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My ex-friend has had over 100 sex partners and said she's only orgasmed a handful of times. *shrug*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:07 AM
56

I think it's fine depending on the circumstances. I wouldn't want to date someone whose attraction to me is so dependent on my weight. Most people aren't static, and will go through ups and downs in different parts of their life. You don't want someone that only wants you during the "good" times. I've gained a bit of weight since Covid, and I can get a little self conscious. Not because I don't believe men find me attractive, but because I want to lose the weight and maybe they won't like me bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:01 PM
51

This is why I date younger men, almost exclusively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:56 PM
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Yes, and I had to take a break from this sub for a while because of it. A post was made a while ago that it IS a dating sub, and the point is to date men, and weed out the bad ones. For me, that was in direct conflict with all of the content that was being posted. I still agree and align with the basic principles, but I rarely see any actual dating advice. Awareness is great, but continuously reading horror stories was keeping me from dating anyone at all. I feel like if you constantly expect ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:34 PM
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I swear they can never take responsibility for their own actions and thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:23 PM
96

This. The cringe I feel when I think back on the men that weren't good kissers...they weren't good in bed either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:19 PM
3

Just proves that so many of them believe they're entitled to a woman. Not only is it "no golddiggers" even though they want a "traditional" relationship with no commitment. But apparently we can't even choose a man we're attracted to either. So we're not allowed to want a provider or someone we enjoy looking at?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:13 PM
7

It's true. One of my exes had terrible bacne. I've seen men shower and they just rubbed some soap on the "important" parts and let the water wash over the rest of their body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:04 PM
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Most men just wash their pits and dick (not even their ass crack) and call it a day. Nay a wash cloth or loofah in sight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:15 PM
42

Men are gross. My ex-roommate had genital herpes and she was always bringing over hookups, even though I asked her not to, she'd sneak them in. And yes, she was upfront, and they still had sex without a condom because she wasn't having outbreaks. This is why you have to be so careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:07 PM
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An ex-friend of mine told me she'd had over 100 sexual partners. She also told me she'd only had a orgasm a handful of times. Like girl what? What are you doing this for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:57 PM
8

Nooope, fuck struggle love. It doesn't make it more meaningful, it just trauma bonds you. PASS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:40 PM
9

I'm curvy/thick and it's almost always fit or slimmer men that show interest in me. It's always the husky or skinnyfat guys that would try to neg me. "I've been working out to get in shape, you should come with me sometime". That or they'd criticize what I ate. "The roasted chicken is healthier than breaded." As someone that struggles with disordered eating, it's the one thing I will absolutely not tolerate again. Men don't get that we are IN OUR BODIES and aware of how it looks/feels all the ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:48 PM
9

You know this weirdo got off to the fact that it triggered these poor women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:27 PM
17

Not wrong there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:35 PM
67

I know it's a meme but it was the opposite for me! My 20s still sucked regarding dating, but they at least PRETENDED to be interested in who I was. Now men are all too comfortable letting you know they see you as an object to be used and discarded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:05 AM
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ALL of the men that have called me their "dream girl" have treated me like shit. My "friend" that was "in love with me" and said I was his dream girl for years, called me a diseased whore while drunk because I made friends with his friends. I've never had an STD and I've had very few sex partners, so he was just being cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:57 PM
46

I've had this happen before, and it's why I don't agree with meeting/going on a date with a man too quickly. If you just WAIT, many of them will show their true colors within 72 hours. All it took for me to get stalked for months was agreeing to go get pizza with a guy that was just way too enthusiastic, and I told myself "what's the harm, it's just lunch?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:53 PM
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This is why I fully advocate digging. We have intuition ladies, and if you feel like something is off, it probably is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:47 PM
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The most beautiful, successful women in the world get cheated on, gaslighted, controlled, abused, etc. If anything it attracts the worst men that want to subjugate women. Look at Britney Spears. As someone that's been told my whole life that my beauty would get me the perfect man, perfect life, gave me privilege, that has certainly not been the case. I have to work twice as hard and be incredibly vigilant. I used to be pretty resentful that I'm now 33 and despite my efforts, my dating life has b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:32 PM
48

