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Was it not obvious to when I spelled it out or should I rephrase my answer so it’s easier for you to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:24 PM
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Wait weren’t you just posting the other day??? 😥
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:48 AM
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I think maybe it’s just how therapists are? Like they’re there to be your support and to listen. So telling a patient “You’re being abusive” might not be conducive to the therapist-patient relationship. From my experience with therapists, if I were you, I would tell them straight up, “I think I’m being abusive without realizing it. I don’t know when the next time I’ll have an episode is, and my partner is suffering because of it. What should I do?” or something. There are many different types of…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 08:33 PM
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he understands that I don’t want to be this way, that I getting the help that I need, but that it’s going to take time. Dunno why, but this part made me feel really eeked out. On the one hand, it’s good your recognize this will take time and you’re putting in work to resolve it for you own mental health. That’s great! On the other hand, it, uh, seems really unfair and unhealthy for him to be in an environment where every couple of months, his wife flies off the handle and he just has to…deal, un…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 04:43 PM
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Ofc!! I hope it helps. There are a lot of women I’ve met who are usually quiet until something ticks them off — and they don’t respond or react the way they necessarily should because it doesn’t happen all that often. I figured this would also extend to different POVs too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 01:23 AM
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So self righteousness is something I struggled with in a way that I’m not sure others here have experienced. It affected my current relationship. I haven’t read Fascinating Womanhood quite yet but plan to in the future. Self-righteous is described as, “having or characterized by a certainty, especially an unfounded one, that one is totally correct or morally superior.” My issue in terms of self-righteousness was concession. I couldn’t possibly be wrong about something I’m passionate over, or abo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 12:17 AM
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It isn’t misogynistic but I don’t get the point of this question. There are a lot of people who think like you that are doing their own thing and dating accordingly. Like, if you don’t want to date a woman with a high body count, then it shouldn’t matter to you if other people think you’re misogynistic for that — just don’t date women with a high body count?? You shouldn’t need validation for this. No one is forcing you to date girls with a high number. Also, I think your reasons for not wanting…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:49 AM
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Besides the positive sexual and social connotations a virgin woman has for SOME men (not all), there are also logistics at play. A lot of RP guys say they want a virgin partially because of that divorce stat. Women with less partners are less likely to divorce; women with 0-1 partners are less likely to divorce than any other subset in our society. We also know that women file for divorce at a higher rate than men. A lot of guys, even the ones that aren’t RP, don’t want to get caught in a nasty …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:15 AM
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I normally don’t comment on posts like this but this is so stupid lol. Yeah, go to low income LA and you’ll find impoverished people struggling to get by that aren’t too concerned about their looks atm. Why the fuck would you go to a poor area looking to score anyway? Is that your game plan? You go to the hood looking for “hotties”? Also I saw that you live in Boston. Before I graduated from BU, I don’t exactly remember the blue collar men living under the poverty line in Dorchester being exactl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:37 PM
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I actually remember the original question OP posted on here a few weeks ago and people told her the same thing; if she’s involved in sugaring, this sub might not be the best place for advice applicable to her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 03:34 AM
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I had a feeling ❤️ I’ve felt this way before too and I feel for you. But it always gets better even if it’s hard now and we’re rooting for you :) I wish you the best!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 06:09 PM
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Sounds really self destructive. Recognize that the only true reason you even care about what this girl is doing is because of what she and your ex did. Understand that you are not in a competition with her – she’s doing her thing, you’re doing your thing. You will get to where you want to be at the correct time for you. It’s great you blocked her everywhere. So now, don’t get looking where the hornet’s nest is. Go looking for something that hurt you in the past, and it will hurt you again in the…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 04:06 PM
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It depends who you ask. The way the world works now, yeah, there is truth to this sentiment. Men traditionally gain more resources the older they become. I also saw a study that women find men in their early to mid 30s the most attractive while men find women in their early 20s the most attractive. The “men age like fine wine” thing is mostly bs. The average, aging American male is not exactly at his prime. The only real defense I’ve seen is that men don’t lose collagen at the same rate women do…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:34 PM
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Different strokes for different folks ¯_(ツ)_/¯ But the reason I mentioned this is because one of the “offshoot” posts I referenced was by someone who posted in TPP. So I initially thought oh, this is just regular relationship advice, maybe kinda savage but wtvr, and then I looked more closer and…well. I was wrong. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 12:25 PM
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Edit: ok I found the sub lol it’s r/Diabla. This is basically a sugar baby sub that I found through the purple pill. Obviously as this is RPW, we have a different goal and set of strategies as sugar babies. We should not pass judgement simply because they have a different mindset/goals, I wasn’t totally aware that this was a sugar baby sub before now lol. So r/ParanoidBlobfish I’ll DM you the posts I’m referencing, if anyone else is interested lmk, just don’t want to publicly posts the posts I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:17 AM
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Glad you agree :’) I noticed ppl downvoting and I wasn’t sure if it was because I said something about journals or birth control…either way, my message is just for increased medical transparency between doctors, patients, and pharmaceutical companies :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 01:52 AM
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I agree that women have been both culturally and pharmacologically changed - I disagree that men are the “basketball board”, in which they must respond to the changes around them. Why? Because men unfortunately changed a lot, too. “What does this do to a young man’s mind?” and “How are men supposed to deal with new paradigm?” are the wrong questions to be asking, imo, with the correct intent. Those questions suggest that the changes in men have been kind of…insignificant compared to those in wom…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 10:24 PM
