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...You don't work for Body Shop do you?
/r/seduction14/04/16 09:58 PM
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I suggest talking to a therapist about this if at all possible.
/r/seduction31/10/15 12:50 PM
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Hint: There is WAY too much advice here. It isn't this complicated.
/r/seduction29/10/15 12:46 PM
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DON'T PUSH THE AWKWARD AWAY!
/r/seduction29/10/15 12:39 PM
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It helps to have a partner who is non-judgmental about sexuality
/r/seduction27/10/15 08:56 PM
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I was in a similar boat through all of college, and I just graduated last spring. I actually remained a virgin through all of my college years, and that was a source of a lot of self-shame for me, especially once I started thinking "OH MY GOD I'M GONNA GRADUATE A VIRGIN!!" (such bullshit in retrospect)... Part of the struggle for me was that I wasn't sure whether I just wanted to "throw my virginity away" by having meaningless sex with somebody I didn't really know, or whether I wanted to save m…
/r/seduction27/10/15 08:52 PM
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This is good advice. Thanks man!
/r/seduction24/10/15 09:52 AM
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I think i'm gonna try this. I like the situational approach, it's so much smoother.
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:14 PM
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That is awesome. How do you usually start your conversations with people?
/r/seduction22/10/15 08:52 PM
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It's true, jumping all in can expedite the process, but isn't without its risks. It can lead to rapid gain, but it can also be very discouraging on an emotional level or even traumatizing. I assume that many of us have histories of moderate social anxiety, which makes me think that we should be seeing more posts about the gradual approach. We don't need to go from 0 to 60 in a minute. What is the rush, anyway? It just seems less likely that we'll be building that foundation if we don't start at …
/r/seduction22/10/15 08:46 PM
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To add to your post, I keep seeing reports of people approaching for the first time and having a tremendously awkward and uncomfortable experience... it makes me wonder how many sedditors are considering the "ramping up" approach to seduction. It seems wiser to me to develop a certain tolerance before jumping into approaches. Why not start with something a little more bearable, like paying random people genuine compliments and then going about our day... There are all sorts of steps we can take …
/r/seduction22/10/15 08:37 PM
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I admire the courage but I can't help but wonder, does anyone in this sub take a progressive desensitization approach to seduction? Like, isn't it wiser to slowly "boil the frog" than to toss yourself into an overwhelming situation off the bat? To use an analogy, you probably won't pick up a habit of running if you hop on the treadmill and force yourself to run 6 miles your first time (I say this from direct experience). In fact you may even hurt yourself. But if you start with something maybe 3…
/r/seduction22/10/15 01:49 PM
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I'm surprised that nobody has mentioned progressive desensitization and exposure yet... Everybody here seems to be of the "sack up and dive in" mindset, which seems like a pretty forceful way to work with something that can be so sensitive
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:18 PM
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...sounds like a bit of a big number
/r/seduction21/10/15 03:07 PM
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What do you say? How do they typically react? What was it like just starting out? Sorry for the bombardment of questions...I'm a little on edge because I've decided I'm going to approach a random girl (one of my first times) on campus today as an experiment.
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:50 AM
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And watch out for midgets. Yes, this is important. Timeless advice.
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:44 AM
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I mean, how many times has she really been approached in broad daylight and been told that she is pretty? To me it takes a lot more balls to call her pretty than to say she seems interesting. "Pretty" directly implies attraction, whereas saying "interesting" is more indirect. Regardless, though, it matters less what you say and more that you say it.
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:40 AM
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Can you link me the post please? Thanks!
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:20 AM
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Love it
/r/seduction20/10/15 07:08 PM
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I totally agree. I think bar is a good intro, and then start doing random fun shit like going to parks or aquariums or ropes courses (i did that last one recently, great date idea!)
/r/seduction23/07/15 03:15 AM
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I like your approach more. I think keeping it fresh is the only thing to do. Although, if shes old enough then going to a bar is usually a decent first date idea, no? And then see where that goes and vary it up?
/r/seduction23/07/15 02:17 AM
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I started doing this last week but then I kept making this excuse that I'll just make the shower a little colder each time I jump in. Not only was that bullshit but I think it's missing the point of a cold shower. All about shocking your system.
/r/seduction27/05/15 02:22 PM
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[FR]= Field Report
/r/seduction25/05/15 05:29 PM
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I think this is decent advice. I haven't had much success with girls yet as I'm in it for the long term and patient approach, but it's worked wonders for my confidence to be able to initiate a "mini personal renaissance" in terms of working out, meditating, taking care of myself. I've found that my desire for sex and women was connected to a lot of other stuff having to do with self-valuation and the desire for validation. Work on yourself.
/r/seduction24/05/15 02:27 PM
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Damn dude. Here I am just trying to learn how to have a conversation with a girl and you just straight up told her she was cute. That terrifies me. Other than what to say, was there anything going on in your head that helped?
