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Ah okay, wonderful! Yeah grey area, mistakes could anything from telling him something from the book to bitchy hamstering so thanks for the clarification!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 07:00 PM
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That's far more understandable. Really threw him under the bus in your original comment OP. Work on personal accountability.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 03:27 PM
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Woah hold on now. He straight up called you a fake bitch? That's intense, sounds like he has no respect for you. I, like u/thatbadlarry am also curious as to how your relationship was before this? Because I made the same mistake, (telling him before reading not to) and he literally just said "okay, you do you!" and understands I'm trying to improve myself even if I flub up. I've basically returned to not caring You're supposed to do this for YOURSELF as much as it is for him. So if you're giving…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 02:52 PM
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Relish in it!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 09:07 PM
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Totally belongs here, that's so lovely! It's nice how respecting you are of his communication style. These moments are incredibly rewarding, my partner is the same way, a man of very few intense emotional moments.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 08:53 PM
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loved vs. loves That should be all that matters now AND later on in your relationship. Past vs. present/future.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:34 PM
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I agree. It's a grey area because his ex girlfriend certainly thinks it's cheating. Maybe not psychical, but he cheated on her emotionally with OP.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:31 PM
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Even still if we didn't call it cheating - it's still extremely morally skewed. He played around with two women on a commitment level. That's some deep-rooted decision making. He's wishy-washy about breaking up with his ex and that in turn means he's unsure of OP. If they're having sex - she's a plate. If they're not, then she needs to keep vetting because there are a lot of red flags coming from this guy. He's not even sure of self, how could he possibly be a good man for a woman?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:31 PM
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Absolutely not, the fact that you think that is very telling and can surely explain why you wound up in this position. Feel free to read up on this great post "A Note on Plates"
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:04 PM
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Sounds like you're a plate and at the first sign of trouble he dipped out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:43 PM
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Same! Mine are mostly botanical so I found I can mix them with florals (still, specific colours) but stripes or other patterns of any kind look atrocious. I live for the black one-piece bathingsuit.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 07:24 PM
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Not having sex is the weirdest way to build a family.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:02 PM
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You need to compliment him more, tell him you want him, etc. Even if you get no response, you need to still boost to him that he IS a very desirable masculine man.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:01 PM
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Yeah I feel like they make me look like a little troll. I do however like tuk's too, but you can't get the cheap plastic looking ones, you'd need to invest in a good pair. Also just keeping your shoes really clean and polished is a big part of it too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:59 PM
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Also to add - CONSIDER YOUR TATTOOS WHEN BUYING CLOTHING. I see so many people who just let their tattoos clash painfully with their outfits (again, colour theory), you need to consider the busy-ness of your ink, the colours you have, placement, etc. When buying and putting together outfits.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:57 PM
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Shoes!! I found you can get really creative with your shoes that would be more "alternative". For example I have a pair of Current Mood Platforms. They're easy to work with and it's a simple and subtle way of blending a more "alternative" look with chic style. I love wearing them with some nice skinny jeans, a nice belt and a silk blouse and maybe a trench (depending on weather). Learning your body shape and what fits on you is SO VITAL. Too many people cramming themselves in cookie-cutter alter…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:53 PM
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thank you! My mom passed it onto me haha
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:42 PM
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that's why I started trying the socks! I've got a very fluffy long haired cat haha
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:42 PM
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My absolute pleasure!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:41 PM
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Sorry I definitely should have clarified, it only works with stretchy socks. I usually have big stretchy ones to work with (He wears those work socks that people make sock monkeys out of) and I wear those fuzzy stretchy socks too. So you can usually just take either of those kinds of socks and stretch them over the entire swiffer. Like this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:07 PM
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More moisture! You can also lightly file the rougher skin before you do. Try wearing some moisture gloves once a week or so. That's one of my biggest annoyance when it comes to my nails, I garden so they get pretty roughed up. Also when I had to keep my nails shorter, just invest in nice polish (top coat and base coat) (maybe at home gel). Keep them filed nicely and use cuticle oil. You can also go polish free just ensure they're nice and clean all the time. I know the 'single black dot nail' lo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 03:30 PM
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Wow so appreciative!! This is lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 03:25 PM
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TIP: If you drop something really tiny (think, the back of an earring) if you put a sock on the end of your vacuum (secured) you can use that to find the missing tiny thing. Also larger orphan socks work great as swiffer pads.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 03:22 PM
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So you used the dildo to learn? Interesting. I may try that! He likes the gagging sound but I want to be a pro
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 07:39 PM
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I agree, based on this comment from a previous posts of OP's: But for example, I told him jokingly if he says a specific sentence to a specific girl then I’d break up with him. And next week he said the same sentence to the same girl which I believe it was too childish. He has no respect for OP. He is using her. She is a plate, a place holder until he finds something better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:53 PM
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If he's already this disinterested in you as a person this shortly into the relationship - you're now a plate. Time to peel away and find yourself a man who WANTS you, mind, soul & body - not just body.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:51 PM
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Ew he's the trashy version of a redpilled man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:45 PM
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Exactly, a man this selfish is not a man committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:44 PM
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MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENT. Once I figure out how to do that I was a changed woman!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 07:25 PM
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Get them removed properly! Not building routine and habits is part of the problem. I've got the super thin nail problem too, you can literally bend my nails. So I'm probably in the same boat!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 05:22 PM
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I got them done professionally, since it took it to another level. I felt if I fiddle with them, or damage them it was a waste of money/someone's time and effort. So it gave me even more incentive. Now I do it myself most of the time! My nails weren't even a centimeter in length, they were tiny little slivers of nail on numbs basically. So it is possible! They didn't last long when my nails were super short and took extra time to apply, but if you keep them up kept, they'll get longer and hold b…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:51 PM
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Sorry, just FYI, for your information
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:47 PM
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I couldn't agree more, they make me feel so feminine and classy! Plus I found out they're a massive turn on for my guy so win-win!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 03:20 PM
