Not necessarily related to red pill, but everytime I browse /r/dating, /r/seduction etc. there is an overwhelming sense of pessimism and bitterness on these subs. I don’t necessarily have any real experience with dating and have a few sexual experiences but sifting through a lot of the posts on there definitely help attribute to lowering my self esteem. The amount of posts where people get ghosted, rejection stories, etc are kind of offputing and a lot of the advice they give out has some truth to it but comes across as jaded with layers of misogyny. I enjoy reading mark Manson’s writings and listening to dr nerdlove for dating advice and I find these good alternatives, but sometimes I find myself going back to jaded beliefs and how dating is negatively biased towards men, etc. I guess there is some layers of truth but rather then trying to better their situations most just start pointing the fingers at women for having high standards or trying to use anecdotes to form a sweeping world view. As a 21 year old male I would like to have experiences with dating and more sexual encounters, and when I see my friends have success I get jealous. I know it’s probably a reflection of myself and how I present myself to people, and for now I’m trying to make myself into the person I want to attract. Maybe I’ll have more success as I continue this path but part of me thinks if I adopt the tactics that are in these subs or that this the way the real world operates. Now I’m still in college and I see a lot of couples and situations that dispel these sorts of thinking’s but I feel once in post college world many of these are things that will be the norm. One of the common truisms they out out is “don’t be needy” but rather then working towards being a dependent person they throw bs like “BE ALPHA ALL THE TIME NEVER ONEITIS ALWAYS TALK TO OTHER BITCHSS TEXT HER ONCE EVERY FULL MOON kdnskjs”. I just wish there were more subs that have practical advice about having sex and dating rather than the grovel that is put out in a lot of those subs