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The secret is to not marry them. My wife knew she had leverage because she had the marriage license/contract. My ex girlfriend didn't. That was by design. Without the marriage license/contract she really didn't have much leverage. Honestly my ex-gf is a much better person than my ex-wife anyway. So, she wouldn't be the type to get vindictive anyway. But, after my divorce I don't even risk it. All girls now will just be lovers and girlfriends. There won't be a second wife.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 08:49 PM
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Yeah, a bad relationship will teach you a lot of things. My last ex didn't fuck me over like my ex-wife did and our relationship was t really even bad until the end. But, when a wife knows she can get money and prizes by drawing blood they often do that instead of being a reasonable person.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 04:53 AM
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Don't forget cis and conservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:04 AM
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If it's been a toxic relationship full of revolving attempts at fixing it, and yet nothing changes,then you have to assume nothing will change. My last ex (not married) and I had a toxic relation. It was full of incredible highs and incredible lows. I think we officially broke up 5 times and got back together hoping it'd be different the next time around. Nothing changed. The same problems were there. Truthfully, we didn't handle it well on either of our ends. Yes, I still miss her. But, my dail…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 03:48 AM
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I'm in the US. Once I rented a place and set up new bills and expenses they simply subtracted that from my income and gave the rest to her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 12:50 PM
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Dude, what in the holy fuck were you thinking? You are entitled to 50/50:custody AND half of all marital assets. I haven't seen a bigger FUBAR agreement since I've been on this sub. Men need to stop giving everything away. You can't go back and change the asset lottery she won. You already have 50/50. So, potentially you could file a Petition to Modify Support and claim that the equalization payment, regardless of what they called it, is in effect "child support" especially since the duration is…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 01:47 AM
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Fuck victim services. File the PPO citing her physical abuse and aggressive behavior while drunk. You're in self-preservation mode now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 06:49 PM
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My biggest mistake was not moving out once shit started hitting the fan. Ended up with false allegations and the TRO. It was pure hell. I'd move out, get a decent place for where you are in life. If that means you can't make the full mortgage anymore then oh well. Once you get into a new rental contract the judge can't do anything about it. They'll just ask you to send whatever you have leftover after your monthly bills. So, the goal is to not have much left over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 06:48 PM
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Exactly. He's just giving her ammo for the court. OP, tell your STBXW that you've done a 180 on the idea and understand why it's a bad idea (even if you don't). That was then, this is now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:43 AM
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Spousal support for only 2 years of marriage? No way. But, it is CA so you may get stuck with 1 year of spousal support. Either way, if you had kids together you would be royally screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:37 AM
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Call the police and file a report that she's blackmailing you with false SA allegations. At least get it on the record so if she does do it then her credibility is already called into question. Make sure to get a copy of the report you file.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:35 AM
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Excellent advice. Get that full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:33 AM
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All you can do is move forward, bro. Beating yourself up won't help you. Kratom isn't a problem. Boozing too much and the blow is. I know it's easier said than done. I enjoy to drink a little, too. Hey would you lie about taking medication prescribed to you by a doctor and why would that be a problem? If you have ADD/ADHD then it's a legit purpose to use your prescribed medication.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:27 AM
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You're going to have to scrape up the money for a lawyer. How can she afford one and you can't? Most lawyers will accept deferred payment by putting a lien on your home. No, this isn't a fair settlement.she's trying to fuck you with a unlubed baseball full of nails.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:07 AM
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Yeah, I see right through their witchcraft at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 12:13 AM
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Stop being friends with women. Start asserting yourself as a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:58 AM
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Chicks with an outbreak have them around the pubic region. So, any skin-on-skin contact can likely infect you easily especially during a breakout. If she has a Bush, or even trimmed bush, you might not even see it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/08/22 05:04 AM
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Condoms won't protect you from the itchy scratchy anyway.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/08/22 04:38 AM
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One and out for me. I don't need to touch the stove twice to know it burns. Just find a girl to be a forever girlfriend. Surprisingly, women who have been divorced are often agreeable to this especially if their divorce was ugly. Usually women walk with the cash and prizes from a divorce so, of course,they have all the incentive to get married again. Meanwhile, the man got hosed in his divorce which oftentimes outs him back 10-15 years in life on things like savings and retirement. If that has h…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 02:58 AM
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Typically end up being burned over and over again. Also, if you do decide to date a woman and she calls herself a hopeless romantic then RUN. You will never satisfy her. She'll be very high maintenance wanting that Disney dream fairytale every damn day.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 02:56 AM
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Here's how to look at it. If you were single today would you marry her?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 06:59 PM
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Get her working. If she won't then go for full custody citing her unfit ability to parent. She's essentially still a child.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 06:49 PM
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For custody? Does she work? How reliant is she on her parents?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 05:22 AM
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We definitely need more info on your situation. Length of marriage? Children? If so, how man (ages and sex)? Employment status for each of you? Estimated income(s)? Rent or own your house? Any negative history in the marriage (domestic violence, alcoholism,etc)?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 02:28 AM
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The separate physical drive at work is great. It can just be a large 1TB thumb drive.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 05:24 PM
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Then the judge may, or may not, use it against you. So, if I were you, I'd start digging up things to offset it. The fact that you are now earning way more than her, for example, should mitigate it somewhat. Your increased earnings are replenishing the money you spent and she is benefitting from your career success.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 05:21 PM
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Upload those videos to a secret cloud account. Open up a secret Gmail account and upload them to Google Drive cloud storage. If you don't share an iCloud account then you can use that, too. Both would be best. Apple Watches die and sometimes stop recording. A dedicated device will run for hours and hours an AAA batteries. You can download the files to a computer and upload those to the cloud if any funny business is said or done.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:57 PM
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If you know divorce is a foregone conclusion then tell your lawyer this. They'll be able to file the divorce papers first. By the time she realizes a few grand is gone it won't really matter at that point. But, protect yourself from false allegations by recording all the time secretly while you're with her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:50 PM
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If you are in a community property state there is no penalty for spending. If you're in an equitable distribution state then the judge has more leeway to hold it against you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:46 PM
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Good job. This will look Beverly good for you if and when you end up in court. You're being proactive about your problem and that matters a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:45 PM
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Get over the "I don't think she will lie" part. Women will often stop at nothing to win as much as they can in a divorce. I would be one of these and have it in your pocket discreetly recording any time you guys are together. She may very well set you up for false DV charges. My ex did it to me and it she had it all planned out. No, your reckless spending shouldn't penalize you in divorce any more than if she had a spending problem. All assets and debts acquired in marriage are jointly-owned. Do…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:41 PM
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If she moves away you keep your child. The burden of travel and visitation should be on her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 07:18 AM
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A better idea would be a bunch of guys doing a "last Vegas" of "hangover" weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 07:17 AM
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Ornaments that look like golden gooses to lay golden eggs for them for 18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:12 AM
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All women feel they own their kids and you're just a visitor after divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:12 AM
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Pricy. They're much more expensive per hour than even the biggest firms in my town. I guess they have to pay for all of that advertising.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 06:06 PM
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Hire a lawyer now. I am so over this false accusation shit I see from women all the time I might even consider calling the police and telling them she said she lie in court and accuse you. This way at least you have a police report that you warned them. If she doesn't make any false accusations you don't need to use the report.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 03:54 AM
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Because "in the land of the blind the one-eyed woman is Queen." Or, said differently, "in the land of fat women the thin woman is Queen." She might even be a butterface.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:44 PM
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Well, she probably makes less than you do so her time off is more beneficial for the household finances than it would be you leaving work. Just tell them how you cared for them after work. Cooking for them, cleaning up after them, teaching them to ride a bike, doing baths and brushing teeth, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 09:00 PM
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Don't. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 08:16 PM
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Pull out your paystubs and show them who enabled her to sit home and take them to the doctor, pay the bill,get medicine, etc. Since when are both parties in a marriage supposed to do the same things? It's called delegating responsibilities.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 08:14 PM
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Revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 06:43 PM
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Yeah, that's a barrier I've never crossed. If I'm drinking and make the dumb decision to drive to the store sometimes my kids would ask to come along and I would say "no, but I'll get you something." The store is literally next to my subdivision so I spend less than 500' on the road. I don't do this much anymore as I don't drink like I used to. But, having the kids in the car was off-limits.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 06:42 PM
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My ex was just lie that. It was about winning. So, I understand the sickness.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 01:20 PM
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My ex was out for blood, too. Really took me to the cleaners. Hence why I'd never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:54 AM
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She should have bought a calendar and wrote down "BJ" on every day and gave it to him. That would at least be appreciated.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:26 AM
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Let your STBXW know that every dollar you guys give to attorneys is $1 more dollar you guys don't get to split in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:07 AM
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Seems like a weak effort at reconciliation.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:04 AM
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My next and AU had in our parenting plan that whoever is in physical custody of the children is responsible for any childcare costs.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 02:10 AM
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Pull up porn on your phone in bed next to her and fire one off.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 07:10 PM
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Do not move out of the house unless you have documented evidence of her being violent. You don't have kids together and that makes this much simpler. I would IMMEDIATELY at work fill out a new direct deposit form and send the money to a new account that only you are on. If you want to be nice to her you can do an 80/20 split. She doesn't need a lot of money sitting at home. Groceries, cleaning supplies,etc. Consult with an attorney and file first. It's always better to file first. Start gatherin…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 04:38 AM
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Hey, get a hummer for me. Girls that smoke the pipe well are a good find.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 03:30 AM
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Object to 1 and 2. If you don't like the custody presented then answer 3 vaguely. If she makes a lot more than you then answer 4, "to provide an equitable and stable lifestyle for the children." Answer 5 saying, "not knowing the future anything could change." For 6 say, " you haven't settled on exhibits or witnesses and will be forthcoming once I do."
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 07:09 PM
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I've told my sons that the onkynreasonntommsrrynismifnyiunwant children. And,even then it isn't necessary. And, losing custody p, even 50% of the time, is still losing half of the time with your kids. That's a loss in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:39 AM
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My boys are having sex and my daughter has a job. She'll win the likely divorce especially if children are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:25 AM
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What I'm saying is men shouldn't get married as they lose in it. But, women should because they win from it. I've told my sins not to marry and I've told my daughter to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:16 AM
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I see your point. We have the same problem with the question, "at what age should men or women begin using tampons?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:00 AM
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For men, never. For women, by 23-25 at the latest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:26 PM
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Time with your kids is irreplaceable. I'd work to get as much time as possible with them as I could. So, 5050 physical custody and joint legal custody.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 11:26 PM
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Even a Medical Power of Attorney can give a partner decision-making rights.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 11:23 PM
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You don't repeat the mistake of marriage. You've already experienced it. You can't future proof a rigged game.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 11:21 PM
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Fellow OCer. Yes, saw this and has been on the news everywhere.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 10:59 PM
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This can be true. I showed up to a company function with my hot girlfriend at the time and the men immediately took notice and would privately tell me. One even got jealous because his wife is a PAWG and he felt I outdid him. He never let it go.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:24 PM
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If she's holding you hostage with threats of a false criminal report, that will stay on your record forever even if you are later found innocent, then it's time to play hardball. I've had future employment denied due to false allegations when they do a background check even though the charges were later dismissed. The charges are over 10 years old. This will affect you forever.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 04:54 PM
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She's threatening false criminal accusations against him. We're past the point of civility.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 04:52 PM
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Start recording. File the TRO request with her threats just to get it on file in case she does lob false allegations. Better that you brought it to the court's attention first. Next time she throws or breaks ANYTHING call the police immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 03:49 PM
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If it's on the books then I'd disclose it. Also, call out her assets you know she left off if they are valuable.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 03:46 PM
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Here's some wisdom... aim lower on physical looks. It's not all that and they're usually entitled princesses. Stick to the 7-8 range.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:21 AM
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I don't make up the term. As with most other ideas, I heard this elsewhere. CGA uses it a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 12:57 AM
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They have to reel in the next sucker and, by the sounds of it, this one is really great at it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 11:54 PM
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I'll just say that this new woman has more red flags than a Chinese Communist parade.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 11:42 PM
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Yep. Any time you guy something.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 09:25 AM
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Marital assets are marital assets. Whether or not you gifted anyone money during the marriage is moot. The "do you forgive your wife" question is nonsense and irrelevant. You and your attorney can object to questions.also, you should have been given 30 days to return the discovery. If you have a week then just tell them you need more time as you are digging things up. If you don't reply on time all they can do is file a Motion to Compel. So, if they do that then you should file a Motion to Exten…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 03:36 AM
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Start squirreling away cash from ATM withdrawals.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 03:14 AM
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Just put a cock in their mouths and shut them up already. It's getting ridiculous.
/r/MensRights08/08/22 12:47 AM
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Fucking hell right. https://youtu.be/V9AbeALNVkk
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 05:35 AM
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Your attorney needs to file a Motion to Quash TRO. The second lawyer who said not to fight it is a moron and not on the street like you are. Fight the damn thing tooth and nail. Exonerate yourself. Tell your attorney to file a Motion to Quash TRO. At the very least, ask for it to be modified to allow* you to get things from your house and have the kids taken off the TRO. My bitch of an ex wife did the same thing to me. http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 05:27 AM
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Marriage is implied consent in my book. I didn't say to do it against her will. But, you don't know what her will is until you go for it. Must suck to be a young guy today with the new rules that only go one direction. Women can't consent if they're drinking. But, men can. So, a couple hooks up at a bar, goes home together, has consensual sex, and the next day she regrets it and cries rape. Damn, if that was the case in the 90s I'd be a rapist 50x over.
/r/MensRights07/08/22 05:17 AM
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I would crawl over hot coals, covered in broken glass, while naked to not leave my kids. Is there any government assistance available while you're not working? Do you love her and she loves you? Do you guys have frequent and fulfilling sex?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 12:51 AM
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Dude, spin her around, pull her pants off, and take her from behind. Women love men who take charge.
/r/MensRights07/08/22 12:27 AM
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Me? I'm just chilling. I really don't give af about what they do.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 07:31 PM
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Wake up on the wrong side of the bed? This isn't a crowdfunding sub.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 07:11 PM
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Sounds reasonable but, my kids were there. I'm not in the habit of hitting women anyway even though she wanted me to as justification. I didn't give it to her. My kids got to see me cuffed and hauled off to the police car. They know I never touched her to this day and I'm thankful for that. She ended up with some drunk guy that actually did rough her up a few times in front of our kids and my kids are adults now and have said they will beat his ass on sight.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 05:07 PM
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I never tell women what I do. I just say something vague like I'm in business. That could mean literally anything. This is also why I think I'm going to take down my LinkedIn because it's the first Google hit on my name. Or, flip it around on them. Say, "I'll tell you what I do if you tell me what you do. Then we're equals and we split the check." Watch them shriek in horror.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 08:37 AM
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RIP, Mr. Samuels. A true legend not afraid to speak the truth.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 05:36 AM
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Cops ignored the fact that I was bleeding from 3 or more areas. Blood all over the house. Cops* told her to just leave for the night. She got mad and 2 weeks later called and claimed false DV allegations on me. She had no marks, bruises, or anything. Off to jail I went. Editing for autocomplete errors
/r/MensRights04/08/22 03:03 AM
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They can be gentle or they can bite. I've experienced both with both.
/r/MensRights03/08/22 10:35 PM
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Not really. This dick isn't going to suck itself. Plus, I enjoy female company going to concerts, dinner, waking up next to, etc. My understanding of women just means I mitigate my risk. I like snakes. I catch them in the wild. But, I know the species that will bite, I can tell when they're agitated, and I grab them by the tail or pinch their head down before grabbing, simple risk mitigation.
/r/MensRights03/08/22 09:40 PM
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I don't hate women any more than I hate snakes. I understand a snake's nature and I treat them accordingly. Same with women.
/r/MensRights03/08/22 04:31 PM
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In divorce the government becomes her new husband/daddy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 04:27 PM
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I won't even go into specifics. But, she once again used the police against me. She had to "win" at all costs regardless of our kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 04:21 PM
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Get a new lawyer. They are paid to be there and listen to you. A good lawyer will jump through hoops. I once had my son being abused by his stepdad and had to schedule an emergency meeting with my attorney. I was there in 1 hour.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 03:51 PM
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It'll work as long as you have evidence of the consultation. Just record the consultations.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 03:01 PM
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File a Motion to Compel, call the judge's clerk, and calendar it for a hearing date.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 06:30 AM
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You want a bulldog. Someone competitive and treats your case as if it were their own. I've had a few. All were good at filing papers and billing me. Only one really knew how to get shit done. The god one was referred by a friend. Another strategy you could use would be to schedule consultations with the top 10 firms in your area. After you do that she can't consult or hire any of them due to conflict of interest.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 03:56 AM
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100%
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 03:53 AM
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You are going to get thrown under the bus with custody and finances. I consider losing 50%, or more, of my time with children as getting thrown under the bus. Same with finances that I've worked for to provide for the family that she's now destroying. Get a lawyer, let him handle it, don't do any side deals with her*. File first.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 03:49 AM
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Child support is typically factored off of the previous year's income/W2 in order to avoid these sneaky maneuvers. Did you have a lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 11:28 PM
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She's cheating on her husband, the kids father, and has put you in an unstable situation where your mental health is plummeting and she's bankrupting you in the process. No, she's isn't "a good mum." Sorry, man. I'd sell the house unless you have a court order not to. That might actually put her in a difficult situation, while helping yours, and getting you quicker access to your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 11:04 PM
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Yeah, this sounds like a communist's agenda to destroy the fabric of US civilization back in the 50's.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:14 AM
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I was lucky. She ended up abandoning our kids to me while she went back to the streets. Those were the hardest, and best, years of my life with them.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 05:56 AM
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Coming to grips with the fact that you are going to miss out on a lot of time with them.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 05:15 AM
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It's relative to the person. I don't have a college degree and my ex had a masters. Yet, I knew a lot ore than her on a whole shitload of subjects simply because I've been a lifelong reader.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:42 AM
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She really wasn't much of a ho. I was kind of one and I knew plenty of girls that were.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:11 AM
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When I was in HS I had a friend who would ask me to get in her car as she drove by her ex's house to try and make him jealous. Yes, it's just immature behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:02 AM
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OLD is like shopping at the dollar store for expired milk.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 12:37 AM
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The bar isn't exactly a "minding your own business" place. The whole setting is designed to increase and encourage social interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:37 AM
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Yeah. Going back to her at this point is completely insane. How the hell can you ever trust her again after this? It's amazing the shit women will do to their husbands to get the upper hand. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 12:31 AM
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Just don't get married and you won't need several other contracts to protect you from the first one.
/r/MensRights31/07/22 11:10 PM
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Happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/22 11:07 PM
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"Let them" is simply your way of defining boundaries. Let a woman run loose and she will. And, I know way too* much about my ex's friend's sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:55 PM
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Never let your girl do "ladies night." All they're doing is drinking, flirting, maybe a secret shag, and gossiping about all of your private details to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:19 PM
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No. Nor was I looking for one. In hindsight I should've kept the neighbor girl on the hook better. She was an easy layup 2 doors over when I was bored. But, at this time in life I was rarely bored. I had a full social circle and, let's just say, if I introduced her too deeply into my life she might've been a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 08:56 PM
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Well, I was at a bar when I was 21 and ended up shagging some 30+ woman in my car. When I was 18 I had my first apt. I had recently kicked my gf out and within a few days the 30+ chick 2 doors down was hitting me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 08:30 PM
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I'm not sure what to add here. I'm sorry you're going through this. Get a Gym membership so you have a place to shower. Hopefully they have a pool and maybe hydro massage. That will be money well spent. The Domestic Violence Parallel Track r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/22 08:27 PM
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Sounds like a really big "if," dude. You have a woman putting up with all of this. Good luck finding another. If you divorce I recommend just staying single and having girlfriends.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 10:25 PM
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That's fine. You don't have to be with their mom. But, if mom takes you back, which it sounds like she might if you demonstrate a willingness to change, then do that for your kids. Kids grow and develop best when they have both loving parents in the house. If that is out out of the question then get a vasectomy tomorrow so you don't have any more.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 10:13 PM
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YTA means "You're the asshole." You can't change the past. But, you must now be a father to them. This means you can't have them at your house if you're bringing random 304s over. They need safety, security, and your attention.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 10:01 PM
3

Honestly, you don't seem like the kind of guy that likes to be tied down. You fucked up by having children because now you MUST be there for them. I normally support men here. But, in this case, YTA. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 09:49 PM
1

No. I'm intentionally making her look stupid for insinuating that I'm not allowed to look at someone in a public space. I go to the gym, am a pretty big guy, and look at people all the time. Just nod or acknowledge them in some way. If a chick ever came up to me, or made some silly remark, then I'm going to shift the attention from me onto her. She will walk away.
/r/MensRights30/07/22 06:31 PM
3

Well, you messed up by having a kid with her. So, legally, anything you do to piss her off can allow her to ruin you.
/r/MensRights30/07/22 06:18 PM
1

Humor always breaks the ice.
/r/MensRights30/07/22 06:01 PM
2

No. Just a proper retort for her intentional shaming on a guy working out.
/r/MensRights30/07/22 07:45 AM
37

This phase lasts a while. Eat clean, try* to exercise how you can due to your toe, get a small used car for transportation. If you have friends try to spend time with them without being overly-reliant. It sucks, man. Sorry. Listen to Coach Greg Adams on YT. He'll help you get over it a lot faster with some truth bombs.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 01:06 AM
1

I meant divorce. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:26 AM
1

Yeah, well you have to look at the numbers. How many male condoms per year vs female condoms per year are purchased?
/r/MensRights29/07/22 11:24 PM
0

So, given the ultra-minuscule population of people that are serial killers they still need some type of confirmation? Where does this paranoia come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:03 PM
0

Followers aren't acquaintances. An acquaintance is someone you know. If I follow some random person I wouldn't consider myself an acquaintance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:01 PM
0

