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| 1 | 2017 Journey, Week 2oh I'm sorry. | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5mreum/2017_journey_week_2/ | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 03:58 PM |
| 2 | 2017 Journey, Week 2I do not unfortunately. | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 02:25 AM |
| 1 | 2017 Journey, Week 2When first started, in march of 2014 I spent about a week and I walked a total of 30 miles (who said thus stuff wasn't healthy) before I first worked up the balls to approach. After I finally did it, it git a bit easier, and when I got laid it got a lot easier. Edit: it takes a bit but you speed it up by being proactive and approaching a lot. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 04:06 PM |
| 2 | 2017 Journey, Week 2u/Maitreya137 u/self_journey u/Sakura48 u/adrianglont u/lvl99wolf u/OneSource13 u/akiba32 u/PARTYBOT1 u/RoboticsNote u/NuckFips u/roel210 u/ineedtostopfapplease u/brightspace u/Anokape u/Xanarxses u/imcryingsomuch u/hbaruas u/zuckokooo u/Azelas u/Franknol7 u/ZoloStyle u/timeisfinite | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Asking for directions or casually talking to a cashier, bartender or receptionist is a good way to warm up but it does not count as an approach. It's actually hitting on girls. Five is better but as long as you do a couple you should be fine moving on. Week ones focus is simpy getting out there, and getting use to expressing yourself in front of a woman. In the future I'll probably focus on more specific things that you'll want to improve on before you move on. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Im a bit overweight too and I suspect I won't be hitting what I'm capable of until about late February. But I'll get some passable stuff until then. Getting rid of anxiety is a great goal because it benefits you not just with women but, career wise. I constantly get business cards and offers when I'm in places, stores, banks, etc. I'll talk and be myself and they'll start asking me if i've ever worked in a ____. In an uncertain economy that effect of practicing game is incredible. Anyways, I rea… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.It has to be clear to her she's being hit on. You have to express your attraction. But if you wanna "warm up" by asking a woman for directions... that's not abad idea. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.That's precisely why I'm spreading it out over a week. I could do 10 a day if I was in like, Manhattan. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Simple man with simple wants and the right attitude. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Quality resolutions fam. It won't be easy but we can do this shit. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.And that desire to improve is the most crucial thing to start. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.That's the plan an the attitude we're gonna need. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.It's gonna be a good year for you. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.That's what's up. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Yes, every Sunday. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.For sure man. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.I'd recommend asking girls in stores for help with things, then maybe chatting casually with a bartender or waitress in a not busy place. Doing stuff like that eases you into it. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Let's go all in on this. I mean let's take care of life in general, make sure women are only one part of a dynamic life... but let's get it done. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.Right on. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:51 AM |
| 3 | Join Me In Meeting New Women, and Making 2017 Phenomenal.You ask them about themselves. You talk about what she's up to today. You ramble on about something tied in to the environment. Doesn't have to be groundbreaking conversation always. Your body language is how you're "selling" the prospect of intimacy more so than word choice. The fact that many people are busy is true, and acknowledging that helps rejection not seem as bad. Everyone likes a short break once in a while though, especially if it involves someone charming flirting with them. If they… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Not Everyone Has The Balls To Commit To Self Development and ChangeThis is a great mindset. Also shown here is why you want to have a nice solid base of self confidence and life direction before you dive into daygame (so that rejection doesn't throw you off so easily.) | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 03:26 PM |
| 3 | How to pull a girl you meet on the dancefloorStart talking, flirting, getting her excited. Get her to the point where she's invested in what you're saying. Then lead her away. Just tell her it's a bit too loud where you are and you want to talk more. Sometimes you can take her hand depending on the girl/vibe of the club. If there's friends there, and you're weary of a cockblock (they won't always do it, but you can feel it coming.), then make it a group thing. Tell her to call her friends over. then just sit around a table or stand in a pa… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Wise men of seddit, I think I'm over thinking it too much. Could a more experienced man convince me otherwise?I'd shoot her a laid back text. How much tension is there now? Is it her being touchy feely like back then or does it feel like a friendship? | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 05:46 PM |
| 12 | "you're too young"Don't let it faze you, this is the biggest key. Just stay calm, maintain strong body language and eye contact. It's a cute and silly little thing that older women do. So my response consists of elements: Be humored (agree and amplify perhaps, but sometimes just smirking at it is enough) Address it logically (Talk about how there's an obvious spark here, that she feels it too and she's just saying that on autopilot.) Change the subject to something fun and flirty, escalate in some way. So the res… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Seducting older womenThey like when you're assertive and have a large and authentic presence. A strong voice, strong eye contact, standing tall, taking up space, remaining relaxed. Then with older women you have to find a balance: You want to both wear your attraction on your sleeve, not be afraid to show physically or verbally your attraction... but also not be a puppy dog impatient for it. So have self control. During conversations, talk about subjects more mature than you might with teenagers, but sprinkle in dom… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 04:57 AM |
| 4 | How do some guys do it?Ok so here's how 99% of guys that appear to be lethally efficient are doing it.: Successful guys are screening girls that don't want them out. That and they're a bit more comfortable around hot women because of experience with them. Start watching for and try to generate IOI's wherever you go. Whether it's walking down the street or prowling through the club. Approach confidently when you get one. If you want top quality you can't rely on this method, you have to do some completely cold approach… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 04:41 AM |
| 1 | ¿Suggested Reading Order?Do how to win friends and influence people first if you've got social skills to work on. Then after that just try to get laid. First part of that is the fundamentals: body language, physique, fashion, grooming. As you get those things maximized, start approaching, a lot. The keys to a good approach are: body language, eye contact, not putting on an act, communicating intent (wearing your attraction on your sleeve), being socially calibrated, and having fun/spontaneity. After you approach and it … | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 04:29 AM |
| 1 | I work at Pandora and girls are all around me, I need to improve my game and ask one of them out, any help?In the workplace I'd recommend trying to get signs of interest out of her via: Making jokes while working with her, just rambling humorously and not being a robot. Standing a bit closer when you talk to her. (Not TOO close, common sense) Making your eye contact a bit more direct and intense. The idea is to BARELY force her to make a decision: Am I feeling this guy or not? If she listens closely to all your joking and rambling on, and laughs at almost everything, she's feeling you. If she doesn't… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Is this what shit tests are?Yeah that's key and a good point... you're not trying to assert dominance, it's a joke. | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Which program or Book really changed or made difference on your life.Primal Seduction by Steve Jabba | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Is this what shit tests are?Women are looking to see if the mental strength is actually a core part of you, or just a rehaersed thing for the club. To determine this they pay attention not just to what you say but, how you say it, and several subtle body language changes. You can find the "right" thing to say, but if you're the kind of guy who searches and catalogs for the right thing to say, you will deliver it wrong. No I wouldn't say that. Don't tease or neg unless its absolutley hilarious to you and she knows you a bit… | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 12:51 AM |
| 81 | Is this what shit tests are?Yeah that was a test. Although it was also just her self amusing. The main key to "passing" shit tests is having a mature handle on your insecurities so that you don't really realize your being tested. So here's the mental process I use to make myself "bullet proof", and able to naturally pass any test similar to that one. Think of things that are not optimal about myself Ask self what can i do about it, set a plan into motion Remind self how unimportant whatever in question is This leads to a m… | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 02:41 PM |
| 2 | How to best absorb all the stuff taught in Models?Even if it's ALL foreign to you... take the parts of it that separate his mindset from yours the most. Take the parts you never even considered until reading the book. Write about 10 or so things like this down. Every morning, read the list to yourself. A couple times a week, refer to the list while remembering your recent approaches and encounters. Ask yourself "Which one or two of these am I not applying when things go bad with women?" Then for those one or two specific things, do a bit of goo… | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 02:29 PM |
| 4 | Did these girls try to push/pull me?suddenly this girl(fairly good looking) grabbed my hand from behind, spun herself around and proceeded to dance with me/grinding on my leg. Very close. This girl is having fun, and also screening for experience. She's legitimately digging something about you. Women always consciously or subconsciously test men they dig. The test in this case: Is he going to freak out and be a puppy who's ego grows because of this... or is this a dominant, mature man who's been there, done that and knows how to p… | /r/seduction | 28/11/16 10:37 PM |
| 2 | What to do BETWEEN the approaches when you're alone?Dance, Walk around acknowledging girls trying to generate IOI's, strike up a short conversation with a bartender. | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Often starting the conversationIf you're the one who starts a conversation, you will be doing the bulk of the talking for the first couple minutes. A few bubbly personality types are exception but for the most part it holds true. Consider the topics of conversation. Are they fun, lighthearted, sometimes sexual? Are they something she can relate to? A better gauge of interest is her body language and how attentive and responsive to your words she is. | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 06:07 PM |
| 2 | After you match with someone on tinder what does the immediate text game look like?Ideally it'll be something that amuses you, isn't too try-hard, and references her profile/pics in some way. Tell yourself "I'm going to have a good time chatting with _____" instead of "Gee whiz I hope this one likes me, let's make sure I do this right" | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Be careful of this shit test!It's good to be conscious of yourself and avoid desperation but, you don't always have to ignore it or strike it down. You have to take it for what it is. When she sends the kiss emoji. It's not her falling in love, it's not her being super horny, it's her having fun chatting with a guy she fancies. View it as that, and treat it as that, and your response will be calibrated and not too eager. As far as real life touching and kissing , you're right to not take the lead. I would let her do it a li… | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 05:54 PM |
| 1 | "I don't like giving out my number"I'm realizing how little patience I have. | /r/seduction | 24/10/16 02:17 PM |
| 0 | "I don't like giving out my number"These are cases where it's longer than I typically take to get numbers, and the attraction and comfort is blindingly clear. | /r/seduction | 24/10/16 02:07 AM |
| 1 | "I don't like giving out my number"But what I said has worked 100% of the time. Not that your way wouldn't work in a lot of cases either, it makes perfect sense. | /r/seduction | 24/10/16 02:06 AM |
| 6 | "I don't like giving out my number"I mean I didn't strategize this beforehand. It's just what came naturally. I'm just breaking it down because that helps some people. Edit: Your mindset and view of women and social assessment skills are off. I articulated that this was while approach was going very well, not a creeped out girl. And where did the slut comment come from? Go get laid my friend, it feels better than running a joke/trash reddit account. | /r/seduction | 24/10/16 01:54 AM |
| 1 | How do you let a girl know you want her in bed.I forgot. I was on the site reading about something else and just started browsing the articles. | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Can't seem to balance my sense of humorRespect how you actually feel on a moment by moments basis. Particularly focus on the feelings she inspires in you. This will be happiness, frustration, sexual desire, a desire to protect her, and much more. Let those inspire your words, tell her what on your mind when you have a prevalent thought, and ask questions when you are seriously curious. Don't fear being you, and showing how you really feel. If you speak form how she makes you feel, it will not be boring, it will not be desperate, it w… | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 01:24 AM |
| 1 | I can flirt but I can't can't bring myself to ask girls outJust look at her frankly and directly and say what's on your mind. Keep shit simple and keep shit real. If she's still there after you express attraction, she probably is waiting for it. | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 01:18 AM |
| 1 | So many girls post that they want an "adventure." What are some good ideas /plans to take them on an adventure?Cold approaching her, being ballsy about it. Having an idate other than coffee that you don't decide on until after you meet her. Fearless escalation. | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 01:16 AM |
| 5 | How do you let a girl know you want her in bed.Not all guys do that subconsciously. I kind of knew how to escalate when a girl was on my couch naturally, but I had to learn to make touching and kissing happens on dates. The second point you make, is partially matter of experience, but it's a great point. Guys here, those just starting in particular, need to realize she's only there because she likes you, and that you can "rest easy" and enjoy her company for longer than you think. | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 01:04 AM |
| 109 | How do you let a girl know you want her in bed.Before you get into touch, proximity. Stand and sit closer to her. This creates the clear vibe and sends the clear message. Make sure you read her reaction as you start doing it, and that you don't overwhelm her too early. As far as touch goes, any is a sign that you are attracted to her and want to fuck her. Any woman that touches you, you have a shot at fucking. This is my favorite article on touching girls. It says that incidental touching should occur ASAP, and later on romantic but pre-priv… | /r/seduction | 20/10/16 09:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm 18, a virgin ,in college, have social anxiety ,and I want to get laid. Where do I start and what do I doI have a follow up comment, a couple things to add to my previous one: Make working out and getting a great physique a serious . Not your only priority, just a serious goal. It's aesthetically exciting for women but that is not the sole reason. When you get through brutal workouts, when you throw around weight that seemed impossible before, it raises confidence in yourself ten fold. Along with casually chatting to women in public, and eventually cold approach hitting on them, make an online dati… | /r/seduction | 20/10/16 09:13 PM |
| 7 | I'm 18, a virgin ,in college, have social anxiety ,and I want to get laid. Where do I start and what do I doStart by looking in he mirror with brutal honesty. Ask yourself "of all personality/behaivior characteristics women are attravted to, which one do I have the least of?". It might be assertiveness, it might be humor, it migt be general confidence, etc. Be honest and pinpoint something women love that you lack. Make it your goal to get this. Instead of reading PUA and seductionmaterial, read material dedicated to this one particular thing. For example if anxiety is what you want to tackle, read bo… | /r/seduction | 19/10/16 04:43 AM |