They absolutely use our pain against us. The last guy I dated, I made the mistake of confiding in him about a story that really hurt me. We were getting to that point of sharing more intimate stories. I told him about being ghosted right before I had surgery. While it wasn't life threatening, I was still in agony, and really hurt my feelings. It was during Covid and we weren't allowed visitors, and I didn't even have a ride home. I could hear other people talking about how their partners were wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:32 PM
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Yup, my cousin's ex-husband took her pain medication after a surgery so she "wouldn't get addicted". Guess who just wanted the pain meds for himself? :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:19 AM
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I'll say it again to lurking scrotes: feminism was never about women wanting to be being nickel and dimed on a date. If you believe that, you're a moron. They really think they can pull a fast one on us because we wanted our own bank accounts and credit cards, and to own property. STFU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:46 PM
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I like taller men because I feel more feminine. I'm just shy of 5'8" and I'm a size 10, so I'm not exactly petite. I've been with short, skinny men and honestly I just felt like an ogre. I could feel their bones poking into me, and they just didn't feel masculine. They don't have to be ripped "Chads" but I like tall with some weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:37 PM
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I'm in the same boat. I have invisible, chronic pain due to a car accident I had a few years ago. It has severely lowered my quality of life. I don't dare tell a man, because they love to pull shit tests to see if you're lying. It's so gross. It's that or they're dismissive entirely. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps, etc. Very few men have real empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:14 AM
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Never tell men about your sexual history. For lurkers, no this doesn't mean lying about STDs. I'm talking about not telling men what you've experimented doing in the past. It's none of their business, and a lot of the times women are coerced into these things. While I've always been pretty vanilla, I went through an experimentation phase with a couple of previous partners. I didn't like anal, they only wanted to have sex in one position, it never felt like an intimate, bonding experience. I'm su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:58 PM
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I had a guy say this to me and it hit my self esteem really hard. It was all projection though. He was still in school living off of his military money, trying to get a woman based on his potential success. He just wanted a live-in bangmaid that paid half the bills. No thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:46 PM
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They love cool girls, it makes their life way easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:52 PM
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It's honestly scary that men think this is too much to ask. They're so desperate for a maid and purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:22 PM
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Been there, done that, never again. So many of us fall victim to "struggle love" thinking it somehow makes it have some meaning. It's just a coping mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:15 PM
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I matched with a guy on Bumble that looked really cute in his pictures, but on his Instagram, he looked closer to 40. Did some digging...he's not. He's 25, and looks AT LEAST 10 years older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:11 PM
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LOL, my favorite nickname to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:56 AM
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Translation: I want someone to beg for my attention while I ignore them to boost my ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:03 PM
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They want to take multiple women out on a date to maximize their chances, so they want a cheap date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:49 PM
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I like that every comment said he was the asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:11 PM
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Men's interpretation of "equality" is different than its origin. We wanted equal rights, equal opportunity. Meaning we just wanted to be able to go to med school, have our own bank accounts, credit cards, etc. We never wanted to be nickel and dimed at Applebee's for the sake of "equality". Men that view feminism this way are just admitting they see women as a means to make their life easier by dumping responsibilities onto a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:00 PM
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It vastly improved my dating life. I live in a pretty small town, there is not a very large demographic of men my age. Using the apps I was able to meet a lot of men in surrounding towns that weren't that far away. It's also a lot easier to vet in my opinion. I can have one conversation on the phone and learn of any major deal breakers without even having to meet them in person. Google their name, make sure there are no glaring red flags. Meeting in person, you have no idea who they are or what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:36 AM
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And even if/when you do find a good sex partner, it usually tapers off. If you're genuinely bonded, sex has done it's job, and you don't feel the need to do it like rabbits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:06 AM
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The last guy I dated stressed so much over getting me a gift that he broke it off. I literally told him the plant I wanted, it was very affordable. He ended up calling me 2 days before my birthday, asking me to convince him to keep seeing each other. We lived 45 minutes apart and he said he'd been hiding the fact that he was basically a manchild. The last date we had, he picked me up in his filthy car. He couldn't even take 5 minutes to throw away the seltzer cans. Literally boiled down to "if h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:30 PM
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I cannot stand this excuse. "Well if you were this, if you were that, maybe you'd find the right guy". If supermodels get cheated on, there is no hope. It doesn't matter how good of a person we are, how good we look, if anything it makes it WORSE. I've had so many men try to take advantage of my kindness and forgiving nature. I had to start being a bitch because they will absolutely use you, and then turn around and blame you for it. Men don't respect women that have no boundaries, yet they will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:19 PM