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I basically date down mostly because I'm insecure and like being "the best" they have ever had. I agree with the other ladies here. FLYI, also stop doing this. You don't need to date down to be the best they've ever had. You just have to be the best they ever had. Doing this is CONTROLLING and stupid and self-harming in a way too. Figure out what your substance is.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 03:03 PM
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I agree with this! This was my solution for my problem. I'd chew my nails down so bad they bled, tried the oils, creams, apple bitter, nail polish, elastic bands, etc. Acrylic nails? 5 months of consistent wear and the habit's been gone for 5 years and counting!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 03:01 PM
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Not if they call themselves monogamous. Red Pill at it's core is about reality, the truth. mo·nog·a·mous adjective involving marriage to one person at a time. having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time. If they cheat and claim to be monogamous, they are liars and therefore not good men. If they are not monogamous or the couple has different terms of "cheating" that's different. But I do not in any way condone a monogamous man cheating. But the "defense" of those situations is b…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 02:52 PM
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Ahhh I'm so excited for you both!! You two sound so well matched <3
/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 02:57 PM
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ring avulsion injury shrieking at the thought of that, must have been horrible! Lucky you've got such a wonderfully accommodating man!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 01:57 PM
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This was a great reality check, thank you. I think you're right, about the vulnerability. I never even would have thought of it that way.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 04:52 PM
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Yeah that's what someone else suggsted. It's not the car persay, it's everything surrounding it. So if I just narrow it down to helping with the car only (not the $, not the parking, etc). Then that might be a great solution
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 04:51 PM
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That's actually a stellar idea. Then it's not like I'm cutting off my support entirely.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 04:49 PM
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But he's not. He goes between wanting my help and wanting none of it. If he wants my help, I'll help, but the back and forth is making me mental.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:28 PM
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If it was that simple I wouldn't be here.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:26 PM
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Sounds to me like he may just really respect your opinion. Pretty much, and I really love this, but the process is too much. Rather than having you take over, he may just really need some help? That's where the problem lies, you're entirely correct. But he goes between wanting my help and then not wanting me involved at all. It's driving me insane. Since I can't find a balance, I just want to opt out because it's making me a bad wife. I appreciate the suggestion but he'd rather light his money o…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:26 PM
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Exactly!!!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 01:22 PM
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But I do know how, so I'm not about to play dumb to feed his ego, I'm not going to lie about my reasoning either. That's why he asks me, I've gone through the process the past two vehicles myself.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:22 PM
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I think they mean redpillwomen helped them become better as a person. This subreddit isn't just for "getting a man" it's about becoming the best version of yourself and dealing with hard truths and reality.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 08:22 PM
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Sounds more controlling moreso than an alpha. I'd say your man is old school, but most certainly not red pilled. Red pilled men treat women they love with respect. A good man will not treat you that way. I'd say run.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 08:18 PM
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Yes, you're right as to my perspective. That's totally correct. It's his car, and there is such a thing as too many cooks in the kitchen. This really stands out to me, he's actually used this expression before to me to get a point across, so he knows exactly what it means. Maybe I'll just say that to him, followed up with that I trust his judgement. Indulging this behavior will only enable the dynamic to crop up in other areas of your relationship and could lead to you losing respect for him. Th…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/18 08:14 PM
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he just agonizes about it and she gets tired of talking about it. Hit the nail on the head. "it's your car, your choice." Ah yes, very Doyle style. I think I'll start doing that. I've been saying "whatever you think is best" but that always comes with him asking a follow up. It took him several more months to choose a car (let's be honest they are kind of the same, just different types, it's not hard!) but at least she didn't have to talk to him about it anymore. That's my main stress. It's been…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/18 08:10 PM
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I'm going to tonight after work. I've mentioned I don't want to be a part of the specifics, but I have yet to say I don't want to be a part of it as a whole. I'm not sure how to really go about doing that aside from saying it blatantly.
/r/RedPillWives29/08/18 08:07 PM
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In all fairness I PREFER he comments on my body and I've asked him to do so. I've got some personal insecurities about my body like majority of women and he's completely objective, as long as it's facts told nicely, I appreciate it. I'm on the other end though (extremely high metabolism), so he's told me "you're looking thinner in a bad way" which was weird to process but "you're looking thinner" is almost always a compliment, so I'm glad he said it the way he did. He's been right, and I've been…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/18 08:46 PM
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Love it, for personal and professional reasons. I use it for interior design primarily (since it's part of my job and a main passion), keeping my fashion in order (prevents me from getting caught up in trends), I've got food saved for every possible occasion or meal imaginable, party plans prepped and ready to do, all DIYs possible for any Hostess moments. I'm a photographer too so I keep a lot of images of posing for when I do shoots, ideas for future photoshoots, etc. Since my boyfriend also w…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/18 08:10 PM
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Yeah if he hasn't even kissed you it's either a sign of being a beta or not being over his ex, and based on the request on his half to take things slow. I'm going to agree he doesn't sound totally moved on. I'd say cut and leave. But with kids he said not in the next five years - would that be too late for me if I continue to pursue this relationship? That's entirely up to you. My boyfriend and I have agreed we want kids around 28-32. I'm also 25. So if he said that was his timeline, I'd be hesi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 02:42 PM
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Sounds like a weak-minded 17 year old, not a depressed 30 year old preparing to settle down. He made decision, after decision, after decision. You were none of those decisions. Move on. And to think - this was when the going was good. Imagine if the going wasn't good.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 07:59 PM
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Yeah exactly. Mail-order takes out all the depth and makes it a transaction. Even if the two people do want to try and love each other, it's still a transaction, unlike many arranged marriages - which, even can still be transactional on thier own level, it's again, got more depth.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 06:21 PM
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Because you still need commonailities with the person you're with. Problem with the mail ordered brides is they're usually not fluent in the language, come from a different country/culture than the order-er, thier priorities rarely include genuine love, moreso-attention and dependance, and again - commonalities, like interestes, religion, morals, etc. There are tons of reasons. For example, with an arranged marriage at least it's two families, externally examining those individuals, people they'…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 01:56 PM
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I've always been pretty focused on my appearance, so he doesn't really say much, however he always tells me what he likes and doesn't like and I ALWAYS curved to incorporate that into my wardrobe. Basically, he does the tweaking of my wardrobe and I'm the main decider. I wear an alternative-feminine style so it's very easy to eb and flow.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 01:37 PM
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Yikes! yeah my co-worker is actually from Yorkshire and goes back regularly. I'll tell her to grab me a bottle if it's legal.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 09:00 PM
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Zoflora I'm Canadian, seems like it's about $40 on amazon. I'll have to check in stores but thank you for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 08:08 PM
