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CMVdarla10/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:47 PM
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Debatedarla10/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 02:44 PM
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Discussiondarla10/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/18 08:22 PM
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Discussiondarla10/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:09 PM
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CMVdarla10/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:05 PM
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Like it or not, first impression romantic interactions have an element of status games. Negging successfully doesn’t lower her self esteem, it raises his status in her eyes because she decides to humble herself a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 05:37 PM
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It does if you’re nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:54 AM
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Well that’s absolutely pathetic. What a waste of your youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:16 PM
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So let me get this straight: you “fell in limerence” w a boomer when you were about 21. Then you fell for her Millenial niece, while still dating the Boomer, cheating for 2 years. And for the last 15 years you’ve been with the niece, your current object. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:06 PM
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thanks ChatGPT
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 11:01 PM
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I would say that if you're in your mother's basement lamenting the fact you have no friends, no girlfriend, and no social skills, developing a healthy relationship to alcohol might be exactly what's called for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:57 PM
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You seem tense. I think you should have a drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:54 PM
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apparently, if you step foot in a bar and have a drink, you are an alcoholic. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:13 PM
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Because women worked together and coordinated change. Those men just sit in their basements. The world doesn't own us anything. It never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:10 PM
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So sorry for the loss of your sister angels-fan. May she Rest In Peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 02:51 AM
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You’re going to end up old no matter what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 01:14 PM
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Attraction can’t be negotiated. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 10:46 PM
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I don’t think most women realize they are going to lose attraction for him. It’s not like they do it on purpose. It’s just biology. Nothing to do w responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 04:10 AM
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They aren’t anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 04:47 AM
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I agree with you. I was the breadwinner in my first marriage. It is an attraction killer for many women. Unless he is very masculine, this isn’t a good choice for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 04:46 AM
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oh yes. Convert to Islam and all your problems are solved. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 04:47 PM
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Sooner or later she’ll see you’re not understanding the feelz, you’re just triggering them temporarily. But I guess it doesn’t matter because by then she’d be yours. Some men actually understand the feelz. They get everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:04 AM
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I cheated on my college bf because we had a long distance relationship. I was seduced by another man who lived near by and gave me attention. pretty straight forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 06:20 PM
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Did they take into account the age difference? Women go for older men (4 years older on average) in part because they are more established financially. If they aren’t East Ning much more than she is yet are older, that won’t sit well with most women. Might as well go for the hotter guy her age who makes the same. But those guys aren’t ready for marriage, so it becomes a catch 22
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 11:32 AM
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The majority so don’t feel the way you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 08:05 PM
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Most women don't feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 12:49 AM
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No. Female attraction doesn't work like that. We want one man. The best one we can get. Until he stops being the best. Then we want the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 12:32 AM
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Is your girlfriend on the title of your shared home? Do you share a bank account? Do you pay into her retirement account? Does she have access to your investments?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:35 PM
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Do you also identify as an attack helicopter when it “accurately describes your emotional reality” in a given moment?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:49 PM
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Are you one of those people who thinks words mean whatever you want them to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:19 PM
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She’s not your wife. She’s your girlfriend of 17 years. Misrepresentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 12:32 PM
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Yes I only recently found out my husband is not in fact an Eagle Scout. He missed the final essay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 10:10 PM
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No. They make my current relationship more enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 12:29 AM
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There is no way to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 06:57 PM
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Yeah but at what ratios?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 07:37 PM
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“Be more masculine” is absolutely useful to most men who strike out. That is their #1 problem. A man cannot seduce a woman without it. How do you think seduction works? The vast majority of women don’t get horny for effeminate, asexual, shy men. If you look at the self proclaimed BP guys who are successful w women, you will see they possess a lot of masculine traits, even if they are the wokest bloke.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 07:28 PM
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Do you know the definition of masculinity? If a man possesses masculine attributes a surprising number of the problems you listed magically disappear. I am a woman. Don’t tell me women are sexually attracted to men with low levels of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:39 PM
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too shy, lousy approach, women-are-whores butthurt thinking, no social skills (no manly charm), white knighting, co-dependent are all examples of low masculinity. Thanks for giving the examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:17 PM
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point 1 I acknowledged but point 2 is another discussion. I agree women want the ideal: the 'tamed' alpha, AKA high beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:32 PM
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no he can also act more masculine, which is exactly the advice that is generally not given.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:04 PM
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that's the point, telling them to be nice is bad advice. you can look at r/relationships in general and recognize that as far as MEN go, the ones who continually strike out are too beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:02 PM
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In fairness, it's also dangerous to be blatantly honest with men. A lot of men looking for advice are low key orbiters who would not take kindly to hearing "you are not masculine enough."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:57 PM
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Yeah he sensed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:15 AM
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Because men can’t/won’t express their own feelings readily, they love witnessing feelings in the woman they love. They hate drama. If you were “chill” there’s a chance you were hiding your feelings Men will never verbalize it, but they need women to show emotion. Otherwise they get turned off. BPD women do over the top drama. But at least they aren’t hiding their feelings. That’s why men pick them. He likes bringing you a blanket when you cry. Makes him feel useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:11 AM
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In my dating bracket, 5%.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:35 AM
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Secretly recorded my professor in college while he tried to seduce me in his apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 12:25 PM
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You don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 10:19 PM
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Here is a short list: most Musicians, most artists, most performers, gangsters, thugs, certain academics, most athletes, most comedians, bikers, hustlers, and on and on and on
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 10:16 PM
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All women are seeking ‘winners’. Not all women are seeking gold. Why do you think some women are attracted to poor artists/musicians or bad boys? Because they have social status, masculinity, charm, talent or any other number of variables that make them ‘winners’.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 09:45 PM
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You’re just making up definitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 04:35 PM
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Social climbers who play the long game and marry rich are not dumb by any definition. Some trashy bimbo who gets a man to buy her a pair of Jimmy Choo’s in exchange for sex is a different animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:09 PM
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Gold diggers aren’t dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 12:55 PM
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I don’t lie about it. Married a hot buff guy. I did lose some social points in the FSM.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 08:33 PM
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or jaw issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 04:36 PM
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https://www.intellectualtakeout.org/article/harvard-study-shows-main-reason-wives-divorce-husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 01:53 PM
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Unattractive people tend to be more insecure and therefore susceptible to temptation and flattery. Attractive people sowed their oats. They have nothing to prove. That's what I've observed. Yes this is a generalization. Yes there are insecure attractive people who cheat. But in general it's the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 01:45 PM
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Well done! And this works even if you’ve been exclusive for a while and things aren’t moving towards an engagement. You just announce you “aren’t comfortable being exclusive until you have a proposal”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 10:47 AM
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Women fall out of love with SAHDs. On some level aren’t really men. It would take a very masculine guy to pull it off well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:37 AM
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We don’t have the balls to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 01:24 AM
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For same day sex: looks and chemistry are tied for #1. Idk what chemistry is but I know it when I feel it. It’s some specific alchemy of mannerisms, charm, game, pheromones, who knows...But looks have to accompany all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 02:44 PM
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I don’t pity them for that. I pity women for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 11:19 AM
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Mine died early too. Life isn’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 11:09 AM
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There are ways to be civilized and still be masculine. It’s something your dad or some father figure should have shown you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 11:02 AM
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Just pretend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 10:50 AM
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I live in NYC. They are everywhere. Wall st is the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 10:48 AM
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They think their own masculinity is problematic and actively suppress it. It’s very off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 07:39 PM
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I think he means good as in good morals, decent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 07:37 PM
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That it can be a prison or a salve depending on the person you married.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:10 AM
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This is why divorce feels a little bit like a death, especially if it’s acrimonious. The co creator is cancelled.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:07 AM
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Where are you on the dominance scale?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 01:28 PM
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I am romantically insecure and jealous. My husband found it cute until it wasn’t. I have a temper. My kids are sometimes scared of me. I yell at them then regret it terribly. I grew up in a family of impoverished UMC hippies who thought it ‘tacky’ to worry about money. The disconnect between my parents’ rose colored bohemian perspective and the reality we actually experienced installed in me a permanent anxiety over money. I have recurring nightmares of living in a scummy tent inside a hippie co…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:03 PM
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where did you read shaming? I'm describing what I'm seeing in broader culture. It really does seem like a larger percentage of women were genuinely attracted to older men in the past. I am saying this has changed. Sure, if you're a jacked middle aged dude you will get more play, but most men aren't that. And even if you get more play, she'll have you wrapped around her finger because......you tell me. What could it POSSIBLY be?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 09:22 PM
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I always dated scrawny intellectual art dudes. Chads intimidated me so I decided they were all shallow and boring. Then I grew up. My h is a Chad. He is a charming, confident and very loving man. I took a risk by dating him, nearly got my heart broken, but it worked out. 9 years together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 12:11 PM
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Maybe you should read what I wrote a little more carefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:36 PM
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Dad shaming? I just wrote those girls tend to be unstable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:35 PM
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Most younger women do not find older men attractive. I think there was a time when this wasn’t the case but cultural attitudes have changed. Maybe older women played a role in this, but I think the sexual revolution is the real reason. Women are no longer financially dependent on men. Attraction mechanisms have evolved. The exceptions to the rule tend to be unstable people: gold diggers, thrill seekers, daddy complexed girls, etc...They aren’t really looking for viable relationships. And if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 11:23 AM
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Just a round number.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 01:20 PM
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Height is raw attraction. Just like youth and beauty are for men. A man over 6' tall is automatically assumed to be smart, charming, protective, strong, etc....All those assumptions are his to lose once he opens his mouth. On the other hand a man below 6' has to open his mouth if he hopes to gain those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 01:17 AM
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I once overheard men discussing how they mess around with short girls but marry tall ones in order to ensure tall sons. The discussion was between 2 douchey tall frat boy types but I was still taken aback. It sounded like something they heard from their fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 05:51 PM
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I had the same experience. Maybe it’s the war bride effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:21 PM
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When I’m in love with a man, he is the best. The best in bed, the best at everything. That place is his to lose. That’s why women on here can’t remember the best (other than their current bf/husband), but they can certainly remember their worst. My theory is that women falling out of love with their current partner will start suddenly remembering other experiences, if not other specific people. A man who can make a woman orgasm during PIV for example, will be remembered and then forgotten once s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 07:51 PM
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No I’m not put off by them. They are so common now. So long as the man doesn’t start to look roided out, it nbd.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 07:11 PM
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Every man is “the best” until they disappoint you. That’s when women start fantasizing about faceless exes or made up men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 07:00 PM
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I made a big show of admiring the fire he built, Cleaned the cabin, got the s’mores ready, calmed the kids down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 11:44 AM
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I don't have any fetishes besides your run of the mill female ravishment fantasy. I would dump my SO over any fetish that put my life in danger or made me lose attraction for him (I have a high tolerance for disgust so it would take a lot).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 09:35 PM
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Fatties aren’t turned on by other fatties.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 11:51 PM
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He could switch up his location so it doesn’t come off so stalkery for starters.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 06:26 PM
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Mathematically she may be in a worse position because the stress of dealing with a lazy layabout isn’t worth the squeeze. Women aren’t men. Many of us would rather be alone than live with a feckless guy who doesn’t pull his weight. Some women are ‘blind’ to his lack of contribution regarding the chores. This is because he is providing something very special, making the chores inconsequential. They come to an understanding. But this is rare. One way or another, in the end it is transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 01:40 PM
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Riley has nice legs and a decent jaw line. Too bad about the Birkenstocks. He looks very concentrated imputing his day game stats into his phone. I hate it when decent looking men act retarded. What a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 01:22 PM
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An ego boost is not the primary reason for flirting. It is a byproduct of flirting. Believe it or not a lot of people flirt in order to make a temporary human connection. That’s all. It may seem alien to you but to many people it is perfectly natural. The pleasure of that connection, banter, whatever you want to call it, is a reward, independent of ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 01:18 PM
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Education level matters more than career. she needs at least a masters degree if she’s trying to marry into UC.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 05:25 PM
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I’m case you missed it, this is a set of instructions condensed into a paragraph. I’m not giving a step by step tutorial on the intricacies if social charm. And obviously if she’s not beautiful it won’t work. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 11:05 PM
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yes just sit there and wait to be asked. Otherwise no talky talk. Such a winning strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 08:05 PM
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OP is getting a degree in neuroscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 11:16 AM
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I’m female extro and I prefer being married to an extro man. Intros are too much work. Bringing them out of their shells becomes a total slog after a while. They all seem mildly melancholic from my POV. I know that’s not true but it seems that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 09:42 PM
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Partner. He is the most fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 09:41 PM
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Didn’t do hookups. But full fledged relationships depended on the circumstance. If I needed some validation, I’d go for a very enthusiastic mediocre guy (who was average looks/personality) but I knew he wouldn’t be any sort of long term prospect. He was just a place holder until I found the guy I was really interested in, who was usually charming and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 05:56 PM
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Learn history of art, film and English lit. Develop a personal aesthetic that isn't too try hard. Keep your fashion paired down with nice classic pieces. The right shoe. the right bag. Figure out the differences between the girls who read Thrillist, Jezebel, Vogue, McSweeneys, the Atlantic, the New Yorker..... Go to contemporary art galleries on Thursday night openings and observe how people speak, dress and walk. After going to 8 or 9 openings, start making friends with the artists. Don't forge…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 05:15 PM
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It has always been largely career oriented. Having a family/kids was something that had to happen but we all competed mainly with our careers. The stay at home moms made a bigger deal about their husbands, even while complaining about them. They weren't at the top of the FSM though. The top girls were the ones with high value husbands, kids and careers. I'm on my second marriage. Those things are less important to me. The most important things are my friendships with 2 particular girls (both of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 07:03 PM
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Even boring housewives get bored of boring husbands. Don't be boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 06:49 PM
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Yes. Maybe the high SMV guy is neglectful emotionally, maybe he's cheating, maybe he's boring, maybe he's stupid. But cheating often times has nothing to do with the partner. It has to do with the cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 07:07 PM
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Poop jokes are the beginning of the end in terms of passion and romance. Don’t go there. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 06:26 PM
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We'll keep our fingers crossed. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:51 PM
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Visit any restaurant w a nice bar in NYC on a given night and you’ll find packs of women huddled at the counter scanning the room fruitlessly hoping any guy with an inkling of charm decides to approach, even for a bit of friendly banter. It’s pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 12:25 PM
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Because female friendships are complicated, especially when it comes to mates. This doesn’t negate all the positive aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 06:16 PM
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Rubbing your opponents face in a loss is a great way to demoralize your competition and make yourself look better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 02:22 PM
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Because women compete with other women in the FSM. Women compete for top tier men. Making fun of your mate choice lowers your status within the group while raising their status. If you are more beautiful than your friends, this is an opportunity they cannot pass up. That’s just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 02:11 PM
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You’re missing the point entirely. Women used to do this all the time. They dated multiple men, then wrote “Dear John” letters to the rest when one of the men proposed to her. A woman needs to position herself in such a way that the man wants to lock her down. Dating does not necessarily mean fucking. But the threat of it may mobilize the right man to act.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:27 AM
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Missed you guys too!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:13 PM
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Either way he seems in control.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 10:27 PM
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Rogan’s brute disarming charm is a sign of social skill. Successful masculine men tend to have a decent degree of social skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 10:16 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 10:09 PM
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I did it for 13 years. I would have continued to do it if he’d shown real interest in anything besides just being a house husband. A man with a plan, a passion of some sort (even if he didn’t earn a lot of $$) would have been fine. Being with a depressed, aimless person was soul crushing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 12:01 PM
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Start dating at least 3 other men immediately. Make yourself less available. Lean way back. No man likes a woman who chases him. Never ever buy a man you aren’t married to a gift. Start acting like the prize. There are ways of doing this without being a bitch. Woman up or you’ll stay an unattractive doormat. No man want to commit to a doormat, no matter how hot she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 11:34 AM
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My h is a running stream of natural game, not just with me but with the dog, the kids, the clients, the cashiers, the parking attendants,.....he's a walking charm machine. It never shuts off. I thought he was faking but nobody can keep up an act like this after 9 years. He sleeps with a self satisfied grin on his face. My mother says he walks with 'exaggerated swagger'. He is almost a cartoon. My brothers in law imitate him for fun. He can laugh at himself. He looks like superman with his clothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 11:28 PM
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It’s supposed to be. Women want smart men. They can’t afford to reproduce with a simpleton.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 05:26 PM
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flirty and slutty are two different things ​
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 05:11 PM
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Charlize and Jennifer are intimidating feminine tsunamis. It would take an equally masculine force of nature to tame these girls. The fact that no one is lining up for the job isn't surprising given the current state of manhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 05:10 PM
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And if she stayed home raising your kids (because someone has to) and put her career on the shelf while you went to work? How do you compensate for that lost opportunity cost?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 01:30 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 06:37 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 09:23 AM
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If someone is truly ‘high status’ they’ll eventually want to start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:21 PM
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He’s talking about the enormous time it takes to keep a woman’s environment clean vs his spartan preference. He isn’t trying to enforce implementation+upkeep of his spartan lifestyle onto his wife, so his wife shouldn’t impose her lifestyle in him. Hiring a maid solves this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 10:13 PM
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Same, except for the nose ring
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 06:15 PM
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Women sometimes trust men they shouldn’t because of physical attraction. Good looking people he all sorts of unearned perks, from everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:50 PM
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I’m not so sure about that. Women are more willing to try things out of their comfort zone if they are crazy about the hot guy. It’s a matter of degrees though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 02:35 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 03:11 PM
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None.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 04:01 AM
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I got mad because I was stupidly under the impression my ex wouldn’t ask for alimony or child support since he was the one who unilaterally decided to ‘not work’; a decision that in part led to the divorce. I believed we would both walk away and go out separate ways. Unfortunately my assumptions were dead wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 11:57 AM
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I can see this being true in Victorian England, where mothers were essentially viewed as ‘pure’ and sex with them was strictly for reproduction. I wonder about eras right before and right after this time period.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 02:53 PM
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How common was retribution though? A bit of wife slapping plus the occasional Friday night starfish rape session was probably tolerated. I would imagine the retribution would only come if it got out of control and he started leaving marks. It is a vastly different scenario today.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 03:34 AM
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He could try bartending. It’s more masculine than waiter. I know a surgeon (f) + bartender (m) couple who seem to have a great marriage. The guy is very confident and masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 02:54 AM
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Drugs would be even better. Mushrooms maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 02:48 AM
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I learned to cultivate a brutal work ethic that over time allowed me to access flow state during shoots. Basically spent 10 years learning how to conceptualize and execute creative briefs. It comes down to this: prepare like your life depends on it. When it comes time to perform, forget everything and just do it. You can’t ‘go with the flow’ unless you know wtf you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 03:48 AM
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They could use a fresh perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 03:43 AM
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Acting confident also tends to lead to competency in some form. It’s like faking a smile. It eventually makes you authentically happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:26 PM
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That’s different. I’m talking about sniffing out weakness and fake confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:47 AM
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Yes there are completely different rules depending on his RMV+SMV. Same for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:55 AM
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Men who proclaim themselves male feminists usually have some hidden rage. Not to be trusted IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:51 AM
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My h says exactly the opposite: ‘men want to be loved. Women want to be desired.’
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:21 AM
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sounds like BPD. That's a lot to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 10:20 PM
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men who wear crocs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 10:13 PM
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how does it affect them in a romantic relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 10:03 PM
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That's a sad sack view of romantic relationships. Most of those guys thinking/feeling those things are hen pecked losers with dead eyes and beer guts. And those sorts of guys don't dare take notice of the good relationships/families because it reminds them of what they failed to achieve. mgtows are like wherehaveallthegoodmengone types. same brand.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:55 PM
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mkay mgtow. good for you. Most men end up married or in LTRs and raise children.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:44 PM
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well eventually most people end up in marriage or LTRs and raise families, so there is a pretty big segment of the population with a vested interest in knowing how to keep that sort of relationship viable. Once you're past your 20s you'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:42 PM
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women don't shit test confident masculine men. shits tests are warning signs that her man is getting pussified. what do you think nagging is? women in good relationships don't nag. They're too busy having a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:36 PM
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yes they can. they smell insecurity cloaked in agreeableness. They might not be able to distinguish confidence from covert abusive tyrant, but they can smell a mangina a mile away. Why do you think they shit test?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:31 PM
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No it most certainly does not look all the same on the outside. Women can tell the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 07:35 PM
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I wish my dad got to meet his 7 grandchildren. He died suddenly when I was 29. As hard as our childhood was (he was feral alpha, my mom was a head in the clouds INFJ), the moment my sisters and I left for college he became very sentimental and made sure to visit us multiple times a year. People with young children are in survival mode. It’s hard to stay present, cheerful and appreciative when you have tiny fragile monsters living with you 24/7. But then you miss them when they start becoming lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 02:59 AM
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Alone forever. Polygamy only works when women are financially desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 09:43 PM
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yep. men want to serve/protect/support. I have an aversion of men paying for me. He has had to convince me to accept his money/support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 07:24 PM
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I think you got me confused with someone else. My h is a natural, but I'm his second wife and he's my second husband. together almost 9 years with a blended family. I'm definitely not N=0 and definitely am 'naive' in that I actively build the illusion. But so does he. The alternative is simply suffocating for both of us. We learned the hard way what happens when you let the romance die. Imo that's the bit wekacuck is talking about. My h demands I accept his servitude while not putting up w any d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 07:18 PM
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This is something common in NYC and amongst my friends. I remember telling 2 of them 10 years ago that they will miss the boat if they don't settle down. Both of them had all sorts of reasons why their boyfriends weren't quite good enough. One of them has had a really hard time accepting her mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 05:41 PM
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I'd paint Stacey in an equally negative light. I'd paint anyone who practices such a wounded version of romance in a negative light. Idk maybe Im a die hard romantic but it feels better to be in love than to treat the relationship like some sort of transactional chess game, even if at times it can seem that way. My H gets pretty mad when I start displaying any insecure manipulative behavior (I'm prone to manipulation when I feel insecure). He shuts it down very fast and for that I'm thankful. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 05:28 PM
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Scarcity+vigilant behavior. You know what tipped me off? Your description of the hotel quality. The sheets, her attitude, etc....it’s all pretty much on the same level. You may as well be taking a piss inside her. The level of detachment is remarkable. And nothing wrong with that if that’s what you’re into. I can’t help but interpret it as ‘BPD protection layer’ behavior. You’ve made yourself more detached so you can stomach your brand of wife. But /u/wekacuck is in another place. It looks like …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 04:15 PM
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Hypergamy in WC black communities looks very different than hypergamy in UC, UMC or even MC communities. It isn’t a family destroyer. Do you know the cost of a woman’s status in the FSM if she openly says, ‘I don’t put up with a lack of masculinity’? Especially if she isn’t WC? We telegraph the message in other ways. Kindness needn’t be disposed. A man and a woman can show kindness and compassion for each other despite their nature, or because of it. That’s what long term love looks like. It’s f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 07:43 PM
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Masculinity is going through a redefinition at the moment but it’ll come out the other side perfectly intact, even if it’s cloaked in different language or signifiers. We can tell a mile away which guys have it and which don’t. Fewer women need the provider, but no woman puts up very long with a lack of masculinity. IMO open hypergamy is a result of men becoming weak. Strong + kind men who don’t put up with disrespect or a lack of intimacy or love are becoming more rare. Lots of them want mommie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 06:26 PM
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Yes I’d be interested in the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 04:55 PM
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Sado I think you ‘learned the hard way’ because you picked a certain type of BPD woman. Are you aware there are ‘exciting’ women out there who don’t have mental illness? So you get a hall pass and she makes you put up with her BPD. You guys made that work. Good for you. Other people work in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 03:45 PM
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That sounds like 1 time. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 02:40 PM
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This is what I don’t understand: unless you are taught how to cultivate a tolerance for confrontation+strong vocalizations early on, how on earth are you supposed to know how to do it? The actual physical sensations in the throat and in the posture....it doesn’t just happen on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 02:24 PM