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I'm just shy of 5'8, and men lie all the time about their height. They really think we can't tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:17 AM
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I live in an area where the norm is to get married young and have a family. It's common for married people around here to basically ditch their single friends in place of other married couples with kids. It's been difficult for me to maintain relationships because of that. Or the single women I meet have completely different social needs. I'm focusing on getting a second degree and fixing up my house, I don't have time to travel or go on lavish brunches or out partying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:17 AM
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Last guy I dated reeked of weed. The occasional joint doesn't bother me, but anyone remotely dependent...no thanks. I can't believe it's really so much to ask to want a man to smell good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:33 PM
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At this point I'd rather just have the money to pay for these services or do it myself. I wouldn't even bother asking a man to do it because it's just more emotional and mental labor if he does this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:22 PM
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Pretty much. It makes me sad, and sometimes I still dream of the happy little family. A thoughtful husband that cares for me, and takes care of me, actually working as a team. Yet most men just end up as leeches. We end up being the breadwinner, maid, caretaker, chef, errand runner, therapist, etc. I would have done all of those things, but they're never reciprocated. At least not as much as you put in. Why add more stress and responsibility to my life for no reason?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:19 PM
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That slug story made me genuinely afraid of men. I'd rather have a man just try to hit me so I can leave, instead of being victim to his subversive torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:09 PM
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Thank you, I needed a good laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:01 PM
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As someone who used to watch porn, it doesn't happen immediately. While I wasn't a regular consumer, I noticed over time it still warped my view of sex. I couldn't orgasm with partners either, because I wasn't very physically attracted to them. I thought they way they wanted to have sex was enough, because that's what I saw in porn, and I was aroused from watching it. I started questioning why porn was becoming increasingly violent and disgusting. Anytime I'd lose my arousal it was like "wait a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:03 PM
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I think I was just trying so hard to find a man that wouldn't disappoint me in bed. Although I haven't had that many partners, I started to gain this mentality like "maybe the next one will finally be the one". It was after I had my first ever one night stand that I broke down. Before, all my sex partners had at least been men I dated, but I hated that I caved so easily. I didn't really WANT to have sex with him, but I didn't not want to either, if that makes sense. Deep down, I wanted so badly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:19 PM
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This is what I hate too. It started with "we're not sl*ts for having sex with a man we're not married to". Now it's transformed into a monster where we're supposed to enjoy being used and discarded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:12 PM
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Honestly I don't care about having a real diamond, but I like the symbolism behind it. I want effort and thoughtfulness. Something that shows he really knows me and takes note of what I like/dislike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:20 PM
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I think that's a great idea. You could also choose a first name that would sound fitting. Even though my last name is my father's, I'm glad it's named after a place. So basically it's just the surname of everyone that lived in that area hundreds of years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:58 PM
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Just because they're using you doesn't always mean they'll be cold. I briefly dated a guy that was very intimate, great kisser, great sex, but he was using me. He broke it off because we lived 45 minutes apart and he needed more attention than our weekly meetups. He also opened up to me that he felt insecure because I had my life together and he didn't. He couldn't even take 5 minutes to clean his car of empty cans. He clearly didn't care about me or my opinion of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:45 PM
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I've had acquaintances DM me on social media in response to a meme or something in an attempt to rant about how it triggered them. They get left on read. 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:26 PM
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I completely agree. I tried the casual thing a couple times and I just felt used and bad about myself. It was obvious I was just an object to them. A human sex doll. At least if I were interested in dating them, there might be room for improvement. Men lie about the whole "fuck buddy" (I hate that term) arrangement. Tried it and after he got what he wanted, the novelty had already worn off. He kept saying he wanted to see me again, never did. Very rarely does that sort of arrangement work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:55 PM
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One of my former friends was like this. Has slept with over 100 men, regularly seeks out hookups, told me she's had an orgasm only a few times. No thanks girl, couldn't be me. I'm not a soup kitchen for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:44 PM
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Statistically, women are capable of being as successful (if not more) as men, but typically choose not to be. We tend to prefer making less money over the grueling work of being ambitious. Making a lot of money means long hours, little time for hobbies, not seeing your friends and family, and a hell of a lot of stress. Personally, I'm one of these women. I don't really enjoy working, I get fulfillment from my hobbies, but it's necessary for survival. Being "ambitious" means burnout for me, where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:51 AM