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Coming from Canada this was hilarious. We've got the same culture in a way with Hockey. Enter - the Puck Bunnies.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:28 PM
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Tapping onto this - while you're out shopping CONSIDER THAT YOU'LL HAVE TO CLEAN IT. There have been so many almost purchases that went back to the shelf because I just simply wasn't interested in adding those to the cleaning list.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:21 PM
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Not even for parents! That tool is so handy, even my boyfriend tosses stuff in the baskets now because he won't know where it goes. It has made my life so much easier! Walking around the house with a basket and just putting everything back. I get why Walmart does it with their customer service carts.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:19 PM
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You could try your hand at orchids. Look into water culture planting for them, it's hard, you may kill one or two in the learning process but once you've figure it out - you've got full, colourful blooms year around!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:05 PM
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they do have the service! Most jewelers actually have a tiny cleaning machine on hand, anytime I'm at the mall I pop into one and get whatever stuff I have on (including the pandora) done. It's nice to get them really deep cleaned every once in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:03 PM
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Immediately going out to buy peppermint oil. That's the one thing that's been irking me lately, thank you! The youtuber PickUpLimes actually suggested that bowl of balls replacing with fruit too. You'd be surprised how much more likely you are to grab something or keep it refreshed. Lemons and avocados would be such a nice colour balance though. I got one of those $20 amazon pedicure baths and started using it on him as well, highly recommend if you're willing to store it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 08:00 PM
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I know exactly how you feel then haha. It was a good turning moment for me, it reminded me I've become a woman I never intended of being. Forget the guy, forget all his pretty words. Focus on the biggest thing that came away from this - this just isn't the you you intended to be and then turn shit around - and become YOU again. Dude was just being a dude. Can't really fault him for that (unless he made false promises then he's a POS) BUT REGARDLESS - it's you you're more upset with I think at th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:45 PM
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Some of my bestfriends are blue-pilled AF, but they're respectful, fun people. Through them, I've met thier significant others, who introduce you to more people. For example, one of my best guyfriends since college is BP, very very BP. I was expecting him to end up with a feminist of some-kind. Nope - this lady is RP AF. I NEVER would have met her had I shoved myself into a box of expectations. Just be open about yourself, feel people out, test the waters with your views - stop acting on your fe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:38 PM
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Girl - you are the gatekeeper. If those men leave, they're not good enough. YOU SET THE STANDARDS FOR SEX.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:31 PM
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Honestly, I took a long look at myself and asked myself in the mirror "Am I easy?" My response was "No!", but to that man - the answer was yes. So I just moved on focusing on being more intense about my self-worth. Sometimes I still get mad at him / myself for how the situation played out - end of the day, it was a learning experience. Time heals.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:26 PM
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Let yourself feel that way, process that feeling! Don't tell him about it, just, work through it on your onw. When he comes home and you feel annoyed just remind yourself "I don't want to express this kind of feeling towards him until I understand it myself". Takes time and practice. As long as you're trying to separate yourself from the hamster - you're making progress.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:23 PM
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Honestly, a cheesy visor (Mine just says CANADA and is red, my mom usually wears a plain black one)and high-ponytail has always gotten me the most compliments when I'm up at the cottage. I know people don't think they're very stylish - but they're perfect for the beach and camping. I agree with everyone else, pick form-fitting things that you're willing to ruin. I always go with nice leggings, cute/comfy shorts that can transition from morning breakfast to the beach to the campfire, a COZY pull-…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:13 PM
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Ahhh the circle of reddit. Haha
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 03:07 PM
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No I re-read what you wrote and see what you meant, in which case you're 100% on point, that was my misunderstanding sorry about that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 03:02 PM
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I beg to differ, my bestfriend is poly with her husband and boyfriend, all three of them love eachother, truly in love with eachother. They've been together for 6 years. (She likes to think they're RP, but they most certainly are not, even if she and her husband are). But I agree with everything else you've said.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:49 PM
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Considering he's going on a tour, and is fairly well known - it's a job. Also any "hobby" that makes you money is a job, via definition. Regardless of what you want to label it - it's his.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:32 PM
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That's the vibe I'm getting, this seems more temporary than long-term on his end.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:01 PM
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I remember your post! You're actually such a good example or relinquishing unnecessary control and leading with femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 01:59 PM
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Consider it this way instead OP - This is his JOB. He needs to be completely engulfed in it. Whether he wants to or not, if you're there then he's got his protective instincts heightened, ultimately being a unconscious distraction. His music - that's something he can throw ALL of his instincts and passion into it. That's something he wants to put all of that into - for himself. Plus, this is a temporary thing, a tour. You better believe after it's done the #1 thing he'll be focused on is coming …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 01:57 PM
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Look, there are SO MANY men out there, you'll find yours. My bestfriend had 2 children out of wedlock. The first when she was 16, and the second was an 'I didn't know I was pregnant' situation with her ex. Her husband is a stand up man, it worked out because he can't actually have kids of his own so he loves those two to death and adopted them officially. She was really worried about scaring him off at first, but men with character would be respectful towards you whether they're game or not. You…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 07:12 PM
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So what have you decided - I notice it hasn't really been asked. Seems like you're planning on keeping the baby but you haven't really said outright. Do you want to keep the baby? What are the pros and cons you're weighing? Are you considering abortion? What are those pros and cons you're weighing? Tagging along with others - have you considered adoption? pros, cons? From my perspective - if you do choose to keep the baby, would the impact this child has on your career end up causing a negative …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 06:47 PM
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I know he’s stressed out as much as I am but i think we handle it very differently. That'd be a great line to bring up. You know he's stressed and you care for him. Bringing this up as a "Hey, I know you're having a hard time too. Let''s figure this out together" may work better.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 05:58 PM
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Chore chart!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 05:56 PM
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That's really interesting! I mean, the whole country is pretty liberal for the time being. It swings all the time (just went from majority PC to majority Liberal and now may swing back to PC), but yeah our main cities are VERY forced liberal.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 05:53 PM
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I feel you, I'm from Toronto, basically Canada's NYC. I suppose that's better than BC - Canada's California.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 05:50 PM
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Look, I'm from Toronto. Far left doesn't even begin to describe this city. As awful as it sounds - be honest and people will filter themselves out. I still have A LOT in common with my BP friends (I'm alternative, artsy, loud), but a lot I do not (relationship ideals, politics, etc) . What I did notice is 1) lots of people are RP but silent about it/go with the crowd and are too scared to even start talking about it. You start talking and you'd be surprised to find there may be one or two RP peo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 05:41 PM