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We have 4 loud extroverts in our home. We just talk loud. All the time. Even in our sleep. My sister came to visit last year with her family and was horrified at the volume. So was my mother. Apparently my BILs (both introverts) felt inspired enough to launch into impersonations of us during Christmas dinner. I’m losing part of my hearing thanks to all the yelling (neutral and otherwise) but the boys aren’t intimidated by bold personalities or a bit of confrontation. Meanwhile my sisters’ boys a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 02:05 PM
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Even if they don’t have to have two incomes, UMC/UC women bifurcate into two social groups in places like nyc: the shams and the career moms. And the salt is strong between the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 01:14 PM
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And then they wonder where all the attraction went. Um, you killed it, piece by piece.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:45 PM
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Very few are passionate marriages. And by passionate I mean very happy on all three fronts: romantic, companionate, erotic. Most people fall somewhere in the middle, sure. Where in the middle depends in the amount of creative emotional work they are willing to put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:34 PM
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Studies show ‘passionate marriages’ make people extremely happy, even happier than happy single people. Average marriages make people somewhat happy but not as happy as happy single people. So basically, if you’re going to get married, try to have a passionate marriage. Or just marry for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:58 PM
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We started doing it when the social contract began to shift after WW2. Once women had the vote, the pill and the opportunity to compete in a career, marriage was redefined.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:43 PM
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Because no one outside of reddit listens to mgtows, mras, et al...and since Trump’s election all those groups have been clumped in with right wing extremists in the minds of average people. Plus, normie men know it’s a losing battle that’ll dry up attraction faster than a naked picture of POTUS’s derrière. Weak men talk about things like that. Christina Sommers, Camille Paglia and a few British ladies talk about toxic femininity but they are considered out of bounds. Despite all that, I think it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 10:49 PM
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People can absolutely be trained to score higher in IQ tests though. I know a headmaster at an elite private school who says, “give me $20K and I will increase your child’s IQ in 3 months”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 09:39 PM
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Nobody wants to admit this. The sticking point is that ‘attractive’ in this context means ‘attractive to her’. A short bald dude with enough masculinity/right character/right status is physically attractive, TO HER.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 03:51 PM
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All of your responses are basically 'nah man, you're wrong'. lazy thinking, bud. Make a cogent argument. You are defending some Rousseau state of nature premise about 'civilization building'. Human civilizations are cyclical, at least from what I've seen. They come and go in boom/bust cycles. There is nothing that supports what you are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 05:56 AM
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You’re boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:45 PM
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I just told you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:32 PM
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And what agenda could that be?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:30 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:28 PM
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Because we are in a debate sub and I like discussing male/female relationships. It interests me. The subtext of this particular and common type of OP interests me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:25 PM
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Plenty of women will find perfectly suitable partners in their 30s, even if they dated bad boys in their youth. The ones that don't, oh well, too bad for them. Do you think they are sitting around waiting for your sympathy? And even if they ask for sympathy, it doesn't mean you're obligated to give any. Let's discuss the actual subtext of these sorts of posts: "I am still attracted to these girls but I am so resentful that they didn't give me any attention in their youth. MUST resist. MUST resis…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 03:53 PM
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Many of their Gods were reflections of those base instincts and the myths were 'instructions' on how to deal with them. Same situation, different cloak.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 02:48 PM
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So where do all those commandments warning against sin come from? Why would civilizations need to organize themselves on a 'spiritual basis' that emphasizes cooperation? Could it be because our base nature is selfish?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 01:55 PM
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you're caught on this materialsim kick. I'm acknowledging there is transcendence, I'm just not agreeing with you how it manifests.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 01:46 PM
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Mary Poppins = starfish/DB 2 years after marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 01:42 PM
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Human nature is to be civilised No, it's not. We only 'cooperate' enough to get ahead. The transcendence, if there is one, is individual, not communal. While I agree history provided us roles in the past and we are in a free for all of uncertainty thanks to shifting social norms+technology, the 'humanity' you are describing only lives in the heart of individual humans who acknowledge their true nature and work to transcend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 01:33 PM
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That wasn't the point of the post. On a meta level I'd say the point of the post is to recognize things as they are (kind of shitty for most people) and learn to thrive despite those obstacles. Transcendence (and character building) IS the acknowledgement of hard truths. That is the only way you can level up to a better place. You seem to be referring to some Rousseauian state of nature that never existed (even in rats) and never will exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 06:03 PM
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this is a redpill post. nothing blue about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:36 PM
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I think one of the most painful points of this 'grief' process is letting go of the idea that 'she' is never going to get as tingly with him as she would get with Chad. It's the biggest sore point I see on the male side. Whenever I see a mediocre looking couple who seem to have a passionate relationship, it reminds me that some people are in fact capable of tweaking and maintaining genuinely high levels of sexual desire in a targeted manner. It's rare but I've seen it too many times for them to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:23 PM
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vfunny. Now what do you think about the points she's making?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:15 PM
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it's from an archived post 5 years ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1rpnx3/toward_a_reconciliation_of_male_and_female_nature/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:04 PM
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So women with infertile husbands should cheat. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:57 PM
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cheers to you goat for keeping it klassy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 01:09 AM
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It gets you a long way during adulting too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 01:08 AM
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you think love is all about being agreeable and nice all the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:05 PM
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That's right. I love Atlas.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:03 PM
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She has written too many insightful comments and her personality is too beautiful. Hall pass. Who's with ME?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:00 PM
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Look up attachment theory. Avoidant people keep partners at arms length in all sorts of ways. The book Attached explains it well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:26 PM
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Why would it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:22 PM
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Maybe you have fear of intimacy. Men pick up on that and they don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:39 AM
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Bored enough to admit they are bored after a couple of drinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:29 AM
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I have a wonderful life and I’ve never followed the typically feminine life strategy of locking down a provider. I have an allergy to men supporting me financially. I’m in a field typically dominated by men. So no, life has not been on easy mode but it is a great life. I choose men based on how masculine, hot and interesting they are. Yes sometimes When I get temporarily jealous of my sahm friends I remind myself how bored most of them are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:06 AM
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That is horrible. Brazil does seem to be sliding badly in the last 5 years especially.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 02:48 AM
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Yeah my investments crashed bad this week. Party can’t last forever I guess. Bubble bursting?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 12:23 PM
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Are you talking about the USA?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 11:56 AM
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Because they get to own a piece of her, even if it’s just fantasy. It’s that alluring male delusion:she lives in a little frame on the screen like a caged pet and he has a bit of claim over this pet. Finding out she has a husband breaks the fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 11:46 AM
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Sounds like you are emotionally shut down. But if that makes you happy, more power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 03:17 PM
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And everyone knows socialism+communism were hella good for families, right? Like, the best thing ever for families. Pfft. The fact is children do best when they have parents who model good values, including achievement and perseverance. A mildly depressed sahm who likes her vino isn’t a good role model.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 01:47 AM
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Unless you’re hot and have social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 08:15 PM
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Let’s be honest. If the guy was hot and charming it may have annoyed her but she prob wouldn’t have called to complain. I think that’s the root of OP’s frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 08:12 PM
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They’re great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 08:05 PM
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Anyone without a career these days has loss of status. Even my uber rich sahm friends on the UES know they aren’t respected. Doesn’t matter how many charity committees they sit on . But ‘the mommy wars’ is an old story that’s been around since the women entered the work force.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 05:46 PM
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There are very few women who have genuine attraction and respect for SAHDs. I know it’s politically incorrect to say it but it’s true. I was one of them, married to a very handsome, tall, successful man who decided to stop working (long before our son was born). I was so in love with him it took me years to lose the respect. But eventually it goes, especially if the decision for him to stay home is made unilaterally. There was a big Harvard meta analysis study about how the #1 predictor of divor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 04:41 PM
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Yes....with the extreme risk takers who swim against the stream. I’ve seen this too. Although I wonder what happens to their sexual attraction once those women become protective mommy figures. I suppose if the guy remains interesting and exciting....and he doesn’t become a feckless victim, her attraction would remain intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 04:17 PM
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The more ‘concerned’ and ‘disappointed’ a man is towards a corrupted woman, the more suspicions I have about the character of that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 03:00 PM
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Did you yell him his nose hairs look unkempt?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 12:12 AM
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Shaman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 11:55 PM
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Big dick energy. My 15 year old niece introduced me to the acronym. Apparently it doesn’t refer simply to anatomy but the authentic masculine confidence/swagger such an anatomy would ideally bestow. “Ohh he has lots of BDE. Look how he handled that situation” a confident male extrovert would certainly have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 11:30 PM
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Because you prob exude BDE.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 11:22 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 10:37 PM
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Woah. Why so triggered? Crack open a book some time Boss. What I’m saying is historically accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 02:15 PM
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Not “shitty” per se, she just has a very flat view.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 12:52 AM
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People try to solve problems before trashing a relationship. You’re not even disagreeing with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 12:35 AM
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Yeah outside of PPD this meme is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 08:07 PM
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If you can survive 6 years of therapy and your parents’ divorce, you can survive being friend zoned. Learn from it and move on. You’re a survivor. Don’t become bitter. Life is beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 07:12 PM
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He’s the furthest thing from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:20 PM
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Most women won’t have children without marriage. We need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:06 PM
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Last time we went out dancing with a group of friends some young drunk girl tried to slide up behind my h. She snapped his suspenders from behind. What has the student body of NYU come to!? My h had a big stupid smile on his face but when he saw my expression he backed away real quick. No more dancing for us unless I’m the youngest person there. So basically we just go dancing at old folks homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:08 PM
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You mean to tell me Mr.Abrams never partook in the occasional mosh pit and you never stage dove?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:00 PM
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It’s ok. Don’t feel bad for me. I’ll make it somehow....(walks off stage left with head down and tear rolling down cheek).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 12:11 PM
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Once you’re tuned on, you’re turned on. Just because it doesn’t land on your lap and you have to conjure it doesn’t make it fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 03:00 AM
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yes. surely humiliating for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:37 AM
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Alpha bitches own their desire. They melt every man in their path with their supernova allure and dgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:27 AM
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that's not true. Men don't talk romance, they show romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:18 AM
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That's a recipe for an erotically neutered relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:10 AM
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read my post history. it's there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:07 AM
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Women know this. I think the part they don't know (or can't bear to face) is how incredibly painful it is for a modern man who believes in egalitarian love to be casually and routinely rejected. We don't want to acknowledge it because it scares us to see our guys vulnerable. I'm interested in this stuff because I went through an internal revolution when I got divorced. I'm curious about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:03 AM
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sounds like a Mexican stand off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 12:46 AM
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I was in a 13 year bad sex situation. I know what I’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:27 PM
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The more interesting question to me is: why don’t they WANT to? And the answer is the same: spineless betas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:22 PM
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It is if it happens regularly and if men derive a lot of self esteem from that primary intimate relationship, which most do, telling them to suck it up is basically impoverishing their view of what the relationship represents and damaging their self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:15 PM
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It’s about desire. Men want to be desired by their wives. This may not have been the case 150 years ago but it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:11 PM
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You sound like a an actual grownup. Congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:09 PM
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Do you think men have interior emotional lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 08:11 PM
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People negotiate, manipulate, conjure and reignite their own desire all the time in healthy LTRs. They use their imagination and step out of their comfort zones. There is no genuine desire without a bit of emotional risk and that is the ‘work’ of marriage: continuously walking that line. So yes, women have to take more risks with their inner emotional life and resist the shutdown. Men do too obviously but this thread is about women and how they can torque that reactive sexuality a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 06:53 PM
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❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 05:53 PM
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I’m not romanticizing a time when men felt entitled to affairs. I think it’s horrific. I disagree deadbedrooming a man is less hurtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 05:48 PM
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That’s not good. I guess Im making the case for a type of maintenance sex that leads to more passionate connected sex. Like it should become the norm. But yeah that would fuck w my head too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 04:49 PM
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Of course but if things keep going wrong, someone has to break out of the mold and reignite the situation via a selfless act (which of course isn’t conducive to erotic charge, but it can trigger erotic charge down the line). Pointing fingers and waiting for him to change might not work. I’m saying perhaps inspire change...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 04:41 PM
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Starfish makes the guy feel rapey?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 04:04 PM
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Well I’m proposing this as an opening to actual arousal, not a bandaid measure to mask sexual disfunction. Sexual disfunction needs to be dealt with in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 04:02 PM
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Faking orgasms is death knell. That’s not what I’m saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:47 PM
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I’m making the case that women can in fact ‘dig deeper’ than they realize. Just because we don’t do it routinely doesn’t mean it isn’t something that can’t be cultivated. And I predict it would have a cascading positive effect for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:42 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:26 PM
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It’s an olive branch. Chances are her husband is very aware of her dissatisfaction. A lot of things can be resolved with non verbal communication. In fact many men prefer that. It’s surprising how emotionally open, romantic, charitable and kind men can become when they sense they are desired by their wives. It’s a feedback loop. Giving him good sex breaks emotional impasses that words and nagging can’t always solve.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:25 PM
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I’m saying she can use sex as a creative way to work through her dissatisfactions. It can work wonders but she has to take herself off the pedestal a little bit. That’s trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:15 PM
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If the wife wants sex and he doesn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:13 PM
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Do it anyway and learn to act and don’t hold a grudge about it. So he’s not crushed. It’s good for the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:10 PM
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Princess needs to Queen up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:04 PM
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They should get themselves in the mood. Take control of their reactive sexuality a bit more. Or, as my mother would say, “Use your imagination darling. That’s what it’s there for.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 02:59 PM
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The concept of marriage has gone through a drastic revolution. People now expect their ‘the One’ to fulfill all of their reproductive, social, emotional, spiritual and intimate needs. This is why cheating and dead bedrooming is not just painful, it is downright traumatic today. Both of those acts are today experienced as attacks on the spirit and identity of the spouse. modern marriage is by definition a constant negotiation of expectations and responsibilities, and each couple needs to settle o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 02:41 PM
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Nice to see some honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 12:57 PM
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Hey stop picking on GLO.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 01:35 AM
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I think the world is a better place when there is equality of opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 09:37 PM
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I’m talking about the Meiers, Sandbergs Thatchers, Earharts, countless artists, scientists and entrepreneurs who have a singular vision....not the average smarty pant Debbies who quit when they realize what they always truly wanted was to stay home with the kids after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 09:14 PM
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The thought of BPD women being leaders is crazy. Thought of certain other types of women being leaders is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:50 PM
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Female sexual arousal doesn’t work the way we think it does. If a woman waits until she’s in the mood, a marriage could easily slip into dead bedroom territory. Many times simply starting to fool around will wake up her arousal sensors. But she has to start. And he can help by seducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:00 PM
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Cool dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 07:11 PM
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Thanks for the suggestions but I’m fine. I just have an instant violent reaction to people who claim to love/be happy with their partners and then cheat on them. But if you’re in an open relationship that’s different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 06:57 PM
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So you’re still fucking whores and girlfriends even though she’s the wife of your dreams now? Wtf??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 06:42 PM
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Juice will rot the baby teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 06:29 PM
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Part of being attractive is being seductive, duh. Edit: if you want to be captain, learn to lead. Seduction is good leadership.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:38 PM
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Well then that’s going to suck for you. If there is no joy in it, it will soon become drudgery and that’s when you get startfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:32 PM
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Yes. On her ‘toes means’ receptive to seductive gestures. It’s a dance. Both have to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:30 PM
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No it’s seduction. Foreplay starts at the end of the last orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:21 PM
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I think you think seduction has to involve some Herculean effort. It doesn’t. Some men know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:19 PM
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Yes you do and yes you can. Great men seduce, average men demand. Seduction needn’t take effort. It can be a smile, a touch, a compliment, a joke in the middle of a complaint, an expression of vulnerability followed by dominance, a gesture as simple as a wink.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:12 PM
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Wow. How romantic. Ever hear of seduction?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:00 PM
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That reading the brown bear 10000 times and letting him have apple juice in sippy cup before bed because he demanded it....giving in to the little tyrant....contributed to demise of relationship. Toddlers will make us their slaves if we let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 04:08 PM
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Ok. Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:22 PM
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Ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:06 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:06 PM
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Congratulations!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:05 PM
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He is self motivated. When I get home from work he’s always doing something, not to please me but because he likes to do things. Putting up Xmas tree + Chanukah bush, changing the air filters, walking the dog, whatever. He also schedules date nights every Friday so the whole week I’ll catch him researching restaurants. He doesn’t follow me around. He’s interesting...has a big brain and talks about politics, Art, science, etc...he’s not boring. He smiles a lot and has a low masculine voice. He do…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:00 PM
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Married almost 9 years with 2 kids (blended family, second marriage). We tied the knot a year ago but have been together for almost 9. My first 13 year marriage was ‘playing house’. Daddy didn’t want to work, decided he ‘didn’t believe in capitalism’ anymore. Shit tests only succeeded in creating a dead bedroom, for me. Then sexual betrayal. Fun times. Second marriage is heaven on earth. I walked through the depths of hell and found this amazing man who loves his career, is fun, is erotically al…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 02:23 PM
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That’s because it’s extremely humiliating to admit that your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 02:05 PM
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Ok so basically the study is saying that if a man fails to materialize the hubby goggles, the marriage is doomed. That actually makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 03:55 AM
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I didn’t tell you what to do dude. You tried to tell ME what to do. See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 10:13 PM
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I’ll encourage people to have kids. I don’t need permission from you, thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 09:44 PM
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Points for creativity. This might have actually worked on this crazy woman. She’s obviously begging for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 06:31 PM
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She just wanted attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 06:23 PM
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Cause kids are awsome. Having them is worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 05:42 PM
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You’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 01:07 PM
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I don’t think anyone is capable of compartmentalizing things like this unless they are psychopathic or autistic. It’s simply not possible for most ‘normal’ brains and always comes out one way or another. But you have a good point regarding the fact this particular marriage is already shit tier if she refuses to sleep with him. So basically, yeah...desperate times may call for certain measures if one wishes to save a shitty union.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:59 PM
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Yeah I get what you’re saying but I simply can’t conceptualize it. And believe me I’ve tried. I mean I get that some men (or women) can live with the duplicity but I take issue with the whole ‘alls well that ends well’ because they are not just lying about a little thing (‘no you look great honey. You don’t look fat at all!’), they are lying about a massive thing that will rot their soul to the core and taint their own experience of their marriage, even if she never finds out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:38 PM
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So, lying. That’s the nobler solution? I honestly don’t understand this type of thinking. I know a lot of people subscribe to it and claim some sort of moral high ground for doing so. It’s incomprehensible to me. Do these people just have some radically different definition of emotional intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:13 PM
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Some people don’t equate marriage with a certain level of emotional intimacy. They see it as a pseudo business transaction and are seemingly able to compartmentalize their love for their husbands/family even if they fuck random women on the side. I don’t get it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:10 PM
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Wrong. Girls and boys without involved fathers have all sorts of psychological issues. Don’t sugar coat this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:29 PM
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The conversations are actually even more interesting than the ones that go on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 06:01 PM
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He moves across the county and left his kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:28 PM
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In my social circle it’s about 15% failure. These are 12-20+ year marriages. It’s seen as a massive failure. Major points lost. Only thing worse are the never married.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:16 AM
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Holy fuck this triggered me. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:05 AM
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The benefits of being married outweigh the risk of divorce. The people here telling you that you have control of your chances of divorce are ideologues. The truth is no one knows how they will act when faced with extreme circumstances. For example some people find they can deal with death and illness but not infidelity. Others find they can deal with infidelity but not illness. Most of it has to do with emotional luck and that is hard to conceptualize and hard to admit. They would rather chalk i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 02:58 AM
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Get your degree. Even if you do it remotely, piece by piece, whatever. You will be limiting your dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 02:56 PM
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Woman. Fecklessness is the #1 deal breaker. Man must have a plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 04:01 AM
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Because one is behavioral, the other is biological. Now if you argue higher risk taking and refusing to go to the doctor until shit really hits the fan is behavior rooted in biology.....well then you’re on a slippery slope and you’re not going to like where it leads.
/r/MensRights05/12/18 03:58 AM
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I would cultivate masculine posture (no slumped shoulders, wide stance, take up space) and train myself to lower my voice. People underestimate how much masculinity the voice projects.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 02:10 AM
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Trashy women get knocked up by or marry trashy men. This is a class + culture issue, not a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:22 PM
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There never was and never will be a true meritocracy. Large corporations supposedly have more protections but tribalism always sneaks in. What needs to happen is women supporting and promoting each other more while the guys play golf. But no, we just tear each other down if one of us gets close to the top. crappy crab bucket.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:37 PM
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what were the couple of minor issues you found?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:19 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 06:34 AM
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All of those sound good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 06:33 AM
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If I were an extremely average looking dude I would make sure my masculinity was in check. That’s #1.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 05:37 AM
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Right. RP 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 05:28 AM
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women throw themselves at those types of guys. They don't even need to chase very much. How would I achieve being that sort of man? I'd need to have the right upbringing for starters.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 05:07 AM
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I'm working the aromatherapy angle. instant boner spray, anger phase diffuser, plate detox, ......let's set up a booth togehter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 05:05 AM
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I'm describing the things that would get me the most women in NYC to jump into bed with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:58 AM
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The question was about dating strategy, not ‘a fulfilling life’,
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:03 AM
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Do you live in NYC? I do. A tall masculine cultured man gets anything he wants here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 03:53 AM
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It didn’t specify what I’d look like as a man. I’m assuming I’m attractive and tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 03:45 AM
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I’d be the proverbial cosmopolitan bad boy. Well educated, well cultured, live in NYC (tons of hot women here), flirt shamelessly, aloof yet fun, perfect gentleman but do whatever the eff I want. Basically that’s the perfect man. Women throw themselves at me. Oh and I’d be jacked of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 02:58 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 05:30 PM
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That fine. But then they get to live in their bitterness. How idiotic is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 04:27 PM
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Even if it does, maybe he'll still respond to her, in a way you never did. I mean seriously, you sound guilty of something. What did you do besides gain 120lbs and act like a slob, only to wake up when she was out the door? no offense but you get super personal on this sub so I'm going to ask what you did wrong. It's been years and you still love blaming her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:44 AM
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I sincerely disagree. The problem is that these guys are so blinded by their bitterness they tend to ruin a perfectly viable relationship. They blame this new woman for their own failings and project onto her all their broken dreams. It's pathetic. Meanwhile, some of these women are earnest in what they are offering. Both of these types of people end up sabotaging their lives. It's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:43 AM
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This is why women, if they are still single in their 30s, would rather remain with their cat than shack up with some twisted (and not in a good way) dude who didn't get enough action in his 20s. Their bitterness is repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:39 AM
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no. they were also attracted to the personality type.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:36 AM
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Bessy-no-woos are usually oblivious to the role they've been cast in. Then they wonder why the husbands have affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:34 AM
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It’s a figure of speech. Women have their own inherent problems. Namely, inferiority.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 07:37 PM
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Plenty of men love crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:54 PM
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What would happen if you just let your hair down and ‘got selfish’ with your LTR? I bet something gif would happen. Because I guarantee he can tell you’re phoning it in. This reads like fear of intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:22 PM
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I think people underestimate the power of cultivating one’s own hopeful naïveté. It can literally transform the people around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 04:54 AM
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My definition of love is a combination of: companionship, sexual fidelity, shared goals/values, and a big old spoonful of limerence cyclically conjured over decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:56 AM
