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| 1 | What do men want from women?A friend of mine is in a something that is called relationship anarchy. You can read about it in wikipedia or somewhere else, but for my friend it means relationship without relationship escalation. He is a very independent and successful man with many friends. Any kind of needs he might need, is long fulfilled. So only left him with wants. He has a few ladies who sleep with him and go on a date with him, but there will be no marriage, no cohabitation, if there will be children, the children wil… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/23 11:38 AM |
| 5 | Does redpill beliefs spill into your work/career?These pillers want so badly to join the ranks of those men who made the law. Want to join the 'old boys club', not knowing that it is mostly legacy or birth lottery at work. No sympathy. They would have been as cruel as the current boys in those legacy clubs. Just look at how they disparage fellow men that they dislike while having zero power. Imagine them with a bit of power. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/23 11:31 AM |
| 7 | Does redpill beliefs spill into your work/career?Latest one got fired despite the company looking for more workers and he was supposed to be junior engineer in R&D too. And companies talk. Could have been avoided by leaving his 4Chan persona at home. But nope. This kind of men want validation via being fired by men more influential than them from work seems like. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/23 11:26 AM |
| 0 | I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened?As long as you are not outwardly rude to them, what is the problem? I'd rather have you as coworker (I hate small talk) rather than male coworkers who play nice and then ended up trying to ask for my numbers, while I was and am always very vocal about having a partner. Those kind of guys are thousand times much worse than you who just secretly thinking about stuffs. Besides, I think many women, me included, who have been sexually harassed since we were 12, can appreciate the feeling of conversin… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/08/23 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Can someone explain the whole alpha fucks/beta bucks thing to me? Do you think it’s real? What are your thoughts. It sounds downright terrifying.Which strategy? Dating attractive people and then settling down with less attractive but stabile people later in life? Can that even be called strategy? Seems like for many people, that is just the things that happened to them. Especially if they are attractive. Most attractive people are attracted to well ...fellow attractive people. It is not equally easy. I feel like for women, they just need to have that physical attractiveness (like it or not, men will stick it in crazy...at least for a whi… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/23 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Why would women want to be monogamous?I know it sounds illogical right? Getting so many attentions and good treatments (I am nearing 40 and those attentions never stopped), especially when one is working is male dominated industry and has the kind of hobby where there are men abounds (I am in EE and has been doing Muay Thai for multiple years). And yet I ever only loved my husband. It totally is illogical and I honestly cannot answer your question in a satisfying way. Maybe egoism? If all of the men (at works or at hobbies) die tomo… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Yesterday A Man Verbally Attacked MeBeen practicing Muay Thai for more than a decade and I will still not take a random guy (especially one that probably under influence and felt invicible) heads on. But martial arts are great to train for situational awareness. The constant physical conditioning (which actually big part of martial arts), is great also for the time where you need to book it and book it quick. I personally can highly reccomended Muay Thai and good ol Boxing for self-protection and nice, friendly communities (mostly… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/23 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Yesterday A Man Verbally Attacked MeI feel like this is the result of most women, when they were children, were raised to continue to be vulnerable even as adult. Thus forcing us to look for elsewhere for help (which often does not come). And when that happened...well...shit. This is why my dad taught me Muay Thai early on as a child. And then I got firearms license (despite the dificulty). Women are often naturally physically at a disadvantage against men. And yet we often were raised to continue that kind of vulnerability, inste… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/23 06:26 PM |
| -1 | Yesterday A Man Verbally Attacked MeI agreed fully to this. Women are not mens rehabilitation center, just like men are not womens armors. Adults might have duty to protect children, elderly and other vulnerable people. But definitely no obligation based on gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/23 06:21 PM |
| 4 | I legitimately hate men now and am heartbrokenOP, my bestfriend could have written this. If you have bestfriend, reach out to them. They will be there for you, and this comes from someone who is relatively anti-social. My bestfriend, let's call her Jane, has always been a 'ride or die' lady. Eversince her very first relationship fresh off after college. Jane was star student, who went on to become brilliant worker who got promoted fast. She was always the breadwinner...and the sex kitten and the maid and the cook and the therapist. No guy w… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 06:38 AM |
| 1 | What are everyone on here's thoughts on paternity testing?I fully support it. There are so many tests done during pregnancy nowadays anyway, so it would not have been a problem if it was just about the test. For some future dads though, the problems seem to be already happening/cultivating long before the birth itself. And I don't know how much even a '99% DNA match' results can help them with their state of minds. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/23 09:36 AM |
| 8 | If there was more transparency in dating, would it help? Ex. Telling the other side the real reason for rejectionWhat if the answer is both honest, but also is totally useless to help one improve, because it is not about what can be improved upon at all? I do not remember how many guys I have (politely always) rejected, especially if cold approaches is included, but there were 6 guys I rejected in which we got to know each other well enough first (as working colleagues, university classmates, neighbors, fellow martial artist, etc) before they asked me the question. The answer simply was that I did not want… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/23 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Am I going in the right direction? Is there something I am missing?I agreed to some of those observations, but I still think the key is to just understand how much luck and chance is involved in whether or not a relationship will exist (and for how long). One night stand or just short fling is another matter, because many people can fake their persona just short term enough, but not for relationship (hey, Red Pill itself admitted about the existance of bait-and-switch. Though they themselves are often the main practitioners of baitin with 'fake persona aka hold… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 11:51 PM |
| 3 | I (20M) can't stop thinking of women in a negative lightOh I had my moments too when I was younger. Thinking that socializations are for 'normies' and that I do not need to behave 'normal' because I will just let my works speak for themselves. Big LOL. I can imagine young engineer from very, very rich family who actually never needed to earn money getting away with that kind of attitude though. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/12/22 12:10 AM |
| 26 | I (20M) can't stop thinking of women in a negative lightI'm in computer engineering at a top university and I spend so much fucking time studying compared to these women who enroll in these braindead majors This kind of arrogance is kinda common among male engineering students somehow. I was one of 5 women in our batch year studying EE. None of these 5 women dated fellow engineering (male) students because of this kind of arrogance thinking. You cannot respect people who you think lower than you. And when you cannot respect someone, you can never gen… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/12/22 11:08 AM |
| 5 | How exactly did you divorce yourself from TRP?Man... This is what happened when not enough fathers are telling their sons to live independent and happy life with or without partners. Future dads out there, please raise your boys to be happy with themselves and seek companionship in animals or life-long friendships. Sorry your father failed you, OP. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/22 11:20 PM |
| 8 | can anyone stop me from falling into the red pill?Though I've had social anxiety, and as a result, I was treated like less than a person for most my life (although it's hard to say which came first). I was never invited to parties, ever. No one ever thought to include me in anything. Isn't this the crux of the problem. How will redpill will help you with this? Faking confidence? Well that's been done by everyone with similar problem since the dawn of time. What you need is a real pill, medically researched and produced in a lab that will steer … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/22 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Afraid to accept Im straightThe anger management therapy is so spot on. An acquitance who was close to falling into manosphere (while previously only interested in Eastern Zen philosophy, to the point of occassional minds and souls 'retreat' there in temples), managed to pull himself back from falling completely to it by doing anger management therapy by a therapist who specialized in mens' issues (interestingly enough, the therapist found out that main issue was related to childhood (over bearing but also disinterested fa… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/22 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Red pill teachings have made it impossible for me to trust my girlfriend. Seeking adviceI have been married for a few years now and I was a virgin too when I got married. Husband and I did not have 'till death do us part' in our wedding vows or 'in sickness and in health', because if someone wants to stay, they will stay. If someone does not want to stay, but feeling obliged because of some vows, they will stay but resentment will grow. Nothing worse than being at one's lowest and being resented by a partner to add to that. I am still with my man because I want to and he stays, bec… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/11/22 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Women who have dated or is dating a man who have claimed to RP what were the Red Flags and negative traits that you found in him and have you ever spoken to them about it?It's creepy whether it is being done by men or women, in platonic or sexual sense. Highly inappropriate that people are using this to manipulate in professional settings too. It is like those creepy street artists who tried to divert your attention away while secretly stealing your phone. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/11/22 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Women who have dated or is dating a man who have claimed to RP what were the Red Flags and negative traits that you found in him and have you ever spoken to them about it?I used to know some RP guys but they (always!) showed their red flags earlier even when interactions were still platonic. All of RP guys have one similarity whether they are conscious about it or not. Massive insecurity They tried to hide it, deflected it, buried it, but it always seeps out every interactions. Their 'dreading, negging, kino, posturing, etc' all to change/hide/conceal their deep insecurity. I am fortunately always aware of things like that. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/22 01:06 PM |
| 5 | Can someone explain the whole alpha fucks/beta bucks thing to me? Do you think it’s real? What are your thoughts. It sounds downright terrifying.Quite frustrating indeed, especially when halo effect (on men or on women) can only create more problems. Actually it is very simple. Do opportunistic women exist? Hell yeah. Do opportunistic men exist? Hell yeah. Do opportunistic non-binary exist? Hell yeah. Do opportunistic gay/lesbian person exist? Bet they do. To humanize people, we should be able to see them as people. Not as a walking preceived/stereotyped traits. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/10/22 09:39 AM |
| 2 | Can someone explain the whole alpha fucks/beta bucks thing to me? Do you think it’s real? What are your thoughts. It sounds downright terrifying.I am Singaporean and a lot of Asian women I know are the type you'd described as Alpha. On the other hand, many of manosphere men would often talk about how Asian women are more submissive, passive and feminine and stuffs, all the beta traits. This is why you cannot put people into a box. In reality most people flip between 'alpha-beta' depending on situations and people they are dealing with. There was once a question in TRP subreddit about what to do if a random guy flirted with your girl and … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/10/22 09:28 AM |
| 4 | Can someone explain the whole alpha fucks/beta bucks thing to me? Do you think it’s real? What are your thoughts. It sounds downright terrifying.Are there men who chased superficial but physically attractive women and whiplashing to look for women who are less superficial but also less physically attractive in when these men are older? Yes there are. Just look at how many people posting about guys who used to ignore or bully them in highschool now reaching out after these women have built a happy lives for themselves. Are there women who chased looks over anything when they are younger and then going for the husband material later in lif… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/10/22 09:23 AM |
| 11 | Reasons why I nearly got red pilledI think when people say "be yourself", is being the best version of yourself. Life is also about bettering one's self in some small ways everyday anyway, and at 20, you have all the time in the world to be that best version of yourself. Wanting outside validations is very human and normal, but it is also important for self-esteem to give yourself a pat on the back for every milestone reached. You have succesfully taken the first step of being yourself and found out that there are people who like… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/10/22 10:07 AM |
| 4 | How can a grown 30+ year old man fall for this stuff?with with women in charge So yeah....there is this country called Afghanistan. And men are in charge there. Just saying in case your friend is looking to move away with his guns and gold. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Is being “BB”, settled for, or being seen as the “safe/stable” guy a valid concern?Is this a valid concern? I feel that it is a very valid concern for men, women, NB...from all kinds of walk of life and sexual orientations. Nobody, except people with little self-esteem or quite desperate, wanted to be settled on. We all want to be first choice and that is ok. How to know that you are your partner first choice? Well...I kinda have a bad news for you, usually the answer is time. Even people on Reddit who found out that they were 'the safe choice' usually found that out after sev… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 02:07 PM |
| 1 | What is worse: Redpill or Blackpill ?The numbers of those deep in blackpill and still have the energy to lash out to others are actually few. Lots of blackpillers tend to pull away from society and self isolate. Even if some become terrorists, they still ended up dead or forever in jail anyway. The ones still engaging/having hope are often the more dangerous ones. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Within a single day, two people brought up red pill theory to me.at a low point, and want answers. It is very human to think like this, because it simplify a lot of things. A lot of bad things do have answers. Failing exams after exams? Hire a tutor, revised more, talk it out with the lecturers, etc. Low energy and aching joints? More Vits, more sports, etc. However when it gets to personal-social problems, I think we tend to look 'too deep' instead of chalking it out to..."it's not that deep." Someone can be perfectly fine in a relationship and still wants t… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 06:47 AM |
| -1 | What is worse: Redpill or Blackpill ?Yep. Deeply blackpilled men just ignore women alltogether and it is indeed a safer situation for us. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 05:49 AM |
| 0 | What is worse: Redpill or Blackpill ?Redpill. Blackpill can be a peaceful acceptance for said individual. There is always a 'lift harder' feels in Redpill. Go be blackpilled and enjoy a happy life devoid of women. It is possible. Get pets, go travel, be deep into hobbies, etc. Redpill. Blackpilled men who do not approach women no longer or not even regard any woman around him...actually left us in peace. If we don't exist in their eyes, we are safe. Depends on which kinds of society. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 05:48 AM |
| 9 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.Not everyone wants children and many parents are regretting having children and that is ok. I disagree with both sentiment of children as marriage-glue (and this kind of thinking caused baby-trapping done by shitty men and women) or as marriage-killer. Plenty of perfectly happy long term partners I know do not have children. And there are happy couples who have made decision to adopt out their children too (less of a stigma where I come from.) I agreed that it is not happy wife happy life though… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Is it over for autistic men?I am going to be honest to you. It is not over, no. Over implying absolutely zero chance. Will it be difficult? Yes. And what will work? Luck. Pure luck. We as society like to think that we are accepting and understanding of everyone just by default. But in reality, we are not. Think about it like this, a lot of autistic WOMEN have difficulty making and keeping friends. Most people will not turn the offer for friendships rudely, but simply just grey rocking them. And you can imagine that if it i… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/09/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | A hypergamy debate and my RP epiphanyI think seeing relationship as future investment is the wrong way to look at it (and to enjoy it). Notice how there are men and women who are like "I wasted years on him! My prime years!" or "she left me after we built our lives together!" etc. These people seem to be seeing the time they had spent with people that they proclaimed to love as...wasted(?), just because it ended (and just because it is not on their term?) I am married for years and I really love my husband. But if someday he left m… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/09/22 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Question for the women and girls of r/exredpill. Do you call out your lady friends who are misandrist? Do you hold misandric women accountable?I have had two different friends so far yelling in anger in front of me that they absolutely hate men. Or men are the worst. Etc. Both were gay friends who did indeed get hurt by other men though (and repeatedly too. Grindr seems to bring out the best...but also the worst of guys). I have to admit that I did not call them out on it, because well...they are men themselves and won't it be a 'womansplaining' move if I do that? I never heard any blantant misandry/men hate from my female friends thou… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/09/22 05:53 AM |
| 4 | Just broke up with with a closeted red pillerI had to block two former close friends because of this thing too. One even went too far past mere manosphere and into race supremacy territory. Our talks changed from normal friendly talks into passive-aggresive bullshits, barely covered one-upping attempts to cover moments of insecurities, repeated rants about certain topics, paranoia about something that may never even happened to them ("If I ever got married and my wife just wants to spend my money but gives me starfish sex I am going to bea… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 08:04 AM |
| 7 | Just broke up with with a closeted red pillerWhy go through all the effort with me instead of finding someone who is, by his definition, 'wife material'? Insecure and mentally weak people often do not care enough to do the work to get what they want and try to neg/guilt/gaslit/bully/etc others to fit into their (very delusional) world narrative. I blocked him right after our conversation This is the only way to deal with people such as these, regardless of their gender or sexual orientations. Just block. Don't listen to another word, don't… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 07:10 AM |
| -1 | Redpillers finally discover women prefer attractive males their age 🤯As long as his sperm is still useful, he can always buy egg and plant it in some surrogate's womb. It is admitedly costly, but hey, a lot of good things in the worlds are costly. Can cut the cost down a bit by outsourcing (as often the situations are). Make sure sperm is working Buy egg. Look for womb renting in third world countries (for example like Nepal). | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/22 02:08 AM |
| 5 | Redpillers finally discover women prefer attractive males their age 🤯Sperm bank (for women) and surrogacy/womb hiring (for men) exist since a long time. How do you think some gay couples have bio/gene continuing kids? | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/22 01:54 AM |
| 2 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitieshaving men be recognized for their greater efforts amd sacrifice when it comes to dating. And this kind of thinking is why men will forever be begging for womens attention and validations. It is like for example, wageslave wanting recognition from their bosses. This kind of thinking hurting men because they pedestalize women by wanting recognition (your own word) from women. You antiredpillers just dont like accountability. And Red Pillers are weak because they are acting like wagecucks waiting … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/22 09:42 AM |
| 2 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitieswomen CHOOSING to be This is the crux of the problem isn't it? Women choose/want men, while many men still (feel like) they -need- women, instead of just having companionship doll as alternative partner. You didn't say anything about my solution of supporting men to look for companionship/intimacy/validation from technology. What do you think about that? If we can create society where men are not judged for dating/marrying 2D women, sex/companionship dolls, etc, I think it will be a better world… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/22 03:52 AM |
| 4 | breaking up with your boyfriend because he's into red pill will only push them further into those ideasshould have left sooner Absofuckinglutely! This is the lessons many people need to learn. Relationship is voluntary. You are free to leave even without any reason at all! I'm glad I stayed No. No you are not. This is pure cope. You were her victim for too long. her being hurt by men in her past More reason to teach people to leave relationship -early-. Bet she stayed too long too. can help cure ...and there it is. The very toxic golden vagina/golden cock mentality of "I can fix him/I can fix her… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 06:26 PM |
| 2 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesThey can literally switch from being independent to traditional Ties back into the part of (straight) men not being able to find alternative to real, living human women because the alternative is not being socially approved yet. How do you think the switch from modern to traditional will work if it were lesbian relationships? I know that it must have been frustrating, but how do you solve the problem of team blue feel like they are still needing team red, while team red no longer needing, but ca… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 06:04 PM |
| 2 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesYou're basically telling men that they should just get used to being alone More and more women are alright with being alone. Being alone does not mean being lonely. I think it is wrong to not teaching men on how to be as equally fine being alone as women, no? You haven't replied about medications that can lower libido/urges and thus takes pressure off for companionship. Why isn't that a choice though? Look at side effect of beta blocker for example. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 05:53 PM |
| 2 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiessex toys and technology What else is the alternative that guarantee that we do not hurt others while doing so though? Arrangement like mail order bride/groom (trading of resources for sex/intimacy in its purest form)? Sure it can work out and somehow with time, they genuinely fall in love with each other, but still victimizing one or both parties if this does not work out. biology Meds. I started thinking about it when I read how strong biological urges/libido is for men, that it can even affect… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 04:27 PM |
| 3 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesIt sparks interesting discussions on why men (in general) are more okay with low earning partners than the opposite. And if the answer is not to make women 'lower' their standards, but men to raise their standards. I think a world can use far picker men who are not afraid to be alone. Visual art seems to make you happy and you make a career out of it (which is great!), does it matter if there is a woman (or a man too if you were a bi-person) to support you along the way though? You are enjoying … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 04:15 PM |
| -2 | I hate the worldWord. My very first crush was Mirai Trunks. I am with you all the way with the big eyes (like half the face eyes), spiky hair when activating power and those sometimes appearing, sometimes so small, almost disappearing mouth. Perfection! | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 04:04 PM |
| 1 | I hate the worldDoesn't the world nowadays already not look like anime fantasy though? We don't have people with superpowers, we don't have various efficient and beautiful steam-powered moving vehicles, we can't talk to animals. In my fantasy world, all people should be born with ability to be invisible when they want to. But somehow also with caveat that this invisibility by choice power cannot be used for nefarious purposes. I can be visible at home, at work, but be invisble in public. No unwanted attention. … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:53 PM |
| 3 | I hate the worldMaybe and maybe not. But if you find ways to be ok with both outcomes, that will be a great life. Dive deep into hobbies, find ways to make more money if you are into comfort living and all those stuffs, plan some travels, etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:44 PM |
| 9 | I hate the worldYou have certain and clear standards for women that you want (that is very good!, Much better than the 'imma take anything' crowds who usually ended up hurting people because they go into relationship half-hearted out of fear being alone). What you should do is not being afraid to be alone if you never cross path into those kind of women (or if you crossed path but they are not interested in you). Keep habing standards and don't settle, but also find away to accept that it probably will never ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:36 PM |
| 3 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesSociety should support the use of technology as alternative for men to look for intimacy and validation. Don't shame and instead support men who decided to get companionship dolls, or marrying 2D characters, etc. And maybe also prescribed medication if a man wants to get rid of his libido. It is 2022. Women do not depend to men financially anymore, so men should not still depending on women for companionship and validations too. It was and is still a big mistake to shame men who are into 2D wome… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesI will say it again and again. Society needs (ASAP!!) to be more accepting of the use of medications, companionship dolls/AI, sex toys, etc as alternative sources for young men to find intimacy and validations. Young men thinking that human women is the only source for intimacy and validations is not good for both. The only alternative is technology, but men are mocked when some of them are trying to use those. Example: the guy who got ridiculed for taking his doll to restaurants, the guy who go… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)I have been married for close to 10 years now, though I am together with my husband for longer than that. We did not have the usual wedding vows though, because it was not a Western or Christian-Judeo marriage. We still love each other, so far, but also ready if one of us want to bail (for example while we are living together more than a decade now, we still keep our own separate properties). I love my husband a lot, I really do. But also never want to be one of those who are staying in a marria… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Coming to acceptance: How do I detach for good?Meds. Look for medications that lower desire for sex as side effect. Something like beta blockers. If you have money, do a lot of solo trips in nature, away from people. Look for possibilities for homesteading. The sheer amount of insane work alone revolved around homesteading will keep you busy. Most importantly, DO NOT LISTEN to naysayers here. You have the right to live a life without (or if you use their words, surpressing) your desire. You do not need to live a life wanting relationship. So… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/22 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)Well then that fits to "better to be raised by two separately happy parents than being raised by unhappy parents who are together just for the sake of the kid", case. I get frustrated when again and again we see men falling to Red Pill and women to something similar but gender flipped, all mostly because society does not teach us enough to let go of relationships early. If OP had left earlier, he would have probably never fell into Red Pill in the first place. Would have found out that co-parent… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/22 02:22 AM |
| 0 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)I know that marriage has its own ups and downs, but it just baffled me how it is being seen as more sacred than, for example, discourse with parents/family (many will support someone cutting off contact with annoying family members/parents), how if you have problems at work or unhappy at work, you'd be suggested to look for another job. But when you are unhappy in your marriage...you are suggested to...hold on? Sure if we are talking about cultures where leaving a spouse can put you in physical … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/22 05:42 PM |
| 4 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)Abused spouses must have had the same thought before the stockholm syndrome set in. I am just not a fan of applauding people for setting themselves on fire to keep others warm. Whatever happened with "you do not even need to have reason to leave a relationship?" Or "no is a complete sentence". | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/22 04:12 PM |
| -2 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)That kind of thinking also put many couples in deeply abusive at worst and unhappy at best situation though. What is the accepted timeline to be allowed to leave a relationship anyway? | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/22 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Ex-Red Pill Guru doing a 180 (and how it almost killed my marriage)I am glad that you have found a better way to deal with marriage troubles in the past, but I was wondering, when you were unhappy back then, why didn't you just...leave? Get a separation, a divorce. Was it because of financial reason? Or was it because you were told growing up that divorce is for hard cases like infidelity or abuse only? Would things have been better if you were just divorcing her back then? My biggest problem with Red Pill, is with their 'dread' game, or other manipulation tact… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/22 12:48 PM |
| 4 | An Important Step to Combating the Rise of The Red PillI do believe if we stop policing women’s sexuality, we naturally would get more women comfortable with having more sex. I live in a country and culture that does not shame women for having sexual appetites and the result is hmm...interesting. Women and men definitely interacts more sexual-wise, but deep genuine connections are still as difficult as before. I feel that many caught one-sided feelings. And both genders are doing it too (the catching of one-sided feelings I mean). It depends on what… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/22 04:45 AM |
| 5 | An Important Step to Combating the Rise of The Red PillSociety really needs to be more open-minded and supporting about men looking for companionship and sex elsewhere. Men who got married to video game character got made fun of, a guy who brought his sex doll (maybe we should call it companionship doll) to a restaurant got his picture snapped and then made fun of too. They made the movie "Her" ended up more creepy than wholesome. Let us not even start to discuss how sex toys for men are often being made as comedy punch lines. A lot of men feel like… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/22 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Men who have had no problems finding a girlfriend throughout your life, what sets you apart from the men that do?I make decent income and always take good care of my health. That alone put me above average. Word. Especially about the health part. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/22 05:58 PM |
| -2 | My (Woman's) take as an observer of the red pillI went to school in three different countries. Two Asian countries and one in the West. Didn't see much difference except for defference to teachers in Asia, but that was more because of the culture of filial piety rather than the Asian countries didn't do feminism. I do agree that there should be more boys only and girls only schools though. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/22 07:25 AM |
| 2 | No one has all the answersGuys are lonely because many are not being taught how to live with alternate intimacy. Women used to be depended on men for money, now we are independent financial-wise. Men used to be dependent on women for companionship...and well...they still are and it is 2022. This does not add up. Men are supposed to be taught how to get intimacy or companionship through A.I., through animal companions/pets, through real dolls, through (eventhough society made fun of it) 3D waifu, etc. World not giving men… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/22 06:51 AM |
| 5 | Women have an easier time when dating or finding sex.Men: shower women with attention. Also men: Fuck you for being showered by attention!!! Seriously though, I tried to get young men to be more open to real dolls, companionship A.I., various sex toys they can use to pleasure themselves, different hobbies, taking meds to lower libido, etc. I always encourage men to not need women. The attention we got from men are often uncomfortable too, would be mighty nice...and safer to get less of those. Since we seem to have mutual purpose (making men not ne… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/22 02:21 AM |
| 33 | I'm not sure does this really count, but I saw this with title "What women are tired to hear, is what men want to hear". Is there truth to this?Men should just compliment and validate other men. If it is just compliment without any other motive behind it, won't it be better to give compliments to the ones who are in general wanting it most? | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/22 06:56 AM |
| 5 | How do you respond to/deal with 'the bar is so low for straight men'I've only seen those phrase in context of regret/vent. Usually after a woman woke up from following very bad, but common advice of 'ReLATiOnsHIp iS wErK' and wasting several years of her life on an obvious loser. Similar to anger phase after waking up from obvious bait-and-switch' for men. Ultimatively, I think people who genuinely believe in 'the bar' often run into similar people over and over again. Just like how some guys wondered why they kept on running into women who cheat on them and tre… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/22 11:54 AM |
| 4 | What was your exact reason you got into Red Pill?I was FOB from Asia to Europe. Surprised to find out how 'weak' (weak is not the right word for it, but I could not think of anything better to describe my feeling back then) Western raised men were. Though I found out later that Western reaised men are strong too, in their own way, like it is supposed to be. Western feminism also at that time felt hollow, unrelatable and rather hypocrite to me. So many talk about women in tech...and yet there were only two women (me included and both were from … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/22 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Masturbation?Here is a review about it. https://www.inbedmagazine.com/tenga-eggs-ultimate-review/ | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Masturbation?Buy the wand. I don't have the penis so I cannot say how t will feel for the bros, but it does feel very nice for the cunt heh. This comes from someone who is rather sensitive down there too and I can say that the vibrations are wide ranged enough, it should accomodate different kinds of sensitivy. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Masturbation?Louder for the folks in the back please! There are plenty of good quality sex toys for guys (especially those that made in Japan. Tenga eggs anyone?), that can enhance male sexual pleasures (be it for solo setting or teamwork setting). Good sex toys for guys unfortunately often still being seen as joke materials at best and something disgusting at worst. I think more positivity about male sex toys will have positive impacts for both men and women. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is a useful temporary medicineWho (very wrongly) taught you when you were younger that to be happy, you need to find a woman who loves you? Was it your parents or schools? The root of the many problems often seem to be this idea we teach children that to be genuinely happy, they have to find someone willing to do the heavy lifting for them. And it is just so wrong. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill is a useful temporary medicineUnderstandable and very regretable. Like I have often said in my comment history, boys somehow being sold on the (far outdated and completely lazy at best, malicious at worst) idea that they just need to find a good woman and then their life will be gucci. It is the male version of "find yourself a prince charming" callback from the past. We need new, updated version of upbringing for young boys. Making them less dependent on finding someone to be happy and validated and instead making them able… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 04:52 AM |
| 1 | How to get over my anger and resentment towards womenJust avoid women while you look for professional therapist and only be around women when you stop viewing them as non-people anymore. I cannot in good conscience give you advice to befriend women or something like that. Ain't gonna tell Nazis to bother PoC, ain't gonna tell bigots to bother LGBT+ people. And so on and so on. The burden is on you and not on them. Therapists at least will get paid for it, meanwhile rando women (or PoC, or LGBT+ folks, etc) will just waste time at best and put them… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 04:42 AM |
| 2 | How can i get past black pillI've only been living in two different continents, but I can support this observations too. In Asia, height could even be more crucial, because a lot of job vacancy even have height requirements (combine that with still conservative/traditional culture where men are breadwinner, sometimes not only for his core family but also extended family, it was harsh). I feel that what you call white pill is just...accepting reality? Birth lottery exists and some win, some lose. Hierarchy happens not only i… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/22 09:36 AM |
| 5 | Why are men in redpill are obsessed with women?That is the "Disney's Princess' Dreams" package that society used to sell to women too, until we were taught better with the whole "Independent Women" movements. It is very nice and liberating, I am wondering why boys are not being taught the same. The old package that was sold for us women was the "be some guy's wife to win in life" dream (hencewhy I called it Disney Princess' Dreams). Now we have the "you are fine and complete all on your own" healthier dream package. Young boys are still bein… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/22 04:08 PM |
| 20 | Thoughts on the MensRights Subreddit?Just like MGTOW, if the members were more men-concentrating instead of women-comparing, it would have helped guys more. In theory, it should have been a men helping men organization, but it often gets distracted too much by angry-at-women noises. Such a shame, but I realized that same problems often plagued women-focussed organizations/movements. I support men helping men because when men are doing well and satisfied with themselves, they tend to leave women alone and privately enjoy their lives… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/22 06:48 AM |
| 1 | To those who think that all women would not care about men's emotions and would be repulsed by his crying (I know it's a prank, but girl did not know that)Halo effect is annoying indeed, but it is just what it is. In Asia beauty is even worshipped harder. Google Masako Mizutani. Literally got award for being beautiful older woman. There are also maid cafes for both women and men, cause apparently both genders like to see attractive people. Who would have thought. This is why I am very pro surgical procedures to enhance looks, height, etc Physical beauty is a global currency. Back to the video though, the two times I have seen stranger crying while… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/22 05:46 PM |
| 3 | To those who think that all women would not care about men's emotions and would be repulsed by his crying (I know it's a prank, but girl did not know that)Agreed. Besides, I quite dislike videos like these because of the possible expectations that can arise out of it. Different women will react differently to anyone showing them emotion. And I feel that it is rather wrong to have expection on how they should react. It would not have been wrong for her if she were to stand up and just leave, or pretended not to see him, instead of comforting and hugging him. Just as wrong for me will be a prank videos showing men protecting women from physical atta… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | Any hope for older incels?How is the job situation in your area? I kept on asking this because I lived for two years in an area that was a job desert and no matter how good or useful my degree was (I have degree in EE), there was simply just no job there. Location really matters for A LOT of things. Is it possible for you to make online friend who lived in bigger cities through gaming that might be willing to lend their couch for a few weeks/months until you managed to get a job and look for proper shared accomodation? I… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/22 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Any hope for older incels?Looking back, I really was being condescending. I was really confused of how that happened though. I have never met anyone with literal zero friend. You are right that career and job can be different. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/22 09:11 AM |
| 0 | Any hope for older incels?no career, no friends Start with these two. The world run on money and in many places, good friends are safety nets (but also mean that you have to be ready to be others'safety nets too). How did you get to 30 without any of those two man? Even WoW addicts have online/gaming friends. What is your main problem with trying to get a job? If it is location, then I am afraid that you really need to apply on further away places and then maybe ask them to pay for moving cost once you got accepted. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | I’m descending into the woman hating madness. I don’t want to believe red pill but it’s too convincing. Help me.men need to go their own way, chase money What is wrong with doing this (minus the hating woman part)? Having money is nice and comforting. Crying on a yatch feels different than crying on a donkey. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/22 07:53 PM |
| 15 | A hypergamy debate and my RP epiphanyshe's not yours, it's just your turn' What is the problem with this? Why not follow it with "...and I am not hers, it is just her turn." Romantical relationship is not equal to possessing a human being. She is not your baseball cap, just like you are not her baseball cap. And after you two broke up, you both are free to date other people. Hence the 'turn'. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | As an Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the bestI tried often to tell guys (and girls too) to find other things to do, as a way to deal with loneliness and boredom rather than using other human being for that (as in looking for partner just not to feel alone). Because it is just not something sustainable. Besides!!! Do these people forget that sex toys and (very lifelike and getting better by the years btw) sex dolls and companionship AI exist? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/22 01:26 PM |
| 2 | As an Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the bestI edited my reply bout the betrayal part. I did not read carefully and thought it was non-specific betrayal. So I included other examples. Yeah, intimate partner's betrayal cuts way deeper. Hey I disagree very much with FDS. I think those ladies should go WGTOW. And uhhh...no marriage and no cohabitation sounds just like your average relationship anarchists practitioners. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/22 01:23 PM |
| 2 | As an Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the bestAhh that is a shame about the still dating part. A lot of WGTOW really do avoid men. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/22 01:14 PM |
| 3 | As an Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the bestFriends betrayal? Coworkers betrayal? Aren't MGTOWers avoid women and thus women are even more irrelevant for them anyway? (Which is the main reason why I support MGTOW, because it is safer and logical, for women, if men who do not like women avoid women.) Edit: Oh, I understood better now. The betrayal mentioned here was a betrayal specifically in romantical relationship sense only. I thought it was betrayal in all kinds of sense. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/22 01:01 PM |
| 8 | As an Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the bestWhat is wrong with saying that men is as equally capable as women when it gets to betrayal? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/22 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Redpillers hate western womenI see. I am an immigrant living in Germany and there are plenty of Eastern European women here. They do take care of themselves, the way many women in Asia (where I am from) do. But I feel that German women also take care of themselves, just in a different way. Many (not all) German women take good care of both their physical and mental health, but not care enough to appear appealing in public. They might go around in just shirt and jeans, no make up and no high heels, but underneath the t-shirt… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/06/22 08:23 AM |
| 3 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?Do people who have been through horrible things or even mentally ill worthy of love? Most definitely. Can people also be NIMBY about it by wanting to be with people who do not have those problems? Absolutely. I admit I have been too harsh, but cutting off female and male Eeyores (see how I do not make any gender destinction here?) have been good for mine (and many other people's) peace of minds. Being around Eeyores -is- a burden. Also I think this post reminded me that right now I have this clo… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/06/22 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?And you certainly never heard of "smelling shit everywhere...check your own shoes." But of course dude, all of the people telling you that you are wrong must have been the crazy ones. You are the only one who knows the truth. Why even ask around when you already have the answer and not willing to even reconsider. Keep on being you, I guess. It is better for failed narcs and giga Karens to stick together anyway. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/06/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | So, one of those "sex on tap" TRPer apparently got exposed to his wife once and his wife ended up coming to reddit. Here is a rare glimpse behind the curtain from both sidesThe common theme seems to be (if they managed to get into relationships): "This relationship is obviously toast because we both are not happy and are not fit for each other anymore. Most normal, ordinary people would have divorced/broken up a long time ago to give each other peace and let them finding someone else who is a better fit for them. But not US, sir! No Sirre! We are going to play this childish passive-aggresive game like two lunatics. And if my wife still left me, Imma blame it on me … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/06/22 08:04 AM |
| 8 | Redpillers hate western womenKaren transcends races and cultures (fortunately/unfortunately). | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/22 09:35 PM |
| 19 | Redpillers hate western womenHow can he call himself a 'Coach', when plenty enough guys, who probably never had any interst in manosphere, do not even to move to Eastern Europe to get laid? Seems like totally the wrong person to learn from. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/22 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?And men are emotional-tamponing each other? | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/22 05:41 PM |
| 9 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?And this is how many men are trapping themselves in the emotional-tampons circle. Not even women want to be another womens' emotional-tampons, dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/22 07:38 PM |
| 10 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?Is there actually a real, logical benefit of feeling sorry for one's self? Regardless whether you are a man, a woman, non-binary? Regardless whether you are straight or gay? The men and women I know who (often) feel sorry for themselves are often failed narcissists or giga Karens. All which I and many other people rightly try to avoid. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Exredpillers how do you hold onto hope not to rope?Hey man, I am assuming you are living in the West? If yes, then for good (or bad), a lot of 'real world' problems are not problems anymore, so many people are extra focused on the newer, lighter problems. Many third world guys are in your position love-life wise, plus...having to deal with poverty, safety and all around shittiness that happened in third world places. Can't worry much bout getting that text from Becky if your gov cut down your electricity to only 8 hours a day, ya get me? And yet… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/06/22 06:43 AM |
| 1 | RedPill, BlackPill YT channels.I've seen you around here and I did not know you are from Europe. Western Europe? I am from Singapore but have immigrated and integrated well in Germany. As a former outsider who came from a land where men are still 'slaving away' in 'plantations' (borrowing MGTOW terms here) and then I saw the 'freed men in Western Europe (few guy pals I know from Eastern Europe are still burdened with the task of taking care of elderly grandparents/elderly parents, one expected to run into danger, etc). Men in… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/06/22 08:13 AM |
| 2 | I was deep into RedPill, predominantly MGTOW, about two years ago before those subreddits got banned. I still consider myself MGTOW todayShhhh! I am trying to sell it to these men because maybe, just maybe, they will finally move to such places to be oppressed by stronger and more brutal men to be Kings, instead of having to lower themselves to live with us, women who just want to live like a normal human being. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/22 07:06 PM |
| 8 | I was deep into RedPill, predominantly MGTOW, about two years ago before those subreddits got banned. I still consider myself MGTOW todayGo move to places where women are being kept at home and not allowed to leave without a man beside her then. There is that place where women literally are not allowed to function as a normal human being. Men won everything there. Get to be the kings. Maybe many men really are happier in such places. Afghanistan with Taliban as rulers for example. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/22 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Why should I leave the red pill?If the only concern Western men have regarding Western women is that these women are less feminine, then Western men actually really have it good. I think one of the biggest problems is that Western life can sustain an individually comfortable life, that the people (notice I said people here, so men and women) got bored and they started to invent problems sometimes. Men in the more traditional places are being deemed responsible not only for their own wife and kids, but also their sisters and el… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/22 03:19 PM |
| 0 | Slutshamming isn't a big dealvirgin shamed with nothing to make up for it. It is a crazy idea, but I feel like if you advertise your virginity (even as a guy) in some kinks community, someone bounds to want to take up the challenge. There are all kinds of kinky communities out there, one of them most likely cater to this kind of niche. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/22 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Why should I leave the red pill?Cause most western women are taught and incentivized to treat men bad I am from Singapore and I think Western men who said this kind if thing do not actually know non-Western culture and society, if they think non-Western women treat Western men bad. If you read my posting history, I often conversed with a fellow Asian here where we both are asthonished at how little things are demanded by Western women from Western men. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/22 07:41 AM |
| 4 | Can I deprogram my redpill boyfriend?“replacement theory” I am often very aghast that people do not take this as seriously as they should. I am from Asia and while we called it differently, some of the worst attrocities done to (usually religious, ethnics, etc minorities) came from that very idea that the what supposed to be majority of race should not be replaced. The rohingyas, the Uighurs, the Papuans, even the Chinese immigrant minorities, again and again it came from the idea of 'we should act now or be replaced'. It is very s… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/22 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Misconceptions the Redpill ignoreI think one of the biggest problems with TRP is that many of its members tend to ignore one of the main tenets, which is abundance mentality. Or in normal speaks; plenty of people in the sea. Somehow for being one of the best advice, if any, ever came out of RP, the members have difficulty applying this the most. It sounds just downright pathetic when a so called TRPer getting angry for his plate entertaining another men. Like what the hell, why would you even call her a plate if you care for he… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/22 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Should you never reveal yor weakness and vulnerability to women? These comments were found in Tribe of Men's video "Woman with A STRONG FATHER FIGURE tells it how it is"Regarding question 1, there are plenty of women asking themselves why some men are sticking (and oftentimes not only sticking but marrying and then procreating with) it crazies, when there are plenty of normal, non-crazy women out there. And this phenomenon has been recognized by manosphere too. Don't stick it in crazy has been around for a while, then the TRP 'bait-and-switch', something they desperately trying to use as reasoning/answer to men asking why their partners who used to be loving ar… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Fears of not being enough for women - a bit of a long read aheadWhen looking for a partner how much kindness do you want ? how much intelligence ? How much does he have to make in order for you to feel financially stable ? What about things such as physical fitness ? I feel that the details about those sort of things, is not something that most people, men or women, are consciously planned. For myself, I discovered the answer to all of those questions after I got to know my (then boyfriend, now husband) better. When looking for a partner how much kindness do… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/22 05:59 AM |
| 3 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillWell...on my and my husband's side, we decided not to take care of our parents tbh. His dad and mom are living independently in the Carribean and they are members of Exit International. His parents are in medical world, so they made the choice for assisted suicide when they do not feel like it anymore. That is the way I am planning to take too when I reached like 90 or something. My own dad and mom are still in Singapore and wanting to live among their same age friends. They do not exactly want … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/22 05:45 PM |
| 2 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillKinda yes and...no? At least for Germany, rents are (bar some really metropolitan cities like Munich or Hamburg, though even there you can find something not expensive) usually can easily be paid with a single person's salary. So there is not always the traditional next step of relationship aka moving in together. So the roommate with romance thing sometimes does not happen also. Some women are perfectly ok with being together but living separatedly. It is definitely not something for me, but tw… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/22 04:58 PM |
| 5 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillHelp me understand this, what do these women in Germany want these chill unemployed men for exactly? It is often said by women on Reddit that women aren’t forced to settle anymore, so they can choose only men who bring something to the “table”. What do these men bring to the table exactly? Trust me haha, when I was just moving here, it was part of the culture shock. I had this friend who looked like a young Natalie Portman with bob haircut, who has bachelor in ecology, a volunteer for Nabu (Germ… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/22 12:39 PM |
| 6 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillOh I will gladly explain. It is both a yes and no on the easier. Depending on how you see it. So there is this formula as a guy to get partner in Asia: start with being a high achieving student at school, everyone fan over smart student there. Keep a good relationship with parents and comes from a good family (bonus of course if family is old money). Earns well, because even if the woman is also earning as well as you are, you are as a guy is still being judged in your capacity as breadwinner (j… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/22 05:01 AM |
| 11 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillI am surprised to read that you are from Western Europe and writing...this. I am from Singapore, but I am currently living in Germany. And uh... honest? Compared to standard of dating for men in Singapore, German guys have it easy. Guys without jobs can get partners here. Heck, I know a forever unemployed guy (turning 30 this year) and he has had three different relationships. Serious relationships where the women invited him to live in her apartment too. His third and hopefully last GF (because… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 08:01 PM |
| 7 | I feel like the redpill made me a misogynistIf you are talking about women (and men, or basically most of the people) who are flushed and enjoying life in social media, beware that most of those are curated. If you look at my lovely sis in law's IG, you'd see pictures that could be promo for the next romantic K-Drama, and she is the female protagonist. In reality, she is a busy mom of two, who despite my brother many help still tearing the root of her hair exasperatedly everytime the kids misbehaved. She is not naturally skinny like her I… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/22 08:46 PM |
| 7 | What about POC men into the red pill?It was honestly unnerving and rather sad to see. I don't know if it is still like this, but back then these POC guys would get gaslit so hard. The reality is dating as POC in a place where POC is the majority compared to dating where POC is minority, well ..it is very different. I think there were plenty of dismissive responses, ridicule masked as tough love, and the subtle "go back where you are from, bro". On the other hand hand, the "go back where you are from" is probably one of the most rea… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/22 05:16 AM |
| 3 | The Fresh & Fit fan base has to be the worst RP fan base I’ve ever seen.Why and what for though? Many of my friends are gay men and even the ones in the deepest closet (think something like a pastor's son...studying theology level), rarely factor women (in more than platonic friendship or familial relationship) at all into their lives. Fun fact, I have never heard "I hate men!" being uttered by my female friends. However heard it several times from my male friends (especially the ones who are into men.) | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/22 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety?A son of some poor dad? Now that would be a problem. Was your dad rich or poor? If he was poor but was a caring dad, would that make him still useless though? And since you said women can work just fine where you come from, would it have been such a problem if it were your mother that was a rich parent, and not your father. And lesbian and gay couples have children too. Which one or none or both of them should be rich? Hey I do not have any problems with well-off parents have more kids than non-… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety?I mean gay is different because they don't like women. Just imagine everything most guys like in women, just in men. Guys like good looking women? Gays like good looking men. Guys like women who are great at sex? Gays like men who are great at sex too. And the mentality behind the sugarbabies are similar too. Sugarbabies like to have that fancy dates and expensive clothing? Gay sugarbabies like to have fancy dates and expensive clothing too. Etc. I think when it gets to sugaring, the thought beh… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/22 02:05 PM |
| 1 | How to get sexual validation?If you are ok with it, I can DM you. Because I wanna keep my location more or less private. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 02:37 PM |
| 2 | How to get sexual validation?This will depends heavily on where you live unfortunately, but there are kinkster establishments where I live. A friend of mine, perfectly ordinary looking guy (imagine acne, slightly overweight, not perfect hair, etc.) was there and he got interests from some ladies (well, mostly a more dominant ladies). It was before covid though. I think it should be something like a swinger-lite. No pressure for sexual performance or hook up, but people want to see and want to be seen there. Is there such es… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 01:46 PM |
| 10 | Will Kevin Samuel's death help some followers leave red pill?I don't think so. Maybe a few. But there are still RPers loyal to the ideology even after the founder of reddit TRP got find out few years ago. And of course, he was nothing like his online persona. And in the true style of publicly caught racist: "this is not who I am, I have black friends!", He hid behind the skirt of his mom and sisters. And many TRPers still lick this person's butthole and salivating for his praises. People are weird. Bonus: https://www.reddit.com/r/ImagesOfNewHampshire/comm… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 01:26 PM |
| 3 | How to stop “relapsing” ?In which way does your mind revert to? To AWALT? To alpha-beta? Or to the healthiest thought that ever came from TRP but hardly practiced, aka the abundance mentality? Stick to abundance mentality if you really have to relapse. So you got hurt, the ones hurting you will always be fewer than the total possible amount of women you will run into in your life. You are just 22. And no reason not to try again with different individuals, you know? Dumber is RP way of trying to game a relationship/attra… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 01:21 PM |
| 4 | I don’t know what i want from dating anymoreDude take a break. Seriously, not even kidding. If a girl shows interest in you, either just for fun or relationship, just tell her that you are looking for neither at the moment. Set a time limit. First for 6 months, then if you feel good, add a year to that. Plenty of people taking a break and step back from interacting with people for their own mental peace. Try that. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 09:44 AM |
| 2 | What are some good hobby ideas to develop as a healthy man?Since people have been giving you good advice...what do you think about good old (pen + paper) penpalling? I know it is rather obsolete with internet ready at our fingertips, but around 10 years ago, I somehow become a penpal of a Japanese person who lived in a very small village near Okinawa. You coming from a small town in Minnesota reminded me of that. There must be still enough people in the world who are interested in writing snail mails instead of emails. Another more important thing is...… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 04:59 AM |
| 2 | How to be happy as an ex red pillerThis is an interesting comment and I am interested to know more. I see mine and other peoples' body and educational/financial as defintely them though. Because we know how difficult it is to get that sculpted look, that valedictorian title, that properties and investments. Luck plays a big part, yes. However...so this is a personal story, I have been doing Muay Thai since I was very young so it was not rare that I supported fellow practitioners in their preparations for competing. It takes a cra… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 04:37 AM |
| 6 | I’m lonely and suicidal. I’m tired of being lonely.Are you sure the main problem is loneliness. Dude, you just wrote that you are broke and out of shape. Being not broke and not out of shape is more important than women. Ironically, even if you go to redpill subreddit, they are going to tell you the same. First your health, then pocket. Imagine if you are an aromantic, asexual person. You'd still want to be comfortable financially and in shape too. Invest time to send applications to better jobs and look at youtube for free home training. Look u… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 04:28 AM |