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Yep, there is a song called "Can't raise a man" op should listen to it. A man this grown is set in his ways. I'm with a man a little less babied than this but still - he expects things of me his mother did for him. I'm OK doing this, I LIKE doing this, I'm one of those women you speak of. If OP doesn't want that role - then she needs to nope tf out.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 09:32 PM
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yeah don't follow that. Don't say you don't trust him. telling someone you don't trust them is a great way to help tear down a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 09:29 PM
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You need some hobbies OP!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:20 PM
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My boyfriend's patience and his financial intelligence. He wouldn't progress our relationship until I was out of debt. Fair enough, I probably wouldn't want to live with someone financially unstable either. He's single handedly helped me work through my college debt on my own, taught me so many ways to handle certain aspects and suggested opening a savings account I can eventually merge with his! It's been a game changer, he reduced my stress more than I thought possible. He even opens my bills …
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:18 PM
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That surprised me too! He used to micromanage what I would use the knife for or the size of the veggies. He was so picky I was really worried. He must have noticed how him not eating my food was affecting me and made the effort. At least I hope that's what it is :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 02:26 PM
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Tried to find it already but can't remember what I titled it for the life of me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:56 PM
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Good idea! I'll start doing that, pick a new veggie each week or something.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:54 PM
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Yeah it was actually surprising to me how many people responded with "he can feed himself" "why would you even pick a man picky like that if you like food". I'm glad there was so much variety in opinions though it really helped me think of a lot of different ideas and some people really gave me some stellar advice!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:48 PM
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I'm so happy with the whiteboard for sure. It was nice to hear how many other women were struggling with this issue and didn't just want to say "he can feed himself". I love cooking and I wanted to share my cooking with him so he loved it too. This sub helped so so much! We've been planning out our weekends so far and it's been going flawlessly! I've been solo planning the week days which has given the creative freedom I've been craving. Once I get into a routine I'll likely get him in on the we…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:47 PM
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You're completely right! I've learned a bunch of new ways to approach him so I think our communication moving forward will keep improving!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:41 PM
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Thanks love!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:41 PM
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Thanks so much!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 10:49 PM
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He LOVES sniffing food (weird quality haha). And I definitely explained that going into it! There were some that were sniff test only haha
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 10:48 PM
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Finish decorating the bathroom Bake something once each week Start saving for our first fly-away vacation Complete 3 projects
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 04:02 PM
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So happy for you OP! Keep up the amazing work, you deserve good things!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 03:59 PM
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Not a special cuisine (although signature dishes are always a good idea) but learn the basics so that you could knock the socks off any basic pinterest recipe.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 09:06 PM
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Obviously re-familiarize yourself with the sidebar. Start with a book. Check out the ones recommended in this sub, pick-up something that'll motivae you to be a better woman. Start with the basics again - food, exercise, socializing, appearance. Hows your hair look? Skin? nails? Start with that. Spa day at home with your book. Routine change? Gym. You'll get motivated to go there because it cost you money, you can meet new people and get back into shape plus then you can take classes and such an…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 08:58 PM
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So these are some of my tips, if I don't feel sexually desired enough by him I get all weird so playing up the sexy housewife thing is my jam. I get changed infront of him whenever I can (ie. I'll go get changed in the living room if that's where he is). And make a tiny show of it. Nothing super obvious, just a slowly pulling the pants off the bum and slowly pulling the comfy shorts back up, so it kinda grabs your bum. I don't even think he thinks much beyond "she's changing" with the odd "hello…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 08:35 PM
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Tell him to let you know ASAP when he is. Sound like a kid on Christmas. I go with something light "Awh alright! Please tell me when I can, I've been craving you."
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 08:23 PM
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Wait until he texts you back, if he doesn't by tomorrow then you can text him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 09:25 PM
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I'd say let it go. Actions speak louder than words, and yours speak strongly. I think you patiently waiting and then leaving should hopefully be enough of an idea that you're more valuable than that BS. No "reason" is good enough to leave a woman standing alone waiting for you for nearly 2 hours. His texts weren't truthful, they were time buffers, but I don't think he needs a talking to. Just know that you were plenty accommodating of his time, and whatever came up. He is in the wrong here. So a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 09:06 PM
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I agree, without this info OP, I think he's very clearly in the wrong. Did he say why he was running late?
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 08:26 PM
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Since OP mentioned they're from Canada I should mention that in the younger generation it's pretty uncommon NOT to be tattooed, so I think there is a lot of social pressure on girls to do it as well.Throw in the success of alternative models online and everyone thinks they're suited to be covered in ink. The reality is a lot of people make quick decisions to feel cooler or some crap. I have a few girlfriends from highschool, who (unlike myself who planned these pieces long-term, wait 1year befor…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 07:57 PM
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On the first time over to my BF's house I flat out told him "We're not having sex tonight." He was surprised at first but smiled and said "Ohh I like a challenge." (in a "i want her so I'll find a way to get her eventually" way not a "I'm going to convince her otherwise and disrespect her" way) 5 years later and still goin'! The right guy will respect a woman's sexual boundaries. The right woman will keep him interested but won't give him blueballs. Find your balance. BE CLEAR, leave no room for…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 07:41 PM
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Actually, humans are tribal and we DON'T welcome strangers easily. US Liberalism pretends to be otherwise but they have institutionalized the practice of being tolerant except to haters, with haters being defined as anybody who doesn't agree with them in lockstep. You're so entirely right. It's the opposite of natural. I think maybe what's natural about it is to follow the herd. Very lemming-esque though and as humans we have far more cognitive dissonance and should know better. Yeah the over-re…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 07:37 PM
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Apparently there are a lot of us gals here! My best friend is the same way ☺️ it’s nice because we can follow all the things that make us happy after being redpilled. I’m happy with my alternative appearance while still getting to keep a traditional lifestyle. They always made it seem like because I’m alternative I also had to live that alternative lifestyle and it was conflicting!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 11:34 AM
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The slut-walk thing was a major moment for me too, I started dressing more covered after that. I think Lauren Southern made a video on it that just clicked. I was fully supportive of all that "YOU COULD WEAR NOTHING AND MEN SHOULDN'T LOOK" but it's like damn, nature has a way of working and no matter how many "walks" you go on, the world will always turn the same way. Also letting men do things for me felt liberating! I felt more powerful with that than I ever did doing it all myself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 08:21 PM