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Birth control can influence the expression of BPD symptoms. Another study suggests women on BC might have difficulty processing her own emotions and showing/feeling empathy for people. To play devil’s advocate, a 2015 study found that: newer evidence suggests that the steroidal activity of lower-dosage modern contraceptives do not have a clinically relevant physiological impact on women’s mood or mood-related neuroendocrine functioning. I don’t know if anyone’s heard this before, but the saying …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 08:57 PM
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Yeah I agree. I’ve seen subs focused on female dating strategy (not THAT specific sub but some other ones) where women will straight up advise others to “not lift a finger” when it comes to dating. Let him cover absolutely everything, refuse to even open the car door for yourself, etc. If you’re looking for marriage to a good, quality guy, you yourself need to be kind and generous and, for lack of a better phrase, not entitled. I think it’s a good thing to offer to pay - it shows common decency …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 04:33 PM
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This kinda reminds me of stories of generally independent, strong-minded women who would otherwise be considered feminists that secretly prefer a more dominant man in the bedroom. Obviously, this is purely anecdotal, but within these anecdotes, there is a clear shift in power dynamics. I’m sure everyone has asked this before, but I wonder if the attraction toward men who are more sexist is a cultural or biological phenomenon?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:34 PM
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Yeah but only one time. It was a social situation where I knew most of the people or I knew someone who knew someone at the place. So it wasn’t like a complete and utter stranger. He made it known he was into me and hit on me a bit and that was it. How: left his number on a receipt, later asked me directly. We had said maybe ten words to each other in total up until then. Why: he was super hot and the older brother of someone I knew in high school. Lol. His whole vibe, voice, the way he walks, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:02 PM
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Yeah idk anyone who wears like office type clothes to college lol. Not unless you’re in a specific program and you have interviews or something. I’m 22 and have yet to see someone 18-24 dressed like that unless it’s for something. Most girls I know like pastels and girly accessories, so I think you’re fine!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 01:35 AM
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I see tons and tons of girls wearing dresses and skirts and girly stuff at my school. At least 90%. I’ve been to like three different colleges (transfer student lol) so yeah I definitely don’t think you would stand out at most unis. I don’t know what you mean by mature but as long as the context of the outfit is appropriate then you should dress how you want.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 01:16 AM
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Maybe they get a lot of creeps??? Idk or maybe it’s catty over there lol but you should try it and see if they’re receptive to you!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 11:03 PM
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It says “not a sub for redpill” in the bio 😭 although I think they still might be moderate.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:03 PM
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r/CatholicDating and r/CatholicWomen if you’re a cath I think
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 04:08 PM
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I don’t want to play armchair psychologist. You’re an adult and I wouldn’t try to condescend you. But I’m sure if you reread your post, you would be able to see blatant themes of co-dependency and avoidance. Whether you knew about his disorder before or after the marriage, you are choosing to be with someone who is not only enabling but encouraging your own. I think that you figured out somewhere along the way, long before the date of this post, that recovery wouldn’t happen if you stayed with h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 03:07 PM
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I’m at work right now and most of the studies I’m referring to link pedophilia and anorexia nervosa (really, eating disorders in general) in that eating disorders can be a result of CSA and CSA or sexual abuse continues due to the helpless and emaciated appearance of the victim. This is an article that mentions a Dutch study linking pedophiles to targeting young people with EDs. This is the Dutch organization referenced in the article and this is the fact sheet of their findings. I translated th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 02:24 PM
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Whoa wtf? If this is a real post and not a troll post, then this is one of the worst things I’ve ever read. First of all, your height is your height. Don’t know if you need to hear this, but you are perfectly made. You cannot change your height and you shouldn’t want to, either. Secondly, you sound like you have an ED. Anyone who has ever had an ED can pick up on it from the things you wrote. Therefore, NO ONE here should or will give you advice on “how to look smaller”. Third, if your husband h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:27 AM
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❤️❤️
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 10:53 PM
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Sorry, I shouldn’t have phrased it that way. I’ll delete the comment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 10:32 PM
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I think you need to grow in your confidence of your feelings - your feelings about this are NOT trivial. Maybe you could create a mantra about your feelings, like “I won’t push away things that are really bothering me”. I understand how you feel sort of because I used to be so scared of confrontation. It would eat me up and make me feel so upset and lonely. When you approach your husband, just tell him how you feel, like, “I don’t want to beg you to invite me. I know you said I won’t understand,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 08:12 PM
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Hey, yeah, don’t listen to this person. When he asks you to trust him, why won’t you? This is such inadvertent, borderline gaslighting that I’m sort of shocked lol. You clearly respect your husband considering most women would make it very known how upsetting and weird it is if their husband didn’t take them on a family trip. Even your brother in law is taking his wife. You allow your significant other to lead, but if something seems off, then you need to make sure you’re not being led into the …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 05:22 PM
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I don’t have as much life experience than you so I don’t know how useful this will be, but my advice based on one of my close family member’s experiences would be to leave. Your fiancé’s actions are not okay. You can be a mother without him, which would be preferable than staying with someone who utterly disrespects you and completely switched up the moment you got engaged. My family member made the mistake of staying with someone who leaves her deeply unsatisfied. At the age of 54, she is too s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 04:16 PM
