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MisterShogunate · 2021-09-12T05:16:08+00:00

You always need to go through it as a guy imp. It’s more of a spectrum, however. Some guys are done after 3 girls and some need to spin plates til they are 40. At what point it’s considered worth it is up to the individual.

kyushuben76 · 2021-09-12T06:18:45+00:00

Yes, it does at some point. When I was young and before I was married I slept around a lot. I did get to the point to where I was unfulfilled I guess. As guys, we still need emotional intimacy. When I met my now ex-wife I was in a stage of being tired of sleeping around but satisfied where I was at. She actually was the one that got frustrated with me not taking her to bed. lol. I was just totally relaxed at that point. We lasted 20 years and lost that original feeling through lots of stuff unfortunately. But since I’ve been through that it’s helping to deal with a divorce and I don’t feel like I need to lash out by sleeping around.

Work on yourself and what comes will come. In my opinion, body, game and money isn’t about getting laid. It’s about being intimate with yourself so others will want to be intimate with you naturally.

SkeXyz · 2021-09-12T12:04:09+00:00

I started serioulsy sleeping around about 4 months ago. Prior to that I think I also wanted to, but lacked the skills and confidence to acquire what I wanted.

The amount of sexual confidence and experience it can potentially provide you is worth so much. Every girl is different, every girl has kinks and desires. It is amazing to explore those with them. If you're just thinking about only putting your dick in them, I don't think it's worth it. If you're open minded, or wanting to be, eager to learn and experience sexual pleasure together, definitely do it. Being a single guy, I see no reason not to. Explore, experiment, enjoy.

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-09-12T09:46:17+00:00

No, not worth it at all. I know dudes that are total man whores and I really wouldn't trade places with them for anything. Dealing with insane amounts of bullshit drama, having messed up women texting/calling you all hours of the day and night, having to be a heartless user, and worst of all just being with and dealing with women that you really don't give a shit about and they don't give a shit about you.

Yeah, regular sex is great with a variety of partners but the rest is just drama, headache, and bullshit.

One man whore had a steady girlfriend he was living with and would cheat on her while she was at work. Several of the "side girls" got the regular GF's cell number and started calling/texting her, telling her she was a bitch, didn't deserve to be with Mr. Man Whore, etc. You can imagine how that went when Mr. Man Whore came home from his job...

Several of the "side girls" had boyfriends, too. They found out about Mr. Man Whore and were ready to beat his ass. They got his number, started calling/texting him with death threats. One even showed up at MMH's place while his GF was inside cheating on him. What could have possibly gone sideways in that situation?

dave_spontani · 2021-09-12T06:53:42+00:00

It really depends. I get the feeling you want to gain some experience with women because you haven't had much. I would recommend separating your motivation to work out and improve from getting with girls. Do that for yourself. Focus on social skills for girls particularly. When I was inexperienced I thought I wanted and needed to get as many lays as possible, but now that I've met my current girlfriend my focus really has shifted towards finding good long-term partners. Going out and having fun and learning social skills can be used for both pickup and Long term relationships. You gotta figure out what you are aiming for as you go.

But yes, go and get that bread and then go have fun and hopefully have a lot of exciting new experiences. That's the best course of action!

Calamity__Bane · 2021-09-12T08:43:51+00:00

It's worth it until it isn't. YMMV on when that point is.

Therocksays2020 · 2021-09-12T05:10:05+00:00

It depends on what you want. Most people here sleep around with women to find the one they want.

OneThousandYardStare · 2021-09-12T15:06:39+00:00

So a lot of new members that come into my PUA community, come in with the goal of getting laid more. The assumption for a lot of people at first (myself included) was that getting oversexed was the goal. However, the veterans and the most talented guys in my community all talk about ascending to another plateau where they realize that sleeping around was never the goal. Its fun and exciting and cathartic but ultimately it becomes tedious. They say that the real goal reveals itself to be finding a romantic partner whom you respect and love and then starting a life/family together. You don't want to be 65 years old chasing skirts at college bars. The true Axiom is Quality>Quantity.

Being sexually experienced has its virtues. For one you get to meet a lot of girls so finding one with whom you are extremely compatible with rather than just semi compatible with is more likely. Also it equips you with the tools to find the best quality mate that you can AND the tools to be effective and capable while in a relationship. It also allows you to make decisions about women based on more meaningful criteria rather than have your decisions always colored by sex scarcity.

So believe me, in the end it is worth it but not for the reasons one might immediately think.

ProfessorZoom80 · 2021-09-12T16:59:17+00:00

Just find one girl that in on your program U dont have to sleep around all life

xavierthepotato · 2021-09-12T18:54:39+00:00

Yeah no I did it for awhile and sure it was great and pretty fun ngl. But after losing count it kinda got pretty lonely. But oh boy was it fun when I first started seeing some results

TheTruth221 · 2021-09-12T07:23:13+00:00

if you feel like that is what u want

Prestigious_Pause_45 · 2021-09-12T20:36:50+00:00

Yes.

Supremequeen003 · 2021-09-12T20:48:47+00:00

I think everyone needs a hoe phase.

2021-09-12T21:40:36+00:00

you get an empty feeling after a while and also feel kind of gross too when the body count get so high and then the anxiety of std/pregnancy takes it toll. So i think the best when you have a stable rotation of 3 girls more than the feelings of emptiness and anxiety come in

williamroberthoss · 2021-09-13T01:50:42+00:00

I think knowing why you want to slee around in the first place os what’s important. Experience,a rush, validation, fun, to find love??? A friend once told me “don’t put worry before worry” meaning don’t get hung up on the what if’s. Know your goals keep working on yourself and go for it….You might go out and have one hook up and say this isn’t for me. Or you might have 100 and love it or change your goal entirely. I wish you much more than luck!!

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