I'm So Glad I Found This Subreddit

itsmichaelauthor · 2018-06-28T18:59:28+00:00

Sounds like some deep insecurities that the community feeds off of, and they're absolutely untrue. Someone has a bad experience and they extrapolate it to all women and all situations. Yuck.

You wanna know if she wants to be exclusive with you for a long time? ASK HER! Some women will, some won't. Do they like macho men with little emotional intelligence who use women and then discard them? ASK HER!

Some women have negative patterns with men just like men have harmful patterns with women. And the only way you're going to understand her is to ASK HER and have these discussions openly and honestly with her. If you've been hurt by TRP, talk with new lovers about that and those insecurities. Don't make her responsible for them, but just be very forthright. These kinds of discussions are where healing takes place.

Personally, how I overcame those insecurities was twofold: 1) I took greater pride in my appearance and sex appeal. 2) I began to have deep, authentic conversations with women about their desires and proclivities and listened very closely to their responses, not from a place of disbelief, but with intent to understand.

emailpassword12 · 2018-06-29T00:10:57+00:00

Well done on seeing the light!

I don't know what to say to help you move forward, but, i can tell you, im a woman (post wall) who has never cheated, has never left a dude for another dude, provides for myself and doesn't want or need anyone's bucks. Objectively, I'm attractive by western standards, and Ive personally never been attracted to "big alpha types", and a smirking Chad would get no where with me. Women are all different.

When i read TRP posts i literally laugh, because they are clearly written by men who don't spend a lot of time with women, or who are scared and wrapped up in their own insecurities. I could go on for a days about the TRP theories that don't apply to myself or my friends.

There are loads of good women out there, don't lose hope.

FabulousConstant · 2018-06-30T02:50:18+00:00

I just wanted to write a post with literally the same title, and here it is. Awesome.

When I was "blue pilled", I had actual relationships with girls. For some stupid reason (trust issues maybe) I started using TRP strategies, guess what happened - almost no luck plus negative thoughts about the world. I was not even into this that much, only slightly (that's what's called "purple pill" I guess), but here's the result. So TRP works - in a negative way.

I'm so glad I found this subreddit. Hope it helps me to get rid of this toxic shit that still remains my head.

Yesm3can · 2018-06-28T16:56:04+00:00

I can perhaps suggest something. I came from a conservative and quite backward country, but now I've been studying and working in Europe for a while.

Everywhere, even in the most conservative land you'd find frustrated young guys who cannot find partners. Regardless if the place is patriarchal or matriarchal, if the place is conservative or modern. Whether the women are hidden inside the houses and inside burqas or whether the women are to put it crudely, riding cock carrousel.

The "20/80 rules" in more conservative lands will be a rich older man taking four or more wives. While frustrated young men who can find noone either will join some terrorist groups, or taking on very risky journey to another land, or never leaving the parent's 'nest', or commiting suicide. Even worse is that in more conservative places, men will not only have to win the womens' heart, but also her parents' or even her entire family.

I think some part of TRP (if any) that people should follow is self-improvement for one's self. Though I know many of that are translated into self-improvement to raise SMV to get girls instead. Being satisfied with yourself and being at the very least fine being alone is very important. There will be no guarantee that someone will stay with you. No matter where you live, no matter in what kind of culture you find yourself in.

volvostupidshit · 2018-07-01T00:15:19+00:00

TRP "alpha" males to me are just like girls who whore around and wonder why their relationships don't last. They are too sure about themselves that they forget that their partners are also humans.

They are also setting themselves up for failure. That's because they try to manipulate these girls into liking them which sooner or later will consciously or subconsciously figure it out. When that happens you can expect shit will hit the fan and someone is gonna have a field report that "supports" their theories which are grounded in fallacies.

Starshooter19xx · 2018-07-02T09:22:34+00:00

As a guy that swallowed the pill but started becoming a bit skeptical, I could tell you that while some of the narrative the TRP told their audience to hold actually have some truths (I've had experiences), they often over-simplify problems and generalize too much, mainly to make their point clearer.

Now being someone who have been in several relationships in and out, I could tell you that I could definitely relate to some of the things RP community talks about. Few being manipulation women often employ on dating scene, the red flags you need to take notice when dating and things along this line. But as any kind of community I think you got to have some balance, which is what TRP community might not always want to provide.

Personally I think TRP has a lot of wisdom to give to young guys who might be vulnerable to 'crazy bitches' and all, because I was at that point as well (dated a straight-out crazy girl) and honestly if I could learn some things earlier probably I could dodged that bullet. But I found that I've grown too cynical over the course of the year and began to avoid women which was why I think I might overdo it. True, I think there are still good women out there but since women can be really deceiving I don't think I could dismiss entirety of TRP dating advice since I can confirm that at least half of them are true.

Just want to say it who knows it might be relatable to others.

Title	I'm So Glad I Found This Subreddit
Author	rshambo_29
Upvotes	14
Comments	31
Date	June 28, 2018 1:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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