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Well I suppose what you're calling 'control' is what we call the 'sexual fidelity' part of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:39 AM
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I meant before 10K years ago. I think hunter gatherers had a different system regarding women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:23 AM
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because cheap things are in fact usually disposable or easily replaceable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:19 AM
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I'm mainly interested in the intersection of male and female love. That's why it's labeled as a discussion. I'm fascinated by the different ways people experience or perceive love on a personal level. That's it. I believe this is rapidly evolving. People put a lot of expectations on love today than they used to. Your N observations doesn't jive with what I've seen irl. Some of the strongest, friendliest and longest lasting relationships I've seen have been between former 'partiers'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 03:18 AM
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I was talking more about the somatic feeling of love + oneitis as men experience it, not marriage per se but I get what your'e saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:58 PM
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kk. I'm interested in these stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:54 PM
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I would love to know more about your experience with NPD woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:46 PM
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I guess it would be an easier thing to accomplish in societies that don't value marriage as a status symbol for women. Certain European communities are like this. But here in the USA it is hard to find those sorts of environments, (but maybe things are changing). A single woman with children and a live in boyfriend is judged very harshly and it can be isolating. Women thrive in and depend on social networks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:44 PM
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Participating in orgies sounds like mentally ill behavior. I would never encourage my sons to marry a woman like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:38 PM
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Right but you can't control HER entire social circle. She'll still be judged other women and she'll feel it even if it's not explicitly in her face or yours. It's just a fact and I suppose it depends on her personality how well she deals with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:31 PM
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not necessarily. I'll give you an example: a woman how achieves something of value in her field or in her home can be placed a bit higher on the pedestal by her husband. His sense of love and pride for his wife goes up. It is something that elevates her status in his eyes, temporarily. And vice versa. And that man may feel a tinge of jealousy (I've asked this before on this sub. men don't 'respect' women, but they feel pride and a little jealousy if she accomplishes something worthwhile).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:27 PM
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Yes it fits my description, except for the marriage part. That's a hard pill for women to swallow. And when they want kids, it gets even harder. I'm not sure men realize how socially degrading/humiliating it is to be with a man who won't marry you (depending on your social circle I suppose).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:21 PM
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That dance happy couple couples do. The healthy, subtle push + pull of power that keeps the fire alive. I don't mean in a classic power struggle though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:14 PM
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and you're crazy about her, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:10 PM
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Read Barely moral's reply above. He prefers to experience love using "the singular focus on one woman who has a great deal of value over the rest" and calculated a way to maintain abundance mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 10:57 PM
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This is fascinating. So you could have gotten someone who who 'could get better than you' but you see that sort of partner as lower value because it would destroy the way in which YOU like to experience love. Very cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 10:54 PM
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can you explain why I believe wrongly?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 10:42 PM
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I should have clarified: the two points are completely separate. But I could say (and I believe rp does explicitly say): falling in love and having oneitis is 'dangerous' for men because it exposes them to disposability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 10:40 PM
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I go hiking all the time. Just jump in the car with a few friends and hit the Palisades. no big deal. NYC is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 09:33 PM
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What’s the Stoney administration?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 06:32 PM
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Omg you are effing funny goat. And dead on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 12:11 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 08:32 PM
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I think any sort of self improvement meme gets made fun of (look at Gwenyth Paltrow’s Goop, the yoga crew, the CrossFit crew, etc...) and thy do have a point because a lot of times, self improvement regimes reenforce the idea that: “something’s wrong with you and if you could just become this other person (jacked Chad) you’d no longer feel worthless/lonely/unhappy” Which of course isn’t true. But getting your blood flowing changes your brain chemistry and allows you to experience life in the mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 08:27 PM
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No they’re mostly younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 08:19 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 08:04 PM
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Lifting is sort of a magic bullet, even if people make fun of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 07:17 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 06:47 PM
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what is it with you and Tina Arena? are you trying to get clicks for her or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 06:27 PM
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broke posh guy over a rich dude with a rough accent To English girls, everything sounds better with an Eton accent. To American girls, any European accent sounds better than an American one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 06:23 PM
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I like reading the askmrp questions. People are so sincere while shooting bullets in the dark. most of those guys do really want to fix things. The assholes were always going to nuke their marriages, they were just looking for validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:59 PM
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that's crazy. pregnant sex is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:54 PM
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nobody every wants to talk about this. The male mutation wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:53 PM
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oh I misread what you wrote before. I thought you said "I GAVE him starfish sex or no sex at all". So you married an AB. Enjoy the ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:48 PM
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why are those things impossible? I have all of those things and I'm just a little insignificant tiny woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:45 PM
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It's a life strategy. Here are two of them: A woman could be with a high income guy and have absolutely no respect for him, no sexual attraction for him and thus see him as low status. He is merely a means to an end. She wants to be a SAHM or not work very hard and she wants someone to pay for it. Another type of woman could be with a high income guy and love the high status lifestyle it affords because it gives her points with other women. She can show off to her friends and enjoy being the pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:43 PM
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serious question: you are able to 'respect' your husband even though you aren't sexually attracted to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:35 PM
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three words: New York City
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:30 PM
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no it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:28 PM
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To me, 'remains masculine' means: -Doesn't let his Testosterone drop (marriage can do that to men and they need to workout/stay competitive in some form in order to keep it up) -Has confidence. (over what, it doesn't matter. Just have it) -Is self directed -Has a backbone. Has convictions. -Owns his actions. Doesn't blame other people for his own feelings. That's really masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:23 PM
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Most women who out earn their husbands (I was one for 13 years) are fine with the arrangement if the husband is 1- pulls his weight 2-remains masculine 3-has a life purpose. If he becomes a layabout, low T, SAHD with depression, no, it is not ok with most women. If he is a layabout (maybe has family $$), high T, SAHD who is fun, exciting, creative (life purpose), loving and not depressed, then everything is fine, so long as she continues to bring in the necessary $$ to pay all the bills. edit: A…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:13 PM
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He's probably jealous of Rollo cause Rollo has a family. (Is Roosh off finding his unicorn mail order bride yet? I wager he's going through his 'epiphany' as we speak.) Rollo's probably jealous of Roosh's N count. Those are the totally biased guesses I just pulled out of thin air.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 05:05 PM
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I wish they could’ve picked a different word. ‘Cis’ sounds so sissy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 04:41 AM
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I used to make fun of people who scheduled sex. Then I heard a great ester perel talk about how sexy it is to schedule sex because it allows your mind to prepare and anticipate. a lot of people expect desire / lust to fall out of the sky but in LTRs it doesn't work that way. Usually it has to be summoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 04:21 AM
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Sure. Likewise 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 05:49 PM
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Yeah that’s a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 04:58 PM
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I just read it. The issues I have: 1-there needs to be more research. We simply don’t have enough rigorous research for the claims being made on both sides. 2-I concede he appears to have misread the paper by assigning ‘cis’ to some kids who simply didn’t come back for treatment and didn’t answer the follow up interview questions (although this doesn’t prove they didn’t desist) 3-both sides use stupid shaming language that does nothing to further the discourse. this is the most dangerous as far …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 04:45 PM
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Ok let’s say he’s got an agenda. I have no idea who he is. It seemed like a well researched article. but what about the actual studies themselves, the ones cited in the article, that came out recently (2013, 2016 I think?), what about that? Edit: you could say I have a ‘weird fixation’ on trans kids too. That’s ‘shaming’ language, like ‘transtrending’ is shaming language. 🤪 it’s all so tedious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 04:02 PM
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Here's a very interesting article that links to some of the studies around the topic of dissistance. I'm particularly interested because I know several children experiencing the 'Trans Trending' phenomenon and if you read the science (and this doesn't even include Zucker's longitudinal, well executed study of 512 patients), the rates at which children will desist after they are allowed to go through puberty are astronomical. Anyway, why would people want to bury this research?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 03:17 PM
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This is why this country is going to shit. In fact if you engaged in an actual conversation I may actually change MY mind. I’d be willing to concede if you refuted the points using logical arguments but you don’t seem interested in that. I’m not going to doxx myself or my friends to prove to you that an actual doctor who I went to college with brought up her ethical dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 02:20 PM
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So you don’t want to debate in good faith. Got it. I live in NYC. My social circle are professional women. We’ve known each other since college. Most of us have liberal leaning politics. I tend to be the shit stirrer in our group because I bring up purple:red pill concepts and this revelation on her part grew out of one of or conversations about how PC culture has affected science. Too bad you don’t even want to engage because it’s an interesting topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 02:12 PM
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No. I have a liberal SJW blue pill endocrinologist friend who told me all about it and how she is going through an ethical dilemma. She has read the actual research, so have many of her colleagues. I’m talking about the rigorous studies done in the 80s that were expunged by the trans lobby, not just the regurgitated biased studies with a sample size of 6 people WPATH tends to promote. Doctors are afraid to talk about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 02:05 PM
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Have you read the actual research? Doctors are afraid to even talk about this because they don’t want to lose their licenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 01:58 PM
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There are very few actual trans people. The vast majority are just ‘regular’ people with psychological problems and because it’s become a fad, they are indulging their disorder. There’s a reason the trans lobby is super sketchy with their science, black listing anyone who has done actual research if the the results don’t match up with their agenda, silencing the ‘regreters’ (of which there are many), and shutting down discourse or worse, promoting legislation that will sanction doctors if they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 01:47 PM
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How true is the idea that autogynephilics in the West develop this proclivity around puberty (they start off by masturbating in women’s clothing) and tend to come from conservative families? What causes their identity to fracture?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 01:31 PM
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They can’t aim for sweet because 50% of the population failed the Strange Test and are therefore doomed to be attracted to cray. They don’t know that secure actually feels good/exciting. Only a secure person can show them and most of those pair off early with other secures.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 03:50 AM
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Most guys’ biggest gripe revolves around not being able to find a woman to have a family with, right? I thought that’s what you meant
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 07:41 PM
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What makes you there aren’t broke guys out there who make you feel so happy and motivated that you’ll gladly work to support him and the kids, even if you have to live in a hovel? Some women find that kind of inspiration priceless. If having help to pay the bills is important, then don’t date broke guys. If you think you can derive divine motivation and build a mini empire and support everyone because the guy is so amazing, so what. The point is: figure out what you want and be ready to change y…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 07:39 PM
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I understood what you wrote. You have a close bond with your ex bullies because you’ve both been at war together, even if it was with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 01:56 PM
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This is because you believe masculinity is a social construct. You probably believe gender is also a social construct. And you believe some attributes of those particular constructs to be toxic because they serve whatever reality you subscribe to. Dominance isn’t toxic. Sure, it can be, but it can also be very healthy. You know what’s toxic? Water. Drinking too much water can be really toxic for you. ‘Toxic masculinity’ is shaming language (to borrow PPD’s phrase du jour) created to linguistical…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 01:35 PM
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Historically plenty of men never got a chance to reproduce but found meaning in ‘societies’ nonetheless. They were soldiers or part of other fraternities. We’re living in post nihilistic advanced culture obsessed with individual identity. Meaning through community and (even platonic) personal relationships are pretty hard to find for them these days so they are withdrawing. These are the most dangerous people of all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 12:01 PM
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Nah, then the schadenfreude would poke its passive aggressive head
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:09 AM
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The article draws a possible correlation between single (female) parent households and increased stress, which leads to suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 03:49 AM
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Men need to stop acting butthurt just because they have a female boss. Just shut up, do your job and I’ll pay you. Just because I ask your opinion on something specific is not an invitation to tell me all about your ‘vision’ and how I should embrace it. Your vision is derivative and I already tried that 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 03:33 AM
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I think it's crossed from cherished to required. Men are so adorable sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 08:43 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 08:37 PM
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I think they call that withdrawing attention. That works too. My H is so used to me gushing over him morning, noon and night...and if for some reason I’m unable to leave work at work (I get pensive and stressed if I’m under deadline), he starts asking me what’s wrong, as in, how come you’re not dancing circles around me like usual? Yeah guys take notice when their woman shows unbridled enthusiasm for some unknown male. I can picture him trying to act casual while asking probing questions. Very c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 07:45 PM
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Read her comment again. He calls her ‘perfect’ yet he treats her a lot worse than he treated the woman who burned him. She is in tears about the way he treats her. Clearly he is screwing something up. Watch what they do, not what thy say....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:52 PM
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He needs some competition. He’s too complacent and is mistreating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:41 PM
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You sound like a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:37 PM
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see right here is an example of a woman with more frame than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:28 PM
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My h went on a cycle a few months ago because he wanted to lift heavier. It was fun (for both of us). Lots of energy, lots of eros.....but, the down cycle, or whatever you call it, was pretty scary. He was depressed for 2 weeks and his sex drive temporarily evaporated. It eventually leveled out but it did freak him out because he's never experienced depression like that. He mentioned something about over conversion too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:19 PM
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uh....yeah. goldiggers galore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 03:57 PM
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Older women are genuinely attracted to men their age. Older men are genuinely attracted to younger women. Younger women are genuinely attracted to slightly older men (but only like +2-7 years max). **Gold diggers + validation seekers of all ages are "attracted" to older (fit, good looking) men because they tend to have the money and the enthusiasm to validate her. Extracting pricey dinners + validating experiences from older dudes online is very easy for any woman who finds herself in need of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 03:51 PM
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Yes but if a person's room consists of an outward facing fascination with everyone else's room, that isn't necessarily bad frame. It's just a peculiar form of frame....so long as that person isn't blaming or insisting others take responsibility for his own emotional idiosyncrasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 03:13 PM
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It's about being responsive vs reactive. It's coming from a place with a strong core (this looks different in men vs women when talking about romantic dynamics) and getting your needs met in a healthy way. RP only talks about male frame but there is another gender neutral name for frame: security. When a man is secure he has strong boundaries and isn't afraid to be masculine. When a woman is secure she has strong boundaries and isn't afraid to be feminine. You build it by taking responsibility f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 02:49 PM
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What I've seen with my own eyes: Asia: Shocked to see the giant billboards in Mumbai advertising skin lightening creams. It's right out in the open. South America: blatant and open racism, especially in Euro centric places like Argentina Black American communities: A friend explained to me the 'skin lightness' hierarchy deeply entrenched, especially in West Indian communities. ​ One side will say these seemingly innate preferences are cultural constructions handed down from brutal European empir…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 02:28 PM
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It's only bad advice from your male imperative perspective. If she is 'perfect' in his eyes and yet he mistreats her, he does not see her as valuable. If he's truly so redpill, she wouldn't be complaining about him because he'd have her feelz on lockdown. Clearly he's an idiot and deserves to get burned a little. It's apparently his preferred method of arousal. Also, he's not 'dating' her. He's married to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 01:22 PM
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It’s the whole inferiority complex (vis a vis men) many women have deep down. They can’t submit, even to acknowledgment of pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 12:16 PM
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Beauty and the Beast is a fairy tale invented to normalize large age gap marriages. It’s purpose was to teach little girls not to be afraid of the disgusting old man monster her father betrothed her to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 11:38 AM
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How many men do you know who brag about sharing their wife with other guys? Not many. Men care about what their friends think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 11:31 AM
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Plenty of therapists will tell you poly relationships are some of the messiest around, even with hyper-vigilant participants. There’s always going to be drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 11:23 AM
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Maybe it's time for some active dread on your part. Seems like your husband might be turned on by that sort of thing. Some men love bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 11:08 AM
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The way you figured that out in your head is pretty unique. Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 04:33 AM
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Romanticism is rooted in the body. Men and women have some demonstrably different psychological processes, so I don't think it's out of the question to wonder if there could be some way to further the convo and gain some new insights. I mean in this very sub we have these arguments about male/female nature and many times they go around and around in shallow circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 02:53 AM
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I read that book years ago and while many of the categories makes logical sense, overall his vision is too Marxist for me (his Frankfurt School buddies would say Fromm isn't Marxist enough). Imo it's not a coincidence that the word for 'romantic' is swapped out with 'erotic'. Romanticism and it's spiritually subjective dimension is precisely what is missing from so many of these discussions about the nature of love, from both post structuralists/feminists and whatever philosophy redpillers subsc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 02:26 AM
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Thanks for explaining this. The next interesting question would be: is love between equals more 'real' than patriarchal love? is it better/worse? I'd say a lot of men who end up at mrp started off in what they thought was romantic love, got burned, and turned to patriarchal love. But that wasn't their first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 12:35 AM
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yes counselor because men should NEVER ever feel like they've achieved anything. That would make women feel insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 12:22 AM
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History, literature art and music are full of examples of MEN THEMSELVES describing what love is TO THEM. Plenty of them do in fact describe love as including a type of sacrifice involving forsaking all others, not for her sake, but for HIS own, because of romantic/spiritual reasons. You cannot simply discount this as some sort of 'female' interpretation. What you are describing is husbandry, not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 12:14 AM
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So, romantic love in the pure sense, for a single person. I agree. This other type of 'love' people are talking about on this thread isn't love at all. It's something else. Call it male affection or male ownership or husbandry or some other name, but don't call it love. Actual LOVE has a spiritual dimension that inspires men to willingly forsake all others. They make that specific sacrifice for love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 11:45 PM
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This is very sweet, and a great description of how husband goggles develop.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 06:18 PM
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Idk here is some value in it, especially when it comes to perceiving nuance in online convos (not that this little argument here is a good example). Try it out!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:49 PM
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Ah ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:46 PM
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He’s a black hole of meaningless convoluted jargon wrapped in Saussurean linguistics revolving around “power structures.” Don’t even bother. I am disputing something very specific here. I wish you guys would take me seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:43 PM
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Yes yes and yes. Welcome to hell. What’s your type?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:39 PM
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Don’t get all Foucault on me. It’ll get boring fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:31 PM
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No please don’t do that. It’s annoying but it’s a lot of fun. You’re one of the most interesting people here. I wish I could figure you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:26 PM
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And I would like to dispute your implication hidden here that the definition of love as MEN themselves define it must exclude those mechanisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:25 PM
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Observable reality. Uh huh. So you discount the observable reality that includes the millions of men who remained in love, sexually faithful thoroughly satisfied and still somehow managed to hold on to their masculinity as some outlier ‘idealization’? Even if they are in a minority doesn’t mean they are a figment of my imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:18 PM
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Omg atlas. You say something like “I actually spend time listening to men” (that’s a personal statement about a personal observation on your part), but somehow my pointing out that some men define love in a certain way (because guess what, I’ve also spent time observing men and what they say, and they have literally said and written things that contradict your assertion) is ‘sneeringly personal’? No. You are the one in fact making it personal. Don’t you see that? Every time I try to have a debat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:04 PM
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Search your mind for an original thought. I bet there’s one in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:52 PM
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And I understand what you are saying atlas. Here’s why you are wrong: men who suppress their instinct to fuck multiple women because they love one woman....they themselves include that sacrifice in THeIR OWN definition of love. I know you try to turn everything I say into some example of how ENFJs couldn’t possibly see things objectively. But I am telling you that plenty of men DEFINE real love in part through sacrifice. The suppression of their base instinct to fuck around IS an integral part o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:47 PM
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This whole “shaming language call out” meme on PPD this past week, courtesy of ‘cough cough’ a certain generator, is utter bullshit. Why don’t you acknowledge that PLeNTY of men do in fact believe in romantic love. Lots of them spent lots of time writing lots of poetry about it, especially in the 18th century.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:41 PM
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You're measuring a man's love through some impoverished definition a certain type of guy wants you to believe it is. Just because you bought that definition doesn't make it how 'MEN love' ​ edit: many men include in their definition of 'love' the ability and willingness to suppress their base instincts to fuck/become entangled with other women because they genuinely love their wife. A guy with a harem may be following his 'instincts' but his affections are in no way comparable to actual love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 02:58 PM
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The delusion is in thinking a man who gives in to his basest instinct still ‘loves’ his wife. That is a rationalization men invent and women accept in order to lessen the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:15 PM
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No. Learning how to desire what you have makes you the most exciting type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:05 PM
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You might be right but I refuse to believe that goat. I think almost anyone can have a passionate marriage if they want one. But it takes two to tango and most people (including me in my previous relationship) made the mistake of thinking it should ‘just happen.’ And then things start sliding south crumb by crumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 05:24 AM
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Define ‘when a guy is a bit down’
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 05:17 AM
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I get what you’re saying and I know you don’t believe that personally. Your friend’s marriage is one of those somnambulant stable marriages. Everyone is sorta comfortable with the status quo out of duty or habit, and there isn’t a lot of strife but there also isn’t a lot of emotional intimacy in those unions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 05:09 AM
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Yeah those aren’t passionate marriages you are describing. Those are horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:50 AM
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Of course not. Desires are healthy. Acting on all of them isn’t. Not acting on every desire does not disqualify someone from being exciting. They just get more creative.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:46 AM
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True but you can come pretty damn close (not to mention all the added ‘slow burn’ love that comes from a shared history). And if you can’t, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:40 AM
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Thinking that way is certainly a way to protect yourself from pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:37 AM
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It is the same kind. The work part is the conjuring. Once you feel it its not work anymore. It comes in cycles. The work is in turning the wheel to the position. That’s how it works in LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:28 AM
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And then they rationalize away all sorts of decisions. For instance, “I am an honorable woman because I stayed with a cheating husband and kept my marriage intact.” And that makes them feel letter about putting up with the betrayal and humiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:25 AM
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It can be conjured in long term passionate marriages. Even monogamous ones. But it is work and most people think it should just drop from the sky.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:16 AM
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Yeah that’s why I’m calling it voluntary self delusion. The wife is choosing to believe he actually loves her even when he’s fucking other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:14 AM
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Companionate love. “I love my wife like I love my old comfy couch. It keeps me warm and cozy and we can watch tv together and grow old together. And she doesn’t have to worry herself with my escapades.” Fuuuuck that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:11 AM
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So they still believe they love their wives so their wives should believe it’s still real love? I guess it’s all a self delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:04 AM
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Yeah they’ll say anything to keep their cozy situation intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:50 AM
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So you still think he’s providing love even if he cheats?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:39 AM
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No. Not ‘being in love’ will also get you cheated on, by men who can feel theres a spark missing. The first BPD manic pixie girl that comes along will take him. You must be in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:32 AM
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Exactly. This is basically an internal moral framework.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:30 AM
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Love from a cheater isn’t real love imo. But I’m super touchy about this subject because Ive been burned. I truly believe there are men who won’t cheat. They may want to if some low hanging fruit presents herself but they won’t do it. Even certain hot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:27 AM
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The answer is: be exciting and go after exciting partners who have a moral compass. Those unions are called passionate marriages. Everything else is second rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:20 AM
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Dating down does not ensure sexual fidelity. I’d say dating an extremely desirable man who has lots of options, has had lots of action, has an internal moral compass and voluntarily chose to be with you is the best bet. Those guys have had their fill of strange and if the relationship is good, they have no desire to fuck it up. I think plain old luck also has more to do with it than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 03:17 AM
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If you’re talking about attraction, everyone is shallow from the perspective of the undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:32 AM
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Men take more risks than women, no matter the job. The recent Uber study is fascinating. I think radiolab or freakonimics did a whole podcast on it. Men die more because thy are less risk adverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:59 PM
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They have met them and they are jealous of them. Look at her comment: if she is so satisfied with her life, why does she feel shamed at being ‘looked down on’ by these career women? Could it be she isn’t so satisfied with her own ‘fabricated femininity’ life after all?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 01:55 PM
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She’s Eastern European. They are experts at this sort of arrangement. Look at her face on Inauguration Day as she was walked down the hall by that handsome marine in uniform. You never saw a smile like that on her face again. She’s not going to hide her disdain for the bloated Cheeto, or her enthusiasm in the company of a man who actually rings her bell. At least she’s honest. Eastern Europeans are ballers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 01:32 PM
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You’ve just described several of my friends here in NYC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 01:11 PM
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Yeah but then the you aren’t‘crazy’ for them because they aren’t the dream girl. Which one do you choose if you had to pick?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 02:13 AM
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All men want to sleep with young women. Men of all ages who want LTRs, marriages or children hope to find a beautiful young woman who will fall in love with him and love him for ‘him.’ This weekend we sat next to a couple. He was late 40s and had a face only a mother could love. She was 23 and stunningly beautiful. She kept rolling her eyes and behaving exasperated...she leaned in at one point and informed me she no longer has to worry about being deported or working anymore a day in her life. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 01:17 AM
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I hate shopping, online or brick/mortar. I’m shocked at the number of amazon packages my H gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 12:55 AM
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I don’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 11:42 PM
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You don’t think a good sex life increases happiness in women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 11:31 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 09:48 PM
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How did it become a first world country? Why did it self cannibalize?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 08:04 PM
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A good sex life correlates with happiness. Not sure if therefore ‘less sex’ correlates with unhappiness. But it probably does.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 08:02 PM
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Or a better man than they currently have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 07:13 PM
2