So, I know this film is probably taking the plot to an extreme. It is a comedy. My point/question is surrounding the level of importance online popularity is for them. If a Gen Zer doesn't have a huge social media presence/following today is that tantamount to being an outcast?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:54 PM
1

Young woman is lonely, lacks much of a social life, is totally fake with everyone trying to "fit in" or seem as though she's way cooler than she really is. Creates a fake online persona, gets all kind of validation and recognition for the fake online persona, etc. A traumatic event occurs in Paris, when she wasn't even there, and then spends her time making up more lies to cover up the initial* lie while relishing in the sympathy and attention she gets from the situation. Instead of coming clean…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:38 PM
19

Add "like a good girl" for more pomp.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 10:19 PM
2

The struggle to get more followers on IG or TT.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 10:13 PM
-1

Personally, no. It gives the woman too much control... especially nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:12 PM
7

The point is, how do you prove she agreed to not use one after she lies and says she told you to? Stay away, guys.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 10:12 PM
9

Oh, yeah. Sign me up to play savior to this one!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/22 10:10 PM
1

Usually not. Just transfer/dump your assets out of US jurisdiction. Don't plan on coming back, either.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 10:09 PM
25

Should have said. Sure, will you go fetch me a protein shake.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 10:08 PM
1

It's just quarantined. You can still join it. Use a browser.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 09:56 PM
-2

Oh, you'd be surprised at how many breakups happens simply because the woman meets another guy, meets some single/divorced women who start whispering in their ear, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:59 PM
0

Most divorces* are instigated by women because women are still highly favored in divorce court. They know they get the house, kids, and husband's paycheck still. The man knows he loses all these things. So, men are much less likely to pull the trigger knowing they lose it all. It's pretty simple. In other nations where men get everything, by default essentially, the men are the ones who initiate divorce. This is mainly eastern countries like Asia, the Middle East, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:57 PM
1

My ex wife was a "devout Christian." In court she was a "devout get-all-you-can-his-expense greed monster."
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 07:54 PM
3

Reminds me of this. They say every man is a potential rapist. Well, every woman is a potential false accuser.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 07:52 PM
1

You can verify a man's height. You can't verify her body count. Btw, I'm tall so the height thing never bothers me. But, women's weight is what I can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:44 AM
2

Consent QR code? Wtf?
/r/MensRights29/07/22 06:16 AM
6

Not just men do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:37 AM
11

And, that's usually guys. We need direct communication. We don't communicate like women by dropping hints and other indirect attempts at communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:36 AM
8

She better do more than that. Which bird represents strength? The eagle. Which bird represent wisdom? The owl. Which bird represents peace? The dove. Which bird represents love? The swallow.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 02:26 AM
7

I read stories all the time about the one getting left feeling depressed and stuck. I rarely read stories of the one who leaves feeling the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:21 AM
7

They can still use it to kick a man out of college, without a refund of tuition, over false allegations. So, I don't think it's going anywhere.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 12:56 AM
21

OP's question was specific for women. Go to r/Divorce and you'll read stories of women or being able to move on when a man walks out. Same with men when women walk out. The one who leaves has already moved on. The one left didn't get that head start.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:45 PM
1

You can't accurately make a judgment by only hearing one side. That's why ex parte hearings in court are only granted in very rare circumstances. This is why we have the right to confront and examine our accuser. If I just go around and start telling people you're a jerk does it make it true? It's like when a girlfriend says "my ex was crazy." Well, let's hear the ex's side of it. I'm sure they have their own story to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:27 PM
6

Usually the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:14 PM
1

I see that you don't understand why courts allow both sides to testify and examine/cross-examine witnesses. He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him. - Proverbs 18:13 The first one to plead his cause seems right, Until his neighbor comes and examines him. - Proverbs 18:17 Don't assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:13 PM
80

Women usually are planning the break up so by the time they get there they have already essentially readied themselves. They also have back-up guys orbiting to run to. Guys usually get blindsided and so they don't start their "moving on process" until after the relationship is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:04 PM
1

Have you ever talked to the fathers and asked their experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:41 PM
1

Same with airplanes.squeeze more people in. Also, people are obviously bigger/fatter today. I'd laugh if the 300# woman next to me complained about my leg spread.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 08:39 PM
1

It's largely over. It still essentially pushed my retirement out of view. Thanks for your condolences though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:37 PM
3

Interest rates are way up, too. It might be prudent for your long-term success to sell the house and rent for a bit. If you're single then maybe even try to rent a room from someone you click with because apartment rents are way up,too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 08:30 PM
3

Sorry, man. I understand exactly what you're going through. Sounds like you're not on the hook for CS or alimony. So, that means you can hopefully rebuild quickly. Thankfully, you didn't have children with her or you'd really be tanked. Any way you can buy her out of the house?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 08:21 PM
1

I try to watch the nightly NBC news occasionally. But, I now see it through the lens of what I know their agenda is. I usually can't get halfway through. Right now the only things worth watching is the progress being made on the wildfires.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 07:40 PM
2

Therefore, we need to find out the "why.l Was he an alcoholic during marriage or did he become one after divorce trying to cope with the pain of the loss of his kids, the turmoil and emotional trauma of family court, etc. Some dads do just walk about. A lot do their best to stay and are tormented in the process. A lot of dad's find dealing with their ex so unbearable that they give up. Would you classify any of these as "shitty dads?" A man might be a great father in the family unit and then cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:38 PM
3

If you're watching MSM (ABC, CBS, NBC, MSNBC, etc) they tend to underplay the epidemic. They cover for Biden just as hard as they vilified Trump. You really have to go to alternative news sources that aren't in bed with the DNC most of the time.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 07:16 PM
2

Well, I spent upwards of 80k in court over 10 years fighting my ex for custody. She abandoned them completely for years and I was the sole parent to young children. When she showed back up it was solely because 1) her image was tarnished as a mother without custody and 2) she was broke and needed money. The kids were a meal ticket to get child support. Then, she did a lot of very dirty things to complicate the parenting plan, take advantage of my leniency and love for my children, alienated* the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:14 PM
8

https://dadsdivorce.com/articles/dads-represent-85-of-child-support-providers-pay-more-than-female-payers/ It comes down to income and amount of custody a parent has. Men still typically out-earn women and women still statistically are favored with custody meaning men pay the lion's share of CS.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 07:08 PM
7

Men have balls that need to breathe/not be pinched. Women don't. Men naturally need more room down there.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 06:53 PM
5

Sounds like you guys are headed for divorce unless you let this reckless woman drag you down with her. She has no financial sense at all. PM me for more advice you can do immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:52 PM
0

You're check to check,s he doesn't work, and wants you to quit the only source of income you have. Sounds like a great plan /s I at least advise a decent 4 person tent so you guys are comfortable in the woods.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:50 PM
3

https://www.nolo.com/dictionary/common-law-marriage-term.html
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:42 PM
3

Well, let me ask you this simple question. You were married already. Was she still the lovely sweet women in divorce that she was when you married her?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:41 PM
3

It has to do with the Democrat-supported Defund the Police movement, no cash bail in large cities, etc. Cops are being vilified by Democrat mayors like Lighfoot in Chicago, etc. So, less cops means more crime. And,the cops are quitting en mass. They're demoralized not getting the support they need. So, even when they're on duty they tend to under police, afraid to get involved in certain things so they don't end up charged,etc. https://www.foxnews.com/us/major-cities-violent-crimes-data-murders-…
/r/MensRights28/07/22 06:28 PM
2

The audio has to be relative to your argument. You need to submit it as evidence with exhibit numbers/letters depending if you're Petitioner or Respondent.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:07 PM
2

Ask why they're absent. Were they divorce raped in court, alienated by the mother, and just said, "I've had enough of this?"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:04 PM
5

The right is not more "war mongering." Trump, for all of his bluster, was actually the first POTUS to not start a new war in 39 years. Also, he had Russia, NK, and China under control. The second he left Russia invades Ukraine and China is eyeing Taiwan. Love or hate Trump... he was effective. As far as prison goes... he did a lot to undo the damage Biden caused with his Drug Crimes Bill (nicknamed the Biden Drug Crimes Bill). Crime has skyrocketed since Biden took over.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 06:00 PM
4

It can protect you from false charges at the least.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:57 PM
2

No, it doesn't. The woman you marry isn't the same woman 5 years later in divorce court.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:54 PM
2

You have to do certain things to fall under common law marriage. Things like "holding yourself out as husband and wife, calling each other such, wearing rings, having some kind of ceremony." I recently learned it's not just automatic with time in the US.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:28 PM
12

Those 20 years of tax benefits will be eaten up in the first 2 months of divorce in attorney fees.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:27 PM
1

Medical power of attorney
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:26 PM
3

No. I've had rough times though since our divorce was high conflict. Children have a hard time blaming the mother for anything despite how bad she is.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:24 PM
1

You must be a woman.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 05:22 PM
1

We wrote it into our plan that no party could move 30 miles, or more, away. School changes had to be agreed to by both. This way the moving parent bears the burden of moving away. She still violated the school provision. Never trust her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:21 PM
1

That's not what the bill says though. It just says a DNA test is solely up to the mother. I'm assuming that means she can just say Bob is the father and say no to a DNA test.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 05:18 PM
8

Go ask this in r/Divorce_Men And, it sounds like you'll be directly-examining her instead of cross-examining. A cross-examination is what you, or your attorney, does after the other attorney performs their direct-examination of their own witness.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 05:48 AM
9

Probably the safety part. I get it. Women are on guard when they meet new guys (especially online). So, I'm okay with them initially not giving me their full name or where they live. But, I respond by also withholding that info. Trust is a 2-way street. But, if a woman insists on all of my deets without offering hers then I'm fine to just move on. I don't want to hang out with someone that paranoid anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:45 AM
10

Sadly, the same isn't true for women who have affairs.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 04:48 AM
20

In their minds men are guilty until proven otherwise.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 03:10 AM
6

You have a life to live, too. You're letting her bully you into accepting what benefits her life without regard to your own. Have a friendly talk and say "the current parenting plan is no longer working and needs to be modified. Can we just agree and stipulate to a quick painless modification?" If she says no then say, "okay, I guess I'll have my lawyer send your lawyer the petition."
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 03:08 AM
1

Plus, with AC women can always put a sweater on. Guys can't undress.
/r/MensRights28/07/22 03:05 AM
5

I simply wouldn't do it. Why do you have this schedule with your ex. Seems like she's living it up by being free every weekend and you just getting weekends. If I were you and stuck in this situation I'd keep my weekends for my daughter. As she gets older she'll want to go to friend's houses and such. So, you could start weekend dating then. Meanwhile, if you can I'd try to get more custody time like week on/off. Are you not able to maintain weeks with Hera.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 02:27 AM
1

https://time.com/4464848/sexist-air-conditioning/
/r/MensRights28/07/22 02:21 AM
2

Inmost decrees there's a requirement the parents stay within a certain vicinity unless the other party agrees to waive it. Find out if that's in your degree and hit her with criminal contempt. My ex moving my kids to another district, solely for her own convenience,was the single most pivotal and detrimental thing she did to make my ability to have shared custody possible.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 01:20 AM
1

Your attorney is incompetent. File a motion to continue or to extend time for the responses. This is basic procedure. Sounds like the other attorney's threat is a motion to compel. The motion to extend time, citing the delayed response you received, should give you another 2-4 weeks. Usually you have 30 days on interrogatories and the number of questions in the interrogatories is limited by statute.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 01:18 AM
3

She better be bringing a decent income to the table. That's really the only benefit other than some things like having a familiar life reference point with music, film, etc. I'm too old to wanna listen to Dua Lipa or Taylor Swift.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:15 AM
1

Well, this might sound brutal. But, odds are that your life is going to be much better in 2 years than it would've been had she not passed away and was always an interference in your fatherhood, hauling you into court for more money, etc. I had my kids full-time when my ex went on her "find herself spree" and having the kids solely to myself was such a great thing. I was able to make all executive decisions, take them where I wanted, no court drama, etc. Once she showed back up with 20 more notc…
/r/MensRights28/07/22 01:12 AM
13

Dude, dropping my kids off after a great week, or weekend, was always the hardest. I feel it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 12:55 AM
3

It's also stupid advice for another reason. Seeing other people just means you'll each get that initial "new relationship energy" and think "this is what I'm missing." The problem is NRE is new and temporary. That's why it's "new" relationship energy. It fades. But, in 3 months it'll still be going on. This therapist essentially said, go have exciting sex and divorce in 3 months. If my chick is banging some other dude I'm gone. Just like that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 12:54 AM
1

If there isn't money for a 5yo to eat then there are resources for that (EBT, SNAP, food banks, churches and charities, and the best of all - family support). I can't fix irresponsibility in other people. The question is "should abortion be women's birth control?" No, I don't most are due to failed contraception. These people aren't using contraception. And, believe it or not. If you are good with your pullout game it works. Worked for me for almost 20 years and I had some good swimmers. My wife…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 09:22 PM
1

Money is a lifestyle reason. Women who financially unstable shouldn't be having sex the same way I chose not to date at all after my divorce. My life circumstances weren't where they needed to be for me to get involved with a woman. This is just simple responsibility. It's the same reason I Tell broke guys not to consider dating. Dating is expensive and they need to get their house in order first.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 08:57 PM
3

Please go post this at r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/07/22 08:54 PM
1

Oh, yeah. That'll get them fired up 😂
/r/MensRights27/07/22 08:50 PM
1

The majority of women opt for abortion for various reasons that center around convenience (lifestyle, financial,etc) https://imgur.com/a/qbgByW8 https://givingcompass.org/article/the-demographic-breakdown-of-women-who-are-getting-abortions I'll add to this comment as I break yours down. I didn't use the word "murder," which implies malice against the victim. I used "kill" which simply means to take something that is alive and make it no longer living. It a logical term rather than emotional. Reg…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 08:30 PM
1

It doesn't on,y affect one. Both are affected. Although, I concede women are more so.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 08:25 PM
1

Let's do it. Send me the feminist links. Also, understand that Reddit is full of kids, too, so getting immature replies and attacks is usually from immature people that don't have fully-developed brains yet. Primarily their prefrontal cortex which is where decision-making, restraint, and other orders of behavior are processed.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 08:22 PM
2

Well, you're having a calm* discussion with me now. I can't vouch for anyone but myself. As far as downvotes go; that's not really "emotional" in the sense that TwoX will tear you to shreds verbally. A downvote just means they didn't like your comment. Your comment could have been, and likely was, factual. Some people just didn't like it. When I say emotional I mean something like where you get massively flamed, called* all kinds of names (the typical "misogynist, woman-hater, abuser, fascist, p…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 07:25 PM
1

Well, if this bill passes then it means it's a child from the moment of conception.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 07:15 PM
1

Sex comes with risks. When you have sex you accept those risks. All you can do to prevent pregnancy is to mitigate those risks as much as possible. IUDs are convenient and incredibly reliable. There are non-hormonal options like the copper IUD. He can also use a condom* if that's what you agree upon. I pretty much perfected my pullout game young. I never had an "oops." Was married for years just pulling out before we decided to have children.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 07:13 PM
1

Why should men not have a say in whether or not his child lives or dies simply for the mom's convenience?
/r/MensRights27/07/22 07:05 PM
2

Well, it takes two to marry. I'm simply giving you the way it is supposed to be. The nuclear family is still the best, and most stable way, to have and raise children.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:59 PM
2

As far as the "divorce rape" term goes it is simply a concise expression. It's akin to saying "I got bent over by my wife in divorce." It was forced upon him against his will. Sounds like a rape to me. I've been through it. And, honestly, divorce rape is much worse than sexual rape. I'd rather have someone forcibly penetrate me against my will once than have the state and divorce court bend me over forcibly for 15 years straight against my will. Men are more logical and less emotional. Like I sa…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:57 PM
1

If the child is born with addiction or fetal alcohol syndrome this is because the mother harmed her child through substance abuse while pregnant. The man's sperm* didn't cause it. So, of course the mother is the one charged. As far as equal responsibility during the pregnancy goes, I agree. The thing is, women don't agree. Otherwise, they'd support men's right to have a say in whether or not the mother gets to kill it for convenience's sake. The way I see it is that women just want everything at…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:53 PM
1

Mommy issues is a thing, too. But, I'll agree more dads check out than moms. So, let's start discussing why that is? I'll start. Wives file for divorce 80% of the time. They are overwhelmingly awarded custody while the dad turns into an EOW father. So, he has a lot of non-parenting time to pursue life. They often find another woman while the single mom is busy caring for the kids. The best outcome in divorce is usually 50/50 custody so both parents feel engaged with their children and it's a bet…
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:23 PM
2

As a fellow fan of Cirque du Soleil I get the reference. I've been to a few of them and they are incredible. Why do you think that is? Men think and argue logically. Women think and argue emotionally. Generally speaking that is.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:19 PM
1

I wouldn't say "blame." I'd say "responsibility" instead. And, having said that, this is what women want when it comes to abortion (man has no say in abortion decision). But, yet want men fully responsible for the pregnancy. You women can't have it both ways. You want autonomy for abortion but a man's responsibility in pregnancy. So, essentially, "heads I win, tales you lose" for us guys.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:17 PM
2

I'm a father and parent. I know exactly what's involved. I went to ever doctor appointment and even assisted the doctor during delivery of my children. I cut the umbilical cords.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:15 PM
1

"Their rights," as is currently defined has no bearing on whether or not they're a person. It's completely based on the law similar to how the African slaves in the US had no rights despite being people. It was simply a matter of law and not related to any scientific basis at all.same is true, IMO, with abortion. Abortion, like slavery, is a highly political issue. So, the ones in favor of abortion or slavery would just dismiss them as "not being people worthy of rights or even living.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:13 PM
1

Marry before you carry.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:29 PM
1

Technically speaking, you and I are just a clump of cells... a golf* ball is a clump of atoms.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:29 PM
2

Why are you here then? Go to TwoXChromosomes and circle jerk there.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:27 PM
1

Marry before you carry.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:26 PM
1

Marry before you carry.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:25 PM
1

Yep. That's it. And, after this bill passes then abortion will be banned nationwide.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:24 PM
1

Costs are much different. This is why women need to stop getting pregnant if they can't afford a child.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:24 PM
1

It's what I did and worked as planned... up until she divorce raped me later on and abandoned the kids to "go live her best life."
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:22 PM
3

Paul Simon - 50 Ways to Leave your Lover
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:35 AM
2

No, I agree. I'm pro-choice in general because I see who's getting the abortions. But, I'm pro life with my own children. My point is you're pro choice. But, you're assuming the pro life arguments that the baby is a person which comports to their "abortion is murder" claim. This is why most pro choice people make up shit like "viability."
/r/MensRights27/07/22 06:32 AM
2

Good luck with that. Democrats would lose too many voters and certain demographics would indeed call it racist. My point was referenced around you conceding that the fetus is a person. But, you're pro choice. So, you're fine with killing a person as long as it has poked its head out. Your beliefs are in contradiction to your own acknowledgment of the child's life.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 05:46 AM
4

Interesting. So, how do you feel about killing baby upon delivery or a week after?
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:54 AM
15

So, you're pro-life? I don't think funerals are common for miscarriages.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:18 AM
4

How soon can you even get a DNA test. If you have to pay from conception how can they prove you're the father? Also, it said a paternity test would solely be up to the mother (big surprise).
/r/MensRights27/07/22 04:13 AM
7

As a father I understand well the cost of children.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 02:49 AM
34

It's actually republicans pushing the bill and the lefties are opposing it because it would establish that a fetus is a person.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 02:48 AM
19

Marry before you carry.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 02:45 AM
20

You're talking to a father of adult children. I'm pretty familiar with the costs of having and raising them. There's insurance, which I used for my children, there's Medicaid if you can't afford it, and there are taxpayer subsidized clinics (which are most,y financed by men). So, should the man get his money back if she miscarries? She's not eating that much more. I'm just glad I had and raised my kids before this war on men got this out of hand.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 02:44 AM
16

Same, brother.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 01:04 AM
14

Granted. So, how about just divvy up the bills 50/50? Anyone who gets a chick he's not married to knocked up these days is a fool. I had a SAHM wife which means I paid for everything. All the food, medical insurance, copays, the house, cars, etc. bpBut, that's because I was dumb and got married. In a situation where there is no legal marriage and it's just a gf or hookup then the state really shouldn't be getting involved. They shouldn't even be involved in marriage.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 12:54 AM
57

MGTOW is looking better and better.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 12:51 AM
142

I don't understand how a child that isn't eating or wearing clothes, even, needs financial support. It's just more mom support and a way to steal from men. What if she miscarries? Does he get a refund? Highly doubtful.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 11:41 PM
1

This is where "I don't recall" comes into play.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 07:20 PM
4

Protect your seed, guys. Do not give it away. If you have sex and use a condom then take that condom to the sink and rinse it out. Maybe even fill it with alcohol-based mouthwash since those are usually handy. Better idea is bleach. So, keep some on hand in the bathroom. If you don't have bleach use some toilet bowl cleaner. Flushing is an option. But, they're pretty bad on the sewer system. You're probably going to the bathroom afterwards anyway. So, run tons of hot water in it at the very leas…
/r/MensRights26/07/22 07:19 PM
11

Any more than you should take fishing advice from a fish.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 07:02 PM
24

Sounds like your typical marriage.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 06:22 PM
1

Do what you know. Pay others to do what you don't know. #LifeLesson
/r/MensRights26/07/22 09:13 AM
2

You're the ones making everything about gender and sexism. I bet if I search "plumbing" right now I'll find an article about how plumbing is sexist.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 07:48 AM
3

Yep, air conditioning is sexist, too. https://time.com/4464848/sexist-air-conditioning/
/r/MensRights26/07/22 05:41 AM
3

