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I always go to her place
/r/seduction01/12/14 12:06 PM
1

You took what I said out of context. Of course you shouldn't just go around telling girls that you're already sleeping with other girls, that's your business. You shouldn't have to hide the fact that you're dating girls though, if anything that shows your value while weeding out clingy girls that want a relationship. But if a girl asks you if you are having sex with other girls, tell her the fucking truth if you're having sex with her. Diseases can fuck up lives and she has a right to know if th…
/r/seduction26/11/14 07:02 PM
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You'd be surprised at how many girls will be relieved that you are honest, and lay you because of it.
/r/seduction24/11/14 06:55 AM
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I think the problem is that your mindset is that if you've already built baseline rapport with these women they owe it to you to not go for other guys and just pay attention to you. You're in a bar, so one minute a girl might be in love with you and the next she doesn't remember who you are. You just have to take it with a grain of salt and not need them to want you. Go for the experience not the result.
/r/seduction23/11/14 08:40 AM
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Meh, I'm more referring to the general idea of micro escalations. The way you go about micro escalations depends on you.
/r/seduction23/11/14 08:03 AM
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Completely agree man. I've seen most of my success lately when I've been trying to get to know girls rather than just get in their pants. I had a girl begging me for sex the other week because I wanted to take things slow and get to know her.
/r/seduction23/11/14 07:04 AM
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Try kissing a less dangerous zone than her lips first. Kiss her forehead and see if she looks up, if she does that is your cue to kiss her.
/r/seduction23/11/14 06:53 AM
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He's just saying it's more difficult.
/r/seduction28/09/14 06:42 PM
1

Yeah I hear you man, I'm 23, but I've been with several older women and they're a lot easier because they have those insecurities. I don't really keep track of any statistics for meeting and banging. If I was trying to really get my game in place I probably would, but I'm somewhat satisfied with my game.
/r/seduction28/09/14 06:21 PM
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Sounds like you're doing pretty well.
/r/seduction27/09/14 05:24 PM
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That's probably a good idea man. No use making tinder a substitute for game, eventually you need game.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:42 AM
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I don't know, man. I probably jumped to conclusions, as I've only been there a couple times. But I just remember reading shit about, what was it called, dread seduction or something like that, and got a horrible feeling from that subreddit. Now that I remember it, that subreddit has a lot to do with self-improvement, which is good, but also some crazy manipulation techniques that I'm not down with.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:26 AM
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It's not for everyone dude. I just got tired of going out and sarging, personally. I'm totally down to be the guy to aggressively hit on the hottest chick at a party, but I don't like going out sarging for the sake of sarging anymore. Sounds like you should just stick to normal game and avoid tinder, if that's what you want.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:23 AM
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I am all for you doing game in real life and avoiding tinder. That's awesome. But really, you are completely over generalizing tinder. Sure, there is trash, but this app is gaining so much popularity that there are completely awesome quality, beautiful girls on there. You do have to take it with a grain of salt because they only show what they want to.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:20 AM
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Unlike the other negative comments I'm getting, I like your points a lot. To explain, I really don't give a fuck about tinder, I just wanted to share a technique with everyone that might help them out if they aren't getting the results they want. In regard to your last sentence: I completely agree, and this is when I rely on the chats and the dates, not the bio.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:13 AM
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Ok. So, what I do. I graduated in marketing, bachelors of science. I work as an SEO intern. I play guitar. I'm in a band where I sing and play guitar. I'm interested in poetry and traveling. What I am. I am crude humored. I am genuinely nice. I am also too nice for my own good, and have had to work on respecting myself enough to not be disrespected (still have some work to do). I am adventurous, and want to try new things. I'm very laid back, but I'm also somewhat ambitious. Do you see the diffe…
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:08 AM
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Haha, exactly. Actually, the only girl that I've consistently kept around lately I met in person through friends. So, I must be fucking up the second stage of tinder.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:04 AM
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Awesome! Glad I could help.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:03 AM
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No, because I'm perfect. But really, I don't know why I would mention any cons in a bio, you're trying to sell yourself. I bring out the cons in the first few dates personally. But naturally when you list your positive personality traits, some people will interpret them as negative.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:02 AM
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You really can't get analytical with clingyness, you have to learn it. If you want to be less clingy, get more girls in the mix so your abundance mentality is in place. Then just learn to be yourself. But if you really need to get some hard pointers it really just comes down to you making fun of yourself. If you call yourself out and say something like, "ok I'm going to stop being so damn clingy now," then they will probably not sense any cling. But, in reality, people can smell cling a mile awa…
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:00 AM
1

