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I am so sorry this is happening to you. Focus on yourself and the baby - try not to let his mood change yours (easier said then done). Do you have any family or community you could lean on? Or a doctor you could go to for postpartum depression?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/25 07:12 PM
9

It was more that she thought she might kill herself with his gun and he didn’t like blow jobs that threw me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/25 02:29 PM
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This was a wild list, I can’t lie lol. Pros outweigh the cons in my opinion. Still, do whatever feels right.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/25 11:15 PM
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One thing I love about my husband is that I never had at pester, nag or even bring up commitment into conversation. He was always the first one. He was excited for it. If your man is not sure about you, find one who is. When a man is certain he won’t disappoint you. 23 is still so young.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/25 04:50 PM
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What happens if one of these girls gets attached or gets pregnant, or anything like that. She could set out to ruin your life, your marriage, your reputation.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/25 04:13 PM
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People commit to someone for life, expecting them to maintain the same physical features? Dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:38 PM
1

Sounds like he needs some space, I would give that to him. If you decide to remain friends, I would set firm boundaries. You don’t want to be downgraded into a situationship. Instead, you could wait for him to contact you and be emotional support when necessary. The key is to not entertain any relationship-like activities (ie, no going over to his place or inviting him to yours). He wouldn’t have broke up with you if he was scared of losing you. At least on some level he doesn’t value you enough…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 12:36 AM
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A lot of coping going on in the comments. Reality is that it is going to be very hard to find someone who will go along with this situation. You’re best bet would be to find someone who is in a similar situation. Look for a born again religious man who also has a past.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 01:57 AM
4

I always cringe when people talk about other people approaching them. If you mention when someone hits on you, it gives the impression that it is an interesting event worth mentioning, meaning it’s not something that happens all the time. Act like it’s a normal occurrence and don’t bring it up LOL.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 11:44 PM
12

If you marry a man for the money, you will still earn every dollar of it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 01:48 PM
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Getting married in the state that you are in sounds like a horrible idea. Slow down, try and seek help from a therapist. Work on making controlled, well-thought out decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 03:44 AM
4

It’s a sad fact that men are kinder and friendlier to people they are attracted to. Men of low character anyway. Customer service has been getting terrible now a days as well. Try looking for the positives and gravitate towards people who are kind to you. Find a place to shop that has better costumer service. Be the kindness that you expect from the world.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 10:23 PM
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Don’t waste another minute with him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 07:00 PM
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Once you marry someone, you are stuck with them. That is why it is extremely important to vet throughly. If he is already flirting with the idea of cheating two years in (when you guys have an amazing relationship) he will probably escalate to a full blown emotional affair or even physical cheating years down the road when life gets challenging. This is a massive red flag. If you stay with him, you are rolling the dice.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 02:56 PM
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Go with your gut instinct.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 07:26 PM
10

So he had a job and still didn’t reach out to you first?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 07:12 PM
1

If your not going to trust him with your car, how are you going to trust him to be a husband/father? If your car means more than your relationship, you need a new relationship. Try reading Laura Doyle and fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 06:54 PM
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Easiest solution is to let him drive, no?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 01:26 PM
5

Money does not equal value. This is a perfect example of that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 10:19 PM
2

I’m very sorry to hear that. I hope everything works out for you. The reason why marriage is so important is because if you end up with three kids, no job and no husband at least you have martial assets.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 02:11 PM
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Wondering why you aren’t married after 13 years and three children? And you don’t work? Really think about what life will look like for you if you separate. The grass isn’t always greener on the otherside.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 01:30 AM
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Read fascinating womanhood. It has a chapter on how to apologize for this behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 08:13 PM
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this is the answer. If it upsets you that he’s going to more attracted to other people as you age, get ready for this one: he is probably ALREADY more attracted to others. Instagram models and flawless people will always be impossible to compete with in that department. The point is to vet and find someone who isn’t shallow. To find someone who loves you for you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 11:28 PM
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She already has children with this man, it’s too late to vet him. Personally, I would not marry someone who compulsively watched porn. However, she’s already married to him. The best course of action now is to follow fascinating womanhood and look at his good qualities instead of trying to change him. Porn is not great, but divorce is much worse.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:15 AM
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Are you in a sexless marriage? It sounds like you guys do have sex based on your post, just not as much as you would like?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:10 AM
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You’re man has a point. It’s hard to raise a family on one salary. Those fancy vacations will go away when you have kids on one salary.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:56 PM
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It doesn’t matter how much you try, eventually your body will age. That’s life. Of course someone who is older with children can’t compete with a 20 year old. This is part of the cycle of life. Those 20 year olds will go through the same thing. The important thing is that he LOVES you, not that he thinks you are the most attractive thing in the world. Does he love you? Take care of you? Is he a hood father? That’s a lot more important than sex.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:11 PM
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Read the fascinating womanhood chapter about asking for things that you want. Also to note: things take time. If you just recently started using RPW techniques, I wouldn’t expect a perfect relationship right away. Try really focusing on being the best partner you can be for six months, then ask. He will be a lot more receptive to your needs. Remember to look at his good qualities and don’t focus on the bad. It sounds like the rest of your relationship is great. Don’t risk ruining your relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:05 PM
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Please, do not continue to entertain connection with them if they will not commit. And do not have sex with anyone before having a commitment. Doing either of those things will lead to heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 11:07 PM
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Believe what men tell you. He doesn’t want to get married, and he probably feels guilty because he knows that you do. He is repeatedly bringing it up and rubbing it in your face to help himself feel less guilt about string you along. Men don’t really play games - they are straight up. If you choose to go along with this, know that marriage will not be an option.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:15 AM
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Everyone’s culture is different, but from what I understand this would be like the woman purposing as a promise ring is a placeholder ring? I doubt he would interpret it in the thoughtful way you are intending.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 10:12 PM
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Oh no that’s embarrassing lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 07:38 PM
2