Pretty sure at this point you can find an article on how a toothache is sexist. Edit: OMFG. I actually decided to look and see if it could get this ridiculous. Here's what came up. https://kevinobrienorthoblog.com/is-sexism-an-issue-in-orthodontics-and-dentistry/
/r/MensRights26/07/22 05:37 AM
4

I'm awake. So are you. One at a time.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 08:17 PM
3

Use that as evidence of an unstable home for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:35 PM
2

Give this info to your lawyer. I'm not a lawyer. I do have EXTENSIVE experience in court though. I did a lot of Pro Se work that stunned the attorneys I hired. So, I can give layman advice well. I'm not paid and I obviously don't ask for payment. I'm just telling you my view of the case. It'll really come down to you, your lawyer, the judge, and the evidence. There is a time-filing rule on presenting evidence. So, if you want to introduce that at the hearing do it now w your attorney. You can't …
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:24 PM
1

Did you let her?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:13 PM
5

It's always the man who ends up on the street. Happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:09 PM
3

Sounds like you have a decent lawyer. That's the first part. Treat your lawyer well and that'll make them fight harder for you. A TRO is just that. Temporary. It can be changed at any time by motion. I think you have a good case unless the judge is a woman and just favors women (most common in divorce court). If you think you've been unfairly biased or treated after having the motion to dismiss/modify TRO then TELL, not ask/suggest, your attorney to file a motion to disqualify that judge for cau…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:06 PM
64

Men aren't allowed to be interested in their rights. Especially "Cis white men." But, men, in general, are in open season.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 06:56 PM
4

8 day old troll account.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 06:44 PM
40

I literally pulled the first thing I could think of to see if someone was calling it sexist. Guess what it was. Cars. And, look what I found. https://www.leaseplan.com/en-us/blog/news/is-your-car-sexist/ I am so over this bullshit victimhood of women.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 05:32 PM
1

Now you're weirding me out, dude.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 05:17 PM
1

The rare earth minerals are scarce, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:16 PM
1

Not me. If a woman behaved like a complete child she'd be out the door immediately.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 05:09 PM
1

You missed my point entirely. I'm talking about waste and emissions. Do you understand how much energy, waste, and emissions are created building solar panels, batteries, wind turbines, etc? I'm not against solar. I'm about to buy a solar generator with panels. I'm just saying that creating the tools to make green energy isn't a green process at all. It's filthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:08 PM
1

Oldest teenager in the house.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 04:57 PM
0

Her "victims" were 17. The legal AOC in half the US is 16. I was having sex at 13. Big difference between 17 and 7.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 04:57 PM
1

I'm not a renter. I've owned my homes since 2003. Anyway, Musk is the only one really building a charging infrastructure. So, traveling will be impossible, practically, with other brands. I won't buy EV because it's a joke. Where do you think the electricity comes from? Fossil fuel burning. All it does is shift the emissions from the tailpipe to huge coal and natural gas plants. That, or we boost nuclear energy and risk that. Solar and wind are a small fraction of electrical generation. And, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:48 PM
1

Yeah. If they block outlets just stop patronizing the restaurant l also, send an email or message on their corporate website to let them know.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 04:43 PM
3

I fully understand. While reading this again I began to look inside myself how I'd feel if one of my sons passed away. Just the thought brought tears to my eyes and it hasn't even happened. I can't fathom to even understand the pain you're going through.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 04:40 PM
1

I'm not moving goalposts at all. I'm pointing out the folly of your hate (Musk for EV and Trump for real estate). Also, if Musk is smart, and I know he is, he'll make his charging stations proprietary like Apple did with the Lightning cord.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:27 PM
1

So, you don't think EVs are a possible replacement for CGE cars? Do you also not think more housing is needed?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:02 PM
1

And, don't get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 03:52 PM
1

So, what you're saying in a nutshell is that any company that is successful, and used a SBA loan to start up, deserves no credit or recognition. Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:45 PM
1

No, that sub hates Elon despite the purpose of the sub. They purport to be in favor of technology and hate the 1 guy that has made EVs normal and even hip/cool. He's competing with NASA on rocket technology. He flies rockets to the international space station to resupply astronauts, he essentially created electronic payments with PayPal, etc. He's currently exploring ideas to travel to Mars (a dumb idea IMO). So, the technology sub hates the 1 guy who has done more forward-thinking technology th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:40 PM
1

This is PPD. Debate is in the name of the sub. It's not PPL (purple pill links). Links are fine to support an argument. But, they can't be the argument, itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:17 PM
2

So, your opinion is solely based on other's opinions? Do you not have your own opinions or thoughts without being told what to think about someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:13 PM
2

So glad I'm in a male-dominated field (engineering). We have a few female engineers. But, they know they're swimming in the deep end of the pool with us and behave.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 01:52 PM
43

Just don't get married and play into the system. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights25/07/22 01:29 PM
1

How tf are you on the hook for $15k/month? You must be rolling and she must be digging. The sooner you get her out of your life and move on the better. Also, get a competitive attorney who "owns your case like his own." Don't get stuck with that bill permanently.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 01:28 PM
1

Yes, facial features are genetically-driven. But, ugly faces are way more detrimental to women than men. That's why there's a term for it. Butterface. I know a few butterfaces. Really cool girls. They know they can't coast on their looks so they're usually more friendly and have great personalities. Whereas, the naturally beautiful women are often haughty and bitchy because they've been treated like a princess their whole life. Here's my advice if you want a stable girlfriend. Add to my criteria…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:21 PM
0

"Literally" was an unnecessary adverb to use. Downvoting is against sub rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:15 PM
0

You specifically listed not being an asshole in your criteria. I responded accordingly. Yet, I'm the one saying stupid things? Well, there's my red pill for the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:10 PM
0

Welp, some people would call me an asshole if you asked them. And, I'm perfectly okay with that. A lot of people use "asshole" in lieu of "can't be taken advantage of."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:04 PM
3

I had a consultation with an attorney who saw my case was high conflict and was emotionally drained from divorce cases. So, he gave me a few leads of big firms in town. The first one I went with was very professional but did a lousy job. Not aggressive. Later on I found a rockstar attorney that got shit done immediately. You want a guy who is there to win it like he's playing in his own tournament rather than just collecting your check and pushing papers. Find a guy who you feel is competitive.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 11:30 AM
1

Generally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:22 AM
0

Compared to men they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:52 AM
0

I didn't generalize on women. I listed my specific criteria of what not to be and basic things to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:47 AM
2

I can't generalize on something so broad as "men." In that category is the disgusting guy who turns into a serial killer and the other guy who runs a business and parties on his boat on the weekends. If you want to tell me your story maybe I can opine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:39 AM
3

If you don't want to explain your opinion then don't lead off with a disparaging attack on someone's character.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:37 AM
-3

So, you don't know yourself. You're referring to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:32 AM
-4

What makes him a "slimy dick bag?" Honest question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:27 AM
2

Elon is a brilliant man who puts his ideas into action. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:26 AM
2

You can't change intrinsic attributes. But, you can work with what you have. Admittedly, I have it pretty easy. Others have to work harder. So, put in the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:17 AM
2

Agreed. Do what you can with your looks. Don't be a complete dick. Know where your life is going. That's about it for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:13 AM
1

Good luck with that.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 09:31 AM
3

Take care of #4 or she'll do the same thing. Looks like you enjoy punishment.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 09:29 AM
5

Dude, where do you even get these checklists? Some are nice to have. But, they aren't dealbreakers. All women have to do is not be fat, ugly, angry, have good personalities and be pleasant, not broke, and knowing how, and be willing to, cook is good enough. They have it pretty easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:25 AM
6

No. We had a decent,y long marriage, children, etc. They knew I wasn't a bad guy. They knew she was whoring around.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 09:14 AM
1

Same with how feminists support Islam. Weird bedfellows.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 09:13 AM
1

Nope. File the case, cite her abandonment and seclusion of the children, and ask for a TRO. TRO is automatic in my state to prevent this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 04:34 AM
1

If I come home from work, bags are packed, and kids are gone, and I know a divorce is happening, then this is grounds for a TRO on property and children.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 04:21 AM
3

I do when I shit.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 03:51 AM
2

She, and the prosecutor, threatens to put my son on the witness stand to testify. What a fucking disgusting thing to do to a 10 yo boy. He knows I didn't do it, he was there. But, I just didn't want to out him through a prosecutor's examination. So, I took a plea which was a non-violent plea and it away after probation. So, I had my kid's interest at heart and she was willing to weaponize him under pressure of a court trial. Totally ducking disgusting behavior from a "mom." So, I took some whips…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 03:46 AM
15

No, you're not. My ex's family is the one that essentially got our divorce going (her grandmother). But, I was pretty tight with her mom, brother, cousins, etc. after the divorce we remained friends and contacts. Once the ex made things shitty* they all turned on me. They will turn on you. They will side with her. Regardless of why. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 02:54 AM
13

I can't say I've dealt with that. I have 2 sons, too, and couldn't imagine that scenario. I'm really sorry, man. One of my sons dying would be the worst thing I could imagine. If your wife doesn't know the divorce is coming then maybe just sit still for a bit. Regroup your thoughts and emotions. This definitely is a life-altering moment. If your wife does know about it then be careful of her using this as a vulnerable point to goon the offensive. You're fighting two fronts now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 02:32 AM
10

I already know who to. What I need are positive signals rather than negative.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 02:12 AM
4

No judgement, man. I'm sorry she's not with you anymore. I have great street smarts, too, because I grew up on them. But, I've also educated myself through reading and school so I'm both book and street smart. But, street smarts are important in every facet of life. I still use it in business to detect scams, etc.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 12:23 AM
1

Often.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:20 AM
13

Because she came from the streets.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 12:02 AM
1

If an invasion on the US ever happened it would be a one-sided fight. Every other house would have a person with a scoped hunting rifle out of an upstairs window sniping. As far as my sons go... they wouldn't need to necessarily join a battalion. We need Minutemen. Men who are trained, equipped, and willing to use guerrilla warfare. If they did switch their weapons it'd be the same thing, but select-fire instead. It takes 10 minutes to swap your optics and fore grip to a new M4 and is essentiall…
/r/MensRights24/07/22 11:40 PM
1

My sons would generally prefer to fight. They have their own AR-15s decked out with optics, fore grips, etc. Running isn't in their vocabulary. Nor is it in mine.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 11:16 PM
2

She was still great looking, fit, happy/friendly, etc. Essentially, he was the textbook male orbiter. She had other in town I knew about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:56 PM
-2

Ha! The hospital bed comment would be pretty savage.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 10:32 PM
2

My ex did it when we broke up and moved out. She got tired of couch surfing and, all of a sudden, her friend of 20 years all of a sudden is her new boyfriend. My point is, women who don't find men sexually attractive will seize upon them if the situation is right or needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:23 PM
43

Don't tell the feminists. They'll just cause another uproar.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 09:53 PM
-20

Look. I'm being honest here with other guys. Don't flame me for sharing. And, your serial killer comparison is a far cry from getting laid.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 09:49 PM
-14

Does it help if I tell you my cute 12 yo babysitter would play games with me when I was 9? Do I now feel like she violated me? No. We were all learning and she was being my teacher at the time. But, in hindsight,s he didn't know what she was doing either.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 09:49 PM
-28

Yeah, I'm serious. I was sexually active pretty early. So, my opinions might be skewed here.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 09:29 PM
2

Until you get evicted with your two kids and need a backup plan. I've seen this happen. https://youtu.be/8njkM84Hp9c
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:20 PM
4

Great analogy. Same for boats. Those are to rent, not buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:42 PM
3

Your description is the epitome of a great FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:41 PM
0

He liked the sex from his FWB but didn't see her as relationship material. The next woman, for his reasons alone, ticked that box. For me I look for a few simple things. Obviously she can't be ugly. I'm going to be looking at her, and having sex with her, a lot. So, she needs to be attractive enough to where I dont recoil at the thought of that. She needs to have a kind and genuine heart. This means that she isn't conniving, vindictive, likes to argue, overly-dramatic about petty things, she tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:40 PM
7

Oldest teenager in the house.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 06:31 PM
54

Yeah, not in my case. I love my mom to death. But, she's the most gullible person I know.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 06:30 PM
6

Seriously. I've worked in offices that had few men and offices with few women. I'll take the latter any day. We actually got things done without drama.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 06:29 PM
36

Here. Now you can piss like a man.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 06:27 PM
1

I see online where they refuse to serve and kick them out. I saw a clip once where a Good Samaritan took a homeless guy to McDonald's and they were both refused. They ended up calling the cops on them to get them to leave.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 06:05 PM
53

Agreed. The rainbow community is all for Ukraine even through being gay there is illegal.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 07:08 AM
46

Exactly what I said in another thread where someone was saying Russia is conscripting and Ukraine was not. Yet, women and children were allowed to leave but men were not. That was a nationwide conscription.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 07:08 AM
1

Those women still believe in taking care of their men. Just insist on doing the grocery shopping and learn to cook. Though, I've met a lot of hot ass 20s Midwest girls who were thin. They don't get big until kids and mid 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:59 AM
8

Safe bet is to do it and drop the papers. If you play the nice guy game she'll instantly turn into fight mode and now you've essentially warned your enemy that the assault starts inn3 days and gives her time to prepare. Based on lengthy experience, I'm more of a plan and attack guy rather than warn of the attack. If you had ideas of reconciliation it might be different. But, you don't.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 05:35 AM
1

I don't. I've had my fill. A sex worker now, to me, is a waste of money.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 05:16 AM
1

She's shown she's a potential risk for taking the children far away already. He needs the lawyer to do this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 03:18 AM
4

Ukraine's military isn't nearly all voluntary. Women and children were allowed to flee. Men 60 and under were required to stay and fight. That's what I call a dragnet conscription activity. Yes, war is about resources. Have you ever played Age of Empires? Same thing. Once you deplete your gold* and stone mines you send miners to plunder the neighboring tribes mines and you send some military with them to protect the mining. This is an age old concept and won't be going anywhere any time soon. I …
/r/MensRights24/07/22 02:46 AM
1

Fair point. Are you in a better spot now?
/r/MensRights24/07/22 02:39 AM
2

I have a vasectomy so I'm good. Also, copper IUDs aren't hormonal.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 02:38 AM
5

Honest question and no judgment. If you didn't have a hime, but had a job, where did all your money go?
/r/MensRights24/07/22 01:28 AM
14

Buy a cheap item. Now you're a customer. So, morning hash brown. Or, 6 McNuggets. You get food, a shower, and a shit. Brush your teeth, too.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 01:10 AM
11

That would be mIsOgyNiStiC
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:50 AM
12

Her response? Probably something like my ex said. "A girl has needs."
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:50 AM
6

Some health plans do. Some don't. It's not legally required. It's more the company encouraging health to minimize their healthcare costs. Same with free smoking addiction treatment. Now they just won't hire you if you smoke.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:37 AM
14

At the same time they complain about side-effects and that they're the ones responsible for BC. Do t try to reason with feminists.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:27 AM
205

Men die earlier so we should get 2 weeks more vacation per year to enjoy our lives because women have an extra 5-10 years after retirement to do so.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:18 AM
5

First off, Russia felt a legitimate provocation by Ukraine seeking NATO membership which would have completely surrounded Russia with anti-Russia nations. It's a legitimate concern and provocation from their perspective. Did Ukraine attack first? No. But, the growth of NATO around Russia has been like cornering a wild animal. They will feel threatened and attack. Regarding conscription... in today's world women should be conscripted,too. Conscription, itself, isn't going anywhere just like war i…
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:16 AM
9

How dare you assume their gender.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:00 AM
36

Women can usually hobosexual up with a white knight.
/r/MensRights23/07/22 10:40 PM
-9

As a high school student who was busy fucking lots of other girls I would've had no problem. She probably would've given me an A with no effort at all.
/r/MensRights23/07/22 09:30 PM
2

Ha! I remember those days. Plus, you're dehydrated from party favors and the heat/dancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:48 PM
3

I would dance circles on any discussion with all of them unless it was directly related to their field. Even the medical professionals I dated I was able to keep up because biology, physiology, endocrinology, kinesiology, etc, are personal interest of mine where I've done a lot of reading. I couldn't add a whole lot to my teacher ex as far as her classroom. But, as a father I understand children. And, being knowledgeable about politics helped because teaching requires a lot of politics and diplo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:30 PM
1

If you travel up the thread you'll see how it's relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:56 PM
1

I lost my abs in my late 30s. As you get older they're harder and harder to have or keep. I wasn't even going for abs. I was practicing MMA, along with a few other extreme sports, so I was naturally muscular and ripped. Age takes its toll on all of us unless you devote yourself to fitness. I have a neighbor in his 70s and he's fit as hell. Haven't seen him shirtless. But, I wouldn't be surprised if he had himself a 4 pack still, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:56 PM
4

Conservative cities where women aren't feminists. They might be on the bigger side though. So, think places like the Midwest and South.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:34 PM
28

Gotta take that bird bath somewhere. Or, worse, shoot up.
/r/MensRights23/07/22 05:33 PM
210

Homeless people. It's to deter them.
/r/MensRights23/07/22 05:17 PM
6

I'm pretty sure my ability to discuss a wide variety of issues intelligently, and in depth, is what turns a lot of women on. The last 3 women I've been with were all educated professionals with advanced graduate degrees, while I have no degree. They wouldn't date an unintelligent guy. This is why women mess up on their profiles, or search criteria, when they list specific levels of college completion. You can educate yourself better and cheaper on your own if you buy books and read.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:16 PM
2

If you search "Jason Mamoa dad bod" this is what comes up. My point was the double standard of how you can't call a clearly obese woman, like Lizzo, fat, in the newspapers. But, you can call a very fit dude "dad bod" because he's not rock hard at 6% body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:03 PM
1

*The alternative is that men who are rapists get away with rape. That's a worse alternative scenario, in my opinion.* In this comment you just made a parallel argument that all people accused of murder should be convicted of murder or receive life in prison without the possibility of parole, or the death penalty. How, because due process in Court might let a murderer go free (like how most everyone believes OJ Simpson indeed committed murder and went free). So, in the interest of not letting a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:57 PM
20

That's why he needs to record and prepare for trial.
/r/MensRights23/07/22 02:34 PM
1

Defamation is a civil offense. So, you're okay with a woman just getting a civil fine and not even the minimal "filing a false police report" misdemeanor offense. Amazing. So, a guy needs to spend thousands of dollars for a simple civil judgment? I don't think a fine and blemish on a credit report is sufficient penalty for attempting to falsely ruin a man's life. I don't engage in casual sexy anymore. I had my fill in the 90s when I was a horny teenager and early 20s. But, that just means I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:33 PM
1

Of course it does. Do you know how many romance novels a year women buy? Also, downvoting is against sub rules. Can you follow basic rules in life? The double standard is the media then. But, it's acceptable to call him "dad bod" but not okay to call a non-fitness model woman "mom bod."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:06 PM
1

If it's a southern state then the AOC is probably 16. Anyway, I have a better story. Last night around 11 I was at the convenience store. 3 girls who looked around 14 came in and I noticed several guys eyeing them. So, I get it. The cashier even flirted with them to the point I was getting irritated simply that he was holding up the line to flirt with these teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:05 PM
29

In the interest of self-preservation you should call the police now and explain all this to them. File a report. This way if she does anything you've already put them on notice that she is attacking you and attempting to goad you into a physical altercation. Start recording her with a small Sony audio recorder like this. You can buy them sometimes at Target. Next time this happens take the audio to the police station and file a report. See if you can find a friend to live with ASAP. If she gets …
/r/MensRights23/07/22 12:21 PM
7

Pretty accurate. Romance novels are practically literary porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:15 PM
1

"Our love is like no other love!"
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 12:05 PM
0

His more ripped physique is meant to mimic comic book drawings. Fictional characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:48 AM
3

The one I gave sums it up. Sex sells. Record labels want to sell the artist and music.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:37 AM
3

Why do they do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:29 AM
-1

Downvoting is against sub rules. And, she's learned that sex sells. So, now her modesty went out the window to spruce up the bank account. She's trying to increase her monetary value like Hannah Montana did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:25 AM
-1

Where? I've never seen that. Billy Eilish intentionally wears baggy clothes to hide her figure, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:11 AM
3

New lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 05:03 AM
5

Show me a fit women, who isn't chiseled, that is body shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:00 AM
5

Not me. Men are generally a lot less picky as long as they're attractive. I've been with super fit hotties, hippy hotties, and regular hotties. They were all different. Nine of them were obese. That's what makes them unattractive to me. But, some guys are "chubby chasers" or "PAWG lovers." I don't judge other men's likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:46 AM
1

You do understand that the mere accusation of rape brands a man and tarnishes his reputation for life, right? Should a man be at whim to some he said/she said public record? That's question #1. Question #2 is would you be in favor of women serving the same time in prison he would have if found guilty, and having to be labeled a sex offender if he was later found not guilty or it was revealed she made a false allegation?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:41 AM
0

They're virgins, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:37 AM
10

But, he was shamed on vacation for having a dad bod. Seriously, women think this is a "dad bod." He's in phenomenal shape. Is he ripped and on diuretics for a set or film? No. But, by any measure at all, except the fallacious BMI which doesn't cover athletes, he's in terrific shape. Imagine if a woman was 10-20lbs from being a female fitness model. Are you on board with the double standards yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:04 AM
1

Pretty much. Same as "only women can't consent to sex if both the guy and girl are drunk." Men still can "consent" so it's rApE.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:36 AM
0

You can't properly confirm how inebriated a person was, or wasn't, the next day. Al this is going to do is end up in men being falsely accused of rape with no evidence. It'll be a he said/she said case without witnesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:01 AM
2

I'll agree with your last part. We're pretty much judged for everything we do nowadays. But, you agree that two inebriated people who have sex isn't rape unless it is forcible, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:48 AM
1

