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Inner Game dave_spontani/r/seduction02/03/21 09:06 AM
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dave_spontani/r/seduction12/11/19 12:32 PM
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First of all: I used to have the same impulse (reverse situation) where I felt like I needed to still get major attention from other women because for the longest time, I believed I needed to have multiple options at all times "to be safe". First of all, it's important to recognize that this isn't fair, nor is it normal. Not normal: Why do you think you need attention from other men? Your justification of "It's a brutal world out there" is too vague. Think about the real why, what you are afraid…
/r/seduction21/12/21 08:23 AM
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Do it when you feel like it. Seems like you had good enough of a time last night so that you don't have to worry too much about having enough attraction.
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:26 PM
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This be the tru - tru I read some of the other comments - since this guy seems to be aiming for a relationship with this broad eventually, it might not be all too negative to put the notion of spending more time together in her head/giving her the okay to let her guard down. Devil is in the details though, we won't know this case inside out like OP does, so a more "careful" approach might be warranted. Depends on whether OP is aiming for long-time relationship or easygoing fling seeing where it …
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:26 PM
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Everyone else already mentioned this, but you're right in seeing some red flags. If you want to eliminate chance, schedule a third date - if the same thing happens, call her out on it. A simple "I really enjoy our time together and am wondering whether you actually do too since you always make other plans." If she says she does, then throw her the "Alright then, I'll let you pick the next date when you're available the entire evening, and not just part of it." Respectful? Check Ultimatum set on …
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:12 PM
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Honestly this. Her fuck-up for not admitting that she wants a full on relationship, sure, but OP shouldn't be confused at all.
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:28 PM
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This Alternatively, something simple like "I've noticed" followed by eye contact and a short pause for a reaction from her could also do the trick Many ways to skin a cat, now OP knows two
/r/seduction10/10/21 12:33 PM
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What is the objective? Funny remark that doubles as a sting? Trying to steer it into suggestive territory? Establishing a frame? Be a bit more specific
/r/seduction10/10/21 07:30 AM
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All of my expectations from reading the title got subverted in only the best of ways. I tip my hat to you good lady, for a full and complete seduction of another human being done perfectly.
/r/seduction01/10/21 05:43 AM
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Several gut replies come to mind: Well yes, but if you pardon my french, I don't like to shit where I eat Duh. Do you want that list alphabetically or categorically? Yes, but none of them had your look. There is something special ablut tge way you (insert specific characteristic of hers here). Got me curious. Good luck
/r/seduction12/09/21 11:04 AM
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It really depends. I get the feeling you want to gain some experience with women because you haven't had much. I would recommend separating your motivation to work out and improve from getting with girls. Do that for yourself. Focus on social skills for girls particularly. When I was inexperienced I thought I wanted and needed to get as many lays as possible, but now that I've met my current girlfriend my focus really has shifted towards finding good long-term partners. Going out and having fun …
/r/seduction12/09/21 06:53 AM
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Make a joke about her being five, or randomly guess her age in a tagline or something: sends you a snap of her drawing lines with crayons You: i would title this video "Mary, 22, working on her art degree" Assume and then get corrected.
/r/seduction01/09/21 04:11 PM
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This is a ticking time-bomb my dude You either tell her now and be polite and nice about it and tell her the truth, or you can let this go on and then get an even worse bashing because you were "stringing her along" down the road. If there are some honest reasons you don't want to keep seeing this girl then be honest about those. If there are only red flags she would take as insults, then maybe just say that you don't feel a spark even if you would like to, you need some time to figure yourself …
/r/seduction30/08/21 07:14 PM
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This. One of my most favourite intersection (not the sjw kind dw) is that the concept of "agree&amplify" used to pass shit-tests from girls can be used in social interactions as well. Example: "You gotta work on those arms.How much do you lift br0?" (Trying to compare, challenge&compete) "Oh, I hit two kilograms today. If I keep up the good work, I can start using the pink dumbbells for my workouts soon" (Deflecting the challenge) Take the initial assessment and contrast it with something that i…
/r/seduction29/08/21 09:59 AM
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This is an intersection (no, not the sjw kind) that I love Some other comments mentioned it already, deal with it in a humerous manner. A friend once told me about the concept of "Agree&amplify" to pass shit-tests from women. The same concept can be used when someone is trying to give you flak: Him: "How much do you lift br0?" (Trying to compare&compete) You: "Oh, barely got two kilograms done today. If I'm lucky, I can switch to the pink dumbbells im half a year if I keep up the good work" (Def…
/r/seduction29/08/21 07:12 AM
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A friend of mine gave me two "methods" of dealing with shit-tests. These don't always work, so take them with a grain of salt, but they helped me out a decent numer of times already Ignore. Say she says something like "I don't like those shoes you're wearing, they make you look like a clown." just pivot the conversation into a different direction. This only works when there are other topics of conversation in the air as well or if she says multiple things - choose your battles and simply ignore …
/r/seduction25/08/21 06:27 AM
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This. Stop worrying too much - just continue with the next message or don't, who cares. Maybe she's just busy right now.
