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“Dangers of Dating Your Best Friends’ Girlfriend’s Best Friend” makes for a great title for a parody romcom movie. Wow LOL. It’s not that serious, dude. Just another life experience. Go with it and enjoy yourself regardless of what happens. I learned a long time ago that when we make a bid deal out things that have such low stakes, it’s because we don’t actually have anything of real substance going on in our lives. Let this short scene from “Billions” capture it succinctly. https://youtu.be/zvl…
/r/askTRP12/11/19 01:27 PM
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As others have said, blocking was weak. That’s the part of your frame you should be worried about. Save face by saying “seeing if you were paying attention” and play it off. Dude, don’t be sensitive. Just ignore and talk to other chicks. She either comes back or she doesn’t, but either way you’re living your life to the fullest.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 03:59 AM
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Hey man just enjoy the ride while you’re behind the wheel and don’t get attached. Unless you’re trying to snag an LTR (why?) just except it has an eventual expiration date. When the day comes it smells expired...toss it. To answer your question, no there are no such things as unicorns. You’re doing it wrong thinking there’s a chance there is one. You need to go into it with mindset they don’t exist. Period. They’re too good at disguising they’re true selves to go into it with hope. Hope will be …
/r/askTRP21/10/19 02:30 AM
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Dude she ghosted because you gave HER blue balls. Smh
/r/askTRP18/10/19 02:41 AM
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If you’ve dated long enough, and have been with enough of them for longer than a few months, you’ll discover many of them will make these similar comments. Like most things they say, it doesn’t mean anything once she says it. She’ll say the same thing to the next guy she’s seeing too...I swear, if I didn’t know any better, I’d be convinced they’ve all been uploaded with a specific call and response algorithm.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 01:58 AM
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Obviously this was stupid but you already know that. It’s out in the open and you feel embarrassed. But this is also your one opening to maybe escape and for everyone to understand if you flip it. What you do is use your relationship as the culprit for your “recent behavior”. You were destroyed by it and you writing this stuff was therapeutic to not feel the pain of losing the love of your life. But you are much better now. Journaling is a well known and accepted prescription for processing emot…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 02:10 AM
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a) it was an example b) context is key. If it’s a plate, there’s no need to explain yourself. If it’s anything more, setting boundaries is critical. It requires some type of communication strategy, which is to determined on case by case basis. The method above is something I’ve developed for FWBs, which has worked very well FOR ME. It has proven to limit the amount of reoccurring shit tests bc each time one occurs it is essentially a net loss for girl side. I love that “well, since you brought i…
/r/askTRP14/10/19 02:19 PM
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It is absolutely test. She may want you to text faster and be serious about it but ultimately it’s a test to see if you will conform to her whims. Me personally, my response would be to react with some confusion and the opportunity to set my boundaries. I’m giving you an example for context and plausible situation. You: What do you mean? I always respond as soon as I read my messages. Her: But it takes you ___ to answer, that’s not fast. You: really? I don’t know how other people do it but for m…
/r/askTRP14/10/19 02:07 AM
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You’re way overthinking it. Us guys aren’t that complicated when it comes to dating apps. Simple things like “Hey you’re cute” or something basic you saw in the profile, or touch on a common interest, or interesting expression, or the activity in the picture will all get the point across. If a guy thinks your pictures are cute, he’ll respond. Have nice, clear pictures. Do no upload pictures that look like they were taken with the resolution of a flip phone camera. And for the love of god don’t h…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 05:03 AM
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Maybe it’ll work.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 02:35 AM
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100% right. It’s a perfect example of how blue pill society has pushed us when we see where the line actually is. What you said should be common sense for appropriate behavior and respect from an LTR. Instead of being blown away and appalled at the level of disrespect being thrown at OP for all to witness, he thinks he should correct it. The fact it doesn’t register to her this is inappropriate in general, not to mention from an LTR, tells you everything you need to know about the caliber of wom…
/r/askTRP03/10/19 02:18 AM
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/r/askTRP28/09/19 05:13 PM
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Context is everything. That’s not what happened in OP’s story. OP is in here whining about “woulda been nice to get some action” type shit. Human thing is helping if you’re genuinely being kind to your fellow man. This is classic example of nice guy/beta game, does A in hopes of getting female attention in return. He’s in here butthurt about a covert contract that didn’t give him the results he was hoping for so he’s bitter. OP is the only selfish thing here.
/r/askTRP28/09/19 04:24 PM
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For both casual dating and LTR (disclosure: I haven’t been in LTR after red pill, about 2 years ago) I keep it very simple and not overthink things. I ask myself, do I want to do ___ or am I doing ___ to be nice? If the answer is no, I don’t do it and not care how it’s received. The reason why I keep that simple is, at least for me, when you start making small exceptions it opens up the rabbit hole to giving up more and more of yourself to another person. Compromise sounds good in theory but jus…
/r/askTRP28/09/19 03:15 PM
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If you felt he was too aggressive in rd1, and still meet up with him, all that will do is signal to him that rd1 was ASD (even if he’s not thinking of the term literally). You coming back for round 2 after you were uncomfortable isn’t going to make his advances tone down this time around. In fact, it’ll only make him go bolder. I’m basing this off your description of him and what took place. If you weren’t comfortable don’t show up for round 2 unless you make a few things clear or you will both …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 06:03 AM
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This is so on point. It’s like they naturally use this playbook instinctually for processing their guilt. It works too bc just as quickly as the guilt hits them, it passes just as quickly, and they’ve cleansed themselves of wrongdoing. For these “I’m a bad GF” “you deserve better” types, this cycle is: Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 02:21 AM
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Was that the last thing you sent...The Farmer’s Market thing? In case you didn’t know, it’s basically a popular grocery store. Anyway, if that’s the last thing you said, it wasn’t exactly anything that would prompt a response, particularly how bland of a convo it was. If it’s that important to you pop back in and tell her you’re doing ___ on day/time and ask her if she’d wanna join you. She’ll respond or she won’t. At least you can move on either way. It’s best to keep texting to a minimum until…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:08 AM
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Would’ve just been wasted energy and got your blood pressure up for nothing. The outcome would’ve been the same so why replay it with could’ve done this or that? Finish your school and kickstart that career. You’ll barely remember her in the grand scheme of your life.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 02:42 AM
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Before you do anything else, stop all contact. She dropped your ass for greener pastures. Don’t let her have it both ways. Block her number, social media, and whatever else. Focus on your goals and establishing your career...also, that bitch dumped you with that guy she’s talking to already in the picture. Branch swing tactic 101. “It’s not you it’s me”, followed by met the guy while she was “focusing on herself”...yeah right. Next!