| 2 | New to this: Where should I start?Read sidebar info and guides Join gym, start a new program based around heavy lifting, Go to r/malefashionadvice, learn some things, get one killer new outfit Start approaching, do so in a variety of environments and locations. Focus on body language, eye contact, being respectful but assertive, and limiting your nerves/anxiety. At the end of your days, think about what went wrong, and be honest. If you don't know, or don't know that to do about it, describe the set in detail and ask the people … | /r/seduction | 18/10/16 01:29 PM |
| 1 | I want to fix my consIt's good that you have the ability to look at yourself in the mirror like you do. It's the first step to becoming a better man. THoughts on the first con: Awful Grades: I think it's a good trait that you care deeply about them. It's a clear signal that you've got potential for great success in life. Keep studying hard. Don't focus solely on this woman thing, or your grades will suffer and you will be upset. Use your pursuit of better grades to subtly DHV with women: "I was reading most of the d… | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Where to meet beautiful women during the day?You've got to structure your life so that as many cross your path as possible. In a way you're on your way to this You aren't some kind of hermit locked up in his room all day. Start approaching occasionally, off of IOI's in the supermarket and around campus (stick to working out in the gym.) Instead of going out just to roam the streets for women, go out to enjoy to go with a good book. Read it outside and if a woman who catches your eye walks by, approach. That way even if it takes a while, yo… | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 03:32 PM |
| 7 | I work at Starbucks. How bad of an idea is it to try pickup at work?Don't. Focus on your job, be charismatic. If anything happens it happens but don't expect shit. Focus your game energies elsewhere. | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Do girls like abusive men? Or sweet, gentle men? Or both?Use dominant instead of abusive as terminology here. Abusive implies non-consent, and all kinds of other bad things. Women like a balance of both dominant and sweet, both inside and outside the bedroom. Slapping the hell out of her is relatively rare though. You've got to talk about kinks and rough sex, or lightly test the waters before dong anything like that. Be careful dude. You can't be only sweet outside the bedroom or else that rough sex will have less of an impact. You've got to have mome… | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Not getting responsesYou need to build more sexual tension, come off like a dominant guy who isn't afraid of his attraction for a girl and, who can make a girl happy. Without saying anything raunchy, or touching her inappropriately, try to make her pussy wet. This means occasionally falling into strong ass eye contact, appreciating how hot she is and occasionally letting it mesmerize you for a brief moment, standing a bit closer on occasion, touching her (although NOT sexually), speaking in a low but natural tone, s… | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 02:02 AM |
| 3 | New Stage. Early number close?90% of the time anything less than a number is useless. But I would take it if I were you. You're a virgin. Talk to women as much a possible even if you can't fuck them. Immerse yourself in the world they immerse themselves in. Just go for real numbers when you're in set. .... You need a spark before you ask for a date or a number. My gauge fora spark is is: my dick is starting to get hard, while she's showing IOI's. In some cases it's like everyone else except you two has vanished (sounds soppy… | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 04:42 AM |
| 1 | I feel awkward when getting numbers.Nothing in pickup should seem like a leap, it should feel like the obvious next step. This applies to getting her number as well. Make your interactions so impactful on her and so enjoyable for you that meeting up outside of school is a no brainer. At that point you can just say "give me your number". Honestly sometimes you can just hand her your phone with the number pad open. It's not asking for money, it's not a favor, it's not an ambitious proposal, it's a logical next step. Just have a good… | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 04:30 AM |
| 1 | No matter how hard I try, I can't seem to get to the next levelWhat happened when you fucked it up, did you try to escalate or build tension, what happened? | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls from the street?Be as assertive as possible, have as much presense as possible. Avoid stopping her directly in front. Have a strong body language and voice that micro-signals to a woman "this is a real man and I should listen to him." As the set hooks, after your itent is clear and a convo is starting, and she's clearly receptive... start walking. Say sonething along the lines of "well.. come on, you were on your way somewhere right, don't get fired because a handsome stud wanted you to stop and talk with him" … | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Realistically, how much of a success rate should I have?Don't take these failures personal grasshopper. Getting desired results more than being turned down doesn't happen. Anyone who says it happens is a bullshitter. Every legit guy who has great stretches is doing something to screen out time wasters and girls not interested in him. Between devoted relationships, periods, her preferences as far as race and archetypes... you really only have a shot in hell with like 1/3 girls you approach. If you approach 6 and get 2 numbers your basically 2 for 2. F… | /r/seduction | 10/09/16 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Is this an interest indicator?Doesn't HAVE to be a smile. Aknowledge it in whatever way feels natural to you. Could be a smile, wink, smirk, head nod, head back "sup?' Motion, glass raise, whatever. Just do whatever method feels natural to you. Then yeah, it's ok to approach the girl. Lay your intentions out in he first 20 seconds, give her a specific compliment, express yoir attraction, keep strong eye contact as you do. After that, yeah talk about studies, talk about anything. The moment should provide you with a subject. … | /r/seduction | 09/09/16 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Is this an interest indicator?Unless you're wearing somethig weird or crazy, she's interested. Approach her. | /r/seduction | 09/09/16 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Asking girl out (but she has boyfriend)Go for it. You wouldn't be ruining anything. The "thing" isn't there from what it sounds like. It has a title sure, a label... but that chemistry the title should imply isn't there. You wouldn't be stealing her from a relationship you'd be stealing her from boredom. So go for it. Mostly because you're attracted but also because someone said she was out of your league. That shit infuriates me. My coworkers once laughed at me and said she'd laugh me off, talking about a hot supervisor of ours , I … | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 03:13 AM |
| 15 | Those Who Have Not Approached...Let's Make A DealGood luck to all of you. Just know it's alright to be anxious and it's alright to fail. You never lose anything by approaching... ever. Even if it doesn't lead to a number... once you see that talking to a random woman is possible, and how good and manly expressing your intent can be... you'll be eager to approach instead of scared. | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 02:48 AM |
| 2 | Is it pointless to go after a girl if there are no initial signs of attraction?IN REAL LIFE: let the attraction for her flow out of you via strong eye contact and self amusement. You've got to be in tine for more subtle clues than that. Watch her body language, how log she keep, eye contact, what direction she breaks eye contact in, if she leans toward you, gets closer than she needs to wheb she walks by, corrects her own body language while talking to you, plays with her hair, does anything sillier than ussual double takes at you, etc. Swing for the fences if you either s… | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 02:42 AM |
| 2 | talking to girls in publicIt's not sexual desire or proactive attitude that makes a rapist a rapist... it's the fact that they lack basic respect from women and are insane. Approaching a girl, done right will either: a. Make her day but not get her physically excited b. Have her forgetting about you 10 seconds later or c. get you laid.... not bad right? start approaching more. Conversation topics don't make a girl attracted to you. Some are more optimal than others but don't worry about that for a while with where you're… | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 05:07 AM |
| 8 | An acquaintance of mine is terrible at club-game. But that got me thinking, what is the *correct* way to approach club game?The correct club game: Screens out girls who are a 0% chance (talk with intent in you, not like you're a gay best friend) Is congruent to one's normal personality type (Don't try to be something you're not) Relies on nothing but ones inner charisma and sexuality (Not on a free drink capturing her attention... smh) My approach is this: Small talk with a female bartender/staff member, warm up. Wander around and look at and acknowledge women, see who finds me attractive by doing this by thier body … | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 04:49 AM |
| 0 | Talked to a random girl for the first time! Need adviceCall out the elephant in the room: that what's happening, while noble, is not typical. This will show you're socially intelligent and put her at ease a bit. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 04:44 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with jerks?"haha, jesus your crazy bruh" Pulls her to the side * "Ok at first I was like aight this is a dude who likes to mess around and doesn't give a fuck, cool... but what the fuck is he doing? He's either disrespecting me or more likely than that, a weirdo. I don't wanna deal with it." | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Masculine behaviorAssertiveness Lack of need for validation Dominance Emotional Stability Aggressive drive toward goals Boundaries and demand for respect | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 04:47 PM |
| 2 | What, in your opinion, is the single most important element to success with women?A strong but controlled sex drive. A "don't bitch, be a man, do what it takes" life mentality A lack of need for validation from women or men. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Do alot of women struggle with eye contact?Are we talking about from afar or in the middle of conversation? Either way consider your "vibe". Relaxed, positive, and entitled will lead to more eye contact than rigid, worried, and hopeful. A golden rule in pick up is that she feels what you feel. Keep making minor adjustments to how you're doing it until you start to get longer, more tense spans of eye contact. Try adjusting how wide your eyes are, how hard or relaxed, how much you smile, how you listen etc. The way she doesn't make eye con… | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 04:36 PM |
| 2 | How to Give off More of a Sexual/lover Vibe Instead of a Friendly and Platonic VibeOh yeah true. Of course I make out while doing that just slipped my mind I guess. | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 01:51 PM |
| 5 | Do you guys have any specific examples of push/pull?So as far as I can tell, old school PUA literature has push-pull as being hot and cold with a girl, to keep her attentive. You show disinterest or disapproval in some way. I wouldn't recommend doing it like this. It feels like it originates from a really shit mindset and fear of neediness. Instead what I'd recommend is a combination of fractionation, sticking to standards, and teasing about disinterest so playfully it's obviously a joke. Fractionation is simply breaking up the sexual tension a b… | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 01:57 PM |
| 1 | I'm decent with eye contact. But anytime the other person is also making good eye contact, I break itFor me there is a turning point where the urge to break eye contact transfers from being inspired by anxiety and fear of subtle rejection... to me just wanting to look around and feeling weird. THis ussually takes about 20 seconds or so. Women can tell the difference between these two types of eye contact breaks, the difference between anxiety and just being tired of staring. Until that point, my license to start breaking is her breaking first. When I do break the first few times, I make sure it… | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Going back to university. Any tips for scoring?No by maybe I mean in doubt or can't tell. By no I mean clearly uncomfortable. | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Honesty vs. NeedinessWanting to have sex isn't by default neediness, it's basic instinct. If you tie it tight to your self esteem, if you have nothing else at the current time that will make you happy, if you think rejection would ruin you.... then yeah it translates to neediness. Find more things to fill your time and focus on them, text her what's on your mind when you get some free moments. | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 02:01 PM |
| 1 | How to make a move on this guy I like tonight?Ok so my real advice: I see a lot of women who aren't used to flirting, or are a little more self conscious than average, try to hide their natural reaction to me or whatever man they like. Women act different around men they're attracted to. Don't try to suppress or hide this, don't try to hard to be smooth and normal. If you act really girly and goofy when you're turned on, let it happen. If you become more shy and timid, let that happen. If you get a little bitchy and push his buttons, let th… | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:57 PM |
| 3 | How to make a move on this guy I like tonight?Don't feel like reading past the title. Just grab his dick. | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Going back to university. Any tips for scoring?tl;dr: Make strong first impressions. In college, Don't ask "who here doI like?", ask yourself "who here likes me?" First impressions are HUGE for women. This is a double edged sword, but that's another topic. The point is, walk into every first class strong. Stand tall, shoulders relaxed and back, confident response if anyone asks "how are you?" Make them notice you purely by how confident and assertive you look. When you'r eat a party, your first task is dividing the room into three categories… | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:47 PM |
| 4 | 19 yo male in college. I'm starting to attract girls, but usually its not the type of girls I want. Would it be bad to change to fit the demographic that I want? If not, how do I do it?My policy when I began this journey was to hold on to my morals, my biggest hobbies, my ambitions outside of women, my likes and dislikes, and my personal boundaries. Outside of that, everything is fair game. It's worked well so far so I have to recommend you do the same. Change how you walk to be more confident and have more swag, don't violate your own moral code. Change your clothing style to look cooler and attract the kind of girls you want, don't quit your passions and hobbies. Change how … | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:34 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I'm challenging myself to approach at least two girls a day for 8 weeks - Day 1Nice job. Cool of you to take the initiative to approach early on. So there's two parts to making the conversation at hand more exciting. First is by the actual content of the conversation. The second is by increasing sexual tension and masculine-feminine polarity. To make the actual content more fun and interesting, you have to be in the moment. Practice making observations about the environment as you walk around. Cold read people in your head, possibly in a humorous way. This will make sponta… | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Pictures for tinder.Don't make them all eye contact with the camera pictures. Have one or two candid. | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 01:18 PM |
| 2 | I will have to accept I'll never find anyone.When you meet them are you transitioning into flirting and attraction building? | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 04:44 PM |
| 3 | I will have to accept I'll never find anyone.Good news is you don't have to accept shit. If you want it, and you're patient, and you realize challenges along the way are just speed bumps and not walls, you can become surprisingly effective with women. So, you're not cold approaching so... what are you doing? Are you on any apps or sites... are you trying to generate warm approaches? How many women are you talking to? Tell us what you're trying and how it typically goes. | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 04:11 PM |
| 1 | How to get more matches on tinder?By how many matches you're getting lol. Try to get some good candid photos of you that make you seem healthy, active, cool, sociable, interesting. | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 02:13 PM |