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What are you talking about? It is a lifestyle, a way of viewing the world, a set of learned or adopted behaviors. It’s absolutely a philosophy but for argument’s sake, it’s much more akin to a philosophy than an empirical truth ffs. Also, if you weren’t giving advice, then you shouldn’t have commented. OP, none of what this person is saying makes any sense so just listen to the other people commenting lol 😭
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 01:32 PM
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Uh no. This is completely wrong and terrible advice. You can argue that we all fall under the red pill ideology, so therefore everything under the umbrella term is within a spectrum, but the female and male approach are so different that there is a reason we denote them as such. You have a very superficial and underdeveloped view of what TRP and RPW are. a truly redpill man a good dutiful woman if she sees one Citation needed considering the approach for men is not based on securing one, single …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 12:45 PM
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Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but are you saying that she’s wrong and doesn’t understand the concept?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 12:09 PM
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Arguably the most important thing in our case is having a strong support system. If you have friends with experience, that’s all the better, too. I wish you lots of luck and prayers in your journey, I’m sure you’ll find a good man :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 11:11 PM
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I come from a single parent dysfunctional home, too. Went to a good uni, had a full ride, was pre-med for a while. Some things I learned: Consider therapy. If you have trauma and grew up in a highly dysfunctional family, you have baggage. In some cases, this is worse than having relationship baggage. A lot of men, including HVM, don’t want to deal with it. It will pop up in your relationship regardless, but it’s better to have help navigating these issues. The alternative — doing everything alon…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 11:36 AM
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Because you said “for women by women” lol. You’d probably gleam some positive insight just by searching specific posts on here.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:18 AM
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You’re taking it too personally (edit: maybe misunderstand is a better word). I’m pointing out the sub’s rules. Not sure if you read them, but you should. This isn’t a place for male rights to be addressed, or for men to ask us about those things. Men are allowed to contribute if they follow specific guidelines. You would find ample info on how most women here feel about the topics you raised by reading through the sub. And yeah, unless the name “Red Pill Women” didn’t hint this is a female-cent…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:11 AM
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Look at rule number 9. It says pretty clearly this is a sub for women and our issues. Some of the questions you asked are already topics touched on here, and you’ll easily find them by using the search bar. Among the most obvious is our stance on gender roles and orientation. I’m especially apprehensive about this: “men have a set of disadvantages which need to be addressed.” That’s fine, but this isn’t the place for it, and I’m not sure what that would have to do with RPW. “This isn’t an MRA su…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 12:51 AM
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Consanguinity as in…incest? I hope to God no one here has any experience with that 😭
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 01:58 AM
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There’s a subreddit, r/AsOneAfterInfidelity. It’s centered around married couples (for the most part) who’ve experienced cheating - married couples being what should stand out to you. Their journeys are incredible difficult to read about. You probably don’t have many obligations tied up to this guy. No joint account, no mortgage with both your names, no children. You can love him as much as you want, but imagine if he cheats on you if you do get financially/legally tied to him in some way? Love …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 03:39 PM
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Hmm maybe some people are jealous, maybe some think you’re too dressed up for whatever the occasion is. I dunno. If you show up to a casual BBQ in pearls, heels, and a sort of fancy-looking dress, then it’s probably an occasion-type thing. And since women, imo, tend to be very clique-y, it’s important to…blend a little if you want to make friends. Not completely, of course, but be aware of your surroundings. You can retain your new style while also minding what the occasion is. If you’re on a da…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 04:25 PM
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I think this topic is often a lot more complicated than the question allows it to be. A “yes” or “no” won’t give you what you’re looking for. Since the beginning of civilization, we’ve always lived in societies. Every society within a culture(s) has social constructs that most people adhere to. From what I’ve seen, even those outside the binary or system often define themselves based on those constructs because they depend on an outsider’s perception of themselves for that definition. So by “not…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 01:19 AM
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A lot of people prefer learning through conversation instead of reading through a list. But what you did was ask a super basic question that could have been answered if you’d just read through the sub. I’m not even talking about the reading list. If you’d have changed the filter to hot/popular or something, you would have learned a lot more. If you go try to shortcut a subreddit, ignore the reading list/readily available info, and then ask an obvious question, don’t expect people to greet you wa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 07:16 PM
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Have you actually read through the sub at all? I don’t know any traditionally minded woman here that would ever aspire to be with a man who wants her to work all day, come home to cook and clean, and be at his beck and call. Your ex and similar men aren’t good representations of trp.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 10:04 PM
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That was one of my fears when I was reading the comments. The RPW attitude I remember has always been one of being a ~trad~ wife but never letting yourself become a doormat or encourage unhealthy/abusive behavior. You have to be strong and learn to communicate, and that’s something I’ve learned from this sub. The advice we give impacts people in a very real way so we should truly care about women asking for help. Hopefully OP has spoken to her husband and/or therapist and can resolve this. :(
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 01:34 AM
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Upholding your end is part of the reason why using the word generous in this context really rubs me the wrong way. There is a level of generosity there because a provider values your time at home much more than when you work, but it’s not a hand out. You have to put in work and show that you’re capable of taking care of a home and a family. You also can’t “assure” yourself of anything. A better question would be how you can assure yourself that you would be a good homemaker/SAHM and that involve…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 10:55 PM
