evolve18 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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17	[21M] I have most other areas of my life in check, but feel completely undateable due to my appearance. What is so wrong? You look normal dude. What's your approach like? Coming on too strong? Too soft? It's probably all in your head. When dudes get this way, I recommend going out for a month (at least four times out) without any intention of meeting or picking up women. Shake it off, so to speak. Go out, just have fun. Be in the moment, but also be observant. It's hard to learn what you're doing wrong if you don't take a step back sometimes.	/r/seduction	29/12/15 04:40 PM
-1	Two more accusers speak out about James Deen and get media coverage to try him in the court of public opinion Hence my point that an accusation, alone and without more, is unlikely to compel a guilty verdict on a rape charge. In fact, most DAs will toss those out outright.	/r/MensRights	03/12/15 07:16 PM
6	Two more accusers speak out about James Deen and get media coverage to try him in the court of public opinion Yep. We don't know. That said, stay out of any women-centric subs on this issue. I got banned from /r/chickflixxx for calmly and respectfully stating that we don't have any information, and that in a criminal proceeding at least, Deen is innocent until proven guilty. They outed me as a man and banned me. True story. The women in those subs truly believe that an accusation by itself is evidence of rape. It's one thing to be supportive, but it's another to blindly believe a statement as fact when …	/r/MensRights	03/12/15 05:04 PM
1	Stoya incident update. Signs of what will come. One of many unjust actions towards the accused, based on two posts. That was in their press release saying they were dropping him. Complete and utter bullshit.	/r/MensRights	01/12/15 06:12 PM
4	Should guys always be starting the conversations Regardless of what it means to her, it's obviously bothering you. I think it's good to reflect on that for a moment - all seduction theories aside. A big part of this is learning about yourself; what you like and what you dislike. Sounds like you are interested in girls who are more lively and likely to get a conversation going. What's key here is learning that you should go after what you actually want.	/r/seduction	12/10/15 09:53 PM
6	I'm grinding on a girl, she's into it, and then her friend pulls her away. What should I do? That or they are judgmental in the moment. What might be right for one is not necessarily right for the other. Throw a sprinkle of jealousy on top and you've got a major cockblock coming. I think the advice to befriend the group is great, but sometimes you meet the girl away from the group and hit it off. In that case, you need to befriend right there on the spot. You want to come off as safe and okay for her friends, not necessarily her though (don't be too beta). When the friend comes into the…	/r/seduction	19/07/15 04:36 PM
3	My new ex best friend - makes me look bad with women so he can look better. Not to be a dick, but why are we talking about this then? It sounds like you have made your decision to move on, which is what you should do. End of story.	/r/seduction	02/07/15 01:46 PM
3	I've decided to start changing myself, and I have about two months to do it. When I was in the thick of going out (before I met my girl) I got over approach anxiety in two ways: 1) approach everyone. Seriously. Talk to your waitress, the male bartender, the UPS guy, the checkout clerk. You will realize that approach just means "start a conversation." Become a conversationalist and you win the first battle. Winning the war takes a bit more. 2) when approaching, I always opened based on circumstances. Weather, environment, her style, her drink. It's really easy to approach…	/r/seduction	22/06/15 06:22 PM
5	I've decided to start changing myself, and I have about two months to do it. You're operating from a negative already. Stop it. There is no perfect time frame. Your situation doesn't sound ideal for a social lifestyle, but those are your circumstances for now and you have to deal with them or get out of them - no excuses. In the meantime, I think you need to work on your inner game. I would check out some of the stuff over at RSD Blog. In addition, to better your inner game while you have the time, I would take up three hobbies other than videgames. You say you will work…	/r/seduction	22/06/15 01:37 PM
3	How do you beat the "out of my league" feeling? Just go for it. Think in terms of any skill mastered, like guitar. You can't start playing Hendrix until you practice and give it a go. Some people are better than others, but it doesn't mean it cannot be done. Work on improving yourself along the way (i.e., improve your style, dress, haircut, hit the gym, commit to three hobbies other than videogames) and it will come sooner rather than later.	/r/seduction	09/06/15 02:18 PM