Why was he there watching you get a wheel lock off?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 06:48 PM
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Cheating is on the short list of things that are unforgivable IMO.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 03:49 AM
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I imagine if the couple wants to have children a homemaker would be more desirable, but is usually unattainable for most middle class. People want a certain standard of living which is hard to achieve on one salary.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 10:48 PM
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I found messages in my husbands phone after 1 month of dating. He was telling his friends that I was the one. We didn’t get engaged until 4 years into dating though. Sometimes he knows, he just has to wait until he is ready.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 05:28 PM
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No reason to be hurt or angry over this. I wouldn’t bring this up to him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 07:47 PM
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She has every right to feel unwanted because he is in fact choosing something else over her. But blaming him and degrading his hobbies will only make him want her less.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 02:05 PM
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I am definitely not a gamer, I just respect my husbands hobbies as he would respect mine. I absolutely love reality TV and would schedule an important episode as “plans”. I agree that it is odd he wouldn’t want to hangout with her, but she should ask herself why that is. Nagging him to hangout with her will only make it worse. They probably have problems worse than the video games.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 01:40 PM
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It’s a hobby he enjoys and it’s part of who he is. It’s important to be respectful of your boyfriends hobbies even if you don’t understand them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 01:45 AM
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If you want him to play less videos games, nagging him about it is NOT the way to do it. If anything, it just turns him off from you more. If you want him to spend more time with you, he has to WANT to spend more time with you. Your approach is having the opposite affect. He is feeling restricted and is worried that this behaviour will worsen (that’s why he brought up moving in together). Read fascinating womanhood and live by the principles for a few months. My husband (boyfriend at the time) u…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 10:13 PM
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Forget about any man. You need metal help health.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 03:43 AM
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Maybe not necessarily a 7, but you do become a better option. Matches might still see you are a 5 compared to the internet, but compared to the rest of girls who they could actually date, you could be a 10. In the town I live in, at 27 years old, a lot of my peers are overweight or have other baggage. At this point in my life, it feels like anyone who is in shape and has no kids is the top of the food chain. When I was 20 you had to be a lot more than just thin and childless to be gawked over.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 11:12 PM
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Talking about his flaws (inconsistency), bringing up your trauma and pointing out ways you aren’t compatible is bad form. Especially after only five dates! Read fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 12:07 PM
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Remember that having a baby is very difficult. If you pressure him to do it he may grow to resent you. If there is big financial strain he could blame you for it. With that being said, it is important to voice your desires. Maybe find a way to meet in the middle.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/23 02:05 AM
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When I was your age I tried dating an older man (33), and I went through the same thing. He was everything I was looking for: already established, ambitious, handsome and caring. But I felt the same disgust anytime he flirted with me. I just couldn’t do it. Shortly after this I met my husband, who was ambitious, handsome and caring - just not established yet. It has been beautiful watching him grow and getting to build a life with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 01:27 PM
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Unless they have reflected and figured out where they went wrong. A lot of people with successful relationships got that way by accident, not intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:43 PM
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It sounds like you are unable to look to his good side and hyper fixate on flaws. Definitely break up with him and work on yourself. Read fascinating womanhood and surrendered wife.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 03:37 PM
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They say that single women get picky after 30, but that’s only because all the women who can compromise are already wifed up before then. In my opinion, all of the above things are very picky. No single person will be perfect. Nobody will have the exact same humour, hobbies and childhood background as you. This is what I think really matters: Does he love you? Does he have a good heart? Does he pull his weight in the family? Will he be a good father?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 03:46 AM
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Surrendered wife and fascinating womanhood are the guide to a happy life.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 02:18 AM
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Surrendered wife specifically talks about NOT saying anything about it. Better left a mystery.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 01:58 AM
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Fascinating womanhood talks about how apologies will often be met with pushback because the partner has been hurt and in the moment he might not trust you. Change the behaviour you apologized for and be consistent. If you are consistently respectful to him for a long period he will be more accepting if your apologies in the future. If disrespectful outbursts are reoccurring, he will continue to pushback on your apologies. When he does something that makes you want to lash out STFU. Do anything b…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 03:17 PM
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Doesn’t make sense to throw someone away because of one flaw. Nobody will be perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 04:14 AM
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Your boyfriend sounds like a caring man.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 08:13 PM
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I agree with this. He probably knew better than to say that but it just slipped out, He apologized and did something to make it right. Try and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 07:41 PM
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Cringing at the title being a list of his flaws. Read fascinating womanhood. One of the top rules is to look to his good side and stop trying to change his bad side. Everyone has flaws, and he will likely not change. The real question is can you live with these flaws for the rest of your life? It was hard to find anything positive in your post. Pre-marriage period is your only chance to vet.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:24 PM
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I wanted to add: if people are advising you not to get married young, it’s because they are trying to help you. There are always comments saying something like “got married at 19, it was the best choice, etc”. These people the exception NOT the rule. Most young marriages fail. The few that do make it are very lucky. People say don’t get married young to protect you, not because they don’t believe in your love. People grow up and change a lot in there formative early adult years. It is awful to b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:16 PM
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I don’t think these things are universal. They definitely vary from man to man based to values. My husband would be horrified if I suddenly started wearing tube tops and red eye shadow.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 01:59 PM
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Not wanting you to be alone with a bunch of men is far from a crazy thing. It sounds like he is a good partner, I would be respectful to his wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 01:50 AM
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The good news is that even if you are positive, there are dating apps for people with herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 03:38 AM
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Have you seen a doctor about this? Are you waiting on test results!? It would be morally wrong to date until you know for sure you are clean.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 03:27 AM
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I would highly advise to be in a relationship before having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 01:58 AM
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Hitting someone? Even lightly? Hard no.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 05:12 PM
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Unfortunately, you cannot really change him. Looks to his good side: ambition and work ethic might not be one of his strengths but I’m sure he has other good qualities. Alternatively, read fascinating womanhood. Ensure that you are living all the principals throughly. After that, use the strategies about ask for things. This may help light a fire under him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 04:01 AM
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I appreciate the positive outlook, but this is not great advice. Plus it’s not aligned with red pill (and this is a red pill subreddit. If children are OPs goal, she does not have twenty years. Anything after 35 is a geriatric pregnancy, plus the older you get the harder it will be to conceive.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 06:39 PM
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True. This is partly because men will still date them even if they are mean, overweight and lack proper hygiene.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 02:36 AM
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Happens at different rates depending on genetics and lifestyle. But unless an early death intervenes, everyone hits it. People will always say something like, “I’ve seen 40 - 50 year old women who are still very attractive!” Sure this can be true, but it will likely not happen to you. They are the exception, not the rule. Reality is people will hit the wall by late 30’s, partly due to age and partly due to lifestyle changes (increasing childcare responsibilities, less free time). The best you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 03:50 AM
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I think there are definitely some men who get off on it or who don’t really care. But generally speaking you are right - those men are very rare.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 04:13 PM
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I’m 27, and from the anecdotal evidence I have gathered the average man my age thinks 10+ is high. They might put up with a higher number, but most won’t be happy about it. And anything above 30 partners seems to be repulsive to men. So I think by 10 respect starts plummeting and by 30+ it’s gone. That being said, this is just averages from what I’ve gathered. There will be men that think 5+ is nasty and men that think 50+ is fine. You can’t undo your body count, so try focusing on improving thi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 10:55 PM
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Try reading fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 11:08 PM
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Why on earth would you do that LOL
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 03:46 AM
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I always wanted to have a happy relationship. But I knew nothing about men. I’m pretty sure I was googling “how to be a good girlfriend” when I found RPW. It was just what I was looking for! Everything I learned worked like a charm. I’ve been with my husband for 6 years now. Couldn’t be happier.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 02:04 PM
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Take your time getting back on your feet. Don’t start dating anytime soon. When you do eventually start dating, I wouldn’t disclose that you were previously in an abusive relationship. Men will see it as a red flag, as malicious women could claim this as a way to retaliate against their ex (NOT saying this is what you are doing, but a lot of men will be wary of this). Or even worse, men who want to abuse will see that you previously put up with this behaviour. Just keep your past in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 08:29 PM
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Yes exactly. It could be that he has no intentions to cheat, he just enjoys the attention. Either way, once OP communicates she is uncomfortable it should stop. Women are perceptive to social cues, if he was giving negative energy she wouldn’t be so bold with him. At the very least, he is not shutting down her flirty energy. The fact that he was cracking jokes with her is evidence of this. I think OP should give him a chance to fix this and watch closely to his reaction. If this continues, I wou…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 06:43 PM
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Let him know how you feel, but don’t start dictating what he should do with this information. Bring him the problem, see how he would solve it. With that being said, how he reacts will say a lot about him. She may feel comfortable enough to continue this behaviour because he isn’t doing anything to discourage it. Once he knows your upset, hopefully that will change. But if it doesn’t, it’s so important to get vet vet VET before you get married.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 02:59 PM
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JPG coaching on tiktok
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 02:46 PM
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Go to the doctor. In the meantime, there are other sexual things you can do.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 05:55 PM
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If you think your options are not good enough, try improving yourself to attract better options
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 01:17 AM
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Your situation sounds a lot like me and my husband. If he is saying all of these things, it sounds like he wants to marry you. Depending on your age, I wouldn’t worry about it. He purposed to me a short while after we moved.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 03:28 PM
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You are already 25. Believe what he tells you and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 07:26 PM
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Being a single income household is not an easy task now a days. Unless you are from a wealthy background, it’s unlikely you will marry wealthy. Not impossible to be a middle class family on one income, it just means that sacrifices will have to be made. It might be worth it to find some sort of job that will fit with your desired lifestyle. I have always wanted to have a family, so I became a teacher. Lots of time of, and you the exact same hours as your kids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:03 PM
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Sounds like nagging him about the behaviour does not help, just makes him more grouchy. Look into fascinating womanhood and surrendered wife, especially the chapters for dealing with anger/ problems. If none of these strategies work and you find one of his actions really uncalled for; try just leaving for a while. Take the kids and go out for the day, or leave him with the kids for the afternoon or something. Don’t fight with him, just withdraw. When you come back, he should be more willing to s…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 10:15 PM
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He sounds burnt out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 10:11 PM
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I think this is one thing the red pill gets wrong. I think high value men do care about sophistication and prestige, just maybe not as much as women do. My husband comes from a working class family and he loves to tell people I am a teacher (decently high earning in my country). He says he is proud that I am hard working and want to contribute to the family earning. He does get annoyed when that gets in the way of me caring for him. Can’t win it all I guess lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 02:59 PM
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Vetting is the key to a happy marriage! It is the most important part. The fact that you even needed to post this shows that your instincts are telling you something is off. Listen to that. It’s in our nature to look at the positives, but these negatives are too big to ignore! You don’t want end up being 38 years old, married to cheater who thinks you have lost your value and won’t apologize for it. Now is your chance to vet him out.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 04:19 AM
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True. And denial is huge. They don’t want to believe that’s why it’s happening or they convince themselves it doesn’t bother them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:41 AM
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Exactly. If their partner is settling for them and is less attracted to them, pressuring them to do the same sexual acts will not fix that. They should find a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:50 PM
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Why are you in this sub if you disagree with its principles? Would you maybe be more happy in relationship advice?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 12:29 AM
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Very true. Sacrifices and compromises will have to be made
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 04:30 PM
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Reality is that a lot of men, especially Christian men, will care about body count. It’s so unfortunate that society pushes the narrative that it doesn’t matter, because largely that is a lie. With that being said, there will be someone out there who is unbothered by it. You just have to keep being honest and vet hard to find them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 03:39 AM
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Everyone will have a different definition. Some people think that you could have hundreds of sex partners and it’s not a bad thing, other people are horrified by someone having sex before marriage. Reality is, you can’t change how people will perceive you. My purely anecdotal evidence tells me that the average man of marrying age (24-30) is okay with up their partner having 4 - 8 previous partners. Anything up from that and it gets iffy. 25 plus is pretty universally accepted as promiscuous. You…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 07:10 PM
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Yes! Totally agree. It’s also important to reflect about your own faults too. For example: if I’m upset at him for smoking, I should consider bad habits I may have that might upset him before I complain.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 04:20 AM
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STFU advice is only given when it’s a small issue. Majority of the advice in this is sub all about communication, the point is the delivery and approach is everything. There is a great part in fascinating womanhood (forget which chapter) where she talks about how Mrs. Lincoln suffered in an ill equipped home without asking for anything more until she died. Then, the second wife came in and used communication to get a home renovation.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 04:18 AM
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Just because body count and reputation mattered to him, doesn’t mean it will matter to every guy. There is a guy out there who won’t care, he’s just not that guy. Let go and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 12:22 PM
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The first four rules of fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 07:15 PM
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Some people care, some people don’t. It sounds like it means a lot to your current boyfriend. My guess is that he is worried that your lie is much larger then a small mistake and that you have a huge promiscuous past that you aren’t being honest about. It’s possible that he does not want to be with someone with a large body count. Just be upfront and honest, answer his questions to help him understand. If he doesn’t want to be with you, there will be another guy who will want to be with you. But…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 06:27 PM
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Legal ramifications? What does that mean? Are you and your children safe?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 03:10 AM
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Read fascinating womanhood. There is a great part about how to communicate and ask for things. Men can’t read minds, and often are not as good at reading emotional cues. That being said, you are in the vetting stage. If you are finding that they are not reciprocating generosity, you can still vet them out.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 03:41 PM
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He deserves to be loved and respected by his partner. Clearly that person is not you. Let him go and move on. For his own sake, don’t pursue a friendship with him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 10:31 PM
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It’s not great to demand things. Unless he’s doing it for himself, chances are very slim that he will actually stop. He might pretend to, but he will just get sneakier. Porn is addictive. You are not married. You can still vet him out. Proper vetting is a crucial part of having a happy marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:43 PM
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I think reality is that if a low quality woman doesn’t want to change, she will still have no issues finding a low to average quality husband. The same cannot be said about men. If a low quality man does not want to change, he would struggle to marry even a low quality woman. The problem is that enough men will settle, but modern women will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:14 AM
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I agree with this to a degree. But if it is true, why is it that most women have less issues in the dating market place?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:35 AM
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Read fascinating womanhood. If you find you are to tired and have to lighten the load, I would keep the personal things that cater to him and ask help for other things. For example: still make him his coffee and pack his lunch, but ask him to do the dishes. Acts of service like this are a way of communicating love. If you just stop doing these nice little things it could damage the relationship. I would find another way to lighten your load.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 05:57 PM
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If you feel this way, why are you in this sub? Maybe you might be happier in a different type of relationship sub.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 04:48 PM
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Anecdotal evidence, but I love my husband who is 5”7.Never even thought about his height until a few years ago when this debate started getting popular. Didn’t notice and didn’t care. That’s the honest truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:13 AM
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Finding a quality woman on a dating app would be nearly impossible. Most quailing woman I know barely date around at all, let alone go on dating apps.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 06:43 PM
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To me, it just means to be trusting, kind-spirited and let others lead you. It does not mean to develop mannerisms of an actual child. If you haven’t already, read fascinating womanhood. Especially the chapter on childlike anger. I think a quality man would be put off by a grow woman fan-girling over an artist like a child.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 06:38 PM
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With being “childlike,” there is a very delicate line from being charming to being immature or down right annoying. It can also be easily detected as disingenuous. Be careful how you use this. Blunt people are often not pleasant to be around. Maybe a very specific man might enjoy it, however, it is usually not a desired characteristic in a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 04:24 PM
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Even fascinating womanhood tells the wife to leave after being cheated on multiple times.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 02:19 PM
1