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You should talk to him so you avoid further resentment and hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 12:32 AM
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What I’m saying is, he’s not going to pick up on any signal at all, probably ever, so she needs to speak to him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 02:50 PM
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I wrote it in one sitting so it’s all over the place but I’m glad it’s helpful!! Also yes I love that post, it put things in perspective for me :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 02:41 PM
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I actually get what you’re saying. It’s SUPER scary and creepy when you read comments on here that sound like Dr. Laura herself wrote them. The fear that women are at the bottom of the totem pole, and that men would be running around rampant and hurting women and children if there weren’t laws in place against that sort of thing, is not a delusional thing to worry about. That fear does have its merits in certain parts of the world. However. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from this sub. It’s …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 03:35 AM
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Yeah this whole post and some of the comments are really sad. “My sex drive feels broken, but my mouth and hands certainly aren’t!” I mean? Such an inappropriate thing to say to someone who is suffering from more than just a low libido. OP is expressing how overwhelmed, drained, guilty, and frustrated she feels, so no, the solution is not as simple as swallowing it down and buying a vibrator or giving head every night while her mental health may be tanking. OP, you should really find a way to ex…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 05:49 PM
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No problem, good luck on your journey.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 12:17 AM
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Hi I’m 5’1 and curvy too. I went from 130 to 105 a few years ago through IF and very light weight lifting/resistance training. Smalletics is a YouTube channel designed for petite sized women and she helped me look a lot better in clothes and swimwear. I’m confused because you say you don’t want to be overly sexy, but in another comment you say you’d prefer tight shirts. If you’re top heavy and want to appear more conservative, then a tight shirt isn’t any better than a cropped hoodie. You’re goi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 02:34 PM
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I completely agree there are some really helpful, intelligent men that have contributed to the discussion before. One commented on something that I posted years ago and his advice stuck with me. Hopefully this post will ward off people who don’t have the experience/knowledge/insight to be commenting in the first place. We appreciate our mods!! 😭
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 09:48 PM
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This is such a bad ass post. I’ve seen comments coming from people who clearly don’t understand RPW or what the point of it is on certain posts. I remember being 18, super depressed and unhappy because of relationship issues, and the experienced ladies on this sub basically helped me regain my life. I’m sure so many other women have been helped by this sub in amazing ways so it’s frustrating to see the quality of comments decrease at times, especially when it comes from men who don’t know what t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 09:25 PM
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I’m the same age as you and was in an LDR for about a year. We were very attentive to each other emotionally and mentally. A lot of it had to do with the fact we were very similar - similar backgrounds, families, experiences, etc. He was one of my closest friends before we started dating so that also helped. In my opinion, I don’t think an LDR sounds like a good idea for you based on what your post. Asking “isn’t it his fault?” comes off as needing validation by the external, which will not help…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 06:41 PM
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I’m extremely worried too. A lot of it is going to come down to frugality and self-sustenance. I’m really into couponing so I’ve been racking up as many coupons as I can to help my family. I’m also thinking about gardening since I live in a place with a lot of open land. My boyfriend is an investor and I’ve made a decent amount of money because of his advice for someone my age. I think understanding finances is a huge part of RPW. I’m focused on investing small amounts in certain places based on…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 11:33 PM
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Exactly. The fact you’re not even asking for marriage and you also are sympathetic to his desire of sleeping with other women while he’s deployed shows you’re really not asking for that much. If he can’t give you the bare minimum that you want, then you can surely find a man who is a much better match for you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 08:06 PM
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If he’s saying there’s a chance he might want to sleep with other women even if you’re already doing everything for him when you’re together in the states, then you’re barking up the wrong tree by asking for stability from this guy. He doesn’t sound very HVM in my opinion. Maybe possibly RP but I don’t even think that of him; if he was like a typical RP guy, he’d leave no ambiguity concerning commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 06:40 PM
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I’m going to repeat the questions she asked you: Do you want to get married? Do you want kids? Do you want monogamy? Not are willing to compromise, but what would you rather? Follow up question: Do you know anyone else who dated a guy in the military? You said he doesn’t want marriage, and he probably doesn’t want kids either. Even if he’s spending money to see you, it might be because you’re one of the only women he knows that would put up with him sleeping around when he’s deployed and also ba…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 05:25 PM
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I’m currently applying to PA school but I was pre-med in the beginning. I have two female doctors in my family; one is a pediatrician and the other is an oncologist who only sees patients, no operating. What I learned from them is that you can find a HVM in your situation. Both are married to well-educated men, and their families are incredibly well off. I view my uncles as HVM because they’re amazing fathers and typically take the role as head of the family. One met her husband during her resid…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 03:42 AM
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We just have different experience around men, even if you’re a man. These aren’t even my words but what I’ve heard from guy friends, older men in my family, men online, some of the guys I’ve talked to, my boyfriend, etc. It absolutely is a turnoff to some guys to come full throttle with the admission that you just want to be a housewife on the first date or time of meeting. Why? Because so many men are wary of their money nowadays. It’s terrible advice to give to a young girl to not be careful w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 07:06 PM