Yes that can be very lonely. Lots of people live in lonely marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 07:36 PM
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Better yet, incorporate the lifts into the comedy routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 03:28 PM
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Jim & Pam
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 03:25 PM
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I wish people would stop perpetuating this myth. It's a distortion of the data.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 03:18 PM
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Women don't like it when men follow them around like a little puppy dog walking on egg shells. She saw a side of you that pissed her off and subsequently turned her on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 12:07 AM
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Yes. Watching a good looking guy mansplaining is bizarrely arousing. It's adorable and arousing at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 12:01 AM
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In college I went on date with a man who was very cute but very boring. I kept thinking "what a waste". At the end of dinner he picked up a plate and spun it on the tip of his finger for no reason. That plate stayed up there for what seemed like a long time. We dated for a while after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 11:53 PM
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There was a snow storm a few days ago and because the leaves weren't fully off the trees, a ton of giant branches fell on the street. Last night the only available parking spot was taken by a huge branch. My husband got out and dragged it away. Something about seeing him drag that branch away to make room for our car.....Actually I didn't even see him. I just saw a massive branch receding away from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 11:46 PM
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check out ester perel's tedtalk on desire in long term relationships. it's brilliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 11:43 PM
2

This sounds very familiar. My 24 year old cousin and his girlfriend went into rehab after having several close calls. Upon leaving they decided to have “one last party” to celebrate their newfound sobriety. He didn’t make it. His system wasn’t used to the dose anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 12:54 PM
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My mom is too. Instant ice bath.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 05:54 AM
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I’m really glad you’re ok. Don’t die.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 05:53 AM
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You have no idea how politicized it has become in school settings. Laughing at it will most likely get them in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 05:49 AM
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One person’s crazy is another person’s perfect partner. Sounds codependent though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 05:02 PM
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Women in love are willing to pay in all sorts of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 03:02 PM
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Being part of a geriatric blowing league does sound like a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 02:50 PM
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Oh I'm well aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 03:21 AM
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That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 08:43 PM
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And this is exactly what a lot of men do, even when 50/50 custody is on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 08:17 PM
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Geriatric fuck buddies. Ahahaha!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 07:48 PM
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What if you fall in love again? Do you think these older ladies don’t have that concept of love anymore? I wonder how that develops at that age...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 07:40 PM
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I worry a lot about this. I have two boys 11 and 13 and live in SJW Central. Both of them have asked me what toxic masculinity is, what sexism is, what white male privilege is. I don’t have easy answers for them. It feels like they are under attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 06:45 PM
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I worry a lot about this. I have two boys 11 and 13 and live in SJW Central. Both of them have asked me what toxic masculinity is, what sexism is, what white male privilege is. I don’t have easy answers for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 06:23 PM
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He’s like a giant puppy who doesn’t know his strength. He was like, “Mom are you ok?”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 05:30 PM
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An inch in a month sounds painful. It’s hard to hold a pencil level over a kids head and a glass of wine in the other. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 01:01 PM
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I think they grow in fits and starts at this age. It is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:42 PM
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My 11 yo is also 5’2”. Maybe it’s the hormones in the milk. I can’t pillow fight him anymore. He sent me flying off the bed last time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:34 PM
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A lot of maladjusted men don’t know how to be vulnerable because they fear losing their masculinity. When they attempt to be vulnerable it comes off as aggressively needy (making another person responsible for their feelings). It’s a catch22 for a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:29 PM
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Yes we do. As long as you own them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 05:03 AM
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Right. I consider this a form of female mate guarding similar to what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:41 PM
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To quote HRH: the last word.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:45 PM
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I’m not going to do your homework for you. Look through the thread. Even Atlas conceded on a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:43 PM
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Omg girl. Let it go. I APOLOGIZED. TWICE. Christ on a cracker. Also: you and Atlas are wrong. You guys can’t admit when your logic falls apart. Hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:29 PM
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Yeah I get that. And like I said, I’m sorry for making fun of your S. Clearly I myself am not immune to the pull of HRH INTJ. We all love her. Although I have to disagree with you regarding the thread: imo this was one of the most lively discussions PPD has had in a while. It had stories, drama, debate, fights! And I heard irc was on fire. You’re welcome. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:15 PM
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❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:43 PM
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Well that’s your opinion. I thought I was being sly. Maybe I suck at mate guarding. Whatevs. I wanted to hear stories, not get into an argument about what a crappy mate guarder I am. So I got defensive. Seriously, you came in here quoting atlas. So please forgive me if I file you away as part of her cohort. Yes she’s great, but you don’t have to act mean just to impress her. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:29 PM
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How am I coming off passive aggressive? You mean my chorus comments after the Atlas fanbase came in here insulting me for no reason?What would you have done? I genuinely thought what I was I doing was mate guarding. Maybe I’m a shitty mate guarder. But several people did agree with me that it was in fact mate guarding. You are simply being a mean spirited lemming.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:21 PM
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Because I thought it would be an interesting topic of discussion. Also, just because something bothers me does not mean it’s unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:15 PM
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So you are right off the bat super antagonist towards me.....because? Oh I know why: because someone convinced you that ENFJs are the ‘evil queens’ of the fsm and now you are coming in here calling me names, and insulting me. What I wanted was to have a discussion on the different ways we women mate guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:11 PM
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What’s your MBTI again?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 12:54 PM
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No that’s not what this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 12:37 PM
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Flirting is not cheating. It’s completely healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 12:36 PM
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So you’re saying young women naturally lust after and fall in love with men who cheat on them. If the man isn’t cheating on them, the young woman cannot fall in love / doesn’t have as much lust for him. You are describing a mentally ill individual. But I guess you can’t see that because how could a young, fertile, cute woman possibly be mentally ill, right? Women want men hat other women desire. This is true. Women do not want men who cheat on them. It’s very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 12:33 PM
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Standards is different than publicly insulting a woman, ‘nasty ho’ or not, for demonstrating sexual interest in you. Something else is going on there, psychologically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 04:59 AM
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That’s looney tunes. Women want men with options, sure. High value women (of any age) do not consciously or unconsciously want men who exercise those options in the confines of a committed loving passionate relationships. Now if we’re talking about hoes, BPD girls, girls w daddy issues, girls w bad attachment styles, then yes, I can see your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 04:56 AM
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Great example of successful disgust implantation. I wonder if men actually feel disgust or if they just like to say they do to placate the woman doing the guarding. Seems sincere in this case. Great story.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:30 AM
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that is the ultimate mate guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:26 AM
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female social matrix. your hubby sounds great. let the girls out. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:25 AM
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Yes I was. That’s how I flirt with him. Women are constantly throwing themselves at him so I’ve had to learn ways to make this shit show some sort of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:12 AM
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Yep he’s in the minority. Also, he probably secretly likes the hot trashy girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 02:07 AM
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I don’t think any man finds attention from an attractive woman repulsive in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:58 AM
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club girl costume ++
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:25 AM
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And you need to personally insult me out of the blue because....why exactly? Are you part of a choir or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:15 AM
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I ❤️ this. A self aware man. How refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 12:00 AM
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Well awsome. I’m not worried about the divorced mom. I just wanted to have a discussion about how women mate guard in general and it turned into this weirdo semantics argument and personal jabs from Atlas’ fan choir. At least there were a FEW cool stories from a few cool ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 10:25 PM
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Right. Atlas and the chorus seem to think it's a shit FSM strategy. It might be but imo, naming the woman and branding her neutralizes her threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 09:32 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 09:27 PM
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I'm calling bs on that. However left footed my attempt at mate guarding may be, I still went after her character in the hopes of planting a seed of disgust in my husband's brain. And if she continues with her flirting I'll probably start more of the social sabotaging. But imo it still counts as mate guarding because I'm verbally branding her as desperate (even if my h is the only one who's heard it so far). What you are saying is akin to: if a man mate guards and his gf still ends up cheating on…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 09:26 PM
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What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:47 PM
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Yep that’s a clear win. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:45 PM
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I sabotaged her character by giving her that pejorative nick name. Look, you’re obvi taking this whole post very personally. Either share a story or leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:30 PM
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Omg thank you. Finally someone who gets it. You explained it 1000x better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:14 PM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:07 PM
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Yes holding his hand is a good one. There is no way to stop women having access to attractive men. Not in NYC. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:05 PM
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The threat is multi pronged and implied, not explicit: To him it’s: “I see that. I see what’s happening. Watch it.” To her (even though she’ll never hear it directly from my mouth) it’s: “I’ll fuck up your reputation by labeling you a desperate ho”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:01 PM
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In the emotional manipulation. Can’t you see it? I know you think it’s not effective on male psychology. This is what this WHOLE post is about: the subtle/nuanced ways WOMEN mate guard. Come on dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:44 PM
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Ok I’ll connect the dots for you: How does Darla mate guard? By flirting with her husband in a way that simultaneously inflates his ego (by acknowledging the Other Woman) and telegraphs a mild threat (in regards to the Other Woman). The Other Woman and how Darla attempts to neutralize her is an integral part of THIS BRAND of ‘flirting’ and makes this Darla’s preferred form of mate guarding. Checkmate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:28 PM
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I never changed the subject Atlas. Go back and read what I wrote: "If I simultaneously inflate his ego and serve him up a very veiled threat, it is something other than what you're describing. It is called flirting." I clearly stated that flirting is the combination of these two things. You are the one who laser focused onto the 'threat' part and divorced it from the ego pumping part when you asked your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:14 PM
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he can use his imagination. That's why it's called flirting: it's simultaneously pumping his ego up (which men LOVE) and inducing a little anxiety (adrenaline). AKA triggering feelz. If he ACTUALLY cheated? Yeah I'd be gone. I know a lot of women wouldn't though. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:59 PM
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yeah my question was more about what kind of responses do you find yourself having. But the people on this thread answering that they are 'neutral' in the face of an attractive woman aggressively flirting with their man, I don't buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:53 PM
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He knows I don't put up with cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:45 PM
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I'm hotter. She gives me dirty looks because I have something she wants. But still, she's pretty and lonely and good at batting her lashes and dropping her mail. No I don't see her as a threat. If I'm honest with myself, I'd have to admit I like to court this type of benign drama now and then. I find it highly entertaining to be a little jealous once in a while. He doesn't mind so long as I don't push it too far. I thought it would make a fun post.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:42 PM
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huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:26 PM
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no. because women don't communicate like men. If I simultaneously inflate his ego and serve him up a very veiled threat, it is something other than what you're describing. It is called flirting. And that flirting neuters her power. That's how I mate guard. But I do apologize for making fun of your MBTI, if you are in fact xSxx. That was stupid on my part. sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:10 PM
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And then she had to eat the mcmuffin and got the runs. Bravo!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:06 PM
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Yes that's a nice summary of a rational and healthy relationship, the kind all of us attempt to conduct on a daily basis, with all the corresponding boundaries and expectations. And yet that wasn't my question. You're telling me you've never witnessed a woman aggressively flirting with your man and if you did, it did not cause ANY sort of internal affect change in your body and therefore no response? If this is the case, I've already told you what I think THAT means in my OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:01 PM
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He sounds great. hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:51 PM
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It's those 4" knock off McQueen hooker heels they bought at some west village sex shop combined with the fake Leger dress while navigating a cobblestone street. Their bodies are banging though. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:49 PM
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She does sound very passionate. lol. Great story.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:44 PM
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Love me some straight up manipulation. Go girl. seriously, how come he hate women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:39 PM
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I think more men notice these sorts of things than women realize. I started dressing more body con for date nights (AKA high end slutty) since meeting my H and noticing he likes that trashy hooker look. He made a careful joke about my 'obvious transformation' recently. Side note: why are all the young girls in NYC now dressing like hookers? Every Friday night Manhattan turns into what looks like a giant open air brothel. The last thing I do before leaving for work is change from my robe into my …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:29 PM
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Wow that is some next level long game. Talk about keeping your enemies closer. What happened to your frenemy? Did she eventually find someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:11 PM
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Surely part of his lizard ENTJ brain thinks about a threesome when I use the term Wannabe Girlfriend but he is also extremely aware of the implied threat contained in that assignation. He knows it’s an acknowledgment of his male nature, an ego stroke and nothing more. And he better not make it more. That’s how we flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:42 PM
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It’s more nuanced than that. When I do that I’m signaling to him that I acknowledge he is a desirable man. He’s ENTJ and loves that sort of acknowledgment. I’m also signaling that while I find it all fun and games, he better never touch her or I’d wreck both of them. He knows what I’m capable of. I wouldn’t try to stop her from flirting, I just take her power away by naming it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:33 PM
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I’ve gotten a lot of F hate and I suppose I’ve just started kicking back. You’re right, it’s dumb and juvenile. Sorry sublime.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:26 PM
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I wondered the same. Idk what he had but it certainly did a number on my self esteem for a while. Yes I’m in a good place now. 8+ years and still swinging from the chandeliers together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:21 PM
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If a woman is aggressive enough in her flirting, even the lowest testosterone, most neutered, most spergy of men will in fact take notice. Also, why are you connecting a “good guy’s” happiness with his SO to his ability to notice other women? That’s not healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:04 PM
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It’s not about loyalty. It’s about other women trying to poach or simply aggressively flirt your man. How do you deal with those feelz when they arise? How does that manifest? Try not to virtue signal. Just be honest. It’ll make this post a lot more fun. Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:57 PM
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When jail time becomes a consideration in a woman’s mind, she is certainly not a woman to be trifled with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:53 PM
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Resting murderer face + scary neutral face = very masculine man who’ll prob get a lot of IOI’s. So your strategy is to just be more feminine than those pushy aggressive northeastern types. Good strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:50 PM
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Can you just share a story? About how you mate guarded (however you define it)? Pleeeeezeeee? I bet you have a good one. I’m not interested in debating the technicalities. That’s not the interesting part.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:44 PM
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I’m not insulting. I’m describing. Go ahead and share a story and stop being so technical. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:41 PM
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Omg forget it. I just wanted to know how about the female version of mate guarding. Because we ladies are covert communicators I thought it would bring up a bunch of fun stories we could share. I was wrong. It just brings out the xSxx types. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:39 PM
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Because it’s a question for women and women mate guard differently than men and you seem to be having a hard time making that conceptual distinction. The spirit of this OP is to elicit the various ways in which women mate guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:33 PM
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Sure but its still a form of guarding. Are you a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:31 PM
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I don’t think RP considers the term for men only but I might be wrong. I call her Wannbe Girlfriend in front of my husband, so that: a)HE knows she is low value b)He sees that I see he is desired by other women (and therefore a desirable man) . I’d never say that to her face. That’s crass.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:27 PM
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Sadly, we aren’t wired to be that direct. Would be funny though!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:20 PM
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I mate guard by branding her as a desperate woman. ‘Oh there goes Wannabe Girlfriend, dropping her mail again’ You’ve never seen jealous women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:14 PM
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Yes I had exactly one conversation with my friends about this embarrassing topic and quickly learned to keep my mouth shut. They did the same thing: virtue signal how “lucky” I was and how their husbands “couldn’t keep their hands off them”. It certainly put distance between me and those particular girls. I also turned into a a very mean person for several years. Cherry on top was when I found out he cheated. We aren’t meant to go without physical and emotional intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 01:31 PM
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Look at Jennifer Gardner’s character in ‘Camping’. She is the personification of BP mommy moo cow. That show is hysterical. Every BP + RP trope on display.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 12:34 PM
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Cindy Crawford looks even more beautiful/younger in the flesh. She photographs older. The woman is a vampire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 12:25 PM
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Same. Mine was 1.5 years directly following the birth of our child. I think my ex husband was depressed. It’s a special sort of humiliation when a woman gets DB’d. Nobody talks about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 12:12 PM
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He acts like a a woman. He’s the male equivalent of a fashion blogger but instead of handbags he shows off his hookers du jour. there is nothing remotely masculine about this guy. I’m not surprised he turned a tragedy into a self promotion opportunity. He gives femininity a bad name.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 11:53 AM
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The kind of woman who RELUCTANTLY tolerates her SO stepping out isn’t a high value woman. She’s a low self worth individual with bad character. If that’s a good deal for you, go for it. You’ll pay a higher price for that decision eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 11:13 AM
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That would be a good post. Misconceptions + corrections.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 07:39 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 03:40 PM
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she offers plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 09:23 PM
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Conservative atheists = Libertarians.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 06:23 PM
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Because of the advent of chivalry and romantic love 700 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 04:57 PM
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Idk, my own husband says that men ‘show love’ through sex. My sense is at least some of them feel this on an authentic level. Perhaps there’s a Great Wall of China about the kind of sex they have? Or that’s just what they convince themselves of?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 03:10 PM
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It’s rhetorical. RP guys like to say ‘men love through sex’ yet don’t consider a pump and dump a big deal. Its a paradox I don’t get.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 12:06 PM
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So men ‘love through sex’ (presumably making sex a very big deal) but don’t consider cheating a big deal because ‘it’s different when a man does it’. Which is it? It can’t be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 04:29 AM
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Feminine Mystique personified. Bored desperate housewives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 04:24 AM
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Maybe it’s also a way of signaling maternal ‘ownership’ of you. It’s a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 04:16 AM
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The freedom to choose our identities
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 03:07 AM
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If a boss lady is calling you 'hon' and 'sweetheart', they are signaling you are a non threatening entity. Use it to your advantage. Do you want to date them? Are you worried you're being talked down to? Do you act immature, not masculine? what is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 03:02 AM
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Learn to flirt and seduce. That's how we want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 02:58 AM
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OLD is great. I met my husband on a dating site. It's a numbers game and you have to know when to quit looking for Ms./Mr. absolutely perfect or you'll make yourself miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 02:55 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 02:14 PM
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So, bewilderment mixed with disdain?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 02:14 PM
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You didn’t answer my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 01:40 PM
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Well what feelings then?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 01:22 PM
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Thanks for being honest!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 12:48 PM
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Let’s say she’s a girly girl who is very feminine and cuddly and submissive but she comes home one day and announces she’s won a Nobel Prize in physics thanks to her discoveries regarding dark matter. What kind of feelings arise in your body? Be precise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 12:18 PM
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Are your teeth that straight? Those look perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 02:17 AM
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Crystal eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 01:15 AM
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Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 01:14 AM
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If they are gay, my platonic male friend or a woman, no problem. Otherwise, nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 01:03 AM
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Tall brunette. When I was in middle school I looked pretty much exactly like this, including the hair. Now just an older version. Justine
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 12:59 AM
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I prefer it because I'm pretty busy myself. That being said, once the kids came along, it's a different ballgame. The nanny shouldn't ever become a replacement parent. It's a balance. Sacrifice is required from everyone once the babies arrive. That's when your SO's true colors emerge.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 06:17 PM
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There are certainly plenty of non practicing lawyers who went into other fields. I think the frustration is when a woman ‘takes up a spot’ at an ELITE law school/medical school and then decides to become a SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 04:27 PM
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Not sure. I can see the arguments on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 03:02 PM
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One thing that does happen: frustration regarding women “taking up spots” in law schools and then never pursuing a career. I’ve heard various people complain about this, from JP to professors to friends. My friend got into an pretty explosive argument with her mom recently because her mom claimed she ‘wasted’ a spot (at a prestigious Ivy law school) by choosing to become a SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 12:17 PM
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That’s why it has to be a choice, not forced. This is something terpers fail to understand. A woman will freely submit to a man she admires, and that’s the only kind of submission that’s worth anything imo. Having a rickety doormat for a wife gets old fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:28 AM
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I’m tall. My father was 6’6”. I need a very tall guy. 6’2” is about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:21 AM
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No. Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:20 AM
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Wast it really that high?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 01:22 AM
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Toy poodle. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 03:58 AM
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I never said he had a policy. I said "the election of Trump". WC people HOPED he would stop it because that's what he said at all his campaign rallies. Joke's on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 01:05 AM
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Trump was elected because aging working class white men already felt irrelevant and forgotten. The Donald promised to save them. "Which policies?" You're kidding, right? He's only going to make us rich people richer. He doesn't care about the working class one iota.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 12:09 AM
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yes but if there is no work, then what? I suppose a new religion could crop up that keeps all of us busy....some sort of intersectional capitalist/socialist/humanist/voodoo ideological technocracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 12:07 AM
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You know foreigners and non Christians pay taxes too, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 11:55 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:58 PM
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I think the latter is more likely. But it'll look like a natural disaster or some other superhuman occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:57 PM
2