/r/askTRP03/09/19 02:33 AM
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Hey man, a lot of us have been through some sort of trauma from an ex. Some of what you’re feeling is normal. The one thing I’d say is stop looking at yourself as a victim. That’s the way it comes across. Yes bad things happened to you but your mindset needs to be YOU let these things happen. You didn’t respect yourself to tell that bitch to go kick rocks. The perspective is what matters. You learned a valuable lesson on how not allow ppl to treat you with disrespect and that nothing is worth no…
/r/askTRP02/09/19 02:06 AM
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If you’re a man that has had his experience with dating and living the single life it does get old after a while. While not in all cases, it is natural to want to actually connect with someone on an intimate level. The problem is more often than not the nagging ratio vs made to feel special dynamic shifts once the novelty wears off and that dance also gets old. But at the core of it is we yearn for a deep connection with someone that makes us feel special so to squeeze a little more joy out of t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 03:50 PM
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Why does this read like one of those fake profiles you see on dating apps? Incoherent sentences and poor spelling makes this impossible to read, much less try and give a thoughtful response.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 02:38 AM
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It’s a lack of respect for to even ask. It’s a whole other level that she went ahead and did it during the conversation. You know that whole “don’t listen to what she says, watch what she does” thing we always talk about? This is why. Her behavior tells you she doesn’t respect you, doesn’t value you, doesn’t appreciate you. She just shit you on your manhood dude and if you don’t take a stand and end it....well, you’re lack of action just proves her right. Reclaim your self worth dude and kick th…
/r/askTRP17/08/19 03:54 AM
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Who knows what normal is anymore. From my experience this is a form of post ONS ASD. She regrets giving it up so easily so she turns to every woman’s superpower—bending reality to fit what she needs it to be. If she doesn’t acknowledge it in her mind, it never happened. Her N count is unchained and she’s still a good girl. I’ve seen girls change their names (e.g. Sam to “call me Samantha from now on”) to wipe away a part of their behavioral history they weren’t proud of. It’s not logical and to …
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:26 PM
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Why are you determining your value based on ONE possibly BPD chick at work? 2, why are you looking at this ONE GIRL as a zero sum Winner/Loser thing? You’re perspective is the only thing that’s wrong here. It’s focused externally to validate your self worth. You shouldn’t put any weight on how any ONE GIRL views you, as it changes with the wind. Fuck what this ONE GIRL thinks and go about enjoying all that life has to offer. Chicks will come and go. If you’re truly focused on yourself and aren’t…
/r/askTRP07/07/19 04:13 PM
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This has been my experience as well.
/r/askTRP03/07/19 02:53 AM
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I only have one thing to add to this because it is all about you and what makes you feel fulfilled. Ask yourself if the reason you feel making the type of video you’re doing doesn’t feel “wholesome” is because of society’s reflections or your own. Because you seem to love it and are good at it but what gives you pause is if it’s some sort of ethical/moral issue. Based on what you’ve described (feeling bad about shooting porn but also giving weight Rocco’s kids adoring him, etc) seems like you’re…
/r/askTRP19/06/19 03:25 PM
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Yep, by end of 1st sentence. “So, I’m not going to sugarcoat it, I’m pretty beta.” OP, fix that part and the rest falls into place. Stop being beta puts an end to that behavior one way or another. She either gets in line and earns it (not likely) or she gets nexted for greener pastures. Who needs that drama and unhappiness?
/r/askTRP27/05/19 03:53 PM
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New as in the context of outside of the routine. You don’t live there, aren’t always around. I get what you’re saying though. To me, it’s just women in their natural state. It’s the same behavior and energy they give off that attracts orbiters. It’s even safer though because it’s a more obvious defense (she’s taken by your friend). She can flirt and enjoy herself but never be put in a situation to have to say no. Free attention and “harmless flirting” w/o worry of recourse. “That’s just Jane goo…
/r/askTRP20/04/19 06:30 PM
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I view it the same as with a dog that sees a new person come over...basically just happy there’s a new person to receive attention from. New social stimulation, basically.
/r/askTRP20/04/19 05:47 PM
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A purpose. Setting goals of who and what you want to be and why you want to achieve those things. Then set out to make those things a reality. The goal shouldn’t necessarily be stopping those things, instead, it’s making those negative things insignificant in a pursuit to achieve something important to you—as a man. Go focus on bettering yourself in life, and as a result you’ll quit doing unproductive things. Basically go do something with your life that has meaning to you and you won’t have tim…
/r/askTRP08/04/19 06:36 PM
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Show another girl interest and watch how fast her “girl code” disappears. Dread cures a lot of their BS, especially if there is high level attraction.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 02:35 AM
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All those are valid. I’ll insert one: some women do it to signal to others and themselves they are above the ways of women and don’t behave like them. Basically they’re claiming NAWALT. They’re different from those women. The devil smells their own, basically. It’s delusional but it is how they “know” they’re not like other women.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 02:36 AM
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Go to where girls are. Talk to girls. Just rip the band-aid off and don’t think about it. Hell don’t even think about it in terms of getting laid or landing a number. Just go into it with the intent to have some friendly banter with the ladies (basically outcome indifference).