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Sorry, I completely disagree. I think there’s a major difference between masculine and feminine drive. There’s even place for a neutral drive, possibly best described as wanting to do something. I grew up around very wealthy, affluent families; many had RPW ideal versions of living. Many of the mothers had degrees and jobs before getting married and becoming housewives. Their husbands were, of course, the main breadwinners. It’s a huge leap and a bit of an insult to men who have had it made in t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 02:34 AM
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I agree with this. I’ve met a lot of guys who (not to sound mean) have referred to girls with no passion or drive for anything as “losers”. I’m not saying it’s true but I do think they want you to have your own interests and to see a spark of drive/ambition of your own, even if it means just having, for example, an Etsy store or an associate’s degree. I also think it’s a huge turn off to tell a guy straight up that you want to be a housewife and just go to yoga all the time if you don’t already …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 06:01 AM
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I agree with others that you may need to speak to a therapist, like…immediately. If your ocd is really affecting you right now, you may not be able to think clearly or as level-headed as you would otherwise. Also, if this happened 3 years ago, I doubt he would remember much. It sounds like he was probably very in the moment and didn’t process you were being serious, which would mean he did it on purpose. Either way, it’s not okay and your feelings are valid, but there’s a huge difference between…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 09:32 PM
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Redpill for men at this point is very different for women, specifically this subreddit. I’ve seen mods talk about how a lot of “redpill” men have entirely different goals than us - many don’t want to get married ever. They basically want to get with as many attractive women forever, amass their wealth, and never settle down, and all of that is fine and dandy, but there’s no coping with it for RP women because we already know where the line is drawn. I have old school, traditional parents, but I …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 08:36 PM
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Lol no. If he’s watching really weird, sexual ASMR videos, even if it’s just a 2D anime girl thing, then yes. But if it’s just a still image of a 2D girl or a woman who’s not being sexual, then no, it’s not cheating and I don’t even know why it would be a red flag unless you go through his history (which you should ask for first) and find weird stuff or he stills you that it’s a sexual thing for him (which I doubt he will). Most likely, he’s using the ASMR to relax while he’s doing work and befo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 07:59 PM
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It might have been in poor taste or something, but I don’t think he meant it that way. As a celebrity he’s in the public eye and the public will react to what he posts on social media, but is it really his responsibility to tailor his captions to be most likely to receive positive feedback when he already knows what he means? I think part of the reason why he said that was because of COVID and how it (and also in very rare cases the vaccine) may have affected some births and expecting mothers ou…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/21 10:07 AM
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LOL I burst out laughing reading this. I think she’s a pseudoscience hack with weird parenting advice. Weird how people still don’t see through it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 01:18 AM
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You can be very feminine yet still have instances where some of the things you say or do are not entirely feminine. I guess context is necessary; for example, if you were being rude, then yeah, maybe be more careful in the way that you’re using sarcasm. But I think it’s really strange to completely eliminate or police every instance when sarcasm might be appropriate or funny. Like, you can make a sarcastic, good natured joke or comment that others might find clever/humorous/whatever, and not be …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 12:09 AM
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Yeah, I know it sounds very shortsighted. I trust he wouldn’t do that to me because toward the end, he seemed to kind of realize that it IS illegal (we had a brief conversation about it). I think he was in denial for some reason before then. Also, we ended things pretty cordially, as emotional as it was. He even offered to delete everything of me. So I don’t trust him 100%, or the way I would a close friend, but I’m at least hoping he wouldn’t try to hurt me that way. He knows I wouldn’t do that…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 02:11 AM
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Yes, I really don’t want to upset him or anything. I’ve forgiven him and in a way I care about him enough to want wish the best for him in the future. Thank you for your advice, and for your other submission to the community (it gave me insight into working vs the reality of being a mom -)!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 02:08 AM
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I’m glad I’m not the only one, as crappy as that sounds. I am probably going to tell my boyfriend he messaged me and then decide if I should respond based on what he tells me. I’m so anxious right now that my hands are shaking lol. Also, I contacted a friend who told me the same thing about taking legal action. Funnily (or morbidly) enough, my ex used to say revenge porn is not illegal. I really do trust him to not do anything like that to me, but I am keeping this in mind just in case. Thank yo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 02:08 AM
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Hi thank you for your response. My boyfriend knows about the pictures because he asked me straight up if I had ever sent pictures of myself to anyone else and I answered “yes”. He was pissed, of course, but dropped it. I believe he purposely does not ask about my ex because he doesn’t want to know more than he does, which is basically everything I’ve already told him. I think I just just tell my boyfriend he contacted me and proceed from there. This was not bad advice at all; I really do appreci…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 02:06 AM
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Yeah this is the advice that’s been given forever on here. It’s the best and safest option and one that I believe is most fulfilling for everyone involved.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:38 PM
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Okay, you also posted this, about how women “could get nothing in a divorce if a man holds crypto”. This honestly sounds like gold-digging behavior, which is why someone else made a post about this very thing last week. There’s a difference between wanting a man who can take care of you and the kids versus what you’re doing. You are straight up telling men you want them to be rich and then also asking the internet about how to secure the bag in the event a man has crypto. This is disturbing tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:35 PM
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What kills me about this comment is this person is 18 lmao. OP please don’t listen to someone who can’t possibly give you the advice you need. This community seriously needs to start rooting out the bad apples.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 10:17 PM