10	I was asked to train a new female employee to do the promotion I got passed on. Good on you. I am experiencing a similar situation right now. Work at a law firm as an attorney; busted my ass and crushed for three years. Brought the firm a lot of money. Was up for my raise in February and asked for a justifiable raise. Raise was given, but it was pathetic and actually lower in percentage than my last two raises. Then I learned that my group was advertising a position at an amount that would have been equal to the raise I requested. So what did I do? Applied like fuck to anot…	/r/TheRedPill	21/05/15 02:19 PM
16	What is the one piece of advice you would give, if you had 10 seconds? Approach and stop watching porn. Pick up a hobby.	/r/seduction	06/05/15 04:51 AM
1	"Men who were cheated on but didn't end the relationship, how are you doing?" Welcome to the weekly beta-fest at r/askmen I'm glad OP posted this askmen thread here. I read it in transit yesterday and immediately wondered what redpill would say. Glad there is a voice of reason. I know a couple who, over the past few years, have gone through this. His now wife is friends with my girlfriend. Before they were engaged, she had a full blown romance with another guy. When the boyfriend found out, he didn't leave, he proposed. I can't even look at him without thinking "you fucking beta pussy." He will never make her truly…	/r/TheRedPill	01/05/15 03:18 PM
3	Dealing with rejection...seriously this is getting old guys. Dude, take a break for a few. You sound exhausted in your post. One huge element of seduction and game is self-development. Take some time to focus on yourself. I also noticed I am boring as fuck...once I got to know these girls I didn't have much of anything interesting to say because my life is very mundane, predictable, and routine. So now is the time to refocus on you. You say that you are boring by design, but that's a cop out. Take some time to figure out three things you want to accomplis…	/r/seduction	15/04/15 02:22 PM
3	Stop over thinking. Just do it. Some of the best advice I ever got was from a law partner I work for (female too). She said always tackle the hardest thing first - the thing you don't want to do. It might suck and you may be afraid, but once you get it out of the way, you win and move forward, even if you lose. Her point stuck with me. This is important in prioritizing and making tough decisions. I see buddies stick it out too long in jobs and with women who they don't want to be with. Do the hard thing first, make that hard d…	/r/TheRedPill	24/03/15 05:56 AM
3	[Slight FR] My oh my, women have a skewed perception on "average". I'd love to know how old this girl is. In the past few years, this "attitude" has been what I have experienced in girls 26-30. Then at 30, boom...they are still single and wondering when their prince charming is coming for them. Thing is, at that point, they are haggard and no one wants them, so they cling to each other in this sad, desperate attempt to look social.	/r/TheRedPill	09/03/15 03:08 PM
1	I simply cannot fucking do it. Beating AA isn't happening for me. Now thing of it in terms of trying to catch a train. You just charged out of the cab into the train station, it's 9:55am and your train leaves at 10:00am from platform C. As you rush into the train station, you immediately ask the first person you see where Platform C is located. Does it matter if it's a man or a hot woman? No. Now dial that back. Here is a quick example. Last night I was walking back from getting a beer with a buddy of mine at my local bar. There is this building at the end of …	/r/seduction	05/03/15 06:20 AM
12	I simply cannot fucking do it. Beating AA isn't happening for me. And as a practical suggestion, DO NOT PAUSE. Here's what I mean, take these two approaches in asking a woman where the closest ATM is: 1) Excuse me, where is the closest ATM? versus 2) Excuse me....[Pause waiting for acceptance]...do you know where the closest ATM is? That pause will kill you. Do not wait for her to accept you/give you credibility/give you the okay. JUST ASK THE FUCKING QUESTION. This will be a great start to just opening the shit out of women. It really (I SWEAR) is that easy. …	/r/seduction	05/03/15 05:08 AM