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Yep, developed actual anxiety including diarrhea, racing heart, panic attacks, weight loss, and loss of sleep having to deal with that scumbag. Fuck I'm so glad it didn't take me long to see the light, but those 6 months left me with PTSD that took me a year to get over. I still cringe looking back, and ask myself why I endured his behavior for crumbs. He gaslit me like it was his day job, he was so good at it. Luckily, when I'm unhappy I just can't stick around for long. As much as I hate it, i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:23 AM
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Hell yes, girl. The way I look at everything now is "would a man do this?" Nope. Men have boundaries like a brickwall, we should too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:35 AM
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This works with their speech on dating apps or just how they describe what they're looking for in a woman. Independent = they're the golddigger and they won't want to spend a dime on you or anything involving the relationship. Everything will be a transaction. Loyal = I want a woman that will put up with my bullshit and abuse. Down to earth = they don't want to court you properly, expect Netflix and chill right off the bat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:21 PM
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Give him a chaaaance, he's a good guy deep down. He won't even ask you to pay him back for the dollar ice cream cone he bought you. On a serious note though, I hate this idea forced onto us that "nobody is perfect". Yeah, nobody is perfect, but I've also never intentionally misled a man to get sex or money out him. I've never lied, cheated, or gaslit a man. I've never abandoned a man out of the blue during a traumatic time in his life. When we say nobody is perfect, they don't mean major charact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:38 AM
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The only thing I can think of is being bombarded with questions about them being "the one", if we've talked about marriage, how they can't believe I'm not already married. I grew up in the South, live in the Midwest, jumping into marriage is encouraged so you won't be living in sin. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:17 AM
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The problem here is most women are independent. What they really mean is "don't expect a dime out of me". These are the kind of men that will nickel and dime their girlfriend making 30k, while they're making twice as much, if not more. Everything has to be transactional for "equality". I refuse to be taken advantage of by broke men that can't manage their money. I'm very comfortable now, and I won't have that taken away by men that can't work as hard as I did to get where I am now. I also won't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:22 PM
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Like 3 out of 10 lol. A lot of times were close but they had no stamina so it was really frustrating. A few were so bad and awkward, I just felt disgusted, they were literally dripping sweat on me. 🤢 It made me feel bad to think so, because I liked them otherwise, but there was no sexual chemistry. I've only had like 1 partner a year so the need would build up, but it just led to disappoinment. My biggest indicator is if they're a good kisser. My exes that were good in bed were really good kisse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:27 AM
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Translation: I feel guilty for being a piece of shit that only cares about myself, but not enough to actually change. I need the space to distract myself from growing as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:26 AM
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A guy I was dating last year ghosted me right before I had surgery. It wasn't life threatening, but I had no one to be there with me. I had to lie to my surgeon that I had someone waiting for me in the parking lot because I had to call an Uber to even get home. A few months ago, I made the mistake of telling the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months about that story. Later that night, he made a "joke" that he'd leave me at the hospital because I was "making" him drive all over town to pick up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:05 AM
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Yup, if they're not sacrificing something whether it's their time, money, manual labor, etc, they don't care. Men only invest if it's something they care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:13 PM
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Is it just me or was this not as much of a thing even 10 years ago? In my 20s, men didn't even try to immediately get in my pants, and ghosting wasn't really a thing. It did happen occasionally, but it wasn't really this widespread phenomenon. The closer I got to 30, the worse it got. It's weird because overall the quality of men I've dated has been better, but they're still just...broken or something. They don't want to commit, they have no real plans, they're not empathetic of the pain they ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:48 PM
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A lot of my hobbies emasculate them. I like diy projects, I fix up things in my house, and they see it as threatening somehow. 🙄 I have a bit of a fixer upper and I can't afford to have everything little thing done professionally. I'm supposed to wait around until I have a boyfriend willing to help me out? I don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:46 PM
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I'd like to find a good man and have a family one day, but I'm coming to terms with the fact that it may never happen. My standards are too high and I don't end up meeting men very often that I even want to date, much less marry. I've been really horny lately lol, and I've been flirting with this guy who ended up asking me on a date. I noticed that almost immediately my mindset switched and I was just thinking about him. All the what ifs, which at this point aren't positive. I immediately went i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:23 AM
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I love that men are finally be criticized for how little they do to take care of themselves and their surroundings. A few years ago, I was staying with a BF for a couple months in between moving. He told me he'd never vacuumed in the year he'd lived there....I was appalled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:32 PM