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I don’t think you’re fumbling anything because there’s no wayyy that his family or he would be okay with getting married without a prenup. And like someone else said, you do sound really immature (not in a mean way, just that you’re not ready for any of…this) so you definitely would not be able to pull that off. You should focus on work and whatever else makes you happy instead of marriage since that might not be right for you at this stage on life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 01:48 AM
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No problem! I feel like people really took this out of context and maybe felt like you were personally attacking people for liking expensive things lol. You weren’t saying that at all, and I appreciate the post c:
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 12:57 AM
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Yeah but that’s not the point of what she said and I think you know that. She’s not even judging people who like luxurious items; the main message is that money is not the only thing that matters, and we should be wise about the things that we ask for, especially when it’s not money that we earn ourselves. It’s strange to see people get personally offended over something like this. We can all agree an expensive ring or something is an amazing gift once and a while. I also feel like if you’ve eve…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 11:52 PM
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Np good luck!! 💞💞
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 08:21 PM
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I think if you’re flirty enough or at least have clearly expressed that you’re into him, you won’t give off those vibes. But if you’re dating older, he’s probablyyy gonna want to pay (in my experience). Maybe you could hold off on the first date and then offer to for the second date, or tease him a little and say you’ll pay for desert later if you go somewhere else? I’ve actually done that before and it was a nice ice breaker lol. You seem like a gracious person, though, so I’m sure just from ta…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 08:18 PM
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Whenever I’ve offered the guy always shoots me down. And after that, I don’t press it, but I am genuine when I offer to. Usually I’ll do it right before the bill and I’ll specifically ask, “Would it be okay to split the bill?”. As for the frequency, that depends on the guy. I’d wait a few dates before bringing it up, if there’s semi certainty you’re going to keep going out with him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 08:09 PM
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The ‘about’ section of this community would have been helpful for you to read then. I think the mod who deleted your post has a post about how men are not supposed to post here, unless it’s that one straggler. I’m not saying this in a rude or condescending way, just that the type of guys you’re dealing with are men that most women in this subreddit have little to no experience with. We are not men, so there is very little advice besides general info that we could give you. There’s a huge differe…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 07:09 PM
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I’m kind of confused why you would ask this question on r/RedPillWomen. Going off your previous posts you are a man with a very feminine appearance, correct? You said you are not trans either. This sub, for the most part unless I’m mistaken, is mainly for women who want to eventually get married, find a HVM for them, learn about dating strategies/vetting, etc. The type of men biological/cis women deal with are usually very different from the men you are dealing with, since I’m assuming you’re da…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 12:54 AM
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I’m assuming you mean more than just comfort and being a housewife. I think we can kinda lump that in with the “submissive” category, even if it’s not totally accurate. That includes being his shoulder to lean on, learning to listen, budgeting, etc. But something my bf said is that I have to bring things to the table that he can’t give me and he has to give me things that I can’t give him. Obviously, yeah, common interests lol that usually is what brings people together, or at least having the w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 08:24 PM
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Might be too out there for you but the Snake Diet helped me a lot!! Cole is insane but he gets maintainable results for people
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 05:28 AM
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Please don’t do this. I don’t know how you can type something like this, press “post”, and not immediately realize how wrong you are. Also, any high value man would probably NEVER marry you if he knew that you were messing with your ex while also going out with him. You need to break up with your boyfriend and do some self improvement, notably starting by reading the advice this sub has graciously, freely given us.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 09:42 PM
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The way you describe your behavior makes it really easy to see why he views it as you beating up on yourself. It seems like more of a communication issue and a difference in dealing with certain situations, whether it’s internal or external. I really understand where you’re coming from because it was a pivotal moment in my life when I started taking a more active role in my own life. I do think there is some warrant in considering what he’s saying, though. It’s not completely impossible that you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 02:36 AM
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Hahaha the last line. Thank you for the reassurance, I really appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 09:30 PM
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We’re both religious, we both value family over anything else, we have the same views about how a family should be structured. I don’t mind being dependent on him at all. My fears stem more from this period of increasing distance from each other as his workload grows and it’s making me think that things are changing negatively, ie maybe he’s not as interested in my anymore or something. Stupid, right? I just can’t help but feel that way even though I know I can’t control the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 09:29 PM
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I guess this is why I’m a little relieved that we’re in an LDR because although we’ve spent time together in real life multiple times, it all moved pretty fast. We’ve talked seriously about marriage and children, he’s told me he wants to get married to me specifically, and basically that he wishes one of us had moved to each other earlier on in the relationship. However, you’re totally right about not moving in together until you’re actually married. Reading this comment calmed me down a bit bec…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 09:25 PM
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This is true, I guess I meant more I can see my own downfalls being reflected back to me. Like I can see how much is hard work paid off, but how my slacking has finally caught up to me. He’s said he would prefer if I just dropped out of school all together, which I might actually do if it would make things easier.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 09:22 PM
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Thank you, this was lovely. I keep reminding myself that if he wanted to talk to other girls, he would because of how (painfully) blunt and honest he is, which I appreciate lol. Thank you 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 09:20 PM