/r/seduction24/05/15 02:21 PM
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I've read Models and it was totally fucking fantastic and was exactly what I was looking for on the subject. But I'll say honestly that I was reading it partially for the wrong reason, with the subtle idea that things would magically get better once I got through it, and so I just blew threw it without really integrating it and putting it into practice. I keep finding myself browsing seddit and reading things and talking to people hoping someone else will give me the answer, but I know that at t…
/r/seduction22/05/15 07:08 PM
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Well I'm really just wondering how you got into seduction I guess. I'm a senior in college about to graduate and have had basically no success with women since freshman year. I got into mindfulness my freshman year after coming off anti depressants cold turkey (wouldn't recommend doing it that way), but began feeling pretty depressed after that, of course. It wasn't until recently that I've started gathering my wits and feeling happier. I came to seduction because I wanted a fulfilling sex life,…
/r/seduction21/05/15 08:02 PM
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Literally came here to say that first sentence.
/r/seduction21/05/15 02:04 PM
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I friended you because I think we have a lot of similar interests (yes I stalked your history slightly, big whoop). Where are you at right now in your "journey" with seduction and what did it take to get there? Any strategies you recommend for getting started, to someone who is already interested in and practices mindfulness with some sort of frequency?
/r/seduction20/05/15 09:56 PM
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What I'm saying is it depends on what's meant by spirituality. I don't mean turning everything into some cosmic chakra tantra vajrayana samadhi kundalini experience or whatever (of course, not to discredit those things). I'm more talking about finding some sense of meaning, equanimity, and insight in ordinary life. I think it's reasonable to believe that meditation, mindfulness, are spiritual in that sense.
/r/seduction20/05/15 09:30 PM
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There's nothing "spiritual" about meditation, yoga, or mindfulness. Both mediation and mindfulness (an useless term) are nothing more concentration exercise. Yoga is nothing more stretching and breathing exercise. "Yeah, well, that's just, like, your opinion, man." - The Dude (A.K.A. His Dudeness, El Duderino)
/r/seduction20/05/15 09:19 PM
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I do what Mark Manson suggests in Models; pick a day for once-a-week, use lube, no porn, just imagination. Im over a month into it. Sexuality meter off the charts.
/r/seduction20/05/15 05:38 PM
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I hear you totally. You are right. Rock on, /u/Harmonic_Minor_Shred.
/r/seduction20/05/15 03:27 AM
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No relationship or particular girl will make you truly happy, only you can do that for yourself. Work on becoming the person you want to be, and don't be afraid to share/give yourself to others in a genuine way. It will make you happy, and as a side bonus, you will get laid. Thanks for that man...just, thanks.
/r/seduction20/05/15 03:13 AM
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Thanks for this man, really. I'm already working out... mostly just running and stretching but I've started doing some more weights stuff recently. I appreciate the "flip side" there, and I've definitely considered it. But I always psych myself out and think that even if I tried to "practice" what would that mean? Getting her number and setting up a date with her? That's more the approach I'm interested in here, but it just doesn't seem to make sense if she and I both know that nothing can come …
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:58 AM
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We definitely have some similarities. I'm in my last few weeks of college right now, and I've had virtually no action since freshman year. I got disillusioned with the frat parties and hookup culture. Turns out its harder to take the road less travelled. My friends know I'm still a "virgin"; I hate that word so much, I've built up so much pressure around getting over that label, and it turns out it didn't help. It never translated to action. I was pretty depressed and frustrated and wanted a gir…
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:49 AM
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Thanks for the insight. I definitely fell prey to the illusion that it would fix something if I met more women...well, er, I haven't really tried yet...I'm graduating from college in a couple of weeks, and its easy to rationalize my way out of meeting women (which is anxiety-inducing) when I'm bouncing out of here so soon. But your answer was very down to earth. It's not a big deal, and nobody should make happiness contingent on something so conditional. Although it would be pretty great to get …
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:27 AM
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IN MY OPINION, this is one of those times you should just say "fuck it, we'll do it live" and if it works, it works, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. I say add her and just be straight up. I mean you just answered your own question, right?
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:16 AM
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I'm not really genuinely interested in hit it and quit it either. There's social pressure to be a guy who gets laid, but I'm less interested in that. I'm more interested in the meaningful stuff: more the "yolk" than the "eggshell" if you catch my drift. What's your answer? Why do you poke around on seddit?
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:04 AM
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Well I don't want to fuck up the simplicity of your answer, but care to elaborate?
/r/seduction20/05/15 01:38 AM
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Sounds like you might benefit from seeing a therapist
/r/seduction17/05/15 07:28 PM
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Behavioral activation. It's like if you're not hungry, and then you eat, and suddenly you're hungry. If you made a move despite not feeling the "want", you might find yourself wanting pretty hard.
/r/seduction05/05/15 12:56 AM
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I recommend NOT taking meditation instructions from reddit, even if they sound good. Try starting with this chapter of this online book and then checking out the other chapters if it sounds interesting. Meditation is not geared towards getting you laid or helping you seduce women. It is geared towards helping you lead a more fulfilling life in the long term and helping you 'make friends with yourself'.
/r/seduction02/04/15 08:31 PM
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meditate
/r/seduction02/04/15 02:37 PM
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