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SEX STRATEGYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:54 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:31 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:25 PM
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QUICK TIPSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:17 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:59 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:42 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:05 PM
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How-To High ValueSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:08 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCESarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 03:17 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 11:41 PM
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FDS MEMESSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:00 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:07 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:35 PM
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FDS MEMESSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:32 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!SarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:25 PM
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LEVEL UPSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:58 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:08 AM
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RANTSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:55 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:24 PM
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NAH, SISSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:06 AM
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DISCUSSIONSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:19 PM
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SarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:19 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMESarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:35 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMESarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:26 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:11 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:06 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:41 PM
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NAH, SISSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:00 PM
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NAH, SISSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:21 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 02:51 PM
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LVM LOGICSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:04 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:55 PM
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NAH, SISSarcasmSlide/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:02 AM
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When I tell you I RAN here when this popped up on my home page! FDS changed my life I’m so glad to see activity in here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/25 11:34 PM
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If he has kids just ask him what size clothing and shoes his children currently wear. If he doesn’t know it means he doesn’t do any real daily parenting. Here’s a hint: he doesn’t know. None of them fucking do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 07:29 PM
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What men think about my words is of absolutely no concern to me. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 03:07 AM
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These are very wise words, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:50 AM
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I cannot agree more. FDS helped me rebuild my self-esteem and boundaries. Once that happened, it illuminated the cracks in my friendships. I ended up blocking and deleting my best friend of over 20 years because she was so toxic. It can sometimes be a lonely journey. But my self-esteem demands only quality relationships and I’m willing to go it alone if I have to. FDS made me tough like steel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:17 PM
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but wHaT AbouT ThE MeN? wOn’t SOmEoNe tHINk oF The MEN?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:44 PM
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I fell in deep with another user’s comment recently that went something like, “pay attention to the way he tells a story because that is how he wants you to see him.” It’s all a predatory facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:34 PM
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ask yourself why he is telling a story a certain way (people are a collection of the stories they share about themselves because it’s how they want to be perceived. This is an incredible wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 11:20 PM
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A key component of FDS is learning to let go of toxic relationships and people. This isn’t limited to men. FDS gave me the power to end a 20 year friendship with a LVW who never had my best interest at heart. There are many women here with similar stories. Read the handbook, keep coming here, and learn that it’s necessary to let some things go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:15 PM
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The PickMe Olympics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:18 AM
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Goddamn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:32 AM
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My LVM porn-and-stripper loving dad has done this several times and he’s in his late 60’s. He also tries to act all chagrined and just so darn lost in his being a man. All these losers are the same even when they’re different 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 07:17 PM
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“The hardest thing in this world is to live in it. Be brave. Live.” -Buffy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:59 PM
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Clarice Starling, from Silence of The Lambs. She is literally a hero of mine and my favorite female movie character of all-time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 10:42 PM
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Suddenly dying alone sounds like heaven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:36 PM
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Please read the handbook. FDS stances on porn are pretty clearly outlined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:39 PM
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This isn’t an uncommon way to date. God this part is so true and so, so sad. One of many reasons why I personally feel that OLD is detrimental to women. Edit: I know that FDS and OLD are compatible with appropriate vigilance and vetting. But for me it’s a no-go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:17 PM
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All the porn addicts these days are super into urine “play.” I’ve known a few that were constantly trying to convince me to consent to this kind of gross shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:01 PM
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100% all this. That old saying “I wouldn’t want to be in any club that would have me as a member” is all about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:24 PM
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Oh this makes my heart hurt. My heart hurts for all the women out there, young and old and in-between, who haven’t figured it all out yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 12:02 PM
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Can’t make people appreciate you by giving them more of what they already don’t appreciate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 12:00 PM
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And this is why so many men use OLD dating. It’s cheaper because they feel like they can Uber some pussy over for the cost of a coffee or walk in the park. 🙄 Men view OLD as prostitution with a coupon. Sorry for that tangent but yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 11:59 AM
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Men lie. Online dating is great for lying liars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:33 PM
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As soon as I saw the thumbnail I knew it was Stanzi. Total fucking Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:40 PM
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They resent and look down on any woman “dumb enough” (in their eyes) to settle for them and their non-value. There’s an old saying that I would never want to be in any club that would have me as a member. That’s men. That’s how they feel about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:23 PM
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I don’t believe that sex addiction is a legitimate addiction. Argue with me all day if you want but I call bullshit. I’m an addict in recovery and lost my husband to addiction so I have an understanding of the components of addiction. Men aren’t “addicted” to sex. They’re misogynists who enjoy the hunt to use and discard women’s bodies. They get off on the lying and deception which is why they always have a sad sap gf or wife in the background. Just because they’re doing it compulsively doesn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:47 PM
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When my husband was alive. And only ever with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:37 PM
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This is 100% what I thought while reading this. The way he led with having to make lunches because she’s at work stuck out to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:27 PM
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Notice his first comments are about how he preps meals because she is working, and she likes hot sauce so as to make clear she set him up for failure. 🙄 He caused tremendous pain to his child and oh silly goose he’s just so inept! Guess he won’t have to feed his own children anymore because by golly he just goofs it all up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:45 PM
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Maybe that’s her kink and he should stop shaming her. Maybe he should dress up as a berry and give her hours of oral sex while she verbally humiliates him. Touch is her love language and all women watch South Park stop being insecure. If you loved her you’d fulfill her fantasies or she’ll get it somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:15 PM
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When I first discovered FDS I thought standing up for myself was the hardest part. For me, it’s the bucket-of-crabs Pickme friends and family and various LVM always pressuring me about my boundaries. Adhering to FDS makes waves in your circle and you have to be prepared for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:12 PM
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And the thing is, even when they trick the Phantom Ex into coming back they’re unhappy. They will punish her for coming back and settling, because even they know they’re garbage. They’re willing to settle, but hate any woman who’s willing to settle, too. The Phantom Ex is only perfect when she’s not there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:46 PM
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God this looks like a serial killer’s photo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:42 PM
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Because she wants Reddit to tell her to wOrK On it ANd CoMMUnIcAtE. That way she doesn’t have to deal with reality and walk away. Social female conditioning is hella strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:34 PM
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Her boyfriend is a porn-addicted coomer who is using her body to masturbate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:31 PM
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She left out the part where they’ve been having “FWB” sex since the jump so she thought she meant something to him. She did not and she hasn’t figured that part out yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:27 PM
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Imagine getting wet for men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:52 PM
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Betcha she’s the one who paid for the cake, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:49 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:30 PM
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Lol “nuanced”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:24 PM
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FaceTiming with his potential mistress in front of his wife is a special kind of bold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:30 PM
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Yes I agree. This is deliberate and not uncommon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:35 PM
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If magick was real, reading this post aloud would banish demons. Phenomenal information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:10 PM
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The goddamn audacity. Good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:07 PM
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Everything about this comment is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:23 PM
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Maladaptive daydreaming. It’s a form of disassociation. I’ve done it my whole life and it’s been a huge hinderance for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:13 PM
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Between strip clubs and porn there really is no such thing as a monogamous relationship with a man.They see thousands of other naked women and in many cases go around touching some of them as well all throughout the relationship. Wow. I’ve never seen it put so concisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:03 PM
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That’s EXACTLY what it is. Worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:51 AM
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“Tell me so I can refuse to believe you". YES THIS. Exactly this is what happens every time. Never worth the air you’ve wasted trying to “communicate” with these losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:55 PM
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For your health watch it with the fucking sound OFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:55 AM
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Thanks for sharing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:53 AM
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This is why I support women arming themselves. We need to take steps to secure our own lives in the face of rising violence against us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:01 PM
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My late husband would have pulled his teeth out with pliers before ever using slurs like “bitch” or “retarded.” The words he says in anger mean a lot more than anything he ever says when he’s calm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:42 AM
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sHe’s jUsT trYiNg TO BrEaK us uP, bABE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:50 PM
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a kiss for a date Welp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:51 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experience with this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:18 AM
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Good for you in vetting, but don’t ever explain to them why. Just block and delete. All you’ve done is teach him how to better trick the next gal by setting up burner accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:35 PM
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Imagine doing this instead of throwing the loser out and buying a vibrator instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:21 PM
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I want it on a t-shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:53 AM
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That’s a pretty important boundary for him to run over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:16 AM
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... I think so many men want to be parents but can't handle equal weight in parenting. Men want to create children, but most have no interest in actual parenting. They see their children as extensions of themselves, especially if they “carry on the family name.” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:14 PM
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I was worried as soon as I saw that Vogue photo shoot. One of the things I love so much about Billie was her refusal to sexualize herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:25 PM
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It’s psychological warfare, and it’s done for the dollars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:42 AM
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Straight out their mouths, ladies. Stop isn’t their safe word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:22 AM
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“You’re too bossy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:29 PM
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Hope you get picked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:01 PM
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Bloody hell did I need to see this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:22 PM
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Enjoy the yeast infections, Ms. Pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:40 AM
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yOu’rE A DeMiSeXuAl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:55 PM
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They call it “choreplay.” They insist choreplay doesn’t work because once in a while they passive-aggressively do something half-assed around the house and it still doesn’t get them laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:48 AM
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Keep hollering about the Jezebels, my fellow Southern sister. Hope he picks you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:44 PM
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Women gain nothing by using OLD. It is a predatory meat market and I’ve never met a true HVM who uses it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We have to go back to organic interaction if we want real dating success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:42 PM
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To get the pussy delivered directly to him. Like porn IRL. Don’t do online dating ladies. Every man doing it thinks this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:40 PM
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if it was so intolerable, they'd act on the urge to get help. men love acting on their urges. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:38 PM
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It’s from my favorite book of all time, The Handmaid’s Tale. It’s goof Latin for “don’t let the bastards grind you down.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:04 AM
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I’ve been called bossy my entire life. Loud, too. My last boyfriend constantly berated me for talking too loud, laughing too loud, and being too bossy. He was a limp noodle of a man with no education and a shitty manual labor job; while I am was a highly educated professional earning a shit ton of money. He was pathologically insecure about the acceptance of other men. He constantly engaged in performative behaviors around other men. And when those same men didn’t take him seriously (so pretty m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:56 AM
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Hi there. I’m a product of IVF with donor sperm. I am wildly more intelligent than my LVM manchild dad who raised me. I’m also more talented and capable. I don’t find these things accidental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:46 PM
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I hope you get picked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:27 PM
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When men see women in pain, their instinct is to exploit it for their own benefit jerk off to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:26 PM
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This is one of the most astute things I’ve read here. I’m never thought about it this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:53 AM
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This is why I never consider jealousy flattering. Codependents get it confused and don’t realize where that shit comes from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:51 AM
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Bitch I got a damn job! 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:59 PM
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wHaT shOuLd i dO?!?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:57 PM
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Remember that excessive porn use causes decreased intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:47 AM
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You’re so correct here. Patriarchy uses the media in insidious ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:06 PM
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Three times? Lucky you. The last pornsick guy I was with would jackhammer me for hours while semi-erect and could never cum. He would always brag afterward about how long he can last. 🙄 My favorite vibe is called The Womanizer and I find that deliciously ironic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:57 PM
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bAbY THEy jUsT DoN’T WanNA SeE Us mAKE It
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:34 PM
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And he demands to fuck her ass on the honeymoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:18 PM
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I’m coming up on a year since I became a young widow. I really, really needed to see this today. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:00 AM
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Strangulation by your intimate partner is the single greatest predictor that he’ll later kill you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:43 PM
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Anyone have thoughts on Emily Nagoski? I read one of her books and found her spontaneous vs responsive desire theories to be very helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:38 PM
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Like goddamn this sounds exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:02 PM
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I’m newly widowed by a HVM, and this inflames my very soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:59 PM
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Thank thank you. Sincerely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:57 PM
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let me take you to chili’s tonight for a molten lava cake or something I. Am. Moist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:52 PM
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“aN ExCeLlEnT ReCORd oF ThE HuMaN ExPeRiEnCe” 🙄 And my dad just bought Playboy for the articles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:47 PM
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Trump and Melania. Once he even took off with the shared umbrella and left her alone in the rain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:11 PM
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Yep. They’ve also spent a lot of rubles on anti-vaxx propaganda. Modern warfare needn’t cost more than capable bandwidth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:18 PM
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You are SPOT on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:31 PM
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I guarantee if you track down the funding sources for this kind of stuff that it’s the pornography industry. Pornography and sex trafficking depend on the same supply and revenue sources. Larry Flynn involved himself heavily in politics. Hugh Hefner hobnobbed with the elite. It’s easy to assume they’re willing to spend a few bucks pushing propaganda: goofy attack ads like this, pro-porn articles and blog posts by women masquerading as feminists, paying online influencers to promote things like O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:10 PM
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Maybe they’re obsessed with anal sex and rimming for the same reasons...🤔 🤏🏻 👬🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:01 PM
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Bet he takes his side chick out for dinner on the regular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:29 PM
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/u/Phoenix__Rising2018 I like your fashion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:04 PM
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This hurts my heart. This sincerely, truly hurts my heart. My soul weeps for young women at this time in our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:58 PM
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Please be my life coach. Seriously. I need you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:56 PM
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Atwood is my favorite author of all-time. I have her words tattooed on my body. And, appropriately enough, they’re from The Handmaids Tale. The series is garbage and Offred is played by a Scientologist so good luck with consistency there anyway. The book will change your life, though. It will terrify you. It will wake you up. In terms of FDS, I recommend one of her less popular titles. The Robber Bride is FDS through-and-through. I re-read it at least every 2 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:44 PM
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They are either: 1) scared of the woman being "a golddigger" (even if they are an average joe) 2) not willing to date someone they perceive as inferior. I’ve previously shared my opinions about this Scrote Strategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:40 PM
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“Wanna come back to my place for pizza and sex? What’s the matter? Don’t you like pizza?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:31 PM
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I’d like to share my perspective on this issue, as I think it may be a little unique here. I had a total abdominal hysterectomy at 31 years old (uterus, ovaries, tubes, cervix all gone). I’m now in my 9th year of menopause and my disease prevents me from taking HRT. I was scared to have the surgery because I’ve always had a very healthy sex drive and adored that part of my relationship with my husband. He was a wonderful lover and we were very happy. I was worried about vagina atrophy and drynes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:16 PM
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Incredibly astute. It's particularly nefarious because a lot of men don't show their true colors until after a woman gets pregnant or gives birth. That's how men trap you: they get you pregnant and then you "belong" to him forever. He's just locked down his own personal 24/7 servant. Men are the ones who benefit from "keeping" a woman because then he has access to the woman's free labor (sexual, domestic, reproductive, emotional, and otherwise). Reproductive coercion is a powerful tool. Cultural…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:03 PM
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OLD was created and incentivized by men. It operates for the benefit of men. I don’t personally believe FDS members benefit much from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:31 AM
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This is just a worse version of taking you dog to the park to pick up women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:27 PM
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He would rather feel like a caring husband than actually be a caring husband. This is so damn astute. I would offer that he only cares about being perceived as a caring husband. By her. So that he can keep being lazy forever. Your husband isn’t clueless, OP. He’s using strategic incompetence to gaslight you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:22 PM
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Get you a man who looks at gaslights you the way mine does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:18 PM
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... they will just pick a stage and never leave it. He will never meet or commit or marry. Whatever stage they decide to time suck is where it all stops. I’ve never seen it put this way. This is so astute. You should devote a post to time vampires and stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:41 PM
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Struggle love isn’t love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:07 PM
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Grandma sounds dope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:29 PM
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This is an excellent point and one I hadn’t thought of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:06 AM
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That’s exactly how I see it, sister. Chlorinate the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:33 PM
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I don’t think you’re crazy. I will say that I’ve long held the belief that major porn producers pay LibFems to write articles, blogs, and do press that benefits their industry. Much the same way Russia is financing the propaganda that Republicans use to tear the country apart. Always ask yourself: who benefits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:41 PM
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The rise of online pornography has driven such a deep chasm between the sexes as to be insurmountable, IMO. It’s literally degrading their brains and breaking their dicks. It’s also giving life to a new wave of Western misogyny that frightens me. I’d rather be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:38 PM
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I was widowed at 38. I’m on the same page here. My partner was a HVM and cherished me; I loved him deeply and always will. I’m fairly confident that I’m not likely to meet anyone as good as him ever again, and I’m okay with that. Being alone is better than being with a shitty guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:19 PM
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It’s called strategic incompetence and it’s a form of abuse Be prepared for your blood pressure to soar reading it. By now, you may be shaking your head at my incompetence. But the truth is more complicated. You see, I could have sorted out the boiler. I just didn’t want to. And, as I discovered at an early age, there’s one sure way to avoid being saddled with menial tasks: become notorious for being no good at them. Ugh. Of course, to play the role convincingly, you have to start early. Soon af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:02 PM
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Mothers who fail to protect their daughters anger me the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:49 PM
36

I wish RBG was here to see it. And Maya Angelou.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:17 PM
1

It gets easier the more you do it. Before long, it will be reflexive. Keep that crown up, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:58 PM
7

3 minutes? We should be so lucky. Thanks to porn addiction most of these losers will jackhammer you dry for hours and still have to finish with their hand. Y’all wanna have good sex? Invest in the best vibrator you can afford and make love with yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:56 PM
4

I am also sorry you were made to feel uncomfortable. You poor baby let me breast feed you! I’ll apply your Rogaine and rock you to sleep while you get in touch with your feelings. WHY HAS NO ONE PICKED ME YET?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:54 PM
3

I, too, was raised by a house cat. I’m only 2 years older than you, and hold tight while I give you a shot of real. You have to learn, to find some way to give yourself what she never gave you. I know that’s disappointing, but now it’s totally within your control. Unlike when you were growing up. We love you. You deserve to take care of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:51 PM
21

Porn and video gaming has eroded the parts of their brain necessary for appropriate social interaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:24 AM
68

He posted this to make fun of her. He’s mocking her. He doesn’t respect her. It radiates from this quick clip brighter than the fucking sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:39 PM
10

You’re fantastic. I forwarded this to an FDS acquaintance who’s struggling financially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:23 PM
5

I cringed so hard I think I sprained my asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:24 PM
38

He’s masking his contempt with strategic incompetence. He’s pissing on the floor knowing she’ll step in it and clean it up. That’s how much contempt and anger he has towards her. Then he gaslights her for good measure so he can keep doing it. Imagine hating your partner, the mother of your child, so much that you literally piss on her daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:27 PM
26

Strangling clothed women is currently illegal but maybe they’ll make it illegal if she’s naked. FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:42 PM
14

I fantasize about sitting on a throne while a series of very attractive men orally service me. Works every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:05 PM
67

Meanwhile the rapist is posting in /r/DeadBedrooms about how unsatisfying his sex life is she pulled a bait-and-switch she’s low libido they’re probably incompatible and maybe it’s time to cheat with a gal who “really desires” him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:54 PM
1

Girl you know I was thinking of you when I posted that comment. You know exactly what I’m talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:35 PM
170

Newt Gingrich served one of his wives (party of family values) divorce papers when she was in the hospital recovering from cancer surgery. While he was with his mistress. Men do this. It happens a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:43 PM
468

And after she dies, he’ll remarry in 6 months. I’m newly widowed (less than a year) and most men in the widower community don’t even bat an eye before they order a new appliance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:37 PM
117

The man who marries his mistress leaves a vacancy in the position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:32 PM
11

I’m so proud of you. I can’t wait to see how you’re going to help shake up the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:23 AM
3

Saw a post in /r/DeadBedrooms from a young girlfriend. She’s in her early 20’s, dating a guy for < 2 years, living with him. He broke his dick with porn and they haven’t had sex in 6 months. They’re “working on it” in counseling. I would direct you to the exact post but there’s too many to choose from. It’s a broken fucking record in that sub with all the porn widows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:56 PM
3

This is all deliberate. He’s playing a game. Fucking miss me with that “men are clueless and lazy” shit They are far more sinister and far more calculated than young women give them credit for. “What evil lies in the hearts of men? An older woman knows.” Margaret Atwood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:48 PM
8

