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Because your brain does not do what you think it does. Most people are very wrong in their views and beliefs about how we function as a cognitive species. I used to do the exact thing as you about different stories, posts, communities and accounts online, and suffered greatly for it. Neurology has taught us more and more that the brain is not a tool for deciphering the world and explaining it as accurately as possible using logic and reason. The brain's primary purpose is to tell you a story to …
/r/ExRedPill06/05/24 04:56 PM
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Meet better people? Or like, stop ruminating on some unkind things that people have said to you and letting it influence your entire ideology and perspective on life because there are literally billions of people on Earth who don't think about, nor care about labels and terms and dynamics like "beta bucks" and they still fall in love and have happy lives which you never read about because the internet only boosts the drama and pain to help your emotional state tell a story to explain why you fee…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 04:02 PM
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This kid lost his friends through drama, not loss of life, he had a falling out. Just wanted to recontextualize this, because I was also confused until I read through it.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 07:46 AM
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I need a relationship not want. As a species we "need" socialization for the best chances of mental health and happiness, but this isn't necessarily romantic relationships. You don't "need" a relationship that you don't want, what you really want, deep inside yourself you know this, is a relationship without the worry or responsibility to manage and maintain it, because who the fuck knows how to do that, right? You sound honestly like you are dealing with a lot of issues at once and you're conne…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 07:42 AM
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I'm so unused to receiving a real complement on the internet, reddit much less, this sub even less still, that I was waiting any moment for you to pivot to Mankind plummeting 16 feet into the announcer's cage. I guess I've gotten more cynical than I realized. Thank you for the kind words and taking the time to try to articulate your thoughts. As you also seem to be aware, this is where the bar is at for conversation and people helping each other. I still try though. I have been dipping in and ou…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/24 12:07 AM
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This content however stays in the back of my mind when I’m interacting with him. I believe I’ve been able to not lash out to him or anything, is my mind what concerns me. Okay, I'm going to clue you into how this works the same way as I've lectured probably hundreds of the worst incel chuds you've ever imagined, people who just hate life and women and themselves... and many times explaining this has helped them recover and go on to improve their lives and even get in relationships. Once you unde…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 07:29 PM
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PUAs, and dating coaches make fun of the classic advice “just be yourself”, but honestly I think that’s the best advice. You are right, but also there is some nuance here. For people who are struggling and have very little social success and experience, being "yourself" in this situation may be terrible advice. "Yourself" is a nebulous term, but you need to have self-realization and understanding what "yourself" looks like from outside yourself and make changes as necessary. Because if "yourself…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/24 07:34 PM
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Thinking they don’t is like saying racism has been solved. I don't think I or anyone else said that anything has been solved or resolved. And the very real struggles that women face in no way take anything away from the very real struggles that men face. Don't you agree?
/r/ExRedPill18/03/24 12:48 AM
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Because if you act confident people will be more inclined to both do what you ask, and want to be around you, because as a species we tend to follow people who seem like authorities. This is the basic gist of it. Redpill teaches real techniques that do work, like not being afraid of girls, about taking care of yourself and having self-assured feelings about yourself, and if you don't have self-esteem, at least acting like you do until you gain real appreciation and value for yourself. This is al…
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 07:57 PM
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All of this is looking at women like these monolithic, inscrutable entities with alien sets of axioms. Guess what kiddos, YOU ALSO are going to have a very hard time figuring out exactly what you want in life! As you grow older, with or without a relationship, you will change your mind on things you used to have strong feelings on, you will decide you suddenly love children, you will regret abandoning your previous education direction, you will become dissatisfied with your career, you will want…
/r/ExRedPill05/03/24 06:14 PM
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Remember that part of growing up is the painful lesson that sometimes you outgrow your friends. This sucks because it is indeed hard to make new friends, and it can hurt to see people you care about making bad choices, but you can only do so much before it starts to negatively impact your own life. Be the better example, be the one who pushes back, but don't tie yourself emotionally to your friends until they're willing to also grow up. The best thing you can do is just serve as a better example…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/24 04:29 PM
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I am not a professional, but I maintain that anyone who is having any kind of mental health issues will need some form of outside assistance, otherwise it's like trying to paint your room from outside your house... you can do it if you're clever and have the right tools, but it's also pretty nice to have some help and someone to talk to. Hope things work out well for you.
/r/ExRedPill29/02/24 12:05 AM
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Congratulations on being the first person posting here in the years and years I've been on reddit who actually is demonstrating a good plan. I wish you the very best luck and hope you check back in here or give an update. For everyone else, this is what you're missing by not joining in this plan: The human brain is a marvel but it's deeply flawed in some regards. A lot of people think brains are a source of reason and logic, when in reality the brain's sole purpose is to explain things. And the …
/r/ExRedPill28/02/24 09:14 PM
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I am of the opinion that trying to find hope and a cure for your incelish depression on the internet is like going to a bar or liquor store to find help for your crippling alcoholism. I could write a lot more about this, but I do it a lot and get tired of trying. Every incel or anyone else who hates their shitty life and the hand dealt to them can make some measure of improvement by doing the things they likely know they need to do, but to get there requires some real changes in personal habits …
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 11:20 PM
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It's only a big deal if you don't apply your standards equally, which is where the debate comes from. Every time some chud says "A key that can open any lock is called a master key..." blah blah blah, just reveals that they have the emotional and relationship intelligence of a high-school boy who probably thinks people like Andrew Tate are intellectual and it's almost useless to find common ground between this kind of person and adults who have better intelligence and maturity. There is also a r…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 08:15 PM
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This took me a min to think about, and I appreciate being asked questions, as I get little opportunity to indulge these thoughts. Wouldn’t that be selected out of the population? The only things that get selected in the human population that I can think of might be resistance to some diseases. There are probably some other factors, selection isn't the only evolutionary force that drives change in species, but we're pretty well removed from all of it. We're still evolving a little according to sc…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 05:37 PM
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It's very much relevant to this community to talk about how avoiding certain kinds of language helps your mental health. I think some people hate the idea that they have weak mental health, when in reality we ALL have weak mental health and can easily get stuck in places that keep us miserable. We watch the food and drink we consume, it's completely socially accepted to have diets and avoid some kinds of food, but when you tell people you're avoiding some kinds of entertainment or discussion, th…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 05:06 PM
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It's not an explanation of anything, it's one of the many, many facets of our complicated species. Where do our beauty standards come from now? I would say our magical ability to play with our instincts and hack our own response systems. The same place sugary soft drinks came from and action games and sporting events... we have a foundation of responses to certain kinds of stimuli but as I said, our social conditioning is a much stronger force and we can wrap our drives and instincts up in socia…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 02:05 AM
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I feel very strongly that face-to-face socializing is a critical component for developing healthier feelings about yourself and having better relationships, sex and self-worth. Going back to the ice-age metaphorical and speculative device, the eons we spent sitting around the fire with our clan and our clan's families, their friends, the trader who lives down the river and his family, sharing news and information... you learn things, you discover different views and perspectives and if someone s…
/r/ExRedPill21/02/24 04:34 AM
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I'm not a woman, but I have knowledge and experience here... for better or worse. I think it's a gross oversimplification to call it a matter of attraction/unattraction, so lets talk about the experience of the perception that many men share, of how women react to them opening up, usually pulling away and or not reciprocating feelings, and sometimes even ending the relationship. From my own mistakes and successes in life and love, I have determined that there are a few factors at work here that …
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 07:51 AM
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What? No, I stand by what I said, this is universal, differences are only in details and semantics. Men need to understand that they are as susceptible to this effect as women, and it's not a bad thing either, additionally to how it helps you manage your own self-esteem when interacting with others, this is what we were meant to experience with each other, it's why this effect is so strong in men and women. It's one of the many things we're losing as a society by not forcing ourselves out to int…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 07:24 AM
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I hear the stories of their exploits with women. I have to stop you RIGHT there. No men actually talk about their successful intimacy encounters. If they do, they're doing it to impress someone and that usually means lying is barely another step beyond that. No, really, who the fuck does that? Do you maintain friendships with people who brag about sex? That's low-brow and juvenile, and part of getting your head to a better place would be dropping those kinds of scumbags and live a life of your a…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 06:37 PM
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For most people who identify as "incel" it's because they want to belong to a community. We see incel communities as pits of despair and horrible, dark pits of misery where everyone is unhappy and hateful and cannot understand how anyone can live like this. What we don't see are the perspectives of the incel, the person who feels rejected by society and has been told over and over and over that they're wrong, bad and need to do things to change themselves... but the incel forum or channel, those…
/r/ExRedPill17/02/24 07:54 PM
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There are a LOT of guys who have some pretty major sexual/mental health issues that interfere with normal desires for sex, sometimes even things as simple as depression and anxiety can manifest as complicated ideas and reasoning against things like sexual intimacy as the human brain is brilliant at making up stories to explain feelings. This isn't a "bad" thing, lots of people have things they need to sort out. The problems start when the people with these feelings or health issues decide that t…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/23 07:53 AM
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I think trying to get accurate polling data from the Redpill community and orbiting communities is a lost-cause. There is almost no way to figure out if results are being gamed for an agenda. If the behavior of the typical redpill obsessive is any indicator... we're talking about people who routinely make multiple accounts just so they can pose questions to the relationship subs pretending to be women with some kind of issue or another. (As a mod on a large gender/relationship sub a number of ye…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 11:21 PM
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/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 10:44 PM
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I'm not "cussing at OP" I'm giving my take on this shit like I've been doing for years, if you think using gentle language here is going to help these guys and change hearts and minds.... well, I respect that but I think it's like trying to clean the wreckage created by a goddamn tornado with a septic-safe wet-wipe.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 09:23 PM