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Man they love to play the victim. One of my bestfriends is trans, he literally has made the turck/dick joke before, you have to have a sense of humor or you're destined to be fragile and triggered, especially when you're trans. He has "The world is not mine to change" tattooed on his arm. He has been attacked in the LGBT community because he's too "cis-normative", which just blows my mind. He had lady parts and now he has new man parts, how is he getting excluded from the community?!?! I'll tell…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 08:12 PM
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The thickest kind of irony.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 07:50 PM
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Exactly! My grandma would never touch stuff like that, but she's always cared for her skin, diet and hair and she looks so lovely! I'd happily age into someone like her, there is beauty in age IMO.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 07:07 PM
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READ THE RULES. You are now blatantly disrespecting a women in this sub, watch your attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 06:46 PM
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My bestfriend and I were drowning in the blue for a long time too before we swallowed our red pills 6-7 years ago. I think it's natural for people to lean towards such a "WE WELCOME EVERYONE" mentality without looking much further. Plus I'm alternative (I AM bisexual, but I don't ever want a female partner) and geeky and there is no lack of that in the far-liberal SJW community. Once you start figuring to what YOU want it doesn't take long before the entire thing unravels and you're just left th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:58 PM
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No worries! :) Happy to offer another perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 04:34 PM
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Just sticks, it's a natural attraction and I find him more attractive as he ages too. Could have to do with the fact that he has qualilties I'd like to see in my future children - height, high metablosim, his nose, skintone. I think naturalistically I want to mate with him. On a deeper level, he makes me feel incredibly sexy myself, he exudes confidence and self-assurance, he's emotionally stable while still extremely passionate, he's very logical and I think he's the funniest person I've ever m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 01:58 PM
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Totally! Then I second the book that was recommended, my boyfriend has read it (big reader, like a book a week) and he's told me I can recommend it to my girlfriends for their "lackluster lays". I haven't read it myself tho so I can't give you that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 07:32 PM
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Still, don't set yourself on fire just to keep him warm. You're still young. I'm not saying break-up, I'm just saying that until that ring is on your finger don't scarfice what you truly want just to settle.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 05:39 PM
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Hey I haven't read much of all of this but when I was 19 I felt the same way about my SO of 4 years. He truly ticked every box possible but I kept losing attraction to him. I think it came through aging and growing - going from teen to adult. I tried making it work with him everyday I knew possible for over a year after I realized there was very little attraction left towards him. Aside from this one thing, he was truly perfect for me. However after that year I decided I had no choice but to bre…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 05:17 PM
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I like to remind my guy about how good he is at pleasuring me. Makes him feel proud of himself and eager to do it again. So positive reinforcement that he's soooooooooo good at turning you on is really helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 05:08 PM
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I love how often they are a conversation starter! I actually ended up making friends with a girl who saw my nails and complimented them, exchanged instagrams and now we get coffee and she does my hair. Kinda jazzed that yellow daisy themed nails started that friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 04:34 PM
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I have acrylic/gel coated nails. However I make videos for work that include my hands - so they have to change style every few weeks for the videos. I like it though, it's fun having such extra nails, they're a conversation piece. I keep mine on the shorter side, so they look more natural. I'm with you on the brighter/longer ones looking trashy. I think you can do fake nails really tastefully, even a simply french tip design. My boyfriend says they make handjobs hotter so that's a bonus too! I t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 04:23 PM
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RecipeTin Eats Immediately loved what I saw. Hopefully I'll find something to try out with him! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 08:27 PM
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Monk mode is for men who are single. wtf is going on here. He's playing games and you sound like you're being annoying. Albeit, he's giving you a long list of reasons to feel like shit. He has no respect for you it sounds like. None, zip, zero. This guy does not sound like a man of quality. Being an alpha is only a good thing if you're not a jackass in personality. He sounds like a fuckboi. He's going to spend a night with other women, he's refusing to talk to you about his plans. This is not go…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 05:10 PM
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This is unacceptable. If he's living by the "you do all the chores and care for the home" then HE should be the one providing. You're getting the short end of every stick, it even sounds like he will cut sticks so they're shorter for you, because that's how little he actually cares. This is not a good quality man from the sounds of it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 04:52 PM
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I’m 5’4” and 110lb. I am sorted by my doctor as average. No matter how you sugar coat it, a woman my height weighing nearly THREE TIMES what I do is never going to get the man she’s got herself set on, unless she finds a unicorn. You can’t change someone, change can only come from within. You can just be a good example and share advice when given the opportunity. Like you said, when a man does commit to her, they only ask she loses weight? That’s an option and she chooses otherwise. She’s made h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 11:40 AM
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I could not imagine wording this any better- bravo!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 12:43 AM
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Oh most definitely, I think it's a more serious deep-rooted thing but it doesn't really effect hiss life negatively yet. I'm fairly sure he has OCD but just won't admit it (being in perfect health is a big thing for him). So I just work with him on it and just ensure it doesn't start impeding his ability to function normally. Hasn't really been much more than an annoying quirk. I can eat his food as long as I don't touch any of it, he won't eat mine unless it's the very first bite and I haven't …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 09:28 PM
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I'd like to use that one but he doesn't share food. We even have to split popcorn so I don't touch his. Funny habit for a man whose had his tongue in much dirtier places. That one I figured out pretty quickly. I made our tacos normally but made like 5 different filler options and he was just so overwhelmed he just ate it with lettuce and cheese. So, that lesson was learned quick haha. I try just to introduce one thing at a time. I'll give them the one or the other option more often that may be h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 09:16 PM
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That's clever too, I can eat a bite or two in front of him before putting them away so he gets that they're "safe". I can do that no problemo! Thanks for your help! :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:49 PM
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Yes! Same kind of man! I mentioned in another comment my friend makes this chili sauce that he really loved so I'm going to try and remake that. That's a great idea, I'm sure there are some things I can change up simply. A puzzle, you know, I never thought of it that way but that perspective could actually make this a lot more fun for me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:46 PM
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Yep, he's big on the dairy too and he's never even had the sour experience haha, but even if I bought it that day, with over a month left on the exp. date and opened it in front of him he'd still have to inspect it. Hopefully one day he'll trust my "it's fine"'s. That's actually a great insight. He will eat something he's nervous about if I eat it first. I guess I'll just show (via my actions) him that being the guinea pig is easy and can be fun. That's what I try to do at the fests. Pick things…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:39 PM
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I can see what you're saying. It does sound childish but I think it's a form of food aversion and not really just pickiness. So those are the solutions I've found thus far, but yeah, got most of them from "how to deal with picky eaters" parenting articles. have him explain to you what it is he doesn't like. This will help him identify different flavors and give you both an understanding of what flavors he does and doesn't like. I can use this, thank you! Beating yourself up over it is something …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:15 PM