I ended a 22-year relationship with my best friend few months ago for all these reasons. If I wouldn’t let a man do it to me, I sure as hell won’t let a woman. My demands for respect and reciprocity are unchanging and they are immovable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:45 PM
16

Ladies I speak Scrote. Allow me to translate. I generally think of myself as a pretty sexual person. I jerk off to porn for hours a day. I call myself heterosexual but my real sexual orientation is pornsick. I enjoy fantasizing about many scenarios and fetishes, including ones like BDSM... The porn I jerk off to involves beating and torturing women. I like to imagine it’s me making her cry. ...freeuse... I like women being used as passive, robotic sex dolls. I would love to fuck a woman I don’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:49 PM
3

Thank you for sharing this. I found it incredibly insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:29 PM
16

Powerful words. Thanks for sharing your level-up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:02 PM
55

If you learned the lesson, the money spent is just tuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:49 PM
9

YEah BuT fdS is a hAte SuB!!!1!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:54 AM
32

Hooters if he’s extra shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:44 AM
62

Besides all the gaslighting, he’s completely full of shit about other men. My late husband didn’t look at porn of any kind and didn’t use social media, either. At 36 years-old he got rock hard if I lightly brushed his thigh, he came easily and always when I gave him head, and he always went down on me to orgasm. He was the best lover I’ve ever known. People now would call it “vanilla” because he didn’t beat me or try to stick it in my ass, but it was wonderful. It was fun. It was still adventuro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:45 PM
25

Ahhhhh! Finally my dreams can be real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:38 PM
15

“I’m great at eating pussy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:33 PM
74

Tell me again why I’m supposed to want to get married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:49 PM
7

Goddamn imagine what it must be like. To be a man. To walk through life with brains full of shit like this and no hesitation to put it in practice. Imagine being made of nothing but mediocre dick and spectacular audacity. Imagine knowing, just knowing down in your pornsick bones that you’re entitled to a BangMommyMaid slave. Can you fucking imagine?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:06 PM
34

I’m glad you got out. I’m glad you’re here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:03 PM
124

I want to go have a drink with this woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:23 PM
279

Men don’t know how to be lovers anymore. Internet porn has destroyed their ability to make love with a human being. Destroyed their ability and their desire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:21 PM
67

It’s on the front page of relationship advice. She already kindly responded to me, so let’s not bombard her too much. I hope she finds our community. I’d also encourage her to checkout /r/PornFree for more words about porn addiction directly from the horses’ mouths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:17 AM
134

Rescue mission: engage. I PM’d her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:09 AM
661

He’s mocking her. He’s showing his contempt for her under the guise of “humor.” He knows exactly what he’s doing and he knows she won’t leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:10 PM
6

I’m always quick to remind our young posters here that this whole, “aww shucks I’m just a clueless, well-intentioned guy!” bit is just that. A bit. A joke. They hate women, especially any woman foolish enough to settle for a relationship with them. So they mock you and belittle you under the guise of humor. Or inattention to detail. It’s really just thinly veiled contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:25 PM
33

Oh he didn’t have to go search for it. He’s been watching it all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:07 PM
14

Because they don’t like condoms. And society imposes no social consequences for me who procreate indiscriminately. The only potential consequences for them are financial and even that is often poorly enforced. They know what Pickmes don’t or won’t acknowledge: their life doesn’t change much if you get pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:57 PM
118

On the front page of a certain sub we won’t name Why doesn’t she get it? He’s not thoughtless. In fact, he put quite a lot of thought into picking those gifts. It’s just the thoughts he was thinking that she won’t acknowledge. He hates her. He’s mocking her. He’s pretending to be a clueless helpless baby boy who just doesn’t know how he affects people. In reality, your husband hates you for being such a doormat. You disgust him with your silent debasement of yourself, and he’s using Christmas to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:53 PM
3

You could just...not anymore. Like, you didn’t make the Unbreakable Vow or anything. You could just walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:43 PM
49

Like he’s choosing furniture from a catalogue. “Hello? Yes, I’d like to order one Sex Woman please. No fatties.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:01 PM
28

He sounds like a 10 year-old boy drawing boobies on his notebook. I swear scrotes just regress further and further as the porn rots their gray matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:59 PM
44

I don’t want to date a stay-at-home mom. He talks about her like a random Tinder match and not a forever girlfriend he purposely impregnated and is buying a house with. This poor girl thinks his promotion means their promotion and she’s about to learn a very hard lesson about why he doesn’t want to marry her. Never ever build with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:57 PM
63

Is “Y-chromosome” an acceptable answer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:49 PM
135

I am a fair bit overweight, in the 60-70 lb range. That’s more than a “fair bit” there, Captain Confidence. They’re all liars anyway so I’m sure it’s closer to 100 pounds. She seems to enjoy it. Seems to. This means he’s not sure. Because sex is about his precious flaccid penis and what he can do with it, to her. They always give themselves away. Nope, society strikes again. Big dicks are better dicks. Well yeah they are, but besides that. What a joke. Age gap, he’s overweight, he’s clearly an i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:42 PM
9

Divorce is a fantastic, one-size-fits-all gift good for every occasion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:17 PM
28

God she’s this fucking close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:01 PM
14

OMG every time I hear anyone praise that fucking book I swear part of my soul dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:28 PM
27

My mother made me this way so she understands Bet Mom’s shoulders are completely hunched from carrying her son through life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:23 PM
323

100%. My feminism is for all women, even the ones who insist they don’t want it. Even the ones who actively oppose it. Even the ones who hate the mirror I hold up for them. Internalized misogyny can be complicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:20 PM
18

Except (male) porn stars can get hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:17 PM
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Ladies I’m recently widowed and affected by this very issue. I would like to share my point of view. I am highly educated and had a successful career in the same field as my partner. We built a solid life, and then because of my untreated drug addiction I lost said career. We don’t have children and our expenses were low. He made tons of money and could easily support us both. So I became a homemaker and enjoyed it greatly, and so did he. He was a wonderful HVM and enjoyed providing a comfortabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:45 PM
9

Porn addict “friend” with a 15-year forever girlfriend (whom I know very well socially) once complained that his girlfriend doesn’t understand him or love him. That she’s constantly bringing up stuff from the past that doesn’t matter anymore. That he’s tired of her crying and getting upset because she “wants to live in the past.” He said these things in bed. Because he was cheating on his girlfriend with me for 4 months. After getting caught cheating repeatedly over the years and masturbating to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:31 PM
2

Oops wrong thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:30 PM
30

This post brought to you by reproductive coercion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:20 PM
3

YESSSSSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:19 PM
105

I address this very issue pretty thoroughly here. In short, they’re not delusional (at least any more than the average scrote). They do this purposely it’s part of their game. Edit to add: it’s also become the standard scrote response to criticism hidden behind a third wave/LibFem facade. If you address that he’s a total mooch and contributes nothing to the relationship, he has a built-in response rooted in “equality.” bEcAuSe MeN aNd WoMeN sHoULd Be EqUaL. 🙄 Liberal Feminism contributes to our …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:58 PM
35

My best friend of 22 years, a single mother to 2 teenage girls, said shit like this all the time. There’s a reason it was 22 years and not 23. Bye, sis, hope you get picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:29 PM
10

HOPE YOU GET PICKED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:27 PM
9

Not having children is the smartest thing I ever did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:26 PM
2

... his current favorite is a girl 15 years younger than him. She's 25... He's preparing her to accept that he's going to cheat on her constantly and sent her a book explaining why it's a good thing. That’s exactly why he picked her. Because young Pickmes will do whatever Daddy tells them. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:15 PM
2

“...because of some fucked up shit on the website. Rape. The fucked up shit is rape. An entire generation of men have been programmed to hate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:11 PM
4

Interestingly, the phenomenon is not restricted to humans; a recent study found that male macaque monkeys gave up juice rewards to watch pictures of female monkeys’ bottoms. All males are coomer by nature, it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:09 PM
79

THAT’S THAT QUEEN ENERGY WE TALK ABOUT 👑✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:05 PM
3

I want to help for this reason: I didn’t understand. I spent my 20’s and early 30’s tangled with this fucking loser. I didn’t know back then what porn addiction was. I’m 40 and the Internet wasn’t a thing when we were very young. I thought the problem was me, that I wasn’t good enough. Now I see it so clearly and recognize the patterns. I think I should use that knowledge to help our younger Queens. Take no shit, sister. ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:54 PM
3

Some examples of pornsick indicators I’ve come across in my own life that don’t require getting naked before you know: He makes weird statements or conclusions about what other men are thinking about you. I was talking with a male “friend” (spoiler alert: he was most definitely NOT my friend) about a mutual male acquaintance whom I dislike. I was explaining that he doesn’t speak to me with respect and acts passive aggressive. Out of nowhere he said, “He just wants to fuck you. It’s probably beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:45 PM
57

All while teaching her son how women aren’t people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:55 PM
77

And he’ll spend the profits on hotel rooms and meals with other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:44 PM
10

I can guarantee Ms. Pickme will feel very differently about all this by the time she’s 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:02 PM
16

Can confirm. Mine rolled clear out of skull, down the stairs, and out the front fucking door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:59 PM
3

That’s cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:55 PM
22

And take it in the ass, no less. Fucking coomers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:15 PM
7

Thank you so much for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:10 PM
70

Call me a conspiracy theorist, but I’ve often wondered if companies like PornHub pay these people to defend them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:44 PM
53

Family annihilators chill me the most. I can’t even imagine the horror of me and our children dying at the hands of my own husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:07 PM
15

Eh. Hope they included the receipt so I can return it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:05 PM
11

I’m sorry you lost your husband. I did, too. We didn’t have children and I can’t imagine how much harder it would be if we did. You sound like a fierce, strong mama. Reading that thread made me so viscerally, passionately ANGRY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:09 PM
13

Yep. You don’t buy the whole cow if you’re already getting free milk on demand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:59 PM
4

Marble-mouthed trash he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:47 PM
63

He’ll be back in less than 6 months when he can’t get laid. I hope she slams the door in his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:29 PM
4

I enjoyed this very much. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:21 PM
28

This is truth. They think we only exist to be their whores, anyway, they just prefer to use a free coupon if they can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:15 PM
21

As a widow, I’d like to contribute some thoughts here. The nerve. The selfishness. The goddamn audacity. This poor girl lost her father. Her mother was left to raise her alone in the wake of losing her husband. If you don’t know how that feels (and I sincerely hope you never ever do), you can’t imagine the despair. The pain. To have come through that and find love again... ...for it to be a guy like this. Who would raid the money of a child left to her by her dead father for the purposes of her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:12 PM
5

This poor gal. You know how you can tell a guy wants to marry you? He’ll propose. If he’s not asking, it’s because he doesn’t want to. Pickme math wants to make 2+2=5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:05 PM
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🎶 Hey ladies 🎶 🎶 when your man wanna get buck wild 🎶 🎶 just throw it back in hit-em-up style 🎶 🎶 Get your hands on his cash and spend it to the last dime for all the hard times 🎶 🎶 When you go then everything goes 🎶 🎶 from the crib to the ride and the clothes 🎶 🎶 So you better let him know that if he messed up you gotta hit him up 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:12 PM
16

This makes me sexually aroused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:06 PM
7

Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:40 PM
8

This is EXCELLENT. Well done, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:39 PM
79

It really goes to show that LVM are people who just want to harm and degrade other people. They don’t see us as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:36 PM
2

Sign me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:24 PM
43

You’re lucky if all you have to endure is 46 seconds. Most of them have broken their dicks with porn and will jackhammer your pussy or mouth for hours if you let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:34 PM
1

I got this one, too. I love when they use a form letter to select me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:32 PM
11

Fucking hell. Some gals aren’t ready to be saved. They go to their graves having lived entire lives full of anxiety, pressure, and delayed satisfaction. Having never known the kind of mindless peace of a mediocre man with a BangMaidMommy. The saddest part is they genuinely don’t see any other way of being. It never occurs to them that they’re suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:20 PM
111

If he can’t or won’t make you cum, he’s not the one. If you can’t make him cum, he’s a porn addict and he’s definitely not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:34 AM
9

This is a great article. Thought provoking and I enjoyed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:32 AM
14

Welcome to FDS! The only thing worse than 2 years is 2 years and a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:18 PM
6

Rejecting patriarchy is fucking hard. It’s one of the hardest things. I try to be compassionate to what we’ve been conditioned into as women but fuck. The Aunts of our new Gilead anger me so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:43 PM
10

Hence why liberal feminism is so damaging. When the individual choice of one woman to participate in her own oppression is more important to you than the freedom and well-being of all women everywhere, then you’re part of the problem. Here we see the classic “I choose to be a prostitute/pornography participant/stripper because it’s empowering and I’m owning my sexuality and I’m a sex positive feminist. Yeah, that’s great, guess all the women who don’t have a choice don’t matter. All the abused a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:37 PM
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Ladies I’m 40. I’ve been through some SHIT and I want to tell you something. Put some Visine in your peepers before you read this, and make sure you’ve had your tea/coffee so you’re awake and it sticks. When men say what they don’t want, they’re really referring to what they know they can’t get Goddamn y’all men always tell on themselves. Always. I frequently see posts here related to OLD and ladies ask, “Why is it the broke guys who say ‘no gold-diggers’?” It’s because they know they’re fucking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:19 PM
10

I fucking LOVE to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:13 PM
53

You’re spot-on here. Patriarchy and the women who serve it (our mothers, grandmothers, and Pickme sisters and friends) have built romantic culture around “struggle love.” The reason they want to be told how to fix the unfixable is because our culture has taught us the only thing more important than getting the man is keeping the man. Even if he hates you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:12 PM
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They want you to cry “no, stop, ouch” and carry on anyway because it fulfils a rape fantasy. 🛎 🛎 🛎 This. This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:22 PM
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Because men end up resenting and hating Pickme’s as much as they hate themselves. As the joke goes: you don’t pay them to fuck you, you pay them to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:55 PM
1

Respect, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:34 PM
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These are the thoughts and behaviors of a deeply disturbed, unwell man. I’m so glad he’s in your past but I’m sorry he abused you like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:38 PM
2

Goddamn I’m broke as shit since my husband died I’ve gotta get in on this “having a penis and audacity” thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:50 PM
7

It bothers me, too, so I’ve always used Pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:28 PM
28

Education: School of hard knocks Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:26 PM
39

YES YES YES Saving this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:27 PM
8

Excellent but I also feel like “ethically nonmonogomous” deserves a spot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:21 PM
3

If it please the court, may I present evidence that liberal feminism is a goddamn joke? Exhibit A Men and men in dresses telling women they’re not real feminists Exhibit B The scores of fellow actual women who are happy to let men tell them what feminism is supposed to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:49 PM
24

THIS NEEDS TO BE REPEATED Sister I encourage you to devote a new thread to explore this topic. This is a finer point that’s getting lost in the discussion. There’s no fucking way he would be so openly offensive if their friendship culture didn’t allow and encourage it. They’re all pornsick, and he’s telling them every intimate thing about her. Ladies need to know the signs of how he’s disrespecting you when you’re not together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:42 PM
33

Struggle love is the biggest modern lie about dating perpetuated against women. Loving someone should NOT be a struggle and it’s not supposed to hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:56 PM
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Fucking Christ. Watching the new generation of men makes me excited to die alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:41 PM
9

Yeah no to all that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:39 PM
13

🛎🛎🛎🛎 This, ladies. /u/Phoenix__Rising2018 brings the wisdom as she always does. Standards are ironclad for a reason. They force a shift in your perceptions, make you see the truth in behaviors. When your boundaries are soft, you are the proverbial frog in the pot of slowly boiling water. Vet with immovable, unshakable scrutiny and you’ll never fall for the long con. 👑 up, Queens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:28 PM
35

“I think that women might actually be human beings.” Deep insights from some guy who likes tugging his dead dick to women being lovingly coerced into shame, degradation, and physical damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:32 PM
19

Sister I sincerely hope you don’t take it too personally. It took me a long time (I’m 40) to realize that basically every guy “friend” I’ve had isn’t really my friend. You didn’t do anything wrong. I will offer one piece of advice. Please don’t be offended because I offer it with care for your growth into your crown. “Not all men” is something men made up to put down our feminism. Don’t parrot it back to them and legitimize it. They’re not actually interested in a dialogue anyway, and all they’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:37 PM
17

Oh, honey. This fucking guy is NOT your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:19 PM
12

Holy shit. You’re so clever I never would have picked up on that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:06 PM
32

Do you have a problem with demisexuality? No more than I do with the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus. Patriarchy uses language to control our thoughts; labeling normal human emotions as a sexual orientation further “kink”ifies us. It’s bullshit. Only wanting to have sex with men who value and love you isn’t like being gay or straight or bi. Like goddamn how much do we hate ourselves to label ourselves for their convenience? And it IS for their convenience. Men created “demisexual” so we’ll label our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:46 AM
3

Gotdamn it’s like a bingo game at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 11:07 PM
12

men venting about the poisonous effects of male culture on them as men wHy DoN’T lADiEs cArE?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:59 PM
45

tHaT mAkEs YoU DeMisExUaL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:54 PM
6

No. Just no on all of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:24 AM
58

But is it as good as this one field I keep hearing about...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:05 PM
8

Y’all put some respect on my favorite Challenge competitor of all-time. The funeral for her wig will never not be funny. She’s a gem and as classy as they come. She has her own history with LVM on the show (looking at you, Big Easy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:01 PM
12

I’m not interested in hookups, either! Then proceeds to describe hooking up as his primary goal. God they can’t even lie consistently in the same conversation. OLD is fucking trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:46 PM
18

😢 RIP /r/blackpillfeminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:39 PM
41

Ugh fucking hell EVERY SINGLE ONE. At least, the ones that aren’t from psychopaths and porn widows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:37 PM
34

Never let go of your elephant memory, ladies. Gaslighting can’t work if you acknowledge objective reality. But always pause for self-reflection if you find yourself filing away specific examples and behaviors to bring as evidence before the court in later arguments. This indicates the male in question has a pattern of making you doubt your own feelings, experiences, and memories. Males who love you don’t do that. Never stop self-reflecting my fellow queens. Never ever not even on your death bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:35 PM
71

My late husband was just like this guy, through and through. I miss him more every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:28 PM
76

Sister I’m so proud of you for recognizing your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:48 PM
103

Yeah the takeaway is that men are abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:41 PM
8

Fucking A sister I’m so very proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:06 PM
136

I’ve learned the hard way that “closure” is a myth. We pretend it’s an acceptable reason to keep getting high on our love drug. It’s bullshit. It doesn’t exist. The person who hurt you can never be the person who heals you. You know what “closure” really is, ladies? Closing the door behind you when you walk away. Keep those crowns up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:00 PM
11

...but I’ll try to only include what I think is relevant. Oh I bet you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:21 AM
206

And black women deserve love that doesn’t break their spirit in two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:45 AM
20

Excellent points. Maybe take a hard pass on dating within your field/artistic community for a while and see how you feel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:48 PM
115

Potential is meaningless. Motivation is worthless. Believe evidence, not arguments Facts, not intentions. Show me your worth, don’t tell me. When you act based on objective reality and not potential, they can’t trick you. Crowns up, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:44 PM
64

I am newly widowed at 7 months. Believe me when I tell you they are completely incapable of the kind of grief we are. They’re looking for a new wife appliance before the next trash day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:16 PM
8

This is a fantastic topic for discussion. I’ve never considered this, OP. I’m eager to read more thoughts from the ladies here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:11 PM
13

I have 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:39 PM
18

Thank me later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:27 PM
11

I once asked a 40+ why he never lived with a girlfriend. His answer: I like being naked a lot and most girls aren't into that. That’s a weird way to say “I like jerking off to porn for 4 hours every day.” Is English not his first language?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:38 PM
2

Thank you for sharing your experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:32 PM
56

Internet porn is a whole new animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:15 PM
94