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I’d love to message questions in the future, I just have so many! It’s really admirable you waited so long and had that much self control; I’d like to find something like that. I really like the idea of dating someone for a year before we do anything. It feels like I’d probably be most comfortable with.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/20 05:50 PM
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I loved reading this! I’m working on finding my boundaries and balance. Atm it’s kind of hard because I’m just now socializing with boys, but I think as long as I decide what I’m comfortable and not okay with I’ll be okay. Thank you for writing this :) I really appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/20 05:49 PM
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This was so great. I’m really happy you found the one. You described how I feel perfectly - ashamed and proud, secure and insecure. I feel wayyyyy better that I’m not alone on this. Sex IS a big deal no matter how many people try to diminish its value to me in real life. I’m going to seek out more likeminded people. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWives07/01/20 05:47 PM
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I heard following the snake diet can greatly reduce the chance of it. Also I think it’s dependent on your body. I know a girl who lost like 45lb in a month and a half who ended with no loose skin.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 04:27 AM
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Exactly! I think she almost sort of brainwashed herself into thinking this way, whether because of her husband or (and this is something I’ve noticed as I learn more about people online) she’s overcompensating for being a crappy wife/possibly, um, kind of slutty in the past? I think level headed Christian women aren’t as strict or harsh with their reasoning or advice - we understand we’re all human, rather than having an extreme black and white view of things the way she does (obviously with som…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 03:31 AM
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Yeah, I see her on twitter often because I follow a lot of traditional/home maker accounts and honestly, I don’t like her. Lots of my mutuals don’t either. Some of the things she says makes sense of course, there’s a lot that aligns with women’s redpill or w/e, and as a Catholic, I do like the biblical references. What rubs me the wrong way and ultimately made me unfollow is she honestly does push for doormat tier behavior sometimes. Since many young girls like me follow her, it can be really da…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 11:32 PM
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It sounds like you almost look kind of Slavic. I’ve always loved and been jealous of that look. Also, there are many celebrities with very strong features that are beautiful - like Angelina Jolie for example. This is what I personally would suggest to change up your look (although they’re just suggestions and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with how you currently look, it’s just a stylist approach): • Get some tones in your hair. Low lights, highlights, the works. Dark brown hair is beautif…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 02:48 AM
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I think (esp young) women are really easily manipulated by politics and the media, and the few conservative girls I know my age in uni are too scared to branch out and talk about their more conservative, family focused ideas. Men are, too, but they seem to do more political activism. I go to a top tier school in Boston and honestly can’t imagine talking about how fulfilling a life as a housewife could be or a RPW relationship without getting laughed at or possibly attacked. I know we want it all…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 08:12 PM
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This kinda made me laugh lol it honestly is as simple as him being a player. I learned just because a man is older doesn’t mean he’s mature, responsible, or faithful (I shouldn’t have assumed this about him in the first place).
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 04:59 AM
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In his defense, he doesn’t seek out younger girls. He’s been very candid about his past exes and they’ve all been around his age. Regardless, you’re right - I can’t imagine a long term relationship with him at this point. It scares me to think about dating him for real and finding out after several years he’s been cheating. He has many red flags but this one is so glaringly obvious that I’m not going to pursue anything with him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 04:57 AM
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I’ve read that a lot of men don’t even know how to approach a girl outside of a bar/club scene because of edating now. Makes me very sad but I’m going to get involved in activities at college, maybe volunteer at church, etc to meet people in real life instead. I feel like I’m missing out on real world experience doing everything online. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 04:55 AM
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True. My problem is attachment. I guess he was my shoulder to cry/lean on. I just have to learn how to recover from it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 04:09 AM
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Thanks for your advice, it really means a lot and I’m going to end it. I’m sure I won’t remember him soon enough. Thanks girl :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:11 AM
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I will, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:11 AM
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I guess I’m conflicted because of all the emotions. I actually thought maybe I should go see him anyway in July and see how things go in real life. I need someone to just smack me and tell me that’s the dumbest thing I could do. It’s crazy talk, I know, but I can’t stop thinking it. Funny you mention that though because my first thought as soon as I found out was I wished I never met him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 03:02 AM
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Online dating is basically off the table for me at this point. I’m already nun mode because I’m a virgin but also because I need time to get over this. You brought up an interesting point that I didn’t think of: that he’s doing the same thing with her that he’s doing with me. Again, I never asked him to be exclusive. I never wanted to online date. I told him that numerous times in the summer and he kept pressing, which is why I’m so confused right now. I’m not planning on talking to him after th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:52 AM
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He’s the one who asked to be with ME. I told him multiple times I didn’t want to do this but he kept pressuring me. I finally said yes and now I’m incredibly attached to him. He told me he would wait for me without me even asking for anything. He offered everything and as time went on I ended up saying yes. I don’t think he owed me any form of exclusivity. That wasn’t even in my head at the time, until he started becoming extremely jealous any time I mentioned another guy or anything like that. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:50 AM
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What’s with your attitude? This could entirely be possible, maybe he just doesn’t want to be dominant in that way with you especially if he keeps DAREing. Why would someone who has those secret urges/desires, even if he is compartmentalizing them because of a prior relationship, continue to hide them if he has a girl who’s so obviously tipping him off and willing to consent to it? It’s seems pretty obvious but instead of very blatantly beating around the bush (because you’re clearly not getting …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 10:25 AM