/r/seduction13/08/21 05:32 PM
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Lel Funny idea, have my upvote
/r/seduction21/06/21 07:31 AM
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As a dabcer of two years: Yes. Do it!
/r/seduction24/05/21 01:36 PM
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Heh. I can literally see the fucking smirk that comes with this phrase. Will use from now on, thanks brother
/r/seduction23/04/21 03:20 PM
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Excellent question when you meet someone you are trying to be more serious with!
/r/seduction02/03/21 03:48 PM
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Very true! But I'm mostly focusing on a long-term mindset here. Good physical health, an attractive body,handsomeness and wealth are all also things that you bring to the table. You just have to be aware what your value is and improve on it, no matter if you're trying to be in a more serious relationship or trying to score someone every weekend: Why should they be spending their time with you?
/r/seduction02/03/21 03:46 PM
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But where is the Mountain dew???
/r/seduction02/03/21 01:22 PM
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Start in front Escelate to side by side Finish behind her
/r/seduction18/02/21 10:49 AM
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Harsh advice but holy hell get your house in order. Why on earth would you want to continue to be friends with this person when they consistently mistreat you? They sound like a horrible friend. My two cents: Cut your losses and forget them.
/r/seduction13/02/21 08:05 AM
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No worries man. Keep working on yourself, it sounds to me like you're already on a good path. All the best
/r/seduction05/02/21 03:12 PM
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It doesn't sound fucked up. It's very damn understandeable. But if that is the case then you gotta tell her. If you really want to heal you gotta be honest not just with yourself but also with this girl and tell her you are not interested in going further right now
/r/seduction05/02/21 02:17 PM
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Well oof Here is my two cents: What are you afraid of, exactly? Figure that out, then see if engaging with her purely on a sexual basis could reasonably make what you are afraid of come true.
/r/seduction05/02/21 09:50 AM
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Opinion here: Teach yourself the basics of bachata or Kizomba. Take a few workshops or even watch some youtube videos to get the basic step right. Modern party music usually is fucking boring(personal opinion as a dancer) but allows you to dance bachata/kizomba to the beat easily. Then just simply hit it off with someone, ask them "Do you know how to dance bachata?" ---> Yes or no, you get them to the dance floor in closed dancing position. Common dancing etiquette: Dancing is a tease, so don't …
/r/seduction04/02/21 09:41 AM
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Seconded. I don't smoke but offer the arm on dates as well - never failed to get a reaction and to gauge how comforteable she is with physical contact
/r/seduction26/12/20 03:30 PM
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Good man. You could have tried to twist the situation and take advantage of it, but you stated your objective and that she is in a situation where you will not act.
/r/seduction11/12/20 06:57 AM
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Bruv. No data is "already there", that's not how this works To get an analysis this good a minimum of an hour has to be invested, half an hour if you really know what you're doing Yea, I agree that one can move on while being introspective but the central learning from this, to me, just seems to be that she was invested, he wasn't. You can ponder on why that was, you can think about how to prevent it in the future, but mixing math in order to prove a point about human affection seems like a vind…
/r/seduction08/12/20 03:31 PM
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I'm gonna sound like an asshole, but that's your problem right there officer You obsessed so much over this relationship you'd do a full-blown data analysis (consider this Data science wannabe impressed) to see where/when it went wrong, but the simple fact seems to be he didn't even come close to that level of commitment. No analytics or statistics needed. Forget him and move on.