| 1 | I called a woman out for emasculating her boyfriendOk, this will sound like I am putting it on men again and...well I kinda am. Women do pushback to social expectations by not shaving, not putting on make up, refusing motherhood or choosing single motherhood. Doing sex works out of choice instead of necessity, etc. There need to be something similar for men. MGTOW without the resentment. That happy wife, happy life bullcrap really needs to die a horrible death. Then again, you can use it as a test. When a woman agreed with happy wife, happy life… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:55 PM |
| -1 | I called a woman out for emasculating her boyfriendWell...maybe what men need to do is loving their women less. Speaking as a woman here. And I know, I know. Sounds controversial. I feel that those grand gestures men do and have done in the past, often were or are linked with some men having difficulty coping when the women are not grateful enough or loving them back enough. It ends up as bad deal for both men and women. Maybe these men should use the same energy they use on loving their women, to love themselves. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Gf asking "do you love me?". what should i say?Uh...seems like simple enough question. Either a yes or a no. And it is perfectly ok to answer with a no. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:26 PM |
| 5 | I called a woman out for emasculating her boyfriendUhh...so I am from Singapore and have been living in different Asian countries. Man...you do not want to hear how a lot of women treat and talk about their husbands/bfs. Who do you think they absolutely whipped first before a tiger mom turned to tigering her kids? In short if you think it is because of anglosphere...nope. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:22 PM |
| 3 | My first formal relationship after leaving the Redpill and it ends up badly. Any advice?Wow man ..this response is kinda mean. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:13 PM |
| 5 | My first formal relationship after leaving the Redpill and it ends up badly. Any advice?Any advice to feel better? You -are- better! Look, you chose to part rather than gaming her. That probably looks like nothing for non-Exredpillers, but coming from an exRPers, dude, that is huge! Opening yourself up meaning also open for possibility that our partners are duds. But what the RPers do is prolonging misery for both by gaming and gaslighting. But this time, you felt disrespected and taken advantage of...and you acted accordingly, by amicably breaking up with her. So dude, continue th… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 04:11 PM |
| 3 | I'm addicted to seeing escorts. I need advice.I reported that person. What use is a man hating person, to the point of wanting death to the half of human population, in this kind of subreddit anyway? I don't even understand if she hates men so much, why does she continue to willingly pain shopping in manosphere? More people should report her. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 07:24 AM |
| 1 | I'm addicted to seeing escorts. I need advice.I trying to say this gently, because you grew up sheltered, but transwomen are women though. There are several subreddits where you can see both transwomen and transmen and they look the same just like you and I. And some of them have had genital reconstructions surgery too. Yes, they cannot get pregnant, but some cis women, despite having uterus cannot get pregnant too. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | I'm addicted to seeing escorts. I need advice.being a poc Depends on location. Western online dating is a brutal place for poc. Men and women. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 06:43 AM |
| -1 | I'm addicted to seeing escorts. I need advice.Too many focus on trans there. Do you have something you want to admit? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 06:41 AM |
| 2 | I'm addicted to seeing escorts. I need advice.Not unhinged at all. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Females of the sub, have you ever cheated on your boyfriend/fiance/husband before?Nay. Never cheated. Married the Alpha. J/k I can never cheat because I will forever be disgusted by men or women who knowingly willing to fuck a taken person (providing these people knew that the person they were going to fuck is already taken). How can I fuck something that disgust me in the first place? I have EE degree and working in mostly men dominated company. I still regularly do Muay Thai and I love pen&paper. I am surrounded by guys. Never hid from anyone that I am happily married and w… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 04:55 PM |
| 9 | Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety?Again, reading this, is there no way (or is it difficult) for women where you are from, to get educated, having a career, getting into leadership position, creating their own business, etc? If yes, then it rather explains why they feel the need to be married for financial security. If you are treating your sugarbabies with affection and mutual respect, on top of the money too, then I do not think many people will see any problem with it. Especially in a place where it is diffcult for women to ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 08:49 AM |
| 7 | Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety?There are plenty of gay sugardaddies and sugarbabies too. Similar actually. The sugardaddies are usually older and much richer and the sugarbabies are often younger and handsome. You are as sugardaddy is different than most men. Most men are not sugardaddy. Besides, are you living in a place where women cannot make their own money or something? Where I live, the women can make money just like any other gender, by working and investing. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 08:35 AM |
| 11 | Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety?If you were a gay man though, you'd still take sugarbabies, just men. You like being sugardaddy, no judgement on that, but you are kidding yourself if it would have been different were you a gay man. You'd still pay for companionship, just the providers are same gender with you. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 08:13 AM |
| 4 | red pill apparently hates working women who are independent who are not so economically dependent but want a submissive obedient housewife who does not work, takes care of the children and lets them leadThese are the same males that will screech about gold diggers. Insecurities so high that any form of independence is a threat to them. So very alpha, so very macho. Feel bad for RPWs. Many are going there thinking it will lead them to some natural born leader with high integrity. Running into highly insecure and disturbed individuals instead. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 08:10 AM |
| 26 | red pill apparently hates working women who are independent who are not so economically dependent but want a submissive obedient housewife who does not work, takes care of the children and lets them leadEven in third world, traditional/conservative countries, the women work. Their jobs often do not get classified as career in traditional sense, but it still something that brings money home. Many of the so called SAHMs there actually have catering, laundry, home cleaning, street hawking, etc businesses on the side. Honestly, it sometimes kinda scares me when I read that some Western based redditors wanting to be a full time SAHM/SAHD with zero side income/side business and a total financial depe… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/05/22 05:55 AM |
| 2 | What do you love about a healthy man?Not insecurity, no. But the idea is, if you are already doing fine without relationship (as in not needing but wanting it), then if the relationship turned bad, your life will still be fine because the relationship is just an addition. I remember a man told me that the life of a man is often lonely and difficult, so many men think if only they have a woman on their side, it will be less lonely and more bearable. Which is problematic because you then needing instead of only wanting, and the secon… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/22 12:23 PM |
| 3 | What do you love about a healthy man?The ones who don't put much value on validations and attention from the opposite sex. The ones who have abundance mentality/plenty of fish in the sea. The ones who can honestly love themselves and treat themselves well. The satisfied men. Because you have never seen these kind of men creating problems, such as mowing down people because they felt like they are being owed something. Because you have never seen these kind of men ended up stalking someone who had rejected them. Because you have nev… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/22 06:23 AM |
| 7 | What do you love about a healthy man?To be fair to him, I dislike also how society still see women in general as maternal and/or nurturing. I know I am free to decide to care for kids and society or not, but I do know that many will balk if I admit that I don't give much shit bout child rearing and homemakering, all because I belonged to that gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/22 06:14 AM |
| 9 | ExRedPill's Purpose - Bashing incels or rehabilitation?I feel like there is a disconnect somewhere between how modern boys and girls are raised? Back then when I was still a little child, the idea of finding prince charming Disney style was common. Thankfully during high school it changed. Why wanting to be with prince charming when you can be a self-governed princess yourself? Why wanting to marry a successful man...when you can be a successful woman yourself? Etc and it really sent a very positive message, because for me and many women my age, we … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/22 01:22 PM |
| 5 | Open Thread: What would you change about this Sub to make it betterMore practical answers might be a good idea. For example, I have run occassionally to former or on the fence young men here wanting to get rid of sexual needs, because it is a burden for them. Difficult to concentrate on other things when it is raging. They wondered if there is a pill (heh) for that. And actually there are medications with diminished sexual desire as side effects, for example beta blockers. Of course something like that, they need to consult their doctors and get presciptions fo… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/22 12:50 PM |
| 6 | ExRedPill's Purpose - Bashing incels or rehabilitation?I am more focusing on ideas on how to 'distract'(?), or refocussed young guys from wanting validation and attention from women and instead self-validate, you know? The result may vary, but a lot of young women are encouraged to find validation and happiness within themselves. (Which is awesome!) Through self-care, through travels, through trying new things, through career, through single motherhood (as in the one with official sperm donor), etc. And I have never really heard something like that … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/22 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Do women have it easier than men?You'd be surprised at how understanding (sometimes too understanding I'd say), at straight men fear of being assaulted by them. I have never personally invited a man home for a hook up or at least with that planned. Isn't that some movie tropes? Usually you invite someone for a clear plan, home cooked dinner and then watching movies. Maybe the night will end with sex, maybe not. Still, the aim is to have a good time for both. I do have a friend who is open for hookups, but it was never a "I invi… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/22 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about boring?All of those unfortunate situations combined? Still in the minority. A country cannot continue to sustain itself if most of their early 20s young men are in that situation. Most people his age are either on entry level or in University/college. Many dorming or roomating or even live alone. There are big chunk of individuals who are depressed and feel like without future, big chunk of individuals who live with their parents still, but all of those combined. Heck even in warzones or poor third wor… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about boring?There are parents who pitched everything they have to get their children cosmetic surgery (double eyelids, stronger jaws, skin whitening, etc) to help their sons and daughters feel better about themselves. I personally know not one, but two, fathers who accompanied their young adult sons to live a new life in a new city, when these sons cannot handle adulting alone. One is from Berlin, following his son to Heidelberg, one is from Boston, following his son to Oregon. Imagine that. Two fathers, pa… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/22 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Do women have it easier than men?Have you ever seen how Middle Eastern, South Asian, North African, etc men interract with each other? Despite the big taboo on homosexuality, these men hugged, kissed, and touched each other aplenty. Meanwhile to do that in the West eh...it carries stigma. I know life is also not sunshine and roses for women in those part of the world too, but if we focus to the men, we haven't heard many PUA, RP, blackpill movements from those parts of the world. Maybe men need to be allowed to be platonically … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/22 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Can we talk about boring?Pom, isn't time to put the blame on your parents already? Your genetic were given by them, your inability to be social and cope with life and loneliness? Well, that came from them too no? Parents have one job. Preparing their offsprings for their adult life. You and your situation are an anomaly. Depressed, little money, living with parents, finding no healthy copium for insecurities, etc. You know that most men your age are not in your position right? Mostly because their parents raised them ri… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Impossible Male Beauty Standards and MasculinityWhat am I supposed to do in such a situation except giving up and eventually dying alone or even killing myself? That sounds like some pity party, don't you think? If he really thinks that those advice is valid and work best for him, he would have taken it. And why do you think he should be responsible for people falling in love with him? Have you been following Amber and Johny court thing? That's the issue with people like OP. Just gender flipped. These people, men and women who punish their pa… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/22 08:34 PM |
| 3 | How famous is the red pill really? How many people do you know who are redpill or mgtow?I have actually met some MGTOW men...without them probably even knowing that they are MGTOW. These men are just men who do not marry or have children and have no desire to do so. Most because they have already found true happiness in they way they live their lives. Just visit some holiday islands like Aruba or its neighboring islands. You'd see many older guys, often single and childless, running their own shops and business, enjoying island life without having wives or kids. It is like a parado… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/22 03:09 PM |
| 4 | Has the redpill made you feel disposable?Hmm... A very best friend of mine, many years ago, on his wedding day, beside his bride too, told me this: we are all replaceable. And his wife nodded in agreement. They added that they can only do their best and live life. And they do not know if they'd still be married after 10 years. But they will not regret those times spent with each other. It is now more than 10 years and they are still happily married and thriving. What I want to say OP is that accepting that we are all replaceable is jus… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/22 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Anybody else feel in a constant state of anxiety when dealing with women because of the redpillYou know...if there is one good thing about RP, that its followers seemed to often fail to implement is; to have abundance mentality. You are playing the game in yout mind even sub-consciously because you are deep inside afraid to lose this woman. And by doing that, you are burdening her. Relationship should not be based on fear of losing one's partner because what if there is no one better than him/her. You and your partner are not going to have a good time often that way. Think in abundance an… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/22 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Trying to understand what is so appealing about RP to men and if some men are more susceptible to itI feel that in a way, traditional women 'have' to be monsters to survive? I came from a place where traditionalism and patriarchy is still (under the surface) the main ideology, though it is changing with time. And the women there really are ruthless towards 'weak men'. Relationship is being seen with adversarial lense than cooperation. And usually if there is a cooperation, it will be between the mother and the son. Which resulted in some very unhealthy mama-boyness. When sex is being seen as s… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/22 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Trying to understand what is so appealing about RP to men and if some men are more susceptible to itI have always wondered how ..red/black pillers or manosphere crowds who chose to be in the lefty space actually fare. This is fascinating and interesting to read. Seems to me that many manosphere men almost always ended up more in right wing sphere than left. Also the part of what basically wanting a ride or die chick. The one who will be there still when you are at your lowest. Then again, it goes against what I feel is two of the best rules in dating (for both men and women, btw). The first is… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/22 04:40 AM |
| 2 | This country desperately needs parents to care more for their children.I assumed by this country you mean somewhere in the West? I can unfortunately say that the Eastern style of upbringing is not stellar either. I moved to Europe in my early 20, but before I grew up in three different countries in Asia, and let me tell you that even in Asia, where children were raised with all of the attention, and also clear instructions how to conduct one's self in society, it is...often problematic still, when it comes to partnership. Most of children upbringing in the East rev… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/22 03:45 AM |
| 35 | Being The Man That Triggering Female DesireThe big S. S stands for Safety. Whenever I talked to different women (friends, coworkers, acquitances, etc), they all have different type of guys they like, different type of personalities they respond best to, different ideas and ideologies on how relationship is supposed to be. The baseline before everything else, is that they need to feel safety first, before they can let any guys in. Makes sense. A lot of women, me included, have been bombarded by unwanted interest since we were 12. A man ca… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Why is this subreddit worse than r/ForeverAlone?I really wonder why people who don't deal well with society never blamed their parents for it? Most people grew up just fine. You knew that you are the outlier. You knew that your numbers are fewer than the so called normies. Why then not thinking that it was the fault of your parents for not preparing you for socialization? For so uncaring about your mental state you ended up like this? Why no anger at the ones responsible the most? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/22 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Sometimes the best one can do is to abstain from any interaction with females for a whileWomen: exists You: I have problems with this. If only people who have problems like you lay the blame on the feet of the guilty, aka your parents. When you see that most adults do not grow up like you, you know who had failed you. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/22 05:56 PM |
| 2 | I have unhealthy thoughts about womenYou know what I think the biggest problem is? There is not enough push/advertisement/movements for positive alternative lifepaths for men. I am talking about straight men here, which are the majority. I feel that for many young straight boys, the ultimate goal is still be someone BF, then maybe husband and then become a father. Or become a very successful individual...with beautiful women in their arms. Which I find to be very sad because many of these still revolve around to be with a or more w… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/22 06:59 AM |
| 2 | What makes you an exredpiller?Nay I agree, especially about the be the best version of yourself is the goal because it means you never stop giving some efforts even when you are already partnered. And about arranged marriage sometimes override what the son/daughter wants, that is correct too. Parents and family are usually putting a lot of emphasis in the family history and the financial success of their future son/daughter in law. A lot of practicallity into it. But nowadays it feels like it is more of a DIY matchmaking, wh… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/22 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitWell I just want to say that unattractive people already have it hard without people often telling them that the answer is always personality. I think the answer is investing more research in plastic surgery, limbs lengthening, double eyelids surgery, hair transplant, etc. Luckily where I am from (Asia), there are more and more acceptance and investments into the technology. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/22 09:48 AM |
| 3 | What makes you an exredpiller?Well...I just feel like (maybe it also has to do with Eastern vs Western dating?) there are a lot of believes that it is impossible to even strive to be 10/10 and it is greedy to want a 10/10. And there are also some wrong stereotypes of less attractive, less successful, less social, etc people are more loyal and they have better personalities (as a result for harder harship?), while people who are attractive, successful, and social butterflies make less ideal partners. I think both sets of peop… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/22 09:40 AM |
| 2 | Is there a way to raise young boys (in the West) to make them less sex/romantical relationship focused?Shame that the author could have made 2 different novels from it but she didn't. Like 1st Novel: How a man deal with hidden trauma of childhood sexual assault. His thoughts, his wrong way of self-medication attempts and finally journey of healing. 2nd novel: a your next door neighbour kind of girl navigating the world of young adulthood post college. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/22 09:26 AM |
| 6 | What makes you an exredpiller?My dad did a lot of childcare too. He was actually the one who taught me a lot of things. Cooking, DIY, sports, you name it. We built our treehouse together. And he was/is very faithful to my mother. Just because women want him does not mean that he entertained them. I knew women wanted him because he was always open about it to my mom and my mom shared it with me. Some of these women even tried to 'buy' me very brazenly. He is so much of a papa bear despite knowing that he is wanted by many. I … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/04/22 06:38 PM |
| 13 | What makes you an exredpiller?Former RPW here. I grew up in a place that was prosperous and modern, but under the surface actually rather socially conservative and traditional. Now there were of course the classic sexism/mysogyny and actually also misandry, the racism, the ethnicism, classism, etc. All those awfulness also created stoic, tough men at the top of the pyramid though. My own dad happened to be such a man. Successful, stoic, women wanted him and men wanted to be him and to have what he has. He gave me such a feel… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/04/22 08:05 AM |
| 2 | Scared of the fact my gf started a new jobHmm...maybe it will help so much to think that when a partner decided to cheat, it actually has nothing to do with you. I feel that you (maybe subconsciously) want to feel like you could have done something to avoid it. For me it is simple. People are either cheaters or not. Want some proofs? Look at WoW/gaming widows, look at deadbedroom or forums for spouses/partners of addicts, etc Many of these poor men and women have gone through neglect, emotional pain, sometimes abuse...and yet most of th… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/22 07:46 AM |
| 7 | Will you succumb to hypergamy if another man is more successful than you?They will complain either way haha. You saw many people complaining about being left for: No good, drug addict/dealers, unemployed, less attractive, etc They complain if they were left for someone with precieved higher 'SMV' just like they will complain if they were left for someone with lower 'SMV'. Is your real worry that you won't be able to find another? Bingo! | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/22 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?No matter how kind and understanding the parents are, I feel it is just hard to completely shake off the remnant feeling of 'authority' from childrearing years from them. Unlike if you were living with roommates. It is hard to explain it by words, but my husband felt it too. When he was like 19, he had to stay away for two weeks while his apartment was being renovated on. His parents happened to just buy a house that was not too far from his apartment then and they of course offered him to stay … | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/22 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?Oh many will, especially fellow Asian traditionalists back home who seemed to think unmarried youth wants to live all alone instead of with mom and dad when he/she does not even need to? What bad intentions are they planning? Is this person even a marriage material? At least if they live with their parents I could trust it to their parents to keep him/her straight. But for me maybe it is because unlike roommate situation (where both are on the same level), parents - adult children co-living situ… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/22 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?Who doesn't? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/22 08:26 AM |
| 4 | Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?For me personally, I would not have dated a man or a woman (if I were bi or lesbian), who is still living with their parents. It is because I'd rather be homeless (and I did live in my car for a week before I was approved for a new apartment during University time) than living with my own parents. While I have good relationship with my parents (and I came from Asia too, where children usually lived with their parents until marriage), living with them is a no-no for me. I dunno why. My husband ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/04/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to raise young boys (in the West) to make them less sex/romantical relationship focused?“50 shades of grey” Wasn't Christian Grey raped by an older woman when he was 15? I think the author wanted to shine light about female child molester and the lingering effect for their victims, but a lot of people just focussing on the BDSM part. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/22 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Importance of Demographics and trp's idea of evidenceIt is all about the money and the predigree (yep. We are that ridiculous) back at home. Sure if you are pretty or handsome you'd get attention, but family name and the amount of money your family have counts for much much more. Richness and family fame is being seen as personal virtue and a lot of people seem to want to have a piece of that. It is something to think about isn't it? Seems like we have difficulty to move away from serfdom eventhough kings and queens stopped being relevant a long t… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/22 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Importance of Demographics and trp's idea of evidenceIt was University in Germany, though these guys had the 'alternatives' (for a lack of better word). Their attention are often being given to extroverted, fun loving and rather 'loud' (in both real voice and personality) female University students. Aka the party girls (but just because they are party girls, did not mean that they neglected their studies). I would think that in an ultra-conservative place, there was no 'alternative/party girls/extroverted girls' who get all of the guys' attention?… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 07:59 AM |
| 3 | Importance of Demographics and trp's idea of evidenceWhy not focus on the regular university-edcucated woman who isn't coked out of her mind and posting nudes on social media ? These women are somehow invisible for them. Even if they are attractive. In my University days, we had plenty enough of 'Hermione Grangers' types (the University is focusing on mostly engineering and medical degrees), and guys somehow did not even register that these women exist. One of these girls confided to me that she never dated and was still a virgin at 25, turning 26… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 09:16 AM |
| 1 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?Exactly all these!!! It could be this simple. Their need to 'game', to get upperhand at some 'shit-tests' or any kind of test. Calculating their moves, calculating other peoples' moves...and thoughts. Even if they managed to find a happy relationship, they will not have time enjoying it. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 09:27 AM |
| 5 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?Desire to provide, even subconsiously might be a part of it, but many are also treating these kind of requests as (borrowing RP-term) shit-test. That the outcome of getting that Boba could have changed the course of the relationship in the future. They tend to over-analyze similar interactions like these based on the outcome. And then even worse, they tried to game the outcome if it came out undesireable, instead of just thinking that the person they are with, might be incompatible with them. Fo… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/22 07:19 AM |
| 24 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?Maybe I can present you with a real life example of a non-pushover but also not abusive behavior? So a few weeks ago, I was really craving Boba tea. My husband on that day happened to have to visit a place beside a mall where one of my favorite Boba tea was sold. I told him about my craving by text and telling him after his business is done there, to please get me some Boba. I came home from work and found no Boba. So I asked him why. He told me that he went to the Mall and saw rows and rows of … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/22 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Do older RP men really have a chip on their shoulder about not having gotten with younger women when they were younger? Why does it motivate them?As much as I like to criticize our culture (let us be honest...we could do much better on the classism and the keeping up face at all cost part lol), I appreciate the more logical(?) part of how relationships back home is often formed. Sure, there is love and fluff stuffs, but since marriage in our culture means combining big family (the most famous saying of 'you are married into his/her family too'), there are plenty of other practical and realistic considerations go into it too. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/22 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Do older RP men really have a chip on their shoulder about not having gotten with younger women when they were younger? Why does it motivate them?I told the above poster about logical love because he seemed to think that innocent, puppy love young adults or teenagers have, is something that is...better? Eventhough the reality is that so many high schools and colleges relationships usually do not last, often because of romanticization of young, pure, puppy love. And as for the part about financially able to provide, I wanted to say that there are men out there who do not have the look -and- the wallet. And isn't their situation even worse … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/22 11:54 AM |
| 7 | Do older RP men really have a chip on their shoulder about not having gotten with younger women when they were younger? Why does it motivate them?I think you romaticized young peoples' relationship a little. We agreed that teenagers/very young adults are filled with hormones while their brains are not matured yet. Every emotion is often amplified and the brain often does not give them logical and best solution to a (relationship-related) problems. I actually chose to abstain from relationship/falling in love in school/University because of that. There have been a lot of good guys who offered, but good guys are everywhere to be found at an… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/22 09:44 AM |
| 5 | How do I avoid the bad women out there?This could have written by a woman too, just gender flipped. Most people want to avoid abusive types, especially the ones who mask their true nature. And this is also the reason why TRP is very hypocritical about this issue. They want to get a true, genuine personality of a woman, but they themselves are LARPing as someone they are honestly not instead. Talking about becoming the one thing you trully hate. As for advice, it is not the matter of choosing wrong, because nobody can read peoples' mi… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/22 07:59 AM |
| 3 | Ex-redpiller but still MGTOW?Nothing WRONG at all to want to be a happy, lifetime single and preparing your life for that accordingly. See it like this, some people decided to procreate, some people don't. Some people decided to keep pets, some people don't. Some people decided to value money over free time, some people do the opposite. You are not wrong or weird or anything like that for abstaining from romantical relationship. I really wish that adamantly single forever people are as celebrated as happy couples. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/22 02:23 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts on betatization?Negging, shit-testing, dreading...all these can be summarized as something that shitty or highly insecure people do to test your boundaries. Often I see in TRPs comments something like "you failed her shit tests..." But the question is... why would you even want to pass it? Your ultimate prize will be some miserable interactions with some manipulative individuals who disrespect your boundaries. Congratulations for that! | /r/ExRedPill | 19/02/22 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Single Mothers yay or nay, Are they damaged goods?These delusional weirdoes act like a lot of men are in danger of accidentally (somehow), being bamboozled into becoming a stepdad. Some weird shit mental gymnastic going on in their head, when a guy is more likely to be involuntary BIOLOGICAL dad (failed contraception, lying about taking it, drunk ONS, etc) than them involuntarily becoming a stepdad. Like how? They are at their wedding, just said "I do" and then the bride pulling a kid from underneath her wedding dress or something? "Surprise! Y… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/22 06:57 AM |
| 4 | Is there any story where dating a single mom has worked out?Even if those relationship does not work out, sometimes it was not even about the kids (as in you and the kid bonds just fine). But maybe someday you found out that she has some ideology you disagreed with, maybe you found out that she is too much of a spender, maybe you realized that you just need to move to a bigger city while she wants to stay where her parents are, etc. A lot of people often focussing too much on the 'raising kid(s) that is not my own' part, that they forgot that relationshi… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/22 10:41 AM |
| 3 | Never was a red pill. But I like to understand ideologies from all types of groups. What do you y’all think of Andrew Tate.Sometimes I feel that some TRPers are so obsessed with some guys (not only about their 'teaching', but also appearance and presence), I am wondering if they are actually not straight but for whatever reason, are still in denial. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/22 09:42 AM |
| 2 | Is dating easier if you’re white??Can't really say about white as in white-white. But I can say something about colorism though. Even among non-white folks, brighter skin (can be bright yellow, bright brown (aka olive, I think), etc. Is preferred. For men and women. It is what it is. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/22 09:38 AM |
| 7 | Is dating easier if you’re white??I hope this is true, gonna make some money selling cock-bleach. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/22 09:34 AM |
| 1 | What are single females past 35 really like? Are they as big of a mess as RP claims?Can I say that it depends on locations/local cultures and customs? When I was still in a more traditional/conservative places, the women over 35 were more open for local/family match-making. When they were younger, they usually prefered to try to look themselves. But there was no panic or something, because older unmarried women can just live with and take care of elderly parents and will be judged even positively for that, thanks to filial piety. In the more modern place where I am from now. We… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/02/22 08:43 AM |
| 5 | This red pilled video has 300k likes on Tik tok. Is it safe to say that the majority of people these days are red pilled?Turned out to be the secret is just to treat everyone like the pooping, barfing and booger digging human beings that they are. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 09:22 AM |
| 1 | About Artificial WombIs this your first time running into a fellow women POC who is not buying a halo effect that women have? And even thinking that halo effect hurting other women because it makes it difficult to report sexual crimes done by women? So other women are not allowed to rent their wombs because richer women who are not in their position said so? And this is why Western Feminism is out of touch with most women. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 09:09 AM |
| 1 | Is there really such a thing as " post wall women?"Looking at friends, acquitances, family and coworkers, I definitely run into the kind of characteristics you have described. However, it is not always a woman who acts like this, see it on plenty of guys too. And second, complete mess is unfortunately quite the right way to describe them. Being around them means either suffering second hand embarassment on a regular, or feeling highly entertained. Nothing in between. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 08:59 AM |
| 0 | About Artificial WombThere's no stopping men from using this to create countless children just to rape and discard them. Child prostitution is not something new, again, from the area I originated from. Come to a poor enough community and you'd find them. Women/mothers who are child rapists and abusers are a plenty too. Even worse is that it is much harder to bring it to justice. I used to think like you regarding which gender actually abuse children more...and then I started to volunteer at organizations who care fo… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 08:44 AM |
| 3 | Current Red Pilled men, what is one problem you face(d) that only Red Pill had a solution for?Men have been discouraged from approaching women the traditional ways but at the same time, we’re still expected to fulfill much of our core traditional roles such as being the pursuer. I have been living in several different countries. The place I am in now (a big city in Germany), the men usually do not approach the women (in general) and you know what happened? Women gladly take the approaching role. Though of course for men who are not being approached by women, they will just feel like noth… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 06:50 AM |
| 1 | MEN..... IT IS OUR FAULTOP, you gotta remember that most abusers are not starting abusive. You can apply this to keeping shitty friendship with shitty friends too, not just romantical. Don't tell me that your ex was already shitty from day one, because I am sure that you would have not ever entertained even getting close to some stranger who treats you badly. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Red Piller Here - Why Should I Quit?I think single parents with young kid(s) should just concentrate on raising their kids and not putting so much thoughts on romance anyway. When even parents who are happy couples, living together, raising kids together, are complaining about how much work raising kids are, always makes me wonder how single parents, between raising kids, job, hobbies and doing housework can invest real time and efforts on new relationship. Unless their kids are older or already left the house. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 0 | About Artificial Womballow this one thing be controlled by men How? A lot of female scientists will be interested in this too. it's a beautiful thing only woman can experience Heard plenty of these from many tradcon men in South East Asia where I am from. Most things I saw from women themselves are just how horrible they felt. My sis in law could not even taken her medications for her Psoriasis during pregnancy. Her parents wanted two grandchildren, so she had to do it once more. Right now our choice is to pay or as… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/22 05:49 AM |
| 3 | "Why are women here?"I remembered that this notion was challenged by some members of TRPers themselves (maybe by them who were not so deep into RP yet?), their counter-argumant was that a lot of submissive people (of any gender) usually are pushovers who let themselves be walked over by others. The question was that how is a submissive partner is supposed to be a 'win'. And many replied with something akin to: "well she has to be a strong and assertive individual against other people...but only submissive to me." Im… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/22 11:38 AM |
| 1 | What made you realize you didn't want to be redpill anymore?promote prostitution and sex dolls Tbf I really can support that. A lot of women will just be much safer if men who have resentment against women are not so focusing on building relationship with average women anymore. Gender flipped, won't you agreed that as a man, you'd feel safer if women who resent men just go out with gigolo and use sex dolls, instead of trying to interact with average guys outside? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/22 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitEhhh they are ok looking GF. Let us not get ahead of ourselves with this. Most are ok GF but few do have hot ones. Saying attractiveness matters little is also slap in the face for ugly women who felt invisible in both their career and their romance life. Let us not gaslit ugly people by saying that it is -only- their personality. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/22 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Woman explains why being a step father is bad.What if that man want to be step father themselves? I don't understand how a man can be bamboozled to be a step father. How long can his partner hide it from him until he married her that she has children? Easier to be bamboozled to be a BIOLOGICAL fathers by way of lying about taking pills than being trapped into stepfathering role. What about stepmothers? Are they cucked too? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 02:31 PM |
| 11 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitUhh...this is well meaning but not always the reality. Come on, appearance matter for a lot. There is a reason why beauty industry is making as much killing as it is. Saying that it is only the matters of personality only create incels and femcels. And the many 'I love my partner but I am not sexually attracted to them' threads. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 03:54 AM |
| 8 | 24 (f) redpill ideology has left me confused and scarred by past relationshipYou know those men who got cheated on by their wives? Raising kids that are not theirs without knowing. Having to endure abuse from the wives but stay? In similar situation with OP, just gender flipped? Really a headscratcher moment right? Well you can thank the most terrible relationship advice for that. The good old and terribly dangerous "ReLAtiONship is wOrk" mantra. Many men and women grew up with steady diet of this mantra, so they did not bail early when they see redflags. They try to do … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 08:03 PM |
| 11 | "Why are women here?"Thank you for writing this. I grew up in a culture that many TRPers liked to imagine as their dream culture (traditional patriarchy), but they never realized how much burden they have to be able to carry if they really live that life. I used to think that I could find a stoic, mentally strong partner in TRP. I should have known better when many of their demands to women including 'be submissive'. Only the weakest, most insecure and the most fragile individuals demand submission from others. Then… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 07:46 PM |
| 6 | About Artificial WombI think I am one of the very few women who support more research into artificial womb. First time I saw it, it was on the news, a lamb fetus was inside it. You know what I felt by then? Relief actually. Relief that perhaps in the future, women will have the CHOICE to NOT having to going through 9 months (or more) of physically taxing changes in their bodies and then culminating on giving birth, either via torn vagina or being gutted like fish. Right now the only alternative if you want it to be … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Woman explains why being a step father is bad.Am I missing something or do people are being forced to be stepfather or stepmother nowadays? (As in so much that it becomes a problem and we need to talk about it) It is easy enough even for biological mother and biological father to not be mother and father to their kids, why would it be hard for rando not to become a step parent? "Oh you have kid(s)? Bye". There. Easy. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/22 10:01 AM |
| 7 | My Red pill friend got a bitter taste of reality.So if it is a lesbian woman trying to score tail by using same tactic, it will make it better somehow? Or that if this story is about two gay men? You got invited into a holiday by your closest friend, you gone to the holiday and then there you found out that this friend just wanting to sell you his/her MLM wares. You did not buy the product cause it is shit. Then this friend lamenting that you take advantage of him/her. Do you still think it is fair? Look, if he told her before: "I will spend 1… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 01:28 PM |
| 10 | My Red pill friend got a bitter taste of reality.How is he getting played? Paid 100 USD out of his own will and felt cheated when he did not get sex. Same situation as a woman sexing a guy in order to worm her way into relationship but failed. Both of these individuals are narcs who are trying to pull a covert contract. Google about it. We all also know this one desperate person at some point in our lives, who tried to be yes man/woman just in order to be part of our friends cicle. Same pathetic covert contractor. These people are not getting … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 09:04 AM |
| 17 | I Don’t Know If My Experience With Redpill Is The Cause Of My Current Success In The Dating SceneWhat I don’t do is: Dread game, outright lie to women, or “punish” their “bad behavior” Turned out to be the real recipe of success by using TRP is by not using TRP or using it wrong lol. OP, you are honest to these women about your intention (this is you confident enough to be open and vulnerable to them. Which many TRPers will see as BrEaKIng FrAAAaamE'), you enjoy your time with them and you do not degrade them, you can recognize that 'a hole is just a hole' is not right because normal people… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/22 11:49 AM |
| 6 | serious question: how do you trust people?if a theoretical business partner, backstabs me, i'll be bitter for life and might not recover. Ha, this happened to my husband a few years before I met him. Not only his former business partner stole so much money from the company, this person and my husband were childhood friends too. They used to share everything just like blood brothers. Later my husband found out that this person has a secret gambling and coke addictions. So what did he do then? Well for a while it was just simply focusing … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/22 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Why we do struggle to admit that looks matter a lot for men?The 'demands' for the man's qualities are more subtle, but it is there. Afterall, many still think that the man is supposed to be head of the family (though usually the real leader is the eldest matriarch), so there is a long list of requrements too, that a guy must fulfilled. In the East for relationship and maeriage, it feels like it is often more big family matters than sole private decisions. Though I might be mistaken...but spinsters are treated more gently than in the West right? Especiall… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/22 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Why we do struggle to admit that looks matter a lot for men?still won't admit it Some of them do admit it...in private company. This is one of the reason why even after living for a while in the West, I still have difficulty accepting Western side of 'enlightement'. As an non-white, naturally more politically left folks want to get to know me and befriend me than the politically right ones. And I am politically leaning more to the left than to the right too (for some aspects). However there are also plenty of problems in the left. Often it is ideals vs r… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/22 04:23 AM |
| 3 | Why we do struggle to admit that looks matter a lot for men?There are some virtue signaling going on in Western dating world, I feel. I think it meant well at first, trying to be inclusive and all, but it oftens just ended up leaving people feeling disappointed when down the line, what classically seen as desireable is still winning. I am from the East and it is ok to honestly say (for straight men), that they want a pretty, slim, smart, young and if possible rich/coming from a good family woman. And for straight woman, it is ok to say that they want a r… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 10:57 AM |
| 6 | How can any exredpill men or men in general attract women?Romance and intimacy is something on another whole level. See, I often said that RP or PUA might be enough to get you ONS or other short term, but eventually frame breaking will enter as soon as that person wanting a deeper relationship. And if while one can buy a spouse from poorer countries, it does not guarantee that the relationship will evolve into something more wholesome down the line. I am a woman who is surrounded by men. Through my job (engineering), my hobbies (Muay Thai and tabletop … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/01/22 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Question for europeansTake this with a grain of salt... But I feel that most German women are confident enough (some even preffered it) to approach first. However, it is also entirely possible that their interest is just completely platonic. But now this is the good news, they often make good friends to their male friends. The friendship will not be one-sided. They will lend an ear or even go extra miles in helping with documents and bureaucracy, they drive you around when they have time, they help you buying and tra… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/01/22 01:33 PM |
| 22 | Question for europeansI am in Germany too and can support your observations. Especially about the part that sex happens more often in relationship instead of out. ONS and FWB happens, but generally both the women and the men are having fun with it and no one felt taken advantage of. All in all less physically shallow and less materialistic. I am originally from Singapore and the dating market is much harsher/demanding/shallower there. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/22 11:48 PM |
| 3 | 24 year old loser. Not sure where my life is going.Isolate your problems, solving them 1 by 1. This is good advice when cleaning a house too, for example. Going to one room first, usually the smallest. Done with one, go to another room. When one has too many problems all at once, even taking the first step feels so heavy. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/22 02:17 PM |
| 1 | The nonsense inside MGTOWOh they definitely have the reason and the right to be angry, however just like you see how overly angry people taking over spaces, too many of them in one place will ruin a community. Productive discussions got shafted, threads about good ideas quickly disappeared because of less upvotes compared to angry rants, people who ask genuine questions did not get enough informative answers, etc. It turned into angry people hyping up other angry people to keep the anger. Because for some it feels good … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 08:41 AM |
| 3 | The nonsense inside MGTOWWho said I didnt hate my parents? Lol. Have you demanded some kind of real responsibility from them? Monetary for example? Surgical way to get your penis bigger, if you willing to take the chance? Until there is a real payment to be had, there is always something missing. angels When you see people as only angel or demon, you are going to have a bad time. Either you'd put them too high in pedestal or you'd hate them even before knowing them better. Also, again, back to logic (because I like to b… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/22 05:39 PM |
| 3 | The nonsense inside MGTOWChildren talk about penis? Also this kind of thinking is a big part why a lot of men in (especially) third world countries, work themselves to the bones to support elderly members and many female members in their family. This kind of thinking does not do men favor. Also reading your comment history, you seem to be angry that some women are attracted to big penis. And let's say you do not have that, doesn't the fault lay on your genetics? So your biological parents are the cause of your misery. I… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/22 04:36 PM |
| 9 | The nonsense inside MGTOWI used to be very, very encouraging of MGTOW men (back then it was also not yet this bad, more talks about FIRE, hobbies, home improvements, travels, etc than women bashing). The reason for my encouragement to them is that seeing what happened to my male friends and family. Coming from Asia, while expectation for daughters are high, expectations for sons are higher. Like sometimes too ridiculously higher. Too many died young either because of stress, exhaustions, dangerous workong conditions, et… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/22 08:13 AM |
| 15 | Theses are the red pillers. Old men trying to radicalize the younger generation.racism never existed Uh...what the fuck? What prompted him to say something like this? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/22 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Average looking male slipping back into redpillI am sorry you have a hard time right now, OP. I really am. There are several things I want to adress though. First of all, not that I completely support blackpill, but physically attractiveness have massive value in this world. I am from Asia, so I did not grew up with the (well meaning but unrealistic) virtue signaling about being shallow if one is caring about physical attractiveness. Double eyelid sugery, jaw surgery, skin bleaching, diet and exercise, etc...those are things we openly talked… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/22 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Please help...Am I missing something??women hate being cold approached Different women will react differently to this, I am sure. Even among my fellow women friends, we act differently, down to the way we accept or reject. I got cold approached quite often, usually either being offered to get to nearest cafe for lunch or if I want to take their numbers. Happened everywhere too. During grocery shopping, in a train once, when I was walking my dog, etc. I always politely told them "no, thank you" and when they asked why, I just told th… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/22 08:06 AM |
| 15 | I hate this man. So hypocriticalWhen I was still avid reader of that subreddit, they either reacted dismissively at best or rather hostile at worst, to some wandering gay men who were asking if TRP methods would have worked on men too. And comments about not associating with LGBTQ+ people (or downright avoiding them, but always started with the variant of 'I am not racist but' aka 'I don't care who anyone like to fuck but...'), often going so far as to avoid serious relationship to women with gay friends for example, and the c… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/22 11:16 AM |
| 6 | I hate this man. So hypocriticalThat's a weird self-burn right there. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/22 08:44 AM |
| 2 | Dread Game Is NonsenseWell...to be honest I also have another reason to push this idea as alternative. Being a woman who spent many years in Muay Thai and Kick Boxing, I can always say that women really get the short end of stick when it gets to physical prowess. Skills can help, but limited. What I meant to say is that we live in a world where (mostly) half of the population is stronger than us...and unfortunately, we are not invisible from them. So...I was rather hoping that maybe there will be less rape and sexual… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/22 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Dread Game Is NonsenseWe really really need to invest on research to improve real dolls and equipt them with good AI. And also to get rid of the stigma of men taking their real doll out to restaurants or posed pictures with them. When desire for sex is that big, there should be alternative that does not bother or involve other human being. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/01/22 08:34 PM |
| 2 | All ‘pills’ when it comes to dating are GARBAGE created by dudes who don’t leave their room.Ah...so that is where the infamous term of 'trophy wife' is coming from. Because unlike women, men do not desperately hoping for that sweet sweet validations from their friends. Another example, can't be seen dating fat women...because it is like reading a child's bike. It is fun, but not when your friends are seeing you doing it. Famous saying too. Including wanting to lose that oh so burdensome male virginity, so that Joe and Mark next door will not think of you as beta. Niceeeee~ | /r/ExRedPill | 01/01/22 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Can seduction be learned? a.k.a “Game”Of course it can...but not in the way PUA like to sell it. There is no "ok, these are the signs, kino now to escalate before you are losing momentum!" Different people react differently. People learn 'accidental/subconscious' seduction just like how they learn social skills. By surrounding themselves with others, interacting with them, over and over again. And even then, there is no fixed rules. You interact with people in a club differently than how you interact with another group of people you… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/12/21 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Older women and datingWell...the sad thing is a lot of the older women who have done no work on themselves, still have men wanting to be in a relationship with them. I would have called this bullshit when I was younger, but then I grew up and run into some old women who have nothing going on for them (not even a job) and still have men wanting to be their husbands. It might be true/genuine love, but my more cynical side is thinking that these men are probably looking for future private nurse or something. But doubtfu… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/12/21 04:07 PM |
| 5 | There’s a conflict I would like to get your views on. Mark mansons models vs rational male Rollo TomassiPersonally, I think it depends on what you are aiming for. If you just want to have ONS and no follow up, faking a persona (and dress/style accordingly), right time and right place (clubs, some people's private party, etc) and do the numbers game...well try it often enough and it will eventually work. However there are just few people (on any gender and sexual orientation, btw) that can and want to just do that for a long time. Many who tried eventually felt how empty it feels and many fell into… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Women of exredpill - Is Alpha Fucks Beta bucks true?Dude, she is not your mother. Look, real and honest and raw talk here. I see how a lot of Desi mothers raised their sons. And boy, they are great at instilling that kind of Madonna-whore complex and both sense of insecurity-victimhood early, aren't they? Combined that with bringing their brown sons to live in a white majority countries where well...the beauty standards will be overwhelmingly white. Still, she is not your mother. No use to be angry at random woman. Better to just start to accept … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 1 | the fertility's rateI am always so torn about this kind of question. So my husband and I do very well financially...and we can cut back on working hours to raise a child. We were talking about vasectomy and stuffs instead. First of all, you are not racist or hateful to wonder about the future of your race (I am Asian, not only we talk about future as a race...we actually talk about future of our sub-race(?)/ethnicity. As for example, from where I come from, Singapore-Indian, Singa-Malay, Singa-Chinese, etc will all… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 02:34 PM |
| 40 | Women of exredpill - Is Alpha Fucks Beta bucks true?Disclaimer, I have lived in several places. Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong and now Germany. You'd be disappointed to hear that well...most relationships I know are not as dramatic as TRP making it out to be. There is not really an AF/BB thing. Most people I know either met their partner in high school, college, or at the beginning of their working lives. Then they stayed together through their 20s. Some married, some not. Some even have children. And then turning 30s, some of them (both the men… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 10:22 AM |
| 4 | How did you feel when your boyfriend or husband took the red pill?I have a crazy question to ask... Is he somehow 'in the spectrum'? And do this guy's kids are 'mixed' (does not have to be about race, could be about social/financial status, more developed/less developed countries, etc). It is just that...he does not sound like someone who would have 'needed' RP at all. And yet he needed it, so I imagined a rather socially struggling person (though a lawyer?) whose past relationships was with women who were in a less than equal position than him. Or maybe I am … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 04:04 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Yep. Their problems, not mine. And I did more than just avoid, I completely cut ties. These people know that there are professional therapists with years of education focusing on mental problems, so they actually know where to go. I solved my insecurity problems by getting better at martial arts and getting engineering degree. Other people solved their insecurity problems by joining theater, debate clubs, even taking drugs that can give them temporary self-confidence boost. It is up to that pers… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 02:43 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]my insecurities Errr...you kinda answered your own question here. It sounds mean, but I avoid insecure people even for purely platonic friendship. And by people I mean of both/any gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 02:08 AM |
| 5 | How did you feel when your boyfriend or husband took the red pill?Why would you not want your partner to be in peak physical condition and focusing on his career? The ones who are already there never needed RP in the first place and the ones in the RP are just LARPing/wishing to be those men who never needed RP in the first place. A lot of RP gurus are not the Henry Cavill they wished themselves to be. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/21 01:19 AM |
| 1 | What were your goals when you encountered the red pill? when you were exiting the doctrine?learn how to reproduce without them via super advanced technology. Oh and every man would have at least one sex android. Wait...wait... I think plenty (or at least enough) women would have agreed to this part. Being seen as 'vessels' is a burden of its own and who does not (at some points of their lives) want a build a perfect partner of their own? Do you think artificial womb and a physically attractive male/female sex bots with great AI will not sell like hot cakes for the female population? N… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/21 12:30 AM |
| 2 | I've gotten close to falling down the redpill pit several times over the past ten years. How did you realize it wasn't the way?I wished more GUYS are like your ex-GF. Seriously. I see too many guys letting their boundaries being pushed because they are afraid of going back into the dating pond. And I get it, dating process suck real bad. People left home with hope (or just send first message with hope really), only to come back feeling dejected and rejected. But it is OK to enforce boundaries. It is even healthy. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/21 07:05 AM |
| 3 | If red pill is not the answer what is?If you want to get that plastic surgery, do it. But research well about the location, the doctor, etc. You are an adult with body autonomy, you can exercise it however you want to. The only thing you can control is yourself, and just like many things in life (getting good jobs, winning a competitions, etc) many things are about numbers game (repeating over and over). However, before you get back into the dating world (maybe after your surgery, to get that nice boost in confidence), try to find o… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/21 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Massive blackpill dropped by my own auntFuck man Oshin was brutal. My grandma introduced me to it. Holy shit...Oshin. Now that brings back memories. As an Asian myself, I often wonder where is the border between just Filial Piety and Confusianism tradition vs simply emotional (and physical) abuse based on class difference and/or seniority? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/12/21 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Massive blackpill dropped by my own auntThats why Hollywood/western media in general has a hard time letting other PoC in even though its been shown to be massively successful without a white lead. We could wait forever if we want these kind of Western media to ever be genuinely woke instead of just pandering and tokenism. Instead we should just watch/consume more of what non-Western (Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Indian, African, etc) cinemas have to offer. There is little language barrier honestly because most of them have good subtitl… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/21 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Balancing out Self Improvement from RPIt is up to you, but I'd suggest you to perhaps also look for and watch self-improvement channels aimed mostly at women. And then take notes, how many of those are similar to these so called self-improvements for men ideas. All the things you've mentioned, getting physically fitter, more self-confidence, better social skills (how to talk to men/women), how to take care better of your finances (including investing, taking care of future retirements, etc)...are things commonly found in female orie… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/12/21 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Ladies of /exredpill what makes you want to help men leave the Red Pill?I am here because I am formerly believing in Red Pill. Thinking that I could find strong men there. I was completely misguided. When I moved to the West, I was disappointed with many of the men I talked to. Many are...mentally weak. Life in the West made it easy for a lot of men (compared to many other cultures where men have to function as leaders, helpers, sacrificers, whipping boys, etc) and it showed and it was a real shock. Perhaps it was lack of proper father figures that many of these boy… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/12/21 01:39 PM |