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Ah I could cry! This is exactly the kind of advice I was hoping to get. I worry about the de-mystifying. Like I mentioned he has a weird thing about germs, that correlates to what the food looks like, if anything in the food even resembles something icky it'll throw him off. For example, the little bits of white skin/fat on chicken breasts? If he sees it it makes it more difficult for him to eat it at all. So I'll start slow, but I don't think I can ever be full-on with him in that department wi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:05 PM
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Haha that's pretty clever honestly. I'm a little sassy so that'll be fun to say
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 07:35 PM
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Yes exactly!! He says he wants to try new things so I want to help him especially if it benefits both of us. It's a challenge for sure but I'll gladly accept this downside if nothing else changes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 07:27 PM
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Just because he's specific about his food does not make him a child. He wants to expand his pallet but doesn't know how. I want to help him do that because it's boring cooking these things and I want to give him the food he wants. He's very OK with cooking his own food, that is his solution to this problem if I won't accomedate him. But I am willing to accomedate him. That's the point here.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 07:23 PM
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That's actually a great idea. I meal prep his lunches, so I suppose I could do the same for dinners. Then if he isn't interested in what I'm cooking he can grab a ready-made meal. I'll start to freeze some stuff he likes. I appreciate the advice, my bestfriend and her husband are actually a vegan and a blood-red hunter. She always finds a way to feed him exactly what he wants without sacrificing her own meals. I'll give her a call today and see if she has some ideas. Thanks! You're entirely righ…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 06:42 PM
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It's not the truth, it's your opinion on what you think I'm saying. You're literally twisting my words to make me seem like some disrespectful shrew, when I only came here to find options to give him what he told me he wants. He is not aware that this bothers me, that is not something I would express to him because that would be disrespectful. How I communicate with him is a non-issue.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 02:05 PM
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Certainly a lot of speculation on your part here. I'm not going to defend myself against these absurd claims. I'll correct myself in one place just can't really do that himself since Fine, he won't do it himself and he wants me to do it for him, so all he has to do is eat it and I want to do that for him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:50 PM
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He comes from a family that doesnt even know what hummus is. Like, seriously. Hummus. Basically my situation! I'll try to work on just caving to this, because you're right. If he's happy with his food, I've done my job. I don't have to be the cook I think I should be, I'm already cooking him exactly what he wants after all. It's a good mantra, I'll try to take it on too.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:40 PM
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His parents actually considered that because he's extremely high IQ as well, so he got tested and he's perfectly normal, just unique haha
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:37 PM
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Thanks for the honest review. I'll look into HelloFresh to start :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:32 PM
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Chicken cordon bleu ham/pork is on the no-go list and no he's not kosher haha. I do make a cream of mushroom/celery rice that he may like that I don't think I've actually made for him, I'll try that! I can do a kiev instead of the bleu and that may be a nice change for both of us. Thanks a bunch! Seared Beef wellington This one sounds perfect! He has tried tikka masala and seemed fond, maybe I'll try butter chicken since that's a pretty easy taste to adapt to. Lemon pepper I'll add to the list t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:30 PM
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One thing he's mentioned is that he really appreciates how accomedating I am with it. Like I said, even his mom who basically raised him this way pokes fun at his eating habits. It's obviously a bit of a sensitive issue for him. Because as our friend once said to him "A real man eats anything a woman puts in front of him, food or pussy." and it visibly threw him off. Yeah, he will literally gag if I'm cooking some things. Like he saw me cook asparagus and I was cooking it with a blacken salmon a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 09:24 PM
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That would be fun honestly. I can't get those services due to the building we live in BUT, I think maybe scrolling through pinterest with him and letting him pick something - then making it together would be beneficial in muiltiple ways! it'd be a fun date night He'd learn to cook some more (something he's been enjoying me teaching him) gives him an opportunity to choose his comfort level in exploring new foods. Stellar idea, thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 09:18 PM
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Yes of course. I'd never tell him what he can and cannot eat. That's usually how it goes and basically what I'm doing. Pretty much that's what I assumed is the only option. I'm not tricking him (aside from that hot sauce thing which i did once and now regret putting here because it seems to be getting focused on). He has also expressed like I mentioned in another comment that he wants to try new food, he wants a more expansive palette, just can't really do that himself since 1) he can't cook and…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 09:13 PM
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Honestly if I add this into my habits anyways I actually think that'll be really effective!! I think apprehensiveness is what's got him, like a mental barrier, because he's never really disliked anything he's tried so far. So this may work.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 09:06 PM
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Yes, I like this perspective. This is what we've done in a few situations actually and it worked really well. For this, his suggestion was he'll cook for himself. He seemed very nonchalant and carefree about it. But that means he isn't eating well (since he doesn't know how to cook - ie. kraft dinner and hotdogs would be a staple meal) and that's more upsetting for me than having to make boring food. So, while this is horribly annoying, not cooking for him feels even more soul crushing than cook…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:59 PM
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Sounds like you're giving up and considered looking to go into nun mode. Possibly?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:49 PM
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you need to step OFF the merry-go-round, and show him respect EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT FEELING LIKE HE DESERVES IT. Only by getting out of the cycle can you start building love/respect again, and stoke the fires of mutual attraction. Yep, can't be the catalyst for change and still reap the benefits every situation. This is one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:48 PM
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I would probably be on that deal breaker page had he not checked every other box far sooner than this became a problem. I like inviting my friend over because he gobbles up all my food and it's much more attractive tbh. So yes, ideally I'd like a man who eats all my cooking no problem. THAT BEING SAID, hindsight is 20/20 and the con doesn't outweigh the pros. Which is why I want to get ahead of this for exactly the reason you listed - kids. Plus we want to travel and I'm not going to mcdonalds f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:32 PM
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Oh my gosh. The "sour creamless" enchiladas is basically my entire situation hahaha Hopefully we'll garner some useful ones!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:18 PM
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I've only ever lied about a sauce being "only hot sauce" it had crushed red pepper/some other spices in it but I confessed after he told me he liked it ha... But yeah, I think that's basically how it's going to go! I confided in my friend as well and she now pushes food h=on him when we visit (politely) and she's Trinidadian so she make some great food he's not used to. So that's seemed to help! Guess it comes down to a combination of patience and exposure.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 06:04 PM
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Neither. One guy sounds high and mighty while the relationship has a lot of damage and the other guy isn’t what you want you’re just forcing it. Plus they both live far away. Find guy #3.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:34 AM
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AGREED! Hadn't even thought of this. OP be sure to discuss the budget and what you'll be allowed to access in terms of money then as well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:50 PM