He has never cheated, he was cheated on. He’s mostly over it now, but it was something that is hard to overcome. It’s trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 08:04 PM
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My husband has also been cheated on. It used to cause him paranoia, but these are a few things that helped us: -let him see your phone whenever -let him see your location -always communicate what you are up to -limit interactions with opposite sex -be mindful of his past cheating trauma when making decisions This might be a lot for some people, but i could not care less. Plus, it has really helped my husband find some peace.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 03:48 AM
1

Partly natural, partly role play. I could learn how to change a tire and he could learn how to cook. But we chose to do things that we are more suited for.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 10:49 PM
1

Congrats on making the first steps to turn it around!
/r/RedPillWives05/03/23 04:00 PM
0

If you all live in the same suburb, how could you not have links between you? Friends of friends, people who know each other through community activities? Never? How big is this suburb? Or are you guys very introverted?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:41 PM
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But wouldn’t your husband also know these people? Have mutual friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:53 PM
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I’m not American, so I guess people might just have different lifestyles. The idea of going to another city and having sex with someone is baffling to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:26 PM
2

No idea how anyone could lie about that. Unless you moved to foreign country and met him there, he’s bound to figure it out? How would you live with the anxiety?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:21 PM
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Men frequently do everything you have described in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 12:20 AM
1

Nobody has to do anything, but she will have to recognize how this will seem to a man. And how it will impact the kind of man she can get.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:03 AM
4

Read surrendered wife and fascinating womanhood. I’m assuming you married him for a reason? I hope you can find that again.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 04:08 AM
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An accurate comparison would be if a man quickly committed to his previous partner. If he was introducing her to his parents, buying her expensive gifts, and giving her girlfriend status within a month, his new girl would rightfully be upset if he tried to stench out the non-exclusive stage for months upon months. Sex for women is equivalent to commitment/resources for men.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 06:31 PM
2

Getting your hearing checked is vital. I’m a teacher, and I had a student who just could not keep quiet no matter what. One day it dawned on me that maybe he truly doesn’t realize how loud he is. Turns out, he needed hearing aids!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 03:32 AM
2

My acne didn’t show up until about 4-6 months after I got off the pill. The horrendous, entire-pore-clogged acne hung around for about a month. Then I had bad breakouts of acne for another 3 months after that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 01:27 AM
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I never really had any harsh side effects, so I didn’t see very much change. The only thing was a few months after I stopped I got HORRIBLE acne, to the point where if you looked closely on my face, every pore was clogged with a black head. Thank god this happened March of 2020 so I just didn’t leave the house.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 04:26 PM
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I would never try and control my partner by telling him what he can and can’t do. With that being said, is he swiping on these half naked girls right in front of you? I would understand why that would make you uncomfortable. Try reading the childlike anger chapter of fascinating womanhood. It sounds cringey as hell but it works wonders
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 12:03 AM
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There are a million other relationship subs that are about who is right and who is wrong. This sub is supposed to be from a red pill perspective. A fundamental part of RPW is that you should not try and change your husband/partner. Doesn’t matter if you want to call it a personality trait or a habit. Either way, trying to change him has made him so upset that he chose to lie about it to make his wife happy. She may feel resentment about him lying, he probably feels the same resent for not being …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 11:05 PM
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Why are you on this sub if your answer to such a small problem is counselling and therapy? Not trying to be rude, I just don’t know another way to word that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 10:13 PM
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Read fascinating womanhood. One of the top rules is that you need to accept him for who he is. Smoking is not a desirable trait, but all men have undesirable traits. He felt so ashamed about it that he lied to you, and went to considerable lengths to do so. Look at all the amazing things about him, not his flaws (smoking). Don’t try and change him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 09:25 PM
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I think the big difference is that a wife’s care doesn’t come with any bossing around? I’ll gladly cook, clean and care for him but I’m not going to order him to eat his veggies or go to bed at a certain time. If he’s sick I’ll really pamper him, but I would never force him to rest or take medicine (like a mother would). My husband constantly goes to work when he’s sick. I’d never reprimand him for doing so, I just make sure he has every comfort he needs when he comes home.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 04:06 AM
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The easy ones: - give him lots of genuine compliments. - Lots of hugging/touching/kissing. - Being happy around him, greeting him excitedly when I see him. - Taking care of our home. - Cooking his favourite meals or recipes he sends me. - Always hiding little notes for him to find. - Taking care of his ailments. - listening to his struggles complaints without judgment or trying to find solutions. The hard ones: - Giving him space when he needs it. - Being understanding that he works hard and tha…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 09:52 PM
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Sometimes I feel like RP is like rowing a boat up a river. If I don’t keep up with reading, it’s like I stop rowing and start sliding back down the river - meaning getting back into old habits. Reminders like this are so helpful :).
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 09:13 PM
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You will be so missed! I agree that this sub is not what it used to be. I used to fight it by reporting things that didn’t belong, but I got tired of that eventually. Maybe the people that want to continue could start a new one? Wish you the best.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 03:13 PM
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Sounds like he is an ideal man, but you’ve been alpha widowed. I don’t think the problem lies with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 03:25 PM
5

I will always love fascinating womanhood. It elevated my life. I finally got everything I wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 10:38 PM
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You can pick, pick, pick all day at someone’s flaws. Everyone has them. Try reading fascinating womanhood! To me, it sounds like you are very lucky to have him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 07:06 PM
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I don’t understand what’s wrong with him? You want to get rid of him because his child was sick? The fact that he postponed shows he will be an amazing father.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 04:41 PM
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It might go against red pill ideology, but I think he’s yucky. He preaches about womens value being in innocence, but then he sexually exploits vulnerable women. A real man would help keep troubled women safe, rather than encouraging them to perform sexually on camera for his own benefit. He understands that this will significantly hinder their life, and instead of helping them he profits off of their misfortune. It’s appalling. I have no idea why anyone would look up to someone who is so cruel.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 09:28 PM
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I would never date a man who cheated on anyone. I certainly would never take part in cheating. If you are talking about an open relationship type situation, I’m still not interested. My goal was always to build happy marriage, and that is not the man to do it with.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 03:02 PM
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Every single person has flaws, this is very minor. Brush it off and think about his other better qualities. If he didn’t like your feminine qualities he wouldn’t be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 04:52 PM
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Support him in his time of need. If he stopped being himself it must be because of stress. Trying to force affection out of him will only make things worse. If you do that, you might even lose the affection during the relaxed times. Just keep doing what you are doing. I know it must be hard, but just remind yourself it has nothing to do with you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 07:11 PM
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Whatever you do, don’t try and force him. Don’t give him an ultimatum. That’s a recipe for unhappiness. If he doesn’t want to get married yet, I’m sure he has legitimate reasons. I know you’ve been together so long it feels like it’s time to progress, but there is a reason why people say not to get married young.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/22 02:06 AM
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As long as you are honest about your past, I don’t see anything wrong with improving yourself as much as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 03:55 AM
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Sounds like it’s time to move out. I understand feeling hurt for your parents, but it’s none of your business. It can be hard to watch people make mistakes in their relationship, but they have the right to make those mistakes for themselves.Moving out will take you out of the drama. You’re dad will figure it out eventually. My guess is you reprimanding him will only make it worse for eveyone.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 11:34 PM
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How long have you been together? How old are you both? Are the stressors going to be around long term, or is this temporary? How long were you together before it got like this?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 04:27 PM
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this makes sense. From your post it seems like both of you don’t like each other. All you can do now is change how you behave, you can’t change his behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 08:26 PM
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In this context, you are assuming the women would argue with the man about it after. Any women with a basic understanding of RPW wouldn’t do that. They would just vet the man out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 12:47 AM
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It’s not like you have no intention to do it. If he says yes, you have to pay!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 04:58 PM
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I think in this day and age it is important you pretend to want to pay your half. At this point, it’s just good manners. I imagine it makes the man feel like a hero. He gets to say “no, no, no. Of course not! I’ll get it.” While you express your gratitude. None of that really happens when you just sit there, acting like it’s his obligation and it would be a bad thing if he didn’t pay (even though it is): This will also help you rule out the scrubs pretty quickly. If you offer to pay and they tak…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 04:10 PM
2

I think that will solve your problem more than anything else will!
/r/RedPillWives24/11/22 12:04 AM
2

Are you able to change careers or scale back your workload?
/r/RedPillWives19/11/22 10:17 PM
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Just because they is a reason for the way you act, doesn’t mean you should act that way. I get your sentiment, but the first step to self-awareness is understand how others view certain actions. If you emasculate and belittle your husband in public people will be cringing. It’s a normal reaction.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 03:22 PM
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Losing weight is all about what you put in your mouth. You don’t have to go to the gym and all to slim down. Just count calories.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 03:50 PM
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First off, nothing wrong with staying a virgin if you are a girl. I don’t think your future husband will care. Secondly, you can’t say you find no one around you attractive while also saying you don’t have high standards. Those are contradicting statements. Nothing wrong with having high standards, especially when you are 22. But just because you are attractive and high value now doesn’t mean you will always be that way. If you still haven’t found anyone in 5+ years I would adjust them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 01:49 PM
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Body count does matter, however, a husband should never speak to his wife like this.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 03:21 AM
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Maybe your husband might appreciate ordering a pizza, leaving the house a bit messy and just spending time together? Rather than you running yourself ragged doing 2-3 hours of extra work everyday. I firmly believe in love languages. I remember one birthday I had where my husband and I had some tension. He spent a lot of money on gifts and things and I think he thought I didn’t appreciate it. The gifts were nice but I would give up any gift in lieu of his undivided attention. That’s what I wanted…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 01:11 AM
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You mentioned in your first sentence that she is digging into other peoples lives and not focusing on her own… is that not exactly what you are doing? Worry about your own wife roles, let her be. If she asks you for advice send her some redpill literature. Let people live their own lives, make their own mistakes, and ultimately face their own consequences.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/22 08:59 PM
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I am surprised at all the people saying no. I think it is very important to own up to your mistakes. It get things off your chest and will help with your serenity. I would write everything you feel now in a letter, wait a few months, and then send it to him. He probably doesn’t want your apology right now so I would wait longer. If you do chose to reach out to him, be prepared for him to not accept. Be prepared for him to challenge your apology and throw more of your bad behaviour back in your f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 05:58 PM
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That’s a good point. But I think most women know deep down that it doesn’t make them feel good and still choose to encourage others to do it with them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:59 PM
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Why do you think it’s rude of him to want to know about your past? Isn’t this a reasonable part of the vetting process? Not judging, just curious at your point of view.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:48 PM
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Absolutely, and I think the most insidious thing women do is tell other women that is doesn’t matter. I see “A real man wouldn’t care!” or “he will never know” all over other woman’s subs and it’s just not true. He might be willing to accept a few previous partners because that’s pretty much the lowest option now a days - but almost no man wants a woman that’s been intimate with lots of people. He might put up with it if he really likes you, but deep down he’s not happy with it. I think most wom…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:28 PM
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Family and the man would have intense societal pressure to continue to provide even while he was kicked out of the house. He would be shunned by friends/neighbours and considered not a man if he didn’t. Maybe you should rethink the men you hang around with? A big part of what makes this work is vet vet vet like crazy. Fascinating womanhood will help you create a wonderful marriage with a good man, but if he’s not a good man it’s a recipe for being abused. OP’a husband is a prime example of that …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:55 PM
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The book was written decades ago. Back then, a woman who divorced due to infidelity probably would have gotten significant alimony? I generally live by its principles but I do take it with a grain of salt. No education or job are two rules I do not follow (mainly because who can afford that now-a-days?).
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:06 PM
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I believe even fascinating womanhood says to leave a man who is cheating on you. I understand the desire to stay married, and I completely see why you forgave him and stayed. That’s if it’s a one time mistake though. Now, he is showing you that he does not want to change and does not value you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 07:36 PM
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At first I thought “she can’t be serious with this?” And then I read that you were spectrum and it made more sense. Some girls choose to act like this while they are young and high value - just because they can. No, I don’t think it’s ever okay to treat someone poorly. Man or woman, partner or enemy. It doesn’t matter.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 11:04 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. When men find the one, they don’t hold back or have doubts. They don’t let anything stand in their way. If he’s talking like this, there is at least a part of him that thinks he will find better. Let him go, move on. If he truly wants you he will realize what he lost and come back.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 04:45 PM
1