9	Women make bad friends. And even women know it. This article, while juvenile, strikes a chord with me. I am dating a great girl with shitty friends. My last girlfriend had no friends. This one has a couple close friends. They are fine to hang around at times, but they do nothing to support each other. They are failing in health and are complacent being "liked." It's becoming really, really unattractive to be around them. I look at them as sloppy and gluttons. I feel like my gf is falling into their trap. She is on a trip with them now, but wi…	/r/TheRedPill	07/02/15 03:52 PM
8	The dreaded "who is this reply" Also, do not text her "some funny romantic music line," whatever that is.	/r/seduction	06/01/15 02:22 PM
1	[FR] A little thing I do to get a hostess's number I'm going to hijack this thread and say that you gentlemen should be engaging hostesses and waitresses to no end. Great way to hone your game.	/r/seduction	24/12/14 02:36 AM
18	Wife denies husband sex 25 out of 28 times he asked, shows her on spreadsheet. Well...if it got to the point where he started keeping track on a spreadsheet, it's likely this has gone on for more then 1.5 months. And remember, we are only getting the wife's side of the story other than the spread sheet. She may have even doctored the spreadsheet a little to make it seem less like she is a bitch. In my opinion, the guy wouldn't start keeping a spreadsheet if this were not already a huge problem. He may have even tried to talk with her about it in the past and is now fucking…	/r/TheRedPill	18/07/14 03:33 PM
4	Never be afraid to go out alone. I used to hit the bars solo all the time and it worked out great for me. It was actually easier at times to close. One tip that helped when I first started going alone was to pick a bar that was busy, but where I could still saddle up and grab a set at the bar. Admittedly when I started I was self-conscious about being alone, and it felt comforting to sit and engage people that came to me to order drinks or that were sitting next to me. Once I got the hang of it, I felt pretty comfortable in any…	/r/seduction	28/06/14 06:09 PM
4	How to handle a relentless guy trying to AMOG? I don't even know how to reply to that anymore. Don't reply. Seriously. Take the wind out of his sails by not reacting. That being said, I am not encouraging a stare down. But when he turns into an asshole, do not respond and move the conversation elsewhere. If he still pulls the "why are you acting so defensive" line, straight tell him: "You are being a dick. I invited you here because I wanted to include you and not to feel left out. No need to be an asshole all the time. A few jokes is fine h…	/r/seduction	23/06/14 02:08 PM
1	Got dumped, cried like a bitch, now my fucked up ex threatens to kill herself weekly. Can't abandon her but can't take it anymore, ruining my inner and outer game but more importantly my life. Please Help (Details Inside) This is well stated. A few things to add in terms of coping (because it will be difficult). First, don't be afraid of seeing a therapist. If you have low self-esteem or find yourself going to back to destructive patterns (i.e., thinking about her constantly, calling her, etc.), a therapist is a great sounding board and objective party to assist you. They can give you tips and tricks, along with letting you vent constructively, all of which will assist you in feeling better. And second, do things…	/r/seduction	09/05/14 02:35 PM
1	Epiphany I had while travelling in China I understand what you are getting at, but you have to understand that what you experienced - in some way - was a product of your environment. I agree that it's about getting to that state. But truthfully, it's much more difficult to get to that state for a lot of guys when they are in their home town, with people they know in tow, and with a reputation on the line. Does all of that matter? Perhaps not. When you get in state, it's not about not caring; it's about being comfortable with yourself a…	/r/seduction	02/04/14 05:22 AM
9	Unusual question. How to get rid of a girl nicely? Learn to be honest. Start now. It will help you immensely down the road. Honesty builds a certain strength and courage that comes with being able to face what results from an honest comment or statement. Women sense that in men (not boys). So be honest with her. Tell her you think she is a great girl, but that you just want to be friends and that you have a lot going on at the moment.	/r/seduction	09/03/14 02:49 PM
0	Example of max level PUA. Worth the read. No seriously I can't stress this enough, fucking read it. Seems like really basic game. A good read and an example that this stuff works.	/r/seduction	07/02/14 01:18 AM
10	[FR] How I Escaped the Friend Zone Whoa, the title is absolutely misleading. You did not escape the friendzone, your threw a tantrum because you didn't know what to do with your feelings. I'm not saying you shouldn't feel bad or that others have not experienced what you went through, but let's take a step back here and realize there is a lesson to be learned. First, you became friends with this girl when you perceived her as off limits. That's not her fault. You need to give her more time to build attraction to you, and there are…	/r/seduction	26/01/14 03:48 PM