| 1 | How to get more matches on tinder?The peak was probably the end of 2014 to be honest. But there's still a good amount of people on it. I mean it's tinder so the only advice is just try to get the best pics you can. | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 01:52 PM |
| 1 | What are some things that a girl can do to signal she's sexually interested in you?Sexually Interested: Pampering herself after seeing me, playing with her hair while talking to me or right after checkig me out, putting anything on or in her mouth, looking down and away when she looks away from me, caressing herself, double taking at me, acting goofier/stupider than before, more shy body language than before, touching me when they dont really know me, dancing more when they see me, improving thier posture and sticking chest out, leaning forward when it isnt needed | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 12:58 AM |
| 3 | How do you guys handle "Talkers"I deal with it by listening. You can still have attractive qualities about you subtly communicated by body language and demeanor while listening. Also interrupting her, if done playfully and right can build a little sexual tension and be funny. | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 03:20 PM |
| 1 | My biggest problem with this sub and seduction advice in general is that people have this "one size fits all" mentality.Agreed for the most part. One of the most important concepts in all this is congruence... the suggested opener or escalation strategy or whatever we give a guy, might not be congruent to his personality. | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 02:46 AM |
| 1 | How to get people to do kinky shit?There will be less in conservative areas but the one's that are will be more kinky. Part of the reason some aspects appeal to women is that it's "taboo"... in super liberal areas a lot less is seen as taboo. They're also better (more eager) in conservative areas because sexual fantasy can be like wanting food. Those surrounded by it get a craving for a snickers bar... those severely short of it hallucinate and daydream a feast. | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 09:55 PM |
| 8 | How to get people to do kinky shit?get subtly rough while kissing her, test the waters if you're into sending pics have them somewhat BDSM themed... like holding your folded belt with vigor in a shirtless pants undone pic. Simply make the comment hat you're tired or bored of vanilla (boring) meet ups and relationships. (I've even done this in my profile) get into erotic writing, mention it as a hobby, and send links if she shows any ammount of curiosity. Talk a little bit about kink psychology and culture. Misconceptions about it… | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Please help convince a 35yr old male that visiting an escort would be a great/terrible ideaDon't. Work on yourself and learn as much about sex and female sexuality as you can. Women will forgive subpar sex but they won't forgive passing up the opportunity alltogether. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Guitar players of seddit, what songs do you find are good crowd-pleasers?Under the bridge Riptide Wonderwall Hotel California In my Life Blackbird Fourfive Seconds Crash into me | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 04:40 PM |
| 5 | NoFap/NoPorn has made me needy as fuck. How do I get over these negative thoughts?Horny doesn't equate to desperate. Wanting to fuck her more than anythig else on the world in the moment does not by default make you desperate. What makes you desperate is a combination of fear of rejection, insecurity with the raw sexual desire hardwired into you, and attatching too much of of your state/happiness into the prospect of getting the girl. A puppy and a wolf both get hungry, but they carry themselves in different ways. If you're horny, you can either be a desperate puppy, or an al… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Paranoid that ex trying to use PUA/youtube techniques on me - How can I tellIf you don't like texting people lightly and strongly prefer heavy long conversation... then just don't text him... or if you still wanna talk, tell him you two should hang out sometime. The fact that this isn't obvious and instinctive makes me think you either still have feelings legit enough to act on, or that you need to work on yourself above and beyond this. And while some outlets can be sleazy... most material out there right now isn't too manipulating or sleazy. I don't know what he's rea… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 04:54 AM |
| 1 | How to be desirable (have multiple girls pursuing you)?https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4r4y79/how_to_give_off_more_of_a_sexuallover_vibe/ Long ass post I did on the subject. | /r/seduction | 12/08/16 01:11 PM |
| 1 | How to be desirable (have multiple girls pursuing you)?You've got the first step... which is realizing that this part of your life for the most part is under YOUR control. You even asking implies that sense of proactivity and that's phenomenal to have. You want to do three things simultaneously from here on out: Spend as much time around, approaching, and seducing women as you can. Make sure women are only a side project. That chasing women isn't your sole mission and life and that you are moving forward in other areas. Gradually building up key qua… | /r/seduction | 12/08/16 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Looks and leaguesHigh valued women only sleep with high value men. The thing is, a man's value is only maybe, 30-35% in his aesthetic. The rest is in his character, personality, how he carries himself through the world and around women. So what determines what league a man is in isn't just his looks, but the total package so to speak.. if he's a solid guy. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Approaching all people on a cruiseGet excited about being on vacation, let that positive vibe flow through you, if there are nerves then work with them and let that bring your energy back up. But you're on a cruise, this is the time to say "fuck it" and mentally let go. Your opens will vary a bit. Some will be non-verbal, like eyeing her up from afar to generate an IOI out of her, then approaching and complimenting something specific on/of her's if you notice some signs of interest/intriuge. Some will sound like a normal meet an… | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 07:41 PM |
| 1 | What is my next move?Appparently Im illiterate. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 02:09 PM |
| 8 | Clubbing as a bunch of guysDon't use each other to look cool, and don't make it a competition. Also don't stand around laughing and yelling loudly while avoiding women, the reason you came. Be yourselves, opt for lone wolfing, don't interrupt each other's sets that are clearly going well (even if she has a friend), and be there for your buddy if he requests you wing with him. Have fun. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Which does humor increase more of: value or comfort?Comfort a bit more so. But there's value in it too. It's a sign of very valuable character qualities to be able to amuse yourself. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:41 AM |
| 2 | About to head to college. Are there any tips or tricks for campus?The game you'll be doing is going to be based around: Putting Yourself Out There IOI's Warm Approaching Assumptive but Respectful Attitude Putting Yourself Out There: Try to make it so that sleeping, studying, and fucking are the only things you ever do in your room. Keep academics a priority but check out parties, check out casual clubs and activities that are going on around campus. Girls are not going to just show up where you are. IOI's: Indicators of interest. Instead of being lost in your … | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:40 AM |
| 2 | i'm great at opening terrible at closingYou mean getting her to come home? Escalating in the bedroom? LMR? Having Sex?...All the above? | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:22 AM |
| 0 | What is my next move?I'd say communicate via text that "I find you physically attractive, the fact that I find you physically attractive is a big part of my motivation for suggesting meeting up soon...Also we should meet up soon." Don't be that blunt and boring about it... but that should come across via your texts. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:17 AM |
| 10 | Overthinking: It's What's Holding You Back.When you walk up to a woman. You shouldn't even be thinking what to say. | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Is lots of rejection normal?You can investigate and do research on: What elements make a good approach typically? What are some common mistakes upon approach? What are some traits women find attractive that can be shown right away on approach? What are some traits that repel women that can be shown right away on approach? | /r/seduction | 03/08/16 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Is lots of rejection normal?Yes, in the beginning lot's of rejection is normal. Rejection is normal in general actually. If you don't get laid in the first 100 opens... that's perfectly fine. Just make sure you're asking questions and considering what you could do better along the way. (Without over dissecting and pulling your hair out of course. A lot of rejection has nothing to do with you.) | /r/seduction | 03/08/16 04:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I change a dynamic that's already been established?Stupid shit like... bumping into her and acting like it was her ("who do you think you are?") | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Girl I like is flirty and shows signs of interest despite having a Boyfriend, what should I do?Unless your job is totally disposable, like finding another one is nothing and you don't NEED every dime you currently get from it... don't go for girls from work. If you want, get into a chat, metaphorically wear your attraction on your sleeve during it (eye contact, smile, body language, close to her.)... then if talking is going well just randomly throw out a casual suggestion to go grab coffee or something because "we should talk more". Be really cautious with this though. | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 07:00 AM |
| 1 | At a club/rave how would or should i ask a girl to dance with me?This, as much as we can break everything down and strategize... simple still works. | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 06:51 AM |
| 3 | At a club/rave how would or should i ask a girl to dance with me?Do your own thing and have a good time, dance on your own. Check girls out and make eye contact with girls to ping for IOI's around you. Acknowledge girls that give IOI's with a smile or wink or head nod or whatever you feel like Start chatting by delivering an observational comment (on the environment or on her dancing or whatever, anything humorous is good), or direct opener, still kind of moving a little to the music while you say it. Take her hand and start to dance during the moment the con… | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 06:45 AM |
| 3 | What are your go-to ice breakers while approaching women?Your female friend, while i'm sure nice.. has no clue what she's talking about. It's all about your vibe. If you have the right emotional state, strong eye contact, great body language, positivity and masculinity flowing through you... anything can "work". | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 12:57 AM |
| 1 | what are those thing to avoid when you texting a girl and not seem be too "needy" or despered (beside dickpic)?I'd say the main thing is don't panic when she doesn't respond right away or respond exactly as you had hoped. You're ok with her texting back whenever she wants, you don't care how she responds. Those two mindsets should be enough to not seem needy over text. And dick pics aren't always needy or desperate... They just have to be good and presented with the right timing and context. | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 12:52 AM |
| 1 | A woman told me I "give off gay vibes sometimes". What to do?Bruh your identity has to be like an impenatrable castle or fort. Your sexulaity, or other parts of your identity aren't in question just because someone else questions them. If you're straight, you're straight.. don't be fazed by challenges when you know you're right. ... Embrace sexuality, competition, agression, toughness. Perhaps join a recreational sport leauge, train hard and tell yourself you want to win and no one is gonna fuck with you. Challenge your mental discipline. Do shit that req… | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 10:28 PM |
| 11 | Advice for a first time nightclub goer?Do what you can before hand to: Boost testosterone/sex drive Relax/reduce anxiety Uplift your mood Develop your own little routine to do this. I like to workout a few hours ahead of time, have a protein smoothie, meditate in the shower to relax, then take a nap, then bump uplifting music I really like as I get ready to go. You figure out what all works for you. ... Obviously, look the best that you can. More so than well put together, or cool, go for sexy. Peacock a little. Not the old school PU… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Just saying hi apparently works.. who knew?Yeah as long as it's not insane, you can say almost anything (not that anything is optimal) It's all about the little non verbal signals you give off via your demeanor, attitude, body language, speaking tone and diction, etc. | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Cold approached a HB10Wait... not easier to pick up lol. Sticking you dick in them isn't easier in my experience just chatting. | /r/seduction | 22/07/16 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Cold approached a HB10Yeah approaching really hot girls is almost always pleasant. Couple Russians ( not all) have been acceptions but other than that theure way nicer than the average people. Its probably because bitchiness is a combination of low social skill and insecurity. | /r/seduction | 19/07/16 01:37 AM |
| 2 | How did you perfect your technique?You don't want to necessarily compare yourself to others with seduction. It can lead to over analyzing yourself, and getting down on yourself when too harshly during a small draught (like not closing on 10 consecutive approaches). I'm the same age as you when I started going out in cold approaching during the day the week I turned 18. I know you might want a more in-depth but, the reality is I got better just by practicing. I got better by telling myself to go out and Approach at least three wom… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 04:43 PM |
| 25 | Approaching girls in public?"General society doesn't like you having this entitled mindset, even when it doesn't affect them whatsoever. However, take a look at general society. In general, it's depressed, it's never quite got its shit together, it isn't too bright. Think about that and realize it's silly for general society to try to cast judgement on you for how you chase the women you want. You clearly should be indifferent to general societies opinions." You are ahead of 95% of men just by approaching. They aren't goin… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to get little to no success with day game for along time?Yes... thats completely normal. Day game is not easy. It takes a while before you aren't fazed and your identitiy is congruent with what you're doing out there. Give it a few months and hit around 100 approaches. Ask yourself what you could do better once or twice a week. | /r/seduction | 07/07/16 02:08 PM |
| 9 | How to Give off More of a Sexual/lover Vibe Instead of a Friendly and Platonic Vibeu/Sparkade u/chrizar1971 u/DudeOverdosed u/AdventureIsHere | /r/seduction | 04/07/16 01:51 AM |
| 13 | How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?I haven't been typing it this whole time lol I've got other things to take care of. But it will probably be long enough to be a post instead of a comment reply. | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 10:35 PM |
| 7 | How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?I have ADHD too, but as a straight man, my instinctive attraction for women is powerful. I can really get in the moment, and slow my world down, when I just look her in the eyes, appreciate her beauty, and allow myself to just follow my heart (and balls). Without putting her on a pedestal, and while retaining a masculine vibe... let yourself be a little mesmerized. | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Any tips/videos/threads on how to pick up girls when on the dancefloor?Dance with them for a few, escalate a bit, then take them off the floor to chat and build comfort and get to know them a bit. Then go back to the floor and escalate some more. | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 07:29 PM |
| 81 | How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?This is a favorite subject of mine, I'll write a bit about it in a few. edit: this is gonna be longer than I thought edit2: been busy with other things... but with all these upvotes and asking me about it I feel pressure to actually make it good lol. Before I sleep tonight I'll post something I promise. edit 3: my girlfriend straight up passed out, I met her and her friends in the E.R. I almost went "sorry can't make it, seddit needs me plz dnt die luv u"... but I decided against it. The reason … | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 06:39 PM |