I do the same thing with the Only Me thing actually haha.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:56 AM
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I love that.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:55 AM
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On my pof headline it has always been "I like latina women." While I do like latina women, this was mostly because I didn't know what the fuck to put on there. You won't believe how many girls have messaged me saying something along the lines of, "I'm not latina, but you should still talk to me!" Most of my incoming messages are variations of this.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:54 AM
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Good shit dude. I'd probably fuck you if I was gay.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:53 AM
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Well, not me at least. Just a bit of thought after being frustrated by not getting matches. If I had it down to a science I would conduct multi regression analyses and find correlations between pictures and response rates. I would probably have to have a sample size of at least 50 for my metropolitan region, which would give me, what, 49 degrees of freedom?
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:51 AM
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It's usually different than when you want to fuck her right in the butthole, cause with the pussy you don't need lube.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:48 AM
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Tell me about it, man. It's super hard to be me all the time. Actually, no. It's really fucking easy.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:47 AM
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I went out with one last week. I ended up not being physically attracted to her enough to want to be more than friends, but we had a great night together and she seemed to have fun. I hope we'll hang out more as friends. I could definitely go on more tinder dates but right now I am working a lot and would rather hang out with friends than go on dates every night.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:46 AM
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On second thought, I think you have a point only because of the word "understand." Perhaps I should rephrase that. I don't think of myself as a mystical creature you need to study or anything like that. I'm very down to earth, and you will always, without fail, misrepresent yourself to some degree while writing text about yourself. I'm not an exception.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:43 AM
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This is such an important point because it is the single most important factor in me stepping up my game. I'll admit that I don't have a ton of game with girls. However, I used to be horrible. What I learned, is that I love the part of me that is extremely crude. I can go on a first date with someone and say some things that aren't safe at all, and I do it to filter out girls that I would find boring. For example, I went on a date with a girl who told me she likes to write, and I said something …
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:38 AM
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Meanwhile, I'm fucking the girl that is into gelled hair. So I don't care.
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:34 AM
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I would say that is a fair comment, but you haven't read my profile, just a couple lines from it. And I understand that it could come off as pretentious, but I think you are reading into it differently because I specifically mention in this post that my goal is to separate myself from the pack. Bottom line, I don't care whether it is pretentious or not. I think it represents me better than saying that I got a degree and I work in an office. Also, I'm not trying too hard to be different, I am dif…
/r/seduction27/09/14 07:33 AM
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This whole subreddit is based on over-thinking the seduction process. If you want to drink beer and fuck "bitches" then head over to the red pill. They would love you there.
/r/seduction26/09/14 09:33 PM
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That's fine and all, but it's pretty much the exact same thing as saying, "I am me," which is the dumbest thing I could think of to put on my bio.
/r/seduction26/09/14 09:32 PM
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That's why it works. Not only am I getting more responses from the canned line, but I'm getting a shitload more matches because I have a first line that isn't, "I'm a guitar player, I go to X University, and I like dogs." I follow up this line with, "I hope you love me for my bold personality, or dismiss me as someone you don't understand." This line is great for attracting smart girls that want an exciting guy. You have to write your bio knowing what you're looking for.
/r/seduction26/09/14 09:31 PM
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That might be the worst line if all you want is a reply. All I'm trying to say to you guys is that this is a great first message to get them engaged, after that, you need to start being you.
/r/seduction26/09/14 09:28 PM
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It depends on the girl, what is on her profile, what you want from her, etc. This line is simply to get the girl minimally invested, so you can increase the amount she is invested in you. With one girl, I said something obnoxiously clingy like, "Um. You are so good looking. Marry me now. Please?" She responded with "hahaha aww thank you!! Lol gotta put a ring on it ;)" to which I said "Do you accept ring pops? Just kidding. Maybe I'll stop being clingy now." Obviously I didn't care much about th…
/r/seduction26/09/14 09:27 PM
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Push things further than you think is right, this way you can find where the line actually is, without your perception throwing things off.
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:28 AM
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Her job is to either show you signs of interest or neutrality. Rarely will it be signs of disinterest unless she is a stranger. Your job is to gauge whether she is interested, and make your move if you think she is. However, with signals being difficult to decode sometimes, you assume attraction unless you have some damn good reasons why you shouldn't. Like if she says something like "I'm still hung up on my ex and I don't want to go out with you." You push until she gives you that sign of disin…
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:15 AM
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Great post for inner game man. I'd like to add that you can't just have this mindset after nothing. If you are going to think you are the best man out there, then you have to be the best man out there. Meaning pick up new hobbies, go to the gym, be genuine, etc
/r/seduction09/09/14 04:59 AM
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What has worked for me is being very honest with them from the start so they don't develop emotions for me. I tell them I like hanging out with them, they are attractive, but I'm not looking for a relationship at this point. At that point, the ball is in their court. They choose whether they want to be in a physical but not emotional relationship with you. Don't go around tricking girls into this situation, it makes things much more difficult
/r/seduction29/08/14 05:41 AM
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Dude, you look just like tommy Rogers from between the buried and me! Google him and you'll see. I love what you have to say in this thread.
/r/seduction01/08/14 03:20 PM
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I'm in the same rut I think. I think seduce them with body language and eye contact, while building a solid relationship of rapport, but wait substantially longer for sex. Make them earn you while you earn them.
/r/seduction29/07/14 06:20 AM
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Don't tease her about the sweaty hands. Or if you do, at least don't do it all the time. She can't control it, is probably insecure about it, and is probably super annoyed that you keep bringing it up.
/r/seduction20/06/14 03:22 PM
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Build a social circle! Worry less about gaming chicks and more about making solid friends that will introduce you to new chicks with a good word from them too.
/r/seduction20/06/14 06:27 AM
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In the library I see a gorgeous chick. I stand by the CDs for five minutes gathering myself and trying to get my heart rate to slow down. I walk over and take a seat next to her and say "hi this is random, but I liked your style and wanted to meet you." We ended up going out but she was very hesitant because she was seeing another guy. They are engaged now.
/r/seduction20/06/14 06:25 AM
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That was pretty badass some of those conversations
/r/seduction20/06/14 06:22 AM
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But at the same time you need to message tons of girls to find one that's dtf. Online is a numbers game.
/r/seduction17/06/14 10:09 PM
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I love what you said about falling in love with the system not the outcome. Lately I've been having a lot of fun with the seduction portion, moreso than the end result.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:49 AM
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Well yeah, but that doesn't really help him. If someone could just be confident then they obviously would, but the trick is finding a way to reach confidence. I think the way to become confident is not to "fake it till you make it," but rather to experience lots of different scenarios in life and to face rejection tons of times, and then you'll realize you can make it through anything which is when confidence naturally comes.
/r/seduction21/05/14 06:50 AM
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I think what your problem is is that you're obsessing over day game cold approaches, which is the most difficult thing to do for a lot of guys. You should focus on talking to everyone you encounter, making more friends and joining different friend groups. Once you get the ball rolling with socializing in general you will get invited to do things that may involve meeting women, while you will also get a sort of abundance mentality.
/r/seduction06/05/14 07:59 AM
2