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I just don't think that given the culture we are in right now that experience man is something that is so worthwhile. NO you were doing fine right up until you started thinking about/talking about "today's culture." You want to send a woman running? Let her get even an inkling that you're thinking about "culture" in terms of dating her. Not your actual "value" or your broken perceptions of such, but the very idea that this shit is spinning around in your head is what will sabotage you. You have …
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 07:10 PM
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The first step is to stop reading about it. That's also the only step. Seriously, just stop reading about it, stop talking online about it, change your online habits. No normal, healthy, reasonable adult human being worries about things like this. Redpill and associated cults want to make you worried about a thousand really ridiculous things. They want to make you worried about things, because when you're worried you will keep coming back to them. This is exactly the way they teach you to manipu…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 07:02 PM
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Stop putting "pill" on things. Seriously, part of getting your head normal again and able to socialize like a real adult human will be discarding vernacular that only a select group understands. If it were a productive hobby, it would be fine but if your hobby is gender-debate and "pill" ideas then you have a lot more to worry about than if you're using the terms properly. Seriously, this is NOT the kind of question anyone who is doing well in life will ever ask. The social subgroups and circles…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 06:22 PM
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Most reasonable adults find these kids unbearably cringe. Speaking as a reasonable adult. I spent years maybe trying to find the proper path of data and facts that could shut these pathetic clowns up but eventually, finally had to resign to the fact that they don't have data, they don't care about facts, they are not logical and reasonable.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/23 12:34 AM
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They like to just make up words and new meanings for words. Then lose their minds when you try to tell them that most of what they believe in are just social constructs and mean nothing past subjective views.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/23 12:32 AM
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Furthermore, your use of the term beta and cuck as insults is ironic given that these are concepts that have been empirically validated by evolutionary psychology and sociobiology. Hahaha oh man, I haven't been on reddit or visited this sub in months, and this is the first thing I see. It's too much, please PLEASE tell me that you carefully designed this account as satire, you will go down in history in my experience at least as pure genius comedy gold.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/23 12:30 AM
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You sound like a huge catch, it's so shocking that you're somehow involved in the redpill community.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 05:05 AM
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If you swapped the genders and some of the details this would read exactly like something written by any MTGOW or Redpiller or incel who has also read too much and too deep into the internet and feels fed up trying to live up to societal expectations. I get you've had some bad experiences, but I say this to the guys who post these messages here, which is that it's your choice how you want to make progress in your life. You can leave relationships behind (,and probably should) and work on yoursel…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:54 PM
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I couldn't read it all, but it's a great example of how toxic this entire internet dating/relationship/sex world is, particularly the debate scene. Nobody should be feeling this angered and cynical about the very places they spend all their time. You all need to treat yourselves better. There is so much attention and fuss over our physical diets, what we eat and how we manage our body's health, nutrients and calories, etc... but rarely do we see messages about your mental diet. The stuff you rea…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 05:37 PM
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But this is just social charisma not sexual attraction. Do you really think there's a clear, sharp line between the two? This is very telling. Unless you are saying they are the same Again, you are looking at a compartmentalized world with sharp distinctions and categorization. The more you try to do this with the world around you, the harder of a time you will have understanding areas of intersecting ideas. Which I am seeing. I actively avoid social discomfort. This is reasonable. Far too reaso…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/22 05:28 PM
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You have to keep growing as a person, That’s my issue, I haven’t grown emotionally at all. Have you avoided discomfort or challenged yourself in your years? If you have and you still feel emotionally unfulfilled or stifled then maybe the issue actually is physiological and above reddit's paygrade to diagnose. Never heard this before and I’m skeptical. Attractive to whom? Maybe people don't go around saying it but it's just one of those things we all know without realizing it. Leaders of social g…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/22 09:28 AM
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but I guess I am too shallow to see that. Every single one of us has an emotional "power level" that has massive impact on our lives and perceptions. But you don't know what that power level looks like, the bar is invisible to you until you experience more and more of life's challenges and triumphs. This means it's very, very common for younger people to have this kind of attitude that you're describing, and yes even a worry that they are incapable of having that kind of connection with someone,…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 03:43 PM
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Does this imply that non-beautiful people in relationships are not attracted to each other and the billions of couples on the planet are simply following a social or economic incentive? This is not a taunt or call-out, it's a real question because it starts to scratch the surface of how you... we all... view relationships and our perspectives about attraction. A lot of young guys dismiss this point, but our views of others are colored by our emotional state, and I do not mean in a "comforting pl…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/22 04:10 PM
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I've recently talked to an young man who simultaneously would call women whores and stupid and are only good for sex. While also decrying that not enough people go to church to spread the word of Christ. If logical disconnects were nickels, these guys would have huge sacks of nickels.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 09:29 PM
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I'm not at all surprised, I could have eviscerated his comment but I just got the tone right away that it would be about as productive as beating my head against a concrete block. People who blame abuse on victims (or the existence of abusers on the abused) are not really the kinds of people I like trying to change anymore as much as blocking and reporting.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 11:19 PM
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Literally anyone who has ever had sex will be a target of hate for a laundry list of flimsy reasons. Especially if you're a feeemale.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 11:06 PM
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full potential "constantly anxious and afraid of how you behave around women" is a difficult standard to achieve, but with enough hard work, a man can reach any height.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 05:28 PM
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but I'd rather young boys watch him than somebody like Contrapoints, Lord in heaven forbid young boys learn about sociology instead of how to "train bitches."
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 05:03 PM
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If anyone thinks you can boil down something as complicated as "love" to a pithy quote like this, they deserve all the hardship coming to them. (because literally they do need to go through some relationships with other people to become a little more emotionally intelligent.) I could post a 6000 word essay here about different kinds of loves, the ways in which people express love, the ways in which we communicate and share things with our partners and the vast, vast scale that exists inside that…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 11:48 PM
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Childhood abuse will absolutely fuck up your mental outlook on relationships and almost everything else, which is why it's so horrible and it sounds like you're a survivor of some serious abuse. With a background like you described, I think you should put a LOT of effort into managing your own mental health. You absolutely should make serious efforts to see a therapist or make plans to sign up for intake at a local family mental health clinic if you can. They see you weekly and assign you a ther…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/22 04:29 PM
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Why would you choose to ask this here?
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 05:34 PM
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I agree with everything you said (my age was older though) but none of that precludes the need to tell said younger people that it's not as big of a deal as they're imagining it. Sure most don't listen, but most do go through it and then look back at how neurotic they were about it and cringe, but again... it's okay to tell people that they will go through that, some may actually take comfort in it. OP here doesn't seem to want to trust everyone saying that, but hell some others might take the m…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 07:30 PM
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You're disagreeing with me because you're absolutist, you're not leaving room open in anything you've said here for nuance and changing contexts. I'm not saying don't have sex, i'm saying stop regarding it as some major milestone in your life. I also think you're ascribing a lot of generalities to yourself and others. If you're with the right person, and it sounds like that's what you want, then none of this will be a big deal. Women are people, like you. Do you really think you're in some kind …
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 06:34 PM
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You can be healthy and confident without TRP language and ideas spinning around in your head making you question everyone's motives. What good is being fit and attractive if you're scared of girls? I don't get it.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 05:49 PM
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I can't even interact with this kind of vernacular. If you're spinning this kind of language around in your head when trying to consider society and interpersonal relationships, you're going to have a very, very hard time having normal, healthy relations with other people of any gender or sex. This is a good example of how TRP's cult-like influence gets into your head and makes your brain adapt to looking at the world in a new way, exactly how cults indoctrinate people. We are all very, very sus…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 05:46 PM
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Nobody cares. I am not saying that to be flippant or edgy or unhelpful, it's a harsh reality. All through your life, the only people who will really, truly care about the conditions in which you had sex for the first time is you, and you can also choose to not worry about it if you want. Worrying about those circumstances is like wanting to take a vacation somewhere nice but having difficulty because you're too worried about what color shoes you'll be wearing the whole time. Sex is often just a …
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 04:42 PM
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They are highly addicting to young, inexperienced boys who have no idea how to socialize because of bad experiences, growing up isolated, broken homes, deeply religious upbringing, etc. On a surface level, for boys in this situation a channel or guide that talks about how to date, how to talk to new people, how to maintain your appearance and feel comfortable.. that would all be great. Maybe there are channels like that out there. I don't know. The problem is so many become so deeply gentrified …
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 08:59 PM
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Like reproductive rights and when the laws are against you because you are a man. Great to stay informed about the law and rights. Nothing wrong with that. Be ever-so-careful though that you're not indulging that "men are always victims" mentality though, because it's deeply addicting to many people. You can get clean of the weird dating-game rhetoric but still end up depressed and paralyzed with depression and insecurity because you absorb too much material that makes you afraid of relationship…
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 08:53 PM
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Redpill is like a friend constantly reminding me of my past trauma and telling me how to avoid it. Do you think this is healthy though? Is it serving you well? I'm sure you've avoided being bullied by girls, but how long ago was that? How often do you have to worry about being a defenseless kid against other mean kids? Are you having fulfilled relationships? Are you happy? Or do you find yourself actively on-edge and tense and anxious around women? Are you condemning yourself to a life of never …
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 05:16 AM
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There is nothing inherently immoral or bad about seeing escorts, this isn't church and you don't get absolved of your sins by admitting how many you've paid for physical intimacy. People have been seeing escorts or paid companions of some sort or another since the dawn of time. What does matter is if your compulsion to get sex is harming your life, which it sounds like it may be if you're working extra to support it and are still unhappy. That's the hallmarks of an unhealthy addiction. Likely yo…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 07:09 PM