| 2 | How to properly handle the "how old are you?" questionI mean, asking your age isn't a test of any kind, but the responses and follow up questions almost always are. I prefer to just, say how old I am. Then if there's shit test like follow up, deal with that with the "amuse yourself/brush it off without being a dick about it" vibe. | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 06:32 PM |
| -1 | Im gunna try at trying today.Well going into it right away is good in many situations. It shows that you have some balls and you're a real man. Real men hit on and fuck women. But there are certain situations where going very indirect and easing into it will serve you better. Most of these situations involve working. Her working, you working, or you two working together. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Im gunna try at trying today.Be careful about how you do this. Don't dive right into seducing. Keep great eye contact, but it extremely casual sounding. Work your way into it gradually. Make chatting to each other feel like a comfortable and normal thing before you think about hitting on her. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 02:44 PM |
| 1 | In the day is it better to be indirect?Depends on the situation. If she's just walking down the street direct is a lot better. If she's restocking shelves in the book store she works in, you gotta find an indirect opener to smoothly get into a nice chat. When going direct outside of a bar or club, I find it can help to call out the elephant in the room. Not in an overly apologetic way. More, "it doesn't ussually happen I know but, guys gotta take a chance when he has it right?". | /r/seduction | 15/06/16 03:33 AM |
| 0 | Virginity wielded as a baton to beat my psycheThey sound weird and assholeish so whatever. I know it's much easier for me to type that than for you to think it, but still. You should feel like "the grownup" of this situation. Look, your sex life and skills with women are lacking, I mean you're a virgin. A lack of satisfaction is beyond understandable, but shame has no place here. This virginity doesn't make you who you are. Who you are is, your values (what you know as right and wrong), your likes, interests and dislikes, unique experiences… | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Are most of us pretending to get to where we want to be?I think it is natural to dislike rejection in a sense, but like you said, it's how you handle it. Is it you not being good enough as a man and therefor a thing that ruins your day... or does it just mean one girl out of a million isn't feeling you and is only mildly disappointing at the worst? Obviously everyones goal should be to swing themselves toward the latter mindset. And working on your insecurities does NOT mean ignoring them. To me it means getting the right attitude about them before g… | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Is there any verbal kino guide?A verbal escalation ladder: Statement about both sexually – I can see the two of us on a beach naked just going at it in the sand. Question about both sexually – Oh man, can you imagine what would happen if the two of us were left alone together? Statement about both personally – I can tell we’re two of a kind, it’s really rare. Question about both personally – Why does it feel like we know each other so well? Statement about her sexually – You have the sexiest grin Question about her sexually –… | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Places to go meet girls during day time as a 20 year old male?Malls, downtown, popular parks, by colleges, beaches. | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Would you make an effort travelling for potential sex?I mean, it's up to you... If you have nothing going on, go. If you have stuff to work on or plans with friends or whatever, don't. | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 01:29 PM |
| 1 | How to turn sexual jokes into women thinking in sex with you?Well there's nothing inherently wrong about having some humor injected into sexual talk and vibes. It kind of, balances things out to get the right level of tension for a date. | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Are most of us pretending to get to where we want to be?I wouldn't necessarily say "full of", but there are plenty of men in this sub, and outside of it who are pretending to be someone who they aren't. It's out of not being comfortable in your own skin, and wanting to change. There's nothing wrong with wanting to change oneself, in order have a healthier social and sex life. When problems start to arise is when that journey/transformation is rushed and faked. You can't just play a character of "alpha male" or "social freebird Casanova", you have to … | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 01:14 PM |
| 1 | How to keep a conversation interesting?On the street and in clubs you have to get your mood up and in the right place on a dime... when you're texting you don't have to, you can put the phone down and take a few hours or a day, wait until you're in a great mood, then text back. Utilize this. Make use of "glimpses into my world" texts. Imagine taking a pic you would post to instagram, like your drink with somethign nice like a beach or skyline or park in the background, with a caption like "life is damn good" or whatever. These texts … | /r/seduction | 19/05/16 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Is Statement of Intent the same as Statement of Interest?I think so. The only difference I could see arise is later on in your interactions "statement of intent" could mean the type of relationship you tend to have with her. But if it was in the context of during an approach, they sound about the same. | /r/seduction | 19/05/16 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Had a friend advise me to go to this sub for advice. Im socially awkward, and i tried asking a girl to dinner and it was horrifying and i got rejected. I need some help.If I was in your position, I would do a few things: As everyone else here is saying, get help for your depression and anxiety. This is priority number one. Hit the gym and get into the best shape of your life. Seek out a better understanding of women. Why they do what they do, what is attractive and unattractive to them and why. That would be it for the first month. (This journey isn't one for the impatient.) | /r/seduction | 19/05/16 01:22 PM |
| 0 | Noticing a Pattern: Girls Don't Respond Back After Hooking Up. What Am I Doing Wrong?Well they have to be open to being a fuck buddy it in general. This is, outside of your control and just about where they're at in life at the moment. Not everyone who will have a ONS with you will want to be your FWB. Then there's a matter of fucking them well. There are numerous recourses on this like u/Borjatone 's comment but it really boils down to practice makes perfect. | /r/seduction | 15/05/16 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Met girl in club. Don't know what to say on textThis. If you have a good interaction you can always just say "hey it's ___" but, it's probably more optimal to bring up something you two talked about, and more optimal to have some humor. | /r/seduction | 15/05/16 01:29 PM |
| 1 | I'm new to flirting need adviceFocus on one skill/concept/area at a time. So for example, do 10 approaches where your main focus is eye contact. Then do 10 where the main focus is touching her off the bat, then 10 where you're focussed on loosening up and being playful, and so on. This is the best way to build up your skill in my experience. | /r/seduction | 12/05/16 04:02 PM |
| 1 | [Day Game] Social Anxiety- Will this approach work?It takes balls to do it. And being courageous is a good quality. Maybe with older women it would feel more natural to say "I thought you looked really nice" rather than "cute"...but the general principle will still work. | /r/seduction | 10/04/16 02:07 PM |
| 1 | [Day Game] Social Anxiety- Will this approach work?Telling a girl she's cute is perfectly acceptable and shows some good qualities. | /r/seduction | 10/04/16 01:12 AM |
| 2 | I urgently need help regarding performance anxietyI'm young and I get bad performance anxiety as well. Here's some ideas that have helped me: Don't jack off until you see her again Don't watch any porn Do kegel exercises Read erotica and material that reminds you how much women love and think about sex Go to a strip club Lift, heavy and compound Do a fighting sport for cardio Avoid soda and junk and fast food Do yoga Get a massage Get 7 hours of sleep a night | /r/seduction | 09/04/16 03:13 PM |
| 1 | [Day Game] Social Anxiety- Will this approach work?Basically anything (that isn't super misogynistic, genuinely self effacing, or a batshit crazy conspiracy theory) can work an opener. As long as you have the right vibe and body language to go with it. What you want to do is an indirect-direct opener, and those can and will work. Just make sure that you are "admitting" what you just did as you transition to being more direct. It just shows social intelligence when you do. | /r/seduction | 09/04/16 03:01 PM |
| 9 | In your experience, what behaviors separate a guy women want to fuck/date from a guy they just want to be friends with?Communicating assertively Having standards and boundaries for her behavior Does not drop his own wants and needs solely for a shot at pussy Zero fear of escalating, feels entitled and assumptive about it Allows himself to become subtly horny when he's talking to a hot woman, instead of suppressing it. Takes the lead in he seduction process and in bed. | /r/seduction | 09/04/16 02:55 PM |
| 3 | Did she signal interest?Unless you're holding back a lot of details then this was simply politeness. | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Plea for Help. I'm not sure I can be helped.I mean you can't hit the gym and sit in therapy all day so, why not. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 10:12 PM |
| 1 | What non-boring questions do you ask on a first date?They lead easily to good topics is the point of them. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Plea for Help. I'm not sure I can be helped.I think with a year or so of work you can see some improvement with women. It does not ever have to be douchebags and tricking, it can be real. You can get better with women, but retain your values, likes and dislikes that make you you. First three goals should be this: Lose weight. Learn more about women and why they chose who they chose. Seek therapy and/or self help material to help Work on those with discipline for about 6 weeks, then start the first steps of learning "game". | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Let's Talk About CompartmentalizationInteresting thoughts OP. I think for many people what happens is, expiriences earlier in life make behaving like the "first guy" seem like a bad idea. Being the cassanova and wearing your attraction and passion on your sleeve is what we were born to do, it's natural instinct. And so many of us do it with our first few interests. Then of course something goes wrong and we lose those girls. We naturally recognize that the hurt is directly proportionate to the passion. We then read material saying … | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Offbeat sense of humour leads to girls constantly asking if I'm high."I just think a lot and thought it was funny." Is what I've said to that before.... But I think you've learned here that it isn't a big deal in the end. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Where to find girls outside of bars and partiesmost of the girls just aren't simply looking for a relationship. Either your sample size is way too small, or your approaches aren't as good as you think. Just do daygame anywhere. Screen out girls by not following up on the ones that are less well spoken, and by talking about some of the specific interests and hobbies that are "smart?" ..."what was the last good book you read?" for example. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 01:25 PM |
| 3 | Insecure over social circleA few friends in a new city is pretty good. Even if you don't have a few friends, it's a new city, who gives a shit. Just tell her it's a new city. The phenomenon of her not liking you because of this will never happen, now get out of your head and go do some approaches. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 01:18 PM |
| 2 | "I'm not one of those girls"In my mind there are a few possibilities whenever this happens: You have not (have never) turned her on quite enough. She does not see you as "one of those guy's" (a sexual threat/ gy who get's laid) She simply needs more time and comfort. As other redditors before me here have said... some context would help to understand. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Hitting A BarrierBy not going as far as possible, letting that tension build but only kissing a little... then making up some excuse to chill at my place. (too loud, don't like this setting, how have you not seen some movie, drinks at home are free, etc). | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Any Asian guys on r/seduction have success with White girls?Not Asian... let me say this though: The number of girls that will just not give you a legit shot because of race will be noticeable over time ... but that number will will absolutely pale in comparison to the number of girls that don't give you a shot for other factors you can actually control. So focus on the factors you can control. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Girl I Hooked Up With Describes What "Alpha" is like:I've said a few times that, it is silly to me. But terms are convenient. I think it's a cool sounding term for determining if someone has strength and other desirable traits... where it becomes dumb is when it's used as a hierarchy sort of thing. Like men trying to one up each other silliness. | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 12:23 AM |
| 0 | Girl I Hooked Up With Describes What "Alpha" is like:... Is this satire? | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 09:18 PM |
| 76 | What non-boring questions do you ask on a first date?Ok Cupid's blog did a fairly interesting post on this Some include: Do you like scary movies? DO you like dancing? Have you ever been to another country by yourself? Wouldn't it be fun to just leave things behind and live on the go? Do you like watching sports at all? Do you have any/like pets? Do you go to any concerts? What kind of music do you like? | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 07:14 PM |
| -5 | Girl I Hooked Up With Describes What "Alpha" is like:I use alpha as a catch all term for qualities that women admire. I even said it's kind of silly in the end. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 05:33 PM |
| -7 | Girl I Hooked Up With Describes What "Alpha" is like:This wasn't asking her for advice. This was a discussion AFTER I fucked her. edit: was never seeking validation. Was just genuinely curious and interested... You're reading into a lot of this wrong dude. The points you're making aren't really wrong but, they don't apply to me. edit: she was in fact being introspective and not in fact trying to stroke my ego. Many girls would do the latter I'm well aware, but she's smart introspective and honest, I trust her claims. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 05:23 PM |
| 4 | Girl I Hooked Up With Describes What "Alpha" is like:THere's, obviously a little more to it than that... a lot actually | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Why did I get flaked on and how should I proceed?You're either desperate or you aren't. Yeah I might chat a little about non-sexual things then suggest a more casual meetup. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 02:53 AM |
| 1 | If your success with women doesn't determine your self-worth then what the hell does?How close I stick to the values I believe are honorable. (source: myself) | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Why did I get flaked on and how should I proceed?No you still want to lead things. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Quick Question on this FR I had last night.It's whatever just move on. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 01:28 AM |
| 97 | 4 ways you can be better at sex right away...This right here is quality advice that all less experienced guys should know if they want to keep fuck buddies for longer than one time. Shout out to you for posting it and articulating it well. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Quick Question on this FR I had last night.Yeah, maybe if it was the connection of a lifetime it would be cool but, "receptive to me" isn't enough to merit chasing someone out of a club. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Why did I get flaked on and how should I proceed?Once you get that far, you sometimes have to drop the option of a planned hotel straight away, and just suggest you go grab a drink or coffee to meet. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Small successFor money and career success, there's just a threshold of "stable and secure" you have to cross. Once you're stable, you get no extra points with women for going beyond that. But you do get extra points for striving beyond that. I just think that distinction is important to understand. To know that a well paying job in and of itself isn't attractive, the qualities it requires and signals are. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Why did I get flaked on and how should I proceed?How far did the dirty talking go? Complimenting her ass or like, straight up telling her what you're going to do in detail while she cums? | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 04:56 AM |