It’s the porn, y’all. Internet porn is a social and sexual experiment happening in real time. And 98% of men are watching it on a regular basis. Get used to the new normal, ladies, and act accordingly. Buy stock in Womanizer and purchase your water-based pH neutral lube in bulk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:13 PM
3

wHy IsN’t ThErE a WhItE hIsToRy MoNtH?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:05 PM
2

...their kink tends to revolve around feeling humiliated for being treated the way women get treated. This. I think you’ve nailed it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 04:37 PM
4

The Musician in a Shitty Local Cover Band Guy. Ladies, y’all know what I’m talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 04:35 PM
9

5’9” So 5’7”? 175 So 225? The beer gut and MySpace angle confirm the above. In addition, I note saddle leather arms and hands plus a dirty t-shirt that I guarantee smells like gasoline. The gotdamn audacity of penis creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:13 PM
7

You cut straight to the core of it here. This comment has such an energy that I’m gonna carry into my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:10 PM
11

TwoX is modded and populated primarily by men in dresses and pseudo-spiritual feminist pro-porn wokeboys. Any views on feminism offered by biological women is scrubbed from existence or shouted over. Just like men have always done. Whether wearing pants or a spinny spin skirt, men want in our spaces. They want in our political and social movements. They want in our dressing rooms, our support groups, our hospital units. They want in our heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:43 PM
9

Hugs, sister. I’m in the club, too, and I fucking hate it. After what I had with him, I can’t dream of settling for the kind of men I see out here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:34 PM
8

I’m the product of IVF with donor sperm. I’ve known since I was 13 (now 40) and agree that I always thought it was cool as shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:32 PM
15

I believe Sandra Bullock did something similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:30 PM
2

Ladies, Short Man Syndrome is very real. Act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:28 PM
37

“Not chasing” is a FDS rule that applies to all my interpersonal relationships now. I am recently widowed (7 months yesterday). My best friend of 22+ years is a dedicated Pickme and I had previously made my peace with it because we have always been so solid. But now, going through the most overwhelming thing you can imagine, she has not been there for me. She has completely checked out of supporting me despite ongoing and repeated efforts on my part. And yet she expects me to be there for her an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:51 PM
29

u/LadyGrimes, we keep running into each other here and it pleases me greatly. Today is a hard day. I’m missing my love so much (7 months yesterday since he died) and I recognize that I’ll never find another like him. He was best man I’ve ever known and I’ve never met another fit to clean his shoes. Loss is hard enough, but losing a man like him? And fucking hell the widowers I keep meeting. Talked to one recently who lost his wife after 39 years of marriage and remarried 3 months after her death…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:42 PM
9

... but those who reject her probably watch porn themselves. Well yeah. They’re the ones who recognized her in the first place. The women in porn aren’t human beings to them, not even when they’re sitting right in front of them in a job interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:00 PM
10

Fucking Christ I’m so excited to die alone y’all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:58 PM
19

i DoN’t LiKe LaBeLs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:09 PM
7

Ugh you should do an AMA with us. I think it could help so many of us ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:58 PM
12

I hate to admit that I’m currently in one. I’m in the process of extricating myself, and it’s a direct result of FDS. I finally saw the light and I’m running for my life; running away from all the people who hurt and disregard me. I feel free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:02 PM
25

This needs to be its own post. Please consider expanding on this for everyone in the community. I would certainly find it helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:58 PM
2

“What evil lurks in the hearts of men? An older woman knows.” Margaret Atwood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:47 PM
8

Porn makes reddit a metric shit ton of money, y’all. Of course they don’t want anyone talking about the realities of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:15 PM
46

Men can’t let us have anything, not even fucking childbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:14 PM
10

“Ready for new adventures” Can you pay my child support? GIRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:53 PM
6

I fucking dig this attitude. I also despise OLD, but recognize that some gals are gonna try it. If so, let’s keep ‘em safe. Harm reduction is important. But I don’t think OLD (in its current iteration) is in our best interest as women. I don’t support its use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:20 PM
8

These apps are not your friend. You are the product they are selling to men. Like gotdamn sis. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:18 PM
11

I had never heard of this before. Thanks for sharing. Excellent points you’ve made here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:16 PM
30

OLD isn’t designed for us or our best interest. Remember that, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:21 PM
8

FUCK YEAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:22 PM
33

Yeah Demi Lovato is a mess and don’t think she’s the one to look up to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:30 PM
12

... Until I realized he had goaded me into getting rid of him so he could save face as the "good guy." This is such an important point. They do this on purpose. And when the Pickme stays cause nothing he does can make her leave, he begins to hate and resent her. The simple fact is that if he’s treating you like shit, it won’t change whether you stay or whether you don’t. A gal with self-respect, a Queen, walks away with her head held high because we don’t tolerate being treated like shit, no mat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:37 PM
7

This made my goddamn day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:24 PM
7

Shut it down, ladies. We got a winner for the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:20 PM
17

Yeah but their gyms suck if you’re a serious athlete. Hence, I endure the sea of sweaty scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:31 PM
10

Pornsick basement cave-dweller uses bio to type out masturbatory fantasy perfect woman, hasn’t had date since Mom dropped him off at the middle school graduation dance. Film at 11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:13 PM
2

I’ve read through the link you posted, and I’ve just started gathering my lists. Thank you thank you for sharing this. I have a feeling it’s going to make a big difference for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:04 PM
19

Sister my hope is to see you here again in a few years and hear that you’re doing this anyway. You paid to be there, too, so fuck those guys. Take your sweet time and if they don’t like it tell ‘em to eat fairway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:51 PM
10

I’m a runner. I would run at night, when it’s not over 100 degrees in the summer. I would run and feel free as the wind, free to run as long and as far as I please without being hunted down like a deer. And I would work out at the gym without earbuds because none of these pathetic fucks would be trying to talk to me. They still try even with earbuds, but they try less often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:45 PM
30

My heart hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:43 PM
11

This is my pornography. Male tears make my nipples hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:04 PM
3

Fuck I loooove this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:53 PM
8

This was in the early days of growing the sub, so most of them had never been exposed. Now it’s a hot topic of discussion across the male spaces of Reddit (so the entire fucking site), so a lot of women have now already been fed the standard line about who we are. And yet our numbers continue to grow. This means that yes, 4 out of the 5 may not be ready, but 1 of them is. And that’s damn good start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:10 PM
7

I actually recognize you from /r/widowers. How delightful to see that you’re FDS, too. If we have to be in this shitty club, I’m glad to know there’s someone who knows how I feel. Hugs to you my friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:05 PM
28

That’s a good point and I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:39 AM
82

Yes. I’m dealing with these feelings as a young woman recently widowed. He was the absolute definition of a HVM and the core of my heart. He set the bar so high that it’s just now hitting me. I mean really hitting me. I’m going to be alone. Forever. Sincerely. Only because I have no faith or confidence in ever meeting someone of his caliber ever again. He set the bar so high that no man could measure up, and I’ll never again be able to settle. I’ve dabbled in sex with someone else since he passe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:35 AM
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I did this regularly in /r/Relationship_Advice for awhile. I eventually ran out of energy when the Pickmes just constantly hit me with internalized misogyny bullshit. For every 5 gals I PM’d, at least 4 of them would go to greet lengths to chastise me. -I’m a bitter man-hater and a prude. -Her relationship is perfect and he only rapes her ass on “accident” sometimes. -I can’t possibly understand that her perfect prince doesn’t have ED at 27 because of porn! -I can’t possibly understand that his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:15 AM
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A woman I’m not afraid to lose because I know they’ll always be there. It’s this right here for me. Ladies, they often tell you. And when they do, it’s in plain language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:13 AM
3

Jesus Christ. I had a visceral cringe response to this so severe that I choked on my food. Fuck all of this shit right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:43 PM
12

This is, quite simply, a fantastic strategy. Another stealth way to improve vetting. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:28 PM
6

Betcha quarter she lets him put it in her ass and pretends to like it, too. Pickmes gonna Pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:26 PM
3

It refers to male porn/masturbation addicts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:03 PM
15

Your Suitor Fight Club fantasy is my new fantasy. So while porn will never help women, you have helped me. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:02 PM
2

PORNSICK, LIMP DICK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:25 AM
36

Fucking coomers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:26 AM
3

I’ve never heard of this scheme before. How does one use NC as a ploy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:54 AM
11

For any ladies who missed it, this is why we’re not having anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:39 AM
21

They all believe in struggle love. It’s the biggest fucking scam of all time. I just wanna shake the shit outta my goddaughter when she takes their lying, cheating fuck boi asses back for the zillionth time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:43 AM
44

I hope this fucking loser has diarrhea right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:58 PM
28

Ugh I wish she would go away. She’s a walking RP/MGTOW/incel bingo card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:57 PM
28

Hundreds of dollars? Ladies, this haul is thousands of dollars if those are legit products. Clown college is getting hella expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:38 PM
114

It physically arouses me reading it, though. My nipples literally got hard. Male tears are my kink y’all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:22 PM
538

This is my pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:02 PM
12

“I don’t want to define us. I don’t like labels.” Let’s fuck when I wanna but leave me alone in between. “You’re so amazing. You deserve the best, better than a guy like me.” RUN RUN RUN, sister. Run Forrest, run. Run like the gotdamn wind. “I’ve never been a big fan of (marriage/kids/home buying/relocating/any life progression milestone common among mature adults) but could see it with you.” Future faking. You’re not special, but he wants you to believe you are. You want to believe you are, too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:51 PM
3

Fucking right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:45 PM
29

See, he didn’t forget her birthday: she forgot to remind him about her birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:31 PM
1

tHe ThInG iS i WaNt tO ApPrOaCh iT sEnSiTiVeLy It’s the goddamn handmaidens who are Judas-ing the fuck outta us. Fucking hell it’s hopeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:17 AM
116

Don’t be fooled, ladies. We could be covered head-to-toe like many oppressed women all over the world and they would still eye rape us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:19 AM
13

Pickmeisha aspires to be a “true hoe.” Don’t feel too sorry for her just yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:47 AM
10

I’m sorry he did that to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:29 AM
4

This article brought to you by the Prince of Persuasia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:13 PM
13

Any motherfucker who uses “vibe” as a sex bait should be immediately dumped in the ocean. Avoid the vibers, chillers, and explorers at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:58 PM
7

A good woman is too much work for a shitty, lazy man. They tell us who they are all the time if you’re just willing to listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:14 PM
8

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:54 PM
14

Just wait until you get to experience their flaccid dicks, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:15 PM
1

Mr. Furious strikes fear in the heart of the city
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:01 PM
8

He’s too cheap to pay a prostitute for the early bird special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:14 PM
3

I tell my actual friends that I miss them all the time. And that's because I actually do miss them, not because I'm just trying to slide back into their lives like some greased up poltergeist. Biiiiiiiiiiitch 😂 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:00 PM
11

MEN AIN’T SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:04 PM
2

This lady knows men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:03 PM
10

I’m a runner and participate regularly in that sub. I watched this unfold and was very, very disappointed. Men will never for even a moment be able to imagine what it’s like to be us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:43 PM
22

I silence my opinions for no man and that’s what Reddit is predominantly composed of. My feminism is for human biological females.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:11 PM
19

That was the most pretentious, classist, Marie-Antoinette-shit I have ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:37 PM
3

And their dicks don’t work, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:25 PM
11

She probably did but he didn’t pick up his cell because we was inside another woman on his “business trip.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:18 PM
76

Nope. Let go of your need for the last word, for snappy comebacks, for pithy fuckoffs, for “closure” or “healing” or any of that stuff. Crack them with the whip of your indifference, sister, and give not another second of your energy to shitty men. As a bonus, it also makes them more angry than anything you could ever say. Your words don’t mean anything to them but being ignored sure does hurt their limp dicks. Let them wonder, fume, excuse, and lie to themselves all day long. Keep moving and ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:26 PM
23

As women it’s especially important to get in touch with who we really are and what is just trauma baggage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:19 PM
3

Queen why on EARTH would you allow him to disrespect you like this? The first and only reply should have been scorched earth with an immediate block and delete. This man is disgusting and you dodged a bullet. Good for you. Ladies never, ever JADE: justify, apologize, defend, or explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:27 PM
8

You’re correct, of course, but pornsick men don’t see reality. In their warped vision they hate Chad for fucking all these women almost as much as they hate the women they see being fucked. They have been conditioned to envy the abuser they’re watching while resenting and hating the women he’s abusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:23 PM
10

Half the species are pornsick life support systems for dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:18 PM
6

He wasn’t really your friend. They never are. He was just a guy you haven’t fucked yet (from his POV). It’s a tough lesson, but you’ll do well to heed it in the future. Best of luck to you Queen. Don’t let em grind you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:24 PM
20

This is why I only go to women’s only NA/AA meetings. Lots of men actively prey on women in recovery as we all have trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:08 PM
4

Betcha his mistress doesn’t have chronic pain and body image issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:41 PM
11

Oh my sweet summer child. She’ll be pregnant again as soon as she can. Internalized misogyny is a lifelong battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:34 PM
18

My heart hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 01:22 PM
10

Ugh the internet ruined everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 01:19 PM
23

Ahhh. I see now. My confusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:19 AM
130

Any man who uses the phrase “good vibes” is looking for easy sex. Immediate pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:14 AM
22

Use that report button, ladies. I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:11 PM
6

FUCK YOU, MIKEY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:36 PM
3

It sucks that they can’t naturally or automatically acknowledge how fucked up it is with out them experience it themselves Oh totally. The “she’s someone’s daughter/sister/wife” crowd pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:36 PM
62

No, honey. No no no. This is not the way my queen. Of course I am lol Why? Why are you interested in this? You’re letting him bait you when you should ignore, block, and move on. Start practicing matching energy. Complete indifference should receive the same. Best of luck to you, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:20 PM
133

There are lots of ways to abuse a woman without ever putting a hand on her. Financial exploitation IS abuse, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:17 PM
13

What I’m drawing from the comments in this thread is that both attractive and less-than-attractive guys are assholes. What’s left then? 🥴 A toxic plague of masculinity upon the earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:31 PM
88

“Demanding” is what he thinks will be sexy code for “dominating.” Because the only reason he is trolling OLD is for young women to abuse as living fuck dolls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:28 PM
2

Goddamn I’m going to start wearing an iron chastity belt. There is no hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:40 AM
9

Morticia and Gomez have always been my greatest couple fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:52 PM
21

YESSSSSSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:33 PM
27

LOOKIT HOW HE PICKED ME Y’ALL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:25 AM
58

Betcha she still gives him head. Pickmes go down fighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:38 AM
13

I’m newly widowed (3 months). There are a multitude of men in my grief support groups who immediately held tryouts for the new one. I’ll never forget the guy in his late 50’s who lost his wife to cancer after decades of marriage and remarried in less than 3 months. My own grandfather lost his wife after 66 years of marriage. He sent all her clothing and belongings to Goodwill within the week and hasn’t spoken about her since. This is why, just like my NA meetings, I now attend women-only grief s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:33 PM
24

i DoN’t LiKe RoUgH cHoKiNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:29 PM
30

nOt AlL mEn ThO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:18 PM
6

I don’t know what I want right now I don’t want you right now. There you go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:10 PM
5

They’re all hooked on gross Eastern European rape /aggression porn. Yes, it’s its own genre and PornHub is brimming with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:54 PM
3

It’s like they’re devolving and reverting back to base stereotype at an alarming rate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:46 PM
3

You and I are the same person. I could have written every single word if I was as articulate. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:41 PM
45

... white, cisgender women with relative class privilege who mostly came from a "sex-positive feminist" background and understood sex work as "empowering for women"—which is problematic in a number of ways, not least because not all sex workers are women. Can’t let any opportunity to cater to men slip away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:01 PM
42

The dermal piercing looks like a butthole and I find that appropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:42 AM
13

We both agree that it would be ridiculous to end our relationship because of one event. “We both agree that it would be ridiculous to end our relationship over my lack of integrity or willingness to meet her needs.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:15 PM
42

This current culture of men don’t use dating sites to actually date, though. They use it to order free sex and the getting-to-know-you stuff is no different than pleasantries you’d exchange with your deli guy. Perfunctory. OLD has gone full commodification of what used to be an organic process. LibFems (reformed, myself) have contributed to this by promoting risky casual sex on demand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:57 PM
84

I’d be like, “Wow, I’m so pleased you’re interested in getting to know me more. I’m more than happy to video chat over Skype or Whatsapp/WeChat if you want to see whether we interact well.” I don’t audition for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:52 PM
10

Yep. They split up for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:01 PM
32

Fucking Christ men ain’t SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:18 PM
4

I hope he gets fucked in the ass first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:52 AM
20

So glad my wife isn’t anything like you bunch of sad women, she would be miserable just like you all are. Don’t worry buddy: we’re saving her a spot here. Give her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:37 AM
8

MEN. AIN’T. SHIT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:38 PM
36

Oh there’s no love in this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:04 PM
42

Well if there’s one thing I’ve learned about men, it’s that their grasp of “no” is pretty bad in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:59 PM
182

The average rating is about 7/10 from what I saw. Didja hear that, Reddit? My boyfriend is a fucking weirdo loser but I’m GOOD AT SEX! I’M COOL AND GOOD AT THE SEX. Am I being unreasonable? Should I communicate more?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:54 PM
13

“If you have a guy who refuses to use a condom, this is a great option,” she added. Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:58 PM
22

Idk what that is called :( Low self-confidence. It’s the need to be seen, to be heard. This is a normal need and when expressed with safe people it’s perfectly healthy. But when we’ve already decided these guys aren’t safe people, then we’ve decided their validation means nothing to us. Therefore our attempts to be seen and heard can never be satisfactory: we already know they cannot see and cannot hear us. We cannot heal our hurt by bringing it to the one who hurt us, no matter how our low self…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:46 PM
6

I’m a horror fanatic so here are my recommendations within that genre. The Silence of the Lambs. Clarice Starling is my favorite woman in horror. Hands down. The movie itself is perfection but Jodie Foster as Clarice is a revelation. There’s a reason she won the Oscar that year. The Descent There are no words. Watch it. A movie full of nothing but women from beginning to end (there are brief flashback scenes involving a husband). You’re Next Survivalist/home invasion horror with a badass heroine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:34 PM
15

Breath play And when he starts hitting her he’ll call it “impact play” (yes this is a real thing). Next time he strangles her, while he’s waiting to see if she’s dead or just unconscious, he’ll stick it in her ass and call it “corpse play.” I hope this poor gal gets out and gets therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:05 PM
16

You’re not stupid, my dear. You’re here and wanting to work on it. That’s not stupid. You knew not to unblock him. You had already decided he is LVM, so there shouldn’t be any reason to unblock or communicate. He won’t become HVM. That’s not how it happens. So opening that door was something you did based on your own loneliness, fear, poor self-esteem and doubt, etc. That’s the thing to work on. That’s the stuff that keeps you from the lesson. FDS isn’t just about dating. By requiring the highes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:56 PM
15

This is what happens when you ignore the FDS principles, OP. This is why we encourage you to do it our way. Because once you’ve decided he’s LVM there’s no reason to ever speak to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:45 PM
5

This is fucking EXCELLENT advice. Seriously. I needed to read this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:57 AM
8

I’m just here to rep for /r/blackpillfeminism don’t mind me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:52 AM
34

Those are Pickme responses. Be better than this. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:44 AM
23

No nudes. Never, not for any reason. There is no level of security or trust that can be applied here: the limit does not exist. This is one of those things that should not be a gray area. It is never a good decision and FDS ladies should not be doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:23 PM
11

You wouldn’t BELIEVE what I had to go through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:42 AM
5

You wouldn’t BELIEVE what I had to go through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:41 AM
12

They’re interchangeable now. As we women we are just life support systems for orifices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:18 PM
71

This was like boyfriend and girlfriend when we were together. Uh huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:10 PM
12

I disagree. Our feminism is for women. When we cover up for male toxicity and “mind our own business” it helps men victimize other women. You would deserve to know. Our daughters would deserve to know. Our best friends and mothers would deserve to know. And that stranger deserves to know, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:58 PM
9

