| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 747 | Don't do it, ladies | REMINDER 👑 | boooooooooooooooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 04:38 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 44 | Sad image...The dead plants are perfect. He can't take care of himself or anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 11:03 PM |
| 6 | This pandemic is making a lot of women realise they have LVM partnersI hope for my friend's sake that you're wrong. She got married last year 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 02:51 PM |
| 5 | LVM going through their phone/social media/yearbook during quarantine.I'm so fucking glad I deleted my Facebook account last year 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 07:20 PM |
| 13 | Pick me does wifey shit for her LVM, and he responds by complaining 🤡You know, his argument was basically that the food will taste slightly less good than if he got it fresh. Reminds me of the excuse that men don't want to use condoms because "it just isn't the same." It's still going to be good though, bruh! It's still sex, it's still a home cooked meal. You'll still get your orgasm (they always do), you'll still feel full and satisfied. But because it slightly inconveniences them and their preference, they're willing to make a fucking scene and blame a woman ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 07:04 PM |
| 10 | Why are most men so terrible at consoling people?Caring is work except when women do it. Then it's expected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 06:52 PM |
| 5 | Need help moving on from a liar.You're right. This is simple. This guy adds nothing positive to your life whatsoever. It is past time to cut off contact with him. That means block and delete every piece of contact info you have for him and eliminate the chance he can rope you back into his hurtful mind games. Don't let him rule your heart anymore when all he has done is hurt and manipulate you. You owe yourself better treatment than this. Keep reading and be strong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 08:09 PM |
| 14 | What Kind of Young Women (20s) Date Much Older Men (40s and up)?My sister married a man twice her age. He pursued her after being told by someone in my family that she was off-limits. Then they were a couple for years before he finally proposed. Sometimes she seems happy, but he is frequently an asshole and I've seen many times the toxic way they fight. She tells me they're good for each other partly because he pushes her out of a victim mentality, which is interesting because I don't think she'd have entered the relationship without it. We were traumatized … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 11:41 AM |
| 3 | What Is Sexual Narcissism? (Narcissism And Sexuality)This is so interesting. I'd never heard of the somatic vs cerebral types before nor of Sam Vaknin. Plenty of reading to do now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 10:40 AM |
| 11 | Don't do it, ladiesI'm gonna disagree. If they're on good terms and speaking to each other regularly, then he could reach out too. To dispel her worry or give an update. Why is it on her to maintain this friendship if it's important to both of them? Or look at it another way, if they're on good terms and speaking regularly, she would have no doubt that it's appropriate to contact him. But that's not the case here. They haven't spoken during the pandemic at all or she wouldn't have said this. You are talking about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 09:59 AM |
| 12 | Don't do it, ladiesYep. Remembering more clearly, I didn't just block him mid-conversation. I changed my phone number entirely. It was so fucking satisfying. (This was maybe 8 years ago, that's why I misspoke.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 10:54 PM |
| 23 | Don't do it, ladiesYou don't necessarily have to cut contact consensually. If the relationship isn't serving you anymore and you've broken up, you have every right to block and move on. No discussion needed. I blocked one ex literally in the middle of a conversation we were having when he crossed my boundaries for the last time and I realized I would never put up with it again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 08:58 PM |
| 36 | Don't do it, ladiesExactly. For me, the temptation to text comes from a place of caring and nurturing and maybe some loneliness. But ultimately? It would only end in disappointment. He will not reciprocate my caring. He never did and he never will, not even in this time of uncertainty and danger. I shudder at the stories of shitty men coming out of the woodwork and trying to reconnect when confronted with their mortality and I do not want to be anything like them. But more importantly, texting an ex, even just to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Wait, so all those girls in relationships have mostly been with LVM? Mind is blownEvery. Single. One. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 10:07 AM |
| 91 | Wait, so all those girls in relationships have mostly been with LVM? Mind is blownI wish I'd had your sense! Instead, I got wrapped up in trouble for what seems like my whole life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Do you know a HVM who gave you some faith in men?Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 10:56 AM |
| 108 | RAPE LAWS: In the 70s it was marital rape, the 80s it was date rape, the 90s was roofies & rape drugs, 2000s it was rape while intoxicated/campus rape, & 2010s it was revenge porn and physical assault during sex. What new anti-sexual violence war will we have to wage with the Scrotes in the 2020s?Revenge porn is going to reach new depths with deep fake technology. You'll be able to order up porn of any woman you know or any celebrity. Companies that offer this service will get away with it for a long time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 10:36 AM |
| 2 | My mom said it herself: most men don’t know what they wantYeah, this makes me wonder if my dad was lying way back when his second wife quit her job. She was painted as the bad guy there, but that could have been their agreement. We'll never know because they're both insane (and he's on wife #3 by now). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:11 AM |