2	How I ask girls out Girls love giving their numbers out, it doesn’t mean anything. I wanted to follow-up on this statement because you make a great point. I've made some great female friends (and very attractive ones) throughout my life and even remain close with several I have dated. I can't tell you how many times I have seen guys give or get a number only to completely blow it. Knowing first that for some girls the thrill of the chase ends with a number is critical. How so, you ask? Because you also need to be a…	/r/seduction	21/01/14 03:51 PM
7	Tips for One-Night f-Close Earlier this year I had a string of one-night f-close. The key was several-fold (disclaimer: this worked for me, what works for you may be different). First, escalation is key. From the outset I started slow and worked my way up. A gentle brush of the small of her back, a light grab and squeeze of her arm as I am telling a story. In each instance the girls reciprocated. Second, and this was KEY, changing locations/venues and escalating the venue. In each instance the night started at a wine/beer…	/r/seduction	02/12/13 12:25 AM
1	[FR] First field report. Was doing well, but somehow let it slip through my fingers... Good first FR. It sounds like you actually did well for just starting out, so don't beat yourself up too much. As user ackshunpact stated, you probably would have done well to involve others in your evening (i.e., challenging them to a game of pool or striking up other conversation when she was out smoking). I disagree though that you were her pawn - you weren't. I'm not entirely certain why she would pull the "you can't touch me like that" move, but perhaps she had a boyfriend - it happens. We …	/r/seduction	04/08/13 06:47 PM
15	Never Buy A Girl a Drink. The greatest pieces of advice I've received in meeting women (and read about in forums like RSD) are that 1) you have to go out a lot; and 2) you have to approach. Everything else is secondary, even field testing things like buying drinks. The only way to field test it is to engage many women. Hang back next time and don't buy the drink right away. See what type of rapport you build with her and where the conversation goes without having bought her a drink. At the same time, look around you. Pay…	/r/seduction	30/07/13 01:53 PM
5	Never Buy A Girl a Drink. I understand your point, but field test it. Or watch how women react to men who just immediately offer the drink and expect a conversation or something more. I agree that the whole "never buy a girl a drink" approach is a bit overplayed, but I think it's more about timing. Never buy the drink until your sure of her intentions and interest. Otherwise, it's a waste of money.	/r/seduction	30/07/13 05:45 AM
0	Doing stylelife challenge day 3. Some funny stuff. But did you go out and approach today? How about last night? When was the last time you went out and approached a girl? It's fine to also use the Stylelife Challenges, I suppose. But make sure you are still trying to approach. There is absolutely no better way to learn to approach than to continually do it, be aware of responses, surroundings, and environments, and learn from that. Get blown out, but build momentum. I would recommend heading over to RSD Nation. I've been following their work a l…	/r/seduction	06/06/13 10:29 PM
1	Did she want the Lock? but guessed it would come off as creepy... Depends on how you present it. If you're hesitant and lack confidence, it will come off creepy. But imagine the most jovial confident guy responding: "Ah, you don't have a lock??? That sucks! Let's go check with the front desk to see if they have any extras, if not, you're more than welcome to throw your stuff in my car! But beware, there is a fee!" And then go from there...walk her over to the front desk and see what transpires. The problem is your own…	/r/seduction	06/06/13 10:24 PM
16	Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more) Go out every night or every day. Approach. Keep fucking approaching. Game is not a sport. You don't need to undertake exercises - there is only one exercise. Go out and approach. Posts like this are dangerous because it leads guys to believe that if they do these things - other than approach - they will suddenly have perfect game or better game. It doesn't work that way. The only possible "exercise" would be to remain aware. Approach and learn what works. Be aware of your surroundings. If you go…	/r/seduction	06/06/13 10:08 PM