Why should anyone at all be "punished" for having casual sex? I don't follow TRP so I'm not coming from that angle. Nobody is stepping on "women's rights" by letting them do, without liability, the same thing a man is doing while getting punished. No, worse than punished - being accused or convicted of SA. Casual sex has been around for a very long time. Please give me your reasoning on why an inebriated woman can't consent. But, an inebriated man can.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:27 AM
0

I've had great sex with women from 6-9 (there are no 10s). What I find creates good sex is being willing to be a little dominant in bed. As a guy you can control the tempo since you're usually the one moving. Teach her along the way and pretty soon she'll start taking over.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:34 PM
9

The last thing I'd be concerned about right now is dating. Dating and women are expensive and you have a mountain of debt. I'd focus on that and your kids right now. I did the same thing. I was lucky to have a good paying career when it went down. What never goes away is the drama. Get ready for years and years of BPD craziness. You may be divorced. But, you're tied to her forever due to you children. Just keep all contact professional and matter-of-fact. The less interaction with her the better…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 10:21 PM
1

If that's your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:21 PM
5

Some women turn into gold diggers 10 years later down the road once the kids are in school and she has too much time to lounge around at the pool, spend all of her free time on hobbies, meet other divorced women who whisper in her ear, etc. That's what happened to me. She went from easy-going hippy to gold-digging ruthless biotch.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 08:21 PM
5

That's because we want the situation to be treated equally. Maybe once more women get on the hook they'll lobby for a change in the laws.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 08:10 PM
1

Like I've already said everyone is free to set their own expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:08 PM
1

It's never split 50/50. Other than that, I've never needed to let a relationship simmer before it became physical. So,,maybe that's just been my programming from experience. If it is happening then I assume she's just lukewarm.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:07 PM
4

Guys are traditionally the pursuers. I don't hit on every attractive woman I see. Matter of fact, I rarely do at all anymore. I have other things going on in life and really don't want to out in all the time and effort into another relationship right now. That could change in the future. But, women are pretty invisible to me at this point. Will I notice them? Sure. Do I know what it comes with if I pursue them? Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:05 PM
0

Yeah, I don't know much about that. I'm pretty good at reading people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:02 PM
1

I didn't take it as a dig. No worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:01 PM
1

I don't violate boundaries. I've often been criticized for not being forward enough. I met a woman on OLD, we had a great first date. She invited me to her house for dinner and we had another great date. The next day she asked why I didn't make a move. I said, "I dunno. What did you want to happen? She said, I don't know. A make out sesh?" See, that's how it works. They're either into your soon or they aren't. I'm not always the initiator. But, the keepers for me are the ones who sense that stro…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:01 PM
1

Based on a lot of comments and posts here I tend to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:38 PM
2

I've never been called creepy. I'm just pointing out that creepy guys have eyes, too. When women dress provocatively they are casting a wide net and pulling in everything it catches. Sometimes you need to throw some things back. The opposite would be spear fishing. That's where you select exactly what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:38 PM
1

I don't have a problem getting laid. So, I guess I'm just used to that being a norm. So, it's built my expectations. The last woman I waited for was my then girlfriend/now ex-wife. It was about 2-3 weeks in, we were partying and fooling around. It was time. She was practically living with me and spending every non-working hour with me. So, what are we waiting for at that point? The only reason she wanted to wait was that she didn't come off as easy. Well, that's not a good enough reason for me, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:35 PM
7

They accept women without children. And, when they do accept children they usually force them out once the boy child turns 12-13.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:30 PM
3

Everyone is free to set their own rules. I've been with women I had instant chemistry with and BOOM. I've been with other women I liked, but it lacked the chemistry I'm looking for. I'm not just looking for a stable, but boring, relationship. I'd rather be stable by myself if there's no excitement. I can find ways to have fun single that don't cost me a bunch of money and drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:29 PM
2

Yeah, I agree with that. It's not the most important thing. The ones saying it is probably haven't had it. But, without it you're just friends. Or, worse, a friend you're supporting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:26 PM
2

That connection is what I call chemistry. Bonds build over an extensive period of time. Personally, I'm not waiting 3-6 months to find out. That's just too much money and time to invest in something that's an unknown.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:20 PM
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Women dress provocatively often in order to attract sexual attention in public. A woman's attractiveness and sexuality is her biggest draw. They can't complain that 5 "creepy guys" out of the 100 guys at the store, bar, or wherever, are also giving her sexual attention. That would be like me baiting my hook, throwing it into the river fishing for trout and complaining that a bass had the audacity to bite and take my bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:57 PM
5

There's also benefits for female-owned businesses as far as SBA loans, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:47 PM
4

It's not even hypothetical at this point. Plenty of men get falsely accuse of SA for simply having consensual sex if a woman is inebriated even if the man is also inebriated. This used to just be two inebriated people hooking up. I did this tons of times when I was younger. But, now only men can be victimizers and only women can be the victims. It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:43 PM
2

The power dynamic has shifted incredibly. Therefore, the solution needs to balance out as well. It hasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:41 PM
8

Look at the disparity in women's DV shelters compared to men's. I think there's only 1 for men in the entire US and it's somewhere in the Midwest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:40 PM
1

That's what dating apps and hookups are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:37 PM
2

I'm not into wait games. Everyone is free to establish their own rules. The 3 date rule makes sure guys just aren't being used. Dates cost money and time and most men still pay for the dates. I don't invest in women who aren't investing in me. You'll know if there's chemistry or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:35 PM
5

Get a small audio recorder like this to covertly record audio for the next month while she's still there in case she tries to frame you for a false DV or SA allegation. Move into a separate bedroom until she's gone. You're recording, so be on your best behavior. Do not let her engage you in any kind of argument. Be as stoic as possible, yet cooperative, polite, and kind. Make sure you're in a one-party consent state. This means only one person needs to consent (you, in this case) for it to be le…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:33 PM
7

3 dates. If it doesn't happen by that time then the chemistry isn't there. That's how I roll.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:08 PM
5

Block her so she can't call you or text you. Set up a new Gmail account solely for her. This gets everything on record and prevents her from interrupting your day with her bullshit. DO NOT have the email account linked to your phone email app. Make sure that you have to check it at home on a laptop or computer. This enables YOU to decide when you choose to read her communications. My ex would text or email me during work hours and just totally ruined my day. So, I made sure I'd never hear from h…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:58 PM
3

Your lawyer should know how to handle this. File an emergency motion for TRO on property and children. This might even be able to be done ex parte (her not having to be served or present).
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:22 PM
2

You have a lot of assets that this should be done with an attorney. The no kids part makes this a simple asset split and be on your merry way. Buy her out of the 2 unit hime, stay living where you are and rent out the other one. Assume the medical bills WILL be paid. Half of it will fall on each of you. But, if it's her therapist then what I would do is find out what that sum is FROM YOUR ATTORNEY and have half of the sum deducted from the asset split. You want this in the Decree so you are not …
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 03:40 PM
13

You need a god lawyer here. I was a single father of kids roughly the same age after I got divorced and my ex turned into the town bicycle. Those were my best years with them because their mom was off smoking pole while I was able to be with them and do all of the things together with them that we enjoyed unimpeded by their mom. When their mom showed back up years later all she did was undermine me, cause chaos, and attempt to alienate me. One thing I'll say is that as they get older mom will be…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 03:30 PM
10

Whatever you do, don't get married again. How many times do you need to touch the stove to know it burns?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:36 PM
1

I my state you can file for a modification practically at any time. Every time I got a raise she'd want more. She has not left one cent on the table. The money is for her lavish lifestyle and not for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:32 PM
8

No way would I let her back pedal. She already revealed her hand. Time to call.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:14 PM
29

I was in the same situation, but reversed. She has spent the past 10 years digging for every red cent she could get from me. Don't be guilted into being "the nice guy." They are never "the nice girl" when the situation is reversed. Maybe you'll get enough CS and alimony to cover the time you need to finish your degree and get your career going. Don't let her guilt you or shame you. Use the system exactly as she would. Get a lawyer and don't agree to ANY proposals she wants to make. She will make…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:12 PM
17

Yep. It's nice to see when a man is on the other side of things. Get a lawyer. You're the established caregiver. What are the ages/genders of the kids? Looks like you'll get child support, alimony, the house, and custody. Let her go back on the CC.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:08 PM
1

When you file for divorce usually automatic TROs are out in place for property and children (if there are any). Otherwise, the person who cleaned it out will likely have that cash offset in the settlement if they don't return it.
/r/MensRights22/07/22 02:07 AM
7

I have. The difference is the guy doesn't take all her shit. Just wants someone who doesn't bitch at him and still satisfies him in the bedroom.
/r/MensRights22/07/22 01:34 AM
11

That's why they call them "starter husbands." Use the first husband to get on her feet, take all his shit, then bounce and repeat.
/r/MensRights22/07/22 12:19 AM
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And, women file 80% of divorces because they have a financial incentive to do so. Men rarely file because they know they lose everything.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 07:16 PM
1

True. But, it could surface later on.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 11:31 AM
2

Plus, the protection order, itself, might make a truly violent person even more angry. If they were the type of person to get violent to begin with then the strict limitations, and stigma, of a protection order might push them over the edge.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 11:13 AM
3

They'll find it. I can find anything nationally on a person for $25 online with internet and a credit card. If I have that access then they have more.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 03:58 AM
3

In the US most states have all public records accessible to anyone with internet. A government agency will look it up and scrutinize. Better to come in ready to dispel the issue before you get an automatic "no" and then have to fight uphill.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 03:45 AM
20

That's all she has to say. "I'm afraid of him." http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence
/r/MensRights21/07/22 03:12 AM
18

I know what ex parte is. It's rarely used because you don't get a chance to defend yourself, cross examine, etc. DV court violates so much due process for men it's ridiculous. The a Supreme Court unanimous decision should show a few things. You believed in your innocence enough to fight to the highest court and that court unanimously believed you based on the evidence. Should be okay.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 02:52 AM
13

If she still has that bogus restraining order file a motion to have it quashed. It still looks bad to have one.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 02:47 AM
38

For a city or government job be honest. Be prepared with all court filings, rulings, etc.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 02:40 AM
1

Yep. About to be evicted? Hit up Tinder and hobosexual your way into a cohabitation arrangement.
/r/MensRights21/07/22 02:33 AM
9

Get the snip, too.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 01:41 AM
14

There is a culture war now and one side is behind the identity politics that fuels it. It's not hard to guess which one. Race, gender, sexual orientation, etc. Any label they can use to dive a group of one into two, then four, then eight, etc. What's amazing to me is that the side that created all of this division is getting the credit for allegedly trying to "bring justice" to it. It really speaks poorly of people's ability to critically think today. Oh, btw, you're a Nazi, fascist, xyzphobe fo…
/r/MensRights21/07/22 12:56 AM
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When you've spent your entire waking life being brainwashed into a certain ideology it's rather difficult to see it from the inside looking out. Additionally, they have the entire media and pop culture reinforcing the ideology to them. Seems to be impossible to escape for them. I'm not religious, but at least in church the worldview they receive of gender politics isn't nearly as radical as it is in the secular media. But, even church girls can walk away and be a gold* digging feminist within 1-…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 11:49 PM
5

Yeah, you'll recoup that fast and be on with your life. Now, the goal is to not get legally tied up again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 11:39 PM
3

Sounds like you got out alive. I would've offset half of that nest egg she squirreled away with 401k proceeds. But, sometimes it's better to cut the cancer and run. Nice ending.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 11:33 PM
1

"Was all their faults wasn't it." That last sentence of yours is rich. Lack of grammar (namely, a missing pronoun, improper use of "faults," and a lack of punctuation). Anyway, 99.9% of all relationships end, or fail, for one reason or another. Some have been my fault and some have been their's. If you're single then 100% of your relationships have failed. Edit: you're mass-deleting your comments, too? Ha! I'm 2-0. Edit: You deleted a bunch of your comments and broke the chain. Thus, I can no lo…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 11:16 PM
1

It's "a lot." Not "allot." Here I am attempting to debate a 4th grader. To "allot" means "to assign as a share or portion." Essentially, it means to set something aside for a specific purpose. Edit: I was waiting for the mass deletion after that butt-spanking you got.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:56 PM
1

Oh, look. Another one who can't discuss issues and can only make personal insults. You and the other person should start a club. Call it "Fallacious Debater's Society."The other person at least attempted, albeit unsuccessfully, to argue issues in the beginning.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:55 PM
1

I'm not going to go search for quotes, that you allege I made, when I already know I didn't make them. If you make a compelling argument you could very well sway my thinking. Thus far you have failed to do so. You've also lost credibility by making personal insults as if you think those would help your case.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:42 PM
1

No, I don't speak for others. You're the one attempting to speak for everyone else. Dude, I've been married, have had several LTRs, and countless girlfriends/FWB/ONS along the way. So, no, you don't know what an incel is. It's someone who's "INvoluntary CELibate." That definitely isn't me. So, at least get your terms right before using them. You also lack a grasp on the English language.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:39 PM
1

You may have heard those things. But, I certainly didn't say them. I rebutted your notions of the pay gap. I never said "you trap people in relationships." I did point out your gaslighting attempts though. Look, I haven't insulted you at all. Identifying gaslighting behavior is not an attempt to insult. It's an indication that I identify the fallaciousness of your statements. They're immature, juvenile, attempts at deflection, and simply a feeble means to steer attention away from the fact that …
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:29 PM
1

Do you even know what an incel is? And, a person here for 2 days isn't the group spokesperson. More likely a plant to derail things.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:23 PM
1

This conversation started with pay gaps between the sexes in various fields. You lost that argument so you resorted to "who hurt you." I'd move on, too, if I were you. But, at least you learned something about yourself.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:22 PM
1

More gaslighting innuendo. Also, it's "too." Look, I spit facts and data while you resort to childish insults. Keep talking.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 10:15 PM
1

His money is her money if they are married. So, regardless, the money will come from the family estate. He doesn't have a support order and she has essentially abandoned the family home. If I were going to give money of my own free will I'm making sure it's not going to vacations, mani-pedis, new clothes, and whatever else she's spending to spruce herself up for her new boyfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 09:56 PM
1

More gaslighting. Gaslighting definition psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one's emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator Just because you haven't been afforded the opportunity to do it over "an extended period of time," and it isn't caus…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 09:49 PM
1

Dude, I'm laughing and not angry one bit. They're the ones resorting to gaslighting and abusive comments. She/he/it can't handle someone not easy manipulated through shaming language. Edit: 2 day old account with negative karma.... that about says it all.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 09:09 PM
1

More gaslighting... Do you always use emotional abuse with people who disagree with you? I bet so.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 09:07 PM
1

Haha! That's rich. When gaslighting, or other types of emotional manipulation, occur I move on. Ciao!
/r/MensRights20/07/22 08:45 PM
1

Children are the only reason to get married. But, men put themselves in great jeopardy by doing so. Each man can evaluate their own priorities and decide accordingly. Unlike you, I don't attempt to make decisions for others or tell them what to do/think/feel.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 08:38 PM
1

I said children statistically do better on all metrics in a 2 parent household. I also said that people who don't intend to honor their wedding vows shouldn't make them. How much clearer can I be?
/r/MensRights20/07/22 08:28 PM
1

Tell your mediator to refrain from filing it and recalculate the figures. Technically they will go off of last year's earnings. So, at least get verbiage in there that it can be recalculated annually after tax season.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 08:21 PM
1

No. I'd prefer people don't commit to "till death do us part" without meaning it. Men would actually be smart to just avoid marriage altogether.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 08:05 PM
1

Yeah, sort of. No-fault divorce is responsible for a lot of the broken homes.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:52 PM
1

Well, studies show that children from intact families outperform children from broken homes. They're also less likely to use drugs, self-harm, engage in criminal conduct, or be incarcerated. I'd argue that girls from intact families are less likely to end up in prostitution (which commercial porn is a form of).
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:45 PM
2

No, if you're on the loan they won't take you off. Also, it doesn't matter if her residence is in a community property state. Sell the business if you can and it'll pay off the loan.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 07:36 PM
1

Like I said. I love women's beach volleyball. Track and field is pretty good, too.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:34 PM
5

I would stop paying anything that isn't going to damage your credit. Stop the allowance and find out which grocery stores are in her area. Then, buy store gift cards and send her those instead of a monetary allowance. If you want to be extra kind send her gas station gift cards, too. What you don't want to do is send her money so she can build up a nest egg or war chest to hire an attorney to attack you with.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 07:17 PM
1

Maybe these 18yo women should have been raised better with a father in the home instead of by a busy single mom who doesn't have the time, energy, or proclivity to be more of an educator and disciplinarian. So, blame single moms for divorcing their kids' fathers en masse.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:13 PM
1

Because if you're one to protest for "equality" then you should be consistent.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:11 PM
1

Exactly. It's all about the money, folks.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:09 PM
1

I'm not concerned at all about male porn actor wages. I only bring it up as a parallel gender argument to your fixation on women athletes earning less. And, I've made my point. Look, the convo was interesting. But, I'm bored now. Cya.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 07:04 PM
1

It wouldn't upset me because I would be unaware of it. It doesn't interest me and thus would never see or watch it. I'm not interested in the extreme porn that degrades women, either. I know the kind of stuff that goes on in those big production studios. But, since it doesn't interest me I'm not aware about it at all from an experimental standpstandpoint. I do have a solution for it though. How about women stop accepting money for doing it? Seems pretty simple to me.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 06:49 PM
1

You're just getting angry and silly now spouting nonsense. I haven't "slut shamed" anyone here. You're the one preoccupied with sex while I'm simply making the argument that is economic. Those who being in the money are paid for doing so. Female footballers might have been successful. They were likely paid less because their sport generated less revenue. So, their salary was commensurate with what they brought in to the organization. I'm not familiar with them being banned mostly because I don't…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 06:46 PM
2

Female sports stars are earning more because they have demonstrations and causes people to feel guilty into paying more for something they don't want. They aren't earning more because they're bringing in more money. They're earning more because they're loud and boisterous with a media campaign lobbying for them. So, essentially, it's a mass-guilt effort underway. Why don't you advocate "equal pay for equal work" in the porn biz. You should advocate male performers make the same as female perform…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 06:28 PM
2

I disagree on your reasoning for women earning more in porn. It's because they are the draw that brings in the money. As far as sports... women are far less interested in sports than men are. Like I demonstrated. Rousey is an attractive female and earned 30x what the champ, Nunez, did on their fight. And, for the record, Nunez is a gay woman with butch/masculine traits. Guys do not tune in to watch Nunez fight because she's hot. They tune in because she's a great fighter. As far as "societal dif…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 06:14 PM
1

I'm not making a sexist statement. I'm making an economic one. When's the last time WNBA games were sold out? Who's* forking over thousands there for court side seats? Larger crowds = more tickets sold and that leads to higher ticket prices, more concession sales (beer, food, merch), etc. Men watch porn mostly for the women because they turn them on. Men watch male sports because men like to watch peak performers. It's the same reason professional MMA fighters earn more than amateurs. Ronda Rous…
/r/MensRights20/07/22 05:53 PM
1

Those things may be true. But, the reason women get paid more is the same reason NBA players make more than WNBA players. It's all about who draws the crowd and earns them the audience and money. I assume female strippers make a lot more than male strippers for the same reason. Much bigger audience and demand which leads to more revenue.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 05:32 PM
2

The good part is that marriage has waned more and more in importance unless you're religious. Most women, especially ones who have already been divorced, are fine not doing it again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 05:01 PM
1

Don't look too flashy. They might order my child support. A tie isn't even necessary. Slacks and a white button up shirt. Be well groomed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:58 PM
2

Yep. Even if he has to let her have all of the furniture to make her happy in order to get 50/50 in mediation he'll still come out ahead financially by avoiding al of the attorney fees. My attorney fees could have furnished a whole damn neighborhood.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 03:36 PM
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Lady Justice sure as hell look from behind her blindfold when she hears a female voice as the defendant.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 03:34 PM
4

Any time. When I went through it I was more than alone. She had the state on me for false allegations. Being simply left alone would've been a blessing compared to all of the legal shit I had to go through at the same time. She forever poisoned my ability to fully trust another woman in my future. So, now I just have FWBs, girlfriends, etc. But, marriage is completely and forever off the table. Women's behavior in the past is affecting the women in the future. Call it the divorce/false allegatio…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 03:32 PM
7

You said she's amenable to a divorce. Hey don't you guys just go to a mediator. If you're both reasonable you can have all of the details ironed out and sent to the judge to rubber stamp after 2-3 sessions. It's a lot cheaper than litigation. It also sounds like she can't afford an attorney. So, if I were you and you MUST go through the litigation route with an attorney, start saving money from your earnings to pay the lawyer, get her served, and you could very well end up with her defaulting by…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 02:11 PM
9

Women live a much more stress-free life than men. Men do most of the dangerous work in life while women work in air-conditioned offices. Men die in war. Meanwhile, women have all sorts of social services which act as a safety net in their life. Men lack most of these resources that are afforded to women.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:42 PM
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They're getting what they've been asking for. Nothing happens in a vacuum. Specially not something as drastic is redefining society as a whole. I feel no sympathy her her.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:08 PM
11

"She bartends." Enough said on her likely notice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 12:47 PM
2

You actually can. I had full custody of my kids and ex's only condition was no CS from her. We had to go before the judge and argue it and he let us do it. In hindsight i shouldn't have given her that pass. My ex-gf and her ex-husband had 50/50 with no support. They did the same thing. Now, if you are entitled to it then get it. It'll make your life with your daughter better. Childcare, sitters, etc, cost money.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:17 AM
1

Exactly. This woman isn't reasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 03:35 AM
3

Well, that's good to know. Other than children, I see no benefit for men into get married unless it's for religious purposes. And, even then, you always need to remember that your religious marriage" is governed by secular law.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 02:24 AM
2