/r/askTRP31/03/19 03:55 AM
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It’s just ASD 101. “Unlike the other girls on here I’m not like that” is what they are saying to themselves. That way when they make the “exception” for a guy, it’s bc this one was different. The message is meant for themselves to hamster away their behavior. How many times have you heard, “I don’t usually do this” before they do it with you (you know damn well you’re not special unless your ego is that big and you’re naive). They’ve rationalized they don’t do it and each time is an exception. I…
/r/askTRP23/03/19 03:33 PM
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If you want to buy a luxury car that’s dependable buy a Lexus. I’ve owned 2 cars in last 13 years, both were Lexuses. Tires and routine maintenance only thing I ever had to do. I typically trade in at about 160k and buy a 1-2 year old model. Also holds value. I bought a German car once, and it was a hard learned lesson.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 07:01 PM
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With this mindset you’re always going to wonder if you can do better. This, at the root, is essentially succumbing to hypergamy instincts. This was a good post with great comments on a similar post not too long ago. I don’t think your doing yourself any favors going by what’s the best SMV partner you can get if your looking for something serious. Because even when you land someone great, you’ll always be thinking “is this really the best I can do?”, which basically what you described yourself do…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 03:01 AM
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Dude you took a huge leap from my comment to what you responded with. If I wanted to trade in a GF for a “hotter and cooler” girl I wouldn’t (and don’t) bother with with an LTR. I’d just enjoy the field and have fun (which is what I actually do). If I were to commit, it would be for something more than just “hotter and cooler” therefore I wouldn’t be easily swayed by looks. Not sure why you made those assumptions off what I said. The rest of your comments where also huge leaps in subject matter,…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/19 02:02 AM
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My favorite is woman 3’s rationalization. I lol’ed at the technicality line she conjured up. “I don’t cheat, I give notice when I find something better”. She’s treating commitment like it’s giving a notice at a job for a better job opportunity....which is a perfect illustration of, “Women love opportunistically”
/r/TheRedPill09/03/19 06:13 PM
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The Theranos, Elizabeth Holmes, saga is not a woman thing. It’s a Silicon Valley culture thing. If you know what it takes to be a successful Silicon Valley startup founder, you know you won’t get far unless you have that ruthless sociopathic trait to tap into. To quote my favorite book on the SV topic, Chaos Monkeys, ‘morality, such as it exists in the tech whorehouse, is an expensive hobby’. You’re willing to do whatever it takes or you don’t bother playing. Capitalism is bloodsport there. Come…
/r/askTRP09/03/19 05:50 PM
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Hey man you do you. I don’t stay in touch with exes. I’m not bitter. I just don’t have a desire to be friends with girls I’m not fucking. It’s not something I enjoy so I focus my attention on things I enjoy. If you wanna fuck an old fling, knock yourself out. Also, your post didn’t come across as wanting to plate an ex. It sounded like your ex LTR was still in your head and you were hoping to capture some of that one-itis that got away feeling.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 05:26 PM
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She threw a lure in the water to make sure she still had you if she wanted. You responded, which signaled yes and gave her nice ego boost. Look, she discarded you like a piece of trash over a year ago. Erase her from your mind and never speak to her again or waste a single second thinking about her. She had her chance. Best thing you can do is go have fun with other women and enjoy your life....without her anywhere near it. She lost that privilege long ago. Ignore the bitch.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 05:12 PM
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For some men, sure, it’s insecurity and that is definitely a red flag. Sometimes it’s just not easily defined. Could be just a matter of taste preference and environment a man was raised in. Could be a rise in self awareness and now dating criteria is raised compared to previous taste. Is it possible you are overthinking this? Is there something in his behavior that is triggering you to look for something wrong? Gut feel? It just seems odd to be focused that much on something not directly relate…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:18 PM
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There are many of us men that are slow to realize our value until later in life. Reasons vary, but one common reason is being in many LTRs and not really living the single/dating life. It’s fascinating how the two sexes approach these things. Men tend to look at this scenario from a “she finally came to her senses, I see” prism and women look at it as “I must have aimed too low bc his ex is low value”. Neither is right or wrong, I suppose, but it does show how powerful perspective is when it com…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 10:32 PM
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This is also a one-itis type of thinking, in the context of she is the best you’ll ever meet. That is rarely the case. I can’t remember what chapter that is in Rollo’s book on why you shouldn’t marry until after 30 as a man, but it may do you some good to look it up. It tackles your situation directly so it should help clear up some of the things that has you indecisive.
/r/askTRP01/03/19 10:52 PM
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This is one of those things in life that only you can answer. If I were you I wouldn’t think of this as a right/wrong decision thing. You’ll be ok and she’ll be ok (from what you’ve described) either way. Hearts mend and life goes on. You’re going to drive yourself crazy thinking the “should I” back and forth thing. Decide what you want out of life and go do it. If you’re not ready to take a next step, then you’re not ready. This isn’t about the grass is greener mindset either. The grass is gree…
/r/askTRP01/03/19 10:23 PM
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OP, Fereally is right on suggesting this read. It helps you understand the “why?” of it. When you get the why of it intellectually, you tend to be better at not getting bent out of shape over nature and biology. It’s akin to getting upset with gravity when you fall.
/r/askTRP28/02/19 07:48 PM
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Same. For news and sports. My favorite sports team is hundreds of miles away so it’s a great tool to interact with other fans throughout the year and it’s like a community of banter. Twitter is a broadcast platform that’s actually useful. There are fucktards there like there are fucktards on Reddit. Choice is on the user on it being useful or for brain dead purposes.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 02:15 PM
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“Real estate investor” If you run across the Q: Why do you work at a cafe? Answer: I’m considering opening up my own cafe. Learning the business. Tip: Don’t say every little detail about your life. Regardless what these chicks say, they appreciate mystery and like to let their imaginations fill in the blanks. If you don’t like that reality then stop dating women. Also, stop taking yourself so seriously. Your goal should be marketing yourself in the best light possible. In business terms: It’s a …
/r/askTRP24/02/19 07:12 PM
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Prepare meals for him. I assume you’re not living together so either cook and bring it over or grab the supplies and cook at his place while he works. Just take care of him so he can focus on his work. This shows you recognize the situation and have empathy for what he’s dealing with. You’re doing what you can to help. Just remove things off his plate that can free him to put out fires on his business. This also frees up time and energy that he can spend with you. If I had a girl that did this f…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 05:52 PM
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You’re over invested in a plate that’s been dishonest and disingenuous with you about her “just in case” safety net. That alone removes her from LTR candidate. That’s a huge red flag you’re rationalizing away to maintain your feels for her. I don’t get the sense you’re fucking anyone else so she’s essentially your gf already. You also stated you’ve “beat out” bad behaviors out of her. You shouldn’t have to do that for an LTR. An LTR is supposed to challenge your AWALT mindset that maybe, just ma…
/r/askTRP24/02/19 05:38 PM
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Condition: obsession due to scarcity Cure: fuck other women It’s just an obsession and habit of liking the idea of her. You spent a lot of time with her and have many memories, and you naturally remember the good times and the feels it gave you. In reality it wasn’t as great as your mind has made your time together to be. You’ve idealized your good times and “what could’ve been” into coping with betrayal and loss. Go have fun with other women and it will go away.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 05:11 PM
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Put a pillow over her head. It works (also tends to make them even more aroused)
/r/askTRP24/02/19 04:32 PM
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Your career is going to take many unpredictable twists and turns over time, if you’re pushing yourself to be great. So in that context it’s not a matter of right or wrong decision because you’re going to be fine regardless. Based on what you’ve listed, I’d take job A and enjoy the ride until another opportunity presented itself that was a no brainer.