3	Has pickup theory changed significantly since The Mystery Method? I agree to an extent. But having read "The Game" and watched his show in VH-1, Mystery encouraged guys to peacock beyond their true selves, and in a cheesy disingenuous way. Mystery was of the belief that a guy could just change his appearance and carry around effects and that would be the start of it. But I like RSD's approach better. Go out. Be yourself, but be your best self. Approach, approach, approach, and learn. You will in time naturally learn what things you need to change, including th…	/r/seduction	06/06/13 09:56 PM
8	Has pickup theory changed significantly since The Mystery Method? There is no doubt Mystery was a pioneer. But just because someone does it first, or is the first to put it on paper, does not mean that their approach is the best. Pickup has evolved quite a bit since the days of MM. Take a look at what the guys at RSD Nation are doing. They advocate a balance of inner game and outer game. Mystery Method was a great starting point for a gimmicky way to meet women, but RSD is about the full experience. There is so much more to meeting women than a canned routine,…	/r/seduction	06/06/13 02:53 PM
2	[FR] F-closed a random girl I took a photo for on a night out thanks to simple tips from Seddit. Isn't "getting the girl" both the long-term and the short-term goal of seduction? Everything that you learn, the approach, the interaction, escalation, number close, kiss close, f-close...it always leads to "getting the girl." There is no other point. If you follow a seduction forum to have conversations with women or to get numbers, you don't understand what the whole point of game or seduction is. Those may be interim experiences or goals for the individual, but the end goal, whether short-ter…	/r/seduction	28/05/13 04:16 AM
2	[FR] F-closed a random girl I took a photo for on a night out thanks to simple tips from Seddit. Getting the girl.	/r/seduction	28/05/13 02:31 AM
4	Thoughts on STD/I's Ha! You're a fucking idiot. She confided in me before we ever had sex. Please go light yourself on fire.	/r/seduction	27/05/13 11:59 PM
2	Thoughts on STD/I's This is a good question that gets overlooked in this forum repeatedly. The truth of the matter is that there are only really two things you can do: 1) wear condoms; and 2) communicate with your partners. Neither is 100% guaranteed to protect you - that's a simple fact of life.	/r/seduction	27/05/13 03:08 PM
3	Thoughts on STD/I's or look like they might have something. This is the stupidest mindset period. My last girlfriend had HSV (herpes) and you would never imagine it from the looks of her. In fact, most guys in this forum would go home with her without a pause. She is very attractive, smart, and well accomplished in her legal profession. She is smart and mature about having HSV, but there are many women who will look just as her and not make mention. On the other hand, there are many women who you may assume are slu…	/r/seduction	27/05/13 03:05 PM
4	Thoughts on STD/I's Not sure what you are looking for other than the condom answer. There is no other answer other than: communicate with your partner, wear a condom, or don't have sex. It's just that simple. There is no secret on this one. You can even ask a woman before sex and she can lie to you. Use condoms and be smart.	/r/seduction	27/05/13 03:01 PM
12	[FR] F-closed a random girl I took a photo for on a night out thanks to simple tips from Seddit. I've seen a lot of mixed comments in this thread about whether you were successful or she was successful. I've been focusing a lot on RSD's momentum theories lately, and for what it's worth, just use this as momentum. I've gone through periods where my other game is horrible, and then some girl just randomly picks me up (or picks up on my vibe and makes it easy for me). I think the notion that you were approachable, and ultimately fuckable, speaks volumes for your game. The people who put you do…	/r/seduction	26/05/13 11:30 PM
2	I'm a freshman in college and I've become the campus creeper. How can I change my reputation to a positive one? This is the perfect time to focus on yourself and self-improvement. While a huge part of pick-up/seduction is living in the moment, another aspect is being the best possible "you" that you can be. Take some time to develop you; workout, crush your studies, pick up a new hobby. In time by improving yourself, whatever reputation you've made will be history.	/r/seduction	19/02/13 02:42 PM
1	How do you befriend women? Talk to anyone and everyone. Literally. That's it. Start talking to everyone. Ask them how their day is going. Use the context of the moment to start a chat, make a witty comment, but just talk to everyone.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 07:19 PM