In some states simply* cohabitating for a set number of years is enough.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:55 AM
2

And?
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:54 AM
2

Not concerning common law. My state did away with in one the 90s. I assume if you cohabitated in a common law state, and moved to a non-common law state, then it potentially could carry over. But, I don't see the opposite being true. Meaning, cohabitating in a non-common law state wouldn't all of a sudden make you common law spouses the second you moved to a common law state. The clock there would likely start ticking once you moved there.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:22 AM
3

Who really cares? Women overwhelmingly vote for the candidates that support trans sports participation. The way I see it they're getting what they asked for.
/r/MensRights20/07/22 01:06 AM
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The pay gap is pretty huge in porn. They don't talk about that though.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 11:22 PM
3

Regardless of how it "should be" in your eyes it is the essence of representative government.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 10:47 PM
5

Just a red state.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 10:46 PM
12

People who are pro-choice should move to a state that comports with their opinion. Same is true with weed. Neither abortion, or drugs, fall under federal jurisdiction. Just because the FedGov has assumed powers not delegated to it by the Constitution doesn't mean it should continue to do so. I support the overturning of Roe as a matter of law rather than a matter of personal opinion on the abortion debate. I left my birth state years ago because I didn't like the policies of the state government…
/r/MensRights19/07/22 10:28 PM
3

Well, you're in world of shit. What was her income before she quit? You'll need a place to stay. Do you have any kids? If so, what are the ages and genders?
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:45 PM
3

Do you have somewhere to stay? Does she work?
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:27 PM
1

Yeah. Hindsight is 20/20. People were telling me to leave for months and I didn't listen. I had young children to care for and she didn't work. A lot of men find walking out on their family to be easy. And, doing so seems to be rewarded and the safe route. It's ironic that trying to do the right thing is what gets you in trouble as a man.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:25 PM
7

Yep. I called the police after my ex cut me all up and they still didn't arrest her. 2 weeks later she framed me for DV and I never even touched her. Yet, I got hauled off to jail. I should've left after that first incident. But, it's fucking hard leaving your children behind as a parent.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 06:16 PM
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That's why she doesn't want you to get custody. Child support. FIGHT FOR IT. 50/50 Is your right as a parent and these are young and important years to be around your kids as often as possible. If she says 50/50 isn't good for the kids then say, "fine. I'll just do full custody and you can have visitation."
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 06:11 PM
1

Men stand to LOSE a lot in divorce (time with kids, house, retirement, child support, alimony, reputation, etc). So,men tend to try to hold on to a sinking ship. Meanwhile, women GET all those things in divorce which is by 80% of divorces are filed by women. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights19/07/22 06:02 PM
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And, yet somehow OP thinks she has redeeming value. This isn't going to end well for him,sadly.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 06:00 PM
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You're an adult and it's your decision alone to make. But, having been through false allegations by my ex, too, I would strongly advise GTFO of there. She's already shown she's capable of doing to you. Why give her another chance to do it? Commenters here are saying to put up cameras for any future abuse. In my world, if I need cameras to protect me from my wife* lying and trying to get me arrested then that isn't a wife I want to keep. http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence
/r/MensRights19/07/22 05:58 PM
5

Judges usually only care if the man is using them as weapons. My court and judge enabled her to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 05:46 PM
2

Yes. I went through the very exact thing. My ex attacked me. I was bruised and bloody. They didn't arrest her. 2 weeks later she called police and lied to them that I assaulted her. She had no marks or anything and yet I went to jail, got the TRO, and endured years of a living nightmare in the court system. http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence OP, you are royally fucked. You will forever be seen as the abusive partner in that court due to the arrest. They're probably going to make you ta…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 05:45 PM
1

I'm talking about receiving.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:01 AM
2

I'm kind of a fan of the big boxy black frames. Kind of naughty librarian look.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:57 AM
3

I'm not misogynistic. I have a wonderful mother, have been with great girlfriends, have a daughter, etc. Understanding women doesn't mean you need to hate them. I understand that habaneros are hot so I treat them as such.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 08:54 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/q76bdh/q4w_is_sex_about_orgasming/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:52 AM
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You don't have to do anything you don't want to. There are lots of different paths to travel in life. I did the whole job, career, education game. I'm about to sell everything and spend the next 20 years traveling the US in a RV.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:09 AM
1

Well, you are here asking women basic things about sex. That means you don't already know. You should've learned this before you graduated HS.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:06 AM
2

I don't fear women. I understand them.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:57 AM
1

Don't deal crack... or meth. Don't sell anything that will have people jonesing banging on your door or blowing up your phone. Those are the people that'll dime on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:55 AM
5

I'm not scared of a car crash. I see them on the news everyday. I do take certain precautions though like wearing my seatbelt and having good insurance.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:51 AM
2

Wow. So many subs I didn't even know existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:50 AM
1

"Good women" often turn bad. But, once you put a ring on it you lose all control over the situation.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 07:48 AM
1

Well, you sit on your porch sipping cheap wine next to your Chevy "with higher status" while I go out on the boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:47 AM
8

Filter out FDS women easy with a coffee or walk date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:32 AM
1

I have full respect for tradesmen. You missed the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:05 AM
1

You have either not read this discussion or you've missed the point. Come down from your mountaintop of assumption. Yes, I'm intelligent. No, I don't have a PhD and wouldn't want one. It only locks you in to a specific field for life. After all, you can't throw all that work away, right? I have credentials and letters after my name. I'm about to ditch them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:50 AM
1

Let's just have the discussion here. IMO black pill is when men give up. Dating me relationships are a game. Learn the rules and you'll play fine.
/r/MensRights19/07/22 02:44 AM
6

All people settle in a relationship. Nobody brings 100% of what you want. You decode the dealbreakers and what you're okay with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:42 AM
2

My ex had poor vision and I hated her in glasses. I like other chicks in glasses. So, I just think she had the wrong style (long and thin).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:40 AM
1

That's simply because a PhD requires different structure. It requires a laser-focus on a specific area of study. Running a business requires interpersonal social skills. Lots of PhD people are nerds and lonely while business owners are shagging and having a fun life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:28 AM
1

A PhD is just a demonstration of an ability to conduct research and report on it. I have a few in my family. There's also a sly term for PhD. "Piled higher and deeper."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:29 AM
1

You gotta push and grind.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:27 AM
3

http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 01:25 AM
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Get into a different bedroom. Don't give her an opportunity to frame you for DV or anything. Wear an audio recorder like a small Sony digital recorder. Get an attorney now. File first. Aim for at least 50% custody of your children.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 11:45 PM
4

Yeah, give a PI $3k to dig into her past and present.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 11:43 PM
7

That was my cursory view. It was a man-hating sub where they openly discussed how to pilfer men for their own benefit. They even had in their rules or bio something like "maximum female benefit." Tell me that isn't code for "get as much as you can from men as possible."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:41 PM
1

Not true. I was born and raised by a single mother. I worked my way through life. I wasn't advantaged at all. Quite the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:21 PM
1

If you're posting and asking for advice then you care. The fact OP doesn't know how to play this simple scenario is weird. If you want to get laid be persistent. If not the dont.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/22 11:19 PM
1

So, I could easily get a PhD. So what. If she's so shallow as to value a piece of paper on the wall then I wouldn't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:16 PM
5

There are women in my field. I just live in a backwards red state where women are stil wives.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 11:15 PM
9

"You're"
/r/MensRights18/07/22 08:15 PM
1

You also die without water. But, adding it sure helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:12 PM
1

Well, I'll play Jeopardy with any psychologist and win.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:08 PM
2

Without sex you don't have a relationship other than roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:07 PM
2

I like sex and know how fulfilling it is with a woman you care about who also cares about you. This isn't "manosphere." This is life. I'm assuming you don't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:03 PM
1

Doing it online requires you to give a delivery address. That is logged and saved. I wouldn't take that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:53 PM
1

I'm a psychedelics person, too. I feel you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:51 PM
5

Sex does increase your well-being. Having a fulfilling sex life has dramatic effects on mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:49 PM
1

She's managing (or, in this case, mismanaging) her own schedule. Not his.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/22 07:48 PM
2

Who wants to hang with snobs? I'm upper-middle class and have no issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:48 PM
2

Why waste your time with a chick that can't even keep a simple schedule?
/r/TheRedPill18/07/22 06:17 PM
1

An owner should know his business. I just said that it wasn't necessary. They could hire someone with experience, pay them well, and have a well-run place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:04 PM
2

I'm not a plumber. But, I am an expert in a professional trade. There are a lot of ways a "plumber" can ascend to a professional position in the plumbing industry. He can open a distribution center that sells to plumbers, he can start a trade school, he can simply become a partner to a plumbing firm and front $100k to get a business going. Business is everywhere. You just need to know the industry to know where the opportunities are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:52 PM
3

You need to be smart, careful, and choose your company well. The game has changed a lot over the years. Mostly, when I was in the game there weren't *CCTV cameras and cellphones everywhere. It was a lot easier to be incognito. Today, you need to take other steps to protect your privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:42 PM
1

That is true. However, there's a difference between sitting in a corner office and unclogging someone's sink or toilet. How you go there doesn't matter to them. The money does. Also, you don't need to work at McDonald's to buy a franchise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:30 PM
1

Meant want to be critiqued all the time in intimate settings. I must assume you are a psychologist, or at least studied psychology, to be so vested in this. I've studied psychology, too. That's probably why I'm single. I see through all the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:21 PM
1

I know this won't go down well here. But, if she was hot I would've fucked her. That's just me. I've gotten laid quite a bit by just being there.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 05:15 PM
1

Sure. If I don't like a friend's behavior then it's as simple as not hanging out with them. Having a lover is a lot more deep. Emotions and passion are involved. Cutting ties isn't nearly as easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:11 PM
1

Ecstasy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:09 PM
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All it takes is for someone to accuse you. That's it. It cost them nothing to do so and even garners brownie points with all of the victim attention she'll get. However, it'll cost you a fortune in attorney fees, your reputation, etc. I will add that my daughter had a friend that I would allow over. Why I was friends with her mom and she knew I was trustworthy l she'd call me to pick up her daughter occasionally, etc. No problems. But, you really need to know the people you're dealing with.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 05:07 PM
1

She needs to be upfront with him. If she hasn't been then he might rightfully believe they are exclusive. Usually you have the "exclusive talk." As far as controlling vs psycho question... if I'm in a committed relationship then the other person has certain limitations and answers to me. I likewise have certain limitations and answer to her. I've never had a woman be afraid to ask "where were you/why are you late, etc."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:05 PM
4

I don't date fat chicks. Period. I had a hookup from Tinder that looked decent enough in her pics. When she showed up I was totally turned-off. She didn't even misrepresent herself. The idea sounded okay until she was on top of me. A man has to have standards. Women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:57 PM
1

Friends are lovers are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:50 PM
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A man has to be insane to be a teacher, or any profession, where you're alone with children these days. I have a daughter and am divorced. I would never let her have friends over, or especially spend the night, unless my girlfriend was there, too. This is male common sense 101. It isn't even limited to children. Just women in general. MeToo taught me that. Thank god I'm in a male-dominated field.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 04:40 PM
5

You're talking to someone who actually has some experience here. You clearly don't. A guy who moves product ticks the "bad boy Chad box."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:20 PM
1

College/university isn't the only way to become educated. I think a better wording would be "intelligent people date other intelligent people." And, I make 3x what she does without a college degree compared to her graduate degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:19 PM
4

I'm a salesman. Trust me. I utilize my sales skills all the time outside of work. It makes everyone happy and life goes easier. If a woman is a psychologist then she's been professionally trained to examine your words and behaviors. She doesn't just flip a switch and not do it off the clock.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:16 PM
2

Yep. Money is up there with lack of sex. But, you can always masturbate. You can't rub a bottle and have a genie come out to grant you 3 wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:15 PM
6

Yep. Money is up there with lack of sex. But, you can always masturbate. You can't rub a bottle and have a genie come out to grant you 3 wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:14 PM
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Owning a plumbing company doesn't make you a plumber any more than owning 10 McDonalds franchises makes you a burger flipper. Business is business. Trust me. You need to be intelligent to run a successful business. I can't imagine a worse scenario than being with a psychologist. The last thing I want is a woman psychoanalyzing everything I say or do. My ex has a masters and makes shit money in her chosen field. She's also bogged down with tons of student loan debt that she'll never pay off. Her …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:51 PM
2

Who said meth? What you sell determines your clientele.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:47 PM
10

If you're street smart then the best entrepreneurship is still drugs. You also get laid a lot. It does come with some risks. https://youtu.be/AxRVhgbVN9o
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:00 PM
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Women don't "melt" over your success. They find ways to siphon it off. "Success" to most women equals money. You could own a Wall Street brokerage or a huge plumbing company as long as you're not the one unclogging the toilets. They don't care where the money comes from as long as you can buy her a house, new car, and keep up with her mani-pedi appointments.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:43 PM
1

That's great. Good women are hard to find these days. The problem with "good women" is they always have an ace up their sleeve to not be a "good woman." I know from experience. So, stay true to your conscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:00 AM
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All women gauge monetary value in men. That doesn't mean money is the only measurement. I had a friend who married a broke musician. But, the fact he was on stage was an aphrodisiac to her. So, they were broke together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:15 AM
1

I loved my girlfriends, too.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 03:12 AM
5

All she has to do is "forget" to take a pill one day. Keep that in mind.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 02:51 AM
2

Your state might not have one. But, there's a federal calculator which you should try. All states are based on the federal guidelines of mom support. Also, why is she entitled to "equalization of income?" Is she providing "equalization of marital duties?" If you don't have an attorney get one now. Maybe drive the point home and offer alimony as long as she shows up to your place once a week to fuck and clean your house. It'll never pass the court muster. But, it'll sure make her think.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 02:27 AM
3

There's nothing wrong with a shag here and there. Women like travelers. They get their freak on and know you won't be around long-term so it's pretty anonymous and clear for them to be with. Also, they likely will end up being your tour guide for a couple of days for the cost of some meals.
/r/MensRights18/07/22 02:22 AM
2

Listen. You can't be nice and lazy. Assert yourself. Yes, you have to project a level of confidence and, even a bit, a bit or dominance. Women don't screw the homeless guy. They screw the guy with the boat. Just accept reality and decide where you fit in. Don't expect to get laid by women, while doing nothing, while another guy is inviting her on a boat ride. I'm not saying this to shame anyone. I'm just stating that these are the rules of the game. Also, never marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:56 PM
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http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights17/07/22 08:51 PM
2

A lot of hobosexual women will all of a sudden want to be your girlfriend so she can move in. Also, I think I'm going to stock up on diapers. Luvs, too, because they work good and are cheaper which correlates with the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:49 PM
4

I play the "tennis rule." I hit the ball over the net. If they don't hit it back then the conversation is over. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:36 PM
2

Do yourself a favor. Stack up cash, travel and sleep with random women (use protection), and don't lock yourself down into a marriage. Life will be good. Buy a boat instead of a wife. You'll get laid on your boat more than you will in your marital bed. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights17/07/22 03:35 PM
1

Yes. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:38 AM
1

Not in my lifetime.
/r/MensRights17/07/22 12:33 AM
8

It's a term to disparage men. That's all. It's become so broad that married men with kids are called "incels" if they don't subscribe to feminism. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights17/07/22 12:16 AM
2

r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights17/07/22 12:14 AM
1

Okay, eliminate STEM unless you can work from home.
/r/MensRights17/07/22 12:10 AM
1

It won't. Women are perpetual victims of society regardless of how "strong and independent " they are. They "don't need no man." So, the government is the new daddy.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 11:52 PM
2

The title of you post refers to "men" and "women." Those are human terms. So, you're directly attempting to correlate humans to other mammals. There are a lot of different factors that humans express than do the rest of the animal kingdom. A male human sees fitness a lot different than the rest of the mammals. Mammals in the wild don't have the extreme variances that human females do. So, it begs the question. Would you prefer an obese woman with a "cute face" or a fit woman with a normal, or be…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:50 PM
2

If you're talking about mammals in general then I don't think beauty was really relevant. It was youth and fertility. There isn't much "beauty variation" between two female tigers of the same age. None were obese, using makeup, getting plastic surgery, or wearing high fashion. This post is way overthinking the biology aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:28 PM
3

This guy has probably never been laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 09:40 PM
1

Dude, I did MMA for a few years. I've taken blows all over and loved it 4x a week. I'm not afraid to get punched.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:22 PM
1

There's always a way. Fighting is one of them. But, should be for necessary times. Now, in my 20s I was quick to blows. At my age now I've grown up and wisened a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:08 PM
1

Dude, I'm not a stranger to bar fights. People just don't pick them with me or my girl... not since my early 20s. Pro Tip: If you're a regular get to know the bouncers/doormen. They'll do your bidding. If you don't know them go up, tel them the story, slide them a $20, and say "throw them out. And, when I say throw I mean THROW." That might save you a battery charge, night in jail, and court/attorney fees.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:04 PM
1

I said "harasses" not "assaults." And, I've never had that happen. I have a pretty decent stature.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:55 PM
1

Good luck since women outnumber men on the voter rolls. Expect more welfare.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 07:54 PM
4

I have a vasectomy and life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:58 PM
3

This was interesting and I think true on most fronts. What she fails to mention is that women are violent, too. I watched 100 nights straight of Antifa's siege on the Portland federal courthouse. They were just as involved. Women are violent, too. Yet, they feel they'll get a free pass because they are women and for no other reason. Since the Roe overturning there has been vandalism, Motorola cocktails, and other acts of violence against pregnancy centers, Catholic Churches, etc. So, I would lik…
/r/MensRights16/07/22 05:29 PM
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Well, she's certainly not a happy camper. And, it's true. Women are likely the larger group of DV abusers. Men just don't report. It's been true in my own life.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 05:09 PM
5

Dude, get some help with your anger problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:54 PM
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As a guy, if I'm out with a woman and someone was harassing her or worse, then I would be forced by my own instincts to intervene. It doesn't mean I have to shoot them. You can easily de escalate a situation with simple discussion. You don't have to get all machismo on the guy as that will only escalate it out of ego. But, in general, if I'm out with a woman and she's being harassed in front of me then it's an attack on my self-respect in a way like this guy is punking me. I'm a big guy and trai…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:44 PM
7

I still date occasionally because I enjoy sex and female company. It's nice to cook dinner with someone, chill with a movie or go to a concert, have sex, etc. I just don't get too serious anymore. So, I keep it to FWB or short casual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:40 PM
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I turned it off in 20 seconds once he revealed he is a PUA coach. He loses if guys stop paying money for his dumb PUA stuff. What's wrong with men who just want to not share their money, energy, attention, and time with a woman who drains him emotionally and financially?
/r/MensRights16/07/22 03:26 PM
3

Sad to say. But, let's hope so. Remember, even being charged with rape makes you a pariah in society. This could end up in wrongfully-charged men looking for revenge against the women who filed these false allegations.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:22 PM
3

Well, like I said this isn't really an area of concern for me. But, it is for others. So, a 5 second search engine query showed this.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 03:21 PM
5

I would just not go into that minefield. Choose a male-dominated industry like engineering, STEM, or a trade.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:46 PM
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My state had a "trigger law" that was activated the moment Roe was overturned. There are exceptions for rape, incest, of life of the mother. Part of using the rape exception requires a police report to have been filed. So, I expect a lot of women to falsely accuse rape against men so they can get their abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:43 PM
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To be fair, the overturning of Roe was a correct legal decision as the initial Roe ruling was unconstitutional. The Constitution is there to protect the people from the Federal government. It's there to dictate exactly what they can, and cannot, determine. So, look at the Constitution as sort of a set of handcuffs on Federal power. Therefore, since abortion, or any medical procedure at all, is not in the Constitution, they have no say to allow, or disallow, abortion at the federal level. What Ro…
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:28 PM
2

Not really. The problem for men is they get no say. It takes 2 people to have an unplanned pregnancy. Yet, men are at the whims of women on whether to be forced into parenthood and financial slavery against their will. Women are not. Women often use an "unplanned" pregnancy as a way to keep a man or at least cash in.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:24 PM
2

I really try to stay out of this debate. I have no skin in it, I'm not religious, etc. But, we're the only mammal that, instead of protecting their young or pregnancy, they willfully cancel it.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:22 PM
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It's hard to give a "hard data/statistical number" because abortion records are confidential. But, there has bee research into it. It's largely women who can't afford a child. Abortion is just another form of BC for most women. I cited a study here.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:20 PM
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That sub is a libfest. As long as you say oRaNgE mAn bAd you're god. If you point out that Biden is a pedo who openly fawned over a 9 year old girl and said she looked 19, on National TV in front of the whole world, you'll get banned. There's not a woman or girl in his vicinity that he can be professional with.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:10 PM
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Then they'll complain about being passed up for promotions because they're out of the office a week per month.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 06:59 AM
1

Even helium from a party store. A shotgun in the mouth is pretty instant and guaranteed. It ensures you don't have a wake, viewing, or open casket. Source? I watched a lot of gore subs before they were banned.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 06:45 AM
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Black and Hispanic, mainly. But, overall abortions are utilized by poor people who can't afford a child.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 06:14 AM
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I provided a data link
/r/MensRights16/07/22 06:07 AM
1

Well, you are officially celibate, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:59 AM
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https://www.guttmacher.org/journals/psrh/2002/09/patterns-socioeconomic-characteristics-women-obtaining-abortions-2000-2001 Just look at where abortion clinics are located. They're in lower-income communities. They're not in Beverly Hills.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 05:58 AM
1

You don't like the BC and condom combo? If you fuck that up it means she wanted to get pregnant (didn't take her pill and poked holes in your condoms). Otherwise, those two together would make it damn near impossible. Fill her up with spermicide foam, too, for the trifecta. Last I remember Elaine bought all of the remaining sponges.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:54 AM
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The majority of women that get abortions aren't taxpayers. They're on government assistance. Trust me, less abortions means more welfare and higher taxes. Men are the lion's share of taxpayers. Nobody wins here.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 04:38 AM
1