/r/seduction08/12/20 07:40 AM
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Reinvest your time elsewhere; At best let her reschedule to try and fit to your schedule
/r/seduction05/12/20 10:24 AM
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A good go-to of mine is agree&amplify when you have no clue what to say Something along the lines of "Oh yeah. Yeah def. Einstein just gave me my math nobel prize last year, didn't you read it in the papers?" This has multiple levels: One, deflecting the unwantes seriousness. Two, adding ridicule, making sure it cannot be taken seriously. Three, actually showing off you're clever since there is no nobel prize in mathematics ---> Adding to the impossibility neatly A&A is a decently good technique…
/r/seduction05/12/20 10:22 AM
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Not a lot of context, but I would say he imagined it and liked it for a second and then remembered why that would be a bad idea If you want to give him a hard pointer tell him just before you leave "You know, if you ever were to invite me out, I'd say yes" Good luck have fun
/r/seduction19/11/20 09:41 AM
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Don't know if I'm too late I jokingly suggest to pass her shit test with a shit test. Say "I'm free on Sunday, hit me up if that works for you" If she wants to see you, she'll make time, if not, then not Good luck
/r/seduction19/11/20 09:38 AM
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Very true. Wanting to meet new ppl right now is nigh impossible But you would agree that under normal circumstances tinder < real life approaches? I get that people will use it right now, but it's just important to me to keep in mind that it's only a sub-optimal solution that is being used because of COVID. Once the Rona is gone it's important to try and stop using tinder unless you are one of those guys who don't breeak rule #1 and #2
/r/seduction15/11/20 09:35 AM
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Absolutely true! Photofeeler also lends itself to slecting profile pictures, or pictures for business reasons like the cover of your CV. The raw data of about 60 people should be enough to give you a rough idea of how good this photo is I don't know how good the tinder game is on the whole though. Try to meet people in real life, because Tinder can only facilitate a date, not give you approach experience. But if you have nothing, it's better than nothing Well done!
/r/seduction15/11/20 07:35 AM
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Same answer to how you deal with the unknown: Get more accustomed to it When making out, pull her closer, let your hands go up and down her body, grab her hips, pull her closer... Basically think of what you always wanted to do and do it. Always progress among suble sexual touches first, and then gauge whether she feels comfortable with them. After that, escalate to more risky touches (gently move from the hips to her ass), gently grab it, back to hips, see how she reacts, go back if she likes i…
/r/seduction31/10/20 10:10 AM
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Hold on Are you paralyzed or do you get paralized when things get more physical?
/r/seduction30/10/20 01:20 PM
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Agree& amplify is an amazing way to pass shit-tests. Take the idea they presented and take it to absurdum/absurd levels I missed an opportunity recently, let me showcase it: Her: Did anyone ever tell you the way you text is really cringey? Bad response: Uh, no.... Bad response: What? Nobody ever told me that... Bad response: What do you mean? (Bad because they show a sense of insecurity at best and/or willingness to change for her tastes at worst) Agree&Amplify: Oh yeah, I had to hire two assist…
/r/seduction03/10/20 07:20 AM
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UNDERRATED Have my upvote
/r/seduction21/09/20 06:34 AM
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Jesus man. Some people
/r/seduction06/05/20 09:53 AM
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DUDE this needs to stop This is about the third time I see the same post from you and for fucks sake you need to either start working out your legs or see a shrink if you're that insecure. The former is much cheaper so I suggest you go do that. Sorry for the harsh words but your body is average and belitteling yourself for thinking it is not is just counter-productive. Fix your mindset, not your body. Additionally I recommend posture training, don't be afraid to stand up tall and straight and to…
/r/seduction06/05/20 08:48 AM
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Oh I see, my bad Fasting < exercising imo Then again, you do you. Bottom line is I'm pretty sure you'll do fine, keep your confidence up!
/r/seduction22/04/20 10:39 AM
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The "clear pic"
/r/seduction22/04/20 09:41 AM
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Yikes man, fix those eye rings Go work out more like cardio and you'll be golden. You're not bad looking overall Go get her bro, don't forget that insecurity will kill your game more than any type of face ever will
/r/seduction22/04/20 09:20 AM
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Yupyupyupyup Parade example of "sounds good, doesn't work"
/r/seduction22/04/20 08:52 AM
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What kind of party are we talking here? Booze, a lot of people, loud party music etc or a small gathering of her and her friends painting their nails? I'm just telling you to brace yourself for not setting up any false expectations in case it's not the first. The alarm bell rang because you'll be the only guy so it is unlikely to be the first, and equally unlikely this event is thrown for courtship reasons unless they want you to take over a harem or something
/r/seduction22/04/20 06:33 AM
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One small alarm bell ringing She either invited you because there is interest or because you're in the friendzoned so hard she invited you as the funny gay friend Which one applies?
/r/seduction22/04/20 06:02 AM
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I'm a half european half latino mix. Since I have jet-black hair, I curiously get moderately higher attention from asians than any other group
/r/seduction24/02/20 08:32 AM
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First off, dude, not bad! I think you're giving yourself a bit of a too hard time on yourself. Enjoy your success a little more! Your drive to improve is great but will charge even better with "Small victories" Second, yeah, it would seem like you eject yourself a bit too early. Keep in the game, play it some more, and your gut instinct will tell you when something is looking good or bad. But well done, keep at it!