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I read some studies a while back that birth control can actually cause fertility issues. Birth control pills have become so popular because of the sexual liberation movement. Of course, the data has been buried because birth control is so profitable. The only time I've ever experienced irregularity with my cycle is when I'd been on birth control and came off of it. It took MONTHS to get things back to normal. I know some women need it for conditions like endometriosis. It's controversial but I j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:25 PM
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Basically you have to stop caring so much, this goes for meeting irl too. Remember that everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning. If it starts off rocky, you have your answer right there. Do you really want to date someone that only gives you basic respect once they deem you worthy of it? Letting go of the idea of potentials goes a long way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:43 PM
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Honestly I don't believe there's a man on the planet that doesn't consume some kind of pornography. Some just look at nude women instead of Pornhub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:51 AM
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The lightbulbs too, I'm cackling. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:41 AM
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Yep, lots of men in my age group have oops babies. Most men are single for a reason, multiply that times 10 for single fathers. It's harsh, but it's just what I've seen. I've only dated a man with a child once, and of course he lied to me about why they split. I wish I'd known the real reason sooner! I don't blame his ex-wife one bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:42 PM
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For me, it's the peace of not having to constantly vet a man's behavior. As much as I miss the companionship, I don't miss the stress, anxiety, or sadness that dating inevitably caused. The good moments didn't outweigh the bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:31 AM
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I still don't know how I feel about dating men with children, but I definitely don't date men with toddlers or babies. You should be focusing on raising your children in their most formative years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:38 AM
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Yup, I inherited a big, old Victorian house that's completely paid for. Guess who always tries to convince me I should sell it because it's "too much maintenance" for one person? Yup, men, even my brother. Some joke about moving in (because there's no rent) which I find hilarious. If the tables were turned I know these men would be telling me to pick up a second job if I had nowhere to go. I've seen firsthand that they'll try to take what's yours, but they do not care if you're the one strugglin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:13 PM
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Remember the "good ol days" where men would jerk off to a Sears lingerie catalog? Porn has become so depraved, of course their brains rot. The more exposure you have to watching things like that, you become desensitized. It's sad, they bring all of these problems on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:58 AM
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Same, no sympathy for him whatsoever. Glad she's free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:48 AM
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It's true. My problem with this is why these men think they can do better in the first place. Who is telling them this, because it's never true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:44 AM
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I hate it when people say this shit. I don't want this to come off as bragging, but everyone I know or that knows me, says how kind, sweet, and beautiful I am. That they can't believe the things I accomplish and how selfless I am. I've only ever wanted to find a good man to have a genuine life companion and have a beautiful, loving family together. Yet no matter how they appear in the beginning, NONE OF THEM WERE WORTH DATING, which is why I always broke things off before I got in too deep. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:56 PM
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I'm from the South/Midwest area and this is spot on. The professionals think they're too good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:21 PM
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I feel like people have good intentions with wanting to meet IRL, but we should be using the internet to our advantage. It's a lot easier to vet that way. Obviously it's not an either/or situation, but I've dodged so many bullets by just having a couple text chats or talking on the phone first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:39 PM
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Exactly. I'd rather be able to search them up for any major red flags before having to invest the time and effort in a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:28 PM
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It shouldn't be so revered, but at the same time, we need to protect ourselves because men won't. The average guy will try to have unprotected sex with you, or make you take full responsibility. I've never had this mindblowing sex people speak of, so I try my best to limit who has access to my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:58 PM
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I'm kinda glad all of my exes are practically ghosts on social media. I make sure to delete text threads and photos so I don't feel tempted to reach out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:09 AM
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In my area, all the decent guys are on Bumble. I just say hi and they usually take it from there. I deleted my profiles and apps about a month ago though. While I'm not completely opposed to them, it was taking up too much time with very little reward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:42 PM
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One of the worst guys I dated was incredibly manipulative and managed to convince me he was just helping me to be better. The truth is he was just cheap even though he made really good money. He wanted me to scrape pennies together to buy things "we" could do together. This was a long time ago, but I didn't have a smartphone at the time and he literally refused to talk to me (I texted on my tablet) until I bought one. I kept telling myself it was tough love. I could go on and on about him, but h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:17 AM
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Yup, I live in the Midwest...it's not pretty lol. A few times I've turned on the global setting, or "whole U.S." on Bumble, there were really cute guys in big cities. I very rarely see hot guys IRL either though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:41 AM
9