I think just the lower class. Low SMV upper class will be just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:54 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:54 PM
2

ok then just run along.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:50 PM
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obesity will wipe a lot of them out before they reach 85 for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:48 PM
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ok here's your gold star, now run along.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:46 PM
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I need to check it out. What do they do?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:34 PM
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The sorts of jobs people are unwilling to take
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:31 PM
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AI, biotech and climate change don’t care about borders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:31 PM
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With the exception of empire building and provider-ship, men have always been irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:27 PM
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Are you referring to service jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:23 PM
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I think the gig economy is going to grow like crazy in the next 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:10 PM
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Maybe. Until the algorithms reprogram our need for emotional support. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 09:03 PM
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So you haven’t read any of the data regarding automation, AI and how it will affect even white collar careers in the very near future? It isn’t just him talking about this stuff. Jeez
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 08:20 PM
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They’ll call it something different, less socialist sounding. Something they can stomach, like, “Tax refund”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 07:48 PM
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Do you even know how to read? I brought up someone else’s concept. The guy is a respected professor of history with multiple best selling books. Where is the panic? It was a topic of discussion I found interesting. Nowhere in my OP did I say I believed in any of it. I find it INTERESTING. I guess my intuition is correct: you clearly are incapable of abstract thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 07:34 PM
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Nope. She made it personal by writing the word ‘you’re’ . I’m simply bringing up what I think is an interesting topic of discussion. I am the farthest thing from a doomsayer. Words matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 07:28 PM
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Learn to use English then. If I wrote: “I think you are boring and incapable of abstract thought” I’m sure you’d have a hard time not reading that as a personal barb. When you use the word ‘you’ in a statement you are making it personal. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 07:25 PM
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I'm sure he will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:44 PM
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They are going to become extinct. Automation is going to take their jobs. Then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:40 PM
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There's going to be a lot of redefining of terms I predict.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:39 PM
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You think red state types will start embracing things like universal income? Things could get really weird in the next 25 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:32 PM
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yeah I'm doing breathing exercises to keep from ripping her a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:27 PM
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You don't need to get personal. I thought it was an interesting topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:18 PM
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oh come on. Play nice. What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:14 PM
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Agree wholeheartedly. However, there is a big difference between a 5'9" and a 5'11" girl. Above 5'10" women start to be seen as freaks, unless they are literal models.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 05:26 PM
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If typical Catholic: sexually repressed. If typical Jewish: Anything goes other than PIV If Catholic 'bad girl': full on porn star If Jewish 'bad girl': no idea If typical Protestant: no idea If Protestant 'bad girl': no idea
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 05:02 PM
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We have a standing date night on Fridays. This one involved a comedy club, dinner and a 1 mile walk in heels because we forgot where we parked the car. Fun times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 01:09 PM
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No pattern at all. Female ENFJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 12:23 AM
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Has to be tall, masculine, funny, educated, happy with his career and earn more than me. I don't care if it's $1 more, just more than me. Everything else is negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 12:21 AM
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Only boring people get bored. Just because something is practical doesn’t mean it needs to be boring. If you maintain a sense of playfulness with your partner, folding laundry turns into an opportunity instead of a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 03:04 PM
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Answering for my husband: He has never dated anyone who didn’t have a professional career and at least a Master’s degree. He doesn’t support the concept of SAHM, but he also avoided dating doctors + ad agency types because the hours are brutal. He dumped a surgical resident because she didn’t have enough time for a relationship. The guy needs an enthusiastic audience when he gets home. Sometimes it’s me, and if I’m working late, it’s the dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 02:50 PM
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Have a career. Have children. Have friends. Don't be a mean person who thinks men owe you anything. Have the type of sex you actually like to have. Do all of the above and you'll probably end up with a decent enough man you don't mind 'submitting' to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 10:49 PM
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that was nice of you to translate for guys like OP what is painfully obvious to the rest of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 09:21 PM
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I suppose you could call it a pseudo religious experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:56 PM
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Beyond raw attraction, sex with a loving partner can have a lot of meaning. An existential connection can occur which imbues that sort of sex with a type of spiritual meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 12:49 AM
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Believe it or not it’s actually possible to have a career, a family, great sex and never fight about chores or childcare with the husband. When a man owns his shit, there are very few shit tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 01:29 PM
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What does rape have to do w anything
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:14 PM
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Because they don’t do what women want. They do what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 06:15 PM
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Yeah this sounds obsessive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:35 PM
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Women like confident men who are charming. Those guys are frequently authentically nice because they are happy and confident. They don’t stay butthurt if a woman rejects them. The other “nice guys” are not nice at all. They are desperate, angry and bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 02:52 PM
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What makes you think WC women don’t require validation? It’s probably just a different type of validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 01:19 PM
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Yeah she definitely never forgot that. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/18 09:33 AM
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Money, admiration, respect, body.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 02:12 AM
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Click, scoot, curl, cuddle: there should be one word that describes the feeling these actions create.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:41 PM
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Ditto
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:39 PM
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They prob secretly like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:37 PM
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Amewing. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:36 PM
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Silly is so underrated. It takes a lot of emotional ‘intelligence’ to be silly together imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:35 PM
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We have date night every Friday night. My h is a huge foodie and loves to discover new restaurants. He’s very social so he gets the party going + schmoozes with everyone: neighbors, cops, waiters, my clients, dogs on the street, etc...He took me to a haunted house last week before a company party. I got scared out of my mind. The party was much more fun after that peak fear experience. I just like being in his orbit. The guy makes everything awsome and he doesn’t try to control me. I’m fun to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 09:19 PM
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Not sure how you got that from my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 05:47 PM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 04:48 PM
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That’s why it’s in quotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:55 PM
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Yes she is feeding you but not because you needed it. She is feeding you because you acted like a dominant ‘jerk’ who didn’t take orders from a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:46 PM
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A portion of chips. Adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:30 PM
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You appear to have more wisdom at 16 than some of these supposed grownups. Good job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:06 PM
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That’s some nice diplomacy skillz. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:04 PM
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Oh good. 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:02 PM
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Nicely put.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 10:53 AM
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Is that dorky? :/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:48 PM
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They don’t get approached as often by anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 05:02 PM
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Fecklessness. Not owning their decisions. Not being able to make a decision. Lack of ambition. Lack of direction. Lack of chutzpah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:54 PM
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I love talking all the live long day with my mom and sisters. Doing that to a man is abusive. Lol #husbandabuse
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:45 PM
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This is what drove my husband nuts about his ex wife. She never stopped talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:30 PM
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It is cute. Here comes the man with the plan. Every time my h does this it makes want to hug him. I also vent less because I don’t want to trigger his gears, and because I finally realized that venting puts me in a bad mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:19 PM
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This happened to me so many times when I was younger. I finally just turned into an ice queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:14 PM
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I agree. Empathy is about showing, not telling. If you’re telling, you are the opposite of empathic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 02:57 PM
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Men (especially today’s men) are scared of extreme beauty. I work with models every day. They are lonely. It takes a confident guy to approach these birds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 02:46 PM
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Seems like that would be a result of the lingering effect of communist work culture (everyone according to ability...) as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 02:35 PM
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Because the intent, audience and visual result are completely different. One is ‘gay’ or actually gay, the other isn’t. You know, words actually have meaning and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 12:22 PM
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No they aren’t you tard. Body builders are about aesthetics, weightlifters are about absolute strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 10:51 AM
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Bodybuilders are gay. Weightlifters aren't. no nuance needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 01:30 AM
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Yes. This happens even if you make little girls play with guns and trucks. Most women gravitate towards femme careers or SAHM strategies given the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 01:28 AM
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science and imperial capitalism don't care about borders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 02:54 PM
1