Great advice. Have you heard of Elliott hulse? He preaches using affirmations to brainwash yourself into being confident
/r/seduction24/04/14 07:05 AM
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Perhaps op lives in a more populated area.
/r/seduction23/04/14 03:52 PM
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I wish there was more in field footage of Cajun. Based on his keys to the VIP stuff he is the most solid pua I have seen. His best advice IMO is that subcommunication is king. You might be telling a girl one thing but thinking something else which gives you a slight smirk and comes across as confident and smooth.
/r/seduction23/04/14 06:47 AM
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I've only gamed older ladies online and the ones who are into you make it known that you WILL be getting into their pants. But a lot more of them are married, so as long as you play the numbers game a few will be very into it. As opposed to younger women who are more typically against the idea of a hookup.
/r/seduction22/04/14 06:41 AM
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haha glad there are still some people with a sense of humor on here.
/r/seduction22/04/14 06:38 AM
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So much clarity, I rarely enjoy a post on this reddit more than I did with this one, thanks.
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:44 AM
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Good point.
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:05 PM
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If she says she has a bf it means she has one, isn't interested, or doesn't want to talk with you. I guess a small percentage of the time you could pull it off but why not go for another chick, unless this one is special for some reason?
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:48 PM
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You are wasting your time if you don't cut it off.
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:08 PM
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Be more into what you're doing. If you find something you're passionate about, she will be jealous of that even if she has much more money.
/r/seduction02/03/14 07:46 AM
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I don't feel like any book has helped me out more than Models by Mark Manson. I got a girlfriend weeks after finishing it. I think you should check that out, as, if any girl followed the advice in it, they would be instantly separated from the rest of girls in a good way. The Art of Seduction is good for playing mind games (effect a regression for example) that will make someone potential crazy over you, but Models is more about improving yourself to make more people want you. I think the Art of…
/r/seduction02/03/14 07:45 AM
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You came across as very try-hard, which is natural for someone who is spending time on seddit. You're just lucky that this girl is way fucking chill. She's either super nice or into your looks, but you gotta up your game and stop giving a fuck about winning her over with freshman level negs. Negs need to be something that comes up naturally and in a joking fashion. You were making jokes but it was so unnatural it was painful.
/r/seduction02/03/14 07:39 AM
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Be polarizing. Aim at only attracting a certain type of girl that you would be into. For instance, if you play guitar and like to read literature you could easily polarize "hipster" girls, while other girls won't be into you as much.
/r/seduction10/02/14 07:25 AM
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I dated a mormon girl for about six months. I ended up trying to deconvert her and she ended up playing games with me and disrespecting me. There are so many girls out there that you shouldn't waste time on the ones that aren't compatible with you. It's easy to see in retrospect that this girl was a huge waste of my time and energy. I hope you come to realize that faster than I did.
/r/seduction19/01/14 09:59 PM
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If you aren't into super religious girls then just weed them out by being honest that you aren't religious (or super religious) and see if that's a problem with them.
/r/seduction19/01/14 09:06 PM
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Not really sure why I'm getting downvoted but no I'm not into politics. Unless it's House of Cards.
/r/seduction17/01/14 07:24 AM
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You just need to find women that are into politics and current events. Go to the library, local events, political events, etc where these kinds of girls would be and approach them.
/r/seduction16/01/14 07:45 AM
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I just think that Models has put me in the right mindset to get the results I want with women. If you want to keep doing DHVs and calling girls on their shit to get laid, you will get laid. But I'm at a point where I'm tired of overanalyzing women's intentions and schemes, and I don't really care if that screws me out of an F-close. I just want to keep furthering myself and try to have a good time with whatever women I come across.
/r/seduction24/12/13 08:41 AM
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Dude just read models by mark manson that's all you need for seduction.
/r/seduction23/12/13 07:01 AM
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If you like being a princess, then own being a princess (I'm not making fun of you I'm just using that word). That self identity will turn the girls you are compatible with on like crazy.
/r/seduction21/12/13 07:47 AM
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Seriously great advice. Your only goal should be to get to know this girl, and figure out if she is compatible with what you are looking for at the moment. Your thought process should not be, "I wonder if this girl will like me," but rather, "I wonder what this girl is like."
/r/seduction21/12/13 07:44 AM
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If your profile makes you come across as a guy with genuine friends and a decent lifestyle, and she's single, she will probably be down to at least go on a date with you. I've had girls add me that I didn't know and start messaging me, and I would've been down to go out with them except that I didn't find them attractive.
/r/seduction21/12/13 07:39 AM
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Be more polarizing. Send messages that would only interest the kind of girl you are looking for, rather than a safe message that you think most girls would be okay with reading.
/r/seduction21/12/13 07:36 AM
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Does it need a term?
/r/seduction16/12/13 07:37 AM