1	Struggling with techniques for number closes. HELP! Thanks! and...my bad	/r/seduction	14/02/13 03:37 PM
3	I just got my first kiss! Looking at the actual kiss, well, the kiss itself wasn't all that great, but the moment and the experience were. I held out. It was my junior year in high school and I was about to turn 16. The girl was a class below me, super cool and very, very hot. To this day we are great friends, though nothing came about. She is also a 10 now, which sorta helped me set my own standards and taught me from the beginning that just because a girl is hot does not mean she is out of my league. There are no leagu…	/r/seduction	21/10/12 05:39 PM
10	I just got my first kiss! First kiss. Lose virginity. First threesome. First kiss still the best/most intense memory! Thanks for bringing back a great moment!	/r/seduction	21/10/12 08:48 AM
7	Bars Have Become Venues for Friends to Hang out vs. Singles to Hook Up I'll speak to this. It's about knowing what women want. Sure, five years ago women wanted to go to a club, but now it's more about bohemian craft-style places. Most women don't want to get dry humped by wannabe marines and guidos. So think logically about where women want to go. Follow suit and you will find gold. My neighborhood bar is a craft beer and mixology spot. It's steaming with women 24/7. When I was single I cleaned up there. Squarehouse is right that it's silly to blame smartphones et…	/r/seduction	13/10/12 02:36 AM
2	Long Story: I fucked a cheerleader from my university last night (solid 9 or 10) Here's my advice to Seddit, looking for some follow-up advice myself too Remember that old camping tale that the bear is just as scared of you as you are of it? It applies to women when you go limp too. If I drink, I can't orgasm. Bottom line. On occasion, the old boy decides to take a night off. In nearly every single instance, the girl feels terrible as if she isn't doing something right - as if she isn't hot enough, or doesn't blow you well enough. So chalk up the instance to alcohol and don't let it get to you. She was probably more self-conscious than you think.	/r/seduction	09/08/12 01:45 AM
3	I have a hard time openly hitting on girls, not out of fear for rejections, but out of fear of looking like an idiot. There is a lot to consider in this post, so i will address one point and try to make sense from there: It's the opening line i have a hard time with. Some guys are really great with opening and being comfortable just saying "hi." I always had trouble with it and stumbled from there. So I took another approach, which has worked really well for me. It's always circumstantial, but I take one of two approaches, both of which I usually undertake while at the bar ordering a drink because it allows me …	/r/seduction	08/07/12 09:51 PM
0	47-year-old male virgin looking for pointers (no comments from whiners who have given up please) At 47, have you considered just heading to nevada to hit a brothel? I don't mean to sound trite, but honestly wondering.	/r/seduction	09/06/12 03:53 PM
3	Problems going from text game to the first date Sounds like this one just wasn't interested. No worries, you have other options...like every other woman on the planet. If she has 8 dudes trying to take her down, great! You can be number 9, or you can move on, build your stable of women and come back to her later. She may be gone, but the thing is, at this venture, you haven't demonstrated value enough. Now, I'm not saying wait two years. But perhaps in a couple of weeks you invite her to something with a group of people where you are also goi…	/r/seduction	29/05/12 01:46 AM
3	Where do I find Girls? OK, so you're in a great spot, with what seems to be a lot going on. As for meeting girls this summer, if they're not around, they're not around. You'll have to look beyond the borders of your town. Since you are outdoorsman of sorts, check into hiking excursions, and things that put you outside doing what you love. If the church thing is your gig, by all means check that out. I know this subreddit is about pushing to meet women, and that's great, but sometimes taking a breather from it all and …	/r/seduction	27/05/12 10:54 PM
8	Where do I find Girls? I think the question is great, but a lot of the advice you have been given here is total shit. If you approach meeting women as "going to the right place," you're missing a huge point of the game. Now don't get me wrong, you asked a question and these fine gentlemen provided you an answer, but I am going to encourage you to think of the lack of women in your area as an opportunity. Let me ask a few questions first: 1) are you in shape? 2) what was the last book you read? 3) what was the last day…	/r/seduction	27/05/12 07:23 PM
