But I do need a lot of help with seduction as I stand now.
/r/seduction04/04/17 12:34 AM
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I dont mind reading. I dont think I caught what book exactly that was...
/r/seduction03/04/17 05:39 AM
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Now that you mention it, I guess I do see those as some strong underlying problems to work on. I meant just that even when I was getting more serious with one girl she never said I was sexy or hot or anything along those lines. She specifically said I wasnt. It kinda got to me. I know it was douchey objectively, but I just have this sense of unpredictability and a great idgaf attitude (a girl's words). That said, I wont do it again and you do bring up a great point I hadnt thought of.
/r/seduction03/04/17 04:35 AM
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Im not trusting any posts written today.
/r/seduction01/04/17 10:23 PM
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"Mike, you go to rehab to work out yo problems; not bang your therapist!"
/r/seduction01/04/17 10:19 PM
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"Lots of friends" yeah, I have my ways. "... don't need to.." no I dont need to, I want to. Because it's fun, not weird.
/r/seduction28/03/17 04:43 AM
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Why would adding someone you havnt talked to before be weird? I see someone interesting, I friend request and talk a bit. See what theyre like.
/r/seduction27/03/17 11:03 PM
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Perfect.
/r/seduction27/03/17 08:02 PM
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While I agree to an extent, to those saying "you need validation", theres also a part thats like "thats kind of a general goal for all men", to find a mate that looks like they have strong genes. Off of that, if I fucked Amber Heard, Im not seeking validation by telling my friends but more of just telling a perhaps interesting story. Ignore my grammar, Im tired.
/r/seduction09/03/17 12:11 AM
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Or maybe the right subreddit...
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:19 PM
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What does IOI stand for?
/r/seduction18/01/17 07:16 AM
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....but you're doing something about it, right?
/r/seduction18/12/16 02:48 AM
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Just that you arnt in the "now", from the perspective of the people you approach. I heard about it a long time a go on herw. It may not be true for you, but when I even have one plugged in, Im usually too caught up in my music or look less... "Present" and my odds arnt generally as good of a successful interaction.
/r/seduction16/12/16 08:47 PM
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Just read through your blog. Im very amatuer, but I think the headphones make it seem like you're constantly plugged in? is it just me? Anyway, I think your style is great and Ive (one of an extremely rare times) kept reading through the blog. Good stuff, and good luck.
/r/seduction16/12/16 04:21 AM
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Haha same. Ninjas... Ninjas everywhere. Alpha is the bomb!
/r/seduction13/12/16 03:09 AM
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Recently, theres been some weird sickness thats rocked that sub and all you see is ninjas and people who just try to wear shitty hand-me-downs from thier grandparents (to be fair, its not my style, and thats my opinion). Look for the inspo albums because they will give you (usually) a really good look of what matches and how it should look. That sub has some gold and has brought up my game so much its crazy.
/r/seduction13/12/16 03:08 AM
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But if you pass that stage where you are jumpy (depends how long by the person) then not only do you seem more confident, but that "nervousness" becomes "playfulness" and a lack of fucks given. One if the best decisions of my life and the benefits ive seen is with a year of working at it with a record of 2 weeks free. Its hard but worth it.
/r/seduction24/11/16 09:47 AM
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Seems like... yove had some bad experiences lol Im just tryin to get some physical experience because Im hella knew.
/r/seduction19/11/16 07:55 PM
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Ive never had a girl text me. Im doing something wrong.
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:47 AM
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Do you mind if I ask how old you are and how old she looked... For uhhhh science?
/r/seduction18/11/16 12:45 AM
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"Its a hug not a blowjob." Fuck, and here I was thinking I had just found the best advice in history.
/r/seduction17/11/16 03:57 PM
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Yeah send me those guides, great advice here.
/r/seduction10/11/16 06:32 AM
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Hands down it will. I usually like to put a glow-in-the dark condom on beforehand and then cover her eyes right before I pull it out so that its fun and exciting because its the only thing she sees. In the dark. Because her eyes are covered. Works every time.
/r/seduction10/11/16 05:29 AM
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My problem (i think its one) is when someone is talking to me, ill look them in the eyes for a bit but look away just as often, just off to the side or people walking past, or im imagining what shes saying.
/r/seduction03/11/16 07:47 AM
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That wording? Edit: what I mean is do you use that exact wording?
/r/seduction26/10/16 07:12 PM
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💪😎☝
/r/seduction26/10/16 03:24 PM
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Nah, not going far enough. Fist her and see if she likes you.
/r/seduction26/10/16 03:14 PM
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This. People keep expecting us to help but how a person looks really affects how you need to approach. Generally, Id say go for it. I think she likes you.
/r/seduction26/10/16 03:10 PM
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I think the convo after the "octopus vs seahorse" opener is quite a bit more of why the dude lays women down, rather than the decent opener itself, but okay.
/r/seduction20/10/16 07:10 AM
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Is there something I should imagine because even if i hear "become a clean slate" I just imagine a white tablet.
/r/seduction19/10/16 10:13 PM
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Music? My brother is pretty loud
/r/seduction19/10/16 06:40 AM
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A quick run down on good meditation?