| 85 | And that’s how you do itBut the food & key alone would have been ok. A soggy cold breakfast and a key. She could have sharpied a middle finger on the food container. But why give him the satisfaction. She went out classy af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 03:00 AM |
| 30 | What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?After we broke up I said he was an abusive entitled little boy and a piece of shit. And I said "I'm glad that I'm mainly a good memory for you, but the feeling is not mutual." I am way too fucking nice. And I never get the snappy comments in the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | BDSM normalization. PickMe normalization. All of it bullshit.Fantastic! Thanks for the link. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 02:18 AM |
| 134 | And that’s how you do itEvery time he plays that game he's going to remember how bad he fucked up. I can see why she might have left it for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:55 AM |
| 24 | Cyber cheating is real 😆Hol' up. There are poly bullies now? What in the fuck? Preaching love except when you want to withhold it from the hive maybe. God damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:36 AM |
| 9 | Lazy communication from OLD. Left on read.Yep. I got a similar message one time and immediately blocked the guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 10:08 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Well, I finally blocked my most recent ex. I absolutely should have done so immediately after breaking up with him last fall, but at least it's done now. One day when I'm less embarrassed, I may share more of this story. For now I just want to celebrate losing the dead weight and congratulate myself for maybe finally learning that YOU CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITH AN EX. At least I can't! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:14 AM |
| 7 | "Looksmatch" is just something angry men invented to manipulate attractive women to date men below their league. Never settle for a man in terms of looks either.Could be a hotep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 08:24 AM |
| 16 | Pickmeisha’s LVM refers to their adopted child as the N word to his friends, Pickmeisha makes excuses for him and wonders if she should even confront himOh, yeah, looking at it again you're totally right. I must have misread the post. Probably in my haste to make it be over! What a nightmare of a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:39 PM |
| 6 | Pickmeisha’s LVM refers to their adopted child as the N word to his friends, Pickmeisha makes excuses for him and wonders if she should even confront himYes, this is truly horrible. But I interpreted that text to mean that he should get his lady to call him master, because she is the one cleaning up the mess. Both interpretations are fucking awful, of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:30 PM |
| 31 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexRight. I was trying to talk about this specific post though. It seems like he genuinely doesn't get it. He doesn't think he's being an asshole because he thinks they have a "specific agreement" which to me implies they have talked about it and she claims to like the arrangement also. He doesn't accept that treating her like a fuck toy with girlfriend benefits is wrong because he's a depraved misogynist. It's so internalized that he doesn't even have to pretend anything with her. She's been ok wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:07 AM |
| 26 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexThat's the thing though. He doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 02:19 AM |
| 20 | Pickmeshia doesn't leave at the first red flag. Raise your standards ladies!Smart money says he didn't even make that reservation. What a tool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 10:21 AM |
| 6 | The Partner ModelThis was so touching at the end when Nika is able to move forward with Terence as a real team. She had to let go of her stubbornness and secrecy and trying to shoulder every debt on her own; he let go of his money-minded ambitions. What they created by doing so is a really powerful dynamic where both people are vulnerable and totally committed to making their life together work in a mutually beneficial way. That being said, I do worry about Nika not having her GTFO fund anymore. I hope she's abl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Spectating a date’s sports game — thoughts?A guy I was in a casual situationship with had me coming to his soccer games one summer. I know it's a different dynamic, but in both cases it's kind of like he's just fitting you into something he was going to do anyway, so it's a low effort date substitute. Going as a one-off is a good call here. All his friends and sports acquaintances at the game thought I was his girlfriend just for being there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 09:09 AM |
| 15 | Is a man saying he wants lots of kids a red flag?My most recent ex would say things like, "I know I'm gonna do something big, I just don't know what yet," and then he'd list all the things he could try. Never once acted on a single idea. And he's around 30 so really no time to waste.....except he's on his computer playing games allllll day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:40 AM |
| 10 | ‘My “Perfect” Boyfriend Started Choking Me During Sex’ - A reminder that violence and love NEVER go together (trigger warning)You're right! However, he only had to wait two months in this case, and they were already sexually active by that time. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 05:37 AM |
| 6 | 2020 will be the year of me!You're a real hoopy frood. I bet you finally know where your towel is at. 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 10:42 PM |
| 14 | So what do you ladies think of women who don't want children?Don't have kids, don't want kids, never have wanted kids, never will want kids. Pro-choice, anti-forced birth. It's your life and you should be free to choose the lifestyle you prefer. It's very simple to me and I will never understand people who try to enforce their beliefs and choices on others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 10:40 PM |