| 12 | Fuck the red pill toxicity for ruining my relationshipCan't tackle human to human relationship like tackling a difficult math exams unfortunately (fortunately?). Maybe someday when human have become more machine than human, there will be a real formula that can be used. For now, for every woman that hate to be double texted, there will be some who see constant texting as joy/prove of your genuine interest. For every woman who will be creeped out by grand gesture during knowing period, there will be some who will see it as a sweet act of an infatuat… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/12/21 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Ladies of /exredpill what makes you want to help men leave the Red Pill?We got to clear something here. Right now I am living in Germany (country where prostitution is legal) but I originated from Singapore (prostitution is not illegal...but they make it often difficult for sex workers to work in peace openly.) Also Singapore is more traditional/conservative than Germany as a whole. In no country, I feel that you'd be just offered sex willy nilly as a guy. And even in the most conservative countries...there are still men who cannot find anyone. In countries like Afg… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/12/21 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Ladies of /exredpill what makes you want to help men leave the Red Pill?How are you to tackle my issue? First, are you living in a place where prostitution is legal and regulated/protected (to avoid hiring workers who were trafficked)? I had a former coworker who was in your position. For his birthday, me and several other coworkers (mostly women), made a mini go fund me and hired a sex worker for him who offered girlfriend experience. We chatted with the sex worker first and then after making sure that she was down for it too and the payment suited her, we went thr… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 7 | Bad RP dating mantra: The woman is acting like an asshole because you're not assertive/masculine enough. Her shitty behavior is on you, somehow.So you've talked to 28 millions of women who all gave you the same answers? And that is just the cost to fly with. Is there no balance between being completely spiness and being a tyrant? Did your father or father figure taught you nothing about it while growing up? | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you know your ex is going to be a alpha widow after you break up with her?Are there people who are pining over their exes? Yes, for sure. But mid 20s person with a job, nice dwelling, fit and attractive are not that high of a bar tbh. Depending on the city, it could even be the bare minimum for many. ...it looks like, from the way you described her, that you will be the Alpha Widower one though. Exes are exes. End of. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/12/21 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Is anyone else tired of these pill ideologies?I think people in general are just having too much time on their hands nowadays. Higher standards of comfort, better technology, no longer needing to be our parents' retirement plans, and while many people are financially struggling, most in the West have food security (even if junk food) like no other before. Romantical relationship got pushed up into main focus...and also main way to distract many from their financial hardships. Technology will catch up to romantical relationship (hopefully) s… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/12/21 11:41 AM |
| 2 | *Sigh* is this what red pill is turning intoThe emojis said it all. I think I hit too many raw nerves. All good. And sure, I believe you are dating an American woman. I also believe that you think the traffic light is one of your oppressors too. How dare they turn red?!?! Get good also at ducking bullets. You know what the US school system is world wide famous for afterall. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/21 04:25 PM |
| 2 | *Sigh* is this what red pill is turning intoMore like feeling sorry. I share with many of those girls, the feeling of being put on pedestal (because of my race, or my culture) by well...foreign men who actually himself know deep inside that they not all that great, but either too delusional or too proud to admit it. At least the sex tourist, whore monger ones are often honest about it and are not trying to sell themselves as something they are not. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | *Sigh* is this what red pill is turning intoSo...ESL male teacher either late 30s or early 40s then? I kid, but seriously, you should talk to more ESL teachers because you guys gave out similar sales pitch. Including the speech about the local guys as inferior and the women back home as not up to standard. Oh and also the "totally different than those shitty, shameful, evil sex tourists!" You feel that I am shaming you? What about just going the whole hog and say that I oppress you? I want to flex and be able to genuinely say that as an A… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/21 03:51 PM |
| 2 | *Sigh* is this what red pill is turning intoI am Singaporean and somehow just from your reply I smell a lot of 'ESL male teacher' stinks from it. I think it is because I heard a lot of similar talks among ESL male teachers or (weirdly enough) Travel Agency male owners. I am not against people going cross countries/continents to find their partners. I am even for it. I am plenty happy to see interracial couples. However let us not do the whole 'Western women are not feminine!' speech. They are. And this comes from an Asian woman. Plenty of… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/21 11:26 AM |
| 2 | MGTOW: A Losers Mindset, Or Do They Have A Point?Just a warning, I am going to write a novel length response to this (sorry, can't help it, it just hits a lot of personal experiences). So please forgive the length. I was born in Singapore (a melting pot of religions and race really, but Buddishm and Christianity often takes most prominent place). Grew up there and then moving for a few years to Hong Kong. Not feeling at home, I continued on to Germany. Where I still am living (and thriving?) today. And funny that in the wikipedia link you gave… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/11/21 01:26 PM |
| 2 | MGTOW: A Losers Mindset, Or Do They Have A Point?Era of monasteries went down because people believe less and less in religion (and I am -not- saying that it is a bad thing). So there needs to be something akin to pagan monasteries. But without a strong ideology behind it, bordering to fanatism (as in believing in higher power that will see your monk-ways as virtuous and will be rewarded in afterlife), what will make pagan or non-religious monastery can stand the test of time? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/11/21 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Is it generally a good idea to avoid dating/befriending someone that uses social media a lot (stuff like instagram, twitter, etc.)?My personal experience about this were all platonic and were woman - woman friendship. So I don't know if it can answer your question. But I haven't gotten any good experience from staying friends with people who are very active as 'influencers' too. Gosh I hate that word. One woman that I knew since we were in junior high is now pushing make up that has skin whitening effect on them to everyone she knew. Everything, from food to places we went to, to purchases, etc... All were being seen as cha… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Wondering what's an exRPerBut aren't you now not thinking for yourself if you follow the pill anyway? I honestly really hope that more men will adopt the "I don't need no woman" thinking. But really honestly think like that, not just to cope for loneliness. Because then the rate of sexual assault and violence done by men towards women will plumet. I hope there is a pill for that. It will make men happy just by themselves and women safer to live their lives. Win win. As a bonus, less populated world too. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/11/21 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Wondering what's an exRPerIt is strange that you need to take some kind of 'pill' at all to understand that you need to do best for yourself though. It is as if as a woman, I need to join some more extreme ideology, to be a woman who can enforce her boundaries, living independently instead of depending on other adult, and taking care of mental and physical health. My parents were the one taught me all those thing. Not some kind of pop-culture ideology or 'pill'. Your parents were not doing their jobs when you needed some… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/11/21 07:20 AM |
| 4 | What Does The Self Help Community Look Like For Women?Does it have this exact same toxic rabbit hole or perhaps a different side of it? Just like so many things. It is often started with some good advice like in r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/ . If you go into all time top posts, you'd see mostly practical advice. And since it is from women for women, the advice will not be seen as victim blaming, but preventative. And then of course, stay long enough eventually you'd run into some posts that will send you into a more ehh...angry subreddits. And I can imag… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/11/21 07:12 AM |
| 1 | I’ll be honest I’m a loser+1 your advice. I'd suggest him Muay Thai because that is what I do, but other martial arts are legit too. I think a lot of young men nowadays are suffering because they've never really been told to find and walk their own life journey without a partner on their side. Meanwhile us women (even I who grew up in Asia) were taught to be independent or to rely on own's parents of there is trouble and not on future male partner (this one is perhaps only Eastern thing). | /r/ExRedPill | 15/11/21 07:04 AM |
| 6 | For men who constantly get rejected where did they go wrong and why are they like that?I have to speak up on behalf of guys I know that got rejected every so often and staying single involuntarily. None of them are acting like that. All of them are just ordinary, very normal human being. What happened is, believe it or not, often down to bad luck. And a simple wrong place and wrong time. Oftentimes the woman they express interest on are unfortunately not open for relationship because they (the women) were on 'monk mode'. Yes, women can have monk mode too. Where they focus on thems… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/21 01:45 PM |
| 13 | questions from a woman for ex-red pill swallowersIt will only get more exhausting. Other perspective: you are the woman version of one of those men who are dating a stereotypical angry tumblrina who blame everything on men. You are one of those token minorities friends who got mentioned, whenever a racist got caught doin racist stuffs and wanting to do the mea culpa. I am sorry to say but you really did ignore those red flags. Your BF is the male version of 'can't handle me at my worst don't deserve me at my best' individuals. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/11/21 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Want to give up TRP but it’s the only thing that worksas the mask slips eventually. Not surprised. Do you think great actors and actresses act their role 24/7? Of course not. Do you actually want long term stability and relationship or just some short time fun ?(and nothing is wrong with short time fun. Not everyone has to do the long term relationship stuff.) Because if you want the former, how do you achive that by being too busy acting out a role and thinking about strategy? Imposter syndrome but for relationship, I think I've heard it all. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/11/21 08:59 AM |
| 3 | Do you think the "bad boy"(good looking but cruel, selfish etc) argument goes both ways?Dude. That is like a normal life for a normal married guy. That is the life my father, my brother and my husband has. You have a father right? How is his life? Did he have to argue to have sex with your mother, did he get cheated on and living in a dirty house with barren fridge? | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 1 | CuriousI don't shame you, I shamed your parents for making you pedestalizing women in the first place. I think if more people can admit that their parents re garbage at upbringing, then TRP should not have to exist. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/21 11:10 AM |
| 2 | CuriousWhich part of TRP actually helped you to be a better person? If it is the "don't be manipulative", "be stern with your boundaries and do not be a pushover", "don't take shit", "be the best version of you", "do not set yourself in fire to keep others warm", etc part..... Well I have a bad news for you. Those are things you supposed to learn from your parents and grandparents. Or at least their parental figures. And most people do not need TRP telling them that. It says more about your parental fi… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/21 09:54 AM |
| 1 | I deserved to be sexless and single for almost a decade. Because I was a rude and disgusting misogyniststopped putting them on a pedestal and stopped being a cringey "nice guy" Isn't this just very normal, healthy and ordinary look on life that one should have gotten, even without any 'pill' though? I am curious what actually makes some young guys starting out by pedestaling women or acting like NiceGuys in their youth. Is it the kind of movies/entertainments being marketed to them? Is it having to do with their parents failing parenting? And one other thing to think about is that some guys actua… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 15 | Not only this post from r/seduction is cringy, it gives false hopes to struggling young men. What do you all think?when they’re in their forties they’ll be more masculine, better looking, confident etc. Sometimes I wonder if they've ever seen men in their 40s - 50s with their own eyes. Most are not doing so well. The ones who were working physical jobs are now just 'harvesting' the negative fruits of their labor which means a lot of doctors visitations. Others pruned from many years of alcohol abuse. Many looked just exhausted with life in general and are just done. Plenty are started to get anxious about th… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Do you enjoy or get off on rejecting men? Has there ever been a time when you enjoyed rejecting someone?I hate it. If I can pay someone to outsource rejecting guys, I will do just that. A gay friend of mine helped me out rejecting a guy or two in the past. This friend of mine is super bear-like. Great at making a point to them guys. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/10/21 02:51 PM |
| 5 | mgtow is just a sham and they fool themselvesThey underestimated the degree of loyalty third world daughters (and sons) have for their own family. And by family I mean their biological family and the new wife/husband only counts after a long period of time and many loyalty (usually financial related) proven. The most common saying is that "you marry them -and- their family". | /r/ExRedPill | 16/10/21 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Thank God this place exists - my storyI must be cold, distant, and generally show no interest in them. I constantly worry that if I show any affection they will start to not like me, and in order to get women to like me, I have to pretend to not care about them. It could be age problem and that you'd see less and less of this when you got older. My own personal experience when I was that age, was that boys who are cold and distant were 'safer' even in platonic friendship. A lot of young girls started to get harrassed around the age … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/21 10:06 AM |
| 1 | A month later still doing the damn pick me danceI am creepy because I looked at someone's posting history? Ok then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/21 01:13 AM |
| 1 | A month later still doing the damn pick me danceAlso how could you sympathize with OP when your current situation should have made you sympathize more to OP's ex? You are also being harassed by a soon to be ex who refused to just leave you alone. Even down to the suicidal thought thing to gain some sympathy. You yourself is in OP's ex position and you should have known better than anyone else, what kind of shitty feelings and situation it is, when an ex just does not want to let go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/21 12:34 AM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.Expecting people to achieve some sort of enlightened nirvana-like state before having children is unrealistic True, but here you have children (adult children) of these parents blaming everyone else, you and me included, for something that we have nothing to do with. Meanwhile zero blame to their parents. Men and women are doing this btw, just in case you think I am biased to certain gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/21 12:27 AM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.This was what I was trying to say in the first place if you follow my chain of convo with OP. He is blaming random women for the wrong that his parents did. I tried to tell him that and he implied that I was just saying that because I am a woman and he is a man. No way hose! I despise people who blame strangers instead of their own parents. No matter which gender or sexual orientation they belong to. And so I tried to give the opposite example (with the some women and the fathee issues). | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/21 12:05 AM |
| 1 | A month later still doing the damn pick me danceDoes not need to be a guy, could be a girl or a genderless person. If they told you that they cannot stop contacting someone after this person told them to stop contacting, what would you have said? What if your coworker keeps on making the same mistake over and over again despite knowing better? What will you say? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/21 12:00 AM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.Badly formulated sentence, my bad. What I wanted to say is that some women who grew up with absent fathers, projecting that anger of being neglected in totally random men. Instead of only focusing that anger on one person responsible,aka, the absent dad. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.You can. You just love them too much not to so. And that blaming others are easier. Just the same like some women who blame men for having absent fathers. Where were they when you were bullied? Did they even ever offer you something to help at all? In Asia some parents pay for their children double-eyelids surgery and other kind of beauty enhancements. Sorry that we are in the East were not raised with Western style feel good bullcrap. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.Do you prefer me to tell you that classic line of 'it is the inside' that counts? Do you think I would have treated you differently if you were a bitter woman who blame the world for the lack of mens' attraction on random men in general? I view people who spare their breeders the scorn and blame random strangers as scums instead. Men, women, non-binary. Straight, Gay, Ace. Better now? | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.I agreed to the second half of your message. The first one though, yes, we cannot control it...but our parents could. Ideally, people eventually arrived in their own 'zen' destination. But a lot of people who are still in anger phase often blame the completely wrong group. Let me give you a positive example then: I live a good life. I have never been bullied at school. I never had any drugs problem or something. I was raised by a strong, kind and honest parents. My parents told me that brain is … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 04:26 PM |
| 3 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.Serious reply. We are as human are too forgiving of parents when their children ended up struggling as adults and well...often created problems that affected strangers instead of the parents themselves. Sometimes it is nature sometimes nurture. Parents are responsible for both. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 04:01 PM |
| 6 | A month later still doing the damn pick me danceI will be frank with you, I think you must have some sort of narcissism in you. You might love your soon to be ex-wife, but your respect for her is zero. You did not take her seriously when she said she needed help. You are not taking her seriously when she now said that she has already moving on. Do you love your boss at work? Perhaps not. But do you respect him? Well at least you will not pester him if he told you that you are fired. If you can take your boss' words for yes as a yes and no as … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/21 03:43 PM |
| -1 | I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.By being logical of course. You said your problem is that you are physically unattractive yes? Then grab Biology book and take the problem to the people who really did you dirty. Aka your biological parents. They were the ones decided to continue their genes. They created you. Now you run into difficulty in life...and you let them get away with it and blaming random women instead? Come on!!!! Logic please! Everytime you start to think badly about women, think that logically, none of these women … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 01:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you cope with lacking facial attractiveness? The red pill is toxic, but at least offers some solutions. What are way's to get past this flaw without resorting to manipulative red pill tactics?And it is not like most people who are against this kind if arrangement is going to personally financially help the individuals needing the financial stability either. Virtue signaling at its best. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/21 07:20 AM |
| -2 | How do you cope with lacking facial attractiveness? The red pill is toxic, but at least offers some solutions. What are way's to get past this flaw without resorting to manipulative red pill tactics?Controversial, but what about uh...looking for a partner in a poorer community/areas/countries? It will most likely be a companionship in exchange for financial security kind of relationship, however adults human should decide what is good for themselves. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 08:48 AM |
| 1 | How many Chads do women sleep with before going for beta and is it true that they do it?Nay, I respect religious people but I belong in no religion. If you are wondering why I was not interested in pre-marital sex before I got married, it was more because I just feel more comfortable having it after knowing someone very well for a while. That took time. My (then) BF who is now my husband, happened to be into same thing too. He is also not a Christian. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Here's the reason why women are pickyI do not want to be crucified... But I went to University both in Asia (just for a few semesters) and then in Europe (the longer ones). I did not see the rom-com like University life in both. There was no partying that ended up in sex for the chads and staceys. Most of the students were just...studying. and working part time. Many of the young women were single, even virgins. And yes, some of these are Western born and raised caucasian, politically left women too. I am just wondering sometimes i… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Here's the reason why women are pickyI understand your worry well. I see that a lot of young women (in the West) are worried that they will be abandoned later in old age or just being taken advatage of both financially and emotionally by a guy. Back home the worried of young women was that a man would change after marriage. Becoming abusive and even taking mistresses. But the 'at least I got money from it' won't lessen the pain. And a guy who really is into their partner, will do everything. Just the same like the 'ride or die' chi… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Here's the reason why women are pickyhave to get pregnant You can be childfree woman and if you want to rent womb, it is 12K USD (for Indian woman). I come from Singapore and then move to the West, sis. You do not want the conservative/traditional dating style, trust me. And it does not have to cost arms and legs to be pretty and to stay pretty. Have you ever been to Asia? My mother and grandmother stay slim and pretty all their lives, without those expensive gym and spa stuffs. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 09:30 AM |
| 5 | How many Chads do women sleep with before going for beta and is it true that they do it?Zero for me. Never had problem saying no and never had problem of guys getting angry hearing the no. Married with the first and only person I'd loved (and do still love) to share intimacy and emotion with. Raised by a great, strong and kind father though. So I know what I wanted even as a child. Not everyone is so lucky. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 09:23 AM |
| 2 | Here's the reason why women are pickyThere is something so called self-accountability too. For women and for men. Look, I am a woman too. And I have never felt pressured to participate in hook up culture. I do have my own (sometimes gripes) against guys, but never about something that I have control over. If I may ask, what or who basically, told you back then in the first place that your worth as a human being is to be desired by the opposite sex? And if you were a lesbian, would you think about treating your female partner like h… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 09:12 AM |
| 2 | Are women really the choosers?end up without options. In the olden days these men can either die in war or join monastery to become literal monks. In the future they can build a life with real doll with good AI installed. There is little alternative for the falling through the crack men of today though. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/21 08:18 AM |
| 0 | What was your goal as a RP-lerWe enjoy how others make us feel Are you a Westerner? Because these kind of 'realization' is something that I cannot imagine an Eastern raised person will say. Growing up, we children know that parents prefer the child that gives them a feeling of pride through education and then career accomplishment. "U doctor yet?" Is the archaetypical joke. It baffles me that many adults (at least online and seems to be in the West) just now realized that there is no such things as being loved when you envok… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/21 04:43 AM |
| 1 | What is the bare minimum that guys do not do?Oh I know the whole staying together but unhappy too. And that's what I tried to avoid too. But my parents in law are down to earth people and they genuinely love each other. I think it downs to dynamic that works rather than what society (depending where they live of course) assigned to them according to their gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/21 03:02 PM |
| -1 | What is the bare minimum that guys do not do?As someone living in a city in Europe, and came from Singapore too, where renting (less work than taking care of one's own property) and taking public transport is better than owning a car (public transport is on time, safe and clean), those are not my bare minimum. My bare minimum would be coming from a good, loving, still intact except in the event of a death of a spouse family (and I do not care whether it is a straight or gay parents.) Intact family, that's it. Yes, it is out of their contro… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/21 06:01 AM |
| 3 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?they'd leave me on read and stop replying or say,"I can't deal with this and promise they'll get back to me." Oops...is this what my male friend think about me when I pulled this? Maybe I should tell them that I am also pulling this on my female friends haha. Usually I just did not open the message or just turned off notifications, so that they know the message is delivered but not sure if I've read it. Reason for doing that varies from plain not giving a fuck, to not in a state of mind to even … | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/21 08:46 PM |
| 4 | The Red Pill teaches that women can't love you for you. Suggestions on how to get past that?Dude, that's utter and complete bullshit about 'unconditional love'. Dog = just look at dog shelter. Many were bought as puppy and when their cute currency run out, they are abandoned. Children = yeah...not even all of their parents love them unconditionally. Notice how some kid is more loved because of their appearance, their intelligence, or any other reasons, by their own parents? Women = most are being kept as partner as long as her companionship gives good feeling. You're not going to want … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/21 09:54 PM |
| 14 | To all the women who swallowed The Red Pill (and are choking).I was in the RedPill after I moved to the West. I came from a place where men are supposed to be leaders, sacrifical lambs and also jack-of-all trades. For his own wife and children, for his parents and heck...even for his wife's parents. Mens' lives are supposed to be hard because they need to be hardened to be able to compete efficiently with other men and the fact that many died younger is just part of the 'honor'. Not helping was that I lived in various Eastern countries which more or less, … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/21 06:57 AM |
| 1 | As a woman that's not into casual sex I'd like to weed out sexist/redpill men. How do I nicely explain to a date that I'd rather wait?I agreed in general to that and as far as I can remember, that was how I found my husband too. There was no pressure for sex in the beginning of the relationship. But now I am wondering if it was simply Demisexual meeting another Demisexual? (Right time and place by sheer luck kind of thing) And that 'making them wait', even if both non-verbalized it, was actually rather unfair (in a way), for the partner who was developing sexual interest earlier than the other? (Often sounds like it is the guy… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/21 06:51 AM |
| 11 | As a woman that's not into casual sex I'd like to weed out sexist/redpill men. How do I nicely explain to a date that I'd rather wait?The men who ask for sex openly and plainly are the better ones in this regard (especially the ones that can take rejection like the date number 3). If you check various dating subreddit, it is filled with (mostly women), who tried the long wait period for sex...and surprise, surprise, got ghosted after sex, some even after making the guy waited for 8 months. Also seconding other commenters, just because a guy wants to have sex ASAP, does not mean that they are RP on their way to pump and dump to… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 04:54 PM |
| 7 | has anyone else noticed that a decent amount of red pillers have ridiculous standards and justify it by saying "it's just my biology"As long as people are fine being single, they can have as high of a standard as possible, imo. I am more worried about these advice that is being told to both men and women, to just settle. Think about the poor fuck that got settled on because someone with high standard is afraid to be alone. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Do y’all hate when men use the words “female” instead of women?I don't care either way. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 06:44 AM |
| 28 | As a young red piller , can you please rate my behavior?Man...you do not even need TRP to tell you to remove yourself from that situation in the first place. What else your choice would have been? She is safe at her place and she invited you there for a one on one hang out in the first place, and yet she could not stop facetiming another person. It would have been the same were she face timed another woman. Maybe she was scared or uncomfortable? Then she should have not invited you to her place instead of putting all of you in an awkward situation li… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 06:38 AM |
| 2 | 70% of women file for divorce. Hypocrisy.It is because people are brainwashed with this utter garbage since they were young; rELaTiOnShIP iS WoRK HoNEy~ This is why you got men who stayed in horrible relationship till they lost everything. You got women who got all kinds of abuse and only escaped far too late. Many young people are being taught wrong, that the pain they feel during a relationship, is the 'obligatory work in the name of love, else you do not want that love enough' that other people keep on babbling about. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/21 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Male rape victim here. Red pill took advantage of my trauma induced insecurities. Feminists have also helped me way more with my ptsd than MRAs and red pillersI am so fucking sorry of what happened to you my dude! And I feel so fucking awful for men who have been raped to run into TRP. For them male rape victims = beta. And that was one of the sickest thing anyone could say. I think one of the most pivotal point that made me really sick of TRP is that when a TRPer wrote that he would have killed himself if he were raped, to restore honor. And his comment got highly upvoted!!!! What a sick bunch of people! You are more in anyway than these clowns OP. Y… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/21 02:01 PM |
| 14 | How to support boyfriend who is ex red pill?I might be off the marks here, and I apologized if I was wrong. But did you have a past of being hurt/abused by former partners in the past? Or perhaps you were raised in a conservative-traditional community? If yes to both or any of them, I'd suggest that you exercise caution, even when you are trying to help your boyfriend. The reason is, I feel that not many women will take a chance with an openly former redpiller without hard proof that they've done the de-culting job themselves in the first… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/09/21 02:18 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on FDS ("vetting")It's all down to the luck of being in the right place at the right time. Most people do not want to hear this. Many people hate the feeling of helplessness related to this. A lot of false and toxic positivity (hope giving) on dating advice lately. Such as the whole "be patient with him/her, that is just their attachment style", "it is ok if you feel unhappy and unfulfilled in the relationship for now, once you figured out each others' love language, you'd both be fine", or the classic "relations… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/21 12:35 PM |
| 3 | What part of Game is bad? How is ugly short guy supposed to get anything or should i wait till i hit 30 to be settled for while the chick is done banging the hot guys and Chad is done with her?Reading how so many guys (and some girls also), blaming the opposite sex for their genetics creating problems for future pairing, instead of putting the blame on their biological parents who gave that genetics to them , makes me sad. I do not have the kind of lips I would love to have. My lips have two different colors and they are rather thin. The only one I can realistically blame for this is my dad though. It is his lips. Can't be bitter at randos for this. Know what I mean? The game is bad i… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/21 12:28 PM |
| 5 | Women of exRed pillI love to read recovery stories by men who were lost in negative manosphere before. Because many stayed there and even create children with either some unstabile women or equally misguided women...and many of those children ended up in a bad, bad place. I believe in a positive male role model (obviously also positive female role model) in everyone's lives, especially for younger human, but these TRP grifters are definitely not it. These young people were looking for a hospital, but they got trap… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/21 08:18 AM |
| 0 | How to understand the feeling of hopelessness and how to deal with it?I can imagine it as a feeling of being lied to? Like for example, when one growing up being told that as long as one works really hard and stay focussed, financial prosperity is just about time. As long as you've done the works, it is just about getting one chance, one luck. And then you found out that it is purely about birth lottery. That you were already losing as soon as you were born out of the wrong sets of biological parents. That this is it. The next many few decades of your life will ju… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/09/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | any comments? especially from women on this subject?This is the comic: https://chaoslife.findchaos.com/lesbians101-lesson-3 It is on lesson 3, but the other lessons are interesting too. The one who write it is a lesbian couple who must have been together and married for like 12+ years now. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 6 | how many women in this sub?Full cognitive dissonance when it gets to me. Can you imagine some racist people who hate foreigners, and yet the first person they invite into BBQ is his neighbor and bestfriend Abdul. Because you know...Abdul is different than those other foreigners. Abdul has job and that job he is qualified to and Abdul did not take it away from the hands of the locals. And Abdul also did not game the systems. In fact, Abdul pays a lot of taxes. If only all foreigners are like Abdul. Totally Abdul is an Unic… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 06:04 PM |
| 1 | any comments? especially from women on this subject?I was attracted to him in some degree, the first time we met. Not to the point of immediately jumping his bone, but totally in a "this man is safe to get to know to and perhaps for something more." I do not know how it is with guys, but for many women (and this one I can speak at least because I have heard similar things from other women), the first feeling we have to feel before even that attraction is safety. For some women even before we look directly into a guy's face at all. When I first me… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 03:49 PM |
| 1 | any comments? especially from women on this subject?Again, only speaking about myself... That shit takes time. Like yes, anatomy book shows the parts where there are nerves (let us use the clit and the g-spot here as example). Well the intensity of those nerves stimulated is different from one woman to another. The exact location of where the g-spot is (like is it quarter finger? A third, etc from the entrance?). Is there any other stimulations? Women can have multiple orgasm, which is real awesome I must say. But the way to get there needs time … | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 10:21 AM |
| 20 | how many women in this sub?I am a woman who used to be in RPW for a bit, also having two former male friends who are/were deep in RP. I originated in Asia and then moving to the West, so I can also give real perspective of the 'hurr durr azn wimmins better waifu' circlejerk. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 10:15 AM |
| 4 | any comments? especially from women on this subject?I can only speak for myself regarding this matter. Honestly I am a little envious for women that can do ONS, hook ups, FWBs (envious about their physiology to be exact.) Because it took me a long time to even find out MYSELF, what I like and I do not like in bed. And I am talking about me and mybody and masturbation/sex toys. I can say for sure that 'just' handsome faces would not have/will not have, cut it. My husband is a handsome, athletic man. And even then, it took us (yes us, both as activ… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/21 07:55 AM |
| 12 | Is Chris rocks quote, “only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally, a man is loved under the condition that he provides”, really true?I feel that even most parents do not love their children unconditionally. They will treat their children who are sucessful better than their failed broods. Most of them will still be there for the failed ones, even more intensely sometimes, but everyone know and feel which kid(s) got the parents' validations, love and approvals more. The one that brings things to the table. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/21 07:14 AM |
| 14 | What do you think of many red pill or mgtows saying that giving rights to women or voting is wrong and bad for society?It is their desperate pipedream. Even deep inside they must have known that even in society where women are being kept like property, the men are competing with each other twice as hard, the place often lacks stability too and poorer men are being treated like less than animals by rich, more powerful men. They will still lose unless they were born as some warlord's son or something. You go to website like Bestgore, Liveleak, DeathAddict...or some subreddit similar to the banned subreddit watchpe… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/21 07:05 AM |
| 16 | Do older men legitimately try to hit on younger women and how does that go?Older men creeping on younger women is so common all over the world, across cultures and countries. Many places even have dedicated names in 'honor' of these kind of creepers. 'Uncle Shiny Forehead' is what it is called in my corner of the world. Usually you find them in malls, hair thinning and with combover that somehow always got greasy. The malls light reflected onto the now looking even bigger forehead as they tried their luck on school aged girls who hang out in malls after school. Though … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/21 10:02 AM |
| 3 | Masculinism and MGTOW?MGTOW, applied right, would have prevented a lot of incel attacks. For instead of pining for sex, love and lifelong companionship, young guys can pin for something else instead. Something that does not involve thinking of random women as NPCs to complete their hero journey. I am from Asia and it really ticks me off when I read the whole 'find women in Asia' thing among manosphere. These Asian women are people, born and raised with their own dreams, hope and lives. They are not just some failed W… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/21 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Red Pillers aint who they say they areI kind of...disagree with this. I think people (regardless of gender) should be able to change their minds, whether it is for or against a relationship. Just had this talk with one of closest friends of mine. She has talked and went out to date with this guy since beginning of this year. She felt everything was right and promised him relationship and all. Then a few weeks ago she had sex and well...he just did not measure up to her taste. So she told him that she is not interested anymore. He wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/21 06:56 AM |
| 5 | I'm an incel. Please help meOf course looksmaxxing is worth it! Haven't you read (multiple times even) in subreddit like trueoffmychest, how often people write about their experience before and after weight loss? Men and women too. And that is just weight loss. Looksmaxxing is more than just weight loss. When people (men and women) are openly treating you better (and physically attractive people do get treated better. It is a fact), you will get some crazy boost of self confidence. You might also feel a little bitter, if y… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/21 12:09 PM |
| 3 | I'm an incel. Please help meI will not insult you by giving you some platitudes. Your physical appearance is completely given to you by your biological parents. They are knowingly decided to give birth to you. To the world that really, really is into lookism. Beauty industry has always been a booming industry worth billions. Physical attractiveness is currency that opens a lot of doors. If you feel that you are unattractive, you cannot blame anyone but your biological parents. And that is okay. Now it is up to you to decid… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/21 04:56 AM |
| 1 | The sexual dichotomy of most women is what is making it impossible for me to leave the redpillMan, hate to say this, but that is one pathetic woman you are with. I could never respect a man or a woman who let themselves be victimized for that long. You might love her in a way, but I am sure the respect for her has gone a long time ago. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Recently found TRP, find it interesting wanted to hear the other side. Also former cult member, would like to know more about why some are calling it a cultDamn dude, you reddit wrong haha. Switch off alert for Reddit. None of the shits in Reddit is important. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/21 05:19 AM |
| 6 | Recently found TRP, find it interesting wanted to hear the other side. Also former cult member, would like to know more about why some are calling it a cultNah, don't delete it. Actually it is rather refreshing to have a thread about someone at the beginning of RedPill but is still open enough to talk about it. Oftentimes, the beginners (just like many religious converts) are the ones with serious tunnel vision. And congratz for leaving the religious cult. It must have not been easy to put aside something that has been part of one's upbringing for so long. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/21 05:08 AM |
| 5 | Recently found TRP, find it interesting wanted to hear the other side. Also former cult member, would like to know more about why some are calling it a cultIf you do not mind elaborating further OP, what was the problem in the marriage that brought you to seek help online in the first place? If it is frequency of bedroom activity, let me tell you this, just by seeing my brother's family (two young kids), I am not going to be surprised at all if a lot of couples with young kids have neither the energy nor the time for bedroom activities. Heck my brother and his wife cannot even take a shit in peace. One of the little tykes always needs something. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/21 04:51 AM |
| 18 | Women who have dated redpill, what are the red flags?So I am very lucky to have a natural born leader, assertive and confident father, everything that a lot of RPers aspire to be. Growing up and seeing how he acted and how people acted around him, makes me able to differ between the fakes and the genuine ones. Insecurity. A lot of RPers are ridiculously insecure about themselves that it seeps everywhere. You will feel and know that many of their posturing, their 'game', their pretend confidence and stand-off ish ness is something they read out of … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 25 | Why do so many redpill channels hate black women?I have been wanting to talk about this for a while. First of all, as much as I hate to admit it, my personal exprience as outsider (I am of Chinese descent, part of why I have never talked about it before. I do not want to speak out of my turn.), what you have written is the reality I have witnessed myself too. So do not let anyone ever tell you that it is just in your mind. Disclaimer here, that the black ladies I know of are not only from the US, but more of them are from the African continent… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 5 | What do you think about the black pill?Doesn't blackpill (utilized in the right way) can be an ultimate freedom instead? I am not a blackpiller myself, but if I ever genuinelly reaching a point where companionship and procreation do not matter, I'd be already sailing the world and be permanent nomad instead of running the rat race. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/21 08:46 PM |
| 2 | My story of becoming Red Pill believer..Are you coming from a rather conservative/machismo culture OP? I am from Asia and crying men are often treated not so well not only by women, but fellow guys. In highschool, a boy from our class cried because of something. Other boys beat him up after seeing him crying. Are the women in your culture also demanded to be stoic? As in crying = weak = something that women do. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/21 06:07 PM |
| 3 | How do you spit out the red pill?I am a woman who used to take RedPill seriously too. My venture to RedPill started when I moved from Asia to the West and felt that many of Western men (regardless of race) were often less stoic, less confident and less assertive. I thought I was looking in the right place in TRP... Turned out to be, most of the men there are the same non-stoic, non-confident and non-assertive men who just played pretend that they are not all that. Some are even worse in their negative/weak traits than the men w… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/21 06:48 AM |
| 5 | I gave up on my best friend of 20 years. He’s part of the collective now.You have tried, you should have been proud of yourself at least that you have tried. I had to let go of some former good friends because of similar things (they went deep into religious extremism or racial supremacy extremism). There is no shaking them off of those poison. Really is as if some kind of alien had taken them over. Tried to show the one deep into religious extremism the wonder of science and physics and all I got in return was "you are so arrogant to think that you know more than Go… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/21 06:52 AM |
| 5 | Has this happened to anybody else? 🤔Financial comfort is important. I will say that to anyone. Men or women, young or old, single or in relationship, etc. I have lived in different countries, from third to first world, money talks. In some places more or less than the other. So go get them financial success...but do it only for yourself. And to your personal comfort and not other people. If you feel -personally- comfortable in your current financial situation, then nothing should change. If a partner demanding you to have a certai… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | How the treatment of men with mental issues can lead to them taking the red pillWestern culture has a tendency to blame men for their personal issues that they develope from prior trauma when it comes to sex, dating and relationships. I am from the Eastern culture and it is not much different...but for a different reason. Women are being seen often still as infatile, in par with children, second class citizens, etc. Which is awful. On the other hand, that means also less social responsibilities for women. Men are being seen as worst of the worst if they failed in that kind … | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/21 10:22 AM |
| 8 | did everyone just forget how intrinsically linked TRP and alt-right idea was?It is quite pathetic to see some of these non-white men putting white men who see them as second class citizens on pedestal. They stopped simping on women and in return simping on bigots instead. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/21 03:01 PM |
| 2 | I allowed the RP to make me a toxic man. How to proceed forward?First you have taken personal responsibility by admitting that you yourself have allowed RP to make you a toxic person. Many would have difficulty admitting that and rather just played dumb and blame RP entirely. Secondly, the thirst for attention and validation, based on latent insecurity is what motivated many RPers. Even if again, it is hard for some of them to admit it. So you can be sure that at least you are already in the right path. As for how to proceed further, would you take a look at… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/07/21 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Lurker here, what drew you into the red pill in the first place?I came from Asia and grew up with a natural born leader and strong father. In Asia, men are usually responsible for everything. Breadwinner not only for his wife and kids, but also retirement plans for his own parents and his in laws. They have to be strong father figure, especially for young men in the family who grew up without a father (because of death or abandonement), etc. Strong, silent, stoic and powerful was what I thought men supposed to be. So when I got scholarship to continue my stu… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/07/21 04:01 PM |
| 14 | What they call independent is basic survivalThe 1950s It ticks me really off whenever I heard this. It is so US centric. Most countries that were destroyed by WWII were just trying hard to rebuild during that 'sweet,sweet' 1950s. Heck at that time, my country (Singapore) had not even officially existed yet. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/21 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Looksmax?Totally for it! Looksmaxxing, brainmaxxing, mentalhealthmaxxing, etc. I do not care what it is called, but generally striving to be the best version of yourself is a good thing to do. Looksmaxxing is just a part of it. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/21 01:12 AM |
| 3 | When do you think the red pill started its downfall.You are awesome man! Sorry about the awful ex-wife but I am glad that it takes you to define your own happiness and finding your own path. I tried to tell and teach people about the alternative of that 'find partner, continue DNA, die of old age side by side' cookiecutter propaganda that is often being sold as 'must-have', but many of them said to me, that that's 'coping'. How does one get through to these kind of people (men and women, btw), that living independently and finding purpose outside… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/21 10:26 AM |
| 11 | The red pill made my friend hate women and now he's gay.He is a closed minded free will Baptist and hard right conservative. Goddamn, he is all over the place. Are you sure he is not just someone in the closet, who was in denial about himself and needed to invent the whole 'I hate women, so I will go for men', because else he cannot accept his true self? There was an askreddit about men who were used to be incels or women haters...and some (not many but still some) of the answer was that they knew they are gay, but were in deep denial. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/21 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Though these losers are complaining they can't sexually harass women in the office! Red pillers have hit a new low!These people will even say that to a child being raped by an adult woman and suffering terribly from it. Just read what people in twitter, youtube, etc said to Puppeh (who were only 14 when the grooming happened) after he came clean about what Cinnpie (a woman who was 23 when she groomed him) done to him. A lot of very smooth brain comments from thristy losers. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/21 04:37 AM |
| 2 | An Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the best. A quick sharing of what I've been through.token foreigner Well first of all, we are actually neighbors (Mer-Lion here), Chinese descent. But I moved to Western Europe many years ago to study, then to live and work. Now most of the time I am living in big, metropolitan cities, but there was a time after my study, where I thought I'd choose to live and work in the countryside. And it did not turn out as well as I'd previously thought. A lot of people in the countryside have never seen or interacted a lot with foreigners, let alone refugee… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/21 04:30 AM |
| 47 | An Ex-MGTOW, and I wish you all the best. A quick sharing of what I've been through.I am happy for you but also a little worried of the 'burden' you put on this one woman to change your worldview. A lot of people who changed because they have landed a Unicorn, usually do not stick long after the Unicorn fell from the pedestal they were forced into. I was a token foreigner/Unicorn for some very racist people a few years ago. And it was a burden indeed, to teach these people that foreigners are not like what their peers said in Stormfront daily. I wish you and this woman forever … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/21 05:00 PM |
| 6 | What do you think about the concept of Alpha Widow?There are people who are just so great, they left long lasting, pleasant marks on their former partners. It does not matter which gender (and sexual orientation) though. It is not a woman and man, straight or queer thing. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/21 04:56 PM |
| 8 | The real problem with modern datingIt's the thirsty men. It is not only thirsty men...but thirsty PAEDO men. Everytime there is an askwomen question about the first time they get sexually harassed, many answered that it was around the time they turned twelve. Yes, twelve. Does not matter if they came from a rather conservative country where everyone dress very modestly. It is a fucked up right of passage. When these young girls got into the age they are ready to date, there is already some apprehension in the first place. The ove… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/06/21 12:50 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on “the lightswitch effect”?No prob! Also I feel that as well intended as it is, the 'till death do us part' is something that is often unattainable or even can be an extra pressure, that makes men and women stay for too long in abusive marriages. It is as ridiculous as that 'catch a grenade for you' song from Bruno Mars haha. People who live and love like that do not need to say it out loud. They just do. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/21 06:10 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on “the lightswitch effect”?til death do us part This always bothers me because it is only in Western/Christian marriage vows. In other places it is: "I take this woman/man as my wife/husband, for a bride/groom price of [insert numbers here]." And many of those marriages last longer. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/21 02:44 PM |
| 2 | For the men in this group, what was the turning point in making you leave the redpill? When did you wake up and how long did it take?A lot of men in this world are doing just fine in their LTR or marriage. Most of them never heard about TRP. Many of them do not even own computer. Something that is so natural for most men...is something that TRPers have to be aware of at all time? Marriage and LTR is a hard mode for these people? And these are the people who think that they deserved to be captains? Now it explains why they want a more submissive women. Because they do not have confidence with their leadership. So the people th… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/21 05:00 PM |
| 10 | I feel bitter than I did not get the attention I do now while I was young and much more positiveBut the narrative is that when you go to college is supposed to be all fun and sex and parties. Me as a Singaporean who went to Asian and then European University: Hahahahahahahahaha!!!!! Universities in most part of the world are not nightclubs, wtf lol. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/21 03:17 PM |
| 5 | For the men in this group, what was the turning point in making you leave the redpill? When did you wake up and how long did it take?I feel that RedPill stuffs work for ONS, no string attached, or perhaps FWBs situations, rather than serious LTR ones. A lot of TRPers like to say "showed her my bluepill/beta side, she losts interest." What happened is that all of these pretenders eventually break frames. All. No one can act 24/7 for multiple years while trying to build genuine intimacy with someone. Even professional actors do not do 24/7 acting. These poor women felt (rightfully), that they are being sold a fake product. Too … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/06/21 09:18 AM |
| 7 | Random thought: Why "inceldom" is risingBecause people are investing less in real life social networks Agreed. There are plenty of lonely and unmarried/unpartnered people all over the world, however there are cultures that really promoting 'hanging out' with people who are not even your close friends. Just to hang out together and be ina group. You do not even need to be actively participating. Sort of like bar/wagerhole hang out just sans the alcohol. I guess active participation in this kind of chill hang out can prevent one from go… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/06/21 08:58 PM |
| 3 | What was your turning point for leaving Red Pill behind ?I think TRP and MGTOW started praising Donald trump I feel that a lot of manosphere (at least online) often turns so quick into some kind of white supremacy kind of place. Non-white men who at first were there are often either leave, stay and just be some kind of 'cool guy token' about it, or at worst, turning into hating their own race coughs thatawfulsubredditjustbewhite coughs. I think one of the worst I read was about an Indian guy writing about wanting traditional Indian wife, but they are … | /r/ExRedPill | 01/06/21 02:54 PM |
| 3 | TRP grew me up in a lot of ways but it definitely stunted me in others.Ehh...just ignore her. This sub is good but unfortinately also attract people from 'that subreddit that shall not be named' where a lot of former TRP plates (some of them still are) love to gather to share their misery and anger and swore off men or daydreaming about their own unicorn (...until they run across the next RPer who plates them all over again heh). A lot of men and women interact with each other in adversarial instead of cooperative way. This might be not so much of a problem...if th… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/06/21 10:00 AM |
| 3 | TRP grew me up in a lot of ways but it definitely stunted me in others.What the hell is this? I dislike TRP just like any other people but how are we expecting people to change if we got angry at them for telling their stories after they have changed? And no condemnation for the pathetic women who cheated on him to drive him to RP for the first place? | /r/ExRedPill | 01/06/21 02:27 AM |
| 9 | Just wondering, what your stance on FDS?It is a dumpster fire. And if you look at posting history of its members, you will understand why. Most of them are failed narcs, though luckily most seem to be childfree. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/21 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Height? Facts or myth?Being short for a man is a massive disadvantage in dating, saying this as a woman with a lot of male friends/colleagues and acquitances. I don't know why so many are dancing around that point. Are there short men who have loyal partners who love them and have been in LTR with them? Absolutely and most of my short male friends are in that kind of situation. However what people like to forget is that short men are invinsible until they give out some indications that they are interesting and worth … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/21 07:02 AM |
| 2 | She should be treated like a child, you say? Where have I heard this before? 🤔When I read something like this...I understand why some people really are against equality. They are afraid that they will be treated like how they used to treat a group of people they considered to be inferior 'back in the day'. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/05/21 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Has anybody in this sub been guilty of toxic masculinity or enforcing patriarchal normsWe're told to be open and vulnerable I have mixed feelings about this. It feels like at times, like the pendulum about this swung too far the other way. Some people, who just naturally do not find comfort in being open and vulnerable are being labelled all the bad things under the sun. Like I have said before, I found comfort in stoicism, but other people might look at the way I acted as cold and uncaring. Maybe there should be a way where men (and women) who are more comfortable with 'manning u… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/21 07:36 AM |
| 4 | Has anybody in this sub been guilty of toxic masculinity or enforcing patriarchal normsGuilty here and I feel that I still am? My brother and I (F) were raised to be a stoic. To man up/women up whenever we have problems. Stoicism gives me (and my brother) great comforts and I think I start to demand that from other people too, regardless of their personal circumstances and upbeinging. (I demanded this from men and women, but mostly from men). I have very low tolerance for a public display of weak emotion (as in you can always find a private place if you want to be weak. Even if yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Do Red Pillers live fake liveshow they are in their late 40s and 50s and look 20 year younger and have 6packs and make 6 figures while dating 19 year olds ...I feel that every country, no matter how conservative or liberal, no matter how poor or rich, no matter whether the country is in war or not, are plagued by these kind of desperate mid aged men in their mid age crisis. In Singapore where I am from, these men hang around malls and often being ridiculled as 'uncles shiny forehead'. I think there was a thread in askwomen a… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/21 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Why do dudes care so much about what women or other people do? [Redpill detox]where they believe those places has less feminist influence and therefore more feminine and family-oriented women. I am glad that you use the word believe here, because in reality, those women can be the most pragmatic, realistic and ball-crushing kind of people that one will ever met. Coming from that corner of the world and people often doubt me when I said that the 'modern western feminist women' they so despised are often the more understanding/benevolent ones. A lot of men learned it the ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/21 07:23 AM |
| 6 | You guys need to self improve or do individual women have certain preferences for individual mena lot of women standards are too high given just how many women are single. Isn't that supporting my second point about how there are more men who are afraid to be single forever compared to women? If women decided that it is better not to be partnered than to compromise their standards, isn't that good? Isn't that the point of having standards? It goes hand in hand. Would not have worked otherwise. If you have standards, you also have to be ready to be forever alone if that standards is not ful… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/21 02:51 PM |
| 6 | You guys need to self improve or do individual women have certain preferences for individual menI think many mens' problems (at least the ones I read on Reddit) can be summarized down to two things: Having too low of standards for partnership (seriously guys, you are allowed to have higher standards.) Sometimes they are even angry if women have higher standards (so much for women being emotional driven instead of logical ones. Higher standards is logical.) But are also mocking women who ended up with men that they deemed to be low standards. This problem could have been solved by them rais… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/21 02:10 PM |