5	Seddit, my ex wants to see me for coffee tonight... What do? Also, there are hot girls everywhere. Two years ago I dated THE hottest girl I had met. No idea how I landed her other than I demonstrated a lot of value in our circle of friends and acquaintances. When shit got real, she bailed. I remember thinking "I'm never going to land another girl that hot." For nearly a year it ate at me, although I still hooked up with some attractive women. Then one day, I stopped giving a fuck about her because I saw her out and she looked like shit in the moment. I re…	/r/seduction	15/03/12 02:53 AM
3	Seddit, my ex wants to see me for coffee tonight... What do? This is one of the simplest, yet most brilliant things i have read in years. Seriously, thank you. For the past few years, a few close friends and I have dated, had serious relationships, one night stands, etc. We always get a dialogue going about why it never works, why we can't build trust. I always phrased it as "the ladies we date seem to have one foot out the door." Most of us are attorneys and tend to find ourselves in circles of female attorneys. The term "narcissist" has no better contex…	/r/seduction	15/03/12 02:49 AM
20	How women you put on pedestals really feel about it... this. as a young attorney this is/was very frightening. For about 1.5 years in, i dated some twisted, twisted women. very attractive, but it was me for once who was put on a pedestal. it's a shitty place to be.	/r/seduction	17/02/12 03:14 PM
4	How to deal with inner-turmoil when seeing multiple girls? I like the approach, and I suppose it depends on your intentions. If you want to get serious with this little lady, it's best to talk about it. If you're not sure, and you want to play the field, I like your move. If you're feeling daring, you can respond with "are you asking me not to see other people?" It takes a ton of "umph" out of her question and gets to the heart of what she wants to know. Subconsciously, and quite possibly consciously, she'll respect you and desire you more for your stra…	/r/seduction	12/02/12 08:39 PM
30	How to deal with inner-turmoil when seeing multiple girls? My best friend does this quite a bit; he meets a few girls at a time (when it rains it pours) and somehow falls for all of them, then one, then back to another, all the while feeling remorseful like he is wronging them. My philosophy is that honesty is the best policy. While you don't need to divulge each and every detail about every girl you are dating, when you are dating multiple women, let them know you "have been dating." If there is a conversation, be open and honest. You'll see it works w…	/r/seduction	12/02/12 05:32 PM
1	Don't be the guy version of this. Ever watch the show on VH-1 about pickup artists??? That. If not, then someone who is so calculating it becomes a joke.	/r/seduction	17/12/11 05:44 PM
1	So I'm sure Barney Stinson is an amusing hero to some of you. What are your thoughts of wearing suits all the time? Time and place for the most part. Wearing a suit everyday and all the time seems contrived and uncreative. Anytime I see it done (or a suit worn out of context), it looks as though the gentleman becomes a caricature of the person he is trying to be. It's almost too much thought without enough return if that makes sense.	/r/seduction	28/11/11 12:54 AM
3	Missing people to go out with. I think this is a great consideration. Going out alone often feels weird because initially we think, "hey, I usually have people with me in this environment." It's a singular thought though in that we're only thinking of our immediate situation. But going out alone is not weird at all. People do it all the time when they travel. Even more frequently, think of all the people who are local regulars at bars and restaurants - most of them go it alone. I suggest trying to find a local dive or haunt t…	/r/seduction	25/11/11 04:35 PM
11	I've been away for eight months and come back to. . .this. You guys need to stop overthinking things! What you're demanding is practically impossible in the world of seduction because the lab where one is to practice is the real world - i.e., when the guy is with the girl. As such, if he wants to actively practice what he has concocted in his "lab," he will have to consciously put those efforts at the forefront of his mind in order to employ what he has learned. Quite frankly, I think anyone visiting seddit or interested in seduction should stop being so goddamn silly about it. The whole "indust…	/r/seduction	11/10/11 01:59 PM
1	There are a bajillion and a half threads on how to escape the friend zone. What if I want to put someone in it? I think you're missing the point.	/r/seduction	22/09/11 09:52 PM