| 68 | ‘My “Perfect” Boyfriend Started Choking Me During Sex’ - A reminder that violence and love NEVER go together (trigger warning)I think she had already moved in with him after two months and that's when this began. He waited until she was dependent on him financially. Absolute scum. But her mistakes also confirm FDS principles: wait to have sex, wait to live together, be financially independent. For 10 months, she thought her living situation and relationship were worth this treatment. In reality, she'd be better off living in a cardboard box. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 10:25 PM |
| 13 | What are Your Favorite FDS Quotes?"Who is benefiting from my beliefs?" "But is he even nice to you?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 07:35 PM |
| 31 | Gamer GuysThere's usually a comorbid addiction involved, whether it's weed, booze, caffeine/sugary drinks, food, cigarettes, porn, or even hard drugs. Typically not ambitious in their careers, or allow gaming to be more of a priority than attempts to network or advance their knowledge/certifications. Found on OLD apps rather than real life. Edit to add: I'm remembering more about my exes who played and I have to say the main thread that links them is escapism. They needed an experience alternative to thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 06:38 PM |
| 22 | Enough stories about LVM! Tell us a good experience you had with HVM :)I'm wracking my brain here and honestly can't think of a single thing. I'm 35. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 06:27 PM |
| 2 | They complain about women that try to look good, too!!!Hear, hear! Agree with everything in your post, but the term bbw. That's an acronym that comes from the porn industry and there's no good reason to use it, especially when referring to yourself or a friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:44 AM |
| 15 | LVM are whinersThis is why the guy should pay for me on dates. Just going to meet a stranger is taking a heavy risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:50 AM |
| 22 | Photo uploaded on Instagram ?!It was a form of abuse to make you insecure. If you're feeling insecure, you'll be too scared to leave him because you don't think you can do better. And the thing on Instagram was triangulation with another woman to make you jealous. It makes you insecure, he gets the same result. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 02:52 PM |
| 12 | I am finally kicking my husband to the curb this weekend and he doesn't know.Proud of you! I'm wondering if there were any signs of what was to come, from before the marriage. If you can bear to think about it, it could be useful to us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 02:31 PM |
| 23 | "Good luck finding a guy like that!": Do NOT fall for the LVM Cope.If you need someone in your life regardless of what they are or are not adding to your life, that's a you problem. This 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 01:09 AM |
| 10 | Frogs rule, LVMs drool!I love frog girl 😭 but she needs to get in here and read the handbook. Never move for a man unless you're married or at least engaged! Never move in with a man unless you're married or at least engaged! Never compromise your career for a man, period! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 01:02 AM |
| 12 | See Yeah Cause NoOh yeah, absolutely not buying it. It's manipulation 100% even if he isn't doing it maliciously. I've never once corrected him when he insults himself, no way am I going to praise him for his self-hatred and disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 12:14 AM |
| 11 | See Yeah Cause NoWorking on it. Past trauma has me pretty scared of setting boundaries and of being alone. I'm in counseling and trying to level up. I almost blocked this guy today, not sure what stopped me exactly other than that. Probably the fact that he at least called instead of texting. But that's not good enough. Not nearly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:54 PM |
| 43 | See Yeah Cause NoUgh I'm dealing with this shit right now. It's obvious I need to block-delete but he's also sort of my only friend right now. He called me today to semi-apologize for recent behavior, was saying all this shit like he's trash and weird, all to excuse how he treats me. I gave him no sympathy this time. "Those are choices you're making," I said. God it's pitiful. But I am too for putting up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:31 PM |
| 4 | Women who standard-shame other womenMe too, sis. I couldn't see that "high maintenance" is just a slur against folks with standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 05:48 PM |
| 14 | I learned a huge lesson about dropping your standards for a manI don't think trying to see the best in someone is a trait to encourage. I can find good things in people all day, even very bad people. The fact is you've got to look for and heed any warning signs, that's OP's lesson to us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:32 PM |
| 122 | It’s all about expectationsThat's horrible. But you should be grateful to have dodged that pornsick guy. Anyone who would say that doesn't deserve to fuck you. Your vulva will be appreciated by the right person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:08 PM |
| 11 | He’s Counting On Your StupidityThank you so much. I've been struggling a long time. It's hard to believe there's anything that can make this shit easier but honestly, men ain't shit compared with me having to live with myself for the rest of my life. A temporary comfort is not worth the knowledge that I let a man use me. Ofc there's more to it but that is where my head's at rn. Again, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:29 AM |
| 83 | He’s Counting On Your StupidityI always thought I was so smart, but when it comes to men, I've been dumb dumb dumb. Ignored my gut feeling. Permitted them to walk all the way over me. Chased them. Modified my own behavior to suit them. Allowed horrific abuse. I've been living as prey my entire fucking life and I'm feeling over it. Been lurking in this sub for weeks, reading for hours at a time, soaking it in. My main problem is that I've been way too willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. My belief in people's inher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm so sad right nowI'm wondering if he was eating your ass as a way to suggest anal sex. He may have thought that was an appropriate alternative to vaginal sex. At least he didn't try it on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 09:57 PM |
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