| 9 | Is red pill the man version of feminismI think TRP focuses too much on dating aspect instead of doing something that seriously can help men as a whole institutionally. For example, fathers' rights. How often is TRP talking about it? Or another important matter, women on men rape/sexual abuse. I have a feeling that TRPers would have even 'high fived' Puppeh for being abused by Cinnpie. Men absolutely need advocacy, yes. Especially vulnerable men from third world countries who often carry a burden for entire family, while being under t… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/21 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Why shouldn't I be interested in my girlfriend's past?Mate, seriously now. You wrote yourself that you haven't even figured out about what did you do wrong in the previous relationship to make them leave. Your words. ...but weirdly enough, you also cannot see yourself as one of those people you seen as problematic because they have sexual/relationship past or history? And yes, of course you will mess this one up too. People with unsolved problems are often their own worst enemies. I will still be in this site for a while. And when your relationship… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/04/21 05:45 PM |
| 4 | How do I overcome shame over my past involvement in PUA and associated behaviors?You can thank my Asian conservative/traditional upbringing for that. Never seen my dad and bro and even mother cried. Not even when beloved granda died. I had to hide in the bathroom to cry and mourn. Showing sadness is already very frowned upon for me, it was totally and absolutely verboten for my brother. Male classmates who cried got bullied (physically) badly by fellow male classmates and even teachers. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/04/21 04:29 PM |
| 3 | How do I overcome shame over my past involvement in PUA and associated behaviors?You never stop to learn new things as long as you live...and this is good, because sometimes you were being fed bullshit and it took you a while, until you figured it out, that you were fed bullshit. I feel that especially all of us who were here, each carries similar sins. I used to write that the reason I was in RPW once was because I was raised more or less conservative/traditional and I thought I could find similar minded men in the RedPill. And I was wrong. So I left. I used to be someone w… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/04/21 04:08 PM |
| 8 | Why shouldn't I be interested in my girlfriend's past?What is it with the whole 'my abortion is the only moral abortion' thing? You having a past relationships/sexual life = all good. Your partner has a past relationship/sexual life = no good. Is it the whole only thieves think that other people also steal kind of thing? all still thinking about their ex-partners and directly or indirectly comparing myself to them. sometimes I can't help but think about the last relationship I was in, it makes me want to go back to the past and fix whatever it is t… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/04/21 10:07 AM |
| 1 | What does assertiveness look like to you?I can describe assertiveness in a romantical relationship according to my personal experience. Assertiveness does make relationship a thousand times simpler and easier, so it is great if it comes from both partners and ideally happens in all kinds of relationships. It is all about enforcing and respecting boundaries imo. My husband, even since we were just started dating, was always clear about what he likes and what he does not like and never compromised on it. For things he has not yet tried, … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/21 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Vulnerability in relationshipsSpecifically about sharing/showing emotion, I (F) can understand you because I used to be the same. Raised by asian parents, there were plenty of love and care, but little to no openess in emotion. Stoicism is encouraged and most problems are talked about after it was finished (for example, the entire house did not know that my dad had surgery done on him to remove a tumor. Only few hours after surgery he called us because he needed someone to drive him home.) So when I got into relationship (ev… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Ex-MGTOW at what point did you realize you had gone too far?So I read those statistics and what do you know? You are right and I stand corrected! (Regarding the high rate of divorce among lesbians). As for your question if marriage is worth it...I am married (my then BF and now husband wanted it, and I was against it because we are living in a country where couples without marriage bond can freely live together without society condemnation like in many more conservative places. But I guess he was raised in a more conservative place once and no marriage j… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/21 11:03 AM |
| 1 | really need some help hereYou have unfortunately multiple problems culminating to this situation, some you can do nothing with. First and foremost, it is hard to be a minority, no matter where you are. Whether it is racial, ethnical, religious, etc minority, there is always a sense of vulnerability of being smaller in number and that your position in society still more or less depends on the powerful majority's whims. Not even talking about skin color, just look at how Uyghurs are treated. I know you must have loved your… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/21 05:03 AM |
| 7 | Help me help someoneYou mean well, but you cannot/should not light yourself on fire to keep someone warm. It is hard enough to try to talk adults out of some conspiracy (let's take some flat earthers for example), let alone a teenager at the brink of, like what you have said, inceldom. He has already seen you as 'them' in the us vs them by not even wanting to engage with you and calling you simp instead. Nothing you can do. He is now part of 'those' family members you put distance to, because they cannot stop sendi… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/21 04:20 AM |
| 5 | How come they praise men that enjoy being single but then shit on women that enjoy being single?Because those guys who shit on fellow single people are actually only pretending to enjoy being single? I know plenty of people who genuinely enjoy being single. As stereotypical as it is, they are mostly living in a safe, nice and often tropical area. Their financial affairs is in order. They are on early retirement or working a job that feels like hobby for them. Oh and they have boatloads of activities and friend or acquitances. These guys who made it as successful single are most likely have… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't the problem.Hollywood need to bring back some buddy-buddy/broes forever type of movies seriously rather than peppering everything with (often unneeded) romance plot. Men benefit a lot from true friendship from another men. I see in warmer countries, old men hanging around with other old men. Often doing sports together, just hanging out, etc. Many are friends since schooltime. Also don't forget the real connection human can get with beloved pets! I just feel that for a species that will eventually make that… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/21 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Women aren't the problem.First step should be wider acceptance of men who chose non-human companionships. And sadly there are lack of it. Women who do the same (fulfilling sexual needs with toys and companionship needs with pets for example) are being seen as being independent. All in all in a more positive light. A man who are doing the same, will be seen as a lonely weirdo at best and a pervert at worst. There should be an equal understanding/acceptance. By thinking "hey, these people are not hurting anyone and they j… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/03/21 12:56 PM |
| 15 | Women aren't the problem.I will never understand it either. It is so easy with how many sex toys are produced and sold out there. Real dolls are getting better too. At some point, advanced AI will follow too. There are plenty of ways of satisfy their biological urges without involving women. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/21 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Ex-MGTOW at what point did you realize you had gone too far?Now that is very interesting! Seems like I need to do my research more and I'd like to go back to it later. As for divorce between men and women, I still think that men and women are capable to equally lose feelings for each other. While women are more willing to divorce (and I admit that divorce law in the West often unfair to men/main breadwinner), I think I ever read that for men, the solution is more of them either trying to cheat (the trope of replacing the old balls and chains) or waiting … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/21 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Need your thoughts on TRP/MGTOW resentment of and entitlement towards womenI am sorry I might have sounded harsh before. This is not something you are guilty for (I do not want to make you feel like that), because it is all in upbringing. My brother got told when he started elementary school to be the best both in his studies and at sport (and so did I, but for my brother it was more emphasized). My parents and especially my father was being honest when he said that just being a smart nerd is not enough, that he needed some aggresive/competitive edges too as a guy. And… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/21 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Ex-MGTOW at what point did you realize you had gone too far?Men are typically more analytical and physically dominant, woman are more nurturing and empathetic. There might be some truth to this, but be careful not to take this as a complete blanket statements however. When I was still completely believing in this too, I used to reject mens' advances/requests/validation/attention seeking attempts/need for companionship/etc much more coldly than womens' (because of the thought that more analytical and logic based = the less emotion involved the better). Tu… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/21 06:29 AM |
| 3 | Ex-MGTOW at what point did you realize you had gone too far?I don't want to tie myself down to a single human being who's feelings can change about me any minute. I get you, but this shows how insecure so many guys in manosphere are, when they always thought that THEY will be the ones getting left, instead of them losing feeling for their partners (which in my opinion is equally possible). It is not like gay relationships are forever because only men involved in that and lesbian relationships will always be doomed, because only women involved there. Agre… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/21 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Need your thoughts on TRP/MGTOW resentment of and entitlement towards womenemotional men who are in touch with their feminine side No. My brother has never been told these. I have never told anyone these. My parents told both of us to be strong, stoic individuals. When you want a nice, stable, boring provider that's when you go after guys like me. No. I do not even usually befriend male or female who has self-esteem/insecurity issues because they can be (and will be) burden/baggage for me to help solve. Notice how I mentioned how my parents raised me and my brother the… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/21 06:12 AM |
| 3 | Need your thoughts on TRP/MGTOW resentment of and entitlement towards womenI am a woman too and while your post does not scare me, it makes me very uncomfortable. It is like getting caught in a cross-fire while actually having nothing to do with it personally. Just because of my gender. You can replace that with my race, my socio-economic, etc. Your problem was with your parents, especially with your mother. But the ripples/resentment of that problem will be felt by other women...who are not your mother (the guilty party). Imagine someone highly disliking you for your … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/21 08:21 AM |
| 5 | Need your thoughts on TRP/MGTOW resentment of and entitlement towards womenIt seems to me that the bottom line is always mother/father issues. People who do not know how to be parents unleashing their losers spawns into this world and make society pay for it. And people do not think that there should be a more strict requirements to be parents. At this point I am quite sure that socially struggling and insecure men and women who blame society are products of clueless/lazy/stupid parents. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/21 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Men who have trouble getting sex (self-described incels included), do you also have issues with making friends and staying social?Haven't you been reading RedPill lately? It is all about "it's just your turn brah, she's never yours.", "Monkey branching brah.", "She's gonna cheat on you with chads!" These are men with insecurity problems. For them, there are always problems. Let alone if they know that they are picked after standards were being lowered. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Men who have trouble getting sex (self-described incels included), do you also have issues with making friends and staying social?Guys: "Girls, lower your standards already!" Girls: lowers standards Guys: "How dare you settling for me? It does not make me feel good to get participation trophy!", "Why have you made me feel as if I am second choice?", "Why am I feeling afraid that a better man will come take you away someday?" | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | MRM AND violenceIsnt noticing double standards in society a part of redpill? Just noticing double standard is not any pill. It is just being realistic that the world is not fair. Ugly people have harder time in every aspects in society, poor people have less chance than rich people, that there is always be strife even if people are of same gender and race (aka clanism), etc etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/21 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill or black pill?By advocating for loneliness for men and having robot waifus Advocating for both men and women really. I think companionship bots will be used by both men and women. Sex toys are already exist and are being used for both men and women. Now just add the socialization feature to it. you accept the 80/20 distribution where most women are attracted to top 20% of men I used to live in various countries where men are allowed to have multiple wives. That is the reality. Sucessful men can have harem. If… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill or black pill?The solution would be everyone having a partner because there is roughly 50/50 gender spilt. Socialism for partnership? State mandated? Some religious-authoritarian regime has something like that, but I really dislike that solution. People can be forced to pair up, under the threat of violence especially involving loved ones of course. But spending decades with people you know only being with you in order to be state compliant (or religious compliant) is...not nice. It is all go back again to te… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill or black pill?Gay people are having tons of sex. It is really easy for them. The two times I heard the phrase 'I hate men' were from my gay friends. Might be easy to have sex, but it does not negate the feeling of being used/taken advantage of, pining for someone who does not reciprocate, loneliness, etc. And having relationships is still important. It is like having friends. Very hard to live without friends. It is, yes. But I dislike the idea of using another human for that fulfillment, you know? Like there… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill or black pill?Yes, this is why MGTOW movement is good Rather than calling it MGTOW or WGTOW, we should call it just...normal living? Having a partner is not as crucial as having shelter, food and water afterall. You should take a look at r/askgaybros. The overall society is often too hetero-focused (yes, because there are more hetero than homosexual people I know), that we forgot that the same problems in dating that heterosexual have, can often be found in homosexual relationship too (where women have zero i… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 12:28 PM |
| 4 | Blue pill or black pill?Women are in position of power when choosing a partner. Assuming we are talking about the West, yes? In many other parts of the world, it is the big family/the parents that choose for their sons/daughters and mostly the choice will fall to candidate that can lift the economic/social condition of said family. I have problems with this: Men are not really choosing anything. They try to find someone and settle for the first woman that likes them back. How is this womens' fault? I would agree if you… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 10:48 AM |
| 4 | Blue pill or black pill?If women like the nice guy with flowers then women are good. If they would rather be with a pump&dump badboy then they are bad. You can say that also with men though. The words "don't stick dick in crazy" is invented because well...a lot of men self-admitting that they often let the peepee does the thinking for them. What about men who are together with women who divorce-raped them? With women who abused and cheated and tried to pass the affair children as the man's own children? Could it be tha… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/21 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Do you think fixing some of mens issues might also solve a lot of females issues?I did not downvote you. I think some of your arguments have merits, that was why I only refute the last part. I still think technology will be salvation for a lot of mens' (and womens') trouble. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/21 07:09 AM |
| 6 | I'm confused. Ex red piller men, helpBe a strong parent figure for them. Do not be afraid to admit mistake and be humble. Tell them the truth when they asked. The truth also includes that you unfortunately fallen for this narc. Kids of narc parents usually fall for narc partners. Go to r/raisedbynarcissist and explain your situation maybe and them as children of narc parents, may have better advice for you. A bit unconventional advice from me... Steer your boys' interest into martial arts. Muay Thai, Wing Chun, Eskrima, BJJ, etc. M… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/21 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Do you think fixing some of mens issues might also solve a lot of females issues?If they had learned to seduce and lost their virginity, they probably wouldn't kill these women. I highly disagree with this. Plenty of virgin men in even much worse position than them (imagine you are a virgin man fleeing Syrian civil war, ended up in some refugees procession camp for years where your life is on hold. My husband used to volunteer in caring for refugees and there are plenty of stories like that.), never even imagined harming another human being, let alone massacred them in cold … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/21 03:28 AM |
| 7 | I'm confused. Ex red piller men, helpIsn't this one of the red pill tactics? Yep. Dread. The culmination of insecure TRPers shit-testing. Best way is to ignore. Imagine a child having a tantrum because he cannot get his second serving of ice cream that day. I am so so so sorry that you married a complete loser. An insecure loser can never be a good/efficient parent, because their lives is often be consumed by that insecurity. At worst, they may even take it on their children. Some of the people fallen into RP in the first place hav… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/21 03:12 AM |
| 1 | What is the real red pill?I guess the real Red Pill for me is how many people are blaming random people they've never met for the shitty genes they inherited from their biological parents also blaming the failure of their guardians/parental figures to raise them to fit somewhat to society, again on random people. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/21 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Is TRP changing their stance on cuckolding after discovering it can be used for awful eugenics purposes?They do not like hard logic. As humiliating as it sounded, I asked a self-confessed short TRPer who wanted to have an even shorter wife (his reasoning: because men being together with a taller woman is not alpha) and have kids. I asked him what he will do with the possibility of his son(s) coming out even shorter, which by his own reasoning, marks of a beta. He threw tantrum and refused to answer. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/21 06:31 AM |
| 15 | Help! I’m a narcissist and manipulativeFew things first. Bipolar and Narcissism, were they diagnosed by prefessional mental health provider? Important not to self-diagnose, because different tools (to get better) work differently on what you have. Work together with mental health professional. Reading books and scientific journals are important, but better if it is books/journals suggested during your therapy. Just like how in the University the prof will suggest you on what books to read to understand which subject. Also back to tho… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/21 06:20 AM |
| 6 | I’m so fucking hopelesspeople have normal upbringings and just know how to fucking talk to people and have social circles Is you not having normal upbringing the fault of random women? Your DNA are given to you by your parents. Your upbringing and your first step to socialization is the work of your parents. Now you are failing where other men are suceeding. Explain to me how this is society or random womens' fault? Sounds like the fault of your parents to me. Be logical. Take your anger out at the right people. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/21 02:33 PM |
| 13 | Ex red pill women, what got you into the ideology, and how did you get out of it?I am Asian who were raised in several countries in Asia by a natural born leader father and a stoic mother. By natural born leader I mean in 'competition' with other men. Other men respect the shit out of him and it was great feel to hear how they talked with such respect and adoration, sometimes even a little bit of jealousy, when they talked about my father. (putting the word other men in bold because even if my father was gay or asexual, the result will still be the same. His competition was … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/21 07:36 PM |
| 6 | How to spot a red piller, incel, MRA, Jordan Petersonist, and whatnot?The awful stink of insecurities that permeate out of their body. There are people who are naturally confident, there are people (men and women), who try so hard to hide their insecurities by trying to act confident. Be aware of these kind of people regardless of their gender. Green flags are people who own their insecurities and not playing victim about their insecurities. There are short and bald dudes I know who own their insecurities without making themselves sound like victims. Those people,… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Ex plack/red pilled, what made you change your mind on looks?Focus on chin aside, and I might be wrong, but you were raised in the West, weren't you? Because if you were raised in the East, the realization that looks are important won't be so much a realization, but just something you heard and taught as a child. As normal as being told to eat your veggies. My sister in law graduated with summa cum laude in industrial engineering. First thing she heard after they accepted her to work is to learn to put foundation to cover her acne scars. Because the face … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 9 | Ex plack/red pilled, what made you change your mind on looks?Well I am a woman too, if other women have openly sharing me about their physical preference, I think I would have heard about chin too. But so far not yet. Not saying that sooner or later I will get a woman commenting on chin too. I feel that incels community will be more in awe of a new shiny jaw rather than women, but I might have browsed too much of those weird subreddits. Oh yeah, looks are important to some degree to get the foot on the door. Both in romantical relationship and often also … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/21 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Ex plack/red pilled, what made you change your mind on looks?Since you are focusing on chin here, I feel that the only time both in real life and online, I heard someone made fun of chin (both for lack of or too much of), the ones telling the joke (often offensive) were guys. Comments from women related to physique I have heard are usually about height, muscles density, hair color/hair thickness or baldness. No chin comment yet from women so far. So there is that. I am all for plastic surgery if you feel unhappy about how you look like however (I respect … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/21 01:39 PM |
| 9 | On the wallTRP likes to talk about women hitting wall because it distracts people on what happen when men hit the wall. Women hit the wall according to TRP stereotype: cats and wine! Men hit the wall according to reality and statistics: suicide. I'd say the cat and the wine won. But apparently not for TRPers. Aparently eating lead, wearing rope as necktie, kissing a moving train trumped companionship (pet) and luxury good (wine, according where one lives). But maybe it is just one of those 'Alpha dude' thi… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/21 07:18 AM |
| 1 | As odd as it seems a lot of women and them in the same to want men to still feel the protector role even though we're supposed to be in a new age of feminismI am actually against the thought that anyone should be someone's protector because of their gender (men protecting women or vice versa) or their physical strature (big tall guy protecting a bullied skinny short guy) or their age (adult protecting children), etc. Now of course, calling police/authorities/securities/etc when you see someone in trouble is something one should do, but it is different than physically put yourself on the danger zone yourself. Especially in countries where gun permit … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/21 07:04 AM |
| 5 | Having trouble reconciling views from this sub and TRP/PPDIt seems to bother you so much that obese or ugly girls showed interest to you. You see them as beneath you and it is somehow an insult for you, that they even dared to think that they will have chance with you. Thing is...a lot of guys complained that being called 'creep' is euphemism for 'being ugly but dared to show interest to a woman'. They know the pain of being rejected because of physical unattractiveness, but that sympathy stops only on themselves...and not to ugly or obese people who s… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/21 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Men Must Be Needed Because We Can’t Be WantedBut what woman desires a man for his looks, the way men desire women ? Oh there are some really really good looking men out there that are desired by both straight women, bi-men and gay men. But at that point, it is simply winning genetics lottery. Is it really womens' fault to not liking men simply for just they are, or is it the 'poor design' of men biologically, to simply like women for being women instead of liking her after meeting a certain standard unrelated to the physical ones? Which on… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Toxic Shame / Core WoundingBy accepting that...that is who you are. And maybe all along your lifetime, you will only have less than five people that truly like you and be close to you. And that is completely alright. And this also means to build one's life around it too. Jobwise: look for a job with few human interactions. Livingwise: Outside of town, rural place, etc. Or mid of a bustling city where people are busy and the neighbor does not even know each other. I think the part where we will feel self-shame is to try to… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/21 02:25 PM |
| 1 | What's the best and worst thing Red Pill has taught you?Do you prefer your partner to stay with you out of: Pity? Sunk cost fallacy? Guilt? Fear? Laziness? Do you know how many married men want to get with me? Married men who stay with their wives for years yeah? Having kids with them and all? Yeah, and when I told their wives (as always), the wives would all have that look of "I know that you are telling the truth and my husband is staying with me for all reasons except for genuine, true love....but I want to believe." So...yeah. Our partner being h… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/21 02:19 PM |
| 3 | What's the best and worst thing Red Pill has taught you?Understandable, but better be lonely than in a bad company. Also, the abundance mentality, which is perhaps the only thing I agreed with from TRP. There are plenty of fish in the sea and when we too focus on that one big tuna that escaped our grasps, we will be blind to other fishes, so to say. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/21 12:17 PM |
| 6 | What's the best and worst thing Red Pill has taught you?If you were a gay man, you can still be left by your BF/husband if he does not want you anymore, or if he wants to be with a more sucessful, more attractive, etc man. It is not about the fact that you were with a woman. I really dislike this thought that so many people have that if you left your partner and not staying with them no matter what, that you are a betrayer or something. You will not be this angry, if your company/boss hypergamied you by firing you and replacing you with younger, more… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/21 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Men Must Be Needed Because We Can’t Be WantedVery informative article and something else I noticed. A lot of men don't believe it that they are wanted simply as they are...if it comes from a woman, they have to feel needed to some degree to feel secure. But when a gay man flirts with them or expressing desires for them, they believe immediately that those gay men want them as them. It is wild. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/21 09:21 AM |
| 1 | It’s just your turn?And some people are alright being settled down like that (even see it as 'extra' insurance sometimes, i.e. he/she will not go until our kids leave the house, so that's at least 10 years with this person guaranteed), but I can imagine many that will not be cool with that. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/21 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Current redpiller here.Oh for fuck's sake. I really need to take a break from this subreddit. As someone who had lived in a country where it is in theory 'RedPill' paradise (it is only paradise for rich men. Poor men are treated even worse than poor women because their lives means nothing), it is so frustrating seeing guys here who do not know how -good- they have it, thinking that they are society's victims. A lot of men from the so called RP approved countries will give everything to be able to trade position/life w… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | It’s just your turn?I actually like the idea that everyone is everyone's turn. You are not purchasing a human being when you decided to be with someone. And you are not being purchased either. There is nothing to 'enforce'. If someone does not want to be with you out of love, they won't. And see how good your self-esteem will still be, if you know that your partner is only staying with you because of money, because of security, because of sunk cost fallacy, because of fear to be alone. You are being reduced to 'bet… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/21 01:52 PM |
| 11 | Current redpiller here.1950s are only good for the countries that won the war. Other countries were picking up the pieces. The people hardened, the men and the women, and they had to. They needed to rebuild. You do not know how lucky you are. You are 19 with opportunities that so many men in this world can only dream of. You want to move to places where men have to really act hard, because if they act weak, their mother, sister, wife, daughter will be taken by stronger men? Is that what you want? You live in a country… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/21 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Idk what to think anymoreYou might disagree, but I think the feeling of "are them [put specific gender/race/culture/etc here] all like this?" after experiencing bad situation with them, is sort of normal. I think it is the way your brain telling you to disengage and take time to care for yourself and to deal with the aftermath first. Picking up the pieces, letting yourself heal and all. In time, when you know you are ready, you will feel differently. BUT, usually it happens after you have done the work. Many people are … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/21 10:37 AM |
| 6 | Post-redpillI think the biggest revelation for me is that how many people are being raised to make them feel entitled to see a human being, as mere NPC to cure their insecurity or to cure their loneliness and unhappiness. And yes, I said people because it is done by both genders and any sexual orientations. Some people apparently growing up being told that if they do X, Y, Z, they are entitled to a partner, to a harem, to have someone who unconditionally love them. You know? Like NPC in video games. Like th… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/21 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Just wanted to say, I have mad respect for you guys! Would like your opinion on men's rights.Oh man, novel incoming, because it is all topics I am passionate about. So first of all, I have to give disclaimer that I came from and till my late teens raised in various countries in Asia, mostly South Eastern Asia hemisphere, so I grew up in a culture where men (actually more like rich person really, but there are much less jobs opportunities and advancements for women, so mostly men have money. But poor, as in money poor men are suffering more than poor women...if that makes sense at all?) … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/21 05:30 AM |
| 10 | My dilemmaIt amazes me how many RPs are harping about about AWALT dem hoes!!! It just ur turn brah!! and deep inside ended up wanting both monogamy and a harem themselves. As if they are projecting what they want (but mostly can't get) to others. As for OP, time and place. It is ok to want to be a family man and all, but if you still want to have fun (and it is ok), then the time is not yet now. Don't do the whole what if I cannot find a woman as great as my GF now? Stop that, because you are just keeping… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/21 04:58 AM |
| 3 | Just wanted to say, I have mad respect for you guys! Would like your opinion on men's rights.Huge supporter of fathers' rights here. The court is still far behind with (often) giving custody to the mother. Yes, even when the father is a greater parent than the mother. Yes, even when the kid themselves is terrified with the mother and begged to live with the father. Volunteering in vulnerable youth programs opened my eyes to how many abusive mothers are out there and how the court (strangely) still often treats fathers with suspicions. Also need to get rid of those: mothers know best stu… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Techniques in accepting isolationRegular self-care might help. Treating yourself everyday or once a week by devoting an hour to just do body care (could be long, meticulous grooming. Could be a long, warm bath. Massage your tense muscles, etc...etc...), soul care (meditation, bonding moments with beloved pets, etc), mind care (read your favorite books). | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/21 06:05 PM |
| 2 | if women don't like bad boysIf you really believe this, you should: Go up and sucker punch a policeman/policewoman. Get arrested and be put on news. ????? Profit! (Drowning in pussy, according to you). Try this method ASAP! Forget those lame dating advice youtubers. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/21 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Accepting you cant have certain things in life?You do not have to live with it if you do not want to. You do not need to continue living to impress anyone or to fulfill some kind of societal obligations. I personally respect people's rights for body autonomy. That means also rights to their body, mind and soul. The rights to have operation/modification done to their body. And the right for suicide. Check out Dignitas or Exit International. Thing is, if what you have is physical disability that is not going to get better with time, people wil… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/21 09:47 AM |
| 12 | Spotting a red pillerThese people are usually very insecure and in deep denial about their insecurities. Because that tenet of 'holding frame'. Go with people (yes, men and women) who own their insecurities. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 02:04 PM |
| 2 | You have to admit getting married in society is a huge riskAren't RedPillers the ones who like to use dread to try to win their partner's attention and affection back, instead of just leaving/divorcing like most normal people? This 'dread' is very pathetic, some people gives it a more apt name; aka Doing the Pick Me Dance. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityIt is a 'me' but written as m3 because someone has taken similar username. Just adding a little tidbit about the nature and nurture, I'd like to give my husband as an example. He has degenerative disease that started since he was young. In school, he used to be bullied. The shitty genes he has, he got it from his parents. But the way his parents nurtured him growing with disability, played a massive part on his success and mental health. They took him out of the school where he was bullied...and… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 01:37 AM |
| 1 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityYou can always go back to hard, simple logic about nature and nurture. When it comes down to it, there are just two people directly responsible. I wish you luck and I hope you will figure the situation out with your GF and life as a whole. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 01:28 AM |
| 1 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityphilosophy Then see it like this, how do you justify seeing someone. A complete human being, who probably loves you very much, as breadcrumbs...and still feels like a good person for doing this? While you know that there are men out there, who would have loved and appreciated her better? She was not the individual who hurt you in the past, so what logic is it there, to make her pay (even unknowingly) for it? How do you punish other people for other's mistake and still feel like a good person for… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 01:26 AM |
| 1 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityIt wastes both your and her time. Human lifespan is finite. The massive reminder of how much you are being forced to settle because the feeling of inadequacy you have. Every single time you interact with her. Just like it is not the beta provider's fault for being settled on, it is not her fault of being settled on too. But at some point, just like those women who feel that they have to settle, the resentment will leak out and it will hurt the settled on partner. If you are inadequate and it is … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityEconomic security being another one. Striving for better financial security is a good thing to do (no matter your gender and sexual orientation) and luckily, this is something you can do on your own. Please do not take it the wrong way, but if money is your focus, isn't humanities degree thw wrong way to go? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:55 AM |
| 2 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityWell the idea is that I'm not a very high status male and she's the best I can do, so I should be grateful I've got crumbs and STFU. This sounds like how TRP often accuse women of doing, when they stay with a 'beta provider'. Don't do this. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:52 AM |
| 3 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityI need advice to find somebody that I need can rely on like that much like I could do with her and also have a connection. I know this is what many (perhaps most) people want, but becareful not to fall into the trap of treating other people like NPCs and yourself as the man character/hero. Many, many, many people who think like this are unhappy either with their lives or with who they are. Hoping that a partner will be the cure/the medicine/the deus ex machina that will finally give their lives … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:49 AM |
| 2 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityHow many detailed roadmaps do you need for that situation you faced before? You found yourself dating someone nice and attractive that you failed to build connection with, aren't your choice: Stay and try to work it out for longer, to see if something change, at the expense of your and her time. Break up at the expense of possible regret down the line. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:34 AM |
| 2 | on emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityYou ask different people, you will get different answers too. Because what works for them, may not work for others. But back to your example of your GF (former I suppose?). Sure she was hot and nice, but you do not feel connected with her, you saw her as short term but not long term...so what was so wrong about that, that you even need to look for advice for it? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | The best way to fight the red pill is to return to traditional valueswomen not making clear what they like. Often times, they just haven't discovered it yet, because discovering your own body and what gets it going, solo or otherwise, often takes time and practice. Body sensitivity can hormonally change too, suddenly the breasts got too sensitive or some parts got a little number, etc. It does not have to be a heterosexual relationship either. I have a lesbian friend who often told me about how late (in their age) many women she dated often found out what they re… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to itEven if you meet that girl who is interested in you for you, you will drive her away. You may never believe her 100% in the first place that she is into you. Let's be honest about this. No matter what she said, what she has done, you will to some degree, thinking that she prefers the ice cream. Yes, even if she is a virgin. You will just think that she feels like she has no chance with chads. Your insecurity (no matter how much you try to hide it) will drive her away. It leaks out when you don't… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/21 12:00 AM |
| 2 | I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to itHow will you describe your own personality? Deep inside, do you honestly feel like you are a burden, or aren't you? Are you an insecure person? Do you feel less compared to other men? What have you tried so far to remedy it? You are 23 and want to be wanted. It is understandable. But you are currently not wanted. So where does the problem lay? Your ideal men is buffed and tattooed and masculine, yes? What steps have you taken to be like that? Sorry for so many questions, but a lot of men (and wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/21 10:52 AM |
| 18 | Red Pill men and their HATRED for voluntarily single womenWe reaaallly need some kind of movements that promote a positive representation of MGTOW and WGTOW. I even dislike using those terms because of how much negativities are associated with those abbreviations. Some special holiday for happily single men and women maybe? More movies being made about main character not ended up with anyone, but still is living a great, fulfilled life? Having single older men and women doing talks in front of school children? We need to get rid of the stigma that bein… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/21 01:32 PM |
| 2 | What parts of the red pill do you disagree with? Open discussionIn patriarchal society, there is zero help for men. Even more so than in the more liberal ones. Forget getting sympathy if you got raped by a woman, men on men rape is being seen as does not exist and the victim (even if the victim is a young boy), simply being labelled as damaged goods. There are less cooperations and more competitions too. Some more patriarchal communities legalized polygamy and having multiple mistresses. If you are at the top, you will have it great, but when you are down in… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/21 01:24 PM |
| 2 | What parts of the red pill do you disagree with? Open discussionFrom your responses, seems like you are open to understand others' point of views. I am an Asian woman who grew up in Asia. In several Asian countries even and most of the countries I have lived in, could be seen as conservative/religious and patrialchal. And let me tell you this, believe it or not, a lot of men suffer there too. It is not some men paradise like many clueless Westerners often think. Theory and application does not line up. The men still died at much younger age than women and st… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/21 07:18 AM |
| 1 | What parts of the red pill do you disagree with? Open discussionI think even soft dread is dumb too. People in this kind of situation should have just jumped into your last paragraph. Talking it out and be the best version of themselves. And when that does not work, leave. There are plenty of fish and all that. I don't think that sex based on 'I actually am not into this, but I just do not want to lose you/sense of security/comfort, so I will put on an act on the bed' helps anyone either. Might even be as shitty as 'tis my once a month starfish duty sex. U c… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/21 06:57 AM |
| 4 | Are girlfriends supposed to shit test?That's what reading TRP will bring you. Everything is shit-tests, mostly because a lot of TRPs are world class shit-testers themselves. People who are insecure, both in themselves and in their relationship with other humans (platonic or otherwise), often manufacture some artificial situations to gauge the interest of other individuals in them. Instead of dealing with their insecurities with a paid professionals as how it should have been. To make themselves feel normal, instead of thinking that … | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/21 07:33 PM |
| 2 | No flashy title here. Come if you’re interested in a true discussion on the matter of the damage done by TRP on one’s psycheTo be fair, there are some women who will be interested in the stoic, emotionless, quiet and collected, high confidence projecting persona individuals. But you cannot be with them too, if you were not naturally a person with such traits in the first place. Because then, you'd be selling those women a lie and then it will not be a wonder when they left, feeling that they've been duped and lied to. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/21 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Dread Game: Making Others Insecure So I Feel SafeDon't you agree that being 'strong for someone' is some wrong way to go through life? Don't you agree that Nice Guys/Nice Girls are more often than not manipulative people inside? Do not need TRP or any pill to recognize that. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys Finish Last?The Nice Guys/Nice Girls who said something like that are often nit as nice as they thought. They are children raised by parents who love to bribe their children to do something. "Be nice, sit pretty during dinner and you will get to eat that ice cream later." They think life works that way and when they found out it is not, they lashed out. They lashed out that little Johnny and little Linda still get to eat the same ice cream eventhough they did not stay still during dinner. Now instead of bla… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Dread Game: Making Others Insecure So I Feel SafeBe strong for yourself, not for someone. Being strong for someone is putting them up (often unknowingly or unwillingly) on a pedestal. Why would you put that kind of burden on someone? If your GF does not want to continue relationship anymore, just because, will you then be weak? This kind of neediness is what a lot of relationship does not need. Were you weak before meeting her? Was she weak before meeting you? Nice guys/Nice girls act are something most people no longer do after they left high… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/21 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Emotionally drivenAgreed that it is human/societal issue. I (F) was raised in a somewhat traditional family with a stoic father and brother and mother. But still I was taught that the way my father and brother keep their stoicism is just natural, while my mother is an exception for a woman. I feel that it is more of a 'problem' where and how one was raised. If showing emotion is beaten out (figuratively or literally) out of you, since you were young by society and people around you (classmates, friends, neighbors… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/01/21 04:02 PM |
| 5 | Who are these women with all these unrealistic expectations that these red pill guys are mad at ?Asian from Asia here. White male tourists have been found time and time again to fuck children while on vacation at various SEA countries. Should I avoid white men? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/21 07:06 AM |
| 43 | Who are these women with all these unrealistic expectations that these red pill guys are mad at ?I feel like most of these guys have serious self esteem issues or personality disorders. Yep. I bet many of them have had their job applications turned down by different companies, have had teachers or professors giving them less than stellar marks. But weirdly enough, only rejection from women they take so personally. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/21 02:33 PM |
| 3 | So will Rollo Tomassi and Rich Cooper be okay with their daughters (when they are in their twenties) hooking up with older guys who have looks, money, status and game? Or is it one rule for everybody else's daughters and another for theirs?You are obsessed with TRP and Tinder. Trully the marks of an 'alpha'. Everytime a girl does something, you gotta ask TRP on what to do, because you are so afraid of deciding what to do yourself. You are a true follower that will never be a leader. Of course the only way you can get attention and keep those attention is by developing a completely made up personality. Now go and cry to TRP. Is all what you have been doing and will continue to do anyway. And moment of truth; you know what kind of w… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/21 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Is it okay to care about potential partner's n count? Is it okay for them to lie about it?I think it is such a shame that a lot of men are often guilted to lower their standards while women are praised as 'knowing what she wants' for having standards. I am against RedPill, but I am all for both men and women having and keeping their personal standards and boundaries. Also it is not about if someone has changed their ways or not. And if someone who used to have sex with a lot of people will be less loyal in the future. It is about not feeling pressured to give anyone chance (romantica… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/21 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Is it okay to care about potential partner's n count? Is it okay for them to lie about it?Yeah but what is your opinion on the guy that breaks up with her because her father is black? He is prejudiced, but he also has the right to his boundaries (a little bit to add here, I am Asian grew up in Asia. Not wanting to marry someone based on their/their parents' ethnicity, socioeconomy, caste, etc is something that happens quite often.) Is it a reasonable standard? Is it more reasonable than a friend of mine who just cannot find crosseyed/lazyeyed girl to be physically attractive, no matt… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/21 08:03 AM |
| 4 | I don't know how I got notifications for this group.Ahhh...redpillers and their hobbies of shit-testing other people, while being paranoid about being shit-tested themselves. It is true that only thieves think that everyone else steals. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Is it okay to care about potential partner's n count? Is it okay for them to lie about it?don't want to date her anymore just because her father is black I think that girl in the story will be more grateful if the guy left her because of that, rather than still trying to date her while still having the prejudice. The thought of 'I would have not dated other women with black father, except for her, because she is special' is a heavy burden to be put on her shoulder. Spoken as former token immigrant/foreigner among people who dislike foreigners. 'You are one of the good ones', is not a… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/21 02:27 AM |
| 1 | thoughts on masculinity coaches?What about the abandonement issues on your part, (the one that you said was caused by your mother), because it can be a separate issue. The cruel thing about this is people with abandonement issues often end up with other people with issues on their own (like in your case, a person with NPD). As for masculinity, I feel that it is a result of both nature and nurture. I do not think that you can train it and not feeling like acting all the time then. And perhaps you can get a partner who is into m… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/21 01:58 PM |
| 1 | thoughts on masculinity coaches?I sleuthed on your posting history for a bit. Nine months ago, you were writing about looking for help for your abandonement issues and recognizing it (correctly) as something that causing you to act horribly against your partner (and of course, future partner). How far has the treatment been going on? As someone who once had a brush (not even dating) with someone with abandonement issues, causes by their upbringing (similar to your case), it is enough for me to say that I will never even try to… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/21 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Ever notice how TRP/MGTOWS think that women are all the sudden different in the current year.Great reply as usual u/Xemnas81. Always enjoy the way you put your thoughts into words. Very easy to read and to understand. I think in many Western hemisphere, they are currently in intermediary moments still. They have begun to make the move towards egalitarian society, but some aspects from the pasts are still hard to leave behind. For example the part where women are working and earning themselves, but the same society still expect men to be breadwinner or at least the better earner in the f… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/21 07:00 AM |
| 4 | What do you guys think about Red Pillers or guys in general who say that women are and should be submissive?Plenty of men do not know how and even do not want to be in charge. In many Muslim households I know, the women (usually the older ones) are in charge. These women are ruthless about the way they work their men to the bones too. There is no standoff. Men go to work, go home, eat and rest, then go to work again. Though if that's someone's personal cup of tea, that's fine too. You will change your tones when the women you love (sister, aunt, mother, etc) married the wrong men and their submissiven… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/21 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Promiscuity can be a problematic trait in people.Getting with other guys. Now to be fair, maybe some of these guys were already bi-curious in the first place. But sometimes sexuality is fluid and for some it takes time to figure things out and there is nothing wrong with that. The point is that the guts itself to try/give it a try in the first place. Instead of just fuming and blaming others. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Promiscuity can be a problematic trait in people.This kind of thing kind of make me wished that men who complained about lack of success with women are more open about being sexual with another men. I think some lonely guys are already doing that and they are happy with the result. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/20 04:28 PM |
| 8 | My experience with men who struggle with sex and long term relationshipsVery well written post and I admire your patience to take your time to understand these problematic individuals. I am surrounded by men myself both in professional setting (engineerig field) and through my hobbies (gaming and martial arts). I befriend a lot of men, but disengage very quickly as soon as they showed tendency to blame a group of people for their own problems. Personally, I think the only people they can blame (outside of themselves naturally) are their parents. Biological parents o… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/20 07:18 AM |
| 6 | If you wonder why feminism hasn't helped you with dating or hookups...Even after marriage, it is alright to leave a relationship if you are unhappy or no longer love your spouse. Have you ever lived or go through relationship where your partner does not love or want you anymore, but just need you there out of convinience? Is that kind of relationship fulfilling? What will you do if you no longer love your spouse? Just wait until she died of old age to be free? We do not need more babies born, we need better technology. Japan is trying to create robot nurses to tak… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/20 12:27 PM |
| 3 | If you wonder why feminism hasn't helped you with dating or hookups...What is bad about telling men and women that they do not need relationship to be happy? They can of course want to be in one, but telling people to enjoy their lives without burden of relationship (it is a burden, but also a joy), seems to be still frowned upon at best. MGTOW and WGTOW got flak because of how toxic and full of resentment most of them are, but imagine a no-resentment, non-toxic version of it. I am not for or against feminism, but if we zeroed in to the aspect of 'don't need no ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/20 08:11 AM |
| 1 | my experience with a red pill exI can agree with that, but what is the chance that someone who grew up in abusive/neglectful home will be aware enough to look for help to overcome what they've been going through, by the time they could escape their childhood environment? There is also a time factor here. Let's say by Western European standard, 18 is the age where these poor souls left their home. What is the chance that they will look for psychological help right away? How many years needed until they are functional again? Are… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/12/20 08:50 AM |
| 1 | my experience with a red pill exIf we talk about what will bode well for long term relationships (for both genders here), I think people who grew up with abusive (mentally, physically, sexually...all three or just one of those) parents/parental figures/guardians are more to be avoided than the ones who had slept with many people. There is no question how fucked up (even deep inside) can be, a person who were nurtured wrong. Their ability to even bond platonically with friends are often rubish too. Then you have to avoid non-ne… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 5 | "Be someone you'd want to date" is just manipulated in TRPCan you change your mind into "I wouldn't date myself, but if I found someone crazy enough who wants to date me (and I feel the same about her), then it's a wrap." Sometimes, we are our own worst critics. But don't get me wrong, especially if you feel unsatisfied with yourself, self-improvement for one's own benefits is extremely important and personally I think you should want to do that until the day you died. But again, only for your own benefit and not to attract mate, or even friends. Let's… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/20 03:46 PM |
| 9 | FlawsThere was a Red Piller who wrote that it is good that he knows Red Pill and practising Red Pill, so that he can teach his two little daughters to avoid Red Pill men in the future. He absolutely has love and sympathy for his own daughter. But completely zero for other mens' daughters. Similar to men in some places who agreed about throwing acid to womens' faces. They will go apeshit if you dare to even suggest throwing acid to their mothers', sisters', daughters' faces. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 6 | My stance on red pillmen do not seem to condone every form of abuse from good looking women. "Don't stick dick in crazy." They even have saying for this because of how often abuse in a relationship is being overlooked if the abuser is a woman who is hot or is amazing in bed. There is even the 'afraid of being alone', 'afraid of unable to find someone as hot as that again' kind of talks among many young guys. A lot of people of both genders tolerate being treated like crap because of fear of being alone. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/20 10:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you find love/sexual relationships without PUA and/or simmilar mindsetts?I dont really know what hypergamy or SMV means? Hypergamy is the belief that women will always look for an upgrade, even when they are in a relationship already. And women who stay for decades with their partners are doing that just because they cannot find upgrade. Which of course, in your personal experience, was already debunked by your ex. Just like Arnold cheating on his wife with his housekeeper, people gon do what they want to do (and of course back to my original statement again, the onl… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 1 | How do you find love/sexual relationships without PUA and/or simmilar mindsetts?my GF left me for a shitty guy (abusive, cheating, alcoholic) Damn, women just can't win, can we? If we left a partner for a higher SMV ones, then we are hypergamous. If we are leaving a partner for a lower SMV person, then what are we? Hypogamous? Either way, I do not understand why it is suddenly -not okay- to leave a partner. Personally I think men and women should be allowed to leave a partner without being made to feel guilty. And when one decided to go into relationship, they really have t… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Stumbled Across this Forum... I'm impressed.Could it be just the 'Covid blues'? Your life sounds just like completely fine and there is nothing need to change. I do not want to invalidate your wants and needs of course, but I have met both men and women who are sucessful in what they do...and have hobbies they immenselly enjoy. They don't settle down and they are happy with that. They date here and there. Having good times, both receiving and giving joys to their temporary partners (if any) and there is nothing wrong about that. Once the … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 1 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .Unconditional love is kind of love you have for your child I just had discussions about this too, today. Parental love is not unconditional and it is fine too. A lot of parents of mass murderers, rapists, terrorists, etc renouncing their love for their own children and they are free to do that. It is also alright to have difficulty loving your children if they were for example, unplanned and unwanted in the first place. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/20 01:49 PM |
| 5 | Stumbled Across this Forum... I'm impressed.I'd say you are fine and plenty non-RP, male or female, have similar mindset like you are. There is nothing wrong with focusing on study, work, passions, etc and dating only for fun and socializations. LTRs, kids, settling down, etc should never be a default expectation. It is fine to enjoy life like how you want to enjoy it as long as you are hurting no one. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/20 01:46 PM |
| 6 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .You should look into r/askgaybros. I often suggest people to look at that subreddit for a few days, reading top posts, etc. People focus too much often on women vs men thing that they often forgot that even if they are in same sex relationship, often similar problems will occur. Especially very often is the feeling of being not enough to be in a relationship or stay/keep the relationship. It gives other perspectives. The certain stereotypical criteria of be tall, big cocked, outgoing, masc...tho… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 11:39 AM |
| 5 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .My man, this kind of thought is something that most people have, but many people also often think that they are the special ones for being loyal. Do you think if you were gay (let us take women out of equation here), there will be a guarantee that your BF/husband will not look for a better looking/more sucessful guy? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 11:02 AM |
| 5 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .This is a slipery fucking slope that makes men/women/NB stays too long in abusive relationships. Or relationships that had turned abusive. Or simply staying unhappy in a relationship. This bond can even run its course without another person coming into the relationship. I feel that again, we circle back into this whole uncoditional thing thatturned into a sort of hostage situation for the non needy partner. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 10:31 AM |
| 3 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .I do not get this one too. Will you feel better if your partner leaving you for a lower SMV person? Or will it make you feel even worse. Because 'am I such a horrible person, that she/him/they left me for a (what I deemed as) worse person?' At least if you are being left for a better person, you can genuinely tell yourself that a logical decision has been made. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 10:27 AM |
| 5 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .And this is one of those RP contradictions. Claiming men are more logical than women, but choosing lower quality mates/dating down, obsessing about one person and calling it love and thinking all of these are logical behavior? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 10:23 AM |
| 8 | I feel brainwashed and sad about how true redpill is .I dislike the phrase 'loving unconditionally' because it is synonymous with the very obnoxious 'can't handle me at my worst, don't deserve me at my best!!!!1' snaps fingers It is entitled as fuck. The whole thing "someone is only good if they can love me unconditionally" is very manipulative, self-centered...and usually being said by the weaker individual who needed the group protection, who needed the moral support in a relationship, etc. Even parents do not love unconditionally. They at some p… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/20 09:10 AM |