The men I met through my hobbies were the most toxic. We have no idea what kind of person someone really is behind closed doors. I've preferred online dating in the past for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:56 PM
7

I'm not sure how I feel about it anymore. My experience with online dating wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. You have to wade through a shitload of losers to see one decent guy. Then most of your matches won't even message you. On Bumble, I'd only say hi and a few pleasantries in the beginning, I never lead the conversation. I just really don't know how I'd meet anyone without the apps, considering everything I do is from home. I live in the Midwest so unless I want to go bar hopping, ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:53 PM
20

I hate it when men say they want to "go with the flow". Um duh, that's what dating is? You're both vetting each other to see if you're compatible. Now it just means, I want to use you for sex and see if you're worth anything beyond that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:40 PM
2

I don't get it either. I'm 33 and even 25 year old men look too young to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:32 PM
9

I agree with you. I was seeing a guy for a couple months, it was going really well and then he pulled some bullshit. Strike one, made a tasteless joke after I opened up to him. Strike two, called me and asked me to convince him to keep seeing each other because we live 45 minutes apart. This was 2 days before my birthday, btw. There was no strike 3, that was all I needed to know that this was a disaster waiting to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:29 PM
39

My mom made the funniest joke about older men wanting a family. She said their sperm is probably using a walker trying to beat each other to the egg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:21 PM
6

I'm 33, I've had better luck dating younger than me instead of older or my age. The men still single at my age are definitely single for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:39 PM
10

Why would she WANT to continue seeing him? My interest tanks after bad sex, and I have to REALLY like them to give it another chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:46 AM
11

Yes, that's really what they want. They want us to love them at their worst, while being our best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:16 PM
9

We don't USE men for money, it's just that men only use their resources on someone or something they care about. Yet they have no problem with us using OUR money for things they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:49 PM
36

That's....the point? We don't want just anyone that will take us. These guys are pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:23 AM
45

I agree. In my experience, unattractive men have treated me worse than the good looking ones. They'd nitpick my body even though their bodies were completely average. Obviously being attractive doesn't automatically make you a high value person. But certain things like being active and having good hygiene and style show you care about yourself. It's a turnoff for me when people say they don't care what other people think of how they look. You don't have to try to fit a certain standard, but cari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:46 AM
118

I'm gonna add bald to this one too. I know it's shallow and I don't care. I just love a man with a thick head of hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:44 AM
40

Imagine we followed thousands of beefy, almost naked dudes on Instagram. They'd demand you unfollow or delete the app entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:49 PM
100

Works in shitty relationships too. Try to be affectionate and sweet, and you're "clingy" or "smothering". Ignore their ass though, and they collectively complain they don't get enough compliments or affection. Because affection = sex for most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:45 PM
3

Yup, my longest relationship of 3 years only ended because I was finally fed up with having to constantly drag him along. I'd threaten to leave, he'd beg and plead and tell me he'd do better, never happened. Guess how long he's been dating his girlfriend now? 5 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:47 AM
20

I'm 5'6 and men really think I won't be able to tell they're 5'8. Sir we're eye to eye, I know you're not 6'1. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:58 AM
5

It scares me. I really wanted to settle down and have a family, but I feel like the risk is too great now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:33 AM
6

Unfortunately it's one of those lessons we shouldn't have to learn, but we have to to try and protect ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:49 AM
5

One of my exes could not handle it. I'd ask him to pick something up for me, like over the counter allergy medicine, and he acted like it was such a hard thing to do. He had to commute home and stop by the CVS drive thru. He was so damn selfish too, he'd get something to eat only for himself on his way home, so he didn't have to pay for mine. I feel so lucky I didn't end up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:22 AM
4

A lot of men jerk off regularly too. Even I can only go so many times in a row before needing a break. I wonder if he's been masturbating a lot from not having sex? No way to really tell. He might be worth another try. The guy I just broke up with, it was going well until it wasn't, completely normal. But the first time we had sex I didn't orgasm even though he really did try, I just couldn't relax. After that though, it was amazing and I orgasmed every time. You just never know with men, someti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:22 PM
16

Unpopular opinion but if you really like the guy and so far he's been showing good signs, it's best to get it out of the way relatively quickly. I've done the whole thing where I dated them for like 6 months, then we had sex and it was so bad, I just knew there was no room for improvement on their part. Awkward, clunky, had no physical stamina, sweated all over me, I felt disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:25 PM
27