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This sub told me - no ring, no wifey role. However, I think this is fair grounds. If you're stable and this is what he wants, you can afford to do it and you have a plan for getting a job in the future anyways, then aside from some extra cash it seems like quitting your job would be ideal. PLUS, you could have a hobby that ends up bringing in some extra cash anyways, who knows. I vote yes, quit your job, enjoy the summer, make your boyfriend's life better and yours, then go back and focus on sch…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:55 PM
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Congnitive behaviour theraphy. I've sorry love but I'm reading a lot of excuse, I experiance all that you say you do, plus some even more unmanagable things (panic attacks, blackouts). You don't need to be embarrassed, you know how sometimes when you get overworked and don't take care of yourself your body starts to fail? You get sick? It's the same thing, it's just mental not physical. But I'm finding excuses in this. What are you doing to address those depressive and anxious thoughts in the mo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 05:44 PM
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To give you an idea, a lot of the men in that subreddit are very jaded due to their past experiences. You're still looking for a man of value - speaking for myself I sure as hell wouldn't want to be with one of those big cry babies. There are many men who follow the redpill theory without being total knobs. In fact most of those men aren't spending their time whining about women on reddit I can assure you that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 05:12 PM
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It's really the behavior that makes a woman nawalt isn't it? Ding ding ding
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:47 PM
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I think it does. You're on a good research path, there is lots out there for this topic. I think the option of having non-traditional gender roles was positive change for society, however - I think the fact that most of western society pushes the "strong independent woman who doesn't need no man" narrative that young women feel pressured not to conform to their natural instincts (especially the women who need a leader), which results in them becoming unhappy. Especially with feminism pushing the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:42 PM
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I consider myself an equal I just have differen skillsets than a man and by using my skills (basic wifey skills, welcoming demeanor, nurturing, nice body & good in bed, personal cheerleader) to help my man (his skills - provide, protect, lead) then we both get everything we want out of the relationship. I think there are a lot of reasons women might be unhappy in those kinds of relationships. Evolution could definitely be one of them, but something simple like just wanting a 'decision maker' ski…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:36 PM
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Wow 9 months in and he's this unreliable already and you're this insecure? Move on. Raise your value.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:25 PM
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Sex robots will be a good solution for dangerous or undesirable men. I don't see people looking for real connections or a wife wanting one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:22 PM
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What are they Realtors? I mean, if your boyfriend is RP, then he likely has firm boundaries in place with her as it effects his business as well. I'm guessing hard friendzone. My friend and I are realtors, we've discussed working as team. His girlfriend, is insecure about it right now so we're working on the logistics. (I've been with my boyfriend almost 6 years now). I've known him for years and talk to him about everything anything, I like having his specific male perspective, also because he …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 07:15 PM
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They both sound like they suck honestly. 1) is arrogant and not in a sexy way. Honesty means nothing when they're egotistical. I don't trust that he'd be a protector. 2) is beta and not in the good way. He seems like a lot of work. You're 20, it's not necessary to pick one or the other, especially so soon. That's the point of the vetting process, is to create options and pick the right choice. these two are options but surely don't sound like the ideal choice.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 06:54 PM
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Dry shampoo too. Versatile clothing that avoid the pits - think tank tops.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 03:19 PM
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I want to be a solid family unit - plus my last name is kinda boring.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 07:50 PM
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I tell him just because I know he gets easily paranoid about it. So it's more so just a comment like "daddy you're not a daddy yet" and he gets it. We don't speak of it otherwise, none of his beeswax honestly. I feel like if he was actively tracking my cycle, he's then also actively undermining my job as a woman. It's control a man has no right to imo.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 04:25 PM
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I think so hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 05:03 PM
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Cosmo told me to eat a donut off my boyfriend’s dick. So to summarize, yes, I miss them.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 03:05 AM
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The rest of the stuff- being feminine Nah girl, start on this NOW.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 09:03 PM
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Yeah but he probably just scrolls through his feed reacting/double tapping pretty much everything. That's how a large portion of people end up using social media anyways. Like a nosy neighbour. because it feels like it’s him interacting with/validating them. That paranoia is why I make sure they know my "no exes ever" condition. It's for my own mental health. That being said, my boyfriend could add his ex to facebook today, spam her photos and I would have to reach inside myself and find accepta…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 08:58 PM
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Thank you, that's much better than my phrasing.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 08:54 PM
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I'm glad she touched on the biological imbalance. A woman has significant more sexual repercussions than men will ever. So many women don't even consider this and I think it's so important to distinguish.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 08:22 PM
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Hm, I made it clear in the beginning that to be with me, a man can no longer be in contact with his ex. It's pretty much unspoken for my relationships so I can't say I have personal experiance, but I'd say, in that case - it tells you how little importance social media has on him. It means very little, in fact removing people feels petty because that could cause more issues in his mind then keeping them online, casually interacting/basically ignoring. Seems like to him, social media isn't much m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 08:00 PM
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Okay, you're completely right - then just the first half of the sentence.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 07:58 PM
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So you know I’ve been seeing a therapist to work on some insecurities and issues surrounding them I have. I’ve been struggling specifically with some irrational, unfounded jealousy that stems from my personals insecurities and projections of them onto this situation. I want you to know that you’ve done nothing wrong, and your actions haven’t been the root of any of this. It’s purely a ‘me’ issue, and that’s why I’ve been trying to work through it on my own for a bit. I didn’t want to rope you in…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 05:49 PM
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Honestly, I'd just say "I don't want you to be familiar with X anymore. I'd prefer if you cut her out entirely for my comfort." Tell your man your problem, not the solution, not your confusing process. I'm going do a quick edit of your letter and post in the reply.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 05:40 PM
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My nails look like they belong to a child. Short and stubby. Fake nails are the only way I can feel feminine about my hands personally.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 05:57 PM
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High value
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 04:49 AM
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Why not join something through your church? Since religion is important to you and something you value a lot, you may find a healthy, like-minded man through your church. I know after my cousin's divorce, she asked the Priest to help her find a guy, she keep saying how embarrasing she felt doing it, but tbh they knew her well, they knew her past and they knew what kind of man she wanted to marry - anyways. So after about a month one of the lovely women at the church introduce her to his Son, 2 y…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 08:33 PM
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He also doesn't like red lipstick. This was one I was disappointed by since it's trendy and I like the 50s housewife look, but when he explained that it just made him think of strippers, I no longer wanted to wear it. Try a deep orange or bright pink instead! You'll still get that housewife vibe but not the stripper one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 07:33 PM