Wait, what? Hai!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 01:15 PM
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Enjoy it while it lasts
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 12:57 PM
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Depends on the mother. Some mothers are narcissistic entities. Some are insecure. Some are good mothers, more interested in raising a decent human being than in controlling him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 03:50 AM
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Well then there are a lot more cucks walking around than we realized.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 03:48 AM
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They're figuring it out on their own. Europe will absorb them and make them more Westernized, even if it doesn't look that way now. Capitalism wins every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 03:45 AM
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So you are attracted to hot masculine women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 03:44 AM
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was feminism always tied to collectivism?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 11:51 PM
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I finally understand why there are so many smokey-eye tutorials on youtube.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 11:50 PM
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That boat has sailed. Blame science for inventing the pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 11:45 PM
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I got into an argument with my feminist bff last night about this. She had never heard the word 'misandry.'
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 10:22 PM
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I didn't say anything about anyone being equal. I'm talking about what men should do if they want more feminine women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 10:19 PM
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Name the top 10 feminine qualities MEN desire. I started it: 1-submissiveness (willingly or unwillingly puts herself below him) 2-demureness (classy lady, style) 3-purity (could be innocence, chastity, or ignorance) 4-playfulness (child-like awe and wonder at life or just plain dumb and happy) 5-morals (signals the baby is his and not his best friend's) 6-
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 10:17 PM
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Hmm. No wonder my grandfather adores her so much, even with her fainting flower act. Hadn't thought of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:41 PM
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But don't men like having SAHMs? It makes them feel more manly/provider? Or is it that they stay at home but remain harpy shrews?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:39 PM
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That’s a career. What’s a feminine life strategy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:31 PM
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I would think so. But you’re right. I have no proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:30 PM
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What is a feminine life strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:29 PM
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Yeah we should be less tacky.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:27 PM
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What’s a ‘feminine life strategy’ example that men wouldn’t like?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:24 PM
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The point is they are organizing themselves this way naturally. It isn’t some thought process. It’s organic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:22 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:21 PM
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Thanks Gloria. Go back to the mansion. We all know you secretly loved it. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:21 PM
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I think that’s more American culture more than anything else. European girls don’t act like that. Well maybe British girls do...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:20 PM
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Because the bad kinds are typically created as a result of women not having any agency. My grandmother for instance is a shining example. She wasn’t allowed to work, wasn’t allowed to date, wasn’t allowed to speak unless spoken to when the men were having discussions. She grew into a fragile hypochondriac hyper feminine lady. You know the type.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:17 PM
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If you want that you better be smoking hot with tons of charm, or cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:14 PM
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'tangible air of rage'. It's that jaw twitching smile with dead eyes while he says 'hello'......
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 08:51 PM
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And yet societies naturally organize themselves in these natural patriarchies regardless if they came from hunter gatherers or evolved from island people or Australian indigenous tribes. In many societies from ancient to recent you can observe fat weak men ruling over millions of strong fighters. Status and social intelligence trumps physical strength. Women are supposed to be excellent communicators and we supposedly have superior social intelligence. so why aren’t there more women ruling over …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 08:18 PM
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All the info in TRP is already out there and packaged in 10 different ways if anyone cares to look for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 08:06 PM
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If Hot Rough Sex Guy had committed to one of these 'society plz save me from my own choices' bishes, she would experience the memory of that sexy time as 'mind blowing' instead of 'abusive'.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 07:02 PM
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I predict the young millenials of today will rediscover TRP in 10 years once they find themselves in dead bedrooms, wondering how on earth they got there despite their precious egalitarian relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 06:35 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 06:20 PM
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When we are talking about men vs women, NO we are not the same and we are not equal. These differences cannot be explained via cultural factors because the trends (women hold less power than men, men are at the top of most hierarchies, etc....) are true across every culture, even the feminist egalitarian ones. Nor can it be explained only in terms of 'physical strength' (this 'strength' argument is easy to dispel so I won't even go into it). There is something else going on and not even the expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 06:16 PM
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People can choose who they are and there IS indeed suffering because the pain of choosing + negotiating is not insignificant. We traded greater freedom for greater uncertainty. That’s my observation. It’s isn’t ‘better’ or ‘worse’. It is just what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 04:57 PM
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Yep. Negotiations that involve flirting with your SO are nearly always pleasant affairs. This is obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 04:43 PM
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Life is easily beautiful because of more freedom. Yep. But life is also more psychologically taxing, because each person has to develop his own identity. That takes a lot of brain power. We used to be given our identities at birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:39 PM
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If that is so, why are so many people on antidepressants? I contend it is because many of us require roles and no longer have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:09 PM
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I AM happy. I was just having a discussion because I find the topic interesting. You are psychoanalyzing me instead of talking about the topic. It isn’t personal dude. It’s just a discussion on how roles have evolved. Settle down. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:55 PM
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Did you forget to take your meds today?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:18 PM
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My h calls that 'fight cat mode'. When he sees it bubbling up he says, 'don't let fight cat out'. Instant deescalation. I think it's less indoctrination and more.....underlying anxiety (but that's prob my own projection).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 09:52 AM
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Relationships were never as much of a negotiation as they are now. Roles were much more defined. Sure there were frustrations with each of our respective roles, but not as many negotiations. Today we may have less constraints but we have.....decision fatigue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 09:41 AM
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Do you believe this: If identities can be negotiated, attraction can also be negotiated. In other words, if we are evolving in terms of identity, will we inevitably rewire our attraction mechanisms? SAHDs and masculine women will become truly 'sexy' for instance?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 09:38 AM
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Adulting is haaaaaard. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:10 AM
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Right but I’m saying the blueprints for the foundation aren’t as clear as they used to be in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:09 AM
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Roles were much more clearly defined in the past. That is a fact. A shrew of a wife was still expected to fulfill certain duties. Same with a power hungry husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:07 AM
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Well ‘what feels right’ isn’t always so nicely aligned between 2 people. Congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:04 AM
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You got him to take the trash out by pulling the “you’re so strong” card!? Paging u/EmoryUpton
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:02 AM
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A lot of people aren’t outliers in this sense and have been left baffled by the modern romantic landscape.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:00 AM
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Right. You guys revel in the adventure of transgression together. That sounds fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:58 AM
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I’ve had one relationship like this. And it was indeed exhausting. I think they are becoming more common. Plus, seems like you select for very masculine guys. Not a lot of negotiation going on w that brand.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:54 AM
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Also, they are usually married to other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 01:07 AM
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I have to agree with this to some extent. For instance, when men try to be SAHDs, the wives usually lose respect for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 12:59 AM
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My mother was probably neglectful but I can't seem to remember details. She was 'tired' a lot. Sort of there but not there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 12:58 AM
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Many people aren't wired for clarity and efficiency. Some are wired for nuance and obfuscation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 12:55 AM
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Never say never. People have affairs and get over them all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 08:12 PM
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I do not have an obligation per se, but I personally would not allow a man to think he has a shot with me if he in fact doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 07:31 PM
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And when she's finally out of mom mode and realizes her husband has checked out, she starts checking out the SAHD on the playground.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:29 PM
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I'll bite. I employ multiple measures: Fear: If he has an affair, I will have an affair. Love (negative): If he has an affair, I will withdraw my love. I will become automaton wife. Guilt: If he has an affair, it will break my heart. Love (positive): If he doesn't have an affair and remains attracted to me, I will stay madly in love with him (which is worth a whole lot to him). ​ ​
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:21 PM
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I don’t understand why women think they should be loved if they stop having sex with their husbands. Sex is how men express love. If a woman doesn’t want to have sex with her husband, she doesn’t love him. She might ‘love’ him as a friend or a family member....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 01:21 PM
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“Oh honey don’t worry, I’ll still give you some attention, maybe even ‘the most’ attention, so long as you remain sweet and empathic while I fuck other women.” Ahahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 01:13 PM
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the zombie apocalypse makes me nervous too. This is why it’s important to have children, friends, a career, a life outside your husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 11:19 AM
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I’m banking on wife goggles. This better be a real thing or I’m toast 10 years from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 08:36 PM
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“The most attention” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 08:31 PM
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Repeatedly Drilled into my head by mom: Before 25: “don’t get pregnant” Day After I turned 25: “where are my grandkids?” You still have time but not as much as ‘they’ say you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 08:33 PM
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How does your weirdness present?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 08:13 PM
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Little unkindnesses go unchecked and slowly grow into a giant ball of contempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 01:50 AM
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Besides the hygiene issue, a sex bot brothel sounds less disgusting than a real brothel. Husbands predisposed to philandering can go have fun with plastic parts and it wouldn't technically be cheating. Women riding the cc is not the same as a woman who is a prostitute. One sells her body for money, the other is having fun with hot guys (or playing out her mental illness) and this disgusts a certain type of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 01:51 AM
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4!? Woah.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 12:00 AM
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Please don’t tell me how to use words. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 03:46 PM
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This makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 03:10 PM
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Yeah. Liking dicks and looking at pictures of fags grabbing their erections are 2 different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:48 PM
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I think a large percentage are gay men posing as women. The way the photographs are shot are clearly intended for a male audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:19 PM
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This is so gay. Women HATE pictures of naked men grabbing their erections.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:04 PM
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Absolutely. I would not be able to get aroused sexually if I felt my partner didn’t find me sexy. Most men aren’t great actors in that regard. You can tell if they find you sexy or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 01:59 PM
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Yes I agree. They deep down don't 'want' a relationship because it's easier to repeat broken patterns than to dive into the unknown. I think they have insecure attachment styles from their early childhoods.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:13 AM
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Those girls are HOPING they will become relationship material. This is how women operate. Sure, after the fact they’ll say, “I knew he wasn’t relationship material anyway!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:46 PM
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You are assuming incorrectly that women increase preferences with N. I think women increase their spectrum of attraction with N, so long as the N isn’t crazy high.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:30 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:24 PM
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They are romantically hoping those guys will become relationship material. Jeez Lewis. This isn’t rocket science. Women want to lock down an alpha! They play stupid games, like giving it away without hoops in the hopes he’ll fall for her. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:23 PM
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I read NYC women had an average of 15 lifetime partners. It may have been a NY Mag article from a couple of years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:20 PM
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Why do you think carouselers are less likely to be alpha widowed?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:06 PM
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Female nature. To whom do you think women give their bodies without making the man ‘jump through hoops’? It’s men who they are attracted to and want to lock down. This is the romantic side of women. We hope that the guy we are crazy about will commit to us. Most women do not like casual sex: we aren’t men. Most women are serial monogamists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 08:10 PM
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Most women don’t do that. Most of them are hoping for a relationship with a man who drives them wild sexually/romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 07:02 PM
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Especially in your field I bet. Maybe doctors too...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 06:38 PM
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They didn't want to 'slut it up'. They were looking for relationships. They aren't idiots either. One has a very enviable career in media, another owns her own business and makes tons of $$. They are 'high quality' women on paper. Well spoken, lots of friends, well read. They just.......can't lock down a man for some reason. But they wish they could. I don't know if the number made a difference. You'd have to ask the men they slept with. edit: I do have another friend who seems to be really good…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:36 PM
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Can you explain this more? I not understanding what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:33 PM
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Well most women are open to sex (from hot guys) that hopefully leads to a relationship, not just ‘open to sex.’
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:24 PM
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Give the credit to Lewis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:14 PM
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well according to a lot of people here, there is NO WAY a Chad could be faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:11 PM
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yeah this is a big red flag. wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:20 PM
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Check out the podcast by Esther Perel. There’s an episode about this exact scenario. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:07 PM
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It is what it is. Now do you understand why Chads are the holy grail? They are not only hot, they are faithful! (Jk) :))
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:04 PM
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Yep. Sounds about right. It’s funny how so many low tier (in terms of looks) men who are married to hotter (and more sexually experienced) wives end up having affairs, even when their wives are into them! And it’s so funny how many married Chads are faithful, because they are essentially like women: they had their fun and they don’t need junk food sex/validation any more. Paradoxical.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 03:01 PM
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It’s on the upper end of the average, I’ll give you that. But not a slutho if she’s getting married at 28-32. To answer your edit: because it’s name calling. Do you like it when I call your compadres country bumpkin sexually repressed uggos who had no game in their 20s and are now jealous of women? You do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:52 PM
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And you wouldn’t know that 1-15 is an average range and by no means a ‘slutho’ because you are not from around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:50 PM
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Yes I can see that. Def one of the ways affairs get started.....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:48 PM
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That’s not name calling, that’s ‘accurate’. Don’t change the rules now Lewis just because you don’t like them applied to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:46 PM
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Maybe that constitutes ‘slutho’ to some backwash country bumpkin uggos raised in an overly repressed sexual environment. I hadn’t thought of that possibility!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:42 PM
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I said 1-15. In coastal cities among college educated women, this is an average range. Sex is like water for almost all women. That’s not the point I was making. Here comes Mr.Name Calling Triggered Lewis. So predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:31 PM
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I think more men than we realize have this story playing out in their minds. They won’t admit it out loud very often. A lot of my friends’ husbands have this ‘I missed out’ vibe. Sometimes they allude to it after a few drinks at a dinner party. Hmm....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:26 PM
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Mkay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:22 PM
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Most of my friends who rode the cock carousel for a little while are fine and happily married in 10+ year marriages. The ones who rode it like it was going out of style have had a lot of problems keeping LTRs. Anecdata from my crowd (white UMC coastal): 1-15 partners before marriage = no prob 25+ partners before marriage = problems
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:15 PM
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Being a pathological cheating liar is not ‘human’
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 01:56 PM
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You mean if they “raised you well” and later find out your father was a philandering dog? Um, yeah that would certainly ‘color’ the way you view your father. And btw, even when men think they are hiding their affairs, the kids can feel it. They know somethings not kosher.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 01:47 PM
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I don’t think a lot of men realize how damaging it is to a child when he/she witnesses such a betrayal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:33 PM
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What do you mean by “help with women”? You yourself called it orbiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:23 PM
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Sounds like you were expecting reciprocation in the form of sexual favors. That’s a covert sexual contract, not a ‘friendship’.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:18 PM
1