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That's literally the point of this comment and even this whole subreddit. redpill is one of those toxic echo chambers, it's part of the problem.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 05:15 PM
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You’ve outlined why dating apps are at best, a terrible way to sample generalities in human attraction, at worst a horrible form of social media that is giving young people terribly warped views of how people form connections. People swiping on hot pics are looking for a fantasy and are usually also trying to embody a fantasy themselves. They want a fantasy experience, which yeah we all do, but they’re basing it on a photograph. An image. Again all this is fine, people can do what they want with…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 03:09 PM
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Redpill draws in unhappy guys. Unhappy guys feed each other unhappiness and love it.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/21 07:57 PM
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We are inherently emotional beings, we are NOT logical. This is something many modern psychologists will agree on, that the "age of reason" was a lie, we're the same reactionary, emotionally-driven primitives we were thousands or millions of years ago, it's just that now we can communicate these emotions easier. Look at today's current social debates. All of it is entirely about how people feel and then clutching for science to validate that feeling. You know, the opposite of the actual scientif…
/r/ExRedPill01/08/21 07:38 PM
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Fantasy is wonderful, if I ever have "the talk" with kids of my own I would always remind them that nothing that goes on in their heads is ever "wrong." Your thoughts are yours alone and you go anywhere and do anything in your mind without ever a worry, and it's only ever a problem if your own thoughts are distressing you and are going places you don't have good control over, and then that's when you should ask someone to help you and work to manage how you think and feel.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 08:16 PM
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People with sexual hang-ups and issues around sex or have very little real-world intimate experience with others will have a lot of problems watching anything depicting fantasy relationships and kinks because they don't have a solid foundation to explore fantasy from. For a healthy adult, someone like myself can enjoy intimacy with my wife in a very normal and "plain" way and be fulfilled, then we can explore erotica alone or together and get the thrill of adventure into things we would not or c…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 07:43 PM
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I don't think you're in a healthy enough state of mind right now to be watching sexual fantasy fiction of any kind. Most people are not effected by this bullshit or use it to fap out to some kind of kink and get on with their day. IE: it's an ESCAPE from reality, not a representation of reality. I highly recommend rewiring your brain a little to stop looking for social/sexuality in things by learning to recognize when you're feeling those strong feelings in your gut that make you uncomfortable a…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 04:56 PM
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I'm glad you're content, but be aware that you are indeed an outlier so be careful with your generalizations about how most people feel. Many people would argue fiercely with you that there is a lot more to hope for than tolerating each other and that life is way too short to accept a situation that doesn't make both you and your partner at least look forward to time together to share some parts of your lives together. But again, if that works for you and you don't see benefit for putting in mor…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/21 06:22 PM
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Marriage is basically slavery for the vast majority of women. I think, with all due respect, that you have a very distorted sense of relationships if you genuinely believe this is the average, so it doesn't surprise me at all that you have a skewed sense of the importance of relationships. You sound very unhappy and are projecting that unhappiness on "women" in general, and that projection while surely is accurate in some small segment, if you (maybe not you personally, but generally) get out an…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/21 05:13 PM
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why would anyone want to waste that money just to go to Vegas and listen to a bunch of guys telling you nonsense that’s not gonna get you anywhere with women. People will pay anything to anyone if that person gives them something to make them feel good about themselves. Even more so if it's part of a group dynamic. This isn't any different than sports super-fans who get on a bus and spend thousands to see their team play. It makes them feel good. All that said, if you feel like you need to spend…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/21 04:33 PM
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Perhaps it’s time men and women realized they don’t belong together Well, no... this isn't true, if you're going to be pragmatic and cynical your view should spin the other direction, we are biologically hardwired to be social. But dark-toned pill-pushing aside, lets not even talk sex here, that's not the issue. As you said, there are still plenty of people in the world and we can overcome challenges like taking care of an aging population and it's not bad for Earth at all to have fewer people. …
/r/ExRedPill14/05/21 03:55 PM
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Redpill just needs to plain stop in general. There is a massive epidemic of male loneliness and young people of both genders not getting into relationships right now. Most developed countries are encountering this problem and it's so bad that in some places it's a crisis, as birth rates are falling too sharply to keep up with the aging population. Redpill's idiotic ideas about relationships are going to make this worse. By inventing some kind of social bogyman of modern/traditional culture, abou…
/r/ExRedPill13/05/21 06:55 PM
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That's the whole idea, it appeals to one's laziest emotional states, the default "base" feelings we have when we're unhappy. It takes everyone who is alone, everyone who needs something better in their life, everyone who's been hurt or feels rejected and it tells them "Your unhappy feelings are all there is, it doesn't get better, humans are scum, it's okay to be scum too." It then wraps that message in some "tough love" advice like exercise and take care of yourself if you want sex sex sexy sex…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/21 04:25 PM
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Emotions are the easiest way to manipulate people. Anger and fear and sadness needs an outlet or people literally, physically suffer. It shouldn't surprise us that (as we get older especially) we see this cycle repeat itself over and over in human culture. Both in politics and in subsets of the population focused on particular topics. Redpill and its ilk started early on in the internet days, decades ago even as the very first unhappy guys started chatting with each other, started venting their …
/r/ExRedPill13/04/21 04:01 PM
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the thoughts that accompany the philosophy were emotionally painful. Your brain is good at creating painful thoughts to match painful emotions when you're hurting. Shockingly good. You feel bad for a moment, your brain kicks its story-telling mode into full gear and you will invent a thousand ways that your misery is justified. It's far better at latching onto someone else's supplied painful thoughts, so much so that it's literally addictive. A lot of these "male spaces" where unhappy, depressed…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/21 12:07 AM
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I have nothing against men using sex dolls or other toys. I wish there wasn't a stigma about it honestly, imagine how many happier people there would be if nobody cared how other people masturbate. But it's quite revealing what a grift the whole community is, that it's just men preying on other men, creating a market and then exploiting it.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/21 12:04 AM
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Because you can't say anything about an individual by statistical data. Even if the statistical data is accurately gathered, it does not have a bearing on a one-on-one relationship any more than you can go play roulette and expect that it will come up red just because it landed on black the last hundred times in a row, if you were to look at the issue from a strictly mathematical perspective. Correlation is not always causation and anyone that makes claims that "if you do/don't do X and Y, your …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 03:21 PM
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Their absolutely broken sense of sexuality and sexual identity has left them with a hollowed-shell of an idea of what they actually want in a partner. They are not anything-ists, they're largely people with really deep and painful issues that they've addressed with self-medicating via online reinforcement of their darkest thoughts. They are miserable, likely depressed or suffering from other ailments, likely had shit home lives growing up or are still living at home because they haven't grown up…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/21 07:04 PM
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I saw TRP/PUA grow as a connected online communities nearly a decade ago and said from the beginning "This is going to really fuck up some kids that otherwise could have had healthy views of sex and themselves growing up." It's tragic that the fetid shit has lingered in our space for this long and my worst predictions are coming true. We get to see how this stuff actually has impacted people long-term, and this sub alone has shown how bad it can screw up normalcy in young people. I have less of …
/r/ExRedPill22/01/21 05:03 PM
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I was raised in a cult. Like, really. Instead of going to school I was taught how to shoot at communists. My "retirement plan" was null and void because my parents believed with their entire heart and soul that Jesus would come and rescue all of us and we would see a promised land where everyone they didn't like who were different from them would be purged from the coming paradise and Jesus would come down in a flying fucking saucer and take us all to this new realm of heterosexual white people.…
/r/ExRedPill30/11/20 07:42 AM
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I didn't watch your videos, my time is limited right now and I don't need what you're saying explained as a middle-aged and married man with a family and successes in life from flat-out rejecting Redpillish ideology long before it had a name. But I want to tell you from my work and experience, the kinds of people who attach to this way of thinking are also going to be the ones who will be most likely to act like bullies or "genius super-villains" on the internet, as most are powerless, angry and…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/20 08:08 PM
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I had some modicum of status there Other people with issues boosted you up and it felt good, so you felt feelings and then embraced a story to explain those feelings. A one-eyed-man is king in the land of the blind. This is what the brain does. Before anything else it feels, then it creates a story to back up that feeling, or if a story is supplied, it will latch onto that story. This is how religions and cults separate people from their money, how politicians get your votes, how corporations se…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/20 07:47 PM
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Most people do not respect anybody let alone a man without certain things Your "not doing so well" is the same reason why you perceive this untrue generalization. Would it blow your mind to know that most people have really wonderful, emotionally fulfilling relationships of all kinds? Maybe your world-view is deeply black-and-white that you can't see the nuance of people's lives outside yourself. For a lot of people who have healthy emotions, we share, conflict, become closer, compromise, create…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/20 07:29 PM
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Despite everything everyone here has written, you don't need a therapist to start making progress right away. Do seek out some help, but don't let that be your obstacle to doing the hard things I described. Being aware and staying aware of what's triggering your fight-or-flight, paying attention to the reasoning/storytelling your brain is doing in response to this fight-or-flight sensation. Give yourself credit and understand you're not bad, you're not wrong, you're not undeserving of love and r…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 10:23 PM
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If you want to know how a therapist would tackle your situation, it would likely look like this: Therapy would consist of talking out the specifics of your fears and breaking it down to a point that you see where the fear springs from when you think about or interact with women. See, the brain is astonishingly good at inventing stories with high complexity to explain a feeling and it can take a lot of practice retrain those stories out of your head, but you have to start with the understanding t…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 07:51 AM
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Because this person is strictly looking for validation and reinforcement of his wannabe redpill views and never really connects to anything anyone else says, mostly just uses this sub and a few others as a diary that he can argue with. It creates a lot of contention, which he then uses as proof how bad people with different views are. It can be really disruptive and menslib is moderated by a team that actually works pretty hard to kick out sympathy trolls. He also checks the conversations he cre…
/r/ExRedPill23/11/20 08:58 PM
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Because TRP is a cartoon caricature of the world, people and gender in general. TRP is written like bad fan-fiction of reality. As a writer I love reading their "testimonials" and how paper-thin the stories are, with over-the-top acting and dialogue and cheesy B-movie motivations and attitudes.