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omg this matching reddit account thing is cute AF This seems to be what my guy favours too! Pretty much our dynamic.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 07:31 PM
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Do you ask him for suggestions? Only if I'm indesisive or we're shopping, but he doesn't understand sillouttes, colour matching, textures, etc. So I take that with a grain of salt. He does however, know what he likes to see me in. does he give them himself? All the time, he compliments or tells me he isn't "fond" of it. Lovely man not to straight-up insult me. He just told me last week he likes when I dress business-casual. So I plan on buying a silk white button up to make day-to-day outfits gi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 07:27 PM
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Sidenote: I'm a freelancer, I'll be transitioning to SAH. I like this because then I'll still have the opportunity to do the work I'm good at and I love, while my husband and family take the limelight. That way, I'm still personally self fulfilled in that aspext. Many others start in-home businesses, launch a product, become independent artists, work part-time at a job they love, work with their husband, etc. There are so many things you can do that will keep you in that independent way whilst s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 03:33 PM
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"I feel more empowered in this kind of a relationship" has been enough to make my feminist friends stfu.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:30 PM
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I have 3! one for art, one for cooking and the other for gardening. My gardening one has little ladybugs on it I love them so much.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:23 PM
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Loved this, watched it last night with my boyfriend. Bret raised some incredible comparisons I wish a lot more people heard. Also appreciate them putting emphasis on the "maybe" in Jordan's vice replies. Vice really trying to push him there but he stood strong.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:22 PM
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I wish I could copy/paste this to the ignorant people in the relationship subs but it's not worth my time. However, saving this for future reference anyways, really well worded.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:14 PM
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Anytime one of my friends comes to a situation like this, a breaking point, where they should obviously leave for good.I know it's not really ever my place, but I have a hard time not at least trying to help them see it a bit differently than with their rose coloured glasses on. I just simply say one thing I know will give them some food for thought. Just one thing though, you can't elaborate. Planting a seed, sew to say. Like "Is this really what love is to you?" "I hope you sleep okay with tha…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 07:30 PM
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Do it! I have a ton of plants, 100+. Boyfriend didn't understand my enthusiasm/passion for them before but he loves them now. I have mentally stored a few comments of his regarding my plants, so I don't even think he realizes how much they boost the overall mood and feel of our tiny (very cold/Canadian) apartment. "It's like were screwing in a rain forest, it's so cool" "I like that you decorate with plants instead of silly wasteful home decor items" "I love watching you running around tending t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 05:40 PM
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However over time I believe they crave a bit more balance, and it sounds like this is what your man is saying. Yes!! Exactly! You really hit the nail on the head. Engagement has been on the table firmly for a while now. I'm 90% sure this is the year. No concerns about our longevity at all, just the initial game plan. The cool thing is we both do exactly the same work. It's just spread differently. His workload is increasing a lot so I think he wants me to work with him as well to help reduce tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 05:09 PM
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Yeah that's basically how I see it. Hence my apprehension. I'm either a full-on wifey/future mother or I'm a strong independent career woman. I'm not doing an in between. He sees it like SAHW, I see it as unemployed with trust as my safety net.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 04:57 PM
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That has yet to be an issue for us, but thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 05:06 PM
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See that’s where I’m stuck. I do want to quit and I do want to work for him because I’m way more passionate about that kind of work.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 02:29 PM
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End of the day we're still Canadian so we'll be good. Always the opportunity to go home. It wouldn't be a permanent move either, we want to raise our family near our families, but that is something to consider. Those Americans are just weak imo and they definitely do not deserve to be here. Canada isn't this magical bubble American's think it is. Opportunity is where you make it. Youtube we've got covered, majority of our income is from Amaszon affiliate and paid training courses/classes you can…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 10:30 PM
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That's where I'm leaning. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 09:43 PM
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If he has flexibility in where he works and can make decent bucks anywhere, then why did you move to be with him? Because he didn't 3 years ago when we both just graduated college where we met. I had to move out anyways (mom sold her house and was moving up north, brother moved in with a friend), so I moved to his city since, why not? I also got an incredible job offer at a business in that city in my field (company closed after 150 years, and the i freelanced for a year before landing this cont…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 09:40 PM
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nothing like some monring axe throwing!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 07:53 PM
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Well, I appreciate you playing devil's advocate, always a useful perspective. Regarding the ring, I told him I wanted to wait until I was 25 and then he could. I just turned 25 so it's likely this year. I say "likely" because it's his decision so I have no idea and he'll want to film it so it will take time to orchestrate. He chats about it more than I do. He didn't move in yet because I told him not to, and to save his money and stay with his parents until they move (5 hours away) this spring, …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 07:42 PM
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Suppose you don't leave your work, how would the situation develop? Life would go on as it is currently. I plan to leave this job in the next two years to be self employeed anyways, he just wants to do it sooner than I had mentally prepared for. Suppose you do leave your work, and financial situation improves. Dream life, check. Suppose it goes the other way. He has financial security, but I do not. My parents would help me from ever losing my apartment but I don't want thier money at all. If my…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 06:49 PM
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He's content with waiting if I said so. It goes without saying honestly that I wouldn't quit my job without more security in our relationship. I'm just wonderfing if it's worth it now, or if I should be doing things before hand
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 06:43 PM
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Yes! That's what I would do, I'd focus on my freelance even if I was SAH. I'm always keeping it up to date as best I can but working from home I'd be able to put all my work into it. Right now 40+ hours of my time goes into this company I'm working for now. In his mind, leaving them I would work for him and for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 06:42 PM
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Well, there is a point. We want to be nomadic. This would do that. Since he's a youtuber, he's been offered jobs all over the US and we could travel, he also has opportunities in a few cities for good non-youtube only stable jobs. So, me being SAH would bring him flexibility with his dream career and I, in turn would get to focus on my passions only. I also only moved to this city in the first place to be with him, I hate it here. And even if you are living together, quitting your job to depend …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 05:05 PM
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yesstyle, aliexpress, zaful, ebay. Cheap Chinese ones, depending on your body type. I'm petite as can be, so anything they sell works, all cheap lq material but I find I only wear it for like 5 minutes and my boyfriend has fun physically ripping them off. My good suggestions are 'love stories intimates' and 'for love & lemons'
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 04:55 PM
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Might want to tour down the side-bar rabbit hole. Most men see women as sex objects in general. Men love sex, it's up to us to make sure we don't just become someone's plate! We are the gatekeepers after all.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 04:32 PM
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Her, and Elle Grant is another young recently red-pilled transgendered girl and she's wonderful too. But Blaire is in a healthy red-pill relationship it seems so she'd be a good role model!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 04:31 PM
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