Your egirl wasn't up for a second.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:27 AM
1

Please show me where I said, "just be yourself."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:53 AM
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Just saying. You need to be someone of substance. The three things that draw young chicks are duds, car, and pad. Being fit is important, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:41 AM
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Well, it depends on who "yourself" is. If you're overweight, playing video games, and have Cheeto stains on your fingers and face then you should probably change some things. But, when you build your life, not to impress women but just because that's who you are, then they come to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:20 AM
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Only if being yourself is what they want. That depends on the age and culture of the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:58 AM
2

RemindMe! 5 Years
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:44 AM
2

Please elaborate and contribute something useful for dialogue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:43 AM
2

Like I said, I'm pulling for you. I'm a numbers guy. Some tables in the casino have better or worse odds. Marriage is up there with roulette.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:39 AM
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Essentially, have basic life skills instead of being great on COD.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:38 AM
2

Well, odds are this one will fail, too. I'm pulling for you. But, I'll still take the wager.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:23 AM
2

Yep. It's al how you carry yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:22 AM
1

If you're single then so have yours. See how the Uno reverse card works now?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:12 AM
4

Dry finger bang. This brings me back to 7th grade!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:11 AM
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I've been around. What do you want to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:42 PM
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I've been with many women, have had several serious gfs, and was married. In my experience, they never apologize. It was always up to me to go clear the air with them while they pouted even when they were in the wrong.
/r/MensRights15/07/22 11:33 PM
1

Same with me. In my 20s I tried to go back and count and stopped. Couldn't remember them all. Can't remember 1/4 of them now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:11 PM
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That's a study on marriages vs divorces in one year. 2019. It doesn't take into account marriages from 1990, 2000, or 2020. It's simply a numbers comparison of marriages vs divorces. A successful marriage is one that NEVER ends in divorce. Rather, a spouse does. And, even those are usually miserable. My neighbors were elderly (90s) and had been married for 70 years. I would overhear how she verbally abused him and berated him. They both ended up dying without divorce. But, I hardly would conside…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:55 PM
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50% of first marriages fail.. A coin flip is pretty far from "most." My ex-MIL Is on her 4th and she's a "deeply religious born-again Christian. No kidding. Cracks me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:39 PM
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70-80% of marriages fail. Where have you been? I've had every relationship fail. Everyone who is single today either has had all relationships fail or has never had one. Logic - the man's trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:31 PM
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Shit. These guys hang around shitty bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:25 PM
1

What she says now isn't necessarily what she'll do. A lot of women change their mind and have the kid leaving the man bait and switched.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:25 PM
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Site whatever you want. I really don't care. You can't tell me women don't get psychologically beat down by years of getting pumped and dumped. The man is doing the pumping and dumping and never intended to stick around. So, his actions are going according to plan. Women often use sex to lure and try to keep men interested and face constant emotional disappointment when it doesn't work. I'm not against women being promiscuous. Young and horny guys rely on you! I sure as hell did. Was a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:10 PM
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20% to the mother? Are you crazy? When you're married 90% goes to the mother and children. And, you have to ask for permission/endure an argument to buy something you want, for yourself, with your own money.
/r/MensRights15/07/22 08:58 PM
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Medium is a blog site that you, I, or anyone can write for. And, we could write from any angle we choose. That's why it's called "medium." It's a medium of communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:56 PM
1

I'll take that wager!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:53 PM
2

Well, only 50 more years to go!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:49 PM
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Read my comment here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:37 PM
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Welp, this feminist site agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:33 PM
1

Well, not the case with me. For young men sex is sport. As I get older it becomes much and much less so. I honestly can't be bothered to date just to get laid anymore. If I do date it's because I like someone. Sex with someone I don't know or like isn't the same now as it was back then. Maturing changes things. Also, very, very few relationships "work out." Are you single? If so, that means all of your relationships failed to "work out."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:29 PM
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True. But, how useful is that to her or I? I would rather her have spent $1,000 on books from Amazon to get well-rounded rather be be forever-fed a syllabus for $50-100k. And, she doesn't even get to choose the information she's given to study. The professor does. I'd much rather create my own syllabus and pick out my own books of interest for a lot less and get the exact info I seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:01 PM
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Not necessarily. If we have good chemistry and a connection then that's what matters. If I ended up having sex on a first date it means the chemistry was off the charts. Usually it takes a bit for me to feel like that with a woman. It builds slowly after a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:55 PM
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I've found that college degree usual equate to massive student loan debt that women carry for decades. My ex had a masters and still owed $40k 15 years later. Getting married to her means that's now the man's debt, too. So, I look at a woman's intelligence rather than "education." I don't have a college education. But, I know more about just about everything than her other than her specific field of study. You don't need college to educate yourself and read books. Edit: 15 years later
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:48 PM
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Each person sets their own standards. Don't get involved with someone you don't approve of, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:45 PM
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I slept around a lot when I was younger. But, I got married, had children, and didn't sleep with anyone but my wife. Once the marriage was over I slept with 5 or so women until I found one I really liked and we had a 5 year relationship. Sleeping around for men isn't psychologically-damaging to men like it is for women. Women get bonded/attached through sex a lot harder than men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:43 PM
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An hour of awkward sex is worth nothing to me. I don't do ONS or hookups anymore. First one I recently tried I met her, she jumped on me and was ready to go. I got this funny look on my face and she instantly knew I wasn't into it. And, I haven't done it since. Meaningless sex just has no value to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:40 PM
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Have her use BC and you use a condom or perfect your pull out game. Those two together pretty much eliminate pregnancy risk. If you know you don't want children then just get a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:28 PM
1

What do you mean waiting for more money?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:10 PM
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Yeah, I'd never sleep with a friend's ex. I've had friend's wives hit on me. Nope. I won't go there either. I was banging this chick for a few months I met at a club. She was fresh out of divorce and being wild. We had a lot of fun. But, she was crazy. She'd show up to my place drunk at 3am pounding on my door to let her in to fuck. I'd just out the pillow over my head until she left. I was over at my friend's house one day and he said one night she showed up there and fucked him. I was like, "o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:04 PM
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If my partner doesn't want to do some specific act that I find paramount, like oral sex, then I'm not staying with her. If it's something I don't find paramount then it's not a big deal to me. But, I gauge for these incompatibilities within the first few months to minimize time and money investment. If you're not getting any sexy at all then it's not a sexual relationship. You are friends/roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:44 PM
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Exactly. The system just treats men like a piggy bank to raid every month.
/r/MensRights15/07/22 06:41 PM
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His friend wasn't his friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:37 PM
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Your last paragraph is spot on. A guy with options has no problem and women work to keep them. OLD has always worked well for me. But, I know it doesn't work well for others. Would I pay a few hundred bucks to get laid? Hmmm. Probably not. Does dating possibly cost a few hundred bucks before you get laid? Yep. But, the sex is consistent and there are diminishing costs over time. Once you have a girlfriend the dating part, and expenses go down while the sex remains high. Marriage has the inverse …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:26 PM
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No. But, I would. Maybe go on a swanky singles cruise and hookup with a bunch of women.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:45 PM
1

I was using biotin for a while. That, and, Nizoral shampoo for a while. It's very expensive and with long hair I just stopped. I think I'm chopping it to chin length soon so I'll do that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:55 PM
1

What's your secret? I wouldn't mind adding thickness to my hair or improving my skin. I spent my whole life on the beach without sunscreen mostly so I need to start paying attention to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:24 PM
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I just use a shampoo-conditioner combo. That's it. Nothing fancy at all. My father still has a full head of hair in his 70s. I don't have any gray either except for some in my beard. But, I keep that tight so it's not really that noticeable. Lucky genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 07:17 PM
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I was blessed with a full head of hair. I actually have long hair now in my 40s. I still get carded from time to time for beer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:42 PM
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Maybe spend a week in the Bahamas first. That's just a puddle jumper flight away. I stayed at the Westin on GBI. Was pretty nice.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 02:06 PM
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Sounds like you did a fine job as a father. My adult children are also doing very well. Better than I could have hoped for. That's all a parent really wants is the best for their kids. Take some time to explore the things you enjoy now that you're no longer tied down. No CS, alimony, etc, means you can buy a boat, RV, dirt bike, whatever. Your location will determine what you can do. If you can get 1-2 weeks off of work then go to Europe or SE Asia. Maybe spend a week in Costa Rica. Opportunitie…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 01:30 AM
1

I've always found OLD to work well. Try it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:47 PM
2

Ha! I just quoted RDJ above.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:46 PM
1

You mean, like in the garage with power tools?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:46 PM
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All good advice. But, I disagree on 21 years being a successful marriage. Divorce, by definition, means the marriage failed for whatever reason. Having said that, yes he is in a great spot and young enough to really enjoy himself a bit. His daughters are likely self-sufficient and at their ages won't be around much until they hit 25 or so. This is a Windows of opportunity to be free.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:44 PM
1

So, the top of their head is all you see?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:56 AM
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A 2 second search of the sub found a previous post already. There's no need to continue making repeat posts. But, comments are read by men not necessarily searching for the data. Anyway, I've made my point. Have a great Tuesday!
/r/MensRights12/07/22 12:10 PM
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Sure there is. Not everybody sees the others. If you don't see the relevance to my comment, in conjunction with OP's post, then you need to learn critical thinking skills. The correlation is a lot of guys are on this list for no justifiable reason whatsoever. Maybe a guy dumped his girlfriend, kicked her out of his house, simply rejected her for a second date, maybe had her pay her own way on the first date (very reasonable thing in modern times with women earning their own money), etc. Anyway, …
/r/MensRights12/07/22 11:57 AM
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Those posts have already been made.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 11:39 AM
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Trust me. My comments will educate and help some readers here even if you're not one of them. And, the point was that 70-80% of men can't be all bad.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 11:36 AM
2

Yep. She wants that monthly stipend to subsidize her new life at your expense.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/22 11:31 AM
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Hire a process server for $100. Just go on a search engine and search "process servers [your state/city/jurisdiction]. They don't require a signature. If she's avoiding them then have them serve her at work.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/22 11:29 AM
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But, I am. A main reason men are dropping out or refusing to marry is because of the divorce laws and how they affect men negatively. Young men have seen what has happened to other men who go through divorce and avoiding it. Women want to get married. It's what they're ingrained to want from childhood. But,then they come out with a huge list of demands and qualifications now for guys to meet up to. And, if a guy actually does it, the odds are it doesn't last long and becomes a very expensive and…
/r/MensRights12/07/22 11:27 AM
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70-80% of divorces are filed by women. Don't tell me 70-80% of men aren't good. Divorce is usually for convenience or lifestyle issues.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 10:57 AM
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And women ask "where have all the men gone?"
/r/MensRights12/07/22 03:31 AM
2

I had an ex that used to get physical if she was drinking and mad. Gave me a black eye once eve. Probably hit me on 4-5 different occasions. The last time I slapped her in the face. The look of shock was priceless and she never hit me again.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 03:12 AM
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Children is the only viable reason for men to get married today. Just know the risks. As far a a daughter! Let her get married. It's all upside for her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 07:44 PM
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Why can't the women be misandrists and the men cunt-busters?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 10:54 PM
3

Coach Gang!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 05:59 PM
3

She's not single. She has a kid.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/07/22 01:08 PM
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Just don't do it. You won't be posting here in 5 years wondering how you got so fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 02:14 AM
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Dude, you are in bed with the devil. Get out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 11:53 PM
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Yeah, they don't even try and hide it anymore. Now the rabid feminists are going after children
/r/MensRights09/07/22 07:25 PM
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Do what I did. Write them off and checkout of the idea of love and romance. I'm still friendly with the women I know and meet. Why? I have no interest in anything non-platonic which means they have zero chance of using me or screwing me over. But, your point about the misandry and double standards is on-point. So, in a world like this, only foolish men IMO continue to play a game that's rigged against them. Just do your own thing. Find things that make you happy.
/r/MensRights09/07/22 07:22 PM
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Yeah, I've given up on the ida of finding a good-hearted genuine woman. Yes, I know they're out there. I've been with a few. But, today, the odds are that you have to go through 100 terrible ones to find "that good one." Based on my calculus that isn't a good investment of my money, energy, attention, or time.
/r/MensRights09/07/22 07:18 PM
6

The Domestic Violence Parallel Track
/r/MensRights09/07/22 07:12 PM
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That's why there's a saying of "you never truly know your wife until the divorce." My ex is the same way... doesn't like to lose or even compromise. She views everything as a zero sum game. If she gives up anything at all she's losing. I can't tell you how many times I helped her on her weeks with the kids. Yet, she'd never do so for me. And, if I declined to take them on "her days" for any reason at all she'd tell the kids I didn't want them, tell her friends and family the same thing, etc. As …
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 06:08 PM
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Thanks for noticing. I've solved the riddle by just checking out.
/r/MensRights09/07/22 01:58 PM
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Lots of variables. How did she treat you in the divorce? Did she leverage the children against you for time and money? Was she reasonable and fair with asset division and custody? At best, if I were in your shoes thinking about a reconciliation, I would just have her as a girlfriend/partner. There's no benefit to the government contract. I could see the benefit of staying together for your kids as long as the above questions were answered satisfactorily.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 01:49 PM
1

True. Any woman who says "men are worthless" are either naive,clueless, or just angry. Who keeps the power grid going? Who drills oil? Who delivers gasoline to fuel stations? Who makes and repairs cars? Who maintains the internet infrastructure? Who builds and maintains roads? Who put out fires and police our communities? I could go on and on and on. Yet, when a man rapes a woman on a subway and no men jump in to intervene you have to ask yourself why men have stopped stepping up for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:59 PM
2

True. A crying woman. Just avoid them at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 03:00 AM
1

You're right. But, certain standards have to be met for an ex parte hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:52 AM
1

I've lived this world. Don't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about. The TROs will be explicit or they won't hold up.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:50 AM
1

Nope. I'm just not revealing my state of residence... Especially to someone with max -100 karma after a year. That typically means you're just a dick all across Reddit and not a good redditor. Your insults and attacks on my posts are very representative of that. Go pound sound. Also, I suggested that all litigants learn the law rather than rely strictly on their attorneys. This forum is fulll of legal advice from experienced divorce litigants. After 10 years in and out of family court, much of i…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 07:05 PM
1

FRCP here also is an abbreviation for Family Rules of Civil Procedure. Look, just because I don't tell you where I stash my savings doesn't mean I don't have any. I really don't give a shit of you believe me or not.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:57 PM
1

Believe what you want. I've read the entire FRCP here and have used it. It's the law here. CA has one called a "Preemptory Challenge."
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:47 PM
2

I'm not listing my state. But, that's the law here. Attorney yes don't like to do it for the exact reason you said. Judges don't like being DQd. But, remember, they work for you. This is why every litigant needs to understand the law instead of just relying on their attorney who might not even tell them that this is an option.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:44 PM
2

You can disqualify for cause or without cause. You can only file without cause once per case. You don't need to specify any reason. At least that's the RCP here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:33 PM
4

I've had 3 female judges and 1 male judge. I only received favorable rulings from the 1 male judge. If you ever have to file a new case, or reopen it, and find out it's been assigned to a female attorney then IMMEDIATELY file a Motion to Disqualify without Cause. There's a short time limit to do this so make sure your attorney is following the filing and case assignment.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:24 PM
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True. But, the normal TROs are on property and children. Forcing you to vacate the marital dwelling would require some evidence to justify it. PS. Some people are downvoting the comments here. I guess women don't like men learning their game.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:14 PM
6

Look at the date of the TRO and if it includes the address on your house as part of the RO. If it does you need to move ASAP. Just start packing if she's out of town. Only a total cunt would call while she's out of town to do a check. And, if she does, you can tell the officer you're packing to leave. But, cops are a gamble. Strictly, they can arrest you for being there if you are there after TRO says to vacate the premises. Get ready. If she slapped you with that then this won't be a pretty div…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 05:07 PM
0

A process server isn't a DIY. They do skip tracing and al kinds of techniques. My ex tried to refile on me a ways back and used the sheriff. He was unsuccessful at least 10x. Still haven't been served. If you work from home it's easy. But, if you're still living together and have an outside job it's easier.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 10:55 AM
2

Sure they can. A sheriff just knocks in the door. A process server is your best bet. His attorney should know a few local ones.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 10:20 AM
0

Alright, dude. Final word of wisdom for you is that if you want to date then you need to work on your reading comprehension and conversational skills. I'm truly baffled that you commented what you did, I addressed both sides of the coin, and it has gone straight over your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:27 AM
1

Bro, no offense. But, if you couldn't read my comment and see it in context as a reply to your comment then you got some issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:19 AM
4

It was written pretty clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:11 AM
2

Exactly what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:08 AM
5

So, you're going to pay for everything simply because "they aren't comfortable splitting." Fine. You need to have some things you "aren't comfortable with" either. Such as, paying for everything and getting nothing in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:50 AM
9

Most states don't allow you to serve the other party personally. Not sure your jurisdiction or where you live. But, make sure that will qualified a service.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 08:47 AM
4

You'll be a lot more unappreciated once you get married and actually have one. Then, after a divorce grape, she'll turn the kids against you and you'll be unappreciated by them, too.
/r/MensRights07/07/22 05:05 PM
6

Yes. They can. I'm not a lawyer and I can access anyone's divorce records, filings,etc. It's all public record.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 11:34 AM
0

Look at the statistics.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 06:30 PM
1

I've been using femsplaining for a while. It isn't new. I mainly only use it when they accuse me of mansplaining.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 09:00 AM
4

We have the right to lose half our stuff, time with our children, our income, retirement, and possibly freedom from false accusations.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:45 AM
1

Haha. True that.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:44 AM
2

r/TrueOffMyChest has better mods.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:42 AM
3

Start r/MensRant
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:40 AM
2

Fuck those subs anyway.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:39 AM
8

Most people don't even know what an incel is.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:38 AM
8

And she'll accuse you of rape after performing mouth to mouth resuscitation.
/r/MensRights06/07/22 08:37 AM
3

Yeah, some need to learn the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 06:49 AM
8

State law. Buy it or don't. I don't give a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 12:09 AM
6

Nope. Every few years they can do it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 12:02 AM
9

They see you as a 💰
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 12:01 AM
5

Spousal support isn't a thing in my state. But, she alway lied about her income and claimed to be impoverished even though she drove to court in a luxury car.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 10:34 PM
4

Forcing disclosure of income so she can party more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 10:25 PM
11

That's gonna be $450. What did the wheel stop on? Hopefully a trip to Fiji and $10k spending cash.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 10:24 PM
8

Yep. But, when you have kids you're on the hook. CS figures are outrageously higher than what is required to provide for the child. Also, when I had full custody I didn't get 1 bloody red cent from her... not even when she ditched on her visitation.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 10:23 PM
6

No. Her. Some other sucker is already doing that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:54 PM
6

Mom support.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:49 PM
23

It never ends. Don't do it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:39 PM
21

It's child support. She just wants to scope and argue financials. My kid is not impoverished. They go to sports, music lessons, camp (so mom can have "mom time"), etc. It would be one thing if they were hungry on the streets. Nope. My kid lives a solid upper-middle class life driving a luxury car.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:15 PM
5

I fell victim to that racket, too. http://realworlddivorce.com/DomesticViolence
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:09 PM
6

Mom support.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:04 PM
12

She definitely is trying to milk me. But, the puzzle is 5 letters. Spin the wheel.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 09:04 PM
9

I'll play Pat Sajak for you. It's a one word puzzle. It's a THING and start s with M.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 08:35 PM
4

No. You gotta ditch process servers and that's a whole job. If you work at a fixed business she can serve you there, too. That's initially what she threatened to do with the divorce simply out of spit to try to embarrass me in front of my 10+ yearlong colleagues.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 08:34 PM
-6

Haha! That wasn't the reason. It was standard practice. There wasn't this whole movement going back then. Plus, my dick isn't mutilated. Works just fine and feels real good. If you're 18+ I'll send a pic if you want. Kidding. But, I see how obsessed you are with the topic. If it was mutilated then I wouldn't have any kids at all, right?
/r/MensRights05/07/22 03:44 PM
-13

My sons are pretty successful with money and women. I've heard many chicks say they wouldn't suck an uncut dick. So, live your life.
/r/MensRights05/07/22 02:59 AM
-11

This is also a gripe I have with the current ideation on the topic. I was circumcised, my sons are circumcised, and I wouldn't have wanted to not be circumcised only to go through a painful and difficult procedure when I was older. Plus, you get more head if you are.
/r/MensRights05/07/22 12:07 AM
7

Please post this over at r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 01:59 PM
2

I've been randomly approached by women. I remember once I was in the organic section of the grocery store. I had just gotten off of worked so I was dressed very well, etc. She comes up and tries to get a convo going around organic foods. It wasn't 30 seconds to a minute before she already mentions her young son. I said, "oh, that's nice. Well, have a nice evening" and continued shopping. She was grifting for guy who looked successful to be her bailout. Nope. Not I.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 10:31 AM
29

Oh, they want our tax dollars to fund their lives and society. Some states are now offering to pay for travel costs to out-of-state abortion seekers. Guess where that money is coming from?
/r/MensRights04/07/22 06:26 AM
3

When you get married you tend to begin hanging out with other married people. Plus, wives tend not to like their husband having a bunch of female friends. Same for me. I don't want my girl having a bunch of male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:49 PM
3

I got married. Big mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:45 PM
4

I grew up having a lot of female friends. Some of them I ended up sleeping with and some I didn't. The thing is that I wasn't a chump. I wasn't some guy they knew they could use. This doesn't mean I wouldn't do favors for them. They would do favors for me, too. It's called friendship. However, it changes a lot as you get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:30 PM
1