/r/ExRedPill16/11/20 08:54 PM
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redpill is by itself learning and understaning of women nature and everything around them Amazing.
/r/ExRedPill16/11/20 08:51 PM
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They're technically separate but founded on the same "sex = winning" game theory that drives TRP and other "men's" communities. They're both ideas that grown up people with healthy emotional states will laugh their ass off at, before going off to enjoy the company of other people like normal adults.
/r/ExRedPill16/11/20 08:51 PM
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You may also have a serious issue with your emotional development. A lot of people live in a dunning-krueger state about their emotional intelligence simply because they've never really exercised that part of themselves or learned it was a muscle that even needs development. While there's absolutely nothing wrong with your standards and not wanting to date someone with kids or is overweight, you also need to ask yourself why you have those feelings. Again, the young "i'm dreaming of a perfect gi…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 10:46 PM
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You're sad, someone supplied a story for you why you're sad, your brain embraced it. That's just how every human is wired. You're not even unique that way, welcome to our number one flaw as a species. You're right that you're a human with flaws, past that it's all your own opinion versus people you're imagining. That's all, you versus some windmills.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 10:34 PM
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As I've said many times, you created this situation and guided this conversation to this point so you can feel validated on whatever stories you won't let go of/your hangups about your ex. This is your story, not ours. You don't like strangers on the internet treating you in less than adult and mature ways? Stop spending your time on this tiny community on the internet trying to turn your single dumb heartbreak into a giant social issue that we all need to explain to you over and over and over a…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 10:31 PM
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shush I've tried talking to you, it doesn't work, you're now a subject
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 10:08 PM
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Good luck with this headcase. I'm not a psychiatrist but have a little training. I wouldn't hazard a guess what's going on here but likely, like with a lot of young guys struggling with both their relationships and hormones and trying to connect their frustration to something "bigger" it boils down to a real handicap, a problem with how their psyche is handling their feelings versus the story their brain is telling them. Defo here is not unique, in years talking to kids I've seen more than a han…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 07:20 PM
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This is YOUR comment bro Like what could you possibly know about masculinity that you think it's so easy being a man him navigating all the nuances of what that means You are the one who is casting doubt on people "qualifications" to say things and share opinions, and as usual, as you always do here and end up feeling worse as a result, you're ignoring your own role in any of this. You're ignoring that you start this shit and then feel horrible after. You are sabotaging yourself, your own conver…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 01:09 AM
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I'm more than twice your age son, raised children, had lovers and girlfriends and buried people that meant the most to me, I've traveled the world, I've seen people die and held their hands as they took their last breaths. Be careful thinking you have the monopoly on misery. I've had years of treatment for PTSD and nearly ended my life at the bottom of the bottle. I've been homeless and then ended up on private helicopters negotiating a salary. I've started over from nothing twice and know what …
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 12:42 AM
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I don't want to see you stop posting, I want to see you make the connection that you're missing that's making you miserable. You have a serious issue, a personality disorder or other mental handicap. You need help and self-realization, not internet debate. You can heal yourself, get happy and have a rewarding life, but you've done nothing different to make that happen, you are still expecting something from outside to save you or someone to notice you. Call https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/natio…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 12:33 AM
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This guy has been posting non-stop on this subreddit for years, never absorbs a shred of advice, has serious mental health issues and the mods are too chickenshit to see him as a junkie for punishment and do the right thing and ban his ass months and months ago, now he's hitting rock bottom because he trolls everyone here into being mean to him and it's taking its toll. /u/defo18 needs aggressive, inpatient mental health care. Not a reddit group that can validate his self-hate.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 12:29 AM
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Someone who jumped off the Golden Gate and survived said something everyone should know. I'll paraphrase: "As I was falling I had this sudden realization that out of all the problems I had in my life, the only one I couldn't fix was the decision to jump off that damn bridge." You need real social interaction with people who care and can help, stop thinking people on the internet are going to notice your pain and save you. Nobody here cares enough to help you. Call family members, even if estrang…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 12:25 AM
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Maybe I have been listening to much to incel and MGTOW content I mean, yeah. If you even suspect this at all, it means there is a problem. It's like when someone posts a question to one of the alcoholism subreddits asking for opinions if their drinking is a problem. If you're questioning it, it's already an issue. Remove issues from your life when you even begin to feel uncomfortable. Going back to the idea of addiction, the only reason you wouldn't want to nip problems in the bud is if you alre…
/r/ExRedPill11/11/20 05:47 PM
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Personally I would hate on it for being just another website trying to say whatever they think their readers want to hear to grift them of cash.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/20 04:56 PM
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That site is just another grift in a sea of grifting on young, lonely guys with masculinity issues. If we saw a website that exploited literally any other segment we would be outraged, so why do these toecheeses get a pass?
/r/ExRedPill10/11/20 04:56 PM
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Just remember a partner who you can't be human with, can't talk about your changes with and be honest with about literally anything, is not a real partner. Don't build your ideal relationship on the idea that you need to be someone else, rather that you, your whole self, who you were, who you are now, who you want to be, is all out in the open so you never have to feel shame. If you wanted to feel ashamed of yourself and hide things, you stay living with your parents.
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 10:02 PM
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You're not experienced enough in real, emotionally fulfilling and equitable relationships to make declarations or hold fears about what your spouse will or won't accept, or even what your feelings on marriage and sex should be like. Instead, have standards for yourself, aim for a relationship where you can be happy, honest and genuinely want to spend all your time with someone where it doesn't feel like work and you're not stressed. Where communication and openness is your core value you want to…
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 09:44 PM
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Sounds like the views of an solipsistic android trying to understand how to succeed at imitating humans. There's no rulebook for knowing what to share and with who and how, but if you are capable of empathizing and listening and most of all, accepting others as people equally valid in their feelings and you care about them and want to understand them... it's almost never an issue expressing yourself with them, sexually or otherwise, and them to you. Takes two to tango. On a deeper level than who…
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 09:07 PM
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Not going to pick apart that first part which seems like a single thing being referenced rather than how reality really works, and just leave it at this: You cannot make an even exchange rate between the issues men and women face and how society responds. If you are the least bit hung up on the idea that "women have it better" you have failed all forms of self care. Both sexes face incredible pressures to conform to specific images, and if you think one is easier than the other, you're not being…
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 09:02 PM
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Sex positivity means very different things in traditional society between men and women for a very long time, so understand the context of what it means. Redpill isn't new, it's just a new label for an old way of thinking, which is that a man's sexuality, desires and needs is of most importance and should be respected by the feeeeemale. Female sex positivity exists right now because for the large swath of human civilization it hasn't existed at all, it's simply a reflection of women desiring to …
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 08:55 PM
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Since overt advocacy of TRP isn’t allowed here, I don’t think you’re going to get much debate out of this. Maybe try purple pill debate sub?
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 05:56 PM
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They're already ashamed of their bodies in most cases. The overlap between incels who think society and genetics have wronged them, and redpillers who roleplay online as imaginary athletic sexbeasts who have achieved Peak Masculinity is a circle. All of this Sad Boy's Internet Culture is all based on the same thing, horrific insecurity and shame, they just choose to express it with frothing hate, against women, against men they're jealous of, against themselves and their weak jaws and thin wrist…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/20 01:33 AM
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Let them grow older, fail over and over, fall flat on their face after a string of bad relationships and personal decisions and don't be there to help them back up every time. The only way you help people who have certain feelings, and then look for evidence to support those feelings, the densest and most insecure of our population, is to let them either sink or swim. I've been talking to these guys for a long time under different identities, I've known a few in real life. I have lost count of t…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/20 01:26 AM
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So why are you even here? The measure you give is the measure you receive bro.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/20 02:46 AM
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That's some really poor-faith response here. Why should anyone interact with you at all if you've already established that nobody will treat you with respect? I'm walking away from this post, and I bet a lot of other people will, without any progress being made to help anyone. And it's because while ugly guys have every right to be angry, when you express that anger at strangers and presume their intentions, when you hurl abuse at the world, at the people who potentially may help you, when you p…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/20 02:43 AM
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Your argument is fundamentally flawed here so it's hard to not throw away the rest of it: every man that complains about it is labeled a incel or a potential domestic terrorist Maybe you need to break down what "complain" means. Because the people who get labeled "incels or terrorists" aren't saying "I wish I was more attractive, nobody wants to date me" they're fucking raging and denigrating everyone who isn't them, they are verbally vomiting hateful slander at people who 1: Can't do anything a…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/20 02:32 AM
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There are some very basic ground-floor rules for a good relationship, but when you put them all together you can weave a pretty complicated picture of what can constitute a healthy or unhealthy relationship. I will avoid reading post history just so I can describe clearly what those fundamentals are, and let you decide how they're playing out in your relationship. Know Yourself. Before anything else with anyone else, you have to have some kind of idea what you want in your time with another huma…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/20 12:58 AM
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That was very relevant, thank you for sharing and thank you for sharing all your other insights on this sub, I'm sure even if not OP is taking things to heart here, you must be effecting someone else, somewhere, so don't feel discouraged :)
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 04:05 AM
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The biggest lesson everyone needs to learn is how to deal with reality on reality's terms. This is also really important, because I think the biggest complaint I see, if you were to distill down the wide array of complaints in this so-called man-o-sphere, is that "it's not fair." "It's not fair that I have to and yet women get to ." And other forms of perceived inequality, without looking at the world in any terms outside of what they are responsible for and how it looks like other people are do…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 09:19 PM
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I'm sure you've heard this before too, but it is accurate: This too shall pass. 17 - 19 is a notoriously rough spot. I wouldn't want to go back. But it gets better. Power through it, cling to anything that comforts you and makes it easier. The depression and frustration is very real, but remind yourself that a major part of how terrible the world looks to you is tinted by hormones that honestly don't even begin to cool down until you're halfway through your 20's, and even then you will have to l…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 08:42 PM
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What do you mean by "restrain" actually?