A tree with blood coming out? Not my cup of tea.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 01:28 AM
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They will probably NOT be found on dating apps or out at the club. I think the best way to meet RPW is to meet through mutual friends. Speaking for myself, I am very weary of the type of men who cold approach women. I would be polite, but would never date him. I do not want to associate with the type of man who would do that sort of thing. However, if he was introduced to me at a friends party or something it would be more acceptable. I met my amazing husband this way.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 12:43 AM
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If you aren’t interested in having kids yourself, maybe go for an much older successful guy (50-60 range)? It would be socially unacceptable for a man that age to date a 20 something, but 30 something isn’t so bad. For a guy like that, YOU would be the hot young thing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 02:21 PM
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I imagine most quality single men in their 30’s (who don’t have kids) will be trying to date in the 24 and up range. This gives them a much larger dating pool. As a 30+ woman, you have a much smaller dating pool. Just a redpill reality. Woman’s value is mostly on looks and age, not profession. Most men will want a hot 24 year old secretary over an accomplished 35 year old doctor. If I were you, I would consider single dads. If they have had a rocky divorce, they would probably really appreciate …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 12:50 PM
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I think men sometimes misunderstand female hobbies. Thats because our hobbies are not usually seen as hobbies. I see going out for coffee or watching drama shows as a hobby. I watch YouTube videos about fan theories just like my husband watches YouTube videos about mechanics. I research the best latte spots and go their to chat with friends just like men go to the shooting range. If nothing interests you, chances are you already have a female hobby that you didn’t know was a hobby. Edit: Do you …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 04:02 AM
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Ok, thank you for the advice. I just bought something nice to wear for him, so I hope he likes it!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/22 10:05 PM
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I don’t know much about the whole CEO thing, but in my experience parents can tell when you have genuine love and respect for their child. If you truly love her son, I’m sure she would rather you be with him then have some high powered woman who doesn’t love him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 08:31 PM
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I am very satisfied with our sex life, and I hope he is too. I think the biggest thing I learned from this post is that I should just talk to him about it, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I appreciate your comment, especially the practical tips. I will take a look at that article.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 06:02 PM
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I’m used to him taking the lead so this might be hard for me. Not sure how to go about it. I think I will try asking him exactly what he wants from me, things like that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 05:43 PM
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What could I be doing? Talking more? I usually grind back against him, but I can’t really think of anything else to do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 04:51 PM
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Thank you for the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 04:14 PM
5

Thank you, I will try this!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:57 PM
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Only twice. I did end up enjoying the feeling after a while, but I am always worried that there might be a mess. He does like to use his thumb there during sex.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:57 PM
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What types of things could I say during dirty talk?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:28 PM
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Yes! I almost always give him oral first, but it’s never long before he’s flipping me over to get into sex. Maybe my ability to give oral sex is lacking. I think you are probably right with if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. I might be over thinking this.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:10 PM
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This is a great idea! I am shy about talking about it, but this seems like an easy way to start. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:07 PM
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I think it is definitely because he likes to look at my butt for sure. I’m less worried about that, more wondering what I should do while I’m down there?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 02:20 PM
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How are the alarm bells not ringing?! Lol. An occasional exaggeration to show off for a girl you like is one thing, but god damn. He is habitually lying to you. These are just the ones you have picked up on. It might seem cute now, but he’s proven he has questionable character. The lies will seem less cute when you are married with kids. This is your chance to VET go find a good man. Don’t waste it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 11:56 PM
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I chose to go into teaching for this reason. It is the perfect career if your aim is to have a family. I will end up having the same hours as my school aged children, and I think it will help me be a better mum. Teaching may be a lot of school, but an education assistant or school secretary is similar and less school!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 08:04 PM
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Read fascinating womanhood, surrender wife and then empowered wife. Apply them to your life and your life will improve. All I see in you post is negatives about your husband. What about you? What could you do differently? You can’t change how he acts, but you can change how YOU act.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 02:43 AM
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All you can do now is come off as dignified and level headed as possible. -DO NOT accuse him of making you a plate. -do not get mad at him in anyway. -do not try and negotiate your way into more commitment. -keep your goodbye short and simple. -be prepared for him to ask you questions, again keep your answers happy, vague and simple. I know it may hurt, but in reality this guy did nothing wrong. He was honest with you the whole time. This is the risk people run when they chose to date without co…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 03:50 PM
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I think this is partly misunderstood. Women do want a man who other women want, BUT they want that man to be uninterested in those options. She wants you to ignore those other options for her. Women don’t want someone who has sex with or even flirts with someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 12:01 AM
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For me personally, the answer is no. I would never want to marry someone who “spins plates” or thinks women are always looking to branch swing. A lot of it is manipulative as well. I’m not interested in someone who is going to try and apply “dread” to make me insecure. My husband is not red pill and he is the greatest man I have ever met. He cares for me and treats me with respect. The reason I use RPW advice is to try and love him the way men want to be loved.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 02:28 PM
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That’s simply untrue. Many women have short husbands, short children, or are born from short fathers. The idea that they want them gone is ridiculous. That would be like saying men would delete all overweight women, when in reality plenty of men will settle for someone out of shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:12 PM
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It’s not to late to try. I wouldn’t just decide 35 is the age and if you didn’t make it then you stop trying. If you did that, I would imagine when you are 55, you will be regretful like you are now. You have realized the type of life you want, so try and live it!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 01:12 PM
1

Excellent advice, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 01:19 PM
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I think this is a key factor. Not only is he tired from night shift but he’s over worked in general as he works long hours at an incredibly stressful job. My rational mind knows that’s why he’s doing these little things, hence why I’m trying to regulate my emotional mind. But it’s hard.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 01:19 PM
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I must not have been clear enough in my post. He didn’t force himself to wake up early, he just woke up naturally. He decided to go out and about and ending up getting McDonald’s as a treat. I was surprised to see him pulling up in the driveway as he would normally be asleep for at least another hour. I was headed home to start cooking dinner for us. I cook dinner and pack his lunches every day. Part of why I was upset was the fact that I would now be cooking for just me. Had he brought somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 01:15 PM
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I must not have been clear enough in my post. He didn’t force himself to wake up early, he just woke up naturally. He decided to go out and about and ending up getting McDonald’s as a treat. I was surprised to see him pulling up in the driveway as he would normally be asleep for at least another hour. I was headed home to start cooking dinner for us. I cook dinner and pack his lunches every day.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 01:14 PM
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I would never want to be with a “red pill man”. Men who are interested in the red pill are usually bitter or misogynistic or both. I know it’s hypocritical as I use feminine red pill strategies in my own relationship, but I take the red pill advice with a grain of salt. All I have every wanted was to be able to love and care for my partner. RPW taught me the best way to do that. It did not teach me to exploit people for things, which is what primarily goes on in that subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 08:15 PM
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That’s below average. I see average men out with their average girlfriends/wives/families all the time. I think the big differences is that the average man will have to provide time and commitment, not just get hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:38 AM
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That’s a good point, I didn’t even think of race.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:35 AM
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My guess would be connecting with 1- 5 women before settling down and getting married. Most or all of those women would be commuted relationships. If he has game he could score hook ups with less attractive women pushing his numbers up. Edit: I guess the most important thing is what do we define as an average man? I’m going by average build (not fat/not skinny), average height (5’6- 5’10), normal face (nothing special, but no deformities), normal job (able to afford rent, car and some savings), …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:18 AM
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I don’t know your exact situation, but if I was him I would be concerned about your loyalty/interest as well. You spent a length of time being without him and have bailed on him multiple times. If you truly do want to be with him (I would really, really think if you actually do or not) follow the red pill guidelines. Make him more of a priority in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:58 PM
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The most glaring thing about this is the lack of desire to actually see each other, on both ends. Didn’t talk to him at all for a while and you are both bailing on meet ups. From the short post, it seems like you don’t truly feel connected. I remember when my husband and I were first dating. He worked 12 hours + and I worked very early in the morning (5:00am) but I would still stay up late to go on dates with him that went past midnight because that was the only time we could see eachother. I’m …
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:15 PM
1

Calorie deficit is the only true way to lose weight. Most advice is just various ways to help get yourself in a calorie deficit. The most efficient way to do it is to find out how many calories you need to be in a deficit and meticulously track what you eat to ensure you are in a deficit. The good news is you will have a higher amount you can eat because you are breast feeding! To prevent binge eating, remind yourself of your goals frequently and remove trigger foods. Follow sub reddits that wil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 04:39 AM
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Read fascinating womanhood and surrendered wife. Sounds like you both have said some hurtful things (especially about his penis, yikes), but overall it is nothing that can’t be undone. He is the father of your child, so you can’t really vet him out of your life now. If you follow red pill standards it is in your best interest to turn this around.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 09:57 PM
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I don’t actually know you, so take everything I say with a grain of salt. Whenever someone uses words like narcissist, abusive, etc to describe their previous relationships it is a red flag imo. These are INCREDIBLY STRONG WORDS that should not be thrown around. In your post, everyone else has these extremely negative traits while you yourself are the nicest, best person ever. I would be willing to bet that you are lacking self awareness and are not of big as a catch as you think you are. You me…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 03:08 PM
14