/r/askTRP23/02/19 04:32 PM
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Take it on the chin and shake it off. You’re confidence shouldn’t be based on external sources. Look you just started on your road to self improvement and you’ve made legit strides. That’s more than 90% of people that just complain and bitch about their problems and take no action. You had a setback. A bad day. It happens and will happen no matter how awesome you are. Look where you were a few months ago and look at where you are today. You’re literally changing yourself in ways you can see. Tha…
/r/askTRP22/02/19 03:09 AM
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It’s a healthy question to ask yourself. Keep searching until you answer your purpose question. You may answer it soon or you may answer it in a decade. Most likely, you’ll answer it several times in your life if you’re not sitting still. Regarding the business. Eventually you’ll get tired of wondering and it’ll burn your souls until it’s all you want to do. Then you’ll know it is right to do it because you’ll feel alive doing it (doesn’t matter if it succeeds or fails) because you’re passionate…
/r/askTRP21/02/19 10:49 PM
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Don’t take it or yourself so seriously. It’s not a zero sum game and you’re not a dancing monkey trying to perform for treats. Just engage with them and be interested in what they have to say without going into interview mode. You said you’re good with people in general, it’s the same mindset, and that’s where you’re going wrong I think. Don’t go into it with an expected outcome and you’ll get better at it. They’re just people that shit and fart just like you do.
/r/askTRP21/02/19 10:29 PM
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Bacon, eggs, pancakes for dinner > Not all the time but a great change of pace treat now and then.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 10:08 PM
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Certainly a possibility, no doubt. It certainly comes down to OP’s dedication to it. Only she can control that...and not over promise on a specific result as much as changing how she’s neglected the relationship. Just being aware of it will change her behavior (based on her thoughtful post) because she has a new perspective on things.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 11:32 PM
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Yes and do it thoughtfully. Tell him you’ve self evaluated who you are as a person and you realized you were not living up to the standards of a good partner. Apologize to him for being less than he deserves and it took you this long to realize your neglect (or whatever you feel is appropriate). Tell him how you appreciate the things he’s done (with some detail) and how you should have taken what you have more seriously. Tell him this changes today and then SHOW him from this point forward you a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 06:47 PM
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You did great. Don’t overthink it from here. Come up with something fun you wanna do and invite her to join you. Like “hey I’m gonna go to [insert fun place] and [insert fun thing to do with time/place] and want you to join me it’ll be fun.” If she accepts, great finalize logistics and do your thing. If she says no that she’s busy w/o making an alternative plan or reschedule, don’t respond, forget her, and move on. If she’s interested she’ll make the effort.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 06:04 PM
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Or Ask her if she knew that: 6x9+6+9= 69 👀
/r/askTRP18/02/19 05:25 PM
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This is why these dumb made up holidays are so stupid. Creates only downside and unmet expectations due to imagination. It was perfectly reasonable for her to conclude you’d not be doing gifts (in context of enjoying life this is so materialistic and pointless) and traveling instead. You can’t read each other’s minds and you had some made up scenario of how this should go down. You’re getting butthurt and are being insecure over something you made up in your mind. Your girl has been great in all…
/r/askTRP18/02/19 02:42 PM
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OP wrote an entire SA without using a single period. Damn
/r/askTRP18/02/19 04:15 AM
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This one is pretty simple to me. These “princess” types are easily replaceable. They eventually get boring and lose their appeal in context of a relationship. There are always going to be younger/hotter girls to choose from. Only matter of time for a man that’s got shit going for him. If all they bring to the table is superficial and nothing of quality....it really is only a matter of time. These girls may look like they have it made, but it’s not real in the long run. Keep being a woman that ad…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 05:17 AM
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This is the definition of white knighting. As men, we’re programmed to do this instinctively. Be aware of it and don’t do it. She’s not some poor little princess that needs saving. None of them are. This is the mentality of a beta provider and at her age/circumstance that’s what she’s on the prowl for. You were just a fun moment for her while she’s on vacation. This scenario is so common it’s a cliche. You’re reacting to this like it’s some new phenomenon that you’ve experienced. No. You had fun…
/r/askTRP16/02/19 07:24 PM
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Dude, making out with one random chic gave you oneitis? She didn’t add you on social media and it made you go into your feelings? Come on man. This is scarcity mentality and she likely smelled it on you, repulsed by it. Forget this ONE near the wall girl and find others. Rinse, wash, repeat until you’re not so easily hooked on any one girl because you have options.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 07:08 PM
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Ah the good old CC to Wall wake up call story. Those are always entertaining lol
/r/TheRedPill15/02/19 04:58 AM
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This was a long winded article and a lot of research to conclude: Women are highly hypergamous, therefore struggle with monogamy due to their nature. I was surprised The Atlantic was the source given it’s kind of bordering on self awareness but then realized they were framing it in a female equality context and it was a badge of honor beating men at something. Either way, they’re still describing female nature openly, even if they don’t realize it.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/19 04:39 AM
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Look at the facts bro and ignore the verbal spin trying to confuse you. Her behavior was disrespectful. She knows damn well going out for drinks with a guy is not acceptable behavior for someone that claims she wants to be with you (actions say otherwise). She lies about him being gay. Why? Because she knows it’s not the acceptable behavior of someone that wants to be exclusive. A woman that wants to be exclusive will go out of her way to show you by treating you with adoration and earn your att…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 08:19 PM
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To piggy back off this...Humans and emotions are incredibly messy and unpredictable. TRP is an incredible tool for getting a baseline for how to digest and react to these situations but the world is not black and white. Emotions as we know follow little logic. We have to use TRP teachings as a part of our overall comprehension of our surroundings and not try to fit the world into this box. We still have to use our brains, knowledge and experiences to navigate this messy world of needs, wants, an…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:41 PM
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Dude, 2 years you’ve been posting this same question about sluts and loose/tight shit. If you haven’t figured it out by now it ain’t gonna ever happen. Give it up, for fuck’s sake.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 09:24 PM
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LOL...I had to read it twice to make sure my reading comprehension didn’t leave me...and then literally laughed out loud. Hey OP, make sure you’re on top doing the riding so you can maintain that dominance.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 04:17 AM
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Top comment in this thread. Seconded.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/19 05:43 PM
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I’ll add to this. These are all good. I’m also providing a male’s perspective. Couple of other possibilities: It could be a lack of confidence in himself for some reason. It could be he saw you go through something (birth) and it was traumatic for him and he can’t get the thought of seeing you in that kind of pain and seeing your body go through what it did. If he’s someone that shows a lot of empathy for you, it could be having a lasting impact on him psychologically. It could be that he isn’t …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 04:25 AM
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All of these are 100% accurate and make a real difference. Best of all, none of these have anything to do with looks or some unreachable trait. Men will place a lot of value in receiving this kind of treatment, and because this is so rare to see these days, it’s akin to being served ice water in the desert.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 04:04 AM
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This info is helpful to piece this together. You’re low hanging fruit for a guy who isn’t very aggressive on meeting new women. You’re low effort, high reward, for him and fit within his comfort zone. I’m giving you a male’s perspective on your question of why/what is likely happening here. If you want to have some fun for old times sake, keep going. If you’re hoping it’ll be different, it won’t. He’s an ex for a reason. Nothing’s changed in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 05:12 PM
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This is the definition of submission. That’s the dynamic you want. Lead. If you’re not comfortable leading, then get comfortable or you’re being a beta. If you want her to initiate cuddling then you need to figure out a way to train her (without telling her) by eliciting this behavior and then rewarding it. If she’s unresponsive due to personality defect then you just next her...not compatible.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 05:48 PM
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You win the Reddit anthropology award of the day. On point observation.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 06:43 PM
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When you figure out who you are and what you stand for you won’t give a shit what anyone thinks of you. Figure that out and the rest won’t matter. If you don’t know how, just keep pushing yourself to try things, experiences, new jobs, etc until you figure out what drives you. You’re 19. It’s perfectly normal to not know yet and ask the question you’re asking. Hell I was 30 before I figured it out (40 now).