| 3 | Red Pill has destroyed me and I'm only 17Oh yes, can you explain how it is related to women? And you are at the age where a lot of things just sucked. You should be proud of yourself that you are able to self reflect despite being so young. Many (much older) people are not able to do that. As for bullying, I am afraid to say that... Yeah, getting physically stronger is the most effective method to deal with it. That or a complere change of environment. All of my male friends/former classmates who got bullied stopped being bullied after… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Red Pill has destroyed me and I'm only 17You changed school 8 times and got bullied in all of those schools? Are these schools like around prisons or something? And I bet you that there were also other short male students in those schools, who did not get bullied. I understand that being bullied is horrible, but I do not understand the correlation with hating women because of that. Was it because all of the teachers responsible in your previous schools were women and they were powerless to stop the bullying? Were the bullies female stu… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/20 11:49 AM |
| 5 | Kind of feel that the black pill low key says a lot about most women even if not all.I am always a little uncomfortable when we talk about the treatments of people who are physically less attractive because the attitude is different from the West and the East. I looked at your posting history and seems like we are coming from a similar corner of the world (Singa here but now am living in Europe). I feel that the concept of incel being entitled (through lack of beauty, lack of height, bad skin, unattractive features) do not really exist in Asia, cause of how open the society are … | /r/ExRedPill | 22/11/20 08:05 AM |
| 10 | Kind of feel that the black pill low key says a lot about most women even if not all.I always feel that it is similar for both genders. Looks/physical attractiveness (which differs from one person to another), will get you inside the door easier. But personality will be the deciding factor for lasting relationship. Go to r/askgaybros and read around some of the posts. Why askgaybros? Because even when it involves zero amount of women, zero amount of straight people, the attitude is still similar. Good looks get you laid and into a beginning of relationship easier, but often it's… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/11/20 07:15 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop this way of thinking? Have I been brainwashed?Try to get to know the woman before you date her. Does anyone really need to be told to do this? Get to know someone before getting closer to them? Get to know a company before applying to it? Get to know a neighborhood before moving into it? Also people, circumstances and all other things can change. Normal today, become addict later. Of sound mind today, become a suicidal person later. Personality changes at later stage of life through diseases, genetics, etc. A lot of things related to other … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Think RP has points but comes from a misunderstood placeEveryone can be ruthless. Only focusing on one gender/race/sexual orientation/culture/etc is unwise. Source: my husband's bestfriend of more than 3 decades who stole 12K Eur from him. They were like brothers before. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/20 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Think RP has points but comes from a misunderstood placeThe abundance mentality is also good and should be followed by men and women. Will help in getting rid of stalking problems (often caused by men and women who are just unable to move on from this one person) and also getting rid of NiceGuys/NiceGirl pest-like behavior. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/20 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Think RP has points but comes from a misunderstood placeJust don't overdo it like this muppet https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gwvo8w/aita_for_laughing_at_my_boyfriends_voice/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/20 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Think RP has points but comes from a misunderstood placeHow is this sustainable though? Say you found that person you want to LTR with, maybe innitial projected masculinity will attract her, but how long to keep up the charade? A year? Five? Ten? And remember that you are not always 10/10 mentally and physically as a human being either. At times you feel weak and vulnerable and don't feel like keeping the masculine charade, will you just ask for a temporary break rather than seeking support and comfort in her? Lastly, isn't this just a male version o… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/20 05:40 AM |
| 6 | What Do You Think About r/ProMaleCollective?I think there was even someone who was genuinely interested and active in Men's rights and said similar things. It also is hard for genuine people like him, if the 'comrade' in arms are only interested in bashing women instead of offering genuine and realistic helping hand to men who need them. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/20 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Open Discussion on Average GuysI feel that pair bond is being used too often as buzzword? There has been male and female spinsters among the course of human history. The bond is not always a pair (between two people), some culture has polygamy and few others even has polygyny. Some religious folks only do short term marriages (6 months at a time), to avoid having sex outside of marriage, etc. Reddit is... Very Western-centric. I am a transplant from East to West. My understanding about couple-ship was different then and now. … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/11/20 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Open Discussion on Average GuysI honestly do not understand what's the problem here. need to lower their standards or stay single In the last, I had to severely lower my already low standards and that led to unhappy relationships (Dating a woman with 4 kids and dating a very boring, very overweight woman) So you have chosen Option A by lowering your standard (and lucky enough to experience this in person. Other people are not so lucky) and realized that it only made you feel less happy. Then by logic, isn't the only choice le… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/11/20 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Help a 21 year old understand.I'd say you are light years ahead by bringing your parents' relationship problems as one of the source of feeling lost in looking for directions to go with relationships. Do you know how many people are completely absolving their parents of all crimes? Even people who claimed to be born ugly. Blaming society for seeing them as invisible, instead of blaming their genes givers (aka their biological parents). Not all women want, let alone need (fuck I am so tired of seeing people acting as if roman… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/10/20 03:53 PM |
| 1 | I think redpill broke my brain.This is how you think: if someone cut me at traffic, that someone must have doing that to personally hurt me. if my boss is giving me less hours and gives me a difficult tasks, he is doing that to personally hurt me. if my doctor misdiagnosed me, he is doing that to personally hurt me. if a friend of mine does not come to my party after RSVP, he/she is doing that to personally hurt me. if my girlfriend/partner/etc has less sex with me, she is doing that to personally hurt me. Can you imagine a g… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | am i falling down the redpill hole?Western world has a weird attitude when it comes to beauty. I came from Asia before moving to the West and there, people call out someone for being fat, darker skinned or unattractive all the time. We have plastic surgery (double eyelids, jaw bones shaving, rhinoplasty, legs lengthening, etc), we have whitening cream, we have all the diet pills/methods/etc. Even if someone is kind, smart, confident...it is still okay to say that it will be better if they would have looked more attractive, openly… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/20 03:06 AM |
| 2 | TRP has distorted my ideas of women.100k+ subs is normal and even quite low for things that is popular content. So many dating/diet/beauty/finance/[inserts things that makes people think if I only have that -one- thing I will finally be happy forever here] 'coaches' have a lot of subscribers. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/20 04:01 PM |
| 4 | TRP has distorted my ideas of women.A lot of the so-called RP gurus came from unhappy family. Somehow instead of just blaming their parents, like what many normal people do, they decided to blame random people they have never even met in their lives. There was a thread about how many RPers came from a single parent household or lack strong male figure in their lives. They also tend to have weird 'logic' about their situation. If they have a shitty dad who left them, then it is the mother's fault for choosing shitty men. Ergo, wome… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/20 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Are Redpillers on the rise? Has it completely gone mainstream?Not in my friends/works circle. Most men do not need it anyway. They are not desperate for anything and can function both independently and with romantical partner. Likewise with the ladies too. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/20 01:49 PM |
| 3 | Why the red pill is bashing single mothers and sons from a single mom household?Loading and unloading dishwasher takes just few minutes despite the meme of how one never done it right. Pushing the buttons takes several seconds. You can already pile clothes inside the washing machine everyday after you are home from work to just push the buttons after the machine is full. If you wear very different range of fabrics, you can just separate them beforehand. Pushing buttons again, takes a few seconds. Vacuuming is basically just you walking around your own dwelling with big stic… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/20 04:56 AM |
| 5 | Why the red pill is bashing single mothers and sons from a single mom household?I think it is also have to do with more people renting than owning properties. And if something in your rented accomodation broke, Landlords/Landladies do not like it if you try a DIY. They will just want to be informed and then they will send someone. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/20 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Why the red pill is bashing single mothers and sons from a single mom household?Is there even something such as 'need' anymore, for both genders? Going into traditional gender roles: Men: Protector: Obsolete. Guns can be used by both women and men. Most places in this world are safe and in places who are not safe, men are being gunned down and taken in as slaves and child soldiers too. Can trained both men and women in martial arts and even trained men, if they are being ambushed, they still can lose. Breadwinner: Obsolete. Except in places where women are not allowed to go… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Is it true less than 10% of men with high functioning autism has had a relationship ever?This is always a very interesting topic for me, because I know both high functioning men and women (my field of study back then and work now do tend to attract high functioning people). I think if there is one thing I noticed well is that the women fare better in social interaction through years of 'camouflage' training. Usually by demands of society. For good and for bad. Though I can imagine that it must have been hell or uncomfortable for them, during camouflage training in their formative ye… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/20 05:49 AM |
| 9 | Ignore modern dating advice.I would not call it Alpha and beta, but there are really some natural born leaders type of people. And they can be both women and men. If you remember the time in the kindergarten, school years, even university years, you always have that -one- person who seems to be the wisest beyond his/her years. Teachers and professors like him/her. The other students want to be his/her friends, they both look up to him/her for advice and help, both poor and rich, popular and unpopular kids just wanted to be… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/20 05:36 AM |
| 6 | In which circumstances a woman can be happy with an autistic partner ?Look for neuroatypical girls out there. Many of them will be thrilled to find someone who understands them. Autistic women tend to be better at 'camouflage', but behind closed door, they are even often more burdened by the (often) failure to be social. Not all of them of course and sometimes the 'camouflage' went on so well, you barely noticed. But it is like wearing a mask. Maybe there is some local support group or just a group to hangout. Don't come there for sole purpose of finding a partner… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/20 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Can really love men the same way men love women.Tired fo reading things like this. You know that there are a lot of women who are breadwinners out there. Your problem is not women. Your problem is that you are unsatisfied with yourself. Maybe because you see yourself as less than other men. Still, I do not understand why you want others, especially random woman you might find in the future, to fix your problem of feeling inadequate. That is fucking unfair, weak and plain lazy. Fix your own problems and get a woman who has had her shits fixed … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/20 02:44 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on Alpha Male strategiesI was 12 years old, 6th grade in elementary school, when I went home from school and from behind, a man on a bicycle grabbed my breasts and then laughing about it. First time a man caressed my hips when Inwas swimming, I was even younger. I was and am not the prettiest and I was back then still living in a more conservative country. OP, it is true that women can get laid easier, it was because some men are...just like that man who grabbed my breasts when I was a child. Some men have so little st… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/20 03:54 PM |
| 6 | Is it true that women don’t love the way men do?There has been spinsters since the dawn of humanity. With time, technology will improve. Artificial womb will give women choice between using their own womb or artificial womb to create children. Better AI for sexbots will give spinsters partner/BF/GF/spouse experience without needing other human. Afterall, I do not think incels will be happy if they know that their partners are with them just because she needs provider and protector. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/20 07:41 PM |
| 16 | Is it true that women don’t love the way men do?Men love unconditionally hey? points at men who left their marriage because of deadbedrooms, because partner got fat, because partner got old, because partner got into addictions, etc Do not get me wrong. It is fine and valid to leave one's partner for any reason, even for NO reason. Relationships (platonic or romantic) are ideally entered voluntarily and supposed to be left voluntarily also. No one should feel obligated to stay. Now about the kind of love women have... I am lucky to live in a p… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/20 04:05 AM |
| 1 | "Holding frame" is about being an emotionless misogynist.I thought before (11 months ago), you were a red/black piller who found out that both red/black/blue pills are bullshit anyway. And I agreed a lot to the post you have written before. And I think you even has GF who is a virgin in one of your replies? I might be remembering wrong. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/20 02:40 AM |
| 1 | "Holding frame" is about being an emotionless misogynist.What happened with you Gackt? Around a year ago, you actually wrote one of the best posts in this subreddit. Did something happen between those months? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/20 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Eilliot Hulse ???Not wanting to be told by society how to act Wanting to be told how to act by some Youtuber ok. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/20 01:32 PM |
| 3 | “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn”Dude. Not being coy here, but how long since you've left school (elementary/junior/senior)? Remember that note Melissa passed to that boy with 'do you like me?' question on it and then the box for either a yes or no to be crossed underneath it? There are so many Melissas out there. Young girls approached boys at school a lot and they got rejected a lot too, because usually at that age, boys care only about sports or video games and many are not ready for relationship. First time I approached a b… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/20 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Is it me or is the internet the worst place to get dating advice as a manI just find it to be fascinating. I would not have taken a twice divorced man with kids and mental issues as a close friend, let alone as a life partner. I am no captain save a male-ho like your GF, and I like to live easy life. My husband comes from a good family. No spotty past. The classic a boy raised right and ended up fitting well in society, despite his physical limit. There are a lot of men like my husband. Men who never used random people as their punching bags just because their parent… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it me or is the internet the worst place to get dating advice as a man"It's TRP's fault!", "it's my ex-wife's fault!", "it's my deployment's fault!". I have to give it to you, those are some real creative mental gymnastics. And here I thought only women are supposed to do that. Your hamster is always hard at work I see. Watch what they do, not what they say. For someone who just a year ago crying about losing his FWB and oneitis and also cheated behind his GF back (and adding some prime mental gymnastics on why is it okay), your current GF must be one hell of a de… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/20 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Is it me or is the internet the worst place to get dating advice as a manCaptain/First Mate with a captain that has sunk his ship twice and also have left casualities right and left? That is not so wise, is it? Also you are so guilt free treating other people's daughter like shit...but if it is your own daughters, you make exceptions. Pretty sociopathic, I'd say. I mean, picture your own daughters saying this: "dad, I am going to be with this twice divorced, single dad of three guy. Oh and also he cannot stop speaking about how much he likes my biracial features." Wi… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/20 03:07 AM |
| 1 | "Women will be more attractive as a result" is the one thing I just cant agree with. Its harmful to young boysYes. Right now you can only wait until you can travel again, but at least you know what to do. And give another countries a try too. I have so much in my bucket lists. If you like France, you might want to try visiting Italy and Portugal at some point too. Both are beautiful and much cheaper than France. More smiles in Italy than Portugal when I visited, and food was GREAT in Italy. I was unhappy in Asia. If I were to stay there, I might be one of those protagonists in K-drama movies, who marrie… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/20 03:41 PM |
| 1 | "Women will be more attractive as a result" is the one thing I just cant agree with. Its harmful to young boysDef, you have been here for a while. Have ever thought to just...completely change scenery? Do something real crazy for once. Sign up for some out of country volunteer work for several months once travels between countries are safe again? Just a few months that will guarantee you low or better none at all internet access and forcing you to interact with completely new and foreign people, in a new and completely foreign environment? A hard reset, so to say. I did it when I moved from Asia to Euro… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/20 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody think that TRP are thirsty simps?Sounds like a chance to teach that life is unfair. There are children born in a good country with loving parents. There are children born in warzones and being marked already for future child soldiers. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/20 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Does anybody think that TRP are thirsty simps?he is active in their real life and their online life I feel like in the future, this should be a test if someone (of any gender) is capable to be a good parent or not. As a very bottom bar requirements for having children. The online part is even good for parents who work overseas, for example. And for parents who work overseas in areas with no internet access...well, maybe they should hold back before having children or try to get the children to live in that internetless place too. In short, … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/20 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Is it me or is the internet the worst place to get dating advice as a manI read your posting history and holy shit. Dude, your dad must have raised you wrong if you are twice divorced by 35 and treat women badly...and have 3 daughters on top of that. What will you do if your daughter being treated like how you treated girls in the past? Surely it will break your heart as their father? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/20 01:11 PM |
| 13 | All red pill taught me was to hate women and I couldn't live with the constant negativity in my life.I only ever saw something like that in movies. Being in Reddit makes me feel that there are a lot of desperate men out there who will be happy for scraps of attention. But Reddit is not reality. I have a friend who dumped a loyal and pretty GF because he wants more time for his gaming hobby. Another friend left his partner after she failed college twice because he has less respect for her. And no, these are not 8, 9, 10 men. It is frustrating to see that when I go and see real life and men aroun… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/20 07:18 PM |
| 16 | All red pill taught me was to hate women and I couldn't live with the constant negativity in my life.If women were like men a "want to fuck?" would suffice I used to believe this as a woman when I was younger. That men are just these simple creatures that will be happy with just 'want to fuck'. Imagine my surprise that my partner felt that his emotional needs is being neglected. Everyone and maybe men themselves wished that men is that simple and be satisfied with just 'want to fuck'. But they are not. Men want affection, validation, being seduced, being given foreplay, being made to feel hands… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if the woman you are dating is high-quality?High quality for you personally or according to society? I can imagine that high value men and women for society are those who have contributed much for humanity as a whole (scientists, doctors, etc who have created and found technology and medicine we are now enjoyed), or in a more shallow side, like actors/actress/singers/etc who entertain us. On a personal level, high value person might be different from one another. If you someone who value education, a professor might be on higher value tha… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/20 03:20 PM |
| 5 | I had a bit of a red pill rage moment with a plate I reconnected withThere are really too many people taking out their anger not to people who originally hurt them in the first place, but to other people who just happened to be around and sometimes even to people who genuinely care about them and it is mad weird. Maybe this is the only moment where that 'monk mode' is should be used. Keeping one's self away until clarity came back again. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/20 07:26 AM |
| 15 | I had a bit of a red pill rage moment with a plate I reconnected withSo it is basically: Someone hurt your ex-GF ---> she took it out on you ---> you took it out on other women ---> she (your 'plate') took it out on other men ---> he (your plate's ex) will take it out on(????) I don't want to call you people clowns, but man, looking at this, sometimes you are clowns. Stop using others as punching bags just because you were someone's punching bag before, ffs. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/20 07:20 AM |
| 2 | I am considering going back to red pill. Here me outJust let it go dude. In your life, you'll run into a lot of good people, but also these possibilities: Close family who turns weird after inheritance is involved, close childhood friend who left or betray you, boss/supervisor you trusted who replaced you for another without giving you any warning, working colleague/fellow student who claims your works as his/her own, a boxing coach you trusted so much who turned out to be a Neo-Nazi (well ok, this one was personal), etc... In short, the key is n… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 4 | I am considering going back to red pill. Here me outIt is just so weird how so many RedPillers let their exes live rent free in their heads for years. For people who claimed to be 'logical'. So you could not live up to her standards and that's why she moved on. What about if she moved on to someone with 'less SMV' than you have? Would then she be Hypogamous lol? Relationship is something people enter and leave voluntarily. Ideally all kinds of relationships. You can be the perfect 1% if that partner/friend/boss/family members/that guy who sells h… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/20 10:00 PM |
| 19 | How do you guys forgive yourselves for the way you treated your past ex’s?A woman here and of course it is different from one woman to another and I can only speak about myself and other women in my circle. Despite how women are being stereotyped as more emotional than logical (something that I used to believe also until I saw countless men acting totally illogical and much more emotional deep inside when they break frame, going into deep depressions after a break up, etc), but we could be quite the pragmatic. Someone hurt us ---> seek help/support/comfort in personal… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/20 10:48 PM |
| 4 | I wouldn't want a woman with a high body countOne of the most misandrist things I have read. Kudos. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/20 04:38 PM |
| 2 | I wouldn't want a woman with a high body countSo all of those guys who were left by their wives must have done something bad for their wives to want to leave them? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/20 04:36 PM |
| 2 | I wouldn't want a woman with a high body countSince when divorce is a two sided things? Like what if your wife wants to leave you gonna stick to her physically like male angler fish? Come on lol! | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/20 04:33 PM |
| 4 | I wouldn't want a woman with a high body countWhat if your partner divorced you by the time you are mid 30s? Like...so many people in that subreddit? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/20 04:13 PM |
| 4 | How to be vulnerable / build an emotional support system?First of all, breathe and understand that your situation is common. One of my husband's bestfriend of 14(!) years just dared telling him that he had quitted his job a month ago because the workload caused him so much stress, he was thinking about suicide. We were horrified by it, because had he told us many months ago, we would have tried our best to support him. His reason for keeping it for so long: did not want to be seen as weak or ungrateful for having a good job. We are giving him phonecal… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/20 11:09 AM |
| 1 | True Connection with a Human BeingDo you really think that TRP could have repaired your deadbedroom problems with your wife? Knowing TRP, they would have probably suggested dread, while path taken by people who had never heard about RP is probably to either divorce, suggesting open relationship, cheating behind the spouse back or just accepting the situation as it was. All kinds of things that will make one feel as if one does not have control of the situation. Dreading is being sold as 'you have this, you got in control'. But 1… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/07/20 08:37 AM |
| 5 | I am redpill and I want my views to be challenged...let me guess. You are one of those kids growing up in a fucked up family with fucked up childhood who are now blaming society (especially women), for being unable to connect to them in a meaningful ways because of their own problems? What value to men and women as a whole, can a sociopath provide for them? Sociopath can only take and take and manipulate. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/07/20 08:23 AM |
| 3 | Because of the red pill, I feel like I have to hold back in my relationship with my girlfriendOh man, this reminded me of me and my ex-BF. He is a very intelligent person. Graduated first as physicist, now working as part of the team who designed satelites. But what most amazing from him was his ability to apply all of those hard science and calculations to daily situations. So you can imagine how often I complimented him and drooled over his brain. It soured the relationship. The validation of his intelligence, he did not need that from me. He needed that from his boss, his professors, … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/07/20 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Those here who are redpill or leaving redpill, what do you wish everyone else understood?Isn't that like assigning our own standard of happiness to other people, though? I know a person who is deep into furry world. And broke up with his GF because she is not furry enough for him. He'd rather just continue with furry roleplay, or furry sexy toys/doll, etc. For non-furries of course that notion is strange, but for him, it brings happiness and he does not hurt anyone. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/20 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Those here who are redpill or leaving redpill, what do you wish everyone else understood?Yes. I think it is both toxic femininity (women can do no wrong) from the women coworkers, and toxic masculinity (men always want sex, so 'lucky' him for being aporoached by this lady) from men co-workers. The HR person he spoke to was a dude. Some real shit sandwich. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/20 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Those here who are redpill or leaving redpill, what do you wish everyone else understood?Well, I have said before, even in country where prostitution is legal and carries much less stigma, many guys are still either too shy, too awkward, etc to make a visit. And maybe they even are against buying sex from another human being. A lot of these 2D waifu dudes are actually solving their own problems without hurting others. So I rather hope that instead of shaming ridicule, people would have supported their choices instead. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Those here who are redpill or leaving redpill, what do you wish everyone else understood?ignores abusive female behavior Yarp. My brother, a programmer, used to work at an office. One of the female workers kept on touching him despite him telling everyone that he is married. Even once brought his wife into the office. Went to HR, trying to talk it out. Still nothing happened. Now he works independently from home. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Those here who are redpill or leaving redpill, what do you wish everyone else understood?I think one of the biggest problem with this is that men who then go for 2D GF, or pillow waifu or sex doll/companion doll are very cruely vilified (by both men and women). I am very supporting of sex robots with good AI. I think it will be a big game changer, but the funding and interest for those was never high. AND the customers for these services are often heavily ridiculed. I live in a country where prostitution is legal and much less stigma for using service, still, many guys are unwilling… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/20 10:06 PM |
| 1 | My experience with TRP on Reddit and using it in real life and (maybe?) transcending it.So you were looking for validation and happiness at the wrong place (I think). Romantical relationship and the opposite sex trully can be a great distraction when some other, more important aspect of one's life is deeply troubled. For example like personal sucess for you, maybe mother/father issues for some other people, bullying trauma from high school time for some other people, etc. It is just too bad that seems like using relationship as a distraction to procastinate tackling the main proble… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Uncovering the Root of InsecurityOP I am speechless. Your post expresses perfectly what I was often trying to say here, about being happy with our partner but also being happy without our partner. Because in the end, seeing other people as source of happiness and validation is putting pressure on them and a wild goose chase that can last a lifetime and more. You can help a lot of people with this. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/20 08:11 AM |
| 0 | My experience with TRP on Reddit and using it in real life and (maybe?) transcending it.Why are you still unhappy OP? You got laid plenty, you have experienced love and affection in relationship. You got rejected, but also have experienced how it feels to reject others too (I feel more for people who have been only rejected and never rejected someone themselves, because at least you have the validation that you are wanted by some people). I am just wondering, even after all these, why are you still unhappy, as if things are still not enough. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/20 03:40 AM |
| 7 | Did she cheat?Literal post title: Did she cheat? We aren’t officially exclusive Does not compute. And get rid of your pikachu surprise face. You tried to pull dread so much, you fucked your own chance. Next time, use mouth. Here, I will write it down for you: "I am interested in an exclusive relationship with you, would you like that too?" I want to be with her as a relationship and don’t view her as just some girl that I just want to sleep with. Did you ever tell her this instead of telling reddit? | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 3 | On nice guys finishing lastSee? Let's take women completely out of equation. If you have a gay friend and he told you that his BF thinks that masc gay tends to brach swing more and your friend happens to be a masc gay, will you say "yeah brah, go date that guy." Or will you say "fuck no." | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/20 08:11 PM |
| 4 | On nice guys finishing lastWill it be useful if I pm you everytime a woman share about her happy relationship with her first choice? And I hope you do not count yourself as one of those genuinely nice person. Because right now, you are a mental burden/baggage to future partner. Imagine you get a partner and thinking that she will branch swing everytime she gets the chance. Do you think it is okay for anyone, to be with someone with so little trust and confidence in themselves and their own partner? | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/20 08:05 PM |
| 3 | On nice guys finishing lastSo just the same with some men who said that "she is crazy brah, but the sex though..." in a lot of r/askreddit? Here is the thing I have always said, there are women who go for good men for their first choice. But these women are invisible in your eyes. Because you tunnel vision to women who chose unsavory men to confirm your bias. There are loads of stories about staying with first choice for years, women sharing about their happy relationships with their very first partner/BF. But you do not … | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/20 07:58 PM |
| 4 | On nice guys finishing lastHow do you explain men who ended up with wives who cheated on them, making them raising kids that were not their own without them knowing, and then alleniate them from their own children after divorce? Are these men knowingly chose bad women over nice women (remember that crazy - hot scale?), or are men so feeble that they can easily baited and switched? Or maybe this: Men and women in relationship often found out too late that their partners are shit? And therefore, they can only learn from the… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | I’m not red pill, but looking at the divorce laws makes me lean to MGTOW?Most people in this world are concerned about their future partner and kids (if they want to have some), so you are not a rare breed, to care about marriage and children. But a lot of these men who want a family, they do not trawl r/MGTOW. They do not even entertain a discussion if a man shall beat his wife or not. Or if marital rape exists or not. Won't you rather your daughter married someone who is a good person? And you cannot call yourself a good person with your current mental state, hones… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/20 11:37 PM |
| 1 | I’m not red pill, but looking at the divorce laws makes me lean to MGTOW?I see where you are coming from, and I am trying to be gentle by saying this, but I think your personal experience of growing up in a divorce house makes you 'daydream' too deeply about the 'what ifs' and 'grass is greener' imagination. Some of the children in the vulnerable community I told you about, many of them grew up forstered and it is heart breaking how most of them, if not all, still trying to have some kind of relationship with their biological parents and wanting to play happy family … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/20 11:13 PM |
| 5 | Why does no one acknowledge Women are not open to dating autistic/non neurotipical men most of the time?Kudos and respect! | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/20 09:28 PM |
| 2 | I’m not red pill, but looking at the divorce laws makes me lean to MGTOW?OP, was your mother a SAHM? I see a lot of your fixation to SAHM and let me tell you this, I originated from a more conservative part of the globe. Environment (yes, the good ol it takes a village thing) matters a great deal more for a child than if one of the parent stays at home or not. I see buttloads of fucked up people, raised by SAHM or SAHP (more so, ever since my husband got me more involved and active in volunteering in vulnerable communities.) Maybe volunteering in such community can h… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/20 01:51 PM |
| 13 | Why does no one acknowledge Women are not open to dating autistic/non neurotipical men most of the time?Relationship (romantical or platonic, familiar or non-familiar) is already complicated enough among neurotypical people. Kudos to these men who will seriously date and stay with non-neurotypical women. But man...being with someone who is physical non-typical (having physical disability) is way easier than dating non-neurotypical. I am happily married to my man who has physical disability, but when I gave chance to the non-neurotypical one back then, I was really, really unhappy. I think both of … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/20 01:04 PM |
| 1 | As a young man, I am terrified of women and it really sucksit sucks on a personal level that it's seemingly impossible. I am trying to say this as gentle as possible OP. But the reason why you haven't found her yet is because she is invinsible for your eyes. Plenty of girls your age are doing the one of two part-time jobs, going to college full time and doing hobbies, planning for future. Trying to get enough sleep. No time for hook ups, no interest for hook ups. One of the girls I know, she is 24. Studying mechanical engineering right now. University c… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/20 01:57 PM |
| 14 | What do you guys think of Alexander Grace?There is a difference between need and want. My husband does not need me. His life will be just fine with or without me. He has his family, friend circles, hobbies, etc. If I die tomorrow, or simply disappeared, after some period of grief, he will be fine. And that is great. And that was why I am with him. He does not need me, but he wants me. And that's the nicest flowers, so to say. Vice versa with me also. He had been with women who needed him before and he said it was not a nice feelings to … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/20 04:43 PM |
| 15 | As an anti-Red Pill, Mark Manson-fan, I still believe in hypergamy (to some extent) - can someone explain to me why it's wrong?rather be alone then date someone average Isn't this a good thing and instead of women should stop doing this, men should try to do it also? Dating someone you are not fully into just because alone sounds like a scary word sounds quite egoistical and manipulative for me. When I was younger, I read an article titled Should you get Mr. RIGHTNOW while waiting for Mr.RIGHT? Now I am not against any consenting adults doing whatever they want, but the article basically said for women to give men they … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/20 05:55 AM |
| 17 | Do women lack respect for their male “friends”This is my personal view, you can make that of what you will. I will literally die and kill for some of my male friends. Some of them, I have had given a lot of money for different ocassions. For two, I have either taken flight from Europe to South America or paid for their ticket to visit me. Dude, this is so fucking disgusting to read for me. I do not have many friends, yes. But those who managed to be inside my circle, those are people I do not only respect, sometimes more than I respect my o… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/06/20 11:23 AM |
| 34 | How to make up for lost time sexually?I'm just the type of guy that women would rather settle down with and marry Why do people who said something like this are often the complete opposite of the ones that people should be marrying and settling down with. OP, imagine you have a very close friend and he is gay. So let us take women completely out of equation here. Will you be happy for him if he tells you he is going to settle down and marry another gay man...who is as bitter, insecure, weak and helpless as you are (according to your… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/06/20 10:39 AM |
| 19 | My friend is unfortunately into the red pill and he told me about this multiple dating strategy but I can't find the sourceThis is the first paragraph from the page that u/iostefini linked. "If your girlfriend wants to break up with you, or if she’s pulling away from you and acting increasingly rude and disrespectful, then you need to know how to handle this situation the right way. Handle the situation the wrong way and you could lose her forever." ...can someone tell me how is losing her forever not the BEST thing that can happen to you? Ever heard about trash takes itself out? How bottom feeder your self-esteem m… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/20 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that once you express your feelings towards a girl and let her know that you love her she loses interest?So if you buy her a combat knife and then challenge her to a duel to the death, she will appreciate you more because you will immediately be super macho? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Why am I feeling like shit all the time?Man...for someone who value logic, you sure sure came to an illogical conclusion about your problems. Let me help. People who treat you like crap and making you feeling bad = NOT friends. Ditching these losers will be a start to a happier life. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/06/20 06:58 AM |
| 2 | Can women fall in love?Relationship is something to be entered and left voluntarily. Being left if being left. That person does not want to be your partner anymore. End of. Why does it matter what they do next? Or who they date next? Will it be better for the ego and pride if she had dated uglier and poorer man? Won't it be even more of an insult? She is leaving you for someone with lower status. Don't prevent people from leaving please, if they want to. Imagine this, should a husband wanting to leave his old wife for… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/20 06:04 PM |
| 8 | The anime/manga known as "ERASED" is what single-handedly got me out of the toxic RedPiller mentality. I know this sounds ridiculous, but you have to hear me out.You know what I like most from that manga/anime? Showing the reality that women can be extreme and unrepentant abuser who nearly killed her own daughter in one of her rages. And the only thing she felt after the daughter was really died was just relieved that she does not need to be a mother anymore. It is more tame, but I hate that Asian Tiger mom meme or glorification. Some of those moms really are abusive. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/20 08:37 AM |
| 1 | I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave itThey still can do something else. Instilling confidence, even moving to a place that is more accepting. In the end, society did not create this person. This person's parents had that decisions. Except maybe in the country where babies from rape situation are not allowed to be aborted. It just feels like taking accountability from people who originally said, "yes, let's have/create this baby." | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/20 09:03 PM |
| 1 | I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave itAnd this what baffles me when some men and women are blaming society for what their parents were failing to provide/do. It feels like some misdirected anger. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/20 08:24 PM |
| 2 | I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave itEveryone cares about looks. Beauty industry is billion dollars worth. Still though, some Korean and Singaporean parents are gifting their children beauty surgery voucher (very often double eyelids OP) when they graduated high school. Their is also limbs lengthening surgery. My points is that when parents see that their child is ugly (or uglier than them), they still supposed to do something about it. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/20 03:13 PM |
| 5 | I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave itMaybe the blame for men who have difficulty with it lays with their parents/parental figures/guardians and upbringing? How is it that something that come as normal as breathing for most people, become a great difficulty for your sons and daughters? And why did it escape your notice so hard, that they reached adulthood without these parents do something about it? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/20 10:53 AM |
| 9 | I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave itSometimes I feel that reddit world is a complete another dimension with my world. Men around me, young or old, not only they do not have problems interacting and having romantical relationship with women, they even set a high standard. That meme be woman, breathing. Is not true at all. Even for sex. The men around me do not have problem rejecting and waiting until the right women come along. They are not sex fiends and they tend to focus more to their works and derive pleasure from their friends… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/20 07:06 AM |
| 6 | It's just sadI have to remind myself not to get sucked into social media hiveminds, even if it's based on an ideology I agree with. Absolutely agreed on this. It was similar to my personal experience too. I am very much into automatization, genetic engineering and space explorations. You'd be surprised to see how many nutjobs are there trying to spread misinformations and seemed to even try building their own cults, related to those three themes. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/20 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Are men and women really different?Hmm...what do you think about stoicism from both sides? In Asia, everything is about keeping up faces. So (adult) women showing weakness or crying, is also not really kosher, so to say. My parents never cried. Never shown weakness. They despised it because weakness is a waste of time. That's a very nice sentiment about the word, 'we'. My parents handle their problems separately. And I admire them for that. For example, we (the entire family), did not know when my dad got operated on. Just when h… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/20 09:33 AM |
| 2 | How dare you evil red pillers expose our hypocrisy and double standards?So this is how it looks when a trueborn betasimp trying to roleplay as a natural alpha and failed? Interesting. Emotional, insecure, weak, hysterical and needy? Nice to have all that going for you. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/20 12:21 PM |
| 3 | How dare you evil red pillers expose our hypocrisy and double standards?You are not Dominant at all. Insecure yes. Weak and emotional, very much. Trying to pretend that you are a Dom, most certainly. Real life Doms will be laughing at you. You cannot compete against other men, you know that. And it is easier to blame women. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Are LTRs possible?I dislike the word investment for relationship. Because it is implying that right now, things are not so good, but if you hold on long enough, at some point, you will pick up the fruits of your investments. I mean some people are into that. Which is okay. I am not. My husband is not like that too. If the relationship feels like it is going to be good 'someday', there is no point in it. It has to be already good since day one. So that if you part ways, you did not lose anything since it has been … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/05/20 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Are LTRs possible?I personally can only be with someone who wants to be with me and does not need to be with me, or afraid that I will leave. Because relationship, romantic or platonic, is supposed to be entered (and left) voluntarily. And I am lucky to find someone like that. I know that he will not play games. Dreading or any other shit-tests, because if I want to leave tomorrow, or this very second, he is fine with that. Likewise for me. I do love him, but if he wants to leave, he can, anytime. And I feel kind… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/05/20 04:52 PM |
| 21 | Are men and women really different?When I was still living in Asia, in a country that was overall more conservative, I would have answered you with a big YES. After living in a more egalitarian country, that notion went out of the window. I used to believe in the tenet that men only want sex, food and money. Turned out to be, many of men want affection, tenderness, heck...they even want shoulders to cry on sometimes. And people back then said that those are wonen stuffs. I met more men that want marriage and kids than women here.… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/20 08:27 PM |
| 1 | The TRP / Black Pill / Incel mindset has given me sever body image issuesNah it is 2020. I am supporting of age adults who want to do any kind of body modifications. Respecting body autonomy and all. But realistic hairpiece is a good idea too. I would never have judged dudes who chose surgery path just like I would never judge dudettes who chose surgery path to make themselves more confident and happier. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/20 07:12 PM |
| 0 | The TRP / Black Pill / Incel mindset has given me sever body image issuesI think you should do what makes you feel good before you try to predict what other people might have thought about you. Your problem here is that you feel unattractive because you are balding. Do you think that if you were a gay male, you will not feel the same thing? Work on the baldness. Saved up for hair transplant surgery. do not feel bad for doing it. People should do things that make them feel better. Double eyelids surgery, underbite surgery, nose surgery, etc. You will feel better after… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/20 03:58 PM |
| 3 | How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship?Dude, are you for real? Why make things so complicated? If you have no problem telling your boss that you are interested in taking up a new project, you should not have a problem telling someone that you are interested in a serious, long term relationship with them. The ball is then in their court. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/20 12:21 AM |
| 4 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?This is so tiring. I did this kind of dance before, just as immigrant, trying to convince some xenophobic neighbors that immigrants are just like any others. There are good and there are bad. Completely ordinary stuffs. In the end their conclusions was that I am a good person 'despite' being immigrant. It is just like... These people are hopeless. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/05/20 09:37 AM |
| 1 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?And most immigrants steal jobs and use welfare they did not pay into. Right? If there is a good immigrant, it is because he/she the exception. Time and time again white male tourist is being caught as child rapist back in my homeland. A good white male tourist is the exception. Nice. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/20 08:24 AM |
| 4 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?what kind of man I want to be with growing up. Read that again. What kind of man I want to be with. To be with. Not to be. And shit, you should talk to more strong men. Like my father, my brother or my husband. They don't give out asshole vibes. Not even in a joking manner and people gravitate towards them, because they are reliable. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 4 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?WTF are you taking about? I told you I am a woman. Look at my posting history. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?This is an interesting article to read: https://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/guest-post-a-womans-response-to-why-do-some-black-women-love-thugs/ Another thing I can say is that, how are these womens' relationship with their fathers? And no, I am not blaming men for that. I blame absent fathers AND the mothers who are allowing the fathers to be absent. My father and brother are natural born leaders who got things done and are respected by others without needing to act rude. Growing up with men lik… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:35 PM |
| 8 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?Are you completely glossing over the fact that I said I will say the same to women who think that all men cheat? I will say it again. Does not matter your gender, if you dislike people from opposite gender, don't date them and make your problems theirs. I told both my male and female friends to man/women up. I just dislike weak people of BOTH genders. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:08 PM |
| 6 | What made you guys “spit out” the pill?will likely leave you Why is it so hard for so many people to accept that relatioship (platonic or otherwise), started on voluntary basis and it can be left on voluntary basis too. What is the alternative that they want? A partner who is staying for the sake of just staying, even though he/she has since long fell out of love with you? Some people really need to be more independent or something. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:06 PM |
| 9 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?Why do some people use drugs? Why do some people do DUI? Why do some people turned out a psycho and starting to shoot random people? The answer is...dunno. Don't care. I am glad I am not in that state of mind. I will say this to you, just like what I will say to women who hate men but want to date them. "Don't force other people to solve your problems. That is some weak crap." Even if you get a good girl someday, you will think of her will trade you for a bad guy anyway. Just like women who beli… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:00 PM |
| 13 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?I am a woman and I have never interested in bad boys. But women like me will be invisible in your eyes. You will not even notice me if we ever met face to face, because you are so lazer-focused to women who do want bad boys. One of the women in that clip said that it has to do with maturity and also she is not into bad boys, but you did not mention her at all. And that is all I can say really. We exist but you are not going to see us. Where are you from anyway? I am from Asia and I have never he… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Being ugly doesn’t give you an excuse to hate womenThat is what you got from my message? Look at South Korean parents giving their kids surgery voucher upon graduation. For procedure like double eye-lids, underbite correction, even surgery to add height. We Asian are as a whole more realistic about it. We are also the kind of people who call fat people fat. Billion dollars is the profit for beauty industry. If you created ugly children, be reponsible and try to make his/her life easier in a look-focused society. How is this so hard for you to ac… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 10:30 AM |
| 7 | Hello, what is the right way to deal with old-friend beta that is been around for years and starting to interject in my realtionship with his ONEitis.This post screams a lot insecurity. You can be insecure, but you should not make your insecurity other people's problems, let alone taking it out on them. And you give much more fucks about them than you pretended not to be. We are in Reddit and you are anonymous, you do not need to try to project toughness here. You have a right not to feel comfortable with an over-sharing partner. And you did right by telling her about it, so this is a good move on your part: I told her that this is called a p… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Being ugly doesn’t give you an excuse to hate womenBe logical and blame the one giving you that genetics, if you really have to blame someone. This is what I often do not get. Ugly people know that unless accident happened, their ugly features are coming from their biological parents. And yet, they assigned zero blame to biological parents? How is this even makes sense? On top of giving you that genetics, they also decided that you should be born. It was THEM. Not random men or women you come across upon growing up or adulthood. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 08:00 AM |
| 14 | How can an ex red piller rationalize the woman's infatuation for bad boys?So I read your posting history and you grew up impoverish, seeing women being abused, it sickened you and now you want to be an abuser? So if you were a woman, seeing a lot of men being divorce raped, cheated on and being kept in the dark about paternity of the child, you would have grown up to be a -female abuser-, because that is what men want right? A woman who abused them? Also remember, it is guys who usually have hot - crazy scale. What will you say to a woman who grew up seeing men dating… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/20 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Is my love language invalid?It is not the tears, it is the subsequent behavorial change that happened after that, that made me left. But of course he would have thought it was because of the tears. He got so goddamn insecure about crying that one time in front of me, that he repeatedly asking me (directly or indirectly) if he appeared weak, if it makes me lose attractions, if he embarassed me, etc etc... Well, you know what happened to people who got nagged, nagged and nagged by people who are insecure, regardless of relat… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/20 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Is my love language invalid?You knew the answer to this. Some will and some won't. If you have some male friends and go cry to them, some of these dudes will be uncomfortable with this display, some will get you some beers and let you vent. Why should women be any different? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/20 06:03 AM |
| 1 | I feel like the effect of redpill is too strong and has irreversibly changed me.she'll leave me for a better man anyway I read this too often, isn't it easier to be left for someone who is better than you are? Isn't it easier to know that if you do not get a job you applied to, it was because other candidate has more qualifications than you have, rather than if they have less? Isn't it easier to lose a boxing bout when your opponent is more skilled than you are, rather than if it was just some begginer boxer who started to box just a few weeks ago? Why is being left, chosen… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/05/20 10:54 AM |
| 18 | Update: Someone please help me I don’t wanna be “incel” anymoreI am not trolling you, but you should check r/askgaybros , it will give you a view that even if women are completely taken out of equations, relationship between humans are...complicated. The more you read the various posts there, the more you will see that bad and good things happened in relationships sans women too. (Well, there are also fag hags, aka women who seduces openly gay men, thinking that they can turn them straight. Just like 'those' guys who think that he can turn lesbian straight.… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Being friends with women?This is a strange question. What about if you only befriend men, but they date women who are abusive to them? Will it be less bad than befriending women who date men who are abusive to them? If you want pure friendship, the gender and sexual orientation should not matter. If they use you too much for emotional support and you feel overwhelmed, disengage. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/20 11:11 PM |
| 5 | I'm 21 (M) and I dont have experience with womenHey I just want to say that if you by some bad luck run across a bad relationship, just use it as a learning experience. And really, chalk it up to bad luck and that some people are just shitty. Most of us has had that one friend who borrowed money/things and never returned it. Has had that one family member who was decent before, but turned into asshole because of inheritance. Has had that one work colleague who seemed nice but turned out to be was gossiping behind your back. Has had that one b… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/20 07:45 AM |
| 3 | I played the game, and I lost it. Need advice.Are you really happy doing all these all the time? Have to manipulate, LARPing, pretending, strategizing, acting in order to be someone that you are not? You are either born as a natural leader, raised to be one, or pretending to be one. Just like what you are doing right now. And of course I hope you will never commit, because it is unfair for the woman you will be commiting to. You are selling her a vision of Alpha male, but in the core, you are just pretending to be one (because the real Alph… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/20 09:52 PM |
| 2 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out.Start now then. I moved away when I was 19 myself. Got full ride scholarship. Moving from Asia to Europe (the university is in Germany). Got a job after graduating and could apply for perma-residency. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 03:03 PM |
| 1 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out.Yes and physically attractive people do have that on both genders. But it is only often from guys I see the classic "she was so hot and the sex was so good." Some women do go for attractive bad men also, but mostly these bad men are not bad to them (in the first place). As in "yes, he is loco, but not loco to me, but to others." The end is often the same tho. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 10:24 AM |
| 2 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out.Adding something after reading your post history. Rather than dicking around in incel subreddit, you should find a way to save money and move. Real talk, hate to use the word, but since you use it yourself, ethnicels have better chance to find someone after moving away to a new place. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 08:52 AM |
| 2 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out.Women are looking for good, satisfying sex. Something that one most likely will have after some emotional connection is established. How would sleeping with total rando will guarantee that it will be a good, satisfying sex for her? She'd rather go to people she already know. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 08:47 AM |
| 1 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out....ever heard women talk about the so called 'crazy to hot' scale? The thought that some guys will give craziness a pass as long as a woman is hot enough is...wait for it, insane. And a bad life choice. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 08:42 AM |
| 3 | how mgotw and redpill made me fearful of women and how I got out.Being "used for sex" is still a lot better than being used as a useful orbiter, emotional tampon, favors, validation, spare tire, etc. You see it from weird point of view. This is more of a case of people (regardless of gender) not enforcing their boundaries and be too meek. Sex is supposed to be a mutually enjoyable activities that leaving no one feel used after. If it happens to you, men or women, that means you haven't been firm enough with what you want or don't want. Not wanting to be a lis… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 08:39 AM |
| 7 | TRP Perpetuates "hypergamy" on its ownYou are the male version of women who complain that they kept on running into jerks. I cannot claim that I can understand why people like you, and those complaining women too, are the way you are all. Of course there are women who do not want kids, do not want marriage, happy to have her own place and can balance career, romantical and platonic relationships in her life. You are not going to want her. She is not even going to be visible in your radar. Just like these 'constantly running into jer… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/20 08:30 AM |
| 1 | Men who are attracted to TRP ideas are because they don't have close female friendshipsIt sucks for everyone. The solution I can offer is gifting them sex toys, a good hour with sex worker (legal where I live), swinger club, etc. And I do have the 'disposable income' to treat a friend like that. The problem is when they want not pure sex but also relationship... Where do you buy a relationship. And becoming just shoulder to cry on, feels empty after a while. I mean, with other problems, you can really give tangible help (driving them around, diy furnitures, checking their work app… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Men who are attracted to TRP ideas are because they don't have close female friendshipsMoreover, I would often vent my sexual frustrations as well as grief over rejection with them and that made many of them very uncomfortable and put off. Nobody likes weak men. Women don't like weak men. Other men don't like weak men. And when a man whines and complains about being unsuccessful with women it makes him seem weak and that is a lady repellent. What you have written here makes me think and reflect on myself. This is what I have been struggling with. With friends of both genders. When… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/20 10:21 PM |
| 14 | Men who are attracted to TRP ideas are because they don't have close female friendshipsHit a nerve or something? You will be surprised how many Neo-Nazis believe in TRP about how they should treat their own women. Why would you want a friendship with people who see you as a token to last anyway? And it was me leaving them, because friendship with insecure people who tend to make their problems with the world yours, is never worth it. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/20 12:52 PM |