2	There are a bajillion and a half threads on how to escape the friend zone. What if I want to put someone in it? Good luck, brother. I've pulled this off a few times, most recently last summer. Honestly, I used the situation as a way to get really close as a friend to the young lady. She is a fantastic and amazing person with incredible insight; I just wasn't attracted to her in "that" way. I felt blessed being in this position as it allowed me to ask the dumbest questions about women and also allowed me to vent my varied frustrations. In the end, there was no mystery about me and I probably came off as a …	/r/seduction	22/09/11 04:03 AM
24	There are a bajillion and a half threads on how to escape the friend zone. What if I want to put someone in it? The advice on this thread is disappointing to say the least. If you sense a girl is attracted to you as more than a friend, yet you want to keep her in the friend zone, then do the following: Ask her for advice on other women. Ask her to set you up with other girls, or at least joke about a hot friend of hers. Never go out alone with her until you establish friend-zone status. Suggest guys for her to date or hookup with; become completely non-threatening. Ask her about her love life all the time…	/r/seduction	21/09/11 11:30 PM
11	Tips for first date with a stripper? Let me start. I went on a date with an amazing stripper last fall. First, treat her like a woman, not a piece of meat, and don't bring up the fact that she dances for a living. If her profession comes up, refer to it as "dancing", not stripping. Similarly, always refer to her as a "dancer", not a stripper. Second, if you play it right, you will have the most amazing sex of your life...but only if you play it right. I'm going to reiterate, treat her like a woman, not a stripper or a pay-for-play …	/r/seduction	18/09/11 11:22 PM
1	What's the best Facebook message to send to a girl you haven't met? For the sake of "man"kind, please do not do this. Don't be "that guy." If you contact a girl on facebook that you don't know, you are "that guy." Think about it this way: How many times have you heard of this working? I joined facebook in the first wave, and since the beginning, I have never heard of this working. Moreover, it screams that you cannot get a girl in real life. If you really want to meet the girl, ask your friend for an introduction. If your friend can't do that, you're shit out of…	/r/seduction	14/09/11 01:55 AM
2	Strange rejection for simply saying hello... Not if he paid for the booze. Any club understands when you buy bottles, that's your booze. If some skank twat is unwelcome in your area or drinking your booze, have them removed by the bouncers.	/r/seduction	10/09/11 09:15 PM
7	How do you # close? I disagree with this approach. "How can I contact you?" leaves her open to give a facebook response or email response. It's the ultimate pet-peeve of many women when a guy isn't direct. I think the sentiment behind the approach is nice, but he wants a number not a friend. To do that, he should just be direct and ask for it.	/r/seduction	07/09/11 03:48 PM
1	[FR] HB8 at the Beach I think you did very well, except I would have held off on an immediate invite to a date that evening, especially for coffee. I think the text was fine to say it was great to meet her, but under the circumstances the coffee invite looked overly desperate. Nevertheless, it seems like you didn't have much time in the area with her so maybe it really wasn't that bad. Either way, just food for thought and it seems like you did a great job.	/r/seduction	30/08/11 05:35 PM
3	I might be Seddit's greatest challenge yet. I feel like I'm "better" than most of the women at the clubs. Clearly not, or you'd have no problem approaching and opening them. You're using the "better than them" philosophy to give yourself a reason as to why a) you won't approach and b) a reason they won't respond. The truth is, you're not better than anyone. Get that through your head. There is no such thing. Once you embrace humility, which it seems like you are trying to do, you need to spend some time developing yourself as a person. It…	/r/seduction	28/08/11 04:41 PM
8	[FR] A beautiful night: girl asks me for directions on the street at 5pm. Hang out till 4am. Sorry to sound like a dick, but I don't understand any of this given you have a girlfriend. I think thetrevelife is correct in that this girl made it clear she wasn't interested in you and that you missed the cues all along. In the end, you may feel as though you walked away in a power position, but the truth is, she dragged you around all day and you have nothing to show. To top it off, you spent all of this lusting energy towards someone who is not your girlfriend. IMO game isn't an excuse to …	/r/seduction	01/08/11 01:09 AM