If you are looking for a life partner, someone to marry and settle down with, you need to vet extremely carefully. If you were already married or had kids there are a million different ways you could try and work this out. However, you are still in the vetting stage. So I would walk away. You want a partner in life who has the same dreams as you do. A spouse, a family. This is not his dream, in fact, he’s afraid of it. If you marry him he will always think about the grass being greener on the ot…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 06:26 PM
1

The high n-count isn’t great but it’s not necessarily relationship ending. But she basically slept with a man for money? That is the red flag for me. Unfortunately, society and media tell women that this type of behaviour is good and will make them happy. Is it possible she does have moral character and just got swept up in that? I’m not a man, but if I were I would judge it by how she views it now. Is she proud of her past? Does she laugh about it? Or does she recognize that is was wrong and ma…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 04:19 AM
0

It’s not that I am lonely, just that I have no one to talk to. I feel like I am expected to be happy and caring for others 247. I love the idea of making older friends, but it seems unkind to do so for selfish reasons? Idk.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 03:08 AM
5

This is the logical answer that I didn’t want to hear haha. I know this is what I should do, but I have felt nervous about it for some reason. Seeing all these responses, I’ll give it a go.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 07:33 PM
1

I mean it depends. 23/24 years old and you have already dated for a few years? Nothing wrong with that. 19/20 have only been dating for a year or two… yikes. In my opinion, it’s better to wait until you are mid twenties to get married. People change so much on those years that you are just asking for trouble by getting married that young or that quick. People will say “oh I got married at (insert young age) and we have the best marriage, been married for so many years etc, etc.” These people are…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 08:48 PM
26

Can we also look at banning people who are always posting feminist or feminist-lite comments? There are so many “just break up with him” type comments. Then I look at their post history and they were a part of FDS.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 02:51 PM
4

If you don’t mind sharing, what does this look like to you?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 06:07 AM
33

This is good advice. Body count is huge, I feel so sad for women who get persuaded into thinking it doesn’t matter. I like how you brought up the idea of money achieved through luck as not being high value. I remember back when I I went on a few dates with a man who was in finance. He was already making about 80k and was only 25. But I could tell he didn’t have any true ambition or work ethic. He was just naturally good with numbers and got lucky with the job market. He was also incredibly sting…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 08:09 PM
1

I can only imagine what you are going through. This is so awful. I hope you are doing well, and have people around you to support you? How long have you been together for?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 02:40 PM
2

I agree with this. Read fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 05:33 PM
3

I have the same problem. It can be very devastating.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 02:51 PM
3

If I were you I would say “sex is really important to me. It’s not something I would do willy-nilly. I like to really know someone before I have sex with them.”
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 11:36 PM
2

Absolutely. I am thankful that my fiancé does this naturally. He is friends with my girlfriends, and that’s about it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 02:30 PM
41

I have great relationships with my male friends BUT they are either: My female friends boyfriends/husbands My husbands male friends Blood related to me I would never have a close relationship to any other male. Passing acquaintance? Sure. But anything else is disrespectful to MY partner (imo).
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 07:57 AM
7

Idk… I think this is a balancing act. Unless there is a valid reason, I don’t think anybody should sit around and wait for years on end. My VALID reasons are: - the couple is too young (under 25?) - financial issues - recent family death - less than two years in the relationship so they are still vetting. Other than this - if he wanted to he would! If you’re getting older don’t sit around and wait for him to decide if he loved you enough. If a man feels the need to vet you for a decade, there is…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 01:48 PM
4

Don’t give him an ultimatum. Just leave him. You don’t respect him, an ultimatum won’t help anything.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 11:26 PM
3

Read fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWives01/01/22 08:05 PM
2

It sounds like you feel bad, so give him a sincere apology. Criticizing his attempt to help for not being exactly how you want it is almost like getting upset that a gift he bought you wasn’t the exact gift you wanted. It’s an unkind thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/21 07:07 PM
-10

If you think this is bad advice you are on the wrong sub.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 03:41 PM
3

I don’t care about living frugal be he does… that’s the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 01:41 AM
5

Does anyone else have a husband who wants them to work? I am fine with working now, but would ideally like to stay at home once I have kids. I already feel what is described in this chapter (guilty about neglecting home life when I’m at work, guilty about neglecting work when I am at home) and I don’t even have kids at home yet. My husband would like to have two incomes to assure we can properly take care of our family and have money to enjoy things. To be fair, in this day and age you almost ne…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 10:18 PM
12

I wouldn’t say “saved” my relationship (because it wasn’t in trouble), but these principles have definitely perfected it! One thing that people may not realize is these principles can’t change fatal flaws in relationships, they can only fix minor ones. Fascinating womanhood taught me how to be a better partner. It help me realize what I was doing was actually hurtful, even though I did not mean it that way. With that being said, it is not going to magically take away irreconcilable differences o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 11:08 PM
-3

I get what you are saying, but it would be nice to have a place where we can post and not have to justify everything all the time. Also, when I make a post on here I want RPW advice, and I don’t want to have to weed through feminist advice on an anti feminist sub. Purple pill debate is the sub that is made for arguing. That’s not what this issue is for.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 10:02 PM
-5

I don’t agree that red pill women is a “hate sub” but I wish our sub would do this. Why are we allowing people who post in blue pill or fds to post here?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 05:05 PM
2

Thank you for pointing this out. I tried to fight the feminism that was lurking on this sub last year. Was not nearly as bad back then as it is now. I reported every feminist comment/post until I just got tired of trying. I haven’t looked on this sub in months and of course this is the first post I find lol. It’s really disappointing that this is happening, I wish the mods would do more. They should ban people who also follow FDS or r/feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 11:21 PM
1

Like another comment said, he needs to admit he has a problem and be on board with whatever you decide your boundaries are. If I were you, I would only stay with him if he agreed to get professional help. Then, I would have a solid financial plan if you get married (maybe he agrees that you will put money into an account he can’t access, stuff like that).
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 04:56 AM
3

If you met on this sub won’t he see this post?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 03:03 AM
105

It is becoming more mainstream to support sex workers, not BE them. Huge difference. There is a reason why girls (like Bella throne, for example) are vocal about supporting sex workers - but then do things like creating an only fans where they never get naked. Most people are just advocating for a world where sex workers aren’t completely demonized, that’s a far cry from thinking it’s a normal profession now. A huge part of this “support but not do” comes from the fact that majority of society, …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:41 PM
6

From my understanding “the wall” is the decline of a woman’s looks. When someone has hit “the wall” it means they have lost a lot of the attractiveness they once had. If you are going by this definition the wall comes for everyone. Even if you don’t want to have kids, you will still eventually lose the attractiveness you once had. You can stall the wall, but you can’t stop the wall. Wether it comes at 26 or 66, it will happen eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 04:44 AM
5

They do that to you because you will put up with it. Just don’t put up with it anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 02:39 PM
6

No really related to you post, but is French really dying in Canada? I live in western Canada and we don’t hear much about what goes on in Quebec. How is this happening? Are French families just not teaching their kids French? Or do they use English more day-to-day?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 07:54 PM
3

I loved FW and The Secrets of FW (which is basically like FW fan fiction).
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 10:52 AM
36

I’m a bit confused. Are you overexerting yourself going into detail trying to convince the guy he should pay? While you are already on the date with him? If that’s the case that is just bad manners. If paying for the date is important to you that’s fine - but don’t try and persuade them into it! If the guy doesn’t pay for your half, just don’t go on a second date with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 02:21 PM
2

Thanks, you too!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:22 PM
7

Again, I take things like STFU with a grain of salt. If it’s an actual import issue I would address it, but I’ve found being negative about minuscule things is hard on the relationship, and ends up making both parties unhappy. I’m sure different people have different relationship dynamics, I just find this works best for me. I am happy making other people happy, I always have been that way. After finding RPW, I am happier and am in the best relationship of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:22 PM
12

RPW always gets hate but it really helped me make my relationship 100 times better. RPW helped show me how to communicate and be a better GF. I never realized how the things I was saying/doing might have been perceived. I don’t follow it religiously, and I take everything with a grain of salt. It’s not the best if you are trying to find a man, but great if trying to improve a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 03:13 PM
1

I think all adults, regardless of literacy and education level should be able to vote. But I do think there should be some kind of informed consent regarding for who they are voting for. Something along the lines a short video outlining each parties values/goals shown right before voting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 12:58 AM
1

If this is real, it’s horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 12:24 AM
3

The lie that you can have a high n-count and it doesn’t matter is a brutal one. I feel so bad for young women who fall into this trap. No normal man likes that his partner has a high n-count. He may put up with it, but he doesn’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:20 PM
1

It sounds like your biggest issues are he is reluctant to spend time/effort on you. Try asking yourself what you might be doing to make this happen. It could simple be that you make double what he makes and it bothers him, or it could be other issues. It sounds like you might be negging him about housework until you end up doing it yourself. That probably makes home feel terrible and guilty. It sounds like you also make him feel guilty by his lack of enthusiasm to go out on adventures. He probab…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/20 01:00 AM
5

I’m not 100 percent sure what you mean, but My advice would be to vet better? The reality of today is that everyone has their phone with them all the time. Unless you’reasleep or way out in the woods you’ll get texts. Even if you can’t be on your phone at work, you still get a break through the day. There is almost no reason why someone should take hours to text you back. Things happen, but if he does the repeatedly there is no excuse. If he’s ignoring your messages for hours, he is either: Play…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 07:23 PM
15

I’m the same way. I used to think I was the problem until I met my boyfriend. Find a guy who’s actually really into communicating with you and all your problems are gone.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 01:42 PM
8

If I were you, this is what I would do. Get a career that is still family orientated. That way you can be independent if you must, but you can also contribute a good second income while still caring for your family. Teaching is probably the best job a family oriented women can have because you will work the same hours as your children (I’m a teacher so I’m bias haha), but there are plenty of other jobs that fit this description. While you are working on your career/education go into nun mode. Da…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 03:52 PM
82

For some odd reason I admire the high N-count or older women who still try and understand the red pill. It’s an easier pill to swallow when you are young and have a low-n count because you know your smv is still high. It would easy for high n-count women to pretend like no one cares about n-count and keep making the same mistakes over and over. I see this kind of denial on reddit all the time. But instead they try and change for the better. I think that’s awesome. High N-count women should still…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 03:38 AM
2

I was on birth control for years and now that I’m off it I feel like I get crazy PMS. Tracking my period and being aware of why my emotions are going haywire helps me cope.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 02:59 PM
6

Being the Monica doesn’t seem great right now. But wait, in a few years people will start seeing the value.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 03:33 PM
2