I'm not in that area. But, any attorney who specializes in family law should know what they're doing. I've had a few lazy attorneys and one great one. They definitely aren't created equal. Check local laws. If the Decree has been entered then you'll need to modify it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 04:53 PM
1

Absolutely no way you stay on the mortgage, but not the title. Your attorney is nuts or incompetent. I would force the sale of the house, split the equity, and move on clean. If she stops paying on the mortgage you can still be foreclosed on, have your credit trashed, sued for any difference in a short sale, etc. Real estate is about to take a downturn so now would be a good time to get out unless you plan on staying there... which you don't.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 04:14 PM
3

Remember, fighting is something you should plan and execute. Don't just go in swinging. Have a plan, and a counter plan, if things change. I've practiced MMA for a few years and things always change in a fight unless the guy is totally unskilled. If you get clocked, wobbly, or dropped, then you need a plan for that part, too. I'm not advocating violence. I'm just sharing the realities of fighting. If you aren't a practiced fighter then start here. Bas is a funny guy. But, he is also a bad mf'er.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 10:46 PM
2

You can petition the court for therapy on minor children. The ones who are adults are outside of their jurisdiction. Honestly, if it was an old friend of mine I'd give him an old fashioned ass kicking. I'm not advocating violence. But, look at the animal kingdom. We are just a higher species. I've kicked plenty of asses in my days and I wouldn't hesitate for a second. My ex's guy called me a vile name within earshot of my kids. I challenged him to meet me that night "for a talk." Of course, the …
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 10:37 PM
2

It'll be difficult for contempt at their ages. Should have done it when they were younger. At their ages all you can do is try to help them see the truth. Parental alienation is real. I dealt with it. But, once a kid hits 14, or so, then I think your time and money is best spent on them in some way. Did you do anything to warrant their scorn or is it purely your ex's poison?
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 10:24 PM
5

That's terrible. I have kids and went though similar things. I was always involved and they know I love them. But, I'm still working on the youngest. Ex-wives poison their minds. They're at the age where you have to show them now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 10:02 PM
6

Because my kids were worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 08:59 PM
4

I'm not "giving away" anything. I'm willing to share my knowledge as an experienced litigant who went through a very high-conflict divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 08:58 PM
2

Great info.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 07:30 AM
2

Then she definitely isn't worth it on her decline.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 02:44 AM
2

Are you going to provide anything productive or just sit there and so, "nuh-uh?" I consider myself RP in the fact that I'm aware of female nature and no longer a simp. But, I'm definitely not incel and have no problem pulling chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:44 AM
6

RP and incel aren't the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:07 PM
2

If you've been married for 10 years in CA you're looking at lifetime alimony. Is she decent in bed at least? I'm just trying to find a positive here.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 08:03 PM
1

Well, first thing is to get at least 50% physical custody of your kids. Get ready for child support and hope alimony isn't involved. The house needs to be sold and any equity divided up.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 04:25 PM
8

Guess who is financing her and the children? The ex husband. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights01/07/22 09:30 AM
2

Coming to a realization of the shallow dating market, with OLD being peak shallowness, doesn't make you a misogynist. You don't need to hate women for what OLD, and social media in general, has done to them. Their heads and egos are enormous. Even the ugly ones have an overly-inflated sense of self.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:38 AM
1

What kind of assets are involved? Do you have kids together?
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 05:34 AM
1

Which Constitutional Amendment legalized abortion? Answer the question. Answer. None. Otherwise Congress wouldn't be scrambling to try and find a loophole. Are you going to specify the Constitutional Amendment or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 03:05 PM
1

The Constitution is there to protect the people from the Federal government. It's there to dictate exactly what they can, and cannot, determine. So, look at the Constitution as sort of a set of handcuffs on Federal power. Therefore, since abortion, or any medical procedure at all, is not in the Constitution, they have no say to allow or disallow abortion. What Roe did was violated the Constitution's restriction on Federal authority by making it a national right. The 10th Amendment says, "The pow…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:53 PM
1

First off, downvoting is against sub rules. Second, you ignored your contradiction I pointed out and tried to fluff it with more personal bias and prejudice of opinion. So, you doubled-down on your contradiction and tried to end the convo with "Bye." Choose to think or choose to feel. Right now you are feeling and disguising it as thinking. If you'd like to discuss WHY the Roe decision was made I'd be glad to. And, it's not religious or discriminatory at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:37 PM
0

Oh, so now "it isn't the same thing." That means it's not "an imperative." It subjective according to your own biases and prejudices.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:25 PM
1

You said "accepting the way someone is and exists is pretty imperative." Yet, you don't do that with the SCOTUS justices who voted to overturn Roe. Thus, you contradicted yourself. Or, do you gladly accept them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:19 PM
1

So, you're the wisest person on Earth with, I assume, 80 years of experience. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:17 PM
1

Yet, you don't accept the way the SCOTUS justices who voted to overturn Roe exists. Is that not also an imperative? I just picked apart your argument in 2 posts. Explain your view of the overturning of Roe.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:06 PM
1

She is bi. And, if I was homophobic I wouldn't be friends with her. I'm pretty outspoken and she knows who I am. I don't even recognize all of the "phobia" labels. It's shaming language in order to divide and force people to accept anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:01 PM
1

Proverbs is full of wisdom that transcends time. It can actually probably be a non-religious book on its own and rather just a "way of living life" script. I guarantee your opinions don't trump that book. The reason for today's chaos is because of how maligned people view ancient wisdom. Buddhism teaches similar concepts. Nothing changes over time. It's all the same. Contemporary singers even say the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:57 PM
1

What does that tell you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:44 PM
1

Trust me. My friends confide in me in the shit they go through in their marriages. And, it's the same shit I went through in mine. They just roll over to keep the peace. Yet, she never rolls over. It's always her way and the guys go along with it in order to avoid conflict. Read the damn Bible. I'm not religious. But, this has been talked about for millennia. Read the book of Proverbs written by Solomon who was the KING of Israel. It was even true in his relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:42 PM
1

What does that tell you? The natural order of a partnership/marriage is to have one who is "in charge." There's no such thing as an "equal partnership." One is the dom and the other is the sub. If they're both dom it'll cause friction. If they're both the sub then nothing happens. It's almost like the femme women who like butch women really want a man. But, for some reason have chosen a manly woman. My friend told me this is true in her life. She wasn't born a lesbian. She was abused by men as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:39 PM
1

That's because they usually allow the woman to be domineering, wear the pants, spend the money, and run the relationship. These are beta males with weak spines. I know a guy who has a very masculine career. But, in his marriage it's happy wife, happy life." If you kiss your wife's ass, and even accept her control, she'll often like that position if he's making money and giving her a comfortable life. She gets the best of both worlds. Feminist power and a man at her beck and call. She can overrid…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:37 PM
4

That doesn't happen, in my experience. Matter of fact, I won't even date a woman who has RBF. It doesn't necessarily means she's a bitch. But, that's her relaxed look and I like smiling and jovial women.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 01:32 PM
4

I've never dated a guy so couldn't say.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 12:06 PM
23

Did. Don't now.people change over time and the kindest woman can turn into a bitch in rough times.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 08:36 AM
1

It's true for the lesbian couple I know. One is the butch/masculine and my friend is the fem/woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:35 AM
1

Don't get married and you avoid the problem altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:34 AM
2

Get full custody and she'll pay you minuscule child support. I wouldn't share half of anything with her other then marital assets.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 08:33 AM
1

So, you're going to acquiesce to peer pressure and just let them control the narrative? If so, then you're better off just not engaging the issue at all publicly. Religion and politics aren't good for family or work. But, in "society" I think they are fair game. Having said that, I do have a female friend of mine currently giving me the silent treatment over the Roe thing.
/r/MensRights29/06/22 04:55 PM
7

Why do you care if someone calls you a misogynistic asshole? I don't hate women so I'm not a misogynist. But, I do love my freedom and money so that makes me normal. Women like their freedom and money... that's why they get abortions.
/r/MensRights29/06/22 04:47 PM
5

Respond, "you hate men and want to control their money and time."
/r/MensRights29/06/22 04:46 PM
3

Probably someone like Frau Farbissina
/r/MensRights29/06/22 01:25 PM
1

This is why you NEVER move in to a woman's (or her family's) house. She has "home field advantage" and could end up holding it over your head with it. If you move her into your house then it's the opposite. But, if you break up then getting her out might be a pain in the ass unless she does so peacefully and willingly. Otherwise, you have to evict her through the courts. You also set yourself up for false DV charges and other BS, too. So, not cohabiting is the best choice.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:11 PM
1

Next time she punches you call the police for domestic battery. Then file for divorce. Always do what you can to get 50/50 custody and stay in your kids' lives. They are what matter the most now. I dated a PT (not CA) and she made less than $30k/yr working for the state. She had more student loan debt than she will ever be able to pay off. Glad to hear CA isn't as bad.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:07 PM
1

So, do that. Next time you need a big favor ask her to do it because "you're the father of her children." Reverse psychology.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:04 PM
1

Before you divorce her you need to get her working if alimony is a thing in your state. If you stay with her then play super nice with her. She wants to keep you around because you're the meal ticket and she has life on Easy Street. Once you divorce she'll have to be an adult and take care of her own bills and life. I don't think you mentioned kids so that's god. It means you won't be tied to her for life or pay a monthly "child support" stipend. Alimony might be on the table if she's not workin…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:02 PM
1

Laws vary by state. Some states have moved to a presumption that 50/50 custody is in the best interests of the children. Some have not. Some still view the mother, by default,mad the better parent and thus you have to fight for equality in parenting. Alimony varies by state, too, as does asset division. Some states are "community property" which essentially means 50/50 split unless you guys stipulate (mutually agree) otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:54 AM
1

Get a lawyer. Way to much money involved for you to do this yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:52 AM
2

If you're meeting with a parent coordinator then you need an attorney beforehand. She is litigating against you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:51 AM
2

I'd move on regardless of whether you're friends or not. Imagine meeting a new woman and telling her that you live with your ex-wife.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:49 AM
2

You are no longer her husband or partner. You have no kids together. So, any communication you maintain is purely voluntary. Start charging her $150/hr consulting fee and make her retain you. Meaning, she sends you $5k up front and you deduct your fee in 15 minute increments like any lawyer or consultant.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:48 AM
1

That's usually the case. I can't comment on European laws. But, from my understanding they are similar to US laws. How she squandered money in the past is something you can't do anything about as it was joint-money. But, based on what you say she's going to have to feel it in pretty quick post-divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:43 AM
3

I hate those dreams that are so wicked and almost seem real. But, that sweet, sweet feeling when you wake up and realize it was a dream. Kind of like those dreams where you're falling. I've had those dreams where I was being attacked or ended up in jail. It doesn't help that I go to sleep often listening to true crime podcasts.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:41 AM
9

As far as I'm concerned RP, at its core, is just awareness of female nature. All the other stuff is just add-ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:41 PM
14

If you don't have any kids, make roughly the same income, and have been married less than a year then it really comes down to splitting whatever you've acquired since the beginning of the marriage. No child support, alimony, loss of retirement, etc. You two come to an agreement on who gets what possessions and what to do about the house. You want to keep it. Does she? If she doesn't then you're golden. Just get a roommate if it's tight financially. Is there equity in the home? If you just bought…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 01:28 PM
19

And, it's been less than a year. Excellent idea. OP- Look into your state's annulment statutes.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 01:24 PM
2

She's going to have rough start to her new life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 06:52 AM
12

Incorrect. The police decide what to charge you with. They then forward the charges, and evidence, to the prosecutor's office. Then the prosecutor's office decides which, if any, charges to prosecute. A lot of times cops have BS charges that the prosecutor decides not to pursue. Happened to me once. I received a summons in the mail to appear for a petty BS thing. I simply called the prosecutor and talked to him. He asked me to email my exculpatory evidence to him. After I did he dismissed the ch…
/r/MensRights27/06/22 07:04 AM
4

The problem is the average/typical guy today isn't very social unlike they were years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:15 AM
39

The judge adjudicated the charges, not the police.
/r/MensRights27/06/22 12:16 AM
2

She put herself before you and your children together. Her fling was more important to her then her family. That's the kind of woman she is.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 11:05 PM
1

Yep. She can't unring that bell.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 11:04 PM
8

Never forget the hell an ex puts you through by nuking your family and destroying you in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 11:56 AM
3

Do NOT let her reel you back in as her fallback guy. Remember what she did to you and your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 11:55 AM
8

If they did so then they couldn't get the simp army behind them like we've seen the past couple of days. Even LeBron James' simp ass.
/r/MensRights26/06/22 04:00 AM
2

Exact same in my state. They must file a police report. I'm just going monk mode.
/r/MensRights26/06/22 12:07 AM
12

Reconciliation is essentially getting back with her after she went whoring around and now wants to pretend it didn't happen.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 11:20 PM
2

And, if she leaves her 1 month old "on the floor" alone for a week I'm pretty sure she'll come back to it being dead. So, is now the discussion about how long it could survive without any attention?
/r/MensRights25/06/22 12:20 PM
2

I'm not in disagreement at all.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 11:33 AM
1

Abortion is not a constitutional right. If you think it is then please cite the section in the US Constitution denoting it. But, you have no knowledge of these things. You just believe whatever CNN tells you.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 11:33 AM
1

You obviously misunderstood my comment. I have a vasectomy. But, that was by choice as I've already had my children and am not looking to do so again. My point being that women tell men to get vasectomies or "keep their dick in their pants." So,what's the problem with telling women the same thing? "Keep your legs closed?" How am I bitter for simply using their own logic against them in return? https://news.yahoo.com/oklahoma-state-rep-proposed-legislation-154326130.html
/r/MensRights25/06/22 10:13 AM
18

I was talking to a female friend of mine today and she said men should "control their penis." I responded, "how about keep your legs closed?" Crickets
/r/MensRights25/06/22 08:02 AM
1

I did. But, it was in my teens up through 23. I was a gym rat and jacked. It's not natural to be that lean unless mesomorph or ectomorph. And, even so,the older you get the harder it would be to keep it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:35 AM
0

My court order required giving travel itinerary to the other parent.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 03:26 AM
2

Sorry, I'm juggling multiple convos with people upset about the fact that killing their kids may be harder now.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:08 AM
3

And, nobody is compelling women to get knocked up. But, once they do it comes with certain responsibilities. This is why women who deliver children addicted to drugs are charged with crimes.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:06 AM
4

You can still kill your child by driving to a legal state. Jeez... it's amazing how women get their panties all wadded up the second it's more difficult for them to kill their children.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 03:03 AM
9

Well, there were 300,000 abortions last year. How many school shootings were there? Do you even care about all of the mass shootings on a weekly basis in Chicago?
/r/MensRights24/06/22 11:54 PM
1

Tell them what women have been telling men concerning child support (keep it opin your pants then). So, now women should "keep their legs closed" if they can't afford to move to a legal state to continue thotting. This issue is about whether or not the US Constitution grants the federal government to mandate medical procedures amongst the states. It does not.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 11:03 PM
7

No, they don't. They use M16, M4*, and I think they are switching to the M5. You don't know enough about guns to speak on the issue, apparently.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 11:01 PM
4

You could have saved a lot of typing by just saying, "no, I don't understand the difference between federal power and states rights."
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:59 PM
6

Well, guns aren't the issue. We've had guns since the founding of this nation. A few decades ago kids would take their rifles to school and were told to just leave them in their cars. Society has decayed. That's the problem.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:52 PM
4

It means that people that deserve to die should. So, people guilty of capital murder on death for for example. They've earned it. I believe in euthanasia. If someone wants to do then it's "their body their choice." If you want freedom to abort your child then just simply move to a legal state. It's no different than cannabis laws. Cannabis isn't legal where I live. If it was a big deal to me I'd move to a legal state. Abortion isn't banned in the US. It's simply now a state issue where it belong…
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:49 PM
11

Actually, no it's not. I think cars rank a lot higher than schools. Ban those, too?
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:46 PM
3

Well, I had a vasectomy. And, again, even if contraception or gay marriage were overturned they would simply revert back to a state issue like they should be (10th Amendment). Contraception and marriage, straight or gay, are not enshrined in the US Constitution. Do you even understand the difference between federal power and state's rights?
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:45 PM
3

Not necessarily.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:41 PM
0

I'm so mad I forgot about this discussion. Argh!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:37 PM
2

Rape, incest, and birth defects are what? 0.01% of all abortions? Most of them are just lifestyle choices. Women are going to need to be a bit more thoughtful on who they let between their legs now. And, yes, the IUD is very effective. My ex used the Nuva Ring. If you don't want to get preggo there are plenty of ways not to.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 10:36 PM
1

Sounds kind of like going back to the forced sterilization days. I do agree on not using abortion as birth control. Some chicks should see if they get a punch card and the 5th one is free.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 05:28 PM
1

Divorce rates are already going down because men are waking up and not marrying. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/MensRights24/06/22 05:11 PM
12

I have no issues with contraception. I know where you're going so don't even try.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 05:10 PM
2

That fits their agenda.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 05:09 PM
2

It's their ad hominem go-to. It's an attempt to win an argument without considering, or defending, an argument at all.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 04:23 PM
2

When I had kids as a father it was the only choice. Thanks for your kind words.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 03:17 PM
2

100% There's a reason that they are called child support awards. it's a damn PRIZE and has no relation to what it costs to raise a child. I had sole custody, ex wife didn't pay a cent, and I raised my kids just fine.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 03:12 PM
2

Oh, that's for sure. A child will also encourage a woman to keep the child from the father as much as possible in order to maximize her monthly stipend.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 02:59 PM
24

The child growing in a woman's body is not "her body" anymore than my kid on my back during a piggyback ride is "my body." The child has its own DNA and the mother is simply hosting her child. Unfortunately, today the most dangerous place for a child is the place where it should be the safest... in its mother's womb.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 02:56 PM
0

Not so /s
/r/MensRights24/06/22 02:53 PM
1

Child support is a small part of what women get in divorce settlements.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 02:51 PM
10

Well, you are the result of a woman who valued her ability to produce children. Go gripe at your mom.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 02:51 PM
2

I'm sure it probably involves marrying a guy with money, divorcing him for a huge settlement, rinse and repeat.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 01:56 PM
14

They don't write articles like this for men. Men understand the reality of life because we've been living it for our whole lives. It's normal for men to deal with such basic issues. This is somewhat new to women because, historically, women valued their ability to produce offspring.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 01:10 PM
9

When I got mine in my 30s, with 2 kids already, I had to do a 30 minute "counseling session" to make sure it was what I wanted. The fact is, women are just not used to dealing with obstacles or difficulties that men have for ages. They wanted equality until they realized what being equal involved. So, now they treat it like a salad bar. Take some of this and leave that. Equal pay? But, I don't want to work longer hours, more dangerous jobs, or bother with learning how to negotiate. The draft? Fo…
/r/MensRights24/06/22 12:33 PM
0

Purple monkey dishwasher
/r/MensRights24/06/22 12:20 PM
1

She doesn't date middle schoolers.
/r/MensRights24/06/22 12:15 AM
15

If you've ever been in a relationship let me know if this sounds familiar: Man: "Where do you want to go to dinner tonight, hun?" Woman: "Oh, I don't care. Anywhere." Man: "How about Geno's Pizza?" Woman: "Oh, not there. I don't feel like it tonight."
/r/MensRights23/06/22 12:34 PM
8

Feminism is like a salad bar to women. They want the parts they like and want to pass on the parts they don't.
/r/MensRights23/06/22 12:31 PM
3

They have no problem killing their children in the womb though.
/r/MensRights23/06/22 12:31 PM
2

So, she's a live-in sexual companion at the basic level. You're paying to support someone solely to tug on your dick once in a while. Damn. That's some expensive ejaculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 08:41 AM
2

What few things can't you take care of yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:32 AM
2

Wow. This is getting more bleak by the moment. What does "miss moral" do for a living?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:15 AM
2

You just have a very low self-image, man. That's nothing anyone can fix on a Reddit thread. What type of law do you practice? Do you at least enjoy your work?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:33 AM
1

Well, you confirm* a lot of arguments in this sub. Bottom-tier women think they deserve a life way above their station.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:13 AM
1

Hey, man. I have my trust issues, too. Been burned quite a few times. That reflects on them though rather than I. You just seem like you feel that you have zero worth aside from your paycheck. Hell, if you're going to lead with your wallet then scraping women from the bottom of the barrel isn't usually what you do. Yes, there are gold diggers out there. But, it sounds like you picked one that would be content living with a broke guy out of an old broken down Dodge Neon. I'm not saying she isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:42 AM
1

Seems pretty miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:20 AM
1

Hit the gym, dude. Buy a mountain or road bike. Take up jogging, bowling, something that will get you out and about meeting people. I've had my depressed moments. But, they've always been circumstantial rather than internal like yours seems to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 02:52 AM
2

So, you're content being King Beta Bux? You're essentially saying the only thing you're worth, to even the most worthless woman, is your wallet. This has to either be you trolling or you need some serious help.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 02:05 AM
2

How did you make it through undergrad and law school with such low self-esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:52 AM
2

Man, no shade. But, this is the most low self-esteem relationship I've ever read here. You picked her because you feel like you're bottom of the barrel and so is she. You're confident you will both remain at the bottom of the barrel because of a total lack of ambition or will to improve yourselves. I'm imaging your house probably being on a show of Hoarders with dead cats decaying behind the couch and neither of you have left it in 10 years, both suffer from mold-related respiratory illness, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:26 AM
3

Until one of you improves yourself and looks upon the other as no longer useful. That, or until one of you sees some* shiny toy that makes your current one less desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:12 AM
2