/r/seduction21/02/20 08:25 AM
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Had a similar break-up, now almost a year and half ago. First off, I don't know what kind of friends you have but in my culture them sending you that shit is considered a dick move. We want you to get to a point where you don't care anymore, sure, but that certainly doesn't/won't help. Second, good on you to recognize the self-improvement part! Focusing on yourself is paramount. I was lucky, we ended it and I was living in a different city, so I had a good chance to have an absolutely clean brea…
/r/seduction22/01/20 09:02 AM
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If touching is at a good base and it's a playful mood I like to throw out: "You're cutting the onions all wrong, look, let me show you" Stand behind her and grab her hands, get closer
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:24 AM
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Newbie here: Yes, this is a shit test. Respond with a joking demeanor, don't be serious Idea1: Send the GIF "You're not my supervisor" from archer Idea2: Counter-offer: You take over my shifts, and you buy me a birthday gift Idea3: Shame. You're gonna have to buy me a drink if you aren't coming to make up for it ;)
/r/seduction06/01/20 07:45 PM
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Chin up dude Look at it this way, a lot of dudes are afraid of going on dates at all or would give up extremely fast. Keep improving, keep at it!
/r/seduction05/01/20 08:51 AM
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NEXT
/r/seduction01/01/20 12:18 AM
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Also a rookie but here is a tip I that works depending on the situation If a playful insult is thrown your way, agree&amplify. The technique works best when you've already built some rapport with the other person, otherwise they will sometimes just think you are weird. This takes some quick thinking on the spot, but it can help you regain control of the situation. Agree with the insulting statement and then start adding new elements onto it (amplify) that increasingly get bizarre and unbelievabl…
/r/seduction29/12/19 08:31 AM
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Oh wow This is.all over the place Will come back later for a deeper analysis but the other two comments said it well: Too much talk, too little substance
/r/seduction20/12/19 05:25 AM
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Thanks for the fast reply, I'll do it according to the situation
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:21 PM
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Advice for dancing: You are the guy. Fucking lead. If you are doing ballroom dances, then practice the steps on your own. Same with when you have a partner. Move through the air. You do your thing, and let your partner follow. Be a direct force so your partner can pick up on that Latino dances: Don't be afraid of tryi g out new things and failing. Work a lot with your arms, and learn how to do a "dile que no" Good luck
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:07 PM
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Fuck that sounds tough But look at it this way: It went so damn well up to the club. Experience is experience. Don't give up
/r/seduction29/09/19 07:22 AM
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Beginner here, so I might be wrong This is a pickle. You've driven her to a point where she lays her cards on the table. She wants to bind you into a relationship. Your reluctance probably made her frustrated/angry so she played an emotional argument (I did x for you, why won't you do y for me???) You can do whatever with this girl, if she is begging for a relationship. Ultimately, yes, I think it is a shit test (does he have other options & are they better?) coupled by probably her competition …
/r/seduction15/09/19 06:55 AM
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Yeh, it probably always had that ring. Can't blame PUA's though. After all, they are seducing people. God knows I still have a lot to learn from them... I'm happy you like the idea! Now go and have fun out there
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:20 PM
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Yup, bring condoms, don't expect to be using them Kino, escalate, check the limits. And if she has some, respect them
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:27 AM
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Your intent is understandeable. Though, don't forget, if she doesn't want to come, she won't. She'll find windows to jump out of. Playfully staying persistent is a better strategy, because: 1. It is a shit test: Can you be shaken off easily/ how invested are you? 2. Her situation really is compromised: Prodding a bit further doesn't hurt. Again, if she really doesn't want to come, she won't So I think (again beginner, so I might be wrong) the best strategy is to be cocky&funny and leave it at th…
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:24 AM
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It's quite interesting why you would frequent such a forum. Yes, the majority of people here are guys trying to figure out how to approach the girls they want to win over. In this regard, I see it as a "All is fair in love and war" approach - the discussions and tips posted here are beyond good and evil because they are by their nature utalitarian. Most people here are usually younger than you, and have different priorities in their love lives. If you have a partner, it's possible to seduce them…
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:10 AM
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Beginner here, so maybe I'm wrong, but do less explaining. Send a message only if it is important. Your last one for example, could just have been left out. As could have been the second sentence of your second reply (It's okay if you don't want to come) Still, smooth second reply, keep up the good work!
/r/seduction14/09/19 06:58 AM
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