Good point!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 10:08 PM
4

I will never understand why red pill advises guys not to text unless you are organizing a meetup. I used to date a guy who ignored my texts like this and it sucked. I thought all guys were like that so I put up with it. So happy I met my current boyfriend who was all about communicating. The reality now-a-days is that everyone always has their phone on them. Unless he is sleeping or is not aloud his phone at work, he’s seen your message. What to consider now is, why hasn’t he replied? He could b…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 09:15 PM
1

Awe thank you so much! You are too kind.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 02:25 AM
1

Thanks for the advice but I updated hours ago haha
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 02:24 AM
2

Things turned out well anyways, but I love this advice! Will keep this in my back pocket. Thank you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:19 PM
3

Thank you for commenting, but I don’t really feel like this fits with my situation (might even be borderline feminism). Part of what I have learned on my RP journey is to not nitpick, accept him for his flaws, and look to his good qualities instead. I don’t think a bit of swearing and sarcasm in a nightmare situation is worth picking a fight over. But I sincerely appreciate you taking time out of your day to comment! (Also love your username)
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:17 PM
7

Thank you, this is really thoughtful. Should I plan to be home when he gets home, or give him extra space? It wouldn’t be unusual for me to be out and about on a Friday.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:41 PM
8

Nothing too crazy, just swearing and other stuff like that. I said he shouldn’t be so hard on himself, and he sarcastically replied with something like, “gee that’s really helpful right now”. Writing it out makes it seem like it was nothing, but it’s drastically different from how loving and sweet he usually is.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:38 PM
11

What do you mean by leaving? Long distance or divorce?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 09:03 PM
3

There is a lot of helpful, realistic advice on this sub. Or there is good vibes and reassurance on r/datingoverthirty. Nothing wrong with a good mix of both.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 11:16 PM
16

Feminists lurk around here, either just downvoting or actually commenting. Just report any clearly feminist stuff and the mods are good about removing it. Feminism is against the subs rules.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 09:03 PM
93

It’s tragic that girls are told they can have a lot of sexual partners and their future husbands won’t care. This is so false. They may put up with it, but most of them do care. I see so many reddit posts of women realizing too late that they shouldn’t have slept around. The comments are always filled with women saying that numbers don’t matter and the man is just insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 03:16 AM
3

I think this is above our pay grade. Maybe it would seek help from someone who can really get to know you and your wants/needs. It sounds like you work really hard on the success of you personal and professional life. I really hope you get all the support you need❤️.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 07:06 PM
2

Yeah I’m sure that would hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 08:16 PM
1

Men can get shamed for not being good enough providers the same way women can get shamed for not being good enough mothers. It might not even be coming from his partner, it could be parents, in-laws, his friends, who knows. Little comments might be getting under his skin. I feel bad for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 08:13 PM
0

My biggest pet peeve about reddit is that everyone’s solution to relationship problems is to break up. This sub is better than most about that though.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 05:56 AM
3

That’s awesome. It sucks waiting for these things to happen, but it’s better to be patient and settle down with a great man at an older age then to get stuck with a bad one because you were eager.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:24 PM
1

Take this time being single to make yourself the best partner you can be. This will make your single time meaningful, so when you find a future husband you will have a lot to offer. Save money, work hard on yourself, maybe even get education in a career field that is family orientated (I chose teaching because it’s great hours for having a family, helps you learn parenting skills and is a solid second income). That way when you do settle down your single time won’t be a wasted.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:19 PM
14

That’s his only source of income or just something he does on the side? Does he have aspirations to change or any other career objectives?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 05:26 AM
6

It’s pretty hard to not be seen as feminine for women, but it’s easy to not be seen as masculine for men. Since masculinity has to be earned, it can be fragile. Men want to date shorter, smaller women because they don’t want their partner to challenge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 05:09 PM
1

I disagree. I think he pointed out a couple of examples of someone giving off that vibe. Sorry, I just don’t see how you are missing that point. He’s clearly saying that there are valid reason to not drink (even states that calories can be a valid reason), just don’t be smug about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 08:05 PM
1

I think you are missing his point. Nothing wrong with politely saying you don’t drink. It’s the people that give off the “holier than thou” vibe when they do it. Nobody wants to have someone judging them when they are trying to have a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 04:01 PM
3

No. The same way you can’t blame women for being uncomfortable. It’s all just biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 08:19 PM
2

It’s not like you actually think they will, it’s just knowing that there isn’t much you can do. It’s kind of like seeing a bear across the river. You know nothing will happen, but it’s still nerve wracking. I’m also talking about full on staring, not just a quick glance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 08:09 PM
2

This is why. In the back of your head you know there isn’t much you can do if they try something.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:40 PM
1

I don’t know. I asked them if I could bring my roommate and they said yes, so I assume they would let anyone really. It’s just more the fact that they put “spouses only” on the invitations shows that people don’t really take LTRs seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:45 AM
0

“The wall” is a weird concept but it’s has truth to it. If you work really hard on your looks you can avoid it for longer but eventually everyone ages out and becomes much less attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 12:20 AM
5

Yes! Fascinating womanhood says to focus on the admirable qualities instead of fixating on the less desirable traits. Like if your annoyed he won’t take out the trash, try and remember all the other things he does for you.
/r/RedPillWives12/07/20 09:00 PM
1

I think it depends on age? Younger people (18-20) definitely rely on dating apps or being introduced by mutual friends. I did a volunteer project with a lot of younger people. It was clear this 19 year old guy liked this girl. He wouldn’t ask her out irl but was swiping trying to match with her on tinder. Very strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 08:58 PM
41

Focus on the quality of your relationship with your husband. Physical upkeep is important, but make sure the relationship is centred on more than just attraction. The harsh truth is that we only get older.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 07:41 PM
12

I feel like most people my age, income, and area want marriage because secure financial partner. By having a spouse you have greatly increased your home-buying power. You could do this with a LTR but there is more security in combining finances while married. Married privilege. This is more subtle, but it’s still there. Most people (employers, landlords, salesmen, you name it) take you and your relationship more seriously when you are married. Being married just makes you feel like an adult. Las…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 03:04 AM
15

Bare minimum: basic empathy/manners (not an asshole) financial literacy (lives within his means) desire to commit My boyfriends meets all this and much more. could not be any happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 10:59 PM
3

Then why chose a title that says “a few months”? I want to believe you, but it’s hard. Why put month in the title? It seems like you are changing it to deflect backlash.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 04:53 PM
2

Just want to clarify, after the backlash, are you trying at claim the title was a typo?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 04:44 PM
2

My theory: a lot of men seek admiration, and use sex as a way to get it. A woman wanting to have sex with you means she must like/respect you on some level. Having sex with her gives you feelings of validation AND sexual pleasure. Having sex with someone you are paying is just pleasure, no admiration. That’s why rich/successful men love prostitutes. They already feel validated in real life and just want quick easy sexual pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 04:01 PM
3

I have close male friends. But they are either my boyfriends close friends, or they are dating my close female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 05:08 PM
5

I think for majority of women absolutely not.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/20 07:49 PM
1

No. But I have accepted a free drink from someone I was not interested in. Mainly because I didn’t know how to say no without making it awkward for the group. Still, not a great thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 08:32 PM
1

To each, there own. I can’t even count all the ways it’s improved my life, but I also look at it through a critical lens. To be fair though, if you hate what it stands for, this might not be the subreddit for you?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 06:35 PM
3

I read fascinating womanhood and the tips on phrasing seem small but go a long way. Like instead of saying “You should do it this way” say things like, “Have you considered doing it this way?” Seems so small, but phrasing is very important.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 09:19 PM
2

I have dated conventionally unattractive people, but they have always been attractive to me. I think when I fall for someone they will be attractive to me no matter what they actually look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 03:59 PM
3

Western Canada (which can be like the Canadian Bible Belt I suppose)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:11 PM
2

Haha I doubt we live in the same country
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 09:59 PM
11

Maybe I grew up too Christian, or live in too small of a town, but this description is most girls I know. Hardly seems like a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:11 PM
2

You don’t think women like men with high n counts? Or you think men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 04:29 AM
3

This is a thing that women find desirable in men, but men don’t find desirable in women. Women like it when men have lots of partners but choose to take it slow with their girlfriend. I’m guessing it’s because it shows he’s high value. Men do NOT see it that way when roles are reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 04:14 AM
1

I am a little confused by your comment but I think you are still talking about misleading women. I’m not saying he should pretend to want to commit to her ever, he’s making it clear by saying he doesn’t want a relationship, or doesn’t want anything serious. But and least try and make being casual fun and appealing. There are a lot of women who like having causal sex but don’t want to do it with someone who views them as an interchangeable object. Yes, casual sex takes them away from men who woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 04:58 PM
2

Of course they would know it’s a code for just sex, the whole point is to not be misleading. It’s just a hell of a lot more polite/enticing when it’s said that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 04:43 PM
1

How exactly do you do your “upfront” approach? Do you just straight up say I’m only looking for sex? No girl will want to hear something that blunt. It will make her feel like you don’t care about her personality at all. As cringey as it is, girls want to feel special even if it’s just sex. Have you tried saying something like “just looking to spend time with you, nothing serious...” or “I’m not ready for a relationship right now but I’d love to still to get to know you”? That lets them know you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 04:13 PM
3

I’ve never used bumble but my boyfriend is 5”7. I understand when girls don’t want to date shorter, but if your 5”3 (like me) why do you care? Makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 01:22 AM
5

If you pressure someone to marry you, that’s a recipe for unhappiness for both parties. Let him make the decision on when he wants to ask. Don’t you want him to be so sure he wants you that he’s excited to propose? Isn’t that a million times better then him begrudgingly getting down on one knee because you pressured him to do it by a certain time? Let him make the choice without any pressure. That way, if years down the road things get hard, he will know it was his choice to get married and not …
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 04:47 PM
6

I haven’t encountered too many male Karen’s but oh man... male Karen’s are the WORST Karen’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 10:12 PM
1

You’re lucky to have only met 1-2 Karen’s in your life. I work as a teacher by day, waitress by night. I meet about 1-2 Karen’s a day. I think it just depends on your line of employment, because Karen’s are only rude to people who they think they can get a way with it with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 09:29 PM
11

I’m not sure. Does it really change anything, besides finances?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 10:48 PM
20

Is it possible that a lot of these people are still staying in LTR’s, just not marrying?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 10:35 PM
5

Again, depends on age. At 32, absolutely no way you should be dating for 4 years. At 19, I think it’s perfectly reasonable. It’s better to take your time. Once you pass the 25 mark is when I would say it becomes unreasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 05:16 PM
10

Yes be careful who you date. There is nothing wrong with staying single and working on yourself. There is also nothing wrong being in a LTR for a number of years before getting married. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years, and everyone tells us that being together along time before you get married will help you stay married. I sure hope that’s true!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 05:04 PM
16