I came in purple, went a little reddish, am now no pill. I’ve seen way too many examples lately of unconventional relationships that seem to be working out beautifully. So while there are generalizations to be made regarding male/female nature, I believe the primary mechanism which predicts success in romantic relationships is attachment styles. Secure people make it work. Insecure people make sure it doesn’t. Politically, this sub has reawakened my childhood Libertarian indoctrination.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:11 PM
1

You think crazy feminists will be the only ones bleeding out if Roe v Wade gets overturned?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:48 AM
1

I wonder how long it'll take before the red states turn into raging Socialists after Cali and NY pull all our $$ out of the Federal system.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:22 AM
1

This is so true. I'm seeing it first hand here in Brooklyn.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:20 AM
2

Really nice what you wrote here. xx
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 10:38 PM
1

A member of my family was falsely accused of stalking. Tens of thousands of dollars later the case was finally dropped when our demure, petite, wolf in sheep's clothing, rock star L.A. lawyer (I love her!)....... slowly ripped the story apart by proving the 'victim' falsely accused multiple men in the past. Apparently this is how the 'victim' dealt with any boyfriend who dumped her. She never did get prosecuted. She's a 'healer' now, helping other women deal with 'trauma'. Crazy bitch. What abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 09:59 PM
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You are better than your parents and you have a lot of love to offer. It’s hard to change our attraction wiring because of faulty attachment styles but it can be done. Don’t give up! ❤️❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 07:14 PM
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Here’s what she says: Maya Manian, professor, University of San Francisco Law School There are several cases already pending in federal appeals courts challenging state laws banning the most common type of second trimester abortion (dilation and evacuation) — one of those could be the vehicle for overturning Roe especially if a federal appeals court ruling upholding such an abortion ban results in a circuit split. (A common reason for the Supreme Court to accept a case is a disagreement among th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 07:07 PM
2

Unsalted of course. Everyone knows the salted butter is the old butter. Unsalted is fresh butter!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 06:56 PM
2

F poor kitty
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:19 PM
1

Is it over now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:18 PM
1

I would have agreed with you years ago but tears can also mean action. I’ve seen it plenty. The way we interpret emotions is shifting imo. I do agree regarding your points on class. Although, isn’t Kavanagh broke?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:06 PM
1

Bunny!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 12:40 AM
1

Hey, if our dear old President traffics in character assassination, why can’t the rest of us? Don’t get butthurt over it. Just bend over and take it without crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:01 PM
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Well this is a debate sub that revolves around gender issues. If it bugs you, maybe just visit a political sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:59 PM
3

So much passion!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:13 PM
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u/sublimemongrel u/Atlas_B_Shruggin u/EmoryUpton u/Goatismycopilot u/OldSaltyBastard
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:17 PM
2

Some idiot mod changed my flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:38 PM
1

where did all the money go? Perhaps to pay off all those othe....oh never mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:38 PM
1

I agree. We should have at least 3 parties. We may have a constitutional crisis sooner than we think if the Judicial Branch becomes a third arm of the Executive Branch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:35 PM
1

Why you so triggered? Your boy won. Put on a happy face and stop being such a cunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:04 PM
1

It sounds ridiculous but you’re going to miss all that plastic toddler crap one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:02 PM
1

Yeah. You can calm down now. He won.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:31 PM
3

I know his accomplishments. I’m concerned with his demeanor and temperament.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:17 PM
2

You sound triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:14 PM
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how did they 'destroy his life'? He got appointed. He won. I hope he's not as vindictive as you are, but judging from his performance at the hearing, he probably is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:49 PM
3

He will always be Sweaty Brett to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:18 PM
2

You're barking up the wrong tree. I was ready to support him, until his testimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:14 PM
1

omg your yard is gorgeous. How about if you just stop doing the chores? Let everything pile up. What would happen then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:04 AM
3

yep. scary times indeed. We are creating the perfect petri dish for despotism to flourish.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:17 AM
2

Yeah she's a great character. Laura Linney did an amazing job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:08 AM
3

Do you think a woman crying during her confirmation process would have gotten confirmed? lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:01 AM
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I'm not worried about roe v wade being overturned. I'm worried about Kavanaugh's character. I actually agree with a lot of his legal philos ophy, but after his testimony, I no longer think he's suited to hold that seat. He lied under oath. I'm also very worried that the Judicial Branch is looking more and more like the third arm of the Executive Branch. This is how we lose a democracy, piece by piece, little by little. I hope Roberts fights to keep the sanctity of the Supreme Court's 'brand' int…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:56 AM
2

Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:43 AM
3

Yeah. He seems like the type of person who holds grudges. I'm sure it'll be pretty bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:41 AM
2

Yes. Very juvenile behavior from a Supreme Court nominee. I wonder if he made eye contact with the other guy while he was doing his devil's triangle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:38 AM
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No. But he's not fit to be a Justice of the Supreme Court.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:27 AM
3

Amen brother. Or Sister. Or whatever you go by.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:29 AM
2

Thanks for sharing your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:43 AM
1

Yup. Emotional blindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:40 AM
1

She comes off as a tranny lesbo. Irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:39 AM
2

Metoo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:38 AM
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Work on it. It’s improvable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:38 AM
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Oh. His crying is ‘different’. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:37 AM
1

Here come the excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:36 AM
5

Would you say the same for a woman having he same reaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:35 AM
3

If you feel I’m upset you’re clearly on your period. Wanna borrow a tampon?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:06 AM
1

Well that’s a Machiavellian interpretation. I hope you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:58 PM
1

so? that's not my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:44 PM
3

He's on a national stage. If Ford and Hill could keep it together, why can't he?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:44 PM
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"A man crying is a man willing to act?" Okay......
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:43 PM
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nope. An emotionally compromised male is terminally defective. Plenty of women better than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:42 PM
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yeah that's why I said 'by your definition' I don't consider women using tears are power tools 'psychopathic'
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:40 PM
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Revenge is a form of female power, employed creatively by billions of women. Why are we surprised so many women are jumping at the opportunity to exert power? Is it because it's so public?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:16 PM
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Because he got confirmed despite that abhorrent display. That's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:58 PM
1

The negativity is merely a portal to the positivity. It is the negativity that reveals an authentic emotional wound. Once the wound is excised, allowed to bleed and drip all over the internet, validated by hordes of seemingly nihilistic alt right pretending sycohphantic rad feminists married to libertards or warlords, are we then able to recognize total acceptance and trust. And even after that point, the negativity is a form of bonding. Suck it up buttercup. :)) #thanossnap
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:53 PM
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Women WISH we could be valued for something other than our youth + looks. Deep down, we know the score. That's why we're such bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:49 PM
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Maybe it was well received because right wingers are turning into cucks?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:46 PM
1

True. Although I'd say there are more 'female psychopaths' (by your definition) than you could possibly imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:44 PM
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thanks for the field report. Can you actually answer my post now?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:43 PM
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yes but tears can be extremely manipulative and powerful when deployed in front of the correct audience. For example, a woman who cries to a 6'5" hulk that some 'douchbag' across the street was 'bothering' her. She can detonate a nuclear war.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:41 PM
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I would have agreed with you 10 years ago. But I've seen the power of tears. Some female C suite execs use tears in truly impressive Machiavellian ways. Not to mention all those housewives who use tears to manipulate their husbands. It's not as straight forward as you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:38 PM
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yeah, but crying?? Maybe he'll prove to be more of a centrist after all. One of those rapey centrists. Most conservative judges on the Supreme Court tend to become more centrist once on the bench, historically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:33 PM
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That's nice. Can you respond to my actual post now? thanks. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:30 PM
2

Why are they so obssessed??? It's crazy. They still want mommy's approval. That's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:26 PM
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+/u/User_Simulator darla10 ​
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:25 PM
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In coastal cities I'd say the average is around 15. In the rest of the country....I'd say 6 or 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 02:48 PM
1

So creative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 11:34 PM
1

So original.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 11:34 PM
1

I recommend doing 1 bad thing to a man per day. Keeps you fresh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 11:28 PM
1

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 11:27 PM
2

Bad Chad!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 11:26 PM
1

Anger phase confirmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 08:34 PM
1

Awww. Been there, done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 02:08 AM
1

Do you post under other alts?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:18 AM
5

South Americans of European descent are pretty racist too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:09 AM
1

If a guy holds a door open for you while you’re wearing padded biking shorts under your mini dress....you know he loves the ‘real’ you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:07 AM
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That's such a romantic way of letting her know you miss her while she's in dream land.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:56 AM
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Did you compliment her hairstyle after you raped her? 'Tres chic bed head darling'
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:49 AM
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That doesn't count because your 'bad' thing wasn't on purpose. ;))
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:46 AM
3

Can you stay this version of you after purge week is over? This is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:26 AM
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Lol!!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:06 AM
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Agreed. Angry little frat boy. Yuck. It scares me to think he will be on the bench of the highest court.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:43 PM
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Because he followed all the rules but his wife still didn't desire him the way he needed to be desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 01:02 AM
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What kind of advice did you give to to wives married to rudderless betas?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 11:56 PM
2

I can relate to this. Niiiiice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 08:31 PM
2

I want to see biceps from: LewisCross, sadomasochrist and crackcocksteady. pronto.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:06 AM
1

Those abs look photoshopped. Bravo!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:03 AM
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nice job!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:02 AM
1

Looks pretty good to me. Not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:02 AM
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Hate to say it but this rings true. It's another version of the Napoleon complex some short guys develop.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 07:15 PM
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To be fair, her husband's ex probably deserved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 07:11 PM
3

Wow! Nice ink and nice bod salty!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 05:53 PM
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+u/User_Simulator darla10
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 12:37 AM
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I agree w you squid. That being said, I don’t understand why you don’t have a relationship. You seem so normal!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 12:29 AM
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Did you get revenge yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:26 PM
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I’m not the person who was originally responding to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 07:19 PM
1

Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 06:18 PM
1

I think so. Women fall out of love easier because we aren’t collectors like you guys. We need to see our man as ‘king’ or it doesn’t work. It’s up to man to disappoint us, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 04:39 PM
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Makes sense. Thnx
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 01:44 PM
2

Would you please explain this a little bit more?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 12:57 PM
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I'm 5'9", my husband is 6'2". His height absolutely made a difference in terms of attraction. I come from a very tall family. All the men are over 6'. My grandfather and uncle are 6'8". For me height and masculinity are almost interchangeable; short men might be masculine but tall men cannot be unmasculine. I'm 43. My husband is 45. He could have been 10 years older than me (we met when I was 35) and I would have still been attracted to him. I'm not sure why he chose a woman near his age. He cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 05:42 PM
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Good: 1-Immense swagger. The way he walks is unparalleled. People get out of he way. Like Moses parting the seas. 2-IDGAF attitude when it comes to emotional disclosure. “It is what it is. Deal with it.” 3-Massively kind + Big heart. 4-Good at making boring things sound exciting: “Look at this! Blah blah about the coming singularity + automation!” 5-Sex God. Bad: 1-Too impulsively mean + strict w the boys when they don’t perform to his standards. Sharp cutting words that make me worry. 2-Insensi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 01:46 AM
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Ditto
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 12:01 AM
1

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 10:25 PM
3

Haha. Up ‘there’. Typo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 08:27 PM
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You think those girls would be up here freely ‘expressing themselves’ for average dudes if they weren’t getting paid?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 07:07 PM
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Those STEM graduates probably wouldn’t be able to fight off the mutated mega tigers roaming the streets once the ash settled. The cracked out shaman would hypnotize the mega tigers with his crazy dance and temporary superhuman strength (thanks to the crack) and save humanity. He would be seen as God figure and would impregnate all the women. Then the women would marry the STEM graduates and make them raise the shaman’s baby. That baby would have the shaman’s exceptional risk taking capabilities …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 02:20 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 02:06 PM
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Because humanity needs to survive and thanks to our biology, we only need a few (high quality) men but lots of (whatever quality) women in order for that to happen. We are all comfy now and can make other choices, and many of us do, but at the root of this seemingly skewed attraction mechanism is a precise formula that ensures humanity survives in times of scarcity or danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:51 PM
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Who is saying that if a spergy dude has a baby he has pissed on the gene pool? If a sperg managed to convince a woman to carry his kid, he’s done something right. His spergy genes figured out a way to do that. Again, have a look at BIL Gates. You think he cares what people think about his genetic fitness? If a sperg can’t convince a woman to carry his kid and then complains about the double standard, tough luck. He’s an evolutionary ‘loser.’ If a crack whore manages to have a kid, yes she is dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:38 PM
1