| 1 | How texting CAN be your biggest tool, and how to start approaching it differentlyYeah I'll join. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Avoiding the creep factor as a 30y/o grad studentProvided a person has basic social sense...creepiness is a self fulfilling prophecy sort of thing. If you really think it could be creepy ... you are going to have the wrong vibe out of insecurity, and look creepy. If you think it's perfectly natural for a man to like young women, and the guys that manage to do so are the real bad asses of the world... you're going to have a right vibe and not be creepy. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 04:52 AM |
| 1 | How to inspire passion/lust?You like women? lol. Also I've done some erotic writing so I'm decent at getting sexual tone and emotion across. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Go out alone? NYC-ClubbingYeah I go out alone about 2/3 of the time. It feels better to be a lone wolf in nightclubs. The question of where my friends are does come up. I don't lie about it or skirt around it. It's not that big of a deal. | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 03:47 PM |
| 1 | When should I tell the girl how attractive she is?Well you are texting her or facebook messaging her right? That's how you were going to suggest hanging out? | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 04:49 AM |
| 1 | When should I tell the girl how attractive she is?You might want to try some minimal text DHVing... then confessing that a large part of wanting to hang out is her being cute. | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 03:57 AM |
| 6 | How to inspire passion/lust?Check her out how you really want to pre approach. Take her in like the sexual creature she is. Watch her ass ass move as she walks. Imagine whatever your mind naturally starts to imagine. Enjoy it like a man should. Let it make you feel masculine and dominant. Let this feeling make more powerful, sexy body language feel more natural than weak body language. Hold on to that big, dominant, powerful, masculine feeling throughout your body when you approach... desiring a woman this way is the best … | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 03:48 AM |
| 3 | When I ask about her interests and passions, she asks "why?"Do you REALLY want to know all that in the moment? When you're standing a little closer than friends would, and you look into those eyes, look her up and down, take her in, and look into her eyes again ... do you REALLY think: "I want to know what her interests and passions are, and I want to know them now!" Or is it "this is a good technique to attract her." ? | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 03:23 AM |
| 1 | When should I tell the girl how attractive she is?Is there any tension at all? Or is it just a completely platonic vibe so far? | /r/seduction | 02/04/16 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Kinda need your helpWell what's the worst case scenario if you approach a woman? Answering this can help one get toward the root of their own unique AA. | /r/seduction | 01/04/16 01:42 PM |
| 2 | Can't go beyond "good morning, how are you?"Tell her what's going on and why you're there. Give her a specific compliment. Have any conversation, even if it's a seemingly boring one as far as subject matter and flow. Not optimal but, If all you an do is boring small talk, then go with that... with great eye contact and a great vibe of course. Walk with each other if you really get stuck. It takes pressure off of both of you. (although you lose consistent eye contact when you do this. | /r/seduction | 01/04/16 01:41 PM |
| 1 | In high school and need some advice [M 17]Do you know what IOIs are? | /r/seduction | 01/04/16 05:18 AM |
| 11 | (weird request) need help thinking of a sexy dreamI wouldn't talk on the phone if I wasn't 100% confident. You don't want the wrong inflection in your voice when you're trying to make a girl wet. You have a dick and a heterosexual brain. You think of a sexual dream that you like. What do you want to do to her because of your primal instinct? Don't censor your own mind. For the most part it's better to lean toward aggressive and dominant, a pound her into submission sort of vibe (this won't work unless in real life you come off like a guy who is… | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Is this what you call a flaker?Open more sets and virtually forget about her. I call it a flake. | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 04:00 AM |
| 2 | I seem to be getting stumped on qualifying women.Then just ask her what she's into man. | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:59 AM |
| 2 | Building vs. Breaking Rapport: What Do You Think?To me it comes down to having the ability to be on either end of the spectrum. To have the internal referencing, sense of entitlement, and dominance of the one side.... AND the emotional intelligence, desire to protect of the other side. Once you've got those characteristics of both sides, and therefor the ability to be on both sides... it's a matter of when to have which one and how much. That's simply following the emotional truth of the moment. Acting how you really feel on a moments by momen… | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:58 AM |
| 1 | A Girl I Like Keeps Talking About Her Ex: What Should I Do?Tell her politely but firmly that you've heard these things before. | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you keep a conversation interesting?Listen more, think less, don't try to hard to impress. | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Ever heard about Fractionation?It's not a mind control technique. It's just taking breaks from the relishing in and advancing of sexual tension...because to never take a break from it would be uncalibarated and make her nervous no matter how attractive you are to her. I get really close and eye fuck girls in clubs. But if the mood lightens up I make it less intense naturally. I also occasionally look around as people naturally do. Thats a little natural fractionation. A complete lack of fractionation would be me keeping it de… | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:45 AM |
| 18 | Things to do before you go out.Clean the place. Stretch for good posture and ease of relaxing. Don't jack off or watch porn, you want the sight of an ass to excite you. Meditate if you're the type to. Shower Put on a killer outfit. Jump around to pumped up music while shaking arms out, like a fighter in his locker room before a fight. | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:42 AM |
| 2 | I seem to be getting stumped on qualifying women.Just say whats on your mind. Don't overthink things. What do you mean get her to meet your standards? | /r/seduction | 31/03/16 03:39 AM |
| 1 | :3I respectfully disagree but to each his own. | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you get girls to text you first?By making them want to...by being the best version of yourself, and the kind of man they want. | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 09:43 PM |
| 34 | When setting up the date should one call or text?One should do whatever they feel like doing. | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 04:31 PM |
| 1 | How do I get laid at 19?Online dating apps and sites... and daygame. | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Always a good idea to get the number?This happens when you're a beginner. Her being friendly+ you being sexually attracted to her does not equal her being sexually attracted to you. Keep going at it, show interest to screen out girls who aren't interested in you, and chat a tiny bit after the number to solidify it a little. It gets better. | /r/seduction | 25/03/16 05:28 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys ask a girl to makeout in the back of her car?Build some tension by her car>Kiss her>Pin her against her car while kissing her... move her from in front of the backdoor if she's in the way>>>> get in>>> take her by the hand and lead/pull her in behind you. | /r/seduction | 25/03/16 05:23 PM |
| 1 | I talk to bunch of girls but seem to never get a dateYeah, from my experience with women you're better off having a 100% genuine 7/10 confidence in front of her, than you are having a less genuine 10/10 confidence with her. Think about what you want more. Do you simply want women to respond positvely to behavior you put on.... or do you want women to want to fuck and date you, because you're you. Obviously the second one is where we want to be. Think about how appealing that sounds, and let that inspire you to be yourself as much as possible in th… | /r/seduction | 25/03/16 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Any tips for on starting a conversation with a strangersAre you too anxious, do you not know what to say, what is it? | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 04:36 PM |
| 0 | Any tips for on starting a conversation with a strangersWhich strangers, where, day or night, how many, trying to smash or not? | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 03:57 PM |
| 4 | How to Best Relay Job and StatusDon't be a showoff. Talk about it when careers comes up as a point of conversation, but don't brag about it in an attempt to gain validation. If a woman is asking you questions, in a sincere tone, after your interest/intent has been shown (key)... that's a major IOI. So the fact that she even asks what you do (like I said, after your interest/intent is known to her), she's interested in you for reasons other than what you do. | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 03:52 PM |
| 0 | I talk to bunch of girls but seem to never get a dateYour logic within this post assumes women evaluate men as such: Is he funny, but not too funny? Is he one of my acceptable races? ... lol They don't work like that. There are a multitude of qualities women judge men on. Physical qualities like: Body composition and physique Height Face and grooming Fashion That's pretty much in order of importance. These qualities do two things. 1. Give her a visual thrill ... 2. They signal that you have certain personality traits (you need self esteem to want … | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 05:39 AM |
| 3 | HUGE Progress Being Made, Need Advice On One Thing, HoweverAuthenticity over everything. Don't try to appear more rough around the edges overnight. Adopt habits and mindsets that make you a little rougher around the edges. | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 05:25 AM |
| 2 | I know how to improve my looks, but how do I improve my personality?Go out as much as possible, hang out with friends as much as possible... simply to improve social skills. Try new things, and go new places...get outside your comfort zone... learn more about yourself and gain new stories. Figure out what negative beliefs about yourself that you have. Write rational counter statements to them. Repeat these to yourself daily. | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Any Asian guys or any guy want to give me tips on how to pickup/Get white girlsI'm not Asian but I have dated both Asian and white women. I think Asian girls are unique in that they respond to dominance less well than other ethnic groups. Asian women will most of the time get a little too intimidated by a man being assertive and direct, especially if you're a bigger guy. White women on the other hand love a guy being assertive and dominant. So start there, with being more assertive: strive to adopt these characteristics when you communicate with others Burn into your head … | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Keep masturbating to thoughts of ex cuckolding me. (Serious)yeah | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Does it work?If you have: A desire to improve yourself An open mind The ability to be brutally honest with yourself about yourself A sense of optimism Then yes, it "works". | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Keep masturbating to thoughts of ex cuckolding me. (Serious)would you like it more if it was genuine, or more if it was a role-play you two had set up? | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Practicing game at mall?You do what you wanna do man. At 15 you can find a gf in your highschool. But doing a few approaches should help your confidence and social skills a little. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Who fucks supermodels?Your way of thinking about these things is going to hold you back. Supermodels are just women, like the rest of them. They look for and love the same qualities the girl next door does. the only difference is that the supermodel has more to pick from, can set her standards higher, and "demand" more of those same qualities. They want a man who's confident, real, not a pushover, has emotional intelligence, not shy of sexual tension and can please her, has mental toughness and drive. So I guess "att… | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Keep masturbating to thoughts of ex cuckolding me. (Serious)Well if you wanna be more dominant, stop being insecure and uncomfortable about your sexual desires. You can have femdom fetishes and still be an assertive, alpha, dominant man that women take seriously. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Thanks, Seddit. [27M Virginity Close]With a combination of desire to succeed, brutal honesty with self, and persistent optimism... anyone can improve. Congrats man. Hope the good times keep rolling in for you, and I know you'll inspire many others here. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Is building sexual tension through text a better idea, or save it for in person?Sometimes explicit sexting can be great, and supercharge chemistry before the first date even starts. But for this, and for the vast majority of the time, just hold back and chill. Wait until the right moments in real life. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 12:51 AM |
| 2 | [FR] I am patheticTake a deep breath, you'll be alright. I think you'd benefit from working your way up a virtual ladder when approaching. Start with giving a head nod/ "hey" to a stranger. Then ask someone for the time or directions to somewhere. Then ask a female store employee for help/recommendations. Then compliment a woman telling her some thing like , 'your boots are really cool' or whatever. Then go up to one and hit on her. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you interpret a girl accepting kino?She wants to fuck. Not much else to say really. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Tips on Choosing Who to Take Advice From:I didn't really mean it as a negative. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Hit Rock Bottom and am looking to get serious with gameThere are a few factors to look at when deciding if you want to read a persons advice or look into their products: Do they actually like women? This is by far the most important element to me, and it's the one thing that all PUA's who are respected have in common. The shit ones will be complaining about female behavior and feminism. The good ones will have lives, and enjoy female company. Is there evidence of them being good? Look primarily for (not obviously staged) video evidence. Also, testim… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Common Shit test: Is that a line you use on all the girls?It either means: You sound rehearsed The identity your throwing out there doesn't match what she detects is your real identity. So first consider if you really do say it to a lot of girls. If the answer is yes... you need to get into the moment, and be more spontaneous, make each approach a somewhat special occasion. This can be done by: Getting more specific with compliments Making cold reads about her or what she's up to. Taking a deep breath and blanking your mind before approaching instead o… | /r/seduction | 19/02/16 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Life in Order but no Sexual DrivePeople are saying weights for a specific reason.. it boosts testosterone more. If I was you I would do full body compound weightlifting heavy in the off season. Then the same lifts but with lighter weight in season occasionally, just to keep muscular endurance and coordination up. | /r/seduction | 19/02/16 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Life in Order but no Sexual DriveJust a simple checklist: Well rested, healthy diet, good exercise regimen (with heavy weights), not too much jacking off and porn, spending time around women. | /r/seduction | 19/02/16 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Tinder bio: DNM + BDSM = ?This feels kind of inauthentic, and not very dominant. Light domination doesn't need to be hinted at. All girls are going to enjoy it. It's when it starts to get really intense that you have to start screening. | /r/seduction | 02/02/16 08:37 PM |
| 2 | On a scale from 1-10?I don't think anyone knows. You look like you might be kind of cute but it's hidden under a bad kept bad hair choice, and a stare that's 0% seductive. Go to a hair dresser, talk to her about changing your look, and be open to trying MUCH shorter lengths. Looking into a camera with a serious face is incredibly hard to do. 90% of men, and you... need to smile whenever you make eye contact with a camera. | /r/seduction | 02/02/16 08:26 PM |
| 24 | How do you feel about girls who "only like black guys" or a specific race?I'm not going to be everyones type. That's completely fair. I barely think anything of it. Let me also point out that responses along these lines happen a lot less now that I'm more secure in my identity, they happen less now that I have less nerves around women, and they happen less as my body fat percentage goes down. There are going to be girls that just don't like my type, that's cool, but a lot of them are just bullshitting to try and reject in what they view as a nicer way. It's whatever. | /r/seduction | 01/02/16 02:38 PM |