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I feel like your chances with this girl are proportional to your willingness to walk away from her. I think you should ask her on a date, and if she rejects walk away, but if she gives a neutral response like "maybe later this week" then just tell her that you get the feeling she's not enthusiastic about getting to know you, and that it was nice meeting her.
/r/seduction09/12/13 08:09 AM
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Stop trying so hard. If you have to think about this stuff then you'll probably come across as creepy. But if you think of some awesome joke on the spot that happens to involve sexuality then don't be worried about her getting offended...that's on her. If she doesn't get offended then she probably is more interested in you saying a joke than when you were being boring.
/r/seduction09/12/13 07:58 AM
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Dude you should really read Models by Mark Manson. In that book he will cover nearly all of the issues you raised in this post. Basically, would you want anything to do with that girl that hung up on you? No. She's judgmental and unconfident. A lot of times women will find it attractive if you don't give a fuck about being a virgin. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21, and I'm a pretty good looking and socially adept guy, and I know plenty of people like this (though I grew up in possibly …
/r/seduction09/12/13 07:55 AM
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Dude, you should seriously watch this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fgAMhTqxTs
/r/seduction27/11/13 05:30 PM
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Dude just tell her what you like to do in bed. Participate in the conversation and see where it goes.
/r/seduction29/10/13 07:32 AM
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Manipulation happens everywhere. He has the right to attempt to control people, and so do you. How do you think politics, seduction, persuasion, salespeople, religions, charities, etc. work?
/r/seduction08/10/13 01:56 PM
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I like this post, but I think you will be fine doing cold approaches outside of your department if you are at a big university.
/r/seduction08/10/13 05:59 AM
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It totally depends...on the size of your university, whether the class she has with you is in your college, etc. I have asked out a handful of girls on campus and still see them daily because we are both business majors in the same classes semester after semester. One of these girls I was too afraid to cold approach back in 2011, but in 2012 I ended up in a group with her (I had a girlfriend at the time). After I broke up with my gf, I still had this other girl's number and I asked her out. So w…
/r/seduction08/10/13 05:58 AM
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I think it's great that the mods post a lot because they do have some great things to share, but when every time I see a top comment it tends to be curveball or throwawaypua it makes me wonder whether the people upvoting their comments are really thinking about the points they are making.
/r/seduction08/10/13 05:47 AM
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Right. I didn't mean to get into semantics, I thought you were disagreeing with him based on that but I misread your comment. That is the best show I've ever seen, except for maybe Jersey Shore Season 3.
/r/seduction08/10/13 05:43 AM
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I love this post and I think this subreddit needs more insights like this. I also love the House of Cards reference; that show is awesome. It's too bad that most people won't read past curveball's comment. I generally agree with his posts, but not this one.
/r/seduction08/10/13 03:43 AM
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That is under the assumption that he does evil things with his manipulations.
/r/seduction08/10/13 03:42 AM
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Power is very popularly defined as the ability to make people do things they otherwise wouldn't do. His definition is not incorrect. But when you say it was offering something they wanted you were right. This is still power. Seriously, I recommend you check out House of Cards if you haven't, this is the entire premise of the show.
/r/seduction08/10/13 03:40 AM
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I would love to try this with those kinds of girls that go on dates just because the guys will buy them food. Aside from that, I can differentiate myself in more effective ways.
/r/seduction08/10/13 03:18 AM
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and in such a good way.
/r/seduction07/10/13 07:07 AM
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This is what I hate about this subreddit. Being mechanical, logical, and separating canned lines into a color-coded system isn't going to help you with women. Being emotionally in-tune with them, in the moment, and delivering whatever you have to say in the way it needs to be said will help you with women.
/r/seduction04/10/13 06:57 AM
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Good job! I love the first sentence of the second paragraph.
/r/seduction25/09/13 05:36 PM
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Every girl thinks differently, you can't just categorize all girls as thinking this way. Being friends with a girl is a good way to get her guard down if she is not looking to be seduced, then you strike when she has a moment of vulnerability.
/r/seduction22/09/13 07:37 AM
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You make a good point. But I want to point out that being interested is a good thing, but you have to turn that energy to cold at some point. Push pull.
/r/seduction19/09/13 02:12 AM
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Curveball has it right. This chick should be nexted if she can't even have the balls to hear your voice and talk back.
/r/seduction17/09/13 05:41 AM
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I'm totally with you on your top three bullet points; that's definitely what has been stopping me from approaching lately. And I find it incredibly more daunting to approach a girl and her friend, rather than the girl alone. In fact, this whole post is great just because it makes you question the way you think about seduction and being alpha.
/r/seduction15/09/13 06:21 AM
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Was going to say this. This guy is pretty damn good looking, and I'm a straight dude.
/r/seduction12/09/13 04:39 AM
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I'm going to guess that it is because he is outcome independent whereas most guys aren't.
/r/seduction08/09/13 09:52 PM
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Thanks for the advice man. I appreciate it, and it makes really good sense.
/r/seduction04/09/13 10:30 PM
1