/r/askTRP12/01/19 05:04 AM
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I don’t disagree regarding majority of posts. I guess it’s what you take away from it. I tend to put my focus on the female nature side (things from sidebar) about importance of holding frame, leading, not being needy, horror stories of being cheated on, dealt with being cheated on, preventing being cheating on, how to maintain frame in LTR....and on and on. A lot of guys posting are young and haven’t experienced enough life to think about anything other than sex sex sex. Again, it’s just based …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:05 PM
1

Try Nioxin shampoo line (either 1 or 2). You can order it on Amazon. It’s just like using any other shampoo, just a little pricier. It helps with thinning hair. It looks thicker immediately and will grow new hair as well. I’d say 20-30% improvement. At worst, will greatly slowdown hair loss. I’ve been using it for about 7 years. I happen to have decent face for shaved head but decided to try it due to recommendation when decided to regrow hair out for a new look. Give it a try.
/r/askTRP11/01/19 07:49 PM
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It’s a matter of perspective. RPW (female perspective) is about being a great gf/wife/partner and standing out from the craziness that is modern society. Attracting a high value man that would appreciate and make a commitment to such a woman (to men in today’s world it’s akin to “wow they do exist”). That is the norm. Which brings me to TRP (male perspective). A man needs tools and guide to help navigate the 100-1 ratio (not actual figure but you get the picture) of a woman that is worthy of com…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 06:55 PM
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The best revenge is success. Go win at life and forget about anyone who wronged you. Remove them from your life because they’re insignificant. They become acquaintances at best. You speak to them normal if you see them, otherwise they are out of sight out of mind.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 04:40 AM
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Happiness is an emotion, therefore it’s fleeting and you’ll never achieve it (see: most women in relationships and marriage complain they are not happy but deserve to be). What you need to focus on instead is find your purpose and what you want to achieve in your life. That pursuit is fulfilling, and as a MAN, that is what we strive for. Answer that question for yourself and you’ll find your “happiness”. If you don’t know how, it’s about stepping out in the world and trying things and being curi…
/r/askTRP07/01/19 03:32 PM
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How many times are you going to ask about this guy in various subs and still not listen to the unanimous advice.....DUMP his ass. If not for you, do it for your daughter. She deserves a proper male in her life. Not this narcissistic, insecure, asshole who’s pretending he’s red pill alpha. You know those PHD people who insist they are to be addressed as Dr. yet are 100% actual dumb shits? Same thing. Do better.
/r/askTRP07/01/19 02:12 AM
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She’s an adult. You can’t control someone else’s emotions, so don’t try. Take care of you and do what makes you happy. Treat people with respect and hold yourself accountable to your own standards. That’s all you can and should do. Life is hard enough w/o trying to take on someone else’s happiness...so don’t.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 09:45 PM
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Yeah, Reddit app
/r/askTRP06/01/19 04:54 AM
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You have to first re-access it on a desktop browser (or desktop version of Reddit on your mobile). Once you click “ok” past the warning crap message you will be allowed to access it on the app again like normal.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 04:32 AM
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She got her closure. Good for her. Now dump her ass and now she won’t have closure with you. That’s price of playing stupid games. Don’t take it personally OP, this shit happens. And she rationalized it in her head (their superpower) to give herself the license to fuck you over. Don’t reward her for that. Dump her and move on. Let her hamster on that.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 12:03 AM
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I agree with all that. If you do keep fucking her, just do it privately. If you socialize with her, don’t do it around people you know. There’s no upside for having her around if she’s willing to kiss or flirt with guys around you. The only thing I expect from casual relationships is the chicks can do whatever or whoever they want. None of my business. But it is 100% tactless to do that in front of me. That’s actually just common curtesy amongst adults. Who has time for that kind of bullshit and…
/r/askTRP02/01/19 11:55 PM
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If it were me, I’d soft next and be cool for a while at the very least. Meanwhile I’d definitely setup some time with at least another plate. I’d want to detach completely so I can make clear non-emotional decisions about her, and the best way to do that is have some fun with another. It sounds to me you let yourself get too attached with this one. It happens. Just don’t make it worse by rationalizing her behavior because she’s hot and/or “the fun one”. Detach and avoid the road to oneitis, espe…
/r/askTRP02/01/19 11:40 PM
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There is a such thing called cause and effect. There are some things you as a man should not accept. As you said, she disrespected you. If a plate disrespects you, you react accordingly by disposing said plate (since you supposedly have more that don’t disrespect you). But every man sets his own boundaries. You are obviously bothered by her doing that in front of you, which is 100% disrespectful in my own opinion. Nexting her is not reactionary, it is a consequence of bad behavior. Here’s anothe…
/r/askTRP02/01/19 11:27 PM
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Look you went on date, had fun, made some moves and made out on a first Tinder date. Maybe could have done more (yeah offering to get her Uber instead of escalating to your place/her place was misstep) but you knew where you went wrong. All in all, this was a win. Now don’t mess it up by thinking of her any more. Find the next one and keep improving each time out. You sent her a message and if she replies great, but don’t think of her for another second.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 04:46 AM
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This is the correct mind frame, but don’t let it consume you. Any other form of thinking is just idealistic bullshit. Doesn’t mean you can’t live life, enjoy friends, dating, relationships or whatever but don’t let your guard down for nobody. Trust (if earned) but always verify.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 05:34 PM
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Don’t forget O. J. and Gatorade. And yes, that soup is a must. That warm chicken broth from chicken noodle soup is so helpful when you are weak, with no appetite and feel like you just wanna die. This is coming from a man who has appreciated these things when having man flu. Many extra points earned.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 12:39 AM
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If he is truly your friend then have a talk with him (one on one) in context of, “dude, don’t do ___ around my girl” in a calm but serious tone. Basically don’t be butthurt but talk to him like a man. Don’t be passive aggressive about it if you don’t like his behavior. Given your description of him, he doesn’t know any better and in his mind he’s just busting your balls w/o realizing this ain’t cool. He has no experience with women other than being a passive blue pill dude that is ignorant in th…