I remember your original thread. I’m proud of you for doing the right thing. She reacted about like you and everyone else thought she would, but you didn’t just do it for her. You did it for you, too. You have put energy into the world that you are no longer tolerating toxic men. You’re no longer going to let men treat you like a sex robot in storage. You’re not going to cover up for shitty behavior by men who don’t care about you at all. No more keeping secrets or keeping our mouths shut. Good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:19 PM
3

Jeez. Everyone in that sub listens to way too much Nine Inch Nails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:15 PM
10

I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:38 AM
29

I just passed a month. It’s even more bittersweet that I waited my whole life to find a gem of a man among the trash, only to lose him after just under a decade. But at least we had that deep love and I know I’ll always cherish it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:03 AM
47

I’m newly-widowed. I’m here if you need to talk. I just reported a post on /r/widowers today from some guy trolling for booty. It’s a thing, but men are mostly worthless so it doesn’t surprise me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:51 PM
306

Cause no one rides harder for a deadbeat dad than the new girlfriend. She’s one of the Four Horseman Pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:13 PM
17

I was in a brief flirtation/situationship in my early 20’s with a musician. He was going through a divorce at the time and refused to have penetrative sex with me for “religious reasons” because he was still legally married, but he “allowed” me to give him a blowjobs after weeks of making out. He literally never called me again after that, and when I ran into him in public he pretended he didn’t know me. I let some trash guitarist in a mediocre local metal band ejaculate in my mouth, and I told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:13 PM
23

Oh, I totally get that it sucks. I’ve had to break it to a few gals and it was always ridiculous to watch them Pickme their way into making it my fault. But here’s the thing: it’s not my fault. It’s my business because your man is trying to skeeve on me, but other than that this isn’t my life and isn’t about me. I was an ICU/trauma nurse for a long time. I often had to discuss difficult diagnoses or outcomes with people who didn’t want to hear or accept the truth. Anger, denial, blame: these are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:07 PM
37

Part of being a feminist is doing what’s right even when it’s not popular. And what’s more feminist than looking out for other women? When you don’t speak up you help patriarchy (her cheating boyfriend, the socialized inclinations of women to lie for men) keep the truth from her. Sure she may not do anything with the knowledge, but she deserves to know. All women deserve the truth. Don’t help men be shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:41 PM
9

She’s not even his wife. The limit does not exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 11:41 PM
23

My wife is a sexual abuse survivor so I cheat on her. I’m also tall. Someone get me a towel I’m so wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:29 PM
133

Girl why are you sharing your traumas with a stranger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:12 PM
5

Ahhhh. Gotcha. Thanks for filling me in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:56 AM
24

Laura Prepon is a Scientologist, yes? I prefer my FDS cult-free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:45 AM
14

Come on. You know the answer to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:02 PM
45

I’m just gonna leave this here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:03 AM
23

If you had a serious relationship, possibly engagement etc, that falls out after the other person hurts you, and they come back after some time realizing their mistakes, wanting to be better, how do you ladies keep moving forward? My first question would be, “How did you get around the fact that I blocked your phone number, email, and social media?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:23 PM
311

I read this yesterday and it killed me. I lost my partner less than a month ago and have been devastated, so I’ve been hanging out in widower support subs and forums elsewhere. So many men who were married for 15,20, even 30-40 years and then turn around and immediately remarry. A lot of them have kids. It drives home for me that we give them our youth, our bodies, our dreams, and our futures. We give them the children they helped make. And when we’re gone, it’s like replacing someone on the ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:50 PM
12

hE’s GrIeViNg ToO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:05 PM
8

...as she’s a little bit chubby, so I let it go. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:41 PM
23

This is really the heart of it, right here. This is why no amount of male domination will ever be enough, why no level of control or privilege or female submission will ever satisfy us. We can put you under a burqa, we can force you out of the workplace -- it won't matter. You're still all we think about, and that gives you power over us. And we resent you for it. Well there you go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:11 PM
57

Yep yep and yep. This right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:06 PM
14

One of the most common misconceptions about humiliation play is that it's antifeminist. But the truth is, many feminists enjoy being called names such as “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore” in bed. Remember to discuss such activities beforehand and keep it consensual. That way, it’s feminist AF to engage in such play. In a patriarchal world where women have long been told sex is just to make babies, addressing what gets you off—especially if it’s nontraditional like humiliation—and then engaging it can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:44 PM
18

Inviting strange men you meet online sleep to sleep in your home for the night is a bad idea? Huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:39 PM
40

As feminists it’s perfectly reasonable to have reservations about religions/belief systems that have known biases against women. I wouldn’t be interested in a Muslim or Mormon, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:01 AM
19

Oh fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:57 PM
1

Girl you’re good. I just have word vomit occasionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:24 AM
3

I appreciate the thoughts, but it’s a financial motive. She’s trying to get to financial data/login info for stuff, and she’s just finished throwing me out of my house (in his name). It’s a long, shitty story but she’s a fall-down drunk who was constantly begging us for money. She’s done all kinds of horrendous, evil things since he passed. Including screaming at me that it’s my fault and barring any of my family or support people from his viewing. Now she’s withholding his ashes. Ladies. Never,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:03 PM
8

Thank you. Initially I blamed myself in a lot of ways, but I was an amazing partner. So I thought this thread came at the right time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:57 PM
9

I’m going through something similar with my fiancé’s phone following his death (his mom stole it and refuses to return it, even though it’s my plan). I started with a certified letter informing her that legally the phone belongs to me, I am the plan holder, enclosed is a postage-paid envelope in which you can mail it back, etc. I even noted in there the section of contract I’m referring to, and proof that the phones and plan are all in my name. I also included reference to the time frame in whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:56 PM
29

I’ve been thinking a lot about my own character and behavior since my fiancé died 15 days ago. I’d like to offer the following about myself: I’m really fucking smart. I’m really compassionate. I’m funny. I’m a dedicated friend and romantic partner. I’m very talented at gardening, cross stitch, and I’m a super fast reader. My hobbies make me interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:48 PM
27

He's such a dumpster of a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:41 PM
27

...and I could tell that this was enough for her. There you have it. In plain language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:23 PM
50

This has been on the front page of /r/PussyPassDenied for a few days. Take your blood pressure meds before you read the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:23 PM
267

I WAS ONCE IN AN ACCIDENT SHOW ME YOUR TITS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:21 PM
19

Tupac was a convicted rapist who made vile music about women on a consistent basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:09 AM
5

Also please don’t brigade posts in other subs. This is harassment and against Reddit terms. They can use mass behavior like this to shut us down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:56 PM
28

100% this. All of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:30 AM
9

I have a wonderful support system and they’re all here with me. You ladies have become an additional part of my support system over the past year or so; guess it felt natural to continue that now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:13 AM
45

Like how everyone just skipped over the whole “oh btw he raped me” thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 07:52 PM
35

My partner committed suicide yesterday. We were having our wedding ceremony and reception on Halloween. He left no note and there were no clues prior that he was going to do this. I don’t know why I’m posting this here. I guess I’ve just found so much support from the women here and I trust you ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:42 PM
3

Read the sidebar. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 08:34 PM
14

I in no way claimed she’s low value. Just to clarify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:31 PM
64

I have mixed feelings about RiRi. On the one hand, she’s a completely amazing artist with such flair and such style. It’s long been rumored that Jay Z groomed her and was having sex with her when she was only 17. She was the victim of heinous abuse at the hands of someone she loved (Chris Brown), and was further victimized when the police reports and photos of her injuries were splashed all over the world. And again when people everywhere, including women, took to her abuser’s defense. And again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:39 PM
11

I hope she cleans his fucking CLOCK in divorce court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:12 PM
2

Some of the biggest FDS rockstars are women for whom this doesn't come naturally, they've just gotten really good at discipline and self-control. Yes! This is definitely me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:11 PM
11

Ummm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:43 AM
4

You’re one of the good ones, sis. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:28 AM
14

If ever there was a time to point out that our feminism must be for women, this is it. She needs to know and you need to tell her. Straighten your crown and get it done, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:16 PM
88

Clearly smell isn’t a problem when they’re wanting to stick their dick in your asshole. Where all the shit is. Let’s not even talk about the ones who want to eat it by shoving their tongues in your asshole. Punk ass booty bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:17 PM
26

I don’t think the goal of FDS is to turn into a robot. You’re gonna struggle with self-esteem and with destructive attractions and impulses. The goal of FDS principles, I think, is to give you the skills and tools to manage your dating life. When you’re drawn to men who aren’t good for you, FDS keeps you from making very serious mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:13 PM
80

Male opinions mean less than nothing to me. 💅🏻 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:20 PM
50

Asking a male to give an opinion on your appearance is not something healthy ladies do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:18 PM
206

Oh my god fuck this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:17 PM
33

This year I’m only reading books by women authors, so I’m catching up on that. Doing a lot of cooking and baking. Spring planting, pruning, and tidying up both outside and for all my orchids and houseplants inside. I’m catching up on podcasts and cross stitching. I’m enjoying marathons of MST3K and RiffTrax on Pluto TV cuddled up with the cats. I start each morning with yoga on Amazon Prime in my living room. I’m also doing a deep spring clean of the whole house. It looks fantastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:56 AM
67

One of my closest friends from childhood is the smartest women I’ve ever met. She was pursuing advanced biochemical degrees at a prestigious university while I was waiting tables and fucking around in life. But then she got pregnant with some townie loser in the merchant marines. After they had the kid she dropped out. Said she would go back and finish later. They had another kid and got married. She never went back to university. He ended up leaving her for someone else, and she has since gone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:44 PM
19

Former bartender here! Same. Except I tended in a strip club. 😳 The money was amazing but fucking Christ did it make me hate men for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:36 PM
5

She won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:39 AM
5

Guarantee he woulda done it for a blowjob. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:07 PM
10

Men in dresses took over as mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:05 PM
6

Yep. Mr. Robot “babysits” the child he helped make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:04 PM
10

SAFE SAFE SAFE He’s not a child or a Chihuahua. They don’t live in war-torn Syria. The only problem out on the streets in their town are the wild Pickmes with Facebook accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:37 AM
28

Therapy. Therapy. Therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:32 AM
11

QUEEN SHIT 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:29 AM
5

My husband wasn’t home both times, but when I told him about it later he was dumbfounded. He couldn’t believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:44 PM
13

I didn’t, but I walked around shouting, “Thank fuck they’re gone!” at the top of my lungs which is basically the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:51 PM
19

yes, he has cheated on me. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:26 PM
42

It’s wild. Men in their 20’s are experiencing ED on a massive scale and everyone just...thinks it’s totally normal. I used to fuck a 23 year-old who literally could not get it up spontaneously: he required pornography to perform. But his lackluster performances had no final act, at least not with me. He never once ejaculated during sex. Not once in over 5 years (off and on) of sex. Not once. This was during the dawn of online pornography, before smart phones were even invented (I’m 40). I cannot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:10 PM
93

I had 8 houseguests in my home very recently: two sets of heterosexual couples and the rest their children. I watched both wives pack everyone’s suitcases (including the men’s) and haul them out to the car. I watched them struggle to lift them into the trunk and Tetris that shit around. What were the men doing? Chilling on the couch drinking coffee. The day they arrived we decided we needed to move a large piece of furniture out of the guest room to increase space. Guess who moved it? Yep: both …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:06 PM
54

We are watching a massive social experiment in real time. An entire generation of men have been irreparably damaged by online pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:00 PM
9

Holy shit. That is an excellent quote and it explains a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:57 PM
3

My latest PM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:42 PM
2

I was suspicious of the same initially. However, I’m not sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:39 PM
12

💀 💀 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:29 PM
36

When all the pornsick dudes get together in one thread to collectively vent their love for eating shit. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:20 PM
9

sUbMiSsIoN iS aCtUaLly ToTaLlY eMpOwErInG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:46 PM
19

OP I’ve read through your posting history. You aren’t even pretending to follow FDS philosophies. Not in this forum, and not any other forums. I wish you peace but I’m not going to waste my energy on any woman determined to remain a Pickme. This is a reminder, ladies, that the influx in traffic here will continue to bring people who don’t read the materials and aren’t interested in adopting the principles. Can’t help those who won’t help themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:31 PM
17

He’s not a Chihuahua.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:18 PM
25

Do you hear yourself? After typing this out and re-reading, do you see a problem here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:18 PM
16

OP you’re giving a lot of defenses and reasoning in service to the wants and needs of a LVM who doesn’t respect you. I recommend you read up on FDS principles again and take the advice you’ve received here. I’ll say again: your socialization is showing. These are not FDS-aligned actions you’re trying to convince us you should take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:17 PM
14

wHaT aRe ThE gIrLs WiTh MaKeUp HiDiNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:22 PM
27

No need to play hard to get you’re on tinder “I have input data into this device I am currently holding. Deliver the pussy I’m entitled to now.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:58 PM
28

Steven Miller is taking an even darker path...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:51 PM
22

If he’s a selfish LVM why would you feel bad for him? Because he has to be a big boy and fend for himself for 2 whole weeks? Your socialization is showing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:49 PM
12

Well I’m so wet I’m about to slide outta my seat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:10 PM
32

They’re not even married. She’s been actively trying to get pregnant and making plans to stay at home, and they’re not even engaged. Boy is she in for a vicious surprise (for a second time, given that she’s already married and divorced a lazy manchild before). Some people can’t learn the lesson unless it hurts. Some never learn it at all and just keep banging their head on the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:09 PM
36

😂 😂 😂 hashtag NOTALLBEARS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:06 PM
60

The willingness and capacity for self-deception among young women is at an all-time high. I had a back-and-forth yesterday with a young lady in /r/Relationship_Advice about her pornsick boyfriend who aggressively masturbates in front of her, despite her repeatedly telling him not to, and takes 2 hours to orgasm. She voraciously defended him and couldn’t understand why this is a problem. Porn addiction, compulsive masturbation, sanctioned infidelity couched as polyamory, refusal to share emotiona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:57 PM
137

Real men don’t buy women and girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:19 PM
7

Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:13 PM
11

Good question. Lubrication definitely mitigates risk and is an essential part of rectal/anal sexual activity. It does not eliminate risk and penetrative anal sex damages rectal sphincter tone regardless of lubrication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:57 PM
264

Oh, honey. He likes it because it hurts you. Take a good look at the man you married. Edit: Here is your reminder about the dangers of anal sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:55 PM
25

Yeah that guy literally made my blood pressure rise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:57 AM
36

I’m a registered nurse. Please practice social distancing. Now is not the time to be going out on dates. I wish you luck, my friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:16 AM
74

Full post in case of deletion: I’m not sure what happened, maybe I’m still in shock or processing it, but last night I went over to my fwb apartment to spend the night, and while we’ve had rough sex before, I’ve never slept with him while he was drunk, and he was very drunk. He choked/strangled me and took it a bit too far several times. I almost thought that he would accidentally kill me, and then I got scared. A bunch of other really messed up stuff happened after. There are bruises all over m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:10 AM
3

Redpillwomen, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:27 PM
21

Coronavirus should be the least of your concerns with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:23 PM
9

I’m so glad you’re here. Welcome, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:18 PM
43

Fellow Gen-Xer here. My heart breaks for young women today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:03 PM
26

Lol these pornsick coomers are sharing Pornhub links in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:01 PM
91

These are literally just buzzwords and pseudo-spiritual phrases thrown together like MadLibs. Married, 45 years-old, and 240 pounds? Sounds real accomplished. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:54 PM
89

hOw DaRe YoU mIsGeNdEr Me?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:44 PM
17

It felt easy. Most of my other relationships were such a struggle and so stressful. YES! This so much. I bought into the struggle love bullshit and it left me miserable and mistreated. Now it’s as easy as breathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:37 PM
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I’m married to one, and I’ve posted/commented about him a lot here. He has integrity and a strength of character that’s unmistakable. I go to sleep every night knowing, without even a shadow of a doubt, that nothing matters more to him than I do. And he acts accordingly. He respects women: truly and deeply. He surrounds himself with quality friends who all love their wives and children. He doesn’t watch porn or go to strip clubs. He’s highly educated and accomplished in his career. My nieces lit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:55 AM
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"I was just too young and insecure for marriage," he recalls. "I was 23 and my son Colin was already two when I married for the first time. I was not really ready to take on those responsibilities." 🙄 He wasn’t ready. He had two fucking kids with her but he wasn’t ready. He was ready to have an affair and leave his wife for his mistress, though. You know what they say about that, Rita: the man who marries his mistress leaves a vacancy in the position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:40 PM
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I feed my pair winter suet, a simple nut mix, or when I’m feeling fancy, air-popped popcorn. They’re honestly not too picky in my experience. They love fruit but I live in the desert so I don’t like to leave fruit out to cook in the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:59 AM
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JFC that sub is enraging. Women referred to as blownjob machines and cumsluts, and 2/3 of the photos are women sobbing in pain. NSFW LINK FOLLOWS This was in the all-time top posts. Even their cartoons involve painful, degrading anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:32 PM
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Relationships are about more than just sex! mY LoVe LaNgUaGe Is SeX, bAbY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:26 PM
5

By “every detail” I mean that we’ve talked frankly about sexual experiences: what I liked, what I didn’t, what I never tried but wanted to, etc. We were able to discuss it without any jealousy or discomfort. But we never got into a specific list of numbers/persons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:49 PM
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I have read your post history. You seem extremely young, naive, and new to dating. I also don’t see that you’ve committed to reading and digesting FDS materials. I encourage you to read more and work on yourself. I wish you peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:08 PM
66

You’re in high school but he’s “earned well” in the stock market?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:59 PM
13

It’s a woman. I follow her on IG. Well, I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:31 PM
19

I am married. My husband and I know everything there is to know, in great detail, about our sexual and dating pasts. He’s never asked for a number. And I’ll never share it. Because it doesn’t matter and my history is no one’s but my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:11 AM
7

Holup...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:49 AM
42

Honestly consistency is key. Over several seasons they will come to know you if you’re regularly feeding them or live near a wild area. They’re so much more intelligent than other domestic backyard birds, so the usual tricks don’t really get their attention (in my experience).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:30 PM
25

I was unexpectedly slapped during sex many, many years ago. He was a complete pornsick coomer and loved to choke me, too. I had no understanding at the time how damaging these acts were to my self-worth. I read posts from these young women and it hurts my heart. I hope these gals find healing and learn to love themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:58 PM
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An entire generation of young men have received their sex education exclusively from pornography. Especially in the conservative parts of the country that provide no sex education in school. We are watching a social experiment in real-time and the results so far are fucking disastrous. I suspect they will get much, much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:55 PM
64

This, combined with the false sense of abundance provided by mindless OLD swiping, has caused an entire generation of men to constantly be looking for the next better thing. Their own valuation of their looks and personality is falsely inflated, and they struggle to “settle” for the gal who’s only a 6/10. Meanwhile they can’t get an erection during sex and live with their parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:46 PM
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Hey I’m a birder! Crows are wildly, astonishingly intelligent. They are mischievous and so interesting. I have a local pair who live to mess with my squirrels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:42 PM
6

Here’s an article in Time magazine written by a divorce attorney who refers to FB as “a cheating machine” Facebook has become a leading cause in divorce cases Why Social Media Causes Divorces, And 7 Ways It’s Ruining Your Relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:59 PM
27

Except for that, perfect! Literally the sidebar at /r/Relationship_Advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:55 PM
99

No HVM or HVW has a work spouse. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:52 PM
11

This is an excellent point, and I should definitely stipulate that I’m in the U.S. and we have no people overseas to communicate with. Thanks for bringing this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:42 PM
9

100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:38 PM
1

I automatically distrust men who use SnapChat and WhatsApp. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Even excessive IG use gets a thorough side eye and deep-dig for red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:19 PM
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In the old days these guys had to make an effort to expose themselves to strangers: put on a raincoat, go outside, get on the subway or lurk around on the street...hell. A man could spend all night waiting around in the shadows for the perfect victim to wander by. It must have been so frustrating, waiting for hours, desperately wanting to whip your dick out and aggressively jerk off in front of an unwilling participant. A guy would be lucky to get off once, maybe twice on a good night, before he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:14 PM
1