I don’t know about your country specifically, but the prime age for marriage is usually seen as somewhere around 25-27 for women. At 19, it’s not crazy to wait years for these milestones to happen because you are well below the prime age. If you were in your 30s, it’s not crazy to have milestones happen much faster, because you are already above prime age. You’re only 19, so I wouldn’t be worried about timing!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:53 PM
15

Age is an important factor here. How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:37 PM
5

Yes absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 03:57 PM
7

No one is entitled to a sex act. It sounds like he’s avoiding it because it makes him uncomfortable. I would just ask him if that’s the case. Doesn’t matter the situation or the gender, no one should feel pressured to do something sexually that they don’t want to do. If you like going down on him that’s great! But that doesn’t mean he’s obligated to do the same.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 03:37 PM
1

A lot of people at r/rapekink agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 03:14 PM
1

Thanks! After reading all these comments I realized I may have done OLD wrong anyway. Hopefully I won’t ever have to do it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 08:19 PM
1

I was on it to find a LTR, and you really only need one good date to do that. I ended up meeting my boyfriend IRL anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 08:11 PM
3

That’s the truth right there. Unfortunately in life, you can’t have it all. Having children is a sacrifice, having no one around when your old is a sacrifice. You have to pick which one is right for you. And it is important to wake up and realize that you can’t have it all. People think that they can not have kids and their nieces/nephews/friends will care for them but they won’t. People think you can have kids and still live the life of a single twenty-something but you can’t. These realities a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 05:45 PM
1

It’s all good, it’s a huge decision so it’s important to debate both sides. I disagree that fostering friendships will lead to people caring when your older, unless you manage to foster relationships with much younger people. The harsh truth is that your friends will get old as well and have their own health/mobility issues (or may even pass away before you). Like my nana, if she had not had children she would be left with one living relative who is already in a home. Your distant relatives and/…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 04:43 PM
2

Haha please text your grandma! I guarantee she misses you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 04:12 PM
5

I’m not saying all women should have children by any means, but if you are on the fence about it, these are the things you should think about. Also just having children doesn’t guarantee that people will care for you or even visit you as you age. You have to foster healthy, loving, family orientated relationships with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 03:58 PM
12

I hate to agree with this but it’s true. I’m currently taking care of my 96 year old grandma. She has seven kids and god knows how many grandchildren, great grandchildren and even two great-great grandchildren. She still lives in her own home and is doing great for being 96. Her children make a schedule so she always has a family member taking care of her and will never be in a home. Meanwhile, her sister -who had no children- has been in a home since she was 82. Rarely gets any visitors. The ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 03:02 PM
1

I hate to agree with this but it’s true. I’m currently taking care of my 96 year old grandma. She has seven kids and god knows how many grandchildren, great grandchildren and even two great-great grandchildren. She still lives in her own home and is doing great for being 96. Her children make a schedule so she always has a family member taking care of her and will never be in a home. Meanwhile, her sister -who had no children- has been in a home since she was 82. Rarely gets any visitors. The ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 03:02 PM
1

I hate to agree with this but it’s true. I’m currently taking care of my 96 year old grandma. She has seven kids and god knows how many grandchildren, great grandchildren and even two great-great grandchildren. She still lives in her own home and is doing great for being 96. Her children make a schedule so she always has a family member taking care of her and will never be in a home. Meanwhile, her sister -who had no children- has been in a home since she was 82. Rarely gets any visitors. The ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 03:02 PM
1

I am a teacher and I am about to start a masters in counselling. Relationships are a big part of what I do professionally, and I care deeply about fostering positive relationships in my personal life as well. I guess I spend a lot of time on things like this both IRL and online because I see it as a hobby that helps my everyday life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 08:39 PM
1

My first boyfriend was working minimum wage while I was going to university and making insane tips at my serving job. I was always paying and drove him around constantly because he didn’t have a license. I didn’t care because I truly loved him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 06:56 PM
3

From what I’ve gathered both online and talking to people irl, “CC rider” or “slut” usually applies to sexual partners in the double digits (so 10+). Not saying it’s fair or makes any sense, but most people see double digits as the turning point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 03:08 AM
2

I think this is above our pay grade. Talking with a professional will help you work through your traumatic experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 08:22 PM
5

I guess I can’t know for sure if he lied because I didn’t put him on the spot. He looked absolutely terrified when I told him that I also spoke Japanese and then quickly tried to change the subject. I took that as he was probably fibbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 04:32 PM
2

That was hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 03:21 AM
5

Yeah I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 08:16 PM
22

I honestly don’t feel the need to call people out on that sort of thing. It would have made everything awkward, so I just let him change the subject. The rest of the date was actually pretty fun but I ghosted him again after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 07:53 PM
73

A date claimed he knew how to speak five languages, including Japanese. I remember excitedly telling him I had taken two years of Japanese and had recently returned from a two month field course/home stay in Uji, Japan. I really wanted someone to practice with. I have never seen a man look so scared in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 07:07 PM
5

That’s a fair point. I just don’t have the time or desire to go on a bunch of dates. If I’m going to invest the time to meet someone in person, I have to already know a bit about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 05:16 AM
16

Not sure if I can speak for all ladies on this but one thing that would scare me off would be the guy asking to meet too soon, or being to aggressive about meeting. I would want to know a bit about what the person is like before I meet them because; 1. Its already scary meeting a stranger when you know little about them and 2. It shows they don’t really care what you are like, just what you look like. It’s a big turn off when guys would try and make a date within the first couple minutes of conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 10:05 PM
2

Yeah that’s a good point. I still feel bad because if they grow up exceptionally beautiful they are told all their lives that they have value, it might be hard to realize that value only comes from looks.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 03:23 PM
27

It’s just a brutal fact of life that EVERYONE eventually becomes older and less attractive. That’s why it’s so important to take care of yourself the best you can, and bring more to the table then just looks. I honestly feel sorry for women who really only have good looks to offer because eventually they will fade. It’s great that you already have a LTR and It sounds like he loves you for more than just your looks. It’s tough, but you can’t reverse time. Everyone ages.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 11:10 PM
15

Both come in all shapes and sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 04:23 AM
2

That’s have a lot more sympathy for men’s issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 11:38 PM
3

Red pill women didn’t even make the list
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:33 AM
2

I have refuted every other argument you have presented. As stated above, the idea of paper abortions would have to go mainstream, and voters would have to show that this is important to get the funding. There are people both for it and against it, but it hasn’t been formally voted on, so you have no way to factually claim your argument. I would be interested in hearing any other solid arguments you have, but I have asked a few times and you have yet to present any.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:56 AM
2

Again proving you have only one logical argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:44 AM
2

A paper abortion will absolve one parent of responsibilities. As already discussed above, there will have to be state care in place if the mother is unable to support the child herself. So, care from the male parent is replaced with care from the state (if necessary). You are correct that this is not an option, however, this could be because not a lot of people have considered this. It would have to be brought to the mainstream, and voters would have to show that this is a priority if they would…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:35 AM
2

I think it’s you who has missed the point. Yes, they can’t have a physical abortion if a women wants to keep the baby. That’s just biology. So, the closest thing they can have is a paper abortion. The child will still be put in the world, but they will have no ties to them. Now I’ll ask again, do you have any solid arguments against this other than “But men can’t do that!!!!!” ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:46 AM
3

Women can get their tubes tied which is functionally similar to a vasectomy. Men only cannot get an abortion because paper abortions are not in place. That is why this thread is talking about it trying to put them in place. Do you have any other arguments against it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:37 AM
4

Women DO have the choice to not pay child support because they have the choice to either not have the baby or give it up for adoption, this is not an option for men unless they have the option to paper abortion. Also, men who want paper abortions don’t want to be good fathers - they don’t want to be fathers at all (at least not right now). The same way women who get abortions don’t want to be mothers right now. There is nothing wrong with both women getting real abortions or men getting paper ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 01:54 AM
1

It needs to become more mainstream, as a lot of people don’t know it exists. There are plenty of positives for women too, not just men. Women who want to keep their babies are less likely to be forced/bullied into an abortion, and single mothers will not have to worry about chasing down child support, they will have a better form of public assistance in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 11:25 PM
2

It’s true. The only logical argument against paper abortions is that it’s hard on the tax payers. The majority of voters have to show that they see this as a priority for anything to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 11:12 PM
1

Any person is aloud to be end any relationship they want at time(and should be without scrutiny).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 11:06 PM
1

You literally said “you want women to admire you”. No, I don’t. But most men want to be admired by both men and women. They want to be seen as helpful and valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:35 PM
1

No, I am a woman. Using the RPW strategies has helped me in a lot of way, including relationships and work life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:25 PM
1

This is going to be unpopular, but I think a lot of the RPW stuff is true. Men like it when you admire them and don’t challenge their masculinity. Even small changes like from “you should do this..” to “have you considered doing this” have helped me in my workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:13 PM
9

That’s the biggest part. But it also has a bit to do with accomplishments. If you haven’t accomplished anything by 30 while being single that’s not a good look.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 10:43 PM
7

It’s all about your lifestyle and how you take care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 09:17 PM
1

Very obvious, does not need to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 04:06 PM
13

Anyone else think this is fake?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:16 PM
3

So many weirds things about this one... why aren’t you invited? If they are friends, why do they need separate tents? Why would you do a road trip in separate cars?! For 3 MONTHS too? I can’t believe he expects you to sit around and wait for him while he vacations with another women. He is not captain worthy, and probably not really that committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 04:31 PM
4

I think “thick” girls are insanely attractive, but that body type unfortunately doesn’t look good for very long, especially if they don’t take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:42 AM
3

Oh absolutely. Look better and feel better. But a lot of curvy/“thick” people who are considered attractive walk the line of being over weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:13 AM
9

I think people would be surprised at what categorized overweight people actually look like, you really only have to be slightly chubby to fall into that category. 61 percent of Canadians over 18 are overweight. If you are on the low end of overweight you are still decently attractive in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:35 AM
2

That’s insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 12:03 AM
8

I don’t think older women ever attack the younger woman in that scenario, they attack/shame the man. They show concern (whether it’s real or not) for the younger woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:01 PM
2

Two of my best friends are married and have only been with each other. They both seem to have a fulfilling happy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 05:20 AM
0

For it to be fair, I think it would have to be within the same time limit a woman has to have an abortion (maybe even a bit shorter). That way the mother can make an informed decision on weather she would like to keep the baby. The father should also have to submit some sort of medical history before leaving the picture completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 02:27 AM
-2

Exactly. It is recommended to use two methods of birth control. Men can really one guarantee one is used.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 02:25 AM
2