| 6 | How to get over approach anxiety?Approach a lot. There are so many tips for getting over this but in the end the number one approach anxiety beater is experience. Take a deep slow breath to blank your mind, almost like quick meditation. Slow breathing helps one to feel calm, I think that's obvious. Correct your body language. How we move and position ourselves has an effect on how we feel. Stand tall and powerfully and you'll feel like a more assertive individual. check her out and take in what you find sexy about her. This gen… | /r/seduction | 24/01/16 05:27 PM |
| 2 | UPDATE : Few hours ago I lost my virginity (M/16)oh alright lol. Congrats. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 08:27 PM |
| 4 | UPDATE : Few hours ago I lost my virginity (M/16)I had 2 condoms Not sure what you mean but if you mean at the same time, that's generally not recommended. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 07:43 PM |
| 10 | How do you show strong intent without telling a girl she is hot?I notice zero difference in results between avoiding physical compliments and including them. I don't see it as cards being handed away, it's just me speaking my mind. But the answer to your question is eye contact and proximity. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 07:39 PM |
| 1 | I have approached women for 4 years, for several hours each dayYou're missing some key information. IDK what it is, but you are. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 01:35 AM |
| 12 | What are fun ways to continue conversation with a girl?Go out just to people watch. When you see someone, characterize them and/or make up some mythology around them. "He looks like a 70s news anchor, about to go meet up with Ron Burgundy at the studio." , "she's the nerdy girl in a shitty comedy who takes her glasses off to reveal she's hot". Just have fun with it and don't take it too seriously. This will train you to get in the moment, to cold read, and to self amuse. So that when the time comes, your words can flow more freely. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Having sex at 16?I lost it a month before I turned 17... in hindsight, could have waited. If you do it educate yourself. Use protection and understand risks. It feels better psychologically than physically the first time in all honesty. So you're not missing anything that incredible so far. | /r/seduction | 11/01/16 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Kino Never has to be ComplicatedNot really necessary. Also that would be very transparent. | /r/seduction | 11/01/16 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Kino Never has to be ComplicatedI make it look natural by doing it with conviction, without hesitance, all while maintaining an easygoing/cool demeanor. And that all comes from my mindset. I'm a guy who isn't afraid of showing interest. When guy's are afraid of showing interest, or think some stupid bullshit like you can't do it too early, it causes them to hesitate or change demeanor.To me interest is already shown... she already knows I'm into her, hence me being there. I'm also a guy that escalates on compliance rather than… | /r/seduction | 11/01/16 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Best way to accept a compliment?How do you want to accept the compliment? | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Does the use of kino change depending if your aim is a long or short term relationship?Not really. If you want a LTR I would recommend capping it at kissing on the first date (don't go to her more intimate areas). But up until that point of intimacy, the early stages can and should look the same kino wise. | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Is facial hair good for cold approach? (other style questions)Facial hair is a matter of your face shape, and how fully it comes in. If it comes in "patchy", or if it gives your face less masculine shape... don't grow out facial hair. Just gotta see what looks good on you, then maintain whatever that is. Diamond earrings, beards, these things your getting at... they aren't gonna make a guy less creepy... they're just gonna create a slight (and I mean slight) difference in how cool she thinks you are. The kind of man she assumes you are: one who get's laid … | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 02:30 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Good Times with a Kinky, Tatted up, Dyed Red Hair Cutieno | /r/seduction | 07/01/16 12:31 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Good Times with a Kinky, Tatted up, Dyed Red Hair CutieYeah you can only get away with that Bio if you are genuinely into it, otherwise you won't be taken seriously. But the text game explanations can work for anyone. | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 09:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Good Times with a Kinky, Tatted up, Dyed Red Hair CutieConsidering I'm setting out to write only for lays... I hope I post more too ;) | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 09:19 PM |
| 2 | What do you smell like/suggest others smell like?Aqua Di Gio Versace Eros Usher 1 Million Polo Red Vera Wang If you're in the US, visit Marshalls or TJ Maxx once a week until one of those appears on the shelf. | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 01:12 PM |
| 1 | What do you smell like/suggest others smell like?Cosign sandal wood shaving stuff. | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 01:11 PM |
| 2 | How to keep attraction from fading via text?I'll make a guide on it by the end of the week. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:22 PM |
| 1 | (not a troll thread) anytime i've asked a girl to tell me my facial flaws they block meMasculinity is about behavior. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Do you approach while you're hanging out with friends? How?"excuse me, guy's I'll be back in a minute.. don't stare at me." | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:52 AM |
| 1 | I got denied today, and for the first time...I agree with your mindset. While it's always nice to explore date game and you should always (only briefly) review what you cold have done better (there's always something)... sometimes she's vapid or just not for you. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:50 AM |
| 1 | (not a troll thread) anytime i've asked a girl to tell me my facial flaws they block meNever do that again. ever. For vulnerability to be attractive, it can't compromise self esteem and a sense of entitlement with women THAT directly. Also for it to be attractive, the girl has to already have you established in her head as a masculine, high self esteem, sense of entitlement toward women type man. Vulnerability has to exist within all that to be attractive. It can't be the main thing of the personality. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:43 AM |
| 7 | How to keep attraction from fading via text?Most people here will just state to stick to logisitcs. You can text for more than logistics and keep her interests. but... You either need to be dead ass hilarious, or excellent at setting up sexual intrigue and turning her on (and excellent at back peddling safely if that doesn't work). The being hilarious part: Text when you're in a good mood. If you're on lunch and the day's super stressful and your just dead... maybe don't text her then. Wait until later, watching a favorite show, in a good… | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Jovial and playful, or calm and mature?The one that more closely matches your current mood. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Pickup is nothing more than a gameYou should use extreme success stories to instill some good mindset's yes: that improvement, great improvement is possible, that every woman you cross is an opportunity, etc. But I was speaking more in a sense of.. setting up self expectation. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 03:14 AM |
| 1 | What's your approach when it comes to a girl at work you have a crush on?Does she find you attractive as well? | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Kissing on a date?Don't think after the date, think at a high point of sexual tension during the date. The end isn't always the best moment. Shit, sometimes the beginning is better than the end. | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:19 PM |
| 5 | What voice pitch is the most attractive?Your most relaxed pitch. Relaxed=deeper. But thinking "relax" will make you sound more natural than thinking "deeper" | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:16 PM |
| 2 | All my friends hate me ever since I've started doing pickup.I hit on everyone when I'm out with friends.. but I don't get this response. Why the difference? Maybe I just have a healthier balance of it all. Maybe you're not actually caring about what they're doing and saying and ONLY about the girls when out. Maybe they've seen my life and know I do other shit too. Maybe I would never tell my friends to fuck off... | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Facebook friend, tinder girlShe might swipe left even if she thinks you're kind of attractive. You can't change your course of action and mindset.. or even question yourself more, because a girl is hotter or more ideal. That's extremely unattractive and potentially self destructive behavior. She will pick up on it, and it will kill any chance you have. She's just a girl dude. | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:08 PM |
| 31 | Pickup is nothing more than a gameI think one thing that helps to not take it too seriously, is to remember how monumental what you're trying to do is. Realize that most stories of extreme success are bullshit, and therefor shouldn't make banging women you approach out of the blue seem any less monumental. | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 04:03 PM |
| 0 | when did you start seduction and how many times did you get laid since then?I think what you want to ask is "how long have you been cold approaching, how often, and how many of those girls you approached have you fucked?" Well, Just this past June. Just about 5 girls a day, only couple days a week. So 10 to 15 girls a week. Stopped doing it around beginning of october (starting it back up again now.) I banged 4 of them. Which isn't bad to me for someone in their first season of doing it. Closing around 3% of girls I open. If your looking for expectation.. closing 1% of … | /r/seduction | 04/01/16 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetNo. Asking for suggestions is simply smart in a lot of situations. You want to be a self sufficient and decisive man but, value other's knowledge too. | /r/seduction | 02/01/16 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Sticking Point: Don't have the drive to pullYeah avoid porn and masturbation. Jerk off sometimes because testosterone will start to drip if you abstain for too long, and you don't want to be tooo desensitized. However as an overall rule just don't. Some massage foreplay is good for performance anxiety (and for extremely nervous girls). Warms you up to touching her and her touching you. Relaxes the muscles that anxiety tenses up. Gets you hard as all hell. Should have much less of a problem doing your thing after that. | /r/seduction | 02/01/16 05:11 AM |
| 6 | Should you even bother with sorority girls if you aren't in a fraternity or even an undergrad yourself?You need to trust your own judgement a bit more. Cause on one hand you have IOI's you're seeing with your own two eyes... and on the other you have things written by people who pretend to be good with women... trust your own judgement. | /r/seduction | 02/01/16 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Please help, advice really needed, save me!You don't have to explicitly state that you really liked the time with her because, you texting her implies that you enjoyed it. If you ever really want to talk about how your time is good with a girl, only do it face to face, with soft eye contact, and use "we" instead of "I". For example: "We have a spark here, don't we?.. yeah, it's nice...(kisses her passionately)" And "would you like to have dinner with me?" sounds a bit too polite and like a prince charming. Which is exciting to girls in b… | /r/seduction | 02/01/16 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Please help, advice really needed, save me!It was a joke. Dinners are ok sometimes. However there are better date ideas. Something with an activity, or a simple coffee. | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Please help, advice really needed, save me!How and when can I say sorry to her for that kiss (through facebook?)? You don't have to... ... Being unnecessarily apologetic (no real harm to someone or moral wrong) will dry a girl up faster than the worst kiss. Is a dinner in a good restaurant a good idea? Never plan dates while hungry seddit. How can I start up a conversation on facebook and how should I invite her out? A funny gif, meme, pic from your day with a caption.. something like that. If a convo ensues, invite her out. | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Should you K close after a first coffee date? If so, what do you say?If the sexual tension of the moment compels you to think about kissing her (your instinct I'm talking here, not a step of a strategy), kiss her. If you do not feel enough of this tension for the thought of kissing to naturally cross your mind... do not kiss her. | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 11:02 PM |
| 1 | What happened?Delete her number immediately. And delete any text convo's or call logs with her. Like before you read the next thing in your inbox do that. You're welcome. Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 10:49 PM |
| 5 | My AA is too high to approach alone.What are other people going to protect you from? | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 10:29 PM |
| 56 | In the past week I've made out with 8 girls by just saying, "wanna make out."Shocking how simple some stuff is. Not always easy, but simple. Also note that the seduction process doesn't always have to be an intriguing story, linguistically smart, or smooth. | /r/seduction | 01/01/16 07:33 PM |
| 1 | New Years Eve/Day NightgameIts actually fun. Ameture partiers have less of a guard put up because they havnt been hit on be sleazy fuckbois 10 times a week like the hardcore partiers. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 02:07 PM |
| 1 | I'm getting better talking to girls but I'm not great with openers, what are some of your favorite openers to use on women either at night or day? I'm hoping to get more clear ideas so I can get better at thisThe more unique to the specific girl, and the specific time, the better the opener. So a good to do is either give her a specific compliment, or make a cold read. A specific compliment is self explanitory. A cold read is trying to work out her vibe, and making an assumption based on it. ex"I just thought you were really cute...you're not from the city are you?... yeah I could tell you have like, a little house on the prarrie vibe."... it amhses both of you when you make cold reads like this whil… | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Eye contact during the first 10 minutes of conversationI'm always making eye contact. Well, not literally always I blink and look around if I get distracted, but you know what I mean. There are different types of eye contact, soft and sweet, and eye fucking. I might try to change her mood by shifting strongly to one or the other... but overall eye contact isn't really a strategy, just a default behavior. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 02:15 AM |
| 11 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetHi, I'm Eviiil. There you've met one. It takes time, commitment, and patience. Not taking it all on at once, just thing or two at a time. Above all it takes embracing the underlying mindset's that cause one to act like this (Examples: "I don't have to put up with bullshit" "seek to understand before I seek to be understood","my feelings and ideas always matter.", etc.). With patience, it can be done. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 02:12 AM |
| 6 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetYou can definetly choose to be this way. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:51 AM |
| 1 | A neighbor above me is fifty and down to fuck. Should I go for it?She's got more familiarity with what men want probably. Oldest I've done is 30, I'm extremely young. But she was "better" than pretty much every girl my age. Plus she'll probably teach you a few things, make you a better lover, as they know what they want. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Music lovers of seddit- what newer artist/album/song will almost always please anyone who has heard it and seduce anyone who hasn't?I can't say any music seduces anyone (don't overstep that "correlation is not causation" line lol.) But the right music for the environment definetly can make an enviorment more inviting. I ussually default to something like Caribou, or Portishead, or Clams Casino. Nirvana's unplugged album has a good vibe an interests people too. Channel Orange has a great vibe and variance in pace. All depends on her taste though. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:38 AM |