OP I don’t have any great words of wisdom; I just wanted to offer my support. I have been through something very similar with my. BFF of 20+ years (I’ve posted about her frequently here in FDS check my post/comment history). She did something similar with the first of a series of LVM, and ended up having 2 children with him. The oldest is graduating high school in May. My bestie has never stopped struggling since the day she had her first, and her Pickme issues only grew. I have encouraged and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:28 PM
4

“But if all you get out of it is a fuck, then you’s a ho.” Sissy in CB4 had a few ideas on this back in the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:21 PM
3

Internalized misogyny is generational. Good on you for breaking the cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:17 PM
5

He’s cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:14 PM
13

A guy once referred to pubic hair as “fur” and I threw my phone away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:08 PM
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fDs Is WoRsE tHaN rEd PiLLeRs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 07:27 PM
11

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:52 PM
31

THE GOTDAMN AUDACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:46 PM
28

Yeah I think you understand it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:44 PM
7

What an asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:12 PM
21

This poor woman. My heart goes out to her. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:11 PM
44

I relate a 100%. My background trauma led to both personality disorder and drug addiction, and men can pick up on this from a mile away. I re-enacted my trauma and abandonment over and over, with men who were all the same losers just with different names. Getting sober and getting serious about therapy was the hardest work I’ve ever done, but it was worth every minute. I tell gals therapy has made me like Neo at the end of The Matrix. I can see the code, the patterns of my life and those in my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:08 PM
20

I love the overall message and tone of the film, but then...the ending. Jennifer Aniston accepts a last-ditch marriage proposal and GiGi ends up with the manwhore who rejected her. So basically undoing everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:47 PM
3

Hey! You dropped this 👑 Welcome back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:58 PM
23

“A man is only as faithful as his options.” Chris Rock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:30 AM
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I do not want to go to HR about it...and he does have kids to support. 🙄 Then that’s all the more reason he shouldn’t be hitting on a co-worker young enough to be his daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:23 PM
22

I have an even better proposal to prevent paying child support for kids you don’t want: wear a condom. Take responsibility for what you do with your penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:08 AM
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Unfortunately I know plenty of single mom Pickmes. In fact, they’re often an easy target for skeezing fuckboys. I think a single mom who enforces the boundaries you outlined has a strong position when choosing to date a man, but lack of self-respect can leave her just as vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:49 AM
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Just make sure you play the clown car music when you’re rolling off the lot, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:45 AM
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I am a recovered Pickme of the highest-fucking-order for real. I paid my dues with misery and no respect. I’m grateful every day that I worked on myself and fixed my shit. I never could have found him if I hadn’t. High value men want high value women so you gotta do the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:08 AM
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I also have a high value husband. No matter what’s going on in our lives he never stops being tuned into my needs. Today’s example: I had a nail appointment yesterday (I have a standing monthly appointment that he always pays for). He called ahead to my nail tech/hairdresser and asked her to throw in a haircut and style because I recently mentioned my ends were getting a little scraggly. He didn’t mention this because he knew I would enjoy the surprise. My tech had total googly eye about how swe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:22 PM
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You know the answer to all this, love. He’s a LVM actively lying about porn addiction who’s also scamming you out of money. Come on. You know you can’t be with a guy like this and have self-respect. FDS requires we be bold and courageous enough to not tolerate people like this. I wish you peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:29 PM
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This person seems very unstable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:21 PM
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This is the part that really stood out for me, beloved. I definitely plan on working on myself during this period of recovery, but deep down I'm hoping that someday we'll be able to be in a relationship again. Would that be appropriate or realistic? This is problematic. He has clearly communicated that this relationship isn’t what he wants. Whatever reasons he’s given for that are irrelevant at this point. You’re hanging on and hiding behind hope. Please don’t do that. Take it on the chin, proce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:19 PM
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I, for one, am shocked she’s “playing second fiddle” to all the other women she’s allowing her boyfriend to fuck. Shocked I tell you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:14 PM
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Please don’t brigade, ladies. That’s a good path to giving Reddit their excuse to ban our community. Please do not participate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 09:57 PM
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Ari Aster is a male filmmaker who tells stories about women I find compelling. Hereditary was a revelation. I am a diehard horror hound and have more than a few opinions about how we’re treated in the genre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:01 PM
40

Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:06 AM
17

Hot damn. Every single word of this lit me up. You nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:47 AM
13

Lol 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:39 AM
167

Oppressive to women. Oh give me a fucking break. Stop mansplaining my feminism to me you ignorant shitbuckets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:36 AM
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There you go in plain language. Don’t be someone’s free prostitute, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:35 AM
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As a nurse shoving catheters in dicks all day I preferred circumcised. Easier to grip for insertion and easier cleaning for me as the provider. Of course, a lot of American nurses aren’t used to natural dicks and always forget to return the foreskin back down over the glans following twice-daily catheter care (cleaning around the insertion site). This can result in necrosis of the foreskin, and that is serious. As a gal in the sack I prefer natural. It feels better for me and for him. If you’ve …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:46 PM
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Don’t despair, my friend. A HVM absolutely will be honest and direct with you. I promise they’re out there (I married one). But until he comes along, you can use these strategies to protect yourself from these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:21 PM
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That’s exactly the pattern she’s talking about. Vetting and maintaining ironclad standards is key because LVM have varying strategies. I’m glad you see that, beloved. But it was a week later and he still didnt ask for another date so I just straight up asked if he wants to see me again or what. Remember the FDS principles here: do not chase. If he wants to see you again you’ll know. You’ll know because he’ll ask. The lack of asking and the lack of pursuit is his answer. Going forward, vow not to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:16 PM
3

This this this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:54 PM
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DON’T KINKSHAME ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:20 PM
5

I’m proud of you, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:14 PM
29

“Who knows what evil lurks in the heart of men? An older woman knows.” Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:11 PM
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My racist ass, misogynist, Trump-loving boomer parents love this fucking show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:08 PM
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That article is a mood! “Yeah that’s what you do when you choke me.” I am shooketh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:06 PM
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These are cogent and EXCELLENT points. Louis CK did this and lost his whole career. Dudes in overcoats who stand outside of schools and jerk off go to jail. The guy on the subway who makes kissy faces and jerks off while looking at you is fucking sack of shit. The behavior doesn’t become magically okay because he says he loves you. It’s still involving you in a sex act you declined to participate in. I mean, isn’t that the point, though? It’s the same thing with unsolicited dick pics and all oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:03 PM
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My mom’s dog will hump his favorite toy on the couch in the living room while making full eye contact the entire time. They must be related.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:59 PM
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Fuck yeah! You can’t level up in life if you’re pickled in drugs and alcohol. Men can see the damage in us, the vivid numbness we project when we’re actively using. They smell it and they prey on it. Even in the AA/NA scene, men will run game and try to pick us off the herd. You can never set boundaries and you can never see the pattern until you get your mind right. I’m like fucking Neo at the end of The Matrix now. I see the code, the bullets don’t exist. Predatory fuckboys and twisted manchil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:57 PM
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His love language is touch. 🙄 No, sister. His “love language” is using human women as masturbatory aids. You’re a Fleshlight with a pulse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:54 PM
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I can’t go for awhile cause it gets sore now. Because you’re bad at sex and she’s dry as a bone? Because you deathgrip jerk to porn every day and can’t finish with a proper woman? Because you’re lazy? What does getting a blowjob have to do with it? Oh that’s right: you enjoy sex the most when women do things you know they hate. Boyfriend is egotistical, causally-degrading and rude pornsick piece of trash: film at 11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:49 PM
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As an addict in recovery I feel this. Opiates weren’t the only thing I was addicted to. The attention and validation of men, often addicts and alcoholics themselves, was my emotional drug of choice. I recreated my traumas and abandonment with them every day and it wasn’t until I got sober that I recognized the patterns. I never worked as hard in my life as I did at getting off drugs and changing myself. Now that I’ve done it (and continue doing it every day) I have ZERO tolerance for men’s shit.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:37 PM
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As a female... “...which I totally am. A real-deal woman! Yep, that’s me! I’m a vagina-haver and definitely not a man behind this computer screen. And even if I wasn’t a totally cool girl and was a man with a penis my dick would be HUGE.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:31 PM
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She’s lucky all she got was stood up. She could have gotten the Natalee Holloway treatment. Be safe out there, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:27 PM
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I feel like people are just making up sexualities to feel special at this point. 100%. It’s the new participation trophy in the Oppression Olympics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:29 AM
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I’m in my 40’s and childfree. My husband didn’t want them, either. Just tell nosy people you dry your tears with all the extra cash you have laying around. That usually shuts em up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:25 AM
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The trans agenda seeks to erase sex-based protections. It seeks to erase our identity as women. It seeks to suppress the voices of biological women and elevate the desires and fetishes of men. Our feminism should be for human biological females, not for men. Gender isn’t real: sex is. I would never seek advice or counsel from a mental health professional who is obviously suffering from mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:13 AM
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It’s not just young guys, y’all. My stepdad spends every minute of his free time on Second Life having cyber sex with people while my mom does all the labor at home. He’s almost 60 and they’ve been married for 15 years. It doesn’t get better, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:47 PM
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tHaT mEaNs YoU’rE a DeMiSeXuAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:36 PM
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Well he seems pleasant and not-at-all-angry at women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:09 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:07 PM
5

I bet he has Cheeto dust under his breasts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:49 AM
3

I fucking like you, lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:42 AM
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Reading this made me fucking mad. Deep-down-in-my-bones mad. He’s gonna trade this poor woman in for a newer model in a few years and she’ll be left with nothing. He’s financially exploiting her and locked her into a prenup, too. I feel so bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:37 AM
5

The gotdamn audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:29 AM
14

Go easy on him. He’s fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:26 AM
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Your life is really about to being, beloved. I’m so excited for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:02 PM
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PORNSICK, LIMP DICK PUNKASS BITCHES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:19 PM
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Lol right?! This motherfucker broke me at “intimacy noises.” I’d badger him to let me facefuck him with an 8-inch strap-on until he pukes. Vomiting is my noise of intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:18 PM
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Fucking A! I’m proud of you. We’re all so proud of you. Meet with your attorney, pull in your support system people, and prepare for the whirlwind of shock from your poor innocent husband who just had no idea his own wife could abandon him like this. 🙄 Be ruthless. Be selfish. You’ve done nothing but give, sister, and now’s your time to take. Take back control. Take back your life. Take back your self respect and your sex life and your future. FUCKING A, SISTER!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:13 PM
1

This is incredibly succinct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:09 AM
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We've been married for a couple of years and just bought a house, the baby was a surprise but a welcome one nonetheless. She then proceeds to explain over several paragraphs all the ways in which this baby may be welcome to her, but clearly not to him. They’ll be divorced by the time this kid can talk if she knows what’s good for her. Eh, who am I kidding? She’ll probably have another one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:00 AM
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This is /r/InstagramReality stuff why on earth would I find it inspiring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:58 AM
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It’s the 2020 version of the Womyn’s commune and I am here for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:51 AM
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This reads like a /r/Adultery user. It even includes direction for where to send your application to give out free pussy. Once he trusts you he’ll give you the address so you can deliver it to him. I’m too old for this shit. In my day a man had to at least put forth some effort to trick us into sex. Now they just write a Craigslist backpage ad, take out any offers for money, post it to Tinder and call it dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:48 AM
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bUt He WaS aBlE tO pUt ThE tOiLeT sEaT dOwN hE wAs a KiNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:39 AM
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Sister no one has the right to talk to you like that. WTF?! In the future I hope you’ll hit him with the immediates: who the fuck do you think you are, why the fuck do you think you can talk to me like that, and I don’t entertain gross motherfuckers like you outta here with that shit. Shut em down, call em out, block em. Get angry when they do this shit. Your empowerment grows when you indulge in the affront that you’re due. Put fear on your name and put the world on notice. MAKE WAR WITH YOUR W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:37 AM
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Shit happens alright. Every time this loser opens his fucking mouth. I hope he has diarrhea right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:28 AM
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I check out multiple books a month from the public library (PSA: please use your local libraries! They’re magical) and this year I will only be reading books by women authors. Right now I’m reading Girl, Woman, Other by Bernadine Evaristo. It won the Booker Prize last year and the book is phenomenal. I can’t recommended it enough. It’s a fictional novel about what it is to be black in Britain for women across all ages, classes, and sexual orientation. It’s revelatory and I am ripping through it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:25 AM
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No wool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:23 PM
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Preach sister! Yes yes yes. This is wonderful insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:20 PM
22

No fucking way this fucking dude is 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:59 AM
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At least you can sleep at night knowing you did the right thing. And someday, if she ever has moments of self-reflection, she’ll realize she what she’s done to herself. These guys do this shit because they can. Let’s keep making it a little harder for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:51 AM
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Deep thoughts by Jerkoff Handy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:24 PM
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Well if she’s gonna be a bitch about it she can’t go with us to happy hour at the strip club! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:22 PM
15

My infertility is the best thing that ever happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:16 PM
5

You know what? I like your strategy best. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:05 PM
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There are absolutely good HVM out there. I’m married to one. ☺️ FDS strategies don’t negate all the trash. They just help you sort through it faster. But I promise there are treasures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:04 PM
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THE GOTDAMN AUDACITY OUT IN THESE STREETS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:03 PM
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Girl I’ve been there. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You sound like a really cool person and you seem to have a good sense of humor. Fuck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:02 PM
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This is a mood for LIFE. Best comment I’ve ever read here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:57 PM
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Substitute a white guy with dreadlocks for the Mormons and it’s totally different!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:54 PM
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If you constantly have other girls trying to get your attention and say sweet things to you, it makes you feel confident, powerful, desirable; it's a great feeling and it even helps me excel in life (to the point that I have almost narcissistic level of self-confidence). Yep. This is the reason why the exact same guy will give you shit and act jealous for having male friends. They know the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:53 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:51 PM
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Excellent point. Scary as hell, isn’t it? I recall statistics from somewhere that the highest risk posed to women relating to domestic violence is during pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:19 AM
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Sister you are 100% right about that. Without a doubt. They want wife shit from forever girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:39 PM
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Yeah his girlfriend is not my friend. She understandably has a hard time with his behavior towards me over the years: texting me, emailing me (back before I knew how to block losers), talking about me, trying to run into me at functions when I visit home, lying to her about his soft-stalking of me when I’m home, etc. We were all part of the same social group but I cut him out years ago. Mutual friends have told me she’s not angry at me but relieved that I’m not around. I get it. His girlfriend i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:37 PM
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Don’t be sorry at all! I’m happy to help in any way I can. The 12 step model of total abstinence is only one approach to treating addiction. In truth, it’s not the most effective model for a great segment of the population for a variety of reasons. The best supported method for recovery according to the data is cognitive behavioral therapy combined with medical management (seeing a physician who specializes in addiction management, often involving medication). Unfortunately in the U.S. healthcar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:32 PM
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freelance software engineer I play WoW and jerk it to porn for 10 hours a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:25 PM
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If he only speaks some Spanish, that means he made this specifically to troll for booty with as large a pool of women as possible. What a disease of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:09 PM
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My arm hair. Various boys have mocked me over the years for having a moderate amount of arm hair. One cumbrain even told me it arouses him because it reminds him of pubic hair and must mean I have a lot of “sex hormones.” I shaved my arms one time only. It was miserable and I never did it again. I’m fucking gorgeous and any dumb motherfucker who has a problem with anything about my body can take my hairy arm up his fucking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:52 PM
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Well since she knows there’s no harm in sending her screenshots. Fucking audacity of these lowlifes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:49 PM
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this is so tempting, but i really don't want to give him the benefit of any response. Which he’s clearly counting on. He has zero concern that you’ll expose him, otherwise he never would have taken the risk. Wouldn’t you want to know if someone was doing this to you? Whatever she does with the information is her business, but you could lay your head down at night knowing you tried to do the right (compassionate) thing. Just my opinion, of course, and I’m not telling you what to do. It’s just tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:37 PM
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DARK SIDED!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:31 PM
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There are few things in our lives that will have more of an impact than who we choose to have children with (those of us that are given a choice). Choose wisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:58 PM
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He doesn’t talk much, if at all, between dates but is always up for seeing me again. YOU DON’T SAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:07 PM
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I used to be one of those crazy exes. I really, legitimately acted fucking mental in my 20’s. I had severe unhealed trauma and attachment/abandonment issues. I had no personal boundaries and would do anything sexually to keep a man’s attention. Here’s the thing. Every man I pursued saw this in me. Every single guy I got involved with could see how unstable I was. I wore my wounds like a bleeding neon sign. Those men who complained about how crazy and unstable I was during and after our involveme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:04 PM
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Oh my gosh. My heart just breaks for the young women today. Entire generations of pornsick men and these poor ladies have no idea what the real problem is. I’m so fucking glad I don’t have daughters I don’t know if I could watch this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:49 PM
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If he was terrible to you, why do you assume he’s perfect for her? Appearances can be deceiving and you’ll never know how he treats her when no one’s looking. It’s my opinion that a HVM behaves like a HVM regardless of circumstances. He respects all women and treats them all well. If he was awful to you, he’s not behaving like a HVM. Sometimes our feminine socialization leads us to feel competitive with other women. If you struggle with self-esteem or attachment issues, this can really be amplif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:28 PM
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Thank you! Changing yourself is the hardest work you’ll ever do. One of the 12 steps (if you follow that model, and lots of people don’t) is making amends to those we’ve hurt when we were using. You make a list of the ways you’ve wronged others, and then you reach out where appropriate to accept accountability and seek their forgiveness. It was absolutely the hardest stage in my recovery and it’s where so many addicts relapse. It’s incredibly difficult to face the damage you’ve done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:21 PM
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Right?! The funny thing about this dude is that when we were in high school and fresh out, he was a really nice guy. Sincerely. He was funny and kind and empathetic. He was giving and loyal, both as a friend and a partner. But he changed. Looking back I recognize that a burgeoning porn addiction (this was early 00’s, as internet culture was evolving) and heavy alcohol use contributed to his spiral. He has gotten steadily worse every year: more nasty, selfish, pornsick, and alcohol addicted. His …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:55 PM
10

I don’t know what your deal is but I wish you well. I won’t be engaging with you further on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:48 PM
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I’m “salty,” as you put it, because myths and stereotypes around sex don’t help women as a whole. No one attacked your opinions or preferences. No one attacked you at all. I wish you well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:41 PM
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Well, clearly. Guess I can ask for all that student loan money back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:35 PM
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Curcumcision doesn’t effect erect length, though, as the glans retracts during erection. I should add that I personally prefer uncircumcised men. 8 inches isn’t “adequate,” though. That’s abnormally large. People, men and women both, tend to grossly overestimate mean penis size. In general, based on research and clinical data, the average is around 5-just under 6 inches erect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:33 PM
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He has a forever-girlfriend of 12 years and has been very public about the fact that he will never, ever marry her. They bought a house together. She works 2 jobs and does all the emotional labor at home, including tending to his mother when she was dying in hospice. He cheats on her and is terrible at sex. I oughta know, because I used to fuck him in my 20’s and he had porn-induced ED back then. Imagine buying a house, a whole ass fucking mortgage, with the motherfucker who would post shit like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:28 PM
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This is an excellent link. Thanks for providing it, and I’ve read through it. It’s a limited study with 144 participants, all Korean. The data extrapolated is interesting and I’ve seen discussion about digit ratio elsewhere. There is evidence that digit ratio is a positive correlation for penile length, while overall hand size isn’t necessarily. Here comes my anecdotal experience, which is certainly not scientific. Overall I found that abnormally tall men (6’3” or taller) tended to have larger g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:17 PM
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But it doesn’t. Because it’s a myth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:55 PM
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Saying nose, foot, or hand size is a reliable indicator of genital size is the myth. Beyond my extensive education in anatomy and physiology, I’ve also seen more penises than a prostitute. I know dicks. Edit: I practiced in critical care (ICU) and shock trauma. Every male patient had a tube placed in their penis so I’ve handled a whole lot of dicks over 15 years of clinical practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:52 PM
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Yep. Coming out of the sober closet can feel very empowering, especially if you’re really doing the work (instead of just acting like a, well, actor). Making amends is tough and can spark a lot of self-reflection. But we should always take it with a grain of salt until they’ve proved over time that their sobriety is serious and long-lasting. Source: I am an addict in recovery. Over 4 years clean and I have worked VERY hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:51 PM
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I’m a registered nurse and these “tells” about genital size are myths. I wish there was an easier answer to this, but sex is complicated. Sometimes you just gotta get his pants off and go from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:48 PM
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Well since he trusts you and has opened up to you now is a good time to collect as much personal information as you can, screenshot everything, and send it to his totally open and not being cheated on at all wife. It will be most helpful for his open and trusting marriage if you trick him into sending you dick pics and other explicit stuff that’s likely to benefit his open and understanding wife in divorce court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:45 PM
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It’s because they type their answers with one hand while the other jerks off to incest porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:39 PM
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The top comment, and OP’s response to it, has me fucking cackling. “Retroactive jealousy.” She has retroactive jealousy that her man is a cousin fucker. iT wAs A tEn SeCOnD bLoWjOb He DiDn’T eVeN fInIsH i’M jUsT tOo JeAlOus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:36 PM
9