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 08:39 PM
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Men have a very mixed up world to deal with, in terms of what we're expected to do, how we're supposed to react, etc. I get how some guys have a pretty hard time understanding what their actual "role" is especially when they have bad experiences. But I also think putting any problems with socializing on society and women as a scapegoat is as ignorant as waking up one day and deciding that the sun is suddenly a problem we should all rally against. Like, it's up there, it's been there since the da…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 08:34 PM
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Honestly at 17, you're not expected to bring anything anywhere, you're barely starting in the world. Nobody ever looks back to when they were 17 and says "Man, I really had my shit together back then." The best advice I could have given myself at 17 is not to worry, and most importantly don't make policy. As hard as it feels at times, never make declarations and ideology, never say "From now on, I will always/never _____" because things are going to change radically for you in the next decade. (…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 08:19 PM
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It feels unfair that I should restrain when Chad is getting his bails drained every other day, you know? That in itself is a stupid way of looking at not just other people, but yourself. A good father teaches his kid that if he's comparing his life to others, people who you don't really know what their life is like, just what they present to the world, that he's going to have a disastrous feelings of inadequacy, and end up stereotyping and demeaning others just to feel better about himself. Whic…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 08:01 PM
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Girls cannot just sit back and critique all the millions of ways guys approach them wrong, while never ever having to do it themselves at the same rate. (He wants girls to just land on his lap and fall in love with him and to stop calling him "Creepy.")
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 07:57 PM
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A thing that people might have a hard time communicating is that a lot of people don't realize that in a relationship you have to "bring something to the table." This means, if you stay inside and play video games, you don't have much another person might be interested in unless you are lucky enough to meet and connect with another gamer. Otherwise even then you will need to be able to share more with your partner or prospective partners at some point. "a hobby" isn't an answer to this by itself…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 07:48 PM
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That's a ridiculous example of missing the point though. If you think reading and drawing will help you meet people you're not really thinking in the real world. When people advise you to work on yourself and add "hobbies" to the toolbox of things you need to add to your skillset for development, it's generally assumed that the person being told this will understand that there's a strong difference between group activities and discussions and developing your knowledge and confidence in subjects …
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 07:08 PM
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If you've never had a good male role model in your life, the rush of sex drive hormones that you start getting in your late teens and continues on until... death really... can make you really fucked in the head if you are of the mind that thinks whatever you feel must be acted on and cannot be controlled. A good dude teaches his son that there will come a point in his life where his biology will make him want to poke his wang in anything and everything and the lack of female attention will feel …
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 06:58 PM
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Surely in his next post in 6 hours he will clarify...
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 06:38 PM
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"Girls are indeed icky, you did nothing bad and NEVER need to change, Becky was very mean to you. It's very definitely for sure society's and feminism's fault that people can only stand listening to you talk about yourself for a few minutes at a time."
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 06:34 PM
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He doesn't want anything from anyone here, he's just a narcissist who spams this sub with his anger at one girl who was bad to him and using that as a case against all women and wants to fight people because of it. He hates women because of one bad thing that happened to him and he's barely in his 20's and takes all advice that he needs to change as an insult and an attack, he rather see everything as a cartoon stereotype for some reason. Very typical example of a TRP'er who has serious problems…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 04:55 PM
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I'm the person offering you advice, which you came here for. Or you didn't come here for advice, you just want to fight because you treat this community as a place to self-flagellate. Figure out why you're such an abtuse fuckwad with a raging, fragile ego without a trace of self-awareness or humility and maybe you'll get a girl to want to be around you for more than 30 seconds. It's no wonder you have problems with relationships. If this is how you treat people who give you advice that you asked…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/20 05:21 PM
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If you think this is about whatever your political leanings or race actually are, then you've fully and completely proven my point about your tendency to make assumptions about your interaction with others instead of actually listening. I honestly do not think a lot of women as a whole are self-aware to understand how much pressure it is on men to be whatever the stigma of man is This is your huge problem with assumptions about people and generalizing, you deny it in one breath, and then verify …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 09:06 PM
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¯\(ツ)/¯ I did, in the context that if you're communicating with women the way you do here, like a huge shit, then yeah you're going to get lambasted. But as usual, you are so hyper defensive of your own ego that you focus not on what someone is trying to communicate to you, but about how that accountability for being the one who has to change makes you feel. A lot of us were huge shits at some point until someone told us we were being a huge shit. I was, I was mad, I then realized it and fixed i…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 06:18 PM
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I'm done trying to help you, you're infuriating to communicate with. Literally everything anyone says to you that's not blowing smoke up your ass and jerking you off you take as an insult so why should anyone bother trying to do anything but deliberately insult you?
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 06:09 PM
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lol stop being an addict for being hurt by others and setting yourself up to be attacked.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 06:08 PM
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I tend to agree, up to a point. I am also on the fence about this clown and if he's not just trying a subtle long-con to subvert the culture here. I've modded large communities before and have had to face this challenge, deciding if something is worth the community seeing as a learning tool, but I've also seen a lot of people like this (being, someone who posts constantly and never lets up) successfully find ways to draw in others and steadily, over time, influence the majority of opinion in a c…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:59 PM
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You need to be on a therapist's couch talking about your experiences and how you feel about them, because it means nothing here if you're not using any of it to any kind of success. I mean, great wow you're thinking about things. But obviously it hasn't helped you. You still have this attitude that you're a victim, betrayed, hurt, abused, a constant, repeated story that "I was good/happy/had fun until {scary music} THING HAPPENED." Well fuck, THING HAPPENED to all of us, if you have a shred of e…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:56 PM
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your movement Your assumptions about people are what's sinking you. Every interaction you have here, with others, with women, exists as some kind of cartoon caricature where you assume that because they don't align with what you want, that they have to be bullies, abusers, liberals, feminists, have a movement, a club, a plot... a conspiracy. Yeah, you're repelling people because that attitude is repulsive. Everywhere you go you say you deal with people mistreating you. The stink is coming from y…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:46 PM
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It's you, you are the one with the problem and the reason you're having problems. You don't fucking listen to anyone and if that's how you date then of course you're having a bad time. If you do listen, you take it as either an insult or make it a huge speech about yourself and you you you you. You have an issue with yourself, it's not the world, it's not any kind of pills, it's not feminism it's not anything but you, you have some kind of personality issue that's preventing you from seeing the …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:42 PM
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I'm probably not the only person on here thinking what I just said. Nope. It's the general consensus. He says he's bipolar but I've known plenty of bipolar people with self-awareness, empathy and understanding. It seems more like narcissism honestly.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:37 PM
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He posts here every few days, the same weird soft-defense of what TRP stands for, the same story about the girl who hurt him, the same baiting people to argue with him so he can then "double down" on his angst and bitterness. He takes every damn response as a cue to launch into a speech about himself and his needs and his problems and him him him him. He's chronically stuck in "himself" and then bemoans that he has a hard time with women. Sadly, kinda typical of TRP-orbiters but he's also young …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:28 PM
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Absolutely nobody here ever says "stay on your path and live your life without making changes" if you're having a problem and your life isn't working. I don't know who said that to you but it's disingenuous to make it seem like people say that all the time. Nobody says "just wait and don't do anything" people say "You're expecting too much because you're young and impatient and inexperienced in human relations, try something different" and that's not the same thing at all, just that you're getti…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 05:12 PM
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People with emotional problems are extremely vulnerable to ploys that combine what sounds like reason with emotional triggers. Emotional problems doesn't necessarily mean some kind of mental health issue either, it covers a VAST spectrum of emotional intelligence and experiences, but usually means people who just generally don't have a lot of experience with feelings enough to know how to respond to what they feel or how not to respond. The brain will prioritize an emotional association to somet…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 04:47 PM
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Ah, so in other words girls stopped giving him attention as his personality disorder became more profound and started impacting his normal tools for socialization and pretending to be normal. Pretty much what happens to all raging narcissists eventually, they crash and burn and then wear the costume of a reformed and "forgiven" angel for all to be inspired by. Religion is the easiest group to exercise this ploy on because they are desperate for validation of their beliefs and it doesn't take muc…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 04:58 PM
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I think MGTOW and Redpill and inceldom has a circular ven-diagram and it's all part of a completely toxic toxic salad that feeds an innate satisfaction that unhappy humans get from feelings of victimization. All that said, I don't need to watch this clip to say that this probably isn't appropriate for this sub.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/20 05:24 PM
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I could put together an essay about Pixie Stix that makes it sound like some kind of deep truth about people and society that would target people who were unhappy, isolated and frustrated with the world, and I would get a sizable number of followers. I'm not joking. I could literally do this if I wanted to put the effort into it, and I would get a few dozen people who would latch onto it. So imagine if instead of Pixie Stix the topic was instead some kind of "unpopular but realistic sounding vie…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/20 02:54 PM
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Redpill teaches you how to prey on broken people, or attempt to break people who you can't get with using redpill "tools." Redpill and pickup art shit isn't magical, it isn't jedi powers, you don't gain any skills that you don't have normally. Humans are incredibly easy to manipulate, all redpill does is try to brainwash you into believing that you don't need to feel bad about manipulating others because of biology and society and feminism and wolves and blah blah blah fart fart fart. It's a lot…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 09:24 PM
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You made poor choices and revealed shit to people who didn't have your back. Everyone here is saying that over and over. Mourn it, get over it, and stop with this act like you're being "pushed to become a redpill asshole" that's not your problem, your mental health disorder is your problem and you have a looooong way to go in healing there before anyone here can tell you shit, because you don't want to hear shit. You're a kid with a health problem that wants to run before they learn to walk. You…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 06:09 PM
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What help do you want? What perspectives do you want to hear that won't make you mad?