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I would save up money, get my sh*t fixed (teeth, whatever other feature you don't like), and divorce him. Actually, I would probably divorce him first and then get whatever I needed done. The fact he says he won't leave you but is interested in polygamy is so weird - he doesn't want to cheat on you, so he wants you to be on board with him (and I guess you by default) hooking up with/having a relationship with another woman. I HIGHLY doubt that would help you feel any better at all about yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 06:47 AM
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This basically reminds me of what it's like being a freshman in college lol. He's 18/19, TRP, has only known you for 1.5 months online of all places, and is promising you he won't take advantage of you? Come on dude. That's like every high school/young uni guy, minus trp in most cases, who's trying to use a girl for sex. Don't lose your virginity just because some random guy is showing interest and because you really want to have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 06:17 AM
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I think you should lead by example instead of getting her a book to read. Fourteen is pretty young to understand something like that. I agree that some movies might be a good idea, like Clueless as dumb as that might sound, but as a kid I really looked up to Cher and it helped me navigate through high school. It really depends on the kind of mother you are and the influences you allow her to be exposed to, or at least condone or disagree with, that will shape how she is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 06:09 AM
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Aww no problem!! <33 :') I think you have an idea of where to start now and where to end things if he still exhibits the same behaviors and feelings after you've showed you're willing to change yourself for him. Good luck and msg me anytime if you need support/help :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 05:21 PM
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Oh yeah, like the other dude said, look up intermittent fasting but I highly suggest the Snake Diet!! It's sustainable, a lifestyle, and you'll great basically forever until you're like 80 or something if you follow through with it :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 05:03 PM
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No it's okay!! I'm very confident now, and it was all stuff I needed to go through to become happier :) I just feel like telling his friend your face is "too found for him" and lying about how he felt about your weight is disingenuous and might point to his his feelings being very conditional, which I'm sure is normal for his age but still, this obviously isn't doing a lot for your self esteem. If he still makes you feel like you're not good enough after you've worked on yourself for a while the…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 05:00 PM
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You sound so much like me except I had these insecurities way before even being on the internet so I kind of just wanted to give my input and experience. First of all, like everyone has said in this thread, it was cruel of him to say you're not his physical ideal. But at the same time, he's in this relationship with you because he's attracted to, obviously both physically and mentally, and wants to be with you. I think a lot of guys at that age, as long as he's confident, definitely wouldn't sti…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 03:49 AM
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I think he needs stability and a lot of attention and love and someone who can manage his trust issues. I really did do that - for a little over a year I was one of the only stable forces in his life, I'd support him and pick him up whenever he was done, offer words and actions of reassurance and encouragement; I went out of my way to make sacrifices for him the way he made them for me. But now that we're in this situation, I don't think he'll allow me to be that way anymore. I mean mentally I t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 06:24 PM
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Thank you for your response. I think our relationship, if it was to continue, might be a totally toxic one. I can see him constantly bringing up the break up, never letting it go, constantly reminding me of the, "Well I never left you, but you left me, how can I trust you?" sort of thing; he even said our relationship will never, ever be what it was in the past and that my word is less than nothing. From an outsiders perspective, the relationship is basically over and yet I hold on. It is very r…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 05:52 PM
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wtf I didn't cheat on him. We broke up for a multitude of reasons, not one of them involving cheating. What are you even talking about lmao
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 05:44 PM
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He mentioned something - that it's solipsistic of me to not allow him to look at his "other options" (as in finding a girl who loves and respects him) and then not returning to be his girlfriend if he realizes he doesn't want to be with her. I think that might also be a sign to start a new relationship too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:06 AM
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Yeah, I saw lots of cheating go on and women (and men believe it or not) hitting the wall. I'm so scared about that happening to me. I really liked this advice though. I will definitely read those books. Right now I'm a freshman in college so it's easy to distract myself with friends and studying but I definitely need some wisdom and a counselor. Thank you for your response; I should focus on doing work on myself instead of this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:04 AM
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I'm a virgin. I don't want the wrong attention. I'm not looking for guys to fuck me or be the girl every guy wants to fuck. My friend's situation is my ideal: she found an older guy and they're going to get married soon. They love each other. He is stable, smart, intellectual, attractive, etc. She's young and rambunctious but wants a trad sort of family, like me. I'm so fucking scared of being mid or even early 20s and not being in a long term relationship with a man that I know is the one, or a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:01 AM
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Thank you for you response as well. I think whether he takes me back or not, I will be rereading this for a long time. For now it's a waiting game until he contacts me to tell me what he wants to do. Thanks so much :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:28 AM
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Thank you for your response. To clarify, one of the reasons why we broke up was because I believed the relationship was ruining his mental health. We weren't always long distance but we had a few moments where we were. But ever since I came to college things were especially difficult on him. He would call twenty times in the span of half an hour or so sometimes. I don't think I was empathetic enough to him at all - I know that I didn't make enough time for him or do things to show I was more con…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:26 AM
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