The 80’s and early 90’s were...something, weren’t they? The golden age of “well what was she wearing?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:38 PM
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Yes. I get so wet at the idea of fast food and abuse that I can hardly stay in my chair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:54 PM
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My husband isn’t huge but he’s a wonderful lover. He is skillful and considerate, and I’m always satisfied. I don’t think the biggest problem here is just your dude’s size. He’s not a good kisser. Kissing is incredibly intimate and involves a lot of pheromones. This is often where a lack of sexual chemistry presents itself. You already know that, though, because his kissing turned you off and worried you. Analingus is an extremely unhealthy act. It exposes him to a multitude of diseases plus the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:52 PM
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I remember this case. I wasn’t dating age yet but I remember how the media reported on this case, with complete and total disdain for the fact that Jennifer was a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:42 PM
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Amen, sister! This right here. This is how a lady handles this shit. I dig the clarity and directness of your communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:40 PM
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This was a good read! It certainly took me back to the LibFem years of my 20’s, when I had casual sex frequently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:57 PM
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Fucking hell. That poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:58 AM
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He literally told you he doesn’t want to talk to you. He broke up with you, blocked you, and ignores your attempts at communication. When you asked to be friends he said he doesn’t want to talk to you and you should move on. Read that again. The only question you should be asking is why you’re doing this? What’s missing in your life that you can’t let go of someone who doesn’t want you? I wish you peace, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:54 AM
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Passion mandatory “Suck my dick and make it freaky”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:25 PM
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And women wonder why they keep getting UTI’s from these hobosexual neckbeard creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:22 PM
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It means “hard pass.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:19 PM
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Any man who tells you he wants a “submissive girl” or a “nice girl who’s not bitchy” is a fucking pornsick piece of shit. Bet you a quarter she has a very different version of events. Why would you entertain a man who calls women bitches and uses pornography to describe his ideal woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:18 PM
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Establish dominance and then kick ‘em out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:14 PM
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Make a fucking sandwich you piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:29 PM
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Not if they’ve always been a Pickme. It really only gets worse as we get older and have to start over after divorce, especially with how society treats women in our age group. What seems like common sense to those of us who are “awake” is unthinkable to a woman who is desperate to be partnered up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:01 PM
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That Middle-aged OP annoyed me with her “I’m not [lonely] or desperate” messenger-shooting. She is incredibly naive for being “dating over 40!” Apparently anyone who dares question the man SHE WROTE A POST ABOUT is someone that OP will label “nasty.” It’s the Pickme psychological defense, and it’s not limited to women in their 20’s. It’s a mindset you carry with you into your 40’s and beyond (I am 40). Sisters the man of your dreams is NOT someone else’s husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:56 PM
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Look all around you. For every baby daddy there is a baby mama. The primary fuckboy of my 20’s now has 6 children with 6 different women, none of whom he was married to (and many he wasn’t even in a relationship with). My best friend has 2 children with the same guy whom she was with for 10 years, and she’s never been married. My husband’s roommate when we met now has 3 children with 3 women, none of whom he was married to. I could go on forever. I will never understand how we as women accept th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:50 PM
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I’m definitely ready to move on but I’d feel guilty doing so if he was on board with just texting me on the day I mentioned next week and I went ahead and dated other guys in between that since he’s been cheated on several times in the past . You have got to get out of this mindset, beloved. Feminine socialization got you feeling guilty for asking for acknowledgement. Feminine socialization got you already explaining away and apologizing for the behavior of a man you have literally met twice. No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:01 PM
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Stop this. Stop reaching out. He left you on read. That means he read your messages and didn’t find them worthy of a response. That in itself is a response. A queen does NOT beg for attention from any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:57 PM
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Keep up the hard work, my friend. It can be challenging to change everything up the way FDS promotes. But the work is worth it when you feel confident, happy, and secure in yourself and your worth, whether you’re single or partnered up. Fight the fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:55 PM
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Yeah sex outside of a relationship isn’t the problem in my eyes. It’s the young women having sex that’s mediocre, unfulfilling, or emotionally damaging that get my discouragement. We’re seeing a lot of young women here in situationships that confuse them and really only benefit the guy. When we point this out, they get upset that we’re “shaming” them for having non-committed sex. What we’re actually shaming them for is Pickme behavior disguised as sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:52 PM
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Hi there. It’s red flag when a man moves to exclusivity so quickly like this. His actions show that he wasn’t even serious about exclusivity: how could he be? You literally JUST met. Rather, it seems he was manipulating you. In the future you’ve got to play your cards close to the chest. No more endless dates: 2 hours was a good limit. It’s easy for someone you don’t know to charm you for 10 hours. The point is to extend it over time, to allow him to pursue and court you. He has told you everyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:47 PM
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I cum first or there is no sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:57 PM
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You know when a LibFem always loses me? When they insist that a man in a dress is a woman and subject to the same life experiences we are. The LibFem embrace of the trans agenda is pushing women out faster than they can possibly realize. You have chosen to literally place the needs of biological men over those of women. Your feminism now exists to benefit men. Men who are demanding immediate and unrestricted access to all private areas of our life and bodies. My feminism is for human biological …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:06 PM
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OP I’m glad you’re out of that situation. Please be safe: he sounds a little unstable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:52 PM
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Yep. I call em Friday the 13th moms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:50 PM
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That sucks. I’m sorry you got that response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:44 PM
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The very first boy I ever kissed (at 15) kept and displayed all his used condoms. I need a shower now. I’ll see myself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:06 AM
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I literally just finished reading it after your last comment. Damn there’s some hard roads ahead for these gals. Enjoy spending $300-500 a year on fast food dates followed by mediocre half-limp sex, Pickmes. I hear it’s hard to stuff a soft dick inside your asshole but if you succeed you’ll finally have equality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:04 AM
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Then tells me she’s offended by guys who pay and I can have them lol. Don’t threaten me with a good time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:55 AM
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I don't want to absorb a whole different system of thinking about the world. And it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:53 AM
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Fight the fucking POWER, sis. ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:24 AM
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I am a radical feminist. From the sidebar at /r/Radical_Feminists: Radical feminism is a branch of feminism that identifies patriarchy as the main oppressive hierarchy and prioritizes destroying patriarchy in all its forms, at all levels of society, in all manner of institutions. Patriarchy divides humans into two sex classes depending on their biological sex. Patriarchy exists so that the class of men can exploit the class of women, initially done to exploit biological differences for reasons i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:15 AM
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i PaY fOr ThE pOpEyE’s bEcAuSE tHaT’s EqUaLiTy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:56 AM
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And LibFems have embraced the trans agenda, which only further drives us out. My feminism is for human biological females only (RadFem).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:46 AM
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Motherfuckers looking for a scumbag scholarship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:44 AM
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hahahahaaaaa! look how COOL I am!! I’m laughing LOUDER THAN ANYONE ELSE LOOK HOW FUNNY I THINK THIS IS 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:42 AM
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Thinking is just that: private and self-contained. I don’t blame or judge you for thinking that. He abused and devalued you. You didn’t cause his cancer (unless you cast some kind of spell or something and if so PLEASE SHARE) and if he had died, that wouldn’t have been your fault either. As Darrow said, "I've never wished a man dead, but I have read some obituaries with great pleasure.” I’m glad you’re out. You deserve to be peaceful and happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:38 AM
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He loves you, he just needs help. And I hope he gets it. Somewhere else. Someday when he’s ready. But that day isn’t today, so what the fuck can I do about it? In recovery culture we have a saying about co-dependency: you can’t work harder on their recovery than they do. People are who they are exactly as their behavior portrays them to be. Getting caught up in who they could be is both self-destructive and completely futile. Sure he could be great but he’s not, is he? I could be a millionaire b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:29 AM
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Imagine what he’ll do once she has his child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:24 AM
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🤮 🤮 🤮 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:03 AM
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Well of course. That’s the point of the quote: it exposes the LVM mentality and why you can’t trust a guy like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:00 AM
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That’s nonsense. Our feminism is for WOMEN. She’s not a “psychopath.” She’s a prime example of feminine socialization. Your attitude bothers me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:41 PM
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OP, I’m concerned for you. You made two posts within the last hour lambasting us for not supporting you enough. I’ve read through your post history, and here’s the hard truth: we don’t support your continued involvement with a LVM. You are struggling with your mental health and you’re behaving in ways that are harmful to your wellbeing. That can be hard to hear, but why would we lie to you? How does that help you? You’ve clearly read through the FDS materials and have been participating here a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:55 PM
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Newt Gingrich, he of the family values and conservative Christian ideals, filed for divorce from his first wife while she was in the hospital recovering from cancer treatment. He divorced his second wife, leaving her for his mistress, shortly after her multiple sclerosis diagnosis. He did this while overseeing Bill Clinton’s impeachment for lying about an extramarital affair. “In sickness and in health” is real shit, y’all. Choose wisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:47 PM
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Was she, though? She clearly has some internal motivation or gaps in her self-esteem. Pickmes don’t stop the mindset just because they’re single. And where THE FUCK is your mom in all this? How can she allow this bullshit in her her home? Is it possible, my friend, that your sister leaned this behavior somewhere and it might be right there at home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:35 PM
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Her comments all indicated she did not appreciate the universal advice to dump his sorry ass. Pornsickness doesn’t just affect the men who have. It affects an entire generation of young woman who have been brainwashed into thinking its normal. Porn harms everyone, even the ones who don’t use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:32 PM
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YESSSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:27 PM
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I struggle with this, too. I always have to pause and ask myself if I’m feeling vitriolic toward other women as a knee-jerk response, as society has conditioned me to do. I try to temper my anger toward the Pickme mindset with compassion and understanding, like I do with my friend. It’s hard because the younger Pickmes who haven’t figured it out (I’m in my 40’s) do a lot of damage when they encourage their friends to participate in their oppression. To free ourselves of this we must be critical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:25 PM
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You’re absolutely correct here. I used hyperbolic language for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:20 PM
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Sister you can speak about your experience any damn time you please! Don’t silence yourself. Racism and sexism is the shit pie women of color spend their whole life being force fed. Fuck that shit and use your voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:56 PM
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She’s a great person. She has a good heart, she’s (otherwise) intelligent, she’s a caring and devoted friend. We laugh together, we cry together. I’m her daughters’ godmother and I’m more of a sister than her own. We’ve been through it all: every peak, every valley. I have tremendous compassion for her trauma and low self-esteem, and I recognize that she was raised to be exactly as she is. I encourage her all the time to get therapy. I give her brutal truth and she does with it what she will. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:52 PM
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🙌🏻 Incredibly eloquent and astute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:45 PM
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See, that’s what made the post so noticeable to me. Which says a lot, btw, because /r/Relationship_Advice is jam-packed full of sad shit. FDS principles get applied and LVM is a victim. This is why you don’t explain. You just move on and leave him in the dust. No matter what you say, ladies, he won’t get it. He isn’t capable. That’s why you’re dumping him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:44 PM
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When everyone points out how gross this is (and do you know how fucked up it has to be for the pornsick LVM’s there to be offended?!) she just says he’s “an odd duck.” No, beloved, he’s a worthless pornsick cumbrain who is treating you like a fleshlight with a pulse. And how bad is his anger that you can’t even talk to him about it? Sister run run RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:42 PM
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Please tag this user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:39 PM
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My sisters of color have it worse than fucking any of us, y’all. The misogyny in the culture is real and it’s strong. Edit: I found this awesome thread from a few weeks ago. I’m always eager to read about your experiences, ladies: your struggles and your victories. I sincerely hope that we’re making enough room for you at the FDS table, and if we’re not please let us know. Your voices have been silent for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:39 PM
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Chris Rock said it best. “A man is only as faithful as his options.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:13 PM
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Boo hoo! His mommy issues means he just can’t trust women! Grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:12 PM
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Original post, in case of deletion [it was deleted, and it didn’t take long]: My boyfriend is a very sentimental/nostalgic guy. His phone still has a ton of old pictures of ex girlfriends/ one night stands from years back (including nudes). I know if we break up he’s keeping all my pictures. I live with him (I’m the only woman who has) and one day when I was cleaning our room I discovered a bunch of womens underwear. I asked him about this and he said they were from previous one night stands and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:08 PM
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The current top comment, from a sneaky Pickmeisha who’s actually right but for allllll the wrong reasons. My boyfriend once brought up the possibility of him moving in with his female best-friend, who they claim is platonic (and they also knew each other as long as you and your best friend have). However, I believe people’s minds can change anytime; anything can happen. I’ve had a best friend for ten years and we suddenly had feelings for each other. Honestly, I would trust my man, but I would n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:02 PM
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2005 Guarantee this guy is now married to a video game widow with 3 kids and she hasn’t had an orgasm in 4 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:51 PM
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Fair enough. This, ladies. They know exactly what they’re doing. When you don’t take the bait they’ll just move on looking for their next potential free prostitute. Don’t ever deliver sex to them like a Pickmeisha Pussy Uber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:50 PM
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There is no such thing as demisexual. It is not a sexual orientation to dislike hookup culture and casual sex. Take a break from OLD and actively seeking someone to fill this chasm in your heart and spirit. Work on yourself and your vision of the future. Seek support here (like you’re doing now!) and turn to people with likeminded values. You’re worth the journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:48 PM
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Language has power. Wield it accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:21 PM
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Sister I’m so glad you found a way out. I’m so glad you’re alive and awake. You’re strong and you’re brave. Don’t ever bow down to a man again, beloved. ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:02 AM
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Yes, sister. The low effort and lack of concern say all you need to hear. Please spend some time reading through the sidebar, u/bigstona. Don’t believe the Reddit hype that we’re gold-digging misandrists. That’s what LVM like this dude want you to think because otherwise the game is up. You. Deserve. More.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:00 AM
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Cleer-ahnce Must be Italian!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:56 AM
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Yep. That’s exactly how it was when I was in the scene. I re-enacted my traumas every time I took my clothes off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:54 AM
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You’re absolutely right. ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:52 AM
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I’m so sorry you were treated like a thing. Pornsick men don’t see us as human beings, so I don’t feel bad for exposing them one single bit. My feminism has me concerned for biological women. NO ONE ELSE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:49 AM
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We’re here for you, beloved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:26 AM
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I made an additional topic about “accidental” anal sex calling it exactly what it is: rape. That one yielded ever more extreme responses. They’re mad for a reason. Cause we’re waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:24 AM
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I’m a registered nurse. If any of you ladies would like images to send in reply to these pornsick piece of shit losers I’d be happy to help. If a man sends me a dick pic I like to send one back to him (right before I block him, of course). I’m talking dick pics that will make them fucking puke. Google is a lot more fun when you’re fluent in medical terminology and pathophysiology. PM if I can be of service, or comment and I’ll hit you with the terms here. Edit: Fuck it. Please know that this wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:23 AM
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“No” is a complete sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:12 AM
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Some women have internalized their misogyny and will treat other women like shit. Don’t allow these types of women into your social circle and don’t seek their counsel. Any woman who would gossip about you, let alone because of this, isn’t your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:26 AM
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I started a thread here about why medical professionals don’t have anal sex and you shouldn’t either. The results were fucking wild: I had to turn off PM’s and every comment and post I’ve made for the last 6-7 months across Reddit was brigaded. They’re so fucking mad it gives me power to smash through the day. Fuck em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:23 AM
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I have a few genuine friends who are men. They have never said or acted in any way inappropriate. Most of them are married with wonderful wives and children. The one that isn’t married is a devoted full-time father (widower) and doesn’t participate in hookup culture or date LVW. They have made an effort to get to know my own partner, and would never say or do anything to me that they wouldn’t directly in front of him. The remaining 2 are gay. To a person, they’re men with whom there is absolutel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:17 AM
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There’s a specific type of gangrene that affects the testicles: Fournier’s gangrene {warning that the link is sorta graphic} I’ve treated 3 or 4 guys with it because it’s very common on the gulf coast where I practiced, and you see it a whole lot with diabetic guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:57 AM
41

A question a feminist must always ask herself and others: Who does this belief and/or practice benefit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:41 AM
16

Yeah when we do see them in the hospital it’s almost always a) an elderly man or b) homeless man and/or any man with exceptionally bad hygiene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:54 PM
24

Men rarely get UTI’s because of the length of their urethra. Conversely, the shortness of our urethras is exactly why we’re so at risk. Mother Nature might be a Pickmeisha, too. (I’m a registered nurse)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:46 PM
6

Hey good for you sis! You seem so sharp and self-reflective. I bet you put out great energy. Especially the part about becoming addicted to the online feedback. I wish you much success! ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:28 PM
6

Have you read the FDS materials in the sidebar? Are you familiar with the core of FDS principles? Edit: I see you posted this on /r/AskMen, also. We can’t help those who won’t help themselves. Please read everything in the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:49 PM
36

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:47 PM
38

Don’t fool yourselves, ladies. In the age of Plan B men are hitting it raw most of the time. Every Pickmeisha I know doesn’t require condom use from her partners. Condom use is more important now than ever. If you’ve addressed proper fit and lubrication (this is quite important for his comfort), then work down the list. He’s either: Not accustomed to condom usage. Many young men masturbate with condoms both for ease of cleanup and for training themselves. But if he’s used to going raw he will st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:45 PM
167

Men will have 3 holes to disinfect, and they’ll be challenging to clean properly. If not done right, she’ll quickly transform from pretty doll to Petri dish. Lol these men won’t even wash their dicks you think they care how clean the place where they put it is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:39 PM
2

Well fuck me that’s embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:36 PM
5

Edit: I don’t know stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:29 PM
20

Well maybe WSJ should be doing a story about those sorry ass motherfuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:27 PM
11

Oh honey no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:07 PM
22

I’m sure a sizable portion just block me. But I have seen a few show up here. Two of them messaged me back and thanked me. I found this place last year and it has helped me tremendously. We have a strong community here of women supporting women. I believe in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:49 PM
75

That’s the first thing: never be surprised at the misogyny in /r/Relationship_Advice. The place is swarming with abusers, apologists, red pillers, Pornsick losers, and their handmaidens. I send PM’s to female posters between 10-15 times a week encouraging them to visit us here. That fucking place is worse than /r/BlackPeopleTwitter some days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:31 AM
24

🎶 5 🎶 🎶 5 dollar brokeass man 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:21 AM
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He doesn’t have a ring. What he has a is a woman with no self-esteem who’s willing to accept a gaslighting piece of shit into her house and into her womb. Ladies: if he wants to marry you, HE WILL ASK. He ain’t got no problem asking to fuck you or asking you to move in with his stupid ass. He knows how to speak. In fact, he’s speaking loud-and-fucking-clear. NO NO NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:18 AM
8