So you think I've already crossed a line?
/r/seduction04/09/13 08:34 PM
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Thanks man.
/r/seduction04/09/13 05:33 PM
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Yeah that's true, but you could always try just being social in general. Remember to socialize with guys as well as girls, it will reap rewards.
/r/seduction04/09/13 03:56 AM
1

Go meet people in the field and see if they want to be your wingmen.
/r/seduction01/09/13 06:25 AM
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Use it as little as possible.
/r/seduction01/09/13 06:24 AM
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The best thing you can do in your situation is be seducing other girls. Abundance mentality will trump many other techniques you may have in mind.
/r/seduction31/08/13 11:12 PM
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For me it's about 50% whether they look good or not. Nobody looks like their photos, but some still look good. The problem is that you see them in a few photos and you construct an image of what you want them to look like. They almost never look like this, but chances are they still look good.
/r/seduction18/08/13 08:32 AM
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Of course, and you can even try to get to know her!
/r/seduction06/08/13 07:13 AM
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Did I frown upon it? I thought I just asked a question.
/r/seduction22/06/13 06:19 PM
9

What is the point of being married?
/r/seduction22/06/13 04:14 PM
2

Your name isn't Chris is it?
/r/seduction27/05/13 10:00 PM
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Stop worrying so much about it. If she was going to reject you she would've made it known a while ago. Make your move, son.
/r/seduction06/05/13 06:05 AM
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I love that movie.
/r/seduction01/05/13 04:44 AM
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Remembering names is always a good thing. I would disagree with your claim completely, if you had left out the part that says you're bad at names, but you didn't so I agree. I think that OP should focus on remembering names, but not lying that he is bad at names.
/r/seduction18/04/13 03:12 PM
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Might have to try this.
/r/seduction17/04/13 04:42 AM
1

Read up on inner game. That's definitely you're weak point, work on it. Once you start improving your self-esteem, gaming will be more enjoyable.
/r/seduction14/04/13 05:38 PM
1

Agreed man thanks for the input.
/r/seduction09/04/13 12:37 PM
1

Wow, a girl texted me last night and I definitely used a few less obvious anchors from our interaction, so that's a good point!
/r/seduction09/04/13 12:37 PM
1

You hit the nail on the head, but another reason is that it doesn't show your personality. There is a simplepickup video on text game where they ask a fun version of this question, it goes, "what's up gangsta? How's the thug lyfe?"
/r/seduction09/04/13 12:34 PM
1

I would say every few days. Just play it by ear and see how she responds.
/r/seduction09/04/13 12:33 PM
1

I would say be the funny you when you are initially getting their number and texting them. Then when you are on a date try to have at least some serious conversations. Ask them follow up questions to their questions, and really try to figure out what kind of a person they are. If that's boring for you, then find more interesting girls.
/r/seduction08/04/13 09:38 PM
1

Don't forget that prom isn't necessarily a romantic thing; a lot of people go as friends, and for all you know this other guy might get the friendzone. I would say don't give a fuck that she's going to a prom with another guy, because dances aren't that great anyway, but if you want to go you should try to go with another girl so you have abundance mentality. But go to this concert and be yourself and kino her and actually show that you are interested in her.
/r/seduction29/03/13 06:41 PM
1

Glad you're learning man!
/r/seduction28/03/13 04:06 AM
2

Dude that's actually really funny.
/r/seduction28/03/13 03:37 AM
0

And the Real World Portland on Wednesday.
/r/seduction28/03/13 03:31 AM
8

Dude that was pretty inspiring. Thanks!
/r/seduction28/03/13 03:29 AM
2

Well there ya go man, good luck!
/r/seduction22/03/13 09:18 PM
6

You're over-analyzing this. If you're interested in her I would say keep trying, but if you don't really care let her make the move and go ask out a few more chicks.
/r/seduction22/03/13 05:37 PM
0

Yes! Did you learn that from Cajun? Cause I sure did.
/r/seduction08/03/13 09:48 PM
2

Yeah or you can just be friends with them until they are single, but still let them know you are interested. Just be social is the key.
/r/seduction12/02/13 07:06 AM
2

Flirt with a girl and purposely fumble lines, followed by a sheepish smile. She will think it's cute.
/r/seduction10/02/13 09:26 AM
4

For example when I have a date where I was out of state (usually meaning I'm clingy and reactive) I will try next time to reposition myself in her mind as someone who doesn't need her, but simply wants her.
/r/seduction28/01/13 05:41 AM
9

As an undergrad marketing major this is a really cool read. In marketing we are always taught to differentiate our brands and position them in a way that makes sense to a certain customer. It's funny because I always draw connections between marketing and dating in my mind, I even think about "repositioning" myself in certain girls' minds if I decide something needs to change.
/r/seduction28/01/13 04:41 AM
1

Just wanted to comment that I met my ex girlfriend on meetme.com. The demographic on there is mostly younger (immature) girls but there are a few cool ones on there.
/r/seduction24/01/13 06:32 AM
2

Taste in music has nothing to do with making changes in yourself. If I want to wear a certain t-shirt, I'm not going to avoid wearing it to try to get a chick.
/r/seduction29/11/12 09:17 AM
2