| 31 | Men who are attracted to TRP ideas are because they don't have close female friendshipsNaw, some of TRP guys have female friends just like some Neo-Nazi have jewish or black friends. They can really be close and appreciate these friends. The friendships is not going to be fake. They will and can bleed for you. They will make as good friend as any, sometimes even more, because a bulk of these people usually starved for care and attention. But they will see you as the exception. The Unicorn. The Token. The special one. They won't see you as ordinary. And they won't change their mind… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/20 07:56 AM |
| 17 | TrappedYour average woman truly could not give two shits about whether you hate, ignore, or pay attention to them. In fact they'd probably just rather be left alone 99% of the time especially if you don't have a decent reason to interact. Very true. Also the average guys too. I think average everyone want to mostly be left alone. I also want to add that most people do not wake up with the thoughts of 'who can I get validation or attention from today' in their minds, be it from ugly or pretty people. Th… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/04/20 07:58 AM |
| 1 | It is true that one's personality does not change after loosing thier virginity. But if that is true, why is there such a stigma on adult virginity?Hey no worries about that, I was also too defensive about my opinion. I am much older than you are and we are at a different stage in life. You have to make your own experience and I really do not have a right to say that your experience is wrong and mine is right. I wish you well sincerely. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/20 12:16 PM |
| 1 | It is true that one's personality does not change after loosing thier virginity. But if that is true, why is there such a stigma on adult virginity?I lost virginity to my husband. I don't know why you are like this to me, man. I was just trying to give different perspective. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/20 01:06 PM |
| 3 | The Red Pill - The Incredible Damage It Has Done To My LifeD'oh!!! Way to bury the lede, dude! That is no way a normal, happy life. I thought you live a life of the sweetest, most diabetic inducing happy family life like in movies. With absolutely normal, super supporting siblings. (If you ever watched Easy A, I imagined your family was like Olive's family). My bad man. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/20 01:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome the understanding that most women care about a guy's salary more than mens?This is also something I struggle with. I am richer and have more properties than my husband, but our salary does not differ that much. I just started earlier than him. For me personally, I think it is because of my upbringing. My dad taught me to never let anyone, men or women, be financially and emotionally depending on me. Meanwhile, he taught my brother to be a financially sucessful man, because his wife and kids will be depending on him. So...I don't know, maybe it came from how we were rai… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/20 09:44 AM |
| 1 | It is true that one's personality does not change after loosing thier virginity. But if that is true, why is there such a stigma on adult virginity?For many people, that is their reality. There is Saudi Arabia. Rich country, virginity is praised and the people still have their problems. If you want to keep your virginity until marriage, good for you and everyone is free to do whatever they want. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/20 09:30 AM |
| 5 | The Red Pill - The Incredible Damage It Has Done To My LifeEven before knowing TRP you are already cheating right and left. And you were growing up among loving parents and sibling too, who showed you only love, support and unity. So I really do not get where the hunger for validations came from. You literally being validated by mom, dad, three sisters and a brother since you were born. Many people would have killed to be born in your position. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 04:48 PM |
| 1 | If people (primarily men) fail to loose their viginity during the appropriate age block (puberty to 25) I don't think we should be surprised as a society if we end up with feminazis and incelsAnd I am also sorry for how you were treated. I have to be honest (and to my shame also), if I had not had good personal experience with big black men since I was a child, maybe I would have been one of those people buying into stereotypes. My aunt married a big black man in 1980s and lasted until his death. She never remaried again. That man, among other male family members that I have, was one of the kindest, most sensitive and the very caring one. He was a very hands on father to all of his f… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 11:54 AM |
| 1 | If people (primarily men) fail to loose their viginity during the appropriate age block (puberty to 25) I don't think we should be surprised as a society if we end up with feminazis and incelsI will not call it pointless. Empowerment is good. Will always be stigma to many things, but growing thicker skin helps. Just like if virgin is being used as an insult, how to think that the person insulting is an idiot, instead of taking it to our hearts. I used to feel hurt being insulted with Ching Chong Ding Dong, but nowadays I just think people who said that are morons. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 11:10 AM |
| 1 | If people (primarily men) fail to loose their viginity during the appropriate age block (puberty to 25) I don't think we should be surprised as a society if we end up with feminazis and incelsThere will always be stigma unfortunately. Polyamorous people being seen as flaky or cheaters, feminine men being seen as wrong, masculine women being seen as butch, arheist being seen as negative in a religious country, religious people being seen as negative in secular country, etc. That is just the way things are. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 11:03 AM |
| 1 | It is true that one's personality does not change after loosing thier virginity. But if that is true, why is there such a stigma on adult virginity?Some single mothers are divorced women. And for every single mother (either by divorce or broken down of relationship or by careless ONS,etc) there is a single father too. Most single mother did not get sperm from buying it from spermbank. Also I was raises in a conservative country. Where peopoe stay virgin (both men and women) until marriage, having kids is encouraged, divorce carry stigma, bastard children are still called bastards and the parents are often being pushed then into shotgun wedd… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 10:39 AM |
| 1 | If people (primarily men) fail to loose their viginity during the appropriate age block (puberty to 25) I don't think we should be surprised as a society if we end up with feminazis and incelsTwo problems: Seeing losing virginity later in life as an outlier in a negative sense. Seeing people who lose virginity to sex workers as negative also. Also seeing prostitution as something negative. Can't have both. Just like calling women over 25 who are not married yet as 'Christmas Cake' and at the same time, not allowing official polygamous marriage, so that a man can marry multiple women and women who want to be married before 25 can be second, third, fourth, etc wives (if all party invol… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/20 10:20 AM |
| 1 | I am confused by all of the labelsToo bad also that right now is stay at home time too. Which can understandably increase internet consumption. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/20 10:50 PM |
| 3 | I am confused by all of the labelsI'd say the non-internet MGTOW/WGTOW is the best ones to emulate? The people who just do what they want to do without caring if there will ever be partners or family? I guess as long as it is something that is good for you and not something self-destructing as for example, 'going one's own way' by trying meth and got addicted to it or something. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/20 07:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.Why you lied to me? On comment above you said you ghosted them and now it is mutual? Also serious talk, the way you see relationship is the reason why it took me so long to finally said yes to someone. You were bitter because your GF left, but what is relationship (platonic or romantic), if it is not something that should be entered (and left) voluntarily? And to see it as efforts and time wasted? That is fucked up. Relationship is something you entered voluntarily because it makes you feel grea… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Ditched the redpill after 6 months .Thank you!Definitely do this! To someone that you have mutual feelings for. If it is going to be your first time, losing it to someone you have genuine feelings for and trust, it will make you feel safe and so very comfortable to be yourself. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 10:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.Then why are you angry when skinny chicks ghosting you? You did it to fatties guilt free. They then feel as crushed as you perhaps and you cannot even relate to them? Seriously now, why punish fatties when it is skinnies who hurt you? You are not going to punch a grandma after being mugged by some big dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 09:58 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.If you were born stupid, you are not going to blame top tier Universities for not taking you. If you were born blind, you are not going to blame pilot school for turning you down. Besides, you yourself made the GENIUS decision to fuck multiple people you are not attracted to. And now you are angry at society? Please tell me that at least it was you ghosting the fatsos? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 09:41 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.Why don't you blame your parents is specifically the question people who complain about being ugly since birth seems to avoid answering. Genes, genes, genes. Not only your biological parens think that their genes are good enough to be passed on to you, they did not do anything about it after they realized their mistake. Asian parents give their children plastic surgery vouchers as graduation presents sometimes. Now that is being responsible. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 07:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.Can you in good faith advising someone you care about to date someone who wrote the post that you have written yourself and thinking that they will be fine? Someone who is definitely using other people to solve his own self-esteem problems, instead of blaming his biological parents for the genes he got, like a normal person? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.Yo, even you don't want to date fellow uglies? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 07:07 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Ultimately if you struggle with dating it comes down to your looks.I will save and show this thread to people who complain about why don't people give ugly people a chance. Looking at this thread, ugly people make bad partners because of their low self-esteem and insecurity. Problems/baggage that they forced on their partner to solve eventually. There is no my problem is my own to solve for them. It has to be other people's too. Ugly people are validation hungry and prone to cheating/hypergamy. Always wanting to have pretty arm candies, so that people will forg… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/20 06:54 AM |
| 2 | RedPill and Coronavirus... these guys are so damn patheticEither those are some real narcissistic people (as in who cares about validation when people are losing health and job left and right???) or they really do not want to be alone with a possibility of total lockdown. How are the area where these women live? Right now at my place gathering for maximal 2 people only, so I guess some people is desperate to have someone with them. How is your area holding up? Mine feels surreal compared to beginning of March. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/20 08:09 AM |
| 3 | RedPill and Coronavirus... these guys are so damn patheticIf it makes you feel any better, I had the same amount of guys, who would not have given me time of the day too before (all from entertainment industry and usually dated models and have cooler friends), reaching out. Not in a 'yeh baby, fuck meh' kind of way (since they know I am taken and I am very strict about weeding out trashy people who do not respect that), but in a 'I am stir crazy being cooped up, can we just chat for some distractions'? I need to add that some female friends who haven't… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/20 07:58 AM |
| 3 | books to read for the quarantine going on?Not a dating book, but a book about pure bravery, human spirit, compassion masculinity and adventure. Also I guess the book is about a real 'alpha' if there is such a thing. Though what will be more alpha than being able to convice a warlord with many soldiers who just chopped childrens fingers, who could have robbed and killed you, to let the medical crews and their supplies go into the heart of a red-zone? James Orbinski: An Imperfect Offering. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/20 11:27 PM |
| 3 | My storyGood news for you! You can still get similar tough love community by joining some martial arts gyms. The one I can personally vouch for is Muay Thai, other people may try boxing, K2, BJJ, MMA, etc. 16 years of training, through different countries, different gyms. Muay Thai gym got me out of my 'legbeardness' phase in University. Sure there will be few to none dating advice in that kind of community, but if you are looking for maintaining self improvement and finding that kind of tribe, give it … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/20 06:13 AM |
| 32 | MGTOW2 and ExredpillI do believe that it is important for a young man to be alone with himself for a long time to find himself and to focus on personal growth and his career. I do believe it is important for both men and women to do this. A lot of people making relationship as the most important point in their lives and shit their pants when it does not work. Something that is supposed to be entered and left voluntarily is now something that feels like obligations. This is all so weird. Also the obsession to be put… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/20 07:38 AM |
| 11 | I am truly a misogynist.Reading this is somehow very upsetting to me. I really want to ask what was wrong in your upbringing that landed you in this kind of mental state. Want to see your parents in the eyes. Some other people also went through the same or similar experience with you, and yet, they still can see people as individuals. Some of your patients will be women and I would have felt better were you a male doctor from a fundamentalist religious country, that can only see and examine male patients. Good for you … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/20 07:26 AM |
| 3 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.There is nothing such as everything will be okay. You will reach milestones, but that is it. And more often, you get setbacks. Practical things can work for something that related to you personally. Calorie counting and exercise = better health/better body. Learning to swim = can swim. It gets harder when it has something to do with other people,because you cannot control other people. You can study hard and still has a teacher failed you, because they do not like you. You can be helpful and kin… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:41 PM |
| 4 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.Nah. You can do everything right and still get the short end of the stick. That is why I said you can give up anytime if you want to. Figure out where to get food and dwelling and you are set. Also go volunteer at homeless shelter (I feel like repeating myself here. A lot of people really can benefit from this, Goddamn). Talk to the homeless people. Some of them even used to be business owners, sucessful people, etc. Even if you get on top because of your efforts, you can also still fall. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:36 PM |
| 3 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.That is very true. But taking a break from one's problems to try solve other people's problems through direct means (providing meals, warmth, companionship, etc) usually works as good distractions. Plus the added socializations. So I read a little bit of your posting history. Now I agree that attractiveness counts for a lot in this world. Else there will not be multi-billions beauty related industry. However, this is my problems: Genetics are given to us, by our parents. So isn't the ones that i… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.That your suffering is not bad as other mens' suffering and it might help you to think about other men who need YOUR help. I often write here because I know men here care about other men. Most volunteer in homeless shelters, soup kitchens, elderly care are still women, despite most homeless people, lonely elders, etc are men. They can really use your help you know. You might enjoy it too. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:16 PM |
| 2 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.But that is the truth, and the fact, isn't it? And it is a BIG group of people too. You have no car and roommating. Other men are homeless on the street right now. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:12 PM |
| 3 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.Suicide is at the bottom of it, still yourself choosing your own path. A lot of male refugees drown trying to reach places where they can better their financial situations. Others got taken as child soldiers. Some got traded into slavery and sexual slavery. They did not even have the choice for suicide. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:09 PM |
| 1 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.What do you think would have happened if you never tried to improve yourself in the first place? Will you be a NEET? Which is fine, if you genuinely enjoy that NEET life. If you have a good relationship with your mother (but you've written before that you do not), you could have lived in her house. Rent free and just take care of her when she is old and infirm. That is a life too. One you can easily get without self improvement. If you think that will make you happier than a life of independence… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 11:06 PM |
| 3 | I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing.What do you think the life is like in a more conservative countries where parents/big family have big influence on their daughters and sons pairing? Countries that have something akin to caste systems too. Especially in countries that allowing polygamous marriage. If you live in a liberal country, you should already count your luck. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/20 10:55 PM |
| -6 | FemaleDatingStrategy and PinkPillFeminism are going to be far worse for women than the red pillI have more respect for real MGTOW or WGTOW. I really do not understand people that resent and distrust the opposite sex and yet still hoping for some romance, security, affection and relationship from them. You dislike coal polution? Well then don't try to get a job in a coal industry. You dislike soda? Then don't drink one. You dislike pets? Don't get one. Both of these group of people are thinking about getting their 'unicorns' and then get disappointed when they realized that there is no suc… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/20 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Femaledatingstrategies is a toxic sub for womenI told my husband the same thing. Would not have loved him less if we were not married. But he wanted it badly and I could not turned down that charming smile. Seriously though, were we not married today, I would have still be his partner if he is still wishing for it too. Or not, if one of us no longer wanting it. Right now all I can is just signing the paper as soon as possible if ever wanted a divorce. Lowering costs and hassles, etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/20 08:28 AM |
| 2 | Ethics of Ghosting a Girl - & Tinder Date ExperienceI could have just said I had fun then ended it, but I didn’t. It is already a big progress for you to recognize this. Because next time, you will be able to say it exactly like this. And it is alright. As for her, write her that you do not feel a spark or just do not feel that it is going to work. It is fine to be rejected, as fine as it is to reject people. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/20 08:20 AM |
| 1 | So what happens when Chad hits the wall?Singapore. Though I am not sure if that is what they are called in the whole country too. It is because they often slick their (often thinning)hair so much with pomade, for some reasons. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/20 09:52 PM |
| 10 | Femaledatingstrategies is a toxic sub for womenDo not understand their obsession with commitment. As if marriage = winning. Even speaking as a married woman myself, if my husband decided to leave me tomorrow, with or without reason, which is completely his right (since relationship is a fully voluntary thing to participate in or not), no signed paper would have stopped him. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/20 09:43 PM |
| 2 | So what happens when Chad hits the wall?I have to laugh because I guess different places have different names for these kind of people. In the place I used to grew up in, these kind of guys are being called 'uncle shiny forehead'. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/20 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Is there any PUA that married a succesful female or multi-millioner and doesn't have to work anymore while can make her do any thing the he wants(open marriage,polyamory,regular 3some,money,cheating on her friends)?With more than 7 billions people on this planet, it is possible. But I do not think these kind of people are the kind of people that needing PUA advice in the first place. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/20 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Young male teetering on the brink of inceldom/blackpill. Relationship/gender subs like /r/purplepilldebate and /r/trp are depressing but I can't help but feel like they're right. Please convince me otherwise.Many of my former guildmates are in your place right now...and not few of them are in their 30s. I was a co-GM many years ago for a quite sucessful raiding guild, when I was still studying myself. I cut back on the gaming time because of my study and real life socializations, but many of my guildmates dropping out of their study, delving deeper into online socialization instead of real ones instead. Life outside was hard and online escapism felt nicer. Some of them managed to get into relationsh… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/20 11:59 AM |
| 1 | We should stop bullying nice guys. Nice guys do not make themselves and are products of mixed messaging and upbringing.I was not being raised like that by parents. About the 'be generous in self-sacrifice' and all. This is what my parents told me verbatim; "Never depending on someone else for your financial and emotional needs. And don't let anyone depended on you for their financial and emotional needs...the only exception is your children." Dating advice is different for different people. If you asked me, I would say that I like stoic men...and women. Because I was raised in a stoic household and feel comforta… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/20 11:03 PM |
| 5 | Not sure where I fit in with all thisI care about mens issues simply because I'm a man. I believe I know what you can do to feel that you are making a difference. All these are from my personal experience, btw. Volunteer at homeless shelter. Most homeless people are men. Some of them suffered from violence from other men (either fellow homeless men or rowdy teenagers). Most of the volunteers are women (including me). We tried our best, but I think more male volunteers will work wonder. Volunteer at soup kitchen. Usually the numbers… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/20 10:49 PM |
| 2 | We should stop bullying nice guys. Nice guys do not make themselves and are products of mixed messaging and upbringing.You have a point about rejecting directly. This is a unique thing I would like to talk about. Because I am Asian who grew up in Asia and then moved to Europe. And the way people rejecting is different. You must know the talk about that in Asia, if you are fat, people will call you fat to your face? Similar interaction to rejecting people. I read your other responses to this thread. You would not have gotten a "you are too nice" rejection when you were still short. You will get a "you are too sho… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/20 08:05 AM |
| 7 | We should stop bullying nice guys. Nice guys do not make themselves and are products of mixed messaging and upbringing.You are right that making fun is not constructive to get rid of these kind of behavior. Calling it out openly will perhaps net a better result. Though usually these kind of people get angry if you call them out, because they feel embarassed by it. Isn't it good then, if it gets so many push back? The more people talk of how wrong it is, the more these people who were raised like this will want to change their behavior. What will you personally do if you meet men and women with this kind of menta… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/20 07:24 AM |
| 12 | We should stop bullying nice guys. Nice guys do not make themselves and are products of mixed messaging and upbringing.I made fun of 'NiceGirls' too. So... And of course they are like that because of how their parents raised them. Take out the romance background. Imagine you have a friend, 'that' friend who treated you nice, but then going into meltdown if you play with another friends. Imagine aunty Sue who came and give money and offered to drive you around and then sending you long, incoherent angry texts when she found out that you gonna spend the weekend playing DnD with uncle Bobby instead of accompanying … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/20 06:57 AM |
| 12 | Confusion about the 'traditional' family.Thank you!!! Take it from me, someone who grew up in a traditional Asian home. My parents are well-off, so they have maid, nanny, gardener and chaffeur. Similar to that Park family in the movie parasite. Me and my brother were mostly raised by our nanny. Dad was working 6 to 7 days a week. Monday to Friday bro and I would not see him, because he went before we woke up and came home after we went to bed. Mother went back to work at some point because there were just not many things left to do. Es… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/03/20 02:05 PM |
| 17 | Why I left the mgtow movementtheir lives were a COMPLETE mess The ones that really MGTOW or WGTOW usually never even heard about the movements. They are just people living their lives like how they want it and are not really bogged down with the thought of pairing or not. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | The red pill actually has a lot of truthsThe not seeing your partner so often does not have to be having some underhanded purpose behind it. If you work, have enough hobbies and a healthy social life, you usually can only meet your partner several hours per week anyway. Weekend will be divided between friends, partner and hobbies. What I dislike most about maintaining frame is that it is the male version of shit-test and bait-and-switch. You see multiple posts about guys complaning about their partner leaving them after they shown her … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/02/20 07:57 AM |
| 12 | Damn, I’ve been lied to this whole time?First thing to unlearn, forget this phrase: "If he/she really likes you, he/she will make time for you, at any cost". I hate this manipulative, arrogant, insecurity feeding sentence and I see it floating around a lot. Sure, if someone repeatedly flaking out or avoiding hanging out with you, you can recognize the pattern and drop them should you wish to. And this is the pitfall of not having a good friend/social circle. Because if this flaky/canceller is your only source of social need fulfillmen… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/02/20 07:47 AM |
| 4 | The red pill's "High n-count = lower pair bonding" argumentI do not blame Redditors who believe otherwise. They probably did not grew up in a place that literally look like their conservative dream. Same shit, with a side dish of more hypocracy (my abortion is the only moral abortion, my divorce is the only moral divorce, my cheating is the only moral cheating, my abusing is the only moral abusing, etc) and keeping up faces. But like I said...most won't believe it, because they do not live it. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/20 12:52 PM |
| 2 | The red pill's "High n-count = lower pair bonding" argumentI am not a feminist. Never claimed to be that. Just someone who grew up in a conservative country (so much that if you have premarital sex and being caught, you'd be forced to marry and even getting kicked out of community.) and people still do what people in a more liberal countries will do. People will people. There are countries that literally stone people for adultery...people still cheat. Till death do us part does not need to be a spoken vow in front of people. You have couple divorcing af… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/20 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Is this Red Pill or Not?but if I like that particular music, I kind of enjoy it even though it makes me little anxious. This is good reason to come clubbing. Because even if you did not get to meet anyone interesting, you still benefited from enjoying the music played. PC, consoles and tabletop games. But I understand your aversion to them after they have taken up so much of your time in the past. ...you know the 'creep' thing is often over-exagerrated online. Most of us do not mind a friendly chat in the park, in the … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/20 07:37 AM |
| 9 | The red pill's "High n-count = lower pair bonding" argumentUhh...careful using IFS https://www.sourcewatch.org/index.php/Institute_for_Family_Studies Coming from a place where people are most likely virgin before marriage and divorce is made difficult and social stigma is strong about it, people are still cheating on each other like hell and are still leaving each other without the divorce. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/20 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Is this Red Pill or Not?I almost do not answer about the going clubbing part. Many men I know hate and never visit a club and still manage to interact with women. I've been dragged to a club once or twice and both time, how do you even talk when the music is that loud? I'd say if you go clubbing, you do it as a reward for yourself because you have been doing so well for yourself that week. Not for hoping to meet someone, cause that can just bring disappointment. But...I don't know... Do you even like clubbing. Do you h… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/20 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Is this Red Pill or Not?So...I was about to reply to your post, until I read your username. And then I read your posting history. Dude, full stop, all of these pills, blue, red, whatever, reddit, weed, all these are things you use as distractions. And I feel like answering or debating your points here would have provided you with more distractions, you know? So you can cheat yourself again by believing that you have something more important to do rather than taking that one herculean task of unfucking your own life. Yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/20 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"Then just say no to relationship? The heck dude, men also have choice to say no to relationship. I feel more and more that it is about you and your fear of being traded up. Being traded up is fine. The person you used to love lives a better life now. Be happy for them, what is so hard about it? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/20 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"Feminism or emancipation empower women to work, to raise children on their own, to do DIY. Basically enable women to live without men's charity. Or do you prefer conservative systems like I mentioned? Where the men is the work-horse for the entire family. Which one is being treated like instrument there? I am not even a big fan of all of these feminism talk, but I don't understand why some men did not celebrate those "I am an independent woman who needs no man" slogan, because holy fuck, that is… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"Then date only men? At this point you do not even sound to want to have anything to do with women anyway. And like I said, showing vulnerability all the time is for me personally not a gpod trait. For men or women. For adults basically. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"Were you always being left when you were being weak though? None of those women left just because they do not feel like it anymore? Or were you just thinking that they did not feel like being in a relationship with you anymore only after you showed them your weak side? Did they say that they left because you are being weak, or were you speculating? On the topic of being weak itself, I do much prefer the culture of stoicism for men and women, rather than the 'show your feelings and be weak' hyste… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/20 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"no gay man complains about getting laid though. Sure, their complain is similar like yours. Hard to find long lasting loving relationship. Hard to find monogamy. Being traded up to more valuable guys. You seem to think that if there is no feminism, women kept at home, women are not allowed to live lives like they want to, marriage is to be decided by their dads, everything will then be all fine and kumbaya for men. Kumbaya if you are one of those upper echelon men with money and power. Kumbaya i… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/20 03:49 AM |
| 2 | RSD Tyler ruined my life.That is true. However I was referring to what I feel is a misconception that if one acts alpha enough, one will become alpha at some point. Most of the time, these people will break frame eventually. Because you cannot act all the time and forever. One might won over a crowd for a short time by acting like how he/she wanted other people to preceive them, but it is not something that they can mantain forever. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/20 05:41 PM |
| 4 | RSD Tyler ruined my life.I feel that being an 'alpha' or natural born leader, is just something that is either in one's nature or not. Put a group of kids together, after the cliques are formed, they often have that one kid, who other kids just seem to be wanting to befriend with. Wanting to be in his/her good side. This kid always seems to be the most confident from all of the bunch. You are either a natural born leader or not. You can act it, but you cannot act it 24/7, especially once you started wanting to have a cl… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/20 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"Go and spend sometime here: r/askgaybros You will find out that even among men who are sexually into other men, the competition related to height, appearance, even masc or femme gestures is high. A lot of talks about race too there. Even if you somehow able to switch your sexual interest and only date men, you will still find the competition there. People compete. Romancewise, jobwise, powerwise. Take a look at religious or conservative countries without feminism, the competition is even more in… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/20 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"So if they leave when you are not being weak, it will be okay? You do know that relationship is supposed to be very on voluntary basis, yes? I am talking about most relationship here. Your friend, your family, your boss, etc. And do you want people to stay with you out of pity, just because they knew that you are scared to be left when you are weak? This does not make sense to me. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill"First thing first. If your exes all ended up with someone who is greater than you are, why can't you feel happy for them? My exes have found younger, prettier and more sucessful woman than I am and I am happy for them. Secondly, why did the break up of the relationship the only thing you seemed to focus on? Were there never times when you two just hang out and enjoy time with each other? Going hiking together? Just sharing each others' deepest secrets? Built gaming pc together? There have been m… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Are RP relationships redeemable?Has she promised you something? Because it does happen and it does not have to be because of malice, that some people just got bored of relationship after a few months. Even if the relationship is perfect. You saw it even in different relationship subreddits. Written by men and women. Feeling like they are going to stay forever together in the early/honeymoon phase, and then feeling only boredom after. These people do not set out to purposelly hurt you or taking advantage of you. They are just l… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/20 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Kinda ironic that all of a sudden they love free speech but banned me and many others for criticizing themIsn't there still an unquarantined r/mgtow2, that is often said to be what healthy mgtow is supposed to be anyway? | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/20 09:54 AM |
| 3 | Had a nasty fight with my girl heavily influenced by TRP insecurities; could use some adviceI think both of you are right. You should always be able to express your opinion, your grievances and anything that bothers you, to your partner. Now, if your partner told you that it is going to be alright, in reaponse to that, you should give them chance to prove themselves. Some people broke down under peer pressure, but many do not. And you need to have bad peers in the first place to have them pressure you to do something you do not want. Let's assume the best that her own chosen bestfriend… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/20 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Is it true women lose interest/attraction once they feel they have you?Enjoy your relationship as it is and don't do this reading/guessing game. If she wants to stay, she will. If she wants to leave, she will. Some stay till the day the died, some gone after a day, some gone after several decades. Of course one should not grow too complacent in a relationship, but focusing too much on keeping it alive will also take the joy out of the relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/20 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Not a troll, but what about Redpill or MGTOW is objectively bad?I was half into RPW because I grew up in a place where the RPW model is needed. The place is more conservative and traditional. Turned out to be, that model also stress men out. Because they then as individual responsible for himself, his wife (wives because polygamy is allowed), his kids, his elderly parents, his elderly in laws and sometimes also his still unmarried sisters. So you have a 'pseudo' husband is king/man of the house, but the reality is, he is never home and at work, his boss usua… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/20 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Not a troll, but what about Redpill or MGTOW is objectively bad?I read your posting history and seems like you are doing just fine without a partner. When it comes down to it, men do not need women and women do not need men. Partnership is based on personal want. Household works and cooking are done much quicker with various modern equipments. Back then washing clothes used to be a chore that takes time. Now you just need to turn on the washing machine, the dishwasher, the crock pot...while vacuuming. You get clean clothes, clean dishes, clean carpets and a … | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/20 04:05 AM |
| 4 | Hi, newbie here, i want to say a couple of things.I feel that their parental/guardian figure failed raising them in the first place. One of my friends is someone that they would have deemed as living caricature of the classic 'ugly, fat, short Indian janitor'. Someone that they would have deemed to be unpairedable. Could not be further from the truth. Guy never had problems with women. His long term GF is a very successful and attractive German woman who happily spends her time around him. This friend of mine has a very strong character, and we… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/20 04:13 AM |
| 8 | How do you feel about people who still claim to be an alpha male bad boys in 2020?It's great actually. Just like women who write and say "can't handle me at my worst, don't deserve me at my best", both of these people are waving their giant red flags. Make them easier to avoid as potential partners, potential friends, and in some situation even potential hire. I hope more potentially troublesome people wave their red flags openly like them. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/01/20 09:44 AM |
| 3 | Getting over the blackpillFirst of all, OP, great job! Using academic achievement, even as a way of 'running' from the bullying is still tons healthier than other alternatives. Secondly, how do you feel to be the best way to get closure out of your bullied from the past? Some people got their bullies apologized to them and some other take pleasure to know that their bullies are living difficult lives. Do you ever feel that there is something that you can do in the future, if only to give these former bullies a piece of y… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/20 08:00 AM |
| 8 | I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilledmost men are happy with their woman if their needs are being met at home. Isn't this a bit of a toxic thoughts though? Same also if you were saying "most women are happy with their men if their needs are being met at home." Sounds like something that can create codependency and blaming the partner if they feel personally unfulfilled. We are responsible as adults to fulfill our own needs, are we not? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/20 08:10 PM |
| 3 | What made you spit the pillYour dad married a narcissistic woman, did he not? A woman that became a bad mother for you? And you followed in his footsteps. You married a garbage woman that was similar like your mother. Your dad was a wonderful dad maybe, but still was just a dumb person who married a wrong woman. No need to white knight a weak man such as him. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/20 08:26 AM |
| 5 | Corey Wayne?I like his theory on polarity. I also believe a man that has his own life and doesn't give it up to spend all his free time with a woman is very attractive. Yes! And seconded. Also vice versa. All of the guys I know who are in the relationship LOVE it when their partners also have her own life and not only clinging or orbiting around them. Having a fulfilled life really is a people's magnet. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 04:16 PM |
| 6 | I feel so bad.... 17yo myou believe that girls are just as nice and genuine as man? A turd is a turd is a turd of both genders. You will find good and bad people in both. It is an absolutely good idea to go out and travel. You will see that similar to men and women, there are turds and there are good people in different countries all around the world. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 04:07 PM |
| 4 | What made you spit the pillYou are delusional. Not even male millionaires here are being pushed to get married. You are being raised by a narcissistic mother and ended up marrying a narcissistic wife. That's it. Classic story. A female version of you would have been a woman who were raised by a narcissistic father and ended up marrying a narcissistic husband. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 03:57 PM |
| 3 | What made you spit the pillThe most delusional thing I have ever read. You must be living in some backwater town where the women are mostly depending financially on their men or something. Women here have their own money and a lot. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 08:34 AM |
| 3 | What made you spit the pillWTF are you talking about? I just called women who married abusive men who took advantage of them as dumb too. As dumb as you were. Are you having difficulty reading or something? None of my message defend women whatsoever. I called people like you dumb. Regardless of your gender. You are the type that want to be victim, just the same like some tumblr women who think they are victims. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 08:32 AM |
| 3 | What made you spit the pillI get called names all the time because I refuse to date. You chose to surround yourself by people who treated you like this. No one around me give a fuck of a man or a woman is in a relationship or not. You chose to still come to that church. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 04:05 AM |
| 2 | What made you spit the pillYour response are all over the place. Why is it so hard for you to take responsibility for yourself? So you chose to date and marry an ugly woman with poor character, just like some women chose to date ugly man with poor character that ended up taking advantage of her. Dumb people make dumb mistake. What is wrong with that statement? This is like knowingly applying for a shitty job, working for a shitty boss, holding on to that job for years and then claiming victimhood. It will not happen to mo… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/20 04:03 AM |
| 2 | What made you spit the pillThey made kids with Chad, Tyrone And you dated and married your own version of female Chad/Tyrone that ended up treating you like walking ATM for years. You were not being blue pilled, you were being dumb. Why would you date, let alone married someone who only wanted your money and then abuse you on top of that. Voluntarily too, to boot. Will you call a woman who dated and married an abusive, leeching loser a blue pilled woman? You were just being dumb and made dumb decisions. It was all on you.… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 4 | What made you spit the pillYou were the one bringing this up: I'm sure that when I buy my BMW, women will call me this and that Most people will just get the kind of cars that they want, without thinking what other people will call them. Men or women. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/20 04:41 PM |
| 6 | What made you spit the pillI'm sure that when I buy my BMW, women will call me this and that, I don't care I don't think most women even know you exist at all. And as someone living in Germany, BMW owners are everywhere here. Men and women. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/20 01:40 PM |
| 6 | I want to exit the red pill and I have some questions ...Ditching the racist friends is the right first step. And I hate to tell you this, but the very insulting Indian stereotypes is also common in some other Asian countries. But we knew already about this whole Asian racist against other Asian thing. Which sucks. I am of Chinese ethnicity and what I heard about Indians since I was young was just vile. I think one of the most awful one was the classic "if you see a snake and an Indian, kill the Indian first.” And no, I did not hear this from a mouth … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/20 03:48 AM |
| 2 | What do women think of the whole alpha/beta male concept?I prefer the term natural born leader types and follower types, if anything and they can both be men or women. Through nature or nurture, even in Kindergarten, you always have that one kid who every other kids seem to gravitate to. Usually because that one kid seems to be calm, assertive, smart, more mature, can talk to everyone (socially skilled) and being well-liked by teachers/authority figures. Other kids look up to him/her for guidance/leadership. When they grew up and stay like that, it is… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/20 03:34 AM |
| 7 | The red pills taste pretty good... But I know I'm going down a terrible path.Take the (possibly ugly) women you can actually get No. This is similar advice to that go to Asia and find young and financially desperate Asian woman to marry or something. Alright, some men are unhappy with their positions in society's rat race, I get that. But why victimize other people that have nothing to do with your suffering and perhaps had been suffered similary to you? Do you think poor, ugly women are not being bullied, excluded and rejected also? And now their salvation is being used… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/20 08:07 AM |
| 8 | A really overlooked aspect of dating appsbut people don’t approach each other in public where I’m from Seconding this. Even if people 'approaching' here, it is for a short/light interaction, with a thought of parting ways after that few minutes of interaction is done. The interaction is also happening so organically, without prior thoughts of getting each other's numbers. Someone created a thread that a lot of RPers types are living more in online world than real world and I think that poster is right. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/12/19 07:35 AM |
| 5 | How do you get over a Madonna-Whore complex?With age, experience and socialization with other people (knowing more people). Seeing the virgin, 'saintly' Madonna/Mary who turned into a complete horror, abuser, monster-ish mother and wife vs seeing the 'Miss fuck-a-lot-different-man-every-night' turned into not only a great social worker, but also a great wife and mother and foster mother for abandoned children who sorely need parental love. Turd is turd is turd, no matter whether they fuck just one person all their lives or thousands. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/12/19 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Woman who is sinking to red pill philosophy. Help.Some couples got divorced after marriage, some others who live in a more conservative country (talking about personal experience as I used to live there), live together because of societal pressure, but unhappily. Of course you do not have to perpetually dating if you do not want to, but all of these obsessions with happily ever after can put pressure on yourself and your partner too. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Woman who is sinking to red pill philosophy. Help.Well, you did say you are redpilled but there is nothing too redpilly in your previous statement, that was all I wanted to say. Men or women who can only offer sex and nothing else will be used for...well, that only. At least sooner or later their partner will find something better. Though there is that interesting part about what can women offer men and what can men offer women. Say, if it is money, both of them are working both of them are doing fine financially, so that's out. If they are bot… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Woman who is sinking to red pill philosophy. Help.OP relax, can't you just enjoy things as it it? I feel that you smoke too much of that happiness ever after bong. As a wise couple from Romania used to tell me in their wedding day, "we don't know if we'd still be married to each other in ten years." , yes, they are still married to this day and yes, it is more than 10 years already. My sis in law got left by her partner of almost three decades just last year, another friend got amicable divorce with her husband after 16 years of marriage. Will … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Woman who is sinking to red pill philosophy. Help.I broke up with my last LTR because the sex dried-up. I love her, I still miss her a lot, I worry about her, but she was denying me a biological need. I've talked to her multiple times about it before we broke up, nothing changed, so I moved on. Uhh...isn't this what normal people, redpilled or not, women or men, just your average, ordinary people usually do? If you cannot get what you want from your partner after communicating it several times, you should just leave them, instead of wasting eac… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 07:50 PM |
| 5 | Why are dating subreddits so cynical?You are not wrong that dating is harder for men, especially in the beginning where most of the time, they have to approach/innitiate first. The default is unfortunately still women signal interest - men approach. Though there are more and more women who innitiate and approach first. Which is great! Also happy people in relationship often do not write anything because they think it is a default situation. They also do not want to be accused of humblebragging. You are 21 and what I can tell as som… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 10:36 AM |
| 4 | Cheating wife gets exposed and gets pregnant by another manthat woman Yes. That one woman. I really do not get this. You will see other men as individuals and not as collective, but for women, it is different. Some men rape women and other men, are you a rapist too? Some men mug people in the street, are you a mugger too? Some men traffic human beings, are you a human trafficker too? Some Westerner fuck kids in Asia where I came from. If you go to Asia, assuming you are a Westerner, will you fuck kids too? How will you feel if you go on a holiday and pa… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/19 10:07 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on 'betaization' & 'shit tests'? True / False + ElaborationWomen do not make a man turned into a beta. He is naturally has beta-mindset. Ordinary men (or women) would not have tolerated that and would have left that person long before they could 'convert' you into another personality that is not yours in the first place. I know a guy who left his absolutely stunning GF for more time for his hobbies instead of caving to her demands for more hanging out time with her, and let me tell you, this guy is not some chad. He just has this chill attitude of 'ride… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/19 08:44 AM |
| 10 | I want to forget the redpillAttractive people of both genders do often enjoy that halo effect. Else we will not have billion dollars worth of industry in plastic surgery, make up, fitness trainers, luxury apparels, etc. However there is a middle ground. There are wide range between the very attractive ones to the real ugly ones. Most people are average. Working on the depression first might help. You never know, that better looking guy you think to be more superior might be just as depressed as you are inside and just hour… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/19 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Seduction in Feminist timesI feel that as long as you take a "no, thank you" with grace and leave that person alone afterwards, you are already very up there in the respectful scale. I know that some movies show that you need to press on...but that is just to fill up on running time (min 90 mins, I think?). Be on healthy weight, propotional to your height and have a great posture. Train those back muscles. Only girls in anime like slouching bois. Be well-informed about a lot of things. Silence is golden, but not when tryi… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/19 05:01 PM |
| 13 | Trying to gain some insight, because I felt I may have almost become red pilled.treat women with a great amount of indifference to attract them The indifference has to be genuine and this is also personal from one woman/man to another. For me, this can work, because I am also like that. I need a lot of time to be ALONE and so is my husband. So when we are apart and went 'radio silence' on each other, we knew that it was not to shit-test or to play game or to cheat. It is because we are both loners. We will still come running to each other if one of us needing a kidney. You … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/19 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Any former mgtow?Maybe you should first re-read this post you made and face the reality: https://old.reddit.com/r/cscareerquestions/comments/e9mscu/how_do_i_become_more_likeable_serious/famrs7p/ Most people do not give a flying FUCK whether you are a family man or a forever single person. Even if you managed to find an 'Unicorn', married her, have children with her and be perfect family like in the movies, die together side by side of old age, nobody, except maybe your own wife and kids will give a flying fuck a… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/19 08:30 AM |
| 1 | RedPill has made me depressed. A chaotic postWhat have you been taught about women by your parents/guardians/family, before you found the RedPill? Isn't it just very normal that everyone wants someone who are more or less a natural born leader type? I always say that even as children in kindergarten, in elementary school, we always have 'that' one kid, who seemed to be surrounded by followers. Usually that one kid will be good looking, assertive, kind but not to the point of being a pushover, socially skilled, sometimes also has well-off p… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/12/19 06:48 PM |
| 1 | RedPill has made me depressed. A chaotic postAh, so it really does boil down to telling OP and guys everywhere to keep their feelings to themselves. I shoulda figured. What about that all adults of both genders should learn to keep their feelings to themselves? Both be more stoic, stiff upper lips. I was raised in the family that does not share feelings and it was fine. Maybe it is more of a Western thing? | /r/ExRedPill | 16/12/19 06:32 PM |
| 1 | There are 2 guys (High SMV and Infidelity)If you are a dad with a daughter, a brother with a sister, an uncle with a niece, a grandpa with a granddaughter...to which guy you will want your daughter, sister, niece or granddaughter to pair up with? Or any gay male or straight female friend you have that you care about...to which guy you will wish they will end up with? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/12/19 10:42 PM |
| 3 | How do I overcome my fear and negative outlook of women?You wrote this: https://old.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/bgddn1/what_is_your_childhood_memory_that_you_thought/emq0zdv/?context=3 And you have negative outlook on women? I knew someone a long time ago, who also grew up getting beaten black and blue by his father and seeing his father tormenting his mother. He grew up to be a woman hater. We see some guys with mommy issues grew up to hate women (more or less understandable), but some boys with daddy issues also grew up hating women and not hat… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/19 05:45 PM |
| 3 | You Can’t Have Healthy Relationship With A Red Pill Man.Because that is what I am comfortable with and I am all about telling people (especially them who are closest to me) about my boundaries, so that if they need that shoulder to cry on, they will know enough to go somewhere else. They know they can come to me for other kind of help. Monetary (loaning money), advice on the fields that I know well, sometimes even some legal advice. That is what I am comfortable with to offer. To give an example, rather that be the agony aunt for a friend who cannot … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/19 11:55 PM |
| 2 | You Can’t Have Healthy Relationship With A Red Pill Man.It does not mean that I (or my friends and family) do not show weakness. It is more of a when that weakness is being shown. My mother and father are agreed that the time to share about a problem is when you already half way of tackling it, or already tackled it. It is not a new concept, we love the story (real life or imaginative) of underdogs that won against all odds. That movie "The Pursuit of Happyness" for example, won't be as good if the real life Chris Gardner only feels self pity and sad… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/19 10:47 AM |
| 2 | No Turning Backboxing now I can shift all the weight on my leg to throw the weight in the striking and I'm loving it! I know a girl who can do it like an exploding fire cracker. So fast, eyes barely can see. Also, there will be a time when you feel that you are plateauing for several weeks or months. Don't stop and continue to train regularly. That is usually the best time to fine iron the techniques...also get yourself a lot of friendly sparring as much as you could. You want to be able to protect your GF/par… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/19 11:52 PM |
| 7 | No Turning BackFirst of all, how's the leg today OP? Secondly, that question of 'will GF lose respect if I lose a fight in front of her' is often being asked and talked about only by guys. In my three decades of being alive, living in different culture and countries, knowing and befriending uncountable amount of women...that is a question we never asked ourselves or our friends. Because if you even look at those street fighting/public freakout/etc clips or videos...you will always see the GF trying to stop the… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/19 11:23 PM |
| 1 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedUltimately, there's a reason that the marriage vow often includes the phrase "Until death do us part". And this phrase is not always good. Forcing people to stay when their heart wants to leave, will breed resentment on both sides. And you will feel it. How long can you feel happy in a relationship where you feel that your wife no longer loves you, but she feels trapped, maybe financial-wise, maybe other factors, and that's why she had to stay. Sex becoming duty-sex where she just wants you to b… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/19 10:51 PM |
| 3 | You Can’t Have Healthy Relationship With A Red Pill Man.I am living in a place where the men are also expecting women to have everything figured out by themselves. And it is good. Strong men paired with strong women is what makes a nation as a whole strong. If after the war men and women stay weak, it will not be good for the country. I admit that I am one of those women who dislike to see men falling apart in front of me, but I equally also dislike seeing adult women falling apart in front of me. I go and find a private, hidden place if I need to be… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/19 12:21 PM |
| 1 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedThat would ultimately leave me more committed to them than they are to me, which is very much a cause for concern. If my husband left me tomorrow, I will be fine. If I left him tomorrow, he will be fine. And that was why I married him. Relationship is something that should be entered voluntarily, including marriage. I came from those corner of the world where it was much more conservative before I moved to the West. Forget dating apps, sometimes you were not even allowed to hang around without c… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/19 10:44 AM |
| 1 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedFor sure you can PM me. I am older woman, yes. Over 30 and living in Germany. First gen expat though (I mentioned this because I think I ever read somewhere that you are a second gen immigrant?), so I might be a little unaware of problems faced by second generation migrants. I know an Eastern European guy who would fit to your description to tradcon. He is even an Orthodox also. But his wife is also a lioness. As he ever told me (he did not know anything about TRP or alpha-beta, etc), "strong pe… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/11/19 11:24 AM |
| 2 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedpeople treating sex as a recreation. With 7 billions and counting people on this earth, I do hope that most people will treat sex as a recreation rather than procreation. Look Pan, I do not want to be harsh on you, but you have been here for a while and seem like you are still looking for answer. I was never really RPW, but I was a Legbeard when I was in my early 20s. I read the stories you posted here and I feel that you are still chasing something that your TRP coach sold to you. Advice from m… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/11/19 12:30 AM |
| 3 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedI hope you are not trying to say that the availability of medical contraception, improvement in condoms and accessible abortions is bad for women. Because I originated from area where those things were or are limited and let me tell you how the women and the children suffer from it. Even without Medical contraception, improvement in condoms and accessible abortions, men and women still have sex outside or inside of marriage...and it is even easier for the men just to leave. Why do you think ther… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/19 03:21 PM |
| 1 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overrated...I feel that you are only half listening to me and being all glass half-empty here. Your employment and salary not being a selling point is a GOOD thing. Imagine you lose your job because someone lied about something again, or the company got bankrupt, or your job got automatized. It will not be a problem for your partner, cause she can keep the household afloat while you are looking for the next job. Good thing now that the job thing was never a selling point in the first place, isn't it? Sec… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/19 07:35 AM |
| 1 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedOk, first of all... You really, really, really, really and I mean really, really...do not want any of Henry's five ex-wives. All of them are whacked in the head. That's all I can imagine. Maybe not his very first, because she perhaps did not know until it is too late. You definitely do not want to be with the one that continued to fuck Henry after the divorce. More serious now, I get what the blogger is trying to tell... But in every human history, we always had (and will continue to have) the o… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/19 06:39 AM |
| 3 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedThat is so not what I wanted to say. You said your problem is that you haven't managed to find a wife yet so far, right? And you have tried everything, correct? So why not try to learn to be happy without them. That sounds like a logical answer to it. Sure, another logical answer will be to buy a wife and you can realistically do that, especially if you are loaded and live in the West. But that kind of arrangements comes with a lot of clauses too. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/19 04:04 AM |
| 5 | It all comes back to one thing: Sex is overratedYou know... This: the attitude of 'sex, love and relationships shouldn't matter and you should learn to be happy without them'. Is the answer to this problem: It still hasn't happened, and at this point I doubt that it will. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/19 03:45 AM |
| 7 | Attractive woman with disabled manMy husband is in a wheelchair and I just shown the clip to him. Honestly, most people with physical disabilities are very independent and resilient on their own. Also it might be surprising for some, but a lot of people with disabilities, both men and women, do happily paired up. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/19 10:26 AM |
| 1 | The Prevalence of Red Pill/Incel Subs Shows That Danger is Lurkingungrateful people with vaginas. I am a straight woman, so I am not romantically interested in other women. Also ungrateful people comes in all variations of gender, races, etc. My mother in Law is a doctor, she can tell you stories haha. But thanks to technology once again, someday we can automatize almost everything, so that only AI can deal with the masses. And yeah, I am always grateful of what my parents taught me. My husband came from similar family and a great, strong and kind person on hi… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/19 09:54 AM |