/r/seduction19/10/16 06:10 AM
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Ok weekend coming up. I think giving a good full day or two before asking if she wants to go to a corn maze would be helpful, but then Im breaking text silence like 5 hrs after. I also really absolutely hate text games like this. I know i should limit contact, but this isnt really the best logistics a lot of the time.
/r/seduction14/10/16 09:52 PM
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I qould think that not acknowldging that might come off more confident?
/r/seduction14/10/16 09:03 PM
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The only thing I can suggest is if she shows up then do kino and kind of escalate. Honestly im not very experienced.
/r/seduction14/10/16 09:03 PM
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"Got it quick" what does that mean? How does a corn maze sound?
/r/seduction14/10/16 08:46 PM
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Have you guys been hanging out much?
/r/seduction14/10/16 08:39 PM
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Yeah I completely agree. Me and that girl werent able to set anything up so we just texted ALL weekend. 3 things happened: we became much more comfortable texting than talking that now we're just silent around each other, we exhausted all potential topics, and i dont know how she really feels about things shes already said. ONLY USE IT AS A MEANS TO SET UP MEET UPS! Generally speaking. And just quick bro, i just got a chicks number after 15 min approach. I dont want to look through all the posts…
/r/seduction14/10/16 08:01 PM
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Ooh, im not sure dude. Did you invest heavily?
/r/seduction14/10/16 07:58 PM
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Bro toss me your number noho
/r/seduction14/10/16 07:43 PM
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Ooh my text game is normally shit. Seriously I didnt know how fucked up it was until a week ago. Still feeling that lol. What I learned however, is DO NOT TEXT HER WHEN YOU ARE BORED. Text her when you are having fun and tell her about it. It almost doesnt even matter if you dont do anything fun normally because it will be less needy. Try to get her snapchat as well. Its sometimes easier to talk, you can send random fun pictures (and more easily leads to nudes), and because she knows if you are …
/r/seduction14/10/16 07:33 PM
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Or she'll lie if she cares for her friend but doesnt like you for whatever reason.. Edit: realized you said mutual friend, but my thought still stands.
/r/seduction14/10/16 07:22 PM
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Howd it go in general lol?
/r/seduction14/10/16 01:22 AM
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Hha ur profile is funny. Idk women look at everything and i can spend an hour giving reasons/excuses why you have matches. I just settled on some funny "quote page" that was funny. I kept it cuz it was funny even though i was planning to delete it. I supposed women would see im funny. I can be serious buy then "im taking myself tooooo seriously". Theres really just no winning. Its just a game of how little you lose, but you dont know with tinder which makes some people feel good.
/r/seduction27/09/16 07:13 PM
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Sorry, but they kind of do (sound lame).
/r/seduction27/09/16 03:48 PM
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Status? I dont really have social status to be honest. Ive mastered the "be happy with yourself" and kinda neglected the social pyramid all my life.
/r/seduction26/09/16 10:09 PM
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What are the #1, #2 rules? (please dont be "be attractive, dont be unnatractive...")
/r/seduction26/09/16 06:29 PM
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So like a one/two line bio? How serious should it be? I mean maybe a joke or two but i feel it gets too lighthearyed and no ones going to see it sexually.
/r/seduction26/09/16 06:28 PM
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I didnt realize but now that I think about it, I do see that bigger cities are more open to it (Ive lived in a mid-cized city most of my young life, still do.) I wouldnt necessarily avoid it like on a first date, just that it doesnt really fit my age group yet, and depending on the girl and the feel I get from her. Im not saying its a terrible idea, just that I would not group it in "social". Thank you for your input, IntrovertedBadass.
/r/seduction18/09/16 07:43 AM
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Well IntrovertedBadass, I'm going to take an assumption that you are not American (Your english is good, but I notice some accent in there), because Im from Europe and I would say that it is slightly more easier to get away with than in the US simply because of different cultures. A kiss itself as I see it, in any form if not in a joking manner (like on the hand) is sensual. I have never done that and have never seen any person near my age do that to someone they arent together with. Kissing on …
/r/seduction18/09/16 06:15 AM
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Social touching includes a kiss on the cheek? Are you kidding? I would not get away with a kiss on the cheek with anyone, friend or stranger.
/r/seduction18/09/16 05:11 AM
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And finding those people?
/r/seduction05/09/16 04:50 AM
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But joking aside, answer the poor mans request!
/r/seduction05/09/16 03:14 AM
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Good shoulder to hip ratio? Whats that like?
/r/seduction25/08/16 07:55 PM
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This is the biggest problem I have with good or bad convos. Once I start talking, Im just in the zone, in the moment, not thinking about later and I just want to laugh and make her laugh or gain some insight or something useful, I dont care about thebnumber and then once shes gone I realize I probably wont ever see her again. It sucks. And its difficult to transition to phone numbers especially if you feel your convo isnt dying. What Im going to do now is say "we should hang out sometime", just …
/r/seduction19/08/16 04:52 PM
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Damn, that is some amazing work! Did you play giutar and sing? Seriously that is a great story. I havnt had much success mainly because i work so much and dont have alot of time, so i rarely get practice, but this motivates me!