Being yourself isn't attractive?
/r/seduction28/11/12 04:13 PM
15

Why would you stop wearing metal band tshirts to be more alpha? Isn't that the antithesis of alpha because you're going along with what someone on reddit said? Some great points in here though.
/r/seduction28/11/12 02:22 AM
2

exactly, this can't be clumped into an easy answer of yes or no.
/r/seduction14/11/12 12:19 AM
2

kiddo if she is younger than you.
/r/seduction14/11/12 12:18 AM
1

I assume you're talking about simplepickup and not cajun then. Yeah they're very entertaining and you don't need to take them seriously. They don't really follow mainstream pua to a tee, but they have some good ideas. Stuff like leading, shuffling, eye contact, idk you don't have to like them but it works for me.
/r/seduction07/11/12 09:50 AM
1

why?
/r/seduction07/11/12 01:07 AM
0

I noticed you are influenced by simplepickup; those guys are awesome. I recommend checking out Cajun as well especially on keys to the vip (just youtube search it).
/r/seduction06/11/12 06:01 AM
2

Yeah this is basically asking for a shit test.
/r/seduction06/11/12 05:29 AM
2

Framing- It's not what you say, but how you say it. Your thought processes need to be aligned to how you want to portray yourself. If you want to fuck a girl, imagine fucking her and smile, then talk to her. Don't be reactive- I struggle with this. Talk slowly so you don't seem nervous, and be yourself, don't react to shit she says in a way that you know is bullshit. Kino- On first dates, I would suggest obvious kino very early to make your intentions clear. This way, if you get rejected, you kn…
/r/seduction04/11/12 07:38 AM
1

I would check out Cajun's work in that case. IMO, he is the best pickup artist in the game, and he doesn't even consider himself one. One of the best things he preaches is that it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Here's a video you can check out (skip to 7:41): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kIsoproa1qo
/r/seduction29/10/12 06:15 AM
1

I usually escalate verbally before kino escalation, just to test the waters to make sure she is somewhat interested. If that works, continue with light kino.
/r/seduction29/10/12 05:41 AM
1

This post seems somewhat irrelevant considering that it happens once in a blue moon, unless you are looking for a fight. Just chill out and if a dude wants trouble walk away. No need to support your ego by pushing him.
/r/seduction29/10/12 05:40 AM
3

Why would you marry her if you don't know her less attractive qualities yet? Nobody is perfect.
/r/seduction29/10/12 05:33 AM
3

Oh us? We're just friends.
/r/seduction21/10/12 06:37 PM
4

But my girl has braces. Fuck.
/r/seduction21/10/12 07:26 AM
5

wtf lol.
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:49 AM
1

Approach a bunch of other girls until your confidence is super high, then you will have forgotten about her. If not, I guess you could keep trying.
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:48 AM
1

Is it a legitimate conversation you're trying to have, or just trying to feel good about yourself because you're texting a girl? Also, why not just wait to have the conversation when you're with her? Also, I think you're thinking about it a little too much, just try to keep things exciting for yourself.
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:46 AM
3

It's pretty awesome when you get a biter, and then you realize that you have no idea how to do that.
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:34 AM
1

Sounds pretty solid for your experience. Try to quickly turn small talk into playful teasing, which can easily translate to small amounts of kino.
/r/seduction19/10/12 04:27 AM
11

wtf kind of person doesn't own jeans? Good advice on upping the hurdle.
/r/seduction18/10/12 09:34 PM
6

If she's flaking consistently then I would cut her loose. One flake shouldn't be a huge deal, but when they make a habit of it it pisses me off.
/r/seduction15/10/12 04:59 AM
3

Came here to say this. If you mention kissing or a dirty joke and she isn't turned off, then that is pretty much a green light.
/r/seduction15/10/12 04:57 AM
1

Good luck, feminists are hardcore.
/r/seduction09/10/12 10:35 PM
3

I'm no pro, but here's an idea: Memorize a cute opener in spanish, and fumble through it, but stay confident. I bet she will think it's cute, and if she understands wtf you said, you're in.
/r/seduction09/10/12 10:34 PM
1

There's this stuff called driclor that works wonders on my armpits, and a lot of people liked to use it on their hands as well. With my hands they just got all dried up and continued to sweat, but you might as well try it. Luckily for me my hands don't sweat too much when I get comfortable with a girl, but sometimes it's noticeable for them.
/r/seduction09/10/12 10:27 PM
2

You gonna update us man? I have confidence in you.
/r/seduction06/10/12 06:47 PM
2

Who the fuck would say this? What a bitch.
/r/seduction05/10/12 05:47 PM
4

Don't take it so personally, girls are fucking tough competition...I mean come on they're hot as hell.
/r/seduction27/09/12 11:52 PM
4

I sent a girl from online dating a confirmation text a couple weeks ago (this was before we met in person), and she said that something came up and she couldn't go anymore. I was a little angry and disappointed, but I kept my cool and told her that I wanted to go out with her still, but flakiness is a huge turn-off. She ended up offering me a coffee to make up for it. Fast forward to the coffee date, she ends up telling me that she did forget we were hanging out that first time, and ended up get…
/r/seduction26/09/12 10:27 PM
7

It made me laugh.
/r/seduction26/09/12 10:21 PM
2

Good clarification. In my case this was after hanging with her like twice.
/r/seduction25/09/12 01:27 PM
2

So much smoother than my kiss last week, but I had success as well. Very good stuff man.
/r/seduction25/09/12 01:25 PM
0

One tip I know for sure: Do NOT ever send a man a "good morning :)" text. You will probably turn from hot to annoying at that point. Other than that, I'm no expert.
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:24 AM
12

You seem really interesting. Wanna hop in my bed with me?
/r/seduction24/09/12 05:17 AM
3

No idea why you're being downvoted. Everyone on seddit thinks that any form of being nice is anti-game, but I think it's just about the way you deliver the compliment, and if it comes off as needy or disingenuous.
/r/seduction24/09/12 05:16 AM
1