Whatever works for you, man. If a relationship where you're mutually-using each other for selfish purposes seems like a satisfactory thing then go for it. Most healthy relationships involve giving to each other. You guys are mutually taking from each other. I suppose at some point one of you will start taking more from the other and then problems will occur. But, this isn't unlike relations where one person is giving more than the other and resentment ensues. Relationships usually suck. That's w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:42 PM
4

Haha! That's like saying, "my girlfriend hated me because I used heroin everyday. So, I solved the problem by getting together with another heroin addict. Couldn't be happier."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:32 PM
3

If you become suicidal without a LTR then you need help with co-dependency.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:17 PM
4

As a grown adult who has been in many relationships, as well as a marriage, I can 100% say that women are ALWAYS an obligation and net cost to me vs a net gain. Sure there are fun times. But, when you list all of the pros and cons the cons far outweigh the pros in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:01 PM
1

Tell her, "honey, I know I've been working and away too much. I'm cutting my hours starting next week. In return we'"" need you to pick up the slack and get a job." Hat her flip her shit.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 10:16 PM
6

Not too late if she hasn't filed yet. Cut those hours NOW so they have a lower baseline to work with and get her ass to work.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 10:16 PM
1

According to AOC and Gretchen Whitmer both now defy the trans movement by defining women specifically as "me trusting people." The nation of Chile is seeking to do so on a national scale.
/r/MensRights22/06/22 11:19 AM
1

The advantage is that you can get all the documentation and everything you need in advance and have time to write up the petition. If you are served instead you have a short timeline to reply (20 or 30 days). If you have a full time job then this puts you under a lot of stress trying to hurry up and defend her suit. If you can't mediate (meaning, you both are aware of the divorce and she's able to be fair and reasonable), then filing first has definite advantages if she isn't expecting it. Women…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 12:02 AM
1

File a motion for criminal contempt and ask for 5 days jail time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 04:33 AM
2

Serve her first.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 04:30 AM
11

I've been called creepy for mundane things, too. None of what you listed. But, it's just another way women try to shame men. It's akin to "incel." Ignore them and be on your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 04:06 AM
1

Because sometimes, actually a lot of the time, I like to roll over to a warm hole.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 12:47 AM
2

I'm a "conventionally-attractive" man who has no trouble dating if I decide to go down that hellhole. I'm not opposed to dating a woman a point or two below me if I knew she was a faithful, traditional, and supportive woman. Those are just hard to find now. What she puts up in the first year isn't what you get in 3-4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:45 PM
6

Let them know straight up that marriage is not your goal. I've had plenty of LTRs that were fine with it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 06:15 AM
17

Sorry, man. Most men have this dream that the woman that loves them will always do so. In the end, she wants that bag. Learn from this. r/AgainstMatrimony Don't cohabitate in an area the recognizes common law marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 05:46 AM
1

If you didn't learn that in middle and high school then you're way behind the curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:50 AM
1

You mad, bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:49 AM
1

But, they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:53 AM
1

Most things male friends can and will doin return.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:11 AM
1

Which is what?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 07:59 AM
1

Okay. So, if I don't need a shoulder to cry on or a new tapestry then what do you offer?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 07:36 AM
1

You answered it already. Men and women hang out and have fun sometimes. That's a wash. Men do things for women all the time without recompense. What do women give men that men don't give women? I've demonstrated how men give unilaterally to women. So, your turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:09 AM
1

Yeah, roommates usually kick you out. Women benefit from the association of men. That's my point. Men sacrifice to benefit women. In an zero sum game there has to be a winner and loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:48 AM
1

When's the last time a man helped you move?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:21 AM
1

When's the last time you helped a man move?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:50 AM
1

They're fun to be around sometimes. But, so am I. So, that cancels each other out. Yet, I help them sometimes with car things, moving, etc. So, the relationships are quite unbalanced. Women get much more from men than they give to men. That's my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:56 AM
1

That was my question. What are those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:04 AM
2

Memories and history is it. My point remains. I'll do things for them that I know they couldn't do for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:09 PM
-2

I get it. I had a friend who was a girl from childhood (12). We both were active and had partners around s 15 or so. When I was 18 I had a new gf and I was on the phone with her and was pretty drunk. She and I confessed our feelings for each other and my live in gf overheard it. She got all pissed and jealous. In hindsight I should've invited her over for a threesome. My gf was bi and my friend was hot. Missed opportunity here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:09 AM
-3

So, answer to first question is no. Second question is yes. Pretty typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:43 AM
-1

That's cool. Men just don't call women in times of distress. And, you have no desire to bed these friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:02 AM
4

Why? I have a few female friends. They aren't coming to jump start my car if my battery dies. But, I would theirs. What do they offer?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:17 AM
4

Don't bite. Ask them what difference a government contract makes for your mutual love for each other? Ultimately, she knows she wants to run with your bag WHEN, not IF, the relationship goes south. Don't put your neck on the chopping block. Women are strong and independent now. They don't need no man. So, if they want you then it's on YOUR terms. If she leaves then let her. Find another.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 06:44 AM
4

Hell yeah it is. The rare divorce that is easy and fair to the husband are definitely the exception rather than the rule. Why get married? Why not just have a girlfriend? The government contract only matters if you want children.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 03:28 AM
2

Too bad she didn't at least get an education in lieu of a man.
/r/MensRights17/06/22 03:10 AM
7

File and get it going ASAP. Then, don't get married again. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 02:34 AM
9

Don't worry, bro. They'll end up getting married and then divorce raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:32 AM
1

Jesus loves you. He's not going to force you to repent, motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:31 AM
1

So, essentially you get no weekends to yourself? I don't like it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 01:45 AM
2

Agree with this. I hated writing that check. Once she lied and said I never paid her. I had to take the bitch to court and get a Satisfaction of Judgment for the amount. Yes, the lawyer cost as much as the amount itself. But, I'd rather have paid the lawyer than double paid the lying bitch. If you're close to your kids then it just is what it is. If, for some reason, you weren't... like if she moved to another state. Then, there are ways to move overseas and avoid it as long as you don't plan on…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 01:05 AM
3

I am an astute Bible student who studied under a well-known scholar. I spent 1-2 hours a day reading "the word," expositional commentaries, Kings concordance, and was overall a devout believer. That is until I saw the BS of all of it. If you want to challenge me on the Bible then go for it. One thing you can't challenge me on is "Christian women are different." And, even "half the divorce rate" of secular women is still 40%. That essentially still a coin flip. No thanks. If I'm risking a coin fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:46 PM
6

I see your flair. Look at the divorce rate in the Christian church. It's the same as the secular world. Why? Because they marry under the state (Caesar). The Bible plays no role in modern marriage,divorce, or family court. My ex-MILis on her 4th marriage. She's a "devout Christian" who only plays worship music and criticizes anything you do if it isn't "Christian." Sorry, I find Christians to be the least reliable, and most hypocritical, of all people. I'm sure you're aware that the Bible (Apost…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:49 PM
8

Keep the door open. Being called a misogynist is better than being a MeToo.
/r/MensRights16/06/22 07:56 AM
6

Get some hobbies and build yourself. Women like aggressive men. Period. You can show that through martial arts, sports, etc. Choose your own adventure. They will come. Either way, these women won't stay. They come for the thrill and infatuation. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:44 AM
7

Don't do it. Listen to me as someone who went through 10+ years of this. Her attitude and mind will change 2-3x a year. Either way, you need to keep your child custodial if you give her custody now and let her walk. She'll still come back for money. And, good luck getting custody back once she has moved. Get a lawyer and fight for your child's life now. This is your best chance. Once your wife moves with the child your battle is 10x harder. PM if you want. I've been in a 12+ year custody battle.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:07 AM
1

Well, statistics say that 80% of divorces are filed by women. So, if you're saying that it's now 79% that doesn't really make your case. Women are the ones who want the whole marriage Disney fairytale. Men just ignorantly oblige. Some people, men and women, feel the need to be married for various reasons. Women are interdependent while men are naturally more independent. Those are facts. I'm glad women are finally making money and love dating apps. Now, women pay their way and fuck for free. See…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 09:01 AM
1

Explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 08:41 AM
3

How 'bout dat?
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 04:02 AM
11

Yes... bi. I don't date big women. Not my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:27 AM
6

My ex used a restraining order to keep me from my kids, too.
/r/MensRights14/06/22 10:48 PM
1

Use that $15k to leave the US to a place where you won't have to pay child support.
/r/MensRights14/06/22 10:46 PM
27

I dated a bi woman and she told me the same thing about the difference in what it takes to make a man happy vs a woman. She only dates men now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:08 PM
–

Yes, I agree. But, it'll never happen. Too much money involved for women and the government in child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:59 AM
1

Sure did. Still don't see it. And, if that's the case, then you are not dealing with modern women. Women were a lot different 31 years ago. So, you're not really dealing with the contemporary situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 12:52 AM
23

Like meth or cum?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/06/22 04:02 AM
1

Now it can even be "platonic." So, no longer term roommates. You gotta be joking.
/r/MensRights12/06/22 02:28 AM
4

That's the usual script. OP should enjoy it now since he bit off a donkey dick by getting married again. Odds are stacked highly in favor of a 2nd divorce. But, I wish him luck. He'll need it. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:15 AM
3

Love exists. So does "falling out of love" once the butterflies wear off and real life hits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:13 AM
5

I think if both partners have vibrant solo lives then it could be hard to mesh them. If one person is more casual about life and meets someone who is engaged in a bunch of stuff it could be easier. Trying to mix two fully engaged people would be hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:52 PM
2

It's tru, man. Step back, take a drink if you need to, and look at the big picture. I'm always here for you. PM me if you want. I've been to family court 50+ times. I've been up and down.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 06:54 AM
3

That sucks. Hire a lawyer IMMEDIATELY.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 04:21 AM
2

Too late. She's safe now having left.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 04:15 AM
3

It's like relationship_advice. Woman does something and it means the man isn't giving her what she needs. Man does same thing and the advice is to dump him.
/r/MensRights11/06/22 02:05 AM
1

Some would say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 01:11 AM
2

It's true though. To answer your question, a lot depends on factors he mentioned. Kids are usually the most contentious issue. Property is easily replaced and not worth fighting over. If you have a lawyer you'll end up paying your lawyer $2000 fighting over a $500 washing machine., etc. If you and her can agree to custody, holidays, essentially a parenting plan then most courthouses allow you to both go down and fill out a stipulated petition for divorce, parenting plan, asset division, and chil…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 12:41 AM
5

I have a similar story as do many others. Right now you need to look forward. Begging her back won't bring her back. When women make their mind up on things it's usually too late to reverse course. She's likely been stewing on this for a while. Just be thankful you didn't get her pregnant again with another child.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 12:04 AM
6

Exactly. There's nothing sane about a parent abandoning a family and home out of the blue. Gotta prepare for the worst. He's actually in a much better spot than a lot of men end up in when their wife blindsides them with papers or a false DV allegation.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 11:53 PM
1

Man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:50 PM
1

How does that address my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:03 PM
7

Start lining up a nanny or babysitter to help. Get the divorce going ASAP and find out what her intentions are with custody (whether she wants 50/50 or for you to have full). I did it with 3 young kids. Wasn't easy but definitely my best years with my kids. This can turn out very positive if you work it right. Step one is get a good lawyer and get the ball rolling. Her just abandoning you, your son, and the house will help you a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 11:02 PM
6

I'm not having a hard time at all. Women, in general, are not good with money. And, the ones that are are too assertive/dominant for me to be attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:42 PM
1

It's basic human evolutionary biology. A woman doesn't reprogram hundreds of thousands of years of hardwiring in 2 generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:40 PM
-1

Did t say you should. Just said men shouldn't invest much up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 09:00 AM
2

If you're the right guy at the right time it'll work out. That means a lot of things. Also, if you can tickle her curiosity it'll work for at least a week or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:21 AM
1

A man having a decent career is just one skill, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 07:21 AM
0

What a dumb deal you made. I'll tell you something funny for free. You wanted more. I've never once asked a woman to be my personal comedian/dinner jester in exchange for company.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:12 AM
-1

There are no strings attached. I've never once pressured a woman that she owed me anything for an old school chivalrous date. I just learned that chivalry and classic customs are dead in the world of online and rapid dating. Now, I'm make women work for it a bit. If they won't show enough interest to out some work in then it's a no-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:30 AM
3

Stay here. Lots of experienced men giving good advice. I like to consider myself one with over 10 years of family court experience as a pro se litigant.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 03:52 AM
0

Entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:38 AM
2

You got it. Use that money for something else. Foodie Call
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:28 AM
0

And I have learned. I'm not here to teach men. That's what experienced people do. They mentor younger people from their wisdom and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:18 AM
1

One was low. The other was average. But, still not a woman I'd show around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:17 AM
1

Exactly. Don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:16 AM
1

I'm not excusing anything. I'm explaining why a bored guy with options might pull in a less than hot woman on a slow day with nothing going on. Years ago I actually did this a few to,es. I have some funny stories if you want to hear them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:11 AM
1

I honestly can't answer that as I don't know enough of the commentary here. Not being attracted to a woman's physical appearance isn't the same as a woman deciding a man doesn't make enough money. The man still has to pass the attractive equation for the wallet to be considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:09 AM
1

No, mostly on the fact that I've been on a lot of first dinner dates that went nowhere other than unnecessarily draining my wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:08 AM
1

No, because they clearly hate "scrotes" based on their discussions. So, they do show a level of hatred for men who won't elevate their status in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:59 AM
0

No. They are gold diggers. They see men as tools. Some are useful and some aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:53 AM
6

Slow Tuesday.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:51 AM
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Thank goodness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:44 AM
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Definition of Bigot. : a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (such as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance You're intolerant of my opinions so, according to the dictionary, you're the bigot. I'm not intolerant of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:44 AM
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Only if they lack options.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:41 AM
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I say it for the edification of those other men here brainwashed on the idea of a "proper date" needs to be expensive or else they're "scrotes."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:23 AM
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I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:15 AM
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I sold my ring to a local good/silver shop. They paid me for the weight/carat of the gold and gave me the stones. Lost the stones along the way because I didn't care about them. Your situation turned out pretty well. Take time off, hit the gym, maybe get a FWB or side chick for a bit. It'll help you forget about your ex. Don't get married again. Unless you want kids there's no reason to. All it is is a way to make a normal breakup difficult, painful, and expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 02:15 AM
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Find a new girlfriend. Keep it casual/not too serious. Once another woman starts treating you right you'll lose your "oneitis." Having experienced how easily women throw away men and families I've become r/AgainstMatrimony.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 02:12 AM
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Men like good women a lot. Problem is they are becoming harder to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:09 AM
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How dare a man stop doing nice dinners as first dates since it usually goes nowhere and there's a good chance it was a foodie call?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:08 AM
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I have done this. You need to meet basic criteria for me to be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:07 AM
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Don't be bitter. No need or use for that. Just do your own thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:01 AM
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This is a huge issue. Women are higher on the agreeable quadrant and less likely to negotiate higher pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:59 AM
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The gender pay gap exists because women work less and pursue lower-paying career fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:59 AM
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Exactly. That's how I still cook new dishes today. The meal didn't taste terrible or anything and I finished my plate so as to make her happy and make sure I got some action later with no drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:56 PM
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You could tell she didn't know her way around the kitchen at all. The "recipe" she was reading was off of the box of some noodles. Haha! I'm talking Hamburger Helper level recipe. Not saying she wasn't intelligent. She was. She just had no skills that would make me want her as a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:39 PM
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I'm an excellent cook and, honestly, I credit my last ex for that. She was a great cook and I cooked with her and learned along the way. I ended up doing more than half the cooking in our relationship. But,matter dating her I met this other woman... decent educated woman. No shade. But, she invited me over for dinner and, though she really was trying to impress me, she couldn't even follow a recipe for shit. This woman was in her 30s with a doctorate degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:10 PM
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Why do women only want a man who has enough money to improve her life? To them, if you don't you're just a "LVM scrote." So, they can have their basic standards but men can't? If you still want to date then, by the means of all that is holy, find a simple woman. They're easy to weed out based on makeup, clothing, car they drive, and attitude. If they can't cook that's a red flag. Not because I can't cook for myself. It means they've never had to and have always had someone do it for them or they…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:00 PM
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Men's primary offering isn't their body (beauty and fertility). Women's is. Men are more sought after for provision. This is why women spend billions on makeup, expensive haircuts and color, Botox, etc. Men don't spend nearly what women do on physical appearance because all that money is more attractive in their bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:00 PM
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Mine was.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:55 PM
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Honeymoon period.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:36 PM
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Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:36 PM
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I know that argument. But, they live and work together. Not sure where she'd find the time and especially not sure why it wouldn't be with him. He's the coolest guy I know and the full package. Women just dry up once they have what they want. Raising kids and running a business and I think so much time together just removes the passion.
/r/MensRights09/06/22 11:12 AM
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Men prefer women who aren't "highly experienced." They're hard to find nowadays and that's also a reason men are turned off. Why should a man commit to a woman who gave it away for free for years?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:10 AM
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Remember the "church" you get married in is sanctioned by the secular government (Caesar). So, they're in bed with the state and the Bible means nothing during marriage or, especially, divorce. You'll be bent over by a judge of the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:59 AM
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They also don't open your life up to all sorts of craziness. I'm not one who really enjoys casual sex anymore. But, I'll be damned if I'm going to get tied up in some "relationship" again. Nothing but problems in exchange for that emotional intimacy. My single years have been my most peaceful and content years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:39 AM
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Someone is experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:40 AM
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Yep. My good friend is a very attractive and successful businessman. He's in a long-time dead marriage. But, if he divorces her he loses half his shit, lifetime alimony, child support payments,and precious time with his kids. I think it was 2015 the last time he said he had sex with her. And, she's hot.
/r/MensRights09/06/22 08:22 AM
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And gets a slap on the wrist.
/r/MensRights09/06/22 08:16 AM
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Can't disagree here. Not one bit.
/r/MensRights09/06/22 08:14 AM
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The ROI on s ow boarding is much better.. especially w a season pass. And, my board won't nag me, remind me of things I did wrong, or drag me to places I don't wanna go.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:09 AM
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I've lived some pretty high highs. If I died in my sleep tonight I'd consider it a full life. Having said that, avoiding lows is usually considered a good thing. There's nothing "wasted" about finding joy, thrill, and excitement outside of dating. I'll take a day on my snowboard any day over and overpriced brunch (that I pay for) and a lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:59 AM
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As you get older what is worthwhile changes. Raging hormones play a big role. I'm just glad my phase of that was in a more organic time of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:41 AM
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Haha! That is hilarious when the whole thing can just be avoided. But, unfortunately, young guys, myself included, usually need to learn the stove is hot by touching it rather than by someone else telling them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:26 AM
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They all have elements of the above. The worst ones include the allegations, maybe court, and years of recovery. All other decent relations include the drama, arguments, wasted money, and usually sex manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:07 AM
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I have problem finding/getting/keeping women. I'm just so damn tired of paying for everything the man "is supposed" to pay for. Cost-to-benefit reward isn't what it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:45 AM
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Agreed. Sell the house, keep important personal effects, get new furniture, downsize your living quarters. Make a clean break.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 06:42 AM
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Because it's either that or an all night complain-sesh. And, she'll bring it back up years later out of nowhere.
/r/MensRights09/06/22 06:31 AM
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Not giving a fuck is the key to success. Not caring about failure. Not caring what they think. Not really caring about the outcome much. Also, the one who cares less in a relationship has more power.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:56 AM
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There's no such thing as "the one." Compatibility is an important factor. But, life dynamics are much wider than that. This is why people divorce after decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:54 AM
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You only highlighted the good parts of a relationship. You skipped the drama, arguments, money [he] spent, cheating, sleeping in other rooms, having sex used as a punishment/reward system, possible jail time over false allegations, expensive lawyers, and then years of recovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:46 AM
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That used to be the norm anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:43 AM
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Only if you buy them. Just lease.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:11 PM
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Having money is a good thing, eh? Like I said, all women cost money. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:06 PM
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I said 20s. Not 20. They appreciate experience and sophistication. Sugar babies get an allowance and all that. Don't do that. I'll pay for outings and things. But, they aren't on the payroll or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:00 AM
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I've been cat called by women. But, how in the hell are they going to sodomize me? I don't mind women looking or noticing me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:30 AM
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How is wanting your partner to carry themselves with dignity "toxic, controlling, evil, or a red flag. He's protecting her dignity as well as his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:29 AM
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She chose me. I was dating a few women at the time and afterwards decided she was the one I was going to stick with. Men choose relationships at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:27 AM
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She wasn't like that when I met her. Men know that the woman you marry is never the same woman you divorce. She had a gold digger single friend pollute her mind. Right now she's living on her modest job, her new husband's money, and my "child support." She's doing just fine with everyone else's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 02:35 AM
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No. She does though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:53 AM
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Court battles exist because women don't want to give up custody because the kids are their meal ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:31 AM
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Women are usually seen, by default, as the physical custodian. Men have to fight for that privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:23 AM
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According to evolution the egg came first as chickens are a transitory species. Single moms are busy working and still trying to date. Kids don't get much attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:15 AM
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We have to pay a lot of time and money to lawyers to fight for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:12 AM
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Definitely stop sleeping with her. A pregnancy, which she could contrive, would really tie you up. If you're going to rub one out do it in the shower so you don't leave any seamen behind for her to use.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 01:04 AM
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She's not getting anything. Tell her you want spousal support for her for 4 years of paying her way through life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 01:03 AM
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I didn't say not to have experience with them. If you're able to plow as many as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 12:54 AM
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Not true at all. I know divorced men and am one. We all have custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 12:52 AM
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That's funny. You'd be amazed at how many tell me they won't date men they're own age because they're all broke fuckbois. Yes, I'm sure money plays into it. But, dating women in their 40s costs money, too. So, if I'm going to choose it's pretty easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 12:52 AM
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