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 06:03 PM
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so what's your agenda here
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 06:02 PM
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If you've been through that and have people helping you, do you honestly think Reddit is going to have better advice for you?
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 05:59 PM
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You're painting a picture of a world that doesn't exist for most people, even ones like myself who didn't have sexual relationships until later in life. It doesn't sound like you're actually looking for help here, it sounds like you're trying to argue that life is hard and that we should all just say "yeah, you're right!" Well, another hard life-lesson kiddo. You don't always get the validation you want when you want it. It's still all in your head. Everything is, the entire human experience. No…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 05:59 PM
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I'm going to echo everyone's sentiment here that you might be having a hard time with. You do not talk about your personal life/history with POTENTIAL dates. If you hit it off with someone and you both genuinely like each other, your partner won't care that you are a virgin, I promise. That's what real adult relationships are like. The next part you don't want to hear, but is absolutely true, is that you're very young. You may have had a lot of issues in your life that are giving you grief, mayb…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 05:28 PM
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Sure lol if that's what you think is going on here, we'll "disagree."
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 03:51 PM
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If you weren't having problems you wouldn't be here.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 03:47 PM
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You have so much work to do still.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 03:47 PM
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And I'm tired of women's pain being a justification for them being judgmental or acting cynical or mean. Most infants are killed by a female usually their mother but we do not hear about that s*** at all and rightfully so because that's only a small percent of women. You're rambling hateful nonsense dude, I lost you many paragraphs back but this is like the icing on the cake. This isn't going to end well. Please, focus on yourself. Stop looking at "society" for like, a good fucking long time. Ju…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 02:58 PM
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look, great on you for feeling feelings again. But part of being a better person is recognizing nuance AND having a stance. EnLiGhTenEd CeNtErIsM isn't really going to save you, but you WILL do well in knowing that there are many sides to every issue. Pick a side, pick a stance, but be ready to justify it to everyone who comes out of the woodwork as an exception to your rules.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 02:49 PM
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I'm not some internet nice guy I know what the difference is and I know my own self and my temperament in my experience to be able to sell flavor myself that. From what I've seen and read so far, I don't know if this is 100% accurate yet, but glad you're trying to be self-aware. Don't quit, just don't let your pent up emotions finally having an outlet cloud your judgement.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 02:43 PM
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So who DO we "go hard on" as a society? Anyone at all? At what point does personal accountability come into the picture? The incel that killed 10 people in his van felt himself to be a victim of feminism and his environment. He hated women because he felt he was being bombarded with sex messages. What is 'going hard" anyway? If society deems a behavior inappropriate or even offensive to the point of non-acceptance, is that bullying or just the majority of normal opinion? I'm not advocating bully…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 01:59 PM
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You might not understand what people are "bullying" about so-called "Nice Guys." Nobody is really actually spiteful to people who try to be nice. I met my wife two decades ago by being nice and a gentleman. Being objectively nice is something that all people everywhere value and appreciate. What gets called-out and shamed online is not guys being nice, it's Nice Guystm Internet Nice Guys are people who act nice but actually are driven by obsessively malicious or selfish intentions. A nice guy as…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 12:29 PM
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Are you serious? I'm explaining why this sub and so many other moderated communities don't like to host discussions about Jordan Peterson. Context is so hard for so many here it makes me disheartened. It's like living in a world of bad chat bots. "I don't like milkshakes when it's cold outside" "Why do you hate milk?" "No, I said I don't like milkshakes when it's cold, milkshakes have blended ice" "So you hate ice?" "No I don't like something that makes me cold when it's already cold" "Why don't…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/20 04:41 PM
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Rule 5 of this sub bruh. There are endless debates about ol' JP all around the manocesspit of reddit, and every single time anyone gets in a heated debate about Peterson, somehow, somewhere... money appears in his pockets. Dude is not worth debating, he's not even particularly good at grifting lonely guys, it's just he shoots for the bottom of the barrel and makes bank on kids who don't know better.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/20 03:39 PM
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Angry people are generally at odds with smart people.
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 11:03 PM
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It really was a good film and totally applicable here. White Supremacists and their ilk are LOT like TRP, and not just because there's a huge overlap of racism. It's a group of people who are miserable, angry and feel like the world has left them behind, and without a lot of experience past their own views of the world they start seeing "outsiders" and blaming them, all the while feeling satisfaction that they're finally privy to some secret truth or power that the rest of the world isn't aware …
/r/ExRedPill15/02/20 01:38 AM
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A lot of young guys (who spend too much time online) get locked into this mindset that there's a "system" with steps to follow which will lead to some kind of fulfillment. When in reality these are just very sad dudes. Not like "lets pity these jerks" but really just sad. I'm no stranger to depression, and remember at the worst depths of my own life-and-death struggle thinking that I would give anything for a simple, step-by-step guide to feeling like a comfortable human being again. A system to…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/20 07:53 PM
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Get in a relationship and talk to your partner as you want to be talked to so you know each other and what you both like and when. That’s all, case closed.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 02:09 PM
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Your views are too extreme and unrealistic. Most people will find that attitude very hard to connect with, and you’re going to have a lot of difficulty making a relationship work, and by work I mean have someone who makes you smile every and feel close to. I wish you the best of luck but you’re likely going to have a lot of difficulty with the kind of thinking that puts people being scared of losing you and having emotional hardships of their own at the same moral equilancy of violently penetrat…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 04:11 AM
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It's not wrong to have standards for what you can and can't accept, what I warn is being locked into a kind of thinking that behavior X = outcome Y. While some kinds of past patterns of behavior in people may be indicative of problems in personality (legal problems, drug abuse, animal abuse, toilet paper rolls replaced flap-towards-wall) and that person should be able to demonstrate they've committed to change before any investment in them, there are a lot of shades of grey in the world you can'…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/20 04:33 PM
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If you’re actually dedicated to the relationship and not being influenced by insecurities then you would quickly realize that you’re not better or worse than anyone else for being a virgin or having dozens of partners in the past, for having a tattoo or three, for making mistakes or even making good choices and having good memories and experiences that teach you more about yourself. None of this actually matters in the face of prioritizing the heart of what makes a relationship successful and re…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/20 03:18 AM
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How much effort do you put into being so ridiculously shitty and unhappy every day anyway? Is it working out for you?
/r/ExRedPill07/02/20 09:19 PM
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The Ven diagram between incels, MGTOWs, Redpillers, and a large chunk of several gaming subreddits looks like this: O
/r/ExRedPill07/02/20 09:18 PM
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A good way to pretend you're content and secure is to adopt ridiculous and unfair standards for your potential partners, that way when nobody can stand talking to you for 5 minutes you can just say they don't fit your criteria instead of admitting that you're just a dumb kid that is trying to substitute social awkwardness with being a dumb asshole and it's women's fault that you're alone.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/20 09:17 PM
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Redpillers love to generalize people. Generalizing people in this way is very different than say, actual scientific generalities, so to all the intellectual mall-ninjas out there ready to dive in with peer-reviewed studies, let me just say ahead of time that biological evolution being used as any kind of tool for making predictions about society and cultures is almost always bullshit taken out of context, and for every study that gets published I can find you one or more that contradicts it. Don…
/r/ExRedPill07/02/20 09:13 PM
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How’s pretending to be superior working out for you?