| 1 | The Prevalence of Red Pill/Incel Subs Shows That Danger is LurkingSurpringly enough, I agreed to some of his points! I have to tell you my background first. I grew up in Asia. Great, awesome dad and an equally hardworking awesome mom. Great brother. I became engineer, all thanks to my dad who saw teaching me math, physics and chemistry as part of bonding. He also taught me practical skills of welding, repairing roof, car maintenance, etc. Just to make my life easier. So from the very first, I want to say that I love men, especially Asian men, because of my dad… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/11/19 09:14 PM |
| 1 | The Prevalence of Red Pill/Incel Subs Shows That Danger is LurkingEver heard of james orbinski? That is one of the few people in this world, that this world should be thankful for. He and his teams. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/11/19 05:09 PM |
| 2 | The Prevalence of Red Pill/Incel Subs Shows That Danger is LurkingI go to work, I got paid. You go to work, you got paid. I have never been thanked at my job. The salary is enough. Do you want random people to thank you? Also...was your mother a narcissistic woman? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/11/19 04:29 PM |
| 3 | This might be the hardest thing I'll ever have to writeI don't fault a man who wants to be 'alpha', because organic 'alphas' do enjoy their lives. And maybe you'd be more sucessful than him, maybe less? From what I see, it is more or less the same with how attraction in men and women works. People will like you more if you seem to be enjoying your life and have clear goals. A son of my former neighbor is a natural. Since he was still a kid, he is always focused of what he wanted. The kind of life he envisioned for himself. He wants to own a big farm… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/11/19 08:44 AM |
| 10 | This might be the hardest thing I'll ever have to writeLet me tell you this... Do you honestly think that you are the only TRPer that is LARPing and lying about their FieldReports or their plates or their sucess, etc? Real alphas do not hang around TRP subreddit. First, they do not need to. Second, most of them do not even think about these alpha, beta, gamma bullshit. All they know is that they are popular with the ladies, life is sweet and they enjoy their lives. There was a very honest post from a TRPer, about of course he knows that real alphas … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/19 09:46 PM |
| 1 | If woman want to reproduce alphas why are we not all born of alpha fathers?You have problems with your parents and you want to make other unrelated people pay. Classic story of many misguided people. If only they can only hate their parents and not involve other completely unrelated people in their mess. What a weak, garbage human to do that. Up the ante next time, will you? Go mug a random old lady on the street. Imagine she is your mother who made your father waited for 3 months to have sex. Guarantee to make you feel not only alpha, but ultra super alpha. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/19 09:30 PM |
| 3 | The Prevalence of Red Pill/Incel Subs Shows That Danger is LurkingWhat kind of rewards are you talking about here? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/19 12:09 PM |
| 3 | American History X (My story)Honestly...this all sound quite ridiculous. It is as if saying that all men are rapists, because if their biological urges. And if they do not rape you, it is only because they are afraid of the consequences. So something like ISIS men, who abducted and rape women are true nature of men. You have zero sympathy for these women who have done nothing to you. And people who just accept it if they are being treated like shit are often people who have bad childhood too. You may hurt someone who also h… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/19 03:24 AM |
| -3 | American History X (My story)I see. You put yourself in a weird situation. So in order to respect a woman, she has to be rejecting you in the first place (as in never want to sleep with you.) Because once a girl agreed to sleep with you, she is a slut. Do I understand this right? | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/19 01:58 AM |
| 2 | American History X (My story)Uhh...why did you take their words so much to heart anyway? | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/19 01:53 AM |
| 3 | American History X (My story)Can you justify this? when I was 18 a girl introduced me to her friends as "my little puppy." Let's just be friends, rejections, you name it. I remember, my cousin (girl) told me: "You're a fuckboy but you're not actually fucking anyone... are you?". So there were these two girls who had pissed you off. Let's call the first girl Lisa and your cousin Marie. So Lisa and Marie personally pissed you off. Why punished unrelated random 35 to 36 women then? Bank of America declining your request for lo… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/19 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Advice for people that just escaped?I gave a similar advice here: https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/dqi4nq/the_story_of_my_awakening_from_mgtow/f64c2yp/ Go out and socialize, tally the numbers of nice interactions with fellow human at the end of the week. The aim is to understand that...yes, it is a crazy world out there, but most of fellow human are fine. And despite the craziness, unless you are living in a literal active warzone, it is SAFE out there. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/11/19 11:25 AM |
| 18 | The story of my awakening from MGTOWI was a Legbeard when I was in my early 20s. One of those scrawny looking, sleep deprived, poor hygiened person in engineering major who in my case, shunning real life men for anime male protagonists (I KNOW!). I came from the area in the East where women are often second class, so there was bitterness there. However, I neglected at that time, to think that financially and socially poor men are even doing/being treated worse than poor women...and only rich men get to enjoy everything. This is th… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/11/19 10:35 AM |
| 12 | Pros and Cons of TRPHmmm turned out to be the types that likes to accuse women of being unable to pair-bonding are the ones who are unable to pair-bonding themselves because of paranoia. Interesting. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/10/19 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Relapsed and spiraling out of controlOk, you certainly not going to answer my question about walking down to the homeless shelter, soup kitchen, rehab programs for junkies and former junkies. Slacktivism ahoy. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/19 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Relapsed and spiraling out of controlThe cat ladies are not as sad as movies like to make it. Barring the ones with severe mental illness, many of them continue to have sex, to have friends circle, to be taken care of by the neighbors (the community tends to take care more of little old ladies who lives alone, rather than that one old man who lives alone), etc. Meanwhile young men like you, who could have given these lonely men attention and care (visit them, talk to them, etc), care more about what women do. Many refugees do not c… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/19 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on the “number count” for women?The thing is...it depends on your personal expectation. Falling out of love happens, sickness that turns the brain weird happens, too much stress in lives that brings depressions and thus changing feelings happens, not counting the possibility of sudden or non-sudden death of our partners. I think if you ever had the chance, you should just take it, and as classic as it sounded, see where this goes. Cause you never know what will happen tomorrow. Is thinking if he/she is settling or not really w… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/19 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Relapsed and spiraling out of controlMe too caught some men who are predating other men too. You will be happy if you have a resource to go to, if your boss makes advances on you. Besides, have you ever volunteer in homeless shelter/soup kitchen? Most of the homeless men who got attacked or beaten up? They got attacked or beaten up by other men. Older ladies who are single are being made fun of, for having cats. (crazy cat lady lol, amirite?). To distract from the fact that older single men either roping or suicide by alcohol. Most… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/19 01:19 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on the “number count” for women?You tell her a white lie about your body count and she tells you her white lie about her body count. I think at that point it is 'whatever helps you sleep at night' territory. You will never know that she told you her white lie, she will never know that you told her your white lie. ...then again, you can just like...try to get into relationship the normal way. Most people in this world never heard about this 'ability -to-pair-bond' thing. Usually it is the ye olde: A met B, both want to get to k… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/19 01:06 PM |
| 28 | Thoughts on the “number count” for women?Some guys will be fine with that, some won't. It's simple as that. How is your professional life OP? Do you have future projects for the next one or two years? Plan to visit some countries maybe? I see that you are focussing a lot on these whole getting into relationship thing far too much. This is what I usually tell guys when they come up with the same problems of self-doubt and some tunnel visions. Relationship is not something that you can plan step by step like getting a University degree. … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/19 11:28 AM |
| 6 | As a woman, I paid money for a red pill coach for at least 6 monthsbeing a better mother than my mother Makes me sad to read this. OP, I know some stay at home mothers. They eventually go back to work. Most people do not live in victorian homes nowadays. Vacuuming, washing (dishwasher and washing machine), dusting, cooking, etc...most of those will be done quick. Even if you have a little child/children. You will be left with a lot of idle hours and hobbies can only get you so far. There is a certain nice feeling of seeing one's personal progress compared to la… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/19 07:57 AM |
| 7 | Relapsed and spiraling out of control"well, I'm just not going to bother with dating and relationships with women and focus on my hobbies and male friends." This is what I heard most from men and women in the real world. Online (or in Reddit) it seems like a strange concept for so many people. I wonder if they have real friends or even going outside and talk to people at all? Most single adults I know of all genders are living fulfilling lives with hobbies, activities, personal goals and friends. Or maybe I just live in a mostly me… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/19 11:56 PM |
| 5 | Red pill is really fucking up my relationship & I feel like a messWell, you did ask how you can be more relaxed in a relationship. So why not think like that? Enjoy what you have right now and if it ends, both of you get to keep the nice memories. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/19 11:07 AM |
| 9 | Red pill is really fucking up my relationship & I feel like a messHmm...I do not know if this will help. I am married and I love my husband so much. However, if he leave me tomorrow, my world will not stop. I will still go to work in the morning. My friends are still my friends. The Muay Thai gym is not going to be closed just because my husband left me. Etc...etc... I will not have someone to hang out with for a while, but we all eventually will bounce back. But that is it. My life and his life will continue. Won't that also be the same thing that will happen… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/19 09:02 AM |
| 2 | I like this girl but...I am not saying that there is no use of trying to be a funny, entertaining person. Do this right and your boss and co-workers will like you more, for example. You have to do it without expectation though. Right now in your mind, you already want to be liked by this one specific girl. It will be a massive pressure on your back. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/19 08:58 AM |
| 11 | As a woman, I paid money for a red pill coach for at least 6 monthsEveryone that is able should work, regardless of gender. We can have the most loving husband/wife/spouse that happily wants to be the sole provider. Only to have them dying of heart attack tomorrow or being mowed down by a drunk driver on their way to work. That is like playing with extra difficulty level unnecessarily. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/19 11:56 PM |
| 1 | I like this girl but...should I just be totally myself and she decides whether she likes me or not? I think this is the easiest and most common way for us to create a connection with others. Even when things are perfect on paper, sometimes it just does not work. On the other hand, it is also possible for the opposite to happen. Just personal experience here, but maybe do some physical activities when talking to her. Bit too cold already for biking tour unfortunately. But...yeah. I found out that interacting with other… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/19 11:47 PM |
| 3 | I like this girl but...In the short while is your key over there. If both of you haven't grown attachment by the time your true personality came out, then it might be in a grey-ish territory. But if one of you have developed attachment, someone is going to get hurt. And well, of course faking confidence, assertiveness, calmness, etc will gets you more (not even in romantical sense related to the opposite gender. You might even get more male friends this way). Because as a social animal, we tend to look for leaders. It… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/19 11:21 PM |
| 13 | I like this girl but...Don't bait and switch her. Trying to be close to someone by showing fake personality and hoping that they will love you enough that by the time you feel comfortable to show your real personality they will not run away is kinda...fucked up. It is like those cat-fishing pictures in dating sites. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/19 12:09 PM |
| 6 | [HELP] I need to leave my mysoginistic tendenciesThis is something that I sometimes struggle myself. But for other thing. I have a Romanian friend who hates the Romani (gypsies), because they stole from his father's farm, he got beaten up by a Romani gang once and other bad experience...mostly because he used to grow and live near Romani community. Another friend, a German, really really dislike the Turks, especially the men. You guess it right. Being bullied by turkish kid gangs at school, living among poor immigrants with turkish descents. H… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/10/19 11:31 AM |
| 4 | Imprinting women is legit?...what kind of upbringing you have that led you down this kind of path? You may as well say that earth is flat and moon is made out of cheese. Pee is stored in the balls. Are you trolling us? | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/19 06:51 PM |
| 2 | What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives?Sometimes I wonder if the spouse actually reacts not to the dread itself, but the efforts one's shown to actually better one's self. Then again you have those people in deadbedroom subreddit. Who have also been showing efforts to better themselves and yet still haven't seen any changes. I just think that noone deserves to stay with someone that does not respect them anymore. Dreading is only prolonging the inevitable. What kind of feeling is that, that one's spouse finally gets their ass back in… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/19 08:00 PM |
| 3 | What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives?Those children know when their parents are unhappy with each other. I originated from a more conservative place. I know a lot of 'let's stick for the sake of the children' mentality. Many of those children were my friends. They were weird afs. Thinking that it is normal in a relationship to feel stuck and trapped together. Now children of parents who own their shit, that their relationship just does not work anymore and decided to separate and still parenting together, many of those children gre… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/19 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Any ex red pilled women? (RPW)Me. I was raised in a very stoic family. Crying or 'breaking frame' was educated out of us since we were very young. My mother and father and entire family, -never- cried. My grandpa was very close to my father and when he died, my father did not cry. Mother also did not cry when my sainted grandma passed away. And then I moved to the West and well...men here cry. Showing emotion. I thought I was in an upside-down world. Did not know how to deal with it, when even adult women in my family are no… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/19 11:22 AM |
| 5 | What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives?Dread. If you find yourself in an LTR and need to dread your partner to get what you want even after openly trying to talk your problem out with her, instead of you know, leaving?????, Like what normal person all over the world will do. Then you are the omegaest of omegas out there. And these people call it 'alpha' move. Dread is just shit-test for men with a lot of hamster wheel spinning involved. Just.Fucking.Leave. How can leaving not be a fucking option at all? | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/19 06:52 AM |
| 8 | How do you feel about this omission? their true nature, or not?That was the point of my replies actually. Most of people in the world over living a completely very ordinary, mundane and normal lives. Be they are women or men. Most people are also marrying someone that is great on paper (and what is great on paper different from one person to another too) and give them tingles. These shits are not mutually exclusive or an exception. So ver much that women (or men) just gotta cheat, else they are unhappy in marriage. Like...WTF. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/19 03:18 PM |
| 18 | How do you feel about this omission? their true nature, or not?Honestly written like a man pretending to be a woman. Most women do not live that kind of dramatic lives. Most of us go to school, socialize, fell in love, got into LTR, some have kids. Balancing between work, family life and hobbies. There is no much to be written about most of us, let alone this dramatic. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/19 01:56 PM |
| 7 | i made all the girls who treated me with cruelty regret it (by improving) but now im lostYou answered your own question. You are someone with unsolved (yet) daddy issues. How many women (especially younger age) have problems with their partners because of daddy issues do you think? I believe that people growing up under narc parents (be it the mom or the dad), should work on themselves first before trying for any kind of close relationships with other people. For both platonical friendship and romantical relationships. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/19 11:38 AM |
| 0 | dealing with my fractured capability to trustPeople make exceptions and act differently all the time, once they got to know you better (and vice versa). Some will be more open to closer to you, some will run for the hills. Get a load on these men saying they will never ever date a single mom. Many of the guys I heard said something like that before, ended up even marrying single mom. It is because of the concept of 'UNICORN'. Maybe your family and friends would not have given other NEETs chances, but you are different for them. And when pe… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/19 08:05 AM |
| 5 | Trp has mostly damaged my skills with womenA woman from Europe here. Ya gotta wait until we approach you, man. And most women here do not have hang ups about approaching guys first. Prepare some topics at hands for such moments, so that you can keep the conversations flowing. Light topic: current entertainment industry, talk about marvel movies if you want to (for example), talk about concert/music fests/gaming conv/etc you are planning to visit that year/next year, talk about food, etc. Heavier topic: technology, history, sociology, cul… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/19 08:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?"She was PMSing" is as poor excuse as "boys will be boys" indeed. I see that more and more women who are behaving badly are being called for it (at least in Western Europe where I am now living). When women and men are equal, assholes from both sides are going to be (rightfully) judged. Worst in my experience was in countries where there are lack of women's rights. They make the men responsible for their mother/wife/sister/daughter/etc... behavior. That is some heavy cross to bear. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/19 04:35 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I do hope it encourages you to make better decisions next time. If someone cannot give you what you want, even after you talked it out with them, you have to leave. And do not say yes to a friendship offers that you feel pressured to. Whenever you feel like wavering in your decision, remember that DnD guy who is unknowingly more alpha than guys who are thirsty for validationand attention from women. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/19 12:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?Agreed. And I think that is how men and women should act in a relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/19 12:13 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I forgot I wanted to ask you something. What do you think about this situation? A male friend of mine, just left his GF because she asked for too much of his free time. He is a gamer. She knew that he is a gamer before they got together. He is also a DM for DND weekends. This GF is a sucessful and pretty woman on her own. Working corporate and taking care of herself. How many RP men would have done that? Letting go of an 8/9 because she is asking too much of his free time, instead of keeping her… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 01:35 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?Some part of RedPill is not so bad. Self-focused and abundance mentality. But those kind of advice, you can get anywhere. To be honest OP, most men who had never heard of TRP would not have overthink it and just said no, if they are looking for an LTR monogamous and this woman cannot provide it for them. I think you overthink too much (and many TRPers are also these avid over-thinkers). Most other men who had never heard of TRP navigate their dating lives just fine. They do what they want, they … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 08:27 AM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?If she wants to be friend with you and you want to be more than friend with her, you have to say no if she wants to meet again. Because you know that if you are around her, you are going to want to be around her more. I think your problem is that you do want an LTR, but so far you have been looking it in women who are not available for that for you. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 08:12 AM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I still do not see the problem if everyone is open about it. Or do I understand it wrong? If a girl tells you that you are currently one of her four suitors, won't it be up to you, if you want to try to win her affection or to look for somone else? This is why abundance mentality is great. Any kind of decision you take, whether to wait and see, or go away and look somewhere else, it will not really affect you, because whatever happens, you know that she is not the last woman on earth. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 07:41 AM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I came from a country where some of the neighboring countries allow men to marry up to 4 wives. And why not? If a man has several women interested in him, why shouldn't he do that? Some men do have main girl and side piece or plates. And if everyone is open about that, and agree to it, why not? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 07:15 AM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?Not having a BF while simultanously dating many people is fine if one is open about it in the first place. There are many men and women who seek that kind of lifestyle and will feel happy to find it. If she had said that in the first place, you can make a decision about whether you are still interested or not. I do not know about her being redpilled...but I do hope that more men will be more into abundance mentality. So far, I've seen it more in women. And well, as long as relationship is suppos… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/19 06:17 AM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I don't know if thinking of a decent person as 'unicorn' instead of thinking that you run into shitty people twice in a row is a good thing. If you think that all friendship will end up in betrayal eventually, except if you find that one rare person that value friendship, of course you are going to be less interested to start a friendship. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 06:35 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?Yeah, no fuck that. That one was a bad apple. I do not deny that there are women that want to have her cake and eat it too. Most however, have no interest for that and no time for that. Between job, hobbies, friends and family...most people cannot sustain multiple relationships. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 06:09 PM |
| 12 | Hey Dudes!Dude...of course I know that most Indian dudes are not rapist. WTF? What I wanted to say is that you have to make real-life interaction to judge someone and cannot just go by reading. All of Indian guys I know of are golden. Good co-workers, polite friends, good husbands and dads. Despite what news are often written about them. I was being obtuse. The way you can learn is by jumping in deep water. Aka, wait until you have your chance to go abroad and just try to talk to everyone. The problem her… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?I don't understand why people want to be in a sexless relationship if they still have interest for sex. I would have not done what you do (got pushy with sex). With sex, you want to feel that your partner is crazy about you and that they want to have you -willingly-. That is a great validation over there. What can one get from a...well...sex that is demanded? They just do it as a duty. They just do it to keep you around. They are not as horny for you as you are for them. None of the three are my… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 05:50 PM |
| 14 | Hey Dudes!Not a dude here, but I think your situation is a completely whole bag of problems than most. Not sure how many can relate to your situation. Many people in another part of the world have already interacted with a lot of women (both romantical and platonic sense), at your age. Most of them do not have religious parents and do not live in a place where people are so afraid of pissing some imaginative beings off, that their sure-way tickets to the so called heaven got cancelled, so they limited the… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?If you feel someone has done you wrong, the only thing you can do is talking to them about it. And depending on their answer, you can decide if it is something that is worth continuing or not. Manning/womanning up very often involves sticking to your boundaries. And you are leaving her anyway, are you not? That means you are doing the right thing. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 05:40 PM |
| 2 | How do I curb my thirst/man up?it sucks when women tell you exactly what they want, and then you find out you aren't that. Well...isn't the conclusion to that is that you two are not made for each other? This does not even need to be a romantic relatioship. Imagine a platonic friendship with other people where you found out that you two are not what each other was looking for in friendhsip (maybe he is more a chill out in a bar and watch sport guy, you are K2 climbing and kayaking guy). You leave this one and look for another… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/19 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Where does the redpill work n where does it stop?I find the whole 'pretend to be unavaible' thing to be seen as too negative. Most of the time, people are not pretending to be unavailable. They really -are- unavailable because they have life outside of their relationship with us. I have this super duper great friend and kind lady as a neighbor. However I just know that if I try to contact her by any means (text, phonecall, emails, etc), she will get to me back hours or days later. Sometimes even weeks. She works a high stress job (where she ca… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/19 05:01 AM |
| 11 | What kind of girls are TRP guys having sex with?If it is only sex, where short-term interactions are enough to get the both of them comfortable? Then anyone, really. Both men and women are capable to fall into the trap into trusting someone who pretended to be someone who is confident, assertive and charming. Problems usually starts when these manipulative people want some LTR though, because you cannot act/pretend 24/7, especially around someone you want to eventually grow close to. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/19 04:49 AM |
| 1 | What causes bitterness? Do you think thats why red pill/incel types can't seem to succeed or at least cheer up....kinda. At any point of human history, any place, culture, countries, etc, you always have a numbers of men and women who just do not pair up with anyone. Even in religious community where everyone seemed to be married with someone. Ever heard the term of 'spinsters'? There will always be some people who are unable to find anyone until their time is up in this world. We are not living forever afterall and our time in this world is limited. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/19 04:42 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill lead me down a dark path and I don't like the person I've becomeAbundance mentality is good, don't get me wrong. Men and women should have them. It will minimalize the unhealthy oneitis, stalking problems, ex-problems, etc. A lot of men have no problem ending toxic relationship and have no problem with living alone without constantly needing validation from women. Let's not pretend that a mentally healthy guy who has abundance mentality is that rare, let alone has to know about TRP first. And her staying in abusive, drama-filled relationship is a prove of he… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/19 04:30 PM |
| 3 | The Red Pill lead me down a dark path and I don't like the person I've becomeWhy didn't she break up with you once and for all? Why did she get back to you over and over again? Why did she decide to be a part of your "soft harem"? Do you have any answers other than what trp says? Same answer why some guys letting his cheating GF repeatedly cheating on him and even raising the kid of the guy she is cheating with...oh and this guy is also getting no sex from her either. Cause some peeps have very low self-esteem they feel that being treated like shit is what they deserved. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/19 07:56 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill lead me down a dark path and I don't like the person I've becomeYou got hurt by your first ex and you punished another person for that. Cannot get more classic than that. Whenever you want to hurt other people for bad things other people has done to you, imagine you were mugged by a big, mean guy...and then on your way home, still raging and humiliated, you met this nice little old lady. Will you beat the shit out of her? If the answer is no, then you can use this thinking for other things. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/19 07:53 AM |
| 3 | Field Report/Technical Breakdown(Girl next door cute German girl(You don't need to approach 1000 girls)...so...is this what happened when people lack real hobbies or something? They over-analyzed normal human interaction and turned it into anime? Need more 'kyaa', 'senpai' and 'uWu'. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/09/19 06:22 PM |
| 1 | How to get those "red pill lessons" out of my head?'man up' and marry her There is no correlation between the two, except if you are living in a country where being an unmarried single mother is an almost impossible thing to do (during Taliban time, women cannot go out. No ways to earn money to feed the child). If you are willing to do hands on 50/50 upbringing, if the child turned out to be biologically yours, that's imo already meaning much more than just giving monthly child support. One of the worst thing you can do, is just giving a 'token'… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/19 11:46 AM |
| 1 | How to get those "red pill lessons" out of my head?Second best outcome out of the whole situation. I would have still suggested abortion so that she can go her own way and you can too. This way, want it or not, there is something that is going to tie the both of you up for several more years. Also, for someone who does not give a damn about women anymore, you still post far too much about women. Just an advice, but if you are really interested to go into manosphere instead, where you can support other men, go volunteer at homeless shelters and s… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/19 10:39 AM |
| 1 | How to get those "red pill lessons" out of my head?Work on your self. Be the best you, financially, physically and mentally. Stop worrying about what other people say. Do you really need TRP for something that most people have heard over and over again from their parents, teachers or coaches? Also how's the pregnant GF, you guys worked something out yet? I gave some advice on that thread too. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/19 09:56 AM |
| 12 | How to ask a girl straight-up that I want to feel her breast without creeping her outI never felt tits before and my sex drive is very high Don't make your problem other people's problem. Remember the video of that robber got shot to death by store clerk in the cellphone stone? Yeah. That dead robber also felt that he had to do it (robbing the store). | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/19 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Stories like these is why I’m still afraid of marriage, what are your thoughts? How can you convince me it is still worth it?This is what I actually know in real life though. I think I have written it here somewhere at some point. Plenty of my friends have unmaried parents who stick together for years voluntarily without a piece of paper. And these people turned out fine. These women wanting marriage at all cost thing feels like mere internet meme sometimes. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/19 07:42 PM |
| 21 | Stories like these is why I’m still afraid of marriage, what are your thoughts? How can you convince me it is still worth it?Dude, you do not need to get married. Look for women who do not want to get married too. Some women do not even want co-habitation. Also it depends on who you asked. If the story was about a woman who had that happened to her, some will say that it is her own fault for 'ignoring red flags and choosing fuckboy'. That guy probably has been ignoring red flags for years too. And yes, he chose a cunt. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/19 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts?Yes. And at the same time, they are also emotional children who chose unemployed, deadbeat abusive men to be together with. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/19 11:32 AM |
| 9 | Impossible Male Beauty Standards and MasculinityI know right? That is why it is totally fair and square to punish some random girl for the crime of being in love with you! Fuck carrying own baggage, let's let people who love us carry our baggage! bonus point for: Always thinking that she/he is cheating. Shit-test the fuck out of her/him. Set her/him to fail the shit-test. Oh and best one yet, MAKE HER/HIS PROVE HER/HIS LOVE TO YOU THROUGH SOME CRAZY ELABORATED SCHEMES!!! ...what did I forget to include? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/19 05:58 PM |
| 13 | Impossible Male Beauty Standards and MasculinityEven if I had a girlfriend and she told me how much she loved me, I wouldn't believe her, infact I would think she is just trying to play me for a fool while cheating on me behind my back with actually attractive, masculine men. AKA: Imma make other people carry my fucking baggage! Yeah, please -never- have a GF before you get rid of this kind of mindset. Fight your own battles and don't drag other people through your shit. Going to say the same if you were a woman saying the same bullshit. Thes… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/19 02:28 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts?Women like jerks, men like nice girls. Except for the barrage of men complaining about 'divorce raped', being cheated on, abused, taken advantage of, etc...etc... If men have bad partners, they are being 'baited-and-switched' instead of themselves willingly choosing cunts? But if it is women, they are willingly choosing jerks? See the contradictions here? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/19 02:25 PM |
| 4 | How do you ladies and gentlemen address the open hypergamy culture?Everything has risk. You want to be safe? Go your own way. Better not to have friends too, since friends can also betray you. Women in conservative countries who are at risk of losing everything including their lives through honor killing or acid attacks need to make their choices too (sometimes they even cannot). If the thought of being left for someone else kills you this much, maybe you should not be in a relationship at all. Relationship is something that's best done voluntarily. Not with a … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/19 08:51 AM |
| 17 | Lost in a sea of red pillsMeet real MGTOW men in real life and you'd see that none of them ever even heard that what they are doing have a name at all. They are just men enjoying their lives and not bothering anyone. Some chose seafaring, some other chose van living, other chose to be very sucessful and married their business, some other chose to help out in third world foreign countries, etc...etc... These are the real MGTOW men. They are busy, they are happy, they don't need reddit MGTOW because their lives are already… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/19 11:35 AM |
| 4 | Work on my personalityHonestly, there are A LOT of people with less things going on in their lives than you, who paired up. Also physical-wise, less attractive. OP, sometimes it is just down to pure luck. Most of the time even. The negative traits can be worked with a trained therapist. You need professional guidance for it. Those are the lists of something that internet randos cannot help you. Also don't worry about changing several therapists until you found the right one. Also your drawings are simply amazing and … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/19 09:07 PM |
| 5 | I feel that my inability to be friends with women is the main reason I’m not getting into a relationship or even having casual sex?The main problem with all of these is that you did not voice your concern and took action back then. Let's compare it to other scenario. You have a close male friend, but he is only hanging out with you because you have weeds and ride. Meanwhile, most of the time, this guy you call bestfriend prefer to hang out with cooler guys. Only giving you enough time and attention to keep the weed flowing and his ass being driven places. How long until you'd tell this guy "fuck off bro?" In my personal exp… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/19 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Self-reflection and feelingsCan't you focus on another thing rather than women, women, women, women. Can't compete against other men, so you blame women. What in all hell? | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/19 03:59 PM |
| -18 | I hate my parentsFrom all of your attitude...this is kinda the right one to have. Whatever genetics and mental illness you have, those are given by your parents or they did not do enough to care for your mental health. I am from Asia. In South Korea and Singapore, parents saved money and pay for their children beauty surgery sometimes. A close friend I know, got bullied and his parents not only enrolled him to another school, but they moved to another country even. Before their son got mad and bitter at the worl… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/19 06:39 AM |
| 3 | What are your guys opinion on the blackpill?To be honest, attractive people (of both genders) are often being treated better than their less attractive peers. Beauty industry (including plastic surgery) for both men and women are world-wide big business that caters to this. Blackpill though, seem to want to blame random people for this, instead of well...their biological parents. That does not make sense to me, whatever happened with good ol blaming your dad for your naturally crooked nose, or your mom for your naturally crooked teeth? No… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/19 08:09 PM |
| 2 | My only way of self-improvement without red pillYpu got downvoted because you wrote that you banged other guys' wives, but I believe you. I cannot believe what I read in reddit sometimes. It is so different than real life experience day to day that I have. Even the least attractive guy I know has a GF. And no, she is not some hambeast. Young or old, ugly or attractive, mentally ill or sane, poor or rich, guys around me do not have problems having GFs, wives, or something in between. Even the unwashed alcoholic one, granted his GF is also alco… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/19 03:11 PM |
| 2 | My only way of self-improvement without red pillYour parents gave your genetics, your parents not helping with your social growth, your parents not caring about your mental health. And yes...let's hate random women. Your failure to work with genetics you were given and the mental illness that you have, is the fault of random women? Nice to completely absolve your shitty parents here. Cool. Makes sense. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/19 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Isn't oneities a normal thing?That's what I don't understand. Male friends and acquitances I know of, who are not in RP at all, having high standards on women and prefer to be alone until they can find them. Can cook, staying fit and willing to have enthusiastic sex, reasonable N-counts are not even in the top standards for many of my male friends. And yet, for many TRP those seem to be already enough for 'Unicorns'. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/19 11:37 AM |
| 11 | Isn't oneities a normal thing?They always said that, but most of them at some point fell for a woman they fancied and then they'll call her 'Unicorn'. Which is the ultimate oneitising. And the standard for this Unicorn is varied. I think there was a guy who called his GF Unicorn just because she made lunch and gives BJ on regular. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/19 10:30 PM |
| 1 | I want to go to the gym and get a more attractive body, but I’m worried that I would then only attract women that only value looks?Not saying that there is anything wrong with hermit life either. Some people find peace in hermitting and not just turning into the Unabomber. I was just trying to tell OP how ridiculous it is to think that you need to be at the bottom of the barrel to find someone who loves you for you. Because if you are someone who actually get it together, your future partner will just like you for your temporary accomplishments, instead of liking you, for you. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/19 10:43 PM |
| 1 | I want to go to the gym and get a more attractive body, but I’m worried that I would then only attract women that only value looks?So what? Humanity can only experience genuine love if all of us are ugly, poor and unhealthy. WTF? I'll write your PSA even further: If you are attractive, rich and fit...not only you should never have a partner, you should never have human friends either. Hermitlife FTW. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/19 07:35 PM |
| 6 | Do I still have some TRP in me?This is why many TRPers have problem in LTR. Everything has to be 'game' or 'drama' or something worth of mid-day telenovela bullcrap. I'm scared that if I'm too straight forward with her she will lose attraction to me. Be straight forward. If she said no, you said ok and move on. Dude, I thought you were in TRP. Did you completely forget the 'abundance mentality' part. She said no is not the end of you or your pecker's life. There are other girls. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/19 11:54 AM |
| 12 | Formar redpill. Trying to piece life bacj togather.So you played 'big man', got your GF pregnant and now you want to play 'little boi' who panicking around, begging everyone for help? Get DNA test. It is fine to want to know if the kid is yours. Make a decision to either raise the kid together with her or separate. You can also do TRP 'hail mary' tactics of manipulating her to get abortion. Sounds bad in theory, for the woman and the child, but in reality, it is better for them, rather than being tied for 18 years with a TRP cultist or being bor… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/19 11:47 AM |
| -1 | What's the appropriate confidense level acceptable for a guy to start dating?Crazy idea OP, what do you think about trying for part time bouncing for pubs, clubs, etc. Best way to train confidence and social skills while getting paid on top of that too. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/19 04:05 PM |
| 6 | What can a. Beginner guy do to start a fwb or hooking up?Flirting is a skill, make it a habit to smile at girls you meet, and have short fun conversations where appropriate to get comfortable with it, once you get really comfortable flirting will be easy enough to learn. Heck, the entire human interaction is a skill that should and can be trained. This is how some people can even talk themselves out of a mugging or a fight, and getting faster promotion than their equally capable peers. Networking and flirting, all of these are skills that needs to be … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/19 04:02 PM |
| 23 | Accidently Went On A Date With an Asian Red Pill GuyI thought 'treat em mean, to keep em keen' is just a meme. Didn't know some people really like it seriously like it's their day job :/ Better luck next time, OP. Glad that at least you get the chance to interact with other people too. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/19 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts about men and women being “just friends”?My own experience about this is that as long as the male friend is in a happy relationship with some great partner, everything is fine. Peachy. As soon as they became single though, they seemed to be scrambling for any floating objects to keep them afloat, like a drowning man. And being their friend, which constitutes me as a floating object, I guess, sometimes they did turn clingy. I've developed good method for this. When my male friends are happily in relationship, we are close buddy-buddy. T… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/19 04:05 PM |
| 3 | I absolutely hate women and I hate that I can't changeWell you are in a stalemate then. Just wishing not to hate something rarely works. Even if there is a woman who genuinely finds you attractive, the hatred will not just go away like that. And at some point that "I hate most [insert genders/race/etc here], but you are different" won't be enough. Trust me. I am an Asian who used to live in a place where they hate foreigners. At first they accepted me as a 'token foreigner', and that I was special and different from other Asians, but at some point,… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/19 04:55 PM |
| 4 | I absolutely hate women and I hate that I can't changeWhat about living alone and going to prostitutes occasionally when you needing affections/sex? Since you absolutely hate women, having relationship with them will be impossible. You cannot have a loving relationship with someone or something that you hate. And it is not her job also to change your mind or to prove something to you. You won't go to someone who is racist against your race and trying to convince them to love you, right? Just like it will not make sense for some Jews to date some Na… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/19 04:44 PM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate women and I hate that I can't changeI'm mentally ill Your own obssession about your own look is unhealthy. Surely at least you can admit that? why should they just magically work out? Most of the time it won't. I don't fulfill the necessarry criteria to be an attractive man, so naturally, I strike completely out and am doomed to a life of loneliness. It does not have to be a life of loneliness. If you think you cannot compete with other men, it is fine to try to find peace in that. No matter the era, place, etc... there has always… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/19 03:32 PM |
| 1 | what the red pill is REALLY aboutBeing in a sexless marriage where you felt like being taken advantage of (regardless of gender here), sounds just like being scorned though. Even worse, rather than being scorned by some stranger, you were being scorned by someone who supposed to love you. And if you cannot love anymore after taking the pill, as long as you don't hurt others because of it, then I think it is fine. You have fun with some girls, they have fun too. People are different and they are looking for different things. For… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/19 09:07 PM |
| 1 | TRP beliefs destroying a beautiful relationship - need helpSo you basically agree with some TRP principles but think it’s equally applicable to both sexes? For sure. Some of it just makes sense. Abundance mentality is one of the good thing to have. With abundance mentality, men or women in abusive relationship won't feel that they need to stay out of fear of 'never find someone else'. Men and women who got rejected do not need to be a stalker, because they keep on thingking about 'the one'. I am 4'11'' and 96 pounds... I can lift some heavy things, I am… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/19 01:05 PM |
| 1 | TRP beliefs destroying a beautiful relationship - need helpwomen find you more attractive when they see you are desired by other women? This is valid for both. Most people take pride that their partner is desired by other people. Why do you think TRP are obsessed with SMVs (their own and other people's). Being aloof, nonchalant is more attractive than actually making an effort and being chivalrous etc? Depends on how much of those two are part of your real personality. If it is your real personality, you'll feel comfortable and make people around you fe… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/19 12:33 PM |
| 12 | TRP beliefs destroying a beautiful relationship - need helpWell isn't this exactly why he should be asking? He still feels like a beta loser after fucking 60+. He did not find the salvation he was looking for by manwhoring himself, which is often preached as a pinacle of 'alphaness'. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/19 10:28 PM |
| 6 | If game doesn't work, what does?Do you want short term or long term relationship? Game can work on short term, but not on long term, if that is not your natural personality. Many men who have complained that their women left after they've dropped the 'game' never thought that the women are leaving because they were being bait-and-switched by themselves. It is like buying a ticket for Pearl Jam and got Maroon 5 on stage instead. Of course people are gonna leave. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/19 09:52 PM |
| 1 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.Yeah I would do anything for my kids. Regardless of the impact it has on me. Only when it negatively effects them would I ever consider it. Many TRPers with children said something like this. This sounds a lot like battered wife syndrome. Staying for the sake of the kids, as long as the kids are not aware about the abuse and are not impacted by it. I thought TRP call something like this beta cuck wage slave? I find it hard to believe that if you know that your wife is cheating on you and even ph… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/06/19 08:38 AM |
| 1 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.Hey, if you are insisiting that love does not exist for you and your wife is just some utilitarian person, then it is up to you. That is the life you chose. It does make it easier for you. If you ended up leaving her for a younger woman someday, you can blame that on the male biology. If she ever left you for another man someday, you can blame it on female biology. You must be also the type to stay married even if your wife is being abusive to you, just until the kids are old enough in order to … | /r/ExRedPill | 22/06/19 07:07 AM |
| 1 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.If it was the case, What does he offer you? What do you get out of being with him? Is he on disability pensions? Are you his carer? Were you attracted to his utility? Were you childhood friends? He offers me what I offer him. Love. He is not on disability pension. His legs deteriorate, but his hands and brains are normal. He makes money by running small advertisement agency. You may very well believe you love him. Im not doubting your relationship for a second. But what drew you to him? His pers… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/06/19 07:30 PM |
| 2 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.Yeap. And we are still the winner really. We will go through our lives happy and grateful with what we have. While other people chose to believe that there is always ulterior motive to something. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/06/19 07:23 PM |
| 2 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.The fact that you can seriously said women stay beside their men through difficult times just because of social security reason is just mindblowing. So what... You drive to work tomorrow, got into accident. Becoming a cripple. Your wife stays just because she is afraid to be judged. Since you are a useless creature now, the only thing you can do is just to crawl and die? What about someone who married a hadicapped man like me then? From the very start I already know how bad his condition is and … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/06/19 12:04 PM |
| 3 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.Except that in real world you'd find more normal people than outliers. Aka men that stay with their aging wives/partners, and women who stay after their husbands/partners got sick/got into permanent disability/can't fuck/can't work/can't lead the family. can and should love them the way they want to be loved Everytime I heard this from the mouth of women and men, it reminded me of those "can't handle me at my worst, don't deserve me at my best" weak bullshit. People who say craperino like that a… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/19 10:46 AM |
| 2 | Never forget - the vast, *vast* majority of people who subscribed to /theredpill did so because they became terrified and convinced that they were a dreaded "beta male."Some of the posts even make them sound even more betas than before. Either by kissing asses and begging TRP veterans for validations, staying and dreading/manipulating a clearly broken relationship that normal people would have left ages ago, and the amount of self-doubt and wheel spinning/mental gymnastics there, holy fuck... Seeing everything as 'shit tests' just like some paranoid pyscho thinking there are aliens everywhere ready to abduct them. Also the 'hold frame'...aka the alpha LARPing. … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/19 08:51 AM |
| 7 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.Go to subreddits where you can find mostly stories about women who were raped/cheated/taken advantage of by men... And see that there are shitty people on both sides. If you are regularly going into subreddits like r/adultery, r/shoplifting, r/raisedbynarcissist of course sooner or later you gonna think even subconsciously that this world is filled with narcissistic people who steal and cheat like it is their day job. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/19 08:45 AM |
| 3 | I have been consuming red pill content for months and I can feel myself radicalizing. I need the other perspective.If you ask women who have been burned by men, of course they'd say AMALT or the shorter version: "men are dogs", " all men cheat", etc. You gonna find some outliers of women too who try very hard to fleece men, because they think men will replace them when they are older anyway, so why not profiting now. I hope those AMALT women meet the AWALT men. Both thinking that they've found their unicorns and then used/fleeced/manipulate each other. At least that way it will keep innocent men and women fr… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/19 08:35 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Hypergamy is real and activeHypergamy is real for both men and women...but there are always risks involved when chasing it. Also needing continuous efforts. Bigger chance to find fellow hyper, when you are in a way already hyper yourself. Deadbeats have less chance to find prince/princess charming, rather than a put together individual. Most people are not dumb and unnecessary risks takers. Given the choice, most would have chosen a happy, simple, stabile lives with people who love them and support them rather than playing… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/06/19 03:51 PM |
| 12 | What is the most toxic part about redpill theory/dating strategy/life for you?The most toxic part: The bait-and-switch factor of TRP. Women (and men too) want to be with someone who seem to be confident, assertive and know what they are doing. TRP teaches how to fake those traits. Some men and women do either naturally get those traits from nature of grew up with it (nurture). Men who go to TRP for advice usually have neither, cause the ones who have it in the first place, never needed TRP. In the end no one can act 24/7. Faking 'alphaness' is fine until someone wants to … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/06/19 10:37 AM |
| 3 | Have always been on the fence w.r.t TRP and haven't read the sidebar totally yet, just read posts often. Looking for some insights :")Read this guy's story: https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/bqxncu/am_i_going_crazy/ And read my replies: https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/bqxncu/am_i_going_crazy/eo8tm3t/ Only TRP can make a guy felt like they've found a unicorn, a oneitis...just because she is 'SuBmISsive plus gives BJ on regular LOL' and try to work on a relationship that is supposed to be dead right after it started. A relationship that non-TRP men would have recognized as full of red flags in the first pla… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/19 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Normalising single motherhood is a symptom. However, it is not the sole problem in itself.Indeed, or husband and wife living in two different islands. Some rather naive people in the West like to imagine that if there is no divorce, or divorce is made difficult, couples in trouble will be forced to work on their problems, especially if they have children. Lol fucking no. They simply left. Why don't they just ask around registry office for marriage about how many foreign men and women from conservative backgrounds, getting caught about still being married to someone and lied about it,… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/06/19 05:00 AM |
| 7 | "Macho tokens" theoryDid he specifically say this or was it just something that you inferred? Specifically and repeatedly. My fault is that I ignored his multiple warnings. I used to take that you supposed to be able to tell your partner everything lines that being beaten into our heads by movies and magazines, too literally. His warnings that I ignored were these: "can we talk about something else?", "what do you want me to do about it?", "what do you want to hear from me?", "get your shit together." If you heard y… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/19 09:11 AM |
| 16 | "Macho tokens" theoryMen don't have rules like this and women can be vulnerable and lean on their man whenever they feel like it and don't have to worry about ruining his vision of her, in fact in many cases it might even make him feel protective and turn him on. Caretaker fatigue is a thing affecting both men and women. Don't worry, I used to think like this too.. Until my (then) BF asked to break up with me because of it. No, he was not an asshole, he was kind. His view of me just changed, because who wants to hav… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/19 06:21 AM |
| 12 | Am I going crazy?Uh... sounds like she was also playing a part. I always said that TRPers play the alpha, pretending to have alphas qualities until they cannot sustain it anymore, because that is not their real personality. The 'break frame' classic. Maybe she was also playing the same game? But she just break frame earlier than expected? Edit: Just in case you really are looking for input... Many TRPers tend to almost immediately catch oneitis, because of their hidden obsession with Unicorn and AWALT. They talk… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/19 05:49 PM |
| 10 | Afraid of manipulationAs you got older and older, you'd realize that there are a shitload of insecure people out there, who prefer manipulation rather than honesty telling what they want. Depends on how strong the insecurity is, the more manipulative they are. Sometimes the manipulation even happened subconsciously for them. Oftentimes, you will not know that you are being manipulated until it is too late. However, you developed experience everytime it happened. For example, now you know to avoid and completely break… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/19 05:10 AM |
| 10 | Trying to redpill detoxI always wonder when I read about society lying to men about women. What was the lie exactly? What was being told? Is it like how some women are being told that men are these 'ready to fuck anyone, anytime, anywhere mindless beings', so that if you found them suddenly not in the mood of sex anymore, that means they are 100% cheating on you. And that women need to 'play hard to get' cause men like the chase, ya know???, else you'd look too easy and men will lose interest. Really...who taught youn… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/19 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Abundance mentality - is it wrong to have love/relationships as a goal and priority?I still believe that abundance mentality is good to have and it won't make the right partner leave you just because he/she feels like they've found something better out there. Here is the thing...you can be left for any kind of reason. More people that I know of are leaving their partners because of falling out of love...rather than looking for a better love. When you get into a relationship with someone, usually it is not out of fear of loneliness or boredom. It's because of what you've seek ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/19 05:12 AM |
| 22 | Some thoughts I haveI think you think about this far too much. Before I've gotten my hunting license, I was also thinking too much about it. I was trying to get a hunting license in Germany and it is notorious for being a pain in the ass. You need to go to hunting school, there will be one of most difficult exams at the end, the whole process costs a lot too, and it will continue to cost you, even after you've gotten the license. It was a long series of over-thinking, over-analyzing, over-everything. And I also did… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/19 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageIch habe sogar Mein Kampf auf deutsch gelesen. Und? Denkst du dass es eine Seltenheit oder wie? Du hast noch nie in Deutschland gelebt, du weisst ja nie wie dumm die Neo-Nazi hier sind. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageI wish people who like hitler so much at least give a little effort to learn his language. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageI don't know, you are so easy to provoke. Have you ever think about caring for other human being rather than yourself? Going volunteering is usually a good way to distract one's self from our own problems. Start small, like soup kitchen or teaching disadvatnaged community. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageOh please do not do that. Many of those women are already having difficult enough lives usually. Having to care of a non-neurotypical partner is not easy and will only add to their burdens. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageFinding that one woman can also takes decades. It's even worse if you said you've exaggerated your lack of success. That means even when you have been given chances, you haven't managed to use those chances so far. Also, don't be so angry. Being angry just makes you look weak. The aspies that have partners are usually the cool cucumber ones. Though I am sure you already know that too. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:24 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageWaiting for non-neurotypical women to come will involve a lot of patience that you seem to lack. You are already this angry so far. How many years can you wait until a non-neurotypical woman crosses path with you? Has being in the dating market helping you in any way so far? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 10:16 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageIt is not a laughing matter. And yes, because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. You have given the whole interaction with neurotypical human multiple chances. What do you want from me to hear? A validation? A feel-good mumbo-jumbo? Or do you want a realistic advice? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/19 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming redpill rageHonest answer, I think people make fun too much of 2D/robot/AI-intimate interaction. It is difficult for neurotypical people to understand people with aspergers and vice versa. Heck, even at platonic level it is already difficult. There are many nuances in human-human interaction, let alone ones that is supposed to be intimate and romantic. OP, have you been looking for the alternative? There are some communities where men do actually invest in AI-/robotic relationship. Many people make fun of t… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/19 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Save me from going back to TRP, I wanted to be genuine and nice with this girl and got messed aboutit’s lack of socialisation for a number of reasons I can’t disclose due to protecting my privacy This is the big killer man. I have had my own antisocial-trifecta of engineering school-gaming addiction-work all alone combo a few years ago. That was a dark time that making me invest A LOT into any kind of human contact. (As in an old granny giving me a smile on the street? I'll chat her ears off about ALL THE THINGS and already thinking about inviting her to my birthday kind of premature investme… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/04/19 06:02 PM |