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:13 AM
6

The streets are wild out here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:50 AM
14

Does he have HVM qualities? Does he treat her well and doesn’t have absurd standards/expectations for her? The answers to this are all absurdly evident in the original post. The problem here isn’t age: it’s a man who has no desire to marry a woman he’ll buy a house with and have a child with. A woman who plainly wants to get married and has told him that. I don’t care if he feeds the homeless and rescues animals from factory farms: throw the whole man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:48 PM
19

I noticed this, too. Language has power. How fucking generous of him to be willing to discuss the future with his partner of 3 years and the mother of his infant child. Notice the “discussion” is really her baring her heart and him explaining why he’s not willing to marry her. Sometimes it’s hard for us as women to accept reality as it is. Not what we want it to be, but exactly as it is now. You’ve given him three years and a child. You bought a home together (don’t even get me started on this d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:43 PM
47

I love motorcycles, camping, and generally just being outdoors. Good. Fucking dog oughta sleep outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:35 PM
160

“What happened was that I started drinking more and more when my marriage was falling apart...” So I speak addict and asshole. Allow me to translate. “I fucked around on my wife. A lot. I also drank. A lot. I also gambled. A lot. When I got caught and had to deal with the damage I did, I drank even more. Look at how regretful I am that our marriage ‘fell apart.’ Notice how it just happened to me, as opposed to something I did to end the marriage. I’m sensitive and changed and hey I’m famous wann…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:30 PM
51

Make that check payable to Fighting Fuckboys LLC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:25 PM
27

Childhood trauma and the subsequent substance abuse it triggered. Once I got sober and got serious about therapy and personal growth, I left it all behind. The work is hard but it is always worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:56 PM
218

My ex was fairly traditional. I’m gonna translate this for y’all: his ex didn’t let him put it in her ass, choke her, facefuck her, and/or didn’t do the above with sufficient enthusiasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:55 PM
12

I hope she finds her way here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:53 PM
27

Jennifer Aniston’s entire filmography. Fight me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:52 PM
43

he says he already thinks of me as his wife. Then why aren’t you? They always say this shit. Men will casually create a whole fucking human being with women, requiring at least 18 years of financial and emotional support (or that’s the hope, anyway), but won’t marry you. You can change your mind about marriage but a kid is kiiiiiind of permanent. Of course, guys like this often change their minds about the children they’ve created, too. I don’t want to have any more conversations with him about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:46 PM
15

This is an excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:57 PM
42

It’s a socially acceptable way to call her a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:55 PM
35

In the hospital we had a term for this: short man syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:53 PM
25

THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:51 PM
52

I’ve been calling out women for acting like Pickmesha Pussy Uber and, well, we’ve come full circle. At least a prostitute gets paid for her troubles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:51 PM
34

I don’t even refer to him by name with her anymore. I either call him King Fuckboy or SSoS (sorry sack of shit). Like this motherfucker’s name is so evil and foul I can’t have it pass my lips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:23 PM
7

She doesn’t reddit, but I sent her a link to the post and to the sub in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:05 PM
9

Fucking hell it’s frustrating, right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:05 PM
19

You’re absolutely right. And she’s always, always had Pickme Proclivities. I’ve told her repeatedly that until she gets therapy there will always be another Michael. So while the onus is on her to fix her own life, my strategy in 2020 is that she’ll certainly never get there if we keep patting her ass and pretending all this is okay. My job is to remind her of reality. What she does with that knowledge is really up to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:04 PM
61

GIIIIIRL. She bought him gifts. She would drive an hour each way in the middle of the night to go fuck him. She introduced him to her kids and encouraged them to form a relationship with him. She let him fuck her raw and relied on Plan B/secretly hoped for an “accident.” She’s never been on a date with him. He’s never taken her anywhere in public, not even in another town. If there’s a totem pole of mistresses she’s at the very bottom. He ghosts her for months and sometimes years at a time. She …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:00 PM
120

Mostly into rough sex Great! I’m a dom and would love to fuck him in the ass with an 8-inch strap on and slap him around during. Don’t kinkshame me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:32 PM
100

He doesn’t have “mental illness.” He has “lazy fuck who doesn’t care about his wife” illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:42 PM
14

👏🏻 THE FUCKING AUDACITY 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:39 PM
26

I had never considered this perspective before. Thanks for showing me your experiences and what it might be like to look at dating through your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:13 AM
96

I’m sorry he did that to you. I truly am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:10 AM
44

FDS principles aren’t intended to turn off your feelings and fears. Rather, it gives you tools to manage them. Sure you’ll wonder the things you do and you’ll grieve the loss of what you had and what you hoped to have. But you’ll do that in healthy ways, in private and with your sisters, as opposed to opening your wounds for him on full display. A queen accepts that reality often clashes with our desires, even when it’s hard. We don’t allow people the opportunity to hurt us more than once. Block…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:14 PM
25

So I’m gonna say the thing that popped into my head immediately. Forgive me if I’m too blunt and I mean no disrespect. It’s in your drawer. Meaning he went through that drawer before you moved in, removing his things, making room for yours. And left that envelope in there. I don’t see how any man who’s planning a proposal, complete with a ring, could forget about this? Like, how do you forget that you’re hiding an engagement ring? So either it’s not for you or he’s so fucking lackadaisical about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:09 PM
79

I’m sorry you’re in pain. Go easy on yourself. Sure, you faltered and you regret that. But consider it the price of tuition if you learned a lesson. Next time, you’ll be prepared. There will be a next time, beloved. You’re a good person who brings value, integrity, and honesty to the table. Look at how honest you were in your post! Don’t hide your light under a bushel: set that fucking bush on fire and walk away like the bad bitch you are. Remember that you if he was really the one he wouldn’t h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:03 PM
12

Someone clearly has no idea what her husband does with his phone in the bathroom for an hour, three times a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:46 PM
28

...and you may score yourself some free drinks out of it. OMG really?! I’ve always dreamed of a free cocktail! Throw in some mediocre sex in your apartment that smells like Hamburger Helper and I may just lose my mind with joy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:44 PM
13

Exactly. Human biological females are the people my feminism is for. All those with a Y chromosome are welcome to kiss my fucking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:36 PM
15

She could have done way better Melania made a living selling her body before marrying Mushroomhead Trump. She’s warped herself beyond recognition with plastic surgery and goes on TV to defend the guy who cheated on her with porn stars while she was recovering from birth. I don’t feel a bit sorry for Mrs. “I don’t really care do you?.” She’s every bit as low value as he is. She sold her soul for some cash and a gold toilet and I hope she chokes on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:33 PM
17

He’s an ex for a reason. Leave him on read and hold tight to your dignity, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:26 PM
22

My feminism is for women. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:19 PM
204

Exactly! The ring just gets in the way when they’re spooning. It has nothing to do with his level of respect for his wife!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:13 PM
176

tHaT sOuNdS LiKe a GrEaT rElAtIoNsHiP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:12 PM
17

👏🏻 GOTDAMN 👏🏻 THE 👏🏻 AUDACITY 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:06 PM
26

Well said. It’s not fucking witchcraft or casting love spells. It’s about getting hour shit together and leveling up in every aspect of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:21 AM
37

Honestly I’d prefer a sexual predator like Trump not treat me well. He’s told us what he does to the ones he likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:00 AM
28

My BFF fell prey to a fuckboy ghost from the past when his mom died. He was so heartbroken that he needed complete and total emotional support (in addition to what he was receiving from his current girlfriend), but he wasn’t too upset to bang my friend twice in his dead mother’s house (where he lives) before her body was barely even cold. He leveraged his sad story into another month of her delivering free pussy to him in the middle of the night like Pickmesha Uber. Here’s the deal. People die. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:58 AM
133

Trump does this to Melania constantly. Even in the rain, he walks ahead of her with an umbrella and leaves her to her own devices, completely forgetting she’s even there. Same thing with their kid. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’re living in the golden age of worthless sack of shit men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:48 AM
33

Looks like Eric Trump. HabsburgChin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:45 AM
21

Goddamn dating is a fucking nightmare these days. All you ladies deserve a shot/joint/meditation retreat if you’re sober.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:59 PM
20

Ugh why is this becoming a thing? Because it’s easier to humiliate yourself in public than it is to accept exactly why he hasn’t married you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:29 PM
23

mEn HaVe To Be LaZy LoVeRs iT’s ScIeNcE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:26 PM
9

I’ll just leave this here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:21 PM
21

It's funny how guys want anal but period blood is iCkY. Period sex doesn’t cause women pain, though (usually). Make no mistake about pornsick men: they love anal sex because it hurts us. The humiliation and pain is what gets them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:19 PM
71

The research also shows that older men make uglier babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:15 PM
17

slow clap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:53 AM
14

🐍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:50 AM
21

Prepare to be disgusted. She married him after he did this and she had a kid with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:46 AM
6

I’m sorry he did that to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:45 AM
6

nOt AlL mEn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:38 AM
24

The coven has spoken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:37 AM
6

... and I need him for emotional support. Um.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:59 PM
60

“Hey babe! You want a glass of wine?” “Sure! Sounds great.” “Cool. Bring me one, too.” the tone of every relationship I ever had in my 20’s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:58 PM
27

I’d rather those things end up in the dump than victimizing other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:57 PM
16

This is an excellent point and one I hadn’t thought of before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:49 PM
16

My best friend of 22 years was the side chick to a guy for 15 years through both a marriage and a girlfriend after he got divorced (when he got divorced he did not openly date her and immediately partnered up with one of the other ladies he’d been cheating with). He’s an alcoholic and an all-around gross human being. She went over there when he summoned her for sex, and after he fell asleep she stayed up all night cleaning and organizing his house, doing laundry and just generally making it fit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:25 PM
17

These are exactly the results that hookup culture yields. Gals have been conditioned to be used as living masturbatory aids and be grateful to get it. So when someone comes along that treats you like a human being, he’s suddenly a glorious king from on high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:15 PM
17

I’ve also seen some newbies defend porn and the men who use it. We must always be on our toes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:38 AM
3

My single aunt in her 60’s calls them her “man friends.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:36 AM
6

I have a deep, deep weakness for beardy old-man dogs. He’s adorable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:35 AM
3

PREACH, sister 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:33 AM
9

/u/12sushi are you okay tonight? I mean that sincerely. Do you need to talk? We’re here. Your value is inherent, my love. Acne or a lackluster job could never change that. You matter no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:28 AM
12

This is actually a very prevalent problem throughout the prison system. I have relatives who work in corrections and it is a constant problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:26 AM
9

You know how a man communicates he doesn’t want to be a father? By taking responsibility for his dick and not getting anyone pregnant. Beyond that your opinion, feelings, desires, or inconvenience means nothing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:23 AM
3

Rasputina “If Your Kisses Can’t Hold the Man You Love” 🎶 What's the use in sighing? What's the use in crying? If he's wandered off the track 'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love Then your tears won't bring him back, no You might as well be cheerful, there's no use being tearful If he's given you the sack 'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love Then your tears won't bring him back Now, listen, if sweet sugar kissin' isn't gonna make him come home Tell me, how do ya hope to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:16 AM
1

Holy shit that’s amazing! New anthem alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:06 AM
45

It’s a causal arrangement based only on sex and no emotions, so why do say your friends? Because it feels slightly more dignified than “casual free prostitute.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:57 AM
23

My heart hurts for the women out there, especially the young ones, who are completely beaten down and submissive to their own degradation. It’s a tiny little gesture that takes a mere moment of my time, but if even one woman finds our community and finds validation and support, it’s worth it. I’m sure the majority just ignore it or immediately block me because FDS is literally worse than being a Nazi and we’re all disgusting f*mcels who hate men. But if just one is curious...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:43 AM
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I always send them a private message with words of support and encouragement that they’re not crazy or difficult. I link them to FDS in general. Sometimes if they’ve not explored the sub first they may think we’re just making fun of them to be funny. I want them to know that we’re here to support all women in lifting themselves out of fuckboy hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:01 PM
22

Fucking Christ, Aqua. That nearly gave me a stroke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:38 PM
60

Here’s a link to the deleted post ... and since he was never charged or even threatened with charges, if something DID happen, it must have been a mistake. A misreading of signals. Nobody is perfect, and I am reluctant to let that one moment define the man who in my eyes is kind, caring and gentle. He’s a nice guy! Why should we hold one little act of sexual assault against him? He’s not perfect! This terrifies me. This could completely ruin his life. He works in special needs child education an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:29 PM
12

There wasn’t a single, solitary sentence in that neckbeard’s screed that didn’t make me roll my eyes. He’s a redpiller and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:01 PM
16

But also, I will say this: If you do not like giving oral sex, stop bragging about how great you are at oral sex. It's false advertisement. and then you end up with a whiny chode like this who keeps asking you for it all the time and crying about it on Reddit. Exactly. That’s Pickme behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:50 PM
8

I’m assuming she took off the red nose and big shoes before she took her profile picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:47 PM
11

mY kIdS aInT cAlLiNg nO oThEr MaN dADdY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:44 PM
2

You’re a good one, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:35 PM
16

So yeah, I look like a confident strong woman. Now your inside matches your outside. Way to go, sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:15 AM
16

I’m moderately-to-very-attractive, depending on whether I give a shit about presentation that day. I clean up sharp as hell. I will say that I look better than a whole lot of my friends do at 40. Sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen every day y’all. Between this and Retin-A I don’t have any wrinkles or pigmentation problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:14 AM
56

If I were doing OLD not gonna lie: I would trick every one of these motherfuckers into sharing face and body pics, along with sexually explicit messages. Then I would blast them all over town on every outlet I could access. I would even try to specifically hunt down their wives and out them. Fucking scumbags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:26 PM
87

Carrie Bradshaw was Queen of the Pickmeshas. Team Aidan 4eva
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:02 PM
2

Hey! Thanks for the tip. I just found your post and pulled up the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:55 PM
14

If by “trolling” you mean blasting his shit all over the planet and sending it to his wife, friends, family, and co-workers, then yeah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:15 AM
3

I’d like to see something specifically addressing pornography. BDSM and “kink” is addressed, but I feel there’s room for a broader discussion about the harmful effects of porn. I’d love to see a firmer FDS stance against pornography and the men who consume it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:37 AM
9

It’s not cult-like to point out that the pornography industry exploits and abuses women and children. It’s not cult-like to point out that male consumption of porn drives that industry, and it also causes ED. It’s not cult-like to question societal or personal norms when they are harmful to women. Pornography harms women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:32 AM
12

We should probably get it out of the way now: FDS absolutely opposes pornography. We don’t feel there is any room for it in healthy relationships, either with men or with ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:11 AM
45

I would love to see you do an AMA in here. I’ve talked to a few other former sex workers who have since embraced FDS. I would love to pick y’alls brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:08 AM
28

OP you’re completely right. Being assertive helps you dodge a lot of bullets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:05 AM
10

Someone watches too much incest porn...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:04 AM
7

That’s lovely. I dig it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:02 AM
8

😂 Wherever this gal is, respect is being paid. Queen shit for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:01 AM
42

This is explicitly addressed in the FDS reading materials. We don’t accept or promote pornography or the purchasing of sex. This includes strip clubs. I bartended in a strip club in my 20’s and danced for a very short time. I would never, ever even consider dating someone who goes to them. The most lowdown nasty manchildren fuckboys doing the nastiest shit. And the cherry on top of the shit sundae is that they’re throwing all their money away while they’re doing it. I have never once met a man w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:28 PM
4

Oh honey no. This has to be trolling, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:03 PM
20

See I’m cranky. My response would have been, “Great! I could use a nice long shit.” Then block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:08 PM
9

Pornsick freaks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:51 PM
4

I remember this! Both the real lady and the ILC episode. Wild shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:39 AM
19

This is probably copy-pasted to every poor gal he matches/texts with. Fuck this loser, OP, and block his stupid fucking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:36 AM
8

Being a Pickmesha is different than being a negligent or abusive parent. Your cousin sounds like a shitty person. You don’t owe her your time or energy just because one of your parents siblings had kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:27 AM
61

Great, so you don't want to be bored by your free prostitute. Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:23 AM
123

It wasn’t creepy when he did it, but now when it’s another man he’s upset. He talks about his wife like she’s a dairy cow and this dude stole her milk. I...I just... Betcha nickel he watched lactation porn and that’s the real reason he’s pissed. Even when we bear the children they helped create, everything about our bodies is required to be sexual for them and belong to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:16 AM
71

iM a QuIrKy FuCkBoY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:29 PM
16

Of course it was porn. It’s always porn when they’re that young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:46 PM
8

Uh uh. It’s like being blindfolded, playing Pin the Tail on the Fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:43 PM
72

You know what I miss from the early 90’s? Consciousness-raising women’s groups. Nowadays when we try we get overrun by men in dresses and their libfem handmaidens. I miss Take Back the Night. I miss “Never again.” Edit: if you feel how I feel, you should be in /r/GenderCritical y’all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:56 PM
13

“Give it to You” by Jordan Knight (yes, ladies, remember NKOTB?!) is fucking groooooooooss. And while it’s not necessarily violent, that song “Crazy Bitch” by Buckcherry certainly makes me feel violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:54 PM
91

What adds an extra dimension to this is that Harley Quinn is horrifically abused by Joker. She exists literally as his plaything. They romanticized it in SS (still gross AF) but the cartoons and later comics were a whole other level. Remember that these mouth-breathers want that version of Harley Quinn: a perpetual victim with gigantic tits, no clothes, and no identity other than being emotionally and mentally unstable. Every woman I’ve ever known who is a HQ fan girl or partner cosplays with Jo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:49 PM
22

I agree with you 100%. I quit using social media long ago, and he hasn’t ever used much of it. But anyone who comes across his online footprint will instantly know he’s married, and how happy he is to be married. Remember ladies: his social media is literally his dating resume in this day and age. If he doesn’t want you on the resume it’s because he doesn’t want someone else to call and check his references.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:44 PM
28

GOTDAMN these ladies aren’t playing. I love, love, love this. This is my energy for today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:42 PM
178

Any man who uses the term “friendzoned” gets the axe. I’m not a fuckdoll. You don’t get to just put in friendship quarters and get dispensed a blowjob. Fuck outta here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:40 PM
30

Exactly. A HVM will be eager to show you off. Mine introduced me to his mother and siblings very early on, earlier than I ever expected. His social media all reflected my presence as his partner: statuses, photos, date night and event tags with me, etc. The man who deserves you will be so happy to have you, sisters, that he’ll want to tell the world all about you. After 9 years together my husband still brags about me to his co-workers, family, and friends. Wanna know the best feeling on earth w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:38 PM
32

I’m turning 40 in a few months. There have been few things in my life as freeing as learning to say, “No.” We are conditioned from birth to apologize, explain, soothe, and cajole. It’s why we allow predators into our sphere and it’s how we end up with LVM. Once you embrace the art of declining anything and everything that you don’t want a change will wash over you. I don’t explain why. I don’t make up an excuse to soothe hurt feelings. I don’t act diplomatic and turn it into a 10 minute monologu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:31 PM
29

You know who else does this? Men who are cheating on a “real” partner with you. Regardless of why he’s doing it (because I’m not a fucking psychologist and have no desire to fix your shit) this is always, always a red flag. If you’re a secret, sis, there’s a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:26 PM
26

Girl what you need is a good vibrator, not a dude old enough to be your dad who is close to your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:22 PM
208

Try not to make him feel bad about himself. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:10 PM
87

No is a complete sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:59 PM
1

Me, too. I’ll be 40 in the spring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:55 PM
21

Because a lot of men want anal sex and don’t give a damn whether the woman wants it or not. They don’t like anyone telling their secrets and the Pickmeshas have identified with their captors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:51 AM
7

✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:32 AM
4

Yep. She’s the one who brought me to tears. My heart hurts for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:09 AM
7

Fuck yeah. My feminism is for all women, even the ones who have survived patriarchy by embracing it. They need help the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:41 AM
5