| 2 | A neighbor above me is fifty and down to fuck. Should I go for it?Is she attractive enough? You say she's not too attractive. Never have sex just for connivence, you should always be excited for it imo. People are typically less clingy as they get older. So unless you've got a nutcase (unlikely), I don't foresee that being an issue. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetIt means express how you feel. If you're pissed off, own that, and you can let people know. In an honest way. An over the top, tantrum way wouldn't be honest or mature of course. There are lines of appropriateness. ... Don't overthink the post. Just realize that if you aren't doing any of those things, it would be beneficial to start doing them. It will allow you to be taken a bit more seriously by women, co-workers and bosses, and virtually everyone in your life. And that's what I think "alpha"… | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetThis is how to be more assertive. Correct. not more alpha. It is also how to be more alpha. Alpha and assertive have a lot of crossover. In a lot of way's assertiveness is the largest component of the "alpha behavior" guy's rant on about and strive for. Also it's a lifehacker article. Correct, I linked, the original source in a comment of mine. | /r/seduction | 31/12/15 01:15 AM |
| 4 | When are you too old for pickup? I just saw a middle age man hit on a coed and it was disgustingthis graph made by OkCupid might be of interest to you. It shows the age range women are seeking when trying online dating. What it shows is that until they're in their 40's, women strongly prefer a man who is older than they are. The top of their range is usually about 6 to 8 years older than themselves...But in reality, this could be much higher. I've seen 19 year olds hook up with 40 year olds. It all depends on: How well the man takes care of himself, how young he looks, the location of the … | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 11:35 PM |
| 6 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetOh of course not. Seeking validation is up high on the list of the worst behaviors for being an attractive man. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 11:16 PM |
| 8 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat SheetI do too. But that's the lingo folks use round these parts. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Best response to "i hate you?" TextAsking us what to say proves you've already lost. Like you can't be the type of guy who see's responses as right and wrong and is thus subconsciously paranoid about the approval from her. The only wrong thing is always trying to be right. But if you really wanna know what I'd say: "your phone auto corrected "you're sexy af" to "I hate you"... maybe get that checked out." | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 05:03 PM |
| 10 | How did you take the first step from reading about pickup, to actively approaching girls when out?I took a bus to the nearest shopping mall, to do my first cold approach. Was so scared I just nervously ate food and browsed my phone for a couple hours and made zero approaches. I repeated this 6 times over the next two weeks. Then I decided that I would try some sort of social ladder to alleviate my anxiety. Mess around with girls working in stores, without the purpose of hitting on them. There were a couple really awkward instances of this. However my the third or fourth time trying it, the l… | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Basics of Communicating like an Alpha Male, A Nice cheat Sheetsource article | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 03:49 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion]Never be there when they get back from the toilet...I think it just depends on my mood you know. But never be a spectator is a decent rule to follow in the club. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 03:45 PM |
| 1 | You Have One Superpower...You aren't wrong. You wanna shut out the rest of the world for her. Take her soul in with your eyes and make it feel like nothing exist except your handsome as hell, sexy ass face. Get closer while doing this, if it's night game, invade her space. If your cock is starting to get hard you're doing this right. I would never say I'm sorry to a rejected kiss. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 01:45 AM |
| 0 | Girls love being approachedI do 7 and 10 sometimes, depending on wether or not I feel like it... but the rest I do all the time. This is great to read for anyone really just beginning with Day game. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 01:25 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion]Never be there when they get back from the toilet...I just kind of chill with my phone. It's not that big of a deal. Might small talk with a bartender. Might look around and throw IOI's at girls, say hi and small talk one that walks by. But I don't have to do anything. Of course it depends on how deep in they're going to the bathroom. If there wasn't that much of a love bubble between you two when she leaves, she's good possibility of her bailing rather your talking to others or not. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Remember: Anything you feel, she feels.The greatest producer of all time is right. Women reciprocate your vibe. Equally comfortable as you are upon approach, and with each step of escalation. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 01:10 AM |
| 1 | MAJOR CRUSH, HELP MEHaving sex/a girlfriend is more good, than awkward social situations are bad. | /r/seduction | 30/12/15 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Are testing PU methods in-field repeatedly good enough to know if they are sound methods?Interesting thought. I think it would be a tall order to prove wether or not something works in a scientific way, because there are so many variables at hand in seduction situations. But it can be done I'd say. What's one PU method that you'd like to test? | /r/seduction | 28/12/15 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Best way to escalate online/text relationship?Well there's a few way's to start sexting, but one thing that may have been good in this particular situation is to tease her about what she just said. You know joke around about how on point her innuendo game is. Then move from a joking to a more sensual mood, maybe tell her "I have to admit, you look great...you have nice lips... I could kiss them...etc." | /r/seduction | 28/12/15 02:29 PM |
| 2 | First ever date + kiss, now what? Uncharted water for me!I would text her whenever convenient, but at least 48 hours later. There's nothing wrong with saying that was nice the other day, but I would probably just send out a normal text. Pic of what I'm up to perhaps. Ask her how she is. Then I would quickly get into logistics for the next meeting. I would have to calculate a fun activity place, a more intimate place to hang out, and one of our houses.. all in relatively close distance to each other. | /r/seduction | 27/12/15 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Is affirmation excercise effective?I've used affirmations to positive effect, but alone they aren't going to get your mind to where it needs to be. You need to take concrete action based on those affirmations, then see positive result from it. Then the affirmation becomes something you truly believe subconsciously rather than just a vague, meditative, self comforting chant. | /r/seduction | 27/12/15 02:56 PM |
| 16 | My experience with Tinder vs. DayGameI've found failing in real life can make me more effective with tinder matches but, not vice versa. Cold approaching just forces you to put yourself under a microscope. It provides a reality check that forces you to realize what's wrong with your body language, social skills, attitudes toward women, etc. Tinder forces you to realize what's wrong with your choice of main pic, choice of filters, camera quality, and one sentence bio/caption. ... Now which set of of things do you think you need to f… | /r/seduction | 27/12/15 02:54 PM |
| 6 | Any tips for making out?Show a balance of your dominant side (pinning her against the wall, pulling her hair and putting her mouth where you want it, smacking her ass, hand around her neck, taking her clothes off when you want, eye fucking her etc.) ... with your tender side. (hand on her face, moving hair from in front of her face, smiling, kissing her forehead/cheeks/neck/chest, feeling her all over and enjoying it, looking into her eyes and smiling /laughing from joy). Don't hold back little, masculine sounding, app… | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone worried about the lack of preselection in daygame?Well early dates shouldn't be that expensive. Normal progression for me (when looking for a GF) might be: Coffee shop, mini golf, netflix and chill. That doesn't cost too much. And I'll probably see red flags about her on the coffee shop date. also I don't think that's what pre-selection is. | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, if you could move anywhere, where would it be?Yeah I would consider among other things: your industry's presence in the city. The economic shape of things there How hot the girls are/generally fit the people are. If the girls like your type. (one thing I've done for fun is swiped around on tinder premium at cities I thought were cool, to see where I was more and less liked) | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Just wanting some quick tips for tonightRealize that you don't know enough about her to be THAT upset over it Realize that everyone get's rejected an dumped, even movie stars Realize that like me you're still young and on your journey a man Realize the sheer number of fish in the sea (cliche, but true) Let's talk briefly about the moves you made, when exactly you made them, what you were thinking and feeling during key moments, and how you interpreted/ couldn't interpret her behavior.... Then let's give you a couple tips based on a co… | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How would you open to a club's waitress?Yeah if you get blown out early in the night..and it's been a while and you've gotten a few IOIS, maybe danced with a girl or two, had a few good sets... try going in for the girl that rejected you again. She might be more opened up to you at that point. | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 02:56 PM |
| 2 | What do you do if a girl you're seeing is almost purposely making you jealous?I'd ask her about it. I'd ask she thinks it's appropriate or something along those lines. Then I'd in an honest way tell her how I feel about it. And tell her not to do it again. That I'm not going to deal with it, this won't work if it continues, we will be done. And then.. I would be a man of my word. I'd also keep in mind three possible and motives for her behavior: She misses the flirtatious attention she had in her slightly younger years. She wants you to be more dominant with her. She lack… | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Keeping up the action?Kino, dance with her, kiss her... but do nothing more than give her a quick, occasional kiss. Don't make out, or feel her tits up or anything like that. If she has friends, "disarm the bomb" and get them on your side. You want to introduce yourself or be introduced to them asap. Chill and chat with the group for 15 minutes or so. (btw here You should figure out some logistics because the group will talk about what they're up to. If you pick up that she logistically cannot come to your place, don… | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 12:59 AM |
| 1 | How would you open to a club's waitress?Well there is a such thing as building social proof through the course of a night. Like women see you getting IOI's from other women, see interactions you have with other women going well, etc. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 11:21 PM |
| 8 | How does dealing with women in their late/mid 20s differ to those in their early 20s?It's usually more sexual with older women because, that's all i have to offer them. When you're equal or older she can enjoy your: maturity, life experience, gravitas, class, knowledge of how the world works, tales to tell, etc. But when she's 5 years older than me or more, basically all I've got for her is high amounts of sexual energy. I'm not saying older guy's can't be visceral, they can obviously, nor am I saying a younger guy can't be the more mature one sometimes, it happens as well. Just… | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How would you open to a club's waitress?If I had some social proof when I walked in or built up during the night... I'd playfully give her a middle finger. If I didn't have ay social proof built up yet... I'd do an observational opener about the club and the people in it. ex: "why does everyone except me have the same haircut?" Then once you've opened perhaps cold read her and say something like "You're not into this house music are you... everything about how you act screams classic rock.". Then at that point we might chat about musi… | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 08:10 PM |
| 0 | Can I make a girl like me even if we don't talk much?You can... talk to her more on facebook. You can also say hi or what's up if you see her at school. If you make an effort to do that and she doesn't return that effort (doesn't reply, too busy all the time, etc)... don't focus on her. I'm not saying abandon going for her entirely just, look to other girls and other areas of your life if she's not invested. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 07:53 PM |
| 12 | Important realization for me: It's not that being a good person/nice guy is a bad thing...Nicely put. I'd refer anyone who thinks women "only like jerks" to this advice. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Just wanting some quick tips for tonightWe might not have the same personality type so what works for me might not for you. But one thing I've done in group situations: when people are sitting around and me and my target aren't the center of attention, I'll copy her. Tap my foot if she is, lean over bored like she is, etc. If that's sounds childish, it is. But you know what children have that men without game don't... spontaneity and self amusement. So copying her is my little trick to have fun with the girl I want in a group situatio… | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Just wanting some quick tips for tonightOK because this second meeting isn't a one on one thing... your primary objective has shifted from "kino and escalate" to, "feel and look comfortable, have a good time, don't let social pressure change how you act." Relax, have a good time, watch your body language and eye contact with people. As far as Kino and flirting, give her a good hug to start the night, smile or smirk like you like what you see. Give her a specific compliment. But after that, just chill with it for a while. Wait till lat… | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Need feedback on text convo...I think a good conversation is one that could only happen via those exact two people, at that exact time. A shitty conversation is one that could happen between any two people anywhere. So to lean toward the former, and avoid the latter, there's a few things one can do. Avoid Yes Or No questions Develop inside jokes Showcase ones personality and emotion. Talk about feelings role play And theres much more. But that's a good start. So based on what I think a good convo is, and the most common tech… | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Need feedback on text convo...What outcome were you seeking from the interaction? If it was just to have a chat with a girl via text, perfect. If it was to escalate or to get her out on a date, it obviously didn't do either of those two... yet I don't see this as a bad convo at all. I'd say the next time you text her you can just get to logistics of meeting up asap. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 03:24 PM |
| 1 | What's your go to response to "How do I know you're not a murderer?" when talking to people you haven't met in person yet.I've had situations where the first part was nessaaary. Maybe thats a unique expirience. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Girls who start conversations but dont continue them, why?...she responded... its your job as a man to keep this moving forward if you want it to. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 12:05 AM |
| 5 | Ok but you treat meHow invested and into the dates was she? Was she trying to get to know you? Was she responsive to you trying to get to know her? How did she respond to escalation? If all those questions have positive answers, Im fine paying a decent ammount for a dinner. But if any of those answers is not optimal, she can fuck off. | /r/seduction | 25/12/15 12:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you approach two women?Almost any inderect opener will work for a two set. It doesnt happen too often, but If you can get a solid IOI out of your target before approaching, you can treat her like a one set. This requires a really strong frame and 0, and I mean ZERO hesitance. So a more intermediate thing. | /r/seduction | 24/12/15 11:59 PM |
| 2 | What's the difference between "comfort", "rapport" and "connection"?To me theyre all sort of intertwined. Connection might be called more "advanced" than the other two by some. | /r/seduction | 24/12/15 11:54 PM |
| 1 | What's your go to response to "How do I know you're not a murderer?" when talking to people you haven't met in person yet.If it feels like legit fear: Reveal that you watch out for your safety as well. Tell her you respect how she feels. Tell her you want her to be comfortable, then suggest a very public time and location to meet. If its semi fear, semi bullshitting: Joke about it. Accuse her of being one, tell her dont be ridiculous you wouldnt bring your ax for the first date, etc. Ussually its a combination of the two | /r/seduction | 24/12/15 11:43 PM |