/r/ExRedPill02/02/20 07:59 PM
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Lol no, nothing is getting worse and nobody is getting validation who wouldn’t feel validated by literally anything that they experience anyway. These are unreasonable teenagers who think they know everything anyway and won’t be reasoned with until they fall flat on their asses like we all do eventually. There’s no philosophy there, because that would suggest neutral, unbiased thought. MGTOW and TRP are just the latest clubs made by angry kids to bask/masturbate in validation for each other. The…
/r/ExRedPill02/02/20 07:44 PM
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You filtered everything everyone has said here through a lense to somehow reinforce what you already wanted to hear. Okay whatever, I don't get all your "maybe i'm stupid" bullshit now, it seems now like some kind of bad-faith arguing tactic so you don't sound hard-headed and instead try to come off as sympathetic, but it's not really having your intended effect. If you want to believe what you want, if you like thinking that there are some kind of predetermined nature for people to take advanta…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/20 07:00 PM
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Your English is better than you give yourself credit for and I doubt any amount of formal education will really prepare you for the complexity of relationships. What's confusing to some people is that some people invented a new word for cheating, said that it's a specific "type" of cheating that only women do, and what's worse, that all or most women are somehow wired to do this, and as a man you need to be on guard against it. People who believe this have either been cheated on or have not had …
/r/ExRedPill30/01/20 12:53 AM
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Of course it can exist the same way that sociopathic men who want to abuse and control women can exist, but these are not the kinds of relationships that most men and women are seeking. Most people wouldn't even call it "hypergamy" even because it's just shit people making shit decisions for their relationships, and there's no shortage of that, it just exists in a pretty large spectrum from people who sometimes make small mistakes to full-blown, unapologetic monsters and abusers. But emotional l…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/20 12:43 AM
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Of course it happens. Just like abusive or unfaithful men in relationships are a thing. But the majority of people want good relationships and stability and emotional intimacy. Relationships are hard to do, have you even tried one? It's a lot of work to learn how to connect with another human in a fulfilling and rewarding way that lasts over a long period of time. Most reasonable or halfway intelligent people aren't going to throw this away because someone else tickled them in some way. Love is …
/r/ExRedPill30/01/20 12:32 AM
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As the other poster said, it’s probably best to let out the heaviest sigh ever and accept this is just one of those points in your life where you will acquire guilt, learn a powerful lesson and focus now on your future and doing better. It doesn’t make you a bad person to have messed up. It would make you a bad person if you didn’t feel bad and blamed others for the division between you and your friends and learned nothing. One of the sins of TRP is it tries to relieve you of regret, it paints u…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/20 03:32 AM
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Okay, people are inherently opportunistic, that just means that people will not respect your boundaries unless you establish them. Parents will come in your room without asking if you don’t tell them to knock. If you get in the habit of paying for your friends at lunch they will expect it. A spouse or girlfriend will not take into account things that inconvenience you or make you feel bad always unless you talk about it. I mean, all of TRP can be thrown away with this one simple trick: talk. It’…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/20 05:56 PM
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It's the redpill trope of making her think she's going to lose you until she stops giving you a hard time/gives you what you want. That kind of relationship shows you don't really care about her as a person, but you're exploiting the fact that she cares about you. Basically it's stringing someone along. TRP exalts that as peak masculinity.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/20 09:36 PM
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If you can get naked together, you should be able to talk about money together.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/20 08:48 PM
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Also, indulge in love. It's a wonderful feeling. Let it take you for a ride. Spoil the person you love and make them happy, and you will feel rewarded when you know you're making someone else's world a better place.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/20 08:09 PM
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When someone loves you, and knows you, warts and all, the good and the bad, and still loves you, you hold onto that person with all you have. To do this, you talk to them, about everything. The fun and the hard stuff both, in fact, especially the hard stuff. Talk about how you talk to each other, work out systems for communicating difficult things, ask how you can listen better, tell her how things make you feel, ask her how things make her feel. Laugh and cry together and talk about how you lau…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/20 08:07 PM
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If you're trying to constantly persue the same exact feelings and sensations that a couple has when they're new together, you will never have a real committed relationship. When you're new together you're both fascinated with each other, curious, there's excitement and adventure because you're both still surprising each other. But as you become used to each other, if you're both on the same page, you can transform that excitement of "newness" into the comfort and joy of really connecting with so…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/20 07:38 PM
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You look totally fine and normal, the only criticism I would give you is you should never post your picture online. You especially should not post your picture online asking for people to assess your appearance. It doesn't matter what you look like, you cannot trust strangers. You cannot trust them with your image or with your feelings. You're likely already getting awful messages since so many redpillers lurk here. I'm going to direct you to this comment by /u/beigs in this post here. You need …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 12:48 AM
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You need to focus on being a good you rather than focusing only on how people perceive you - that is genuine confidence. This should be the tagline for the entire subreddit. OP and every lurking browser needs to read that line over and let it sink in. Who really wants to live life stuck in other people's perceptions? Redpill is an entire ideology that says it's based on "self improvement" but all that lifting and "maintaining frame" and projecting certain images, attitudes, making people feel a …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 09:43 PM
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It’s kind of an off-topic post but JP is idolized by a lot of young, redpill/MRA types because that’s who he writes books for. A lot of people like to read his intellectual sounding attacks on liberalism and feminism guised with centerism and calm rationalization.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 03:40 AM
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You're going to get PM's from Redpill/incel/angry MGTOW lurkers who hate everything about you growing older, wiser and joining the adult human race of mature people with greater emotional understanding. Do me a favor and make sure you tell each of them to fuck off, then pay them not another thought. You are a good person who has realized that they are good and can be better, so embrace that and know from this tired old dude on the internet about to celebrate his 20th year with the love his life,…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 01:06 PM
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If you’re with the right person you’ll both enjoy talking to each other as much as possible. If you’re worried after 10 months if just communicating with your partner is going to make her lose attraction, it sounds more like you have a fucking job than a relationship. So maybe ask yourself, if you just stopped stressing and talked to her whenever you wanted, and she left you for it wouldn’t that be a major bullet dodged? Don’t you want to be with someone you can be yourself with? Alternatively, …
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 05:30 PM
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I don’t need to convince you. And yet here we are. May your contradictory blend of ideology serve you well going forward and make you happy and give you, if nothing fucking else, the reason and wisdom to decide for yourself if what you're following is actually helping you and those around you, or serving as validation for other, deeper problems. LPT: Nobody in a cult thinks they're in a cult.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/20 10:13 PM
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So uh... people who are worried about shit are more stressed? Doesn't seem like rocket science. Also, browse around the ol' reddit manosphere, and tell me how calm and chill everyone seems. TRP is a thousand hyper teenagers raving and frothing with anger and insecurity and fear of what women will do to them and attacking each other over if they "belong" or not. MGTOW and incels are famously stressed to the point of total breakdown and loss of function in society. I cannot for the life of me figu…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 04:01 PM
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Hey bud, I was going to send you a PM to see if you wanted to chat, but then I read how you respond to people and saw that you don't actually want to connect with anyone or be less alone, you're still on the "anger" phase of whatever it is you're mourning. You need to spend some time getting your shit together and then maybe reach out again and you'll be able to take the words of other people without reacting so strongly. You do need to talk to someone, so if you have to rage at strangers on the…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 01:42 PM
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There's nothing wrong with questioning, and then realizing that your culture doesn't fit you. From this comment I would suggest also the possibility that you're having a more generalized difficulty with socialization than just romantic relationships. You can't be expected to enjoy the process of finding someone to become intimately close with when you can't stand the culture around you. I grew up in a rough area outside of civilization, it was very hard to connect with people there. I didn't mee…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 01:20 PM
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I’m an introvert and have been married 20 years to the love of my life and my best friend and want for nothing else. Your problem isn’t that you’re an introvert, it’s that you’re over-intellectualizing literally everything. Introverts aren’t robots and enjoy company, they just get tired socializing. So you’ll need to flex your muscles a little and force yourself into new situations. You don’t have to be someone you’re not, but try to have more intimate conversations with people you can connect w…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/19 09:45 AM
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It's an entirely internalized world within an imaginary space. Nobody talks like Redpillers, incels or MGTOWers in real life. If they did people would laugh at them. People laugh at them here too, but because it's the internet, moderators can ban those laughing within their imaginationspace and preserve their feelings. This is why they have their own little quarantined spaces, to be able to cosplay in virtual space without being shamed by normal people laughing at their insane bullshit. People w…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/19 05:52 AM
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A lot of it has to do with the young male internet addict crowd that populates every non-default sub. The real world is not even close to how reddit users make it out to be.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 02:52 AM
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Redpill Women is almost entirely TRP boys. And yeah, usually the angriest or deepest headcases that feel so insecure with their beliefs being judged or wrong that they have to make female identities just to support themselves. It got so bad that the “actual” redpill women tried to split off and make their own group with specific standards which was disavowed by “official” TRP, leading to a massive pile of the stupidest drama ever. These are the children claiming to have all the answers that will…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/19 05:51 AM
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If you mean you have more respect for socialism that can be a reflection of greater empathy and care for others which runs against TRP. Be aware though that socialism and communism aren’t the same. You’re not a communist for wanting things like health care and universal basic income, you’re just a person. Old-school communism is as oppressive as any authoritarian ideology. But you’re going to see a strong right-wing crossover into TRP space that labels all social policy as “communism” without re…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 12:47 AM
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Go have your fun then while it lasts, you’ll learn on your own, just don’t fill your head with stupid jargon because you can’t get it out again. This goes for all ideology. You are incredibly vulnerable to manipulation and the more you think you’re not, the more you are. You’re either here because you know somewhere inside that this pill bullshit is nothing special, or you’re here because you want to troll. Hopefully you’re trying to find a way to think for yourself and are able to understand ev…
/r/ExRedPill07/12/19 08:09 AM
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Stop fucking reading internet advice, not mine nor this sub nor red pill or anyone else. I can’t help you because I don’t know you and your life and situation. Nobody does. But I DO know after getting close to 5 decades on this earth, that anyone who claims to know is bullshitting you. We’re all fucking alone and none of us get exactly what we want and the sooner you accept that help isn’t coming and you need to own your own way and experience your own failures and mistakes, the sooner you can s…
/r/ExRedPill07/12/19 07:46 AM
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If the actual “adult” demographic of redpillers were to be accumulated it would be a dozen guys who live alone and spend most of their time calling people names on the internet and cussing at kids in online games. They make up for it by establishing complicated online identities of professionals and married family men. They do this because they want desperately for TRP to be right, it justifies all their blame of women and society for their isolation and anger. I would challenge anyone to try to…
/r/ExRedPill07/12/19 01:55 AM