You’re misinterpreting what ‘success’ means for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:19 PM
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Because there is a chance she won’t pass on her crappy genes (especially if she procreates with a high value man) and if a woman is willing to carry that pregnancy and give birth, the gamble is evolutionarily ‘worth it’.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:15 PM
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From her personal perspective, she has a shot at reproducing with a high quality man, possibly even getting commitment from him. She’s not thinking about the gene pool. She’s thinking about herself. From his perspective, he has a shot at sex without any post coital investment. Men don’t turn down free sex. He’s not thinking about the gene pool. He’s thinking about himself. There IS no consideration from either of them about what’s better for ‘society’ at large when they make a decision to bang. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:02 PM
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What’s the reason for this? I look back at pictures of my high school boyfriend and think, “why was I dating a waif?” I thought he was so cool and sexually desirable. Now I think he looks like a little girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 11:47 AM
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No it isn’t because genes from high quality man + genes from low quality woman may still produce a higher quality man. Plus sperm is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 11:41 AM
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Women don’t pursue careers because it makes them more sexually appealing to men. Only men play that that game.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 11:25 AM
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There are a lot more than you think Lewis. Come visit NYC. Or go to LA, Chicago, Miami, Boston, DC.... Yep we are ONLY talking in a professional context. In a personal/romantic context, ‘successful’ women better be mushy, soft, open and feminine if they want to have a nice relationship with a masculine guy. We are in agreement on that. Professionally, respect is given when it’s warranted. Women at those upper levels don’t demand it or pursue their careers in the hopes of getting ‘respect’. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 01:24 PM
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Ok that’s your personal experience. The women I’m talking about are successful entrepreneurs, successful filmmakers, venture capitalists, COOs and CEOs, surgeons, lawyers and research scientists who’ve attained the type of success + respect you can’t “bullshit” your way into through some job in a cubicle at the back of the HR department. I’m talking about real careers. That’s my frame of reference. Those are the ones who get respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 01:12 PM
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A woman who achieves meaningful work, who creates and propels culture + commerce forward, can receive a measure of respect from her peers, She can also receive love from her husband + children. A woman who stays home can only receive love from her husband + children...and for a lot of women, that’s enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 04:43 AM
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This is why women aren’t respected. Merely surviving isn’t an achievement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 04:34 AM
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“Financially strong” is a factual, measurable metric of achievement. “Emotionally strong” is a description a family member or friend chooses to give a particular woman. It is their subjective experience of that woman and it may or may not be accurate. Those two types of strengths have no business being compared. One of them is subjective, the other is just a fact. Women who DEMAND to be respected for being emotionally “strong” are usually lacking in emotional strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/18 04:23 AM
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Idk I’m beginning to think I’m a gay male homosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 01:18 AM
3

Women fantasize about being ravished, not raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 12:54 AM
5

Nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 08:02 PM
1

So you have a sugar mama? Are you a guy who pretends to care but is really just after her money/security?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 02:49 AM
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Intelligence and success aren’t the problem. The PROBLEM is that many of those intelligent and successful women don’t know how to be feminine. They don’t know how to let go of control in a romantic relationship. They treat their romantic relationships like a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 05:42 PM
1

Hmm. Yeah I’d be curious to see the age breakdown. In my industry it’s like 45% gay. I’m surrounded by fabulous queens and bears.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:46 AM
1

I bet there are more here because NYC is a hub for art and fashion
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 01:59 AM
2

Maybe. Sure some women have unrealistic standards around here. I’m not sure that’s the main reason though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 10:47 AM
3

There are tons of gay men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 10:46 AM
2

Yeah what I see is 28-35 yo NYC women freaking out because they can’t find husbands, but this has always been the case here. It’s prob not as dire elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 03:27 AM
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Same here. And we both got lucky and found husbands young. Unfortunately it seems that for many young women today, this won’t be the case, thanks to a number of factors; women delay marriage for career, online dating creates an environment of decision fatigue (for both sexes), young women are systemically misinformed regarding the viability of their eggs after age 35, men are more wary of marriage, etc..,,, The rise of sugar babies and other transactional arrangements is perhaps a sign women are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 03:00 AM
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OP has made an extreme example but I think it illustrates the point nicely: women have shorter shelf lives, therefore we “should” demand more upfront. Some women demand commitment. Barring that, some women demand other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 02:22 AM
1

not unless you're sleeping with all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 10:40 PM
3

ok so I read 60% of this and from what I gather, you GoodMen stand for these principles: -egalitarianism or intersectional-humanism click here -ideological centrism (state-regulated capitalism) -moral rather than amoral -dating strategy that requires women take equal responsibilities as well as privileges -an acknowledgement that just being positive [click here] isn't always sufficient advice women and men have both similarities and differences but ultimately are of equal worth, not equal attrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 12:37 AM
3

Push up bra.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 08:19 PM
2

You like getting personal. Don’t get upset when someone calls you on it. You came in here all virtue signaly. Go back to RPW where that sort of game plays out the way you’re used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 10:36 PM
1

ok thanks for telling me about your accomplishments as a mother. If you're so 'happy with your choice' why do you need to name drop your kids and husbands resumes? There's something else clearly going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 04:37 PM
1

Dude you are the one who started off talking about "brazen SAHP disrespect". You're the one caught up on respect. You're also displaying a not so thinly veiled hatred of working moms. To be fair, there's prob a bit of jealousy from both sides. Still, why do you pick up these bitches' stranded kids? I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 09:36 PM
1

ok I dont' know you but since you've brought your own story into this debate, I'll say this: seems like some of those career moms are taking advantage of you. It's really nice you 'come to the rescue' for their kids but you sound bitter af. Maybe back off let them deal with their own stranded kids once in a while? That'll prob trigger their 'respect' for you more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 09:17 PM
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yeah I guess gold diggers wouldn't come over to rpw. lol you're right
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:49 PM
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Men who claim to want a SAHM while not respecting the role do not see any conflict between that desire and that sentiment whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:48 PM
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unless they are gold diggers, aging women on the lookout for Billy Beta or desperate for babies. Otherwise you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:41 PM
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Women who want a masculine high quality man for long term commitment use RP tools to snag him. Being submissive to a particular man, in the way THAT particular man prefers a woman to be submissive, is a skill a woman can learn. It can be a fun experience. Girl game, getting in touch with your femininity, rp tools, whatever you want to call it....it's cultivating a certain mindset to get the relationship you want. That ideal relationship usually looks like this: the man feels masculine around her…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:37 PM
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If your husband is their boss, they wouldn’t want to piss off the boss saying something like “it would be so much easier to stay home” within earshot of you. As far as your husband saying “I couldn’t have gotten this far without you” - of course he’s going to say that. That’s what he’s supposed to say. He has a vested interest in keeping your self esteem high. You help working moms out. Sounds like you’re frustrated because they don’t respect you. Guess what? People can like like you, even love …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:10 PM
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Same. It made me ashamed of my parents when I saw how nice and respectful my friends’ parents were with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 04:10 PM
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I'm so impressed. With your husband that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 02:04 AM
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"brazen SAHP disrespect"? Why would a SAHM with an advanced degree demand respect in the first place? That's something she can try to demand from her circle of SAHM friends and her kids, maybe her husband. Why would she need it from women with careers? And the whole, "my husband is your boss" bit is hilarious btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 01:46 AM
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Yep!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 11:18 PM
1

Ok dorky side boy. Move along.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 10:23 PM
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Yes I can see from this comment the sort of job your parents did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 10:14 PM
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Meh. As long as she provides emotional stability and values, a child learns arts/sciences/‘life lessons’ better at school.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 09:59 PM
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My 5’9” mom married my 5’5” step dad and they are madly in love. 30+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 01:41 AM
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Preach!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 09:54 PM
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They are really pissed off about it now because, like women, men have been sold this idea that modern marriage has to encompass everything from companionship to spiritual fullfilment to raw desire. Men of yore probably just cheated a lot more and didn't feel bad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 09:28 PM
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Women always desired to be desired. Women always wanted to experience desire (we just call it romance sometimes). But women in the past knew it wasn't going to happen with a lot of men. Some of them were lucky enough to hitch their wagons to a marriage minded man they truly desired. But most just made do and accepted marriage for what it was: a contract. What's different today is that we think we are owed sexual satisfaction. If we don't get it, we simply shut down (your "normal" asexual female)…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 09:22 PM
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I’m against encouraging people to “accept themselves for who they are” when it comes to being fat. No. ‘Fat’ isn’t some part of your identity. Decide you are better than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 05:45 PM
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I’ve asked my husband, mainly out of sheer curiosity but partly to confirm that he’s the embodiment of the stud muffin image I’ve conjured in my head. His number always changes. “Oh did I say 38? I meant 68.” He’s never asked my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 03:12 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 02:39 AM
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Love can grow. Attraction can be a little bit enhanced or slightly amplified through shared history/respect, but the baseline is pretty much the baseline. I don't think a big uptick in attraction is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 09:27 PM
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i think that's because most women don't realize that men see marriage as such a bad rap. Men aren't telling their sweethearts the reason they don't want to wed is because they are afraid of divorce rape. They usually say something that skirts the issue, like, "I'm not ready yet."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 08:36 PM
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even if the guy is a stud and she's a shrew, the minute he opens the relationship and she sees her competition, she'll probably do one of 2 things: get a boyfriend / get very pissed off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 05:55 PM
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She basically gave me very specific tools and scripts for girl game. Some of them seemed couterintuitive and difficult to execute but those were the ones that did the trick. My faves: -Learn to be receptive towards men. Don't try to control dates. Don't control men at all. Stop saying the word "you" (you should do this, you need to do that, etc....). Lean back. Don't lean in. Share your feelings. Men love feelings, they hate drama. They hate women who communicate in a masculine way. -Date at lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 04:15 PM
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My grandparents on my dad's side had this dance down. I thought they were faking it because it seemed so OTT at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:18 PM
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I really like what you wrote. I'm a believer in the possibility of conjuring limerence in a long term relationship after the honeymoon phase is over. I think Helen Fisher did some mri studies on this. Very few couples can do it (it basically looks like a cocaine dopamine response in the scans), but she did manage to find enough 25+ year married people who described themselves as 'madly in love'. Apparently it presents like a cycle of comfort/respect/love vs 'crazy' love. And apparently in these …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:13 PM
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hmm ok. If it were interpreted positively, maybe this is how red feels connected to other people? Frankly I prefer it when people disclose authentically on PPD, even if it's awkward or uncomfortable. It's one of the things that's kept this sub interesting imo. u/SaltyBastard is a good example of this. I'm not sure how authentic red is though. He def seems crazy about his gf and eager to share details. And I'm on the lookout for examples of men in limerence with post wall women because of a littl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 12:47 PM
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Well 17 times in one weekend sounds like humble bragging. Are you in a state of limerence?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 10:33 AM
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Thanks. It is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 10:22 AM
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Stuff that doesn’t look like surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:09 AM
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I’m remarried. I’ve been with my husband for 8 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:08 AM
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Getting older sucks. Dating after divorce at 36 was scary. Some plastic surgery and a love coach certainly improved my prospects. It is what it is. Onward and upward.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 02:03 AM
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This is why I think men are the true romantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 03:50 PM
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It's not that interesting. I think he, like most former players, got sick of junk food and longs for a meal that satisfies him not just on a sexual/companionate level but on a deeply spiritual level. He's now swung all the way to the other end, talking about unconditional relationships/love and seems willfully blind to the fact that romantic relationships are not like parent/child relationships or friendships. They are transactional by design.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 02:53 PM
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And why do you think he got married? I have my theories.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 01:41 PM
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jeez. Let the guys open the doors. They like doing it. What's the big deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 01:12 PM
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I predict an explosion of affairs and other concealed behaviors from this cohort once they start having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 01:09 PM
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why would you want to be with someone narcissistic and borderline?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 06:25 PM
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If he quits his job, don't wait 10 years. He isn't planning on ever having a career again. Leave him immediately. Buy Apple, Google, and Amazon. Start investing earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 06:24 PM
1

Cool. I’ll check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 03:09 AM
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Yes and when we go through a change or even a trauma it also triggers new chapters + new honeymoons. Even getting older with a partner is like slowly lifting a veil to reveal a new relationship underneath.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 02:56 AM
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I’d rather be fun. I’d rather date a man who was attractive but boring. I’m mostly red.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 02:52 AM
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I might be wrong but isn’t that series based on Sex At Dawn? Wasn’t there some controversy with the authors? Like they are swingers or something? Idk. I’ll check it out though. It does sound interesting. Ester Perel likes to say that most of us with have 4 marriages in our lifetimes....and some of us will be lucky enough to have all 4 with the same person. Maybe it’s about seeing your partner with new eyes in each epoch of a marriage....idk
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 02:49 AM
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Great. I’m here to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 01:21 AM
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If a woman is playing her cards right, the guy will 'claim' her. He will initiate the exclusivity talk. Women who assume they are exclusive without having heard the words directly from the man's mouth.....are fools.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 09:02 PM
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Checking out an ass doesn’t mean a man doesn’t love his wife. He might be a crass dirty old man with no manners and still love his wife. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 06:32 PM
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Men fall in love with their wives and see them as beautiful even when they get old. Even men with option do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 04:40 PM
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Maybe if men gave birth women would ‘want their equals’. But that’s not how it works. It’s soooooooo unfair that men don’t have to give birth!! Whaaaa!!!! See how crazy that sounds?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 03:57 PM
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Is it fair that men doesn’t have to shit out a watermelon sized entity after 9 months? Nope. Suck it up buttercup. ‘Fair’ is a stupid metric. Life isn’t fair. It what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 03:41 PM
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Interestingly, what you are describing here is how Halo effect turns into hubby goggles once the guys fall in love. I would propose this cancels out the ‘off putting’ effect of the ‘unfairness’ of it all regarding the initial reaction men have to attractive vs unattractive women. It is once again cute because these men have taught themselves to see an unattractive woman (too thin, old, fat, etc....) as ‘beautiful.’ Besides, men find way more women attractive than women find men attractive. Life …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 11:12 AM
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I don’t understand what you just wrote. Can you explain it better?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 09:49 PM
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Women don’t think about ‘what is a real man’ UNLESS their man suddenly starts acting like a non man. It’s like sex in a relationship: if it’s good, it isn’t a problem, if it’s bad, it’s the only problem. A non man is: directionless, feckless, weak (either physically or emotionally), whinny, naggy, complainy, flakey, etc......basically a guy who demonstrates negative feminine qualities. If he has other hyper masculine qualities that counteract these negative feminine qualities, a woman will still…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 07:37 PM
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Yep. And those are the girls who have affairs or turn into miserable harpy naggy shrews if hubby doesn’t step up his game.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 04:45 PM
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That’s so cute. It’s one of the things I like about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 04:10 PM
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Is this girl real? She seems like a made up cartoon character with attachment issues. I cannot imagine a woman like this. What a dingbat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:48 PM
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Yep. Even then. Some women use alcohol as a tool for disinhibition because they know they better put out and they are nervous. My college roommate got wasted every time it was time to do the deed. She was that nervous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 01:52 PM
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-Yes men are over estimating their smv. -A medium attractive man 'should' be with whomever he is able to attract. -'fair' to whom? Eggs are expensive. Sperm is cheap. You do the math. -what do you mean by 'is the data right'?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 09:40 PM
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If a woman is ‘rolling her eyes’ at her husband, she has outright contempt for him. That isn’t a companionate marriage. A transactional marriage that is free of contempt can be a viable companionate arrangement. Usually the husband is a bit asexual or he has side chicks and there’s an implicit or explicit ‘don’t ask don’t’ tell arrangement. No one is rolling their eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:29 PM
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No. Imo Sex is usually bad with inexperienced men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 03:54 PM
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Thank you for spelling this out. I have witnessed on this sub so many ‘thinkers’ who seem blind to the way their emotional mechanisms influence their logic.....ha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 02:46 PM
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Women aren’t as thirsty as men, have much shorter shelf lives and take a bigger emotional (and possibly biological) risk when they engage in sex. All three of these things contribute to how she perceives her smv. It isn’t about ‘fair’ or simply looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 05:34 AM
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Lack of compliments can lead to a dead bedroom. Resentment isn’t sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 11:53 AM
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Or it sounds like she just wants some attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:03 AM
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Some do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 09:57 AM
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Well men do creep more than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 03:17 AM
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Women consider A LOT of what other women do creepy. We shame each other to death. We may not use the word ‘creepy’, bu we’ll call her basic, cheap, slutty, naive, tacky, desperate, clingy, harpy, naggy, henpecky, shrewish, clueless, flakey, spoiled, bratty, spinster, mommy moo cow, frigid, bitchy, catty, etc.......the list goes on and on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 03:14 AM
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I think he’s implying women over estimate their smv. No. We don’t. Men overestimate theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 07:06 PM
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It’s very creepy for a woman to go after a man for his money. Are you kidding? Now if the guy is old/rich and she’s young and loves his money, they are just being creepy together and therefore cancel each other out. They become adorable baby dark triads in love. Sometimes those relationships last.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 11:29 AM
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Ahahaha!!! That is so cute. Goofball.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 11:22 AM
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So she turned you into a liar. No bueno.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 04:51 PM
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So the abusive controlling person is turning their partner into a liar. Doesn’t sound super healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 04:46 PM
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If someone finds himself needing to HIDE interactions with other people (be they physical, emotional or digital) from their SO, they are cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 02:11 PM
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A lot of them prefer being full time moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:43 PM
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