/r/askTRP28/12/18 02:31 PM
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She’s saying that mainly bc she doesn’t want your image of her to change. She’s a “good girl” and doesn’t partake in casual sex. Her reputation, at least how she’s perceived, means everything to her. Example from personal experience: many years back I had LTR cheat on me. She then is in LTR w/guy she cheats on me with. She then cheats on him with me a few times. After a few times of this she doesn’t want to keep doing it bc she doesn’t want me to think of her like she’s that kind of person. She …
/r/askTRP25/12/18 10:09 PM
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You’re not trying to vet for marriage so it’s none of their business if you can/can’t have kids. It’s irrelevant in your case. I’d look at it from this prospective. In 5 years, you may change your mind about kids, even if the odds are .001 %, there is still a chance. So if it comes up, keep it vague and noncommittal, but don’t go into specifics. That’ll help you make it a non-issue to yourself. Go smash with a clear conscience. You’re just dating, so go have fun and don’t bring up having kids or…
/r/askTRP25/12/18 03:53 PM
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Looks like whatever it was you had to offer was delivered (i.e. taught her French). She no longer had any use for you, since you didn’t qualify as orbiter or emotional tampon or sex. She doesn’t need friends that don’t provide her one of those things in exchange for her presence. As everyone has said, don’t friend chics and expect a true friendship. It’s a waste of your valuable time and resources that you’ll never see a return on.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 03:21 PM
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And here I thought I just learned how to diagnose BPD in only one sentence lol
/r/askTRP24/12/18 05:03 PM
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She’s a plate that’s gone cold. Move on to the warm plates (I assume you have others or this would be a different convo). If she comes back, she comes back. If not, who cares? That’s the point of them being plates in the first place.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 12:08 AM
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This is both immature and passive aggressive behavior. Do her (and yourself) a favor and next her. That will solve all of her problems.
/r/askTRP22/12/18 11:45 PM
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You are rationalizing an awful lot to see what you want. What you’ve described is actually a typical girl that was found at the tail end of riding the CC, now wants to settle down with highest value man she can get. And she’ll be happy for a while, sure, and treat you like you’re the only man she’ll ever want. Until the newness wears off and she needs a change or finds a higher value man. These kinda chics don’t do content for very long.
/r/askTRP22/12/18 11:06 PM
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Develop the mindset of it really isn’t that crucial in the big picture. You’re only giving it importance in that moment. Lives will not be lost. It’s all about perspective. We tend to give events and non-events the weight and worry of the world is ending. I used to be a firefighter. You learn real quick the day to day shit people worry about and stress over while you’re on scene where someone lost their life or a loved one that the shit you’re freaking out about matters nil. It’s petty self impo…
/r/askTRP22/12/18 04:43 PM
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Are you a brainless robot? Dude, if you don’t wanna do something, don’t do it. Use what’s helpful to you and if something isn’t working for you, don’t keep doing it. If you’re not having success and need another way of trying it so you improve, well that’s when you use things that apply. Chill my man. You’re taking/applying RP way too seriously. Don’t be a drone about it. Have some fun and live life by your own rules.
/r/askTRP20/12/18 01:55 AM
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Isn’t it funny how bad our instincts are when we’re ignorant about female/human nature? I went through same shit with my ex-wife. That’s what spurred me to google “female psychology” a few years back, which led me to an article on Illimitable Men “Understanding Female Psychology” and was like “woah!” then proceeded to read every article. Eventually it led me here. The world finally made sense after spending decades bathing in ignorance.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/18 01:24 AM
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🎤
/r/askTRP14/12/18 07:42 PM
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You can’t control anyone but yourself. That’s what is preached around here. Outcome independence, frame, and every other TRP guideline is about controlling YOUR OWN behavior. Don’t get it twisted.
/r/askTRP08/12/18 11:41 PM
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“That’s deep” ...then go about your day
/r/askTRP06/12/18 07:14 PM
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Keep in mind there are also men in there with brains and reasoning power that sift through all the content/comments and draw different conclusions than what’s read. We have our own experiences and knowledge of real life to compare against and accept/ignore accordingly. Like you read TRP, I read RPW to see the world through the eyes of opposite sex and challenge myself to not think in absolutes. I’ve had many revelations as a result. Can’t put a price tag on progress like that (I also chime in wh…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 05:22 PM
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PG night? Lol idk, the new dating scene was a shock to me too after 9 years removed. It’s crazy out there
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:54 PM
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You are sending mixed signals (as loneliness points out) and are still sending mixed signals here. He tried and you shut him down but say he could have gotten further? Have you paid attention to the atmosphere men are navigating in (metoo, media, no means no, etc.)? Men have to be very cautious and can’t read your mind. Your signals are very important. Don’t setup Netflix and chill dates if sex isn’t on the table. I imagine he’s more confused about where you two stand way beyond text messaging. …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:24 PM
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“ She is rather dumb and doesn't have precise goal in her life.” So let me get this right. You wrote very detailed 1000 word SA about an empty headed, good looking chick, that has nothing to say, no life aspirations, and then ask has anyone else encountered such a phenomenon? The only thing unique here is that you actually got some people in asktrp to give you serious replies.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 03:33 PM
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Research/studies show LTRs/Marriage brings down your testosterone levels in men. Google it to read up on it. So yeah, what you’re feeling is lower T and also normal. If you become single again, it’ll naturally go back up. Biology plays by its own rules....maybe this is the real reason why guys get the urge to buy fancy cars later in life, to feel more like a man again, therefore it’s not really a midlife crisis? Boost testosterone life hack.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 05:31 AM
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You did it. You found the NAWALT unicorn.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 01:17 AM
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Probably not what OP wanted to hear but, yeah, this.