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When people obsess about things, the obsession tends to escalate out of control and almost always leads to conspiracy nuts ranting about socialism and Jews. It’s some new internet law.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/19 03:07 PM
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The problem is that I don't want to leave those groups simply because facts and cold hard data are proving those groups to be right lol no, it's not. You're seeking that "data" and using it to reinforce your view of the world. You live in the world you choose. 30 percent of males are not incels, incels are toxic little shits who hate themselves and everyone else and have a sexual kink for being abused and insulted. 30% of men at certain ages haven't had sex, and that doesn't mean anything. Learn…
/r/ExRedPill22/11/19 10:23 PM
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I wake up every day with my best friend in the world. We plan our futures together, talk about our lives, goals, ideas, random thoughts, share memes and play video games. As an added bonus, we can bang any time we're both in the mood. If you think there's no reward to relationships, you've obviously not had a good one, and I'm sorry for you. But also, you can't make a relationship as good as I describe without some investment, maintenance and emotional intellect. I don't know what "pills" you're…
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 07:35 PM
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People who make other people feel good attract people. That's all. That's fucking IT. You don't need to spend years scouring online forums for clues to how women and men evolved and what your jawline says about your chances of success. It's an utter waste of time and energy to figure out what your flaws are and try to compensate with power-lifting and posture and sexual strategy. Utter bullshit fed to you to sell books and advertising clicks and to validate cynical kids who need an echo chamber.…
/r/ExRedPill12/11/19 04:40 PM
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All relationships take work my friend. You might be lucky or unlucky running into someone who shares your values and is attracted to something about you, but it happens more often than you think, it happens more often than anyone really realizes. What escapes most people is the effort and work required to reach further and connect with each other. There's no such thing as "love at first sight." There's "strong attraction at first sight" but that's just physical crushes and infatuations. There's …
/r/ExRedPill12/11/19 04:28 PM
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Because you’re only going to be worrying about any of this shit in casual college dating where you’re all fickle and dumb and on reality TV.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/19 04:11 PM
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It's not exactly bogus, it's just tricks. If you like playhing tricks on people vulnerable to trickery then it's going to be a system that "works" for you. It's just that you're not doing your real self any favors with this kind of lifestyle. It's a great way to avoid emotional development. Being an unlovable shitheel. Meanwhile if you toss the evo-psyche shit out the window and all your preconceptions about life, "women" and relationships, you gain the possibility to connect to someone on a dee…
/r/ExRedPill07/11/19 09:03 PM
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Welcome to the human race. Most of us are kinda unfealing shitheads when we're kids. You're only just barely coming out "kidhood" though and just starting to realize there might be more to the human experience and now you're starting to question your own emotional states. This is all part of the natural process. I remember being in my early 20's, watching the World Trade Center fall and memorials for people, wars break out, and so on. Never felt a thing. Just a blank stare and not being able to …
/r/ExRedPill07/11/19 08:46 PM
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You don't sound like a bitch, you sound like a dude who is growing up right around the age that dudes start to grow up. Congratulations. TRP sins against young guys by giving them the opposite of the advice they need to get ready for grown-up life, which is to fucking get ready for emotions, emotions out the wazoo. We are emotional beings, to deny it is to deny the human experience entirely. Live, love, give freely and generously of your affections and passions and spoil someone rotten because y…
/r/ExRedPill07/11/19 01:41 AM
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Check in sometime, I'd like to see more follow-up posts in this sub. I'm pretty sure the reason I don't is because once people break free of the spell of angst and apathy of TRP and the like they probably go on to live lives that don't need validation from internet strangers, but still if things go well for you, come back and tell others about your successes and how you got there.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 11:35 PM
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At risk of sounding like I'm spouting platitudes, I have to say at the top here that just wanting to improve your life and social situation is already a big, good step. There are a lot of people who go the complete opposite direction than that. (Have problems, find TRP, get more depressed because they see life as biological patterns, embrace "blackpill" bullshit, fester in depression, become MGTOW/Incel and retreat from all human contact.) So as long as you're going in the complete opposite dire…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 11:18 PM
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I'm a huge introvert too. Part of overcoming that challenge is identifying what that term really means to you. Some people feel energized and excited the more they socialize, they gain energy from interacting, chatting, getting involved in people's lives and nurturing relationships. They never want the party to end. This doesn't necessarily mean they're loud, obnoxious or even very outgoing as these are all different things. Extroversion simply means they feel excitement/energy from social inter…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 09:11 PM
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In a word or three? Socialize. Socialize, socialize, socialize. Redpill and its ilk are pitcher-plant flytraps for the lonely. When you're alone in life, you cling to systems, to connections with others, you become easier to influence by even small emotional nudges. This can be actually beneficial if you're an artist looking for inspiration, great minds have gone into seclusion to make some our world's greatest works. For the rest of us though, it just breeds bad habits and terrible ways of thin…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 08:32 PM
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Ol' JP is a master at creating strawmen and then crafting a "reasonable" sounding argument to defeat said men of straw. Most of what JP likes to argue would be considered typical conservative propaganda if he were just making his points by themselves, but since he likes to present a "bOtH SiDeS" type of radical centerism debate that paints typical reasonable and progressive people as belonging to some kind of camp that also contains radicals and extremists, he gets away with sounding like some k…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 04:34 PM
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I care far more about what kind of person a person is than what they've done in their personal, consensual lives. Guys who are so homophobic that they're worried another man "left something behind" in a woman, or that a woman who had multiple sexual experiences and yet is still choosing to be with you, are heinously insecure and unreasonable. I don't give a fuck what you did in the past, I care what you're doing now. I've done some stupid or adventurous or even odd things in my youth when I was …
/r/ExRedPill07/10/19 03:02 PM
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I understand but I’m saying this isn’t a forum discussing the animal kingdom and if particular concepts exist, this is more importantly some dumb kid or troll talking about how to go about controlling women. These are people who need to be told how their very way of looking at the world is wrong, not get lost in the weeds debating the structure of their terminology. Allowing that to become the focus of the conversation just allows for debate and concessions and misinterpretations.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/19 08:34 AM
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We really need to take a lot of care online with understanding the context of conversations. There’s a time and a place for talking about actual science and biology in nature, and a time to understand that there are people who frequent these kinds of subs who have ZERO interest in the actual marvels of nature and are instead looking for any validation for their fantasies of exploiting and harming others. The foundation of redpill is a heap of bad science justifying why you expect women to cheat …
/r/ExRedPill04/10/19 04:27 PM
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I saw someone on the /r/anxiety subreddit say something that stuck with me. "I've substituted the things I'm missing in my life with hyper-intellectualizing the world." I know when you don't have much in your life, you get "locked in" your own head and start reading a lot to try to make sense of things. You will end up trying to find systems and patterns and ideologies to make up for not having someone in your life who helped you when you needed it, gave you love when you were alone, understood …
/r/ExRedPill04/10/19 04:07 PM
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“Make her stay” You’re either a child who has never seen or talked to a girl, or a sorry testament to everything wrong with society and/or you don’t believe in human consciousness at all, either in yourself or others. Turn off the internet forever and go talk to people.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 09:19 PM
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Oh fuck off with this shit. I’ve seen plenty of incels spout this shit talking about how to sexually abuse children to “imprint” them. Everyone who repeats this shit automatically goes on my “FBI” list.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 09:16 PM
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TRP takes advantage of and exploits the problems with education. There’s a lot of books being sold to very ignorant young guys by ringmasters keeping this whole show going.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 09:08 PM
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It was a lovely story, and you told it nicely.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 08:41 PM
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Jesus christ if you need an Audubon field guide To People to understand how this shit works you're just really, really bad at relationships and going to the psuedo-evo-bio bullshit path is some kind of deep-off-the-end-of-the-spectrum nonsense that leads young guys with problems to lives indoors arguing about if women have emotions. This shit is harmful to people, and a few guys deluding themselves and telling WHAT MUST BE TRUE stories about how happy and sexy sex sex sex they are don't qualify …
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 02:12 PM
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Hey if you want to sell yourself and your life and potential relationships that short, be my guest. But there's a reason this sub exists, and a reason why you don't see a lot of genuinely happy TRP'ers. Life is what you do with it, if you want to live in a dark, robotic biology world, I hope it works out for you.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/19 12:16 AM
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A casual glance through the community proves that it’s a group that does everything possible to dehumanize women as you say “slaves to their biology” and tries hard to get men to also submit to the “edgy truth” that because of BIOTROOFS that men should also be as manipulative and hedonistic as they want. I mean you can say all that you want, the proof is right across the URL avenue that it’s a hateful and sexist community.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 09:18 PM
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Yeah it's totally possible and yeah a lot of people do successfully avoid emotional connections. And as a result there are a lot of lonely feeling people.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 05:53 PM
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I mean, it should be unspoken if you're with a partner that can't argue in a healthy way or work to resolve issues then you're in a bad relationship. TRP makes men feel like they don't ever need to compromise and that they're by default perfect in their relationships, or that everything always has to be "fair" in some way, when the real world doesn't really work that way. The key to making a relationship work even if there's major differences that are hard to resolve is to not go into it with an…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 05:52 PM
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Negative experiences in relationships are a sign there’s a problem and you need to get out. When your partner has a problem it’s a “shit test” and must be shot down or dump them. Healthy couple fight, have emotions, disagree and come together with a better understanding of each other after and learn to compromise. Learning to embrace and understand this process is called “growing up and learning how to be a good person.” Thinking you can go through life never having to deal with human emotions o…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 03:21 AM
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You didn’t get this shit into your head in a single afternoon, you trained yourself to think this way through a drawn out and long process of practice. So now you realize you put the wrong shit in there, the only way to get it out is with a slow process of deliberate practice. Getting toxic thoughts stuck in your head is just like getting fat. Feels satisfying as you do it, you then realize you consumed too much, you feel gross, unhealthy and won’t get laid, and then have to work your ass off fo…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 03:11 AM
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There's nothing wrong with feelings. Redpill tries to extinguish this in you because if you have strong feelings the dreaded females will take advantage of you. Or some such teenage pablum. But you're 30, you should be starting to embrace your humanity. You're going to feel like, and act like a kid around someone that makes you happy, that's not just to be expected, but to be cherished. Otherwise, it's too bad your relationship didn't work out, but it also sounds like you know how and why it did…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/19 02:53 AM
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Girls who are as desperate and hurt as TRPers. And since TRPers are contentious, miserable fucks who need a guidebook to socialize and fake being friends with people and would rather look at people as objects or animals unable to control their impulses... well, that sounds like a great, emotionally satisfying future right there.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/19 01:43 PM
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Congratulations on feeling better about women and sexuality and about being on medication. Remember that pills are not usually a long term solution for either depression or sexual hangups. Use this time you’re medicated to practice new ways of thinking so that when you ease off of the meds your better thinking will stick and you won’t slip back into your old feelings.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/19 09:01 PM
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