Found in r/datingoverthirty

I met this guy when I was on vacation last year. He was local, I was tourist. He was a bartender and I ended up at his bar every evening. We ended up hanging out, outside of the bar. We hiked together, cliff jumped, water sports, etc. Had a blast. While I was still on my travels with him, I booked my next trip to visit and he was over the moon. We ended up hooking up and I stayed with him the last two nights I was in town.

Fast forward to this week. I’m visiting his locale again, and he acted ecstatic to see me. He planned an entire itinerary. He wanted me to stay with him for the entirety of my stay, but I booked a hotel... just to have my own space (and my own car) and feel it out first. (IM SO GLAD I DID THIS)

I’ve only been here for 4 days, but the entire time, we have either gone Dutch, or i end up paying. Even drinks. He hasn’t bought me a single drink. Same with driving. He expects me to drive my rental, instead of his car. When I asked if he would drive, he asked for my keys - he expected to drive my rental. I said absolutely not. He has been bugging me the last 4 days to come stay with him, and I haven’t yet. I just want to make sure I’m not getting played. I’ve caught him in multiple white lies - some that he doesn’t even know I know about - so I’m not about to just jump in bed with him. Something just didn’t sit right with me.

Well tonight he made dinner plans at a fancy restaurant. We had spent the entire day together hiking. I was really curious how dinner was going to go - if he was actually going to pick up the bill this time. When I mentioned dinner at the end of our hike, he said “oh you still want to go?” Like, yes motherfucker, why wouldn’t I? Are you trying to bail already? He got defensive and said he though maybe I was too tired blah blah blah. So I rushed back to where I was staying, showered, changed, and made it to the restaurant in time for the reservation. I’m sitting here all dressed up and I’m waiting for him. I try calling. Nothing. I try texting. Not a word. I call again. No answer.

25 min after the reservation, he texts me that he can’t make it because his motorcycle broke down on the freeway and he’s waiting for a friend with a trailer to come pick him/the bike up. Yes, you read that right. He supposedly had a bike malfunction, and supposedly made all these pick up/towing arrangements, before he could be bothered to let me know he couldn’t make it. He still wouldn’t answer my call. Just text.

So that’s all she wrote. I texted him back “best of luck” and I blocked him and deleted him off all social media.

And now Im all dressed up for this dinner, and i have a two for one mai tai coupon and imma go out and live my best life.

Later fucker.

Going Dutch and paying for dates!! First signs to get the heck out of there, block and delete, yet she carried on dating this guy. Waste of time when she could have been enjoying her holiday exploring by herself! Learn from a Pickmeshia's mistakes.