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:44 PM
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I’ve posted some these suggestions before but here are some great audiobooks (with terrific narrating, which is key for audiobooks). I’ve “read” these numerous times over last 3-4 years. -Chaos Monkeys by Antonio Garcia Martinez: Most enjoyable nonfiction book I’ve ever read (and learned a ton living through experiences) on tech/startup entrepreneur scene from former FB insider. Seriously reads like entertaining fiction and is addictive. Also, it’s a VERY relevant dive into what is happening in …
/r/askTRP29/11/18 07:36 PM
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Only you can make that call (demoting to plate). How long has she been LTR? My only real point was that you shouldn’t ignore it. Don’t bring it up with her bc that’s weak. Just be aware of the attraction and listen to the spidy senses. If it keeps bothering you and this keeps coming up then yeah, I’d weigh it if it’s worth it being on my mind.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 01:07 AM
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Where there’s smoke there’s fire. Don’t ignore your gut. In my experience this is a red flag. This the closest you’ll get to a confession she’s attracted to someone else you’ll ever get from a chick. Question you should really be asking is how will she act on this? Will she ignore it (doesn’t seem to be the case)? Will she save it for later? Keep him close just in case category? If there’s one thing I’ve learned, don’t ever give them the benefit of the doubt. That’s the “she’s not like that” tra…
/r/askTRP27/11/18 12:52 AM
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Could it be you have a certain expectation of how these interactions are supposed to go and it doesn’t go that way because it may not be a realistic expectation? Maybe you come off as arrogant? Again, I have no way of knowing because lack of context, but if every interaction you have is this way then I tend to look inward at myself...which is essentially what we do here (TRP). We try to understand the why and look to improve ourselves by changing the only thing we can. Ourselves. We’re not blami…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 11:36 PM
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There’s a lot of context missing to provide anything helpful in return. Perhaps an example where you can paint a picture of who, what, when, where? The simplest explanation is you could be intimidating the men you are approaching because it is highly unlikely they’ve been approached that directly. They’re freezing in the moment. As another poster suggested, you’ll likely have better responses posting this question in redpillwomen.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 11:12 PM
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I believe we’re on the same page. Interesting topic that flushes out a lot of nuanced point of views and discussions. This is how we learn.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/18 05:20 PM
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I’m sure he didn’t cry and whine like a bitch in that moment. He was broken/damaged, sure, but not curled in a little ball asking for his mommy either. In many ways he literally DGAF. Context matters greatly in behavioral analysis.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/18 04:18 PM
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I came here to make a similar time travel joke lol
/r/askTRP23/11/18 10:29 PM
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Sounds to me, after reading this and post comments, you’re just a shitty person that’s selfish. You lack empathy and view yourself as too good for the “little people”. Not trying to insult you. You asked so I’m answering. Yes, you swallowed the pill but instead of it leading to self improvement, you wield it as weapon and became, well, a shittier version of yourself. I always found this to be true: You want to know a man’s true character? Give them power. Again this isn’t a being feminine issue …
/r/askTRP23/11/18 10:23 PM
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To be into it and freely expresses she’s enjoying herself (not dramatically or acting for effect). Sometimes even a subtle in rhythm motion from her signals she’s present and not just a passenger along for the ride. The motion doesn’t do much practically speaking, but mentally adds to the moment (just an example). But being present and focused only on “here” and everything else in the world doesn’t exist but the pleasure of the moment is really all that’s necessary to make it pleasurable every t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 04:52 PM
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Fair enough...solid post on vetting for quality. Some ppl enjoy playing “the game” and some ppl enjoy being intellectually stimulated by the opposite sex. Both can be and are valid pursuits at various points of one’s life. Thought you provided some good insight on the dynamics of the quality side of the spectrum.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 09:08 PM
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There are some good things in here if you can get past the hateful delivery and tone. Is there a reason you’re directing anger at your reading audience? We’re on the same side here. Lost opportunity for what could have been a constructive conversation on this topic.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 07:23 PM
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You’re too focused inwardly (common for ppl who are self conscious). Learn to be more observant in all your communications by practicing “mirroring” in your interactions. You’ll pick up signals a lot better naturally just by practicing on this skill.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 07:26 PM
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Thanks for the laughs...and PTSD
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/18 12:01 AM
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She likely used you for convenient dread game with some fabricated story she told her bf. Any response will only help her cause: ”see, he’s a wacko that won’t leave me alone” Just forget you ever met the bitch and stay away from these situations in the future...unless you love drama.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 10:03 PM
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Your priorities are out of wack. Nothing wrong with delivery driver job bc making money is making money...BUT you have to always strive to better yourself first. You’re focused on getting ass when you should be focusing on raising your overall value as a man. Aim higher and find your professional/career niche and don’t stop after you find it. Want to attract girls easier? Kick ass professionally and the chicks come as the byproduct. Also, don’t hate on another guy for pulling in ass. That’s weak…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 04:37 AM
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I also felt 48 Laws was mediocre. His books, Mastery and Art of Seduction, however, were A+ (in case you didn’t read them bc of 48 Laws)...haven’t read his new one yet but will eventually.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 04:07 AM
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This last paragraph is the most valuable life advice you will ever get. Don’t project your values and ferry tale honor shit on people. People are generally opportunistic and schemers. It takes a super special friend to not give in to temptation. Those people are rarity in life. You may be lucky to find just one over a lifetime.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 12:08 AM
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Art of Seduction is also excellent. Haven’t read his new one yet.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 02:27 PM
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The Charisma Myth is an underrated read. Super helpful. Elon Musk and Steve Jobs both A+. 48 Laws of Power is ok, but not best Robert Greene book IMHO. Mastery is his best for me....these are great suggestions, OP.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 04:36 AM
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breakitdown
/r/askTRP05/11/18 11:41 PM
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What helped me is learning through other people’s experiences. You do that through putting yourself in people’s shoes. How do you do that? Books. I didn’t have mentors accessible so I leaned on books (Audible) and just diving in. Best books: Elon Musk bio, Chaos Monkeys (most entertaining/super helpful if you want to get into marketing). If that gets your juices going...jump in. You’re not gonna get far trying to “learn” entrepreneurship. Experiential learning.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 11:00 PM
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Well you’ve developed an unhealthy obsession with this chick. You’ve placed yourself in a position of weakness (her frame, given her power over your emotions). Worse, she’s not even LTR and you’re pining over her. Defeats the purpose of spinning plates if all you’re gonna do is think about 1 girl and not enjoy yourself and your freedom. The only way to break this is let this one go and regain your perspective, reaffirm your self value, reestablish your worth to yourself. You’re stalking another …
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:11 PM
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His behavior is very beta. To me that’s a no go at this very beginning stage. So you should pass. To try and explain what may have happened between 1st impression to drastic change, this is my theory: He felt things went so well that it should have progressed into a physical outcome (sex). When it didn’t, he became confused as to why and decides it best to let you dictate the pace and try to observe signals. Basically, he thought it best to let you lead. This is what made it awkward as he is wai…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:00 PM
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It’s so much about body language and presence. Weights help on both sides, physically bigger which in turn makes you feel more confident. There are other things you can work on, like building charisma. It’s a skill and can be honed. If you need a book to dive into how to develop it, I found “The Charisma Myth” to be very helpful (if you practice what you learn). I worked on developing this skill/trait for business results purposes but once you learn the skill it helps in every situation and sett…
/r/askTRP01/11/18 03:28 AM
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Do you know why the CIA exists and why it’s so powerful? Intel. Let’s thank OP for providing real life recon work.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 11:21 PM
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That’s a broad topic(s). I’m big into tech/entrepreneurship so these will lean that direction. Great audio books I’ve read numerous times over last 3-4 years. -Entrepreneurship: Zero to One by Peter Thiel -Management/leadership: The Hard Things About Hard Things by Ben Horowitz -Most enjoyable book I’ve ever read (and learned a ton living through the experiences) on tech/startup entrepreneur scene from former FB insider. Seriously reads like fiction and is addictive: Chaos Monkeys by Antonio Gar…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 02:48 AM
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Dude she disrespected you by not valuing your time. If you apologize you’re only verifying to her that she’s higher value and can do much better. If you go any further, it should be to stand your ground in the context of she didn’t respect your time. No need to explain yourself, much less, apologize. What you should do is apologize to yourself for allowing her to lower your self worth and placing you at her bitch status. Power move by her and you blinked. You’re way too emotionally invested in t…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 04:16 PM
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If you’re happy that’s all that matters really. RP/RPW is a great toolbox to better oneself. People need different things at different times of their lives. Me personally, I’ve been focused on my business the last 4 years and haven’t had time for much else...but have also had the time of my life (monk mode). I’m just now able and willing to start dating again. I’m much more in tune with who I am and what I’m looking for as a result. But I can tell you that things always change. What you feel tod…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 08:52 PM
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Didn’t mean to imply you were. Just stating there are two ways one could go emotionally. Yours is anger...which when channeled, gives you incredible will power and determination. Use it and don’t look back.