Said his divorce was because his ex-wife tried to force him to convert religions. Found out from his mom it's because his mom and ex-wife got in an argument and he took his mom's side. She threatened to leave and he let her. Their daughter was less than 6 months old. Once I heard this story, I started planning my exit. Now I'm extremely wary of divorced men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:19 AM
45

I hate what they did to her, she's always been so sweet and humble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:20 PM
22

Dated a guy recently whose car was a total mess. It would have taken me 5 minutes to throw the cans away, but I just kicked them out of my way. Not my problem. And no, I'm not seeing him anymore. He called me 2 days before my birthday asking me to convince him to keep seeing each other. I said no. 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:44 AM
9

Pick a lane! I thought they didn't want to have to take care of us. These losers really want us to run ourselves ragged trying to be superwoman. They only want us independent enough to pay the bills, but still be a damsel in distress that needs a "strong man." And for what?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:37 AM
37

I can pay for my own Chili's 2 for 25 on my own, ya cheapskates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:34 AM
3

My favorite ones are the blurry, old pictures and the ones from really far away so you can't tell what they really look like. You have a smartphone, you can take some clear photos. And I have to see you up close to know if I ever want to kiss you or not. I don't care that you bungee jumped off a cliff one time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:42 PM
8

Yup, I matched with this guy a couple years ago. He had his own graphic design business, asked to video chat before meeting, was really charming and seemed intelligent and like he had it together. We made plans and he said he was on the way...stood me up and never heard from him. Until 6 months later he texted me, apologizing for being a "bad friend". Against my better judgement, I gave him another chance. 🤡 We made plans to go have dinner, he was late and didn't arrive to pick me up until almos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:28 PM
6

I guess I'm okay with being a forever girlfriend as long as I'm not pretending to be a wife. We'd have our own places, no sharing finances, and definitely no children under those circumstances. I'll give marriage one shot if I meet the right man, but if it ends in divorce, I wouldn't do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:43 AM
65

I had a similar thing happen. After 5 or 6 months, his parents wanted to meet me while they were in town and he got upset saying "you're not my girlfriend!" He inevitably broke up with me saying I wasn't ambitious enough and he didn't want to end up taking care of me because I decided to go back to school. He blindsided me with all of this. Jokes on him though. He contacted me after like 5 years saying he made a mistake and he could have been happy all this time. Asked to take me to Europe. 🤣 Ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:39 PM
6

I saw this thread on Twitter and he's your average manlet gym bro. Has no neck and the package looks more like a packing peanut. 🙊 Don't listen to men like this, they're all projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:08 AM
21

"He's gonna leave you for someone that will." Thank God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:26 PM
35

I don't like beardos. A beard can be attractive on some men but I hate how popular it is now. Painful to make out with, hides their bone structure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:36 PM
5

I feel like a lot of things should be a given, yet when they're pointed out it seems sketchy. Men rarely mean those things, they have double meaning for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:53 PM
8

Yeah he brushed me off saying his central air didn't need a filter. I hope his unit died because of his negligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:37 AM
49

One of my exes was so proud of being a homeowner, the process of decorating, etc...I was staying with him for a bit temporarily while waiting to move into my new place, and his mother came over every day to do the housework, do his laundry, and cook for him. I was appalled. She also told me his uncle paid for the deposit, so all he was responsible for was the monthly mortgage. He really talked himself up but the reality was he barely did anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:58 AM
9

I agree with this. Some people change, some are incredibly consistent in their ways, good or bad. We do have to put some effort into our relationships, but that doesn't mean constantly bending over backwards to please someone. We should always be evaluating. If we're saying there's no way to tell, then there's no real way to properly evaluate if a man is HV or not. Sometimes they are until they're not, and then it's time to cut your losses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:14 PM
2

I snooped once, and while I didn't find evidence of him cheating, he almost had sex with another man he met on Craigslist. It was before we even met but I was shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:48 PM
28

That's starting to become my view. I mean I've certainly changed over the years. I think the problem is that essentially dedicating your life to a marriage, you can end up in a way worse position when they change and leave you in the dust. I guess we just have to always be prepared to walk away when it's over and not try to save it. Don't want to be dragged down by someone that doesn't want you anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:51 PM
46