I've been going to the mall as well but my only approach yesterday was even worse, but almost exactly like your second approach. I love how you take after Kong so much; I love his game. I especially love how he forecasts relationships...saying shit like, "we are going to go on an epic adventure, and then we are going to share our first hug, and then say our goodbyes forever...until I text you."
/r/seduction05/09/12 07:10 AM
1

I think I may stay up at campus after class tomorrow to meet people as well. And by meet people I really mean cold approaching girls.
/r/seduction05/09/12 03:01 AM
1

hell yeah
/r/seduction28/08/12 01:34 PM
1

You're a great writer.
/r/seduction26/08/12 05:41 PM
2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1mQ3xhiNgg
/r/seduction23/08/12 02:07 AM
1

Your words make me want to fap. Maybe I should nofap so I have a better chance of approaching your words.
/r/seduction21/08/12 02:24 AM
1

Your words make me want to fap. Maybe I should nofap so I have a better chance of approaching your words.
/r/seduction21/08/12 02:24 AM
1

I've actually had more luck on Plenty of Fish than OKCupid lately. The girls on pof seem much more willing to respond to messages as opposed to cupid.
/r/seduction17/08/12 08:31 PM
1

Sometimes but not all the time. I think it's a good habit to get into, but honestly I just don't feel like making a ton of new friends right now.
/r/seduction16/08/12 07:17 AM
1

The second set wasn't awful, but it wasn't great either. The third set was awful because I wasn't trying to get the girl, and they just made it really awkward. I'll try to be more specific in my next field report, thanks for reading though!
/r/seduction15/08/12 09:42 PM
1

Fuck that would have been great if I had thought of that!
/r/seduction15/08/12 09:38 PM
1

I've already dated a mormon and have had mormon friends so I already know. I'm not opposed to dating mormons but I could tell this girl wasn't for me, and obviously she could too haha. That being said, if I wanted a chance I probably should have not made the threesome joke, but I really don't care because I wasn't very attracted to her.
/r/seduction15/08/12 04:27 PM
4

This is what seddit needs more of. So inspiring.
/r/seduction15/08/12 07:18 AM
1

I'm not very experienced either, but she said that she thought you looked good, and she seems enthusiastic, so what more indication do you need?
/r/seduction13/08/12 09:22 PM
3

Sounds like this girl wants to get in your pants already. Good job holmes.
/r/seduction12/08/12 05:30 AM
2

This is the kind of girl that didn't show interest in him until he felt like he lost. Of course for your inner game you should feel like you could get her, but I guess a better way to word it is to act like you have nothing to lose and just be yourself. I usually wouldn't wait for the girl to make the move, but for this situation it seems like if he showed interest in her she would lose interest in him. I could be wrong, and I'm by no means a PUA. Also, he should make the move after waiting to s…
/r/seduction09/08/12 03:50 PM
1

Some great advice I have been given is to pretend that you've already lost. I think it's good advice because it allows you to act like yourself, and girls are very attracted to that. Hence why she probably wanted you so bad. I bet you'll get an opportunity when she comes back, but wait for her to make the move.
/r/seduction09/08/12 06:17 AM
1

Once you introduce yourself, I think it would be a good idea to ask them what they are doing with the rest of their day. This is a good way to figure out a little more about them without asking them to "tell me more about yourself..." which is boring. If they say something boring or straight up say nothing, then invite them on an instant date. Try watching simplepickup on youtube, those guys have helped me out the most.
/r/seduction21/07/12 06:59 AM
3

Tell her that and make arrangements to hang out outside a bar setting. Don't expect anything from doing this other than to have a fun time, and you will make new friends and all will be good. But if you get lucky you might meet a hot lady friend.
/r/seduction09/07/12 06:51 AM
1

The author of Art of Seduction, Robert Greene, teamed up with 50 Cent on a book called The 50th Law. I would recommend that for sure.
/r/seduction09/07/12 06:46 AM
1

I think I've come to the conclusion that a meaningful relationship is one where both parties can learn from each other. So, if she can teach you how to be more compassionate, and you can teach her how to be more in-the-moment, or insert any other quality, then that is a meaningful relationship.
/r/seduction09/07/12 06:39 AM
1

I did the same thing on my only approach so far. I was in a library, spotted her, took a few minutes to let my heart rate drop, then went in. I was successful by some measure, but it didn't work out because she was way too into this other dude so she really didn't give me a chance. Don't be too quick to emotionally invest in this girl, but don't be afraid of getting your heart broken either.
/r/seduction08/07/12 06:34 PM
1

Some people view it as a stigma, others view having meaningless sex as a stigma; why should you give a fuck about people who are going to judge you on something like that? A lot of people admire virgins and wish they could have their virginity back. I'm not telling you to not do this girl, I just think you should stop caring about society's standards for your life. It's yours, not theirs, not mine. So if you want to have sex with this girl, go for it, but I would recommend not having sex just to…
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:20 PM
1

If you think losing your virginity will make you a bigger man then you aren't seeing the big picture. You become a man on the inside, not by flipping a switch that says, "I lost my v-card." As for kicking the oneitis, don't worry about forgetting about her, but instead try to form relationships with different girls, and I bet you will forget about her no problem. I know you said you aren't the most social cat in the room, but maybe overcoming that will make you more of the man you want to be.
/r/seduction07/07/12 04:23 PM
1