| 27 | Save me from going back to TRP, I wanted to be genuine and nice with this girl and got messed aboutThis is where I will suggest you to practice healthier version of Abundance Mentality. Yes, yes, this is TRP stuffs, but in the core, it is a more mainstream belief of "Plenty of other fish in the sea". OP, you said you are only talking to this person and not talking to other girls...why did you do that? You haven't even met her in person, haven't even had one date and yet you already invested so much in her. Why is that? You are the types that will be vulnerable to love scams. Rather than talki… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/04/19 06:34 AM |
| 4 | LTR casualty of TRP. I found out yesterday. Still in the relationship. Need advice.You cannot save him. I repeat, you cannot save him.. You cannot change him either. All of the guys here to eventually left TRP done so by their own exploration. Sure some said that it started with them getting together with a girl that does not fit in TRP AWALT but you've been together with this person for a while and he is still actively manipulating you and even proudly presenting it to his audience? There is no hope. Nothing to be save here. Maybe in ten, twenty years, he'd grow up, maybe not… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/19 01:07 PM |
| 7 | Red Pill "abundance" is not abundance.I am all for abundance mentality if it is applied right. Applying it in relationship is equal to putting less pressure to partner and avoiding getting hung up for too long in that one person if the relationship goes belly up. In my own life, it gives me a great comfort that my husband will be just fine if we break up or if I die suddenly because of accident or some kind of disease. And in that way, so will I without him. There is no expectation to stay together just for the sake of feeling bad, … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/19 06:19 AM |
| 6 | Normalising single motherhood is a symptom. However, it is not the sole problem in itself.It is less about being right or wrong, but more about the reality on the ground. Have you seen what happened to countries in the East where abortion is not permitted, divorce is made difficult and people are more or less forced to be married for the good of the big family? Indonesia (conservative-ish, mostly Muslims) = plenty of street children problems, Philliphines (conservative-ish, mostly Catholics) = plenty of street children problems, India (conservative-ish, mostly Hindus) = plenty of str… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/19 05:46 PM |
| 18 | Western men say they want “trad women”, but they don’t in practiceI knew a guy who wanted a trad woman...until he got one and being left for...surprise, surprise (!!!!!) him not being a genuine trad man himself (only internet trad man lol) and she wanted a real trad man. It was the same old 'oh-so-surprising' story of; Guy is not a natural alpha, found TRP pretended to be alpha Got a girl who is interested in his fake alpha traits Got found out as a fake and being left Guy: Surprise pikachu face | /r/ExRedPill | 08/04/19 09:52 AM |
| 2 | What is your guy’s opinion on beta orbiters?Don't be one. It is annoying for the gal and annoying to be orbiters too. If someone does not reciprocate your feelings back, and you still cannot let go of that feeling yourself, back off for a while or cut contact if you have to. Mature, sane women/men will understand and appreciate it. AND even with time, introduce you to their single friends. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/04/19 05:20 AM |
| 15 | I am a recovering MGTOW/TFLerMGTOW (and WGTOW too) as a 'pure' idea can be good. There have been people in the past, present and future, who run out of time before they ever find partners. These people have the same rights to be happy too, as other people who paired. 'Gone Their Own Way' can be thought as I will enjoy my life no matter what in this lifetime, with or without partner, with or without children. That kind of thought really took the (often self-inflicted) pressure off. I know a guy who has done MGTOW right. He h… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/19 06:45 AM |
| 1 | I came from one of those countries in the East, where disillusioned men are often suggested to go to find a 'traditional' wife. The myths vs the truth.Where as in western society this isn't true and a more egalitarian/matriarchal approach is taken Just my personal experience also. I think the difference is when I was in the East it was more 'one way'(?). For example it will be my grandma/aunts/mom/female cousin/etc bringing tea to family. And in the West, what I experienced with my husband (who grew up with Western uprbinging) is that I fix him his drink and dinner and he runs warm bath for me or making breakfast on the bed for morning after. … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/19 06:09 AM |
| 0 | I came from one of those countries in the East, where disillusioned men are often suggested to go to find a 'traditional' wife. The myths vs the truth.Ha! That reminds me of this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwH3rA8Evow&t=394s | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/19 08:34 AM |
| 4 | I came from one of those countries in the East, where disillusioned men are often suggested to go to find a 'traditional' wife. The myths vs the truth.As one of Asian women, I don't understand the fascination either. And about beauty, I think I can add to OP that in Asia, we just telling things as it is. It means it is hard to get fat (fatter), when your friends, family and total strangers are free to comment about your bingo wings or expanding waistline. For women with the same scores, the one will be taken or promoted are often those who looked 'put together'. And for men there are often height requirements for jobs. Never a hush-hush there … | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/19 08:18 AM |
| 4 | How to move past this RP learned belief?...see it as you paying back bad karma for knowingly dallying with lowly cheaters? Sure those dudes those girls cheated on were oblivious as hell, but at least they do not feel like how you feel right now? What? You think those wrong things you did in the past won't bite you back in the ass? Now everytime you feel tortured if your girl is loyal or not, just accept it as penance. Tell it to yourself that you deserved it (and you really did, tbh). | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/19 07:22 AM |
| 2 | "Ex-redpillers" what is your understanding of what it is to be an alpha?Ya but they were never the "know it all" type were they. Exactly! | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/19 05:32 PM |
| 1 | "Ex-redpillers" what is your understanding of what it is to be an alpha?I agree about the energy. And now trying to think about those kids during my schooling days. I think what similar about them was that they always seemed to be the first to know what to do in any kind of situation. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | "Ex-redpillers" what is your understanding of what it is to be an alpha?I think alphas = those natural born leaders. You remember during elementary school or even kindergarten time? There was always that ONE kid who were being liked, trusted and followed/worshipped by other kids. Cannot really explain why, but everyone just want to be friends (or even subordinates) with him/her. It's like that, but for adults. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/19 04:24 PM |
| 3 | AWALT is BS. What is really means is, “I have bad judgement, I make poor choices and act selfishly, and I’m confused as to why all women eventually betray or leave me”. If people keep treating you a certain way, they’re not the problem, you areI think both men and women who repeatedly going into multiple of bad relationships need to hear this. There must be something about them, could be about their own nature or the way they were raised (nurture), that make them look like a walking victims in the eyes of shitty people of all genders. Will be interested to read, if there is a survey done on people who have been betrayed and taken advantage of by their partners, if they've been taken advantage of by their own family/friends/working col… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/04/19 07:31 AM |
| 6 | For LTRs don't both parties have to put in effort?if you don't get what you want then you tell her to hit the road Imo, this is still much healthier and better than manipulating her into getting what one wants. When the unfulfilled needs have been talked about and there is no compromise that more or less satisfying for both, of course it is better to part ways. The problem is that Red Pill narative is more to the manipulative side (doing dread for example), instead of just leave her when it does not work anymore (to save both partners time and … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/19 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Had an awful relapse & am now uncomfortable in my relationshipI am going to give a slightly different answer. I am one of those person who do not feel comfortable seeing adults (of both genders) showing vulnerability in front of me. Though I am trying to change that. However, I made this shit clear to my husband, even before we got too close, even before we became boyfriend-girlfriend. I can handle taking over being main breadwinner if my husband ever fell into pit of depression, I can take care when he eventually deteriorates so much that he'd be confined… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/19 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Would you wanna trade places with the Red Pillers?This chubby joke over here | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/19 03:06 AM |
| 4 | Would you wanna trade places with the Red Pillers?Trading places with natural born leaders/alphas? That'd be cool. Trading places with fuck ups who needed internet help to pretend to be leaders? Nah. Nope. Have you seen what kind of guy created TRP in the first place. So far remote from what you'd think about an alpha. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/19 09:48 PM |
| 20 | Conservative Womena disadvantaged 3rd world immigrant from Asa or Latin America. I am Asian woman and this is not a new phenomenon. Long before there is Red Pill, there were already some Western guys who are insecure and often couln't find women from their own community, so they pull this kind of shit. Nowadays we have internet and these kind of guys are more open about it and even encouraging each other. International mobility are cheaper and faster as a whole too. Turns my stomach everytime I read that some inc… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/19 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Guilt over having male friends? Or saying "we should just be friends"Rejecting advances is good! You are letting them know that there is absolutely no chance, so that (combined with abundance mentality) the guy can quickly move on without wasting time and effort. I was even more firm and quick in my rejection when I read about red pill the first few times many years ago. Definitely not wanting to waste anyone's time. I feel that if someone turned into beta orbiters (of both genders here, women can be orbiters too), it is their own fault. They know that their feel… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/19 06:03 PM |
| 6 | TRP, mgtows and incels claim to set men on a more fulfilling path, except they aren't.Excessive gaming. And I agree with you. A lot of guys I know who used to be so heavy into gaming and forsaking their studies/career because of it are struggling now. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/19 05:58 PM |
| 2 | How to stop hating womenAre you a pushover that avoids conflicts in real life, and then trying to comfort that cowardness by telling yourself that you are being the 'logical/cool headed/mature' one here, while secretly wanting to be all alphas on their face? If yes, stop dating right now. Right this fucking now. And join the most hardcore, the more brutal martial arts gym you can find. You have the soul of a whipped pussy. That is why humanity scares you. Go get beat up for real in a controlled environment. That will b… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/19 08:56 AM |
| 1 | evidence against TRP beliefs about womenMaybe it is not a bad thing that TRP men are dating (unmedicated) BPD women in droves. It is the combination of 'play stupid games, win stupid prizes' and 'taking one for the team'. When TRP men dating (often unmedicated) BPD women, they are taking those women off the market. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/19 10:03 AM |
| 1 | Something about the men of TRP and MGTOW that almost no one mentions.And I'd say that is one of the few positive, apart from the self-improvement thing. Although for self-improvement, Reddit already has a subreddit for that. But all in all, self-improvement and abundance mentality. Those two are the only good from TRP. Unfortunately the abundance mentality part is the one being practiced the least. Just look at the oneitis posts or trying to work on relationships that actually are not workable. Non-TRP people would have left long before that. For every question o… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/19 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Something about the men of TRP and MGTOW that almost no one mentions.Theory of the RP for that kind of situation is split in the middle. If her ex wrote on askTRP, half will suggest him to dread her, and half will say 'don't believe in words believe actions'. Which is two very different opposite to work on the problem. First one doing shit-test TRP style, second one suggest watching what she's doing like a hawk. Now rarely someone suggest the third option. "Abundance mentality". My favorite actually because it is often most realiable and healthiest option. You ar… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/19 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Just left the manosphere after 5 years... Unsure of how to go about lifeI was not an RPW, but I found RPW when I was looking for fellow conservative women (grew up in Asia and feeling a bit uncomfortable about both the liberalism and individualism in the West when I moved here). Turned out to be I was looking in the wrong place. My cure was communicating with people IRL. That was it. Internet is filled with echo chamber. IRL, I got to talk to a couple who smoke weed practically everyday since they were 16 (even selling them at one point in their life), tattoed a lot… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/19 12:13 PM |
| 12 | More thoughts on TRP (19M)I think one of the most honest moments in TRP was when a long time contributor admitted that there is probably no real 'alphas' in Reddit TRP. Because the only ones searching or googling about manosphere in the first place are usually men who want to know and looking for help on how to be 'alphas'. The thought of looking for help online never even crossed the mind of real confident, assertive, happy and sucessful guys in the first place. They already live a fulfilling and happy life to be muckin… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/02/19 09:04 AM |
| 2 | Something about the men of TRP and MGTOW that almost no one mentions.Some people seem to be lacking ability to see a bunch of red flags. And by that I don't mean someone who openly and willingly dating career criminals. It is someone who cannot recognize if they were being manipulated, being gaslighted, being love bombed, etc. Of course luck or lack of luck plays a part too. But some people were really just lack that spidey sense to recognize potential abusers. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/19 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Can someone explain why this is wrongAll down to luck OP. You may never experience it, but you know there are women out there who are lovingly taking care of their disabled or sick husbands. Automatically becoming carer and also main breadwinner. And yet, they still stay loyal and loving to their husbands. This things happen out there, just not to you. On the other hand, there are women who want to have a partner that are loyal and kind like you. But they got bait and switched instead by guys who promised them the moon at the begin… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/19 02:49 PM |
| 4 | How am I supposed to stop believing in redpill/blackpill if my experiences with women constantly show it to be true?...if you are a social recluse for 10 years also, then don't think that social life will be easy for you just because you just now decided to open yourself up. It's not a wonder that OP met one shitty person after another. He lacks that full decade of experience in socialization and ability to sort out potentially shitty people upfront. What looks like bright red warning flags for normal people will perhaps looks like nothing for his socially inexperienced ass. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/02/19 11:29 AM |
| 2 | The original red pill.The men I repeatedly offered to accompany me to volunteer (because if we could have just one more van and driver to go grab food donated by grocery stores during closing time and bring them to our kitchen, it would be great), prefer to enjoy their weekend with gaming and sleeping in. I get it, I get it. Whole week working, wanting all weekend for themselves. But all of the other volunteers are working 9 to 5 Monday to Friday too. We even have a nurse who often also has to work that weekend. So..… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/19 08:22 AM |
| 2 | The original red pill.I wish more MRAs are more hand on in their service to help their fellow men. A lot of men over 40s committing suicide because of loneliness. This is where MRAs should come in. Just few hours a week keeping these lonely men company or something. So far I've seen the volunteers for these kind of community service are mostly women. Just the same like most volunteers in soup kitchen. Despite more men being homeless than women. Also I hope MRAs giving more help to refugees young men from North Africa… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/19 11:20 PM |
| 4 | From the Redpill what exactly is useful for Long term Relationship?The abundance mentality Very Important! So that if the LTR does not work anymore, you will not hang up too much on former partner and ended up resenting, trying to win her back or worst of all, ended up stalking (!) her and just move on to the next adventure, so to say. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/02/19 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Some thoughts on TRPYup, agree to all that. The men with natural alpha mindset do not need to seek for help. That left TRP to sometimes a place where blind is leading another blind. Another part I do not understand is the obsession to manipulate a partner to stay with them or do what they want. Often I read about a BF or a husband, feeling unloved and disrespected, even after trying to communicate and doing everything. The advice: 'do the dread', 'be a captain', etc. That's a weird train of thoughts there. Your par… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/19 08:01 PM |
| 3 | When you see it...Honestly you only needs the first sentence. Expectation. That's it. Most of human were raised by parents who would tell them that they will find someone someday. Not accounting the fact that some numbers of people did die of old age, never been kissed, never been involved in romantical relationship. The spinsters and the male version of spinsters. They've existed back then, today and in the future. Across different countries, cultures, ethnicities. Most parents are just too afraid to tell their … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/19 03:51 PM |
| 3 | How almost taking TRP almost screwed my mind."Holding frame" The question is always...for how long can one do that. For a short term interaction (just like your own example about flirting in a bar), appearing fun, assertive, cool, calm, confident and reliable will turn many heads. Some very lucky people do naturally have those traits either by nature (the personality they were born with) or nurture (for example, being raised to be a leader). And if you are not such person, don't dream that you can be naturally just like that, just by readi… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/19 02:14 PM |
| 16 | Why do red pill guys seem to enjoy the idea of a woman "hitting the wall" so much?Lately I've been more and more active in my community and the reality is, for 1 over 40 guy that managed to bang 20s something women, 10 other over 40 guys are still alone and many are even suicide risks because of loneliness. What I notice is that, after hitting wall, the older women often still have extensive social support and systems. Which brings them to be around people and meet new people, and therefore finding new relationship. If manosphere really want to help other men, they can keep o… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/19 02:36 PM |
| 3 | I think both are right.I always said that I think TRP can work for ONS or short term fling, basically anything short term, before the TRPers finally broke frame. This is why oneitis is supposed to be haram. You got attached, you want to spend more time around her, eventually you'd be forced to show her the real you. No one can act 24/7 for years. But at that point, you'd be baiting-and-switching your partner. And cannot even blame her when she runs for the hills. I mean...she thought she got an alpha, turned out to be… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/19 11:10 PM |
| 5 | A stoic idea the red pill doesn’t understandIn emergency situation, the real personality will come out. This is why we have something so called, "natural born leader". People who can be cool as cucumber in the face of impending doom and them who panic like headless chickens. TRPers want to be like the cool cucumbers, but the real cool cucumbers never needed TRP in the first place. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/19 07:35 PM |
| 2 | I think my boyfriend is being radicalizedI would have broken up with him, because I like to have easy life and quite lazy with the whole "Imma try to make you see things differently..." stuffs IRL. Yes, even with friends. Maybe show him articles about that chubby boy Robert Fisher or something. The guy that made Reddit RP. When he got found out, instead defending his view like what a real man supposed to be, he hid behind his mother and sisters' skirt. Doing the "I have black friend" defense. Real personality always comes out in times … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/19 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Many of us are blissfully unaware of times we've breached consent with women. Here's my storyWon't it be a slippery slope though? Like in punishing the guys who have nothing to do with the assault/crimes. Similar to giving voice to people who say that we should be afraid to this race, that race because some members of this race, that race have done some kind of crime to them. Some MGTOW folks have been hurt in the past by some women, so for some of them now all women are bad or potentially bad, etc. I cannot honestly say "It's a good thing that you changed street side when that black gu… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/19 08:34 AM |
| 6 | Many of us are blissfully unaware of times we've breached consent with women. Here's my storyWhen I first decided to spend the night chilling at my now husband's apartment, I told him that I was comfortable with kissing and cuddling and that is what I could offer so far, if he wanted more, then I would only be wasting his time. He thanked me for being clear and upfront and we proceed to have an awesome time. The article you have written is sensible and has a lot of merits too. But there are a lot of women who do the same like me, as open as it is to avoid miscommunication or wrong readi… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/19 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Many of us are blissfully unaware of times we've breached consent with women. Here's my storyWe are not that fearful and weak. And women who walk around being afraid of men are in the same situation with men who walk around being afraid of women. They both need to work on their own issues. I am a woman who have been training Muay Thai for more than 10 years. I know exactly what you mean by one punch can kill. Even with all of my training, if guy want to destroy me, he really can destroy me. I am not afraid of saying no to men though. Most of the time they even apologize after getting re… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/19 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Reaching out for support and insightYou do not only lose trust, but also your respect for him. Which is totally understandable. It hurts one's pride also when one found out that one's spouse is a manipulative weakling, regardless of their gender. You must have felt that you have chosen wrong person to marry too and it is also normal to feel like that. Maybe with therapy and time, you can slowly re-gain your trust and respect back for him, but if not, do you really, really want to live for years with the stress? And didn't he want … | /r/ExRedPill | 10/01/19 09:01 PM |
| 7 | Question for exredpills and women:How do you deal with the fact that she will always be attracted to an alpha male(a very attractive male)?What do you want to hear actually? Every relationship with another human being comes with its own risk and reward. Go to r/legaladvice or something to read how many parents stealing money from their own children or use their SS numbers or use their credits. Even your childhood bestfriend can just up and leave you should they want to. And you are not above of it all you know. Who says that you are not going to leave your partner if a better, kinder, prettier girl comes along? If you are too risk … | /r/ExRedPill | 10/01/19 12:32 AM |
| 10 | Question for exredpills and women:How do you deal with the fact that she will always be attracted to an alpha male(a very attractive male)?Some guys who are alphas got cheated on and being left by their partners for someone else too. You want to look for a 100% guarantee in relationship. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN. No matter your gender, orientation, race, physical attractiveness, intelligence, etc... You go into relationship, you took a chance. You take the good with the bad. Even your platonic bestfriend can leave you for another cooler friend. If you want a 100% guarantee of never being left for anyone else in a relationship, have it wi… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/19 04:09 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill HusbandI kinda agree with you, I think she does need to leave him. TRP can work for ONS or short term, but for long term, even for a conservative and traditional marriage like the one OP has, it still will feel like a right joke. Can always feel it unfortunately if a man is a true alpha or a LARPing beta. OP wouldn't have this complains if she'd married a natural (from nature and through nurture) Alpha, because it is really different. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/19 01:15 AM |
| 5 | Do people lie about themselves on redpill? How did you know or is it too good to be true?I know that the redpill founder lied about who he was essentially Not only that, but more disappointing was his reaction when he was confronted by people about his beliefs. Instead of admitting and defending them, he pulled the "I HAVE BLACK FRIENDS TOO!!!" move. Hiding behind his mom's and sisters' skirts. A cynical part of me will say that, that is what happened to a beta who is trying to pass as alphas. When they are being put into crisis situation, they reverted into their natural state. I t… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/12/18 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Female "Immorality" in TRPOutside of Reddit and social media, men (and women) pretty much do whatever the fuck they want. Whhaaaaattt??? You mean women do not secretly congegrate somewhere in a secret coven to plot a total downfall of men and men do not congegrate somewhere to secretly plot to subjugate women everywhere??? Seriously though, I know that sometimes we read that we are currently living more isolated in a way than ever, but it is as if some people never have real interaction with real human. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/12/18 07:07 AM |
| 2 | I hope this is the right place to ask, but, can I have some advice?Everyone has to make that choice though. There is no other way. Choice three will be pretending to be opening yourself up at the early stages of the relationship and then closing off again once relationship gets momentum and it becomes more serious. Which you surely can imagine how it will end right? (Just like any other bait-and-switch tactics, it is shitty all around to do that.) You are already did right assements. Either you managed to open yourself up and be vulnerable and reap either the r… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/18 04:20 PM |
| 15 | What "counter argument" situations you had which proved that redpill isnt truth?I often say that followers of TRP are 'beta men LARPing to be apha men' (I know, I know, there is no such thing as alpha or beta. Using the terms just to make it easier to explain). Sooner or later, they are going to break frame, because no one can act 24/7 for years. Not even professional actors. I cannot endorse baiting and switching techniques like that as something sustainable. If you just want ONS or anything short term, TRP might works. Just be sane using it, most of the time, a no is a no… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/12/18 03:00 PM |
| 4 | Women yelled "Yes" when I told her I was a virgin.Honestly...most people do not care if you are going to procreate or not. Actually most people just do not care at all about another people. Positive thing about it, is that if you've done something embarassing on the street, most people won't notice let alone remember your blunders. Saying yes and high fiving you was probably just a way to be funny about it, trying to lightened up an awkward situation, but fell flat. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/12/18 12:28 PM |
| 3 | What led me away from Red Pill philosophyTRP community tries to cognitive dissonance their way out of it Aka Hamstering. I think going up to and hitting on women at something like a party or at a bar is relatively normal but at least when I started TRP, they're whole thing was that you should dedicate time to going out in public places and walk up to random women and try to mack on them, which to me just seems like a good way to become "that guy" around your local neighborhood. Yes, most definitely agree on all this. Cold approach in i… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/12/18 09:02 PM |
| 2 | What led me away from Red Pill philosophyTo be fair, there are women who react positively to the weird Red Pill 'game', but they are usually women that have problems on their own too. Often commonly called as 'crazies'. Combined that with RP's tendency to try to manipulate, to dread, to be 'captain' in the relationship, when it is clear that they are dating crazies, in order to try to control crazies (often failed), they have the steady stream of feedback loop of "RP methods are working!" and "Women are crazies, AWALTAWALTAWALT!" | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/18 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Jelaously about GF past from TRP?man and woman who are only for themselves Holy shit, no. Relationship is something you and your partner entered voluntarily. If she does not want it anymore, then she is free to leave...and if you do not want it anymore, you are also free to leave. As it should be. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/18 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Jelaously about GF past from TRP?Looking at your past posts, you are very insecure. Most of your posts are basically something related to your relationship. First step, if you cannot accept her past, you leave her cause else, you are just going to hurt her with your resentment. Don't be one of those people who ended up cheating in the future to 'even' the score. Second, if you think that you just HAVE to be with her, then get a professional therapist. Google numbers of all professional therapists around your area. Make a list o… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/12/18 07:01 PM |
| 8 | I'm in the process of going full red pill, why shouldn't I?After reading many of your comments, seems first first and foremost, you finally found your backbone (which is good), but on the other hand, now you seem to live a rehearse, scripted life (which is weird). Especially this comments: Submissive just means no bullshit from her. I don't need to hear about what I need to do for our family, because we talk about that stuff oddly frequently. I know the direction of my family, we have a clear goal, and when it comes to that goal, along with our budget, … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/18 03:48 PM |
| 2 | I am from Russia.Dude...why can't you just be normal? Unhappy about the situation in your country? Not wanting to be wagecuck? Fine. Leave your job and go travel. Move somewhere. If I managed to bump into a Welsh guy deep in Papua jungle, then anyone of us can travel anywhere. Of course it will not be a comfy travel, sometimes not even legal. Sometimes it will end with us being robbed, raped, killed and left in the ditch. But hey, at least you do something else rather than wageslaving and complaining online. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/18 09:40 PM |
| 4 | For those of you who are still straddling the fence -We are trying to teach people the harsh truths of reality that they need to accept to be able To turn their situation around. What is the so called harsh truth reality here? There is only realities that most people would have known and understood already at the very least as a young adult. Will women flock more to assertive, fit, attractive, socially gifted, sucessful men? You betcha. Is there no 100% guarantee in a relationship that your partner will forever be in love with you and stay loyal t… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/18 04:58 AM |
| 7 | Do women love conditionally?No one should love unconditionally. That word 'loving unconditionally' always sounds very sinister to me. It's just like a pre-emptive threat to blackmail someone to be what practically a slave. "Hurrr...duurrr I earn no money, not gonna help cleaning either, on top that I've gained 100 pounds...lemme live my dependa ways and pls love me unconditionally." | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/18 06:54 AM |
| 0 | What made you quit the philosophy behind the red pill?I used to read a lot of TRP and RPW stuffs a long time ago. At first I was doing that to understand a former friend who fell hard into TRP and another is that because as a woman who were raised with conservative upbringing but now living in liberal place, I have to admit that (over) liberalism can be quite exhausting, because if you want to be accepted, you still have to conform and I often do not really buy what they are selling. To be honest, it felt like ego boost also to be classified as 'un… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/18 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Need ex-trp perspective on how fast/slow relationships should move & how long it takes to build trustThere is no one correct answer if you ask how long does it take to build that rapport. Even if you phrase that as a poll and put it in askwomen subreddit. The answer will range from right away to never. I am in the never camp. Seeing adult friend brokedown crying in front of me (regardless of their gender), will make me feel very uncomfortable and make me start to distance myself from them for a while. I grew up in a very stoic home, we don't even cry over some dead loved ones. However, other pe… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/18 03:27 AM |
| 4 | Falling out of love and being coldIt's just something that happened...to many people. Fallen out of love without reason happened to both men and women. The coldness is a way to deal with the guilt. Because society said that "you cannot just fall out of love with your partner. There has to be something. There has to be problems, has to be abuse. Or there has to be a third person. Because the thought that someone can just stop loving us without any reason at all is scary. And let's just not think about it and judge people who just… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/18 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Is a women's body language a subconscious message about how she really feels? Does it show hypergamy to be true?TRP is (imo) a tool that can be used for short term relationship and hooking up or no string attached situation. A lot of time, it is a bad idea to catch oneitis while using TRP. And the reason is...the 'breaking frame' that will eventually coming out. The problem is...guys who were fine using TRP before, started to feel under pressure to 'perform' once they are in LTR. And I understand them, you can only act for so long. Not even professional actors work for 24/7 for years. Naturally alpha men … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/18 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Is a women's body language a subconscious message about how she really feels? Does it show hypergamy to be true?I find a lot of men from South Europe to be very into machismo still (or maybe they act like that only in areas with high tourisms?) On the other hand, the women are often hot blooded and ball busting, so they make perfect match. Heh. There is a difference between being macho and being a bad guy though. I have been doing Muay Thai for almost 15 years. Most of the guys who are really really good are also often the calmest, kindest lads I know of. I can imagine that women will want men like that, … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/18 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Is a women's body language a subconscious message about how she really feels? Does it show hypergamy to be true?Well I come from both conservative (south asian country) and now living in the West (more liberal culture). And the amount of women who got together with bad guys are overexaggerated. Just like the amount of guys who got together with crazy women. Most people run away at the very first sign of red flag (from both gender). Your kind teachers, professors, your family also. Many of them are good men together with good women. There is something wrong with men who fuck and stay with crazy women as mu… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/18 11:05 AM |
| 3 | Is a women's body language a subconscious message about how she really feels? Does it show hypergamy to be true?nice guys We really need to have a clear definition about what nice guys actually mean. Most guys that called themselves nice guys turned out to be just someone who try to do covert contracts all the time. Some of the examples are opening door not out of kindness, but out of wanting to hear that 'thank you', another thing is complimenting another person while secretly wanting to hear them compliment him back. Helping here and there in order to get more praises, acknowledgement, validations, acce… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/10/18 08:18 PM |
| 2 | I have been conditioned to believe that no girl could ever love me for who I amDepends if you are looking for a long, stable relationship or just some short flings. The problem with holding frame and appear alpha is that...if you are not trully that kind of person inside, it will get harder and harder to act as if it was natural as the time passes by. There are naturally stoic men out there, for example, but it is usually a combination of nature and nurture. Some guys in his early 20s that just found TRP is not likely to going to adopt that kind of personality just after a… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/10/18 11:19 AM |
| 12 | why are women expected to mature faster than menThat's one of the paradox that bother me so bad. Some men/women want to be main breadwinner, picking a future partner that can be a stay at home wive/mother/husband/father...then they complain that they need to pay alimony/support when the relationship broke down. Why take such a risk in the first place when nowadays you can easily find both men and women who care about their career?1 | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/18 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Any former incels/blackpillers here?Looks that can get you attracted to be intimate with is important. However what constitute 'attractive' is different from one person to another. Some women will think Ryan Gosling is attractive, other women will think he looks like a thumb. Some women will think Idris Elba as attractive, while others will think that he looks like grandpa. You cannot be attractive for everyone, just as you cannot be unattractive for everyone. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/18 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the sub TRP Women?Of course women cheat too? Wtf? Do you think these men cheat with other men? Well some, not all. Point of my message was that you can be as perfect as a fucking angel and still got cheated on. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/18 06:17 AM |
| 13 | My pathological narcissist ex-girlfriend, plus the red pill and MGTOW, and other stuff, made me paranoid and have narcissistic tendencies.Honestly...if you want 100% safety, a guarantee for your partner to never leave you no matter what, well...your best bet is the sex robot. There is no guarantee for anything involving other people. Not even talking about romatic relationship here. Even old friend, bestfriend you grew up with can still leave the friendship. People are people. Does it mean that you take chances everytime you open your heart and let someone near? Yes, yes it does. Is the risk too much for you? If yes, then you can … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/09/18 11:59 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on the sub TRP Women?I recognize your username and your style of writing. Great that you have informed yourself about attachment styles in relationship and that you have come this far. Good luck and good job on working on yourself to be better everyday. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/09/18 11:21 AM |
| 15 | Thoughts on the sub TRP Women?They are delusional. Being perfect won't stop you from being cheated on. Look, I came from a quite religious country. People got married as virgins there, many of the women are still very, very traditional. The men are traditional too. The men are the captain/the head/etc of the family. The women are also staying slim after giving birth. Do many of these women still get cheated on? You bet the fuck the do. Cheaters gonna cheat, no matter if you have turned yourself into Tier 3 demigoddess full o… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/09/18 11:19 AM |
| 7 | Theory: One reason MGTOW tends to attract scammers, sleazebags, etc.My mother's uncle was always single until his death of old age. No, he was not secretly in the closet. He used to love a woman in his 20s once, but she died because of dengue fever and poor medcare and he has never found anyone or interested in anyone anymore after that. So I know for the fact that men (and women too) can also be happy living a full life into the old age without relationship. A few years ago, my father in law introduced me to his friend who is working on a cruise ship, decades i… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/18 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Women get bored of monogamy quicker than men?This is not foolproof of course (almost nothing is), but if you are looking for a partner again someday, look for women who have disabled loved ones (family members/friends/etc) and even better if she has been taking care of them for sometime too. Why am I saying this? It is because of two things: 1. People usually fear what is uncommon/unknown for them. 2. People who have been surrounded by disability can make informed decision if they will be up to it for the long haul or not. With my partner,… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/18 08:44 AM |
| 4 | Women get bored of monogamy quicker than men?My mom in law is in wheelchair and my SO walks with leg braces, my late grandpa and his sister were also using wheelchairs and for a few years before their passing, they have been bed ridden and being taken care of by their family. A lot of volunteers (and of course friends and family members of people with disabilities) have similar stories. This was partly why I suggested volunteering. It is like the biggest and most reliable methods to meet people who have zero judgement for disability becaus… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/18 07:13 PM |
| 7 | Women get bored of monogamy quicker than men?Volunteer at disabled community. Please be volunteer there for a month or so. You will see people who were condemn into different kind of physical issues and you will see that most of them never blamed society for it nor their genes. Most of them realized that most of it was bad luck. You'd see people who have been vaccinated and still getting the paralictic type of polio for example. That, is bad luck. I am not making a snap judgement, not pointing any finger at you. I am just telling you that … | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/18 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Women get bored of monogamy quicker than men?OP, if anything, you should really really listen to this. This has been my personal experience and many of my friends' and families' too. Both for relationships that has been going just for a few years to relationships that has been going on for decades. Both sexually active relationship pre marriage, to both partners keeping virginity until marriage type of relationship. Listen to these two paragraphs very well. The real issue isn’t boredom; it’s an issue of people failing at being good partner… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/18 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: If someone has stopped being "loser" now (later in life), but he had been like that until now - does the past still matter?It is not a dealbreaker until you make it a dealbreaker yourself. Let me explain. You know those fat women who keep on asking "do you think I am fat? Do I look fat? Do you like curvy women?" or do you know those short men who keep on asking "do you mind that I am shorter than you?" or "your have tall male friends, why are you with me?" or "your exes are all tall, so why me?" or what bald men ask, or what women who feel ugly ask, etc...etc... Most people get together with someone they are interes… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/18 07:58 AM |
| 3 | I've been trying to leave for over a year now. I don't even know how to ask for help anymore.As long as you are not trying to get into romantic relationship with someone while having this mindset, you can take as much as time you need to work on your thoughts. I can imagine that there some female counter parts of you. Maybe a former extreme feminazi who is trying to leave what she'd been brainwashed with, but also has no luck so far and she does not even know what she wants anymore. All good, just like many victims of brainwashing, it simply takes time to detox from all that. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/18 07:19 AM |
| 2 | How much of TRP is actually true?Personally, if it were me, I would not ever have gone for a guy who were already casting his net before he left his girl. I see monkey branching behavior as bad from both sides. What is going to stop him to monkey branch on me when he gets tired or bored of me later? You should decide for yourself if the risk will be worth it. Me myself would not have risked it, but if she is so special for you, I can understand the temptation. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/18 02:03 PM |
| 5 | How much of TRP is actually true?Totally red flag. I have no respect for monkey branching women like that. Imagine if some guy who is in a monogamous relationship has a sidechick (some guys with high-five him, but most guys will be just disgusted). I think a call me when you are single should be followed with "but I won't be waiting". Positive of call me when you are single is showing her that you are a man with integrity, not just some fuckboi. Negative is making it sounds as if you were going to wait for her...which is not go… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/18 11:48 AM |
| 7 | How much of TRP is actually true?Most people regardless of gender won't cheat. They'd rather leave first most of the time. This is why to this day, we still condemn cheaters harshly. Rather than getting cheated on, most people should rather be prepared of suddenly being left alone. No guarantee that people around you will stay, so try to live to the fullest already by yourself, that is the best solution for relationship problems. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/18 11:25 AM |
| 10 | How much of TRP is actually true?Depends on what kind of 'solution' you are looking for. If you are looking for a 100% guarantee of never get cheated on again the future, you are not going to find it. You either have to date an AI or yourself. You can be the alphaest of alphas...guess what? Some of them still got cheated on. None of us can even guarantee that our partner is not going to get brain aneurism and drop dead tomorrow, let alone making sure that they will forever be loyal to us. What should be your solution is finding… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/18 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Coming to terms with the Red Pill and PUA.If you are a German living in Germany, as an expat who is currently studying, working and living here...I will say that you have it good, man. You have it really good in the term of equality in relationship. I don't know if you are from the East or the West (let's be honest here, even after the wall is gone, people are still calling Wessi and Ossi), it does not matter anyway. Till this day, I have never met a German woman that is not a hardworker. From my Physics professor, to the janitor lady i… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/18 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Holy shit Im so glad I found this placeDating game is frustrating for everyone...but in the spirit of misery loves company sort of thing, you may want to check r/datingoverthirty sub. You are right that dating game can make you cynical, but you are not alone in that and you can see how other people are dealing with it. I am lucky enough to never experienced dating game, but even an LTR is not without its own problems either. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/18 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Holy shit Im so glad I found this placeWhat are you mostly cynical about? If you are cynical about hypergamy or something like that, you'd be the male version of some women who think that their men will replace them with younger women when they got older or leave them if they got sick and unable to be sexually active anymore. News flash, most men do not do that. However, if anything, believing in RP abundance mentality is not a bad thing. As crass as it sounds, we do not own our partner and our partner does not own us. We have to sti… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/18 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Any Women On Here?How do you get out of it? Honestly you mostly cannot. How do you undo years worth of damage and psychological imprint during your formative years? Therapy even for years with the best of professionals will at best teach you how to recognize and actively control the impulses. Easiest example is teaching spineless Sara to recognize when her boundaries are being crossed, to teach her to consciously re-affirm that boundaries. How do you even 'changed' someone's core personality? The very foundation … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/18 07:13 AM |
| 7 | Any Women On Here?I am a woman and I am here because I've had some male friends turned into RedPill and they told me about it. Some of them at least, the rest I recognized it myself in some of my former friends. Always the same ends to them: Breaking frame and looked even weaker than non-RP men. It is all started similar to them. First they found social interaction during their formative years to be challenging. They didn't seem to get what they wanted, unlike the more alpha guys. Then they temporarily isolating … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/18 07:00 AM |
| 1 | I met a girl online recently. She seems just like the rest. But she has a kid and is pretty desperate, I want to think she would stay with someone who is willing to accept her. It’s just hard though because hypergamy makes so much sense. Plus I know if a hot girl comes along I’m moving on lol.I think anyone going into relationship should be ready to be traded up or left at any moments notice...and be ready that the same thing could happened to them. We do not own or control our partner and vice versa. This is why we nurtured independence and self-actualization. Having a fulfilling life outside of our shared life with our partner. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/18 08:45 AM |
| 3 | Alternative to to the power to walk awayI will say if anything, that is the best thing that one can get (if any) from TRP. Indeed that the price you will have to pay will be starting from scratch, but you will most likely start from a better and more experienced position than before. This is not something people do to maintain a sense of alpha-ness. It is just something that normal, well-adjusted people do. Walking away from decaying relationship? You left with a better sense of what you are looking for in a partner. Leaving shitty bo… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/18 07:12 AM |
| 8 | A "red piller" who wants to know if it's snake oilI think they are just weak and at times acted like troubled women they often talked about so much. They talk a lot about self-improvement...to get higher SMV...to get women. Most people do not put pussy on a pedestal that high. They preached about abundance mentality (which is great actually, if it is really being practised like that)...but caught oneitis and tried everything to make the oneitis returns their affection. Talking about praising abundance mentality, they complain if their ex-GF or … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/18 09:34 AM |
| 9 | Laddish behaviour in TRP is stupid if you ask me.I find people who fell into the whole laddish behavior have little self-esteem on their own. Wanting their friends' approval. Some adult guys I've talked with even based their worth as a human being by how young and beautiful their GF is. They themselves are never enough validation for their own existence. It has to involve some kind of numbers of how many women have slept with them (which is rather tacky) and their arm candy. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/18 08:36 AM |
| 8 | Ex-MarriedRedPill here, is there any other sub I should check out?A lot of AskMenOver30 guys are married and seem to be just happy in their long standing relationship, it will not be wrong to take advice from them. What you are looking for is advice on how to communicate spesifically with your wife. You are not going to find it anywhere. Instead of going by her gender, perhaps you should have better gone by her personality. You have male friends, colleagues, family members, etc who you can be 100% honest with and will take your advice as positive feedback...an… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/18 07:52 AM |
| 7 | Women losing sexual desire in a relationshipRooting for you here man, you will get this! What I've seen positive from you so far is that you are not trying to do the dread thing. If your GF is already an anxious girl, that'd be like punishing her for a mistake that she has never made. Besides dreading is shit-testing, just another name. Too much drama invoved there. You shared with your GF and now going to counseling, you are going to beat this anxiety and will come out wiser and much calmer. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/18 09:10 PM |
| 5 | Women losing sexual desire in a relationshipHey man, I really realy do hope that you will do well in the therapy. I cannot imagine that level of anxiousness, I hope you haven't been neglecting other aspects in your life, like enough sleep, eating and studying properly because of this. Imagine you have never read about this Red Pill thing, ever. You will be a simply 19 years old guy, in a happy relationship with his GF. That's it. You and your GF are at just the beginning of young adult life, have the whole world in front of you, relations… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/18 07:36 PM |
| 20 | Women losing sexual desire in a relationshipI might be wrong here OP, but are you that guy who created multiple alt-accounts to post here, asking similar question? Sometimes I feel like you look for a validation. Looking for a "yes. Yes, your relationship will not last. Yes, your GF will get tired and bored of you eventually" answer. Maybe because slowly you just cannot handle the anxiety anymore. I cannot imagine that you are in a good place, despite good relationship if you think about this too much. You are obssesed about this relation… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/18 05:33 PM |
| 16 | Why are so many people subscribed to the r/TRP subreddit, yet an extremely low amount of people are subscribed to r/exredpill?Red pill is like a pile of shit with one or two delicious corn pieces in them. The two things about self-improvement and abundance mentality? Those two are gold stuffs. The rest of it are just as much as them acting like the worst kind of girls that they said they hate. They do 'dread' which is essentially shit-test, they do fake it till they make it, putting up fake persona, which is the same with doing bait-and-switch, they don't leave unhappy relationships like normal people do. They try to m… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/18 04:01 PM |
| 3 | No faith in long term relationshipsIt's much more complacency from both sides, rather than boredom that kills otherwise healthy relationship. The sense of 'he/she will love me no matter what, so fuck putting in efforts anymore.' Happened especially after you 'locked' someone down. We preached too much about unconditional love, that we think we all deserved to be loved unconditionally. Giving zero efforts but wanting maximum rewards. There are plenty of women. Wives and girlfriends staying with their partners even after the BFs or… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/18 12:14 PM |
| 7 | Aren't men as selfish and unpredictable?they want the nice, sensitive provider but if he's too weak he won't get there pussies wet so they get more likely to cheat on you with Chad The era of women wanting men as providers is more or less over, or at least changing. A lot of women have out earned men and they do not mind if they became the breadwinner. This is both positive and negative for guys. Back then, if a guy's personality is weak, he can still use his wealth. Nowadays, if he wants to flaunt wealth to attract some women (and th… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/18 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Question About Red PillYep, for getting laid and ONS, keeping frame can be key to sucess. But then some of these guys want more, despite the warning against 'oneitis'. They always got the oneitis. Trying to maintain frame while trying to build a more intimate relationship with someone. It won't work, at least not for too long. This is where you read a lot of posts about 'he/she changed after we got together/marriage/having children'. They sold a fake persona at the start of the relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/07/18 06:30 PM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI cannot handle being with someone who carries the baggage of being raised in broken home family. That is my limitation and I would have rather being upfront and honest about it rather than dissapointing some guy. I came from a happy, intact family. It is fair for me to want a guy who comes from similar style of upbringing and home. In my homeland they often never get married at all, because the parents of the bride or groom would have not agreed on the marriage. It is none of their fault, it wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/18 04:24 PM |
| 1 | All these pill blogs and r/femcels and r/braincels make me so, so sad :(We don't always love our children unconditionally. In many places where children are your only hope for comfy retirement, the sucessful child will be treated better and showered with more love in order to keep the bond strong and making sure that the parents will be taken care of. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/18 03:44 AM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditOh that is great, then you understand what I mean because you've have similar experience. Though with mine, I did not leave former country till I got a full ride scholarship to study in Europe. I think more and more younger people are into elopement, which I can totally get behind. I think with the state involvement it is more of a way to avoid spending money for them. Old spouses are still encouraged to take care of each other in the old age, to save the state money for taking care of old peopl… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/18 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Is Emotional Tampon a real thing?she gives canned responses Oh hell naw, this won't do. That is not how you do the friend helping each other thing. Look, I know depressive people can be a heavy bunch, but you do not give them canned responses. I think rather than wanting you to be her emotional tampon, this girl just does not know what it means to be a good friend. And maybe rather self-centered herself. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/18 04:36 AM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditThat sub r/DecidingToBeBetter was what actually spurred me to finally join a Muay Thai gym after delaying it for far too long. One of my best decisions so far. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 07:16 PM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI'd say in the West or in the East, relationship works if the couple works as a team. In Germany where I am right now, the working together is both financial and household wise, though modern appliances make housework much more faster and easier than ever. The women are mostly working, which is great, because if the men cannot work anymore because they are sick, or burnt out, or getting into severe accident, the woman are able to provide. That is one thing that was missing from my grandparents a… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 07:14 PM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI looked at older posts from r/MGTOW2 and for a while it does look like a more reasonable place, more and more newer posts are just people ranting. r/financialindependence/ or this is also a nice place to hang around r/DecidingToBeBetter/ | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 02:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI don't know if it is that rare. I've been living everywhere, different cultures, different places. A lot of men are happy enough being a husband, father and grandfather. Growing old with their wives/partners, surrounded by children and grandchildren and all that stuff. My grandfather died at the age of 89, with his wife by his side, after she lovingly took care of him for a few years after he got stroke. My parents have been happily married for more than 30 years now. My SO's parents are going … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 02:29 PM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditYou wrote that you are swore off marriage and all and I find it to be good. Marriage is not for everyone. Be happy for them who find genuine happiness in marriage (and we know that they exist), but also know that not everyone are meant to find their happiness there. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 07:42 AM |
| 1 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI looked at it but it seems to be similar just like any other venting subreddit that will distract anyone from their main goal. A male version of Tumblr. There are better subreddits. Self-improvement, financial independence, etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/18 07:40 AM |
| 4 | Question About Red PillIt does not affect me directly because I am a woman and we are allowed to show a bit more emotion, or at least tolerated (but still not treated as normal as in the West). It is more of how I see the men in the family and male friends back home suffering from it. One of my male high school friend just lost his mother to cancer and a male teacher mocked him because my friend lost it and cried during a lesson. He got angry then and kicked a door. He got punished and had to change school not long af… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/18 09:07 AM |
| 4 | Question About Red PillIt's a bit of a hard topic for me, because where I came from, the men were raised to be as stoic as possible. If a young male kid cry, he'd get berated and mocked as being weak by all members of the family, sometimes a beating. All done by male and female members of the family. I think that is one of the few ways to make someone more or less naturally stoic. By being raised in a family that punishes harshly any display of emotion...and a society that is very unforgiving of it too. 20 years or mo… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/18 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Question About Red PillVery understandable and keeping frame 24/7 forever is something impossible to do. People that can faking it good most of the time are professional actors/actresses/stage performers. Most of these people have been through acting school and even then, they do not act 24/7. I can admit that TRP may work for ONS or short term relationships (and it is not a problem whatsoever if a guy just want ONS and short term relationship). Problem starts when many want to have LTR and even having kids. How long … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/18 06:29 AM |
| 24 | Question About Red PillEh...they are a group of people who are trying to make a very basic, very ordinary and normal social interactions between men and women into a complete pseudo-science, drama filled mess. Few things that are good, such as self-improvement and abundance mentality (disclaimer:rarely being practised), are something that most people already aware themselves by the time they reached adulthood. It's a place that suggesting fake it till you make it, dreading/shit testing instead of just leaving an unful… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/18 08:33 PM |
| 4 | I'm So Glad I Found This SubredditI can perhaps suggest something. I came from a conservative and quite backward country, but now I've been studying and working in Europe for a while. Everywhere, even in the most conservative land you'd find frustrated young guys who cannot find partners. Regardless if the place is patriarchal or matriarchal, if the place is conservative or modern. Whether the women are hidden inside the houses and inside burqas or whether the women are to put it crudely, riding cock carrousel. The "20/80 rules"… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/18 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Do you people have self-help books you'd reccommend?Hi OP, this is not exactly a self-help book, but it has helped me through depression and feeling of emptiness/lack of direction. An Imperfect Offering: Humanitarian Action for the Twenty-First Century by James Orbinski M.D. Written by former president of Doctors Without Borders. The book tells everything as it is. You can relate it to almost all facet of life. What is alpha and beta in some countries? Is the alpha the warlord with many soldiers and wives? Or the foreign doctor who risked his lif… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/18 01:44 AM |
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