What I’m describing is called a “paper abortion” and it is gaining traction in Nordic countries though I don’t think it is actually in place anywhere yet. I am also a 24f with no kids and no sex life so I have no real stake in this, but I did write a paper on abortion in college, and strongly believe that both genders have a right to an abortion, even if men can’t physically get one. I agree with your point that not all countries can economically handle something like this, but in better off cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:57 PM
6

Sometimes you take the proper precautions and they still fail. A man shouldn’t be forced to pay for a child he doesn’t want, just like how a woman shouldn’t be forced to birth a child she doesn’t want. I believe it is fair that a man should be able to sign all legal rights and responsibilities away if he does not want a child (up to a certain point during pregnancy, much like a women has a time limit on an abortion).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:35 PM
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I believe there are countries where this is legal. The man can choose to completely sign away his rights. He won’t ever have to pay for the child, but he also can not change his mind and try and contact the child later on. I think this is a fair system. Edit: I did some quick research, this is called a “paper abortion” and It’s gaining popularity in some countries, but I don’t believe it is actually in place anywhere yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:25 PM
3

Does this same scenario happen to men as well? Is there a name for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 02:05 AM
3

In women the stomach fat is usually the last thing to go, unfortunately. If you are at your ideal weight (the can calculate this yourself online) and still have stomach fat, it may be worth it to talk to a doctor. It might be a hormone issue. I do also know people who have had success with cool sculpting. That is another more extreme option.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 10:04 PM
1

What are your macros/calories? Are you trying to lose more weight or just maintain? It could be a hormone issue, especially if you are on birth control. I am the same height and I way 135. My calculated ideal weight is 120, but I’d like to sit at about 125. After going off birth control I noticed that my stomach is slimming and my fat distribution is becoming more even.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 08:54 PM
2

Maybe they will make a sex bot marketed towards women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 11:54 PM
3

Do people actually act repulsed by this question? I find that hard to believe. I feel like most people would respond something along the lines of “I wish I could but ... [insert reasons/excuses]”. It might be the way you are saying it, if it is upsetting people? I’ll try this line out at work tomorrow and see what happens. I highly doubt anyone will get offended but idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 07:30 AM
1

Her name.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 12:56 AM
7

Breaks my heart to read these posts. It seems like he is keeping you around until she decides she wants to be with him. She probably wanted to meet on Valentine’s Day just to see if she could push him that far. The only good person in this whole situation is you OP. I really hope you remove yourself from the whole thing before it gets even worse.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 02:02 AM
5

I got him a new laptop. The one he had is so painfully slow, and he uses it all the time for his work. It’s kind of a big gift for Valentine’s Day but he has done so much work on my car I think it’s a fair deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:36 PM
1

The fact that this response, a derogatory comment against someone captain, has gotten 14 upvotes shows that there are people who do not really believe in RPW views on this sub. I don’t understand why this stuff isn’t being removed.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 02:05 AM
1

Maybe poor quality women avoid men for this reason. I think good quality women would only avoid men like this for fear of rejection (being alphawidowed, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 05:42 PM
30

I think if you are the one to initiate any romance, your attempt to change may seem disingenuous. He already seems skeptical (asking why you wrote it, asking if you are on medication). I would keep doing what you are doing and wait to see what he wants. If you keep it up for a long time he will hopefully see you have really changed. Either way - congrats on making life better for yourself, your daughters and your ex! No matter what happens you should be proud.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 08:34 PM
4

My first thought too. If you include marriage/ltr I think it’s spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:57 PM
2

This very question is the reason I am so happy to be female.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:58 AM
5

Ground rule: do not have sex with him until you get the kind of commitment you want.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 06:54 PM
4

Exactly. I think if you never have to see the people your partner has slept with, it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:45 AM
23

I never thought I would care about a man’s sexual history, until I found out my boyfriend had sex with my step-cousin. Worst part was that he couldn’t remember her name. Most awkward family dinner party yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:53 AM
1

Absolutely! I have noticed this a lot too. People on this thread are talking about demanding things, or saying her captain is a slob. I get OP’s post and her frustrations are valid. But the advice should be aligned with RPW values. Otherwise you might as well just post on FDS or relationship advice. I feel like this sub is changing and I’m so sad.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 06:26 PM
3

This is great, actual RPW advice. I don’t know where all the man-hating is coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 05:51 PM
2

From your post, it sounds like he might be feeling like you are nagging him (not saying his behaviour is justified)? If something is bothering me I like to find ways to fix it that don’t involve conflict. If his place is always messy, just don’t go over there. Bring him to your place instead! Also, try and remember the things you admire about him and forgive his faults. In my opinion, this double duty cleaning is a short term problem because you are living apart. It will be a lot easier when you…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 05:14 PM
4

This breaks my heart! I see my friends do this all the time. They want a relationship with a guy, he makes it clear he just wants something very casual, so they have sex with him anyway hoping they can change his mind. I don’t see why girls put themselves through this torture. If I man isn’t ready to commit to someone, no one will change his mind. I would just tell him that you are not interested in the type of situation he is willing to give you, but that you wish him all the best. Explain to h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 04:47 AM
3

It’s going to be really, really tough now. Since you have already have sex and admitted you have feelings for him, he is most likely just bread crumbing you because he wants to have sex again. He knows you have feelings for him, so the “I miss you” is a strategy to get want he wants. He’s made it clear that he doesn’t want a relationship. Do whatever you think is right, but my advice would be to move on, and next time do not have sex until you have an established relationship. It is the best way…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 04:35 AM
2

Whatever you do, don’t have sex with him unless you get a confirmed commitment. However, I wouldn’t get my hopes up if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 04:13 AM
2

I feel like unless you are religious, marriage is mainly about being financial partners. For example, my mum worked for almost a decade as my families sole provider, while my dad got his business off ground. A few years after the business became successful my parents got divorced. My mother paid my dads bills for years so he could create a business that is now very successful. She is entitled to money from that business because it wouldn’t exist without her. That is why people get married, so th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:43 AM
1

I believe that most woman who want children do want a marriage beyond just a fancy wedding. They want a good provider and role model for their offspring, the easiest way to do this is through a successful marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:20 PM
2

Number one is huge!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 09:10 PM
1

True. This is sounds advice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 06:02 PM
2

Great point, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 04:53 PM
2

I have never read Marry Him, is it outright against feminist values or does it sort of tip-toe around it? I think this could really work!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 04:52 PM
17

Acknowledging this is jealousy half the battle! Taking inspiration instead of being angry is a great start. It’s hard not be a little jealous sometimes, just don’t let it become bitterness.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 07:57 PM
1

Fair point!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 04:03 AM
-4

You won’t get anywhere by nagging him about it. The best you can do is make him feel like a king on his birthday, and HOPE he will get with the program and return the favour. If not, always remember to look to at his good qualities, not his bad. He might not be good at birthdays, but I am sure he is great in other aspects of the relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 03:40 AM
11

Yes exactly like that. Basically, every-time he does something dominant that you like.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 09:08 PM
31

Taking extra attention in praising his dominant qualities both inside and outside of the bedroom has worked for me!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 06:09 PM
4

I feel terrible for you OP, I had a very similar experience and it was very painful. I eventually realized I was being disrespected and got the courage to break up with him. It was horrible to learn that my ex and the coworker he was constantly messaging were dating less than I week after We broke up. Trust me, if he will not show you the messages that is a problem. They are probably either flirting, or he is bad venting about you to her. Either way, your captain should be loyal to you, not to h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:21 PM
0

I agree with this. If you DO feel the need to call, try and get someone else to do it and don’t tell anyone you were involved. That way it won’t get back to you. It’s clear that this lady is terrible, however, getting involved in trouble usually just leads to more trouble. The last thing you want is this women coming after you if she doesn’t end up getting fired.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 01:11 PM
1

I see your point. Either way, it’s unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:03 AM
1

Visibly greasy hair and oily skin are big indicators.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:00 AM
3

Not exactly looks but a major requirement is cleanliness. If it looks (or especially smells) like he skips showers I’m not into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 12:14 PM
1

I think all you can do is be your feminine self. It may lead to you not being taken seriously, but I think it is a worthwhile price to pay. It is very hard to be feminine in these environments, I feel for you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 03:01 AM
3

Same here. This is what I want, but I also like having the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:03 AM
4

My fitness pal is the best for self care. It helped me lose 15 pounds.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:01 PM
13

One thing I have realized over the years is that comments like this only hurt if you are insecure on some level. When I was a bit heavier I would get so defensive when anyone made a slightly off-comment about what I ate, what I wore, or anything related. When I lost all my weight, my confidence went up, and I realized that these comments are normal and I was taking them in the wrong way because of my own insecurity. In my opinion, none of the examples you have shown are actual insults. That is h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 02:09 AM
8

You’re not an asshole at all! I would use this as an opportunity to let him know what you expect of him. Explain that when you were acting that way (sending nudes, etc.) you thought you were on your way to being in a LTR. Be understanding and supportive of the fact that he might not be ready for that, and explain that you are ok with just seeing eachother until he is ready. If he only wanted you for sex he will flee, which will probably hurt, but it’s better to be hurt by him now then be hurt by…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 11:46 PM
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If you want a LTR, and he is not giving you that (or at least not yet) DO NOT have sex with him. If you just want a FBW, then that’s great! But do not do FWB relationship if you want more than that, even if it is an exclusive one. It will only lead to insecurity, heartbreak, a higher N-count and more baggage when you are ready to move on. If I were you I would cut my losses and move on, or stay with him but not have sex until you get an acknowledged commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 11:36 PM
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I find it’s best to just ask your SO for some ideas! Less special, but then he gets exactly what he wants and everyone ends up happy. My SO asked for a specific pair of shoes... I never would have guess that in a million years.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 08:12 PM
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I got a few compliments about being a lovely person to be around. It makes me so happy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 06:16 PM
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Wow, thank you so much! I am blown away by this. I loved Fascinating Womanhood and Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood so I am sure I will love all the rest. I greatly appreciate this!
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 08:25 PM
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Exactly. Being 4/10 at 60 is waaaaaaaaaay different than being 4/10 at 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 03:38 PM
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Ah ok, thank you for letting me know! I will probably still try it out. I like having something I can read, that way I’m not starting at my phone all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 08:20 PM
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Excellent. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 07:15 PM
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Ok thank you for your insight, I will keep that in mind! I’m not really looking for fiction. I’m more interested in how-to guides and self help with a red pill outlook. But I do love Kurt Vonnegut :).
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 07:14 PM
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I Just looked at the synopsis and now I am so excited to read it! Thank you for the suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 06:36 PM
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I found a post that had summary of red pill women ideas, and showed it to my boyfriend. I asked him what he thought about and if that was the sort of thing he wanted. That worked well for me!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 11:41 PM
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I agree. If you have a lot of extra time/money you can worry about things like aging. Skin care and eating healthy are a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:25 PM
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