This. Girl sounds shallow and not worth your time, unless you are looking for a makeout cuddle buddy.
/r/seduction07/07/12 07:21 AM
1

Love all of the Seinfeld references. Thank you for your reply man, I love that part about loving yourself.
/r/seduction06/07/12 03:49 PM
1

How do you know when to pull the eject button? When you find something wrong with her?
/r/seduction06/07/12 03:29 PM
1

No I was just making a joke. Asians are known to have small penises, but women ignore that and have sex with them anyway.
/r/seduction06/07/12 03:20 PM
1

Holy fuck. How do you always do the dumping? You're awesome.
/r/seduction06/07/12 06:57 AM
1

Agreed.
/r/seduction06/07/12 06:46 AM
-1

because asians have sex too.
/r/seduction06/07/12 06:43 AM
-5

Try changing venues. Watch simplepickup on youtube and talk to random girls on the street.
/r/seduction05/07/12 05:21 AM
1

I like the part about limerick. It also reminded me that I have no recollection of what a limerick is. Time to google that shit.
/r/seduction05/07/12 05:03 AM
8

Thinking this is 90% of the battle.
/r/seduction29/06/12 11:48 PM
3

Good luck bro!
/r/seduction28/06/12 09:36 PM
1

lol I haven't seen that but if you ever listen to fearlessradio they have that quote in the intro.
/r/seduction27/06/12 07:15 PM
5

I am by no means a pua, but my best advice would be to approach a group of girls, fail miserably, and learn to not give a fuck. Then approach one girl alone and you will probably see success. Also, check out simplepickup on google search or youtube. They will help you stop making excuses for yourself.
/r/seduction27/06/12 04:50 AM
5

Honestly, your last sentence worries me.
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:10 AM
2

I picked up a girl at the library last week.
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:02 AM
1

I was at the library picking up Thus Spoke Zarathustra by Friedrich Nietzsche, when I started talking to this hot girl. She had read that same book before. Jackpot! The point is, I was just picking up a book I thought looked good, and she liked it too, which made me more interested in her. I'm not going to deign to reading the autobiography of Justin Bieber just so some jailbait will be impressed.
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:14 PM
2

In other words just have sexy time outside the workplace.
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:10 PM
4

You should want to learn seduction in order to develop a deeper relationship with someone than you would with your best friend. Trust me, women are just plain more open than men, and it makes them very interesting sometimes. So, if you're tired of hanging out with your guy friends because that's all you think you like, try getting to really know a girl and see what happens.
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:07 PM
2

Gonna have to agree with this guy. While it would've been nice if things worked out, the big picture is that you overcame your biggest obstacle: yourself. And you can do it again. I'm in the same boat, and I hope to be able to do that shit again and feel like the first rock star on mars.
/r/seduction22/06/12 05:52 AM
4

Not that there's anything wrong with that.
/r/seduction21/06/12 09:00 PM
2

wow. the world is crazy, ain't it?
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:35 PM
9

I started dating my friend's ex (don't worry, I'm not a dick...he actually convinced me to date her when I wasn't even pushing for it). We hung out a few times and then I told her that I wasn't really looking for sex (I don't know why I told her this). She ended shit with me because she "fell back in love" with her ex (my friend). But I really think it's because she has a huge sex drive and knew I wasn't gonna give her dick quickly. Time passes, and she ends up fucking a bunch of my friends, fou…
/r/seduction23/05/12 12:14 AM
13

OP feels insulted that she thinks that he's stupid enough to fall for something that obvious.
/r/seduction23/05/12 12:07 AM
1

Hell yeah! I have a buddy with muscular dystrophy in a wheelchair and I showed him this. I don't know if he's used it or not. Feel free to PM me the results!
/r/seduction18/05/12 04:07 AM
10

Hell yes brotha.
/r/seduction17/05/12 09:10 PM
3

Oh fuck.
/r/seduction17/05/12 07:10 PM
1

Hell yeah dude, that's awesome. Going off of what fartuckyfartbandit said about making your weakness your strength, maybe you should check out this video.
/r/seduction17/05/12 06:38 PM
3

The winky face means she wants to fuck. Kidding, I have no clue how to decipher weird text emoticons, but act as though she meant it as something more than wanting to talk.
/r/seduction16/05/12 06:18 AM
1

then why don't you go ahead and explain it to me?
/r/seduction10/04/12 01:20 PM
1

Organizational Behavior. It's the introductory business management class. I'm currently a marketing major, but I'm not dead-set on it...really just pre-business right now.
/r/seduction10/04/12 03:34 AM
2

thanks dude, that was a great read
/r/seduction10/04/12 01:17 AM
1

If there's anything I've learned in my MTG 3680 class it's that you can be an introvert and still appear not to be. My professor is apparently an introvert, but he has had some of the coolest jobs in the world all talking to large groups of people or negotiating with foreign countries. You can learn to be assertive even if you're an introvert naturally.
/r/seduction10/04/12 12:51 AM
1

hells yes.
/r/seduction25/02/12 11:14 PM
6

I think it could be helpful, but is usually detrimental because there is a correlation between those who text a lot and those who feel insecure with themselves. Personally, if I am interested in a girl I usually text her quite a bit, and it usually fucks shit up.
/r/seduction22/02/12 05:35 AM
1

hell yes I love those guys!
/r/seduction20/02/12 04:58 PM
1

Isn't that called God mode? lol
/r/seduction20/02/12 05:54 AM
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