/r/askTRP19/10/18 11:54 PM
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When my blue pilled ass went through a divorce 5 years ago, where the wife cheated, I took a few months to lick my wounds and analyze myself. I realized I’d become a pussy and lost my individuality just for starters. Long story short, I put my energy and rage into starting a business and raising my value and confidence in the process. Point is channel that negative shit into something positive and come out even better on the other side. You can feel sorry for yourself or you can say fuck that br…
/r/askTRP19/10/18 11:10 PM
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What in the hell did I just read?
/r/TheRedPill19/10/18 10:58 PM
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People love having a willing emotional tampon with a great attitude. Of course they feel better afterwards. It’s not something I’d want to be known for. Your time is more valuable than letting people dump on you at will. My 2 cents.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 01:13 AM
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She seems to like to have fun, validation junkie, but still stay close enough to that “good girl” line to make you still consider her high quality. My experience with these type of red flags is she will get bored in LTR and want to live it up. This would be a hard next for me bc the signs are there this girl won’t remain content for long. She’s going to want/need that external stimuli. That single red flag is a dealbreaker no matter how much she projects all those other unicorn traits. You’ll ra…
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:41 PM
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This is my conclusion as well. Mainly the past relationships part. It’s never a good idea to discuss previous relationships all openly anyway, and especially in the beginning. That question for me is they’re not that interesting and blow it off with new topic. Nothing positive comes out of discussing past and indicates you’re in your feelings (lowers status). The “you should have told me sooner” thing is not relevant...it was already over before then. If anything it just verified to her she was …
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:14 PM
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She got in your head. Got that hamster spinning in overdrive. Advantage her. She broke your frame. Questions is do you value holding your frame? If so, do what you gotta do to reestablish dgaf mind frame and this “issue” will go away. Outcome indifference.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:53 PM
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The situation you describe sounds like neither of you want to mess up a good thing. How do you know he doesn’t feel the same way, but like you, also doesn’t want to be the one to bring it up? Just talk about it and see how you both feel. You both may be relieved to get it in the open after all this time. Either way, you won’t be driving yourself crazy over not knowing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 02:32 AM
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Dating is lower on the list but when I do, I try to aim for younger than me (early to mid 30s) that are at least decent to look at and can hold a conversation. After a few weeks to a month, I tend to get bored or they realize I’m not a long term answer and it fades away. So to answer your question, I suppose they would be near the wall but still have their looks.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/18 02:04 PM
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“Let me put this in perspective so that you understand. Men spend their lives in a sea of disinterest, while women get hit on and checked out all the time. Men are starved for affection and attention, they work hard in their whole lives just so that they can become someone that women will notice.” This is on point. I’d (M 40) never really given this any thought really, but yeah this is dead on. Men do assume there’s no interest as the default. Playing hard to get makes me wonder if she’s actuall…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 06:49 PM
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Achieve and enjoy the life in front of you now that your eyes are wide open to the ways of the world. It’s a huge advantage compared to most since you’re not wading through your decisions in ignorance. Find, discover, and pursue your passions, whatever they may be. Part of the fun is discovering what things make you smile and love life. The girls, partying, or whatever are just letting loose and enjoying yourself if that’s what you enjoy. Basically those things are the side effects of your RP jo…
/r/askTRP06/10/18 05:53 PM
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The two books I learned the most from were Mastery and Art of Seduction. Together, they’ve greatly helped me navigate the nuances of human nature and read people better. I’m now 40 (read them about 3 years ago) so it was surprising how much I gained in understanding the motivations of people. It was kind of a red pill level difference maker for me. You think you’re so smart going through life and then you realize you’ve been a damn fool all this time.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/18 07:18 PM
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Develop your quiet confidence. Have presence. Command respect. Being aggressive to me in life just means not being afraid of taking calculated risks and take advantage of your opportunities without hesitation.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 07:02 PM
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Congrats on awakening young. You’ll be walking through life with your eyes wide open now. I lost myself in her frame while married in my mid 30s. Different age, same results (divorce). Biology doesn’t discriminate. I cringe at who I was just a few years ago. I got lucky and made it out of the marriage unscathed compared to most people I know.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 06:29 PM
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Cheating is the one thing I won’t tolerate in a relationship. It’s a character flaw that signals weakness, selfishness, and impulsiveness. None of those traits are appealing to be around. Life is hard enough without being around, or involved with, people like that. I don’t see a point of a LTR if I, or my SO, are still playing the field.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 02:57 PM
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The good news is you guys are on the same page now. It’s not ideal how you got there, but you can’t change it so no reason to dwell on it. Now that it’s in the open, you can treat it as a special occasion (pre-honeymoon teaser retreat). The important thing is take the need/pressure for it to be a clever surprise. It’s now a cool and unique story of how the two of you did it your own way. All those social pressures are gone. It’s all about perspective. In the end, you guys both want to be togethe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:29 PM
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el-o-el!
/r/MGTOW03/09/18 09:32 PM
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