How many male celebrities and CEOs do we see leave their first wives and long term girlfriends after they get famous? Are we going to say we really wouldn't date them if they pursued us? That’s exactly what I’m saying. The single biggest risk factor for shitty behavior is relevant past shitty behavior. If he’ll do it to her he will do it to you. I’m not on board with this line of thinking. This goes against some very basic FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:37 AM
35

Well it rhymes with “honey.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:20 AM
63

The fact that he targeted her while she was still a teen is something that is never discussed enough. Especially considering he did it to Rihanna, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:10 AM
115

She’s a Pickmesha for sure but she’s not wrong. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You commit to a man for who he is right now. Not who you think he can be or who you want him to be: just as he is right now. If he’s a loser he’s not going to become a winner. A husband and father shouldn’t be a project.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:07 AM
58

I wake up and piss excellence fire. Because of the chlamydia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:04 AM
28

I...I do not want this type of man. Any man who uses women can’t be HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:03 AM
11

Represent for our LB sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:02 AM
14

OP I adore this post. You have put in your work and I honor you for that. I’m so lucky strong women like you are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:02 AM
38

FUUUUUCK YEAH THEY ARE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:58 AM
14

I’m sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:17 AM
9

Fuck yeah it is. I don’t give a FUCK what men think of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:16 AM
14

Oh! This is a great topic. I don’t think we have enough discussion about FDS principles that fall outside of heterosexual relationships. Is there a FDS equivalent sub for our lesbian/bisexual sisters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:45 PM
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Misogyny isn’t anything new, of course, but it’s practiced more openly under anonymity, which Reddit provides. You know what else reddit provides a lot? Porn. A whole lot of it. In every fashion you can imagine and a lot you can’t. Men have become completely, hopelessly addicted to pornography. This generation of young men are the first who grew up on a steady diet of constant internet pornography and the pathological, compulsive masturbation that often accompanies it. What feels like a resurgen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:44 PM
72

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:34 PM
24

I must have sent PM’s to a dozen Pickmeshas in r/Relationship_Advice today alone. Men are mad as hell all over reddit that we’re exposing their lies, tricks, and pornsick abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:32 PM
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GOTDAMN y’all. These men get really fucking mad if you try to expose their tricks. Remember the risk you run when you let a LVM into your bed, ladies. You may “vigorous sex” your way into being “accidentally” anally “curb jumped” (this lie is so prevalent it has its own nickname).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:30 PM
26

YOU’RE THE BEST!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:19 PM
173

Olive Garden is the McDonald’s of Italian food in America. It’s all prepackaged, reheated stuff in super corporate, pseudo-Tuscany atmosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:42 PM
15

Well it explains why he’s broke. I’m sure he’ll use his new smile to prey on women for years to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:09 PM
111

Misogyny isn’t limited to BPT, y’all. This is the front page of /r/WhitePeopleTwitter today. “Accidental” anal sex isn’t an accident: IT IS RAPE. I will not shut up about it and neither should you. If you insert your penis, hands, objects, or anything else inside a part of my body I explicitly did not give you permission to, YOU ARE A RAPIST. Never shut up ladies, even when your inbox is full of “it’s a joke!” or “feminazi” or “goldigging whore youd like it if the guy is rich I’ve seen your post…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:40 PM
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She thinks it’s just $50. I promise you he’s hiding a lot more. Any man who would pay randos on IG is sleazy and stupid to his core. Lady better get her Detective hat on and get to work before she ends up on the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:45 PM
20

Good call, OP. I’ve noticed this, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:43 PM
11

My 10 year-old nephew has been caught repeatedly looking at pornography. It’s the new normal and has been for longer than we realize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:10 PM
27

“Self-employed”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:06 PM
35

So this is the master race, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:02 PM
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I am not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:56 PM
8

I’m proud of you for making changes. Changing yourself is one of the hardest and most rewarding things you’ll ever do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:24 AM
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YESSSSSS. Excellent link. I’ve heard it called the 13th step in some women’s groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:41 AM
17

The lessons have to hurt sometimes to stick, don’t they? I’m glad you’re free of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:25 PM
16

This motherfucker has a college degree. Let that sink in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:19 PM
41

Ask him where he gets his news. If he says Fox, OAN, FaceBook, or any other propaganda service run for the fucking hills. Facts tend to have a liberal bias.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:18 PM
15

I encourage you to read through all the FDS materials in the sidebar. They will help you make sense of your feelings and illuminate what I’m sure is just one of many other issues. My heart, your (very) young boyfriend is pornsick. He has a willing participant who is eager to bond him and he’s still choosing porn. See, that’s what sex is when it’s healthy: bonding. But he’s turning to the instant gratification of pornography despite knowing how it makes you feel. He’s likely been viewing it since…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:16 PM
3

I have heard of CODA, but SLAA is new to me. I’m definitely going to do some research! Thanks, love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:35 PM
12

That’s hard, love. I feel where you’re coming from. It sounds like he might have been unwilling to meet your standards in order to take things to bed. If that’s the case, then this is an example of exactly why this strategy works. If he’s not willing to put in the effort unless he’s getting laid, then he didn’t care about your spirit and your dreams. It’s also possible that he just wasn’t feeling the connection or you two are too different to be compatible. While that’s obviously disappointing, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:33 PM
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OP I’m so proud you found the strength to leave. You sound like one hell of a mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:27 PM
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I wish I had positive influences like this growing up in the 80’s and 90’s. Alas, I’m from evangelical culture in the South and was literally surrounded by nothing but internalized misogyny. I take my strength from you ladies, my women’s groups, and protest/political action. I try to actively impart my views to my nieces, and even my nephew. Sometimes you gotta give yourself and others what no one could give you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:26 PM
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This is perfect. So I sent it to my Pickmesha bestie of over 20 years, who is currently going through a “breakup” (she was the guy’s mistress for over a decade and he’s literally the most worthless human being I’ve ever known). She responded positively... ...and then she shared it to social media for him to see. Because she hasn’t blocked him. And she has no fucking dignity left. I’m squinting angrily today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:19 PM
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Push therapy on her. Push it like cocaine in the 80’s. There will be another one just like this one if she doesn’t work on herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:16 PM
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Motherfuckers have a wife at work and a forever girlfriend at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:14 PM
2

I am not familiar with SLAA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:09 PM
5

Personally, as someone who dates women as well, if I got the I know response, I’d be like, she’s cheeky, I love it! Exactly. If you’re looking good you should already know it, and therefore while the compliment is nice it can’t manipulate you. It signals to a man you know you look good and therefore won’t tolerate low effort shit. But if for some reason you don’t look as good as he says (we’re more than our appearance and sometimes it’s not great) it still can’t manipulate you. You won’t take it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:08 PM
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I taught my nieces (newly 18 and 13) when someone compliments you (you look good, I like that haircut, your nails are fly, etc) the response is always, “I know, right?!” Their mom always thought it was a joke but it was not. I knew exactly what I’m doing there. It needs to take a lot more than lazy compliments to get my girls’ attention. Looking good is great but it’s about the least important thing men will ever say to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:17 PM
5

Look at the way he’s sitting in his profile photo. Even his body language conveys how he relates to the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:12 PM
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Sister I’m here if you need to talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:43 PM
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I posted a discussion thread about this in FDS not too long ago. I was curious who had the same experiences I did in my 20’s. It was so disheartening and heart wrenching. So many of us have been anally raped by men we trusted. Say it with me: accidental anal sex is NOT an accident. It’s rape. Edit: there’s a top level comment in the linked thread from a gal describing a man who anally raped her after trying to coerce her for a long time. It’s horrifying...and is immediately followed by her clari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:51 PM
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RUUUUUUN, girl. If their dicks were as big as their egos it would be like taking a jumbo jet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:48 PM
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Nah sis. You know what I call my friends? Friend. Know what I call my co-workers? You see where this is going. Words have power. Believe the men who use them this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:37 PM
41

I’m not like other wives! I’m a cool wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:30 PM
36

She’s a complete Pickmesha, isn’t she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:07 PM
6

Hey lady! I’m so glad you’re here, and I’m so glad you survived. Let’s celebrate our accomplishments today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:36 PM
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Men who have “work wives” require constant attention, coddling, and nurturing from every woman they encounter, even co-workers. I don’t trust any man, regardless of his field, who uses this kind of identity toward platonic friends/acquaintances. Remember ladies: in America we spend most of our lives at work. This man is spending upwards of 40-50 hours every single week with his “work wife.” Let that sink in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:35 PM
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This is just being gay with extra steps. Since so many of them are obsessed with anal, maybe it’s time to make the change, boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:14 PM
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I was a critical care (ICU) and trauma nurse for many years. If you weren’t aware, the number one fields for male nursing are...critical care and emergency/trauma. There is no one I know who has had to listen to more mansplaining about my own area of expertise than myself. The traits that make you successful in these fields include: confidence, assertiveness, quick and informed decision making, an ability to assume control of a chaotic situation, and a willingness to engage with very high strung…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:42 PM
35

Gotdamn the second guy. What an arrogant asshat. “Make sure you take a shower prior to meeting up.” The only shower I need is after reading this guy’s bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:26 PM
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Yeah yeah, Pickmesha. Update us in 5 years when he’s choosing porn over you, his forever girlfriend and chore chump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:24 PM
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So message if you’re a dude. This is a men-looking-for-men ad. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:21 PM
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Thank you, sister. I believe in women educating women about what it means to be a woman. These days the only voices we’re hearing about that are pornsick men in general and pornsick men in dresses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:25 PM
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I posted the following comment in that thread: Maybe she’s defensive cause you call women bitches. Got downvoted so hard and fast my comment is simmering in hell. BPT is absurdly misogynistic most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:04 AM
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Sex has just become another form of masturbation for these fucking guys. Sometimes their toy has a pulse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:58 AM
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I’m an addict in recovery and this shit is totally parallel. Let’s point out that metaphorical and literal addiction will cloud your judgment: get sober and get your lives back, my self-medicating sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:55 AM
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hE fUcKs mE fOr HoUrS bUt haSN’t EvEr EjACuLaTEd dUrInG sEx bUt HeS a BuDDhIst dO YOu tHiNk We ShOuLD tRy aNaL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:41 PM
5

See this is literally why the block function is available on your phone and across all social media. He’s no one to you anymore but a guy you used to (sort of) know. Do you feel obligated to take texts/calls/inquiries/messages from your third grade crush? You used to know him, too. Stop letting him yank your chain, beloved. I’m going to tell you the thing you need to hear right now: HE. DOES. NOT. LOVE. YOU. He has made clear, in word and deed, that he doesn’t love you. He certainly doesn’t resp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:36 PM
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I read this book back in my early 20’s when it first came out and it instantly clicked for me. Unfortunately, I didn’t act on my understanding until much later and continued to immerse myself in Pickmesha/pornsick culture for the remainder of my 20’s. Anyone old enough to remember the rise of Girls Gone Wild/Jenna Jameson culture will really love this book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:25 PM
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yOu’RE tHe OnLy ONe BaBy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:22 PM
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Every now and then I read that sub. It inspires me to stay mad as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:51 PM
20

“We’re both into BDSM and some CnC.” 🙄 Then you shouldn’t be shocked that he enjoys your suffering. But, yes, he’s been watching rape porn and he can only get hard if his dick is causing your pain. This poor, silly Pickmesha made me depressed as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:14 PM
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I am so glad you found your way here, sis! Seriously. I was literally in the middle PM’ing you an invitation to come join us in FDS. I hope you’ll look around and stay awhile. Your value is more than what you’ve been willing to accept, beloved. You deserve the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:59 PM
10

Yeah we talk a lot about pornsick but gamesick is real shit too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:52 AM
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This was EXACTLY what I needed to read today. Thank you, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:12 PM
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When you substitute the word “prostitution” every time they use the word “date” it suddenly makes sense. Of course they want to get a prostitute for as cheap as possible! That’s just their hunter-gatherer genetic programming, silly female, and you shouldn’t be a gold digger. Now make sure you brush your teeth really well before your “date” because Pornsick Paul bought lattes and he’s gonna expect to fuck your face in exchange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:19 PM
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Everyone: Why do so many men create children and then abandon them? Bullshit trifling lying deadbeat ass sack of shit men: Yeah but did you ask yourself what they did to deserve it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:16 PM
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Ugh. It makes me mad to even talk about that shit! Lol Edit: I started re-reading just to see if I still felt the same. Yep. Nearly threw my phone away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:13 PM
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I want you to stop having anal sex. . You are a beautiful queen, not a breathing blowup doll. Keep reading FDS and keep working on yourself. If you’ve never tried therapy, now is a great time to start. Welcome to the rest of your new life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:07 PM
8

I recognized this piece from the url and immediately felt my blood pressure rise. That and bile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:57 PM
22

In with all the “eRMaGeRd hE’s JuST neRvoUS yoU shOulD bE fLaTTeREd.” Yeah, he’s nervous because it involves a real life woman this time instead of three-times-a-day to iPhone porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:13 AM
22

Start therapy now if you haven’t already, and go more often if you have. Make your relationship with yourself healthy and strong, and you’ll avoid the worst of the wounds to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:09 AM
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What are your parents like, in particular your father? How is their relationship with each other? How old are you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:06 AM
12

Hey lady I’m so glad you found us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:06 PM
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Think about this every time a man wants to hit it raw, ladies. It’s not just pregnancy. You’re gonna end up with open pustules on your pussy for the rest of your life and this motherfucker doesn’t even know the color of your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:13 PM
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I don’t know. That seems like a long winded way of saying “pussy ass bitch boy trying to play you for a fool.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:45 AM
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The update in 6 months will be asking if it’s weird that her husband’s best friend has a baby that looks just like her husband, and everyone says it’s his baby, and he pays baby mama’s bills but he says it’s just because she has psychological problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:41 PM
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My best friend of 22 years is one of the worst Pickmeshas, if not THE worst, I’ve ever personally known. It’s frustrating and causes me to step back and focus on myself sometimes, but I also love her deeply. I try to help her whenever I can, including being bluntly honest about her fuckboy situationship. She’s otherwise a great person and great friend. So I guess I don’t hold her internalized misogyny against her, though I’m always encouraging her to get therapy and work on her shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:38 PM
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I’m an addict in recovery and did a lot of immoral shit in my free fall to rock bottom. I’m glad you’re out of that, and I’m sorry that you went through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:54 PM
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I’m sorry. I’m so, so sorry. We’re here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:12 PM
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Jesus Christ the audacity of both of them. Who is this lady? Ghislaine Maxwell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:35 PM
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Say it with me, ladies: NEVER DATE A COP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:34 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻 Yep. That’s why they push this culture of “working” to earn fidelity; “keeping” him from straying by being a blowup doll or breathing Fleshlight. You’re required to be creative and never stop upping the ante or they’ll “get it somewhere else.” The limit does not exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:33 PM
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Oh my dear. I’m so sorry for what that horrible, vile creature did to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:43 AM
12

That sounds miserable. I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:39 AM
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Yep cause they’re still men. Selfish to the bitter end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:44 AM
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I hear what you’re saying. You sound like that 10% we were talking about who genuinely enjoy it. You take your time, go gentle, and don’t do it often. I see no issue with that whatsoever. Enjoy yourself sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:35 AM
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Repeated anal sex can colonize your vagina with fecal bacteria, which over time can lead to UTI even in the absence of current anal sex. I’m in no way claiming that’s what happened to you as I don’t know anything about your circumstances and don’t have magic X-ray microbiologist eyes. But I wanted to thank you for giving your thoughts on it. Sincerely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:07 AM
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Go on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:00 AM
39

Word 👏🏻 for 👏🏻 word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:58 AM
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Every time I read a relationship post from some poor gal that enrages me, I send a PM. If you see something, say something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:37 AM
15

I liiiiike this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:17 AM
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I hope this woman finds this sub. It will certainly be easier for her now that I’ve sent her a PM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:15 AM
62

Cosmo is a Handmaiden Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:07 AM
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Most of my gay male RN friends refuse to bottom for anyone, outside of the rare special occasion, for all the reasons I mentioned. I practiced in the 3rd largest city in the country so it’s a pretty large pool of guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:55 AM
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I’m sorry that someone you trusted hurt you like that. You’re in my thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:51 AM
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I see your point. A HVW will still have trouble getting a date if her underwear all have shit stains and she smells foul from fecal incontinence. She’ll have a disrupted sex life with a colostomy bag. Her adult diapers will make dressing well impossible. And you know what? He’ll still cheat. The limit does not exist. Tell your friends to get appropriate-sized anal toys (no regular dildos and it MUST have a phlange) and use only on themselves if they desire penetration, and to stop when they feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:48 AM
49

I would climb on that big tree of a man so fast I would break my pelvis. Still wouldn’t let him put it in my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:41 AM
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Anal is definitely more high risk than vaginal sex, but I’d take the medical research with a pinch of salt. I don’t. That’s the point of evidence-based medicine and clinical practice: we evolve our understanding and treatment of disease based on observed, measurable clinical data. The clinical data is clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:30 AM
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ANALINGUS IS FUCKING DISGUSTING. It is a dirty, dirty, dirty practice with plenty of its own health risks. This includes E. coli and C. difficile infections, hepatitis A (and B and even C), HPV, various parasites like pinworms and tapeworms, and gastrointestinal viruses that cause pathological diarrhea. When performing analingus on any human being you are consuming quantifiable amounts of shit. Even if their waters were clear, henty, there is always feces present in the rectal tract. But if they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:26 AM
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It should make you reconsider. Because nothing good will come of it, sis. You should never allow someone to do something you don’t want and/or is harmful to you just because they’re curious. I’ve always been curious what it would be like to ride Adam Driver but I’m not going to demand my partner make it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:01 AM
27

FUCK YEAH YOU DID!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:25 PM
453

I fucking promise you they are. I know the human body and I also know the sway Pickmesha conditioning can have over it. aNaL sEx JuSt TaKeS tImE & pRaCtIcE. tRuSt Is SeXy It takes 2 hours of slow work up, finger and toy dilation, gallons of lube, 30 minutes of deep breathing, and 15 minutes of begging him to go slow just to get Johnny McDeathgrip’s sad 4 inches inside an orifice? That’s because he’s not supposed to be fucking you there. Tell him you’re into urethral sounding. Insist on shoving s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:24 PM
34

It wasn't violent or anything... That doesn’t matter, beloved ... and I did end up giving up the fight weak as it was. So? That doesn’t matter, either. Don’t do that. Don’t minimize the pain of your experience. You did what you did to survive. You had physical and mental responses to trauma, and many of them were quite unconscious. A woman who is abducted by a stranger and raped at knifepoint is no more a “legitimate” victim than a young woman with someone she trusted to be a decent human being.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:06 PM
48

Accidental anal sex isn’t an accident: it’s rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:52 PM
19

I’m so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:52 PM
32

My question is - how do I break up with him when I love the guy to death, despite that he’s LVM? A good place to start is the mirror. Ask yourself why you “love him to death” even though he’s clearly LVM and pornsick. Have you ever been in therapy, beloved?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:08 PM
11

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:03 PM
12

I certainly can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:49 PM
31

Words have power. Name and shame it. The only fault here is in the man who raped you. A rapists rapes because he enjoys victimizing and humiliating women. When you take back your strength and find peace, then he’ll never be able to hurt you ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:30 PM
43

Thanks for sharing that with us. What he did was rape. He raped you. I’m sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:24 PM
9

✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:41 PM
65

See sometimes they can be trained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:41 PM
155

I’m a retired registered nurse. I worked in ICU/trauma in a major metropolitan Level I facility for over a decade. Let me be clear: anal sex is high-risk sexual behavior for a reason. It invariably causes physiological damage, particularly when practiced repeatedly over time. Back in the day my fellow LGB friends/allies were often angry if we asked about their sexual practices, particularly anal sex. In this case it’s not homophobic, although there is certainly room to discuss the real homophobi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:38 PM
29

Look at his hands, ladies. If his fingernails are long, run run run. If they’re dirty, and he didn’t just finish working on the car or gardening or some shit, look for the exit. Men with filthy hands are filthy people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:47 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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