| -2 | Thoughts on sending a blanket Merry Christmas! text?ping texts are great, ussually. The reason this one isnt as good is because everyone will tell you merry christmas back. where as if you just sent out a pic of one of your gifts with an emoji, only ones you have s shot with will respond. Don't add her name or mention wanting her. This should be extrenely low investment. | /r/seduction | 24/12/15 03:14 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys practice seduction when none of your friends are into this stuff?I relish the lone wolf role. What are you afraid of being judged, unsure if this is the right thing to do? Just realize that you have every fucking right to chase after what you want. | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Do Asians have it harder to get girls in the US?I think you need some more dominance to you. But that's just an impression off a short post. | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Rant: Dating seems like a gigantic waste of timeI mean, you've seen hot women before, you've had great sex before, you've felt genuine connection before. That's all you need to see that looking for women is not a "waste of time". | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Maybe this instagram "game" will help guys/girls outget your ass in shape, dress well, have phenomenal pictures. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Hot and Cold TheoryI think you need to fractionate, to have both hot and cold is essentail... but the reason why is sort of misunderstood by most. The reason it's good isn't because it avoids neediness, if you're truly needy on the inside, it's going to show no matter what you try to do. It isn't because mystery keeps women intrigued, that might be partially true but you can't base game around it. It isn't good because clear interest and infatuation is bad/beta, women love to be desired, and know only an alpha mal… | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Neediness vs. sexual confidence in a casual relationship?I do, thankyou | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Neediness vs. sexual confidence in a casual relationship?Don't worry so much. Just escalate as the moment inspires you to do so. Rather you do it rapidly or slowly, think one step forward two steps back. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 03:35 AM |
| 3 | Hot and Cold TheoryUnless you can take it to the bank that she will be looking up your pics and masturbating to them on a daily basis for the next month... you are going to have to do more than talk logistics to get her out on a date. Not being overly engaged is a good idea but, don't take interest for granted, it has to be kept up. Initial interactions are like balloons. The stronger your masculine presssense ,the bigger the ballon.The more it feels like it's just you two (sorry for getting romantic), the bigger … | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Girl continues to show interest but keeps flaking. How many flakes before you call it quits?If I've asked once and a date didn't happen... I'll try again and mention that I don't like to keep chasing, and that it's no big deal if she's not interested. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 01:00 AM |
| 1 | What should I talk to her about on the way to my house?What kind of wine/drinks she likes, what kind of music she likes ,a re two great topics. Try to be in a joking/flirty mood. That's the best I can describe it right now. You should be flirting and sexualizing aggressively but it should be laced with humor and a little bit of silliness. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 12:59 AM |
| 0 | Advice - Got a girls number but I'm out of town for the week.When you feel like it...Send her and other girls a couple pics of what you've got going on over the holidays. Just text whatever one might Instagram these days, funny caption optional. Low investment way of engaging them. Make no mistake, if they respond, there is some interest in you. Ignoring these little "window into your world" texts is easy, so if they respond, you're working with something. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 12:52 AM |
| 1 | How to be all of these things without being an assholeWhen debating something, realize that agree to disagree is an option. When debating something, and knowing you're right, realize that that most peoples ignorance on particular subjects is understandable and inconsequential. When making decisions for a group, ask others what their opinion is. (You make decisions yourself of course, but genuinely listen to everyones input.) When faced wit a problem solving or conflict scenario, politely propose an "I win- you win" solution to the problems at hand.… | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Hey guys, a girl and I have been talking for several months via snapchat, she has shown some interest in me and I will possibly see her in person for the last time on Thursday. I need some advice!I would make a last ditch effort to sext her. Idk if you know how to do that but that would be my instinctive thing. Edit: get her to re engage first, then sext. Not start with sexual messages. | /r/seduction | 14/12/15 02:34 PM |
| 3 | "Don't shit where you eat", "Don't dip your pen in the company's ink" AdviceChat about casual, small talk subjects. Give her great, flirty eye contact. .Look for a reaction out of her while doing all this. If you don't get one, oh well, drop it. If you do see a sign of interest, ask her if she wants to get coffee sometime (or whatever) | /r/seduction | 14/12/15 02:30 PM |
| 1 | 21 years old and first date ever tonight. Help!Thank you | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 02:50 PM |
| 1 | First things to say? What do you think?Nothing "wrong" with that opener, but it has room to be more right. First consider, is that your speaking dialect? For example I never say hello, Id most likely say "hey" instead. I might say cute rather than attractive. Adjust some words to the synonyms that roll off the tongue more naturally than you. The optimal opener is tailored to the moment. So have your self-tailored scripted one handy but, prefer to just go with the flow and say what's on your mind in the moment. An example of just goin… | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 02:48 PM |
| 1 | First things to say? What do you think?During the day, like on the street, direct is usually more calibrated. it's just more honest. The one time during the day I'll go indirect is when inside a shop. You can get to names whenever you want. Doesn't make a difference. A way to make the direct opener less "shallow" is to quickly get specific with the compliment rather than just saying she's "attractive". Tell her she has the nicest eyes, or hair, or style, or that she's killing that dress, any specific thing you like. It has to be hone… | /r/seduction | 12/12/15 05:02 AM |
| 1 | I get a lot of hate for speaking to multiple girls at a time. Why?They want what they can't have, they want what other women want, they want to feel special. Consider "Am I an asshole?". If the answer is yes, stop doing asshole things even if they make you feel or look cooler. You probably aren't, but seriously think about it. For the girls that get to this who are bluffing, this can be avoided by making her feel special in an honest way. Tell her things you really like about her. Just tell her you like her. Show a lack of fear escalating before you do this th… | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 09:21 PM |
| 10 | A real guide to seductionI'm your age. Your post might get hate because some will incorrectly assume that self improvement before 20 is a naturally gifted thing that you don't have to work for like a person over 20 does. Cool post but I'd call this "a more honest look at the surface" rather than "a real guide" | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 09:11 PM |
| 2 | 21 years old and first date ever tonight. Help!It hardly matters what you talk about but good subjects include: Food and drink likes (obviously easy to bring up this kind of date) Movies (easy transitioning to proposing second date or or bounce back) Music Travel (showing pictures can be a good idea if you'd like ) Pets (showing pics a good idea if you'd like) Aspirations (rather than current job/career.. a great thread to start learning more about each other) | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Motivation to Approachyou havethis to gain and this to lose | /r/seduction | 29/11/15 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Good way to escelate this date?If you have good kino at the very start of a date or interaction, it kind of frees you up to not have to worry about it for a while. So give her a good hug as the beginning, then let your hand stay on her arm for a second or so while you look her sexy ass up and down, then sincerely mention how nice she looks. Kissing her on the cheek is a great option too. Bam, the vibe has been established. You're eventually going to have to touch her again, but after you start it off with that kind of vibe, y… | /r/seduction | 29/11/15 03:13 PM |
| 1 | I asked a girl out irl and she said yes but haven't heard back from her via textDon't tear your hair out over it. Move on and look at other girls. In a couple days hit her up again casually. If she replies ask her out one more time. While pointing out that you don't like to pester girls so if she's not interested that's cool. | /r/seduction | 29/11/15 02:56 PM |
| 2 | How do I let the chemistry flow out on dates with girls I barely know? (mid-late 20s)You could playfully bump into her while walking . Make a joke out of she needs to watch where she's walking. IDK if thats your personality type but I would probably do that. You could stop her while walking. Light touch on the arm to get her to turn. Her back to the wall. "Hold on were just walking aimlessly, let's figure out what were gonna do now..." and bam, eye contact and close enough to touch her. Touching and sexual tension is longer than I can type right now. Later tonight I might. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Hooking Up With Girls In My CircleFor future reference, know you don't HAVE to to wait for IOIS, and that the bar for what is an IOI is lower than what most men think it is. Glad you had fun though. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 06:30 PM |
| 1 | How do I let the chemistry flow out on dates with girls I barely know? (mid-late 20s)Well I mean don't wait for things to get mildly sexual, be proactive and make it happen. Hug her at the start of the date, kiss on the cheek if you're feeling confident. During the date later on, get close to her. Look her in the eye and imagine fucking her while you do, feel dominant while you do it. Touch her. Compliment her when you like something you see. Don't procrastinate, just kiss her at the first feeling it's time to. If you have a boner most of the date, you're doing it right (not jok… | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I let the chemistry flow out on dates with girls I barely know? (mid-late 20s)go in with the right mindset: That she finds you sexy, and, that she will like you for you. "unapologetically be yourself", as /U/HorseLifer put it. Don't listen to what she says, observe what she's doing. If she's saying, "i don't kiss on a first date" but if whilst saying this she's letting you get in her personal space, letting you touch her, etc... she obviously wants you to kiss her. Escalate on physical compliance, not on verbal validation. I act like she's already my girlfriend. Meaning w… | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 04:02 PM |
| 1 | FR day #2, online gameWhat's the conversation like so far? copy and paste for us? screenshots for us? | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 03:43 PM |
| 1 | I keep getting panic attacksIf "panic attack" isn't hyperbole then this sub isn't the place to ask this question lol. Go see a specialist. If it is hyperbole, learn to feel nerves coming on. When you feel it, start to breathe slowly. Relax, feel throughout your own body for tension. Relax that tension where you feel it. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 03:41 PM |
| 1 | When do I say I love you?oh... lol | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:36 AM |
| 1 | When do I say I love you?It's actually pretty good, saying I hate you.... But I just disagree with the whole give her validation or show too much interests thing. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:35 AM |
| 1 | When do I say I love you?no. I mean what your saying has truth to it but.. it kind of encompasses everything wrong with the pickup community. If you can get laid and women respect you... and I'm assuming this is the case... then you can show validation and that you like her, with no negative effect. Trust me. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:31 AM |
| 7 | When do I say I love you?When you love her. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:29 AM |
| 14 | how to develop a great sense of humor and how to make others laugh?make sure your general emotional state is positive and stable. work on being "quicker". While driving, make comments about things you see out loud. This trains you to speak your thoughts quicker, and to pay attention to the present moment. Realize it's about SELF amusement. Point out what you find funny to entertain yourself. . Don't do it to try to get a good reaction. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Going in for the kiss?I mean, just do what you want man. Pull her in closer, pin her against a wall, kiss her on the cheek or forehead if you're feeling sweet. If you feel tension starting to reach a new high point, just kiss her. People overcomplicate this. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:24 AM |
| 4 | Hooking Up With Girls In My CircleJust have a good time man. Don't worry so much. Chill and talk with people. If you notice IOIs out of a girl at any point, assume she wants you and focus on talking to her for a bit. Express attraction for her in some way (cold be verbally, through getting closer, whatever), if after you've expressed attraction, she's still there for more than a minute, she wants to fuck you...so at that point be a gentleman and escalate. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:19 AM |
| 2 | i'm done.BREATHE She'll be fine. You'll be fine. Delete her number. Go do something you like, watch a favorite movie, listen to a favorite album, etc. Better yet hit the gym or work on a project. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Every day struggleWell, this is approach anxiety. There is no other subject that has more advice in the seduction community lol. You kind of just have to... fail. Brutal, but that's how it is in the world of cold approaching. You have to fail, then fail a bit less, then look acceptable, then look ok, then look good, then look great. One key part of it is.. the realization that rejection isn't as bad as you think it is. It's not personal. It doesn't determine your worth as a man. Five straight rejections feels big… | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:12 AM |
| 1 | How to lose herHonesty and respect are both necessary.. and they don't have to conflict with each other. "I think you're a nice girl but, what we're doing isn't right for me right now." Respectful and honest, is it not? | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 12:05 AM |
| 10 | How do you stop a cock blocker friend?Smile and say hi to her friend. You can even tell the girl you're hitting on to introduce her before she gets to you. Be your authentic self around them and have fun chatting for at least a bit. If a situation ever arises where you're talking to the friend but not "your" girl, mention that you like her friend, and give a reason why. A non-physical compliment like "she's so funny". Just because, in some situations your target can tell that you both want to fuck her, and that you're a good man. Bu… | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 04:11 PM |
| 1 | What's your opening?I'm think it's good to have a couple openers for the daytime and a couple for nighttime. However I like to make those only a safety net when the anxiety is too much to think. Improvise and say what's honestly on your mind in the moment whenever you can. Steal/come up with 2 openers for day and nighttime. One direct, one indirect. Keep those in the back of your mind for when you're too nervous to improvise. | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Anybody know any mantras or mindsets that help motivate?in the moment before approach I'm more like: "damn, that ass, I'd like to fuck her" . And I don't think it out explicitly like that. I just feel that in my body, and I'm explicitly thinking.. nothing preferably. It's pure, raw, and honest. And btw it doesn't motivate me to be more crude with her haha. Have what you really want on your mind but keep your level of class up. | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 03:53 PM |
| 14 | How to stop living in my head?ah, I've made a conscious effort at fixing this problem in myself over the last year or so. With great success I might add. Do one to a few of these exercises every day for the next month. While driving make comments out loud about what you see. People watch as you're walking around. Play mind games. For guys, I'll compare them to a famous person ('younger tom cruise'). For girls I'll do that or a 'smash or pass' kind of thing. Do everything a little bit slower. | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 03:47 PM |
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