Happened to my mom...twice. After a decade of dating, now matter how great they seemed at the beginning, always ended up flaking or being abusive/neglectful, it's made me incredibly skeptical of marriage. I get women wanting the commitment, but it just never seems to live up to it's expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:19 PM
31

Omg, Jamie is too perfect. He's ruined my idea of love forever. If they're not like him, I don't want them. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:02 PM
25

Men withhold sex too. I made the mistake of moving in with a boyfriend temporarily while I was getting on my feet in a new town. He started to resent me even though I was playing housekeeper and caretaker of his animals. I knew when he started rejecting for me for sex it was over between us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:00 PM
26

Where's craft beers, hiking, and grabbing a drink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:54 PM
6

We really were. Oh you'll get you spend your life with your best friend, lover, confidant, you'll support each other's dreams and goals, and they'll be there to pick you up when you're down. Cue married and divorced women everywhere laughing their ass off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:37 PM
3

I guess it was morbid curiosity. I feel like it's good practice to get to know someone's motivations. Makes it easier to be discerning in the future. It's pretty obvious he was trying to build a fabrication. Their poker tell is giving too much detail on something that wasn't asked. Once you've seen this a few times it's easy to spot it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:28 PM
1

Oh absolutely. I've only dated one briefly, and 2 years later he still wasn't healed and lied about the circumstances. I found out the truth through his mother. It would depend on the circumstances for me, but I agree it's not likely that they're capable of having a healthy relationship. But that's how I'm starting to feel about men entirely. At least these guys just lay it all out so you can run for the hills without even needing to go on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:21 PM
21

This is one of the many reasons I'm scared to get married. I'd love to, but it's not the fairytale I had imagined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:06 AM
44

He made it sound like he'd been divorced for a long time, I really couldn't believe it. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:11 AM
70

Exactly! Total turnoff, and completely unacceptable. Probably a ploy to make her jealous, etc...don't want to know the circumstances, don't care, boy bye. 👋 And yes I absolutely unmatched. I don't entertain that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:09 AM
53

I unmatched after that. 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:03 AM
5

I dunno, I've kind of experienced that myself but I know it was my own fault. Even with masturbating, intimacy with another person is completely different. I've almost always waited a while for sex, and after being disappointed in bed, my perception of them changed. I think it's different for women because men almost always orgasm. A lot of these guys that do this are just using a woman's body to masturbate. Whereas I really liked them and for some reason built up this fantasy that they'd finall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:51 AM
18

Yeah I'm not wasting that much time and going through that much trouble of possibly needing an annulment. But you can also fool around without having PIV sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:37 AM
15

I think it can be acceptable within context. A short stroll in nice area after dinner walking to ice cream or after dinner coffee at a nice coffee shop? Sure. But I'm not just going for a walk for a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:46 PM
16

Yup, and in my experience, I upgrade every single time. Why bother settling? You don't have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:47 PM
2

Datingoverthirty said it was toxic, but I ran across some FDS type gurus like Shera and took bits and pieces of advice. I wasn't looking to gold dig which is what she teaches but she has some decent wisdom about men in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:55 PM
6

I've been guilty of this a couple times when I was really hurt, and it did nothing but make me look bad. I've felt so much freedom being able to just walk away. If it's not a block and delete, I just say I'm moving on and that's that. They usually never respond, but if they do, I just don't reply. If I ever feel the need to do this now, I open up notepad and just write/voice text everything I want to say to them. Then I've gotten it out while keeping my dignity. Game changer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:58 PM
2

I like the mini pill. It basically creates a mucus plug that sperm can't get through. It doesn't have estrogen and you can quit anytime without major side effects. It's the only birth control I'd ever take after suffering the side effects of the traditional pill years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:06 AM
21

Yup, dated an Armenian guy, found out the real reason for his divorce. They were living with his mom and he took her side when the mom and ex wife had an argument. Ex wife took the newborn and left. If I'd known the truth I never would have dated him in the first place. Promptly left his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:30 PM
3

Get over it, that's what we have to do. After dealing with their bs we have to pick up the pieces and put ourselves back together so we can try to have a fulfilling life. If men can't find that within themselves, then they're the product of their own demise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:41 PM
141

My number is pretty low for my age, and even out of that, only 1 has actually given me an orgasm. I've made myself orgasm with a couple others but if you have to vigorously rub your clit to try and get off before he finishes that doesn't count either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:44 PM
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