/r/seduction17/08/16 03:56 PM
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I never "kill it".
/r/seduction15/08/16 11:15 PM
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Being weird in exactly the way you describe is exactly me, but I still dont feel I'm holding their attention long and it even sucks because once I start talking, I dont care about number or eventually meeting up or anything, I just want to make them laugh, I forget all of my goals, it sucks.
/r/seduction07/08/16 05:40 PM
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The "put it in your ass line", when is that?
/r/seduction09/06/16 06:41 PM
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Not helping, sorry im kinda new too. Just wondering if you could post or send me pics of your profile because Ive had no luck at all for a month.
/r/seduction08/05/16 10:03 PM
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I also feel this at times. What are good conversation starters? And I mean not just the resumeyee like questions? Everytime I hear tips they sound too forced
/r/seduction08/05/16 08:45 PM
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Can I just like text the pics to you? Imgur isnt really working. Ive tried several times to upload it. Just PM me your number or aomething
/r/seduction08/05/16 04:26 PM
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Im on mobile. How do I select "upload photo"?
/r/seduction08/05/16 07:55 AM
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Thats what I did. Its not showing up on my post history
/r/seduction08/05/16 07:01 AM
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Yeah, what more is there? Im trying to upload it to imgyr but its not qorking for some reason. Im kinda new to it, so..
/r/seduction07/05/16 10:11 PM
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I understand your reservation for showing your profile, but Id really like to see it because Ive had it up for a month, and looking at other guy's profiles in my area, Im under the impression that Im higher level, but Ive gone through over 200 chicks with only like 3 matches, no replies. Im curious what a "winning" profile looks like. Maybe I can show you mine?
/r/seduction07/05/16 07:51 PM
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Well yeah but im sure there will be lulls in the convo (I dont drive good if i talk) anyway.
/r/seduction08/04/16 05:01 PM
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What if its deeper/sadder/depressing? Like to me, it doesnt sound depressing but uplifting, when it reminds me of certain things, in comparison to the crappy pop on the radio about money, cars and chicks. But someone listening to it the first time without understanding the words might feel its too dark.
/r/seduction07/04/16 10:17 PM
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If you are picking up a girl, do you play anything in the car?
/r/seduction05/04/16 09:47 AM
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I get sweaty when touching skin for a while even if im not nervous. Always had it: sweaty feet even in perfect westher, cant keep my hands togethor without sweating them... It sucks How do you guys suggest I take pics for tinder? I dont like pics of me in general and only have one really crappy one of myself years ago on fb. Im not really photogenic. Off that, tho pics are more important, what should I write in my bio?
/r/seduction05/04/16 07:19 AM
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What do you do when you pick her up? Im thinking of just holding a bit of convo with music in the background, but not sure on what kind of music. What do you guys listen to when around girls?
/r/seduction29/03/16 09:05 PM
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Adice? I dont have any good pictures of me on facebook. Should I just take pictures of myself? I live with my parents (18 but in HS), is tinder even still an option for me? What if people I know see my profile?
/r/seduction24/03/16 08:17 PM
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Could it be that the non-caring of the other's reaction to what you do or say be what works because it takes them on an emotional roller coaster (which Ive heard is extremely useful), but she has to remind herself to calm down because of your almost childness non-caring, so it makes it okay to her? Like if you say something sexual and dismiss it, theres a number of things she can feel but sees youre okay with your sexuality, or something borderline murderous but because you are obviously kidding…
/r/seduction19/03/16 01:53 AM
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There are other things that make you more attractive; a strong jawline, unique colored eyes, thick full hair or facial hair, wrinkles, teeth... Some of those you cant control at all. I understand you gotta work with what you got but still, the games gotta change.
/r/seduction21/01/16 07:20 AM
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What are a few more "transition" questions? Because I felt the jump was a bit distinct and in reality it might sound forced. Also, what if she is very likely a virgin/just too young to have tried so much? Coming out of high school this may be too much.
/r/seduction03/01/16 07:13 PM
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Can you sign with your dick? Now that would impress her Im sure
/r/seduction02/01/16 07:54 AM
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Ok, makes sense. As a side question, I assume I should tone down my game a bit if I see a particular girl in school every day, sometimes in class with other people, while teacher is talking? Is there like a slower version?
/r/seduction16/12/15 05:05 AM
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Im kinda new here, but Ive seen escalation here a bit, and been wondering what it actually is and how/when/why to do it. Is there a good post outlining it or is it in the side faq's?
/r/seduction15/12/15 11:02 PM
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AND MY AXE!
/r/seduction14/07/15 11:50 PM
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Youve never bit and pulled a lip before and you still got negative responses? That sucks.. I am so glad that without any beforehand reading/research my first kiss was perfect on both sides (almost all your guidelines were fulfilled), though there were people, but it was in the back of a dark theater as we saw a popular showing of beauty and the beast. How fitting. I met her an hour before, though i had seen her around at school. She was relatively popular. I was dressed better than normal. It wa…
/r/seduction10/03/15 02:17 AM
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